Do you know why it's taught that To be a Christian you need to keep repeating that Jesus is God? And why irani shia-rafizi says that Ali (R:) is God? And why pir-sufi says that to reach the highest level of spirituality you need to repeat that 'I'm God and prostrate to me' like irani shia Sufi monsor hallaj (pir of dewbondi, tableeghi Jamaat, berelvi (Rizvi)? Because anti-christ dajjal will say that "I'am god/begotten son of God & prostrate to me! True Muslims will reject anti-christ for blaspheming (death penalty by TRUE GOD's Law for claiming such divinity) Because Eesa messiah (Alaihissalam) and Ali (R) never said that 'I am god or worship me.' Because Our beloved Prophet (ﷺ) never said that “I am GOD or prostrate to me!" May ALLAH Almighty protect us from this antichrist (dajjalik) fitna. Aameen Rather our beloved Prophet (ﷺ) said Do not exaggerate status of the Prophet: Umar ibn al-Khattab reported: The Messenger (ﷺ) of ALLAH, said, “Do not exaggerate my praises as the Christians have done with the son of Mary. Verily, I am only a servant, so refer to me as the servant of ALLAH and his messenger.” Source: Sahih al-Bukhari 3261 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Bukhari abd - ullah is also mentioned in Isaiah 42 (Bible) Isaiah 42:1- Here is my servant (abd - ullah), whom I uphold my chosen one (Mustafa) in whom I delight (Habibullah’); I will put my Spirit on him, and he (Prophet Muhhammad) will bring justice to the nations. But we need to ask this question Why Egyptian pyramid on one $ USA? There also written "in god we trust" so they believe in one-eyed antichrist? Left-eyed antichrist symbol ? Persian Shia sufi Husain bin Monsoor Hallaj also used to worship jin saytan to open his 3rd eye and he was possessed by the dev-ill (devi-iil) that's why these blasphemous words “anal haq (I’m truth/god) and prostrate to me” were coming out from the mouth of mansur hallaj. kabbalah Jews, Illuminati & Freemasons, Christian saints, Buddhists monks, Hindu pandits, Persian shia sufis, dewbondi, tableeghi Jamaat, berelvi (Rizvi) pirs and Satanists also worship jin shaytan through meditation to open 3rd eye in order to reach the highest level of spirituality. May Almighty ALLAH protect us from this antichrist dajjalik fitna Aameen.
Fear Allah and investigate before saying anything against any sects like deobandi barelvi etc. that they say we are God? Fear Allah brother and do not slander.
And how do you know it is Allaah who gave you what you have ? Do you think you deserve to a husband who doesn't love you ? Who hit you ? Do you deserve to be abuse as a child ?
@@crayontotallyen4616as someone who was abused and is still in a very toxic relationship with my family, abuse is not the bounty of Allah😂, it’s the mistake of a human being, yes allah allowed it to happen but that doesn’t mean he made anyone commit the evil, this is the nature of this life. Allah gave people power over others so that he may test the powerful to see if they will use their power righteously, or oppress those they have power over, and as a test to the one being oppressed wether they will be patient as they look forward to the afterlife that is the true life, and count the blessings they still have, or if they will be impatient and ask questions like yours as they blame the evil of man on Allah or act like they are owed something by Allah as they maintain ingratitude. the bounties of Allah are the good things that we so often take for granted. Do you deserve your eyes and health? Do you deserve the food on your plate every day? This is what is meant, as someone who went almost full month without eating I realized how powerless I truly am, and how much I took for granted what I thought I “deserved” or what I thought was guaranteed
Truth is marriage is hard work for both men and women. Nobody wants to do the hard work. Every one wants easy life and they blame each other for the failure. Great interview and jewel of a woman.
What a woman ! What a mother ! What an educator ! What a Muslimah ❤️ Allahuma Barik ! May Allah preserve her and let us benefit more from her throughout the years in Schaa Allah !
I think the best advice we can give women and men, is everyone should focus on giving other people’s rights more than focusing on receiving our own rights. I think this will make for stronger relationships. Focus on being the best man to your family. And women focus on being the best mom and wife for their family.
Exactly what I always tell people subhaana'Allah. It's easier to fulfill the rights of your family and leave your rights to Allāh. If they fail to fulfill your rights, then Allāh will hold them accountable. You'll never be compromised by Allāh. So worry about fulfilling the rights Allāh placed upon you and be grateful for those who do fulfill yours. But our generation nowadays are very selfish and self centered. They always think about themselves even when they're not the topic
That was beautiful. I liked the questions about the niqab and the fact that at the end, she mentioned that she's speaking from her own experience, being a stay at home wife/mother, and how it worked for her. It also works for me, alhamdulilallah. I have friends who are going through financial abuse, so I can understand why their advice would be different. Jazakhallah khair ansari podcast for the work you do.
SubhanaAllah! she reminded me of my late husband 😢. I woke up in the morning and he was gone, just like that. Inalillahi waina ileyhi rajiun I understand exactly how she feels . May Allah make it easy for everyone who has lost a spouse .May He forgive their short comings and grant them jannatul firdaus... Ameeen
Women wouldn’t have gravitated towards feminism of their rights weren’t violated in the first place. Keep ignoring the elephant in the room if you want to. Doesn’t change the facts.
Thats true for the west feminism was cretaed due to the opression of women in west,if they were muslim they would get all their rights meet and would be respected (i know extremists exist) im in the west and id wish there were muslim laws but feminism is 2 best thing here because the hate and exploitation of women here@@amatulfulani6390
@@amatulfulani6390 Even Iblis can justify his actions, but that doesn't mean he is right. Feminism is a western concept to eliminate gender roles and push women into the work force. Your rights are given by Allah, not by a pink-haired Karen in New York.
Two things. This sister is a cool one, I resonate with her logic and vibe. Second this podcast has snuck into my top 3 with a bullet! The content is top just great and I love the curiosity and humor
I have so many mixed thoughts on this podcast episode.. I agree on many points sister Naima made but I feel that she is missing the point of FEAR that many sisters have in regards to marriage, and marrying a man that might mistreat her, which is a valid fear in today's age. The sister was blessed with what seemed like a wonderful marriage (dare I assume at a young age as well where her prefrontal cortex wasn't fully developed, which as well made it easier to make the decision to marry without thinking too much of everything that could go wrong, I guess) and a life where she was a SAHM and as well had a husband who encouraged her to publish books and pursue interests etc. Her viewpoint and understanding comes from that, and from this she comments on sisters today, which is something to just note in all of this. That's my take on it. Nonetheless a good episode with a strong and unapologetic muslimah, may Allah continue to bless her! Amin.
She is also a revert to Islam, so she comes with so much non-Islamic experience from her younger years and I feel she cannot relate to a Muslimah who is born into a Muslim household who has faced many challenges, including temptation, substances, modesty, haram lifestyle and choices. When I see Muslims, especially sisters living in the West who is comes face to face with haram and abstains from it and follows the deen, I’m super proud of them and instead of putting down these Muslims because they don’t fit into the box or behave like Muslims, living in the Muslim countries who have it more easier to practice their deen without facing the same challenges as living in the West, I praise them, and especially as haram on social media in the West is even more accessible. Nahima is talking from a point, where her and her husband were both reverts and lived a non-Islamic haram life in their youth and then made the decisions to practice Islam. Her experiences will not be the same as Muslim sisters who were born into a Muslim household and come with many cultural baggage, where there are traditions and cultural practices they practices that don’t go against Islam so they have the right to practice their cultural norms. Naima sister is coming from a background, where there was no culture, just an atheistic family who follow whatever the latest fashions, trends and laws are.
Sister Naima is African; Zimbabwean. Needless to say that there's plenty of culture in Africa. I don't imagine that there was an absence of culture in her upbringing.@@HomeTravelGardenInspo
@@RD-mp7eb She’s not “African” tho. She’s a white woman, whose ancestors were colonisers of that land. I highly doubt she practiced real African culture and traditions. Africa is full of culture and traditions but you cannot tell me, the colonisers have adopted them. They cherry pick what suites their lifestyle. White people living in Africa are the descendants of the illegal, colonial occupiers of Africa. That’s literally the same as the illegal European settlers in Palestine and their future generations.
Or maybe the influence of Feminism has won in convincing us women that all men are bad just like the red pill community is trying to remove the honor and value we women hold especially under the protection of Islam. Feminism has won in teaching us women to mistrust and fear men because this destroys the institution of marriage and the family
I think this podcast is amazing and it gave me a lot of thought! However I want to point out something essential that was overlooked here, where I am a bit dissapointed because this sister is so smart: People are quick to assume that women want "Superman" because of the movies and books, completely ignoring the hard fact that we look back at least a millenium of how women all over the world have been oppressed and mistreated by men. YES, also in the Islamic countries. Where do you recognize how hard it is to find a man who fulfills the most humane basic things: not being violent, not being disrespectful, not being disloyal?! Its completely natural for women to wake up and try to work for their own stability. And on our way, hearing absolute horror stories of what other women had to go through (you name it), we remind ourselves of what we NOT want, and then when someone asks what we want in a man the list is not just about what we wished in a man but also what we frantically try to avoid. It may sound all paradox because I do initially agree with what this sister has said- but our struggles as women cannot be overlooked like that and are, in my opinion, a natural response to what the last few generations have messed up! Because when Islam came to be, it was not like this. Our prophet (pbuh) tried to get womens rights of being respected and freed into the heads of the men for ages when he lived... from what I can personally conclude from reading the hadiths: women had more respect in the early islamic era than in the 20th century. It was this weird islamic renaissance around 1100 that turned many countries to such hells for women. ... thats what I have gathered from what I studied at least. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala knows best.
@sedameansstrong Exactly what's missing from every talk about muslim women and marriage. What are we suppose to do with cultures were only the women need to take care of the kids and the house. Even if you had a husband who would he would be shamed to death if he was the one playing outside with his children. So if a men is raised in such an environment, trust me he will become like that. So yes, what we women are asking for is a man who can provide basic decency.
A great eye opener for today's generation much needed for all muslim brothers n sisters this is reality check great work mashAllah sister may allah bless you and grant your Father to become Muslim soon ameen
I have been listening to this sister for a while now and this is the first time I’m seeing her on a podcast. I love ❤️ this sister and the way she thinks. Let’s bring her back again. Love your podcast love ❤️ you sister.
I don't know what people's see in her, but I see : An exemplary inspiration, a genuine faith, a blessed one from our creator with eloquent intellect. May Allah gives you long life sister, so that you can lit the candle of belief into young ones... Bring harmony to chaotic couples.... Thank you @ansari podcast for letting me know our muslimah can be special.
Also if I may add, pick the spouse you want not someone you think you can change or will change for you. People don't change because we want them to. People change because life happens, we're tested with money, health, grief etc and sometimes that changes us for the better or worse.
I think the only side Muslims don't talk about is the sister who is forced to work and take on her masculine side and hate not being allowed to be feminine. Most women I know are not allowed to be feminine.
This!! I am a stay at home mom, but got a job as an SDR (Software Sales-remote) and I barely made it 1 year with that job, because I was becoming as angry and tough, and it wasn’t good for my life/family. Alhamdulilah, Allah provided a better solution and we made it work.
They also don't talk about sisters who do want to study and work are are not allowed to like our sisters in Afghanistan. Till now no country has made it a law that anyone HAS to work, but islamist countries sure implement laws that prevent women from working and studying.
Men want to have their cake and eat it too. Benefit from their wife's earnings yet be the big man at home with the submissive wife at his beck and call.
The sister made some valid points, but can we also acknowledge that if a man is in his healthy masculine a lot of women will naturally embody their femininity? Aren’t men supposed to be leaders? The discussion should’ve started there, yes a portion of women really practice modern day feminism but reality is many women are forced in a position to be in their masculine. Not by choice.
Depends. If this woman has been fighting tooth and nail alongside men for years, she will become very masculine. So if a masculine man who has worked on himself enters her life, she'll see this guy as a challenger rather than a teammate. However, for the average feminine woman, this is true. Incompetence of males around her may force her to take on that masculine role.
Why would i risk my life or care about people who openly hate me. Swear, I would rather marry a Christian feminist woman who is nice and just wants everything to be equal than someone who claims to be Muslim but wants men to worship her and only her. i only worship my RABB not another human being
Can we reverse this, or is it a double standard? Should it be ok for a man to act feminine until a woman who’s truly feminine make him embody his natural masculinity? Does anyone else see how asinine that sounds! Women keep patting themselves on the back for doing the bare minimum and expect men to be perfect. So ungrateful and shameless.
If a woman is in her femininity a man would naturally be in his masculine too. And a lot of times men can be masculine but to keep peace in the home with their masculine wife they become feminine.
If you find it hard to perform regular prayers, recite this Dua: (Quran 14:40) 🤍 رَبِّ ٱجْعَلْنِى مُقِيمَ ٱلصَّلَوٰةِ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِى ۚ رَبَّنَا وَتَقَبَّلْ دُعَآءِ ▫️Rabbij alnee muqeemas Salaati wa min zurriyyatee Rabbanaa wa taqabbal dua. ▫️My Lord, make me an establisher of prayer, and many from my descendants. Our Lord, and accept my supplication.
Maashallah Sr. Naima is an amazing example of being content with Allah’s decree and accepting what he wills as what is best. May Allah give her husband Jannah, May Allah give us Jannah Ameen
Alhamdullillah so inciteful and beautifully said. I internally always felt a pull towards family and prioritizing above all else, but society and even within our Muslim community feel like stay at home moms are looked down upon.
Alhumdullilah for this sister! I am following her work and i can say that i would love to meet her one day Insha Allah! What an inspiration for all of us. May Allah bless her and also the team on this podcast. Great work
After she said she converted SHE IMMEDIATELY GAINED MY RESPECT. At first I was a bit envious like who is this lady.. until I learned her story.. the world needs more of us wallahi sister allah keep u protected safe! Keep up the excellent work I love the work ur doing and I pray God helps many of us woman take these perspectives and serve them back in the best way possible aweeeee🎉 I love her
Ma shaa Allah sister I found this talk truly Inspirational and educational. More young people should listen to this. It clears many misconceptions that young people have
@@dlwlrma7082most of you are. Vast majority. Stats are even showing that women are becoming more Liberal while men are becoming more traditional in terms of views.
Jazakallah! Naima Robert's journey as a writer is truly inspiring, especially her drive to fill the void of Muslim representation in children's literature. Truly a powerful reminder of how much impact personal experiences can have on one's creative path Subhanallah. I admire her dedication to creating stories that not only reflect her values but also provide children with narratives that celebrate their faith and culture. In a world where diverse voices are still underrepresented in mainstream media, her work is a crucial step toward more inclusive storytelling. I'm particularly intrigued by how her background in music and personal challenges have shaped her voice as an author, adding depth to her characters and themes. May Allah continue to guide her!
I have a confession. After being exposed to the world of feminism, promiscuous women and women who act like muslim but are in fact twisting the message of Islam for a long time I lost the faith in intelligence of women. I started believing that women cannot be trusted with the matters of Islam and they shouldn't preach about it. But after seeing this and some other intelligent muslim women, my faith has been restored Alhamdulillah. I am happy to see women like this still exist. Jazakallah khair.
I don't believe in trying to convince sisters to marry, its mostly just a western English speaking country issue. Most western men who are willing to travel will have zero issue finding a wife, there is even a growing Latino muslim population in central and south America. Many sisters that you don't have to convince the blessing of marriage, its much more satisfying relationship
Why would i risk my life or care about people who openly hate me. Swear, I would rather marry a Christian feminist woman who is nice and just wants everything to be equal than someone who claims to be Muslim but wants men to worship her and only her. No thanks. Alhamdulliah i don't have to deal with them honestly
I think the main thing i am taking away from this episode is that we should al be a little more humble! The feminist movement has women thinking they deserve the world while in fact we have so many flaws and do not “deserve” anything. I always love to Listen to sister Naima shes such a wise women allahoema barik and she seems to have a good grasp of whats going on nowadays! Jazak Allahu khayran!
She's made a whole career herself by telling other women to stay low. I stopped listening to her because she constantly attackes women who are single or have a career. Its no one's fault if a woman is single. She herself married and ended up single again through her husband's death. You never know what is ahead of you. Such is life. I know alot of women who have high-paying jobs and are happily married. Yet she assumes all working women are unhappy and leading miserable lives. In the end, we all end up alone in our graves.
Yeah, I did not find her to be in possession of great insight. There are real issues that the ummah is facing and people are finding it harder and harder to find suitable partners, but it is not as simplistic as women getting ideas above their station.
She brings hope and light to countless lives. Many already seek creating families, so listening to content like this will strengthen individual paths towards accomplishing that. Lessons learned and applied, slowly but surely, until they grow and move on to build something greater. If you were given a microphone, you'd apparently just drive focus to the grave. What value is that compared to what she's doing? All godless nations are also constantly talking about the grave like it's the true ultimate end, I found no philosophical depth or intellectual food to chew on by saying "the future is mysterious, and we all go to graves". I'll listen to the one with experience, thanks though.
@@sanashams7836Why would i risk my life or care about people who openly hate me. Swear, I would rather marry a Christian feminist woman who is nice and just wants everything to be equal than someone who claims to be Muslim but wants men to worship her and only her. I only worship my RABB not another human being
SubahanAllah, how any sister can bash her is beyond me. Sister naima is the epitome of what we all need in a big sister. She is wise, she is humble and she is a sister with ACTUAL experience. I appreciate her wisdom and advice, its excatly things my mother would say and my older sister. Stop being delusional sisters, stop listening to these so-called non-muslims that talk about 'toxic' 'narcissism' and relationship!!!! We take our advice and relationship advice from muslims and muslim marriages. And feminism is disgusting. Let us fear Allah.
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh! I definitely agree that we should take advice, relationship/marriage advice in this case, from Muslims and Muslim marriages like you said. Although I will say that things like "toxic", "narcissism", and anything surrounding abuse or manipulation or anything of that nature should still be talked about within the ummah. Of course, these things aren't going to be spoken about or displayed the same way they would be in a non-marriage relationship, but I believe that makes it all the more important to educate both Muslim men and women and how these things can show up in a Muslim marriage and the proper steps to take when this happens because unfortunately abuse of all sorts happens within Muslim marriages and it almost seems like nothing can or should be done about it. I'm not learned in anyway on the religious technicalities of this subject, but this is just my two sense. May Allah bless you for your insights! Aameen.
We have to learn to value the Islamic version of masculinity and femininity and develop those traits in ourselves. And we have to be realistic with our expectations. You're marrying a real human being, not a fake image from the media or our imagination.
Amazing lecture, very refreshing and pleasantly surprised. However I have to disagree about the feminist programming. It's not about the feminist programming at all - it's muslim men/boys under achieving. The statistics do not lie, in education, muslim males don't do as well as their female counterparts. So muslim women in order to find a partner, will either have to play dumb, and play down their achievements OR choose not to travel or educate themselves in the hope to attract an underachieving man.
@@iansari19 Yes she was on point. But the feminist programming doesn't apply to the muslim diaspora where men under achieve from their female counterparts. Feminists r anti the 'patriarchy'. I'm saying muslim men in general are not part of this patriachy that muslim girls feel the need to empower themselves -maybe in pakistan. In the west, Muslim men unfortunately are over represented in low skilled labour.
When talking about there are men who want to work and a women who wants to work why can't they get together? She said "she may not be most practising" of women who may want to work after marriage! Just because a woman is working after marrying does not mean a woman is not a fully practising muslima.
That's what the word "may" means. It means "might". She MIGHT not be the most practicing Muslima. There's nothing wrong or offensive about that fact. Personally, I've noticed that the majority of practicing Muslimas in my life don't have a passion for working. It's almost always the more liberal western minded women who want to work in my experience. That doesn't make it the case for every individual, but overall that's the pattern.
@@thelemurofmadagascar9183 - my point was why would she need to even add that she may not be a very practicing Muslima? As if working is equated to not being a very practicing Muslima!
@@justj8565 It's true, righteous muslim women have no interest in going out to work and have no desire to compete with men in amassing wealth. you're triggered because you probably work and are a victim of feminist brainwashing
Masha allah, and alhamdullilah as nearly 40 years old. I wish i knew this information prior to my marriage. But alhamdullilah my husband was and still is persistence of his role and putting unto mine.
Wallahi this needs to be listened to by almost all muslim women growing up in the west, May Allah give everyone righteous spouses and protect us from waswaas of shaytan.
I believe all women including the guest speaker can do and think as they please. there's the whole freedom of speech stuff right and after all I came and clicked on this video. no one forced me to watch it. The interview started off well but it was hard to finish this one.I kept pausing and stopping. To the host, l get that ur not responsible for the opinions of ur guest speakers but DAMN if u bring guests on ur show, then to some degree ur kinda endorsing their ideas UNLESS U PUT A DISCLAIMER: I DO NOT ENDORSE THESE VIEWS. and if U R in fact endorsing some of her ideas, coo this is ur platform. But just as an FYI this video came on my feed and I quickly scrolled past it like it was a devil telling me to pray, then I somehow clicked on ur interview with Nadeh not realizing u were the SAME host I had just scrolled past. Ur interview with nadeh was really cool so I decided to give this one a shot but just wasn't my thing. U should know that we ladies ( actually ill just speak for myself) I just want content that isn't focussed on marriage, that's why ur interview with nadeh was soooo appealing. social media is littered with these topics and that's why im not on there. we just need spaces where being muslim and living life are normal and encouraged and that's the vibe ur other interview gave off then this one came along. weirdly enough I also noticed this has far more views, (smh) to all the ladies out there, let me tell y'all something, we don't have to respond to every argument we're invited to. what we do, what we say, what we believe is nobody's business but ours. I will do whatever I want, and THEY don't matter. Good luck to y'all. P.S. I hate judging views if I don't finish or read the whole thing, but I also really believe in protecting my hears and my heart. This attack on female independence is really harmful and I believe that it's really pornographic to my ears and taking in this vernacular on the regular can create a normalization effect especially when some of the problematic things being said are also being uttered in the same sentence like subanallah and alhamdillah. I know my islam as a sacred, divine, kind faith to WOMEN but it's not fair that it's being roped in with human ideas of patriarchy. To all my frustrated muslims out there, study the sources on ur own so you won't believe what those who hate islam or those who misunderstand it say.
In the sea of comment praising this clip, sister Samira, jazak´Allah khayr for penning down what us silent sisters out there are thinking! I watch a lot of Islam-oriented content, and it´s littered with Red Pill-terms, New Age terms such as "manifestation", "feminine energy" and much more that youtuber Muslims seem to hop on just because they think it will bring views and traffic to their channel. Downright un-Islamic terms are being used and promoted by Muslim podcasters. I feel increasingly disconnected to the online Ummah, but also to I.R.L Ummah because of all this. It feels like we Muslim sisters are hated from all directions; our "brothers" who are trying hard to push us into glorified slavery, and then the non-Muslim cultures simply hating us because we carry Islam in a physical way (hijaab), but also because we birth children (and they fear us procreating). Meanwhile, men are living their lives...unbothered, no responsibility (coddled by cultural mothers) and their only worry seems to be whether their future wife will accept polygyny or not. They don´t carry Islam physically, and can easily date non-Muslim women under the guise of calling totally Atheist women "Ahl-ul-Kitaab" when they know full well that the Quranic term is different. Like, I feel that Muslim men and women today live completely different lives. Our "brothers" don´t feel like our brothers. They´ve become our enemies. All sides want to own, subdue and own Muslim women. Then add to this, the group of Muslim women who are so eager to please, because they seem to think that "If only we submit, men will magically turn peaceful, safe, fulfil their duties and completely take care of us". The sisters that grew up with absent fathers (that were violent, not Islam-loving, cultural and even misogynist) and then absent brothers that neither went to uni like them, nor cared too much about their single mother because..distractions....they are just let off the hook by the majority of the Ummah. I feel increasingly disheartened, disappointed and just...distant. I´m tired of hearing men go on and on about "Most of the inhabitants of hell will be women" and "Angels curse the wife that doesn´t please her husband". (I know that these are false). At this point, I wonder if most men simply hate women, especially born muslimahs. All they want is foreign women whom they can "teach" and feel power over. They do not like women that can see through them and can measure their level of Deen, plus know what her Islamic rights are.
@@Khwaab I believe Muslim men embody non-Islamic ideology even though they physically appear Muslim. I think men and women have been polarized so much that we see each other as aliens.
Salam Sister Samira, I'm not trying to convince you of anything as you said, everyone is entitled to their opinion. But it feels like you missed some points. I think Sister Naima is really speaking from experience. If the marriage topic isnt interesting to you, then you should've maybe skipped this one. I find Sister Naima really hit the nail on the head, and she doesnt just bring random facts, a lot of it is whats already in our deen ❤ i think she doesnt shy from saying the harsh truth which sometimes we are not ready to hear, but ultimately we have to face it. She doesnt "blame" the sisters and the brothers, its a reality check. She doesnt say dont do what you want to, just know that there are some consequences to that, and if you're not married by age 40 then maybe thats why(all is by Allahs will of course). Shes saying there is a real reason why trying to get married is failing right now and following the western individualist mindset will do no good for our ummah. Unmarried people can easily become cynical and lonely when they become old. And to each their life and what they wish to do. Also the host was just being a good listener, you can tell from his different guests that they dont all hold the same mindset/ideas. It'd be unusual for him to agree with all of the guests and thoughts, im sure it was no different in this case. Have a blessed day❤
As a woman I notice we do this to men too. I want him to be soft with me & in touch with my emotions but also he ended up painting his nails & wearing flamboyant things… like… yeah, men can still be in touch with you emotions but sometimes we confuse being emotional/imbalanced-hormonally with being emotionally intelligent in a way we should be as the gender we are… men & woman express emotions differently, this is why having a wali involved early on is so important because men know best what is healthy masculine emotionality…
respectfully disagree, feminism isn't the problem. It's the lack of masculine men that can be depended on not to abuse their position. A wife is at the mercy of her husband for money, shelter, food. This is why the prophet told men to take care of women in his final speech. Not just husbands taking care of their wives, but men in general building a society where women can be safe, by holding other men accountable, having a just court system, etc. We are not their yet.
Totally agree with you. We women are empathic beings which is what precisely what puts us in danger. No matter how much we could stray, because we're easily emotionally tied and conditioned to pleasing our husband's we'd never rebel this much or for too long. This is why the responsibility of good behavior should rest on men as they are the biologically less empathic ones who are more inclined to violence and even more so because of the status they were given in Islam. After all why would someone who's given this much power over another want to not abuse of it especially if they lack mercy in their very nature. Hence why good men are so hard to get by. May my Lord protect all the women and girls in the world. 🤲🏿
All of this wouldve never developed if men didnt abuse their power for centuries and if we didnt all witness women being murdered, beaten up, being left alone and cheated on. Its a joke how some muslims pretend that all of those things never existed and now actively blame women. Tell a woman who had escaped her sociopath husband with three children to be 🎉feminine and rely on men🎉 - are they kidding? Find the error. This is really saddening me.
@@vxsios so the recent high in femicides is all our imagination? What about the case of the Olympics runner that was burned alive by her former partner in front of their kids? Was that just a collective fever dream of us women? 🤨
I was in the talking stage with a sister and she said "I don't even ask my father when I'm traveling overseas, why would I ask my husband?" I wish her dad good luck, because I think she's going to be in her father's home for another while 😅
Beautiful person, I've never heard of her before. She is very insightful. I slightly differ with her. Don't under value good education and your professional accomplishments. Balance your professional life and family life. Make your life decisions on time and keep both moving at the same beastly speed. I'm a working professional and I love working (in a nontoxic feminine way) and it defines me more as they are my accomplishments gifted to me by Allah. However, I know when to step back. My husband is the provider, and we both focusing on starting a family. We do value family and morals. If something is to happen to him, I can easily take over for my kids and be their pillar, In sha Allah. But please, if you educational accomplishments make you happy and defines you, GOOD FOR YOU. Alhumdulilah. If you like to be a home maker, GOOD FOR YOU. Alhumdulilah.
It's not dying per se that people are scared of. It's old age, your body and mond failing and nearing the end while all alone and with no support or help. That is a very difficult trial to face and a very painful experience
@@NaeemIbnYusufThis might still be the situation for someone who got married and raised a lot of kids. However, I believe that getting married or having children for such reasons doesn’t make much sense.
It’s not just dying alone, that’s just one of the many downfalls she mentions of being single. God created us to live in pairs, it’s our fitra to yearn for that (but sadly many people have been corrupted by outside influence and they don’t even realise it) , and most people shall never truly be happy unless they live with a partner who fulfills that emptiness and completes us as a person. Studies have shown that in general even people who live with partners in loveless marriages are happier than people who live alone. God created us for one another and we need one another… whether we realise it or not.
It’s something you’ll understand when you grow older. My dad got married to my mother in his 50s, he had a stable life and good job but wanted nothing more than to be a husband and father. He didn’t want to grow old and die alone. 30 years later he has three adult children and two grandkids. He is approaching his 80s and now has dementia, every aspect of his day is challenging - confused with making tea or eating, doing the toilet, staying clean and changing clothes, locking doors etc. But like the king he is, he has his family (his empire) to serve him in old age and make a difficult situation much more manageable and beautiful. Of course death is imminent and his test in the grave is approaching but when you need help getting changed and pouring a glass of water you don’t want to die alone in this life even if you enter the grave alone
This woman is a huge pick me from what it sounds like. There’re more men than women in the world now. No woman has to take their husband marrying 3-4 women and live with him. She’s talking on behalf of the men cause they’re the ones dying alone
I am Muslim, and pardon me if my comment is deviated from the main subject. I personally don’t find it healthy to have extremes in appearance, wether extremely revealing or extremely covered. In particular, in Islam for women to cover their faces simply doesn’t exist. It unfortunately not the ideal presentation of our religion. Why is she covering her face?!
If I may add another point, this is also objectivization of women because men aren’t wild animals walking to attack a modest and conservative woman who’s either dressed modestly or wearing hijab while also dressed modestly. While covering a face doesn’t have a justification but the objectification of women again and especially that it’s not part of our religion so why are we going to an extreme. Also, and pardon the chosen subject having a woman covering her face talking about would be repellent to many Muslim women who are well educated and modest. Please refer to God’s book and no need at all to add or be extreme in any way, I find it disturbing. I would share the same feeling towards woman who are extremely not modest.
I agree sis. I have cousins with such beautiful eyes, Allah humma baarik, that we joke "If you were to wear niqaaab, people that saw you would not be able to sleep!" There are ladies with such eyes that could knock people out, even without any makeup, LOL. Basically panther eyes, but not even blue or green. Alhamdulillah, they all wear hijaab, but the eyes, man....Allah humma baarik. Even women stare at them and comment. Allah is indeed the ultimate Artist, subhan´Allah! Crazily, there are men who find it MORE intriguing and mysterious to stare at a woman in niqaab. It gets their fantasy going. So balance is good in everything. There is wisdom in balance. One should be able to show emotions too, like showing staring men a stern face, showing dislike etc.
I highly doubt your Islam. If you do happen to be Muslim then number one, I apologise. Number two, your knowledge is very limited. Number three, you don't have a say in what "extreme" is either. Allah is the only One Who determines what extreme is. Islam is the middle way. So the onus is on you to prove that covering the face is unislamic. Otherwise you're just like the next guy who speaks based on whims with no knowledge.
she's literally telling women "I understand you want to make a name out of yourself but step down so men can be more masculine". Like ma'am..., you're being very hypocritical right now with a NAME, an author, a public speaker, a mother, a wife, and a Muslim..? If anything you'd think she'd be motivating other girls as she is a prime example that it is possible to do all that at once and succeed. Tbh this episode broke my heart Why is it always on women? Why is it never on men? Women are becoming more educated and men are just not trying as hard anymore. Can you blame us for wanting independence? We grew up seeing our mothers, aunts, and grandmas financially dependent on a useless man. Ofc we grow up promising ourselves to make our own money. I just think this narrative that women are being ignorant and need to step down is genuinely making us women feel pathetic. That stereotype that Islam oppresses women is really playing the part rn. Khadija was literally a businesswoman...
I couln’t agree more. It is a men mindset that women can’t want money, success, career. It is not an İslamic mindset, where in Quran says that ‘oh women, don’t want money, worldly things’?
Nooooooooo...we need to be tamed and underachieve so we don't hurt the fragile ego of a weak excuse of men who feel entitled to a women's everything because they are "men" Remember girls, we always are the problem. 😶
You’ve completely misunderstood her message. Why does letting men take the lead role automatically mean depreciating women to you? She’s educating and empowering others, she’s giving her value to the world in the best way she can وفقها الله . Why do you think this means she’s trying to take the lead role? You need to check your perspectives.
@@MrBeasterAndFeaster people lead not by putting others down but by stepping up. Her message to women to "tone" it down so weak men can feel like a man is really interesting Imagine your husband feeling imasculated because you are making your own money and getting your bag in halal way. Anyways, ladies, get a man who will support you as much as you support him, and whom presence demand respect than you downing yourself for it, you deserve nothing less. All those "you're gonna be old alone" is an agenda to make you settle to weak men who are basically a big man child
I agree with the sister about feminism, however,I’d like to know who she thinks educated women who are well travelled and established in life should marry ? As a lawyer I see that the major causes of divorces is money. This triggers a lot of issues in the relationship. There is a crisis of masculinity this is a reality. Women are outperforming men in every area. No one should expect an achieved woman to settle for a man who cannot maintain her level of life or interact at her level. Inevitably, women who have less achieved in professional life will usually expect less from men. They will be looking for someone at their level. Unfortunately, too many men disengaged from committing and family life. I think this is a fact of life we need to work on educating men to want to achieve more in life. Not beating women because they have standards and expectation from a husband. In the western world, women are happier than their grand mothers as they no longer need to depend on their fathers or husbands. It’s always better to be single than to be miserable with a husband you don’t like just because you are afraid to die alone. Nobody wants to live their whole life alone, but some people would rather be patient with Allah’s trial than settling for less.
Why have this mindset in the first place ? If you're only ever willing to 'settle' with someone your own 'level' assuming that's just based on their professional background. The problem is that this can lead to difficulties in marriages
@@Zizoosworld Zaid and Zainab divorced due to incompatibility, him being a former slave, her coming from Quraish and a wealthy family. She felt like she deserved to marry the Prophet Sws and that’s what Allah granted her eventually. Nothing wrong with wanting someone on your social level. Nothing wrong with not prioritising this either. Each to their own.
@@Coco-ki6zh that's all well and good. However to sacrifice marriage because you don't want to settle with someone not to your 'standard is just silly and in fact on balance it is better to be married than not (not just for Islamic reasons but more general). Life is much more than just what you do as a professional. A job comes and goes.
I respectfully disagree. Men are happier married that’s true. whether they love their wife or not. Women are happier unmarried if they do not love their partners. At least, for most women. Case in point : the topic was about women who refused to marry because of a lack of eligible partners. And 80 % of divorces are initiated by women because they’d rather be alone then with a partner they no longer feel is appropriate for them. I agree with you there is more to life than work, partners and children who are also distraction of this dûyah (cf. Quaran). We are on earth to worship god. Whether he gives us partners and children or not.
SubahanAllah You talk about the marriage of zaid (ra) and zainab (ra) but COMPLETELY don't mention about the marriage of the Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) and Khadija (ra)!!!! He was literally working for her!!!! She literally had the money!! Marriages are not failing because of money but because we have went far from islam.
Marriage is hard. It needs efforts and nurture from both sides. If only one side keeps giving and the other side keeps taking, it will fall apart. Because the person being taken for granted gets tired of being the only person who is giving their all😢.
The part about enjoying motherhood is so enlightening. Just wanted to say that a woman can be hijaabi and with hayaa and be “a freak in the sheets”. A feminine woman who has learnt to own her sensuality is able to hide her sensuality outside and let it sparks with her husband :))
I love Naima Robert even more ! hahah I think covid was completely planned too .. muslim mamas need to get together to help prepare our kids for what will possibly happen in the future :(
So does she have anything to say about men or is everything womens fault? Most women are surrounded by friends and family. Men are the ones unaliving and dying alone
Women who are single/divorced/widowers do a lot better than single men. Older muslim women are always going halaqas and have a big friend group. There are a lot of mental health issues men have due to loneliness and regret because of the choices they have made in their early years. Muslim men in the west in particular have a lot more issues with the authorities, underachieving, as well as more likely to engage in drugs etc. (Not all but a lot more than Muslim women - no comparison actually)
Right? i can't even listen to these "Islamic talks" anymore because apparently it's always the women's fault. Learn to take some accountability for God's sake
@@worldwidemoon22999 I think the sister had great points and she comes across really well. but there is a trend in muslim spaces to try to get muslim women to stop being picky 'or you'll be alone in your 50s'. Whatever children that are meant to come into this world will come into this world - it's not our job to play dumb to make a man feel better for making the wrong choices at a younger age.
Teleportation’s cool, sure, but you’re still visible wherever you pop up. Invisibility, though? Now that’s a gamechanger. You could pull off all the stuff you would never do in front of people. As an introvert, invisibility would be a dream; I could just ghost around, and no one would even know am there🤣🤣Sorry for expanding on this trivial matter while the podcast had so much more to say. Great job, both of you! I appreciate the anchor for asking insightful questions.
Mashallah sister. I learned so much from this video, the main thing being we as a women are ALWAYS the problem. Being assertive is such unfeminine thing and also we should underachieve and not compete for better lives for ourselves because our men will feel immasculated. The red pill Community is proud of you and i hope you are getting picked as you wanted🎉
My sister you can't speak this way to her this is disrespectful. Also Do not put pictures of Ku fa r and do not lo ve them, this is wrong. Read the Quran.
Being assertive is masculine Of the two sexes, men aren't attracted to it, women are. Speaking for straight men with healthy T levels obviously. Secondly, what does "underachieve" mean? What standard are you using to gauge what "underachieving" is? On what basis? Again, you show that you're unable to engage in discourse. You repeat the same thing that other women who were raised under this western feminist curriculum say without even understanding why you're saying it. What's your best solution to that predicament? Call the woman who disagrees with you a "pick me"
In the U.S. Women make up 85% of consumer spending *correction on what I said in the episode*
Do you know why it's taught that To be a Christian you need to keep repeating that Jesus is God? And why irani shia-rafizi says that Ali (R:) is God? And why pir-sufi says that to reach the highest level of spirituality you need to repeat that 'I'm God and prostrate to me' like irani shia Sufi monsor hallaj (pir of dewbondi, tableeghi Jamaat, berelvi (Rizvi)?
Because anti-christ dajjal will say that "I'am god/begotten son of God & prostrate to me!
True Muslims will reject anti-christ for blaspheming (death penalty by TRUE GOD's Law for claiming such divinity)
Because Eesa messiah (Alaihissalam) and Ali (R) never said that 'I am god or worship me.'
Because Our beloved Prophet (ﷺ) never said that “I am GOD or prostrate to me!"
May ALLAH Almighty protect us from this antichrist (dajjalik) fitna. Aameen
Rather our beloved Prophet (ﷺ) said
Do not exaggerate status of the Prophet: Umar ibn al-Khattab reported: The Messenger (ﷺ) of ALLAH, said, “Do not exaggerate my praises as the Christians have done with the son of Mary. Verily, I am only a servant, so refer to me as the servant of ALLAH and his messenger.” Source: Sahih al-Bukhari 3261 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
abd - ullah is also mentioned in Isaiah 42 (Bible)
Isaiah 42:1- Here is my servant (abd - ullah), whom I uphold my chosen one (Mustafa) in whom I delight (Habibullah’); I will put my Spirit on him, and he (Prophet Muhhammad) will bring justice to the nations.
But we need to ask this question Why Egyptian pyramid on one $ USA? There also written "in god we trust" so they believe in one-eyed antichrist?
Left-eyed antichrist symbol ?
Persian Shia sufi Husain bin Monsoor Hallaj also used to worship jin saytan to open his 3rd eye and he was possessed by the dev-ill (devi-iil) that's why these blasphemous words “anal haq (I’m truth/god) and prostrate to me” were coming out from the mouth of mansur hallaj.
kabbalah Jews, Illuminati & Freemasons, Christian saints, Buddhists monks, Hindu pandits, Persian shia sufis, dewbondi, tableeghi Jamaat, berelvi (Rizvi) pirs and Satanists also worship jin shaytan through meditation to open 3rd eye in order to reach the highest level of spirituality.
May Almighty ALLAH protect us from this antichrist dajjalik fitna Aameen.
Fear Allah and investigate before saying anything against any sects like deobandi barelvi etc. that they say we are God?
Fear Allah brother and do not slander.
"No one deserves anything. Everything we get is a bounty from Allaah" must be one of the most profound notions made in this podcast, maashaa Allaah.
Absolutely! Great reminder. SubhanAllah
And how do you know it is Allaah who gave you what you have ? Do you think you deserve to a husband who doesn't love you ? Who hit you ? Do you deserve to be abuse as a child ?
@@crayontotallyen4616as someone who was abused and is still in a very toxic relationship with my family, abuse is not the bounty of Allah😂, it’s the mistake of a human being, yes allah allowed it to happen but that doesn’t mean he made anyone commit the evil, this is the nature of this life. Allah gave people power over others so that he may test the powerful to see if they will use their power righteously, or oppress those they have power over, and as a test to the one being oppressed wether they will be patient as they look forward to the afterlife that is the true life, and count the blessings they still have, or if they will be impatient and ask questions like yours as they blame the evil of man on Allah or act like they are owed something by Allah as they maintain ingratitude.
the bounties of Allah are the good things that we so often take for granted. Do you deserve your eyes and health? Do you deserve the food on your plate every day? This is what is meant, as someone who went almost full month without eating I realized how powerless I truly am, and how much I took for granted what I thought I “deserved” or what I thought was guaranteed
Truth is marriage is hard work for both men and women. Nobody wants to do the hard work. Every one wants easy life and they blame each other for the failure. Great interview and jewel of a woman.
Truth is, marriage is not fun like hookups and relationships. It's just hardwork, chores and hassles
What a woman ! What a mother ! What an educator ! What a Muslimah ❤️ Allahuma Barik ! May Allah preserve her and let us benefit more from her throughout the years in Schaa Allah !
She is my screen saver 🎉
Absolutely agree!! May Allah preserve her ❤❤❤❤
Fix your punctuation and stop embarrassing the ummah with your illiteracy
Ameen
ameen
I think the best advice we can give women and men, is everyone should focus on giving other people’s rights more than focusing on receiving our own rights. I think this will make for stronger relationships. Focus on being the best man to your family. And women focus on being the best mom and wife for their family.
Exactly what I always tell people subhaana'Allah. It's easier to fulfill the rights of your family and leave your rights to Allāh. If they fail to fulfill your rights, then Allāh will hold them accountable. You'll never be compromised by Allāh. So worry about fulfilling the rights Allāh placed upon you and be grateful for those who do fulfill yours. But our generation nowadays are very selfish and self centered. They always think about themselves even when they're not the topic
Exactly what I say always. Stop brandishing your rights and focus on giving other rights
Easy to say hard to get done
A healthy level of humility! That’s exactly what the newer generations are trained to not have.
That was beautiful. I liked the questions about the niqab and the fact that at the end, she mentioned that she's speaking from her own experience, being a stay at home wife/mother, and how it worked for her. It also works for me, alhamdulilallah. I have friends who are going through financial abuse, so I can understand why their advice would be different. Jazakhallah khair ansari podcast for the work you do.
SubhanaAllah! she reminded me of my late husband 😢. I woke up in the morning and he was gone, just like that. Inalillahi waina ileyhi rajiun
I understand exactly how she feels . May Allah make it easy for everyone who has lost a spouse .May He forgive their short comings and grant them jannatul firdaus... Ameeen
May Allah grant your husband the highest rank of Jannah and reunite you.
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Ameeen
Every western muslima should hear this sister. Feminism destroyed so much, islam never needed it because it was and is already perfect.
Women wouldn’t have gravitated towards feminism of their rights weren’t violated in the first place. Keep ignoring the elephant in the room if you want to. Doesn’t change the facts.
Thats true for the west feminism was cretaed due to the opression of women in west,if they were muslim they would get all their rights meet and would be respected (i know extremists exist) im in the west and id wish there were muslim laws but feminism is 2 best thing here because the hate and exploitation of women here@@amatulfulani6390
@@amatulfulani6390 Even Iblis can justify his actions, but that doesn't mean he is right. Feminism is a western concept to eliminate gender roles and push women into the work force. Your rights are given by Allah, not by a pink-haired Karen in New York.
@@amatulfulani6390exactly.
@@amatulfulani6390 What are you trying to say? Are you indirectly attacking Islam?
I lost my beloved brother 2 months ago and now life has changed forever.
May Allah make it easy for you, grant him Al-jannah firdaus and reunite you both.
May Allah swt grant him jannat al firdous and forgive all his sins ameen
Ina Lilahi wa Inna Illahi Rajioon
May Allah grant you ease
May Allah SWT make everything easy for you and grant your brother highest place in Jannah.
Growing up, pencoastal apostolic, I totally understand, thank Allaah Azzwajal, for bringing me to Islam
Two things. This sister is a cool one, I resonate with her logic and vibe. Second this podcast has snuck into my top 3 with a bullet! The content is top just great and I love the curiosity and humor
Naima is a phenomenal muslim women! Mashallah! Words of wisdom!
Jizakallah khair❤❤❤
I have so many mixed thoughts on this podcast episode.. I agree on many points sister Naima made but I feel that she is missing the point of FEAR that many sisters have in regards to marriage, and marrying a man that might mistreat her, which is a valid fear in today's age. The sister was blessed with what seemed like a wonderful marriage (dare I assume at a young age as well where her prefrontal cortex wasn't fully developed, which as well made it easier to make the decision to marry without thinking too much of everything that could go wrong, I guess) and a life where she was a SAHM and as well had a husband who encouraged her to publish books and pursue interests etc. Her viewpoint and understanding comes from that, and from this she comments on sisters today, which is something to just note in all of this. That's my take on it. Nonetheless a good episode with a strong and unapologetic muslimah, may Allah continue to bless her! Amin.
She is also a revert to Islam, so she comes with so much non-Islamic experience from her younger years and I feel she cannot relate to a Muslimah who is born into a Muslim household who has faced many challenges, including temptation, substances, modesty, haram lifestyle and choices. When I see Muslims, especially sisters living in the West who is comes face to face with haram and abstains from it and follows the deen, I’m super proud of them and instead of putting down these Muslims because they don’t fit into the box or behave like Muslims, living in the Muslim countries who have it more easier to practice their deen without facing the same challenges as living in the West, I praise them, and especially as haram on social media in the West is even more accessible. Nahima is talking from a point, where her and her husband were both reverts and lived a non-Islamic haram life in their youth and then made the decisions to practice Islam. Her experiences will not be the same as Muslim sisters who were born into a Muslim household and come with many cultural baggage, where there are traditions and cultural practices they practices that don’t go against Islam so they have the right to practice their cultural norms. Naima sister is coming from a background, where there was no culture, just an atheistic family who follow whatever the latest fashions, trends and laws are.
Sister Naima is African; Zimbabwean. Needless to say that there's plenty of culture in Africa. I don't imagine that there was an absence of culture in her upbringing.@@HomeTravelGardenInspo
@@RD-mp7eb She’s not “African” tho. She’s a white woman, whose ancestors were colonisers of that land. I highly doubt she practiced real African culture and traditions. Africa is full of culture and traditions but you cannot tell me, the colonisers have adopted them. They cherry pick what suites their lifestyle. White people living in Africa are the descendants of the illegal, colonial occupiers of Africa. That’s literally the same as the illegal European settlers in Palestine and their future generations.
This is exactly how i felt watching this podcast, you’re on point !
Or maybe the influence of Feminism has won in convincing us women that all men are bad just like the red pill community is trying to remove the honor and value we women hold especially under the protection of Islam. Feminism has won in teaching us women to mistrust and fear men because this destroys the institution of marriage and the family
I think this podcast is amazing and it gave me a lot of thought! However I want to point out something essential that was overlooked here, where I am a bit dissapointed because this sister is so smart: People are quick to assume that women want "Superman" because of the movies and books, completely ignoring the hard fact that we look back at least a millenium of how women all over the world have been oppressed and mistreated by men. YES, also in the Islamic countries. Where do you recognize how hard it is to find a man who fulfills the most humane basic things: not being violent, not being disrespectful, not being disloyal?! Its completely natural for women to wake up and try to work for their own stability. And on our way, hearing absolute horror stories of what other women had to go through (you name it), we remind ourselves of what we NOT want, and then when someone asks what we want in a man the list is not just about what we wished in a man but also what we frantically try to avoid.
It may sound all paradox because I do initially agree with what this sister has said- but our struggles as women cannot be overlooked like that and are, in my opinion, a natural response to what the last few generations have messed up!
Because when Islam came to be, it was not like this. Our prophet (pbuh) tried to get womens rights of being respected and freed into the heads of the men for ages when he lived... from what I can personally conclude from reading the hadiths: women had more respect in the early islamic era than in the 20th century. It was this weird islamic renaissance around 1100 that turned many countries to such hells for women. ... thats what I have gathered from what I studied at least. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala knows best.
You obviously didn't listen to UNDERSTAND....you listened to REPLY...which you gave a lengthy one...
This💯 well articulated
This was truly the missing piece that may have been discounted from the conversation.Very well articulated. I had these exact sentiments.
completely agree!!
@sedameansstrong Exactly what's missing from every talk about muslim women and marriage. What are we suppose to do with cultures were only the women need to take care of the kids and the house. Even if you had a husband who would he would be shamed to death if he was the one playing outside with his children. So if a men is raised in such an environment, trust me he will become like that.
So yes, what we women are asking for is a man who can provide basic decency.
A great eye opener for today's generation much needed for all muslim brothers n sisters this is reality check great work mashAllah sister may allah bless you and grant your Father to become Muslim soon ameen
I have been listening to this sister for a while now and this is the first time I’m seeing her on a podcast. I love ❤️ this sister and the way she thinks. Let’s bring her back again.
Love your podcast love ❤️ you sister.
I don't know what people's see in her, but I see : An exemplary inspiration, a genuine faith, a blessed one from our creator with eloquent intellect. May Allah gives you long life sister, so that you can lit the candle of belief into young ones... Bring harmony to chaotic couples.... Thank you @ansari podcast for letting me know our muslimah can be special.
Beautiful episode, thank you for finding inspirational Muslims and holding a safe space for their unraveling.
"From my sister's lips", was really impactful in my life at the time that I was a recent convert. My Allah bless her ❤
Salaam! You need to start posting videos again sis!! I never comment on your videos but I use to watch you last year!
Mashallah, one of the best episodes yet. Such a refreshing view to hear and a beautiful reminder of our fitrah
Also if I may add, pick the spouse you want not someone you think you can change or will change for you. People don't change because we want them to. People change because life happens, we're tested with money, health, grief etc and sometimes that changes us for the better or worse.
I think the only side Muslims don't talk about is the sister who is forced to work and take on her masculine side and hate not being allowed to be feminine. Most women I know are not allowed to be feminine.
This!! I am a stay at home mom, but got a job as an SDR (Software Sales-remote) and I barely made it 1 year with that job, because I was becoming as angry and tough, and it wasn’t good for my life/family. Alhamdulilah, Allah provided a better solution and we made it work.
They also don't talk about sisters who do want to study and work are are not allowed to like our sisters in Afghanistan. Till now no country has made it a law that anyone HAS to work, but islamist countries sure implement laws that prevent women from working and studying.
Exactly. Women are getting much bashing in the video while they are being pushed that way. Where are the "real men"??
@@thenourway This was me sister. I had to go part-time and leave the rest to Allah.
Men want to have their cake and eat it too. Benefit from their wife's earnings yet be the big man at home with the submissive wife at his beck and call.
The sister made some valid points, but can we also acknowledge that if a man is in his healthy masculine a lot of women will naturally embody their femininity? Aren’t men supposed to be leaders? The discussion should’ve started there, yes a portion of women really practice modern day feminism but reality is many women are forced in a position to be in their masculine. Not by choice.
Depends. If this woman has been fighting tooth and nail alongside men for years, she will become very masculine. So if a masculine man who has worked on himself enters her life, she'll see this guy as a challenger rather than a teammate. However, for the average feminine woman, this is true. Incompetence of males around her may force her to take on that masculine role.
Why would i risk my life or care about people who openly hate me. Swear, I would rather marry a Christian feminist woman who is nice and just wants everything to be equal than someone who claims to be Muslim but wants men to worship her and only her. i only worship my RABB not another human being
Can we reverse this, or is it a double standard? Should it be ok for a man to act feminine until a woman who’s truly feminine make him embody his natural masculinity? Does anyone else see how asinine that sounds! Women keep patting themselves on the back for doing the bare minimum and expect men to be perfect. So ungrateful and shameless.
If a woman is in her femininity a man would naturally be in his masculine too. And a lot of times men can be masculine but to keep peace in the home with their masculine wife they become feminine.
@shadmani9687 wrong. Masculinity is developed. Femininity of a woman is more likely to make a man more feminine than masculine.
His genuine questions makes the podcast very interesting. Keep it up brother. Baaraka Allaahu feek!
If you find it hard to perform regular prayers, recite this Dua: (Quran 14:40) 🤍
رَبِّ ٱجْعَلْنِى مُقِيمَ ٱلصَّلَوٰةِ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِى ۚ رَبَّنَا وَتَقَبَّلْ دُعَآءِ
▫️Rabbij alnee muqeemas Salaati wa min zurriyyatee Rabbanaa wa taqabbal dua.
▫️My Lord, make me an establisher of prayer, and many from my descendants. Our Lord, and accept my supplication.
May Allah help our youngsters find pious spouses, I wish more people would take pre marital coaching
Alhamdulilah, this is my introduction to this sister, and this is refreshing. Sheesh!!😅 We need more of this!! Well... I need more of this. JazakAllah
She's done some great interviews, with Mohammed Hijab, @Ilmfeed.
@@Yasin23 I'll go check it out. Shukran
This sister compared to the previous sister is so much better in regards to dressing and what she's doing too, Masha'Allah. بارك الله فيكم
Bro i love the way you let you guess speak
Admirable i suscribe and wish you the best of both worlds
AssalaamuAlaikum from South Africa
Jazaak'Allaah khayr for sharing beneficial knowledge . May we all benefit from it Aameen
Maashallah Sr. Naima is an amazing example of being content with Allah’s decree and accepting what he wills as what is best.
May Allah give her husband Jannah, May Allah give us Jannah
Ameen
Alhamdullillah so inciteful and beautifully said. I internally always felt a pull towards family and prioritizing above all else, but society and even within our Muslim community feel like stay at home moms are looked down upon.
This is so true and not spoken about enough in the community.
Mashallah, i’m beyond impressed with this interview.
"Accepting someone for their humanity is amazing" People attach numbers to others and get surprised when they can't build a true relationship
Alhumdullilah for this sister! I am following her work and i can say that i would love to meet her one day Insha Allah! What an inspiration for all of us. May Allah bless her and also the team on this podcast.
Great work
After she said she converted SHE IMMEDIATELY GAINED MY RESPECT. At first I was a bit envious like who is this lady.. until I learned her story.. the world needs more of us wallahi sister allah keep u protected safe! Keep up the excellent work I love the work ur doing and I pray God helps many of us woman take these perspectives and serve them back in the best way possible aweeeee🎉 I love her
Jazakallah for bringing this amazing guest
She said she didn’t want to say the S word & the guy said swag 😂😂
Subhanallah, my sister you are on point on relationships and you make miss wearing niqab. Wearing niqab is so peaceful.
I love this sister and everything she has said is so true ❤
Ma shaa Allah sister
I found this talk truly Inspirational and educational. More young people should listen to this. It clears many misconceptions that young people have
Bruh this women gets it
not all of us are brainwashed
I couldn't believe what I was hearing! Rational, coherent, thoughtful. Alhamdulillah
There are a lot of women like her. They just don't typically put themselves online because of hayah, or family responsibilities.
@@dlwlrma7082most of you are. Vast majority. Stats are even showing that women are becoming more Liberal while men are becoming more traditional in terms of views.
Wow! I'll he sharing this episode (and watching it again). Mashallah
Ma shaa Allah tabaraka Allah ❤such an interesting interview with a great sister!!
May Allah reward you
Jazakallah! Naima Robert's journey as a writer is truly inspiring, especially her drive to fill the void of Muslim representation in children's literature. Truly a powerful reminder of how much impact personal experiences can have on one's creative path Subhanallah. I admire her dedication to creating stories that not only reflect her values but also provide children with narratives that celebrate their faith and culture. In a world where diverse voices are still underrepresented in mainstream media, her work is a crucial step toward more inclusive storytelling. I'm particularly intrigued by how her background in music and personal challenges have shaped her voice as an author, adding depth to her characters and themes. May Allah continue to guide her!
She dropped so many gems it’s hard to pick one to choose from Subhanallah, I hope more people watch this In Shaa Allah and learn or gain more insight
Mashallah. May Allah bless this ummah with women like sister Naima Roberts
Excellent episode. Proud of you both and thank you.
Thank you Ansari podcast for this Jewell ! Jazakumullahi khairan !
I have a confession.
After being exposed to the world of feminism, promiscuous women and women who act like muslim but are in fact twisting the message of Islam for a long time I lost the faith in intelligence of women. I started believing that women cannot be trusted with the matters of Islam and they shouldn't preach about it.
But after seeing this and some other intelligent muslim women, my faith has been restored Alhamdulillah. I am happy to see women like this still exist.
Jazakallah khair.
I don't believe in trying to convince sisters to marry, its mostly just a western English speaking country issue. Most western men who are willing to travel will have zero issue finding a wife, there is even a growing Latino muslim population in central and south America. Many sisters that you don't have to convince the blessing of marriage, its much more satisfying relationship
Exactly. Better they stay single.
Why would i risk my life or care about people who openly hate me. Swear, I would rather marry a Christian feminist woman who is nice and just wants everything to be equal than someone who claims to be Muslim but wants men to worship her and only her. No thanks. Alhamdulliah i don't have to deal with them honestly
Alhamdhulillah thank you Sis. I feel like you're the big sister I always wanted. May Allah continue to bless and protect you and your family ameen x
One of the best podcasts 👍🏻👍🏻
I think the main thing i am taking away from this episode is that we should al be a little more humble! The feminist movement has women thinking they deserve the world while in fact we have so many flaws and do not “deserve” anything. I always love to Listen to sister Naima shes such a wise women allahoema barik and she seems to have a good grasp of whats going on nowadays! Jazak Allahu khayran!
Such a beautiful conversation!!!! Bringing back traditional women to modern day
SA this was an awesome podcast.Really useful advice from a beautiful sister may she always be blessed with all the happiness and contentment aameen🌸
Man listen!!! This podcast is outstanding!!
She's made a whole career herself by telling other women to stay low.
I stopped listening to her because she constantly attackes women who are single or have a career. Its no one's fault if a woman is single. She herself married and ended up single again through her husband's death.
You never know what is ahead of you. Such is life. I know alot of women who have high-paying jobs and are happily married. Yet she assumes all working women are unhappy and leading miserable lives.
In the end, we all end up alone in our graves.
Yeah, I did not find her to be in possession of great insight. There are real issues that the ummah is facing and people are finding it harder and harder to find suitable partners, but it is not as simplistic as women getting ideas above their station.
Hmm...this is deep
She brings hope and light to countless lives. Many already seek creating families, so listening to content like this will strengthen individual paths towards accomplishing that. Lessons learned and applied, slowly but surely, until they grow and move on to build something greater.
If you were given a microphone, you'd apparently just drive focus to the grave. What value is that compared to what she's doing? All godless nations are also constantly talking about the grave like it's the true ultimate end, I found no philosophical depth or intellectual food to chew on by saying "the future is mysterious, and we all go to graves". I'll listen to the one with experience, thanks though.
@@sanashams7836Why would i risk my life or care about people who openly hate me. Swear, I would rather marry a Christian feminist woman who is nice and just wants everything to be equal than someone who claims to be Muslim but wants men to worship her and only her. I only worship my RABB not another human being
SubahanAllah, how any sister can bash her is beyond me. Sister naima is the epitome of what we all need in a big sister. She is wise, she is humble and she is a sister with ACTUAL experience. I appreciate her wisdom and advice, its excatly things my mother would say and my older sister.
Stop being delusional sisters, stop listening to these so-called non-muslims that talk about 'toxic' 'narcissism' and relationship!!!! We take our advice and relationship advice from muslims and muslim marriages.
And feminism is disgusting.
Let us fear Allah.
Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh!
I definitely agree that we should take advice, relationship/marriage advice in this case, from Muslims and Muslim marriages like you said. Although I will say that things like "toxic", "narcissism", and anything surrounding abuse or manipulation or anything of that nature should still be talked about within the ummah. Of course, these things aren't going to be spoken about or displayed the same way they would be in a non-marriage relationship, but I believe that makes it all the more important to educate both Muslim men and women and how these things can show up in a Muslim marriage and the proper steps to take when this happens because unfortunately abuse of all sorts happens within Muslim marriages and it almost seems like nothing can or should be done about it. I'm not learned in anyway on the religious technicalities of this subject, but this is just my two sense.
May Allah bless you for your insights! Aameen.
I love listening to this sister!MashaAllah Allahuma barek
"The impact you have on your children." Love this. ❤
Bro, can Dera restore my hearing in addition to the 10% discount. lol, volume my guy. Love you bro, Jazak Allah for what you do.
Her faith is illuminating very bright. The thing that get my attention is her discernment.
I usually don't comment but this podcast was amazing learned a lot. Jazakum Allahu khair!
We have to learn to value the Islamic version of masculinity and femininity and develop those traits in ourselves. And we have to be realistic with our expectations. You're marrying a real human being, not a fake image from the media or our imagination.
Amazing lecture, very refreshing and pleasantly surprised. However I have to disagree about the feminist programming. It's not about the feminist programming at all - it's muslim men/boys under achieving. The statistics do not lie, in education, muslim males don't do as well as their female counterparts. So muslim women in order to find a partner, will either have to play dumb, and play down their achievements OR choose not to travel or educate themselves in the hope to attract an underachieving man.
Muslim men nowadays are pathetic. I daresay that they do not qualify as men at all.
Prophet Muhammad PBUH worked for Khadijah (RA).
The feminist programming is real and everything she is saying is on point.
@@iansari19 Yes she was on point. But the feminist programming doesn't apply to the muslim diaspora where men under achieve from their female counterparts. Feminists r anti the 'patriarchy'. I'm saying muslim men in general are not part of this patriachy that muslim girls feel the need to empower themselves -maybe in pakistan. In the west, Muslim men unfortunately are over represented in low skilled labour.
@@iansari19
What the original poster said still stands. Ignoring the reality isn’t going to help anyone.
This was an awesome interview 😊
I love this sister for the sake of Allah SWT. I agree with everything she said. Beautiful woman inside and out.
I love this conversation❤ bravo!!
When talking about there are men who want to work and a women who wants to work why can't they get together? She said "she may not be most practising" of women who may want to work after marriage! Just because a woman is working after marrying does not mean a woman is not a fully practising muslima.
That's what the word "may" means. It means "might". She MIGHT not be the most practicing Muslima. There's nothing wrong or offensive about that fact.
Personally, I've noticed that the majority of practicing Muslimas in my life don't have a passion for working. It's almost always the more liberal western minded women who want to work in my experience. That doesn't make it the case for every individual, but overall that's the pattern.
@@thelemurofmadagascar9183 - my point was why would she need to even add that she may not be a very practicing Muslima? As if working is equated to not being a very practicing Muslima!
@@justj8565 It's true, righteous muslim women have no interest in going out to work and have no desire to compete with men in amassing wealth. you're triggered because you probably work and are a victim of feminist brainwashing
Because working women are more likely to make bad wives. @@justj8565
@@justj8565why not?
"These children need more than the leftover of your dreams." subxanallah😢 Bieng a mom is one of biggest God's GIFTS
MashAllah this sister is a Gem . I wish single sisters looking for husbands and brothers looking for wives can take notes.
Masha allah, and alhamdullilah as nearly 40 years old. I wish i knew this information prior to my marriage. But alhamdullilah my husband was and still is persistence of his role and putting unto mine.
Wallahi this needs to be listened to by almost all muslim women growing up in the west, May Allah give everyone righteous spouses and protect us from waswaas of shaytan.
I love this sister for the sake of Allah lool funny but not too brazen or domineering & enjoining goodness may Allah grant you barakah and khayr! ❤
I believe all women including the guest speaker can do and think as they please. there's the whole freedom of speech stuff right and after all I came and clicked on this video. no one forced me to watch it. The interview started off well but it was hard to finish this one.I kept pausing and stopping. To the host, l get that ur not responsible for the opinions of ur guest speakers but DAMN if u bring guests on ur show, then to some degree ur kinda endorsing their ideas UNLESS U PUT A DISCLAIMER: I DO NOT ENDORSE THESE VIEWS. and if U R in fact endorsing some of her ideas, coo this is ur platform. But just as an FYI this video came on my feed and I quickly scrolled past it like it was a devil telling me to pray, then I somehow clicked on ur interview with Nadeh not realizing u were the SAME host I had just scrolled past. Ur interview with nadeh was really cool so I decided to give this one a shot but just wasn't my thing. U should know that we ladies ( actually ill just speak for myself) I just want content that isn't focussed on marriage, that's why ur interview with nadeh was soooo appealing. social media is littered with these topics and that's why im not on there. we just need spaces where being muslim and living life are normal and encouraged and that's the vibe ur other interview gave off then this one came along. weirdly enough I also noticed this has far more views, (smh) to all the ladies out there, let me tell y'all something, we don't have to respond to every argument we're invited to. what we do, what we say, what we believe is nobody's business but ours. I will do whatever I want, and THEY don't matter. Good luck to y'all. P.S. I hate judging views if I don't finish or read the whole thing, but I also really believe in protecting my hears and my heart. This attack on female independence is really harmful and I believe that it's really pornographic to my ears and taking in this vernacular on the regular can create a normalization effect especially when some of the problematic things being said are also being uttered in the same sentence like subanallah and alhamdillah. I know my islam as a sacred, divine, kind faith to WOMEN but it's not fair that it's being roped in with human ideas of patriarchy. To all my frustrated muslims out there, study the sources on ur own so you won't believe what those who hate islam or those who misunderstand it say.
In the sea of comment praising this clip, sister Samira, jazak´Allah khayr for penning down what us silent sisters out there are thinking! I watch a lot of Islam-oriented content, and it´s littered with Red Pill-terms, New Age terms such as "manifestation", "feminine energy" and much more that youtuber Muslims seem to hop on just because they think it will bring views and traffic to their channel. Downright un-Islamic terms are being used and promoted by Muslim podcasters.
I feel increasingly disconnected to the online Ummah, but also to I.R.L Ummah because of all this. It feels like we Muslim sisters are hated from all directions; our "brothers" who are trying hard to push us into glorified slavery, and then the non-Muslim cultures simply hating us because we carry Islam in a physical way (hijaab), but also because we birth children (and they fear us procreating). Meanwhile, men are living their lives...unbothered, no responsibility (coddled by cultural mothers) and their only worry seems to be whether their future wife will accept polygyny or not. They don´t carry Islam physically, and can easily date non-Muslim women under the guise of calling totally Atheist women "Ahl-ul-Kitaab" when they know full well that the Quranic term is different. Like, I feel that Muslim men and women today live completely different lives. Our "brothers" don´t feel like our brothers. They´ve become our enemies. All sides want to own, subdue and own Muslim women. Then add to this, the group of Muslim women who are so eager to please, because they seem to think that "If only we submit, men will magically turn peaceful, safe, fulfil their duties and completely take care of us". The sisters that grew up with absent fathers (that were violent, not Islam-loving, cultural and even misogynist) and then absent brothers that neither went to uni like them, nor cared too much about their single mother because..distractions....they are just let off the hook by the majority of the Ummah. I feel increasingly disheartened, disappointed and just...distant. I´m tired of hearing men go on and on about "Most of the inhabitants of hell will be women" and "Angels curse the wife that doesn´t please her husband". (I know that these are false). At this point, I wonder if most men simply hate women, especially born muslimahs. All they want is foreign women whom they can "teach" and feel power over. They do not like women that can see through them and can measure their level of Deen, plus know what her Islamic rights are.
@@Khwaab I believe Muslim men embody non-Islamic ideology even though they physically appear Muslim. I think men and women have been polarized so much that we see each other as aliens.
Salam Sister Samira, I'm not trying to convince you of anything as you said, everyone is entitled to their opinion. But it feels like you missed some points. I think Sister Naima is really speaking from experience. If the marriage topic isnt interesting to you, then you should've maybe skipped this one. I find Sister Naima really hit the nail on the head, and she doesnt just bring random facts, a lot of it is whats already in our deen ❤ i think she doesnt shy from saying the harsh truth which sometimes we are not ready to hear, but ultimately we have to face it. She doesnt "blame" the sisters and the brothers, its a reality check. She doesnt say dont do what you want to, just know that there are some consequences to that, and if you're not married by age 40 then maybe thats why(all is by Allahs will of course). Shes saying there is a real reason why trying to get married is failing right now and following the western individualist mindset will do no good for our ummah. Unmarried people can easily become cynical and lonely when they become old. And to each their life and what they wish to do. Also the host was just being a good listener, you can tell from his different guests that they dont all hold the same mindset/ideas. It'd be unusual for him to agree with all of the guests and thoughts, im sure it was no different in this case. Have a blessed day❤
One of your best podcasts ever, wisdom, Mashallah
As a woman I notice we do this to men too. I want him to be soft with me & in touch with my emotions but also he ended up painting his nails & wearing flamboyant things… like… yeah, men can still be in touch with you emotions but sometimes we confuse being emotional/imbalanced-hormonally with being emotionally intelligent in a way we should be as the gender we are… men & woman express emotions differently, this is why having a wali involved early on is so important because men know best what is healthy masculine emotionality…
Most beautiful .real talk .thank you
thank you for this great podcast
respectfully disagree, feminism isn't the problem. It's the lack of masculine men that can be depended on not to abuse their position. A wife is at the mercy of her husband for money, shelter, food. This is why the prophet told men to take care of women in his final speech. Not just husbands taking care of their wives, but men in general building a society where women can be safe, by holding other men accountable, having a just court system, etc. We are not their yet.
Totally agree with you. We women are empathic beings which is what precisely what puts us in danger. No matter how much we could stray, because we're easily emotionally tied and conditioned to pleasing our husband's we'd never rebel this much or for too long. This is why the responsibility of good behavior should rest on men as they are the biologically less empathic ones who are more inclined to violence and even more so because of the status they were given in Islam. After all why would someone who's given this much power over another want to not abuse of it especially if they lack mercy in their very nature. Hence why good men are so hard to get by. May my Lord protect all the women and girls in the world. 🤲🏿
And you, the woman haave been aold a dream and as a result, you've become entitled and spoilt. You cant have your cake and stuff your face.
All of this wouldve never developed if men didnt abuse their power for centuries and if we didnt all witness women being murdered, beaten up, being left alone and cheated on. Its a joke how some muslims pretend that all of those things never existed and now actively blame women. Tell a woman who had escaped her sociopath husband with three children to be 🎉feminine and rely on men🎉 - are they kidding? Find the error. This is really saddening me.
Sigh, anything to avoid reflection and deflect to the external
@@vxsios so the recent high in femicides is all our imagination? What about the case of the Olympics runner that was burned alive by her former partner in front of their kids? Was that just a collective fever dream of us women? 🤨
SubhaAllah first time listening to her and just so inspired by her words. Sad that I didn't know her before this.
She is very eloquent and educated.... what a gem's women
I was in the talking stage with a sister and she said "I don't even ask my father when I'm traveling overseas, why would I ask my husband?"
I wish her dad good luck, because I think she's going to be in her father's home for another while 😅
Beautiful person, I've never heard of her before. She is very insightful. I slightly differ with her. Don't under value good education and your professional accomplishments. Balance your professional life and family life. Make your life decisions on time and keep both moving at the same beastly speed. I'm a working professional and I love working (in a nontoxic feminine way) and it defines me more as they are my accomplishments gifted to me by Allah. However, I know when to step back. My husband is the provider, and we both focusing on starting a family. We do value family and morals. If something is to happen to him, I can easily take over for my kids and be their pillar, In sha Allah. But please, if you educational accomplishments make you happy and defines you, GOOD FOR YOU. Alhumdulilah. If you like to be a home maker, GOOD FOR YOU. Alhumdulilah.
I don't understand this fear of dying alone. We're all gonna be alone in our graves isn't it? Who dies taking others with them as companions?
It's not dying per se that people are scared of. It's old age, your body and mond failing and nearing the end while all alone and with no support or help. That is a very difficult trial to face and a very painful experience
@@NaeemIbnYusufThis might still be the situation for someone who got married and raised a lot of kids. However, I believe that getting married or having children for such reasons doesn’t make much sense.
It’s not just dying alone, that’s just one of the many downfalls she mentions of being single. God created us to live in pairs, it’s our fitra to yearn for that (but sadly many people have been corrupted by outside influence and they don’t even realise it) , and most people shall never truly be happy unless they live with a partner who fulfills that emptiness and completes us as a person. Studies have shown that in general even people who live with partners in loveless marriages are happier than people who live alone. God created us for one another and we need one another… whether we realise it or not.
It’s something you’ll understand when you grow older. My dad got married to my mother in his 50s, he had a stable life and good job but wanted nothing more than to be a husband and father. He didn’t want to grow old and die alone.
30 years later he has three adult children and two grandkids. He is approaching his 80s and now has dementia, every aspect of his day is challenging - confused with making tea or eating, doing the toilet, staying clean and changing clothes, locking doors etc. But like the king he is, he has his family (his empire) to serve him in old age and make a difficult situation much more manageable and beautiful.
Of course death is imminent and his test in the grave is approaching but when you need help getting changed and pouring a glass of water you don’t want to die alone in this life even if you enter the grave alone
This woman is a huge pick me from what it sounds like. There’re more men than women in the world now. No woman has to take their husband marrying 3-4 women and live with him. She’s talking on behalf of the men cause they’re the ones dying alone
I am Muslim, and pardon me if my comment is deviated from the main subject. I personally don’t find it healthy to have extremes in appearance, wether extremely revealing or extremely covered. In particular, in Islam for women to cover their faces simply doesn’t exist. It unfortunately not the ideal presentation of our religion. Why is she covering her face?!
If I may add another point, this is also objectivization of women because men aren’t wild animals walking to attack a modest and conservative woman who’s either dressed modestly or wearing hijab while also dressed modestly. While covering a face doesn’t have a justification but the objectification of women again and especially that it’s not part of our religion so why are we going to an extreme. Also, and pardon the chosen subject having a woman covering her face talking about would be repellent to many Muslim women who are well educated and modest. Please refer to God’s book and no need at all to add or be extreme in any way, I find it disturbing. I would share the same feeling towards woman who are extremely not modest.
I agree sis. I have cousins with such beautiful eyes, Allah humma baarik, that we joke "If you were to wear niqaaab, people that saw you would not be able to sleep!" There are ladies with such eyes that could knock people out, even without any makeup, LOL. Basically panther eyes, but not even blue or green. Alhamdulillah, they all wear hijaab, but the eyes, man....Allah humma baarik. Even women stare at them and comment. Allah is indeed the ultimate Artist, subhan´Allah!
Crazily, there are men who find it MORE intriguing and mysterious to stare at a woman in niqaab. It gets their fantasy going. So balance is good in everything. There is wisdom in balance. One should be able to show emotions too, like showing staring men a stern face, showing dislike etc.
I highly doubt your Islam. If you do happen to be Muslim then number one, I apologise. Number two, your knowledge is very limited. Number three, you don't have a say in what "extreme" is either. Allah is the only One Who determines what extreme is.
Islam is the middle way. So the onus is on you to prove that covering the face is unislamic. Otherwise you're just like the next guy who speaks based on whims with no knowledge.
None of your business. Why do you care how she dresses.
And you are?
she's literally telling women "I understand you want to make a name out of yourself but step down so men can be more masculine". Like ma'am..., you're being very hypocritical right now with a NAME, an author, a public speaker, a mother, a wife, and a Muslim..? If anything you'd think she'd be motivating other girls as she is a prime example that it is possible to do all that at once and succeed. Tbh this episode broke my heart
Why is it always on women? Why is it never on men? Women are becoming more educated and men are just not trying as hard anymore. Can you blame us for wanting independence? We grew up seeing our mothers, aunts, and grandmas financially dependent on a useless man. Ofc we grow up promising ourselves to make our own money. I just think this narrative that women are being ignorant and need to step down is genuinely making us women feel pathetic. That stereotype that Islam oppresses women is really playing the part rn. Khadija was literally a businesswoman...
I couln’t agree more. It is a men mindset that women can’t want money, success, career. It is not an İslamic mindset, where in Quran says that ‘oh women, don’t want money, worldly things’?
Nooooooooo...we need to be tamed and underachieve so we don't hurt the fragile ego of a weak excuse of men who feel entitled to a women's everything because they are "men"
Remember girls, we always are the problem. 😶
You’ve completely misunderstood her message. Why does letting men take the lead role automatically mean depreciating women to you? She’s educating and empowering others, she’s giving her value to the world in the best way she can وفقها الله . Why do you think this means she’s trying to take the lead role? You need to check your perspectives.
@@MrBeasterAndFeaster people lead not by putting others down but by stepping up. Her message to women to "tone" it down so weak men can feel like a man is really interesting
Imagine your husband feeling imasculated because you are making your own money and getting your bag in halal way. Anyways, ladies, get a man who will support you as much as you support him, and whom presence demand respect than you downing yourself for it, you deserve nothing less.
All those "you're gonna be old alone" is an agenda to make you settle to weak men who are basically a big man child
@coolerthetyrant7923 she literally was, educate thyself
MashaAllah, BaraakAllah, such a motivation❤
Really good listen. Enjoyed it
Every time I listen to sister Naeema I feel revived.
I agree with the sister about feminism, however,I’d like to know who she thinks educated women who are well travelled and established in life should marry ? As a lawyer I see that the major causes of divorces is money. This triggers a lot of issues in the relationship. There is a crisis of masculinity this is a reality. Women are outperforming men in every area. No one should expect an achieved woman to settle for a man who cannot maintain her level of life or interact at her level. Inevitably, women who have less achieved in professional life will usually expect less from men. They will be looking for someone at their level. Unfortunately, too many men disengaged from committing and family life. I think this is a fact of life we need to work on educating men to want to achieve more in life. Not beating women because they have standards and expectation from a husband. In the western world, women are happier than their grand mothers as they no longer need to depend on their fathers or husbands. It’s always better to be single than to be miserable with a husband you don’t like just because you are afraid to die alone.
Nobody wants to live their whole life alone, but some people would rather be patient with Allah’s trial than settling for less.
Why have this mindset in the first place ? If you're only ever willing to 'settle' with someone your own 'level' assuming that's just based on their professional background. The problem is that this can lead to difficulties in marriages
@@Zizoosworld Zaid and Zainab divorced due to incompatibility, him being a former slave, her coming from Quraish and a wealthy family. She felt like she deserved to marry the Prophet Sws and that’s what Allah granted her eventually. Nothing wrong with wanting someone on your social level. Nothing wrong with not prioritising this either. Each to their own.
@@Coco-ki6zh that's all well and good. However to sacrifice marriage because you don't want to settle with someone not to your 'standard is just silly and in fact on balance it is better to be married than not (not just for Islamic reasons but more general). Life is much more than just what you do as a professional. A job comes and goes.
I respectfully disagree. Men are happier married that’s true. whether they love their wife or not. Women are happier unmarried if they do not love their partners. At least, for most women. Case in point : the topic was about women who refused to marry because of a lack of eligible partners. And 80 % of divorces are initiated by women because they’d rather be alone then with a partner they no longer feel is appropriate for them. I agree with you there is more to life than work, partners and children who are also distraction of this dûyah (cf. Quaran). We are on earth to worship god. Whether he gives us partners and children or not.
SubahanAllah
You talk about the marriage of zaid (ra) and zainab (ra) but COMPLETELY don't mention about the marriage of the Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) and Khadija (ra)!!!! He was literally working for her!!!! She literally had the money!!
Marriages are not failing because of money but because we have went far from islam.
Marriage is hard.
It needs efforts and nurture from both sides.
If only one side keeps giving and the other side keeps taking, it will fall apart.
Because the person being taken for granted gets tired of being the only person who is giving their all😢.
The part about enjoying motherhood is so enlightening. Just wanted to say that a woman can be hijaabi and with hayaa and be “a freak in the sheets”. A feminine woman who has learnt to own her sensuality is able to hide her sensuality outside and let it sparks with her husband :))
I love Naima Robert even more ! hahah I think covid was completely planned too .. muslim mamas need to get together to help prepare our kids for what will possibly happen in the future :(
ALLAHUMA barek - she talked bout me ( from 20 yrs ago) all the time😂😂😂🥰🥰 she knows and means well
So does she have anything to say about men or is everything womens fault? Most women are surrounded by friends and family. Men are the ones unaliving and dying alone
Women who are single/divorced/widowers do a lot better than single men. Older muslim women are always going halaqas and have a big friend group. There are a lot of mental health issues men have due to loneliness and regret because of the choices they have made in their early years. Muslim men in the west in particular have a lot more issues with the authorities, underachieving, as well as more likely to engage in drugs etc. (Not all but a lot more than Muslim women - no comparison actually)
Right? i can't even listen to these "Islamic talks" anymore because apparently it's always the women's fault. Learn to take some accountability for God's sake
@@worldwidemoon22999 I think the sister had great points and she comes across really well. but there is a trend in muslim spaces to try to get muslim women to stop being picky 'or you'll be alone in your 50s'. Whatever children that are meant to come into this world will come into this world - it's not our job to play dumb to make a man feel better for making the wrong choices at a younger age.
@@SM-df8fy it everywhere right now because average men cant find a wife so they want women to lower their standards
You're right its not just women's fault. It's also the father's fault for raising terrible women.
Teleportation’s cool, sure, but you’re still visible wherever you pop up. Invisibility, though? Now that’s a gamechanger. You could pull off all the stuff you would never do in front of people. As an introvert, invisibility would be a dream; I could just ghost around, and no one would even know am there🤣🤣Sorry for expanding on this trivial matter while the podcast had so much more to say. Great job, both of you! I appreciate the anchor for asking insightful questions.
Mashallah sister. I learned so much from this video, the main thing being we as a women are ALWAYS the problem. Being assertive is such unfeminine thing and also we should underachieve and not compete for better lives for ourselves because our men will feel immasculated. The red pill Community is proud of you and i hope you are getting picked as you wanted🎉
My sister you can't speak this way to her this is disrespectful.
Also Do not put pictures of Ku fa r and do not lo ve them, this is wrong. Read the Quran.
This comment screams "I resent the sunnah because I want more Dunya"
The red pill is just as bad as feminism. It's not in accordance with Islam.
@@xander583yes in Islam only the men can be assertive and want dunya and be proud of their accomplishments it so haram for a woman
Being assertive is masculine
Of the two sexes, men aren't attracted to it, women are. Speaking for straight men with healthy T levels obviously.
Secondly, what does "underachieve" mean? What standard are you using to gauge what "underachieving" is? On what basis?
Again, you show that you're unable to engage in discourse. You repeat the same thing that other women who were raised under this western feminist curriculum say without even understanding why you're saying it. What's your best solution to that predicament? Call the woman who disagrees with you a "pick me"