How To Love Yourself as an ISTP | Ep 529 | PersonalityHacker.com
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
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On this episode of the Personality Hacker podcast, Joel and Antonia dive into how ISTPs can use personality know-how to embrace and love who they are. The conversation also touches on what the other 15 personality types can learn from ISTPs about self-love.
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How do you show yourself love as an ISTP?
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As an ISTP, I feel like I always have unlimited energy for the people in my life, but I lack energy/motivation for my projects and goals. Hearing Personality Hacker talk about self parenting with the aux function in various podcast episodes has been a game changer for me. Whenever I’m feeling low energy or dragging my feet, I pull on my Se just like I would for another person, and my energy grows and grows. Thank you 😊
I have unlimited energy for my chosen partner. I usually don’t receive the same amount back as what I give out. I don’t mind most of the time. But I do want to feel loved and valued everyday.
@@CuddleClaw. my relationships with other Fe users in my life feel pretty balanced, but I really struggle with my Fi using friends and family members. I probably am putting too much energy into those relationships because they inevitably feel one sided.
@@katherinecombs8754 that sucks that they feel one-sided. Life is too short to let people in your life who only take from you. Your are worthy of reciprocation.
Fi users in my opinion can be very selfish and unwilling to compromise, the last one I loved was an INFP 4, he was controlling and couldn’t accept me or respect and make room for my ego functions.
But some Fe users can be very shallow and manipulative. There’s a lot of monsters out there hiding behind smiles and fake care. I’ve taken many chances with my heart and paid the price, I have lots of trauma to work through. My SJ parents never could understand me or give me what I needed.
I have made online friends who I feel genuinely care about me. ESTJ INFP ENFP ESTP ENTP INFJ those are my favorite people to be friends with. I find that enneagram compatibility also matters.
@@katherinecombs8754 one sided relationships don’t feel good, I’m sorry you’ve been experiencing that. You are worthy of reciprocation. Have you ever told any of your Fi user friends and family how you feel?
I’ve struggled a lot with and have gained more skill in using my words in a way that doesn’t sound entitled or demanding when I start to feel frustrated. I’ve learned a lot from Zak Roedde and his books that has helped me communicate more effectively in intimate relationships. Have you heard of him?
I'm loving this series!
Please post ESTP next!
im glad the people who do this podcast actually study what theyre talking about. most people do not understand us or where we're coming from. when you said "competition with ourselves constantly".. yes.. im always pushing myself to physically do more.
Se is that function that gives them the motivation they need they have an abundant amount of energy I wish I had that energy and motivation ! .
26 minutes in: my thoughts: I definitely struggle with my identity and who I want to be, I keep deciding that I want to be empathetic and caring because I’m a 4w5 and so freaking sensitive, I just don’t see how I can live with myself not being caring to others, because it hurts soooo much when others aren’t caring to me. I’d be a hypocrite if I went full on Ti mode, and I’d become more of an asshole and more irritable and less patient with others. That doesn’t feel good to me either.
But absolutely getting into Se is ALWAYS something that makes me feel better. I do practice self compassion on a daily basis, but it also helps when I’m harsh with myself: “stop being a little bitch” “stop being a cry baby” and just accepting the shit reality I’m in in that moment “this is how it is right now, just deal with it” …. But from others I absolutely need gentleness and kindness. I don’t want to be around anybody who can’t be that to me and others. And so it makes it really hard to show up to group activities, like jiu jitsu… I’m so sensitive to the energy of people and I never know if I show up, am I going to wish I hadn’t gone this day? Or will I be lucky and have a partner I like? And yet, I know it’s so important to be in my Se. I do go for walks in nature. The forest is my absolute favorite place to be, alone. Because it’s so freeing and healing. And I also need a significant other who will nurture me. When SO relationships aren’t going well, it fucks me up… survival mode activated.
It’s so hard being female 4 ISTP. I love it when I feel balanced and healthy. But the days or moments when I feel fucked up, it’s the worst hell.
The Ni - so important. Thank you! I am very competent a lot of the time at using Ni, but i overuse it. And I need to go back and relisten to that part a few times.
hour 1: sec 40 yes. If my partner ignores me, I feel like I don’t matter to him, I feel rejected, it feels like I’m not important enough to him to take 5 seconds to give me reassurance = love. It’s horrible. I have to constantly convince myself that it’s just Fe Inferior. But it doesn’t stop hurting, like major deep pain… all the time. I don’t think that will ever go away. Im at the mercy of my partner. Is there a way to not feel that way? I feel like a burden, so I have to just suffer alone and try to use my words to share how I feel, but let go of outcomes. If my partner shows up for me great, if he doesn’t, it’s up to me to be strong and just cry it out and try to survive another day, distract myself etc. I wish I didn’t need people at all, but I know that I do. And I wish I didn’t need the love of a partner, but I know I do.
@@CuddleClaw.I appreciate your share. I'm curious to know your partner's best fit type? I briefly dated an ISFP and I knew after the first date that we weren't compatible but I went on 2 more dates just to see-it-through before I cut ties, clean & clear. I've learned that a relationship is a 'want' and not a 'need' for me. I value peace of mind and my time so if I get into a relationship, I'm knowingly accepting disruption of those two things, which is a big ask. In other words, getting into a committed relationship is a well thought-out decision that will take time to arrive at. I know I have a lot to offer and what I want in return are: love, respect and appreciation. If those things are lacking, I'mma keep it movn😊
@@TV-wy1py hi. Thanks for your comment. Love, respect, and appreciation are crucial. Sorry it didn’t work with the ISFP. What is your type?
My partner tells me that I am his ideal type. He is an ENTP 4. We are each other’s ideal match, as close as it can get. Once we are able to live closer together, things won’t be as hard. For now, I just have to be strong and endure when my little baby (Fe Inferior) cries. Thankfully, I do feel love for myself and can validate myself. But there’s nothing I want more in the world than to have a soulmate-like connection with a partner to live out the rest of my days with. And I believe that he and I can share that together. So I can wait. And I can get through this.
Relistening: yes it’s very complex. One of my problems is that I go back and forth between Se and Ni when trying to figure out relationships. And my Ti will chime in and my Fe will chime in. And I see my perspective, their perspective, what I want vs what’s happening and around around I go. Eventually I have to choose to put myself self first to honor me and my needs.
Fuckin shit!!!
This makes so much fuckin sense.
Istp female here. That car model😮. Wow. I'm a army veteran. Literally made that connection to the whole thing. With vetting the thought. Like getting clear to move forward when driving. 😮