going to a bar by yourself
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- Опубліковано 2 тра 2023
- would YOU go to a bar alone?? it doesnt count if youre on vacation!!!
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imagine talking to a guy at a bar and then you find out he went home and made a youtube video about it
This is so relatable, it hurts in a physical way.
Please don't give up fellow human, we are all together in being alone
yotam speaks directly to my neuroses
As someone who has watched this channel since I was a young child I blame his influence for the way I am.
srsly, maybe he should become psychotherapist
I love the way you devote yourself to us Yotam, it's BS that you aren't getting some kind of recognition on the tier of the big candid-animator-tubers (or whatever you call em)... But if I can speak selfishly, your content connects quite directly and feels more meaningful in its obscurity.
Realize I've been watching you for more than 10 years, that's crazy. Hope the vibes are high my good guy ❤
So many of us grew up alongside his content throughout the years. Your comment rings true.
alone is the best form of development in social situations. You are the only one responsible for how your night will go.
"I have a hard time demanding... anything" spoke to my soul haha
Going to a graveyard alone is actually so boss because it’s very pretty, and nobody looks at you walking through a cemetery and thinks “what is he doing?” They all just think you’re here to be very sad.
Please continue making stuff in this format, your personality has always permeated your works and animations, ever since the albinoblacksheep/newgrounds times. The physical human person you videos you make are (bar effort and creative involvement/talent required - it's difficult to acknowledge how much hard work you do and not downplay it)just as entertaining/relateable/fun/[put whatever emotions you intended to elicit here] as your other creative stuff. Thank you for existing and sharing this existence with random people worldwide via the intertubes Yotam(parasocial relationship etcetc)
Coming from another animator who used to work to cope with depression and loneliness, this is hitting right on the spot.
Keep it up Yotam, love your work. It is really inspiring
I recently started doing this lately and I connected with this pretty well. Liquid confidence helps a ton but honestly the more you go out, the easier it becomes to chat with strangers. More power to ya from one lonely fuck to another
Sooo relatable, pretty much described my therapy process.
Today I'm at a point where I believe that you have to be comfortable in your own skin around others, expressing your needs. And after you've done this enough you will not go outside for the challenge, you'll be so confident in yourself that you will go outside on your own only if you really want to.
And you will find relationships that really match you, and not just fix your loneliness and awkwardness.
I get you, Yotam. I also go to places alone and feel weird about it.
life is very weird overall, ask Venusians about it
Yotam. Keep these videos coming. These are entirely too relatable and good to hear. The not knowing what to expect and just slowly building up confidence being alone and going out aspect is genuinely uplifting.
Trying to be happy and productive solo has been something I've being working toward again post school as well.
I love these videos! I love to hear you talk about social anxiety. It's great seeing a raw form of Yotam I need more ❤
I like how he actually does something to fix it. Too many people on the internet who see it as something unfixable. But with practice you can overcome it.
i think you’re the healthiest loner i know. keep exploring outside you will definitely find some cool new friends.
Right? I think that Yotam's got a great perspective on living a secluded lifestyle
i often go to the pub alone. i find it relaxing to be around bustle. i sometimes take my laptop and do some writing there
Having a partner that you love and trust truly is life-changing. I've been alone most of my life, and while the freedom to do whatever you like is nice, there's something nice too about being relied on and relying on another.
Yotam, I've been a fan for a long time, and we share a few similarities (same gender, same age, both work with music/animation), so whenever I see new videos from you I feel like I'm having a one way chat with a kindred spirit. Kinda parasocial, I know! What do you expect when you've watched someone's videos for over a decade? I feel like I have a small sense of who you are as a person, and that I share a lot of your thoughts and feelings on things.
Anyway, just wanted to say that I greatly respect your work and you as a fellow artist. I hope you have all the mental and emotional support you need, and I hope you continue to pursue your ideas and creative passions! 😄
I try to do this twice a week, the worst outcome is usually having a couple of beers and a good meal and catching up something im reading, sometimes end up having an interesting conversation with someone, varies. Have a hard time just sitting there staring at the wall, though, I go crazy if im not either reading something on phone or talking with someone.
We just like you, pretty sure I'd watch everything you do. But this is also just very entertaining.
Needed to hear this right now man. My life's in an exciting place now passion/career wise. I'm pretty busy and I'm doing cool things and meeting cool people but outside of it all in my downtime I feel very alone. It's good to see a video about trying to make the best of it though. Thank you.
I'm the opposite, going to a concert alone terrifies me but going to a bar alone is like drinking water.
very weird to realize that its almost like ive known you for 10+ years after following you all this time. listening to this in the background and hearing the same mannerisms that were in your old animations like desktop stripper and your pico day entry. i admire your dedication to your craft and love that i am able to observe it in passing. you are a talented fella and i think you deserve the best.
oh and jellystone was great btw
love you, yotam
You've done it! I don't think there's a situation where you feel more awkward than going to a bar by yourself. I'll probably start with something easier, like going to watch a movie alone.
This format is fantastic!
I like how you're only wearing socks at the waffle house parking lot.
Cultivating relationships is a rare talent. I'm married so i'm not alone often, but when i was, i had to force myself to keep contact with friends and family.
I like this, a lot. I relate possibly too much
Gladly, I love being alone. No stressing about others, no worrying. I don't socialise out side of work and I am at my happiest at home, or the gym, just doing my thing and being left to my own accord.
Thank you for sharing. Also trying and struggling to do more things alone, ain't easy
I love that you're spreading the good word to people that they can (and really should try) to do things alone. Something incredibly freeing about doing things alone is that you can change scenery or just go home whenever you want. You aren't responsible for anyone else's good time.
I used to go to this arcade bar by myself and it was a great way to make nerd friends but not be totally bored if there was no one to talk to. It was always a great time, so i highly recommend that if it's an option!
Be proud of yourself for going out there despite insecurities :)
Relatable, thank you.
Breakups suck when your partner was also your only friend/person you talked to. Feel you man
Going alone is weird at first, but after you go with people so often, going alone seems better sometimes. Like you can just chill and not try to force a conversation.
You're making me nostalgic for when I worked in downtown DC and would hit a bar by myself with my earbuds in and just get tipsy, unbothered, for $15 before taking the Metro home
Oh man, when you said about not knowing who you are after a break up I felt it. My ex was satisfying 90% of my social needs
I am about same age as Yotam and can relate to alot since I work alone from home too.
Got so inspired by this video that I walked into many dark alleyways alone ! Thanks Yotam!
Thanks. I'm able to experience being to alone publicly (as opposed to privately) through your videos!
Relatable - I hate asking for help, keep the introspective videos coming Yotam
This really resonates with me, because I'm also terrible at asserting myself, asking for help and, god forbid, receiving help without doing anything in return.
Right now I'm in a position where I have no choice but to accept help, because my mental and physical capabilities are severely limited. It's really confronting and sometimes downright infuriating (though that might be the meds) to have people make decisions for me in times where I couldn't.
One thing that helps me cope with it, is the thought that (while I should definitely do it more myself) it feels good to help. Why take that opportunity away from family and friends? It's a win-win-win situation: you get help, they get to help and your bond with them will strengthen.
It can feel selfish to accept help, but refusing help is what's selfish: I put my own feelings before theirs. I would rather not feel uncomfortable than giving them the chance to help out in my time of need, and the peace of mind that comes with it.
Once I'm physically, mentally (and financially) capable, I will start helping others more. Maybe that will make receiving help feel less burdensome.
Would you like to go to a bar alone with me? Also cemeteries are one of my favorite places to go in general not just alone. They are like the nicest cleanest parks with no crazy homeless people yelling at you. You can drink at a cemetery, have a nice picnic, walk around and try to find the youngest person who died then find the oldest person who died. Plus no one ever questions why your alone they just assume your visiting a grave
Also there is no pressure to talk to anyone most people will just leave you alone.
I've been following you since albino black sheep days, and I'm just so glad to still be blessed by your content. I feel like I've parasocially grown up with ya. I love this more vlog style content.
if going to a bar by yourself is too much for the start, try going to a restaurant alone or to the cinema. that's something I started to enjoy actually
This is the best content I viewed in a while ❤
Thank you for this.
I just got home from going to the movies alone. Now I've watched this. I don't feel alone now. Please keep doing these videos.
I like going to the movies alone.
You don't really engage with people while watching a movie anyway.
If anyone wants to come along?
Sure! Fun to have someone to talk with before and after about the movie. But I won't skip out on something I'd want to see nor would I force someone to watch something they don't care for.
This video perfectly encapsulates my early 20's (minus the whole being a UA-cam animator thing)
I first found you with Meme City and I've watched your content for around a decade, it's so cool to see you evolve your style and try out new things like this! Keep up the badass work, this video was hilarious and relatable
been loving this format, keep it up man.
Stay inside Yotam!! Remain atomized!!!!
Why did no one see this comment?
there's something about seeing someone you've watched for half your life post stuff so specifically personal to your own experiences. yotam i think you're my brother now i think that's how this works
Fuuuucking loved this, really enjoy this type of honest but comedic output.
I'm on a very similar journey. Lost many friends due to disloyalty and I try to get back into that whole friends thing.
Then you shouldn't have been disloyal to your friends! There were probably bitches involved, weren't there...
@@maxmustermann2197 they were disloyal to me you clown. No there weren't.
@@Jojojjojojojo Yeah, thats what snitches usually say...
loving all these uploads Yotam, keep it up big man x
I've always gone out by myself nothing wrong with it
I relate a lot to having trouble being demanding, and finding comfort in being alone. It's bad sometimes, but most of the time it's nice.
I've been to a cemetery alone in the dead of night as well. I'd give it a 9/10 because it was so fucking cold but the stars were AMAZING and it's the only place in my city with no light pollution. Totally recommend you try it as well!
Yotam you're one of my favorite youtubers, please never stop making content. I'll watch literally anything you make and I will love it no matter what
Well gotta say, in this scenario, you my friend are not alone.. its so relatable!
I went to a concert alone to watch this musician who sang the super hip song "Supa lonely", her name is BEENE, and well, I don't know why I didn't realize it but most of her fans are a bunch of GenZ, probably around 16- 18year olds. The venue of the concert is small, so I couldn't just blend in with the crowd, there were maybe 100-150 people there at most... it was the first time that i felt so old and weird about myself, I probably was one of the 5 people who's watching the show in their late 20s early 30s. I dunno, I felt like I was weird.
but yeah, your animations are awesome, but its great that you're still going out and trying to make human connections even if you're alone 👏👏👏
I felt this way at a Tennis concert recently. Everyone around me was there with a date and I'm sitting there, alone and single, listening to music by a married couple 🪦 supa lonely AF
@@hellosabrinachaney Damn, yeah that sucks! maybe the discomfort is a good motivation to make friends.. although it would also be nice to learn how to be fully okay with attending events like that alone. Its a shame to have a bad experience over something that we intended to enjoy
@@redleome A positive mindset shift would be, it doesn't matter if we're different than the crowd, we're all fans of the same thing! Anxiety in the moment is powerful, but I'm sure it gets better with more exposure. Or maybe it doesn't, but life is too short to spend it staying at home.
Thanks Yotam for these videos. Your first date advice was legitimately helpful to me.
I don't do a lot of things alone, but I used to go to my weekly pub trivia night early for a few years and would sit at the bar waiting for my team. Got to know the regulars, which were mostly older men who would read the paper. We would never speak, just nod at each other. That bar closed, I do wonder about those old men sometimes.
At first its always awkward and eventually it gets more fun. Having your own schedule is an amazing freedom to have! Keep doing your thing everyone. I believe!
Oh my god…Going back to this after years and years AGAIN is amazing!!!
I feel like I’m right back in the wisenheimers era! O.o I absolutely love it 🖤❤️🖤 His voice is perfectly preserved by time!
I mean…I just realized this is the first video where he talks COMPLETELY normally (in his newer stuff I’m used to the News Show voice or his movie commentary way of speaking)
But no this is the EXACT SAME MAN I listened to when I was 14 (and many other ages for nostalgia+crying to myself to sleep drowning in the past purposes!)
I just love Yotam 😹 Always will! And I love how Yotam and Max went from being edgy comedians to the single most HONEST, OPEN, GENUINE, and SANE people on the internet genuinely discussing life and their own internal struggles! 🤣
I want a Wisenheimers REUNION with the new peaceful, wise beyond their years Yotam and Max! 🤣❤️
Another banger episode.
I hope you make yourself laugh a bit while making these, because some of the touches you add are hilarious
cemetery alone - 8.2/10. At its worst, it's a nice, well needed walk. Sometimes you find a really old grave and get to go "ooo that's a really old grave this guy's like double dead woah." Would recommend to a friend.
I’ve gone to bars alone, concerts, eaten alone, traveled alone, you’d be surprised how comfortable it can be. But then again I have my earphones on most of the time so no one approaches me 😂
Damn this so relatable. Feels a bit better know I'm not alone in being alone tho.
Yotam I been following ur channel for so long and this new series of videos seem easier than ur normal animation style but it amazing
Loving these vids lately Mr. Yotam. Never went to a bar alone I think, usually always went with friends or a significant other. I also just dont have as much enjoyment without others there. Feels like most people are always there with someone else.
Did ya a like friend
I used to fear it, but then I forced myself to eat, go to movies, and drink at the bar by myself. I met a lot of interesting people and had some amazing conversations. I used to really feel anxious about it because I thought there was a code of how to converse. I had a few bourbons and that melted the anxiety away and the conversations just flowed. I was really overthinking it in the beginning but after a while I really looked forward to it. Then you get to know the bartenders and they start to hook you up with free drinks or better yet pour your favorite drink when you sit down. The bar rules! It took a bit but I think it's really ok to do those things and another hard rule I had was not to look at my phone. If they had a TV on or something I'd just sit and really embrace it all. The bar is a great place to sit and think about the day and what you want to do in the future. Nice job getting out there!
10+ years later and still love the heck out of your vids
I'm a big fan of this series Yotam, as someone who's been in a work from home job now for about a year this really speaks to me, I will now live through you 👁️👄👁️
Sometimes I eat out alone and read a book, but I think it's super cool that you just went out to talk to people. Good job! 👍
I appreciate the candid chats Yotam, you're quite the silly guy. sucks to see how every time I watch your vids not a single recommendation is any of your other videos. huge support here I like your albums and the animations have made me laugh since the days of desktop stripper and meme city.
Being with someone and being able to do all those things are great, until they break up with you, then you realize how alone you truly are without that one person. Right now im in that situation and need to learn how to do things alone, interact with new people alone and be confident alone. This truly helps knowing someone had (even if its fake) a similar understanding.
I love going to the bar alone. I would say you want to go to a quieter, community bar. A "pub" if you will. Chat to the bartender to get on a first name basis. The bartender knows the regulars, and people seeing you be friendly with the bartender will give you a friendly, more magnetic aura that invites social interaction
I go to the bars alone and have noticed that couples and old people are more engaging in conversations than young ones. And the people my age are always working or with their family than socialize. The only way to meet them is to throw a house party but that is weird for me since my social battery goes out fast.
This format for standup is really good. it's like the good parts of observation standup, and also the good parts of a youtube poop
Playing this while I'm working feels like I'm in a therapy session
this has all been discussed with my therapist so that makes sense B)
Genuine wholesome healing and Imorovement!
lmao - literally paused to look up the word proclivity and as im about to open a new tab i see you have the definition there. amazing
יותם ימלך, הרגת אותי מצחוק, מאוד מתחבר לחוויה, אבל כל הכבוד שאתה עושה דברים לבד❤,"כל מה שאתה רוצה נמצא בצד השני של הפחד"
Wasn’t expecting a video like this. Wow thank you bro this was funny earned a sub
Thank you Yotam I have watched your channel for a long time. I'm in a new city and am also afraid of socializing with strangers. This helps a lot!
its like im staring at a mirror and the the person in the mirror is pulling funny faces back at me with your videos thank you for a great 10 years
Having a few friends for any outing is so important I feel.
these alone vids are therapeutic for me
I love yotam vids. Good video, very relatable
I love this series.
i did this a few months ago and i made friends with an old man and he said come again and i never did. he died. jk i’m sure he’s alive and well
thanks for making us feel normal yotam this is a service your doing for us and im taking all the juicy free stuff don't forget that
I love these videos. I wish you'd make a podcast. These videos make me miss wisenheimers. Truly I could just listen to you talk for hours yotam you're so funny and interesting!
The part in the beginning where you start walking under the bridge...I felt that
Those little gremlin noises are too relaatable.
Yotam is my spirit animal.
Watching as I prepare to force myself to go sit at a bar and be around people because I also work from home and live in a new city and won’t see humans if I don’t force myself out of my apartment
Finally a normal guy just explaining stuff about solo bar experiences and meeting people hate the other vids that are like BE ALONE AT BAR ANT PICK CHICKS SECRET 100% GUARANTEED, I just wanna meet people
These videos are so good! Keep it up!
I’m preparing to go out alone this summer. Gonna be in a new city on the other side of the country for an internship. Definitely don’t want to be in the house every single weekend. It’s nerve racking just thinking about it but it’s really cause of the things I can’t control. If people think I’m weird cause I’m out alone there isn’t anything I can do about that. Imma make it the best situation I can because quite frankly it’s not a bad one at all. A new city, new job, blank canvas. Like it shouldn’t be weird to go out alone. How else can you meet new people in a new place lol