THANK YOU Caitlin! True Words - and I listen always very concentrated to your Videos, bc I'm German, English is' not my "born with" Homelanguage, and so I'm very happy, that you use very "clean and comfortable" 🤗 Words talking to us - around the World. I agree absolutely with your Opinion! I could be easily your "Grand-Ma" 😊, bc I'm an original "old Hippie-Flower" with my 68 Years of living a really heavy, strong, busy social and sometimes very "strange" and "delicate" Life. But you are a very clear and realistic thinking Person I love to listen to, and I'm thankful that I found you! THANK's a lot for your Content and I hope very much, that a LOT of Others will follow and listen to you, too 👏🏻💞🥰🤗❗ Have a nice Weekend, stay healthy and honest and so lovely and kind as you are 🥰💞👏🏻🤗❗
I so agree with you. Half-naked men or women preening to a camera or dancing in a sexual way is so cringe. I felt that way at 30 and now at 67. Don't get me wrong I can appreciate a beautiful human but the overt sexualization is something that should be private between two people. Getting a lap dance or watching a male review is so impersonal and performative I always had difficulty understanding why women said they enjoyed it. Same with relationship posts. Too much information shared in a public forum.
What I've always heard was that if you had to keep displaying your relationship on social media, it's a sign the relationship is not doing well and showcases insecurity. It's not about telling your sentiments to the other person, it's about keeping up the appearances that everything is beautiful and wonderful.
I’ve often thought the same thing! The only people I know who do this are having issues in their relationship or are very insecure about themselves and it’s more of a “look at me” kind of thing.
Yes! It's the couples that don't post up their love stuff that are generally fairly solid and secure with each other. It's like nothing is sacred anymore 🤔 I rarely post anything up to do with partner and child. We all live in the same house. Why would we need to. We can chat to each other or say I love you face to face, you know? I'm either old fashioned or extremely lucky to have been a child of the 80s and experienced life before the internet 😊
There's also a lot of narcissism in social. It's all about showing the world how grandios, marvelous and fantastic they are, and smear into the faces of their exes how their new flame is oh so much more valuable than they are.
Addition to your list: 1. RIP messages to relatives that recently passed away 2. Always cleaned and organized houses 3. Shaming moms for not being perfect , as according to internet one should manage to cook balanced healthy meals, clean house, play with kids, work, look good, share everything on stories and have a intense social life 4. Illusion that everyone is climbing easily the career ladder and is very successful
Oh gosh yes the RIP messages! So shite. Like the dead one isn't going to see it! It's performance grief for their public and a cry for help maybe because nobody's chatting with them
I disagree with the RIP messages of loved ones, it's not for the dead... it's for the living relatives and friends to share respect and by stating that you will miss them and that allows other loved ones to feel like their lossed loved one was very loved and respected and its very sweet. It's literally no different than eulogies and funerals where friends and family say a few words about the person who passed. When you lose someone you love, you will understand why people doing that is helpful and that it is how every funeral is done as well. However... When people do that for celebrities they've never ever met or posted about before their death... then suddenly they are "so sad to learn of their favorite celebrity dying"... THAT feels disrespectful and fake and distasteful.
I agree with your opinions. My husband loves me so much, but he does not do social media at all because he's not interested in anyone else other than me. He does't have any instagram account or facebook account--nothing. He'd rather spend his time telling me how much he loves me rather than being on the Internet. There have been celebrity couples announcing their love and praise for each other on Instagram, on TV, etc., and a few years later they're divorced. Look at Tom Brady and Gisele Bundchen, as one example. They seemed to be the perfect couple on the outside, but now they are divorced. So I just take it as a grain of salt whenever I hear people bragging. Truly happy people are busy living their real lives off the Internet.
As someone who grew up in the 80’s, I can tell you that we definitely didn’t gather together with all our friends and profess our undying love. The one and only time that happened was at a wedding 😄 We talked to our friends in person or for hours on the phone. Definitely didn’t take enough pictures but sadly the pendulum has swung way too far in the other direction 😢
I just turned 40 so I’m an elder millennial and was a teen when the internet became really mainstream. Life has just gotten weirder and weirder since then. My 17 yr old son doesn’t know what life was like before and the more I think about it, the sadder that makes me. Kids are growing up thinking all this weird stuff is normal 😢 as a parent I’m trying to be vigilant about making sure that my kids understand that they aren’t. Tbh I’m keeping them off socials as long and as much as I can get away with. I’m also having honest discussions about what’s real and not. I think we need to keep having this conversation with the adults in our lives too because I think a lot of them forget how weird and not normal social media is too! Good content and u got a new follow 👋
You’re on a roll lately Caitlin! That’s the first sign this transition of niche fits you so well, I notice you just seem way more happier and enthusiastic on camera. oc your old videos were excellent but there definitely a skip in your step lately 💕
There's this thirst trap video where guy asks if you had me for 24hrs and i couldn't say no what would you have me do. i love that women remixed it and are asking him to do chores lmao. and to be honest i would do the same lol. there's yard work to be done, and gutters to be cleaned. 😄
On your point of loneliness, I've been trying to share a concept I've thought of the other day called "Secondancy" which is how social media saturates our brains with a secondhand-redundant version of events and the people in our lives. Its a parallel reality that exists on the internet, but has been leaking its worst aspects into the analog world through things like worsening mental health and political extreme polarization. We see too much stuff that happened in the recent past, but not interacting enough in real time, in person or maybe through gaming (which is why I think people who play multiplayer live games are less lonely than people who solely use social media) its the time disconnetion and feeling like we are chronically catching up that causes this tenporal loneliness and detatchment I call "Secondancy". Its like a past tense fomo, but its societally pervasive where people feel like they cant connect in person in the moment anymore, so the social media life puts us into this lonely caste of people who are interacting with our friends only "after the fact" of anything significant happening. It's connection in a sense, but it keeps us hungry because the reciprocation is always delayed or not guaranteed so we are caught in this hanster wheel of waiting for the next like, the next reply, the next notification. It's kind of sick and mentally twisted once you realize how much it is changing people's brains and social patterns. I think the only way to cure this is to regain balance between the "Primacy" ( analog in-person, embodied life, the present moment and your immediate surroundings ) vs. the "Secondancy" (the dissociated, digital life of absorbing information and media from physically far away in the recent past.) I think going for walks outside and creating art/doing hobbies off a computer or phone/tablet with no intention or requirement to post it online can be a good way to reclaim that feeling of flow and being grounded and present.
when i was young people came to our house to socialise and share their daily lives.this homevisiting tradition has disappeared sadly and i miss this reality so much in my generation
Girrllll, thank you for posting this. I feel like the whole world is telling me I'm weird for finding these things weird and unnatural. Thank you for validating me.
I totally agree. You profess your love to your significant other in person in private. People use social media to show off on every level: personal relationship, finance, house, ect. to make themselves look good. It’s now normalized to be narcissistic, there are very few humble people anymore.
Exactly what I was thinking... There's no such thing as modesty anymore. Instead, everyone seems to be flaunting and peacocking. Plus, there's a weird, unnatural appetite for seeing others air out their dirty laundry, and people think they're being rewarded by getting lots of views, but instead, they're just detaching themselves from the real people in their lives who would actually care to hear out their problems if it was addressed privately rather than broadcasted to strangers.
Totally agree about social media and PDA etc. I've even had "friends" call me out for not being polite because I don't live my life online and "didn't thank someone for a favour" because, you know, if it didn't happen online then it can't possibly have happened! 🙄 It's ridiculous. Like, I don't feel the need to have a huge semi-public audience to my whole life. Yes life was better before social media, I'm older than you grew up without the internet and honestly, it has killed friendships and conversation. We used to arrange to meet and stick by our plans, not do everything last minute because we're keeping options open and cancel just because we can. We spoke to each other to share news, not publicly announced it online and expected people to check our space to keep up with us. We didn't chat on messages, we actually met up and had a conversation. It was a lot more fun and made you feel closer to people, better connected
It’s important to remember when you’re looking at social media that you are comparing your worst moments to someone else’s highly curated best (often fake) moments
100% agree. I’ve always been so private and when I see those LONG and I mean LONG and intimate captions idk it’s just too much Bc its so personal. love this new direction you’re taking your channel!
I've always felt that writing TLDR dedications to your family, friend or SO is a form of overcompensation. Case in point: happened long ago, but i can't forget how my cousin totally outed her brother who wrote a long heartfelt birthday greeting for their dad on FB. She commented on the post: "yeah right, you didn't even wash the dishes this morning. " 🙄(insinuating that my uncle, the birthday boy, did the chore instead.) I get that some people's love language is "words of affirmation", but to broadcast your affection as if you're trying to prove something to the world, seems hollow. Instead of love, it feels more like contrition or covering up shortcomings. Even self-serving in some cases. 😅
I feel the same as about people who go out all weekend. It gives me anxiety too. I often wonder how their home is clean and their bed laundered and if there is any food in the fridge? I could not function that way.
@@CaitlinPawlowski 🤭😂 Like how can you even adult when you’re out playing all weekend half cut. Even just thinking about it gives me a literal anxiety!
4:23 this is such a good point! I’ve also found that everything’s a “red flag” in a lot of online circles, and if your boyfriend does the smallest thing wrong then people will tell you to dump him lol. It led me to have some pretty high and unrealistic expectations for relationships that im still trying to work through
💯% to all of this! Love this content, Caitlin! I have friends who are running around all the time photographing themselves everywhere… bars, the beach, concerts, jammed packed weeks and weekends. Posting all the time. They look exhausted, but are living their best lives! Then there are the ones writing messages to their family members on Facebook for the world to see. 🤔 You are correct, life was way more simple before social media and we didn’t feel as bad about ourselves.
I'm glad that I'm not using TikTok so I don't see all these (ab)normal thirst traps and narcissists. Truly the world has become a place of narcissists and the internet encourages this syndrome. It's like we're living in a world now where everyone's frustration to become a movie star or celebrity has been granted by social media and now all hell breaks loose, the floodgates have opened. I think our world today, with social media and all, perpetuates the idea that you're only truly "living" your life if you are doing these fun filled activities, especially travel, and those who don't do much are not living at all. It's sad that we have to bombard ourselves with activities in order to keep with the Joneses.
I’ve alway thought you were cool, but after these videos, I think you’re even cooler. I’ve been married three years and I have a hard time even “liking” something my husband posts online (too public-y). Not that he posts much on SM, he’s too busy dancing around our bedroom half-naked! 😂
My home is very clean and tidy but also chaotic. As it’s full of colour and knickknacks and it is cozy and practical and definitely not camera ready but I don’t care. If I’m on face time or want to send a picture of something to family and friends I don’t prepare the scene I just snap the picture even if it’s a bit of a mess in my place. I don’t see the need to hide how you truly live. So long as it’s tidy, then it’s ok because it’s just natural to your style of life and routine.
I agree with all you points. Bare chested boys dancing: cringe! Perfect relationships online and crisp clean apartments make me feel even more alone and feel like I am living in pigsty or better yet, in a rough cave. Going out? I was over it long long time ago. Perfect weekend nights are for me watching youtube or movies at home with my cat and tub of icecream. And I don't "feel like I don't have anyone", I really don't. I have only few persons from my closest family and feel lucky to have that. But friends? Not even one.
The professing love on social media i think is a 21st century version of mateguarding behavior. Most animals do it, but because humans are complex, we have different personal and cultural parameters for behaving with our mates. Introverts like you and me might find digital PDA goofy and intrusive, and prefer private feeling sharing, but maybe extroverts do it as a territorial move, to show they are taken, and their mate is taken, so nobody tries anything to get between them. Introverts might rely on trust and private moments /one on one communication more than extroverts who rely on outward signalling and group communication.
I found you more relatable with this content vs unboxing. I watched you from time to time but this is a nice change to see you talk sense and reality this way
I agree with all your points! Trisha Paytas is a good example of oversharing gone wrong lol, but in a weird way it balances out her "super influencer life" she has projected to the world. I can't watch her for long, but I used to love her random luxury hauls, usually over the top and girly stuff.
2. If you go this way, marriage ceremonies is based on the same principle. Why do people need to get married in front of their (100) friends and (super remote) families? People want to display their happiness to everybody out there and stick it to so and so. Also i don't believe one word of these kinds of posts. Remember Chris Watts' wife? She was always raving about how wonderful her hubby was.
Agreed! I am very wary when I see someone trying to sell this idea of a perfect relationship. I have seen a few people on IG displaying their love with love messages and pictures and then breaking up and everyone is like: what happened?
Indeed. That's why the idea of getting married in front of loads of people makes me feel yucky. I've been with my partner nearly 18 years. We're happy as we are. We have children together and that in itself is a commitment to each other to be great partners, best friends, pretty good parents and share our little 'castle' (small apartment) happily. I've know couples with kids that have been together for 40 plus years, happy and not married. They're together because they want to be not because in the eyes of the law, they're legally married etc.
Thank you again Caitlin! This content is gold 😂😂😂 You had me giggling and snorting the whole time! Society is in need of a DEEP reset!!!! & NO you are not alone. Everything you said was on point!!!!!
I don't know if this is considered influencer related topics: But I just see a ton of them all over: 1. People getting upset and calling out (and filming) servers or anyone for saying sir, mam, ms, mr. - Getting upset over GENDER. I AM OVER IT! I used to work in customer service as a cashier, sometimes our words just get mumbled jumbled as we talk cause we are saying so much and our bosses are down our throats saying "make sure you say thank you for shopping, say hello, say thank you for choosing ___ , have a nice day, did you find everything you wanted today?" Then there are the holidays. OH my! I would even have bad customers and I just wanted them to leave so I would muster up my dignity and just say "have a nice day" and he legit said "f* you too" - I was not trying to tell him to f* off. I was just trying to tell him to leave politely. I just left the register. I am not dealing with that behavior. I am NOT a doormat. When I go out, I treat everyone with respect, no matter the gender or race or age. I treat everyone the same. And sometimes I might try to say bye to 1 person but see someone else and think hello and accidentally say "bello" for some reason I am wired that way. I know I ain't the ONLY one! I just think people are being rediculous over workers out here and especially servers and cashiers and stockers at grocery stores, these people work their butts off, sometimes are coming in on their day off or working an extra hour till someone comes in or working through breaks and lunches and here is some random stranger yelling at them over gender or something totally off hand and filming it! My own brother works in the meat dept of a grocery store and got called a racist because they were out of chicken wings during "super bowl" weekend ... let that sink in. The woman that called him the racist did not order wings ahead of time, wanted this brand that the store doesn't carry a lot of and when he offered the store brand of wings she yelled at him and said he is just a grocery worker and that she's got a good job and he needs to just do his job and give her more wings of the brand she wants. Like poof there they are! She's delusional and she called him a racist. Over chicken wings! Sorry for the rant. But it goes hand in hand I think as well with this too. These People online are being praised about calling people out at restraunts and stores for being racists and genderists or whatever all because these people are "sensitive" or having a bad day and they are taking it out on these poor workers. They do realize if it wasn't for this worker. The store probably wouldn't have had that dept open at the moment or no server at that moment or cashier at that moment. OH well. When I see someone nowadays yelling at a cashier, I get out of the cashiers line, and yell to the cashier "YOU SHOULD QUIT! I DON'T BLAME YOU, IF YOU WALK OFF YOUR REGISTER RIGHT THIS SECOND! CAUSE I WOULD, INFACT I AM RIGHT NOW! YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS!" --- but another thing with the genders, if you watch these videos, I saw 1 with someone wearing a long hair wig , had a beard/mustache. So I could not tell what they were trying to be and said "I gender identify as they/them". How the heck is a server supposed to know? Or when someone says "It hurts when you don't say Miss when you are talking to me". When you can't tell, and they look like a guy, it's confusing. I'm just glad I don't work in those industries but even being in the store someone can just yell at you if you say excuse me mam or sir and they will yell at you like a "KAREN or KEVIN" for mis gendering them or being a racist. I just - I can't.
I'm obviously too old for feeling some kind of way about Instagram posts. I'm currently using my kids mid-year exams as an excuse to not see people until the end of the month. That thing that happened in 2020... best thing to happen to my social life because I didn't have to come up with excuses to not socialise.
When I see people who are "ripped" with 6-pack abs, I think about the time they spent to look that way. Wouldn't their time have been better spent reading a book, visiting with a friend, taking care of a pet or an older relative, making money? I guess it's something that is important to them now but that look is unsustainable in the long run and to me is a waste of time. I prefer to exercise reasonably and then move on to other life-enriching things. I enjoy your channel, Caitlin. (My daughter's name is Caitlin!)
Definitely all of these points really hit me hard. It baffles me how we can have all this social media and yet me so loney and so unfulfilled and feel not good enough! 😢
I'm a 30-year-old guy in the Midwest in the US, and one of your videos was recommended to me. I definitely resonated with points two and three. I am not really a public partner appreciation kind of person. I'd probably cringe a bit if my partner did that. I agree, that those moments should be private. I've been accused of trying to "hide" that I was seeing one woman because I wasn't up for PDA enough. On point three, I work two jobs as is. I sometimes feel "lame" or "boring" if I'm not "doing enough." I constantly deal with conflicting feelings of "F++k everyone, I just want to be left alone and be by myself" and "damn, I wonder what my family is up to? What about my friends? What if I'm not social enough? I have to put in the work to maintain my feiendships or they'll fall off and I'll be alone, even when I dont want to be."
There have always been so much pressure from older co workers or family members about needing to be out partying with friends every weekend And being surprised if you’re home on a Friday night I have to remind them like umm it’s expensive to be doing that all the time 🫠🫠 A fulfilling life to me is sometimes going out with girlfriends either salsa dancing or to dinner and drinks. But mostly, my fulfillment comes from watching ghost stories at home while sipping hot chocolate, sitting in the sun, creating inspirational blogs on instagram, watching engaging UA-cam videos that let me learn new things, doing my own pedicures at home, Netflix movies with my man etc. Everyone doesn’t have to live a super party girl lifestyle and it’s normal!
I have lived so long thinking I'm weird for not wanting to do things all the time. This month is the first time I thought, you know what, fuck this. This is who I am and it's about time I accepted that
Social media has denormalized everything that is considered perfectly normal. For example: 1) Being 6'3 is not normal, yet women have been deluded into thinking it is. Normal is about 5'7 - 5'10 depending on country. 2) Social med is only showing the best of the best, which represents like 5%of their life. 3) People started behaving more and more narcissistically. 4) 80% of men and women are average-looking. There's nothing wrong with being average! But a lot of women especially seem to believe they are in the top 10%, when they're clearly not.
Yeah the narcissism is on another level! I've known that when people gush over their partner. I know that it's the opposite. They are over compensating for something. I'm in my 40's and definitely when you are in your 20's you want to be seen cause you're newly adult, so yeah you are always out your actual responsibilities isn't that thick unless you are a young parent, but even then they would drop the kids off with the grandparents and hit the town. As you get older and have more responsibility going out tends to taper off. People using TikTok as therapy. Yes the oversharing.
You have just popped up on my recommended viewing and im so pleased. You are hilarious, so pleased someone feels the same way about these ridiculous videos 😂🙈
Agree! I find it odd that people go off on social media about there, “loved ones” BD or anniversary or whatever… Why are they telling me? Go talk to your person!!! Yuck
The oversharing point is so real. I’m like am I the only one that thinks this doesn’t belong on the internet. People share anything for validation and attention and it’s sad.
😂 I had to crack open my second can of Red Bull for the day when you delved into super happening social life thing! Couldn't relate more! 👏 I am wiped just thinking about it! 😢 ...And same for the declarations of love on social media. Just, why?
Thank you so so much Caitlin for making daily videos for us and I really appreciate your efforts you are putting in your videos for us and I wish you reach 50K Subscribers very very soon!🙂💗💫
I get what you mean about the online displays of affection. when my hubby does it to me I cringe a little bit. However, I believe you came off a bit cynical when you said that you don’t think the perfect relationship exists, and that the perfect prince doesn’t exist. Of course, there’s no objectively perfect person or relationship, but there is someone perfect for everyone. You just have to get out, live your life, and be ready when you run into them.
Again, i agree with that long over sharing is very not normal. Nothing about social media has definatly become over done. And i don’t click on these videos and it’s why I’ll never be a UA-camr or on instagram i just don’t think it’s healthy.
im 21 and honestly the weekend thing is so true LOL. like seriously im working all week and now u wanna do MORE STUFF??? let me do chores and RECOVER also how do ppl have the money for all of this
1. TikTok is an algorithm, you only get posts with dudes with their shirts off if you consume the content, or adjacent content that the algorithm recognizes as a similar interest. 2. Did people make public declarations of love before social media? Of course they did. In poetry, books, music, art. All throughout modern history.
All of this sprouts out of social dysfunction. I would say that oversharing, being so influenced and being so lonely all have the same roots. People have no village, no home, no companions, no clan and often no family. And by that I mean that all these things require healthy relationships with trust, respect and commitment. There are people who put on the pretense of that but the real thing? It is rather rare. And you have to know who you are while having firm ethics and morals to be a steady person. That enables you to be healthy/sane enough and consistent enough to offer respect, trust and commitment to another person. In an age of “your truth”, relativity, and extreme individualism what else do people expect? The reality is that once all standards, norms and beliefs dissolve and everything is possible it makes other things impossible. Once truth is debatable clear agreements evaporate. Once every behavior is accepted all boundaries dissolve into dust. And on and on it goes. Nothing is new under the sun. On a personal note I find posting all about your relationship rather cringe as it is privacy destroying and can easily create a situation where that information can be used. Also, busy weekends… just ick. I think everyone will be happier if they stop and consider how many times per month do I actually want to: go dancing, eat out, go to an event, go shopping and usually that number is nothing near the social media number.
I usually suspect people who post a lot of cringe relationship posts might be insecure in their relationships. If I have a super active weekend, I usually am too tired to post it. Every 'Gram' is a 'Latergram' if I ever post stuff. Are these signs that I am just old? I just want to be in relationships and do things without documenting them.
You're so real for the first one! Like all power to the people who post thrist traps online, get that bag. But I cannot for the life of me find it attractive.
the other thing that i’m always conscious of about the last one is giving advice when people have overshared, like those girls in that example saying ‘leave him’ - they don’t know the whole story! they won’t have any consequences if she does leave him and it turns out he wasn’t cheating! i think it can be really irresponsible to give advice when someone overshares on the internet
I miss the good old days when any dude this full of himself would be content with a shirtless bathroom mirror selfie, or even better, a lil photoshoot in which they forget to crop out the reflection of Grandma holding the camera 😂
About the first point, I am totally with you. As a gay man, I don’t think that attitude is hot at all. I can’t see those videos more than a few seconds without feel myself uncomfortable.
As for your first point, whenever I see anyone do that I immediately think, "ah, this is a child" (i say this about anyone under 20), and if they are closer to my age, I just think, "ah, this is embarrassing"
I totally overshare in person so it's best I NOT do videos on any platforms. I guess at least my oversharing in person is only to 1 person or small group of people at a time, and it's not recorded.
Thats is what those boys are doing. They are by themselves making all those moves to a camera. My question is, why? Are they that convinced they are hot or something? I was never a girl who thought naked men dancing was ever that sexy. Like those Chip n Dale guys. What was that, girls going nuts for guys they could never have. Anyhow you're not the only one who thinks those guys on Tictoc are rather cringe.
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Have you seen part 1? 5 Things Social Media Has Brainwashed Us Into Thinking Are Normal But Actually Aren’t
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THANK YOU Caitlin!
True Words - and I listen always very concentrated to your Videos, bc I'm German, English is' not my "born with" Homelanguage, and so I'm very happy, that you use very "clean and comfortable" 🤗 Words talking to us - around the World.
I agree absolutely with your Opinion! I could be easily your "Grand-Ma" 😊, bc I'm an original "old Hippie-Flower" with my 68 Years of living a really heavy, strong, busy social and sometimes very "strange" and "delicate" Life.
But you are a very clear and realistic thinking Person I love to listen to, and I'm thankful that I found you!
THANK's a lot for your Content and I hope very much, that a LOT of Others will follow and listen to you, too 👏🏻💞🥰🤗❗
Have a nice Weekend, stay healthy and honest and so lovely and kind as you are 🥰💞👏🏻🤗❗
It got worse with the globalization of Korean boy and girl bands. 😑
I so agree with you. Half-naked men or women preening to a camera or dancing in a sexual way is so cringe. I felt that way at 30 and now at 67. Don't get me wrong I can appreciate a beautiful human but the overt sexualization is something that should be private between two people. Getting a lap dance or watching a male review is so impersonal and performative I always had difficulty understanding why women said they enjoyed it. Same with relationship posts. Too much information shared in a public forum.
Agree.
What I've always heard was that if you had to keep displaying your relationship on social media, it's a sign the relationship is not doing well and showcases insecurity. It's not about telling your sentiments to the other person, it's about keeping up the appearances that everything is beautiful and wonderful.
I’ve often thought the same thing! The only people I know who do this are having issues in their relationship or are very insecure about themselves and it’s more of a “look at me” kind of thing.
Agreed!
Yes! It's the couples that don't post up their love stuff that are generally fairly solid and secure with each other. It's like nothing is sacred anymore 🤔 I rarely post anything up to do with partner and child. We all live in the same house. Why would we need to. We can chat to each other or say I love you face to face, you know? I'm either old fashioned or extremely lucky to have been a child of the 80s and experienced life before the internet 😊
There's also a lot of narcissism in social. It's all about showing the world how grandios, marvelous and fantastic they are, and smear into the faces of their exes how their new flame is oh so much more valuable than they are.
I quit all social media, except youtube for entertainment, and its been amazing. I would never go back.
I am so happy for you!
I use social media for business purposes and when am bored I’m watch videos for entertainment..nothing more
Same🎉
Addition to your list:
1. RIP messages to relatives that recently passed away
2. Always cleaned and organized houses
3. Shaming moms for not being perfect , as according to internet one should manage to cook balanced healthy meals, clean house, play with kids, work, look good, share everything on stories and have a intense social life
4. Illusion that everyone is climbing easily the career ladder and is very successful
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Oh gosh yes the RIP messages! So shite. Like the dead one isn't going to see it! It's performance grief for their public and a cry for help maybe because nobody's chatting with them
Add to the list “acting like a poЯn actress or a stripper
I disagree with the RIP messages of loved ones, it's not for the dead... it's for the living relatives and friends to share respect and by stating that you will miss them and that allows other loved ones to feel like their lossed loved one was very loved and respected and its very sweet. It's literally no different than eulogies and funerals where friends and family say a few words about the person who passed. When you lose someone you love, you will understand why people doing that is helpful and that it is how every funeral is done as well.
However...
When people do that for celebrities they've never ever met or posted about before their death... then suddenly they are "so sad to learn of their favorite celebrity dying"... THAT feels disrespectful and fake and distasteful.
I agree with your opinions.
My husband loves me so much, but he does not do social media at all because he's not interested in anyone else other than me.
He does't have any instagram account or facebook account--nothing.
He'd rather spend his time telling me how much he loves me rather than being on the Internet.
There have been celebrity couples announcing their love and praise for each other on Instagram, on TV, etc.,
and a few years later they're divorced.
Look at Tom Brady and Gisele Bundchen, as one example.
They seemed to be the perfect couple on the outside, but now they are divorced.
So I just take it as a grain of salt whenever I hear people bragging.
Truly happy people are busy living their real lives off the Internet.
As someone who grew up in the 80’s, I can tell you that we definitely didn’t gather together with all our friends and profess our undying love. The one and only time that happened was at a wedding 😄
We talked to our friends in person or for hours on the phone.
Definitely didn’t take enough pictures but sadly the pendulum has swung way too far in the other direction 😢
I just turned 40 so I’m an elder millennial and was a teen when the internet became really mainstream. Life has just gotten weirder and weirder since then. My 17 yr old son doesn’t know what life was like before and the more I think about it, the sadder that makes me. Kids are growing up thinking all this weird stuff is normal 😢 as a parent I’m trying to be vigilant about making sure that my kids understand that they aren’t. Tbh I’m keeping them off socials as long and as much as I can get away with. I’m also having honest discussions about what’s real and not. I think we need to keep having this conversation with the adults in our lives too because I think a lot of them forget how weird and not normal social media is too! Good content and u got a new follow 👋
Thankyou for watching and sharing your experience
You’re on a roll lately Caitlin! That’s the first sign this transition of niche fits you so well, I notice you just seem way more happier and enthusiastic on camera. oc your old videos were excellent but there definitely a skip in your step lately 💕
Yes! Thank you! 💕💕
There's this thirst trap video where guy asks if you had me for 24hrs and i couldn't say no what would you have me do. i love that women remixed it and are asking him to do chores lmao. and to be honest i would do the same lol. there's yard work to be done, and gutters to be cleaned. 😄
On your point of loneliness, I've been trying to share a concept I've thought of the other day called "Secondancy" which is how social media saturates our brains with a secondhand-redundant version of events and the people in our lives. Its a parallel reality that exists on the internet, but has been leaking its worst aspects into the analog world through things like worsening mental health and political extreme polarization. We see too much stuff that happened in the recent past, but not interacting enough in real time, in person or maybe through gaming (which is why I think people who play multiplayer live games are less lonely than people who solely use social media) its the time disconnetion and feeling like we are chronically catching up that causes this tenporal loneliness and detatchment I call "Secondancy". Its like a past tense fomo, but its societally pervasive where people feel like they cant connect in person in the moment anymore, so the social media life puts us into this lonely caste of people who are interacting with our friends only "after the fact" of anything significant happening. It's connection in a sense, but it keeps us hungry because the reciprocation is always delayed or not guaranteed so we are caught in this hanster wheel of waiting for the next like, the next reply, the next notification. It's kind of sick and mentally twisted once you realize how much it is changing people's brains and social patterns. I think the only way to cure this is to regain balance between the "Primacy" ( analog in-person, embodied life, the present moment and your immediate surroundings ) vs. the "Secondancy" (the dissociated, digital life of absorbing information and media from physically far away in the recent past.) I think going for walks outside and creating art/doing hobbies off a computer or phone/tablet with no intention or requirement to post it online can be a good way to reclaim that feeling of flow and being grounded and present.
This is an incredible point! Thankyou for sharing this! 👏
when i was young people came to our house to socialise and share their daily lives.this homevisiting tradition has disappeared sadly and i miss this reality so much in my generation
Girrllll, thank you for posting this. I feel like the whole world is telling me I'm weird for finding these things weird and unnatural. Thank you for validating me.
I totally agree. You profess your love to your significant other in person in private. People use social media to show off on every level: personal relationship, finance, house, ect. to make themselves look good. It’s now normalized to be narcissistic, there are very few humble people anymore.
Exactly what I was thinking... There's no such thing as modesty anymore. Instead, everyone seems to be flaunting and peacocking. Plus, there's a weird, unnatural appetite for seeing others air out their dirty laundry, and people think they're being rewarded by getting lots of views, but instead, they're just detaching themselves from the real people in their lives who would actually care to hear out their problems if it was addressed privately rather than broadcasted to strangers.
Totally agree about social media and PDA etc. I've even had "friends" call me out for not being polite because I don't live my life online and "didn't thank someone for a favour" because, you know, if it didn't happen online then it can't possibly have happened! 🙄 It's ridiculous. Like, I don't feel the need to have a huge semi-public audience to my whole life. Yes life was better before social media, I'm older than you grew up without the internet and honestly, it has killed friendships and conversation. We used to arrange to meet and stick by our plans, not do everything last minute because we're keeping options open and cancel just because we can. We spoke to each other to share news, not publicly announced it online and expected people to check our space to keep up with us. We didn't chat on messages, we actually met up and had a conversation. It was a lot more fun and made you feel closer to people, better connected
It’s important to remember when you’re looking at social media that you are comparing your worst moments to someone else’s highly curated best (often fake) moments
100% agree. I’ve always been so private and when I see those LONG and I mean LONG and intimate captions idk it’s just too much Bc its so personal. love this new direction you’re taking your channel!
I've always felt that writing TLDR dedications to your family, friend or SO is a form of overcompensation. Case in point: happened long ago, but i can't forget how my cousin totally outed her brother who wrote a long heartfelt birthday greeting for their dad on FB. She commented on the post: "yeah right, you didn't even wash the dishes this morning. " 🙄(insinuating that my uncle, the birthday boy, did the chore instead.)
I get that some people's love language is "words of affirmation", but to broadcast your affection as if you're trying to prove something to the world, seems hollow. Instead of love, it feels more like contrition or covering up shortcomings. Even self-serving in some cases. 😅
I agree with all your points. 1 and 2 is super cringey for me usually because I don’t trust men who indulge in narcissistic behaviour.
I feel the same as about people who go out all weekend. It gives me anxiety too. I often wonder how their home is clean and their bed laundered and if there is any food in the fridge? I could not function that way.
👏 same omg
@@CaitlinPawlowski 🤭😂
Like how can you even adult when you’re out playing all weekend half cut. Even just thinking about it gives me a literal anxiety!
4:23 this is such a good point! I’ve also found that everything’s a “red flag” in a lot of online circles, and if your boyfriend does the smallest thing wrong then people will tell you to dump him lol. It led me to have some pretty high and unrealistic expectations for relationships that im still trying to work through
💯% to all of this! Love this content, Caitlin!
I have friends who are running around all the time photographing themselves everywhere… bars, the beach, concerts, jammed packed weeks and weekends. Posting all the time. They look exhausted, but are living their best lives! Then there are the ones writing messages to their family members on Facebook for the world to see. 🤔
You are correct, life was way more simple before social media and we didn’t feel as bad about ourselves.
Even my friends do the same like going somewhere to enjoy that but instead of tht they are busy clicking selfies or photography 😮
I'm glad that I'm not using TikTok so I don't see all these (ab)normal thirst traps and narcissists. Truly the world has become a place of narcissists and the internet encourages this syndrome. It's like we're living in a world now where everyone's frustration to become a movie star or celebrity has been granted by social media and now all hell breaks loose, the floodgates have opened.
I think our world today, with social media and all, perpetuates the idea that you're only truly "living" your life if you are doing these fun filled activities, especially travel, and those who don't do much are not living at all. It's sad that we have to bombard ourselves with activities in order to keep with the Joneses.
I’ve alway thought you were cool, but after these videos, I think you’re even cooler. I’ve been married three years and I have a hard time even “liking” something my husband posts online (too public-y). Not that he posts much on SM, he’s too busy dancing around our bedroom half-naked! 😂
Haha you’re amazing! Thankyou 💕
Ahhh, nice to know that other husbands do this too 😂 lol
I thought My husband was the only one haha
agree with all you said - society is at its stupidest at this point...sometimes I wonder how much lower the bar can get 🤦🏻♀
My home is very clean and tidy but also chaotic. As it’s full of colour and knickknacks and it is cozy and practical and definitely not camera ready but I don’t care. If I’m on face time or want to send a picture of something to family and friends I don’t prepare the scene I just snap the picture even if it’s a bit of a mess in my place.
I don’t see the need to hide how you truly live. So long as it’s tidy, then it’s ok because it’s just natural to your style of life and routine.
I agree with all you points. Bare chested boys dancing: cringe! Perfect relationships online and crisp clean apartments make me feel even more alone and feel like I am living in pigsty or better yet, in a rough cave. Going out? I was over it long long time ago. Perfect weekend nights are for me watching youtube or movies at home with my cat and tub of icecream. And I don't "feel like I don't have anyone", I really don't. I have only few persons from my closest family and feel lucky to have that. But friends? Not even one.
You are not the only one!!! A lot of things are freaking weird!!!😂😂
7:04- I think it would have been a toast back in the day. Those can be sweet, and you’re actually talking to that person.
The professing love on social media i think is a 21st century version of mateguarding behavior. Most animals do it, but because humans are complex, we have different personal and cultural parameters for behaving with our mates. Introverts like you and me might find digital PDA goofy and intrusive, and prefer private feeling sharing, but maybe extroverts do it as a territorial move, to show they are taken, and their mate is taken, so nobody tries anything to get between them. Introverts might rely on trust and private moments /one on one communication more than extroverts who rely on outward signalling and group communication.
That’s a really good take
I never thought about that
I’m don’t think I want to take marriage vows in front of ppl anymore. Just don’t want ppl in my business. Whatever we say is our business.
I found you more relatable with this content vs unboxing. I watched you from time to time but this is a nice change to see you talk sense and reality this way
yeah, jam packed weekends are not for me. I’m tired too 😵💫
I agree with all your points! Trisha Paytas is a good example of oversharing gone wrong lol, but in a weird way it balances out her "super influencer life" she has projected to the world. I can't watch her for long, but I used to love her random luxury hauls, usually over the top and girly stuff.
2. If you go this way, marriage ceremonies is based on the same principle. Why do people need to get married in front of their (100) friends and (super remote) families? People want to display their happiness to everybody out there and stick it to so and so.
Also i don't believe one word of these kinds of posts. Remember Chris Watts' wife? She was always raving about how wonderful her hubby was.
Agreed! I am very wary when I see someone trying to sell this idea of a perfect relationship. I have seen a few people on IG displaying their love with love messages and pictures and then breaking up and everyone is like: what happened?
Ooooo this is an interesting take I’m going to ponder more Thankyou!
Indeed. That's why the idea of getting married in front of loads of people makes me feel yucky. I've been with my partner nearly 18 years. We're happy as we are. We have children together and that in itself is a commitment to each other to be great partners, best friends, pretty good parents and share our little 'castle' (small apartment) happily. I've know couples with kids that have been together for 40 plus years, happy and not married. They're together because they want to be not because in the eyes of the law, they're legally married etc.
I used to know a couple who were constantly gushing over each other on Twitter, it was reaching the totally annoying point. Get a room! Great video.
You are 100% right about it all! This is NOT NORMAL! I wish it would stop. But I don't see how?!
Amen!!! PLEASE Make it Stop!!!!
Thank you again Caitlin! This content is gold 😂😂😂 You had me giggling and snorting the whole time! Society is in need of a DEEP reset!!!! & NO you are not alone. Everything you said was on point!!!!!
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I don't know if this is considered influencer related topics: But I just see a ton of them all over:
1. People getting upset and calling out (and filming) servers or anyone for saying sir, mam, ms, mr. - Getting upset over GENDER. I AM OVER IT! I used to work in customer service as a cashier, sometimes our words just get mumbled jumbled as we talk cause we are saying so much and our bosses are down our throats saying "make sure you say thank you for shopping, say hello, say thank you for choosing ___ , have a nice day, did you find everything you wanted today?" Then there are the holidays. OH my! I would even have bad customers and I just wanted them to leave so I would muster up my dignity and just say "have a nice day" and he legit said "f* you too" - I was not trying to tell him to f* off. I was just trying to tell him to leave politely. I just left the register. I am not dealing with that behavior. I am NOT a doormat. When I go out, I treat everyone with respect, no matter the gender or race or age. I treat everyone the same. And sometimes I might try to say bye to 1 person but see someone else and think hello and accidentally say "bello" for some reason I am wired that way. I know I ain't the ONLY one! I just think people are being rediculous over workers out here and especially servers and cashiers and stockers at grocery stores, these people work their butts off, sometimes are coming in on their day off or working an extra hour till someone comes in or working through breaks and lunches and here is some random stranger yelling at them over gender or something totally off hand and filming it! My own brother works in the meat dept of a grocery store and got called a racist because they were out of chicken wings during "super bowl" weekend ... let that sink in. The woman that called him the racist did not order wings ahead of time, wanted this brand that the store doesn't carry a lot of and when he offered the store brand of wings she yelled at him and said he is just a grocery worker and that she's got a good job and he needs to just do his job and give her more wings of the brand she wants. Like poof there they are! She's delusional and she called him a racist. Over chicken wings! Sorry for the rant. But it goes hand in hand I think as well with this too. These People online are being praised about calling people out at restraunts and stores for being racists and genderists or whatever all because these people are "sensitive" or having a bad day and they are taking it out on these poor workers. They do realize if it wasn't for this worker. The store probably wouldn't have had that dept open at the moment or no server at that moment or cashier at that moment. OH well. When I see someone nowadays yelling at a cashier, I get out of the cashiers line, and yell to the cashier "YOU SHOULD QUIT! I DON'T BLAME YOU, IF YOU WALK OFF YOUR REGISTER RIGHT THIS SECOND! CAUSE I WOULD, INFACT I AM RIGHT NOW! YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS!"
--- but another thing with the genders, if you watch these videos, I saw 1 with someone wearing a long hair wig , had a beard/mustache. So I could not tell what they were trying to be and said "I gender identify as they/them". How the heck is a server supposed to know? Or when someone says "It hurts when you don't say Miss when you are talking to me". When you can't tell, and they look like a guy, it's confusing. I'm just glad I don't work in those industries but even being in the store someone can just yell at you if you say excuse me mam or sir and they will yell at you like a "KAREN or KEVIN" for mis gendering them or being a racist. I just - I can't.
I'm obviously too old for feeling some kind of way about Instagram posts. I'm currently using my kids mid-year exams as an excuse to not see people until the end of the month. That thing that happened in 2020... best thing to happen to my social life because I didn't have to come up with excuses to not socialise.
When I see people who are "ripped" with 6-pack abs, I think about the time they spent to look that way. Wouldn't their time have been better spent reading a book, visiting with a friend, taking care of a pet or an older relative, making money? I guess it's something that is important to them now but that look is unsustainable in the long run and to me is a waste of time. I prefer to exercise reasonably and then move on to other life-enriching things. I enjoy your channel, Caitlin. (My daughter's name is Caitlin!)
Definitely all of these points really hit me hard. It baffles me how we can have all this social media and yet me so loney and so unfulfilled and feel not good enough! 😢
I'm a 30-year-old guy in the Midwest in the US, and one of your videos was recommended to me. I definitely resonated with points two and three. I am not really a public partner appreciation kind of person. I'd probably cringe a bit if my partner did that. I agree, that those moments should be private. I've been accused of trying to "hide" that I was seeing one woman because I wasn't up for PDA enough.
On point three, I work two jobs as is. I sometimes feel "lame" or "boring" if I'm not "doing enough."
I constantly deal with conflicting feelings of "F++k everyone, I just want to be left alone and be by myself" and "damn, I wonder what my family is up to? What about my friends? What if I'm not social enough? I have to put in the work to maintain my feiendships or they'll fall off and I'll be alone, even when I dont want to be."
Let’s all get out and live life. It’s better than watching other people on devices.
There have always been so much pressure from older co workers or family members about needing to be out partying with friends every weekend
And being surprised if you’re home on a Friday night
I have to remind them like umm it’s expensive to be doing that all the time 🫠🫠
A fulfilling life to me is sometimes going out with girlfriends either salsa dancing or to dinner and drinks.
But mostly, my fulfillment comes from watching ghost stories at home while sipping hot chocolate, sitting in the sun, creating inspirational blogs on instagram, watching engaging UA-cam videos that let me learn new things, doing my own pedicures at home, Netflix movies with my man etc.
Everyone doesn’t have to live a super party girl lifestyle and it’s normal!
I have lived so long thinking I'm weird for not wanting to do things all the time. This month is the first time I thought, you know what, fuck this. This is who I am and it's about time I accepted that
@@roxy4325 I love that for you ✨
Social media has denormalized everything that is considered perfectly normal. For example: 1) Being 6'3 is not normal, yet women have been deluded into thinking it is. Normal is about 5'7 - 5'10 depending on country. 2) Social med is only showing the best of the best, which represents like 5%of their life. 3) People started behaving more and more narcissistically. 4) 80% of men and women are average-looking. There's nothing wrong with being average! But a lot of women especially seem to believe they are in the top 10%, when they're clearly not.
Yeah the narcissism is on another level! I've known that when people gush over their partner. I know that it's the opposite. They are over compensating for something. I'm in my 40's and definitely when you are in your 20's you want to be seen cause you're newly adult, so yeah you are always out your actual responsibilities isn't that thick unless you are a young parent, but even then they would drop the kids off with the grandparents and hit the town. As you get older and have more responsibility going out tends to taper off.
People using TikTok as therapy. Yes the oversharing.
You have just popped up on my recommended viewing and im so pleased. You are hilarious, so pleased someone feels the same way about these ridiculous videos 😂🙈
Agree! I find it odd that people go off on social media about there, “loved ones” BD or anniversary or whatever… Why are they telling me? Go talk to your person!!! Yuck
Omg, you’re right, that’s disturbing and yes sad.
Not the only one! I was literally thinking same when I saw a thirst trap video recently. It’s not attractive. So odd.
Completely agree, all weird, and sad that we all now live in a warped reality.
I totally agree with you! This video is so necessary, I loved it!
The oversharing point is so real. I’m like am I the only one that thinks this doesn’t belong on the internet. People share anything for validation and attention and it’s sad.
I agree, that that perfectly clean house ALL the time is not formal. Even when i was obsessed with a a clean house it never looked sterile.
😂 I had to crack open my second can of Red Bull for the day when you delved into super happening social life thing! Couldn't relate more! 👏 I am wiped just thinking about it! 😢
...And same for the declarations of love on social media. Just, why?
Thank you so so much Caitlin for making daily videos for us and I really appreciate your efforts you are putting in your videos for us and I wish you reach 50K Subscribers very very soon!🙂💗💫
You hit the nail on the head with every single point! Everything you mentioned was so relatable! I’m very introverted too 😊😊
Yes! Thank you! ☺️
You're a Girl version of my husband. He has the same thoughts about social media. Lonely people. MUCH prayers,
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I get what you mean about the online displays of affection. when my hubby does it to me I cringe a little bit. However, I believe you came off a bit cynical when you said that you don’t think the perfect relationship exists, and that the perfect prince doesn’t exist. Of course, there’s no objectively perfect person or relationship, but there is someone perfect for everyone. You just have to get out, live your life, and be ready when you run into them.
Your sweater is the business!!! Love it❤ it’s so cute ☺️
I'm 100% with you. Get a real life, people! Live where you really are, with who you are really with!
Again, i agree with that long over sharing is very not normal. Nothing about social media has definatly become over done. And i don’t click on these videos and it’s why I’ll never be a UA-camr or on instagram i just don’t think it’s healthy.
I love this series
one thing i cant understand is tik tok "dance". thats not dancing, its just a person making faces.and moving their hands
im 21 and honestly the weekend thing is so true LOL. like seriously im working all week and now u wanna do MORE STUFF??? let me do chores and RECOVER also how do ppl have the money for all of this
1. TikTok is an algorithm, you only get posts with dudes with their shirts off if you consume the content, or adjacent content that the algorithm recognizes as a similar interest.
2. Did people make public declarations of love before social media? Of course they did. In poetry, books, music, art. All throughout modern history.
I would hardly compare the declarations of love in music and poetry to social media posts
On number 1, I think they always did that in the mirror but now they do it on camera and post it.
I wish we can bring men from the 60’s with morals and conservative wear… now that is attractive!!!!
OMGG i thought i was the only one who find grown men thrist trapping absolutely embarrassing and cringy
All of this sprouts out of social dysfunction. I would say that oversharing, being so influenced and being so lonely all have the same roots. People have no village, no home, no companions, no clan and often no family. And by that I mean that all these things require healthy relationships with trust, respect and commitment. There are people who put on the pretense of that but the real thing? It is rather rare.
And you have to know who you are while having firm ethics and morals to be a steady person. That enables you to be healthy/sane enough and consistent enough to offer respect, trust and commitment to another person. In an age of “your truth”, relativity, and extreme individualism what else do people expect? The reality is that once all standards, norms and beliefs dissolve and everything is possible it makes other things impossible. Once truth is debatable clear agreements evaporate. Once every behavior is accepted all boundaries dissolve into dust. And on and on it goes. Nothing is new under the sun.
On a personal note I find posting all about your relationship rather cringe as it is privacy destroying and can easily create a situation where that information can be used. Also, busy weekends… just ick. I think everyone will be happier if they stop and consider how many times per month do I actually want to: go dancing, eat out, go to an event, go shopping and usually that number is nothing near the social media number.
I had no idea point 4 was a real thing! The lengths we will go to to look successful.... It's a bit creepy, isn't it?
We all hold our bellies in when we take photos
I’ve never heard or knew of number 4. That’s a big WOW really crazy and yah not normal.
I like this Caitlin. You are a new improved version,calling out bullsh@#. ❤
I usually suspect people who post a lot of cringe relationship posts might be insecure in their relationships. If I have a super active weekend, I usually am too tired to post it. Every 'Gram' is a 'Latergram' if I ever post stuff. Are these signs that I am just old? I just want to be in relationships and do things without documenting them.
Couldn’t agree more!
You're not getting old. You're secure and happy with no need to post up your private stuff for validation. Best way to be ❤
You're so real for the first one! Like all power to the people who post thrist traps online, get that bag. But I cannot for the life of me find it attractive.
You are not the only one! Totally agree
the other thing that i’m always conscious of about the last one is giving advice when people have overshared, like those girls in that example saying ‘leave him’ - they don’t know the whole story! they won’t have any consequences if she does leave him and it turns out he wasn’t cheating! i think it can be really irresponsible to give advice when someone overshares on the internet
Couldn’t agree more!
loving the new relatable content
Thankyou!
TikTok boys thirst traps make me so terribly uncomfortable. I feel violated and dirty afterwards. At my age, I’m surely not their demographic, though.
I miss the good old days when any dude this full of himself would be content with a shirtless bathroom mirror selfie, or even better, a lil photoshoot in which they forget to crop out the reflection of Grandma holding the camera 😂
I strongly agree with you on #1 it really hit rock bottom
About the first point, I am totally with you. As a gay man, I don’t think that attitude is hot at all. I can’t see those videos more than a few seconds without feel myself uncomfortable.
As for your first point, whenever I see anyone do that I immediately think, "ah, this is a child" (i say this about anyone under 20), and if they are closer to my age, I just think, "ah, this is embarrassing"
I totally overshare in person so it's best I NOT do videos on any platforms.
I guess at least my oversharing in person is only to 1 person or small group of people at a time, and it's not recorded.
Thats is what those boys are doing. They are by themselves making all those moves to a camera. My question is, why? Are they that convinced they are hot or something? I was never a girl who thought naked men dancing was ever that sexy. Like those Chip n Dale guys. What was that, girls going nuts for guys they could never have. Anyhow you're not the only one who thinks those guys on Tictoc are rather cringe.
Great video.😁
I'd just like to say I really enjoyed this series
I’m so glad 🙂
Thanks for watching x
Your contente is so honest! I'm going through a Insta detox because I was feeling so sad... so disappointed with my life...
I hope you’re feeling a bit better now? Xx
@@CaitlinPawlowski actually yes! Thanks ❣️
I hate those dedicated posts to someone instead of just saying it directly to them. They just seem desperate for attention.
As a gen z, for the first one, I have no idea either. Blame Tiktok 😂
About the first point you are making: you are not alone , I think this is the main source of the word of cringe
Super relatable 🌟🤣
Omg the captions of professing love is 🤮 I can’t
It’s all tiktok. It is literally the sewer of society
Those broadcast messages of love and devotion are so fake!! They're trying to convince themselves of something!
Well man half naked... I will run away real fast😂
I never bothered to change my relationship status on fb, I found THAT too public. Long posts professing my love? Couldn’t be me
Agreed!
😂... exhausted!