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I wrote this song about my father choosing another life over raising me. This video represents the literal and emotional journey I took, only to find out he wanted them and not me. Everyone can relate to the feeling of not being good enough and the frustration that comes with that.
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“I wrote this song about my father choosing another life over raising me. This video represents the literal and emotional journey I took, only to find out he wanted them and not me.” - Grace Carter
Excellent song from a very talented singer
He's a cruel fool for doing that
My son, what ever happens, happens. I did it right. Engaged planned him married. He liked the conversation but never tried. He saw his first set of kids and faded on mine. Was never really there but no phone calls nothing for 8 years. Hes 13 now. Hes an awesome old school kid, he loves the 80s and 90s. He just loves everything. I dont hurt anymore. I am sorry for his loss.
Thanks to whoever hurts her, we have this brilliant song 💓
my heart goes out to her
My dad kicked me out of my house when I was in the 4th grade, sees me only when he feels like it, stopped loving me, and decided to raise his girlfriend’s daughter over his own. And I think I really needed to hear this. Especially the part that says it’s not my fault. Because it wasn’t.. it was not my fault my dad decided to abandon me. I am a girl worth love, and he wasn’t strong enough or good enough to give it to me. Thank you for this song❤️
Heey Jen am really sorry you had to go through
I hope everything goes well for
Stay strong,lots of love💕
Wow your dad is a pig
Stay strong you deserve love ❤️
I would like to hug you ! Just so that you know, you deserve to be loved ! Please never be upset about him
keep your head up you're doing great
"You took the air out of my lungs to breathe with another."
Gut wrenching
time stamp?
Dayuuuuuuum, ouch..
That's deep
@@TonyEnglandUK Those who suffered the same fate should do all within their power to break generational curses rather than trying to rationalize them. Her father didn’t run out of love if he’s willing to give it to another woman and HER child. You seem to sympathize with the emotional/ physical absent parent because you know find yourself in that role but that doesn’t absolve the pain it causes the kids and how damaging it is for them. And how much harder it will be for them to navigate life as adults. This a time to work on yourself and break curses.
No words can describe what it feels like when someone chooses someone else over you.
🤍
these are the songs that should be played on the radio, be put on UA-cams trending and have Billions of views. Not the songs that are now
sweetie, u just spilled the truth.
@Iris Strings the point is not making everyone to be sad but how the singer explains their feeling through deep and poetical lyrics.
Yeah, all songs truly have a meaning though, because the artist has to go through something to be able to think of it. Some songs, like raps, idc for, but there are some that are so meaningful on today's radio too, like Scars to Your Beautiful by Alessia Cara, Rockabye by Clean Bandit ft. Anne Marie, Shadows by Sabrina Carpenter, etc. I do believe though, that songs like this need to played on the radio as well.
exactly!!
Vanessa Wambura exactly just like btshit
I got a Sia meets Alicia Keys vibe.
Thank you for this. It means a lot.
yesss!
Yesssssssss
HOW ABOUT BEYOCE ,SIA, AND ALICA KEYS
Sativa Indica yesss 💯💯💯💛💛💛
I hate when people do this under uprising artists videos like let them be their own person. She’s got that Grace Carter vibe🥰
She makes walking look beautiful lol
Sarah Merrett honestly! I look like jack skeleton when i’m walking.
@@smallbodybighead6 IMFAO 😂
Have you watched a HAIM video lol
It is😚
andro gore exactly what I was thinking haha
I lost my little sister to murder in December and when I hear this song I though of her, they took her away from us but we will keep fighting to find who did this r.i.p Jessika #justiceforjessika
Awww I lost my aunt at my grandfather I cried so hard so I feel what your going threw 😞
#justiceforjessika I'm so sorry for your loss 💜🙏
Thank you i really appreciate it im sorry for your loss my prayers are with you an your family ❤ an thank you i know she's watching over my family with our mom❤
Hello I’m here and I lost people in my family to 😕😔☹️
I’m so sorry for you- but she will get justice- I’m sure of it- if she has a sister who will keep fighting! (Sorry if your a boy).
I never understand why a Dad would do that. I never thought I'd be a Dad but it's amazing, how anyone can walk away from their kids and never look back is beyond me. But if he did that then you are better off without him. Good luck in your amazing career. It's a great song.
It's great that you actually stuck around for your child. 😊 Not many men or sometimes women do that.
My dad left me when I was 11. Because he "already had problems" and he did not want another one, like my brother and me 🙃 but you're going to be a good father. Have a happy life ❤️
Howe Blanc Sorry to hear that. One day you might be a parent and you can be the best you can for your own children.
People's issues don't go away just cause they have the capability to create a child
Exactly. One missing parent is better than a parent who likely never wanted you in the first place and will not hide that they resent you for 'trapping' them
He didn't choose me, he didn't choose them. He chose himself...27 years later he's still alone
I was the result of my dad getting with my mum when he and his wife were "on a break." He left when I was two and I've never met him, this song reminds me that it wasn't my fault, it's his.
You were two years old, there is no question that it was not your fault. However, I can only imagine that your mind must continuously process how life could be better if you had another parent who loves you. It must have imprinted a sense of abandonment when you were far too young to process those emotions. I hope for your healing and that you receive from others what he failed or was unable to give.
My dad left when I was 3 because my mom turned him in for a crime he had committed. He is still in prison. I have not kept contact or developed a relationship with him by choice. I can tell you that having an absent father is not the end, especially when you have a strong mum to raise you. My mom is the reason I know how to be so strong and capable no matter what I face. Moms are the SHIT! Not all fathers are good ones, no reason to think of "what if".
I am so sorry! For as hard as it can be, sometimes it also true that it is better off when someone choose not to be in our lives... it takes a heck of an inner effort to heal and to find love, right there where one left. Regardless, if we look close enough... love is always there for us to reach.
I was told my granda had died for he is a terrible man... then i found out... yet he never reached out for me... i eventually reached out to him, just in order to see his face, to understand why he did what he did to our family... i needed to see his story through his face, his moves.... and i did. We had coffee together and we talked. He got emotional. I was curious and angry.
That was the first and last time i saw him.
That helped. A lot.
I felt relieved after that. Anger slowly turned into compassion, then indifference. Now love for I am stronger because of that.
-never give up on love- for other ppl might. Please dont. Love is always, always within reach. Blessing!
Definitely it was his fault, not yours ....so chin up and walk in pride
My dad left before I was born 😓
i dont understand how parents can walk out on their families. i understand splitting up with your partner 100% but walking out on your child leaving them wondering why they’re not good enough for their own mother or father is just another kind of evil.
😔
most horrible feeling in the world is feeling like you’re not(or never was) enough 💔
they’re good for nothing cowards, and i only wish nothing but the absolute worst for them.
@@reneXtonedeaf You have to remember that some Fathers went through exactly the same thing when THEY were kids, they simply weren't loved enough either. So there's nothing inside them to give to you.
You only understand when you are a dad and your wife has postpartum depression and she hates your guts no matter what you do to support the family. I bet you after years of being treated like shit, anyone would leave his family for another.
Thanks UA-cam for finally recommending something good to me.
Isn’t it the best feeling in the world to discover a new artist 😀
Now I can feel the pain that my half-brother has been going through, as my dad left him with his mom when they got divorced and married my mom and the poor boy had to live with his grand mother after his mom remarried and left him to her new family. He went through everything without parents on his side and now that he has his own family with three beautiful daughters and a good job in a big mining company, no wonder if he shows less interest about my dad sickness and even when he got hospitalized. I wish him a very happy life. I met him couples of time and he is the sweetest gentleman he is and I know he must be thinking that we (my own brother and I) have taken over his position.
This is so angering
wow both his parents left him... fuck them sorry not sorry you dont just abandon family
The Yes/No Man I’m sorry but his mother is a bitch and your father is awful for leaving his own blood! How could anyone do that to a poor little child. Parents are absolutely critical to a child’s growth!
@@lebhotshorty i agree
Your brother live a happy life and those parents are the worst
I love how her walking beyond the points, where she had to stop before expresses that she is maturing and continuing to process emotionally what has happened in her life.
Don't give up, if bad things happened to you! Step by step your heart will heal, maybe even without you noticing it. You are able and God loves you, don't ever forget that!
ua-cam.com/video/2WSwJ6vNQD8/v-deo.html
Beautiful way to put it.
I can't believe I'm hearing this for the first time a whole year after it was released. What a powerful song.
Same here
Went through this when I was 9 when my dad decided to cut all ties with me! First time I experienced depression. The only person I could fight with was my mom, who deserves an award for holding me down and taking my shit. I thank God for her, completely grateful for her. I've made peace with all that was done to me and my dad, may his soul rest in peace!
❤
Maphuti Magongoa if you’re gonna thank god. Then surely you should thank him for her shit Dad he blessed her with. And also the mother who life she made shit . Not such thing has god I’m afraid. Life is brutal if you choose to make it that way.
You did well coming through this experience!! ❤
stuart lees you do realise that wasn't the point of the comment right? Why do you feel the need to adress that particular part of the comment when it's litteraly not the subject...
Same, my father cut of ties when I was 8. heard him again when I was 17... 😭 This are the causes of my depression until now I'm suffering.
I honestly hope her dad sees this video..
And heal me
she has no better angle, she looks perfect in all of them.
i thought this was about ex but after seeing comments it hit differently:(
So did her dad leave her?
Sammeee OMG when I saw her looking at her dad I was like Wait whaaattt. But it makes sense on why she grows up thinking that now because he must of left her at a young age
It can mean something different to everyone. For me it’s about a lost lover
The description also tells the truth about this song 😭
@@sydneyw8593 i know hy it can have so many meanings for different ppl
You are so incredibly brave for singing this song. So many people can relate to you and I want you to know that we’re so proud of you Grace and we will always love you unconditionally. 💕🌸🦋
damn nearly 1k likes
@@lowkeyrose8020 damn 1k likes
@SoWeird Sorry damnnnnn... I'm glad to be a part of this moment.
well, I'll be damned... 1.6k
1:40 Tell me what you Why Her Not Me
I didn’t think it was possible but the video actually makes me like the song even more
Ikr!! Usually music videos portray the song in a horrible way, but her video is amazing
@@imaginenation84 I come from Canvey Island, recognised it immediately!
@@suecondon1685 I met her she done her hair in my café
I was expecting this to be a love song. Not a parental song. This hurts. My dad was a dead beat. I gave him a second chance when I had kids as he seemed genuinely interested. Things fell through for multiple reasons. I found out through my grandmother he’s living literally 20 minutes away and has made zero attempt to make any contact in any way shape or form even for his grandkids. I hate the bastard so much.
Sorry for you. Just remember that it is his loss not yours stay strong.
Perfect example of loss, anger and moving on but never forgetting. Love this song
When I first heard this song I loved it, I assumed it was about a man choosing another woman over her which I could relate to, then I watched the video and realised what it really was about and could relate even more, I love this song so much ♥️
I relate to both scenarios.
Also went through this. My dad left us for another family in 2010 and he passed away in 2014 before we could even make peace. My lil brother was just 5 when he left and the only memory he has of him is him beating my mom. I hope and pray my lil brother be better than that. Thank you so much Grace for this song, it healed me. I love you
Well that's karma for your dad
Amen
Hey atleast you don't live with your abusive father anymore
Evander Zufar Setiawan Oof thats sounds mean but I couldn’t help but laugh 😆
Story of my life
My “dad” was always the type to treat the children, of whatever woman he was messing with at the time, like they were his. But never had a second thought about me. This hit different.
I feel your ghost, smell you all over my clothes
Oh, all your smoke's stuck in me longer then you did
I had my doubts, I had to check it all out
And now I see that you've run back when I thought you'd quit
You took my air out of your lungs
So you could breathe with another one
Oh, tell me, why her not me?
What did I do for you to wreck it all?
Oh, Lord, it's not my fault
Why her not me?
Why did you have to build the walls so high?
Oh no, I'm not done climbing
She heard about me, and all your history
I'm not tryna burn myself but I can let it go
Piece by piece uncovering dishonesty
Never been true than anything I've ever known
Finding out I'm not the only one
Took the air right out of my lungs
Oh, tell me, why her not me?
What did I do for you to wreck it all?
Oh Lord, it's not my fault
Why her not me?
Why did you have to build the walls so high?
Oh no, I'm not done climbing
Tell me, why her?
You give her unconditional love
Tell me, why her?
But I'm still climbing
Tell me, why her?
You gave me conditional love
Tell me, why her?
I won't stop fighting
No, no, no
I won't lay low, low, low
You gave my soul, soul, soul
I'm not giving in, no
No, no, no
I won't lay low, low, low
I've done no wrong, wrong, wrong
I'm not giving in, no
Why her not me?
What did I do for you to wreck it all?
Oh Lord, it's not my fault
Why her not me?
Why did you have to build the walls so high?
Oh Lord, I'm not done climbing
Tell me, why her?
You give her unconditional love
Tell me, why her?
But I'm still climbing
Tell me, why her?
You gave me conditional love
Tell me, why her?
I won't stop fighting
Thnx😊
The comment I was looking for! Thanks🤗
Grace is so underrated, she needs more recognition
she has an amazing voice,she is pretty she needs to be discovered
I can't even see the ending with all those big ass suggested videos at the end! Honestly who thought of that interface?!!
WHAT HAPPENED AT THE END!?!?!?!??!?!
She walks past her dad's house and sees him sitting down and having dinner with his "new" family (wife and daughter)
Pull the video down a bit and you'll see it
If u hold the screen like ur zooming in, the other videos go away until u let go
If u like kind of pull the screen down like your existing out of the video to look at more options the pop ups will go away
Even though my dad has been with me my entire life, this tugs on my heart strings. I'll never understand why any parent would willingly give up their child. Sometimes, he doesn't do what I believe a father is supposed to do. I want more from you than your money... I'm just happy to have a heavenly father.
As someone who hasn't seen my dad, since 3 years old, haven't talked to him since I was 25, and found out he passed away, from suicide 3 years ago, I needed this song!
sometimes you need to know there is people that they can understand your feelings and pain.
Have you visited his grave and said all you wanted to say to him?
My condolences my heart goes out to you ❤
Im so sorry for you.
My dad denien me al of my life.
I Saw Him Before he past Away last year.
And he stil couldent Say he ever loved me.
how can people dislike this?
it’s so special
lia agree
I understand every detal in this song because the things she sings are hapening to me about 3years ago and i am 16years old i go in so little age go tru all this bad things that today make me cry but thats life you got to stand up and keep walking you way you need to be proud that you make the pain go away you need to be proud of yourself today🙂❤❤
It's such a sad song. I'm on the opposite end of this situation. My dad raised me with my mom (his second wife) but my half sister never saw him since they (his first wife) divorced when she was 2. They married very young and divorced soon after. Then my dad met my mom, had 3 kids and stayed married for 33 years until he died of cancer. I always wondered why he never visited her, I didn't even know my half sister existed until I was 20. He walked away from her without really looking back, but raised me well.
Breaks my heart 💔
I feel this on so many levels. As a child and as a woman.
UA-cam just recommended this Video to me. Wow. Only one week after I uploaded my song about my father abandoning me .. cheers to all the kids who’s Dad broke their heart before any other boy could.
That's the exact thing that happened to me, and by the way I went and listened to your song. Its great👍
It hurts more when you can relate to this...
I wrote so much poems about my father and the relationship I wish had with him....but he chose another life over me and its not my fault 😔😪
One day when my son asks, why them not him, I want him to know that I loved him to the fullest. Gave him my all and he is my all. That I would love him to the fullest, twice as much, too much love that covers the other who is absent.
It would be amazing to see your dads reaction after you’ve grown into an amazing inspirational person and for him to see what an amazing person he’s missed out on ❤️❤️
fuck him. he deserves no spotlight.
What happened
Si check the description.
Grace is pure art. I didn't hear about her before, but I'm glad that I had the chance to watch her perform at Sunny Hill Festival! 🔥
Alban Imami great words and what a nice profile pic
I have an older sis my parents always give her love but not me I feel this song I cried while listening to this
Good luck on ur career
No matter how much you say you couldn’t care less, about a family member that leaves, especially a father.. it’s always a lie. There will always be some human curiosity about “why”. 💔
True, but I still would be happy if left entirely. I'm curious but not sympathetic to my father if that makes sense.
This is so beautifully powerful x
I love you Ell
I love beautiful Black women!! Pro-tip: They all are!! 😉😉
This song makes me cry honestly like it makes me remember stuff about all the times my parents fought and how toxic it is and how I’m trapped and sadly I can’t leave and have no where to go.
This reminds me of my dad. He left when i was 2 and its been years. He doesnt even know my birthday. I asked so many times in my head and blamed everything because i felt useless. Whats sad is he took my half boolded sister. I died inside knowing he would want her and not me. Im happy he didnt take me but it hurts knowing i cry over a person that i dont remember or doesnt even know me. This song is just perfect for it. I love it. Thank you so much.
Omg my friend Mia is in this song the one with the school uniform on we are in the same class at school well done Mia and grace!
Edit: that’s also my school uniform
cool lol
Hayden Dykstra it is very cool hehe
She So pretty
Atkhnrul lee yes Mia is very pretty
Idil Ashkir don’t ask her that u freak
Go Grace, here as history is getting made
A few years ago my dad got remarried to this lady, she hated me right from the start. My dad and I used to be best friends, sometimes I'd go with him to work and he'd always take me to run errands, until his new wife came along and ruined it all. I used to sob to my mom when my dad would be HOURS late to pick me up or when his wife was being rude to me. Well now I haven't visited my dad in a few years and am planning on changing my last name to my moms name which is consdiently Carter! My dad hasn't done shit for me so why should I carry on his name?
I agree
you can do whatever you feel like. don't be scared to express your anger.
💜💜💜
I thought about changing my last name when I was younger to carter which is my mom last name since my dad wanted nothing to do with me .
My name is Grace and your last name could be carter=. Grace Carter!
This song is so personal and emotional for me. Thanks for singing your truth that is shared by many.
Heart-wrenching... the suffocating, agonizing nothingness called abandonment... at least i have my beloved mother and God.
I had to do a double take at your comment. That description of abandonment was arresting
My name is Grace
My dad left my mother and I only one year after I was born and he got another kid with someone
He took care of her whereas I was nothing to him but I got my mom
My mother raised and still is raising me with all her strength
I am forever thankful to her
Unfortunately this is a common thing these days and a lot of kids are left with unanswered questions
"Why not me? "
her voice... omg.
This is one of the most relatable songs I have ever heard.
It has took me 26 years to forgive my father (and still working on it) and it hurts so much as when I was a little kid trying to understand what did I do wrong.
When you relate to a song soo much you can't stop playing it!
You have made art with your pain. Blessed you.
[Verse 1]
I feel your ghost, smell you all over my clothes
Oh, all your smoke's stuck in me longer then you did
I had my doubts, I had to check it all out
And now I see that you've run back when I thought you'd quit
[Pre-Chorus]
You took my air out of your lungs
So you could breathe with another one
[Chorus]
Oh tell me, why her, not me?
What did I do for you to wreck it all?
Oh Lord, it's not my fault
Why her, not me?
Why did you have to build the walls so high?
Oh no, I'm not done climbing
[Verse 2]
She heard about me, and all your history
I'm not tryna burn myself but I can let it go
Piece by piece uncovering dishonesty
Never been truth in anything I've ever known
[Pre-Chorus]
Finding out I'm not the only one
Took the air right out my lungs
[Chorus]
Oh tell me, why her, not me?
What did I do for you to wreck it all?
Oh Lord, it's not my fault
Why her, not me?
Why did you have to build the walls so high?
Oh no, I'm not done climbing
[Post-Chorus]
Tell me, why her?
You gave her unconditional love
Tell me, why her?
But I'm still climbing
Tell me, why her?
You gave me conditional love
Tell me, why her?
I won't stop fighting
[Bridge]
No, no, no
I won't lay low, low, low
You gave my soul, soul, soul
I'm not giving in, no
No, no, no
I won't lay low, low, low
I've done no wrong, wrong, wrong
I'm not giving in, no
[Chorus]
Why her, not me?
What did I do for you to wreck it all?
Oh Lord, it's not my fault
Why her, not me?
Why did you have to build the walls so high?
Oh no, I'm not done climbing
[Post-Chorus]
Tell me, why her?
You gave her unconditional love
Tell me, why her?
But I'm still climbing
Tell me, why her?
You gave me conditional love
Tell me, why her?
I won't stop fighting
Keep walking bby girl from the things that hurt you.....what doesn't kills you only make you stronger 💯
Hey grace! My name is also grace, and the same thing happened to me. My dad ran out on me when I was 2, I never got meet him. This song made me cry cause it’s so beautiful and relatable for me. Keep singing ❤️
Gracie.G im very sorry to hear that. But I just wanna tell u that even without your dad, you’re still beautiful and precious. I’m sure anyone will regret to abandon you. Keep smiling and be the best of you!
Hope you meet him one day and forgive him
Literally crying while watching this 😭 I've always wonder why he choose somebody else over his family, even though my mom always tell me he loves me the most... I always wondering. Maybe it's time to accept.. Some problems do not deserve an answer.
I was raised by a single parent and that parent was my father. I can somewhat relate to song. I didn't grow up with a mother (and I can't blame her. She suffered from a mental illness). I was always searching for a mother figure and I never really found it. I always hung out with girls that had their mother and constantly complain about how unfair she was and I'm here wishing I had my mother in my life.
that must be hard for you. i hope you are doing better.
🤍🤍🤍
“Never been truth in anything I’ve ever known” I felt that and the way her face looked for a split second when she sang “ever known” in the video hurt me
I love how this song can be interpreted in many ways, it has a meaning for everyone, such a beautiful song.
This song made me cry, there is so much emotion in her voice...
I get scared every day as I grow older that I will have to get married someday and give my whole heart to a man or have kids but I don’t trust man because what if they end up leaving and choose her and not me. The fear of abandonment from my father and now from all my ex’s I just can’t take it that some man are wicked like this 🤦🏾♀️
Not all men are like that keep searching tho good luck.
I bet your dad is watching this now, and regretting his decision, After a year of watching this im still not tired of it.. and im also surprised how you dont have 1 mill subscribers yet!
Omg, I really wanted to hug her during the video cuz I felt her pain so deeply...
ive never cried so hard over a song. i love singing along to songs with great meaning to me when im alone, so naturally i started to sing along. but i couldnt seem to get any words out. my voice got quiet and trembled. im still trying to sing along, hopefully one day i can feel strong enough to sing with you. this hits so close to home and exposes my worst, deepest pain. thank you so much. i would love to hug you. hope you tour in the US soon!
edit: hopefully boston, ma USA :)
Anyone who can relate to this song knows how hard this hits home... in my case, “her” that he chose, wasn’t another family, but drugs. He chose her before I was even born. I’m 19 now and he has made no attempts to get to know me. Praying for everyone who can relate to heal hearts broken by absent fathers.
In the end when she says daddy my soul cries for her. Not my experience. Just being brown not black nor white and always being outside. Beautiful child. (Children). You are so much more.
My father walked out on us as well, because he had some disagreements with my mother and he also chose his job and a girlfriend over his family. The day I heard him saying he doesn't care about his children and that they are not that important to him...that day broke my heart and left a deep scar. After he regretted his decisions, he tried to get everything right and fix our relationship....but soon after he was diagnosed with a terminal illness and he died. This song just breaks my heart and brings back memories and all the pain I have tried to bury inside. It has all impacted me so deeply that I personally cannot get into a relationship right now. Thank you so much for this song.....for these raw emotions....emotions I can relate to. Thank you
Oh wow, I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. I can only imagine what that must have been like. I'm also on a dating break trying to deal with some of my own issues, so I feel you there. I've been single for over 2 years, and still feel like I haven't made any progress. At this rate I'm gonna be single for another 5 years haha 😂
Love is harder to accept than find, especially with a broken heart. I have not experienced what you did, but after reading everything you wrote, I could feel the pain in your heart to be feeling like that and connecting so deeply to this song. I'm truly sorry for what you went through. I hope your heart heals sooner, so you enjoy life longer. Years fly by too fast to keep allowing grief to take over and not allow you to enjoy the good things. The night sky has stars and the moon to give us light, just how the good little things in life keeps us going even in dark times. Thank you for being brave enough to share your experience with us because sometimes we need to let things out instead of bottling emotions.
Athena stay strong enough for all of your life.
As an adopted child, watching my adopted dad slowly fall into alcohol and lose himself broke me. I'm only now, at 30, learning about the pain that led to his drowning. That it wasn't wholly his fault.
Now, as a 30-year-old, I'm watching him heal and bond with my mom, and two youngest siblings.
I'm so happy, and grateful.
But I'm also so mournful, and sad. I endured so much. All of us older siblings, and my mother did.
And now I just feel out of place. I'm happy they're happy.
But I don't feel part of it.
I wish I could feel that sense of simple joy too.
You said it perfectly you saw him drown an you came to understand what lead him to fall so hard an what can lead anyone too fall so hard our souls get tired of being strong an if you feel worthless an not enough it can really take you down into self destruct wholly it was his fault we all should be able to remain strong but we are of flesh an bone an yes family should have been more proactive when someone starts drowning it's our responsibility to stand by them just for them too know hey I got you no matter what no matter how bad or ugly it gets we gonna get thru this together family love because you know deep down this isn't him/her no something traumatic had to have happened to make a person not care about themselves not find any worth in their existence for themselves or others major prb . Tell him how you feel darling for real pull him to the side an tell him how much you love him an how happy you are an so glad to have your father back because he is the only one you have and tell him to forgive you if you wasn't there more or understood what he was dealing with emotional an mentally.. don't let this turn to something bad he loves Yu you never know he might be feeling like he let you down especially if you distance yourself or act different he is probably thinking same as you that your disgustrd by him or disappointed or look at him differently trust me words are better said when you feel it in your heart don't ever hold your tounge on how you feel love
When i first heard this song i thought it was about cheating or a breakup and every time i hear it I interpret it as in my situation which is having a dad that left us. because of the lyrix they match with both situations. But then after 2 months i come here and read the comments saying its about what I interpreted! I love it so much.
Was driving back home then suddenly this song came out of nowhere from my spotify radio playlist. I was like........... MAN I HAVE NO WORDS. IM IN LOVE!
the fact that i feel so close to this song and its meaning is so heartbreaking
This song has helped me have the courage to write a song about my own experience of being left. Thank you Grace!
I don’t know my dad 29 years of my life he’s never been around I wouldn’t even recognize him if he said hi in a store to me . Never did anything for me or wanted me but he went n had other kids. This song hits home . Thank you I love this
I’m glad to admit that this song no longer hurts it helped me to move on music really does have power.
I relate so bad I'm crying..
You’re a beautiful woman smart and successful. The pain will always be there but you were able to accomplish a lot without him. It’s not easy but it’s more his loss than yours.
I have great father who loves me and our family so much, brothers who loves me and their own family and boyfriend who loves me dearly. But still this song made me sad. For sure is in the future I definitely will raise a son who won't leave his family over another woman. Everybody deserve a good father in their life.
The song is so emotional... The pain we go through once the people who brought us on earth neglect and leave us in the cold.... The positive to take is we make sure ours never get to experience what we have......
so relatable
her voice is so rich and powerful
Man UA-cam need to stop the B.S you cant even see the ending with those stupid suggested videos in the way
Ooooooooommmmmmmmmmggggg I was about to say the same damn thing😡
Saaaaaammmme!!
Hold the screen and pull it down just a tad bit and the ads don’t show so you can see the ending
@@ang-gh8gg i was literally just about to say the same thing lmao 😂
it’s actually her fault, she put that there.
Thus song speaks for so many kids with dead-beat fathers
i and my siblings have the same question, i was 2 when my father left me and my mother and never thought to care about us, my mom is a brave woman she raised us and and i am very proud of her, sometimes i do think about him but then i always remember that he is really not worth it and that he wont change at all some men are like this and we can never change em.
I listen to this everyday. My dad never wanted me. I hope he see how amazing and far you have come without him. ❤️
_Thanks for all the love and support. Seriously blown away by the love from all of you… thank you all❤️
It's really sad how this song makes most pple remember the pain and rejection felt from family .I hope you are all ok!👌
Dude this hit home so bad my dad left my mom when I was two the last time he visited was when I was nine.... I’m 13 now and I haven’t seen em in five yrs and he never answers calls or texts anymore
Maybe write letters to him. Even if he never sees them. Get the avalanche of emotions out
you deserve better. its his loss
My heat ache for those who can't grow up without a father figure. You deserved all the love
Such an emotional raw voice. Beautiful voice. #best voice of 2018
She is so relatable
Love And Hip Hop Miami 2020 Bought Me Here. Thank You 🙌🏾🙌🏾 Beautiful Song
Star material right here.
She deserves it.
I tried to help get this song to 10 million views by the 5th anniversary of the song, but failed! I find it impossible that people wouldn’t love this song!
I crief watching this I felt the pain I understood perfectly for my dad left me and my mom for his sons and another woman and for the longest time I kept on wondering and I kept on climbing and I kept on fighting for someone who wasn't fighting for me
My dad left when I was 2, got back in contact with him over the phone for a few weeks, it was nice and he apologized and he went to his old ways I was 17 now I'm 24. It's unfortunate, how many dad's don't take care of there children
It's his lost for not raising such a talented beautiful girl like you
chills, litteral chills
Am really sorry Grace for what happened, am am sure something good came out in with a beautiful song like this. I just Pray for you to grow up Stronger than youve been, Let this song Inspire more people who are facing the same difficulty in there life, your a Blessing in other peoples life. GOOD LUCK IN YOUR CAREER