Know Yourself and SAY NO 🚫 | (Late) Sunday Plan With Me | Minimalist Messy Bullet Journal 3.24.24
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- 🚫 (Late) Sunday Plan With Me | Know Yourself and SAY NO 🚫 | Minimalist Messy Bullet Journal Planner 3.24.24
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⛈️Quiet Storm⛈️
This one goes out to all you people-pleasers and over-committers out there.
Do you struggle with saying NO?
Let’s explore all the times we say yes and later feel stupid for doing so. (For me, it's all the time!)
How can you plan for YOUR dreams and goals in your bullet journal if you’re too busy making everyone else happy?
Join me as I tell a story about computer equipment, compliment Steve Jobs's fashion sense, and set up my minimalist weekly spread in my bullet journal, including a habit tracker, to-do list and goals.
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WHO AM I?
I’m Alecia Lott, a Blerd with ADHD living in Dayton, Ohio. I make videos that explore how to use bullet journaling (journaling / planning in a dotted notebook) to encourage and document growth and achievement, along with "regular" journaling to examine emotions and aspirations.
Uh, why are you still reading this?? Go write in your journal.
00:00 Introduction
00:17 Recap of last week
00:41 Quote of the Week #1
01:20 Theme of the Week
02:24 Take My Monitor, Please
06:11 What to Ask Yourself Before You Say Yes
10:25 Small & Stupid
12:47 To-Do List
14:29 Weekly Tasks / Goals
17:30 Quote of the Week #2
Ten, tu también, una gran semana.
Te espero una semana estupenda, Nestor 😊
Saying 'no' was difficult for me when I was younger.I chose people instead of me and it was the worse thing I could do.I learned that we should focus on our lives and needs.Ppl will forget.
❤Saying 'yes' to someone is saying 'no' to yourself.❤
Alecia this video was soooo needed!
*THIS!!* Saying 'yes' to someone is saying 'no' to yourself. Don't drain time/energy from yourself! Thank you, Moni 💗💗💗
Well said. Thank you so much for the important reminder. Love it as always.
💗JR, thank you, thank you, thank you 💗 Have an excellent week!!
I love that Steve Jobs quote. I have SUCH trouble "choosing not to;" that's the key problem for me when it comes to prioritization. I think I might write that quote on an index card and tape it to my wall right in front of where I work...haha. Thanks for sharing!
Right?? RIP Steve Jobs, I wish he had written a book. People always say that innovation/success is borne from failures but sometimes it's just saying nah to things that don't light you up or that drain time/energy/resources. Thank you for watching fren!! ✨💗
Hello Alecia! Hope you are feeling better... I have Leiden disease, so I know what it's like to have blood problems, sometimes we feel ok and other days it's like everything is painfull.
I was a very kind person, I had a period in my life where I couldn't say no to people and that drained me into problems. Then between my 25/35 I started to say no. Nowadays, I try things to see if they have value to me, if it's helpfull, or if it's not for me. So now, I know when to say ok and no, and most of my friends ask me for advice for everything!!! And that is something I try to avoid for now, because it's on them not on me and I've lost people because they don't understand why I take distance. (That's another thing I had to learn to renew mental and physical energy).
Also people are in denial when they have bad behaviour, and I don't feel staying for/with someone into a friend/ relationship if the person is not true with herself and others around.
Difficult to make friends for me, but I'm totally ok with that. 👌
Also if a person is forcing me to do something I do not feel to do, "I will listen but not hear her" (Like I listen to what you have to say, but, I will not bend my opinion).
It takes time to figure, but it's worth! ❤
Loved your video! It's a good reminder! ✨Hope you'll have a nice start of the week, take care!✨
Hi Prisca!! 💗Happy Tuesday to you, lady. Feeling better now, but bummed to hear about your painful days. One minute you're full of energy, the next you're wiped out and don't want to get out of bed. Well I hope you're drinking lots of water! (That's what everyone tells me to do at least lol)
It is still such a challenge for me to say no and preserve my energy. I want to say yes to all the things, try all the things and cram all the things into my schedule. "I'm still standing, so I can do it!" Right??? There are many tiny decisions that aren't inherently bad, just not great for me. Much like learning to control my temper during fights (whew) I have to slow down and be present when speaking to people so that I can catch myself.
And to your point, being around people who don't make so many demands on you in the first place is EVERYTHING. If people don't understand why I need to recharge then maybe it's time to rethink the friendship.
Anywayyyyyy Prisca, I'm so happy you're here and that you have learned how to maintain your energy. I wish you a peaceful, happy and energetic week ✨😍💗
@@AleciaLott Hoping that your day is as bright as mine!
The disease I have is irreversible, still I do eat and drink only healthy things. Water is a bestfriend to me!😊
About controlling oneself when on a fight... I have severe ocd, had no control when younger, but now, even if I tend to have impulsive moments I try to calm myself down with lots of little and tiny methods that have worked for me overtime. But it's really difficult... it's a lot of work to do.
Seems you are a very strong person, it's ok to take time for you even doing nothing.
This society went on the trend where you have to be productive every minute you live, that you can't fail, blablabla... too much positivity and too many demands inevitably lead to failure at some point. We need to TAKE TIME for everything and BE KIND to ourselves before being with others (What I call respect/ love).
Time has never been never an enemy, he helps us going through experiences, whenever they are good or bad, but when we live them it's for a reason for sure.
Yes, I am currently figuring-out if I'll stay into some relationship I still have... trying to find balance in my thoughts for the moment. I will know soon if I am continuing or ending this.
✨Thank you for replying, it's always a pleasure to read you. This week goes by so quickly! Take care Alecia! See you soon! ✨
You are such a light, Prisca. I hope you are having a beautiful day!
Hmmm would you please share your tricks for calming down? Now that I pay attention to the little buttons that are pushed (on both sides) that lead to a fight, I've improved but it still feels as though I'm wearing a muzzle sometimes lol. What do you do??
Yes, here's to doing NOTHING at all, just floating on a breeze... ✨✨🌬
Happy Wednesday to you lady!!
@@AleciaLott Hello Alecia! 😊
Oh well there are different techniques, depending on what your problem is at the moment.
My mind is like a "tower" (Yes I putted a name on it) with different levels and rooms.
There's one room where visitors have to wait, like intrusive thoughts (Doubts, fears, questions about a subject...).
I tolerate them to be in that room but not run everywhere in the tower. Not allowed... and if they do so or are insisting that it's their turn, then I have a process... but keeping in mind that "Everything Passes".
- I make a reverse question about them,
- I state that I cannot control everything, I make mentaly a list of things I can do to be/ feel better,
- I am not responsible for others thinking and actions unless I made or bring the situation for them, so I try to ask myself for what am I really responsible to see clearly through.
Then if I am sure about my answers to all of that, I can tell to the thoughts too things...
- You can go outside, thank you for your visit,
- Hello and welcome into my tower, you can go into another room that is called "Acceptance" where other processes will be carried out.
When I am struggling in an impulsive manner I have to do some of these things...
- Touch my jewelry, my hands, the clothes I am wearing, a pen, whatever you have in the moment, even washing my hands... to reassure myself but not tend to do that because it does not help long way,
- If I can, I try to walk/ sit/ talk to others or distract myself.
- Breathing. Breathing is very important.
- Closing the eyes, mooving the head or parts of the body, even claping or mooving your tong into your mouth helps, it depends because everyone has his own ways to do it.
(I personnally moove all my fingers of my right hand on my thumb nail, like counting... but telling myself to calm down with kind sentences.)
- Telling myself I have to stay in the present and LIVE it even if it's a bad moment, because most of the time it's only a lost of focus, concentration, and not a hole situation.
- I focus on all my senses one after another and focus on those that seem to respond to know and ask what is going on with them. Depending on the answer I put them mentally into a "Safe room" while figuring out.
- Avoid touching others, or their objects for a little time.
- Meditating, resting, laying on a couch.
- Listening to sounds, noises or music of certain Hertz for calming the heart.
- Having/ making time for yourself only, and being alone during that time to regain energy.
- Leaving the fight saying "Excuse me, but I cannot process that right now, because I am not feeling ok and I need time for it, can we talk about this subject/ problem/ situation later when I'll feel to?" (That one helps me a lot when my husband and I are into an inconvenience, or disagree.)
- Try to sleep well... (Oh this one is a trigger to me, because I have insomnia) because a lack of sleeping can cause you not be as you would normally be. Fatigue is not a friend.
- Write all those thoughts and situations you are on into a notebook.
I can go on and on... but those are the most things I try to do to help me, but seeing a specialist while working on you is the best advice I can give to someone.
Hope there's something in these notes that will help you too! Take care and have a nice Thursday! 🥰