I worked in Saudi Arabia for 5 years and during that time my father passed away back in Northern Ireland..... when I returned back to work after going home for his funeral I was met with a constant stream of Saudi colleagues saying "we are sorry for your loss.... but you must accept it is Gods will" ....... and after hearing it day after day, genuinely from every one of my colleagues, I honestly can say it helped me cope with my loss better than I could have imagined....
I think of you really love someone not being able to touch, talk or share food, walks... With that person would make me sad i,m happy you got over his passing.you have yr colleagues so. All is fine and a job you love
Life of each one of us changing daily and there is a saying to the effect that change is the only constant. Let us see the evidentiary underpinning of your conclusion that the change you are mentioning is causally lined to contact with Lori. Do contact with all Latinas help you get happier? It should be fun and a learning experience. I am a sleep longevity and happiness researcher so I ask funny questions.
Completely honest I'm really not missing being around other people. The past year has been the best for me personally. I feel relieved to not have to come up with excuses why not to go somewhere or be forced to go to social get togethers that I don't want to go to.
Ah an introvert. You are NOT alone. Unfortunately, introverts are not only not valued, but are viewed negatively in a world that worships and caters to extroverts. Utter garbage.
same here! I feel like so far this has been so basic and stuff I've already heard a lot of times but for some people its not really that true. I literally feel no change at all in my happiness level if I have a nice chat or not with a barista... and tbh a lot of times people aren't even that friendly in customer service roles these days anyway. I mean I appreciate social connection with the people I am close to but I have a hard time believing that these types of surface convos could actually make someone happy... especially if someone has social anxiety too - these small interactions can actually make me LESS happy if I feel they went badly.
I loved lockdowns, my work calls for over socialisation how wonderful it was and freeing for my mental health....at the end of my work day now I'm completely mentally drained! I do get the coffee shop thing....but I don't spend all day with those people!
“Fast forwarding through life...” Probably why we are unable to find happiness. We wait for that other moment to give us happiness rather than finding it in the current. Loved the talk on a topic close to me heart!
My son and I, he’s 13, cooked pizza from scratch today. It took us a several hours, including buying the ingredients, prepping, cleaning etc. These days all this could be avoided by picking up the phone/online and order the pizza. Whilst we were eating, it made me think that in my parents days more was Cooked from scratch and could it possible they had less time to procrastinate, less time to think, more time spent on making dinner for the family because that was what you did, it wasn’t looked at as a chore or burden. Advertising/ media is selling us the wrong idea. Convenience food might give us time but then what are we actually doing in that time. It’s not just about food but I believe anything that is replaced with quick conveniences may not necessary be better for us in the wrong run and may be hinder and steal moments of happiness that at the time we don’t recognise as happiness.
For me happiness is having people to talk to about my feelings, doubts, intimacy, problems, joys - sharing experiences basically. It's so revealing that I don't need to keep any secret and I can tell everything and I am still accepted. This is friendship.
When you think of “Happiness”, we tend to associate it all the time with positive feelings. I think having a grateful heart helps people feel more positive emotions. Thank you for this video!
When you practice gratitude you enrich yourself and bless yourself that is a way to donate happiness to yourself. By default happiness must be a positive emotion and sorrow a negative one that is not open to debate
I did the course with coursera during covid and it definitely helped me through the time when I felt absolutely hopeless. Wish other people would take my advice when I try and share this knowledge. Thank you Laurie
I think we're unconsciously seeking unmet emotional needs like validation and we associate it with happiness when met but we seek it externally so it's not really going to be sustainable bc things outside change all the time. Like if we think we can get the feeling of being significant with money and success, then we can only feel it temporarily bc we might end up comparing the level of our success to other people as well. I think it is our belief system that is making us unhappy. And I also think happiness is a lifestyle like cultivating those she mentioned like sleep, exercise, nutrition that biochemically boost good mood.
Just wanted to let you know how much I enjoyed this conversation. I listened in its entirety in podcast form while driving to my remote work location from my home. I have since shared it with family members. I have also enrolled in the course! It brings to mind a phrase that I have been constructing and working with to be present and mindful: “If the essence of Wisdom is giving up something you want immediately for something better later, then acting wise in the moment is akin to being your future self’s best friend”. By the way Laurie - I love the part of the course regarding the GI Joe Fallacy story and the looks on students faces when you ask if they have heard of a 1980s cartoon! Thanks so much!
Thank you both for this enlightening conversation... Thank you so much for this podcast, is one of the most empowering, learning focused, life changing podcast! You and the great guests helped me soooo much on my own journey... Really thankful for people like you...we so need it these days.!!!
I feel so much more depressed and sad because of this social distancing thing. I'll make it through, but being alone all day everyday just sucks! Plus, it's cold outside where I live so that doesn't help. I guess that's why I'm almost addicted to fb now. There are some positives to all this, but I sorely miss my classical music concerts, etc.!
@@heathercommonsense377 Thanks for asking. I suppose they have in a way, but I deal with chronic illness, as many do these days, and some days are pretty good and some not so much. Right in this moment? Not so. I hope all is well for you.
@@kathrynparker983 I said a prayer for you last night that you have more good days than anything. Sometimes when I'm feeling irritable, I'll que up a "Jim Gaffigan" stand up show. Then I sit down with my wine as sushi as I watch (and freak out the dog because I'm laughing so hard.) You should try it! 😅 Pets are good company. Even our guppies are fun to watch & feed bits of table scraps to -they surprisingly have little personalities. If you can't have pets, succulents are fun & easy to take care of. I have a whole shelf of succulents for my daughter, and we potted them in little animal vases. She calls them her "sucky babies" and sprays them with water. When dealing with illness, it makes "surrounding yourself with life" all that more important. You seem like a wonderful soul. Godspeed
I have listened to a lot of your podcasts, but THIS ONE is just so complete! Everybody can apply so many aspects of the thing that Professor Santos says, to day to day life. It is one of your best guests and episodes, it's in my top-3! Just walked 10 km straight listening to this. Thank you, Rangan. And I hope and pray that you will keep making podcasts for the next 25 years or more, because it has enriched and improved my life and health, mentally and physically. We are the same age and I also write books (I'm a novelist), so I can really identify with you on certain areas, and with a lot of your guests who, in a lot of cases, also write books and struggle with the same things in life that I, and many of us do. So thank you so much! Greetings from Amsterdam! Ps: something a lot of humans nowadays miss: good and deep conversations like these in their lives, just for their wellbeing. So I hope we also can learn to have better conversations with each other... you show us how to do that!
Thanks for the perspective Dr Rangan and Prof Laurie, I was interested that the judgements of "good" and "bad" or "positive" and "negative" are still being ascribed to emotions. I wonder how having a negative judgment of one's emotional state further contributes to one's happiness or not. Love the podcast - thanks!
Lovely take on the psychology part of comparison on her part without discussion of left and right hemisphere jobs and perpetual integration of such jobs below the realm of consciousness as discussed and illuminated by Dr Mcgilchrist- just an observation of the way sciences do not talk to each other- and granted it’s a daunting task and an ever evolving one when it comes to the knowledge we were taught in medical schools or graduate schools- thank you as always for your presence- your podcasts are almost meditative for me- such an amazing interviewer Dr Chatterjee🤗❤️🤗
You need a lot of money to make sure no one will come along and ruin your life on a whim. That's all money is for. Not to bring you happiness, but to prevent disaster. It works very well for that. The Stockton experiment, giving a group of people $500 a month, no strings, showed massive improvements in mental health. During the pandemic, the differences between rich and poor became stark. It is evident who is suffering.
I am curious about the research. I am at minute 27 or 28 and she mentions social connection improves happiness for both introverts and extroverts. I wonder if they need the same level of social connection to feel happy. It seems like all personalities need some level of social connection, but is that level the same? Perhaps I just haven't gotten that far in the podcast/video yet.
When i was in Madagascar I met a man in rags and with just one tooth left. But I will never forget his beautiful smile! Just remembering him gives me warmth deep in my heart. There is so much we westerners have lost!!! It's high time to regain these forgotten treasures.
Professor Laurie mentions social connections as one of the metrics for enhancing happiness. Wonder with so much social media around, people are so unhappy and depressed. I believe its the quality of company that matters rather than the quantity. Its like that cliched question "How are you" , everybody asks but nobody really means it.
Your question about why some people are thinking when you are rich, you are happy is a very good thinking. I believe it's because the marketing on the ads, on TV... Shows to people, if you want to be happy you must be rich. But as you said when you are scratching behind the scene you can see a lot of rich people unhappy. They are unsatisfy and first and foremost lonely. For me it's a disease but we are not able yet to say it is ! New tech is not bad if it's created to help human, if it's made to exploit human it's wrong. I think a lot about rules because when we are young we have to learn a lot of rules from adult people but when people become adults where did they put the rules they have learned when they were young? The social system sometimes seems to be put away by the financial system.
Happiness is an ephemeral emotion, contingent upon the ebb & flow of life's circumstances. But joy is an internal existential state of being, not contingent upon superficial appertances.
Happiness is an ephemeral emotion and an illusion Serenity is the real thing and worth pursuing. Happiness pursuit can and often does get you into trouble. Having a 5 minute adultery experiment cost you 4 years in the divorce courts
Fantastic- pearls of wisdom that already exist within the divine nature of our being. Thank you both so very much. I am texting a friend now to express my gratitude for the gift he is in my life and will connect more too.
We have too much choice! We can choose what we listen to or watch at every moment. We there by block all these moments that would have happened if we did not block them all out to stay in our comfortable bubble. Its these unsuspecting surprises we miss out on. Our walls become more confined day by day by being able to “like” and “not like” for immediate gratification. We are not exposed anymore to the mass. By having more choice we end up limiting our exposure to all the available choices and are then left with less
I certainly like the idea of shifting our attention to care for other, instead of ourselves all the time. However I do wonder about the study that find that people those spent money on others were happier than those didn't. This is an association which couldn't tell what was the egg, what was the chicken. It could very well be that the happier the people are in the first place, the more like that they were willing to care more for others around them, or spending money on others as in this situation. This is a kind of observational study, if there was some baselines or references before spending the money, then the study findings would bear more weight on their conclusion.
This experiment takes place every year across the world for a large part of the world's population. The experiment is called Christmas. Those who give gifts often feel much better about the giving than the receiving of gifts. I am much happier when giving than receiving.
Ten notable facts about happiness or life quality/satisfaction. Part 1 1. There is a hedonic or serenity setpoint or a mean level score say 4/10 or 7/10 for every person and it is shared by identical twins and it is steady throughout life this serenity setpoint is stable. 2. Neurotics (bitchy, discontent and critical of everything whiners), emotionally labile or if compared during their major phase’s maniac-depressives who cycle are less satisfied than those with monkish constitution. Psychopaths too are pretty content and sit with the meditative monks as nothing gives them grief but they don’t enjoy happiness either. 3. Contributors to the serenity setpoint are phenomena of hedonic adaptation and ahedonic adaptation or tolerance. Events that inflict a large deflection in positive or negative direction within 2 to 5 years the baseline characteristic to the person of the setpoint is restored and both the happiness and sorrow tend to be forgotten and wiped away. There are two exception with chronic disability or widowhood if the victim fails to thrive out of it (that only a tenth of them succeed in doing) causes a permanent downshift of the serenity baseline. Meditation habit induce uplifting of serenity does not go away. 4. The pursuit of happiness with the intent to elevate person level of happiness or life satisfaction is a futile objective to pursue and is a path of dissatisfaction. You are bound to fail because it is like walking up a downward escalator, the moment you stop the effort of climbing up the elevator would bring you down. You will never succeed. 5. The real trick to shift the hedonic or serenity setpoint is to reset it. That requires a paradigm shift of life and what used to make you unhappy or bored you learn to get happy from that. Instead of working to get a raise, you try to learn to be a minimalist and live happier off in a tiny houselet; trade the car for a bike and so on. Ending the habit of hoarding is not a bad point. Meditation would help with resetting the hedonic setpoint baseline. You master to be ecstatic sitting there for an hour of meditation which would have bored you to death 5 years ago. 6. The reliance of the mental Jungian conditioning as opposed to the Pavlovian reward associated conditioning where the anticipation of food or sex makes you salivate you shift your cognitive style of interpretation. 7. Lifetime scoring of happiness levels shows that seniors are generally happier off partly from being relieved from the treadmill of job kids’ mortgage etc., but partly because of greater level of resilience as minor troubles stop bothering them seriously. Waiting to be 65 and anticipating a higher happiness would be a good plan.
I'm not sure it's our minds that lie to us about what makes us happy but believing what the advertisers tell us will make us happy. Perhaps if we were less susceptible to advertising or chose not to watch it, listen to it or disregard poster ads we might seek out more personal ways to be happy, such as social interaction.
If everyone could make 75k a year the world would be a much better place with all having the opportunity to find their true happiness. Edit* haha awesome she just said 75k. Love irony :)
End HOMEWORK! One should study while in the school, after that is home personal life. Because homework exist we are unable to concentrate in class and be present, and always have that worry and insatisfaction in the back of our minds Homework is the root cause of all my stress, unhappiness and lack of learning during the class in all my academic years End it since preschool all the way to college!
She states that she is a agnostic/atheist. Hmmm 🤔 I find it interesting how she talks about people who are deeply religious or who believe in and have a deep faith in God tend be the happiest people.
Embraces during COVID??The first Johnson & Johnson Arrow must be followed by the second arrow and 30 days later you get a booster arrow. Don't fear the stabs and jabs folks. Get immunized.
shopping is boring when you can have any thing , sitting on the beach the same on and on hedonism materialism dosent make you happy ..it's good relationships . helping others . .good health . having a purpose beyond wealth and materilism ,that makes you happy
Many men do get very happy when they get an Ex. Johney Carson had 6 Elizabeth Taylor had 8;- so the statement that “If only I get an X won’t make your happy” is untrue. While to some Ex’s give them a lot of grief many celebrate the good riddance.
Her voice and cadence are so hard to listen to~ she may have good info, but I don’t have the energy for it. Ironically, it makes me less happy due to the stress and frustration of the strain required to try to hear it.
I worked in Saudi Arabia for 5 years and during that time my father passed away back in Northern Ireland..... when I returned back to work after going home for his funeral I was met with a constant stream of Saudi colleagues saying "we are sorry for your loss.... but you must accept it is Gods will" ....... and after hearing it day after day, genuinely from every one of my colleagues, I honestly can say it helped me cope with my loss better than I could have imagined....
I think of you really love someone not being able to touch, talk or share food, walks... With that person would make me sad i,m happy you got over his passing.you have yr colleagues so. All is fine and a job you love
Lori’s happiness class changed my life for me and everyone I come into contact with.
Wonderful to hear!
Life of each one of us changing daily and there is a saying to the effect that change is the only constant. Let us see the evidentiary underpinning of your conclusion that the change you are mentioning is causally lined to contact with Lori. Do contact with all Latinas help you get happier? It should be fun and a learning experience. I am a sleep longevity and happiness researcher so I ask funny questions.
Completely honest I'm really not missing being around other people. The past year has been the best for me personally. I feel relieved to not have to come up with excuses why not to go somewhere or be forced to go to social get togethers that I don't want to go to.
Ah an introvert. You are NOT alone. Unfortunately, introverts are not only not valued, but are viewed negatively in a world that worships and caters to extroverts. Utter garbage.
same here! I feel like so far this has been so basic and stuff I've already heard a lot of times but for some people its not really that true. I literally feel no change at all in my happiness level if I have a nice chat or not with a barista... and tbh a lot of times people aren't even that friendly in customer service roles these days anyway. I mean I appreciate social connection with the people I am close to but I have a hard time believing that these types of surface convos could actually make someone happy... especially if someone has social anxiety too - these small interactions can actually make me LESS happy if I feel they went badly.
Very worthwhile to 👂 speakers and to Look at other peoples writing ✍️
I loved lockdowns, my work calls for over socialisation how wonderful it was and freeing for my mental health....at the end of my work day now I'm completely mentally drained! I do get the coffee shop thing....but I don't spend all day with those people!
“Fast forwarding through life...”
Probably why we are unable to find happiness.
We wait for that other moment to give us happiness rather than finding it in the current.
Loved the talk on a topic close to me heart!
Thanks Neha!
we are unable to find happiness.
My son and I, he’s 13, cooked pizza from scratch today. It took us a several hours, including buying the ingredients, prepping, cleaning etc. These days all this could be avoided by picking up the phone/online and order the pizza. Whilst we were eating, it made me think that in my parents days more was Cooked from scratch and could it possible they had less time to procrastinate, less time to think, more time spent on making dinner for the family because that was what you did, it wasn’t looked at as a chore or burden. Advertising/ media is selling us the wrong idea. Convenience food might give us time but then what are we actually doing in that time. It’s not just about food but I believe anything that is replaced with quick conveniences may not necessary be better for us in the wrong run and may be hinder and steal moments of happiness that at the time we don’t recognise as happiness.
For me happiness is having people to talk to about my feelings, doubts, intimacy, problems, joys - sharing experiences basically. It's so revealing that I don't need to keep any secret and I can tell everything and I am still accepted. This is friendship.
When you think of “Happiness”, we tend to associate it all the time with positive feelings. I think having a grateful heart helps people feel more positive emotions. Thank you for this video!
No problem Brett!
When you practice gratitude you enrich yourself and bless yourself that is a way to donate happiness to yourself. By default happiness must be a positive emotion and sorrow a negative one that is not open to debate
Thank you for this podcast. Your genuine compassion for your listeners is clear. You have helped me during the pandemic.
Thanks so much Nina - appreciate you watching!
I love the way Laurie speaks. what a great mind! thank you!!!
All psychologists have that quality or their practice would fail, their voice is their most powerful tool
I did the course with coursera during covid and it definitely helped me through the time when I felt absolutely hopeless. Wish other people would take my advice when I try and share this knowledge. Thank you Laurie
I think we're unconsciously seeking unmet emotional needs like validation and we associate it with happiness when met but we seek it externally so it's not really going to be sustainable bc things outside change all the time. Like if we think we can get the feeling of being significant with money and success, then we can only feel it temporarily bc we might end up comparing the level of our success to other people as well. I think it is our belief system that is making us unhappy. And I also think happiness is a lifestyle like cultivating those she mentioned like sleep, exercise, nutrition that biochemically boost good mood.
Just wanted to let you know how much I enjoyed this conversation. I listened in its entirety in podcast form while driving to my remote work location from my home. I have since shared it with family members. I have also enrolled in the course! It brings to mind a phrase that I have been constructing and working with to be present and mindful: “If the essence of Wisdom is giving up something you want immediately for something better later, then acting wise in the moment is akin to being your future self’s best friend”. By the way Laurie - I love the part of the course regarding the GI Joe Fallacy story and the looks on students faces when you ask if they have heard of a 1980s cartoon! Thanks so much!
Discovered this amazing deed. Feeling thankful and less anxious already. Thank you Dr Chatterjee and Dr Santos.
Thank you both for this enlightening conversation...
Thank you so much for this podcast, is one of the most empowering, learning focused, life changing podcast! You and the great guests helped me soooo much on my own journey...
Really thankful for people like you...we so need it these days.!!!
I turned off all my notifications a couple months ago and it has been great. Now I pick up my phone when I want to and not when it tells me to
I feel so much more depressed and sad because of this social distancing thing. I'll make it through, but being alone all day everyday just sucks! Plus, it's cold outside where I live so that doesn't help. I guess that's why I'm almost addicted to fb now. There are some positives to all this, but I sorely miss my classical music concerts, etc.!
Have things gotten better for you?
@@heathercommonsense377 Thanks for asking. I suppose they have in a way, but I deal with chronic illness, as many do these days, and some days are pretty good and some not so much. Right in this moment? Not so. I hope all is well for you.
@@kathrynparker983 I said a prayer for you last night that you have more good days than anything. Sometimes when I'm feeling irritable, I'll que up a "Jim Gaffigan" stand up show. Then I sit down with my wine as sushi as I watch (and freak out the dog because I'm laughing so hard.) You should try it! 😅 Pets are good company. Even our guppies are fun to watch & feed bits of table scraps to -they surprisingly have little personalities. If you can't have pets, succulents are fun & easy to take care of. I have a whole shelf of succulents for my daughter, and we potted them in little animal vases. She calls them her "sucky babies" and sprays them with water. When dealing with illness, it makes "surrounding yourself with life" all that more important. You seem like a wonderful soul. Godspeed
@@heathercommonsense377 Thank you so much. I feel the love! Health and blessings to you!
I have listened to a lot of your podcasts, but THIS ONE is just so complete! Everybody can apply so many aspects of the thing that Professor Santos says, to day to day life. It is one of your best guests and episodes, it's in my top-3! Just walked 10 km straight listening to this. Thank you, Rangan. And I hope and pray that you will keep making podcasts for the next 25 years or more, because it has enriched and improved my life and health, mentally and physically. We are the same age and I also write books (I'm a novelist), so I can really identify with you on certain areas, and with a lot of your guests who, in a lot of cases, also write books and struggle with the same things in life that I, and many of us do. So thank you so much! Greetings from Amsterdam!
Ps: something a lot of humans nowadays miss: good and deep conversations like these in their lives, just for their wellbeing. So I hope we also can learn to have better conversations with each other... you show us how to do that!
It's OK to seek happiness in external things... try the middle path... 👍👍
Outstanding conversation. Thank you for all the tips and research for happiness. God bless you both for your work to help others.
Thanks for the perspective Dr Rangan and Prof Laurie, I was interested that the judgements of "good" and "bad" or "positive" and "negative" are still being ascribed to emotions. I wonder how having a negative judgment of one's emotional state further contributes to one's happiness or not. Love the podcast - thanks!
Lovely take on the psychology part of comparison on her part without discussion of left and right hemisphere jobs and perpetual integration of such jobs below the realm of consciousness as discussed and illuminated by Dr Mcgilchrist- just an observation of the way sciences do not talk to each other- and granted it’s a daunting task and an ever evolving one when it comes to the knowledge we were taught in medical schools or graduate schools- thank you as always for your presence- your podcasts are almost meditative for me- such an amazing interviewer Dr Chatterjee🤗❤️🤗
You need a lot of money to make sure no one will come along and ruin your life on a whim. That's all money is for. Not to bring you happiness, but to prevent disaster. It works very well for that.
The Stockton experiment, giving a group of people $500 a month, no strings, showed massive improvements in mental health. During the pandemic, the differences between rich and poor became stark. It is evident who is suffering.
Stockton syndrome works only in Stockton. ha ha. Same as Las Vegas Amsterdam stuff happens only in Amsterdam
I am curious about the research. I am at minute 27 or 28 and she mentions social connection improves happiness for both introverts and extroverts. I wonder if they need the same level of social connection to feel happy. It seems like all personalities need some level of social connection, but is that level the same? Perhaps I just haven't gotten that far in the podcast/video yet.
You are a wonderful human rangan, magnificent interviewer,respectfull and emotional very intelligent. Yr patients are getting the best of the best
I've visited Africa a lot, war torn, poverty stricken and so on - genuine smiles everywhere. I surmise that a spoilt society is an unhappy one?
A hypercompetitive society, where kindness is equated with weakness, and anyone weak is ridiculed or shunned, is an unhappy one.
@@l.w.paradis2108 spot on.
When i was in Madagascar I met a man in rags and with just one tooth left. But I will never forget his beautiful smile! Just remembering him gives me warmth deep in my heart. There is so much we westerners have lost!!! It's high time to regain these forgotten treasures.
@@l.w.paradis2108 well said
Rangan love your podcasts, learn from them too, was great to learn from you in trust me, I’m a doctor. Thanks for enriching our lives 👍🏼
Great talk. Very informative. Thank you
Thank you so much for this. I enjoyed listening to every minute, so helpful. x
Watching happiness video seems to work for you so keep at it Cindy
Thanks Dr C to mention reframing And Ms Santos? About the Monk who told story about two arrows 😍Can choose story that makes you happier
Top chat. Thank you two. Namaste 😊
Like the honestly in this conversation
We have to ask ourselves "what does happiness look like to me?" "When do I feel it?" I like to ask myself questions .
Wonderful absolutely wonderful... Where are you from ?
@@willsben889 Canada
@@rehtaeh14 That's good of you" if I may ask, Who are you ? I mean a man or a woman....
ال Allah
Allah
Allah
Say Allah is One (1)
Allah of Resurrection (2)
Not born nor born (3)
And he did not have a palm for anyone (4)
Fantastic conversation 🙏🏻
Thank you for this!
Professor Laurie mentions social connections as one of the metrics for enhancing happiness. Wonder with so much social media around, people are so unhappy and depressed. I believe its the quality of company that matters rather than the quantity. Its like that cliched question "How are you" , everybody asks but nobody really means it.
Love this! Can't wait to take the class!
You can be happy by simply waiting too so dont miss out on that part of the happiness.
money is just a tool ,its the journey up the mountain that makes life worth living not sitting on the peak for ever
Great episode! I really enjoyed the conversation ❤️
Your question about why some people are thinking when you are rich, you are happy is a very good thinking.
I believe it's because the marketing on the ads, on TV... Shows to people, if you want to be happy you must be rich.
But as you said when you are scratching behind the scene you can see a lot of rich people unhappy. They are unsatisfy and first and foremost lonely.
For me it's a disease but we are not able yet to say it is !
New tech is not bad if it's created to help human, if it's made to exploit human it's wrong.
I think a lot about rules because when we are young we have to learn a lot of rules from adult people but when people become adults where did they put the rules they have learned when they were young?
The social system sometimes seems to be put away by the financial system.
Great episode! Thank you 🙏
Happiness is an ephemeral emotion, contingent upon the ebb & flow of life's circumstances. But joy is an internal existential state of being, not contingent upon superficial appertances.
Happiness is an ephemeral emotion and an illusion Serenity is the real thing and worth pursuing. Happiness pursuit can and often does get you into trouble. Having a 5 minute adultery experiment cost you 4 years in the divorce courts
Fantastic- pearls of wisdom that already exist within the divine nature of our being. Thank you both so very much. I am texting a friend now to express my gratitude for the gift he is in my life and will connect more too.
We have too much choice! We can choose what we listen to or watch at every moment. We there by block all these moments that would have happened if we did not block them all out to stay in our comfortable bubble. Its these unsuspecting surprises we miss out on. Our walls become more confined day by day by being able to “like” and “not like” for immediate gratification. We are not exposed anymore to the mass. By having more choice we end up limiting our exposure to all the available choices and are then left with less
Loved it!!!
Dr laurie santos you have god gifted power to deliver positive views i love this lady very much
love the wheelbarrow metaphor
Bravo!!! More, please!! 💖😍👍🎉
I certainly like the idea of shifting our attention to care for other, instead of ourselves all the time. However I do wonder about the study that find that people those spent money on others were happier than those didn't. This is an association which couldn't tell what was the egg, what was the chicken. It could very well be that the happier the people are in the first place, the more like that they were willing to care more for others around them, or spending money on others as in this situation. This is a kind of observational study, if there was some baselines or references before spending the money, then the study findings would bear more weight on their conclusion.
This experiment takes place every year across the world for a large part of the world's population. The experiment is called Christmas. Those who give gifts often feel much better about the giving than the receiving of gifts. I am much happier when giving than receiving.
We can learn a lot about how to be happy from the Good Samaritan...
Ten notable facts about happiness or life quality/satisfaction. Part 1
1. There is a hedonic or serenity setpoint or a mean level score say 4/10 or 7/10 for every person and it is shared by identical twins and it is steady throughout life this serenity setpoint is stable.
2. Neurotics (bitchy, discontent and critical of everything whiners), emotionally labile or if compared during their major phase’s maniac-depressives who cycle are less satisfied than those with monkish constitution. Psychopaths too are pretty content and sit with the meditative monks as nothing gives them grief but they don’t enjoy happiness either.
3. Contributors to the serenity setpoint are phenomena of hedonic adaptation and ahedonic adaptation or tolerance. Events that inflict a large deflection in positive or negative direction within 2 to 5 years the baseline characteristic to the person of the setpoint is restored and both the happiness and sorrow tend to be forgotten and wiped away. There are two exception with chronic disability or widowhood if the victim fails to thrive out of it (that only a tenth of them succeed in doing) causes a permanent downshift of the serenity baseline. Meditation habit induce uplifting of serenity does not go away.
4. The pursuit of happiness with the intent to elevate person level of happiness or life satisfaction is a futile objective to pursue and is a path of dissatisfaction. You are bound to fail because it is like walking up a downward escalator, the moment you stop the effort of climbing up the elevator would bring you down. You will never succeed.
5. The real trick to shift the hedonic or serenity setpoint is to reset it. That requires a paradigm shift of life and what used to make you unhappy or bored you learn to get happy from that. Instead of working to get a raise, you try to learn to be a minimalist and live happier off in a tiny houselet; trade the car for a bike and so on. Ending the habit of hoarding is not a bad point. Meditation would help with resetting the hedonic setpoint baseline. You master to be ecstatic sitting there for an hour of meditation which would have bored you to death 5 years ago.
6. The reliance of the mental Jungian conditioning as opposed to the Pavlovian reward associated conditioning where the anticipation of food or sex makes you salivate you shift your cognitive style of interpretation.
7. Lifetime scoring of happiness levels shows that seniors are generally happier off partly from being relieved from the treadmill of job kids’ mortgage etc., but partly because of greater level of resilience as minor troubles stop bothering them seriously. Waiting to be 65 and anticipating a higher happiness would be a good plan.
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I'm not sure it's our minds that lie to us about what makes us happy but believing what the advertisers tell us will make us happy. Perhaps if we were less susceptible to advertising or chose not to watch it, listen to it or disregard poster ads we might seek out more personal ways to be happy, such as social interaction.
Thanks for that comment... Where are you from ? Greetings from New Zealand...
Isn't it so ironic that we are being told that social disconnection keeps us healthy?!
Joy is found in relationship with our Maker - God LOVES PRAISE, because we are made for relationship!☺️
Allah is only true god
Not true for everyone, though :)
@@nixodian السلام عليكم يا صديقي
If everyone could make 75k a year the world would be a much better place with all having the opportunity to find their true happiness.
Edit* haha awesome she just said 75k. Love irony :)
Excellent
Hi Laurie ..just in time for my 1st. Presentation I will refer individuals to your creations. Thank you..I honor the God in you . New Jersy
if i can get ill be happy never gonna get its chasing you tail
End HOMEWORK! One should study while in the school, after that is home personal life.
Because homework exist we are unable to concentrate in class and be present, and always have that worry and insatisfaction in the back of our minds
Homework is the root cause of all my stress, unhappiness and lack of learning during the class in all my academic years
End it since preschool all the way to college!
She states that she is a agnostic/atheist. Hmmm 🤔 I find it interesting how she talks about people who are deeply religious or who believe in and have a deep faith in God tend be the happiest people.
dont carry a phone
You don't know what I think, therefore you cant know it's not what I think ;)
get a house phone
Embraces during COVID??The first Johnson & Johnson Arrow must be followed by the second arrow and 30 days later you get a booster arrow. Don't fear the stabs and jabs folks. Get immunized.
shopping is boring when you can have any thing , sitting on the beach the same on and on hedonism materialism dosent make you happy ..it's good relationships . helping others . .good health . having a purpose beyond wealth and materilism ,that makes you happy
Cognitive dissonance: All things point to money not causing happiness, but I think we secretly believe the opposite.
Many men do get very happy when they get an Ex. Johney Carson had 6 Elizabeth Taylor had 8;- so the statement that “If only I get an X won’t make your happy” is untrue. While to some Ex’s give them a lot of grief many celebrate the good riddance.
Half way into interview snd haven’t learned anything. So much bla bla bla
Or like like like...drives me crazy 🙄
You may like Esther Hicks
get a flip phone
the pac man mentality is what we all suffer from ,its condition into us from children
The Holy Bible says a merry heart doeth good like a medicine x
Her voice and cadence are so hard to listen to~ she may have good info, but I don’t have the energy for it. Ironically, it makes me less happy due to the stress and frustration of the strain required to try to hear it.
Allah
Allah
Allah
Say Allah is One (1)
Allah of Resurrection (2)
Not born nor born (3)
And he did not have a palm for anyone (4)
السلام عليكم يا صديقي
@@sleepsmartsmashstress8705 حياك الله
compared and despair ,snydrome
sorry, stopped watching. Did you ever talk about freedom?
Madam speak slowly