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I misunderstood the "he cut his hands off because he touched you" one as "he cut his OWN hands off because he touched you" which.... I mean it would certainly have made for an interesting scenario.
@@melinoanim fr, i watched those movies with my little siblings and they were half laughing half petrified during those scenes. They made me double check the window locks afterwards 💀
As someone who's experienced some of this shit (specifically physical/verbal/emotional abuse) watching my own experiences get a sort of "Omg so romantic" is like. painful.
@@randompromises1038it's like some kiddo who's been obsessed with this shit I have never experienced but I think it's all shit many friends of mine are like this romanticise this shit 💔
I literally read a book and both main characters were horrible… she cheated on her fiancé with her ex (whom she dated when she was 18 and he was 25 and MARRIED and had the nerve to be upset over him because his wife found out) that book was just i don’t even know what to think about it anymore i mean even her cousin was a cheater and the book reviews they were glorifying it☠️
@@moon1uvr3 i stumbled upon the book in a book fair I didn’t know it was like that i decided to see if the rest of the characters were okay the only sane ones were gay😭😭
interesting that i don't think these people would like dark romance if the love interest was not "conventionally" attractive or jacked. i mean some of these people sound like they're describing bojack horseman but i doubt they'd be into that
I mean, yeah?! Why the fuck would anyone want to have a romance interest that’s abusive and possessive AND UGLY? That’s literally most of male partners that women get, so why don’t have that but at least fuckable?
I hate that people romanticize abuse and say it’s ok bc “It’s dark romance” and root for the abuser 😭😭 Edit: another thing I didn’t mention is the amount of people who want to experience this type of love. Or abuser Stans who will call you slurs for pointing out an abuser is an abuser
Y'all, have you read this romance book I really liked, it's called Misery and is written by Stephen King, this girl really likes the guy (captures him) so she forces him to write a book for him, cuts his foot off, cauterizes the wound with a blowtorch, cuts his thumb off, places it on a birthday cake and even kills a guy that tries to take him away (save him) from her. Truly the modern day romeo and juliet xD
As far as I can tell, TikTok-popular dark romance is only allowed to have violent possessive MMCs, and the FMC has to be comparatively innocent. At least if a book with a violent FMC blew up on TikTok, it would be a change of pace. Not saying it would be a *good* change of pace, but at least it would be different.
In an alternate universe where Dark Romance is a male (or maybe lesbian led idk) community I feel like this would always be on their minds, every time. Its like Haunting Adaline with less rape but with more domestic violence
Honestly calling it a "modern day Romeo and Juliet" is more accurate when you think when you consider the fact that Romeo and Juliet were incredibly unhealthy They killed themselves just because the thought of seeing other people never crossed their mind!
Watching like the mafia ones where he’s the boss and could kill the mc if he wanted to but she’s just too precious takes me back to my gacha phase, w the same level of cringe.
8:22 Emily please not this, I´m pregnant and the thought of human tissue and bones just casually forming inside of my body is terrifying enough as is, you´re giving me nightmares 😭😂
I'm only just now realizing that dark romance isn't "ordinary person x Eldritch being" but it's just "ordinary person x asshole" (I'm a aromantic with very little understanding of love)
girl i love your shirt or dress or whatever piece of cloth that drapes overtop of you it enhances how alr drop dead gorgeous you are update: ITS A DRESS
Exactly! I especially like it if both parties are mean to each other and on equal ground. Like rivals or enemies. Just for things not to escalate to the point that it's bullying or abuse.
@@meghanrodriguez2393fr!It’s understandable if both ends dislike each other and grew past it but one end being the mean one and they doing it seriously that’s straight up abuse
I have such mixed feelings about dark romance as a genre. One side of me understands that it's all fiction, all fantasy and a way to consider aspects of yourself, your sexuality and your desires in a safe space. Like I get that psychologically speaking. But then there's the other side of me (idk if its kinda radfem or what) that wonders if these women actually like these concepts, or maybe they're just conditioned by the patriarthy to enjoy the pain inflicted on us by men, because they'll do it either way. Like if we think about it, women are suffering from misogyny every day, and even in our dreams and desires we cant escape it, it's integral to our being. To debase yourself for a man is considered the most feminine quality. (Hunter Schafer wrote about this really well). No one is exempt from the patriarchal society we operate under, influencing our inner most thoughts. And for that reason, I cant help but feel sympathy? Especially because it's a journey we are all grappling with, in dismantling patriarchal ideals, no matter our gender.
Yeah it is kinda radical to read so much into what's supposed to be a fantasy that should stay a fantasy. It is concerning though when some people are unironically attracted to red flags. I like to believe men are normal people until proven otherwise. Though, that's not to say u shouldn't be cautious
It's just hybristophilia and probably some other adjacent things. Also what do you mean conditioned by patriarchy to enjoy pain inflicted by men? Where do you live? In a dark romance village?
If two random dudes broke into my class during high school and tried to kidnap someone, I'm pretty sure the teacher and everyone else in my class would raise a few objections.
"Hey!" someone in my classroom shouted. I looked around to see who it was, a random girl standing in between my offenders, opening her mouth to speak, the following words exited her communication organ, "I don't like that". The two dudes stepped back in fear, no-one talked to them like this, especially a weak female whose eyes were the size of her ever disappearing dimples, covered by her enlargening eye bags with the more sleep she lost every hour under the school curriculum. The more courageous dude stepped forward, "You can't do that! " he whined, making a tinge of whiny brat with a hint of spoiled adult noise blended into a repulsive smoothie whose contents consists of wood chips and flammable Vaseline. "Uh, yeah I can! " she triumphantly declared, holding her choice weapon, a half eaten banana, (great for tripping people but also for using as a gun), in her right hand, aimed at the less plucky dude-man. "You'll kill us all!! " He screamed, like a little girl who had just gotten her doll stolen by a seagull that thought it was a French fry because of its unfortunate complexion. "Um, okay" The girl said. As the more life-wanting dude-man rushed for the banb, (banana bomb), she pulled the trigger, and shot the banb. Making it explode into a krillion pieces.
I think there was a family guy episode where meg carved a boys name into her arm for romantic reasons. This reminds me of this. I have no clue why people romantice abusive, disrespectful, or mentally unstable partners who will hurt them or themselves.
Y’know at the beginning when you were talking about how kids are mean to their crushes, it made me think of this one time where I was in Pre-K, and this kid had a crush on me and they got me flowers. It’s a good memory to think about sometimes. Means that not everything is horrible!
@@cantsay939 Oh I don’t know! I actually didn’t remember this story until my grandma told me. We were in the same class so I was more worried about nap time and smores lol! Still a really nice gesture though, and I hope he’s doing well and never changed from being such a sweet kid.
13:25 funniest part to me is that it doesn't actually say that he felt guilty until AFTER he saw her get hit by the car (he feels guilt WHEN he sees her), so he didn't actually feel remorse for his actions, just that it happened to cause her to get run over, like wtf
I mean when you're just reading to get your rocks off, you'd be surprised how low your standards for literature become lol I think that might be the big problem, b/c smutty steamy reads are fun and all, but that makes it easily popular, which means that it's all of booktok, aka a big chunk of the mainstream book discourse...
I wish these people would just admit this is a sexual thing, thats kinda it. Yeah there might be more judgement, but I'd rather be open about my weird kinks than lie and have people make assumptions about it Other than that, I would gladly judge anyone who seriously read Haunting Adaline and thought "yeah, that's hot"
that necklace is so pretty it draws attention to how shiny you are. AND NOT IN A GREASY WAY!! youre radiant your skin is shining your lips are so glossy your eyes are twinkling you look stunning
I just can’t get over the phrasing, as if she’s sitting there like “I wonder if I should tell anyone about my life threatening allergy :)” while some guy is sitting there slicing up a peach and putting the slices on a fork like “open wideee”
I think the worst part is that long time ago once upon a time, dark romance was under wraps in all forms because people knew it was taboo and what they liked was someone else’s nightmare and looked down upon. But also long ago dark romance had a lot of depth and story to it which sucked you in, it was an actual book instead of porn nowadays. But now they brought dark romance into mainstream and it fucked up EVERYTHING. Now it’s just horror porn with extra steps, with barely legal potato FL’S And older abusive and shitty basic in attractiveness ML’s. What these Booktok readers don’t seem to understand is that this drama should and is supposed to be shamed, you are supposed to be disturbed because it is meant to be dark. It’s somebody’s real life nightmare that you are reading, things people experienced, things like rape, pedofilia, racism, incest, abuse, kidnapping ect. What you take pleasure in is somebody’s real tragedy so you should actually be glad it’s frowned upon because that means people understand how fucked up the subject is. If you want to read dark romance and it comforts you or interest you then by all means go ahead, it’s not wrong to read it but what these people are doing it trying to force acceptance of it becoming mainstream and okay being celebrated and fawned over major platforms that people all over the world can see. Read what you want but trying to fight with people who find it wrong and disturbing and trying to make it more popular makes you sick and twisted because now the real life victims who use these apps daily or read to escape cannot get away from it. Don’t expect to get sympathy when you push a damaging agenda as if the contents aren’t real life horror.
I hate the “it’s just a book” …yes.. til it isn’t. If you romanticize it too much you will think it’s how it should be if you happened to be in an abusive relationship or someone you know.
not finished watching yet, but i would love to hear what you have to say the trope of "he's mean because he likes you" and "boys will be boys" (if you haven't done it before) love 💌
Never understood the "mean because he like you" I mean I love when the ml is in denial or a bit rough with his tongue but none of his actions hurt or bothers the fl. Like the tsundere trope in lns
If anyone sees this, watch Twilight by Contrapoints. It's interesting to learn that this type of fantasy broadly isn't new and why it occurs (and that video explains things better than I can).
I saw most of the video and isn't it basically like "Women's sexuality has been repressed, that's why it blew up", but its been how long since this type of thing started? Actually this is VERY different, because Twilight is tame compared to everything shown here because the men tend to be violent directly towards the FMCs, even Harlequin romances back in the day weren't that bad, even Twilight.
@@arkkon2740I think the main parts that apply to this dark fiction are: *THE ESSENTIAL POINT:* *Fantasies are not literal wishes.* *Fantasies construct situations where emotional needs are met and inhibitions to pleasure are removed.* *DISAVOWAL:* *The process of constructing fantasy situations where your desires are gratified without having to assert or even having to acknowledge the desire.* It’s not that people like being stalked irl, it’s just a way to bypass insecurities (feeling undesirable) and experience thrills (intensely desired by hot man) in a controlled environment. Just because you enjoy Haunted Houses, Clue or Hannibal doesn’t mean you wanna kill people or be threatened with murder in real life! *Still, I don’t think fantasies are always completely harmless.* The show 13 Reasons why did cause a spike in suicide rates irl, and I believe dark romance probably makes impressionable kids more likely to find abusive behaviour romantic. The Hays Code, which banned almost all depictions of queer people and interracial relationships in Hollywood from 1934 to 1968 did have a huge alienating effect on irl queer people, and killed the careers of many POC actors. Our media definitely shapes our social norms, and gender + beauty ideals. It also shapes which traits we see as shameful VS desirable as a culture. But idk, I think it’s a grey area?
@@kaijuno what part of dark romances are the fantasies about? Is it the brooding? The hostile nature? The aggressiveness for absolutely no reason? The assault? You can say its a fantasy all you want, thats not the issue, its the fact that so many undesirable traits are in the mix it makes you question what people actually want in their fantasy. The second bit basically goes with my first. If the entire point is to fulfill that fantasy then why add sexual assault into the picture? Cnc is a perfectly fine and informed thing, its exactly what you described even, but outright rape is a different beast thats handled even worse you'd think cnc is. Its so just fetishizing in general but it seems people hate it when you call it that. By the way, with what you described its quite different. With Hannibal and Clue you're not the cannibal or the crazy person, you're the detective. When you are the killer its not like you're maticulously plotting to kill 5 people in a day, but Zade plots out the multiple ways he can creep on the MC. You go to haunted houses for scares, thats the point, you wanna be scared. Not every story is a self insertion after all. SPEAKING OF SELF INSERTS, its very plausible that Haunting Adaline is a self insert story, so every part written here to some degree is something the author is attracted to and she makes no effort to hide or justify it. The stuff she does justify (the rape for example) is done so by the predator poacher plotline
13:10 that actually happened in a Mexican podcast, where a guy and his wife were just casually talking about how they met when she was 12 and he was 30, he gave her alcohol as a minor and made her hate her mother and leave her house at 18
can we normalise having senstive topics in dark romance without having the love intrest being a groomer or an abuser, for example (i cant actually think of anything rn but u get the point). please and thank you :3
You probably wont see this but first off i love the bangs OMGGGG. And also I absolutely love your videos and I'm so happy i found you. You're so funny and honestly relatable. Love youuu
I was watching this while eating, and i reached the part of the unmbilical cord(probably spelt wrong) baby and completely lost my appetite.. Love you btw! 😻😻
That IS a cute dress! 👍🏽 Y'know, after all this "dark romance" content, I think you need a palate cleanser. Something to really soothe the soul, and get you to believe in real, authentic love once again. I recommend...playing "Hatoful Boyfriend"!
If I had a dollar for every time Emily's commentary made me cackle, I'd have enough money to retire in a Beverly Hills mansion the moment I graduate high school. Also, totally gonna use 10:38 if I ever write a private school AU fanfic.
when i first saw the thumbnail for this video i was like “bangs!!” you look so amazingly beautiful and i love your humor❤️💕 thank you for another great video em!!
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im so sorry this is so unfunny
@@ree1425it is indeed
"true love" and "true crime" are the same thing in dark romance
They both have the word "TRUE", therefore they are the same.
yeah and if you take the word love and remove the l and o and v and then add c, r, i and m then you get crime so its basically the same thing
@@waxsuyaaa EXACTLY! 🥰
@@smileysinner5859 true
ABSOLUTELY not 😭
dark romance is just misogyny with cute pink bows plastered all over for the gooners to enjoy feasting on it like they've never eaten before
and the way people (booktok girlies) would be throwing pitchforks if the ML wasn't a conventionally attractive rich guy
💀💀
@@Yoiyonene Their logic is: hes a stalker and he sexually assaulted the female lead?? Ok but... hes 6'4 mafia boss.... so it cancels out... 🥺🥺🥺
too accurate
Right like it's no coincidence that majority of these ""bad boys"" commit crimes that has majority victims as women
"B-But he has a redemption arc! 🥺" Girl he ran over the main character's dog because he was jealous of it 😃
STOP AHA
Usually the main excuse I see is, "Oh, but he's so hot!"
Okay, so if he was an ugly bast@rd, would you be siding with the FMC then?
NAH THIS IS UNFORGIVABLE
Wttt....
hurting the pet is unforgivable
I misunderstood the "he cut his hands off because he touched you" one as "he cut his OWN hands off because he touched you" which.... I mean it would certainly have made for an interesting scenario.
thank god i wasn’t the only one
I think that's what it meant until now 😭
Same tbh
omg same i thought i was just dumb LMFAOOO
Wait that’s not what it meant?
New dark romance idea: the love interest gets reported and goes to jail for his crimes
BAHAHAHHA
I literally wrote a story when he ended up in jail and the girl married his brother bc I ain't going to romantize abuse ☠
When he waits outside her window every night✨🎀🥺 and she gets him arrested for stalking and he faces the consequences of his crimes
@@ellislahtinen7799 this reminds me so much of twilight 😭 are you not concerned he’s been watching you sleep for MONTHS
@@melinoanim fr, i watched those movies with my little siblings and they were half laughing half petrified during those scenes. They made me double check the window locks afterwards 💀
Great to see we’re STILL romanticizing domestic abuse and violent crime in 2024
Need some loony bins
Biology is a bitch
As someone who's experienced some of this shit (specifically physical/verbal/emotional abuse) watching my own experiences get a sort of "Omg so romantic" is like. painful.
IKR 😒
@@randompromises1038it's like some kiddo who's been obsessed with this shit I have never experienced but I think it's all shit many friends of mine are like this romanticise this shit 💔
i saw one that said "when she just gave birth and then he says to the doctor 'how soon can she get pregnant again?'" JAIL. JAIL TIME
The one that says "when they are ✨doing it✨ while he's on the phone with his mother-" Jail. Straight to god. Damn. JAIL.
yup thats damon torrance i hate his guts
@@Lemoncakelover678 how on Earth do they manage to romanticise that ??
IS HE ON COOL-DOWN?
@@Lemoncakelover678Jesus christ
“It’s okay he changed later on in the book !” He was literally the worst person ever , you cannot come back from that😭
Fr they better have Zuko-levels of redemption.
I literally read a book and both main characters were horrible… she cheated on her fiancé with her ex (whom she dated when she was 18 and he was 25 and MARRIED and had the nerve to be upset over him because his wife found out) that book was just i don’t even know what to think about it anymore i mean even her cousin was a cheater and the book reviews they were glorifying it☠️
@@memonoswtf kinda books r u reading omggg😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@moon1uvr3 i stumbled upon the book in a book fair I didn’t know it was like that i decided to see if the rest of the characters were okay the only sane ones were gay😭😭
Frr that one manhwa ( I'm talking about cry or better yet beg) like gurl- he's literally a groomer.
don't you just absolutely melt when you're home alone and suddenly a convicted mass murderer is in your living room staring at you!
That visual is straight up out of a horror movie 😭
Melting with fear... offcourse
it really makes my stomach does the thing! (acid reflux)
I would melt out of fear
And then he says "Are you lost babygirl"
I would have a heart attack out of fear and disgust
@@resultofeatingboraxHELPP LMFAOAO 😭😭😭
When you're watching her old videos and she posts a new one...
Yes
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the most agonizing decision
interesting that i don't think these people would like dark romance if the love interest was not "conventionally" attractive or jacked. i mean some of these people sound like they're describing bojack horseman but i doubt they'd be into that
You right you right
thats true for eery romance
I mean, yeah?! Why the fuck would anyone want to have a romance interest that’s abusive and possessive AND UGLY? That’s literally most of male partners that women get, so why don’t have that but at least fuckable?
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BOJACK HORSEMAN MENTIONED!!! WHAT THE FUCK IS MENTAL STABILITY???? 🐴🐴🐎🐎🐴🐎
« It was a shart that transcended language »
-Emily 2024
Fear
i thought this said it was words that transcended language and then i reread it and got jumpscared
dark romance is just "red flags if they were sprinkled in fairy dust then getting thrown over the land of rainbow butterflies and unicorns"
Frrr💀💀💀
“Her ass is beatboxing” had me dead 💀💀
Timestamp?? ☠️☠️☠️
@@tothebeyond6318 10:04
@@tothebeyond6318 10:03 😆
I hate that people romanticize abuse and say it’s ok bc “It’s dark romance” and root for the abuser 😭😭
Edit: another thing I didn’t mention is the amount of people who want to experience this type of love. Or abuser Stans who will call you slurs for pointing out an abuser is an abuser
it's so icky to me!
@@maninanikittycat4238 FR and it’s weird when they attack you for pointing out that the abuser is not a good person 😭😭😭😭
I can’t tell if this stuff is a kink or just Stockholm syndrome. Maybe both?
@@maninanikittycat4238 its also so icky for me bc just why?
@@Izzy-8906hj7FR it’s so weird and even weirder when everyone’s like omg the abusers so hot! LIKE GIRLY NO EW
Y'all, have you read this romance book I really liked, it's called Misery and is written by Stephen King, this girl really likes the guy (captures him) so she forces him to write a book for him, cuts his foot off, cauterizes the wound with a blowtorch, cuts his thumb off, places it on a birthday cake and even kills a guy that tries to take him away (save him) from her. Truly the modern day romeo and juliet xD
As far as I can tell, TikTok-popular dark romance is only allowed to have violent possessive MMCs, and the FMC has to be comparatively innocent.
At least if a book with a violent FMC blew up on TikTok, it would be a change of pace. Not saying it would be a *good* change of pace, but at least it would be different.
In an alternate universe where Dark Romance is a male (or maybe lesbian led idk) community I feel like this would always be on their minds, every time.
Its like Haunting Adaline with less rape but with more domestic violence
If you switched the genders, the dark romance lovers would be all over that shit
Yeah I read it a while ago when I was like 12 or so💀
Honestly calling it a "modern day Romeo and Juliet" is more accurate when you think when you consider the fact that Romeo and Juliet were incredibly unhealthy
They killed themselves just because the thought of seeing other people never crossed their mind!
Watching like the mafia ones where he’s the boss and could kill the mc if he wanted to but she’s just too precious takes me back to my gacha phase, w the same level of cringe.
Not the gacha phase💀 I've been there too and I still am..😭
@@moshroomm no hate to you tho
Atleast in gacha, those cringe vids were made (mostly) by preteens. These books are being written by adults ☠💀💀
8:22 Emily please not this, I´m pregnant and the thought of human tissue and bones just casually forming inside of my body is terrifying enough as is, you´re giving me nightmares 😭😂
Good luck with your pregnancy!
I hope all goes well!! :D
hope everything goes well with your pregnancy:))
Thank you!
I hope everything goes well! You'll have a beautiful baby at the end of it!
I don't believe that these people know what separation anxiety is.
ILL BE EATING AND THEN EMILY MAKES THE MOST UNHINGED JOKE AND I HAVE TO REFRAIN FROM REGURGITATING MY FOOD😭😭
FRRR I'm nearly choking on my coffee every other sentence
I like the bangs it looks great 🧍🤷♂️
The original was difrent
Yeah she looks so pretty 🥺
They look so good❤🥹
@@vibing_personmf keep it to yourself
wake up babe new not even emily video just dropped
thanks babe, almost missed it
umm TF are you cheating on me? who is pikmin-zk4cs
thanks pookie ✨
@@glosticcsxwait I thought I was the babe!??
@@dsfmdiya7500no what are you talking about, I am the babe??
I'm only just now realizing that dark romance isn't "ordinary person x Eldritch being" but it's just "ordinary person x asshole" (I'm a aromantic with very little understanding of love)
ordinary person x eldritch being is called monsterfucking
@@trqsh_can yeah, it's called monsterfucking or teratophilia
Ordinary person x Eldritch being is actually just a normal Saturday
girl i love your shirt or dress or whatever piece of cloth that drapes overtop of you it enhances how alr drop dead gorgeous you are
update: ITS A DRESS
this has no right to be so poetic
I haven't watched the video yet so thanks for the update 😂
or whatever piece of cloth is so funny to me but real she’s so pretty
Not whatever piece of cloth that drapes overtop of you 😭😭😭 that is so funny dude
I only want people to be mean in a hot way if its serious its no longer hot 😭
Exactly! I especially like it if both parties are mean to each other and on equal ground. Like rivals or enemies. Just for things not to escalate to the point that it's bullying or abuse.
@@meghanrodriguez2393fr!It’s understandable if both ends dislike each other and grew past it but one end being the mean one and they doing it seriously that’s straight up abuse
Yes!!! I love rivalries!! But Jesus Christ we gotta stop with this shit.😕
So teasing? Or is it like guys leveling the most awful insults at each other and ending up on the ground laughing
@@thecyanpanda241 i would say teasing, like someone "making fun" of you for blushing after they say something super flirty type beat.
I have such mixed feelings about dark romance as a genre. One side of me understands that it's all fiction, all fantasy and a way to consider aspects of yourself, your sexuality and your desires in a safe space. Like I get that psychologically speaking. But then there's the other side of me (idk if its kinda radfem or what) that wonders if these women actually like these concepts, or maybe they're just conditioned by the patriarthy to enjoy the pain inflicted on us by men, because they'll do it either way. Like if we think about it, women are suffering from misogyny every day, and even in our dreams and desires we cant escape it, it's integral to our being. To debase yourself for a man is considered the most feminine quality. (Hunter Schafer wrote about this really well). No one is exempt from the patriarchal society we operate under, influencing our inner most thoughts. And for that reason, I cant help but feel sympathy? Especially because it's a journey we are all grappling with, in dismantling patriarchal ideals, no matter our gender.
It is pretty interesting to think about. What we like vs the influences that gets us to like something psychologically wise.
Contrapoints made a video about it
ua-cam.com/video/bqloPw5wp48/v-deo.html
Yeah it is kinda radical to read so much into what's supposed to be a fantasy that should stay a fantasy.
It is concerning though when some people are unironically attracted to red flags.
I like to believe men are normal people until proven otherwise. Though, that's not to say u shouldn't be cautious
It's just hybristophilia and probably some other adjacent things. Also what do you mean conditioned by patriarchy to enjoy pain inflicted by men? Where do you live? In a dark romance village?
It's hybristoph*lia
12:34 i cried because the "in a world of boys hes a gentleman" is a taylor swift lyric
That song DID NOT need to be turned to romanticised crimes or whatever the hell this dArK roManCe is-that song is so sweet!! 😭
dark romance on tik tok is actually unhinged the more I see and read it😭😭
If two random dudes broke into my class during high school and tried to kidnap someone, I'm pretty sure the teacher and everyone else in my class would raise a few objections.
"Hey!" someone in my classroom shouted.
I looked around to see who it was,
a random girl standing in between my offenders, opening her mouth to speak, the following words exited her communication organ,
"I don't like that".
The two dudes stepped back in fear, no-one talked to them like this, especially a weak female whose eyes were the size of her ever disappearing dimples, covered by her enlargening eye bags with the more sleep she lost every hour under the school curriculum.
The more courageous dude stepped forward,
"You can't do that! "
he whined, making a tinge of whiny brat with a hint of spoiled adult noise blended into a repulsive smoothie whose contents consists of wood chips and flammable Vaseline.
"Uh, yeah I can! " she triumphantly declared, holding her choice weapon, a half eaten banana, (great for tripping people but also for using as a gun), in her right hand, aimed at the less plucky dude-man.
"You'll kill us all!! " He screamed, like a little girl who had just gotten her doll stolen by a seagull that thought it was a French fry because of its unfortunate complexion.
"Um, okay" The girl said.
As the more life-wanting dude-man rushed for the banb, (banana bomb), she pulled the trigger, and shot the banb.
Making it explode into a krillion pieces.
I think there was a family guy episode where meg carved a boys name into her arm for romantic reasons. This reminds me of this. I have no clue why people romantice abusive, disrespectful, or mentally unstable partners who will hurt them or themselves.
DARK ROMANCE SCARES ME (the books I read are just emo asf)
Dark Romance, the entire book is just set during a blackout
Dark romance is actually a bit connected to emo, a bit
this made me laugh 😭😭😭😭@@lukehdarowlet9321
16:08 The way Callisto from "Death is the Only Ending for the Villainess" did exactly this. Word for word, bar for bar. ☠️🙏
Wait wtf??? 💀💀💀
What does he ask them to shave bruh. What happened? I thought he was atleast better than the others
@@bakageyama222lmao he doesn’t make the shave it lol he made them dye their hair black lmao
he's the only one who can
Y’know at the beginning when you were talking about how kids are mean to their crushes, it made me think of this one time where I was in Pre-K, and this kid had a crush on me and they got me flowers. It’s a good memory to think about sometimes. Means that not everything is horrible!
Aw 🥹 how's that kid doing now?
@@cantsay939 Oh I don’t know! I actually didn’t remember this story until my grandma told me. We were in the same class so I was more worried about nap time and smores lol! Still a really nice gesture though, and I hope he’s doing well and never changed from being such a sweet kid.
13:25 funniest part to me is that it doesn't actually say that he felt guilty until AFTER he saw her get hit by the car (he feels guilt WHEN he sees her), so he didn't actually feel remorse for his actions, just that it happened to cause her to get run over, like wtf
I respect the fact that people have fantasies about this sort of thing and it's completely normal, I just wish they demanded better writing.
I mean when you're just reading to get your rocks off, you'd be surprised how low your standards for literature become lol I think that might be the big problem, b/c smutty steamy reads are fun and all, but that makes it easily popular, which means that it's all of booktok, aka a big chunk of the mainstream book discourse...
I wish these people would just admit this is a sexual thing, thats kinda it. Yeah there might be more judgement, but I'd rather be open about my weird kinks than lie and have people make assumptions about it
Other than that, I would gladly judge anyone who seriously read Haunting Adaline and thought "yeah, that's hot"
that necklace is so pretty it draws attention to how shiny you are. AND NOT IN A GREASY WAY!! youre radiant your skin is shining your lips are so glossy your eyes are twinkling you look stunning
your literally me trying to compliment someone but accidentally insulting them
@@Yoiyonene So real !😭
i think the word you're looking for is glowing but honestly you can say this again to someone bc its endearing lol
this is so relatable as an autistic person
@@GentaroYumeno i literally think i am autistic but have been too scared to ask a doctor abt it💀
3:03 I interpreted that as feeding her peaches knowing she’s allergic
I just can’t get over the phrasing, as if she’s sitting there like “I wonder if I should tell anyone about my life threatening allergy :)” while some guy is sitting there slicing up a peach and putting the slices on a fork like “open wideee”
"Go to Hell! And take the Scenic route" HAHAHAHAHHAHHAHA
Girl! How are you single?? Really pretty, AND FUNNY!
I think the worst part is that long time ago once upon a time, dark romance was under wraps in all forms because people knew it was taboo and what they liked was someone else’s nightmare and looked down upon. But also long ago dark romance had a lot of depth and story to it which sucked you in, it was an actual book instead of porn nowadays.
But now they brought dark romance into mainstream and it fucked up EVERYTHING. Now it’s just horror porn with extra steps, with barely legal potato FL’S And older abusive and shitty basic in attractiveness ML’s.
What these Booktok readers don’t seem to understand is that this drama should and is supposed to be shamed, you are supposed to be disturbed because it is meant to be dark. It’s somebody’s real life nightmare that you are reading, things people experienced, things like rape, pedofilia, racism, incest, abuse, kidnapping ect.
What you take pleasure in is somebody’s real tragedy so you should actually be glad it’s frowned upon because that means people understand how fucked up the subject is.
If you want to read dark romance and it comforts you or interest you then by all means go ahead, it’s not wrong to read it but what these people are doing it trying to force acceptance of it becoming mainstream and okay being celebrated and fawned over major platforms that people all over the world can see.
Read what you want but trying to fight with people who find it wrong and disturbing and trying to make it more popular makes you sick and twisted because now the real life victims who use these apps daily or read to escape cannot get away from it. Don’t expect to get sympathy when you push a damaging agenda as if the contents aren’t real life horror.
I hate the “it’s just a book” …yes.. til it isn’t. If you romanticize it too much you will think it’s how it should be if you happened to be in an abusive relationship or someone you know.
I've never understand why people like dark romance, it's like ways of romanticizing literal crimes, but to each their own, far away from me
Yeah I think people romanticize crime like this nowadays ☠️
9:53 remind me to never eat/drink anything when watching your videos, I almost died :')
had me struggling to drink my tea after that descriptive description
@@Yoiyonenethe melody of the 'plop plop plops' I'M DECEASED 😂😂
Actually same
"and flushed her antidepressants down the toilet" unironically reminded me to take my meds
14:42 Enya's "why would a man be there!"
Me with Adhd and a passion for fashion: *can’t stop looking at her purses on the door, left of her*
Passion for fashion reminds me of bratz dolls
@@ninar9664 lol i didn’t realize, you are a person of culture 😭
@@Rochelle_Ballah lol yeah the bratz movies were my whole childhood
not finished watching yet, but i would love to hear what you have to say the trope of "he's mean because he likes you" and "boys will be boys" (if you haven't done it before)
love 💌
Never understood the "mean because he like you" I mean I love when the ml is in denial or a bit rough with his tongue but none of his actions hurt or bothers the fl. Like the tsundere trope in lns
I cant put into words how much i needed your upload rn
"I have an 1.6 GPA because of this mf" killed me 🤣🤣😂
“mom where did you meet dad?”
“in a dark alleyway at midnight where nobody could hear me scream”
Sounds pretty rap^y in my opnion
12:49 As a swiftie I went from "oh nice" to "WHAT THE 1989 TAYLOR'S VERSION VAULT TRACK 1?!?!? THIS IS NOT WHAT IT'S ABOUT OH MY GOD😨"
I did not expect the "harder than the math part of the SAT" line to be that funny for me 😆
7:42 joining the rtca community ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️
13:37 flattened by an anvil on the sidewalk 😭😭😭
If anyone sees this, watch Twilight by Contrapoints. It's interesting to learn that this type of fantasy broadly isn't new and why it occurs (and that video explains things better than I can).
thanks for the tip
Yes! I feel like this comment section needs some serious nuance.
I saw most of the video and isn't it basically like "Women's sexuality has been repressed, that's why it blew up", but its been how long since this type of thing started?
Actually this is VERY different, because Twilight is tame compared to everything shown here because the men tend to be violent directly towards the FMCs, even Harlequin romances back in the day weren't that bad, even Twilight.
@@arkkon2740I think the main parts that apply to this dark fiction are:
*THE ESSENTIAL POINT:*
*Fantasies are not literal wishes.* *Fantasies construct situations where emotional needs are met and inhibitions to pleasure are removed.*
*DISAVOWAL:*
*The process of constructing fantasy situations where your desires are gratified without having to assert or even having to acknowledge the desire.*
It’s not that people like being stalked irl, it’s just a way to bypass insecurities (feeling undesirable) and experience thrills (intensely desired by hot man) in a controlled environment.
Just because you enjoy Haunted Houses, Clue or Hannibal doesn’t mean you wanna kill people or be threatened with murder in real life!
*Still, I don’t think fantasies are always completely harmless.* The show 13 Reasons why did cause a spike in suicide rates irl, and I believe dark romance probably makes impressionable kids more likely to find abusive behaviour romantic.
The Hays Code, which banned almost all depictions of queer people and interracial relationships in Hollywood from 1934 to 1968 did have a huge alienating effect on irl queer people, and killed the careers of many POC actors.
Our media definitely shapes our social norms, and gender + beauty ideals. It also shapes which traits we see as shameful VS desirable as a culture.
But idk, I think it’s a grey area?
@@kaijuno what part of dark romances are the fantasies about? Is it the brooding? The hostile nature? The aggressiveness for absolutely no reason? The assault? You can say its a fantasy all you want, thats not the issue, its the fact that so many undesirable traits are in the mix it makes you question what people actually want in their fantasy.
The second bit basically goes with my first. If the entire point is to fulfill that fantasy then why add sexual assault into the picture? Cnc is a perfectly fine and informed thing, its exactly what you described even, but outright rape is a different beast thats handled even worse you'd think cnc is. Its so just fetishizing in general but it seems people hate it when you call it that.
By the way, with what you described its quite different. With Hannibal and Clue you're not the cannibal or the crazy person, you're the detective. When you are the killer its not like you're maticulously plotting to kill 5 people in a day, but Zade plots out the multiple ways he can creep on the MC. You go to haunted houses for scares, thats the point, you wanna be scared. Not every story is a self insertion after all.
SPEAKING OF SELF INSERTS, its very plausible that Haunting Adaline is a self insert story, so every part written here to some degree is something the author is attracted to and she makes no effort to hide or justify it. The stuff she does justify (the rape for example) is done so by the predator poacher plotline
15:04 she's so right, she's so real
13:44 This is exactly how it feels to have BPD...
miss girl is looking stunning omg
the "mormon kicking the bed" oh i didn't need to remember that 😭😭😭
Not me watching a Not Even Emily video, charging my phone while doing housework, then unplugging my phone to see she’s uploaded a new video.
13:10 that actually happened in a Mexican podcast, where a guy and his wife were just casually talking about how they met when she was 12 and he was 30, he gave her alcohol as a minor and made her hate her mother and leave her house at 18
Wow
YOU CANNOT JUST DROP THAT INFO LIKE THAT
@@LavenderTea-lr3hcHELPP
7:36 the “hi!” Got me 😭😭
*"hÆ! 🤓☝️"*
Ahh the bangs look stunning and also more dark romance!!! You always have such funny comments on dark romance
Emily is my comfort show
can we normalise having senstive topics in dark romance without having the love intrest being a groomer or an abuser, for example (i cant actually think of anything rn but u get the point). please and thank you :3
You probably wont see this but first off i love the bangs OMGGGG. And also I absolutely love your videos and I'm so happy i found you. You're so funny and honestly relatable. Love youuu
6:11 I could you not she fr on said “have y’all ever heard of that. It’s crazy” then I get an ad 😭😭“ Febreze😃”
10:17 Thank you, Emily... I was eating 😂 😂
10:00 😭☠️☠️ got me spitting out my food
LMAOOO
I was watching this while eating, and i reached the part of the unmbilical cord(probably spelt wrong) baby and completely lost my appetite.. Love you btw! 😻😻
Always nice to wake up from a nap and see that Emily has posted :]
Hello stayyy
@@blueberry_jell0Hello!!!
That IS a cute dress! 👍🏽
Y'know, after all this "dark romance" content, I think you need a palate cleanser. Something to really soothe the soul, and get you to believe in real, authentic love once again. I recommend...playing "Hatoful Boyfriend"!
THE PIGEON GAME??? LMAO
If I had a dollar for every time Emily's commentary made me cackle, I'd have enough money to retire in a Beverly Hills mansion the moment I graduate high school.
Also, totally gonna use 10:38 if I ever write a private school AU fanfic.
the bangs and dress look so good on you!!
ALSO the cut on 7:18 took me out LMAO
13:31 just described the plot of the haunting of bly manor 😭😭
14:22 Edward Cullen literally 💀
okay but youre glowing more in every video fr
"Plans their lives together while watching her sleep" okay i see you edward
Your bangs look soooo cute 💕
I could never fall in love for someone who constantly insults me. Like, thanks but I can make myself cry to sleep.🙃
Emily please make another short film like empathy man was life changing and I would love to see you acting again.🙏
15:51
IM CRYINGGG
8:12 what intrusive thoughts really look like 💀💀💀
Your videos feel like 2012-2018 era in the best way possible ♥️♥️🥰
The best laugh I’ve had in a bit, thank you for giving the giggle.
your top is really cute !!!
also love the bottoms poster 😭😭
i love when you can tell the sponsor wrote the script
What are you doing here? -Bojack Horseman 17:14
15:09 REALLLL 😭😭😭😭😭
AHHHHH EMILY LOOKS SO AMZING I LOVE HE HAIR AND OUTFIT AND EVERYTHING
love the bangs! you just keep getting finer and finer with every video 😔
how the hell this woman never find her someone
she perfect
you are so pretty!! i swear each time i see you your makeup skills get better
I love the „looking at stuff and yapping“ videos !!
I love your top !
edit: ITS A DRESS?! EVEN BETTER
the bangs are so slay
when i first saw the thumbnail for this video i was like “bangs!!” you look so amazingly beautiful and i love your humor❤️💕 thank you for another great video em!!
Omg OBSESSED with the dress !!
OMG GIRLY U LOOK SO PRETTY I LOVE THE BANGSSS AND THE OUTFIT IS SUCH A BANGER‼‼
"cutest DIY stay at home day: you just need a victim!" love it