Why Dating is Broken in 2024 - What Boomers don't understand
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- The dating market is broken, and no one understands. In unfamiliar worlds, hypergamy and short-term mating strategies prevail, leaving men lonely and women unsatisfied. Here are my thoughts.
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What an irony, social media destroying society, and became essentially antisocial
I'm 26 and joined later then everyone else October of 2013.
Everyone said, oh it's to keep in contact and to socialise.
Now facebook has become a massive advertising platform! With so many ads from advertisers and people sponsoring their pages you don't even see your friends and families posts!
Like you said, the irony!
Social media, more like anti social media!! 😂
@@shanepatrick641 So true.
@@shanepatrick641 Yeah i remember facebook when it was just statuses
Ofcourse taking the human element out of socializing would become antisocial. The internet is inherently antisocial. It turns people into abstractions of people
@@thecrow4597 totally agree!
Your phone may keep you connected to someone from the other side of the world. But your phone can keep you from the person sitting right next to you.
Very well said Case!!!
Person sitting next to me is also on the phone.
People next to me want nothing to
Do with me
@@icespeaker81 Why not?
@@GregorSass-Ranitzand she probably wants somebody making 6 figures anyways lol
I was once at the gym, found the only person not wearing earbuds, struck up a conversation, only to find he was deaf
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Sums up these days
Find someone who seems interesting and goes nowhere
Gym is not the best place. People who go there don't want to make friends. Better to try classes or sports.
There are a lot of dudes doing roids at my gym who will talk to you, offer to spot you, socialize etc. Depends what gym you go to.
I'm old and I always used ear buds at the gym as i can't workout to no music
I noticed this walking down a hallway in college full of college kids. There was damn near 100 of them in this hallway i was in and yet nobody was saying anything or talking to whos around them. They were just quietly on there phones... Thats not how that used to be. Shits insane.
exactly. idiots on reddit will show that picture of a bus full of people reading newspapers and try to use that to rationalize and deny that anything has changed. things have changed fundamentally and with huge consequences. smartphones are absolutely destroying kids especially girls. its time to cut the BS and stop letting little children look at porn on their smartphones, take away smartphones and social media completely and make them wear uniforms and actually follow some set of coherent rules. are kids are literally left to raise themselves right now. left to make sure they wear clothes that are cool enough. left to fend off rampant bullies who thrive in this completely unstructured environment that we subject them to. its literal insanity.
I knew I wasn't fucking crazy, my generation is pathetic
@@anabolicchicken4115, my heart goes out to you!
Kind of like walking the aisles of my favorite grocery store. I am there all of the time. None of the staff that happens to be in the aisle ever says hello, never smiles at me. Only at the register does the cashier speak to the customers. Oh, when the customers first walk into the store, a greeter says hello. That's it.
@nicolasmartinez795 every time ive tried to go out and meet people ive been told im bothering people and i need to leave.. social interaction is literally punishable by law..
The beginning of the end of "dating" was approximately 2010, when "smart phones" and "dating apps" hit the scene hard, not to mention social media.
Wrong! The beginning of the end was around 1970 when lady stopped having babies at a replacement level of 2.1 and decided to go to colleg and get passed around AND not have babies afterwards.
yeah I would put the end around "the Pill" (eg. first step of transhumanism if you think about it) and the rise of Feminism
@@AetherXIVcan you explain transhumanism
@@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485 sure :) I'll do my best. you can think of it "transcending the human" -and usually through technology. I described the Pill as "transhumanism" because it deeply altered a core aspect of female biology. For millennia most women did not have promiscious sex -not first because of morality, but because of the natural consequences of unwanted pregnancy. The Pill was the first highly reliable way for women to change their biology and control pregnancy. Perhaps a big reason that women act so different today than from the past is that their biology is literally different. The Pill tricks women's bodies into thinking they are already pregnant and their hormones are different. Hormones are incredibly powerful and any significant change to them will also downstream affect society. I made this point because a lot of people don't realize how impactful the Pill is. I think a lot of what we see in society is created because of it.
@@andre1987eph TRUTH!!!!!
Not only dating is harder, making friendships is also harder because of unfamiliarity
"Unfamiliarity" . . . ? Perhaps you mean cowardice.
I agree it is cowardess because I act very friendly and warm and men still look very scared, while they simultaneously follow me around 🤣 it’s like once they realize I might actually be approachable and they have to now approach, they become more scared and avoidant 🤣
@@Emmm-ii6txScared of rejection or being called a creep?
@@Emmm-ii6tx There are millions of boys that have stolen the valor carried with label of MAN. If they are men, Idk wtf I am.
Get off that phone or screen, join a club, join a mixed sport, don't waste time on people that cant stop looking at their phone, either in conversations or generally just cant hold a conversation(not because they are shy) but because they need to communicate in text form or Tik Toc. They are out there, just ignore the selfish, attention seekers. If you cant find people in the circle you are in, expand that circle or find new circles of people to interact with.(NOT ONLINE).
It's crazy we have to single-handedly build a community from scratch just to get a date because society has effectively collapsed.
It is what it is.
But young people, please think of the amazing opportunities to form a healthier community? I am excited for you! I am an old lady, 64 years, married forever . Women these days are Jezebels. Even old ones. If I have a scrape with my husband they automatically are telling me to get a divorce and I deserve better. It falls on deaf ears when I tell them that marriage is an all in commitment and that I am not starting over as a senior citizen! They don’t seem to get that men are not into grandmas! Lol Besides- I married for life! Not just for fun!
This put words in my mouth. Ya...just go become a community god with your zero confidence and zero other people your age there anyway. GG
Which is why I'm basically a monk at this point. 44 and divorced. I don't even want another relationship. I'm happy to be single for the rest of my life.
@@2btuff God bless you. It's rough for young guys out here now
Some of us older guys understand. It can happen. You can find yourself divorced and over 55. Unless you've been hitting the gym regularly all of your life, you're going to be overlooked. Unless you've worked in a company where you've worked your way up into a management position, you're going to get overlooked. You can be in a position where you are supporting yourself, but unless the woman sees you as "successful", you'll be overlooked. So get used to living alone. There'll be no pressures on you. You don't have to pass any tests. You can just have peace. It took me a while to accept these things, but after listening to a lot of women my age and reading comments online I finally get it.
I was suddenly on the dating market at 53. Successful, self employed engineer, 6', in shape and doing CrossFit at the time. It was shocking how many dates had a list of 20 deal breakers. One date told me she had had 100 dates with different guys, and one "almost" was good enough. It seems like many view dating as more of a career than a means to actually meet a partner. And yes, the first question was what did I do, second question was how tall was I.
@@TheSorters They're not looking for an emotional bond, they're looking for resources and "arm candy".
@@Hodenkatyeah, they want a literal minimum 6 figure earner and you’re pushing it if it’s on the lower side lol. You also have to be good looking enough and nowadays if you actually want to have a shot with any even decent looking women around 20-30 you have to be very good looking compared to the average man it’s insane. At the end of it all though even if you do get that far youll either get too comfortable and she’s gone or just starts going crazy and doing the typical things we all know of.
Too many men have had their lives destroyed in divorce and or false allegations. Young men, victims of their mothers behaviors and having their dads kicked out of their lives, are coming of age. Men have discovered the path of health, wealth, happiness and peace. They now know what destroys those. Dating has moved far down the list of things to do if not completely off of it.
And the only thing worse than being left alone, is actually having one of these harpies live with you.
Clubs are absolutely disgusting.
Toxic swamp
“WHY IS THE FLOOR STICKY?!?”
It's a brothel except no one charges up front.
@@ravenclaw783 At least sex happens in a brothel.
Bars and pubs over clubs any day. Social drinking spaces are way better
I saw this guy in a cornfield the other day, and then I realised it was a scarecrow because he wasn't looking at he's phone.
Saw a woman pulling a shopping cart, not pushing it in order to stay on her phone. Needless to say her eyes weren’t up and she nearly caused several aisle pile ups. Absurd.
@@Psyfi85 wow how many isles?
😂
That’s a man outstanding in his field!😂😂😂
Thanks for a great laugh!
The whole friggin world seemed so much less complicated, people had some manners, weren't offended so easily and YES, no damn phones back in the 70s-80s- even 90s. THe world was a real place, not existing on some fake ass screen. Smart phones and social media really F'd up everything.
true words social are indeed destorying the interaction between people and i think we haven't seen the worst yet
I think you are 💯 per cent right
Smart phones are the biggest problem. Feminism is the second biggest problem. Women have now been raised to believe that they don't need men so they look at men as a means to their own personal end. Family law is totally skewed to the benefit of women and in divorce men are always the biggest losers. Women know that and the vast majority of divorces are initiated by women. Any guy who has gone through the process is so traumatized that they will never risk going through that process again.
Everybody hates it yet nobody will stop using it. Why?
@@jamesredacher1987 It's an addiction. A new organization is required like AA. Call it PAA; phone addicts anonymous.
Back in the 1960's you could own your own home as a mailman. In 2024 you have to be rich to own a house.
Blame the boomers. That wicked generation inflated everything, and yanked the ladder up behind them. The whole world will implode just as they all expire.
Vote Trump
Federal Reserve.
the mail man can buy a condo in 2024, and so can you
Thank you, bankers! Very cool!
Dating apps are losing their strengths because normal men are tired of rejection.
80% of relationships begin online now. Facebook and Instagram are biggest dating apps. They don’t care about the guys they reject it’s only become a issue now because of videos like these and many others. The more guys that wake up, leave, or check out… the less beta-bucks-deluxe-gerber-life-back-up-plans there are to reach back to when Chadrone eventually stops calling/and or texting back.
I tell all my kids to avoid them. My daughters would get all the attention that they would want, but it would to be just ran through. Apps are for immoral people to hookup.
This is only true for the people that are not the 2 %, and women well.... the ones that stay believe they still deserve the top 2 % even if they are an 8 or 7 or 6 as long as their inflated ego thinks they deserve it. It's been sold to women as a way to find men, and a lot of them bought this and so did we, so the old way of dating sorta died, not sure if it will ever come back.
they lose their strenght because even if you pay for their 'boosts' you still get nothing except for bots lol.
You’re going to get rejected with cold or warm approaching too. It’s part of life. However, you’ll get yesses too if you put yourself out there. Dating apps are trash in my opinion. Statistics show that women prefer face to face interactions anyway.
Honestly people are just exhausting to deal with. People just talk about themselves and want a captive audience.
Underrated comment.
^^^ THIS ^^^. I lucked out as a kid and met a friend that was into dirt bikes. I have ridden the barren wastelands of the desert-southwest, and I'm convinced this has kept me sane. Escapism works.
Nothing wrong with talking about yourself if you give others the space to do the same.
Whats even worse is if they start talking about other random people you don't give a shit about at all and their relationship drama, nobody has anything meaningful to say just yapping their mouths.
My dad explained every single golf shot he had in a mediocre round. Then he did the same thing twice more over the following days. I listened to this man explain his golf round in full 3 fucking times. Someone kill me
I'm Gen X and I gave up after the smartphone got it's grip on humanity. My friends became so freaking addicted that they simply CANNOT hold a conversation for more than eight minutes without checking their f*cking phones. Most won't TALK on the phone, or participate on a Zoom call without constantly checking their laptop or other device. No one can compete with the glowing, pinging screens. If you want to meet people, leave the phone at home and get out into the world to meet the 2% of humans who also aren't digital zombies.
Way too true. Dated someone who couldn’t go more than 60 seconds without staring at their phone. Would pretend to hear what I was saying while staring at their phone the whole time and saying things in response that made it clear they weren’t hearing anything I was saying when I would just be trying to make conversation and build connection. Of course, I ended the relationship. They couldn’t understand it and “thought we would get married.” Would rather be actually alone than to feel that alone while in the presence of someone else.
I've lost friends over this nonsense. One (ex) friend said it was a hassle trying to get in touch with me (I have a flip phone, and obviously a computer/email), and said I should get on "What's app". Well you can't do that with a flip phone. I said why don't you just call me? How hard can that be? She rolled her eyes and was so rude that that's the last time I spoke to her.
💯💯💯🎯 I could not agree more. Everybody seems completely addicted to these wretched Smartphones/the internet. What on EARTH have we done to ourselves as a species? It's completely unnatural for 7 billion humans to be permanently plugged into each other 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, especially when you analyse human nature and human behaviour. This communications technology is not something humans are even remotely ready for. People who disagree with me on this are usually profoundly, horrifyingly ignorant. They ought to ask more questions and mouth off far less.
@@gardyloo3093 I love my flip phone. 10 years old, and has only freezes up a few times.
It is for emergencies. I don't know how people navigate life without noticing what is happening around them.
@@momzilla9491 Yes. Just having a phone that can make calls is good enough. This other stuff destroys people.
My grandfather tells me "Go to the gym and meet someone" "Go to the bowling alley and meet someone". I'm not sure he's talked with another person in public who was a stranger in the last 30 years, but is sure of the idea that is all it takes.
Boomers really are completely out of touch with how bad it's gotten. Almost everyone under forty ignores me outright. If they say anything at all, it's guys saying, "Sorry, I'm listening to a podcast!" or women saying, "Sorry, I have a boyfriend!" Real life is packed with people, but really you're all alone.
@@james.beatty either out of touch or don't care. Choose whatever hurts less
@@Pangora2 Youi really believe that ALL boomers are like that? To use your own words, how out of touch you are.
@@james.beatty "People will come to love their oppression, to adore the technologies that undo their capacities to think" - Aldous Huxley (Brave New World)
@@secondchance6603 It should be obvious there are plenty of exceptions. My aunt and uncle are great boomers. You should not assume what someone says is the worst possible meaning, that is worse than being out of touch
Me and my brother had the same conversation a few years ago. The older generations don't understand how screwed up the dating market is. What we're experiencing is not normal.
As a 64 yo guy, I can tell you every generation has felt the same and it mostly comes from not understanding the challenges that the generation before faced. For example in this video he stated that it was easy to meet people before. Total nonsense. It was hard because all you had once you left school was friends of your relatives and people at work. The idea that you were going to just go to the beach or the park and meet people is laughable. About half the people I know from my generation ended up marrying someone that their mother or a friend set them up on a blind date with.
What I see out there with my children and such as being the biggest problem is that there are too many lazy unambitious young men, and women who are worth the effort are rare as hens teeth. So many of them are fat, arrogant, entitled and just as dumb as rocks. With your generation I think for the first time in human history the average male is better looking than the average female. It’s bizarre. So good luck with that.
Some of us do. >50 GenX Widower. We ARE working on potential solutions. You don't hear much about it but we are. Remember, you're our kids! Of course we care.
Once the boomers are gone I think we'll be able to make more progress. Everything right now is being driven by their worldview/assumptions. We GenX learned how FOS they are the hard way.
@@user-pc8vn6ym7r world view / assumptions? Oh you mean grounding in reality and experience. 😝
Your dating problems have nothing whatsoever to do with boomers.
The single ones TOTALLY get it.
Its not just dating. Socialising is messed up.
I seen a table of people at a restaurant. I swear all were typing more on their phones than they were conversing with each other- when phones first became common 20+ years ago they were expensive and limited to text on so they were like an addition to life.
Today it is life, and meeting people is the addition! Most people are missing real life!
They are missing whats in front of them by either trying to capture it for social media or because they reading what every one else has been doing in life on social media!!
Things changed really drastically with phones, its no longer acceptable to speak in public, you might interrupt phone usage.
its really these dumb ladies using phones smarter than them
They love the bitten Apple products. If they only saw the irony.
@@stub4488 women truly are the more gullible gender
@@stub4488the ultimate deVICE
Just relax bro why do you want to get married??? It’s just truly unnecessary! Get out, do sports, talk to everyone no only women, open your mouth and practice being respectful interesting, practice speaking in public, get some game, sense of humour and acceptance even if others joke about you, get over rejection by practicing all of this, learn other things out of your culture, speak another languages, dancing, acting, whatever makes you feel good about yourself and get over victim hood!!
I've noticed while walking on trails and parks that if a women under 40 passes by they will do everything in their power to not make eye contact or acknowledge me. Elderly folks are completely opposite.
@@rebelghost0rewatch the video and then maybe you will understand
@@rebelghost0Imagine being in a remote place and seeing one other person you will briefly cross paths with and completely ignore them. Lmao… weird.
If you guys are so socially inept that saying hello on a hiking trail is like committing a cardinal offense, then you missed a lot of socialization lessons along the way. Eyes in phones, earbuds dangling. Wake up. look around.
@@rebelghost0 “self control” like it’s so hard to do for you because you think it’s the right thing to do… awkward 😁
I grew up in a rural place. If you were walking on the road, enjoying nature or going somewhere, it was normal and good manners to wave to other people or even say hello. As time passed that diminished with the old spirit of the place. When I moved to a small city it was night and day. No one would smile or look at me as I passed. They were all expecting to be scammed or harassed. Modern life is like dingy city you can't escape.
20 years ago the only requirement to get a girlfriend was owning a car.
And even that was a loose requirement.
In other Words, they were just interested in your Car and not in yourself?
not quite true, women were still "financially" oriented but a lot more subtle, or at least most were... they certainly aren't as bad as women are today - of all ages now, it's just a bad deal whether you're 20, 40, 60 or even 80... all you've got to lose is everything, and very little to gain.
@@MrWeitblick Wtf you even saying? You think a girl should be in charge of driving you everywhere?
@@thefamilyguy5693 You obviously don’t understand what I have written
Finally an analysis on dating culture that doesn’t villainize one gender over another, and actually provides sound advice. Community is SO important for all types of relationships. We as humans need a strong support system.
That dude prolly scores all the hot chicks
This is why so many people date people from gym/ work. Society needs more places to interact.
Before phones we used a sony walkman or newspaper to ignore the general public
And men still got laid, these guys are just bitter losers with no personalities.
Ya but people were still more likely to marry or be in a relationship.
nah, when approached back in the day, you put down the paper, and you pulled off the headphones and paused the music. That what we were all taught to do, it was a much more polite society
Well yea i guess i used to hate the phone culture until i finally got a non flip phone in 2016 for work, then i joined the masses. tonight at bar i put mine down and i started a convo with a guy who was talking about helldivers 2, we talked a few minutes about gaming but if i dont have any common ground i dont want to deal with a social vampire that tells me how great they think they are, the phone makes it easy for me to ignore those ppl who just want some validation. I kinda vibe with energy if that means i read a book by its cover then it is what it is. I will be civil but i wont entertain a social vamp out of sake for being polite or open myself to a hidden agenda that is not friendly, am a product of my enviorment, the town i live in is not the friendliest or safest place.
those felt covered over-ear sets on a walkman sucked at blocking out noise though ;)
when on vacation over the past few years i've had more people approach me and strike up a conversation when i'm reading a book. especially on sunny beaches; all adult ages and both men and women, but mostly women.
Its not you. The world has changed into something I don't even recognize. The I-phone and the internet have completely changed not only dating, but the job market as well. Women, along with employers, feel there is always someone better out there in the endless expanse of the internet, and they have no problem passing you right by in their quest to find perfection. This has left literally millions of people turned into cast aways, now with no meaningful career and no relationship or family. It is a dark time.
Plenty of great paying jobs, but the higher up you go the more you have to study and put in real effort there’s no getting around it. If youre asking something to be hand3d to you, that’s similar to females waiting until 30 wanting chads commitment,won’t happen
@@rl7329 Me personally I am retired, project manager, with 6 US Patents. So no one handed me anything, that was not my point. My point is, companies are stuck in the same mind set, of passing qualified people over, because they think there is always someone better out there in the internet somewhere.
@@nickf2170wow.. 6 us patents... Respect bro
Yup. ✊⚡
Well said OP.
If you pursue your life purpose you can have a meaningful career at least.
Make what you love into your job.
I did that and no one is stopping me. When you do what you really love, the universe is on your side. That may sound wishy washy, but you'll know it when you live it.
I (39 year old man) am living like this for the last year and everything has changed for the better. I haven't been in a relationship for two years now and am not sure if i want to be in one again soon. But women will be attracted to you if you love what you're doing and living your best life.
The world has changed, sure. But when you realise you are the creator of your world, you can change everything in a beautiful direction.
Once people can get holographic boyfriends and girlfriends like in Blade Runner 2049 humanity is toast.
they have those already. it's called AI boyfriend. their apps.
I can't wait.
Same
It's my fantasy since 2 years. Not even a hologram, better a replicant/ love android looking like ana de armas 😂
One of these days Elon Musk is going to invent robotic gfs/ bfs
It's over boys. Been over for a few years. Dating is finished. Forever.
Don't even try, walk away and live your life however you want.
Go on trips, hike, camp, eat steaks, drink whiskey and ride motorcycles.
Enjoy the decline.
Okay, here is the answer: Become a parent. Forget thinking a relationship with a woman is an end in itself. Relationships with women are hard at every step of the way. It's only worth it as a route to having your kid(s).
Parenthood is spectacular. No joke. It is the deepest experience of love you'll ever get. You won't care about the crap you have to put up with to get there or whether the relationship with the woman works out later. You'll have meaning and fulfillment from a child. And it's a relationship you can keep for the rest of your life, God willing.
Works for me.
^This
Also I'm excited for sex robots. Humanoid robots are expected to hit household uses sometime in the 2030's. Just watch the figure robot demo and how it communicated with the person and gave him and apple and picked up trash. This is in 2024 just wait until the 2030's and we have a humanoid robot wife.
@@johnspivack Good advice. I've consider doing surrogacy if I can't find a women.
@@johnspivack Become a parent so a woman can destroy you in court and take away your kid forever? And you lose half your pay cheque forever?
Keep believing that you clown. Women will destroy you eventually.
You'll learn.
How do you become a parent without a girl? Bro you're logic falls flat.
The elephant in the room is that in a healthy dating system the commitment should be before sex. Now in a morally bankrupt society there is a sex first and maybe a situationship later.
Never get Icelandic girls, are the huge red flag
this society has been morally bankrupt for decades.
not just about morality but seeing if you actually WORK with someone. sex complicates stuff especially if you realize you don't actually like them.OR they're crazy.
women insist on sex first ,to figure out if they want to keep you around or not. i had to tell this to boomers who dont understand. you have to fuck her first night ,then sit and wait to see if you passes the fuck test ,then maybe you get a second date. it was hilarious explaining this to my 72 year old mother.this is the standard today!
People used to meet at church. There was something called courtship. Families knew one another. There was some measure of accountability. These relationships lasted because the community had similar principles, morals, and standards. Was it perfect, no. However, it was far better than the horrible dating system that came about after the first world war with the relaxing of propriety between the sexes.
Great Video. A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Letting go of someone you love is always challenging, but in my situation, I had the guidance of a spiritual counselor who prevented my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters...
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now.... I hope this works for me. Thnk You
@@BruceKnapp-n4qI hope things work out for you. Read “5 Love Languages” Gary Chapman and try to work it, there is also a workbook for it.
Find Grace in each other and be willing to do so unselfishly.
About three or four years ago, I was sitting by myself at McDonald's. I looked up and there was a pack of teenagers sitting at a table close to me. Not one of them was talking to each other. They were all looking at their phones.
A bit off topic but I met up with a colleague to study for an exam and she could not put her damn phone down. It didn't occur to me at the time that we needed to establish rules at the study table. With that said, I never agreed to meet with her again and she dropped out of our major. That was in 2010.
I've seen families do this -- mom and dad both buried in their phone and their teenage children also buried in theirs.
If there's family drama that's one thing, but at the very least they could put the phones down and try to work through the drama by, I dunno, talking about it rather than ignoring it.
Discusting, I bet the teens had Edgar haircuts, d r a g make-up and ridiculous baggy pants
Dude, you are 100% correct! Community is the missing key. So wise. Thank you for making this video - it needed to be seen!
i think it’s even worse in the US, because where i live everyone’s getting married or having kids in their early twenties 🤷🏻♀️
the community is a threat to the regime. you will be infested with feds my boy. you people are too naive to realize what a regime does to keep power if power is all they have left. bloody simps and normies i tell you. i never ever thought government would get so nasty in my life and i've only been alive for 28 years. insane.
I’m a female and probably your parents’ age ….. but everything you said was spot on, even for my generation. There are too many lonely people sitting by themselves at home night after night.
You’re right….but some of us enjoy the solitude…it’s not lonely…..just peaceful
@@charliechristmas5147fuck that.. soon enough the silence will become defeaning
Its alte stage leftism in non homogeneous countries.
im your age, and while i agree w your comment, its more women doing that than men are - men are out LOOKING. i have a few female friends that are both super picky, dont really even like men, and prefer to stay in and do nothing vs put themselves out in public looking available. they certainly dont make a move on a guy.
i blame men to some degree, cuz the handful that were dicks or even straight up evil to women have made women very wary of all men. esp when you hit 40+ and realize it takes a lot longer than you thought to really get to know if a guy is scum or not (women too i guess)
also, a lot of women have convinced themselves they dont need a man.
i talked to a 31 yr old today who's convinced "god will send her man to her" - so y'know, there's no logic
@@Instant_Nerf Silence is better than constant drama and stress 24/7
Society is going to get even worse 10 years from now..
Things have not even started to get bad...... 😂
if an explicitly pro-patriarchy party is not built the US will be a total third world country in 5 years@@extra-samsaric3836
Yep!
just the tip of the ice berg.
its gonna be fun to watch
I am a 20 year old guy and I have to say that this might be the most accurate and enlighting video I have ever seen in my entire life which illustrates the current situation when it comes to dating as a young man. I also consider myself a 7 overally on a good day and I mist admit that I struggle a lot with dating, mostly because as you said, I cannot meet new women in my life because of how asocial people of our age have become.
the average woman is a 7 and so guys think theyre all 7s too.. but the average man is a 3 to the average woman.. its more of a pass fail than a rating out of 10 for them and almost everything is a fail..
If you were a 7 you wouldnt have trouble getting a girl
@@thothheartmaat2833average woman is 7 haha yea right 😂
@@kbernieshoW if a girl isnt super hot but not super ugly a guy will rate her a 7 usually.. but if a guy isnt an underwear model then he will be rated a 3 by women.. and they say its us who judge them unfairly while modeling their body scars and obesity.. yuck..
I'm not a boomer. I'm Gen X, and my youth was amazing and very social and everyone hung out with everyone, and we were always outside doing things as a group. I have great memories from those times. I do recognize that you zoomers are dealing with some pretty messed up social dynamics.
i'm X. My teenage kids almost never leave the house. I have to kick them out. It's wild. I can't imagine being given unlimited opportunity and not taking it. But their friends NEVER leave the house. Never. So leaving doesn't really help them when there's no one out to meet up with.
the only thing you got wrong is about the dating apps - why would it allow you to meet somone to date seriously, and stop paying 75/mo ? It's not optimized for men or women. It's optimized to remove $$$ from your wallet, repeatedly month after month.
It doesn't work for men or women. But for different reasons.
Just because you meet someone doesn't mean you permanently stop using the app. 99% of relationships don't go anywhere.
@@WillieFungo99% of interactions mean nothing.
There’s a saying about dating apps that I heard recently that encapsulates the entire problem in one sentence:
For men dating apps are like trying to find water in a desert while for women dating apps are like trying to find clean water in a swamp.
@@AmericanAdvancement Good analogy
Too many women today have been influenced by Instagram to expect a lifestyle that is simply beyond the reach of the majority of people.
And this influence has also turned them into brats that, frankly, don’t deserve to be given any attention.
Ah yes, just blame the women per usual... so you didn't watch the video at all.. lol.. 🤣
Yes and men are also trying to have things how it was before. Woman are no longer going to accept trash/abuse or the bare minimum. We can do for ourselves so we don’t need a man who isn’t going to equal or better so we can grow together. Go to counseling, fix your traumas, learn to respect everyone equally and you’d probably get someone. It’s not that hard.
True, most young women aren't lovable because they expect princess treatment without return because of this influence. And this causes this broken dating market where millions of lonely young men have to compete for the few women left that one would want to be in a relationship with.
@@bmay282 In reference to the video, MrDeathMachine's 2nd column is a little bit off, his 1st column, however, is absolutely valid.
And they get passed around the top 10% of men until no one wants them anymore.
I’m 27 and practice celibacy a lot and stay off the internet/phone and damn, it’s unbelievable how many people won’t interact with you or literally keeps their heads down on their phone. Getting tired of my generation, n most of them im sure had way better upbringing then me, people are so cowardly these days
Gen-X here, I lived “dated” how it used to be, and now. My opinion Boomers and my generation whom become single after 20,30,40 years became SHOCKED that dating is not like 1990. I am 49, not married, no kids had one 11 year relationship. After that ended 5 years ago when I was 44 it was a long journey but now life is bliss. Women or Man, make yourself the best you can be FOR YOU! Enjoy your life, have fun, and in that process you will meet someone. It may/may not last but enjoy the moments, because that is what life is a series of moments. Enjoy all and be safe 👍😁
"Have fun, live your life", lmao. Dude, these kids can't afford toilet paper to whipe their ass let alone travel and have adventures. They are being demolished by the cost of living. Gen Z boys are big fucked. It's a God damn tragity what is happening.
why would you be in a relationship for 11 years and not get married?
@@traderjossObviously she wasn't good enough to marry
The male 10 will not choose the best one. Why should he? He can have a different woman every night if he wants, no incentive to settle down, ever.
It gets old and stressful. New goals appear on the horizon.
True
Yes but most men do not want just date casually for the rest of their life. Once they hit their 30s they are going to want to settle down
@@brianmeen2158After trouncing the casual sex scene and ruining other men's potential future wife pool.
@@brianmeen2158no body said most men are doing this. most can't. Chads are winning and Bobs are losing.
Dating is just a term. It's the people that are broken.
BEST comment. People are broken right now. So disconnected inside and out.
So true. You are right.
Definitely agree with this one. Yes, “best comment” fr
We all need some serious self reflection and healing from the traumas of societization (not a word but I hope it translates lol)
☝
most churches i visit are doing fine with young and mid aged families.
and 100% agree with many people being broken or lost.
It's been this way for 15 years now, welcome to the party pal.
I am 49 and lost my husband. We were part of a large social group and interacted for a long time before we ever felt a physical attraction. We admitted our feelings and shelfed them. We continued to get to know one another and one day he gave me a ring and kissed me. We married a few months later. Married 28 years before he passed away. Since the group activity was more about entertainment than dating, we were never really "on a date" and never felt the pressure you are under. But I completely agree that dating is a disaster. I am in a new town now and am just focused on building relationships with men and women of all ages, treating men as fathers and brothers, sons. Not chatting them up, but having light, friendly conversations without strings. I am an acquired taste and I know I would not present well on a date.
My condolences.
I don't know if you are an acquired taste, you sound like a LOT of men would be glad to have you.
Please accept my heartfelt condolences for your tragic loss. You are going about socializing the right way. . You are intelligent and interesting. Both personality traits make you great company. I wish you every happiness.
Well, that's totally understandable.
You no doubt have the home and contents all paid for and a nice insurance payout to live on.
All the things you only needed a man for.
So you aren't interested in getting another, he'd be superfluous to requirements, a drain on your resources.
You played the game and won!
Addenda to my previous comment--- note total absence of the word "love" in the original posters comment.
It's never about love in truth, only money.
I think the biggest issue is that we let corporations monetize social interactions.
Nope letting women vote
Women shouldn’t vote!
Corporations and greed are the root of nearly every social problem including dating which is no longer relational but is now transactional
@@alanm6o9 Based.
Some people cannot make others happy so they find happiness via hobbies, friends, work, & it's better than thinking that the one and only is around the corner?
I'm old as dirt now. Two things I know. 1) The government is not your friend. 2) Every day goes by, I love dogs a little more than people.
You sound pretty normal to me. Your problem is the fact that today - no issues are about anything other than "sanity" against "bonkers".
I’m single happy and content. I am mentally and financially free of the confines,entitlement and demands of a woman. I have a large circle of Life long friends and we enjoy our hobbies,friendships and our bbq and poker weekends. I have a dog who goes crazy when I get home because it missed me,even after 10 years he still goes nuts when I get home and he fills my heart with so much love. Women say I will die alone and I say that may be true but I will die a happy man!
The government is the one setting the rules that lead to this outcome. You can see it in most western countries.
is it because dogs sellout so fast?
Yeah, I Definitely Trust my Golden Retriever Boy Reagan and Love my Great Pyrenees Boxer Mix Girl BabyElla more than Anything Nowadays.
Your habit of ascribing people numbers according to their attractiveness and describing women who are five or six as being below your league suggests that you have absorbed a lot of the broken dating culture that you denounce.
No matter where you go now in this world - people just seem glued to their phones. It's like humans don't really want to be with people - they just want to watch them on a small screen.
people suck.
Hung out constantly, played in a band and dated (fairly) hot hipsters the entire 1998-2008 era. People were like this WAY before cell phones. No room full of skater kids in 1997 actually wanted to "be" there. People would drift off into space, or go search for a better party. Couples ALWAYS left together around 10-11, to go home and have sex in isolation. Cell phones, suck, but....people have always been like this. This just have a phone to look down at (so they don't have to stare at the other person). Was ALWAYS like this. Booze and drugs made things more bearable, but people aren't THAT social. It's just not human nature. Always had to get away...back to your own cave, hut, etc.
this is literally untrue. go to south america. yes they have phones but it hasnt decimated them like it has the USA. in terms of community, families, couples, dating, etc, things are still functional there.
@@endlessnameless6494 Are you saying it would be better if the people woul be have ses in public.???
@@endlessnameless6494I'd say that's relative. There are very social people and there are very not social people. I'm one of the latter, so to me the social bullshit doesn't make sense.
I am a handsome, 36 years old man. I don’t drink, don’t smoke, I am healthy, I love to cook, I am running a successful business. I do sports, and I am interested in all sorts of stuff, have vast knowledge of many subjects. I consider myself a normal man with advantages. No success, 2 years on dating apps.
you're obviously not that handsome :D
@@maleenajewelry or he's just not into hoes :D
Get off the apps and make friends irl
If you are handsome you dont need dating sites. Try the gym, grocery store, ask friends if they know any single women
@@maleenajewelry Prolly not 6 feet or something. Typical online (western) girls are like that. Edited: They won't appreciate how unique YOU are, rather how THEY can use your "spec" to boast around, feel good, and maybe even as a stepp stone while waiting for another better Chad (aka monkey-branching).
So good to see a young person calling out cellphones and social media like this, and the horrible damage it's doing. We need more awareness, and to bring back community and connection. It is NOT old fashioned, it is vital to our well-being.
It’s actually evil. So so lonely
I just got ghosted again.. it really truly is lonely
Its not lonely you have God. Looks always mattered the web only made it harder for both genders
I gave up on dating in 2017. I can only imagine how bad it has gotten now
The more bad it becomes for the majority, the better it becomes for a small percentage.
I was a slow learner, I have only given up three years ago, 49 years old now, I am pretty sure its over! lol.
The worst part is when a woman IS attracted to you and then it becomes like a job interview. I'm so tired of the giddy, smirky arrogance of the modern 6.
flip the script on them, you might not get laid, but it will be good for the self esteem.
Well put
My experience is the opposite. She just stands there and says nothing, asks me no questions, and expects me to do everything.
6? 🤣🤣🤣 the 4's act that way too. A six just looks at ya like your a creature in the zoo, but with a disgusted look of disdain.
@@markeberle3984I’ve been down so bad that I developed a crush on a girl I would consider a 4 and still got shot down so bad and made feel like crap. Its so hard to find anyone for me
I live in a very big city in Germany. You barely see ANY younger people in public anymore! Since Covid lockdowns all the younger people just disappeared into their own homes! This is like a social epidemic! Even my generation the millenials are nowhere to be found, except if they have kids. Many guys play videogames all the time and never go outside anymore. As a dogowner I see the difference between now and 5 years ago. I started to participate in an organization but there ware only people 50+! I am like the only millennial who seems to still look for real human contact in the city (not in a club, gym or dance event). I am so frustrated and desperate about this, that I have decided to move to a very small town in the countryside, where people seem to be diffenrent, more grounded and "normal". Society is fucked up.
Society was fucked up when Adolf Hitler was still alive in Germany. Honestly I don't see it as a big deal. I wouldn't go outside either unless I have something to do.
Don't worry, Islam is coming. Things are going to be very different in Europe.
Whatever happens, it can only get better after the crash
Please stop saying "since COVID". This happened because of the human made decisions following COVID like lockdowns. We had warnings about this shit coming.
I had an active dating life the entire 2000's: all my GF's and I ever did (in the states) was sit in the house, have sex and watch TV. This isn't a "new" thing. Every couple I knew when I was a kid isolated/hung out at home. People really exaggerate how much "hanging out" people did 20-30 years ago. A bit more than now, yes. And no cell phones. But...come 10pm...time to go isolate back in the house/apt. I think people have a warped perception of how social the 90s/2k were. Young folks in relationships wanted to dip out to go have sex alone, drink alone, etc. It was far less of a love in/party gathering than people make it out to be.
We have lost the art off conversation , and it's hard for people to connect due to the Internet watching screens. Totally agree with you. Nobody speaking to each other anymore.
Also, everything is permanent. You have zero reason to go out on a ledge when you run the risk of being blasted forever over a dumb comment or something. It leads to full on generation of lemmings that can't even make eye contact or say hello to people.
As a late GenXer (born 1980) I agree with everything you said. Technology has made connecting with people in a deep and meaningful way nearly impossible. I think that is the major reason for the loneliness epidemic and the rise in mental health issues. It’s impossible to feel happy and be healthy when you’re almost completely disconnected from others.
I'm the earliest of Gen X (born 1965) but have similar experience to boomers, ie married at 22, still happily so, retired 55 wealthy and living the dream. I would hate to have been born later - yikes!
This video proves one thing.
That PEOPLE NEED TO STOP SAYING “ BOOMER “ in a derogatory way.
MAGA !
I think i feel the happiest and healthiest when I AM disconnected from others, people drain me of all my energy and time and fill me with their bad energy, I did well when i lived alone and had a dog or two
I'm also a gen-Xer from 1980 and have been alone most of my life. Divorced now at 44 and honestly, feeling pretty good being single. Ive tried dating at this age and it's horrrrrrrible. Mostly single moms that want my money lol =] For me, it's going to just be flings and maybe even escorts if I can get the courage to do it one day. My libido isn't what it used to be either, so I really don't need a relatinship tbh. And freedom.... I can whatever I want. I'm semi-retired.
@@wheelie642let 'em continue. They'll need the elders to teach them how to garden if they want to eat
When I met my husband, I was babysitting for some mutual friends and he stopped by to see his friend. We talked for about an hour. We went on our first date about two weeks later. We've been together for almost 35 years. I hope you find someone that makes you happy and that you are never bored with.
c'mon now... 35 years and you've never ONCE been bored? What an absurd notion. The real key is to find someone you CAN be bored with... And if you've been married 35 years, you know this...
Uhm sure to talk to his friend... Lol. That was a smooth move on his part. Congrats.
Here from Legion of Men.
Not sure about that 7 rating. Anyway I'm average to slightly above and would get matches on Hinge once to twice a wk also never bothered with premium.
Take better pics, and swipe within your league. I never bothered with models who where probably bots or professional \OF type.
I like the idea of going out pursuing your interests and living your life to socialize. Shouldn't be just to meet women though. Understand even if you meet them outside they are still on apps and influenced by them so if you happen to meet the rare one with no social media or apps you're lucky.
Guys can be far more flexible with looks so prioritize personality chase no point in marrying a hottie that will take you to the cleaners in divorce and family courts 10 yrs later. Not saying women you don't find attractive won't too just that personality, values, morals, should be higher on your list.
There is so much more, but I'll just rap up with the US dating scene isn't how it is everywhere. Travel around learn other cultures date there and see how to is. You'd be surprised how feminine and gorgeous women are. They love and respect most men.
Coupled up for more than 30 years, too. We adore & love each other fiercely! I'd be lying if I said I have never been bored beyond belief! Only one of us is lying here, but why? 'Specially in here.
@@melaniejean85 Sorry to hear that.
Modern society has failed to provide young men with any kind of basis for a status hierarchy in regards to attracting women. Most jobs only pay 30-50k now, women don't care they make their own money. When they don't need your resources the only average wage earning men that will attract women are gonna be the 8-10's. Back in the day wages and the lifestyle average men could provide actually went hand in hand with the cost of living AND expectations for the time. Now it's a double whammy because wages haven't kept pace with inflation and women believe they're entitled to the millionaire MTV spoiled lifestyle...
But most guys I know are average looking and have average jobs and most have gfs or wives. Do women want and expect more these days? Sure but there are still plenty of women that will go with men that aren’t making 6 figures
The brain is programable especially at age 0 to 7.. As Dr.Bruce Lipton says you may program your child´s brain, or subconscious mind, the same way as you program Ipad or computer....because first 7 years the brain is most programable, in state of hypnosis, when the brain is in growing state.
Children have no consciousness at age 0 to 7. Their brain is in state theta, which means imagination and hypnosis.
Children start to be self-conscious at age 7-8.
The brain of adults is in the state of beta, which means learning, working, analysis.
But it seems the hypnosis continues even after age 7.......because when you as adult lie down in the evening watching tv, or listening a podcast, you feel so relaxed that your brain goes to state of alpha and theta to the state of imagination and hypnosis
thereore television is the powerful tool to program your mind in positive or negative way by 95 percent, because subconscious mind works 95 percent a day.
....and at this stage you may reprogram your mind in a way that you "adopt" any belief, someone tells you on the televission, and the same second you decide whether you adopt their beliefs, and this way they may raise a generation of happy, humble people
or this way the media or TIk Tok may raise the generation of entitled, narcissistic people...
So if they tell you that all women are bad or all men are bad eor all teachers are bad.....if you decide to believe it
your brain decides to believe it 95 percent, because subconscious mind works like a computer 95 percent of the day. Your conscious mind is very positive and loving and free, but works only 5 percent a day.
but the thing is there is also such thing as healthy narcissism with healthy values......therefore healthy narcissists are loyal but choose the jobs and relationships wisely, to not be scammed by selfish people.
the selfish narcissists don´t care who they use.
The brain doesn´t care whether its male or female...both can be programmed by the same standards...but you have to chose wisely which content suits your needs, and which doesn´t.
You may program your brain in positive way or in negative way, by watching tv, or reading book, listening audiobook, podcast, music etc, or by setting new goals consciously, but you may reprogram it only if you repeat the info more times, so the brain will not delete it from memory as the Ipad does..
You may consciously want to be happy but you are not even selfaware that your subconscious thoughts can be toxic, because humans are not aware of subconscious thoughts that the parents, or teachers or social media programed them to be...
People are not self-aware of 60 000 subconscious thoughts and beliefs a day, they are aware only of 100 thoughts a day.
But if you notice (by practicing meditation) some toxic thoughts (coming from society, or media, or parents or friends)
then you may decide to reprogram these thoughts of subconscious mind....and then your conscious thoughts will match your subconscious thoughts.
Only then you may change your reality for better, because the subconscious beliefs (that someone uploaded into your subconscious mind)
are no longer sabotaging your reality and happiness. You may find better job, better friendships, relationships.
@@brianmeen2158 Thats great for the men until wife fattens up after marriage and or divorces them.
Most Jobs do not pay 30000 to 50000. That is a ludicrous statement.
@@boydm5417 No it really isn't as he was in the ballpark. 16-24 year olds average $38,168 per year. 25-34 year olds average $56,160 per year. 35-44 year olds average $67,756 per year. 45-54 year olds average $66,300 per year. 55-64 year olds average $64,688 per year. While 65 and over average $54,860 per year (according to USA Today).
as an old guy, let me tell you folks, its social media and phones. it's wrecked a lot of things, but most importantly - dating.
The sad reality. Nonetheless, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship. What works for Adam might not work for peter. All we need do, is accept that no one is perfect, but must ourselves, be willing to work towards perfection. I However learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago my wife and I were on the brink of a divorce because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it..
lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things..
its so difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I will look her up online right now.... I hope this works
You wont regret it
Well done.
I really hate how people call it the dating "market". Makes it sound like a bloody supermarket.
I think dating "scene" is more appropriate.
Because it is literally a market of people where you meet people to make a deal to be together for what you can both offer each other.
Market is appropriate when men are looking for meat and women are looking for cash. 😏
@@Josh-sz8ip Bit of a shitty market at the minute when only one side has something to offer, If you ask me.
Like going to the shop to buy something and just giving the cashier money without actually buying anything.
@@Dave5400 I wouldn't know. I've never invested in a woman who wasn't crazy about me.
@@Josh-sz8ip Me neither. All I see are people crazy about themselves. Men and women.
I’m a boomer so I know how much the society has changed. I see so many people who look unhappy or simply withdrawn.
Me too. I remember the dances. Low lights, romantic music.
I often wonder why there is no music to enhance people falling in love.
@@normanduke8855jean 'o side. Men get MeToo'd for being the pursuer, gender-bending, isolation -- all to stop or hinder procreation
Im pretty sure you know why, Gen Z and Milennials dont have anything close to the opportunities that you guys had. You boomers had life on literally easy mode.
We know how bad it is. We’ve been warning forever about it going downhill. People are so desperate for relationship that they seem to accept anything. Covid made the situation even worse.
@@ApexGaming100As a boomer I can assure you not all of us had it easy; I certainly did not. However, it seems the social media platforms younger generations can’t seem to live without, is the very crux of your generational downfall in the dating realm. Only your generations collectively suffering can change the situation by spending less time on a keyboard and more time actually engaging with people face to face.
The sniping analogy is brilliant. Talking to everyone -- your whole community -- is one of the best ways to build status and confidence. Focusing on just one is a huge risk, because if it goes wrong, it ruins your mood and makes that place where you're supposed to be building rapport with others just awkward. Awesome video and more lonely men need to watch this.
I'm 44 and live in the UK and never had a proper girlfirend. Sometimes I am envious of my grand parents and parents generations. At least they had plenty of pubs, cinemas, clubs to meet people and also without being glued to their phones. Internet dating certainly has made it harder. I often fear I will never find love. I believe socially we have gone backwards.
my coworker never got married he's 60 now. he's afraid of divorce makes 90k
Look abroad.
I was in a similar situation. Couldn't find a woman in UK.
Plenty abroad who aren't batsh*t.
Happily married for 10yrs now.
@@shadowdancer5x5You mean poor women who will use you for money 😂
@@MalesAreDemons no he means going to a place wherein people aren't locked into the absolute cultural slavery to materialism expressed in your exact comment can be refreshing in that you can meet someone who might actually want a life with companionship based on different things. big difference.
@@DanielBoonelight So you just explained the world ??? Smh
My high standards were just my grandparents bare minimum. Fit, feminine, generally happy, and cook a meal from scratch.
Facts
Underrated and deep comments 😮
How do you expect that when cost of living require two income in order to just survive? A single women are burden with high economic stress. The government has the last laugh, it made both women and men become more poor by tracking women that they could have a career and family at the same time....
@@carrino15 You mean feminism made men and women more poor by expanding the tax base, more people to work lowering wages.
Women can't be fit, feminine and happy with all the abuse they go through since early childhood.
Look at the statistics that showed 1 out of 3 women experience SA in the US, and that's just based on what's reported. And add to that the fact that over 95% of SAs happen to women from men they know and trust, and you'll get why most women have no trust in men and little to no incentive in staying attractive.
BIackpiII has never been debunked
Yet to be proven incorrect. probably no recovering from this
You can't debunk facts.
Depends on what you define as the blackpill.
I think the reality is that most guys can find a girl if they date down by about three points (so if you're a 7/10 guy, you can find a 4/10 woman). The thing is just that most guys are unwilling to do that -- and so am I. But I don't agree with the statement that unless you're an 8/10, you can't find literally anyone.
@@lightworker2956 dumpster diving that bad is a bIackpiII💀
@@lightworker2956 What people tend to do is define the blackpill as "nihilism" as opposed to the cold, hard reality of human nature and evolution.
I'm a boomer (I'm 68), and I do understand the plight of the young and dating, and what you are saying is absolutely on point. As I recall, as a young man, dating was fucking hard. That said, I was in several long-term relationships and married at 29. Today's dating market scares the shit out of me. Flaxen Saxon.
I am a boomer. What you say is clear and correct, but it is not really new. It plays out differently because of social media and phones, but the overall reality is not new. When people were able to engage in what you call familiar dating, looks mattered to women, but not as much. This meant that an average + guy with a good personality could compete with hot men who were not so strong in personality and character. In a similar fashion, average and average minus guys would have the chance to get to know average and average minus women.
But hypergamy was still operative. Short guys and guys who struggle socially have always been on the losing end of dating. We never had a term like "incel", but there were plenty of men who fit that description. It was not as publicized and they did not chat on internet forums, but dating has always sucked for a significant number of men. However, since promiscuity was rare and getting married was the norm, even guys at the bottom were usually pairing off with someone because women would rather adjust their standards than remain alone.
But today....Hypergamy is out of control. I do believe you are onto something when you say that lack of familiar dating is an issue, but other dynamics are at work too. Women earn more, yet still demand men who earn more. Women are far more promiscuous, so marriage is delayed and a lot more single mothers are out there, which creates messed up kids and ;tends to take single women out of the dating pool. A lot of promiscuous women become alpha widows. They are no longer able to be with a man at their level because they believe they deserve the Chad who used them for a weekend of fun. Promiscuous women struggle to pair bond and their divorce rate is through the roof. All of these also have negative influences on the dating situation.
As for dancing.... He is totally correct. I don't know if most areas have an active dance community, but the setting is better than almost any other setting.
Of course, an even better option is to get out of the west. It really doesn't do all that much good to do familiar dating if the women are like most young women in the est. No man in his right mind wants to date woke women or even shallow women who only focus on height and money.
Totally agree with all of your points sir!
And a great comment. Thank you for taking the time to write this 🙂
thanks for giving a solid opinion from your experienced point of view. I agree 100% with you since I have lived through it ( my last girlfriend transformed in to a deranged woke / SJW mid-relationship )
underrated comment, high IQ boomers are going to be sorely, sorely, sorely missed by gen Z and millenials
Thank you for your comment.
Yeah, things were already a nightmare before social media. Now they are simply impossible.
" No man in his right mind wants to date woke women or even shallow women who only focus on height and money." The woke one I can understand, unless you're a woke man. But apparently, by your comments you're a more traditional man, yet you want a women w/ zero standards. I've seen the long laundry list of what he expects a woman to be. Most of it has to do w/ her looks, and all the benefits you expect at home. I don't know if you guys ever hear yourselves talk. You really want a women w/ no standards for you, but you have high standards for her.
Then there's a the grass is always greener on the side delusion. There's this growing movement of passport bros saying the women are so much better in Asia. As if those Asian women aren't defying their culture and race expectation from their families, in order to be better off. These are 3rd world countries where the poverty rate is much higher. They are only choosing you to be better off.
Old Boomer here. I went to my regular gym this morning. Myself and 5 GenZ people there. 2 boys and 3 girls. All wearing headphones or earbuds, glued to their phones between reps. In the hour I was there none of them interacted with each other. Nothing. Each alone, oblivious to their surroundings.
Wow!😮
Exactly
Nobody interacts with eachother. Never ever before has society been so alone & isolated. (Plandemic) didn't assist with that.
It's a dam shame that Western society has fallen. But it was all part of the plan all along, it's been warned 100 years ago
that society will fall into eternal darkness if certain people were able to get their way.
Everyone is listening to all kinds of degenerate music & addicted to their phones lol
most women get offended when approached for conversation at the gym. unless youre a 10 of course LMAO
To be fair I don't head to the gym for chit chat. I just want to get in and out in less than an hour.
I'm a pro-social guy, I have plenty of people in my life. I went to the gym 3-4 times a week for around 18 months and made *zero* contacts, acquaintances or friends. If *I* couldn't do it, socially inept, isolated and inexperienced young men are not given great advice when they're told "Just go to the gym and make friends there, bro."
Being introverted is not a bullshit, I’m introverted and I went to number of trainings that are supposed to make you extroverted, approach people, communicate with them, do all the socially scary things during 5 years of my life. In the end I just got more anxiety, stared to not trust anyone and became even more disconnected, communication with random people is very exhausting for introverts, and if you push too much you eventually got traumatized, so telling them to go out and approach people is just wrong.
Exactly we are all different. People just don’t want to accept it.
Date coaching boils down to 1 phrase; "do what I do." The truth is, pick up artists don't know why they're successful, otherwise they'd be able to repurpose their methods for different people and circumstances.
Introversion is genetic, you can't gymmaxx your way out of introversion like you can't do the same to make yourself taller. It's something I criticised the author of this video for myself in a comment.
People conflate introversion with social anxiety all the time these days, because social anxiety is an epidemic at this point.
Introversion is more about your social battery and how many people you like being around, what type of activities you enjoy, it's not anxiety towards talking to new people.
If you're an introvert you should be fine at i.e. a dinner party, date or a game night, but you probably don't like mingling events, parties with lots of people, nightclubs, etc. You prefer sitting down with a smaller group of people instead of standing or walking around a crowded place full of people. At social events, you prefer diving deep into one person instead of keeping it superficial with many
True
Being 32 i grew up in the 90's early 2k's when it was normal. Myspace was a game changer & everyone had flip phones in jr high. Even the dating on the apps was much better 10-15 years ago! Its gone down hill so fast, its insane. Theres a scene on an old movie called "deer hunter" where fellas are in small town PA playing pool at a little bar. Absolutely golden scene, must watch
Don't forget us Gen Xers in our 50s, many of us divorced or never married. We were the generation you talk about 25 years ago in the mid 90s. The problem as I see it is not entirely the tech but the fact that women were encouraged to put career first, put off having families, live the Sex and the City lifestyle. Once men of my generation realised what was going in in the last 10 years they walked away from women to concentrate on hobbies, work, side hustles, preparing for retirement etc. It's women who will lose in the end.
True, thanks for your addition
Yep women don’t financially prepare for retirement
Good point. Bettye Naomi Goldstein #The #Feminine #Mystique with this second wave #feminism funded by companies since in 1968 emphasis on mothers fell away because child bearing gets in the way of a woman being a good worker. feminist organizations encourage for all intents and purposes the #abortion of countless millions of children so that corporations would have to pay less to hire. Since 1970 under #BabyBoomers watch damaged people that come from #Israel run America get #bailout we got #crony #Capitalism.
Boomer women are leading the divorce stats as we know gals initiate divorces in the majority
GenXer here, agreed and I remember these days in the 90's.
Now...
Divorced, hobbies, staying fit and occasional hoopkups..🎉 it will be, although...at the moment I am trying again
Their loss...😂
Forgive me if I sound crass, but this is my reality. The reason I hardly date is because all the women I meet have already had so many guys before me. Life is about selfies and attention. I'm trying to be a gentleman looking for a lady. But everything I meet is already damaged goods. Naturally feminine women who want to share their life with a naturally masculine man is unusual for me in today's society. I have "given up". I build muscles, read books, meditate, travel and work on my character spiritually and character wise. I am surrounded by a crazy Woke community. But I'm not part of it.
I find the place where the attractive normal looking women are ? Local corner dive bar at midnight hoping for a tour of the equipment van after the heavy metal shows over
Tats piercing a plus!
Trash is trash !
Get a passport Bro
@@MASC440 If you're ready for the wife-and-kids kind of life, overseas is a great way to go. This is the expectation in more traditional societies. But you can't really bring that traditional family back to the States. The culture is too hostile for that. That's why I haven't lived in the States for 15 years. I rarely even visit anymore.
@@Educated_Guesser Where do you live? And how do you do that , live elsewhere permanantly? Im a US citizen
You’re in this world, not of it. Christ is King!
The ladies are just meaner in 2024 than the were in 1994. Its across all age groups.
It's almost like a certain ideology has trained them to be suspicious and contemptuous of men and masculinity...
Nope, they were pretty mean back then too.
@@barneyboy2008 No they are no holds barred mean now.
@@barneyboy2008 They had lower testosterone back in the day.
@@dariusanderson5557 They didn't have penises back in the day.
Dating shouldn’t be a “market”, and it is now like people shopping online at Costco . Too abstract , too many choices , too many opportunities to deceive and be deceived.
My grandma married a nice man, my grandad. He fought in WWII, he was a short man, 5'2 or so. He worked a bunch of grueling jobs and eventually became a baker, if I remember correctly. He wasn't a drinker but liked to gamble on horses. He was slightly above average looks and my grandma was a very nice looking lady, but ordinary. They were Christians and married young. They were married until she passed away from cancer. This was something so normal, they wouldn't understand today why so many men are single, they would listen to the women saying there are no good men and assume (because men of that age had duty) that the women were correct and they'd look at the men and think the men are to blame. But what they'd never ask is what a woman thinks is a good man. She won't settle for anything less than 6'6 Chaddeus Vladimir Thunderschlong III with Lord Nigel Pennyworth Bankbalance money. And she is expecting this at 35 with two kids from Tyrone Tyreesius Dickerdown Brown.
I think it's over. There's no coming back from this.
The descriptions in this alone made my day!
😂😂😂😂
LMAO! you nailed it!
Agree with that.
Dickerdowm brown!
I think the big problem is that we are calling others and ourselves "7's", "5's", etc...
Lol.
Room temperature IQ take.
Everyone is a "10" to someone. If people would stop rating and start getting to know each other, the experience of dating would be so much better for everyone.
Yeah, but it's mostly men who do this rating thing.
Exactly.
Plus, what he says is what some people tell themselves for the simple fact that they haven't connected. You can go out with someone "at your league" and you simply didn't click. If what he says were true, "10s" would have options, yes, but they would choose among his "10s" counterpart options... if a guy is simply juggling, yes, he will be a player, but whomever he spends some dates with, he finds very attractive, otherwise he wouldn't even waste his time...
What he needs to do is exactly what he says... go out to actually get to know others. Women finding much fewer men attractive than men find women, is not because of dating apps, but because of men's huge amounts of testosterone. And that's not something apps have created... as he said, men will be more than willingly DATE women who are lovely and not especially beautiful, so his narrative is confusing.
So much wisdom and insight here! Community is KEY!
I'm a fit, reasonably attractive professional pilot. I was a Marine and a cop for 20 years. I have a Master's degree, and live an intriguing life of mild adventure and travel. I make a good living. I rarely drink, have never used drugs or smoked, I am an excellent father to three sons, and have done the work and been very disciplined in my life. And..., my wife of 23 years left me 6 years ago because she wasn't "happy enough". She destroyed our family and home. Good for her. And now, with everything I have to offer any good woman, I am completely, utterly invisible. The End is Nigh!
I can relate. I’ve been single now for 13 years can’t seem to find a decent man.
@@Starfish2145 Why don't you try and contact this guy you replied to and get to know him, then? Where is the effort?
@@christiantaylor1495😂
Women now are not happy cuz the husbands always to busy and focused on career goals and $.
She can't contact him unless she posts her contact info in a comment for the world to see. UA-cam doesn't allow people to message each other. Its focus is on videos and advertising.
Boomer reporting in. For decades, I haven't seen teens standing around on street corners together socializing. I see them when I pass by the town high school at closing time, filing out of school and getting on their buses, but I never see them any other time. Meeting up with friends after school was my life in the late 60s-early 70s. I got to know girls who were friends of friends of mine - we went to four or five different schools, but we mixed after school. Where the hell are the kids today? And how the hell can boys and girls learn to deal with each other if they don't meet regularly? This pre-dates the cell phone, but I can see how phones and social media could lead to even more isolation.
51 y/o Englishman here . Back in the 70’s/80’s/90’s our parks used to be full of kids playing football (soccer) & cricket , generally messing about on the play equipment . Walk through a park even in the height of summer nowadays and they’re all empty , excepting a few dog walkers . All the kids are inside playing on their x-box’s and playstations . No wonder they’re all socially inept and we have a child obesity crisis ..
You people constantly vote for policies & support causes that make it increasingly dangerous to be outside. There is no community anymore because allowed it to be destroyed so you could feel good.
Most western city's have been turned into 3rd world hellholes. Young people are more likely to get robbed and stabbed than make friends if out in public these days
Everyone is indoors and the women just invite a different top 20% man over for entertainment.
It's true. I'm 43. I live in the suburbs, just outside of Los Angeles. And even here, near L.A., you hardly see any real social activity. The streets are damn near devoid of pedestrians. You occasionally see cars drive by the house. But I rarely see any of my neighbors outside their homes. I used to go for walks, hoping that it would get my mind of my loneliness, and that maybe I'd meet some people. But no. It's just as lonely outside the house as inside the house. All my neighbors could be abducted by aliens, and I wouldn't even notice. That's how bad things have gotten. I know most people will blame cell phones and video games. But I think this all began much further back, when television was invented. It created a society that needed to be glued to a screen in order to feel connected with others.
I think about this everyday. It actually is one of the reasons why I am so depressed
Me too. My life is going well in a lot of ways, I'm even making a big life change in a few months that I'm really excited about, but the lack of community plus the lack of romance is killing me emotionally and spiritually. I've tried to find community, too, and it's hard to come by. The only place I've really found it is in churches, but I'm not a Christian anymore, so that doesn't work for me.
Same
It feels like romance is dead, no hope that it may come one day. Falling in love and having trust, like it's all dead nowadays.
Poor you. I hope you celebrate your victimhood. Find a group where you can hold hands and cry together.
@@whitemakesright2177never abandon God 😢 please
Great Advice for Both Men & Women 🌷 I truly understand 🌷 I hope everyone finds the Partner they are seeking 🌷 Thanks for the awesome content 🌷
As a last year of the Boomers, I support this young man's effort to turn around this dystopian world.
Have you ever asked yourself how your generation let it get this bad? Probably not, if you're like most Boomers. You're too worried about your retirement and the stock market.
@@selohcin LMAO. You literally blame boomers or someone else for everyone of your "challenges" in life no doubt. They had nothing to do with this- this is how YOUR generation decided how to develop social interactions going forward. Boomers aren't dating zoomers, so we can safely leave them out of it, and go back to blaming them for the environment, housing prices, etc where it at least makes some tiny amount of sense.
We will not turn this dystopian world around, it is not worth fighting or even dying for.
We just sit there and watch, maybe something new can emerge from the ashes.
I'm a late Boomer too. I feel badly for younger people today. Their lives seem to center around their phones, rather than interacting.
My personal issue is that nearly all the women in my age cohort are overweight or unattractive. I tend to date around 10-15 years younger, at least some of them are still in shape
@selohcin Yas, because we worked for over 40 years of course we have retirement on the mind
Talking to a female in the gym (or any other public place for that matter) as a sub-5 male is considered sexυal harassment now, so the whole take your earphones off and befriend your whole gym argument is null and void.
You mean sub-8 male
He’s just coping in my opinion, the problem isn’t 100% Social media, maybe it is 20% but 90%-80% are. Basically women’s fault, they want Plan A ( Chad Bad Boys Only ) and if they failed they will marry Range 5/10-7/10 good guy and continue chasing and cheating with bad boys 😂
Thank you for saying this, as a Gen Z person, this is 100 % facts. Women will not give u a chance if you're hideous or like you said a Sub-5 male 😂
Yeah and you’ve tried I’m sure.
Quit being a victim.
@ChillySummer-uc4fqsome do, but yeah, they know how letting randos try to spit game has gone in the past.
IM 37. I stopped dating around 23. I have no regrets. I could write a book, but lets make a long story short.
THE JUICE IS NOT WORTH THE SQUEEZE.
I’m a bit older and have been married since 23. You were probably picking fruit from the wrong tree. The early 2000s was easy mode.
@attananightshadow
You don't know what your talking about. MGTOW is the way my friend
Sorry you fell for the scam.
I nearly ended up ruining my entire life chasing women. The risk is so high and the reward (a successful relationship), while amazing, is incredibly difficult to obtain. Sex is really the only guarantee and it's not worth all of that risk.
@rockgod2131
I have developed serious lack of trust in other people,to the point I have a hard time relating to others at all. I even feel better alone.
@@matisyahup613 Right there with you, bro. Solitude is peace.
You are absolutely right. It’s tough on us older people too. I go to my friends son’s hockey games. Immediately when intermission starts , 90 % of the parents are on their cell phones
"my parents think oohh... Im looking for a unicorn .. my standards are high" OMG THIS HIT HOME! exactly the same with my parents.. they have NO CLUE how FU*D UP society is today
Society has always been F'd up. The only thing that is different now is that we have crystal clear visibility into it. And phentenol. 😅
Except in this modern society having any standards at all as a male is asking for too much
Dating has been broken since the 90's/2000's. It's just approaching a peak currently.
This is what loss of standards, values and impossible cost of living with threat of global collapse bring.
Facts.
Thank god, to the god-money.
Yep. We need morals and I’m not even talking about religion. We need to start being sane and have a conscience.
It was fine then. At least for me.
Ye we need more morals. Down there I wrote a longer post for anyone intersted in reading more.
World went mad at some point. On countless occasion I see our world more open to dark and demonic energies. It's all public now, people don't care. There's like a spell on us and it seems most have lost ability to reflect on what's going on.
Opening ceremonies, music concerts, music clips, alcohol commercials etc... often present a distorted demonic view of reality. Satanic rituals are now more present on big scenes like madonna concert, beyonce, sam smith and many others. Grammy's, superbowl. Have a look at some official fashion shows as well. I mean it's kind of everywhere. Not all the time, but more and more publicly so.
Even without taking a side, I think everyone can notice that depravation is kind of praised in today's society.
I don't think there were that many explicit sex scenes in the past movies, I don't think there were that many half naked women in the music entertainement genre. Violence was more hidden, core values were more preserved and shown.
Religion has become quite lame, because today's society is all about embracing the animalisitc side, find pleasure in destroying the body and the mind. Be materialistic, love the world.
I think we need more morals. Not necessarily religion even though I think Jesus experience on casting out demons can be very necessary at times. Jesus never endorsed religion as well, The holly roman empire who ordered his death did though.
I am from generation X and the thing that stands out to me about all this is that i don't ever recall us scoring each other like we were commodities. We just met, either were attracted or not (and recognised that what is one persons taste is anothers poison ) and took the time to get to know each other. A few disappointments may happen but it all helped to know what you really wanted from a relationship, so i would suggest you all stop scoring and treating each other like objects and get off your phones and relate. Sometimes you can even fall in love with someone you would never have asked out as a date because you became friends first. You miss out on so much when you act so shallow. I do think its good to build communities, but not just to get a date, it should be for getting a richer life where relationships will flourish generally. Sound like an old granny lecturing i guess, but honestly things have never been so narcissistic as how things go now. Not good.
Wise words.
I agree long term talking was better for getting any relationships I ended up with.
Boomer here. You have your head screwed on straight young Woman. Good on you!
As an original model X series (1965), I fully agree and endorse this message. Stop labeling people, each of us is unique and in a category of our own.
It’s not just the scoring, it’s the constant lying going on online. Another generation of this and people will be completely insane. They better ditch this fantasy world -and fast. newer model Gen X.
Social media and our system has killed dating
Definitely
This video struck a nerve - you’re a wise young man
I feel sorry for you being stuck in this time and age
You’re a genuine open person -and that’s hard to find
I hope you find a wonderful lady to be your partner in life 🙏
I sincerely pray for his sake that he doesn't!!
Keep in mind. Dating apps were designed to generate the profit. They are made to make you pay as long as possible. It's not in their intention to quickly find you a partner so you would stop paying and delete the app.
They have a perverse incentive to keep people single and minimise the amount of long term relationships (churn rate) because that would harm their financial model.
The internet and social media has mangled this species. I look at how people younger than I am enjoy their social lives, make friends, date, spend their weekends etc and it's tragic, absolutely tragic. Look at people's reading comprehension, attention spans and how people communicate in general. I feel like I grew up in a parallel universe. I'll be eternally grateful for all I enjoyed and created on planet Earth before this wretched, addictive technology came along and deformed everything. I imagine dating today and feel really really sad for people.
What exactly is tragic?
@@deagor4578 How long have you got?
He rejects women saying they are not in his league (based on looks) and judges women for assessing on looks on apps.
Interesting LOL !!!!!!!
The point is that women on average have way higher expectations when it comes to appearance than men do. According to dating app data, women find 80% of men ugly. Men are the inverse, we find a majority of women attractive. And keep in mind the word ugly doesn't mean "slightly below average" or "alright looking". This is what data shows.
A girl who is a 3 will have been luck on a dating app than a guy who's a 7, because for the large majority of women (especially the ones who use dating apps), men are either 10's or 0's to them.
No one is saying you can't be a little picky about who you want to date, but the data shows women are significantly more picky about looks.
If this dude had a job he would have no time to entertain UA-cam viewers.
Yeah, he seems to lack that self-awareness which makes him come off rather douchey.
@@firstnamelastname7708 Girls are way more judgemental and picky when it comes to appearance, yet they lie to themselves about it. Don't hate on guys for being honest about it.
I just gotta say, this is SO VALID. Thank you for breaking this down and providing actual solutions. A lot of older generations think things are the same. My ex’s parents met at the grocery store- THE GROCERY STORE…and when I brought that up to my mom, she said, “well people used to talk back then.” Absolutely crazy. Anyway, subscribed.
I’m Gen X and I totally get it.
I hate online dating! I can only handle 3 days max and then I go away. It's soul crashing. There are so many good people that would be happy to meet each other. I dream of a major switch in the ways we people connect - like when we were kids it was so easy, so pure, so sweet. I'll just pray for this connection to come back. We need a miracle. But please don't lose hope. There is someone out there for all of us. Be kind to someone and especially yourself ❤
Nah, there ain't no hope for that anymore. It's over. I put my hope and faith in Jesus Christ instead, this world can burn for all I care.
The "major switch" is fuckable robot girlfriends. And artificial wombs / generating eggs from stem cells. It's over.
I couldn't agree with you more. I have the exactly the same problem. My parents simply couldn't understand how fucked up dating has become.
I look at the girls my age and I say absolutely no. All they do is publicize themselves every single second…what they eat…what they are wearing…what they are doing every single day….i don’t want my life publicized on instagram or Snapchat. I don’t want random people tapping into my love life and seeing what we are doing. It should be kept between me and her and we can tell our close friends and family what we are doing. Instagram and Snapchat are repurposed by women for some online competition where they are trying to keep relevant with the girls and trying to make people think they are living this fantastic life. It makes me cringe and unfortunately 99% of girls are like this so I’m probably gonna be single for a very very long time.
Facts bro, in short, women are fuckin cringe
I do know of girls that have virtually no online presence. Even if most of them do, what do you care if they are posting recipes, or pics of what they made for dinner? That's girl chat. It's always been done, but now it's moved to a digital medium, because pics are easy to be posted. A respectable girl is not going to be posting your personal business online. You can ask her not to, make a strong boundary about that, if you feel you need to. Keep in mind, that you're online posting your business and thoughts about women, while complaining that all women do this. The irony is a tad thick.
You got that spot on. Social media has been repurposed by women who have turned it into some weird social competition between themselves
it's good to see that I am not the only one who thinks like that! Ha! I don't want my private life to be broadcast all over the internet just so that some bitch can feel good about all the attention from random strangers online!
I was in a relationship with a girl like that, we went to Niagara Falls, I just was enjoying our time together hardly even touched my outdoors but her, she had to document everything for content. We clearly were not a fit and she broke off with me a few days before my birthday, I guess she didn’t want to document that
On regarding marriage, it's just a bad deal. Take the genders out of it. Why would anyone sign a legally binding contract that forces you to give up half of everything you own when the other person breaks the contract? I never understood why anyone would want to sign up for that
Therefore it might be a good idea to sign a contract on which both parties negotiated first and agreed upon so that everything is clear and equally balanced and just. People or especially men who get married on the basis of a marriage contract which would allow his wife to suck everything out of him in terms of money and even possessions and properties don't deserve to get any consolation. It's their own fault. If one is that stupid, he or she could also sign every dumb "quasi contract" offered by a scammer on a phone. Like "Hey, yeah sure you need my credit card number, yeah sure dude, oh and my bank account numbers, cool yeah lets do this. Oh and remote desktop connection, yeah why not and so on..... :)
You can only hope it's "only" half....
@@mishmash9797 Pre-nups have basically been shown to be worthless unless both the husband and the wife get independent legal advice EVERY YEAR and update the pre-nup each year too. Wife gets it all. End of.
The ONLY way now is putting your assets in a trust that you control.
@@loveleyday Well, here where I live, Austria, a small country in the middle of Europe, everything can be set up in a way that makes it clear. There is no chance of deception afterwards once it is signed. When it comes to purchases and investments it might also be a good solution just to keep account of everything being bought and acquired by him and her on behalf of the family, because if it comes to a divorce, everyone knows what they own and which items, furniture and so on can be taken with them. I don't see any other way than that. It's the only approach to make everything equal and to avoid having quarrels during the process of divorce about whether he bought the bed or she, like 15 years ago....
Thanks for being so honest and explaining to us older crowd how bad it is in dating and having good relationships. I see so many with air pods in their ears walking on sidewalks, on the bus, and in the subway, etc. Even at a family reunion, many were looking at their cell phones. It was so sad. I'm a 52 years old man who grew up without all the tech we have now. I wasn't afraid to approach a girl back in the day. There wasn't a profile to look at. You just went up and asked a girl out. God bless you, my young friend! I wish you well to meet a special lady and your brother, also.
I'm with my wife since 2000 (she was 16, I was 18). I don't think I would be able to find a date in 2024 :)) I would probably be the "creep" that approached you and you would hold your bag tight, thinking I'm going to rob you or something. If my wife left me, I would probably die alone.
I just turned 30 and I feel you man, the people at my age are generally switching to the isolation mindset too.
And that creates anxiety and depression!