Moving to Ireland, not all sunshine and roses

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  • @michelelavender1967
    @michelelavender1967 Рік тому +4

    My husband and I are watching from Greece and we see some of your posts,we think you are great,very professional.calm,honest wonderful person,your a HERO x

  • @keithmclachlan7520
    @keithmclachlan7520 2 роки тому +8

    I came across this quote many years ago from an unknown author:
    "Live out the edges of your life. That's where the soul thrives. The soul seeks possibilities that can only be found beyond what is already known, safe and comfortable. It doesn't understand the meaning of 'impossible.' What is already known is already known. To the soul, the 'juice' lies in the unknown, where all things are possible. The soul calls us to the edge, then go beyond."
    Life has its ups and downs, that is the reality. It's how we choose to respond in any given moment, that will bring joy or sadness, hope or anxiety, peace or turmoil. Your little family is very brave and I am very proud of you all. Love lots. 😘🌹

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +1

      Love that quote! We're definitely following the fire of our hearts here. So blessed in so many ways. Love and miss you 💕

  • @allysonhughes6138
    @allysonhughes6138 Рік тому +1

    Beautiful video. Meaningful and good advice about gratitude and getting outside. Exercise and being out in nature can be healing when feeling low.Take care and thank you Xx

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  Рік тому

      Hi! Thank you so much for watching. Gosh, Eibhlin was so tiny in this video, I think this was over a year ago! Being outdoors and enjoying nature has been my saving grace. I've grown a lot since making this video xxx

  • @florentinagrigore9877
    @florentinagrigore9877 2 роки тому +6

    I love your honestly! everything will be ok! 🙏🥰🤗

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much for your comment! I'm learning that it helps to just take life one day at a time... and not focus on things that are out of our control.

  • @mishelandalexphotography
    @mishelandalexphotography 2 роки тому +3

    This is very inspiring video. You said very important things about mental side of the emigration process. This year I'm about to take steps for moving to Ireland with my family! I wish very best to you and your family!

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much for your comment. It is hard but also so rewarding... it's finding the balance that's the trick :-) We're still working on that but we are happy and don't regret making the move. Wishing you and your family all the best with your plans!

  • @eunicefoentjies9412
    @eunicefoentjies9412 2 роки тому +3

    A new subbie here😀 Yes things will get better. I can identify with what you are saying. We have made Ireland our home since 2003. Starting all over wasn't easy. Our 2 boys were 10 and 8 years old. I was diagnosed with depression and as my GP told me at the time,"moving house is stressful, just imagine moving country". I like the way you say ask for help..Thank you for your honesty. At the time it was my Pastor's wife ( a lovely Scottish lady advised me to see my GP. And yes the first thing we did, wasto join a church here in Ireland. We were the only foreign family atvthe time, and yes we are still in the same church, it was a great help. Our 2 boys are now handsome men, one is married and living in England and the other is a teacher with a lovely Northern Irish girlfriend.
    Your baby is georgous.
    God bless your wee family.
    Xx

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +2

      Hi Eunice! Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. It helps to hear from other people and their experiences. I don't regret our decision to move to Ireland for a moment. I look at our kids and see how happy, safe and secure they are and just know in my heart if hearts that all the sacrifice was worth it. And I hope that like you I will also be able to look back one day and see how far we've come! We have so many hopes and dreams, so much to look forward to! 💕

  • @etianapinchukova544
    @etianapinchukova544 Рік тому +2

    thank you for your honesty and tips!

  • @punkitten2456
    @punkitten2456 2 роки тому +5

    Thank you so much for sharing the rain as well as the sunshine and rainbows.
    My family is seriously considering moving to Ireland from Texas which is how I found your channel.
    I love the fun and happy glimpses into the lives of those who have moved to Ireland but I also need to know what potential struggles to prepare for. The distance from friends, family and the routine we have in our current lives will no doubt be difficult.
    It is easy to immerse myself in the daydreams of the positive changes. But, I am old enough to know I do not know what I will mourn or miss until it is a memory. I will likely even mourn things that in the long run I will be happy to have left. Change is hard even if it is good.
    Thank you so much. I am glad you are giving voice to your struggles instead of putting on a brave face and hiding it away. That is empowering for you and for others who may also be struggling in their own way. Mental health is something we should all be more open with. I know learning to be more open with myself and others is what has helped me tremendously over the years. I wish I could whisper that into my younger self’s ear. But at least I did learn it eventually.
    Sending you love from the States!

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +2

      Hi punkitten!
      Thank you so much for your comment. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings as well. Too often what we see on social media and youtube is only the happy side... not enough truth and reality. I'm learning to embrace being real because it's easy to only show the good times! Thank you for your honesty and I wish you all the best in your decision making process. Ireland has been a breath of fresh air for us.

    • @punkitten2456
      @punkitten2456 2 роки тому +1

      @@impromptuimmigrants I appreciate the time you took to respond. I hope you continue to enjoy the lovely breath of fresh air as you navigate the exciting, mundane, challenging and delightful moments as they come. I genuinely look forward to seeing glimpses of your experiences as my own family plans for an initial sabbatical before making the final decision to leap ahead. I hope after thirty days in Ireland the choice is clear. But no matter the decision we come to I look forward to a month of exploring the beautiful island that I have only seen via pictures and video. Since we are currently experiencing triple digit weather I only wish I could make that visit happen sooner! Take care!❤️

    • @josephkelleher8820
      @josephkelleher8820 Рік тому

      I would never leave the United States for any country. We do have our faults but what country doesn't?

    • @martinhosper2990
      @martinhosper2990 Рік тому

      Would be a big mistake.

  • @boradley601
    @boradley601 Рік тому +2

    The Irish winter 6 months long affects your wellbeing.

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  Рік тому

      Very true, we try keep active and busy during winter but the dark, cold days do get hard.

  • @cindybickford9939
    @cindybickford9939 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you for sharing. Mental Health is important and we need to talk about it!And as new person watching your channel I am thankful for your honesty

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому

      Hi Cindy! Thank you for your comment and sharing our journey with is!

  • @treborsirrah7916
    @treborsirrah7916 2 роки тому +11

    As an Irish person we know more about emigration than most, I found it like a sickness of the mind and the thing is it comes out of the blue,can't say it ever goes away ,it didn't for me so I eventually came home, I have sisters in America since the 1960's and although they are now 80 plus years old and have great grand children ,both would probably come home at the drop of a hat,you will one day as your kids get older you will find it easier ,also staying at home with a new baby can be isolating ,it would be wonderful just to drop around to the grandparents for a cuppa and show her off and enjoy those great moments,at least you are doing the right thing by talking about it ,hang in there the good times will lift you

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +2

      Hi Trebor. Thank you so much for your comment and sharing your experience. It does come out of the blue at times, when you least expect it. I am focusing on each day as it presents itself and challenging myself to get out and get involved in the community. That does help! Thank you again for your openness.

    • @pocketfella5176
      @pocketfella5176 2 роки тому +2

      Very caring human , to help her understand is helpful and let’s her know she is not on her own

    • @creekyknee
      @creekyknee Рік тому

      Nobody wants to leave Ireland for the USA. Every single Irish person who immigrated to the USA over the last 400 years would have returned to the Emerald Isle if they could have. I have done my DNA test on Ancestry and sometimes when I look at family tree's of DNA matches of me I despair for them. Imagine the hope that these poor brave people had for their children, their grand-children etc. and then look at the state of the USA today. Their descendants belong to a society that is so much poorer than the one their ancestors brought them to.

  • @pocketfella5176
    @pocketfella5176 2 роки тому +1

    Sad to see a beautiful human not happy, may life get better for you
    Ireland should be very happy to have a wonderful human like you and your family,true love from my family to your family

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much for your kind comments. We do love this beautiful country!

  • @priscillaseaton8147
    @priscillaseaton8147 2 роки тому +3

    Thanks for the honesty. I am moving in 6 weeks and really excited but scared. Its such a huge change for out family but I think Ireland can be our true home. Would love to stay in touch with you when i am there

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +1

      It's the hardest thing we ever did, but we don't regret it for a minute! Gosh, 6 weeks... thinking of you!! Such an exciting time! Please stay in touch! I would love to hear about your journey! Just remember... one day at a time!

  • @tavybukemlee
    @tavybukemlee 2 роки тому +3

    You are sunshine here, you're beautiful and being busy, give it time and allow your family to grow, be more chill ,great days ahead 😊

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +1

      Hi John, thank you so much for your kind comment. I'm learning to take life one day at a time. You are right, there are great days ahead!

  • @hillielloyd8908
    @hillielloyd8908 2 роки тому +3

    Please hang in there you have made the best decision for your children. We moved to the UK from South Afric it takes 18 ,moths to settle, trust me 18 months goes quickly and you will love it, just give it time please.

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому

      Thank you! I don't regret our decision to move for one moment. Can see how our kids are just thriving, makes it all worth while x

  • @colinsmith1288
    @colinsmith1288 2 роки тому +3

    My wife moved to England over 20 years ago now. She could barely speak English,l was a loner,not close to my family at all. She was very lonely for a long time,suffered depression along the way,but got help from the her doctor via medication too help cope with it. We now have a beautiful 12 year old daughter via ivf for free on the nhs. It takes a long time to adapt to a different culture and climate,it is hard to find genuine friendship,the toil of raising children without family support can be overwhelming, but it will get easier over time. Do not be afraid to visit your doctor if your mental health is declining,you are first and foremost a human being afterall. There is also a grieving process leaving behind a life you knew so well.

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +3

      Hi Colin! Wow, what a journey you and your wife have walked together! Thank you so much for sharing your story! It's comforting to hear from other people and how they got through it. Thank you for your encouragement and sharing in our journey with us.

  • @deidrenaude4832
    @deidrenaude4832 2 роки тому +2

    Aah keep strong. Thanks for sharing your life

  • @mbangisenithusi4113
    @mbangisenithusi4113 Рік тому +2

    I like your positivity ❤

  • @s.vanbeast1106
    @s.vanbeast1106 2 роки тому +2

    I hope you're fine. I love realistic videos. And you are the example, (improves the sound and stability of the camera / smartphone a bit
    always keep it horizontal) however they are genuine and natural. We are also planning to move to Ireland in September. The only thought that worries us is the high rent. Hold on.

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much for your comment. Wishing you all the best for your move over in September! It was the best decision we ever made. It was hard but we don't regret it for a moment! I've always been better behind the camera than in front so this vlog is a challenge and I'm learning daily, thank you for your advice. Thinking if investing in a camera as sometimes the smartphone makes you sound like you're sitting in a can 🤣. Have a great weekend!

  • @bobybob8505
    @bobybob8505 2 роки тому +2

    Brilliant 🙏

  • @michoost
    @michoost Рік тому +2

    It's good to sometimes here the not-so-good parts about immigrating as well.

  • @kevleung5532
    @kevleung5532 2 роки тому +1

    U r doing great. Things gonna settle down and go smooth, it's just a matter of time.

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much. I'm learning to not worry about things that I can't control and just take life one day at a time. We don't regret moving here at all, just find Ireland so beautiful and peaceful.

  • @paulhyland4653
    @paulhyland4653 2 роки тому +3

    We moved over nearly 15years .it was very hard going in the beginning having no support structure is a big thing. It gets better and better every year as you make more friends and settle in .as they say this too shall pass .hang 9n there and remember why you chose to move over .

    • @paulhyland4653
      @paulhyland4653 2 роки тому

      15 years ago that is

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much for your comment. Wow, 15 years ago! We truly are growing to love this beautiful country.

  • @ambientlife2271
    @ambientlife2271 2 роки тому +3

    Its called Acculturative Stress. My family moved from Poland to Australia when I was 6, 40 years ago. I still feel lost and wanting to go back. Was just about to move to Ireland for a trial period to Waterford but 3 months of planning and unable to find housing, I have sadly decided against it as I don't want to put my kids through the trauma I experienced and strangely have now re-experienced just through the thought of relocating even though not happy here, never have been. Hang in there, but if you choose to move back home, remember it will get harder to do so over time.

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +2

      Hi Ambient Life and thank you so much for your comment. What you said made a lot of sense. I'd never heard of acculturative stress. Appreciate you sharing your story. Thank you for sharing in our journey.

  • @Carol-kkIrl
    @Carol-kkIrl 2 роки тому +1

    Hope you are feeling better now 🥰 We've all been there in one way or another....but don't forget Mother's are strong, we just are! 💪 💗 history shows us that 😊

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +1

      So true, yes. Sometimes life feels a little overwhelming but we get through it, weather the storm and come out stronger for it!

  • @colettebmcnally5478
    @colettebmcnally5478 2 роки тому +2

    Join your local Parent & Toddler group. Love your videos.

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому

      HI Colette, thank you so much for the comment. It does help to meet other moms and we are so lucky to have such gorgeous playgrounds and play areas for the kids which makes it so lovely and easy to get together with other families.

  • @paulkinsella6536
    @paulkinsella6536 2 роки тому +2

    I think you have what it takes, to make it through this life. You seem to have a lot going for you, intelligence, positivity and a strong will. Depression can sap the life out of us, and i speak as a sufferer from time to time, and emigration is a major life changer, leaving family, and friends etc. It can't be easy. I suppose nothing is really easy in this life, nobody promised us a bed of roses. I hope everything works out for you in the end, and that you and your family will be happy in whatever you decide to do. I believe everything is going to be fine! Best wishes. 👍🥂🙂

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much Paul. I did that video a few months ago and looking back on it I already feel better and more in control of my life and emotions. Thank you so much for your kind comments and support. Truly appreciate it!

    • @paulkinsella6536
      @paulkinsella6536 2 роки тому +1

      @@impromptuimmigrants Glad you're feelin' better. Take care. 🙂

  • @cathyroche6738
    @cathyroche6738 2 роки тому +1

    Waterford is beautiful 😍

  • @Minime163
    @Minime163 2 роки тому +3

    It's understandable Irish folk songs that aren't rebel songs are about homesick immigrants far away from home and family its just a sign that the honeymoon period of your move to Ireland is over and you can look at it more objectively and see both sides of the immigration story.
    As I said any big move has its downside and this is magnified when you have a baby with no family to help and just be generally proud of her.

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +1

      It does get easier day by day, and having family here at the moment has been incredible!

  • @seanlinnane8311
    @seanlinnane8311 2 роки тому +1

    😗

  • @martinhosper2990
    @martinhosper2990 Рік тому +1

    Seasonal affection disorder ...coming from a subtropical country as South Africa. Easy explanation, but nevertheless it is seriously affecting your life it seems. Try reading good novels, irish music and cooking besides family.

  • @michaellawler3016
    @michaellawler3016 Рік тому +1

    You are feeling home sick you need to break through that barrier

  • @gerryscallan8992
    @gerryscallan8992 2 роки тому +3

    I am sorry you are feeling down 😔 may I make a suggestion join your local GAA club that is usually the point of contact there are over 2000 GAA clubs in Ireland 🇮🇪 and we in Ireland 🇮🇪 know all too well about the struggle to get comfortable in a new country over 800 years of British occupation countless millions fled this country countless more millions were transported to the far corners of the empire and I would say not too many wanted to go except to escape British occupation I don't know about South Africa but in Ireland we have a lot of sayings one is laughter is the best medicine so a few Irish jokes
    (1) why do ant 🐜 eaters never get sick
    Because they are full of antibodies
    (2)
    What would you call an Irish gunman
    Rick O'shae
    (3)
    What would you call an Irish man hanging out of a ceiling
    Shaun de leer
    (4) what would you get if you crossed a crocodile 🐊 with a wardrobe
    A snappy dresser
    (5)
    (6)
    What would you get if you crossed a kangaroo with a sheep 🐑
    A wolly jumper
    Hope this helps
    (7)
    Ireland 🇮🇪 is the only country in the world 🌎 where it rains 🌧 between the showers
    (8)
    In Ireland 🇮🇪 when someone askes do you remember last summer
    ? The answer is yes it was on a Wednesday

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому +2

      Ah Gerry, thanks so much for those jokes! I just read them out loud to the family and we all had such a good laugh!!! This year summer was on a Friday! Laughter truly is the best medicine!
      Great advice about joining a GAA club, I will most definitely explore that now during the summer as I've seen quite a few holiday clubs being offered by them for the kids.
      Thanks again for the jokes! So funny!

  • @lucyduffyllovelytown2619
    @lucyduffyllovelytown2619 Рік тому +1

    please get to know other mums in your area yes it must be difficult for you maybe set up a group for immegrants to ireland and yes take lotsof walks

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  Рік тому

      Thanks so much, this video was done almost a year ago i think. Have found my feet and things are looking a lot brighter! Making friends does help as well as keeping busy in the community. It's a journey :-)

  • @conwaynoel3715
    @conwaynoel3715 2 роки тому +2

    For goodness sake girl, what did you expect ? You just explained all the issues that stress you out nvolved in moving to a new country ! Don't get depressed because you get lonelyfrom time to time. That's normal. You just did the right thing, you spoke about it , so you are heading in the right direction. Cheer up , compared to others your flying it. Imagine if you were Ukrainian ?

  • @kayraakin5759
    @kayraakin5759 2 роки тому +1

    bebek çok tatlı bakıcı olarak ıstermısın gelebılırmıyım turkıyeden😀😀😀

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому

      Hi Kayra, thank you for your very sweet comment and offer. Eibhlin is such a good baby, so cute now. She has just got 2 teeth so has been a little grumpy! I'm so excited that someone in Turkey is watching our videos! Keep well!

  • @francisjamesbrennan2034
    @francisjamesbrennan2034 2 роки тому +2

    Get over it I move to Spain 40yers ago lien Spanish a New lifestyle make New friends it's like bean in exile just stop feeling sorry for yourself get out and make friend it's a lot easier for you , you have any things in common with the people of Ireland than you think talk to them more please talk to them more,

    • @impromptuimmigrants
      @impromptuimmigrants  2 роки тому

      Hi Francis. What you say is very true. You have to put yourself out there, make friends and get involved in the community. I suppose we all have our off days but we need to move on and get on with life. Thank you for your comment.

    • @columbannon9134
      @columbannon9134 2 роки тому

      Francis, your English writting is terrible

    • @Minime163
      @Minime163 2 роки тому +1

      @@impromptuimmigrants definitely talk to your Irish friends about how your feeling and your fellow immigrant friends you'll get to know people and you'll soon be ok talk to your family as often as possible and if you do find you need professional help don't be afraid to seek it but things will move on and hopefully you'll be fine I have a brother in America and he was homesick for awhile and every time he came home he went on about how lovely Ireland is and how much he missed the laid back people but now he's American to the back bone and as soon as he visits us poor owl paddies he can't wait to get back.