My mom died at the age of 33. She was an alcoholic and I was 5 when she died, all I remember of her is those scary situations.. one being in a swirling car. Sadly, I felt relieved growing up without her . She tried to gave me drinks and silly me understood that it was wrong and refuse to do drink with her. Alcoholism makes you reach your lows … and hearts deeply the people around them. Please protect your kids. Please protect yourself. ❤
First caller: Overeating to the point of obesity is obviously not normal and if there is no medical reason for it there is something going on emotionally. I know from personal experience. I am definitely a junk food addict and like Dr. John, can’t touch that sugary stuff. I gave up all my junk food four months ago and I am not white knuckling it which I am very grateful for. I made some lifestyle changes and the compulsion to grab carbs has been lifted.
Regarding the wife and her drinking 🍷 It will only get worse if you don’t keep your boundaries. And you MUST do EVERYTHING to protect your kids. You MUST get 💯 % custody. I’ve seen this up close and personal… if you do divorce, things will go south quickly. Legally protect yourself … more than you think you need. I worked for a divorce attorney and have seen a lot. And I’ve seen addiction in my family. When your wife sees that you love her and are holding these boundaries and keeping them … it may help her recognize her need for help. I hope 🙏🏼 things go well for your family. Your kids one day will thank you for putting their safety first. You do NOT want to regret taking a chance on their physical and emotional health.
I'm a bereavement doula. When a baby dies, they call me. The first thing they taught us in school was, "Doulaing the doula"- that is, how to make sure you're okay and taking care of yourself as you walk with families through the space where birth and death meet.
I’m one of those moms. I lost my baby in 2018. It’s simultaneously so fresh and hard, while being so distant. I can’t begin to describe what it’d be like to get a letter to my son. Him saying that made me cry. That would be such an amazing thing to be able to have.
For the nurse… my dad just died recently and I got to stay with him in hospice. His last days he was choking violently almost non-stop. The nurses there were AMAZING… they hugged me, cried with me … and showed so much respect to my father. I wondered how they could do this as most of them had 10-20 years experience. The hospice staff lent into connect and it made ALL the difference. What you are doing is a gift to the baby, mother, father and family members. A priceless gift that they will forever remember. In this unfair world, you are making a difference by connecting and witnessing their grief.
Tori, as a woman I’d like to say that it is an honour to have you on our side, through our most vulnerable moments, with us in the joy, with us in the fear, with us in the grief; loving us. I’m grateful for you❤
Today’s show hit me on so many levels! Thank you to the callers for reaching out. Literally every call and John sharing about challenges with being messy, late ⏰… Thank you John too 🙏🏼 glad you’re okay.
Not done hearing the whole show yet, but I’m so glad you are ok John 🙏🏻🙏🏻💞 you’re a great human for still showing up to work and doing what you do best, helping people, god bless and please drive slower 🙏🏻😘😘😘😘
For Tori, I thought of that great quote from JD to Dr. Cox in Scrubs- “I guess I came over here to tell you how proud of you I am. Not because you did the best you could for those patients... but because after 20 years of being a doctor, when things go badly, you still take it this hard. And I gotta tell you man, I mean, that’s the kind of doctor I want to be.”
Love the advice for the husband of an alcoholic. That letter would be so powerful. Hope he writes it. It hits different when someone tells you that change is not optional…by first starting with connection.
Ohhh man.. dude! Been listening to you for over a year and passing you onto others too.. please don't die for meditation, seems anti-productive 🤣🤣 Glad ur 👍 all our love! Thank you for being you!
The minute your significant other punches you or throws hot coffee on you is the minute you should reconsider if that relationship is worth continuing. Especially if it happened before having kids. Nobody ever deserves to be disrespected like that wether you’re under the influence or not.
Dr. Huberman says not to do the Wim Hof breathing while in any dangerous spots. Better to do them when sitting or on yoga mat my friend. Glad you're ok. I've done it in 95 degree heat so I can finish an extra mile of running
Wow this one hit hard.. being a nurse for over almost 13 years now i hVe seen a lot.. and then having two of my babies on life support and i stayed strong because i was a nurse and i held that role instead of their mother.. wow just wow. You really don’t realize how much of ourselves we put into our work.
Oh gosh, Dr. John. So thankful you are ok. I can tell you are shaken up. But, what a PRO! How many of us can say we could work after that, especially helping others with such serious topics. Such a good man!
Almost dying on the way to work is not something to be glossed over. John, whoever you talk to, talk to them about your distraction. I understand it. But that is so, so rough. You were probably doing the breathing exercises because you were calming yourself down because you were late. We gotta get John right, too.
Dr Delony i really hope you got checked up, even if you felt like you didn’t at the time. I know these are 3 months apart, but I really hope you got checked out. Better safe than sorry
If you know someone is a drunk then why date them and why marry them then start having kids. Take the kids and run. I grew up in a house with drunks. It’s horrific.
Exactly. I understand we can't choose who we love. He made a conscious decision to ignore it not get her help and decide to not just have one but have two kids. Now he's had enough and wants to escape but it sounds like he's saying it's all her fault and he had no couple quality culpability whatsoever. Weird
I got depressed losing a fortune years ago and about gave up. It hurt my health today as I did little and put on weight. My 9 year old son keeps me going but it’s hard!
This came at a very apropos time in my life and the life of my family. For the past almost 2 months we have been waiting for my son and his wife's little one to pass. They found out at the 20 week ultrasound that baby would not live. At this point however, baby is still alive and there's a possibility that my daughter-in-law made carry full term. It has been very difficult for them and I can't imagine as much as it breaks my heart. So some of the things that you shared on how the nurse could deal with things was very helpful and useful. Also for my son dealing with some of the things he has seen in the fire service. I appreciate the information that I could pass on to him, and the information I could use as a member of EMS.
"A part of me was taken; I didn't give permission" Thank you for this insight; it essentially defines the relationship I had with my mother, who for 20+ years would take/negate a part of me on a near-daily basis. At 49 years old, I remain bewildered as to why she needed to treat me so. The grief I continue to feel - both at her actions, and the life of extreme dysfunction I subsequently lived - consumes me. I have (and have had) nothing... all so that she might feel a little more powerful in a fleeting moment.
I would feel responsible for not doing something more than just saying I'll pray for them and sharing a difficult life event I dealt with if this person goes off the deep end and ends their own life.
Wim hof tells you before the breathing starts: "dont do this while driving!" My head starts buzzing in the first retention time! I am happy, you are well! Greetings from a wim hof fan and icebather in austria!
Dude... hearing about your driving story made me very concerned that there are people like you on the road. I hope you truly learn from that accident because you're really lucky to be alive based on what you said. You're also lucky you didn't kill anyone else. And I'm a former truck driver for a time. Man, you scare me.
Wim Hof seems like a spin-off of pranayama. I know Americans go crazy for asanas, but imo if you are not also properly doing pranayama and dharana it is incomplete. Body, breath and mind control to truely master yourself. If anyone is interested in what I am talking about check out The Shiva Samhita and Yoga Sutar by Patanjali.
John enjoy how you help people and never compromise your faith in Jesus Christ. You’re willing to help people even if they’re making choices that are not biblical like divorce and your priority is to the children. Very good work. Thank you for being there for hurting people. Bless you.
Dude, you need to scorch the earth to protect your kids. Get an attorney and a therapist, not just for yourself but your kids. My husband's parents were both high functioning alcoholics. His mother was a mean bitter drunk with extensive physical abuse in her history... who would be found naked, incoherent, screaming that she wanted to die, while passed out in the bathroom by her kids when they came home from school. My hubby remembers multiple instances of being given $$$ by his dad to go to the arcade for the entire DAY because mom was in a violent mood and it wasnt safe for him there. Both kids had locking bedroom doors because of her. His dad was a giggly drunk who never stood up to his spouse abusing her kids, he was a serial philanderer who would threaten divorce but never had the balls to do it... and my husband is permanently emotionally scarred. Do whatever you have to do to protect their kids, i can tell you that theyre hurt akready.. Its time for the gloves to come all the way off.
"Gonna drive the speed limit [as opposed to 80 mph] and not meditate in a moving vehicle [which I AM FREAKING DRIVING]." Dr. John, my one-word answer to this is the following: Duh.
I have a question about a conversation I had online with someone who had taken down some videos they had posted. This person implied that they took down the videos because something negative was occurring in their life and they felt as though they were falling off the face of the earth. This bothered me because I'm not sure if these kinds of comments indicate that this person is giving up on life and I don't want this to happen to this person. Does anyone have any suggestions regarding what I could say without coming off as nosy? Thanks!
everyone out there that may have diabetes .it's best to lose that weight or you could lose your kidneys as well and you do not want to be on dialysis take it from me ❤❤
I’m a distracted driver driving 85 mph get into a car accident almost die let’s celebrate! I wish being a fan of the dave Ramsey show Didn’t result in me getting this guy show in my recommendations.
Celebrate... uhm dude, could you handle these types of calls after almost getting killed? Dr. John is a great man to show up after that. Yes, celebrate life! You should try it. Gesh.
@@britneyog9537 He’s not a great man he’s an average guy is on the radio and it makes UA-cam videos. Creating a false narrative in your head that someone is great is a huge mistake don’t do it look for greatness inside of you. Great people don’t celebrate after texting and driving. I hope you have a great day, take care
@@KT-zd3vl I only watch Ramsey for the finance piece I’m not interested in peoples Problems. I understand they have them no disrespects just not why I listen. So on UA-cam if you do a Playthrough sometimes these clips pop up Because it’s on the Ramsey network.I heard it I couldn’t believe it.
My mom died at the age of 33. She was an alcoholic and I was 5 when she died, all I remember of her is those scary situations.. one being in a swirling car. Sadly, I felt relieved growing up without her . She tried to gave me drinks and silly me understood that it was wrong and refuse to do drink with her. Alcoholism makes you reach your lows … and hearts deeply the people around them.
Please protect your kids. Please protect yourself. ❤
Glad you're alright John.
First caller: Overeating to the point of obesity is obviously not normal and if there is no medical reason for it there is something going on emotionally. I know from personal experience. I am definitely a junk food addict and like Dr. John, can’t touch that sugary stuff. I gave up all my junk food four months ago and I am not white knuckling it which I am very grateful for. I made some lifestyle changes and the compulsion to grab carbs has been lifted.
Civil engineer checking in, love the show and glad you are alright Dr. John!
Regarding the wife and her drinking 🍷 It will only get worse if you don’t keep your boundaries. And you MUST do EVERYTHING to protect your kids. You MUST get 💯 % custody. I’ve seen this up close and personal… if you do divorce, things will go south quickly. Legally protect yourself … more than you think you need. I worked for a divorce attorney and have seen a lot. And I’ve seen addiction in my family.
When your wife sees that you love her and are holding these boundaries and keeping them … it may help her recognize her need for help.
I hope 🙏🏼 things go well for your family. Your kids one day will thank you for putting their safety first. You do NOT want to regret taking a chance on their physical and emotional health.
Hopefully he gives her a chance with a 30 day rehab. If she can’t get it in 3 months, I would think people are usually doomed beyond that
I'm a bereavement doula. When a baby dies, they call me. The first thing they taught us in school was, "Doulaing the doula"- that is, how to make sure you're okay and taking care of yourself as you walk with families through the space where birth and death meet.
I’m one of those moms. I lost my baby in 2018. It’s simultaneously so fresh and hard, while being so distant. I can’t begin to describe what it’d be like to get a letter to my son. Him saying that made me cry. That would be such an amazing thing to be able to have.
Well, I hope you can overcome whatever challenges you have/face.
For the nurse… my dad just died recently and I got to stay with him in hospice. His last days he was choking violently almost non-stop. The nurses there were AMAZING… they hugged me, cried with me … and showed so much respect to my father. I wondered how they could do this as most of them had 10-20 years experience. The hospice staff lent into connect and it made ALL the difference.
What you are doing is a gift to the baby, mother, father and family members. A priceless gift that they will forever remember.
In this unfair world, you are making a difference by connecting and witnessing their grief.
The last call brought me to tears. Thanks John
Tori, as a woman I’d like to say that it is an honour to have you on our side, through our most vulnerable moments, with us in the joy, with us in the fear, with us in the grief; loving us. I’m grateful for you❤
Today’s show hit me on so many levels! Thank you to the callers for reaching out. Literally every call and John sharing about challenges with being messy, late ⏰… Thank you John too 🙏🏼 glad you’re okay.
Honestly this was a huge endorsement for wimhoff breathing technique. So good you’ll forget you’re driving. I’m gonna try it…while stationary
So glad you are ok Dr. John ❤
Not done hearing the whole show yet, but I’m so glad you are ok John 🙏🏻🙏🏻💞 you’re a great human for still showing up to work and doing what you do best, helping people, god bless and please drive slower 🙏🏻😘😘😘😘
For Tori, I thought of that great quote from JD to Dr. Cox in Scrubs- “I guess I came over here to tell you how proud of you I am. Not because you did the best you could for those patients... but because after 20 years of being a doctor, when things go badly, you still take it this hard. And I gotta tell you man, I mean, that’s the kind of doctor I want to be.”
Love the advice for the husband of an alcoholic. That letter would be so powerful. Hope he writes it. It hits different when someone tells you that change is not optional…by first starting with connection.
Ohhh man.. dude! Been listening to you for over a year and passing you onto others too.. please don't die for meditation, seems anti-productive 🤣🤣
Glad ur 👍 all our love! Thank you for being you!
So glad Dr. John is okay. I will be sure not to do my Hoff breathing while driving, thanks for the cautionary tail, friend.
The minute your significant other punches you or throws hot coffee on you is the minute you should reconsider if that relationship is worth continuing. Especially if it happened before having kids. Nobody ever deserves to be disrespected like that wether you’re under the influence or not.
Dr. Huberman says not to do the Wim Hof breathing while in any dangerous spots. Better to do them when sitting or on yoga mat my friend. Glad you're ok. I've done it in 95 degree heat so I can finish an extra mile of running
Love your Teams sense of humor -
" Jesus take the wheel", LMAO
I didn't take you, John, for a Prius guy. 😅. So glad you're okay!
Wow this one hit hard.. being a nurse for over almost 13 years now i hVe seen a lot.. and then having two of my babies on life support and i stayed strong because i was a nurse and i held that role instead of their mother.. wow just wow. You really don’t realize how much of ourselves we put into our work.
Oh gosh, Dr. John. So thankful you are ok. I can tell you are shaken up. But, what a PRO! How many of us can say we could work after that, especially helping others with such serious topics. Such a good man!
Almost dying on the way to work is not something to be glossed over. John, whoever you talk to, talk to them about your distraction. I understand it. But that is so, so rough.
You were probably doing the breathing exercises because you were calming yourself down because you were late. We gotta get John right, too.
Dr Delony i really hope you got checked up, even if you felt like you didn’t at the time.
I know these are 3 months apart, but I really hope you got checked out. Better safe than sorry
@@csv294 oh, my mistake. I’m glad Dr. D is fine tho. Couldn’t picture my mornings with out his wisdom
Yay for Priuses! I love mine too! From how I understand it, the fact that it crumples easily is a good thing because it absorbs the impact better
Oh shit! Speedy recovery John don't drive while distracted and please be careful out there!
If you know someone is a drunk then why date them and why marry them then start having kids.
Take the kids and run.
I grew up in a house with drunks. It’s horrific.
Exactly. I understand we can't choose who we love. He made a conscious decision to ignore it not get her help and decide to not just have one but have two kids. Now he's had enough and wants to escape but it sounds like he's saying it's all her fault and he had no couple quality culpability whatsoever. Weird
I got depressed losing a fortune years ago and about gave up. It hurt my health today as I did little and put on weight. My 9 year old son keeps me going but it’s hard!
Well stay strong, it's hard. But you're stronger than any challenge out there.
Glad your ok John 🙏🙏
Thanks for the shout out for nurses!!
This came at a very apropos time in my life and the life of my family. For the past almost 2 months we have been waiting for my son and his wife's little one to pass. They found out at the 20 week ultrasound that baby would not live. At this point however, baby is still alive and there's a possibility that my daughter-in-law made carry full term. It has been very difficult for them and I can't imagine as much as it breaks my heart. So some of the things that you shared on how the nurse could deal with things was very helpful and useful. Also for my son dealing with some of the things he has seen in the fire service. I appreciate the information that I could pass on to him, and the information I could use as a member of EMS.
"A part of me was taken; I didn't give permission"
Thank you for this insight; it essentially defines the relationship I had with my mother, who for 20+ years would take/negate a part of me on a near-daily basis. At 49 years old, I remain bewildered as to why she needed to treat me so. The grief I continue to feel - both at her actions, and the life of extreme dysfunction I subsequently lived - consumes me. I have (and have had) nothing... all so that she might feel a little more powerful in a fleeting moment.
I would feel responsible for not doing something more than just saying I'll pray for them and sharing a difficult life event I dealt with if this person goes off the deep end and ends their own life.
I would love a segment about emotional leakage like you talked about with caller #3.
So, so glad you are okay from your driving incident!!
Awe grateful you are okay ❤
Wim hof tells you before the breathing starts: "dont do this while driving!" My head starts buzzing in the first retention time! I am happy, you are well! Greetings from a wim hof fan and icebather in austria!
I adore my Toyota PriusC...which has been given now to my older kid...and I am SO SAD that the PriusC has been discontinued. 😞
RIP to your Prius.
A great example of Dr John and his ADHD! 🤣
I understand the husband calling bc of the alcoholic wife. I have a friend dealing with this
Sitting down eating my lunch during the first call and now I’m going for a walk for the remainder of my lunch
My dad is an alcoholic, I suffer is alcoholism for 20 years, believe me, its better growing WO a parent that live with and alcoholic one
Dude... hearing about your driving story made me very concerned that there are people like you on the road. I hope you truly learn from that accident because you're really lucky to be alive based on what you said. You're also lucky you didn't kill anyone else. And I'm a former truck driver for a time. Man, you scare me.
Needed this brother.
Wim Hof seems like a spin-off of pranayama. I know Americans go crazy for asanas, but imo if you are not also properly doing pranayama and dharana it is incomplete. Body, breath and mind control to truely master yourself. If anyone is interested in what I am talking about check out The Shiva Samhita and Yoga Sutar by Patanjali.
John enjoy how you help people and never compromise your faith in Jesus Christ. You’re willing to help people even if they’re making choices that are not biblical like divorce and your priority is to the children. Very good work. Thank you for being there for hurting people.
Bless you.
If it still runs it's not total
SHAHT AHT CIVIL ENGINEERS!
Priuses are great. Get another one if they total yours lol
Dude, you need to scorch the earth to protect your kids. Get an attorney and a therapist, not just for yourself but your kids. My husband's parents were both high functioning alcoholics. His mother was a mean bitter drunk with extensive physical abuse in her history... who would be found naked, incoherent, screaming that she wanted to die, while passed out in the bathroom by her kids when they came home from school. My hubby remembers multiple instances of being given $$$ by his dad to go to the arcade for the entire DAY because mom was in a violent mood and it wasnt safe for him there. Both kids had locking bedroom doors because of her. His dad was a giggly drunk who never stood up to his spouse abusing her kids, he was a serial philanderer who would threaten divorce but never had the balls to do it... and my husband is permanently emotionally scarred. Do whatever you have to do to protect their kids, i can tell you that theyre hurt akready.. Its time for the gloves to come all the way off.
"Gonna drive the speed limit [as opposed to 80 mph] and not meditate in a moving vehicle [which I AM FREAKING DRIVING]." Dr. John, my one-word answer to this is the following: Duh.
I have a question about a conversation I had online with someone who had taken down some videos they had posted. This person implied that they took down the videos because something negative was occurring in their life and they felt as though they were falling off the face of the earth. This bothered me because I'm not sure if these kinds of comments indicate that this person is giving up on life and I don't want this to happen to this person. Does anyone have any suggestions regarding what I could say without coming off as nosy? Thanks!
80mph ? You sideswiped I thought head on. Wow.
Does she low key resent her big husband .
everyone out there that may have diabetes .it's best to lose that weight or you could lose your kidneys as well and you do not want to be on dialysis take it from me ❤❤
remember that they are not your children and you do just do a job so.
🙏🏼
About the obese husband: the wife talking about it is not going to change his behavior. Focus needs to be tu he kids.
Lol like father like son with the messiness.
Being obese is a bad thing hence why she called in.
Car wreck is awesome ? Are you in junior high ?
90MH?? Dude! Slow down lol you Xway people are deadly lol
I’m a distracted driver driving 85 mph get into a car accident almost die let’s celebrate! I wish being a fan of the dave Ramsey show Didn’t result in me getting this guy show in my recommendations.
You don’t have to watch
Celebrate... uhm dude, could you handle these types of calls after almost getting killed? Dr. John is a great man to show up after that. Yes, celebrate life! You should try it. Gesh.
@@britneyog9537 He’s not a great man he’s an average guy is on the radio and it makes UA-cam videos. Creating a false narrative in your head that someone is great is a huge mistake don’t do it look for greatness inside of you. Great people don’t celebrate after texting and driving. I hope you have a great day, take care
@@thegenxgamerr ok. You too.
@@KT-zd3vl I only watch Ramsey for the finance piece I’m not interested in peoples Problems. I understand they have them no disrespects just not why I listen. So on UA-cam if you do a Playthrough sometimes these clips pop up Because it’s on the Ramsey network.I heard it I couldn’t believe it.
Nothing to laugh about. You endangered people:(
Communist sport 🤡🤡🤡
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