I'm 35 and I have no Friends! Here's why and it's okay!
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- I'm 35 and I have no Friends! Here's why and it's okay!
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I learned that Friendships and Relationships are weapons that allows shit people to do critical damage to my core therefore I don't have any Needs or Wants that anyone else can satisfy.
Isolated living in Solitude and Celibate for 33 out of 44 years old this equals out to 77% of my life experience. I will not allow anyone else in my life again until my final moment alive. I will patiently wait for my chance to go back to my 5th gate into Hell major. Magus Gatekeeper....
I feel like if a man were to express similar sentiments about not being able to maintain friendships with other men, the reactions would be very negative. And People would be encouraging him not to give up on male friendships, and brotherhood. All this video is doing is promoting an anti-sisterhood propaganda. Most popular movies and shows promote this “loner girl " archetype and the "not other girls" propaganda. Where they teach girls to hate themselves and other women. They don’t teach a healthy examples of female friendship. So most women and girls don’t know how to have a Healthy relationship with another woman. Most women and girls are often encouraged to put more effort into their relationships with men above those with other women.
Real people have less friends .. Your a good spirit
Yes
In my 40s, I've embraced the absence of friendships, finding solace in solitude. Reflecting on my past, I've encountered cruelty and emotional drains from others, many of whom seem lost. The competitive, envious nature of people often dims one's light. After enduring much, including an unhealthy marriage, I've chosen to remain alone, uninterested in dating. Being by myself brings me genuine enjoyment.
I completely relate! And my life has never felt as much peace as it has now.
Amen! Totally relatable.
I agree!
35???? YOU LOOK 19 YEARS OLD 😮 I literally thought you were my age omg so pretty.
Thank you so much yes I get told that I look younger I think it's avoiding stressful energies that has helped this but Thank you feels good at 35 to hear that ❤
Big factor. You haven’t had kids. Kids age like 10 years quickly
@@knoyourself This is why I’m never having kids
@@knoyourselfI have a 12 yr old boy and I’m 33 years old lol ppl say I look 25 . It all depends on your support system tbh….. It takes a village to raise a child doing it alone yes you will age quicker.
@@veinswithglitter1937 yes it is individual basis. I can only speak on what I’ve personally seen
I only have one friend now after cutting off all toxic’friends’. Never been happier. 🌸
Hey its Nana... Hey there! It's incredible how once the heavy, toxic energy lifts, you suddenly have so much more time to dedicate to things that truly bring you joy. I'm genuinely thrilled to hear that you're feeling happier now.
It's ok now that you have found me let's be good friends
@@thenanajourneycan we be friends
The more friends you have, the more enemies you have.😂
I am definitely not a "group" person. I prefer one to one interactions with people as you get to listen and share thoughts with another person. I find big groups of friends too much some times and I am sure some can relate to it. I've always remember myself hanging out with one person at a time 😅. I think it's definitely an introvert thing and also protecting your energy from lots of people. ❤
Thank you for sharing this, and yes, I've always been quite a happy loner even from a young age. I think it's an introvert thing. But yes, especially when you are more healed and have done the work, we must protect that energy too. Thanks for sharing.❤
Same. I had this best friend when i was in highschool... and we often hung out together. But she had other friends after school too and i kinda would get jealous.. we are not friends anymore
Honestly, I found that friendships distracts me a lot.
Agreed tbh I don’t know how people go out dancing and such on weekends or evenings 😅 I like dancing but not in crowds after working
@@lightofallI like dancing in my bathroom or mirror with my undies on..never liked clubs
@@dinajones2761exactly. I like being alone and dancing. I don't need or want constant attention or hate from others.
@@CareBlair222you think you just haven’t met the right person to conversation with?
Waste of time.
It's best not to have no friends at all because alot of people nowadays don't know what true friendship is
I feel something deep within me craves the kind of friends I had at one time on the east coast. I'm not sure if it's me feeling very comfortable with east coast peeps, but since moving back to the Midwest I'm having challenges finding friendships like that. I know they're out there, but locally not so much.
On some real shit, I got bullied and harassed and tormented by a group of friends in high school after I made a move based on my morals and values they didnt agree with. I had bad depression and started smoking to cope with how alone I felt. Eventually I started healing about a year later and more trauma had happened simply because I couldn't love and choose myself. I had a spiritual awakening around march of last year and I started healing myself, I found peace in being alone. Literally every time I had a friend, they betrayed me or disrespected the friendship, or just were toxic energy. Recently I was feeling really bad about not having any friends and choosing to cut everyone off so I could focus on myself and my journey and I feel so validated. I have so much intuition and discernment now, and I'll be damned if I have the wrong people in my close circle. I decided to choose myself and my peace over having friends and it's the best decision I've ever made. thank you for this because it made me realize that I am indeed protecting myself and my peace. I love you thank you, also I did quit smoking. I have leveled up so much by just accepting myself and loving myself instead of having other people do it for me
Success is the best revenge
Proud of you for choosing yourself and putting yourself first.❤
37 with no friends besides my dogs. I’m happy and at peace. My best friend started getting jealous of my life when I began to progress and others friends wanted to constantly go out to eat and I like to be home and fast sometimes eat lighter…I’m so much happier now
Same here. 37 with dogs and no friends. Best life
I never had a large group of friends and now as I'm older I also have no friends, I have one person I might see once a month to do daytime activities, but as I don't drink alcohol or go out at night (as most people social lives revolve around nightlife and living for the weekend) I find that I don't have anything in common with most people I meet anyway.
Heyyy, would you like to be friends? I’m a 25 year old from the Caribbean so not trying to court you or date you. I just like meeting new people, sharing different perspectives and just vibing out… let me know what you think.
I am the same way too so you're not alone in this I have come to a bit more peace if just enjoying this time with myself and that I will keep going towards the things we like to do and the right people will come when it's time no forcing just flowing there will be a time for us and also we're a community here so you're not alone here :)
Fine can we be friends
Definitely protecting my energy! I had a friend who literally drained me on a daily basis with drama, needing attention, playing the victim etc. I feel so much better after walking away!🙏🏾🙌🏾👏🏾
People at work too! It’s a broken society
I 🎉 had to do the same with one or a two friends and family can be just as bad. Can't seem to always rely on wanting to do everything alone as ok.
I love spending time with my grandson who is 7 mo 😊 and my work as an art therapist is fulfilling but I'd like to balance my life with fun too with other adults. The kind of fun I had in NY!
I wanted to just say that I am with you 100% when you say "I don't want surface level friendships". Me neither! This does naturally mean you end up with fewer friends. Quality over quantity.
Thank you for your comment, and yes, I want to strive for quality over quantity. I'm happy to wait for that and not rush it. Welcome to the Nana Journey community! ❤
I am 38..never have been in a relationship..and have zero friends..and I am an introvert..so..I know exactly how you feel, just wish, I could meet you..or someone like you.😢
I just made the decision to drop a friend i believed was my closest friend. I don’t accept friends who cancel last minute and are very slow to give. I have evolved and I am ready to give everything to the universe. I’m happy to make new friends here or anywhere, ones that align with me
This is a genuine experience for someone like me, who is introverted and can feel the energy around them when going outside. I often sense negative energy from others’ minds and thoughts, which can be overwhelming. This is why I seek ways to avoid toxic people I don’t belong with. Even a small incident can completely drain my energy. I often question society, as we live in a dangerous world where one bad decision or being in the wrong place at the wrong time can have serious consequences. So, be wise and don’t let anyone steal your soul, because many are waiting to do just that.
And you’re right when you said, “It’s not about quantity, it’s about quality.” Goals can be a valuable thing when you are becoming the best version of yourself, when you know you have a gift and want to do something about it. You don’t need friends to figure that out; you just have to share it. Find real connections with someone who has the same goal as you and build that mindset. This way, you avoid getting yourself into trouble.
Girl I relate to you. 26 and in the same position but it’s fine it will happen when it’s meant to happen🤍
I couldn't agree more we got to keep healing doing the things we love and our tribe will find us! I'm glad you found this community here ❤
You could also be autistic or neurodivergent
I have lived in other parts of the world, and I have real friends there, but not in the U.S., which lead me to wonder whether this is normal American culture? Also, it's one thing not having friends in the U.S. but then just about everyone is a backstabber but they act fake nice! WHY?!
I also got rid of so many material things. Cleared my wardrobe, cleared the people around me who bring chaos, cleared everything. And peace is also my keyword. I am loving this video and I see myself in it so much. I just wish I could find someone with the same mindset to share time and cute dates with.
I don't have no friend as well. I have learned that I am my own best friend and I love that part.
I love that. I'm learning to be that too 🎉...what worked for you?
Eagles Fly Alone!
Mmmmhmmmm
Mmmmhmmmm
For a season, a long one at that but I'm believing God for change this year, before this summer ends.
Its a blessing to be a strong enough woman or man to not have friends, because real friends are rare, ecspecially jealous ones who don't mean well. Strong godly people don't have friends because we don't need friends. I never tried to fit in or keep up with popularity. People don't be of God and most don't follow a resilient path. People envy wisdom. Energy draws like energy, so when you change, the slackers in life fall off. Weak people need friends and people validation
Everything you say, I completely align with. I genuinely enjoy being alone. Not lonely, but alone. There’s a distinct difference between the two.
You seem like a lovely person, I don’t have friends either and I’m enjoying the drama and stress free life. With narcissism on the rise, people these days just think they can take advantage if you’re a decent person.
Hey, yes, I find that as empaths, we can easily attract narcissistic energies, so we have to stop ourselves from giving, which can be somewhat unnatural for us. But also, we have to learn to be more selfish with our energy and give it to ourselves more, and protect that energy we have. I still believe there are good people out there, and I'm happy to have you here and welcome you with open arms ❤
I am happy I came across your video because I don't have any friends as well, and sometimes I wonder is something wrong with me.
Same here Tiffany
For the first time in my life it's this way but I'm feeling like the more I evolve, the more I shed to be closest to my truth. Hence my desire for deep connection with others which I'm not having right now.
Most people don't want friends they want to compete, one up and just be snotty about everything 😅 most people don't like deep connection unless it's romantic. Many of my girlfriends try to sleep with me, too. No, thanks.
People with no friends are God's chosen once. There's a reason why some of them are meek because God chose them for some important role. Satan has already bullied humans because of his wisdom for millions of years. Almost everything in this world is corrupted that people think it is Godly or even not dehumanizing. God can not choose a person who is easily controlled by sins of the enemy that people thought it's a real strength.
I don’t have any friends right now either. It’s stressful trying to find friends where I live. A lot of individuals are actually rude, selfish, jealous, etc. I don’t have time for it.
this resonates a lot with me. i'd like friends, but my experience as-is, is valid. family has mostly dropped away too. i don't experience mutuality with others. they just don't have the endurance for connection with me, no matter how much i seem to make it easier imo. you sound like you've developed a lot of awareness
I will say I’ve always been very non-trusting of other people, which is why I’ve always had very very few friends. I’m around your age and so I totally understand what you’re saying. I relocated to a new city a few years ago, and I immediately tried to be a social as possible to meet people, but I kept finding that I was connecting with people that I knew deep down were not for me, but they seemed to be the “in crowd” of the city that I live in so I thought that I was winning. None of those relationships worked out because they do not represent who I am authentically speaking. It is better to have peace than to have all this fake BS lingering around your energy, however it can get lonely. I think we can all agree on that.
I also relocated after being exactly where I wanted to be and with some friends. But honestly, in time that could've changed too. COVID came soon after I left.
Other women are impossible to be around, they're either jealous because one is better looking than them and want to destroy for you (I'm talking flirting and even jumping my boyfriends, kissing them right in front of me) or they're super cold and feel no empathy. So I ended all my female friendships and men? They want to sleep with you or are there for selfish reasons so I stopped being around people at all. Older people can work but where do you find them? And they mostly want to be around other elderlies.
I really and intensly miss friendships, its like a dagger in my heart but.. It's impossible.
I have 0 friends and i'm fine with that. Once i was younger it bit bothered me because i thought it would impact my chances of having gf but now i have a wife with 2 children.
Oh my goodness, I have no friends and I feel nothingness as well. The friends that I had were not for me they were not healed completely. 🥰The friends I had were so draining - I love my own company. I go when, where, and how I want. The best thing is no Birthday parties, Weddings, barbeques, get-togethers no one calling at 1 am cuz they made a dumb azz mistake when they knew better. 😇🥰
I used to have so many friends and now I got rid of them and feel free.
Damn. Any advice to look so young at 35??
I honestly think it's stress free stay away from negative energy it will drain your youthful spirit and soul and I think that is why! I also don't drink or smoke so maybe that helps ❤
I am in the same time of life. I have distanced myself from so many people who I wasn’t happy with. I now have probably 2 friends that I really consider friends and that I enjoy being in the company of, although often I miss connection. I miss sharing thoughts and reflection with someone who’s at the same level and would understand.
Thanks for sharing and yes I completely understand where you're coming from. It's such a journey to find those real connections.. Quality over quantity is the one, but that longing for deeper understanding and connection never really goes away. It's comforting to know others are in the same quest and path and know you're not alone here we're a community here ❤
Everything you said is totally on point and relates to my journey since 2016. I’m 31 and I’m experiencing the same thing. I’m also a mom to a 9 year old. My past relationship with my child’s father opened my eyes tremendously to everything within myself. I truly don’t think a lot of people even know how to be a friend. I’ve always been reserved and able to sit with myself, for some reason that makes all kinds of people gravitate toward me. It’s Usually the people who like to be the center of attention. I love people and I love connection but I am an individual and if it’s not in alignment with my spirit and the path that I am taking then that thing or person is not for me. Respectfully.
29 here and I only have 1-2 friends atm but most of time am alone usually.
29 here and no friends at all...All alone and ghosted out....And I am fine about it...
Same. I haven’t even met a friend this year and it’s already June…
i have no friends! you've made me feel not so bad anymore about it so i thank you! i aligned personally with everything you said. I have distanced myself from my friends relatively recently because I felt like it began to be toxic and it drained my energy to be interacting with them. I also realized we now had grown to have different interests. As soon as I was without those friends, I almost immediately began to be happier without them. I have grown up as an only child so I am grateful that I know how to entertain myself and rely on myself for my own happiness. I kept shaming myself to need to find friends because its not normal to be without any, but watching this and watching you talk wisely about your experiences and feelings, it made me realize that it is normal anyways to not have any friends or need any at the moment. I am just at the start of my healing journey at 23 years old and listening to you say these things so confidently and assuredly made me feel good about my choices in life. I also love reading the comments talking similarly. Alone together :)
The reason this video resonates with me so much is because it perfectly captures my mindset. When people ask if I have friends, I tell them I have acquaintances. Just because we hang out occasionally doesn’t mean we’ve connected on a deeper level. I consider someone a friend only after we’ve made a meaningful connection and shared our energy. While having a social life is important, if the interactions don’t connect with you or benefit your life, then they’re just acquaintances, not true friends.
So it's being vulnerable with others for a meaning ful connection...
I’m 36 and only have like two friends left. I’ve cut everyone else off because they always became jealous/envious. I had a friendship of 30 yrs and she was trying to sleep with the guy I was in love with. Crazy thing is that I found out she left with 3 other friends bfs. She lied to me for 8yrs about her sleeping with a guy I had dated in the past. Then I had a friend of 15 years, her bf was hitting on me behind her back and he asked me out on a date once. I told her and after that she stayed with him but became very jealous and envious of me. Began trying to look like me and competing with me in EVERYTHING. She was in “secret” competition with me which wasn’t so secret. I told her what hobby I picked up and she picked up that same hobby. I told her my bday plans and she stole that. I remodeled my room and she remodeled hers and even said “I saw you remodeled yours so I had to do it too”. It became scary. Every color I dyed my hair she copied. I know how much she HATES pink (my favorite color) so I told her I’d be dying my hair pink next. Well guess what color she suddenly wanted to dye hers???
Every friend I had who became jealous or envious of me was ALWAYS over men. Men I didn’t even want. We’d go out and I’d be the one to get approached by men and they all hated that. 15-30yr friendship ended over their jealousy over men. Smh
Get out of the house! Get off of the computer and circulate and meet people! Good luck. Your brain will thank you! People are everywhere! Blessings. 🙌
All of my friends are destroying their livers, sleeping around, and buying stupid sh-t. “Friends” I haven’t had anything to do with in over a decade
Hello there! 🙋♂️
Is this a ladies only community ? 👀 😃
(Subscribed btw)
I agree with you 100%! I have no friends either and it’s ok. I found that the people who I thought were my friends were indeed my enemies. The only thing that bothers me is that sometimes I would like to just pick up the phone and have someone to talk to. Thank you for the video!
I am 21
I realized that people were only talking to me becasue my energy restored theirs, it made them feel rejuvanated, though they didnt like me they liked how my energy made them feel, and I left because I wasnt getting anything back, im now starting my crochet business.
So funny. The more happier and fulfilled you become. The more friends you lose.
I mean it’s true better no friends than people who consistently hurt you tbh
100% agree! It’s exhausting to put on a fake personality to please others. And the superficial banter is so useless. There is no peace there.
Me either. I’m more worried about retirement at this big age. Forget the friends or making them.
I'm 37 and have been in your position. Didn't realise until about 5 years ago that I've never had "real" friends. I've since made some effort to strengthen some relationships and I feel life is much better with other people supporting you. I hope this community can be that for you in at this stage but also hopefully you can find good people and friendships soon 🙏
Its hard to have friends when people dont have a clue how to be one. I cant find a normal person , never mind " friends" 😳
U GOT ONE NOW, I AINT GOT NONE EITHER #FLIGHTZ
I hated life when I had friends. They just wanted to have mental breakdowns over men I already told them to leave on the phone and then they would get angry when you refuse to suffer with them.
Absolutely not. I'm not going to be anyone's trauma dumpster.
Heyyy buddy, I am 34 and have no friends too!!
Why are we all 35 😂 coincidence? Just my algorithm?
Not all
That’s fine neither do I. I have a very good job and truly feel there’s nothing wrong with me. And if you find one true friend in life you are blessed.
i mean nobody on this planet is perfect enough to your friend under the most microscopic scrutiny. unless you clone yourself.
I am 50, gradually working towards having no friends 😂 too much drama, time consuming and monotonous conversations. I really have no interest in listening to their stuff, I concentrate on me. My previous friendships were basically drinking / party buddies. Now my lifestyle doesn't consist of drinking alcohol, I drifted away. Fine with me. 4 years of healing. I am so good with myself now. Loving life, me & my dogs.
You're 35?!?! Wow, you look like you're 25-26. Your next video should be on telling us your secret to looking so young.
Thank you I seen some other comments like this so I will defo make one :) thank you though ❤
41 partner & 2 kids no friends or family. I simply am not one bit bothered by being a lone wolf. I go to gigs & nights out occasionally occasionally by myself, all while feeling empowered. Authenticity will repel the many & draw the few. In the last year, I had to let go of 2 so-called friends when, in reality, I was simply a numbing cream for their projected, unresolved truma. At the start of this year, I made myself a promise that I have stuck to since. No more being available for others' issues, no reciprocal effort means none from myself. There are too many toxic unhealed individuals among us, more than those of us who have decided to prioritise our own internal boundaries & discipline. I agree there are times when the isolation does feel a bit deep. However, the price you pay by repeling the many is justified by the internal growth one is making. I am so guarded now that I trust no one. Once a pattern of pathology is noticed, I cut ties immediately, no mercy.
I have no friends but I was so broken I realize I may the person draining the relationship. I could figure out what was wrong with me.
I can be draining at times too. But I allow others to vent and help them tho through their stuff.
I'll be your friend. I'm positive and encouraging.
It’s hard to make friends.
We need to start normalizing being alone. Having a small circle or even no one doesn't make you strange nor cocky- just means you know your value and prefer greatness over fake meaningless friendships.
This helped me more than you will ever know! You are doing a great job keep going you were meant to help people ❤
Thank you so much this comment means alot to me ❤️
I relate to what you have said. I am 58 years old and in a similar boat. I enjoyed your message. 😊
Same.
the way you talk, men think like this a lot, which is a huge reason why men isolate themselves so much, but the silly women seem to call it a male loneliness epidemic.
I believe there's too much division in society, and a narrative often pits men and women against each other. However, we are all human and share the same emotions. Both men and women can feel isolated, without friends. No one is inherently greater than another; we all experience emotions and live in the same society. While our struggles may differ, at our core, we're all trying to navigate life as human beings, sharing a common human experience. ❤️
This resonates with me
Thank you for sharing this.
I’m 31 and feel so guilty for preferring my own company. I’ve been hurt by so many people in life, that the risk & effort doesn’t even seem worth it.
You do not look 35 omg look like 25
MFS worried about my lack of friends apparently with these videos. I'm not worried about it. 🤔
Are you a life path 11?
I am and I've never aligned with societal "norms." I'm seen as backwards. Everything about me is backwards or opposite from those "norms." So I've, in a sense, been forced to go inwards and Know mySelf above all else. 💚
HOW?? I just lost my last close friendship and I am dying… it hurts to see people with a close community of those who accept and love them when I get booted out and ignored. What’s wrong with me and why am I not valuable to anyone?
All of the friends I've had in school chose a different path of life than I did. They chose to start a family and have kids while I'm over here child free with no partner.
Hi Nana, 100% agree with what you've said in your video here so I've liked and subbed. At 37 I'm similar to you in regards to my social life although in my case my 'friend' (using that word in the loosest possible way, in fact all of them except for perhaps one were virtually 'associates') circle they were toxic people who were using drugs and I had to get rid of every one of them because I came to a cross-roads in my life and the path I was going down wasn't the same as they were. Not that I want to judge anyone for their choices here but like you, I had to look around and think to myself:
'Are these people helping or hindering me?'
The fact that the latter was the answer couldn't have been more glaringly obvious so I had to separate myself from them (it wouldn't be the first time I've had to do this either - I had to separate myself from a 15+ year friendship with my best friend due to similar reasons - which I must say *was* extremely difficult emotionally speaking and still is - but such is life and it will pay off dividends when I'm in a psychologically clearer, brighter and all around happier place). They wont miss me anyway and I'm happier knowing that I've made a pro-active choice to better my future than 'hanging around' doing everything I definitely DONT want to be doing, ultimately wasting precious time that I should be spending on improving my mental health.
Additionally, I've just come back from an appointment I made with my GP as regards getting a referral to a psychologist in order to go down the talk-therapy route as my anxiety got so intense recently that I went through a few bouts of agoraphobia and consequent depression. He wrote me prescription for Valium that I'm just going to keep in a book on my desk here in the event that I encounter another serious bout of anxiety before I get an appointment with a psychologist which as he said could take up to 6 months at the very least...which, while not ideal, is better than nothing and still being here 6-12 months time feeling even worse. At least the ball is in motion now.
Anyway I really enjoyed listening to and relating to your thoughts and I like I said, I've liked and subbed so I'm going to have a browse around your channel and check out a few more. I see that you posted this back in March which while not too long ago - I still hope that your journey is going well. You seem to have a very level head about you and appear to know what you want and I wish you all the best for the future. Take care.
I feel alone in the crowd but feel better alone maybe I’m a loner♥️♥️♥️I choose few qualities friends above quantity😇😇😇Better 1 bird in your hand than 10 in the sky🤩🤩🤩
The Great part about your situation is that you self-analyzing and evaluating your friendships verses what it is you value, and that is primary. Truth to yourself is what sets the direction of your path in life. I have viewed many videos of this nature, and this one is very positive. As you well know you are growing (like myself) and you are in a great "place". When you go out in the social world again you will know what you are looking for. You will not just be "accepting things just to be with a crowd, and you are sure of yourself, others will NOT be able to pull your energy. I have been in situations where I hung out with people who actually had nothing to do, we me. I realized I had to change that. Certain people are in your life for a season. Sef-Love and Self-evaluation are always key.
That is so very true friendships come and go when your not fully healed. I am a almost 52 year old lady and that is what has happened to me over the years ‘because i am not healed’ i have so so much trauma from childhood from various people that i let go on until I was 43! All from narcissistic people.
Because I’m learning how to heal and not fretting about the lack of friends in my life I’ve noticed a shift in me ,instead of worrying and fretting i suddenly feel calm ,and i can honestly say that I have never felt this ever in my life. The trauma was way back from when i can remember up until the age of 43 meant to say ,emotional, physical,gaslighting not sure how many types there are but I’ve had it!
Now i wait to go to see a neurologist and neuropsychologist a 2 week stay at a neurology clinic because of the effect it’s had on me I’ve developed FND Functional Neurological Disorder diagnosed and confirmed by a top neurologist .There is only so much a persons brain can take! I feel very angry towards these perpetrators who have robbed me of a normal life . Sorry for the bad spelling etc
i appreciate your honesty,👍🏽 because from what i've always seen, too many women seem to want to pass judgment and call men out on their actions, and not be honest with themselves.😤😮💨
If you don’t pray with me and we don’t read the Bible together, you can’t be my friend.
Friendship have put me in trouble. Ungodly music belongs to the devil. Sin belongs to the devil.
When i started praying 3 hours to Jesus and reading the Bible. It became clear that friends can take you to hell if you do wake to separate yourself from people.
So I am great with no friends. I help people out but I am not hangout with you. I need to read my Bible and pray.
Girl you look good for 35!! I thought you were 20
Good for 35? As if thats old lol
28 no friends
I’m 25 and also have no friends. I’ve cried about it a lot. Having girlfriends in the past has led to a lot of unnecessary gossip. I’m also autistic so it’s always been hard for me to relate to other women and people in general. Idk if I’ll ever have real friends, and I have bad days still when I think too much on it. But I enjoy having the time to myself and my hobbies
Your not missing a thing stay by yourself trust me!!!!
I'm 29 and I have no friends. I let go of friendships that no longer served me. I was tired of going above and beyond for unrequited friendships
I'm 34 and a lot of my friends are men but I don't talk to them a lot. I don't have many friends
I relate to what you're saying. I also have no friends and it's good...I fill my days with interesting activities. I notice your we wei poster in the background - yes!
Oh finally someone is talking about this. My narcissistic/socipathic mother definitely scared away a lot of friendships in my childhood and teenage years. As I began healing my friendship circle increased only to diminish all over again. I have wondered if there is something wrong with me,-my inability to maintain friendships and/or to like people in general. Thank you for sharing this. My concern is work relationships. I have a hard time in working relationships.
Could no longer be around women whose entire lives and conversation revolved around men as I was growing so much in my career and health. It was very draining. I am much happier and like you living in luxury, alone, and peacefully.
I have no friends, and I am happy about that. It doesn't stop me to do a lot of different things in life.
I have no depression at all about that.
My birthday is coming up soon and I’m usually okay with no friends no relationship but I get in my feelings around this time.
In another video, could you talk about how being raised by a narcissistic mother plays a huge role in why you may have no friends?
I cut off a lot of toxic people in my life, life is more simple or peaceful. I mean I do have one friend but we’re at different places in our lives so we don’t really spend a lot of time together but we do know that we love each other and if one needs the other. We will be right there and I really don’t need more than that. Plus I’m one of those people I who like deep meaningful conversations. I really don’t like small talk and so many people just wanna have small talk and not talk about anything important and that’s not what I wanna do.
That is so funny I am also into fashion and clearing my chakras every day! I have felt real fear now about getting to find the right partner to be able to have a child with. I am 36 and I miss the rich way I felt in myself before I was so harmed by other people. I want to feel that grounded way again . I wish I could remove the pressures of age, and I am trying to pick up what I like again. I wanted to perform, make music videos and dance. I feel stressed fighting for my body, definitely my energy. I do feel alone, but I felt like I didn’t belong with people around me. I have been made to feel like I am not normal or weird. It adds such pressure. I love dressing up, I want to make money doing what I love, I have been working to unprogram my parents’ beliefs, even though I live with them. I want to be sharing life with them but it has been damaging to not get to experience my life in true freedom. I am trying to get back on my feet after being harmed by others far too much.
Those programmed beliefs can be a challenge. I moved away and took all that stuff with me. Wishing you the best.. I completely understand how you feel
You.look so pretty ❤❤❤ what's your routine of how your glowing
Sorry to comment multiple times but I give you an example of what some “friends” did that made me understand I was spending time with the wrong people. Once I was out with this group of friends and at that time I happened to just split up with a guy who was in this same group of friends. He was close to my best friend and basically that night as we were all in circle having a drink and a chat, my “best friend” gave me a slap on the face in front of everyone just because my ex whispered to her to accept the challenge. She actually did it and I can’t describe the way this made me feel. To this day, that group of people that are luckily not my friends anymore, are still spending their time getting drunk at the weekend in the same city they were born in. No experiences no changes, still the same people I distanced myself from. And we are 33/35 age range.
Recently I went back to my hometown to see my family and I saw this lady who was my best friend at the time, we had a catch up and I was telling about my crush, I was excited and giggling as I spoke about the topic… once I was done she just looked at me in silence and sort of laughed at me.
I understand we were very young when the slap happened (not justifying her) and I understand we can make mistakes.. but when at 30+ people give me that energy and they purposely want to make me feel stupid or less.. that’s when it’s game over for me.
I don’t miss her, I’m actually happy I’m living a life I’ve built and it’s so so great. I’m happy I’m not surrounded by people who treat their friend like that. I’m happy I don’t spend my free time drinking in bars, I’m happy about myself and with who I am today.
I have 1 friend at the moment because I had to release friends that I had changed myself for and would not accept the real me. But I will say we need to ensure we continue to be in relationship with others. Friendship or otherwise because this is actually how we heal and evolve. It is because of my previous friends that I realised who I was or wanted to be. And it is with others u will learn whether the new you is really the new u. If u begin to change again u r still not heal. There is no such thing as the right connection all connection is valuable. We need to let go of that myth.