do NOT live with your friends (my horror experience with roommates)
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- Опубліковано 11 лис 2023
- I have had an interesting experience with my living situations over the past 5 years. My freshman year of college, I lived in New York City. What was supposed to be an amazing change in my life, turned into a very difficult few years of my life for multiple reasons.
p.s. i talk slow in this because I had to think about what I was saying LMAO speed up the playback
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Girl there is nothing worse than cheap rich people!
stingey asses!
exactly
disrespect af rich ppl cus they’re so used to have their ass wiped for them
frrrr!!! had a roommate like that too. so weird lol
my ex roommate fr (she was also my friend before) 💀
There is definitely a dichotomy between the rich and the poor and living in NYC highlights this...This story is a perfect example.
Being sad around your birthday does not make you a 'pick me'. That was mean.
no it wasn't mean. mind you he said the guy was sad for a "month" THAT DOES GIVE PICK ME
@@rizk104pick me..... ? lol mans had depression tf
@@cynical_chai8922 then he should seek help??
@@caadankaiskaillali7313you dont know if he was or not lmfao
yes! he’s so mean and shallow this whole video
I'm surprised having a roommate was even part of the equation for that girl.
She probably knew she would be able to clean it herself!
my first year at uni was AWFUL i hated my roommates, they very much othered me and were just so immature. instead of asking me to do smth, they'd slide really passive aggressive notes under my door while giggling and then run off. girl we are not 13 years old !
plus then i went away for 2 weeks to see family or smth, and when i came back NO ONE tidied the kitchen at all and there were MAGGOTS literally everywhere due to how much rubbish and filth was just left out. there was sauce and cake icing on the WALLS??? literally wtf
disgusting
That’s so weird 😂
I used to work for this lady caring for her daughter and lived in her little studio apartment. Anyways one day I went out and when I came back home she was literally showing off my house to her friends. So disrespectful and she was like 60!😂
Oh god!!! Gross!!
Oof sounds terrible! I hate when people can't just tell you, and instead they find the most ridiculous ways to ask or complain for something 🤧
I'm not surprised that your princess roommate never did house cleaning. No doubt her family had always had people doing that for them. I've lived with people that weren't from privileged backgrounds who also never cleaned, and I had to do it. I once let their dirty dishes go until they completely covered the counter-space and they still wouldn't wash their dishes. I broke down and just washed them. Some people are just lazy pigs.
Ugh that would drive me nuts I at least did the dishes at my boyfriends roommates house 😂
That is so frustrating
currently going through this and cleaning atm bc im sick w covid and i need a clean space to get better…i’m gonna snap
how is being quiet pick me behavior 😭😭
exactly, like how does that even make any sense. he even said he didn’t even really speak to the dude or know him, clearly the dude was going through something.
your story is super relatable having a rich friend roommate is honestly a nightmare because most of the time they don’t even know how to clean up after themselves and are extremely inconsiderate
This literally just felt like a FaceTime call, I love it 😭
I can't even imagine ryan without glasses anymore, they literally suit him so well??
So real
Fr
Lost a friend by making her my roommate it got so bad, she moved her boyfriend in, he payed for nothing, was jobless and ran up our bills, he invited his friend who would sneak in escorts into our apartment, they both also never cleaned the icing on the cake was when i invited my brother and 2 friends over to be in my room and her boyfriend threatened to hit me, keep in mind i was working and my name was on the lease, so i told my landlord what was up and she was super understanding, i broke my lease and left them with no living room furniture so yes never be roomates with friends
Also I totally put this out of my memory bc it depressed me for months but those mother fuckers STOLE MY CAT
They stole your cat?? Wtf that is awful.
I also lost a close friend by living together. Her boyfriend of less than obe month moved in and also didn't pay for anything and lived there rent free. She'd go out of her way to get me to move out. I.e. petty behaviors. I finally got out awhile ago and have not talked to her since then.
so real
Living with someone whose parents pay their rent and who somehow never had to clean after themselves is a fucking ride especially when you’re always working to pay rent and already cleaning your own messes
I’ve lived with my roommates for 3 years and they are now my sisters but we didn’t know each other at all when we moved in. It’s important to be able to express yourself fully with the people you live with without social implications. We all get along with each others friends but each have our own friendship groups with no overlap and I think this is essential for that sister bond with a roomate to work. Good roommates are just non blood siblings. Not best friends.
I have lived in many different roommate situations/arrangements. And while I’ve had positive experiences with friends, overall I would not recommend it because it’s never worth risking losing a friendship.
i lived with several roommates and honestly the worst kind (for me) were the ones that tiptoed. like i felt like they could hear me breathing in my room they were so quiet. hear me pee etc. i hated it. I couldn't breathe. also this same group is guilty of never contributing to household goods. even took my feminine products without replacing. also had roommates leave their vomit on the floor of the only bathroom in the house.
Ew even when I’m sick I clean up after myself gross
I am the type to tiptoe, but i give 70+ bucks a month to food, and pay my rent on the first of the month. I am very clean outside my room. My room is cluttered though, i have a lot of books and whatnot. I think when most people have extremely quiet roommates and hate it is because that roommate is also never there. It's so isolating to have a person there who isn't there.
I say as I am that exact person. But hey, atleast I'm clean.
honestly the rich people are why i'm so apprehensive about nyc... i don't wanna break my back to live there while they all float by... it's just.... so normalized there
You can’t trust the media. What’s he’s saying has value but it only represents his own experience not the whole nyc experience
while it is much more common to experience that discrepancy bc ny rich kids are RICH rich, don’t let that deter u! there’s plenty of ppl who are similar to you there and it’s a huge city
Also a lot of the times these rich kids opt to live in neighborhoods like Williamsburg/UES/UWS where the rent is exponentially higher than regular nyc rent (which is expensive already)
She paid for the place!!!! This kid was glorified service.
@@ratedrachel3670fr
Due to my ADHD, I often get too tired to clean up after myself sometimes and so it's not a habit... My roommates got mad at me for not cleaning up after myself and doing chores bc I in general never had the habit of cleaning up after myself unless I'm reminded at least once or twice (of which is not smth others are supposed nor are willing to do). But after receiving criticisms from them, I did slowly start to try to be considerate and to think about how they'd feel when I leave candy wrappers on the sofa. And to always think about how others would feel if I'm making noise at night. Then, they noticed my change in behavior, and now feel better about my presence. And then also for those who have ADHD, just think of the chores as a very simple thing like picking up one thing or as something really urgent to do. Bc you have to realize you are sharing a space with others, and there is a responsibility that comes with using and living in a shared space. If it's traumas or some habits, please get help. Remember that even if you're struggling to do chores or other required tasks, if you do not clean up, your roommates come into a room full of dust or a smelly room or a room full of bugs. Or if you make noise late at night, they get less quality sleep. You can ask some of your friends or family members to remind u or communicate with your roommates if there's something you have trouble doing.
Genuinely curious....how is someone saying I'm experiencing sadness or potential depression around my birthday "pick me"? Was he displaying other behaviors?
Can you imagine how gross that apartment got after you moved out with no one around to clean it? 😬
The best and most peaceful time of my life: living with 3 other girls that I was not friends with. We did not hang out but we were always friendly to another…. Made everything so much easier.
Im going on 27 now and live with ny partner. I realized a few years before we got together that its hard enough to live with people that you love, let alone strangers and friends. People really just have different particularities and preferences, some things seem objectively wrong but then again, everyone can kind of do what they want. If it doesnt bother them then its only a problem for someone else.
Like I previously said, living with people you love is hard enough. I have ADHD and tend to have a sprawl effect when I get busy with work or projects, and my partner is the type of person who needs to be told to actually dust surfaces. Neither of us want to be alone and we *try* to accommodate each other. Doesnt always work.
I would say if youre young, dont be too hard on yourself for wanting your own space. Humbling yourself and finding someone else who can do the same, who you actually want to spend time with, is a task for older adults who have the mindset to do so. Small apartments are not built for privacy. It takes love and patience to live with anyone, which doesnt bode well for us all forming community in late stage capitalism, because super young people being thrust into artificial, crammed community spaces just makes them more prone to wanting to be isolated.
Girlllll I feel you! After having college roommates and being an RA, I've sworn to NEVER have roommates ever againnnn.
I had the worst college roommates. Even when I lived next to people BY MYSELF the walls were paper thin so I just could hear absolutely everything. I'm talking loud performative S3x that would wake me up in the middle of the night. That was the first time I experienced sleep paralysis. Ugh n
please don’t stop posting these, literally one of the most engaging & entertaining podcasts i’ve ever listened to
Omg the “therapy talk” got me I’ve been on the receiving end of that and it’s so frustrating 😂 like well my “therapist says..” but instead of it being constructive, it’s just used to talk down on you and confirm anything they’re saying because they claim a professional backed it up 💀
me watching this as i’m literally signing a lease to move somewhere else asap bc my roommate/ ex friend is INSUFFERABLE
the way we have the EXACT same roommate story down to the university experience is crazy
also her dad was probably using her as a tax write off LOOOL
I commenting this not necessarily to Ryan’s video but more to this comment section and people thinking about roommates. I think it depends on alot of things -roommates are always a coin flip regardless if they’re strangers or your best friend. I lived with my best friend from High School, everyone said it wasn’t gonna work out but we ended up living together for the entirety of University and she’s still my best friend to this day. I’m not saying we never argued or had our ups and downs but we worked through it like adults and communicated.
After we graduated she moved with her boyfriend after that I live with a friend from work for 2 years which also a great experience became like sisters the only reason we don’t live together still is because I moved out of state for a new job.
Everyone’s different. And in retrospect some people just aren’t meant to be roommates. You have to compromise, you have to communicate, can’t be afraid of confrontation. And you have to want it to work out.
Some roommates are psychopaths- literally. But it had nothing to do with them being your friend before or not and has everything to do with them being shit people. Unfortunately you wont know until you live with them and that counts for strangers too.
I lived in on-campus accommodation and it was hell. I was the only one cleaning, I was getting 3 hours of sleep every night because we had completely different sleeping schedules and they would create noise at 1-3am. I got so sick from it.
i always say this- DONT LIVE WITH YOUR FRIENDS it rarely ends well in my experience 😩
My sister is literally how your roomate acts, so i understand how you feel and the amount of frustration you felt for those 2 years 😬
when i was in college i rented a room alone becaue i wanted to avoid experiences like this. people called me childish, annoying, etc. after some time these same people came to me telling that their roomates robbed them or other terrible stuff.
That’s crazy people would judge you for that. I mean what would they even get out of calling you “childish” or “annoying”. But in the end you had better foresight than them.
@@strawberribubbletea i dont understand it either. they used to say i was "rich" just because i made that decision like it would offend me
it has a lot to do with parenting and upbringing. my cousins are extremely like EXTREMELY well off, in our home country they are the richest family. Despite their wealth, they are the most down to earth, humble and well-mannered people I have met considering their generational wealth. I can only imagine her parents have the same bad habits she does and didn’t instill any type of backbone into their daughter 😭
It’s a good cautionary tale. You def need to consider a ton of things before living with people and you always have to deal with other peoples traumas and upbringing etc.
I have much worse experience that has traumatised me deeply and I’m never living with anyone other than my partner again either but… yeah. Therapy is def needed if you move in w other people. 💀
This is exactly what I imagined having roommates would be like… respect u for living alone… that girl sounds insufferably out of touch
how dare anyone turning ryan into a maid… and not make him wear stockings?
I feel you, had similar experiences living with people who had more privileges…and/or who don’t want to clean. Learned that is best to state needs, preferences, agreements and disagreements from the beginning. The worst happens when someone stays silent about being uncomfortable (people please) and accumulates resentment.
No shade it seems like you don’t have any good communication skills that’s why there were issues lol
ryan ur so cute!! i love your podcasts! i let it play when I’m doing my makeup to get ready for the day. sometimes i just want to talk back like I’m having a conversation with you!! idk why you don’t have so many friends cause ur so mellow, funny & kind. I would love to be your friend! hahaha excited for more paris vlogs! 🤍
80 times the rent is so cray
it amazes me how many people dont know basic life skills.
Going back to the guy you described as a pick me because he said he was down. Don’t ask if you don’t want to know
This feels so relatable to me right now. My roommate gives off major, I've always lived with mommy vibes. He does not care at all that I work nights and will make a shit load of noise throughout the day on days where I need to sleep even tho I am so quiet when he's sleeping. He does not do the dishes. He almost never showers or cleans himself and always smells so bad. I can not wait to get the fuck out of here.
The way you talk about everything makes me so entertained, literally you're so awesome
I had a very high income roommate when I lived in Rio de Janeiro...very similar to what you describe here...almost exactly. My former roommate was very nice but was used to a maid cleaning up after her since birth. (We didn't have a maid.) Like yourself, I scrubbed and cleaned the apartment, etc. My former roommate is absolutely beautiful and a good person, but we lived in two different worlds.
Just found your podcast from main channel binged every ep while at work. I work in robotics and you’re a huge inspiration for the kinda lifestyle I’m pursuing
I love when you said you're going to go and have a croissant so perfect. Your stories are so fun to listen to Ryan
ryan you help me get my hw done i always play ur podcasts in the back LMAO LOVE UU
Emotional and manipulation wise, so similar to the situation I had😭 Such bffs at first and then it all went down hill and after a year I HAD TO GO😭🫡
This story kinda reminds me of a friend I have 😭 It's not as bad and I still like him but his parents are obviously wealthier than mine and pay for his whole rent and stuff while mine can't afford to cover everything. We both work the same job at an event centre and it's very flexible and you can basically decide how much you want to work but last summer and in october I barely got any shifts because they hired so many new people and literally couldn't afford rent and had to take money from my few savings that I have so I started a second job at a local theatre and he's so weird about it 😭 He literally asked me yesterday why I even work the second job even though I've explained multiple times that I have to make several hundred € a month to get by and I can't do that if the job we work together only lets me work 3 shifts a month. He also seems to be working there just for fun as some months he just doesn't do any shifts at all because he has to focus more on uni while I'm here not having a choice 💀 I just really hate it when people don't have a grip at all
I remember when I lived with 3 of my good friends and maaaaaaaaaan there are def some horror stories lol
I’ve been eating up this podcast like you have the perfect talking speed😂
i've never had to clean the house since we had a maid but once I lived in the dorms and eventually got an apartment with friends in uni obviously we all did our part for the house cleaning, it's weird ur roommate bascially expects others to clean and not her
Loving the podcast! So easy to listen to and entertaining while I do work !!!
Having roommates might be the future for the younger generations. Unless anyone reading the comments section is going to be a politician and lower the price of HOUSING LOL. But yea...no one is going to be able to afford to live on their own in the very near future.
Sad but true 😢
That is so frustrating that your roommate wouldn't buy household items and wouldn't clean. Ugh!!!! I hope she sees this, she needs to improve as a person
The random cat every 39 seconds is TAKING ME OUT 😭😭
I wanna live with roommates so bad but I am also such a sucker for my save alone-space, like I need to be able to have a save feeling of privacy in the bathroom and in my bedroom and everything and I have also heard so many horror Stories from ppl who have lived with roommates (including the comment section here )
atm, I can't afford to move out from home anyways, but I really want to try living with other people my age (have only ever lived at home with siblings I don't have a relationship with, so you can't really count them tbh; and shortly before COVID I lived in my schools dormitory for a while but it was a single room and then COVID made me move back home and that was that)
Theiving roomates. Looking through my things... I move and stuff missing out of my box. Live ❤😊by yourself is freedom. It costs to be alone. ❤
i stayed in a hostel for 3 days. it was the strangest and at times scariest time i've ever been with a group of strangers. can't imagine what it would be like if i had roommates for a year
That's literally so different, can't even really compare the two😅
@@hannadebora5967 they aren’t comparing. they literally said they can’t imagine what it would be like to have roommates for a year
honestly your so likeable. Anything you say, I just feel like burst out laughing, even if your saying something serious. Love you omg
im lucky to have a home situation that i'm okay staying in until i can move out on my own (commuted in college). roommates sound like a big hit or miss
the way your experience sounds pretty much exactly like my best friend’s situation w her ex roommate is CRAZYYY
I'm very tempted to make a video on this sane topic now😂😂😂. Only lived with a roommate for 10 months though, couldn't even complete the 1 year😂
Same. I lived in 2 different college apartments in the span of a year and I've realized I'm just not cut out to have roommates.
I just found this on my explore page! I loved it def subscribing :) I can see how down to earth you are, keep it up
love listening to your podcasts
Your podcast is my fav thing !!
I just discovered this channel ! really like these good vibes ! thx
Thank you so much for another video!
A year ago I got a job, worked two weeks with this girl my age, and moved in tg. A year later we’re moving out of this apartment to a rent house in Jan. We’ve fought before over dumb stuff but it’s a special friendship and it helped us learn communication
You learned some lessons about accepting favors from the extremely wealthy...there are exceptions but, generally speaking, it's a double edged sword.
This is so entertaining Ryan keep it going🎉
This is my favorite podcast :D
I love your glasses and I look forward to your Richmond story!
had a roommate like this. never again! so insufferable
I loved this podcast.
Lol judgmental af its not 'Pick Me' if you asked why are you sad LMFAOOO
mhm
RYAN REFERENCING FRENAMIES?!?!? IMAGINE RYAN ON JUST TRISH OMGGGGG
Moved in with my best friend of 7 years. After a year of not living together we don’t talk haha
This video feels so comfy
Quick question though, where is your sweatshirt from?!? Its soo cute!!
the dirty roommate and cleaning up after roommate is the worst, currently living in this situation
Thank you!
i am currently living with my longest friend. it's awful. she never cleans up after herself, doesn't flush her poop all of the way, allows her dogs to act out horribly and attack her cat, gets up every hour during the night for snack and blames it on her dogs needing to go out even though she will leave them in her room for ten hours without a potty break... i could go on and on and on. i know i should be grateful having a place to live. her parents bought her this house, so i am here rent free. my mental health has never been worse (which is really saying something) and i have lost all the respect i had for her. she was my best friend in the world. i can't even look at her now. i would move into my car if it wasn't winter right now. this has been one of the worst experiences of my life and it has only been a couple of months. i really wish i felt grateful for this, but it's really difficult when it's so fucking horrid.
Me watching this while currently living with four other people at my NYC apartment 🤡
Finally a new episode ❤
Your story SCREAMS the new school. Plz confirm my suspicions.
I almost lost my best friend due to us living together. Her moving out was the best thing for us. She lives in New York State and I now live in Texas. We are stronger now than before we moved in/when we lived together. I recommend close but not together.
PERIOD I NEED TO FIND A RICH FRIEND
this roommate of Ryan sounds like a real Veruca Salt but worse😂
PERIODD ON MY LUNCH BREAK
Waiiitttt at the beggining of the video where your explaining how when you invite people over you only think about how they’re feeling and if they’re comfortable etc- SAAMEEEEE
Like actually that’s the reason I never want people over wtf finally someone else who feels the same way. But as well as put it into words
YOOO the unecessary therapy speak is so real though. I understand its hard for some people to address their needs, especially if they grew up as people pleasers. However in my experience, communicating in therapy speak makes what could have been a simple & mature conversation that finds a solution to address the needs of both parties into one person over-empathizing the other person - which results in meeting the empathized's needs but not the empathizer's. Maybe this is just my experience, but in my opinion, if u wanna therapy speak with me u better be paying me like I'm your therapist bitch.
Rich people who are frugal and stubborn are so.... why would I pay $15 each time to do my damn laundry? Then when an option to conserve money was right in front of her she was almost disgusted at the idea of having to do it herself? The 1% are not like us at all. I would likely start to harbor feelings of resentment too. I knew she would pull that "After all my family did for you" card. She aint shit for that frankly.
as soon as you talked about your dorm building being the tallest one in the US i knew u went to pace TOT
Drop the link to the washer/dryer thingy? 😜
❤❤❤😂 proud of you; you are wise and a nice person. Best wishes and have fun.😂
By her dad paying her through his company (even though she did no work) its practically a tax write up for him. Employee salaries are a tax write off.
I Bet you would Love Barcelona to travel to!! a million things to do, good food, its mostly sunny and people are very nice
currently living this exact situation except my wealthy roommate loves eating my food and using all my stuff. she’s so entitled
slayy ryan 🫶🫶🫶🫶