Hey hope ur OK now if a women says stay away from there home it's over all because I spent time with my mother and she don't get along with her but we have kids at her house and we was getting on so well last few weeks until I went away with my mum and other son not sure do I give her space she is stubborn I no but I don't want her to be with a rebond
So true I agree . The soul control 's ur heart value the soul attraction over the flesh for every touch when u here the heart beat .is a experience u can't imagine or knowing what true love is .buertiful perfect beyond the level I can't explain.but I love it .100%👍🤗🕊🌹🌷
40 days no contact and counting. It has been difficult. I will tell you there have been hundreds of moments of weakness. However, when I am feeling that way I put on one of Lee's videos and it calms me. Thank you sir.
Mine was “you deserve better and someone who can show you the same love and affection you showed me” and “I just couldn’t reciprocate”. I never had a problem with how she handled herself in our relationship. She has some sort of trauma, maybe even some abandonment issues, and definitely emotional issues, but I still loved her for being her.
There are certain situations, now more prevalent than ever, where someone who suffers from deep emotional issues and has major abandonment fears, will actually sabotage the relationship. They are so afraid that you will leave them once you get to know who they really are, they can't handle the thought of that inevitable rejection which they feel is definitely coming, and so they will break up with you. Shame is something they feel intensely and around an individual like yourself, they can't afford to look in the mirror because it's far too painful.
This is deep, resonant, and above all else, true. Some people sabotage what could have been the greatest love of their life because of fears of rejection, abandonment or difficulty connecting. Love feels foreign to them. You could be everything they've ever wanted, and they'll burn it and you to the ground because it's what they know.
This is my ex right now. She tried to mask her own personal problems by making excuses. She knows the real reason and it’s even obvious to me. She broke up with me 2 days ago and is acting confident to her friends and myself and is also somewhat angry at me because I said that I am willing to do anything to get through it and she’s not used to anyone saying that. but once she said “please stop I just can’t do this” then I realised the real reason and that’s her. And I know she’s really going to struggle without me because I have really helped and invested my help into heping and dealing with her anxiety but she’s never known any different than people not caring about her problems. It’s really sad but I do believe that the people in these situations do eventually come around through the no contact rule. It is my first day of the NC rule and I’m very hopeful as even when she broke the news to me about what she wanted, it was such a sudden decision that I really do think she’ll regret.
If my ex is suffering now let it be. She brought this upon herself. I told her lets talk and to voice her concerns straightforward but she still preferred to shift the blame and breakup over whatsapp. You deserve to be lonely if you blame everything on me.
To everyone out there right now and that ❤️ is hurting bad.... I'm right there with you...were doing it and there's nothing we can do about it 😔 stay strong,,it's gotta be the hardest thing I've ever done is watch someone walk away that means the world to me and there's not one thing I can do about it!!
This video described my ex perfectly. He said all of those things. "You deserve someone better than me, I need to work on myself and be worthy of you so we have a chance of being together in the future, because we are soulmates" I must really look like a 🤡
Thank you Coach Lee. Now I just realized my ex said that to me as well the day after she ended the relationship. It does hurt, but it was 7-8 months ago. I'm still watching your videos so I can stay strong and to make sure i don't lose my cool if I ever bump into her again. If she wants to hop from one person to another, that's her. I hope one day she realizes she lost a special person who did the impossible by changing her life. Thank you again Coach Lee.
Please don't think about what she will feel about you in the near future. Tbh, it shouldn't be any of your concern. I know it hurts but you have to realise that. Trust me, things will get better for you, King 👑 If you know you were a good person in the relationship then that's all that should matter. Validate yourself. Please focus on yourself and love what's inside of you.
Thank you coach Lee🌺 my husband of 38 years said that to me too, he wanted to leave me for someone he fell in love with at work, that was 4 years ago I’m divorced now and has lots of counseling to get myself back to my Happy self 🥰 I’m doing good never thought it would happen to me but it did, life is good now❤️ thanks so much, love your channel, take care 🥰
God bless u.... It feels like u will never get over the love of ur life, but we have all been there and it happens to the best of us. We can't worry about what's for them and their future all that matters is what u have to look forward to in ur own future. Think positive, what do u have to lose, go for it be happy and excited for new and good things to come for u! X
@@zahrapovey1709 awe 🌺 thank you so much for your kind words, very thoughtful, I’m doing really good, time passes and heals the heart and it helps that there’s not in my state, I have awesome grown children and there my greatest gift, nothing like family❤️ thank you again and take good care ❤️ Norma Jean
@@paintertom123 thank you Maria🌺 very sweet of you, I’m doing good 🌺 thanks so much for your thoughtfulness ❤️ means allot ❤️ you take good care ❤️ Norma Jean
If you listen to his advice, it works. Got my ex back a few months later. But, you need to follow no contact out minimal contact, no begging, no pleading, just work on yourself thats it!
@@brittany8868 I'm a girl btw, and it worked for me, even though my ex is very avoidant emotionally. Basically, we were living together and after the break up I still was in very minimal contact with him, the longest we went with no contact was maybe a month. Even tho we were in contact, I never begged, never pleaded.I also NEVER contacted him first, I let him contact me, and never ignored him but I also never sounded desperate either. I went back to school, got a higher paying job, worked on my flaws. Even though we had minimal contact, only 4 months post break up, he said he saw how much I changed, and he asked me to get back together officially! We are extremely happy now, my relationship is way better now :) So my advice to you, is you do no contact, but when he txts u answer him, show him you changed, but NEVER sound desperate by text.
Just go no contact- it’s a time for reflection and wisdom. Be yourself, trust yourself and your inner instincts and what the world is telling you. Love yourself! Before long, you will realise you are much better off without them and the world out there offers infinite possibilities!
This video came to me at the right time. My ex would say this over and over. I ended up moving out because I knew deep down inside what was going on. No contact is definitely harder with kids. But I do notice her very different now that I'm working on myself and not chasing her. She tries to act as if everything is fine but I know her better than that. I know she's suffering on the inside.
Coach Lee's advice is full of wisdom. It is an eye opener and has enabled me overcome break up depression and discovering myself on how to move forward as a better version.
All of these posts, with all this despair, all of these broken hearts, all of these stories -- they all signify the same thing: Relationships are anything but easy, and people are complicated.
@@santivivihana2144 seriously, go away. I'm not looking to bring any ex back. I'm a life coach, among other things. You scammers and these whatsapp solicitations kill me
I want to thank you Lee. You bring so much rest to people who are in anxiety and fear. So today, after only 15 days we decided to meet up again. She actually called me crying she said she missed me 1 week after the break up, we had even seen each other and we flirted, the vibe was good and our connection was still there. Hopefully it'll all be good soon. I have nothing to say about the video but just wanted to thank you for the videos you put out. You are geniunely saving relationships, tbh; without your videos I would have been begging and pleading and hurting myself even more. You changed me! And NC works! she even asked after a night out: With friends i assume??. Thinking i was with someone else haha! she missed me a lot and when we met 3 days after the breakup she was very flirty, she hoped on a relationship and talked about a future. I decided to give her the breakup after that. 4 days later i got that one call i talked about. And now 1 week later we are setting up a meeting to catch up, and do some walking. It will be fun, face to face she can not stay off of me!
I thought I would want my ex back, I even bought the kit. But at the end, I realized she was seriously unstable. No contact is me running away. I hope she loses my number
@@reedu1298 I can understand that. My consolation is that the way I handled it was so smooth it shocker her, and she hung up on me. 😆 I waited till she was done talking and said in a calm voice, " Well, ok then. I wish you well, take care of yourself and I'll see you around ". I'm convinced she didn't really know me at all just by what she said to me. That made walking away feel right. I know I'm fortunate to have that
Walking away from an ex who walked away can be one of the most liberating and powerful moment in one's life. That person should consider him/her self a blessed one.
Hey coach, she said “I don’t want to change who you are” when I offered to make the changes that seemed to push her to dump me. I would tease her in a flirty way or now I know with reflection little comments that I didn’t realize were affecting her as much as they were. She’s very sweet and sensitive.
Thats why you should always try to respond very briefly, and without anger. Because whatever and however they break up wih you, it doesn't feel nice. The only thing you can do ia accept it, and stop contacting them
Thank you for your videos! I find myself watching them so much lately. I’m confused by my ex boyfriend. He said early on, “You’re not going to rip my heart out and stomp all over it are you?” I just loved him. Later he broke up with me even though we had a good thing. And he said that it is better to end it now rather than wait till we got into more hurtful feelings later. I think he was scared of being hurt, and I miss him.
“I wasn’t expecting to meet the perfect woman on the first try, but I feel like if I don’t sleep with other women I will regret later in life that I didn’t sleep around in my 20s” 🙄 I know the truth Coach Lee, he’s just not as attracted to me anymore.
@@tootsmay4420 it’s not as if we’re teenagers. I’m 31, he‘a 26. But I’m his first girlfriend, we’ve been together 2 years. I think he has some soul searching and growing up to do. I maintained no contact for 2 months now, he texted me the day after his birthday, I’m guessing me not reaching out made him panic. He reiterated he needs to be single but he wants me to be a part of his life and was disappointed I wasn’t reaching out to him. He also dumped me because he felt he could make money faster on his own (we have a business together) I guess none of his efforts the past two months have worked out because he wants to be in the business with me again.....but still as a single man and only a business contact.
It's simple. That person doesn't want to be with you anymore because they have moved on and want to get out of the relationship. Don't even bother with "no contact " just NOTHING them. This person doesn't deserve your love so move on.
Tell me why I heard all of these from my ex. I literally gave her one final chance to tell me the truth and she stuck to her story. Then went to no contact thinking it would work and during NC she got into another relationship…imagine that bullsh*t
You just dodged a major blow my man. I did the same thing with my ex and she wouldn't tell me the truth but she would keep telling me when she's in a new relationship. Why? She wanted to get her point across. I was in no contact as well thinking that might give her some space so when she was ready to talk, she could talk. But eventually she told me if she ever loved me before, she was lying because she was finally with someone she could truly love. This is 7-8 months after the breakup. Why in the world would she tell me that? Same answer: To get the point across... After that, I blocked her. Hopefully, she remembers that I was the guy who saved her life from commiting suicide and the guy she fell in love with, but I HIGHLY doubt that will ever happen. It's her loss.
@@trevorharding3783 chicks never remember all the good things you’ve done, from there point of view the small things don’t count. They hold on to the bad. They keep replaying it there head and make it out to be a lot worse then it actually was and they hold this for ages to simply dig at you later on in life to prove a point. Idiots lol
Ohmygosh, lol same, he said he wanted space and I deserve someone better as he felt like he cannot reciprocate the effort I'm giving. Also change his narrative that he felt suffocated when I always told him to spend time for himself. I was really fine giving him the space he needed not until a few days after the breakup I saw him following new women on his profile and found out he's on dating sites already, and now he's liking his ex's photos whom he said he's not getting back with (my bad for stalking to confirm things but I realized he's lying and very manipulative all the way).
My ex said all of this… including “my mental state isn’t great right now, I wish I wasn’t in this situation I don’t want be this way. I can’t be in a relationship or care about someone right now in this position I am in. Maybe in the future when I’m more stable and settled we can hope for another chance in the future but right now I can’t do it. I wish you the best, take care of yourself” 💀
This video is so awesome! Wow! Thank you Coach Lee, everything you said is so true. I did hear some of those breakup words 4 weeks ago. I feel like something clicked in my head now! You helped give me the strength I was looking for. Now I'm going all in with No Contact. Bless you!
My ex said I deserved someone who could be Intimate and show affection and put in the effort but then said I want us to stay friends I don't want to loose you out of my life.... My response..... Who are you to tell me what I deserve when I know full well what my worth is and no I can't be friends I have enough of those and walked away. I have not spoken to him since and that was 2 months ago
The day after our break up my ex told me randomly, “I feel like in the future we could get back together”. Around April she unadded me on Snapchat it hurt so bad cause her other exes she kept them but with me she unadded me. It’s been 4 months since our break up and 3 1/2 months since we last spoke. I feel better but still think of her
My ex also says the same the day he broke up with me, said if I hadn't someone else in future, we probably can reconnect again and removed me from everywhere, but no I won't fall into his words. I don't even want to hear from him in future so I removed my account right away, let him live in regret if reality hit him up
I feel this line is quite manipulative: like they’re trying to act the victim so you tell them “you’re all I need” “you’re a good person” and then you stay but you accept all their bs. This is how I felt it when my ex told me a variant of this “you deserve more”
Coach Lee my LDR for 3 yrs just changed. But before he did that, he was too busy with his phone and was giving me excuses til one morning he is just not really the same. Til he ghosted me and when I bugged him for a formal break up he replied. Very short reply which really made me feel insulted and rejected. Who in the world would tell your woman “See you in 8 years?” Crazy and narcissistic men would! 😌
My ex told me I'll find someone else and she needed to work on herself . But then she said she didn't want to be in a relationship wow you're on the money there. I heard she was even telling people what a great guy I'am, then she told a friend about a couple of weeks later that we both have issues to work on WTF I'm at a lost . The friend she spoke to about our apparent issues is a friend I don't see that much . He did say she was struggling with the break up .
My wife told me 2 months ago "I've found a new lover, and that's myself, I love my self more than this marriage" is that like some real bullshit or what -
Not necessarily. Her needs are not being met . It’s not what you want to hear. She’s saying she has lost herself. Sometimes we get lost in our relationships.
@@robynalvin6319 you can still find yourself and your identity and what you want to be while in a relationship the reason why someone breaks up with somebody is because attraction has fallen not necessarily physical but it could be emotional such as when someone is too needy or too small during or maybe not as peaceful such as too many arguments but attraction can be restored
Yeah. Mine said ‘ Your a special man. You’re smart, funny, interesting and great in bed.’ All I could think was ‘ oh, all those awful things that you don’t want in a man.’ What a joke. She’s better left alone now.
My ex said something similar, your sweet kind caring great dad etc etc but said I wasn’t the right guy So I asked her so you want the wrong guy lol found someone way better now so keep your chin up plenty more fish in the sea who are bigger catches
The worst thing is, it would been so much easier on the head and heart if she could have been direct and honest. Just tell me the attraction's gone, or I'm annoying or whatever. It would at least give me ground to build up from.
Hi Lee, this is a great topic. I remember when I was dating my ex, and he told me several times that he was looking for a BRUNETTE, and I'm Blonde, and there's no way I'm dying my hair. My ex was a Narcissist, and he was very hurtful. I took his abuse for 5 years before I finally left him. He was great our first year together, but after he asked me to marry him, he changed..One night I just blew up and said I'M TIRED OF BEING TREATED LIKE THIS. I CAN'T STAND YOU ANYMORE AND I WANT TO GET RID OF YOU!!! I really surprised myself. When you're being used for all those years. you're only human, you can only take so much. He never loved me.
Hi Jann, I guess you're the one adding the link to the coaching sessions in the comments. May I ask please if Coach Lee does offer some discount to the coaching session for someone in non-first world countries?
My ex is German and blunt as hell. He told me straight off literally out of nowhere he has lost feelings and isn’t in love with me after 4 years. I think his attraction just fell as we are in a long distance relationship and haven’t been able to see each other. He can be really bad tempered and we were bickering a lot. At least he was honest: I hope he comes back.
@Carolyn McDonald's why would anyone want to have a spell casted on them or make someone forced to be with them? If it’s not natural then what’s the point
She said "U will get someone more beautiful and better person than me....u deserve better".....guess what.... she's back with her ex and now trying to hurt me....i feel she'll be back one day...... taking her back or not would be the most difficult situation in my life
Almost 3 weeks NC. I got the "im confused, worried about the future" spiel, i figured either attraction fell and/or there's somebody else and i asked if that was the case; to which she said "no i dont even think ill be able to date anybody for a long time after this" and "its not like im gonna just run back out in the streets and grab anybody". Well, she's already jumped right back onto dating apps (friend saw her on there). Really crushing, because i can't even think about dating right now. Had to unfollow on social media and other apps because i don't want to see anymore. Still NC, but honestly i dont expect to hear anything even though the relationship was good and the breakup wasn't too bad (no begging, no berating; but not as clean as "oh i understand, go take your time and if you wanna see me just reach out" either). But even if i do hear from her, im not sure how ill feel about it - i think we sort of smothered each other with texts because we were both working from home during covid, and that caused the attraction to go down and turn her into a worry wort.
themanman165 That's another good one! Sorry you had to hear that. Sometimes these people think we don't "get it." Coach Lee has an Emergency Breakup Kit if you need extra help. totally get how insanely tough it is, and I've been right there in the same boat. You gotta check out Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's an awesome guide that'll save you from feeling totally lost in this crazy time. It tackles all sorts of situations and gives you strategies you never even considered. You can find it at myexbackcoach.com/ebk. Seriously, I'm rooting for you and hoping it works wonders!
Not this current breakup, but in the one before my ex said she needed to be single for a while in order to love herself more. She was crying and looked extremely anxious and so I took her seriously. Big mistake. A month later she posted a new pic with a new boyfriend, and I felt like an idiot for believing she was actually going to be single for her well-being. Don’t fall for it guys
She said perhaps the universe will bring up back together in the future. It gives me hope! I did nothing wrong but her mental health, anxiety and stress, made a relationship with me and my family unbearable.
This video makes me hate my ex. And my feeling are so hurt watching this video... I was trying no contact SO HARD for weeks now, thinking I want my ex back. But after watching this video, I am just too hurt (because he said these things and now I know he was just making up excuses) to think if I can handle it even if my ex comes back eventually. Even if he said all these things in breakup, is it worth getting back with him again? I still love him and miss him and want him back in my life, but after watching this video I feel so betrayed that he said all these things to me just to make it easier. I am so sad and depressed now even more..... What do I do? Now I am starting to think he's a bad person for saying these
I bought your break up kit and its great, but I've been going through a break up now for the past year we've been off and on, I still love this woman but I feel like I've blown it 100% with her, id like to talk to you Lee I really need your help💔
My ex is still annoyed at me after more than year of no contact when i accidentally contacted her. What a childish and a victim mindset. Now i understand she brought her suffering upon herself. The breakup was not only due to me. I will not apologize to her anymore.
Coach Lee, I have question. Ex came back after 4 months of NC. He texted and he quickly turned the convo into a sexual and that annoyed me. He asked me to get back together but I told him no. I felt like he just wants me sexually but I’m not interested in casual relationship.
What if your husband is going through an identity crisis during his midlife crisis and feels like he’s a complete failure at everything and that’s why he’s leaving because he can’t make you happy and he knows you haven’t been happy? Is that a lie? Someone in a midlife crisis is often completely different and they’re not even thinking logically at all so there’s no way to even get to their head because they’re just acting on emotions. My husband told me he loves me so much and wants to be with me in the future if he can figure himself out. I want to believe him, but I feel like this might be an excuse. I know his main identity issue is his career, but right now he won’t even talk to me so it’s not like I can even help him work out where he wants to go from here.
My ex told me that I was a good man, something in the relationship wasn't working for her, she didn't wish to continue relationship with me, and thanked me for everything. I treated her like a queen for the four months we were together and actually fell in love with her and she told me she loved me and broke up with me eight days later over text, any thoughts from the community? I think she is avoidant
Thank you coach because of your videos I purchased your work on how to get ex back it worked i got together with her and went on a trip but thanks to your vids I realized self worth and respect i got over her and moved on thank you very much
Its pointless to get some one back who dumped you thank to coach lee i got back with her and realized i was trying to bring back something that person killed our relationship
My ex told me he thought I fought with him like I did with my previous ex and that I need time to heal from my last relationship before him. He said he wanted to get back together eventually but who knows if that’s even true
hmm... my ex doesn't say I deserve better, but I interpret his constant compliments to mean as much. "You're really a wonderful person. Please, please be happy." "A part of me really wants to protect you, that's why I keep in touch..." "Developing a relationship with you has been wonderful. You're such a loving, sweet, and sexy person." If he really believed that, why refuse to keep me? 😡
I applied NC after he ghosted he made contact to apologise 8 weeks later 1 day after I finally unfriended him on Facebook. He said all of this stuff in this video but i’m 1 in a million, thinks world of me etc but didn’t. Ask to get back together 😢
My buddy was the one that introduced me to your videos, we are both in the same boat he was with his gf for 11 years and I was with mine for about 6 years and they are both friends and are hanging out every day and partying, my buddy’s girl told him that she had lost connection with him. I made a mistake with mine and texted back an ex but she forgave me and we would hang out every other day for like two weeks and we even took a trip together for the weekend and things were fine but her sister got in the mix since she’s really good friends with my buddys girl so now they have some one trying to worm into their heads and she went cold on me out of the blue, I am blocked on everything and I’m confused on why if things were going slowly but better little by little and then now I haven’t chased her anymore it’s been about 3 weeks since I last hung out with her but now I’m focused on me, been going to the gym lately and getting my mind right and your videos make things easier my mind set is that she won’t reach out at all anymore, but if she does then it’ll be up to me whether I want to get back together or not
Coach Lee, what IF her reasons could be legit? Ex had some bad long term relationships in past being more of a care provider than a partner. Loveless relations. She needed space now to find herself and be sure that she loves me truly and not again just being in a sympathetic loveless relationship. I have tried to keep NC, sent her flowers and a handwritten letter. She was happy about that but needed more time. Now back on NC. Any hope? What about young versus mature women regards to NC?
If you’re at 7months just completely move on you still shouldn’t be thinking about them or wanting them back after 7months you’re only mentally draining yourself. Move on and be happy in your life you live once enjoy yourself and find somebody else who won’t make you think about them for 7months being apart
What if you’re barely starting the NC at 7 months? Lol. My ex & I could barely go passed 3 weeks without one of us breaking the nc & having to restart over and over :/
My ex still wants me and it's been 7 months no contact... I just kno it I can tell. But I've been so hurt I do not know if I could ever take that chance again, other option to grow and move on no matter how hard and how long it takes is prob the wisest decision. Depends how hurt u got, ask urself are u prepared to go thru all this again if u have them the opportunity to do it again? I'm not saying I wouldn't consider, I love my ex, but I love myself more and he would have to do A LOT to get me to trust him again, and I do not think he is capable of that, therefore his prob not trustworthy so for me that would be a foolish move to take him back without him proving his trustworthy
I've got a ex 4 years and still stalking and wanting me. But that ex destroyed the best years of my life, there is nothing that ex could do to get me back, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. I hate that narcist with a passion, no love or attraction from my part 1 bit
She told me she believed we were better as friends… she’s dating someone knew, I started NC it’s been a couple weeks now… she’s been reaching out via text, asking me how I am doing. I wasn’t feeling well and I answered that I wasn’t feeling well.. she acted very concerned and even offered to bring me some soup. I told her no that I didn’t want to spread whatever it was I had in case it was something serious. She proceeded to tell me I should look into modeling, that my beauty is something She will always admire. A day or two go by she asks me how I am. I let her know I’m doing better… I do not try and keep the conversation going. I pretty much just match her energy. A day or so goes by and she calls me (shocked me) I answered and we had a nice conversation. She said a couple things that stuck in my head and gave me a little hope lol 1. She asked about my mom and told me to tell her she said hi 2. She asked me about a girl that I had relations with in the past (how she was doing, knowing she doesn’t really care, she just wants to see if I’m seeing her) 3. She brought up some intimate moments we shared (intimacy between us was out of this world) lol that was probably tmi 🤣🤣 4. She insinuated she was bad to me. We talked for a good hr with laughs and good vibes…. After our call I still remain in NC and she text me today. I feel in my heart we will be together and with the obvious undesirable circumstances I believe it’s all happening to show each of us how much we care. I do have my moments where I feel crazy. Like she just being kind/ nice lol but time will tell. Thank you so much CL! You’re program does work. Even if we don’t end up back together, the fact that I am working on myself and doing NC I’ve become much stronger. To everyone else be strong ❤️
we broke up 3 weeks ago and i asked him if i were to put our relationship in a box should i just throw it out completely and he said i wouldn’t throw the whole thing away and that he has feelings for me but it’s not high and he couldn’t give me a number of how much i just don’t know what to do we have dated for almost 4 years now
Thank you so much coach Lee..you gave so much wisdom in all your videos. My ex broke up with me last year Decembe, it's almost 7 months now..I've not been applying the no contact rules..cos I love him so much Being begging and pleading, trying to talk to him yet no response from him...if I start the no contact now...do I still have any chances of getting him back... He said nothing will change his mind about me cos I said something to that doesn't go well with... it's a distance relationship though
Coach Lee, what does it mean when he said all that "you deserve someone better than me and love you fully, i am not enough for you etc.." then when I broke 1 mo contact from dumped from 3 yr relationship to drop off his stuff, he was all over me affectionate/complimenting me then asked me to dinner to catch up? Am I on the right track? I've watched all your vids, focused on myself, and it has helped my healing a lot so am unsure if I want him back. Never begged and he reached a few times before. I am still continuing no contact before and after the dinner(this sun). Please advise, thx
It does not mean they are never coming back, but it doesn’t mean they are coming back either. It just means that at the moment, their heart isn’t where you want it to be.
Coach Lee my boyfriend broke up with me four months ago and we’ve been back-and-forth back-and-forth I did no contact twice he’s come back to me telling me he wants relationship but the minute I show him that I’m interested he pulls back again what do I do now?
I told her "yeah, I do deserve someone better" and now I am with someone much better, and my ex is texting me at 2 am during weekdays. Life is good.
King move 👑
So happy for you ❤️
Lol..be nice!
Hahahaha.
Haha my man 💪💪
Someone call a barista cause this roast just got dark!
“When you feel loved, you behave emotionally at your most attractive level” 🙌🏼
Hey hope ur OK now if a women says stay away from there home it's over all because I spent time with my mother and she don't get along with her but we have kids at her house and we was getting on so well last few weeks until I went away with my mum and other son not sure do I give her space she is stubborn I no but I don't want her to be with a rebond
So true I agree . The soul control 's ur heart value the soul attraction over the flesh for every touch when u here the heart beat .is a experience u can't imagine or knowing what true love is .buertiful perfect beyond the level I can't explain.but I love it .100%👍🤗🕊🌹🌷
Coming up on six months of NC. My heart goes out to every one of you, it gets easier 💕💕
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I dunno. 4.5 mths in and im still in such rough shape... thank you though :(
@@surrealfeline try not to keep a count on this. Shift the focus on yourself and don't force yourself to forget.
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Any updates? 3.5 months here and still finding it difficult
40 days no contact and counting. It has been difficult. I will tell you there have been hundreds of moments of weakness. However, when I am feeling that way I put on one of Lee's videos and it calms me. Thank you sir.
How are you now?
Keep going on brother.
No contact works as my ex texted me back after 90 days of no contact just to ask 'how i m doing '
@@vagabondwolves179 what's happened since?
I only made it to 6 days no contact.
@@s.elizabeth1753update?
Mine was “you deserve better and someone who can show you the same love and affection you showed me” and “I just couldn’t reciprocate”.
I never had a problem with how she handled herself in our relationship. She has some sort of trauma, maybe even some abandonment issues, and definitely emotional issues, but I still loved her for being her.
There are certain situations, now more prevalent than ever, where someone who suffers from deep emotional issues and has major abandonment fears, will actually sabotage the relationship. They are so afraid that you will leave them once you get to know who they really are, they can't handle the thought of that inevitable rejection
which they feel is definitely coming, and so they will break up with you. Shame is something they feel intensely and around an individual like yourself, they can't afford to look in the mirror because it's far too painful.
This is deep, resonant, and above all else, true. Some people sabotage what could have been the greatest love of their life because of fears of rejection, abandonment or difficulty connecting. Love feels foreign to them. You could be everything they've ever wanted, and they'll burn it and you to the ground because it's what they know.
What my ex did.
This is my ex right now. She tried to mask her own personal problems by making excuses. She knows the real reason and it’s even obvious to me. She broke up with me 2 days ago and is acting confident to her friends and myself and is also somewhat angry at me because I said that I am willing to do anything to get through it and she’s not used to anyone saying that. but once she said “please stop I just can’t do this” then I realised the real reason and that’s her. And I know she’s really going to struggle without me because I have really helped and invested my help into heping and dealing with her anxiety but she’s never known any different than people not caring about her problems. It’s really sad but I do believe that the people in these situations do eventually come around through the no contact rule. It is my first day of the NC rule and I’m very hopeful as even when she broke the news to me about what she wanted, it was such a sudden decision that I really do think she’ll regret.
This is basically the reason why that I was dumped... In a nutshell 😞
@@ahmedmohammedy3121any updates? This may be a large part of my situation.
When someone says one of those lines there is only one thing to do; politely leave. Don’t tolerate that crap
If my ex is suffering now let it be. She brought this upon herself. I told her lets talk and to voice her concerns straightforward but she still preferred to shift the blame and breakup over whatsapp. You deserve to be lonely if you blame everything on me.
To everyone out there right now and that ❤️ is hurting bad.... I'm right there with you...were doing it and there's nothing we can do about it 😔 stay strong,,it's gotta be the hardest thing I've ever done is watch someone walk away that means the world to me and there's not one thing I can do about it!!
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This video described my ex perfectly. He said all of those things. "You deserve someone better than me, I need to work on myself and be worthy of you so we have a chance of being together in the future, because we are soulmates" I must really look like a 🤡
Can I get an update what’s happened since
He’s the clown
Thank you Coach Lee. Now I just realized my ex said that to me as well the day after she ended the relationship. It does hurt, but it was 7-8 months ago. I'm still watching your videos so I can stay strong and to make sure i don't lose my cool if I ever bump into her again. If she wants to hop from one person to another, that's her. I hope one day she realizes she lost a special person who did the impossible by changing her life. Thank you again Coach Lee.
Please don't think about what she will feel about you in the near future. Tbh, it shouldn't be any of your concern. I know it hurts but you have to realise that. Trust me, things will get better for you, King 👑
If you know you were a good person in the relationship then that's all that should matter. Validate yourself. Please focus on yourself and love what's inside of you.
Thank you coach Lee🌺 my husband of 38 years said that to me too, he wanted to leave me for someone he fell in love with at work, that was 4 years ago I’m divorced now and has lots of counseling to get myself back to my Happy self 🥰 I’m doing good never thought it would happen to me but it did, life is good now❤️ thanks so much, love your channel, take care 🥰
I am sorry you had to go through all this 🌸
God bless u.... It feels like u will never get over the love of ur life, but we have all been there and it happens to the best of us. We can't worry about what's for them and their future all that matters is what u have to look forward to in ur own future. Think positive, what do u have to lose, go for it be happy and excited for new and good things to come for u! X
@@zahrapovey1709 awe 🌺 thank you so much for your kind words, very thoughtful, I’m doing really good, time passes and heals the heart and it helps that there’s not in my state, I have awesome grown children and there my greatest gift, nothing like family❤️ thank you again and take good care ❤️ Norma Jean
@@paintertom123 thank you Maria🌺 very sweet of you, I’m doing good 🌺 thanks so much for your thoughtfulness ❤️ means allot ❤️ you take good care ❤️ Norma Jean
Im so sorry that must of been so hard here I am thinking my 4 year was the hardest thing I cant imagine
If you listen to his advice, it works. Got my ex back a few months later. But, you need to follow no contact out minimal contact, no begging, no pleading, just work on yourself thats it!
How long until you heard back
@@brittany8868 I'm a girl btw, and it worked for me, even though my ex is very avoidant emotionally. Basically, we were living together and after the break up I still was in very minimal contact with him, the longest we went with no contact was maybe a month. Even tho we were in contact, I never begged, never pleaded.I also NEVER contacted him first, I let him contact me, and never ignored him but I also never sounded desperate either. I went back to school, got a higher paying job, worked on my flaws. Even though we had minimal contact, only 4 months post break up, he said he saw how much I changed, and he asked me to get back together officially! We are extremely happy now, my relationship is way better now :) So my advice to you, is you do no contact, but when he txts u answer him, show him you changed, but NEVER sound desperate by text.
So happy for you! :)
The Truth is you don't need that person at any point, get another one who deserves you, period. 🙂
Just go no contact- it’s a time for reflection and wisdom. Be yourself, trust yourself and your inner instincts and what the world is telling you. Love yourself! Before long, you will realise you are much better off without them and the world out there offers infinite possibilities!
This video came to me at the right time. My ex would say this over and over. I ended up moving out because I knew deep down inside what was going on. No contact is definitely harder with kids. But I do notice her very different now that I'm working on myself and not chasing her. She tries to act as if everything is fine but I know her better than that. I know she's suffering on the inside.
How is it going now?
@@Kon6I9yes please update!
My ex said “I’ve just been praying and it feels like god has someone better for you”
I’m all for prayer…..but 🙄. If his attraction was as high as it was in the past, I think it would “feel like God” has made you for him.
Manipulators hand you excuses that really make little sense. Authentic hands you things serious enough you likely already knew but ignored.
Coach Lee's advice is full of wisdom. It is an eye opener and has enabled me overcome break up depression and discovering myself on how to move forward as a better version.
All of these posts, with all this despair, all of these broken hearts, all of these stories -- they all signify the same thing: Relationships are anything but easy, and people are complicated.
@@santivivihana2144 seriously, go away. I'm not looking to bring any ex back. I'm a life coach, among other things. You scammers and these whatsapp solicitations kill me
@Clifford Alfred scam artist!! Scammer!! Beat it
I want to thank you Lee. You bring so much rest to people who are in anxiety and fear. So today, after only 15 days we decided to meet up again. She actually called me crying she said she missed me 1 week after the break up, we had even seen each other and we flirted, the vibe was good and our connection was still there. Hopefully it'll all be good soon. I have nothing to say about the video but just wanted to thank you for the videos you put out. You are geniunely saving relationships, tbh; without your videos I would have been begging and pleading and hurting myself even more. You changed me! And NC works! she even asked after a night out: With friends i assume??. Thinking i was with someone else haha! she missed me a lot and when we met 3 days after the breakup she was very flirty, she hoped on a relationship and talked about a future. I decided to give her the breakup after that. 4 days later i got that one call i talked about. And now 1 week later we are setting up a meeting to catch up, and do some walking. It will be fun, face to face she can not stay off of me!
If they can walk away from you there right and you do deserve better.
I thought I would want my ex back, I even bought the kit. But at the end, I realized she was seriously unstable. No contact is me running away. I hope she loses my number
In the same boat, but still undecided but almost sure on it
@@reedu1298 I can understand that. My consolation is that the way I handled it was so smooth it shocker her, and she hung up on me. 😆 I waited till she was done talking and said in a calm voice, " Well, ok then. I wish you well, take care of yourself and I'll see you around ". I'm convinced she didn't really know me at all just by what she said to me. That made walking away feel right. I know I'm fortunate to have that
Walking away from an ex who walked away can be one of the most liberating and powerful moment in one's life. That person should consider him/her self a blessed one.
Well said,I feel exactly the same way about my ex girlfriend.
Did the kit help? I’m thinking of getting it, is it even helpful you think?
My ex told me, “ you are beautiful and a good woman but not for me” and i was like Wth 🤨🤷🏻♀️🙇🏻♀️
And I said I won’t be here when you come back !
Hey coach, she said “I don’t want to change who you are” when I offered to make the changes that seemed to push her to dump me. I would tease her in a flirty way or now I know with reflection little comments that I didn’t realize were affecting her as much as they were. She’s very sweet and sensitive.
Thats why you should always try to respond very briefly, and without anger. Because whatever and however they break up wih you, it doesn't feel nice. The only thing you can do ia accept it, and stop contacting them
Thank you for your videos! I find myself watching them so much lately. I’m confused by my ex boyfriend. He said early on, “You’re not going to rip my heart out and stomp all over it are you?” I just loved him. Later he broke up with me even though we had a good thing. And he said that it is better to end it now rather than wait till we got into more hurtful feelings later. I think he was scared of being hurt, and I miss him.
It’s a cop out. Their own attempt at making themselves feel better for hurting you. It’s a huge turn off and a big fat NOPE. Save your energy and run.
“I wasn’t expecting to meet the perfect woman on the first try, but I feel like if I don’t sleep with other women I will regret later in life that I didn’t sleep around in my 20s” 🙄 I know the truth Coach Lee, he’s just not as attracted to me anymore.
Thats a messed up thing to say. What a goose
Basically happened to me too 😔
@@tootsmay4420 it’s not as if we’re teenagers. I’m 31, he‘a 26. But I’m his first girlfriend, we’ve been together 2 years. I think he has some soul searching and growing up to do. I maintained no contact for 2 months now, he texted me the day after his birthday,
I’m guessing me not reaching out made him panic. He reiterated he needs to be single but he wants me to be a part of his life and was disappointed I wasn’t reaching out to him. He also dumped me because he felt he could make money faster on his own (we have a business together) I guess none of his efforts the past two months have worked out because he wants to be in the business with me again.....but still as a single man and only a business contact.
It's simple. That person doesn't want to be with you anymore because they have moved on and want to get out of the relationship. Don't even bother with "no contact " just NOTHING them. This person doesn't deserve your love so move on.
Tell me why I heard all of these from my ex. I literally gave her one final chance to tell me the truth and she stuck to her story. Then went to no contact thinking it would work and during NC she got into another relationship…imagine that bullsh*t
She was in a relationship before she broke up with you!
Shows her true colours.... She's no good. U dodged a bullet there!
You just dodged a major blow my man. I did the same thing with my ex and she wouldn't tell me the truth but she would keep telling me when she's in a new relationship. Why? She wanted to get her point across. I was in no contact as well thinking that might give her some space so when she was ready to talk, she could talk. But eventually she told me if she ever loved me before, she was lying because she was finally with someone she could truly love. This is 7-8 months after the breakup. Why in the world would she tell me that? Same answer: To get the point across... After that, I blocked her. Hopefully, she remembers that I was the guy who saved her life from commiting suicide and the guy she fell in love with, but I HIGHLY doubt that will ever happen. It's her loss.
@@trevorharding3783 chicks never remember all the good things you’ve done, from there point of view the small things don’t count.
They hold on to the bad. They keep replaying it there head and make it out to be a lot worse then it actually was and they hold this for ages to simply dig at you later on in life to prove a point. Idiots lol
Ohmygosh, lol same, he said he wanted space and I deserve someone better as he felt like he cannot reciprocate the effort I'm giving. Also change his narrative that he felt suffocated when I always told him to spend time for himself. I was really fine giving him the space he needed not until a few days after the breakup I saw him following new women on his profile and found out he's on dating sites already, and now he's liking his ex's photos whom he said he's not getting back with (my bad for stalking to confirm things but I realized he's lying and very manipulative all the way).
My ex said all of this… including “my mental state isn’t great right now, I wish I wasn’t in this situation I don’t want be this way. I can’t be in a relationship or care about someone right now in this position I am in. Maybe in the future when I’m more stable and settled we can hope for another chance in the future but right now I can’t do it. I wish you the best, take care of yourself” 💀
Any update? My ex said something similar too.
@@winterkai12what happened man?
This is the fresh one,coach she said that to me a weeks ago,still listening
This video is so awesome! Wow! Thank you Coach Lee, everything you said is so true. I did hear some of those breakup words 4 weeks ago. I feel like something clicked in my head now! You helped give me the strength I was looking for. Now I'm going all in with No Contact. Bless you!
Did NC helps getting your ex back ?
Hey give us an update
My ex said I deserved someone who could be Intimate and show affection and put in the effort but then said I want us to stay friends I don't want to loose you out of my life.... My response..... Who are you to tell me what I deserve when I know full well what my worth is and no I can't be friends I have enough of those and walked away. I have not spoken to him since and that was 2 months ago
Same here, it's weird people don't understand true meaning of love and relationship. And just leave when they "fell out of love"
That's just stupid
They only want to be friends so they don't feel guilty!
It's a way of passing the buck to some nebulous "future person." Like "you're worth x but I'M not gonna be the one to PAY x."
What if he said “I just want to move on and live life” and also says “I don’t feel the same way towards you anymore”
That sounds more honest than many. And keep in mind, that’s how he felt in the moment.
Let him go. You will never force someone to feel something. Look out for yourself now.
The day after our break up my ex told me randomly, “I feel like in the future we could get back together”. Around April she unadded me on Snapchat it hurt so bad cause her other exes she kept them but with me she unadded me. It’s been 4 months since our break up and 3 1/2 months since we last spoke. I feel better but still think of her
Man let it go. She's doing another guy. When that goes south she'll hit u up. But she only hit u up because things didn't go in her favor.
update?
My ex also says the same the day he broke up with me, said if I hadn't someone else in future, we probably can reconnect again and removed me from everywhere, but no I won't fall into his words. I don't even want to hear from him in future so I removed my account right away, let him live in regret if reality hit him up
Any update on this?
Update mate?
The only apologies you should accept is changed behavior.
He said, "I'm just not the guy for you." and " Havent you heard the saying if you set something free?"
And you replied: "Yeah, I heard that, and laughed my ass off."
I heard, I am toxic. I need to heal. You deserve better.
Listening to this really opens my eyes
I feel this line is quite manipulative: like they’re trying to act the victim so you tell them “you’re all I need” “you’re a good person” and then you stay but you accept all their bs. This is how I felt it when my ex told me a variant of this “you deserve more”
Coach Lee my LDR for 3 yrs just changed. But before he did that, he was too busy with his phone and was giving me excuses til one morning he is just not really the same. Til he ghosted me and when I bugged him for a formal break up he replied. Very short reply which really made me feel insulted and rejected. Who in the world would tell your woman “See you in 8 years?” Crazy and narcissistic men would! 😌
He is a dumper!
You forgot to mention “I need space”
I talk about that in this video: ua-cam.com/video/aSN3NNoqOgc/v-deo.html
Take the hurt and do yourself right and never take someone back that could leave you.
My ex told me I'll find someone else and she needed to work on herself . But then she said she didn't want to be in a relationship wow you're on the money there. I heard she was even telling people what a great guy I'am, then she told a friend about a couple of weeks later that we both have issues to work on WTF I'm at a lost . The friend she spoke to about our apparent issues is a friend I don't see that much . He did say she was struggling with the break up .
My wife told me 2 months ago "I've found a new lover, and that's myself, I love my self more than this marriage" is that like some real bullshit or what -
Not necessarily. Her needs are not being met . It’s not what you want to hear.
She’s saying she has lost herself. Sometimes we get lost in our relationships.
@@robynalvin6319 you can still find yourself and your identity and what you want to be while in a relationship the reason why someone breaks up with somebody is because attraction has fallen not necessarily physical but it could be emotional such as when someone is too needy or too small during or maybe not as peaceful such as too many arguments but attraction can be restored
Yeah. Mine said ‘ Your a special man. You’re smart, funny, interesting and great in bed.’
All I could think was ‘ oh, all those awful things that you don’t want in a man.’
What a joke. She’s better left alone now.
I have no words, just wanted to say I know how you're feeling..
Lil. What a bullshit load of excuses. She tried to sound smart thinking it would hurt less
My ex said something similar, your sweet kind caring great dad etc etc but said I wasn’t the right guy
So I asked her so you want the wrong guy lol
found someone way better now so keep your chin up plenty more fish in the sea who are bigger catches
Dude, put that on your online dating profiles as a "product review".
The worst thing is, it would been so much easier on the head and heart if she could have been direct and honest. Just tell me the attraction's gone, or I'm annoying or whatever. It would at least give me ground to build up from.
Hi Lee, this is a great topic. I remember when I was dating my ex, and he told me several times that he was looking for a BRUNETTE, and I'm Blonde, and there's no way I'm dying my hair. My ex was a Narcissist, and he was very hurtful. I took his abuse for 5 years before I finally left him. He was great our first year together, but after he asked me to marry him, he changed..One night I just blew up and said I'M TIRED OF BEING TREATED LIKE THIS. I CAN'T STAND YOU ANYMORE AND I WANT TO GET RID OF YOU!!! I really surprised myself. When you're being used for all those years. you're only human, you can only take so much. He never loved me.
Hi Jann, I guess you're the one adding the link to the coaching sessions in the comments. May I ask please if Coach Lee does offer some discount to the coaching session for someone in non-first world countries?
My ex told me to move on , and deserve better . Its a cop out!
Andrew, yes, it's a big cop out!
My ex is German and blunt as hell. He told me straight off literally out of nowhere he has lost feelings and isn’t in love with me after 4 years. I think his attraction just fell as we are in a long distance relationship and haven’t been able to see each other. He can be really bad tempered and we were bickering a lot. At least he was honest: I hope he comes back.
@Carolyn McDonald's why would anyone want to have a spell casted on them or make someone forced to be with them? If it’s not natural then what’s the point
She said "U will get someone more beautiful and better person than me....u deserve better".....guess what.... she's back with her ex and now trying to hurt me....i feel she'll be back one day...... taking her back or not would be the most difficult situation in my life
Do a segment of when an ex keeps personal possessions or an engagement ring 💍
Get that ring back man! That’s your property and your work to earn it!
Almost 3 weeks NC. I got the "im confused, worried about the future" spiel, i figured either attraction fell and/or there's somebody else and i asked if that was the case; to which she said "no i dont even think ill be able to date anybody for a long time after this" and "its not like im gonna just run back out in the streets and grab anybody".
Well, she's already jumped right back onto dating apps (friend saw her on there). Really crushing, because i can't even think about dating right now. Had to unfollow on social media and other apps because i don't want to see anymore.
Still NC, but honestly i dont expect to hear anything even though the relationship was good and the breakup wasn't too bad (no begging, no berating; but not as clean as "oh i understand, go take your time and if you wanna see me just reach out" either). But even if i do hear from her, im not sure how ill feel about it - i think we sort of smothered each other with texts because we were both working from home during covid, and that caused the attraction to go down and turn her into a worry wort.
Stay in no contact time will give you answers of everything
I really hope in this video you cover “I need time to think about us”
themanman165
That's another good one! Sorry you had to hear that. Sometimes these people think we don't "get it."
Coach Lee has an Emergency Breakup Kit if you need extra help.
totally get how insanely tough it is, and I've been right there in the same boat. You gotta check out Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's an awesome guide that'll save you from feeling totally lost in this crazy time. It tackles all sorts of situations and gives you strategies you never even considered. You can find it at myexbackcoach.com/ebk. Seriously, I'm rooting for you and hoping it works wonders!
@@jannlewandowski5540 please stop you’re a bot Jesus Christ.......hes becoming quite the salesman now
Not this current breakup, but in the one before my ex said she needed to be single for a while in order to love herself more. She was crying and looked extremely anxious and so I took her seriously. Big mistake. A month later she posted a new pic with a new boyfriend, and I felt like an idiot for believing she was actually going to be single for her well-being. Don’t fall for it guys
I think that it would be good to say "I see you know my value, so let's cherish each other"
Hope y’all heal 💜
😂😂😂 I love coach Lee’s honesty. On point. ❤
She said perhaps the universe will bring up back together in the future. It gives me hope! I did nothing wrong but her mental health, anxiety and stress, made a relationship with me and my family unbearable.
Coach Lee makes me hate my ex 😂
This video makes me hate my ex. And my feeling are so hurt watching this video... I was trying no contact SO HARD for weeks now, thinking I want my ex back. But after watching this video, I am just too hurt (because he said these things and now I know he was just making up excuses) to think if I can handle it even if my ex comes back eventually.
Even if he said all these things in breakup, is it worth getting back with him again? I still love him and miss him and want him back in my life, but after watching this video I feel so betrayed that he said all these things to me just to make it easier. I am so sad and depressed now even more..... What do I do? Now I am starting to think he's a bad person for saying these
Coach lee Is hands down the best coach there are some other good ones but coach Lee is always my go to.
ex says im so sorry i dont like this feeling i just woke up like i dont love u and i dont need you anymore GOD gave me signs....How stupid
I bought your break up kit and its great, but I've been going through a break up now for the past year we've been off and on, I still love this woman but I feel like I've blown it 100% with her, id like to talk to you Lee I really need your help💔
I deserve to be treated better than how my ex treated me with all the lies,cheating and devious ways,glad she dumped me,won't be taking her back ever.
My ex is still annoyed at me after more than year of no contact when i accidentally contacted her. What a childish and a victim mindset. Now i understand she brought her suffering upon herself. The breakup was not only due to me. I will not apologize to her anymore.
This is the first time I've been the first person watching a video. Just had to say it.
You won’t regret it, Marina
Coach Lee, I have question. Ex came back after 4 months of NC. He texted and he quickly turned the convo into a sexual and that annoyed me. He asked me to get back together but I told him no. I felt like he just wants me sexually but I’m not interested in casual relationship.
Nah he misses you
What if your husband is going through an identity crisis during his midlife crisis and feels like he’s a complete failure at everything and that’s why he’s leaving because he can’t make you happy and he knows you haven’t been happy? Is that a lie? Someone in a midlife crisis is often completely different and they’re not even thinking logically at all so there’s no way to even get to their head because they’re just acting on emotions. My husband told me he loves me so much and wants to be with me in the future if he can figure himself out. I want to believe him, but I feel like this might be an excuse. I know his main identity issue is his career, but right now he won’t even talk to me so it’s not like I can even help him work out where he wants to go from here.
I wan’t to know that too…
I hope you are doing better dear
lol. she didnt say i deserve better, she said she deserved better.
My ex told me that I was a good man, something in the relationship wasn't working for her, she didn't wish to continue relationship with me, and thanked me for everything. I treated her like a queen for the four months we were together and actually fell in love with her and she told me she loved me and broke up with me eight days later over text, any thoughts from the community? I think she is avoidant
Thank you coach because of your videos I purchased your work on how to get ex back it worked i got together with her and went on a trip but thanks to your vids I realized self worth and respect i got over her and moved on thank you very much
Its pointless to get some one back who dumped you thank to coach lee i got back with her and realized i was trying to bring back something that person killed our relationship
My ex told me he thought I fought with him like I did with my previous ex and that I need time to heal from my last relationship before him. He said he wanted to get back together eventually but who knows if that’s even true
What if an ex says she loves you, but is afraid of getting hurt again?
Danal, she was probably hurt very deeply before. Give her TIME.
That is a real fear not an excuse
You are absolutely right coach lee
Still love you and always will GOAT Lee 🐐
My ex said I deserved better and I agreed then he was mad when I agreed but he said it in the first place 🙄
Lol my ex said the same thing and I agreed and he flipped out 😒
Watching from Philippines 🇵🇭
hmm... my ex doesn't say I deserve better, but I interpret his constant compliments to mean as much. "You're really a wonderful person. Please, please be happy." "A part of me really wants to protect you, that's why I keep in touch..." "Developing a relationship with you has been wonderful. You're such a loving, sweet, and sexy person."
If he really believed that, why refuse to keep me? 😡
They are crazy don’t waste your time on manipulators
I applied NC after he ghosted he made contact to apologise 8 weeks later 1 day after I finally unfriended him on Facebook. He said all of this stuff in this video but i’m 1 in a million, thinks world of me etc but didn’t. Ask to get back together 😢
Yes Lee this is spot on thank you 💙
My buddy was the one that introduced me to your videos, we are both in the same boat he was with his gf for 11 years and I was with mine for about 6 years and they are both friends and are hanging out every day and partying, my buddy’s girl told him that she had lost connection with him. I made a mistake with mine and texted back an ex but she forgave me and we would hang out every other day for like two weeks and we even took a trip together for the weekend and things were fine but her sister got in the mix since she’s really good friends with my buddys girl so now they have some one trying to worm into their heads and she went cold on me out of the blue, I am blocked on everything and I’m confused on why if things were going slowly but better little by little and then now I haven’t chased her anymore it’s been about 3 weeks since I last hung out with her but now I’m focused on me, been going to the gym lately and getting my mind right and your videos make things easier my mind set is that she won’t reach out at all anymore, but if she does then it’ll be up to me whether I want to get back together or not
Coach Lee, what IF her reasons could be legit? Ex had some bad long term relationships in past being more of a care provider than a partner. Loveless relations. She needed space now to find herself and be sure that she loves me truly and not again just being in a sympathetic loveless relationship. I have tried to keep NC, sent her flowers and a handwritten letter. She was happy about that but needed more time. Now back on NC. Any hope?
What about young versus mature women regards to NC?
Can i get my ex back if she stop reaching out and we been broke up for 7 months ?
If you’re at 7months just completely move on you still shouldn’t be thinking about them or wanting them back after 7months you’re only mentally draining yourself. Move on and be happy in your life you live once enjoy yourself and find somebody else who won’t make you think about them for 7months being apart
What if you’re barely starting the NC at 7 months? Lol. My ex & I could barely go passed 3 weeks without one of us breaking the nc & having to restart over and over :/
My ex still wants me and it's been 7 months no contact... I just kno it I can tell. But I've been so hurt I do not know if I could ever take that chance again, other option to grow and move on no matter how hard and how long it takes is prob the wisest decision. Depends how hurt u got, ask urself are u prepared to go thru all this again if u have them the opportunity to do it again? I'm not saying I wouldn't consider, I love my ex, but I love myself more and he would have to do A LOT to get me to trust him again, and I do not think he is capable of that, therefore his prob not trustworthy so for me that would be a foolish move to take him back without him proving his trustworthy
I've got a ex 4 years and still stalking and wanting me. But that ex destroyed the best years of my life, there is nothing that ex could do to get me back, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. I hate that narcist with a passion, no love or attraction from my part 1 bit
Dude, if it's been 7 months...it's best to move on. But it's up to you.
They dont tell the real score about relationship, hiding the truth on why do they want to break up.
She told me she believed we were better as friends… she’s dating someone knew, I started NC it’s been a couple weeks now… she’s been reaching out via text, asking me how I am doing. I wasn’t feeling well and I answered that I wasn’t feeling well.. she acted very concerned and even offered to bring me some soup. I told her no that I didn’t want to spread whatever it was I had in case it was something serious. She proceeded to tell me I should look into modeling, that my beauty is something She will always admire. A day or two go by she asks me how I am. I let her know I’m doing better… I do not try and keep the conversation going. I pretty much just match her energy. A day or so goes by and she calls me (shocked me) I answered and we had a nice conversation. She said a couple things that stuck in my head and gave me a little hope lol 1. She asked about my mom and told me to tell her she said hi 2. She asked me about a girl that I had relations with in the past (how she was doing, knowing she doesn’t really care, she just wants to see if I’m seeing her) 3. She brought up some intimate moments we shared (intimacy between us was out of this world) lol that was probably tmi 🤣🤣 4. She insinuated she was bad to me. We talked for a good hr with laughs and good vibes…. After our call I still remain in NC and she text me today. I feel in my heart we will be together and with the obvious undesirable circumstances I believe it’s all happening to show each of us how much we care. I do have my moments where I feel crazy. Like she just being kind/ nice lol but time will tell. Thank you so much CL! You’re program does work. Even if we don’t end up back together, the fact that I am working on myself and doing NC I’ve become much stronger. To everyone else be strong ❤️
Preach it Coach!
Are you from Texas, Coach Lee? You sound like you're from Texas, but could be wrong. I love your videos.
Any person hit dislike button , more than full ah sh%t .... and to understand real life
we broke up 3 weeks ago and i asked him if i were to put our relationship in a box should i just throw it out completely and he said i wouldn’t throw the whole thing away and that he has feelings for me but it’s not high and he couldn’t give me a number of how much i just don’t know what to do we have dated for almost 4 years now
Do no contact refer to other vdos on this channel, let the attraction rebuild then take the decision
What if they are depressed? Going thru a lot of depression
Sweetgirl132, give them TIME to feel like themselves again.
Thank you so much coach Lee..you gave so much wisdom in all your videos.
My ex broke up with me last year Decembe, it's almost 7 months now..I've not been applying the no contact rules..cos I love him so much
Being begging and pleading, trying to talk to him yet no response from him...if I start the no contact now...do I still have any chances of getting him back...
He said nothing will change his mind about me cos I said something to that doesn't go well with...
it's a distance relationship though
You will only know if you try it. Either way, you have to leave him alone. But it is possible he will contact you.
I hope you applied no contact, I'm going through LDR breakup too
Coach Lee! Yes yes. 🌹🔥
I ❤️ your videos coach Lee!
Coach Lee, what does it mean when he said all that "you deserve someone better than me and love you fully, i am not enough for you etc.." then when I broke 1 mo contact from dumped from 3 yr relationship to drop off his stuff, he was all over me affectionate/complimenting me then asked me to dinner to catch up? Am I on the right track? I've watched all your vids, focused on myself, and it has helped my healing a lot so am unsure if I want him back. Never begged and he reached a few times before. I am still continuing no contact before and after the dinner(this sun). Please advise, thx
You are doing well. 💪🏻
@@RealCoachLee tysm Coach, i appreciate you and advice. So grateful for your channel!!! So glad I bought the kit cause it has helped a lot!!
@@mvaventuras2091 so what happen? update?
I married a new man and realized my worth
@@mvaventuras2091 amazing so happy for you!! I am suffering 3 weeks in NC but NOT reaching out.
What if they say this to you and you found out they got together three days later with someone they knew from HS (like almost 40 years ago)?
I can’t believe I broke no contact it’s the holidays I’m having a hard time with everything he hasn’t answered me I have no idea what to do
Does this also apply to those with Aspergers, since they are so matter of fact?
What if they said "I'm not happy with you anymore". Does this mean they are never coming back?
It does not mean they are never coming back, but it doesn’t mean they are coming back either. It just means that at the moment, their heart isn’t where you want it to be.
Coach Lee my boyfriend broke up with me four months ago and we’ve been back-and-forth back-and-forth I did no contact twice he’s come back to me telling me he wants relationship but the minute I show him that I’m interested he pulls back again what do I do now?
Deborah, it sounds like you two aren't going anywhere. Go NC. This back & forth is a GAME!