I'm Scared To Leave My Job Because I'm Scared Of The Unknown

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 92

  • @Ebizzill
    @Ebizzill 5 років тому +165

    its risky leaving my comfortable salary, it's riskier to stay in and not progress. I hate monday mornings I hate every mornings.

    • @tanairigonzalez9793
      @tanairigonzalez9793 2 роки тому +2

      Did you end up leaving?

    • @Ebizzill
      @Ebizzill 2 роки тому +13

      @@tanairigonzalez9793 ran for my life!

    • @BlackFaithProduction
      @BlackFaithProduction Рік тому +1

      @@Ebizzill Was it worth it? Especially in the beginning?

    • @Ebizzill
      @Ebizzill Рік тому +6

      @@BlackFaithProduction 100% worth it, and I would do it 1000 times over. when you said in the beginning what do you mean?

    • @JettingChen
      @JettingChen Рік тому

      @Ebizzill did you have a new job lined up before you left? Or were you looking after quitting?

  • @jesussaves89
    @jesussaves89 2 роки тому +32

    If it's dead end and no growth then you have to move on. Many people never reach full potential because they are comfortable and security is usually what makes us stop growing long term!

  • @memyselfandi6788
    @memyselfandi6788 4 роки тому +76

    I can totally relate to this lady. Im in a job that I hate, but I don't want to do my current profession anymore. Also, I dont have a passion or idea of what else i want to do.

    • @bambamlover
      @bambamlover 2 роки тому +15

      This is a year late but... this is literally me. I've worked in the same job for 10 years. Because I've spent about 5 years of that, pushing my misery into the pit of my stomach, my mental health has taken a major toll. I am just about to do a 2nd interview for brand new career path. I'm scared absolutely shitless. BUT I had to work through all those feelings of fear and unworthiness and anxiety. I applied for a few jobs and it was really, really hard. Now, I'm essentially three weeks or so away from walking out of a building that's been my 2nd home for 10 years. You can do it. In fact, you NEED to do it. It can be an uncomfortable feeling but it's your mind's way of fighting against the current of change. As far as a "passion" the only thing I know I'm passionate about is charity type work. To know that I'm getting up every day to make a difference in someone's life and not just helping some old geezer in the CEO chair collect his million dollar paycheck off me; that was something I could get behind. I'm moving from media to work in a children's therapy office. Not sure if you've done any soul searching since your comment, but I think it's really important to go through your passions with a fine tooth comb and start looking at job/careers that go along with those passions. Meditation and books have helped me the last year or so. Good luck and I hope you are able to find some peace.

    • @Gio-m
      @Gio-m Рік тому

      @@bambamloverThis is awesome advice, I’m happy you found something you love to do!
      How did you come to the realization you loved to do charity work? Did you do a lot of during your time outside of work? Was is only some deep self reflection?
      Personally I’ve been so focused on the grind that it’s up until now I realized that this just isn’t very fulfilling to me. Now I’m stuck wondering “So what am I passionate about?”. I never seriously thought of that question because my main focus was to just get money this whole time.
      So it’d be nice to hear what you did to find that out for yourself.

  • @Bluesnakes333
    @Bluesnakes333 2 роки тому +9

    I deserve to work a job I’m happy with. Everyone does!

  • @hansonel
    @hansonel 5 років тому +26

    I love this approach for dealing with fear and doubt.
    Making fun of doubt is a great exercise to take its power away in-order to start taking action and move forward with confidence.

  • @Rinoaeris
    @Rinoaeris 2 роки тому +39

    I needed to hear this. I am WAY too comfortable with my job, even though I hate it and have contemplated suicide because of it. Right now I have been offered a great, high paying job elsewhere but I'm too scared to take it and have been talking myself out of taking that job! Even I'm aware that this is crazy, but I'm so stuck in my comfort zone that I'm afraid to take this great opportunity. (That and I'm sad to leave my co-workers that I love)

    • @sarahlightfoot9417
      @sarahlightfoot9417 2 роки тому +2

      How did you get on?? I am in the same situation right now

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 роки тому +9

      Hello. I am in the same situation as you guys. I finally resigned today. I'm still scared and yes, I will be moving out of my comfort zone. I'm really scared and worried. I think I will cry almost everyday until I get to accept the fact that there's really nothing to be scared of

    • @hallelujah5506
      @hallelujah5506 2 роки тому +1

      Same exact situation!! But I definitely dont make as much as she does..

    • @Satsui_No_Hado
      @Satsui_No_Hado 2 роки тому

      Did you end up doing it??

    • @cmmgray
      @cmmgray Рік тому +1

      I am the same buddy…. Trust me you are not alone.

  • @Chris_dolmeth
    @Chris_dolmeth 4 роки тому +14

    I'm right here right now minus the 100k lol. Switching from a job that treats me like crap and overworks/ underpays me to a job that pays 2 dollars an hour more for the same thinng im doing but less work. Scared of change.

  • @billgateskilledmyuncle23
    @billgateskilledmyuncle23 3 роки тому +18

    This is so me. I make 20/hr in medical in a small southern town. I set my own hours, but that's because I'm at risk of getting called almost any time of day plus weekends. I want to put my fist through a wall when my phone rings. I basically wait all day Saturday for them to call and if they don't, I wasted the whole day watching my phone. I can't count how many deep sleep cycles I've had ruined over the years because I got called at 3 or 4 in the morning. I've been there over a decade with little chance of getting laid off and now the devil I know is better than the one I don't.

    • @baxakk7374
      @baxakk7374 3 роки тому +3

      If you saved most of your money and invested, you could quit now.

    • @gelloyangsteryang6481
      @gelloyangsteryang6481 3 роки тому +1

      @@baxakk7374 in 6 months?

  • @henryk.5192
    @henryk.5192 2 роки тому +7

    Ken makes really good points with those silly questions. Sometimes, we forget about the big picture because we have tunnel vision. I'm in the very same situation as this lady, and I'm thinking the same thoughts she's thinking.

  • @TriciaLove99
    @TriciaLove99 2 роки тому +13

    I been at a job 6 years and got an offer for a new job w/more money. I started crying after I accepted the job and being crying off and on for the last couple of days bc I’m scared I’ve made to wrong decision in accepting the new job. I’m literally making myself sick thinking about it.

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 роки тому

      Hello. How are you feeling now? Did you start at your new job? Same for me, I feel like crying. I'm thinking maybe I made the wrong decision, like why did I accept the job offer from another company. I am doubting myself and I am doubting the new job.

    • @STUPIDYOUTUBE_AI
      @STUPIDYOUTUBE_AI 2 роки тому

      @@kylielandingin5737 How are you with the new job, Kylie? Have you adjusted fully?

    • @thelektryk
      @thelektryk 2 роки тому

      Tell me guys!

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 роки тому

      @@STUPIDUA-cam_AI I decided to stay at my current company. I am not sure if I made the right decision or whether I will regret it soon or in the future. But I decided to think positive. Of course I anticipated that not all issues will be solved but I try not to think about it so much. How about you?

    • @STUPIDYOUTUBE_AI
      @STUPIDYOUTUBE_AI 2 роки тому

      @@kylielandingin5737 Hi Kylie, there is a section in Susan Jeffers book (Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway) that talks about the scenario Patricia and us have been going through on why we should leave or not and the mindset that we should have, but reading that I still struggle most of the time about job matters. I resigned from my job effective 5 weeks from now, I wouldn't know if that is the right decision but I did it anyway, now I'm doubting my decision and my abilities to find another job or if I can perform what the job entails should I be lucky to have one.

  • @Roquea.207
    @Roquea.207 Рік тому +5

    I found this golden channel due to my resignation today in the company that I’ve been working for year and half, a comfort zone, got rid of the scarcity mindset and decided to resign yesterday to leave next day , they could care less about me so I could care less about them ,this is a dead end there’s no way to grow in any sense not even the pay !!!the big boss tried to make me a ridiculously stupid low offer ( some cents more hour or a buck ) which I rejected
    Feel a little bit of fear of the unknown but all the best Decisions of my life have been taken out of fear
    And my odds are the best :
    33 years old
    Single
    No debts
    No kids
    No dog lol
    Some Savings (20k)
    What is keeping me from getting out of this four walls grave? JUST MY MIND
    3 more hours and will shoot that door behind my back to never come back !!!

    • @Hithere19088
      @Hithere19088 5 місяців тому

      Single 😅😅😂😂❤?

    • @Roquea.207
      @Roquea.207 5 місяців тому

      @@Hithere19088 and 34 still down to it ?

    • @Roquea.207
      @Roquea.207 5 місяців тому

      @@Hithere19088 and you ?

    • @Savarkar19
      @Savarkar19 2 місяці тому

      Fckin shit same page lol. 33 with no liabilities,responsibilities,debts, decent savings, in gr8 physical shape(not so much mental as I wanna resign this shitty job lol) Just shit scared of venturing in the unknown.

  • @ahcrx
    @ahcrx 3 роки тому +15

    I needed this video. I'm in the exact same situation. I hate my career. I went to university to get a degree to get where I am.. I really want to change my career. I actually know which trade I want to get into.. It's a massive paycut.. Just scared of the change.. Especially now with. Young family 😞...i dread my job... Period

    • @taetae4632
      @taetae4632 2 роки тому +1

      Hello, how are you now. I’m in this same situation now!!! Can you give me some pointers of what you done.

    • @ahcrx
      @ahcrx 2 роки тому +1

      @@taetae4632 I have had a change in role.its been good. It's all in the mind to take control. It's not easy, but time flies . Being realistic here if the pay impacts you or family it may not be worth it.

    • @noy6184
      @noy6184 Рік тому

      I’m in the same situation. I love my current job that I do for 13 yrs but there is better higher pay job but I don’t have the skill compare to my current role. I’m scare of the unknown

  • @firepatriot42
    @firepatriot42 4 роки тому +6

    Needed this. In same situation, stress, work culture much more. Only reason I'm their is the insurance for a pre-existing condition, but the work is making it worse. Bout to say see ya!
    Yet I'm making progress with getting out of it. 🙋

  • @kristieleblanc9846
    @kristieleblanc9846 5 років тому +9

    Your coaching is so valuable and appreciated!

  • @retepoteil
    @retepoteil 2 роки тому +5

    I’m afraid to go to a new job that’s worse then we’re I’m at and even if it starts out good but I know it’s a matter of time before that job falls apart

  • @hart316
    @hart316 3 роки тому +4

    I really needed to hear this! Thanks Ken & Emily!

  • @hylabrookbooks
    @hylabrookbooks 2 роки тому

    i'm so glad i found Dave Ramsey and found Ken Coleman. I listen to Ken way more.

  • @lssantore
    @lssantore 7 місяців тому +1

    I wish it was that easy to just change your belief system just like that.

  • @gigi8528
    @gigi8528 3 роки тому +11

    I love the department that I’m in at my current job but in order to move up, learn new skills, and make more money I’d have to change departments which scares me....I afraid of the unknown and I don’t like change. I just recently turned down an interview for a very good position and now I regret it😞 I hope another position is available soon because I will definitely apply.

    • @tanairigonzalez9793
      @tanairigonzalez9793 2 роки тому

      Did u end up leaving?

    • @gigi8528
      @gigi8528 2 роки тому

      @@tanairigonzalez9793 I sure did. The new department is ok. Lots of turnover and low pay though.

    • @tanairigonzalez9793
      @tanairigonzalez9793 2 роки тому

      @@gigi8528 you are brave for doing that, wish you the best

    • @noy6184
      @noy6184 Рік тому

      Wow. I have same story

  • @MrYoungill726
    @MrYoungill726 5 років тому +5

    I needed this.

  • @aboutmillions
    @aboutmillions 3 роки тому +2

    Wow that was an amazing exercise.

  • @Jvilleman400
    @Jvilleman400 3 роки тому +11

    My job gives me suicidal thoughts, seriously

    • @rustymertz
      @rustymertz 2 роки тому +3

      I hope you have left.
      You don’t deserve to be in that dark place.

    • @Jvilleman400
      @Jvilleman400 2 роки тому +1

      @@rustymertz I’m currently in Sedona Arizona trying to find out if it’d worth living in Arizona.

    • @ajprasad6865
      @ajprasad6865 2 роки тому +3

      GET OUT NOW

    • @Jvilleman400
      @Jvilleman400 2 роки тому +2

      @@ajprasad6865 I been out but now I’m homeless

    • @catholicfemininity2126
      @catholicfemininity2126 Рік тому +1

      @@Jvilleman400 I straight up would rather live in a shelter than go back to nursing. My soul was dark back then, if I died in mortal sin I would've gone to hell. No lie. Jesus wasn't playing when he said the love of money is the root of all evil. Our society loves it's comfort even if they hate it or want to die. ;( I hope you someday know that Jesus loves you. And your life matters, not because people like you or because you're rich, but because there is no one else like you, and God made you, and Jesus died for you.

  • @JettingChen
    @JettingChen Рік тому

    I keep saying, discovering Ken’s older videos made me like him more.

  • @arislopez411
    @arislopez411 4 роки тому +1

    Excellent actionable advice :)

  • @Soh201
    @Soh201 3 роки тому +4

    Great advice!!! I was feeling guilty because I had not shared with anyone that I was looking fine a promotion elsewhere outside of my current job location.. truth of the matter is that I love my job but there is too much favoritism and I don’t see myself growing within that building.. however I Moore have an opportunity at a different location within the same company and I do have to think of my future

    • @rjjohnson6507
      @rjjohnson6507 8 місяців тому

      You wrote my life. I must push through the fear for possible chance at more!!! Good luck 2U

  • @SamTravelNow
    @SamTravelNow 4 роки тому +1

    Great advice

  • @johngreen9762
    @johngreen9762 3 роки тому

    Aye its great when shes fully qualified

  • @muccia7328
    @muccia7328 2 роки тому

    Wow Ken YES!!

  • @catholicfemininity2126
    @catholicfemininity2126 Рік тому

    I love my job but it's far from my house, one time I got stuck on the highway trying to get there. I want to apply for a job closer to my home, but I am scared because it looks like a job that requires more work and the boss isn't as seemingly easy going as my current one.

  • @t.shamoan1646
    @t.shamoan1646 3 роки тому

    This is my current situation

  • @Sid_Scot
    @Sid_Scot 2 роки тому +4

    Been offered a new job for more money, it'll be more demanding as expected. Been in my current job for years and set in my ways & know what I'm doing. Cannot make a decision!

    • @bk10200
      @bk10200 2 роки тому +1

      We all move on to be happier and get better life. If you think you will be miserable in the next job, stay.

    • @Sixty5South
      @Sixty5South 2 роки тому +8

      Sid, let me ask, how afraid were you before taking your current job? How demanding was it before you learned enough to be comfortable and set in your ways? My point is, I’m guessing you felt the same about your current job when you started, but you tackled the challenge and it sounds like you’ve mastered it. Don’t be afraid of this new one. Take the challenge (and the money) and reward yourself! You never know where this one will lead you next!

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 роки тому +1

      @@Sixty5SouthWhat a good advice. I also struggled for the first few years at my current job. Now I can say, I'm already an expert. But still, I'm scared to move to my new job. I will be going out of my comfort zone. I will need to adjust and learn again.

    • @STUPIDYOUTUBE_AI
      @STUPIDYOUTUBE_AI 2 роки тому +3

      @@kylielandingin5737 Hi Kylie, I'm feeling the exact same way, being here at a company for 15 long years! So I'm going out of my comfort zone and see where it gets me...

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 роки тому +2

      @@STUPIDUA-cam_AI Good luck to you! I think you can do it. A new environment might be better 😊

  • @Blackte4
    @Blackte4 11 місяців тому

    Omg I'm going through this right now

  • @maxsanemitchell1609
    @maxsanemitchell1609 3 роки тому +1

    THIS was really good.

  • @03jan23
    @03jan23 3 роки тому +1

    He's like talking to me.

  • @thomask8298
    @thomask8298 2 роки тому

    Ken has to shake the sleazy car salesman vibe

  • @rajputraghu10
    @rajputraghu10 2 роки тому +1

    I am working on a company from 3 years and i am not happy at all.
    My heart and mind needs the change but I am scared too about new opportunity.
    What should I do ?
    can somebody pls help me.

    • @kylielandingin5737
      @kylielandingin5737 2 роки тому

      I'm also scared so I might not be of help to you. I think first, you evaluate the things that make you unhappy and see if you can find a solution or improve your situation. If you can't, then try looking for other job opportunities, just look at the work requirements and salaries offered. From there, you will be able to gauge if you have the skills needed for other jobs and if the salary is higher. Also, think about your future goal, what you want to achieve a few years from now. Will your current company help or not? I hope it helps

  • @husnainfayaz
    @husnainfayaz 5 років тому

    hahaha same case with me lol :p

  • @Gen3ralGrimReaper
    @Gen3ralGrimReaper Рік тому

    I mean, making 6 figures isn’t bad at all. Oh well, I’ll stick with that job because it’s better than my $39k I make annual