These people are so narcissistic. They don't understand consent, they invalidate lgb, they invalidate normal men and women by saying your gender is "just a feeling", and they constantly cry about "genocide" when they don't get their way. I feel bad for people that actually have gender dysphoria because they gotta deal with a bunch of attention seekers and p0rn addicts
@@BadKarma108 So, you want to force people into having the kind of sex they aren’t into? To be in relationships they’re not comfortable with? To deny they’re own wants, desires and boundaries?
as a gay man I don't think genital preference is transphobic because that is why I'm gay, I already went through the whole pretending to like girls in highschool, feminine features is just a turn off for me, to lie just to be "nice" to trans people is like going back into the closet where I had to pretend to have a girlfriend to impress all my bros and parents, i'm going to be dead honest and say no.
There would be no issue in the first place if "trans" people actually just respected other people's sexuality and stopped trying to redefine terms. If you're gay, you are a male who is sexually attracted to other males. If you are a lesbian, you are a female sexually attracted to other females. A male, who thinks he is a "trans woman" and therefore calls his attraction to females "lesbian" , is lying, he is straight - if they were attracted to males as well, then they'd be bisexual. There would literally be no issue whatsoever if "trans" people would just be honest about who they are and what they want. Trying to redefine what being gay entails is disgusting homophobic behaviour, and it is absolutely rampant among "trans" activists.
That’s fair, but ofc in reality, there are many trans men without “feminine features” or who pass as cis men, and if a cis gay man were to date a trans man, he’s not any less gay for that.
@@Kaido711 it's the idea that they're not naturally grown, turns me off, it's like being in an illusion realising it's an illusion, once I find out a guy used to be a woman turns me off, sure they could be a hot bearded daddy but it's because they're wearing features i find attractive on a man, Also not alot of transmen look like men, you realise how expensive it is to look convincing?. Also realistically genitals are inherent, Penis for men, vagina for women, I feel like trans people made up "genital preference" and "genitals don't define gender" thing to comfort themselves, it's honestly really petty.
@@Kaido711 Of course he would be less gay, he would LITERALLY be BISEXUAL For being a MALE in a relationship with a FEMALE - two people of the opposite sex in a relationship is not a homosexual relationship. JFC you people with your weird obsession with trying to redefine human sexuality.
It's a debate bcs of people like u thinking is ok to alienate trans people. Not respecting us. And if u say ur respecting ur NOT. As a trans guy I'm saying it is
My ex girlfriend knew me as my real self and knew nothing about my past, but when I told her she started calling me by the wrong pronouns and telling me that it was just a phase but it was okay because "she was bisexual" It was a really depressing experience for me. When I tried to break up with her, she got angry at me for "lying to her". Now I'm over her, but it was extremely hard. Hopefully, I'm seeing a guy now that accept me as I am and don't pressure me at all. Fyi, your videos helps me a lot and you are great! I'm always looking forwards to your uploads ❤🐢
Nöj Bierh I'm glad you're out of that relationship now, that definitely doesn't seem healthy at all. I'm proud of you for finding someone better!! 💞 also that makes me so happy that's all I want to do!
Why the fuck didn’t you tell her before? Dumb enough to think she’s not going to find out eventually? You can’t keep big secrets like that from your partner forever!
Everyone has a sexual preference and sexual orientation and neither are wrong. Even if you are attracted to someone (or multiple people), you should not be expected to date them. None of this is any kind of ‘phobic’ and it is ridiculous to suggest so. Dating and sexual relationships must be consensual and are *not* about validating the feelings or ‘identities’ of others. People would be horrified if, for example, gay men insisted straight men should accept them as sexual partners otherwise they are ‘homophobic’. That is exactly the same argument.
I’m kinda creeped out.. were so much alike. I’ve seen Billy Joel in concert. I have a jacket with loads of pins on it. I have vinyl records, also have mental illness. I also have short hair and I don’t know just odd. Although I identify as cis female. I have questioned it a lot though..
I would be ok sleeping with a trans-man who only identified as a man, but hadn’t gone through treatment. But wouldn’t sleep with a trans-woman who had.
You seem very lovely person. I have always agreed that we fall for a person. But of course many people have a priority for children, or a preference for specific sex acts, and no one should be called transphobic for this. I also think we might need new words. I think it is a slippery situation. I dont think a trans woman + cis male is a heterosexual relationship. We need a new word. I think we have to be concerned about the erasure of gay people particularly lesbians who have endured so much to have sex-based attraction legally protected. 💗
TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMAN. And if she is with a cis man. It is straight relationship. We don't need a new word I'm not even Ok with others calling me trans man I'm a man thats it. So making up a new word is just offensive
@@BadKarma108 Well I'm offended by you claiming to be a man when clearly you are not so... You don't get to redefine words just cause they offend you If the English speaking world came to a consensus that trans cis relationships were heterosexuals then the meaning of the word heterosexual would be changed but that would be the will of the speakers. However, this is not the case, as an actual man and an English speaker I do not consent.
A "trans woman", IS male. So a male "trans woman" in a relationship with another male, is literally a gay relationship. If a male "trans woman" is only interested in females, they are not lesbian, they are literally straight. How about we don't redefine sexuality in the first place???
@@BadKarma108 A "trans woman", IS male. So a male "trans woman" in a relationship with another male, is literally a gay relationship. If a male "trans woman" is only interested in females, they are not lesbian, they are literally straight. How about we don't redefine sexuality in the first place???
You do realize that this is like saying that even tho u sleep w a child ur not a pedophile right?!?! if I’m a straight man (which I’m not I’m a woman) and I’m dating a girl who ends up having a dick….the act of intercourse is gay cuz there is only one hole…. And although cis relationships also use that hole, the other object that str8 men don’t want will still be there….which is what makes it gay. No genital preference is not transphobic and neither is not wanting to date a trans who has also had SRS
0:50 Being trans or not has nothing to do with the way we base our opinions on what we know and experience. You’re basically implying that if someone disagrees with you, you’re considering the validity of an opposing argument to different degrees depending on wether the person stating it is trans. That’s such a great way of getting the deeper meaning of this video across - it’s an unsubstantiated opinion based on your gut feeling and what little your thought process regarding the topic graced us with. Bottom surgery is a MESS. Everyone has issues. Everyone. There is ONE trans woman, ONE, whom I heard say she has great sex and orgasms post-op. The rest … a mess. Jaimie and other UA-camrs who spearhead the online trans toxicity war room talk at length about how f-ed up their surgeries are to then sit on the internet a few months later and call anyone transphobic for refusing to expose themselves to conversion therapy or post-op genitalia in the name of inclusivity.
You can force someone to date anybody not every gay man dates every gay or a lesbain women dates every lesbain women and not every straight man dates every straight women viceversa and even bi or pansexuals they also may date a person a single person only and homosexual and homosexual are sexual orentation they can't choose their sexuality if that excludes trans people im sorry yes there are people who are attracted to trans people i think that should be a different category of sexual orientation
Nope its very OK yo have preferences otherwise there would be no reason for preferences. I am a straight cis female who is certainly an ally for gays and trans genders but straight people do not want surgically augmented genitals and that's just fine and if they do that is fine too just like gay people do not want the opposite sexes genitalia unless they are pan or ecetera if its OK for you to have a sexuality than it is OK for others stop forcing people to be into what they are not its just as disrespectful as disrespecting someone's surgery or lack thereof
sally Bunny pewds your view is positive and reasonable but think of being forced to date a person with a metal condition. It's the very same like it or not.
I see more people saying it is wrong to have a preference. every time it is "well that trans person says it's ok so it's ok" meaning ones who say it is wrong are correct.
it's wrong to flat out, always refuse to date a trans person purely because they're trans. In my mind, it's okay to not want to be with someone for any reason, but if that reason is purely because they're trans, then it is wrong.
As a trans guy I'm saying. YES they are it is transphobic to not wanting to date someone bcs whats in their pants. Or also asuming that they call their genitals the same way it looks. For example a trans womens vagina may look like a "penis" to others but that doesn't make it one. Also I hate the 'Pre/post Op' term it is extremly offensive saying that one post man is more of a man than the pre op man.
Some ppl have a certain repulsion or traumas related to certain genitals though, I get it for ppl who are asexual romantics, but a majority of ppl aren't that, (especially sexual aromantics) they have sexual needs that they are looking for in a certain relationship, not saying those can't be fulfilled by trans ppl but most of the time they just want their gender preference and genital preference aligned and I think there's no need to put any moral pressure for anyone for their preferences However I can also see how saying it's transphobic can slippery slope into conversion therapy-esque arguments, and saying it's not transphobic can lead to terfy talking points
A person's sexuality is not a "genital preference". It's really disgusting language to use.
These people are so narcissistic. They don't understand consent, they invalidate lgb, they invalidate normal men and women by saying your gender is "just a feeling", and they constantly cry about "genocide" when they don't get their way. I feel bad for people that actually have gender dysphoria because they gotta deal with a bunch of attention seekers and p0rn addicts
Basically what they're thinking: "Why won't the people, we insult, belittle, and guilt trip date us?!?!"
To answer your question.
No
There saved everyone a load of time.
It IS transphobic and this is comming from a trans guy. Maybe u have an transphobic opinion but it doesn't mean the fact
@@BadKarma108 No, its called having an orientation, especially for monosexuals
@@BadKarma108 gay men and straight women are not turned on by your pussy. is it really so hard to understand?
@@BadKarma108 So, you want to force people into having the kind of sex they aren’t into? To be in relationships they’re not comfortable with? To deny they’re own wants, desires and boundaries?
@@BadKarma108 I’m straight, I don’t like dick. Thats it.
No. That was easy
🤯
A neovagina isn't a vagina tho
And a phalloplasty isn't a penis
as a gay man I don't think genital preference is transphobic because that is why I'm gay, I already went through the whole pretending to like girls in highschool, feminine features is just a turn off for me, to lie just to be "nice" to trans people is like going back into the closet where I had to pretend to have a girlfriend to impress all my bros and parents, i'm going to be dead honest and say no.
There would be no issue in the first place if "trans" people actually just respected other people's sexuality and stopped trying to redefine terms. If you're gay, you are a male who is sexually attracted to other males. If you are a lesbian, you are a female sexually attracted to other females. A male, who thinks he is a "trans woman" and therefore calls his attraction to females "lesbian" , is lying, he is straight - if they were attracted to males as well, then they'd be bisexual.
There would literally be no issue whatsoever if "trans" people would just be honest about who they are and what they want. Trying to redefine what being gay entails is disgusting homophobic behaviour, and it is absolutely rampant among "trans" activists.
That’s fair, but ofc in reality, there are many trans men without “feminine features” or who pass as cis men, and if a cis gay man were to date a trans man, he’s not any less gay for that.
@@Kaido711 it's the idea that they're not naturally grown, turns me off, it's like being in an illusion realising it's an illusion, once I find out a guy used to be a woman turns me off, sure they could be a hot bearded daddy but it's because they're wearing features i find attractive on a man, Also not alot of transmen look like men, you realise how expensive it is to look convincing?. Also realistically genitals are inherent, Penis for men, vagina for women, I feel like trans people made up "genital preference" and "genitals don't define gender" thing to comfort themselves, it's honestly really petty.
@@Kaido711 Of course he would be less gay, he would LITERALLY be BISEXUAL For being a MALE in a relationship with a FEMALE - two people of the opposite sex in a relationship is not a homosexual relationship. JFC you people with your weird obsession with trying to redefine human sexuality.
@@Kaido711So? That doesn't change anything when people are gonna call OP transphobic regardless.
I think it's not transphobic to not want to date a trans person. why is it even a topic of debate?
It depends
@@fraz727 no it doesnt
@@Centnal Yes it is transphobic
It's a debate bcs of people like u thinking is ok to alienate trans people. Not respecting us. And if u say ur respecting ur NOT. As a trans guy I'm saying it is
@@BadKarma108 okay, i’m transphobic then 🤷🏻♂️, i’m a straight male so i’m not gonna date someone with the same genitalia as me
Calling gential preferences as transphobia is actually cisphobic.
Lol. Well. This aged well. Coercion is not a good look. And intimate pushers is the one area you should be discriminatory... as much as possible. Lol
im a trans woman thanks you for helping out ^-^
genitle prefrence is ok :)
My ex girlfriend knew me as my real self and knew nothing about my past, but when I told her she started calling me by the wrong pronouns and telling me that it was just a phase but it was okay because "she was bisexual"
It was a really depressing experience for me. When I tried to break up with her, she got angry at me for "lying to her". Now I'm over her, but it was extremely hard. Hopefully, I'm seeing a guy now that accept me as I am and don't pressure me at all.
Fyi, your videos helps me a lot and you are great! I'm always looking forwards to your uploads ❤🐢
Nöj Bierh I'm glad you're out of that relationship now, that definitely doesn't seem healthy at all. I'm proud of you for finding someone better!! 💞 also that makes me so happy that's all I want to do!
You should always be up front with people before you date sorry
Why the fuck didn’t you tell her before? Dumb enough to think she’s not going to find out eventually? You can’t keep big secrets like that from your partner forever!
Everyone has a sexual preference and sexual orientation and neither are wrong. Even if you are attracted to someone (or multiple people), you should not be expected to date them. None of this is any kind of ‘phobic’ and it is ridiculous to suggest so. Dating and sexual relationships must be consensual and are *not* about validating the feelings or ‘identities’ of others. People would be horrified if, for example, gay men insisted straight men should accept them as sexual partners otherwise they are ‘homophobic’. That is exactly the same argument.
Its ok to disagree if you're trans, but 'cis' people should listen? Double standard?
Not a double standard at all.
@@Charcoal_Ranger Yes it is and the fact that you think it's not shows your ignorance
I’m kinda creeped out.. were so much alike. I’ve seen Billy Joel in concert. I have a jacket with loads of pins on it. I have vinyl records, also have mental illness. I also have short hair and I don’t know just odd. Although I identify as cis female. I have questioned it a lot though..
You are a female no matter what you think!
I would be ok sleeping with a trans-man who only identified as a man, but hadn’t gone through treatment. But wouldn’t sleep with a trans-woman who had.
gross
You seem very lovely person. I have always agreed that we fall for a person. But of course many people have a priority for children, or a preference for specific sex acts, and no one should be called transphobic for this. I also think we might need new words. I think it is a slippery situation. I dont think a trans woman + cis male is a heterosexual relationship. We need a new word. I think we have to be concerned about the erasure of gay people particularly lesbians who have endured so much to have sex-based attraction legally protected. 💗
TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMAN. And if she is with a cis man. It is straight relationship. We don't need a new word I'm not even Ok with others calling me trans man I'm a man thats it. So making up a new word is just offensive
@@BadKarma108 Well I'm offended by you claiming to be a man when clearly you are not so...
You don't get to redefine words just cause they offend you
If the English speaking world came to a consensus that trans cis relationships were heterosexuals then the meaning of the word heterosexual would be changed but that would be the will of the speakers.
However, this is not the case, as an actual man and an English speaker I do not consent.
@@BadKarma108 If trans women are women you guys wouldn't be so butthurt over the sex you are not getting
A "trans woman", IS male. So a male "trans woman" in a relationship with another male, is literally a gay relationship. If a male "trans woman" is only interested in females, they are not lesbian, they are literally straight. How about we don't redefine sexuality in the first place???
@@BadKarma108 A "trans woman", IS male. So a male "trans woman" in a relationship with another male, is literally a gay relationship. If a male "trans woman" is only interested in females, they are not lesbian, they are literally straight. How about we don't redefine sexuality in the first place???
Im asexual. No worries for me 😄
Britney Vick same!
Stfu there r two genders
@@picklerick8420 this gave me the giggles, so thank you for that
@@picklerick8420 this comment had nothing to do with gender? and even if it did shove off.
@@Alex-xc3vk ahaha wtf do u mean yes it did
This video is exactly my thoughts! I always find myself relating to what you say!
You do realize that this is like saying that even tho u sleep w a child ur not a pedophile right?!?! if I’m a straight man (which I’m not I’m a woman) and I’m dating a girl who ends up having a dick….the act of intercourse is gay cuz there is only one hole…. And although cis relationships also use that hole, the other object that str8 men don’t want will still be there….which is what makes it gay. No genital preference is not transphobic and neither is not wanting to date a trans who has also had SRS
0:50
Being trans or not has nothing to do with the way we base our opinions on what we know and experience. You’re basically implying that if someone disagrees with you, you’re considering the validity of an opposing argument to different degrees depending on wether the person stating it is trans.
That’s such a great way of getting the deeper meaning of this video across - it’s an unsubstantiated opinion based on your gut feeling and what little your thought process regarding the topic graced us with.
Bottom surgery is a MESS. Everyone has issues. Everyone. There is ONE trans woman, ONE, whom I heard say she has great sex and orgasms post-op. The rest … a mess. Jaimie and other UA-camrs who spearhead the online trans toxicity war room talk at length about how f-ed up their surgeries are to then sit on the internet a few months later and call anyone transphobic for refusing to expose themselves to conversion therapy or post-op genitalia in the name of inclusivity.
You can force someone to date anybody not every gay man dates every gay or a lesbain women dates every lesbain women and not every straight man dates every straight women viceversa and even bi or pansexuals they also may date a person a single person only and homosexual and homosexual are sexual orentation they can't choose their sexuality if that excludes trans people im sorry yes there are people who are attracted to trans people i think that should be a different category of sexual orientation
You ride horses too? Love the ribbons
This guy is out of his mind.
Date other trans and gays.
actually, as human consciousness is directly linked to our brains, I think i'm in my mind. thanks for the input though :)
Nope its very OK yo have preferences otherwise there would be no reason for preferences. I am a straight cis female who is certainly an ally for gays and trans genders but straight people do not want surgically augmented genitals and that's just fine and if they do that is fine too just like gay people do not want the opposite sexes genitalia unless they are pan or ecetera if its OK for you to have a sexuality than it is OK for others stop forcing people to be into what they are not its just as disrespectful as disrespecting someone's surgery or lack thereof
sally Bunny pewds your view is positive and reasonable but think of being forced to date a person with a metal condition. It's the very same like it or not.
I see more people saying it is wrong to have a preference. every time it is "well that trans person says it's ok so it's ok" meaning ones who say it is wrong are correct.
it's wrong to flat out, always refuse to date a trans person purely because they're trans. In my mind, it's okay to not want to be with someone for any reason, but if that reason is purely because they're trans, then it is wrong.
hey how does that orientation where a person is only attracted to Non Binary genders work?
kaiyodei I'd say that just means someone is attracted to nonbinary people, regardless of their assigned sex.
@@graveyardpansyand ur wrong for that also like wtf ?! lol ppl can have preferences!!!
@@graveyardpansy So you actually DON'T think it's ok to not be with anyone for any reason. Your post literally contradicts itself.
Respectfully, MISS, I am not interested in long haired men who call themselves Shiela. Your a chick, and you always will be
Well said!
As a trans guy I'm saying. YES they are it is transphobic to not wanting to date someone bcs whats in their pants. Or also asuming that they call their genitals the same way it looks. For example a trans womens vagina may look like a "penis" to others but that doesn't make it one. Also I hate the 'Pre/post Op' term it is extremly offensive saying that one post man is more of a man than the pre op man.
A penis is a penis regardless of how you feel about it. Same thing with a vagina.
You are insane
Ok so what if it’s transphobic? Am I a bad person for refusing to date a trans woman because he still has his dick? You are fucking insane!!!!
Some ppl have a certain repulsion or traumas related to certain genitals though, I get it for ppl who are asexual romantics, but a majority of ppl aren't that, (especially sexual aromantics) they have sexual needs that they are looking for in a certain relationship, not saying those can't be fulfilled by trans ppl but most of the time they just want their gender preference and genital preference aligned and I think there's no need to put any moral pressure for anyone for their preferences
However I can also see how saying it's transphobic can slippery slope into conversion therapy-esque arguments, and saying it's not transphobic can lead to terfy talking points
Nope. This gives off "you can fuck a lesbian straight" vibes