Great video skylarkeleven! I love all the talk about labels/labelling fun that you had with your circle of friends, I wish I had a group of friends like that growing up! I realised in my twenties though, that at the end of the day - labels are for jars, not people!
Thank you for wording that so nicely. I love how you say "I love people when I love them" The same goes for me. I do think it's really important to realize that there's not always a need to label yourself.
I have the same feeling like you, but people do not get it when I say it so shortly, people ask me for an explanation of freakin 2 hours or something omg :c
I'm so glad you brought up Andrea Gibson and Andrew, that was my first instance of realization when I heard that poem. You remind me of her poetry in so many ways it's awesome!
I am a straight woman and I have a lot of friends who struggle with figure out what to call themselves. I think that finding some kind of label doesn't really change the ways you can love. People beat themselves up and end up having an identity crisis over things that don't really matter. As long as your able to love someone the way you want and it's comfortable it's ok. I have been watching your videos for quite some time now. I am proud of how far you've come. I can honestly say that you have blossomed beautifully. You're gorgeous and I am not afraid to be attracted to something new. I would probably have to change my label now that I discovered this but who cares. Lol I find myself being attracted to you :)
I think it's wonderful that you post these videos. For me personally, I grew up in an area where there was not a lot of sexual diversity, so when venturing out into the world and meeting new people, I'm always worried that I may phrase a conversation or ask a question that is offensive or inappropriate just from my lack of knowledge and experience. I would hate to upset someone or cause someone who may be struggling to feel insecure based on my lack of knowledge and accidentally say something triggering or offensive. So thank you for the incredibly informative videos! They really are helpful and it really does help me to be more informed so that when I do meet people who are pansexual, transsexual, bisexual, etc. I am more sensitive to how I speak to them or what questions I ask them.
I love having such open minded attitude and not putting labels. And it sounds so amazing to be able to be attracted to so many people. I have noticed that after coming out, I put such a question mark on myself to understand who I am and what I like.
I am a straight female who has been married for 4 years to my amazing husband, and I just think your wonderful! I love watching your videos, you seem like such a humble, nice and very down to earth person and I just want to thank you for making such inspiring videos for others who may be in the same situation. Keep the videos coming!! You rock!
You are a remarkable person. I have been hooked on you since I discovered you during your early T days. Watching your videos helped me adjust to my niece's (formerly my nephew) transition. I hope to meet you someday.
I can see why you would say that - because I said "someday I will be single." Keep in mind that I am twenty two, have confessed that I have been in back-to-back relationships since I was 14, and that I am still discovering myself all in this video. Also, my girlfriend doubles as my best friend, and knows all of this, and more than you do to be quite fair! ;]
You couldn't have explained it BETTER Sky. I can totally relate to this video even though I haven't dated a boy. Take care, I really love this point of view because since I came out as a boy...I thought I was hetero but maybe I'm not and I just decided not to put labels on me and all I have to say is that I'm attracted to women as I strongly like them but it doesn't matter their orientation as long as they love me so I don't care about labels that much and just about that person. I've dated bisexual girls, heterosexual and lesbian girls in the past before coming out and in the present so...it's just a matter of love and attraction. ;)
Thaaaank you for this! It's been almost a year since I came out to my family and I can't even count the amount of times I've been asked about what my orientation is. I agree whole heartedly.
Omg, I've been following you off and on since your transition, and you were beautiful before and are incredibly cute now! I never wanted to ask this ... well FAQ because I thought it would offend. Kudos to you for being so open! *lots of hugs*
I love how free and detached your are from labeling your sexual orientation. Don't even go down that road, you seem so happy and comfy just letting things come as they come! I also say don't do it because I've been down that road and man is it confusing and sucky. -_-
You're such an inspiration. I don't believe in gender when it comes to love. My sister is gay. And she encouraged me to come out like she did. Since she has came out she is getting married to her long term girlfriend this June. I'm proud to say that I don't believe in gender, I believe in the connection you have with that one person. Thank you Skyler for everything. You also have helped me along my journey.
I've never understood our need to label stuff and more so sub-labeling. I was just trying to work out a response to your Transphobia and Passing video and so was going to go re-watch one I made on being bi a couple years ago while I gather my thoughts which is hard because I'm pretty medicated at the moment, but then I ended up here and just realized that I've probably been using the wrong bloody label for almost 19 years. Bisexual seemed to fit 19 years ago when I realized I liked boys as much as girls. Actually no, I thought I was a freak for a year or two until I discovered the term bisexual listening to my mom and brother talking about it in the car when I was 12, which is when I decided I was probably bisexual and have blindly identified as such ever since based on the conversation of a 15 year old and a woman who as it turns out had no idea what being Bi was until after she found out I am when I was 17 and had it explained to her by my then 21 year old brother (again) after crying for 2 days. By the way, she never had a problem with her older sister being a lesbian or my dad's older sister being Bi which she found out in the 70s so its actually a bit hard to nail down what her confusion was when I was 17, I think she was just probably in shock. Dad and Uncle George weren't shocked because I never talked about girls but thats because I had complex-PTSD which they didn't know about either. And wow I'm off topic, yay meds. But yeah, apparently I'm pansexual, who knew? Um, I'll comment on the other one later lol, I think I just need to stop typing for a bit.
I love that you brought up Andrea Gibson! I have the words to "Andrew" up on my wall, as well as "I Sing the Body Electric Especially When My Power's Out." I also think these lines from "Jewelry Store" are relevant: "Now ask me what I am, I’ll tell you all of the above and none of what they’ve ever listed. I will say I have never cared to be nearly as much as I cared to become."
Everytime that i see ur videos i realize my own way... seen u makes me know how i really feel about my sexuality and my gender. I discovered, recently... that i choose youtube channels of trans people and when i see them i feel so glad and proud... maybe cuz i wanna come out as that makes me happy... im a woman... i born like a woman... and i love one woman... but i dont feel like a lesbian... i feel like a straigth boy who loves woman, thats "normal" hahaha but in Mexico, where i from, been lesbian its already difficult and now , been trans ftm its worst to the people... pfff but to the end im happy to know who i am and see people like u that inspire just to live our lives and love who we are... thanks for that! And more....
I sort of regret coming out because it made me have a label that I thought I wanted then and now am really not so much for them. I, too, like people when I like them
This video was great! And I completely agree with you. I feel like being part of the LGBT community in general is a really important part of my life, but my specific sexual orientation has never been something I've thought much about or seen as a big part of my identity. I also usually throw out "pansexual" when put on the spot, or sometimes just "queer," but ehhh I dunno. I just like people. (Also, "pansexual transsexual" is such a cute phrase, oh my gosh. :D I don't think I'd ever heard that one before.)
The subject matter here treads into territory not previously traveled by you, Sky. I'm glad that either you kind of figured out what you most closely identified with or finally had the fortiitude to not give a damn what people want to label you. Either way I very much like that you addressed the subject. I myself identify as Pansexual. Some people think that means "switch hitter". Whatever. Good video.
@skylarkeleven I'm just starting out my journey as ftm trans and I'm pretty close to dating a bi girl. Can you give some insight to how dating was early on?
I started watching your videos back when I was 16. I watched your transition when I got my first girlfriend... I even fell in love with Sigur Ros- Glosoli. I am now 21 and I still rewatch your videos. 🐘
I HEAR YOU!!! I really never gave much thought to what label to put on my sexual orientation, untill people around me, started telling me what they think i am, and how i should identify.. I always as you put it loved who i loved when i loved them, Men, Women and Trans alike, and i never stopped to think about it, when people asked i said bi, cause i never even cared enough to read up on other possible answers. But given the debate i had with some people, i tried to find out, and my closest definition must be I am a Pansexual, but that does not quite cover it either as i do also have within me, both a very strong male, and a strong female energy, and they both come out to play ... And although the term is not 100% right, the closest term i found was the term Two spirit.. Cause i am not Trans as i would not want to transition, yet i cannot say that i am 100% female .. Hmmm Queer may be another term some would use for me, but thats too open, to use as an explanation to cover my "orientation" Well my coclution after all my reading and wondering is actually that the world around me is more interrested in labelling me than i am in being labeled.. So in the future i will, just as you, go with loving who i love when i love them
ah i love this! "Well my coclution after all my reading and wondering is actually that the world around me is more interrested in labelling me than i am in being labeled.." :) and fluidity is wonderful - two spirit is a great term as well and i love it's historical references :)
Loved this!! I appreciate what you were saying about pansexuality. I'm kind of the same. I say I'm bi (mainly because most people I know don't understand the term pan), but I feel like whatever happens happens, and I hope to just love who I will love.
Its great to hear someone vocalize what I can't seem to ^^ I identify as Bi/Pan depending on what I feel like at the point in time, why someone is asking and what their definition of things are. I am open to many things or try to be, but Bisexual rolls off my tongue feels better just seem to warp a round me that I feel comfortable with.
heyy sky ive been catching up on all ur post lately i was just searching and found u on here lol. i am also having a hard time dealing with coming out as ftm trans but most of ur videos gives me all answers lol. i agree with u about not labeling urself u are who u are and love who u love, i think u do an amazing job about explaining a lot of things :)(so thank u lol). btw, yes i think u are very cute, to bad u live far away aha. :P
I'm 15 and I don't wanna stick a label on myself until i'm older, and tried stuff with guys and girls. But, for now all I know is that I like guys and I kinda like girls
I think this a great video and I have so much respect for you! I just want to say something about your description of bisexuality though. Firstly, I'm not saying the way you identify is wrong. I used to identify the same way as you for the same reason, however, I now interpret the word bisexual differently. Bi means two, but I interpret these two categories as same gender and other genders. Thus, I identify as both bisexual (which I interpret as an umbrella term for middle of the spectrum orientations) and pansexual because I don't see them as mutually exclusive. Anyway, no hate, I just wanted to provide that info! You're awesome!
I identify as pansexual. Basically what I see pansexual as is love/attraction of people with no regard to gender. Like you said, I love whoever I love, when I love them. c:
Sky, you're pretty much the only other person who i've heard that a relationship helped you to realise that you were essentially a boy. So it's awesome to hear someone who has a story like myself!
The Bi in bisexual DOES NOT MEAN attracted to just men and women. The Bi means attracted to genders that are similar to your own and different than your gender. When I say that I am bisexual it means that I can feel attraction towards all genders, just like how a pansexual would identify.
I think that I can relate a little. I've always been attracted to females (and weirdly got along better with their moms that I did with even male classmates).I had a relationship for two years in high school. We broke up not feeling that much chemistry, but have remained good friends. My strong feminine side has attracted men in the past, and while there are some that I find great people to be around, I can't imagine myself sexually intimate with the. I don't know if it's being traumatized or just not attracted to men in a sexual way. I'm open to the possibility of meeting a guy who I feel differently towards in the future, but I don't know the chances of that happening. What I found more relatable is that I've had a Second Life relationship (where I'm often in an avatar with sort of a feminine version of my own real appearance. With male or female gendered avatars, I've attracted cisgender women who are generally attracted to women, and this current girlfriend explained that she thinks that I may be a lesbian in a man's body, and possibly with a naturally high amount of estrogen based on some of my softer features and my libido. The idea has definitely been helping me to embrace my feminine side more. It also makes more sense of a male classmate in 7th grade (who was going through his own LGBT issues) once called me a "dyke", and when a gay guy who I worked with instant messaged me on Facebook one Christmas Eve trying to drunkenly convince me that I'm (a) attracted to men and (b) that I should go over his place for sex).... After hours of debating, he jokingly concluded that maybe I'm a "lesbian in a man's body", and I told him that "Stranger things have happened.".
Hey just wanted to say that both you and my girlfriend have inspired me to go ahead with looking into T shots. Seeing you happy the way you are makes me want to do this. I also feel like a boy inside. AND becoming a boy would make me so happy, so thank you for the videos you put up :)
Hey, I kind've hope you don't notice this comment... but I've supported you ever since I first saw your videos years ago and I'm really so so so proud of you and how much you have grown as a person! It may sound super creepy... but you portray the future to me, a future where everyone is comfortable in their own skin and free to live their life however they want. p.s. ily! :)
I honestly do not comprehend the need for labels because frankly it's a social construct that make our lives easier. What easy isn't always fun after all.
Yay! a fellow pan trans guy. :P Honestly, it seems like I identify the same way that you do. I just don't particularly care what anyone's gender and/or sex is. Most of the people that I am attracted to and happen to date are female, but I just love and am attracted to whoever I am with at the moment.
hello,,, being bi is not limited to binary genders, for ex., you could only be attracted to nonbinary people and girls and still identify as bisexual or biromantic =)
Love it! All though i totally forget that when you were in middle school you hadn't transitioned so then appeared to be a girl. So i was really confused for a second xD
Oh goodness, I can never watch your videos and not smile :) you are truly inspirational sir:) though I myself am not struggling to discover my sexuality, one of my close friends has recently come out. She identifies herself as a lesbian, though she use to identify herself as a monster. :( I introduced her to your UA-cam channel, and she has most defiantly broke out of her shell! :) though your situations are not of the same type, you're words are still helpful:) thank you!!
Hiya, I have a question for you: what do you feel is your definition of the difference between queer and pansexual? I find personally they are so similar. But I steer more towards labeling myself queer.
Hey skylarkeleven, Thanks for your definition of Queer. Here is a Quote I found awhile ago about the definition - I love this quote so much, and it says so much of how I would like to embody the term. Below is a link to the photography work - 'Queer Kids' that had the quote. Check it out! :D ................................................................................................................... "I realised I was gay pretty young, maybe the 9th grade. I realised I was "queer" this year, actually. I view those two things as very different. I like "queer" a lot more. I feel like it's a more confrontational identity that's necessary when you are in such a marginalised position. It's got a tough attitude about it that I like. "Gay" is really nice and friendly and, you know, you're friends with all the really nice girls and you look pretty and wear your v-neck sweaters and you want to maintain your privilege. You don't want to step on anyone's toes and you don't want to be in-your-face. "Queer" is in-your-face and calling people out and not being afraid to speak your mind and that's more me, more of what I am about. I like "queer". I am queer." - Patrick Glastonbury, CT #QueerKids #MSharkey #Photography #Queer www.msharkey.com/68179/594144/projects/queer-kids
Very interesting! ftm pansexual I learned today of ftm gay man as well. I myself identify a mtf transgender and I guess straight since im atracted to males. Now my questing is how do ftm guys feel about mtf girl. would they date one or no idk very intriging... :-)
my insurance helped - it was $20 for a doctor's visit which included bloodworm and $20 copay for a vial of T that lasted me about 6-8 months! Without insurance, however, it was $550 for that same doctor's visit and $68 for that same vial of T… not that bad if I only have to go once a year, but at the beginning I had to have blood work about 3 times during my first year :/
I don't know how to fully explain what it is I want to say but I guess let's start with the fact that I found you maybe two years ago on a whim and I go wow this boy is extremely attractive. And then I read how you were transgendered and I shared this with a friend and we discussed whether or now we would be able to date someone who anatomically maybe wasnt fully a but had the mannerisms, had the outward appearance of a boy. Ive always identified as straight and so this really hurt my head and my perception of my sexuality. And then I kept watching and watching and suddenly the lines got very blurred. I just showed my suitemate your videos and tossed around the same question and its still left unanswered. I just wanted to say thanks for making me think and opening my mind a little bit wider.
I cannot say how awesome this video was! I have always found you one of the coolest guys...ever! Yeap...you are a definite crush! :) I have always told you you seem as beautiful on the inside, as you are on the outside...and I believe this even more, now! I'm very proud to know you and to have you even as an on-line friend! I hope to meet you one day! :)
I'm in middle school and I fell totally trans I already changed my name to Alex and I have been warring boy cloths since I was 4 and I have always had short hair and I have some questions on how long it took you to transition and how it feels now for you because what you say in most of your videos you sum up what I feel like. thank you for being able to be out there it has helped me a lot
it took quite a few years, alex :) I'd say the first step is to see if you can possibly see a gender therapist - they're just like a regular counselor/therapist but they know about gender identity and may be able to help you discover more of yourself in that way than a therapist who maybe hasn't had a gender questioning person before :)
skylarkeleven I am going to see a gender therapist on Wednesday it will be my first appointment. thank u so much for replying quickly u have really helped.
I am heterosexual, but the concept of pansexuality totally makes sense. I've always said I just so happen to have been sexually attracted to women... But I don't think of it as simple binary sexuality. I'm attracted to masculine and feminine traits within people... I just so happen to be sexually attracted to women (from a biological animal perspective).
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When he says he's been attracted to gay men he really means he's attracted to me. Or at least I'll pretend.
HAHAHAHA that's what i told mysef too hahahahahahah
same, when people ask me if im bisexual or lesbian, I just say I like what I like, I fall in love with there soul not there gender.
*their
C'Mon, it's so basic.
+Lisa Galarza It's actually not that basic especially for people who are ESL. C'mon, human decency and being polite is what's "so basic"
This is exactly how I identify/explain my sexuality to people (except I have a bias towards masculinity). This video is perf :)
will you go out with me? circle yes or no
yes!
skylarkeleven I want to chaperon this date so bad.
skylarkeleven lol this made my heart sink lol....
oh my god especially in this video you look EXACTLY like evan peters like wtf.
i dont hate it at all.
+Ema Atwell IKR!? So cute!
Ugh sooooooo cute!
i was literally just thinking about that
I was searching for this exact comment lmao
Yeah, he does look like Evan Peters, an actor I like a lot, especially on AHS.
Great video skylarkeleven! I love all the talk about labels/labelling fun that you had with your circle of friends, I wish I had a group of friends like that growing up! I realised in my twenties though, that at the end of the day - labels are for jars, not people!
WOW! That Mean's I Have A Shot!! YEAH!!!
ummm get in line lol xD
lmao.."a boy named bob"
Thank you for wording that so nicely. I love how you say "I love people when I love them" The same goes for me. I do think it's really important to realize that there's not always a need to label yourself.
I have the same feeling like you, but people do not get it when I say it so shortly, people ask me for an explanation of freakin 2 hours or something omg :c
I'm so glad you brought up Andrea Gibson and Andrew, that was my first instance of realization when I heard that poem. You remind me of her poetry in so many ways it's awesome!
you are so hot you are so hot you are so hot you are so hot you are so hot you are so hot
"I love who I love when I love them"
I just absolutely love that! :)
"And in the end I want my heart to be covered in stretch marks"
:-)
love it
You are such a loving, honest, and inspirational individual
Awesome video as always!! I love hearing perspective and how other people relate to their orientation, or lack thereof.
that's an awesome explanation. we love who we love when we love them.. sweet!
My first thought: You look good and fresh!
thanks! simply a new shirt i decided to try, and sort of a chicken/turkey hair kind of day, but i'll take it :)
I am a straight woman and I have a lot of friends who struggle with figure out what to call themselves. I think that finding some kind of label doesn't really change the ways you can love. People beat themselves up and end up having an identity crisis over things that don't really matter. As long as your able to love someone the way you want and it's comfortable it's ok. I have been watching your videos for quite some time now. I am proud of how far you've come. I can honestly say that you have blossomed beautifully. You're gorgeous and I am not afraid to be attracted to something new. I would probably have to change my label now that I discovered this but who cares. Lol I find myself being attracted to you :)
I think it's wonderful that you post these videos. For me personally, I grew up in an area where there was not a lot of sexual diversity, so when venturing out into the world and meeting new people, I'm always worried that I may phrase a conversation or ask a question that is offensive or inappropriate just from my lack of knowledge and experience. I would hate to upset someone or cause someone who may be struggling to feel insecure based on my lack of knowledge and accidentally say something triggering or offensive. So thank you for the incredibly informative videos! They really are helpful and it really does help me to be more informed so that when I do meet people who are pansexual, transsexual, bisexual, etc. I am more sensitive to how I speak to them or what questions I ask them.
I love having such open minded attitude and not putting labels. And it sounds so amazing to be able to be attracted to so many people. I have noticed that after coming out, I put such a question mark on myself to understand who I am and what I like.
so you're saying there's a chance?
Thank you. Thank you for everything you do, Sky.
I am a straight female who has been married for 4 years to my amazing husband, and I just think your wonderful! I love watching your videos, you seem like such a humble, nice and very down to earth person and I just want to thank you for making such inspiring videos for others who may be in the same situation. Keep the videos coming!! You rock!
I thought you reminded me of Andrea Gibson when I first started watching your videos; so to hear you quote her is more than fabulous!
You are a remarkable person. I have been hooked on you since I discovered you during your early T days. Watching your videos helped me adjust to my niece's (formerly my nephew) transition. I hope to meet you someday.
maybe this is one my most prefered videos of Yours - THX
OUCH to your girlfriend.
I can see why you would say that - because I said "someday I will be single." Keep in mind that I am twenty two, have confessed that I have been in back-to-back relationships since I was 14, and that I am still discovering myself all in this video. Also, my girlfriend doubles as my best friend, and knows all of this, and more than you do to be quite fair! ;]
skylarkeleven I nearly wrote "OUCH to your girlfriend. Unless she agrees, which is cool." But didn't care enough to be politically correct. Werps ;)
You couldn't have explained it BETTER Sky. I can totally relate to this video even though I haven't dated a boy. Take care, I really love this point of view because since I came out as a boy...I thought I was hetero but maybe I'm not and I just decided not to put labels on me and all I have to say is that I'm attracted to women as I strongly like them but it doesn't matter their orientation as long as they love me so I don't care about labels that much and just about that person. I've dated bisexual girls, heterosexual and lesbian girls in the past before coming out and in the present so...it's just a matter of love and attraction. ;)
Hey Alex, soy seguidor y me encanta tu canal! Soy un chico Trans de Barcelona :))
Muchas gracias! :)
Hey! I just came across your channel and I absolutely love them. Your story is great. Thank you for this!
Yup, I totally have a crush on you. Your voice is soothing and seriously made my "not so wonderful" day better. Thanks.
Thaaaank you for this! It's been almost a year since I came out to my family and I can't even count the amount of times I've been asked about what my orientation is. I agree whole heartedly.
Nice one Sky, thank goodness someone is similar to me. Keep doing what you're doing, love watching what you do :)
Omg, I've been following you off and on since your transition, and you were beautiful before and are incredibly cute now! I never wanted to ask this ... well FAQ because I thought it would offend. Kudos to you for being so open! *lots of hugs*
You're looking really good Sky. I think you explained yourself pretty amazingly about your sexual orientation.
I love how free and detached your are from labeling your sexual orientation. Don't even go down that road, you seem so happy and comfy just letting things come as they come! I also say don't do it because I've been down that road and man is it confusing and sucky. -_-
You're such a handsome guy. :)
You're such an inspiration. I don't believe in gender when it comes to love. My sister is gay. And she encouraged me to come out like she did. Since she has came out she is getting married to her long term girlfriend this June. I'm proud to say that I don't believe in gender, I believe in the connection you have with that one person. Thank you Skyler for everything. You also have helped me along my journey.
I've never understood our need to label stuff and more so sub-labeling. I was just trying to work out a response to your Transphobia and Passing video and so was going to go re-watch one I made on being bi a couple years ago while I gather my thoughts which is hard because I'm pretty medicated at the moment, but then I ended up here and just realized that I've probably been using the wrong bloody label for almost 19 years. Bisexual seemed to fit 19 years ago when I realized I liked boys as much as girls. Actually no, I thought I was a freak for a year or two until I discovered the term bisexual listening to my mom and brother talking about it in the car when I was 12, which is when I decided I was probably bisexual and have blindly identified as such ever since based on the conversation of a 15 year old and a woman who as it turns out had no idea what being Bi was until after she found out I am when I was 17 and had it explained to her by my then 21 year old brother (again) after crying for 2 days. By the way, she never had a problem with her older sister being a lesbian or my dad's older sister being Bi which she found out in the 70s so its actually a bit hard to nail down what her confusion was when I was 17, I think she was just probably in shock. Dad and Uncle George weren't shocked because I never talked about girls but thats because I had complex-PTSD which they didn't know about either. And wow I'm off topic, yay meds. But yeah, apparently I'm pansexual, who knew? Um, I'll comment on the other one later lol, I think I just need to stop typing for a bit.
I love this video.you explain everything so well.very articulate!.
you answered my qyestion! yay, i love you! you are my inspiration! dont you ever stop making videos
Dude. I watch all your vids. You are so handsome! I'm gay and I have got no issues with your transition. You are really lucky to be who you are.
I love that you brought up Andrea Gibson! I have the words to "Andrew" up on my wall, as well as "I Sing the Body Electric Especially When My Power's Out." I also think these lines from "Jewelry Store" are relevant:
"Now ask me what I am, I’ll tell you all of the above and none of what they’ve ever listed.
I will say I have never cared to be nearly as much as I cared to become."
mmm i love that last line :) and "it hurts to become."
I just found your channel and I'm loving your videos you look so much like Evan peters (celebrity crush since forever)
Everytime that i see ur videos i realize my own way... seen u makes me know how i really feel about my sexuality and my gender. I discovered, recently... that i choose youtube channels of trans people and when i see them i feel so glad and proud... maybe cuz i wanna come out as that makes me happy... im a woman... i born like a woman... and i love one woman... but i dont feel like a lesbian... i feel like a straigth boy who loves woman, thats "normal" hahaha but in Mexico, where i from, been lesbian its already difficult and now , been trans ftm its worst to the people... pfff but to the end im happy to know who i am and see people like u that inspire just to live our lives and love who we are... thanks for that! And more....
I sort of regret coming out because it made me have a label that I thought I wanted then and now am really not so much for them. I, too, like people when I like them
You are truly a beautiful person and I love to watch your videos.
This video was great! And I completely agree with you. I feel like being part of the LGBT community in general is a really important part of my life, but my specific sexual orientation has never been something I've thought much about or seen as a big part of my identity. I also usually throw out "pansexual" when put on the spot, or sometimes just "queer," but ehhh I dunno. I just like people. (Also, "pansexual transsexual" is such a cute phrase, oh my gosh. :D I don't think I'd ever heard that one before.)
I don't know what it is but I really like listening to you. Your voice just sounds really nice :)
YOU R ADORABLE AND I LOVE YOU
The subject matter here treads into territory not previously traveled by you, Sky. I'm glad that either you kind of figured out what you most closely identified with or finally had the fortiitude to not give a damn what people want to label you. Either way I very much like that you addressed the subject. I myself identify as Pansexual. Some people think that means "switch hitter". Whatever. Good video.
you're awesome. Great hair at the moment!
@skylarkeleven I'm just starting out my journey as ftm trans and I'm pretty close to dating a bi girl. Can you give some insight to how dating was early on?
You look great, Sky!
I started watching your videos back when I was 16. I watched your transition when I got my first girlfriend... I even fell in love with Sigur Ros- Glosoli. I am now 21 and I still rewatch your videos. 🐘
I absolutely love your hair.
This video is so perfect. I feel the same way about labels.
Life's short, be happy. Love is better than hate.
I HEAR YOU!!!
I really never gave much thought to what label to put on my sexual orientation, untill people around me, started telling me what they think i am, and how i should identify..
I always as you put it loved who i loved when i loved them, Men, Women and Trans alike, and i never stopped to think about it, when people asked i said bi, cause i never even cared enough to read up on other possible answers.
But given the debate i had with some people, i tried to find out, and my closest definition must be I am a Pansexual, but that does not quite cover it either as i do also have within me, both a very strong male, and a strong female energy, and they both come out to play ... And although the term is not 100% right, the closest term i found was the term Two spirit.. Cause i am not Trans as i would not want to transition, yet i cannot say that i am 100% female ..
Hmmm Queer may be another term some would use for me, but thats too open, to use as an explanation to cover my "orientation"
Well my coclution after all my reading and wondering is actually that the world around me is more interrested in labelling me than i am in being labeled..
So in the future i will, just as you, go with loving who i love when i love them
ah i love this! "Well my coclution after all my reading and wondering is actually that the world around me is more interrested in labelling me than i am in being labeled.." :) and fluidity is wonderful - two spirit is a great term as well and i love it's historical references :)
Loved this!! I appreciate what you were saying about pansexuality. I'm kind of the same. I say I'm bi (mainly because most people I know don't understand the term pan), but I feel like whatever happens happens, and I hope to just love who I will love.
Its great to hear someone vocalize what I can't seem to ^^
I identify as Bi/Pan depending on what I feel like at the point in time, why someone is asking and what their definition of things are. I am open to many things or try to be, but Bisexual rolls off my tongue feels better just seem to warp a round me that I feel comfortable with.
heyy sky ive been catching up on all ur post lately i was just searching and found u on here lol. i am also having a hard time dealing with coming out as ftm trans but most of ur videos gives me all answers lol. i agree with u about not labeling urself u are who u are and love who u love, i think u do an amazing job about explaining a lot of things :)(so thank u lol). btw, yes i think u are very cute, to bad u live far away aha. :P
awww I love this outlook on love
I'm 15 and I don't wanna stick a label on myself until i'm older, and tried stuff with guys and girls. But, for now all I know is that I like guys and I kinda like girls
gosh he got cute 💖💞
I think this a great video and I have so much respect for you! I just want to say something about your description of bisexuality though. Firstly, I'm not saying the way you identify is wrong. I used to identify the same way as you for the same reason, however, I now interpret the word bisexual differently. Bi means two, but I interpret these two categories as same gender and other genders. Thus, I identify as both bisexual (which I interpret as an umbrella term for middle of the spectrum orientations) and pansexual because I don't see them as mutually exclusive. Anyway, no hate, I just wanted to provide that info! You're awesome!
I identify as pansexual. Basically what I see pansexual as is love/attraction of people with no regard to gender. Like you said, I love whoever I love, when I love them. c:
Sky, you're pretty much the only other person who i've heard that a relationship helped you to realise that you were essentially a boy. So it's awesome to hear someone who has a story like myself!
OK thanks for clarifying.
What happened to your Facebook page? I was wanting to go on there and 'like' it, lol XD
Can I get a simple explanation in your terms what pansexual is? Sexual orientations are interesting but kinda confusing as many are similar
I remember Bob. Ohhhhh man I forgot about that. Hahah miss you!
The Bi in bisexual DOES NOT MEAN attracted to just men and women. The Bi means attracted to genders that are similar to your own and different than your gender. When I say that I am bisexual it means that I can feel attraction towards all genders, just like how a pansexual would identify.
I think that I can relate a little. I've always been attracted to females (and weirdly got along better with their moms that I did with even male classmates).I had a relationship for two years in high school. We broke up not feeling that much chemistry, but have remained good friends. My strong feminine side has attracted men in the past, and while there are some that I find great people to be around, I can't imagine myself sexually intimate with the. I don't know if it's being traumatized or just not attracted to men in a sexual way. I'm open to the possibility of meeting a guy who I feel differently towards in the future, but I don't know the chances of that happening.
What I found more relatable is that I've had a Second Life relationship (where I'm often in an avatar with sort of a feminine version of my own real appearance. With male or female gendered avatars, I've attracted cisgender women who are generally attracted to women, and this current girlfriend explained that she thinks that I may be a lesbian in a man's body, and possibly with a naturally high amount of estrogen based on some of my softer features and my libido. The idea has definitely been helping me to embrace my feminine side more. It also makes more sense of a male classmate in 7th grade (who was going through his own LGBT issues) once called me a "dyke", and when a gay guy who I worked with instant messaged me on Facebook one Christmas Eve trying to drunkenly convince me that I'm (a) attracted to men and (b) that I should go over his place for sex).... After hours of debating, he jokingly concluded that maybe I'm a "lesbian in a man's body", and I told him that "Stranger things have happened.".
Great video =] Thanks for explaining this
Hey just wanted to say that both you and my girlfriend have inspired me to go ahead with looking into T shots. Seeing you happy the way you are makes me want to do this. I also feel like a boy inside. AND becoming a boy would make me so happy, so thank you for the videos you put up :)
Hey, I kind've hope you don't notice this comment... but I've supported you ever since I first saw your videos years ago and I'm really so so so proud of you and how much you have grown as a person! It may sound super creepy... but you portray the future to me, a future where everyone is comfortable in their own skin and free to live their life however they want.
p.s. ily! :)
I love your words my friend :)
I honestly do not comprehend the need for labels because frankly it's a social construct that make our lives easier. What easy isn't always fun after all.
true!
Yay! a fellow pan trans guy. :P
Honestly, it seems like I identify the same way that you do. I just don't particularly care what anyone's gender and/or sex is. Most of the people that I am attracted to and happen to date are female, but I just love and am attracted to whoever I am with at the moment.
You are very intriguing
hello,,, being bi is not limited to binary genders, for ex., you could only be attracted to nonbinary people and girls and still identify as bisexual or biromantic =)
Wow, you just blew my mind ! Wish I could know you more :))
Love it! All though i totally forget that when you were in middle school you hadn't transitioned so then appeared to be a girl. So i was really confused for a second xD
Oh goodness, I can never watch your videos and not smile :) you are truly inspirational sir:) though I myself am not struggling to discover my sexuality, one of my close friends has recently come out. She identifies herself as a lesbian, though she use to identify herself as a monster. :( I introduced her to your UA-cam channel, and she has most defiantly broke out of her shell! :) though your situations are not of the same type, you're words are still helpful:) thank you!!
I really like your view on this!
You are just amazing !
my sexual orentation is usualy horizontal but I'm quite fluidic
Hiya, I have a question for you: what do you feel is your definition of the difference between queer and pansexual?
I find personally they are so similar. But I steer more towards labeling myself queer.
Hey skylarkeleven, Thanks for your definition of Queer. Here is a Quote I found awhile ago about the definition - I love this quote so much, and it says so much of how I would like to embody the term.
Below is a link to the photography work - 'Queer Kids' that had the quote. Check it out!
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"I realised I was gay pretty young, maybe the 9th grade. I realised I was "queer" this year, actually. I view those two things as very different. I like "queer" a lot more. I feel like it's a more confrontational identity that's necessary when you are in such a marginalised position. It's got a tough attitude about it that I like. "Gay" is really nice and friendly and, you know, you're friends with all the really nice girls and you look pretty and wear your v-neck sweaters and you want to maintain your privilege. You don't want to step on anyone's toes and you don't want to be in-your-face. "Queer" is in-your-face and calling people out and not being afraid to speak your mind and that's more me, more of what I am about. I like "queer". I am queer."
- Patrick
Glastonbury, CT
#QueerKids #MSharkey #Photography #Queer
www.msharkey.com/68179/594144/projects/queer-kids
Very interesting! ftm pansexual I learned today of ftm gay man as well. I myself identify a mtf transgender and I guess straight since im atracted to males. Now my questing is how do ftm guys feel about mtf girl. would they date one or no idk very intriging... :-)
Without labels, some of us would probably get along better.
How can I know if I'm a lesbian or I'm a transsexual?
when you first got put on testosterone, how much did it cost exactly? would insurence pay for it or is it consider it an elective?
my insurance helped - it was $20 for a doctor's visit which included bloodworm and $20 copay for a vial of T that lasted me about 6-8 months! Without insurance, however, it was $550 for that same doctor's visit and $68 for that same vial of T… not that bad if I only have to go once a year, but at the beginning I had to have blood work about 3 times during my first year :/
I don't know how to fully explain what it is I want to say but I guess let's start with the fact that I found you maybe two years ago on a whim and I go wow this boy is extremely attractive. And then I read how you were transgendered and I shared this with a friend and we discussed whether or now we would be able to date someone who anatomically maybe wasnt fully a but had the mannerisms, had the outward appearance of a boy. Ive always identified as straight and so this really hurt my head and my perception of my sexuality. And then I kept watching and watching and suddenly the lines got very blurred. I just showed my suitemate your videos and tossed around the same question and its still left unanswered. I just wanted to say thanks for making me think and opening my mind a little bit wider.
*not and boy.. whoops :)
Well the prefix pan- iirc does mean "all"...
Omg, I'd love to go on a date with you! I'm in Boston too :)!!
Que guapo
I cannot say how awesome this video was! I have always found you one of the coolest guys...ever! Yeap...you are a definite crush! :) I have always told you you seem as beautiful on the inside, as you are on the outside...and I believe this even more, now! I'm very proud to know you and to have you even as an on-line friend! I hope to meet you one day! :)
Sky would you be pansexual if you were a cisguy and as open-minded as you are now?
I'm in middle school and I fell totally trans I already changed my name to Alex and I have been warring boy cloths since I was 4 and I have always had short hair and I have some questions on how long it took you to transition and how it feels now for you because what you say in most of your videos you sum up what I feel like. thank you for being able to be out there it has helped me a lot
it took quite a few years, alex :) I'd say the first step is to see if you can possibly see a gender therapist - they're just like a regular counselor/therapist but they know about gender identity and may be able to help you discover more of yourself in that way than a therapist who maybe hasn't had a gender questioning person before :)
skylarkeleven I am going to see a gender therapist on Wednesday it will be my first appointment. thank u so much for replying quickly u have really helped.
I am heterosexual, but the concept of pansexuality totally makes sense. I've always said I just so happen to have been sexually attracted to women... But I don't think of it as simple binary sexuality. I'm attracted to masculine and feminine traits within people... I just so happen to be sexually attracted to women (from a biological animal perspective).