How to Respond to Toxic People (God's Way) + LIVE Q&A
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- Опубліковано 15 гру 2021
- Do you ever wonder how some people have the perfect response to someone's toxic behavior while you lose your cool and then stew in the guilt?
In this LIVE stream we're talking about how to respond to toxic people God's way.
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I'm married to a toxic man for nearly 42 years . I feel very trapped and dependent. I'm 63 years old. I've just learned of this narcissist personality about one year ago . I'm a born again believer for about 37 years . I pray for help and direction. 🙏🕊
Leave him! You don’t have to divorce if you feel that that’s wrong, but I think a separation is in order for your own health and sanity.
I can relate. 44 years for me. All give and he just takes and takes and never gives. I’m grateful that God finally opened my eyes to my codependency on this narcissistic toxic man that never loved me, but only loved himself. It’s hard to come to terms with having a spouse that could care less about me and my needs because he is ALWAYS looking to his own interests. I made the mistake of thinking everybody thinks the way I do, empathetically.
🙏🙏🙏💖
You should try a trial separation. You can bet he's cheated. No doubt. Your still young, relatively speaking. I support you. God wants you at peace.
Bless your heart, I will have you in my prayers and ask God that he send you strength to overcome this situation and beautiful times for the rest of your life ❤️ You are still you no matter what you’ve been through.
I divorced my bullying narcissist husband at 58 after a long marriage. I am 63 and live in peace. The Lord has never failed me and he won’t fail you!
Me too!
Good for you ❤
Thank you 🙏🏽
Amen!
How did you get away? I have a friend whose malignant narc husband is causing her so much pain.
1.Just walk away and let the healing process begin.
2.Forgive yourself for trusting them.
3.Learn a lesson from this trauma.
Life is way too precious to waste on toxic people. Make your life beautiful again 😊
Thank you Kris-the Lord brought you to me for education and enlightenment so that I’d know and I thank Him! You are so on point!! I Love you 😘 and I Support you! Keep going-
That’s really beautiful advice ❤
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I ask God to forgive me for trusting them, or believing their lies or deception. I feel like I didn't run away fast enough. Or asking for forgiveness from God about being in fear, about what would happen if I stood up to them. I feel really bad when I think about all the mean and wicked things they did and NO ONE came to help me or get away. NO ONE would even talk about it. I resent them for their absence of help.
Just found your channel. Cried and cried to hear a Christian understand what I’ve been through the last 39 yrs. I lost my health. I lost my kids. I lost my mind and almost lost my heart. And my husband continues to torment me. Your prayer was powerful. Thank you.
My heart goes out to you! Keep listening and be blessed. ❤🙏🏽☝🏽
You’re not alone! I’m trapped in it for now as well. Everyday is a battle. It’s like waking up next to Satan himself. Pray everyday without ceasing. Ask Jesus to fill you up with the holy spirit and cover you in the protective armor of God. Let’s all pray for each other that we are covered so they cannot continuing sucking our life force.
Losing everything could mean something much more than just relationship issues. Look at what happened to Job. It could be your time to go through the refiner's fire. Many Christians have not been there yet. It's the darkEST night of the soul, but also a HUGE LEAP into Faith and Blessings (on the other side of the tests). I have this experience in this lifetime. It will cause your old self to deconstruct and then reconstruct into your new higher self. It is extremely liberating while also extremely painful. Keep seeking God's face. He's bringing you somewhere you never thought you could go, and only He can bring you there. Just keep in mind that absolutely NO ONE will be there for you. You will be alone (meaning minus any human help). That part of the journey is one of solitude and much reflection , going inward. You will be sent MANY tests, one right after the other, and your Spirit will be open to truly seeing your enemies, inward and outward. You'll never be the same, which is THE point. Everyone will get to experience this transformation, just not necessarily in this lifetime. It's a complete blessing but feels like a huge curse. I am convinced that if one can understand the point of Jesus and the meaning of the story of Job, one has everything needed to complete the mission. God Bless you !!! It's TRULY ALL GOOD. 💥💕✝️💕💥
Losing everything could mean something much more than just relationship issues. Look at what happened to Job. It could be your time to go through the refiner's fire. Many Christians have not been there yet. It's the darkEST night of the soul, but also a HUGE LEAP into Faith and Blessings (on the other side of the tests). I have this experience in this lifetime. It will cause your old self to deconstruct and then reconstruct into your new higher self. It is extremely liberating while also extremely painful. Keep seeking God's face. He's bringing you somewhere you never thought you could go, and only He can bring you there. Just keep in mind that absolutely NO ONE will be there for you. You will be alone (meaning minus any human help). That part of the journey is one of solitude and much reflection , going inward. You will be sent MANY tests, one right after the other, and your Spirit will be open to truly seeing your enemies, inward and outward. You'll never be the same, which is THE point. Everyone will get to experience this transformation, just not necessarily in this lifetime. It's a complete blessing but feels like a huge curse. I am convinced that if one can understand the point of Jesus and the meaning of the story of Job, one has everything needed to complete the mission. God Bless you !!! It's TRULY ALL GOOD. 💥💕✝️💕💥
@@ashleynicole9423
I Pray You Are Making Plans To Get Out Of That Environment Soon!!
God Bless You On Your Journey!! ✝️
One thing I am learning is to stop looking at others as the problem. When I look back over my life I have to acknowledge my responsibility for so many things I did wrong. Too many times all we do is point the finger at others and stop seeing what we do. The only person I can change is myself. When I no longer allow the other person to trigger me they have no power over me. I wish I had known my triggers so many years ago. But I can't go back, I can only go forward. God bless everyone.
I am working now on my personal inner inventory. It's extremely difficult living in the same space with another. 😢
Yes, I remember bragging years ago that when I finally left my husband I would send out Re-birth announcements as if I would be cleansed or freed from an albatross. All these years later, he has passed and I have not had a mature relationship; I don't even feel like an adult. I am getting ready to do an inventory, too, like a fourth step.
We do have to take responsibility and stop pointing the finger, although I do try to recall how I was parented and how that has affected me and my search for emotional health.
Thank you for sharing.
@@kellyh5250 Thank you for sharing.
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Just left a job. I was bullied by a toxic coworker. Management supported her because she is very organized and a highly productive employee. Just walked away and hoping God opens another workplace door very soon.
I've been through that. I hope you found new employment. Don't put up with that
@@diamondgirl7997 Thank you! ❤️
@@cmsbeth You are not shure, that you will find a better place
You only were bullied, because of you‘re better than her.
Bigger talent, faster, nicer and so on.
How did it go?
I’m going through that same exact thing right now. How did it go? I’m considering leaving as well, but it’s a great job. Thinking that it might not be worth staying though. Hope you’re doing well 👍
Have a schizophrenic daughter who is delusional and blames me for all her delusions. I normally just ignore until I blow my lid. Then feel guilty for handling it that way. I pray in Jesus name he redeems my daughter and breaks our curses to heal us.
I too had a Daughter who blamed me for everything. I Prayed for her and myself for years. We now have a good relationship, Praise the Lord! I stopped letting her words get to me, and gave them to the Lord. I started Reading more Bible every day. We now meet on Zoom once a week with her sisters for a Bible study. That has brought all of us closer together and to God. God is good even when we don't deserve it.Go to God.
My mom was schizophrenic, I also just worked with one. Has she tried Haldol? Not sure if spelled right, also heard it referred to as something with “dog” in it. I know it sounds weird but I’m sure her doc would know what I’m referring to. I heard lots of good stuff from people on that medication, we know it’s the hardest thing to get them to stay on their meds. Also, many doctors say people with this is extremely low in D3 vitamin buy you can’t take D3 without K2 and most don’t know that. It was the only time my mom was the happiest when she was receiving her vitamin injections. I know it definitely had something to do with it!! Almost every med failed her but receiving those vitamins made a HUGE difference in her life after being a guinea pig for several years.
Mental illness is another situation. Your daughter is capable of respect in spite of her illness though. You have the right to let her know she's being disrespectful. But please try to find help for yourself too.
@@user-dn7pc4ew8y This is spot on. People with mental illness are still responsible for their behavior. I know that because I'm mentally ill, and I had to learn how to take responsibility for myself. People weren't putting up with my bad behavior.
Ephesians 6:10 - be strong in the lord and his mighty power. Put on the full armor of god ❤❤❤
There is a difference between speaking ill of an abusive parent and simply speaking the truth about what they’ve said or done.
Its amazing how they can say "I love you" if someone loves you, they wouldn't treat you that way. They only look out for themselves
Isn't that the truth!
So much wisdom, Kris. Thank you for confirming that staying in Christ and choosing forgiveness over contending keeps one in peace
That is so beautiful. Jesus transforms what we bring to Him, turning our weaknesses into strengths
Silence is its own language🌟
And it’s says plenty.
Silence isn’t petty. It isn’t immature. Even though there will be people who try to tell you it is. Manipulative guilt trippers, mostly.
Sometimes it IS an answer. An answer saying, you are more interested in preserving your dignity and energy, rather than engaging with a toxic person.
@@COD4JESSE Co-sign both of you. People who tell you it's petty don't know or remember that sometimes Jesus said nothing. I can picture him stooping and writing in the dirt and I giggle because the other people's likely reactions are funny and because Jesus is just cool. I love Him.
I just went silent on a narcissist. He was my partner’s son my sister is a narc so I know all the signs. I lost my partner and her son the whole time of her transition he kept being toxic. I went ice cold it’s the only way to go with them.
@@debb789ok, that's what I am doing, but the tears won't stop. How do you ignore pain?
pain is our biggest teacher. It is best to sit with it. Please don't hold it, let it visit, feel it, understand it, and then let it go. It may visit again, and go through the same process. If you hold onto it, or don't allow yourself to feel it and sit with it, you will find it comes out later in life, and possibly via health. The tears can come. Let them. Then get into some positive fuel from God. Ask the Holy Spirit to provide music to sooth. That is often an amazing salve to this kind of pain. God bless you. I am also a victim of narcissistic abuse. You are not alone.@@talulatree5297
I cannot get over the grief of not having the parents & sibling that I wish I had because of narcissism. I continually mourn and don't know how to get past it. I'm so envious of people that have close families. 😢
You are not alone. After realizing my own family’s toxic dynamic, i’ve had to grieve not only my connection with them but also the person i became under those circumstances. Not to mention the challenge of relearning how to navigate those relationships. God has plans for us so grand that the enemy had to start at the root to try and turn our hearts to stone. I pray your envy can transform into the peace of God that surpasses all understanding 🙏 He has a purpose & a place for you! Don’t get lost in the wilderness, my friend! Don’t lose hope! We have to learn how to let God’s love move us so we can rejoice in our trials. 1 Peter 1:7 says that our trials of faith are much more precious than gold. Our familial struggles are part of that. Praying for you 💛
@@lalalaurenmae Thank you so much!!!
@@rebekahsommers4744 all Glory to God!! 💛🙌
@@lalalaurenmae Absolutely! He is GOOD! Already on my healing journey. 😊
Already just listening I can relate and needed this!
I've been soooo verrry discouraged dealing with my 2nd round of being married to a very toxic narc!
Exactly what your saying, I sadly live it daily!
And I've gotten judged from other Christians, when they lack discernment and they actually have been turned on me and believe him instead!
I've been praying and prafor Jesus to break me free, which is also going to mean finances.
I pray for all of you going through the same or similar. 💝🙏❤
So Thank you!
living with a alcoholic/narcissist has been hell. all i have is my silence and numbness to the pain he's caused me. my emotional state is beyond repair. at this point i am an empty shell 😢
Very helpful. Toxic people can't be trusted or respected. Instead, be AWARE of their tricks & false blame. Keep a safe distance as they care more about themselves most & will throw you under the bus to protect themselves.
So true
It’s amazing how the Lord will direct you to a particular video for the time that you need it. When you said the battle is not yours it’s the Lord, it was confirmation to what the Lord revealed to me. Thank you my friend for allowing the Holy Spirit to lead you!❤
Amen!
Amen 🙏
Amen
Your so right
It truly is amazing. God knows what we need❤
Married to a gaslighting narcissist for 51 years..am finally free..still recovering..so much more to yhis story..cant afford counseling..love these podcasts..they help me immensely..thank you..
There is free counseling and there is a Christian counseling service I went through and it was free. Let me know if you would like the information.
🙏🏻 Terry, God Bless! You must be a Saint… 51 Years! Forgive & Know that your Spouse’s Toxic Behavior was caused from their Childhood Trauma! 🙏🏻💛🕊🍃
@@christinamorales6887Please let us know of the free counseling. 🙏 Thank you!
@@christinamorales6887 info on counseling please.
That's along time, did he die or did u leave?
Thank you! This very helpful. Even Jesus walked away from toxic people, that’s what I needed to hear.
My ex-husband's attitude was ," if you cross me, I'll destroy you". And he tried. He almost did. But I got 1,000 miles away from him by the grace and mercy of God.
Constantly forgiving, pleasing, and things settle down and they are at it again. I am an empath and am tired of abuse. I have learned for my peace of mind to sever ties it took over 20 years to do something about it.
Thank you for this. Confirmation.
I am too. I’m tired of decades of abuse.
❤Amen 🙏
God created SEASONS. Every thing has an EXPIRATION DATE for every thing in this universe.
Some of us may be like elephants 🐘 in a circus 🎪 not knowing, we are grown, big enough to stump on the tent ⛺️
Good for you girl.
Yes absolutely correct, feeling caught in that trap and then apologising for my reactions. It kinda reminds me of that saying: “Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.”
Amen! We all need to heal. Be set free and be at peace.
I have already stopped reacting to toxic people. I felt powerful
I left my husband after 31 years of narcissistic abuse, I don't love him anymore and I look at him in pure disgust. I had to go no contact . He is trying to control me 2000 miles away. Prayers 💞🙏❣💞🙏for all whom are going through this 🙏🙌❤
Good for you praise god❤
Nobody can control you unless you allow them to.
I want to leave myself but financially waiting for SS so I can decide. But I feel so caught up in not sinning. I’m supposed to shine my light and he will come around. So all my fellow born again Christians say. But I am not at peace, feeling if I leave I’m breaking my covenant but I stay at give only to be corrected told how to talk walk and do. I can’t take another moment. He’s not emotional at all. Not God fearing, he’s does not care at all for me or even sees me. He is over bearing , all knowing, uncaring man. Who loves me, what a joke. I battle for my own grace, feeling like Jesus is not happy with me. He’s toxic and doesn’t see me at all. I’m so unhappy. I don’t get comfort after my moms death no comfort no companion at all, cold??????? I’m at a lose, I have let go and given up, I just let him be the unkind person he is. I never thought he’d be so unkind. It’s sad. My grown children just want me to hang in and save him. He is beyond this, doesn’t want to be saved. I’m feeling like I’m may not be Raptured bc I want to get out of this turmoil. I’m in pain and sadness, I am getting eaten by his lack of being my loving husband. I am at such loss, I pray but feel stuck.
I know exactly how you feel. I have the same type of husband. God help us.
My husband asked me for a divorce on September 10th, 2023. Today is May 2, 2024. Our anniversary of 22 years will be in 4 days on the 6th of May. Once, I gave him the go-ahead 2 file because he claims he's getting older and wants to have a baby, somehow, he has become confused. I simply took my power back from him by setting him free without a fight! I am nearly at the end of this phase of toxicity. God is so gracious in how he is gently making a way of peaceful escape for me. God is not the author of confusion and I thank Him for His peace over understanding 🙏🏽
In 2008, I listened when the Holy Spirit said, “Get out and don’t go back.” Thank you, Kris for exposing the work of the enemy because toxic people are everywhere, and Christians are not defenseless in this spiritual warfare. Get in the Word and learn to listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit!
Excellent teaching!
Thank you I just dodged my first bullet. It felt so good didn't respond to a comment used Proverbs wisdom. Went for a walk in the yard. And I feel fantastic. I'm hoping I can just continue thank you for your wisdom. I've been doing narcissist all my life. And you're the first person that really gave me words of wisdom because they come from the word of God.
I own that I give people a high standing before they have earned it and then I'm disappointed in them
So thankful to find biblically based videos on this topic!
Amen♥️🙏
Awesome information and I am listening and going to heed these warnings
Thank you. Some of the toxicity comes from religious people who are quick to use the Bible as a weapon. This is very helpful.
@@clarnicpsu05 Agree, and I think such people are often unhealed still, instable, hol´ding on to what they think is biblical. I too can do such things unfortunately,although itis better to knowabout it. Just need stress reduction, sleep and meaningful social belonging to be able to really incorporate change..
Amen 🙏🏾
“They are not just affecting us they are infecting us…”- wowwww yes 🙌
Thank you for serving God by serving us this wisdom ❤️
I've been in the pressure cooker to win time to spend 12 years 14 years dating a narcissist
I sleep too much to avoid him
I am always caught in that trap
Praise God
Yes they are inhabited by parasitic demons.
I am so glad I learned Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud’s book and taking a two month classes. You can’t change people no matter what you do, no matter how much you love it it’s never enough it’s never good enough. The best thing I ever did after 34 years was get out. The only regret I have is that I didn’t do it sooner but I still have half of my life to live, and I will never let anyone verbally emotionally mentally financially exactly abuse me again, and you shouldn’t either the Bible says if you rescue and angry man, you’re only gonna have to do it again.
A Master, not a slave. Amen!
I know a woman that is treated so poorly by her narcisst husband. They even go to church and he cheats on her with gay men and trans. She is constantly crying and she wont leave him. I had to leave the friendship. I pray for them. Some people need to be left in Gods hand, and just pray. I was actually getting PTSD from watching my friend cry every other day. I was literally getting infected by both of them! Counselors told her to leave him and she wont. She is even financially set from inheritance yet still stays with this man that cheats, belittles and constantly lies to her, and he doesnt live with her. They have separate homes. God says to Guard your heart, God is RIGHT 100%!❤
Yep, I have had many narcissists in my life, they always leave us feeling as though there is no way to make them listen or explain well enough that they understand what you are saying. I can honestly say that I have not reacted badly when attacked by these people because of the shock that sent me into embarrassment and silence. It is possible the Holy Spirit kept me silent so those who attacked had nothing to accuse me of doing or saying.
Oh yes yes yes I agree……soooooo many times I kept my peace and said nothing and I was so happy afterwards! Nothing to take back…..I had nothing to be sorry for! Sometimes you gotta just rise above it all! But you are also right some of it could be shock….but I have never been sorry for keeping my mouth shut!
The thing about staying silent is that it takes away their supply, takes away their power - they hope to get a reaction and by giving none, you, as the targeted victim, become boring to the narcissist and they will need to find another source of supply. When you reach a point of complete understanding and can control your emotions and literally not care what they say or do, that is freedom from the narcissist.
Yes i do agree....
Of late i hav got in to the core of the problem..
God you are my peace You are my defender.. Lord fight my battle and save me and my children from such narcisstic people...
Everything is under your souvereign arrangement..
Help me how to get out of those entanglements by your discerning Spirit
I relate. My calm response to a raging friend served to further validate her irrational toxic behavior as it was displayed before others who witnessed it firsthand. When we respond in a Godly manner in such situations, it testifies to the indwelling Holy Spirit being in control in contrast to the blatant unrighteous toxic behavior of the other person. Matthew 7:15-20 warns about false prophets and us knowing them by their fruits, but those who are professing Christians whose lives do not yield the fruits of the Holy Spirit could also fall into this category. I’ve had to learn that not everyone who professes to be a Christian has an actual relationship with God through Jesus Christ, as many people have “religion” only. Unfortunately, these can end up being some of the most toxic people you’ll encounter in churches. 2 Timothy 3:5 talks about such people…”having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away!” 😕
Amen! I learned your silence is louder than your yell! Stay encouraged and keep holding your peace and allow God to fight your battles. 🙏🏽
Never knew till after 30 years of marriage.This is so helpful. Thank God for your videos. I prayed and asked God to reveal to me what I'm dealing with and to lead me to someone who would share on this subject from a Christian prospective and God whispered the word NARCISSIST and then he led me to your videos. It's horrifying, I'm trusting God for deliverance and healing for myself and daughters.🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for so graciously cheering us on to be set free to move forward in all that God is calling us to do! You’re not alone. We love and appreciate you Kris! Bless God
Was just praying just now in my quiet time with the Lord and literally asking Him for wisdom as I'm currently living in a perpetual pressure cooker....then I see this video.....thank you Lord for answering my prayer
Denise Doray: did the video help you ease the pressure?
Yes, the Pressure Cooker eventually explodes and it's exhausting trying to make things work 24 hours a day when your other half doesn't put in the same energy.
I do the same thing with my family and problems...I pray for the wisdom, courage and strength to cope with the issue. King Solomon prayed for wisdom and the Lord gave it to him. Amen!
That’s exactly what happened to be …
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Know your triggers. Once I understood what was happening, that I wasn’t crazy, I started my journey to learn how to live the best I could in my situation. Know your triggers is a key part of my journey. So very helpful to me. Thank you. Not the life I expected, not the relationship I want but it is what it is. God is helping me.
Same, so important to know yourself
Not only know your triggers, but heal your trauma. Then the triggers will fade away.
@@InspiredRenegadeI like that
Agreed. Know your triggers
@@InspiredRenegade How do you heal your traumas?
Giving up on people used to make me feel guilty, like I didn’t give them sufficient chances to make shifts that would actually bless THEM! Finally accepting that some people really don’t feel the need to up level their behavior is freeing for this person who forgets need to feel guilty for putting her energies toward fixing & rescuing her own self. Ahhh. That feels so relieving.😅 Thank you!
Thank you Kris for continuing to keep God at the centre of your message! Without Christ we are nothing!
AMEN!✝️
Australia - Yes, in a 10 year spat with a Narcissist. I fell for a quiet, well educated, senior man who was charming. Even tho he sometimes attacked etc., I plodded on thinking I could change things, until one day of no peace or privacy - I lost it and became a screaming shrew, I had lost myself in his slow destruction of me as a human being. I suddenly walked out. It took me a long time to realise how I was manipulated when the word Narcissist began to be used and explained. 👀😣
I just walked out of a conversation with a toxic person. It was a no-win situation as I responded to the acuser. I am in another room and turned on tube tube videos. Kris's video popped up. I really think God is affirming who I am and telling me to listen... this is not your fault. I am thankful. Lord, help me respond in the future with this Godly advice.
My problem is that I cannot perceive how someone could be so devious!!
I just found out thru your teaxhings what has been wrong with my marriage all this time. That is, I've been married to a Narcissit for 37 years not known that was the issue. I always thought I was the misfit, the twisted and awkward one. Thanks you, Lord Jesus for responding my prayers. I know now everything will be straightened up.
Thank you for your channel, I was married to a narcissistic for 17 years. Praise the Lord I am out, 3 years now.
Still in process of healing.
Christ is my strength
Praise God….Amen.
17 years for me too .. divorced & remarried to a wonderful godly man . Never thought I’d be here .. still pinch myself. God bless you ❤
I disengage. I stop the conversation or I shut up and walk away. When it’s not possible to walk away the power of silence was taught to me by my grandmother may she Rest In Peace. She was a very spirit filled Christian woman and very wise. I also mentally in my mind rebuke the spirit in that person attacking me I do it in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. All demons must depart at his name.
Borderline personality means boundaries have to be set even if they are parent! Obey vs honor ...good distinction!
When my sister was dying, I helped her. She verbally and emotionally abused me. I walked away fir a month and went back. She had little time left. I wanted to do what I could to have a good ending.
Oh yes! Toxic people pushed me right over the edge recently, and the worst is their twisted smile when they know they have done their damage! I was gracious but made myself sick!
Tell them GOD BLESS YOU. If they claim to be a Christian, they understand what you are doing and it ticks them off...
Romans 12:14 NIV
Bless those who persecute you; bless and do NOT curse.
Acts 3:26 NIV... LastVerse...
Gives meaning of GOD BLESS YOU
26 When GOD raised up his servant, he sent him first to you to BLESS YOU by turning each of you from your wicked ways.”
I can totally understand that smirk of delight on their face. It’s their supply to see us argue back or defend ourselves!
Amen to that
Amen
I’m married to someone who doesn’t take responsibility for hurting me and continues to hurt me with trigger words on purpose. I have PTSD from what he did and regardless if I tell him please stop countless times he keeps doing it, I do think he is gaslighting….can’t wait to go to heaven.
I have a toxic colleague today. I’m taking the decision to walk away from him. I was encourage by this channel and by this topic God bless you.
Amen , its ALL about God ... everything!!!!!
Well said Kris...
Accept or reject, cant serve two masters... serve sin or serve God!
Jeaus christ died for our sins. By FAITH Believe and accept his gift of grace/ unmerrited favor.
I am learning to recognize the “triggers” and resist responding to them because when I do, he wins. This is exactly what he wants me to do. I am stronger and smarter than him because I have God on my side, helping me battle this evil and wickedness in high places (Ephesians 6:12). I have to keep reminding myself that “The battle belongs to the Lord.”🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I was married to a narcissist for 15yrs, divorced & he has done everything to strip & hurt me. The healing process is difficult but freedom has come. Thank God for setting me free from his demonic influences & torment in my life.
I am not required to fix everything and everyone. Step away from toxicity. It doesnt require words or a reaction. Learn to love and trust in yourself.
Thank you cries the whole time
Doing Bible studies on fear of man (as opposed to fearing God) cured me of being an empath! And lots of prayer too of course!
Same
Cured ? Being an empath isn’t a choice . It’s like saying I cured myself of compassion
@@liabeachy I think you were programmed to take other peoples feeling more seriously than your own, and to constantly be looking out for their moods. I bet you had a very needy or volatile parent.
OMG this is absolutely what I'm literally dealing with in my life right now on so many levels and I'm definitely mentally emotionally spiritually and psychologically exhausted
Omg...so sad
Me 2 😢🙏🤺
Me x3
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We pray for eachother to God in the name of Yahshuah.
Me 5. Literally last week! I really need this video, thank you Jesus.
❤❤❤❤AMEN! 2024 IS A GOD DESIGNED YESR!
New. I remove them from my life.
Was raised by a narc, and caught in many narc relationships through my life being stuck in the sick cycle, but did some intense recovery around it 10 yrs ago.. upon coming to Christ 4 yrs ago, I misinterpreted what a Christian would do and let down my boundaries. Your videos are helping me re-establish what I learned with a Christ centered focus. Thank you so much ❤
Last night after confusion with my neighbour from 4 houses further, when I woke up God spoke to me: YOU ARE NOT HER BAG-CARRIER. I heard it loud and clear. I could never have invented this myself. I was feeling guilty, until I heard these words. It completelety changed my view
This is my life 😔
Praying for more consistent control over my tongue
Me too! Praying for you 🙏
Yes, some people just know how to make me respond in a way that doesn't reflect my true values... They are empowered by a spirit, I guess...I wish I could openly rebuke them, but that is exactly what they want...
Sometimes we stay too long around toxic people , prolonging the time they have to cause damage to our psyche. Start moving on sooner!
Amen! I am learning to die to myself and live for Christ. You cannot hurt a dead person. Getting better at it the older I get. 😊
This is very helpful. I don't like toxic people 😒
Darkness can not comprehend light. Don't waste your energy. Let go and let God.
Amen sister! "Jesus said nothing to toxic people even with the cross"
Sis Maima a Liberia was in a toxic marriage, which made me depressed, but today I am out and we'll.thanks be to God for his grace that took me through. How I wish I had met your teaching I won't have been depressed .
My beautiful earthly father passed away a week today... he was an strong man of faith and would mentor me on the Bible and becoming a better christian and showed me consistent love, I haven't seen him for 20yrs as he lives in the states, we were due to be reunited this year. Nor my Mother or her side of family have called. They are incredibly toxic , I pray God will give me the strength and protection I need to carry on and be the woman he has planned for me to be.
How are you getting more and more beautiful each day? So inspiring!
Amen. I am so glad that God lead me to you.
I am SURROUNDED by narcs, and I hate that this is my life. It makes me wonder if there are any normal people in the world: no joke. What you describe is EXACTLY what I experience every day.
I grew up without the presence of my father, my mom left the country when I was 12, me and two other siblings got separated each in a different house. Mom continued to talk to us on the phone but as I grew noticed our relationship was more and more difficult, then the realization that she is a cover narc. my ex-husband was an over narc. Needless to say there is a big hole in my life, only God has been able to help me and heal me. I still wish a had a family though, hopefully I find a man of God that I can marry that has a beautiful family that can adopt me. 🤷🏻♀️ When I see Kris I wish she was my mother 💗
Please ask God for that man and family! I am praying for you
Amen
"Grace crawled out of God slowly and beautifully from a rock, the place of the skull, the most evil location on Earth, (Golgotha) and openly displayed LOVE on the cross, fully naked and bleeding...
for his sheep. That kind of Love wins hearts." - RPM
I hope you got out! I was in the same situation, but my husband passed away. I loved him, but I couldn’t believe the peace that came back into my life.❤
I would pay top dollar for a book that gave me guidelines on how to deal with toxic people in a Biblical way!!! And I'm sure I'm not the only one. There are fields that are notoriously abusive such as teaching and nursing, there are lots of people that need this information for dealing with family members, and so on...
Please offer it in e-book form too.
:)
@@KJ-lb4tj excellent advice!!
Holy Bible is available in ebook form.
I was a Christian widow who married a wonderful Christian widower… both of us are long time members at our church which is very strong in excellent Bible teaching. I’ve been “abused” by my husband’s adult children who are a retired teacher, a retired fireman, & a retired policeman; all careers that are controlling jobs. Wow… the 3 of them feed on one another in their irrational & paranoid behaviors which are filled with anger, aggression, and un-Christian behaviors. I’ve been so very stunned, but have no desire to fight back. Thankfully, I’ve been through a so many trials prior to this time in my life that the Lord has been breaking me for years. What this woman says is absolutely correct …. I have felt overwhelmed with their mean & aggressive behaviors, and feel fearful of them. I don’t understand why they want to think the absolute worst about me at every turn…. Thankfully, one son and his wife have confessed how wrongly they’ve treated me and have very graciously asked for my forgiveness. That was the hugest blessing. I pray that I have love towards all of them, even when I’m a bit fearful.
Amen…. I truly relate to you, Kris! I too was wanting to straighten out the record with my toxic husband over the 49 yrs & 9 mos we were married before he passed away. Then, I eventually realized that he wasn’t interested in what I was saying even though he’d asked me a question…a “set-up” question. I’d go to my women’s Bible study as well as church 2 X’s on Sunday, and also many Bible classes where I’d learn what scripture said about how the LORD wanted me to live and act, and I’d read the Bible….convicted and desiring to change. I realized I must not get into verbal discussions with hubby as they always went sour somehow. As much as I tried… I’d get tripped up.
I gained years of learning the hard way…. Ugg! It seemed that hubby would up the ante and say more chaotic and caustic things. And Romans 7:15-25 was how I was doing….
@@georgiehughes4858 I understand. I can recall times when I was physically paralyzed with fear dealing with people like that. I wonder if these adult children resent someone "replacing" their biological mother. I know, in my own life, that studying Jezebels / narcissists really helped to know how to discern and deal with them. Also, the crisis fields, (police, firemen, paramedics and nurses etc.) are known to have a higher representation of dysfunctional people in them, which then further cultivates a culture of dysfunction and abuse. I found that spending a lot of time learning about these personalities from Christian sources like this video really helped. I also spend time praying scriptures before I deal with them which really helps.
"God is my defender, protector, vindicator...He says the battle belongs to Him...because of Him, when my enemies come against me one way, they flee before me seven ways...He has not given me a spirit of fear but of power and love and self-control..."
Over the years, I have found the above to be true. I went to work one day, to find the biggest bully had suddenly quit (this happened with more than one person); later another one had been suspended; another one checks her abusive behavior with me, but continues it with others in front of me; I have been suddenly delivered from two abusive family members...you get the idea.
I know the paralyzing fear abusive people can bring about. I found that forcing myself to take my focus off the abusers and focus on God and his promises continually really made sudden and surprising changes in the dynamics. I actually went to work with scripture references written on my wrist under my watch strap to help me get through the day. The point is, I found that immersing myself repeatedly in Christian teaching on the subject eventually changed everything. Whereas before I was immersed in fear, now I feel surrounded and filled with peace. All praise to Him. I would really urge you to spend as much time as you can learning Christian teachings regarding Jezebels / narcissists. It made all the difference for me.
God bless!
I have the feeling the community that is listening all have a blessing from God to be empathetic and humble . That is why we are being attacked💕This video is so helpful. Thank you!
Amen sister. I have to remind myself of this.
I have had that situation.and had to walk away from the mandatory ask God to close that door and he has. Thankyou Jesus.
My recent toxic tango, the abuser asks you to do xyz, then immediately criticize and push you away. Use rude and embarrassing, like an obedient dog getting punished for obedience to a command. It's painful. Rips my heart out. Pause, step back, go to God, true. God will pay back better than you can imagine.
I want peace so much that I'll do anything God directs me to do.
New here…once married to a malignant narcissist …horrific…my reaction at times were terrible…meltdown 20 years ago and so grateful to be alive and free having had to flee across the nation and relocate …and closer to Christ than ever❤️💕
Greater is He who is in us than he who is in the world. Thanks
Sometimes, it's just better to not respond. My mom finally defended herself. She stopped talking to him at all. He apologized. The message being that talk nice or I'll ignore you. It worked.
When I was working in Sandiego, I found myself worst version of myself... I had this feeling that something isn't right, but I didn't know what. Finally I realized I am working for toxic people, who seek my weaknesses and focus only on those , they bring out worst in you.
Its terrible when the enemy uses your kids against you ! Im learning alot Christhank you i will own up to what triggers me ans give it to Jesus 🙏🙏🙏
My grandkids have been used against me so much that they were maid to stop going to Church and now being raised in an environment that Satan has a hold of. The paternal grandmother. can't say a single sentence without saying, G. D, GDMF, FY. SO MUCH FOUL LANGUAGE AND IM AFFRAID THAT THEY will lose their respect for God each other siblings & have already turned against me. I pray about it but they are now13 & 16 from 10, & 7. Lot of water under the bridge but
Oh boy. Totally relating to what you've said & praying for you too.
Thank you! You gave me some tools to deal with a very toxic child. She manipulates everyone in the family. Thank you Holy Father for the Wisdom to deal with this spoiled child. Please deal with her disrespect. Thank you !🌹
Yes
New…
I’ve been the one that’s been made out to be the problem due to reactive abuse. Because my now ex would subtly abuse me and I’d react.
He would never take responsibility for his actions, behaviors and never would apologize.
Thank God for giving me the strength to finally walk away for good and stay away!!
You're right on point ☝️ my husband made me feel exactly 💯 💯 the way you are describing. I feel so bad and so guilty I was going crazy I thought I was a bad person until I find out that he is a narcissistic he destroyed me mentally emotionally physically. But now I remove myself and my daughter from his life. I pray God for your ministry 🙏 thank you for helping us 🙏
I hear you. Went through this with a couple of ppl. But almost lost myself recently.
I feel caught in that place all the time
People dont have that kind of power to make u feel a certain way its us allowing these feelings to rise up
Because of having to deal with narcissists my entire life NOW I’m constantly on guard against any narcissistic behavior against me.
The joy of the Lord is my strength, thank you for you teaching, Holy Spirit answering my prayer 🙏 sent this message praying to be released from toxic husband 🙏
Olivia my prayers for you. Lord Jesus Christ son of God have mercy on us. Protect our sister Olivia from all evil in the name of Jesus Amen
Same prayer here🙏
Kris, You could write an entire book based on this one particular video AND THE VIEWER COMMENTS! Tons of help and encouragement!
I’m pretty sure I am a toxic person magnet! Semi-retired from fitness industry, specialized in training overweight women. (Non traditional exercisers) toxic ppl DEMAND special treatment, lots of blame and excuses. Draining and exhausting
When someone struggles & tries… to trigger me, I just tell myself that I will 🙏 PRAY for them!!!
I need to start telling them in the moment that I will PRAY 🙏 for them & see what their reaction is.
✝️🙏🕊️💜😊😃😁🥰
I'm so glad I found your minstry last night. It is already giving me hope.
The same here, sister. I feel equipped to handle toxic situations and the enemy.
I just bumped into her today 🎉🎉🎉
I found myself defending myself with my older sister and trying to prove to her that I was not what she was saying about me in her confused thinking. Finally I realized a person who says hurtful things is hurting inside and I cannot heal her. I finally realized I was not what she said, I couldn't prove to her who I was but I needed to know who I am in my heart. I chose to stop talking with her , I set my boundaries and I pray that she get professional help for her wounds that she projects out on to others. I forgave her so many times but realized she can't help herself but I can help myself by not being a whipping post or scapegoat for her wounds. We love each other from a distance and I feel so relieved that I am taking care of myself now.
God is great, God is good.