Totally agree …it’s never easy but what I’m glad about is that there are so many gay organisations to assist these days ..when I realised I was gay 66 years ago I was liable to be arrested just for being gay …it wasn’t till I was in my 40 s before I felt comfortable enough to come out ..good luck young fella
I realized for myself at 6 yrs old attracted to the physical body which were arms and legs on a school delivery guy. I had a light rainbow on my 8th birthday, knew that I was attracted to boys my age 12 through my adolescent yrs 12-18, had not accepted myself at 18-23 (felt guilty for being gay). I finally told my mom that I was Bisexual before admitting that I am Gay at 23. I don't act flamboyant w the exception of my stylish clothes, but like Rock Hudson kept it a private matter w the exception of my partners. I'm comfortable w in my own skin at age 50 in a committed relationship for the past 7 months. To Thine own Self Be Truly Genuinely Accepting of Yourself, confide in Close friends, family, and Loved Ones. Over time, if they Love You for Yourself then They'll Always Love You. If for religious beliefs, they're Not Accepting of You, then wish them & No Harm. Let them live their lives as you are supported and surrounded by Your Family. It's a Difficult process, but Do watch out for Sexually obsessed individuals because in relationships will it be detrimental momentarily and Do keep Your Integrity, Self Love, Worth and Respect. GOD Bless You in your youth! Btw, you're an attractive young man.
70yo gay man here. I was lucky, my gayness was written all over me but I grew up in San Francisco. Others were a different story. Come out or don’t, it really is your own business. Listen to your heart and talk WHEN YOU’RE TRULY READY. Good luck, handsome.
Also a gay senior, and fully agree. However, there is no denying the larger social context for coming out has changed radically. It dishonors those courageous ones who gave their hearts and lives to create these changes to imply otherwise. Likewise, it would dishonor you to deny your courage in coming out in your particular life’s circumstances. So congrats.
Cute guy. Which means you're going to be getting A LOT of looks and fast so I must say, not every gay man out there is a good person so guard yourself even within "the community" esp in the beginning of your journey
Do NOT let anyone else tell you when and if you want to 'come out'. They do not know your life and probably projecting their own experiences on you. You can ignore them and do what makes YOU happy.
You've got it right Danny. Coming out is never easy. It is the right thing to do, at your own pace. With each step you take--coming out to your best friend, people in school or at work, siblings, parents, etc.--you will feel the weight of the world lifted off your shoulders, even if they are not accepting at first. You've got balls! You're on the right path to being honest, courageous, and true to yourself. It's a great feeling. Keep us posted.
I came out in 1979 and haven't regretted it a day since. I look back on those decades and realize how I was part of a remarkable social change. I guess we did it for you, young man. Enjoy your life, freedom and respect and then help those younger ones who will follow after you. Being gay has been a gift for me, so I wish you a happy, loving life!
Try coming out in 1984. That’s what I did. And earlier I was beat up by some much older boys for being gay in 1981. In California. But with that being said, I so so proud of you for coming out! 🏳️🌈
Awesome vid! Trust me (and others) the more open and transparent you are the better your life will get. That doesn’t mean it’s going to all go smoothly but in the end it’s worth it.
Coming out is very personal thing and it's different for each of us. While I'm very happy for you that you want to come out, do so at your pace and in your own time. In other words come out when you are ready! Sending you love!
It won’t be easy , but living two separate lives was way worse. Living in that fear was much worse than coming out. That is time you will never get back.
I honestly hope it goes better than you expect. If not , try to remember that there are others who will always unconditionally love, care, & be there for you, no matter what. Even if it takes time & patience to find them.
I doubt he is even grateful. Seems to think that bigoted family members is normal. He deserves to be miserable if he does not have the balls to be open. Stick to Grindr and the truck stops boy
Everyone's situation is different. Coming out is nerve wracking. You never know how people in your life will react. Once you come out to at least one person, it gets easier. If people react badly just say.. "Sorry you feel that way" and walk away.
Agreed, except on one point… Never be sorry for someone else’s feelings, or in this case, lack thereof. For those that react badly, you are not obligated to acknowledge their feelings in any way… just walk away.
I'm 55 and have come out to some people but I like to make sure where their headspace is at before I tell them. My parents are both long dead but they both knew. My mom knew without me telling her, I think she found magazines I had but one day she said to me "Sometimes we're all a little gay aren't we?" in a joking sort of manner. I ended up telling my dad a few years later after my mom had passed away and he was fine with it as well. There actually hasn't been a single person who had an issue with it that I've told but there are some people I would never tell because I do think they would have an issue with it.
I came out over 50 years ago when I was 15 and the church that I went to performed an exorcism on me, saying that I was demon possessed. The exorcism was nothing but a beating and I lost consciousness! My life has had some adversity but I will celebrate being with my partner for 25 years this October and I have NEVER regretted living my own life! Do what makes you happy 😊
It's not east for everyone. Kids are still being bullied and kicked out for being who they are. Between religions, small towns and politics it can be a nightmare or no big deal. Stay strong, help others if you can and remember there is always support out here if you need it.
good video and very valuable points of views. first congrats that you are already honest to yourself and that is very important and the most important, that people come out to themselves and accepted themselves for who they are. I know you will be doing well, just keep moving. You should be proud of yourself. Also you are super cute as well!
As someone who grew up in Vermont I can tell you no matter what it is always hard to come out! I thought I had friends and they abandoned me, but I grew from that and went on with life! Be strong don’t worry about the ones who don’t support you and seek out the ones who do love and support you!
You're so wholesome ☺️. Stay safe and sending my prayers ☺️. We do have to stick together you're right no one knows what someone else is going through so spread love 💌
Thank you for this. I came out in 1981, which was difficult but the right thing. While coming out today is easier for many people, it can be difficult and/or dangerous for others. I wish you well on your journey!
My boyfriend is closeted, I was initially fine with this as I was only out to friends and family. But its 2024, getting dumped because I accidentally say the wrong thing and are more outgoing. Well loneliness sucks.
Best wishes my friend. Everyone’s experience and situation is different and unique. I hope your journey takes you exactly where you want to be and all my hopes that it works out even better than you hope!
40yo guy from the 3rd world country here. It took me 12yrs before I came out to my best friend. I never came out to my parents even until they passed away. None of my colleague knew. I worked in a conservative institution so once they knew, I had to say goodbye and it's hard because this is my dream job. Nowadays my family kinda urge me to marry but I just said I'm asexual aromantic forever alone depressed guy. And that's that. Hopefully one day we all can just express and be ourselves. But until then, just follow your heart, be safe, and don't forget to let yourself be happy ^^
Perfect. The people who want to know what you do in your private life are the ones with a problem. People will always think the worst of others and don't give them another reason.
😅 If you are transgender, you won't have to tell anyone, because it will surely be noticed without you saying it. Even if you have not started a hormonal transition. Transgender women often act effeminate when they have not yet transitioned, and transgender men often have masculine attitudes when they have not yet transitioned. I suppose that you are currently putting too much pressure on yourself when surely others already know, a trans person usually has attitudes with which they usually express themselves with the gender they consider themselves to be. 😅 Fear not, I'm 99.98% aware that you don't identify with the sex you were born with.
Coming out is different for everyone depending on how your family, friends, work, etc are but it is definitely not as hard in general as it was before as it’s more acceptable. It depends on where you are too, coming out in San Francisco in the 80s will be easier than today in a Bible Belt town
Trust me when I say that you’ll only be stating the obvious to half of them. Doesn’t mean there won’t be crying or tough emotions and stupidity, but there are those who knew the whole time and didn’t let it affect the relationship at all, and there will be a those who you’re gonna have to let go because you’re the only one holding one. When I came out to my mother I told her, “Having a gay son is only part of your life, being a gay man is all of mine, if you can’t accept that then it won’t be a part of your life, but I want it to and I want you to be a part of mine.” You gotta do what’s best for you. By a fluke, the ball is in your court and you have to make it count. LIVE!!!!!!!!!!
I still have friends from high school. Who I've not come out to. I don't think it's easier, especially the family, and friends, but I think there is more support now, and services for those who are abandoned by family. Good luck and love from a Gen Xer.
Speak your truth! I am happy you said something. I tend not to subscribe to the current American model of "coming out" as I come from a Native American background. With a little bit of decolonization, I recognize that traditional forms of recognizing sexuality is that people choose to recognize you on their own. If they want to be blind to your road that is their choice. If they want to recognize your way of life they will find a way to let you know they support you. That doesn't mean I am not proud. It just means that I am not going to project my values on to someone else because we don't like them telling us how to live our lifestyle.
Coming out may not seem easier in your lifetime, suggesting not much has changed, but over decades, it has improved significantly. Yet, in your age group, it's still tough. In the 1960s, in conservative areas like Texas and other strongholds of alt-right conservatism, coming out often resulted in a beatdown from friends, family, the community and who knows what strangers would have done to us. Being ostracized was a blessing compared to running daily for your life. This is a reality that I hope you never have to experience. As a gay military and disabled federal law enforcement officer, I would make the same choices again to safeguard our freedoms, safety, lives, and liberties from those who seek to undermine them. Best wishes to you.
You are so adorable! It doesn’t matter who you love, as long as you love and get love back!✨💖✨Best of luck to you in coming out to your friends and family!👏😃👍
Well said. Bottom line: follow your heart - you are the only one living your life. Only you can determine whether or not it was all worth it in the end. Just be your authentic self, and trust that' it's the best course for your life.
Come out on your own schedule, on your own time, in your own way. That should be the rule for everybody. If you want help or you need someone to be a sounding board, know that there are millions of us who can help. But you need to find your way on your own terms. Good luck to you ❤️
Great Danny! None of it does matter actually,.2024 or not. I'm 63. I'm not gonna say I grew up in a time when "gayness" was taboo, because it actually wasn't that bad from my perspective. You don't appear to me to be part of the gay subculture, that maybe doesn't even exist anymore. Not sure what my point is - i guess, yeah things have changed, but I never really viewed it as a problem to begin with.
I came out at 16 i moved from my native American Choctaw nation to live with my Welsh dad in wales in the uk never had any homophobia at me never any hate i had great mates straight and gay and a great family both in America snd wales i grew up through the Aids pandemic and never had it thrown in my face that it was a gay disease,
Even if you never tell your family/friends directly, it's just a matter of time before someone you know sees this video. I'd say you've already essentially "come out" already.
I have a very very right wing conservative family but I will tell you one thing. They will still love you because politics almost never will matter more than loving you. And I am saying this as a lgbtq conservative though I belive in conservative politics that I still respect everyone. EVERYONE period. Just remember out there someone is gonna love you, not matter what.
I am bi and i have told that only to my very close closeted cousin as well. I dont think i can ever tell my family either and it sucks. I mean they already hate me alr and this would make them abandon me
Only the INDIVIDUAL KNOWS WHEN ITS RIGHT TO COME OUT EACH PERSON HAS THEIR OWN DETERMINING FACTORS AND WHY THEY MATTER TO THEMSELVES AS DEEPLY AS THEY DO 😊❤🎉
Sometimes gay people themselves forget that there's not just one way to live life. But I will say this: making those choices that best allow you to be your authentic self is something that very few people regret. For many young people, that might just mean nurturing a support network in preparation for coming out _someday_.
Real friends will stick with you. This is when you find out how few real friends you have. From that point you will start friendships with the truth. 👍🏼
Hey bro. Being a straight guy. I support and love you . I'll be your friend and expect you. Your a wonderful and sweet guy . The person who end up with you. Will be one luck bro.
I didnt come out till i was abt abt 38... Am Canadian,Catholic but Asian... Although my mom kinda sensed that i was gay in my 20s ...i kinda got her mind off it. Till one day her best friend, had the idea of tricking me to a "set up blind date" which i kinda suspect but i played along. Although my parets didnt beleive in arrange marriages.... my mom went with the idea anyways considering it was her best friend. It was set up as a douboe date with her best friends son and 2 girls (one of which was the girl i was set up with(30s) and her cousin, in her 20s ). She, the cousin, went to school in Singapore, where i did too at 1 point... but i was supposed to be set up with the 30 YO. Naturally the cousin and i had more in common as we just talked about our time spent in Singapore. As for the 30 YO, my actual "date' we had nothing in common whatsoever so she was feeling uncomfortable being there as i was with her. Now people would say why i just didnt tell them ... because i cant, as the gossip drama would be jever ending and her dad was a powerful man that, well lets just say, cant be pissed off as this was his fav daughter. Anyways, after the date, at home, i had to tell mom but the time wasnt right so a 2nd date was set up.... yes her friend was determined. To my luck, the girl cancelled the date and we, my moms friends son and i konda celebrated and went to the Outback 🤣. That night, ive had enough and came out to my mom. I told her ... to figure out how to explain to your friend but i dont care if she knows or not about me being gay . I sont know what she said to her but this whole ordeal just ended and she(the lady that planned all this) just said i was so stubborn 🤣 It sounded like a typical Netflix movie of a gay Asian and his struggles cause it is somewhat like that. We even had a whole dinner with the girls family...that was awkward but i got thru it 😆 Sorry if the story is a little confusing. Btw, comming out to my mom wasnt as bad as i thought it would be .... i was preparing for the worst but it wasnt bad at all .... for Asian parents. I dont know if she knows the Pope recognised same sex marriages now... 🤔maybe i should tell her 😆
It's difficult for all of us. I came out fifty-five years ago. It was difficult then. It is difficult now. Be brave. Trust that it will work out. Eventually. Tears are not foreign to gay men. Understand that other gay men are not necessarily pure of heart. Not everyone has your best interests in their thoughts and actions. Some will take advantage of you, or try to. Keep your standards but do not harshly judge those of us that have different standards. Yeah, it's confusing. Stay healthy. Stay alert. As Shakespeare might say if he were here with us today, "to thine own self be true..."
A lot of folk are preconceived that coming out is easy even in 2024 .. but the reality is it isn’t because unfortunately there is still a lot of people who judge folk for being gay , trans , queer , or just for being how god made them and intended them to be … unfortunately even more so in this day and age where we live in a world of intolerance and hatred .. coming out the closet will always be something that is when the time is right for the individual .. and when they don’t give a dam what folk think about them anymore …
You think so eh? You should have tried it back in '89 when I did it. Your generation has it made compared to back then when not only was there no legal protection, but it was still actually ILLEGAL in several states. This was a time period when cops would actually hang out near gay bars and pull people over to harass them just because they were gay and sometimes even arrest them for no valid reason. When you could get fired from a job because of it. When you could not donate blood under any circumstances because it was automatically assumed your blood was somehow at risk of AIDS. There are many more things as well that occurred. You look so adorable in that cowboy hat BTW.
I was placed in a home after 7 years of bullying. At the age of 11. Followed by 7 years of bullying in a boarding school. With 365 crazy straight boys. I like your hat, but yours is only slightly better than mine.
AWESOME 👍😎! I like your attitude and your perspective on things and about life in general 👏👍! Stay strong 💪 and ALWAYS remain positive because negative attitudes, and people, will always bring you down 👎! Peace 🕊️✌️ and Respect from North Texas 🤠🐎🐂! ✅👍👏💪
I agree it's not at all easy to come out. all my family are literally homophobic I came out to my sister well came out not really she guessed..and now she won't even look at me the same. Just cause I'm into girls like fuck you people for saying it's easy it's not fucking easy I'm with you Danny hope it goes well if it doesn't were here ❤
As a gay senior, you are 100% right. Be brave, it’s not as bad as you fear and your real friends will embrace you.
How senior? ... I'm almost 62! 😭
@@marcse7en
I’m 76
I wholeheartedly concur with you!
Totally agree …it’s never easy but what I’m glad about is that there are so many gay organisations to assist these days ..when I realised I was gay 66 years ago I was liable to be arrested just for being gay …it wasn’t till I was in my 40 s before I felt comfortable enough to come out ..good luck young fella
Sadly, in too many places we are going back to that same situation. Now more than ever, it is important to live out and proud.
After this election, they could be rounded up. Just because it seems safe Now, doesn’t make it true.
I realized for myself at 6 yrs old attracted to the physical body which were arms and legs on a school delivery guy. I had a light rainbow on my 8th birthday, knew that I was attracted to boys my age 12 through my adolescent yrs 12-18, had not accepted myself at 18-23 (felt guilty for being gay). I finally told my mom that I was Bisexual before admitting that I am Gay at 23. I don't act flamboyant w the exception of my stylish clothes, but like Rock Hudson kept it a private matter w the exception of my partners. I'm comfortable w in my own skin at age 50 in a committed relationship for the past 7 months. To Thine own Self Be Truly Genuinely Accepting of Yourself, confide in Close friends, family, and Loved Ones. Over time, if they Love You for Yourself then They'll Always Love You. If for religious beliefs, they're Not Accepting of You, then wish them & No Harm. Let them live their lives as you are supported and surrounded by Your Family. It's a Difficult process, but Do watch out for Sexually obsessed individuals because in relationships will it be detrimental momentarily and Do keep Your Integrity, Self Love, Worth and Respect. GOD Bless You in your youth! Btw, you're an attractive young man.
"Build entire second life" bruh that hittheth waaay too close
70yo gay man here. I was lucky, my gayness was written all over me but I grew up in San Francisco. Others were a different story.
Come out or don’t, it really is your own business. Listen to your heart and talk WHEN YOU’RE TRULY READY.
Good luck, handsome.
Also a gay senior, and fully agree. However, there is no denying the larger social context for coming out has changed radically. It dishonors those courageous ones who gave their hearts and lives to create these changes to imply otherwise. Likewise, it would dishonor you to deny your courage in coming out in your particular life’s circumstances. So congrats.
Cute guy. Which means you're going to be getting A LOT of looks and fast so I must say, not every gay man out there is a good person so guard yourself even within "the community" esp in the beginning of your journey
Do NOT let anyone else tell you when and if you want to 'come out'. They do not know your life and probably projecting their own experiences on you. You can ignore them and do what makes YOU happy.
Stop yapping and start yodeling... in my bedroom. Yee-haw! 🤠👢
Dude ur beautiful
Hang in there. It’s always complicated coming out.
Very beautiful sunset indeed. You are so correct. Love the way you think. It’s good to hear that are youth is being raised right.
You've got it right Danny. Coming out is never easy. It is the right thing to do, at your own pace. With each step you take--coming out to your best friend, people in school or at work, siblings, parents, etc.--you will feel the weight of the world lifted off your shoulders, even if they are not accepting at first. You've got balls! You're on the right path to being honest, courageous, and true to yourself. It's a great feeling. Keep us posted.
Well put ! Thanks for that .. 🙂
Yeahhhh… I mean, shit, I’m moving states before I come out to my parents.
I came out in 1979 and haven't regretted it a day since. I look back on those decades and realize how I was part of a remarkable social change. I guess we did it for you, young man. Enjoy your life, freedom and respect and then help those younger ones who will follow after you. Being gay has been a gift for me, so I wish you a happy, loving life!
Try coming out in 1984. That’s what I did. And earlier I was beat up by some much older boys for being gay in 1981. In California. But with that being said, I so so proud of you for coming out! 🏳️🌈
Awesome vid! Trust me (and others) the more open and transparent you are the better your life will get. That doesn’t mean it’s going to all go smoothly but in the end it’s worth it.
💓🤠💓 Danny's "okay byyyeee" 🥰
Coming out is very personal thing and it's different for each of us. While I'm very happy for you that you want to come out, do so at your pace and in your own time. In other words come out when you are ready! Sending you love!
danny being casually cute
You go kid ! Enjoy your life ! We love you ! 🙂
I'm 23 and well said man very handsome too
It won’t be easy , but living two separate lives was way worse. Living in that fear was much worse than coming out. That is time you will never get back.
I honestly hope it goes better than you expect. If not , try to remember that there are others who will always unconditionally love, care, & be there for you, no matter what.
Even if it takes time & patience to find them.
Real friends will stick by you... good luck on your new journey.
Какое же он милый и красивый❤
I was born in 73. I feel for you. Just imagine what my generation went through. You are welcome.
I doubt he is even grateful. Seems to think that bigoted family members is normal. He deserves to be miserable if he does not have the balls to be open. Stick to Grindr and the truck stops boy
Everyone's situation is different. Coming out is nerve wracking. You never know how people in your life will react. Once you come out to at least one person, it gets easier. If people react badly just say.. "Sorry you feel that way" and walk away.
Agreed, except on one point… Never be sorry for someone else’s feelings, or in this case, lack thereof. For those that react badly, you are not obligated to acknowledge their feelings in any way… just walk away.
I'm 55 and have come out to some people but I like to make sure where their headspace is at before I tell them. My parents are both long dead but they both knew. My mom knew without me telling her, I think she found magazines I had but one day she said to me "Sometimes we're all a little gay aren't we?" in a joking sort of manner. I ended up telling my dad a few years later after my mom had passed away and he was fine with it as well. There actually hasn't been a single person who had an issue with it that I've told but there are some people I would never tell because I do think they would have an issue with it.
I came out over 50 years ago when I was 15 and the church that I went to performed an exorcism on me, saying that I was demon possessed. The exorcism was nothing but a beating and I lost consciousness! My life has had some adversity but I will celebrate being with my partner for 25 years this October and I have NEVER regretted living my own life! Do what makes you happy 😊
It's not east for everyone. Kids are still being bullied and kicked out for being who they are. Between religions, small towns and politics it can be a nightmare or no big deal. Stay strong, help others if you can and remember there is always support out here if you need it.
good video and very valuable points of views. first congrats that you are already honest to yourself and that is very important and the most important, that people come out to themselves and accepted themselves for who they are. I know you will be doing well, just keep moving. You should be proud of yourself. Also you are super cute as well!
Sadly, I was forced to come out in a way. One of my worst experiences. But I managed and it made me grow stronger
As someone who grew up in Vermont I can tell you no matter what it is always hard to come out! I thought I had friends and they abandoned me, but I grew from that and went on with life! Be strong don’t worry about the ones who don’t support you and seek out the ones who do love and support you!
I hope it goes well! It's never easy.
Rough, take your time and be safe!
You're so wholesome ☺️. Stay safe and sending my prayers ☺️. We do have to stick together you're right no one knows what someone else is going through so spread love 💌
Thank you for this. I came out in 1981, which was difficult but the right thing. While coming out today is easier for many people, it can be difficult and/or dangerous for others. I wish you well on your journey!
My boyfriend is closeted, I was initially fine with this as I was only out to friends and family. But its 2024, getting dumped because I accidentally say the wrong thing and are more outgoing. Well loneliness sucks.
You’ll do great! Wish you luck.
Best wishes my friend. Everyone’s experience and situation is different and unique. I hope your journey takes you exactly where you want to be and all my hopes that it works out even better than you hope!
you be you, you are the only who can.
40yo guy from the 3rd world country here. It took me 12yrs before I came out to my best friend. I never came out to my parents even until they passed away. None of my colleague knew. I worked in a conservative institution so once they knew, I had to say goodbye and it's hard because this is my dream job.
Nowadays my family kinda urge me to marry but I just said I'm asexual aromantic forever alone depressed guy. And that's that.
Hopefully one day we all can just express and be ourselves. But until then, just follow your heart, be safe, and don't forget to let yourself be happy ^^
Most people DON’T WANT OR NEED TO KNOW.
Perfect. The people who want to know what you do in your private life are the ones with a problem. People will always think the worst of others and don't give them another reason.
@@thomcarr7021 It’s nobody’s business what or who one has sex with. Same with love.
My friend, you have the support and ❤ of many on here.... go at whatever "speed" you need to..... In friendship! X
You come out when you want. Don't let anyone push you out. Live your true self and know that there are those that will help when needed.
Took me over a month after high school graduation to finally tell some friends.
Well said ❤ I’m a 45 year old transgender and yet to tell my family other than my sister . Trust me the fear is real
just be normal again and you’ll have no worries about telling them 🥰🥰
@@frxstiie9252 what is "normal again"?
😅 If you are transgender, you won't have to tell anyone, because it will surely be noticed without you saying it. Even if you have not started a hormonal transition. Transgender women often act effeminate when they have not yet transitioned, and transgender men often have masculine attitudes when they have not yet transitioned. I suppose that you are currently putting too much pressure on yourself when surely others already know, a trans person usually has attitudes with which they usually express themselves with the gender they consider themselves to be. 😅 Fear not, I'm 99.98% aware that you don't identify with the sex you were born with.
💜🌺🌈 keep being who you are always
Coming out is different for everyone depending on how your family, friends, work, etc are but it is definitely not as hard in general as it was before as it’s more acceptable. It depends on where you are too, coming out in San Francisco in the 80s will be easier than today in a Bible Belt town
You are wise beyond your years! Best wishes for a happy future!
Trust me when I say that you’ll only be stating the obvious to half of them. Doesn’t mean there won’t be crying or tough emotions and stupidity, but there are those who knew the whole time and didn’t let it affect the relationship at all, and there will be a those who you’re gonna have to let go because you’re the only one holding one.
When I came out to my mother I told her, “Having a gay son is only part of your life, being a gay man is all of mine, if you can’t accept that then it won’t be a part of your life, but I want it to and I want you to be a part of mine.” You gotta do what’s best for you. By a fluke, the ball is in your court and you have to make it count. LIVE!!!!!!!!!!
I still have friends from high school. Who I've not come out to.
I don't think it's easier, especially the family, and friends, but I think there is more support now, and services for those who are abandoned by family.
Good luck and love from a Gen Xer.
Wishing you all the best bro, it wasn't easy for me, I hope it is a bit easier for you. ❤
Speak your truth! I am happy you said something. I tend not to subscribe to the current American model of "coming out" as I come from a Native American background. With a little bit of decolonization, I recognize that traditional forms of recognizing sexuality is that people choose to recognize you on their own. If they want to be blind to your road that is their choice. If they want to recognize your way of life they will find a way to let you know they support you. That doesn't mean I am not proud. It just means that I am not going to project my values on to someone else because we don't like them telling us how to live our lifestyle.
Coming out may not seem easier in your lifetime, suggesting not much has changed, but over decades, it has improved significantly. Yet, in your age group, it's still tough.
In the 1960s, in conservative areas like Texas and other strongholds of alt-right conservatism, coming out often resulted in a beatdown from friends, family, the community and who knows what strangers would have done to us. Being ostracized was a blessing compared to running daily for your life. This is a reality that I hope you never have to experience. As a gay military and disabled federal law enforcement officer, I would make the same choices again to safeguard our freedoms, safety, lives, and liberties from those who seek to undermine them. Best wishes to you.
The fact that you’re gay is proof that there is indeed a God. ❤ 🏳️🌈
It takes time to learn to not give a F. But, eventually, you will succeed.
You are so adorable! It doesn’t matter who you love, as long as you love and get love back!✨💖✨Best of luck to you in coming out to your friends and family!👏😃👍
Do what you need to do to keep yourself safe. I hope everything works out in life and have fun while you’re young.
Yep, entire second life is correct
You still have to feel safe enough to be you
Well said. Bottom line: follow your heart - you are the only one living your life. Only you can determine whether or not it was all worth it in the end. Just be your authentic self, and trust that' it's the best course for your life.
Where are your cowboy boots
Come out on your own schedule, on your own time, in your own way. That should be the rule for everybody. If you want help or you need someone to be a sounding board, know that there are millions of us who can help. But you need to find your way on your own terms. Good luck to you ❤️
Great Danny! None of it does matter actually,.2024 or not. I'm 63. I'm not gonna say I grew up in a time when "gayness" was taboo, because it actually wasn't that bad from my perspective. You don't appear to me to be part of the gay subculture, that maybe doesn't even exist anymore. Not sure what my point is - i guess, yeah things have changed, but I never really viewed it as a problem to begin with.
I came out at 16 i moved from my native American Choctaw nation to live with my Welsh dad in wales in the uk never had any homophobia at me never any hate i had great mates straight and gay and a great family both in America snd wales i grew up through the Aids pandemic and never had it thrown in my face that it was a gay disease,
In your own time, in your own way. ❤❤
Even if you never tell your family/friends directly, it's just a matter of time before someone you know sees this video. I'd say you've already essentially "come out" already.
I have a very very right wing conservative family but I will tell you one thing. They will still love you because politics almost never will matter more than loving you. And I am saying this as a lgbtq conservative though I belive in conservative politics that I still respect everyone. EVERYONE period. Just remember out there someone is gonna love you, not matter what.
I am bi and i have told that only to my very close closeted cousin as well. I dont think i can ever tell my family either and it sucks. I mean they already hate me alr and this would make them abandon me
Very sorry to hear this. I hope things get better for you.
@@dwaynedavisvlog aww thank u sm ♥️
Beautiful boy
Only the INDIVIDUAL KNOWS WHEN ITS RIGHT TO COME OUT EACH PERSON HAS THEIR OWN DETERMINING FACTORS AND WHY THEY MATTER TO THEMSELVES AS DEEPLY AS THEY DO 😊❤🎉
Sometimes gay people themselves forget that there's not just one way to live life. But I will say this: making those choices that best allow you to be your authentic self is something that very few people regret. For many young people, that might just mean nurturing a support network in preparation for coming out _someday_.
Real friends will stick with you. This is when you find out how few real friends you have. From that point you will start friendships with the truth. 👍🏼
Friends and families? Nah they ain’t fam if they don’t love you unconditionally.
Hey bro. Being a straight guy. I support and love you . I'll be your friend and expect you. Your a wonderful and sweet guy . The person who end up with you. Will be one luck bro.
Very well stated.
I didnt come out till i was abt abt 38... Am Canadian,Catholic but Asian... Although my mom kinda sensed that i was gay in my 20s ...i kinda got her mind off it. Till one day her best friend, had the idea of tricking me to a "set up blind date" which i kinda suspect but i played along. Although my parets didnt beleive in arrange marriages.... my mom went with the idea anyways considering it was her best friend. It was set up as a douboe date with her best friends son and 2 girls (one of which was the girl i was set up with(30s) and her cousin, in her 20s ). She, the cousin, went to school in Singapore, where i did too at 1 point... but i was supposed to be set up with the 30 YO. Naturally the cousin and i had more in common as we just talked about our time spent in Singapore. As for the 30 YO, my actual "date' we had nothing in common whatsoever so she was feeling uncomfortable being there as i was with her.
Now people would say why i just didnt tell them ... because i cant, as the gossip drama would be jever ending and her dad was a powerful man that, well lets just say, cant be pissed off as this was his fav daughter. Anyways, after the date, at home, i had to tell mom but the time wasnt right so a 2nd date was set up.... yes her friend was determined. To my luck, the girl cancelled the date and we, my moms friends son and i konda celebrated and went to the Outback 🤣. That night, ive had enough and came out to my mom. I told her ... to figure out how to explain to your friend but i dont care if she knows or not about me being gay . I sont know what she said to her but this whole ordeal just ended and she(the lady that planned all this) just said i was so stubborn 🤣
It sounded like a typical Netflix movie of a gay Asian and his struggles cause it is somewhat like that. We even had a whole dinner with the girls family...that was awkward but i got thru it 😆
Sorry if the story is a little confusing. Btw, comming out to my mom wasnt as bad as i thought it would be .... i was preparing for the worst but it wasnt bad at all .... for Asian parents. I dont know if she knows the Pope recognised same sex marriages now... 🤔maybe i should tell her 😆
Only do it when your ready, and you feel safe, never let any one else push you,cause only you know.not every one's live's are alike.
It's difficult for all of us. I came out fifty-five years ago. It was difficult then. It is difficult now.
Be brave. Trust that it will work out. Eventually.
Tears are not foreign to gay men.
Understand that other gay men are not necessarily pure of heart. Not everyone has your best interests in their thoughts and actions. Some will take advantage of you, or try to.
Keep your standards but do not harshly judge those of us that have different standards.
Yeah, it's confusing. Stay healthy. Stay alert.
As Shakespeare might say if he were here with us today, "to thine own self be true..."
One more thing, Danny...
Self respect is NOT the same as self love.
Self acceptance is the key.
A lot of folk are preconceived that coming out is easy even in 2024 .. but the reality is it isn’t because unfortunately there is still a lot of people who judge folk for being gay , trans , queer , or just for being how god made them and intended them to be … unfortunately even more so in this day and age where we live in a world of intolerance and hatred .. coming out the closet will always be something that is when the time is right for the individual .. and when they don’t give a dam what folk think about them anymore …
I hope it goes well for you, mate. :)
You think so eh? You should have tried it back in '89 when I did it. Your generation has it made compared to back then when not only was there no legal protection, but it was still actually ILLEGAL in several states. This was a time period when cops would actually hang out near gay bars and pull people over to harass them just because they were gay and sometimes even arrest them for no valid reason. When you could get fired from a job because of it. When you could not donate blood under any circumstances because it was automatically assumed your blood was somehow at risk of AIDS. There are many more things as well that occurred.
You look so adorable in that cowboy hat BTW.
No go slow u will decide on your own take your time at least get gay friend to help u out . . good luck♥️♥️✌️✌️
People act like every family is the same😭
I was placed in a home after 7 years of bullying. At the age of 11. Followed by 7 years of bullying in a boarding school. With 365 crazy straight boys. I like your hat, but yours is only slightly better than mine.
AWESOME 👍😎! I like your attitude and your perspective on things and about life in general 👏👍! Stay strong 💪 and ALWAYS remain positive because negative attitudes, and people, will always bring you down 👎! Peace 🕊️✌️ and Respect from North Texas 🤠🐎🐂! ✅👍👏💪
Best wishes on your journey 🏳️🌈❤
For each child is deferent ok it all depends on the family and the kids personality
Great commentary and advice
Looking like HIM, it will be very easy to come out! 👍😜❤️
You are one cutie. 😉😍😘
I agree it's not at all easy to come out. all my family are literally homophobic I came out to my sister well came out not really she guessed..and now she won't even look at me the same.
Just cause I'm into girls like fuck you people for saying it's easy it's not fucking easy I'm with you Danny hope it goes well if it doesn't were here ❤
well said. I wish you well
Do not record coming out to your best friend. Everything doesn't have to be, nor should be, recorded.
You come out when you are ready
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Good luck!
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