226 ‒ The science of happiness | Arthur Brooks, Ph.D.

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  • @PeterAttiaMD
    @PeterAttiaMD  2 роки тому +13

    In this episode, we discuss:
    0:00:00 - Intro
    0:00:08 - Insights from Arthur’s career as a professional French horn player
    0:11:17 - A radical shift away from music to a Ph.D. in quantitative policy
    0:16:32 - Personal experience with shifting intelligence: fluid vs. crystallized intelligence
    0:22:19 - An epiphany from a chance encounter on an airplane that shaped Arthur’s thinking
    0:25:45 - The three main “macronutrients” of happiness
    0:29:29 - Exploring the “purpose” component of happiness
    0:33:43 - The importance of having a partner and true friendships
    0:38:55 - The makeup of a true friendship, and why men tend to struggle with making real friends
    0:45:10 - The “satisfaction” component of happiness and the importance of “wants management”
    0:51:16 - The tyranny of social comparison
    0:55:56 - Insights into happiness through Chinese art, and the concept of a “reverse bucket list”
    1:00:02 - An exercise demonstrating the importance of relationships with others and the need to work on them
    1:06:23 - The four main idols that drive us: money, fame, power, and pleasure
    1:09:35 - Success addiction, workaholism, and their detriment to happiness
    1:20:45 - A radical approach to overcome fear-the antithesis to love and happiness
    1:35:03 - Ancient Hindu advice for the perfect life
    1:40:57 - The end result of getting caught in the four idols
    1:43:05 - The complexity of happiness

  • @lauraon
    @lauraon 2 роки тому +62

    Just when you think this podcast can’t get any better, here comes another one. I approach topics in the “happiness” realm with fairly low expectations, but decided hey, if this guy is vetted by Peter I’ll give it maybe 20 minutes. This was outstanding. Possibly life changing. Thank you Peter and Arthur.

  • @elseelee
    @elseelee 2 роки тому +27

    "People prefer be special rather than be happy." That's why many people are misery.
    The best quote of the year.

    • @arnaudgolenvaux299
      @arnaudgolenvaux299 Рік тому

      I don't understand why being an alcoholic or an addict is being special?..

    • @AnnTsungMD
      @AnnTsungMD Рік тому

      Their egos are destroying them.

  • @davidm1411
    @davidm1411 2 роки тому +2

    I honestly walk through life thinking I’m smarter/more accomplished/have more common sense than just about anyone. Boy was this interview humbling.

  • @Beans-great
    @Beans-great 2 роки тому +11

    I’m 40 minutes into this podcast and I just bought the book Strength To Strength. One of my favourite podcasts I’ve listened to from you Peter. Thank you. I’m 50 years old and this book could be a life changer for me. Great interview. On a side note, I played French Horn for 6 years and it is one hard instrument! Now.. on with the show!

  • @playpianotoday6223
    @playpianotoday6223 10 місяців тому +1

    Wow - Arthur is really thinking deeply about the things that matter most!

  • @MattLiv1212
    @MattLiv1212 2 роки тому +14

    Phenomenal content as always; the discussion regarding killing the ego and still being happy and successful is missed by 99.9% of people. It's a great point and one that needs wider discussion.

  • @TombstoneTube
    @TombstoneTube Рік тому

    Peter’s question about purpose is spot on. Grounded.

  • @CliffYates
    @CliffYates 2 роки тому +1

    so happy I found you Dr. Attia. I have been studying health, wealth and happiness for the past thirty years. For a short time I went strictly vegan, after my Dad died from heart disease and I had watched Forks over Knives. I got tremendous results. I have since switched to more of a plant based diet. I started playing tennis at age 59. I think tennis is one of the best activities for health, metal and physical. Since going plant based, and changing my exercise routine to be more cardio, I have felt 30 years younger than I am. I feel so blessed when I play tennis with people, and many my age are getting knee and hip replacements. I have hardly any aches and pains. Keep creating great content. I am starting my own podcast centering around health, success and wealth. Bravo Doctor.

    • @CliffYates
      @CliffYates Рік тому

      @Richard Breeze yes please. Thank You

  • @lucindapacker6510
    @lucindapacker6510 2 роки тому +4

    Wow!!! I’m already a huge fan of Peter and this podcast, and this episode was mind blowing. I can’t say enough about this one, definitely life changing if you care to take the advice. Thank you Peter and Arthur.

  • @nedhill1242
    @nedhill1242 Рік тому

    I am a huge fan of Peter, who I discovered about 18 to 24 months ago, but I have been an Arthur Brooks fan for years! AEI is a brilliant organization. I always had a feeling Peter was libertarian and this seals the deal!

  • @ru2388
    @ru2388 2 роки тому +3

    Amazing. I need to listen to this one a few more times and take notes.
    Thanks for this podcast and thank you for doing the work, Dr. Brooks!

  • @luiscarlosmaciel6980
    @luiscarlosmaciel6980 2 роки тому +1

    This is guy is priceless! "Why do you wanna be happy? You are already Peter Attia!

  • @fahada1921
    @fahada1921 Рік тому +1

    Peter your work is improving my life massively.
    Thanks

  • @MrWxerby
    @MrWxerby Рік тому +1

    This is pure gold. Incredibly grateful for this!

  • @willow05
    @willow05 2 роки тому +1

    Wow this is such an important and timely conversation in this age of ‘pursuit of happiness through ego and materialism’.. and so needed at this time in my life. Thank you for this

  • @jrodartec
    @jrodartec Рік тому

    This incredible podcast made me send a message for my therapist and feel way better about my fears. Can't wait for my first Death Medidation. It should be a great way for me to reconnect me with my stoic roots! Best, and thank you, guys. You are amazing and have the true power to help individuals like me to flourish.

  • @superstacyrenee1
    @superstacyrenee1 Рік тому

    Extraordinary discussion between two brilliant and deep thinking people. Philosophical insights that we can all learn from.

  • @drichi07
    @drichi07 2 роки тому +3

    Always interesting, especially the parts with Peter talking about himself.

    • @AnnTsungMD
      @AnnTsungMD Рік тому

      Fantastic interview. One of my favorites so far.

  • @jodihoyle2297
    @jodihoyle2297 2 роки тому +2

    AWESOME podcast! When you have a deep meaningful relationship with God, the happiness "problem" is solved. Science is obviously necessary to human beings but the body is built to last a relatively short time...the soul last forever. My father taught me this at a very young age and reiterated it often if I focused too much on exercise and/or longevity. He always said the Bible says " And now abideth faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love". My father passed three years ago without fear...I will never forget the wise lessons he taught me. My prayer is that everyone who listened to this podcast will start a spiritual journey 🙏

    • @rgdden2702
      @rgdden2702 Рік тому

      Very wise. God bless you and May your beloved father Rest In Peace.

  • @projectbuhi9547
    @projectbuhi9547 2 роки тому +22

    Peter, your say that in your case you can't think of any purpose except your kids. Your devotion and all the work you do is a great service to humanity. How about that? ; )

    • @jellybeanvinkler4878
      @jellybeanvinkler4878 2 роки тому +1

      No kids here....guess I've lived a useless existence. 🤷‍♀️

    • @JesusChrist2000BC
      @JesusChrist2000BC 2 роки тому +1

      Anybody who uses kids as their purpose are always massive copers who can't deal with their own reality so they need kids to distract them. Common problem in the middle aged wealthy upper class that Peter is apart of. That's why they build these huge walled in fenced in neighborhoods which Karen helicopter moms etc.

    • @dr6627
      @dr6627 2 роки тому +1

      @@jellybeanvinkler4878 Thats not what peter was trying to say at all...

  • @lornarutter9179
    @lornarutter9179 2 роки тому +2

    Brilliant interview. Lot's of profound thought and wisdom about aging. Thank you.

  • @rmjauregui
    @rmjauregui 2 роки тому +1

    Great, great interview! Cheers to most simple and most complicated feeling all over the 🌎, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE! 🥂

  • @premp7907
    @premp7907 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much. So much knowledge shared with us for free without buying books or attending classes.

  • @judyridley5964
    @judyridley5964 2 роки тому

    Peter thank you for keeping it real. I can see it on your face. I can see and agree with Arthur in some aspects but not all of his points. Don't let this dude school you!

  • @emilybarry9410
    @emilybarry9410 2 роки тому +1

    Been waiting for this ☝️ Thank you Peter and Arthur for doing this!!!

  • @JackFarritor
    @JackFarritor 4 місяці тому

    Interesting to see Peter sincerely trying to learn from someone else

  • @BobSmith-vu3zm
    @BobSmith-vu3zm 3 місяці тому

    Treating everything like an algorithm that needs to be optimized is a great way to become unhappy. Ironically, even happiness itself is not immune to such treatment. "We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them." - Albert Einstein

  • @dericscott4577
    @dericscott4577 Рік тому

    Arthur Brooks 0:40 I was laughing on the Apple podcast. Had to look for you again to share across platform. You guys are great! Thank You :)

  • @marywesterbeke1490
    @marywesterbeke1490 2 роки тому +3

    Very thought provoking and inspiring. Thank you both for such intelligent discussions.

  • @67NewEngland
    @67NewEngland Рік тому

    Finding happiness for some people many NOT come from maximizing productivity and chasing it’s fruits BUT by actually simplifying your life and take the pressure of the productivity treadmill off yourself.

  • @olafstorbeck4777
    @olafstorbeck4777 2 роки тому

    What a great talk!
    It resonated so well with me in so many aspects. There where moments when my eyes watered because it brought thoughts so to the point.
    Thanks!

  • @rubensonorio8805
    @rubensonorio8805 2 роки тому +1

    @peter attia md amazing video👏thanks for bringing @arthur brooks. Congratulations 💪😊

  • @LeahBensonTherapyTampa
    @LeahBensonTherapyTampa 2 роки тому

    Goodness, what a giant tangle of concepts.

  • @luzmarinalopez4476
    @luzmarinalopez4476 Рік тому

    What a gem !🙂

  • @pramu22
    @pramu22 2 роки тому +5

    Epic - Arthur's answers are clear and concise

  • @thunderbird3694
    @thunderbird3694 11 місяців тому +1

    “Happiness comes when you are doing something because you really love to do it, and not because it gives you riches or makes you a prominent person.”
    - Jiddu Krishnamurti

  • @LNB259
    @LNB259 Рік тому

    A quiet house is wonderful and pure bliss.

  • @bambigrage8464
    @bambigrage8464 2 роки тому

    OMG I never thought I would here Vedic philosophy on this show. Awesome!

  • @quekoushka
    @quekoushka Рік тому

    Wonderful podcast! Thank you Peter

  • @yamuhu
    @yamuhu Рік тому

    Wow, another great conversation. Thank you.

  • @bradstell2146
    @bradstell2146 2 роки тому

    Always cool. Always informative. Always educational. Thanks Peter. Keep up the great work, and great guests.

  • @sadoxell5462
    @sadoxell5462 2 роки тому +7

    My 2 favorite bald guys 👦

  • @willyouwright
    @willyouwright Рік тому

    Love what your doing rather than do what you love.. also map out trajectory of skills and ability. Physical and cognitive function will decline. What will you be able to enjoy then. What will you be able to be gratefull for. Also need to consider addressing fears and uncomfortable things. Expand the scope of what you handle as your abilities dwindle.

  • @snowbirdsurfer2474
    @snowbirdsurfer2474 10 місяців тому

    With a nod towards Aristotle, Charles Murray (clutch your pearls children) defines happiness as lasting and justified satisfaction with life as a whole. He goes on to explain that this durable satisfaction is the product of success in at least 3/4 domains: vocation, religion, family, community. One would be wise to heed the advice of old Chuck; in doing so they might make Aristotle’s ghost, and their heart, smile.
    The comments suggest a civilization that has lost touch with the wisdom of the ages; on this matter, like so many others, it’s strange that what was old is new once again.

  • @willyouwright
    @willyouwright Рік тому +1

    Don't love people. Love life. Love just being alive.. marvel at the opportunity to just be alive.

  • @whitesteele
    @whitesteele 2 роки тому +1

    Well done. Really helpful!

  • @rickardmagnusson4544
    @rickardmagnusson4544 Рік тому

    Thank you for a great talk and pod cast. Arthur says that happiness is not a feeling. It consists of three macro nutrients, as he calls them. One I satisfaction. Is that not in itself a feeling? Happiness is not a feeling but is defined in part by a feeling. Perhaps it is explained at length in the book, but it seems somewhat circle to me. Please enlightening me on how to get around this. Thank you.

  • @GUIDE_Nico
    @GUIDE_Nico 2 роки тому

    1:15:20 This one on MOOD DISORDERS having MORE creativity stopped me in my tracks! Yes! That makes a lot of sense.

  • @thunderbird3694
    @thunderbird3694 11 місяців тому +1

    We procreate out of "fear" and our children are the ultimate expression of our "selfishness"

  • @paterdavid2811
    @paterdavid2811 Рік тому

    great podcast!
    I really liked it , but please try to let him answer "full-length" before jumping into another question

  • @bethrizzo7822
    @bethrizzo7822 Рік тому

    Arthur Brooks/Peter - how does exposure/response work when the ultimate fear in death is of the permanent separation from those we love? It is exceedingly painful to contemplate permanent separation from all those we love. I almost feel that the only way to ‘live’ is to be on contemplation of our mortality/death almost continuously. It has to become something we accept as an imminent/urgently present possibility. I’ve been through the exposure therapy for death fear and found it only helped so much. It’s probably easier for a 30-something to “learn” not to fear death when it is conceivably many decades away. Not so for those of us over 50.

  • @AndressaYamakawa
    @AndressaYamakawa Рік тому

    Loved! Fantastic! ❤

  • @evanhadkins5532
    @evanhadkins5532 Рік тому

    For purpose John Vervake has two good questions: What do you want to continue after you die? What is your connection to this?

  • @onzeit1822
    @onzeit1822 Рік тому

    This podcast felt like I should've paid fo0 itr. Buying Arthur's book then I guess. Thanks for this content!

  • @katiakatiakat
    @katiakatiakat Рік тому

    Brilliant. Thank you

  • @drsaintdc
    @drsaintdc 2 роки тому +2

    My take home: other focused

  • @bardsamok9221
    @bardsamok9221 2 роки тому +1

    Did Peter ever do that vid he discussed detailing his specific techniques and neuromechanical concepts to avoid typical deadlift issues or imbalances inherent in regular practice of the standard deadlift?

  • @redbull9554
    @redbull9554 2 роки тому +1

    Success, or failure…which is more destructive?

  • @dr6627
    @dr6627 2 роки тому +1

    What was the drink Peter was sipping on?? Ghia? The non-alcoholic cocktail?

  • @oldroscoe2590
    @oldroscoe2590 2 роки тому +1

    Just what I thought, "Happiness IS a warm puppy".

  • @rinolagace1298
    @rinolagace1298 2 роки тому +1

    WOW!!👌👌👌

  • @cezarras
    @cezarras 3 місяці тому

    Auatachmemt is very interesting concept, fundamental for yoga, Buddhism, and all Easter religions... My question is how you get unattached to people you love? How you get unatachemt to your students admaiering? How you get unatachemt to your lover if all the hormones there are made for you to become attached?

  • @bennguyen1313
    @bennguyen1313 Рік тому

    Regarding the 16m mark on how after your 30s, you lose fluid/raw intelligence, but then crystallized intelligence starts to dominate..
    I wonder if this may partially explains the Peter principle, in that you age into the position you are no longer competent in?
    BTW, regarding the 34m mark on relationships, I'm reminded of what Alain de Botton talks about on the 'Life Examined' podcast.. he suggests that a partner should be open/curious about anything that goes thru your mind. It's acceptable to talk about anything, no matter how strange, or threatening it may seem to the relationship. Ultimately, the ideal partner is listening, open-mindedly with tender curiosity. The ultimate aphrodisiac would be to periodically ask questions like: What's been on your mind lately? How have I been frustrating you? What is it about our relationship that sometimes get you down, what could we do better? How can I change to make things go better for you?

    • @bennguyen1313
      @bennguyen1313 Рік тому

      BTW, regarding the 1h44m mark on the difference between complicated problems (where you know there is a solution, like a jigsaw puzzle) vs complex bust basic problems (where you don't know it's solvable, like emergence of consciousness).. it kinda reminds me of the age-old P vs NP computer-science problem. Daniel Kahneman describes how we don't know what form the answer would even look like!

  • @franktroplis
    @franktroplis Рік тому

    What is geeha? I couldn’t find anything about the drink they talked about at the opening.

  • @faithfitness6434
    @faithfitness6434 2 роки тому

    Why is fear the opposite of love and not apathy?

  • @mistahtut
    @mistahtut Рік тому

    I wonder if the person on the plane is Buzz Aldrin

  • @lowbarbillcraig3689
    @lowbarbillcraig3689 2 роки тому

    Hindu/Zen/Kindergarten fusion: when you're happy and you know it do the one handed clap thing

  • @bassamtarabay9723
    @bassamtarabay9723 2 роки тому +5

    Looks so much like Jake Gyllenhaal!

  • @Jack-e5t
    @Jack-e5t Рік тому +1

    The second religion comes up with these guys I tune out.

  • @dionysusnow
    @dionysusnow 2 роки тому

    "the feeling of happiness is the evidence of happiness'? No that's the ideal of happiness, that's the cognitive representation of happiness.
    Enjoyment, Satisfaction and Purpose? Enjoyment and Satisfaction are more synonyms than requirements, Purpose is a requirement.
    Thee narrative you apply to a situation is very important in whether you find yourself happy or unhappy. what you would die for is more a measure of importance than purpose, a better word is meaning, people whose meaning in life centers around themselves are status seekers and need for social status is a thirst that is unquenchable, so it's important what kind of meaning you cultivate and not just meaning in general.

  • @thomasjpuleo8112
    @thomasjpuleo8112 Рік тому

    It was a good podcast but there were a few dumb comments. I’ll just mention the one about western art being additive and eastern art being subtractive. Michelangelo said he chipped away at a block of marble to reveal the angel inside. And all forms of painting, eastern and western, involve adding pigment to a surface. I wouldn’t think that someone of Brooks’ sophistication would get caught up in eastern fetishism, but then lots of these self improvement guys use art instrumentally. They are not art historians and so engage art in superficial ways. But all he had to do was think about what he said to realize it was not true.

  • @bennetblanchard1801
    @bennetblanchard1801 2 роки тому

    What is the name of the drink in the beginning? Gaia? Trying to find but no luck

  • @peterelgie3585
    @peterelgie3585 Рік тому

    What is the gheeya (sp?) drink referred to?

  • @jacobbecker5122
    @jacobbecker5122 2 роки тому

    It’s a amazing how far off track people can get. This is the problem with developing non testable theories. Happiness is a state of mind. It’s intentional. It has nothing to do with pleasure or satisfaction.

  • @josephinewliu
    @josephinewliu Рік тому

    why Dr Attia said that the only thing he could think of, is kids.... i thought if you are a doctor, then the purpose of is rather simple: to save lives. ... but apparently it did not go into his mind. very strange.

  • @jennyretief4978
    @jennyretief4978 2 роки тому

    How does one embrace a religion? Seems important, especially as we age. Such intellect and brilliance and capable of believing..

    • @higherlove8886
      @higherlove8886 2 роки тому

      You don't need to embrace a religion to have a relationship with God.

    • @reginawhite993
      @reginawhite993 11 місяців тому

      For me unloading my Catholic upbringing was one of the simplification things recommended to do in the second half of life. It was a ball and chain and once I didn't have to conform to its teachings, I was free to explore the truth of my own existence.

  • @drsaintdc
    @drsaintdc 2 роки тому +1

    Gea? Ghea?

  • @Vasher121
    @Vasher121 2 роки тому

    Hi from Israel, looks you got some gains.. what’s that drink?

  • @kathleenmay3530
    @kathleenmay3530 Рік тому

    What is Peter drinking? How do I spell it?

  • @patrickmorgan8764
    @patrickmorgan8764 2 роки тому

    Love is a cat not a toaster. My first tattoo. Well, maybe not.

  • @josephinewliu
    @josephinewliu Рік тому

    I actually hate spending time with my son. i do not know why dr Attia assumes that all parents enjoy spending time with their kids.... I suspect less than 20% of adults enjoy spending time with kids.

  • @roberthaney1342
    @roberthaney1342 2 роки тому +2

    What is Gia? Gea?

    • @lauraon
      @lauraon 2 роки тому +2

      Had same question, checked the transcript-it’s Ghia.

  • @houndofzoltan
    @houndofzoltan 2 роки тому

    What's the drink? Ghee ah?

  • @arinthunt
    @arinthunt 2 роки тому +5

    Love Attia's podcast, but I found this guest insufferable. Incredibly self-absorbed and its evident that he's barely stepped out of the ivory tower for more than an hour in his entire life.

    • @michaelhimes8778
      @michaelhimes8778 Рік тому

      He a bachelors in night school in Trenton NJ and has a son in the marines. Then a degree from Syracuse. I think he actually has a pretty balanced outlook.

  • @lindadavis5668
    @lindadavis5668 Рік тому

    😢😢, happy? Food insecure, can't afford housing, dental, medical, child care on 12.00$ an hour. Car breaks, too bad, can't afford gas, our planet is burning up due to fossil fuels, and corporations, medicine, unaffordable, vacations no, gifts for grandkids no, electricity outrageous, price of homes unaffordable. 😢😢
    Hope you're enjoying yourselves. 😢😢

  • @willyouwright
    @willyouwright Рік тому

    Ok .. this still has lots of traditional ideas of happiness. Family friends ect. It's baloney. We need to appreciate the outliers like monks or vagabons. People who are on the fringe of life with none of traditional markers of happiness.. these people can be extremely happy in how they conduct life and feelings that they can feel

  • @ericmerrifield4393
    @ericmerrifield4393 2 роки тому +2

    Some people aren't aloud to be happy. , Then people say work hard towards ur dreams I worked hard all my life and learned u never work hard it was a mistake. No point of dreams or goals because some of us are controlled and not aloud to think for ourselves really life is nothing it means nothing and I can truly say I want nothing out of life I don't. Like or enjoy life . . I been made where I can't work fired non stop disabled now get threats with charges I say fuck life fuck it all people do whatever they want to me and get by with it I'm not even aloud to stand up for myself. I can't wait till life is over only thing I look forward to