Dude. You are amazing. I’m also a 478. My best friend is a 7. Been in a dark night of the soul for about 4 years now. Some mornings she would shown up to my house, play the song “Do you wanna build a snowman?” and slide it under my bedroom door to get me out of the bed. I’ve found googly eyes on many things in my house. Lamps, ketchup bottles, the dogs butt… 7s are the best for pulling us out of ourselves. Was excited to see you have a video on 4s and 7s! The setting of a beautiful background along with the moments of an uplifting band playing down below is the perfect metaphor for the 4 and 7 relationship. 😌
Damn, yeah, that band playing is so 4 and 7 together it’s amazing. Thanks for reminding me of the beautiful combo there. As a person familiar with the dark night I appreciate your struggle and the need for good friends to help us with a hand up. And, thanks for telling me this video meant something to you, it helps me keep going with these. We out here doing it 🙌🏼 Drew
The Milton quote from Paradise Lost has been my favorite since I read it in high school and I've carried it with me as probably one of the only things I got out of all of my English classes (which I hated, as I was much more of a math/science guy). Happy to have heard you bring it into this lesson. “The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven..” ― John Milton, Paradise Lost
So helpful! You’re awesome. Related to “practice death”…it’s said among traditional healers (curanderos) that those that have suffered severe illnesses or difficulties early on are often those meant to become healers/shamans. They experience that thin line between physical life and death and thus have a broader awareness of reality that helps to heal others. 🙏🏼🔔🕊
Such a well done, heartfelt, and thoughtful video. One of my adult sons is a 7, and so is my adult bonus daughter. Two wonderful people, and we get along so well. I heard someone (maybe it was Chestnut or Palmer?) say that in childhood, 4s and 7s look a lot alike- I can see that. The only time I do not enjoy some 7s (not the two previously mentioned) is when they take my deep and sometimes morose observations and immediately “silver lining” them. (Thanks to Brene Brown for that term!) Sometimes I need that, for sure. Too much of it feels like a parent correcting me, and really I am only making an observation, and my observations can be valid. it’s spiritual bypassing, too. A little reframing can be helpful. Just not on every statement made. 😂
So sorry for the delay Joanna. Glad this helped and thanks so much for watching and digging deep! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out Drew
Beautifully how you explained the circle of rebirth, that can develop through the depth of the 4 and the lightness of the 7. More wholeness for everyone:).
Hey Drew, I just love the way you go deep on the personality types. It's so rare too find such clarifying descriptions. I imagine how tough it can be on you as a 4 to go so deep on the 4 traits. I believe I am also a 478 but I am still very confused about being a 4 or a 7. I identify a lot with the gluttony, not so much with the envy, but I am very emotional and withdrawing (to do my own projects, read, go for walks in nature, write, ohh well...). I don't face fear and frustration but I do face pain... I am very positive in social situations... I need more work to understand myself complete. This videos you share help a lot, so a big thank you from Portugal!!
So sorry for the delaymy Portuguese friend. Glad this helped and thanks so much for watching and digging deep! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out Drew
So sorry for the delay. Glad this helped and thanks so much for watching and digging deep! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out Drew
This video is so artistically done. Love the ending on birdsong. I thought I was a 9 but pretty sure I'm 794. Having the capability to explore the peaks and valleys can be such an internal struggle, but I think it's also a gift! And thank you for sharing that with us.
Thanks Ricardo. They aren’t easy sometimes to draw the right connections but when I put those pieces together it really helps me integrate. Glad it’s doing the same for you 🙌🏼 Drew
I hope it doesn’t brutally disappoint 😂 It’s filmed in Switzerland where I am right now hiding in the alps for a month, so at least you have that as your backdrop Appreciate you Jasmin Drew
@@drewnewkirk No way;)😅, it's an interesting topic anyway:).And it's always interesting to hear another person thoughts about a topic. Greetings from Germany
I (a type 7) just started dating with a type 4 and he is the most wonderful person I known (to me). Enneagram is defo a great tool for me to understand him clearer and deeper. I have only one problem with him so far which is one of those days that he feel down... I want to know what exactly I should do for him? Should I leave him alone, or should I surprise him with small thing like show up with nice foods, or call him, or text him regularly etc.. what exactly a type 4 wants when they feel blue?! it happened twice so far (2 months relationship) and I sort of leave him alone but text/sent short vdo clip to check on him ... is that enough or too much?!
Ask him what he wants. Don’t make this a guess, if he can’t tell you then he’s gotta work on identifying what he wants when he’s down. I’ve personally been down for a few days, I can tell you I just want to be understood and not fixed until it passes. But part of my job is to have some knowledge of what I want in those moments so im not overly confusing or complicated to my people. Hop that helps. Love that you are trying to make it work and understand him, that is very honoring in its own right. Tell me how it goes Drew
So sorry for the delay. Glad this helped and thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out Drew
So sorry for the delay. This made me laugh… thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out Drew
Dude. You are amazing. I’m also a 478. My best friend is a 7. Been in a dark night of the soul for about 4 years now. Some mornings she would shown up to my house, play the song “Do you wanna build a snowman?” and slide it under my bedroom door to get me out of the bed. I’ve found googly eyes on many things in my house. Lamps, ketchup bottles, the dogs butt… 7s are the best for pulling us out of ourselves. Was excited to see you have a video on 4s and 7s! The setting of a beautiful background along with the moments of an uplifting band playing down below is the perfect metaphor for the 4 and 7 relationship. 😌
Damn, yeah, that band playing is so 4 and 7 together it’s amazing. Thanks for reminding me of the beautiful combo there. As a person familiar with the dark night I appreciate your struggle and the need for good friends to help us with a hand up. And, thanks for telling me this video meant something to you, it helps me keep going with these. We out here doing it 🙌🏼
Drew
The Milton quote from Paradise Lost has been my favorite since I read it in high school and I've carried it with me as probably one of the only things I got out of all of my English classes (which I hated, as I was much more of a math/science guy). Happy to have heard you bring it into this lesson.
“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven..”
― John Milton, Paradise Lost
It’s a very fitting one indeed. Gotta love when an author finds the words to just nail down our conflicted heart and head
As a 4 I always related to “too weird to live too rare to die” haha. Also have found “young heart old soul” feels very on point.
I can relate to both for sure!
Drew
So helpful! You’re awesome. Related to “practice death”…it’s said among traditional healers (curanderos) that those that have suffered severe illnesses or difficulties early on are often those meant to become healers/shamans. They experience that thin line between physical life and death and thus have a broader awareness of reality that helps to heal others. 🙏🏼🔔🕊
Pure gold! Thanks so much!
Such a well done, heartfelt, and thoughtful video. One of my adult sons is a 7, and so is my adult bonus daughter. Two wonderful people, and we get along so well. I heard someone (maybe it was Chestnut or Palmer?) say that in childhood, 4s and 7s look a lot alike- I can see that.
The only time I do not enjoy some 7s (not the two previously mentioned) is when they take my deep and sometimes morose observations and immediately “silver lining” them. (Thanks to Brene Brown for that term!) Sometimes I need that, for sure. Too much of it feels like a parent correcting me, and really I am only making an observation, and my observations can be valid. it’s spiritual bypassing, too. A little reframing can be helpful. Just not on every statement made. 😂
I’m with you on all accounts! Especially the silver lining stuff, that’s when it’s the hardest to be around them. Thanks for watching 🙌🏼
Hearing that idea of a 4 with heaviness/negativity in the heart and positivity in the mind helped me fuller understand my dualities Thank you!
So sorry for the delay Joanna. Glad this helped and thanks so much for watching and digging deep! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out
Drew
Beautifully how you explained the circle of rebirth, that can develop through the depth of the 4 and the lightness of the 7. More wholeness for everyone:).
It is a beautiful dance they dance together when the synergy is right
Hey Drew, I just love the way you go deep on the personality types. It's so rare too find such clarifying descriptions. I imagine how tough it can be on you as a 4 to go so deep on the 4 traits. I believe I am also a 478 but I am still very confused about being a 4 or a 7. I identify a lot with the gluttony, not so much with the envy, but I am very emotional and withdrawing (to do my own projects, read, go for walks in nature, write, ohh well...). I don't face fear and frustration but I do face pain... I am very positive in social situations... I need more work to understand myself complete. This videos you share help a lot, so a big thank you from Portugal!!
So sorry for the delaymy Portuguese friend. Glad this helped and thanks so much for watching and digging deep! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out
Drew
This was revolutionary. Thank you!!!
So sorry for the delay. Glad this helped and thanks so much for watching and digging deep! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out
Drew
This video is so artistically done. Love the ending on birdsong. I thought I was a 9 but pretty sure I'm 794. Having the capability to explore the peaks and valleys can be such an internal struggle, but I think it's also a gift! And thank you for sharing that with us.
No problem! Loved being able to do it and connect with you. Thanks for watching 🙏🏼
Drew
You speak beautifully!
I love these comparison and connection videos!!!
Thanks Ricardo. They aren’t easy sometimes to draw the right connections but when I put those pieces together it really helps me integrate. Glad it’s doing the same for you 🙌🏼
Drew
8:52 this is great energy suss out the best!
4w5 married to a 7w8 for 22 years
Thanks for watching
Aah, i've seriously waited for this😊
I hope it doesn’t brutally disappoint 😂
It’s filmed in Switzerland where I am right now hiding in the alps for a month, so at least you have that as your backdrop
Appreciate you Jasmin
Drew
@@drewnewkirk No way;)😅, it's an interesting topic anyway:).And it's always interesting to hear another person thoughts about a topic.
Greetings from Germany
@@jasmin1773 ahhh! So close. The alps sing and breath healing. Hope it translates
Jasmin, your desire to see this content keeps me going
Thanks
Drew
@@drewnewkirk Well I'm looking forward. Enjoy your time in Switzerland👍
Delightfully thorough
From the Queen herself! That you watch is honor enough
Props to you powerful woman
D
Love the video omg now i know why i thought i was a 4 for sooo long
It’s the subtleties right?
@@drewnewkirk Omg yes how did u know??
I (a type 7) just started dating with a type 4 and he is the most wonderful person I known (to me). Enneagram is defo a great tool for me to understand him clearer and deeper. I have only one problem with him so far which is one of those days that he feel down... I want to know what exactly I should do for him? Should I leave him alone, or should I surprise him with small thing like show up with nice foods, or call him, or text him regularly etc.. what exactly a type 4 wants when they feel blue?! it happened twice so far (2 months relationship) and I sort of leave him alone but text/sent short vdo clip to check on him ... is that enough or too much?!
Ask him what he wants. Don’t make this a guess, if he can’t tell you then he’s gotta work on identifying what he wants when he’s down. I’ve personally been down for a few days, I can tell you I just want to be understood and not fixed until it passes. But part of my job is to have some knowledge of what I want in those moments so im not overly confusing or complicated to my people. Hop that helps. Love that you are trying to make it work and understand him, that is very honoring in its own right. Tell me how it goes
Drew
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So sorry for the delay. Glad this helped and thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out
Drew
Late bloomers!! 👯👯🙋♀️. Almost 50 and still single 😄. “Never to old to be single”…oh wait that’s not a saying is it lol
So sorry for the delay. This made me laugh… thanks so much for watching! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks for reaching out
Drew
Wow this was extremely powerful.
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skipadahooo!!!! sp?: 🤣