My sister’s boyfriend once left a lighter in his pocket and it made it to the dryer and almost exploded. No way I’m not checking someones pockets before doing laundry. If you don’t want your pockets emptied, do your own laundry.
My husband demands I check his pockets I told him it’s his job to empty his pocket when he takes his clothes off whatever is in there goes through and he cleans it up later because he’s known for leaving money and cards and stuff
Exactly. If my bf or husband acted like that I would never do his laundry again. Not a single item. I do not understand the need to buy a separate closet with a locker. Like are you in FBI or smth?
@@smileylaury13 My husband would be the same at first, like he would see the laundry done and ask if I’d find whatever thing in his pants, and I would always say “I dunno, why would you leave it there when tossing it into the hamper?” And he would say something along the lines of ‘you should always check the pockets in case I forget’ to which I would reply ‘maybe it’s not important then, since you forget’. After a couple discussions like this he eventually learned to empty his own pockets BEFORE putting dirty clothes in the hamper. I feel as adults we should be responsible for our own sh*t. I’m trying to raise my kid to not be used to me picking up after them, so why would you, my grown-ass husband give me more chores.
@@ceciliatapioca finally someone who’s had the same conversation we had! I’m always telling him if he forgets it it’s not important! Everyday I try to teach our son to be better 🥰
@@smileylaury13 LOL i had this disagreement with my girlfriend recently- i think she should be checking her own pockets before putting them in the hamper but she believes i should be checking before i do the laundry!
Ran into a guy at work, and he had little kid lunchboxes. I complimented them, and we had a little chat about it. He carries them around because they're fun and they make people smile. My boss wears funky socks (he has a pair with chicken wings). Life is too short to pretend like we're too mature for silly little things.
Yeah in my country (the Netherlands) colourful socks have become a pretty common thing for workplace attire, there’s even a few sock brands that specialize in it. And it sounds like the work environment of the poster is pretty toxic and childish. Laughing at someone is never okay imo, not even behind someone’s back.
100%! I bought a kid lunchbag that i’d take to work (when i worked at an office haha), it has dinosaurs printed on it and i love it! It’s so fun, I wore hard pants and fancy shoes to the office so it was my little something to showcase a bit of my personality. It has nothing to do with “professionalism”
This is the one that shocks me the most! Like what kind of small world does someone live in for colourful socks to be so distracting that it impedes work? sounds like middle school.
My old teacher had like 5 bins of ties that wear funky he would let the kids pick one out daily he said they were from he worked in a office and loves to wear them he wears them once and restarts every year (if u think he's wasting he not after 1-2 years he goes through and donates and gives them away they are handmade by his wife I saw him recently he was so happy and had a hot pink tie with lots of green polka dots and a yellow button up.
I agree. I really wonder what it was. If it was a receipt i feel like the poster would have added that since most receipts are made with a unique type of paper
I was thinking of a weird fetish or smth hence the separate closet as well. Honestly might be anything, but the point is, he is not truthful to his partner.
The book story made me laugh. She’s so NTA. One time I was on a bus and I always have a book. I caught the lady beside me reading over my shoulder, she apologized and told me she forgot her book- I’ve been there and it sucks on a 5 hour bus. I offered to let her read with me but warned it had mature scenes. She laughed that she didn’t mind and we read together for a couple hours
the only time a parents needs their child's permission for something of the sort is when the parents has mental health issues such as dementia, alzheimer's, multiple personality disorder, and their kid is their legal caretaker and the one that has to make those type of decisions
I'm convinced that a LOT of the posts are BS. That one being one. If he'd titled his post differently, he may have had a different outcome. No, he's one of clearly thousands and thousands of idiots demanding strangers get "triggered" by his lying post.
To me, anybody doing something to "teach me a lesson" (unless I'm a little kid and that's my parent) is a clear sign that I need to get away from that person.
idk, the ones where ppl purposefully change/ruin stuff that their roommate/relative/colleague keep using without asking are pretty okay to me too. especially when the thief comes out whining that the thing they're usually stealing isn't the way it should be anymore lol
So many men wear fun socks with their “professional/formal” looks that this whole situation is just crazy. Why does the entire office think it’s funny and egotistical?!
everyone checks all the pockets before putting them in the washer. it's basically how we all learn to do laundry. his overreaction makes me think 2 things. one, dude never did laundry. two, he's absolutely hiding something from the wife
If my husband had that reaction and put a lock on his closet that wouldn't deter me from snooping. That would make me go on the hunt cuz he's obviously hiding something.
i agree, and only people that hide things and are projecting would ever have an issue with what you said. To be married to someone who is cheating on you is the worst and if they wanna bang another person so be it but after the divorce. Wanting to find out the truth should not be shamed on but encouraged, that lady needs to figure out whats up asap.
@@erikperhs_ I mean, yeah, I would like to be sure he's hiding something 🤷 but if I were going to go so far as to snoop in a locked closet, I also have already decided we're going to break up. But yeah, if someone is trying to blame me and pretend I'm crossing boundaries etc when they are in the wrong, I would definitely want to be able to prove they were gaslighting me.
I agree, even as someone who loves my cat more than I love most people. Kiss your pet anywhere but the mouth (and certain other parts, but anyone who does that has bigger issues to work through). Especially after seeing that wolf clip at the beginning.
The flamboyant sock story: what is wrong with op and his coworkers who are bullying their other coworker for their sock choice! Is OP an adult or a 12yo?!?!?!? And saying "what was he thinking wearing that" is such victim blaming mentality!
@@Kyss111 How is a group of people making fun of an individual they all work with behind his back NOT bullying? They are singling out this coworker for a simple choice of what socks he wears and ridiculing him for it! His choice of socks! They aren't venting about his attitude, or his work performance, or his actions towards an other coworker! They are making fun of his choice in socks! He isn't wearing anything inappropriate for work like swimsuit or booty shorts! He has to wear socks and he chose them to be colorful! That's it! If it's against dress code then it should be taken up to HR! Not turned into gossip!
@@blakelay if you wear or do something that are out of the ordinary you're bound to attract attention and people talking about it, it's not like they discriminate him for his socks or they kept pointing it out loud and laugh at his face every single time he walk pass, I just think you're blowing it up a bit when the situation was not even bad, I mean really, some people look at your socks because it's eye catching and funny warranted such a reaction
@@Kyss111 The poster just sounds like a massive jerk. Calls the dude unprofessional for his socks, and yet he is the one not being able to contain his laughter in a professional meeting over penguins on socks?? Not only that, but he responded along the lines of "sorry for your loss, but BTW they look unprofessional" after the dude told him why he wears them and thinks that's okay?? They "felt bad", so they then proceeded to go talk shit about him to the other workers?? Heck, even the poster said that his colleagues don't even know the dude or work with him, yet they all jump to call him egoistical and that deserves to be embarrassed and made fun of?? His department sounds like it has "mean girls" vibes.
The sock story was so weird, who the hell would be bothered by that ? And then he’s laughing in the guys face and is surprised when the guy approaches the topic?
Clearly the person who is bothered by his socks is a very boring person, as are the other people who stood behind them. I don't see how he is egotistical according to them, because he wears funky socks
YES honestly in general though, people should learn to just not give a fuck about what other people are wearing unless they want to actually turn the brunt of the other person's anger unto them right kek
I think that the nickname thing is doubly... The OP states they are interchangeable with their real names so no one should be confused after being there for a few days. I think they shouldn't force someone to use the nicknames if they don't want to, but a new person shouldn't come into an established community and expect them all to just change for her.
@@chiaseed7974 Exactly! As long as they aren't being unprofessionally shamed or forced to use the nicknames, then the should grow up. They are the ones acting immature by saying everyone else is immature. lol
If I start working somewhere and I notice that people are being unprofessional, I WILL call them out. As soon as I start working there, I'm part of the group too, so I can give my opinion.
About the woman with a sock problem: THAT MA'AM IS WHY YOU KEEP YOUR MOUTH CLOSED. You never know what someone has gone thru or why someone wears/does what they do. If I was that man I probably would've started crying, I'm not going to lie. I have things that I wear that people would consider weird or whatever but they were given to me by people who are no longer with me... They mean the world to me. Want to go home and talk about his socks with your family? Fine. Work isn't the place. It's free to be kind.
I agree. Like it's understandable why it could be distracting, but either keep your mouth shut, or if it bothers her that much, she could have gently pulled him aside one day and politely asked why he wears goofy socks with his professional attire, and then she could have avoided the embarrassment of making an ass out of herself by laughing at him publicly and then learning they're from his dead wife. That's why you should always lead with kindness and questions, not mockery. I hope she learned her lesson
@@Kyss111 she was laughing at him during a meeting. Talk about being unprofessional 🙄 they're just socks, it's not like someone came to work wearing their underwear over their clothes. Laughing at people in the workplace is straight up workplace bullying, and shouldn't be tolerated. Especially if it isn't a colleague you're close with, and maybe have inside jokes with or know that they don't mind when you joke about their clothes.
When I worked a job with a uniform, I wore the brightest, goofiest socks ever and I loved it. I wore them for me, to make myself smile, but when people noticed it made me happy. If they laughed, it was a good thing, I made someone else smile. I have done this ever since, life is too short to not wear fun socks.
That half naked boyfriend question had me remembering a Jenna Marbles video from a few years ago where Julien said “you have to be bottomless to get to the top!”
About the tattoo story, there's a point in you'd life when you figure out that your parents are actual people with desires and feelings like your own. Maybe the boyfriend hasn't reached that point and can not place his (perhaps perfect in his mind) mother in the situation of wanting and getting a tattoo.
I feel like maybe op is the conservative one. This may be a bit of a reach but I can't help but be reminded of the madonna/whore complex. Maybe he is fine having sex with a woman with tattoos but he is upset with the idea of his mother having one. Remember that he asked his girlfriend to cover them up before his parents came over. It sounds to me like HE is the one that really thinks tattoos are indecent.
I think in this case I could kind of understand how that would be uncool. I mean imagine this girl cheats on him and breaks his heart. and every time he sees his mother he is reminded of that. Since it was the first time she met his parents and they aren't together for that long, you can't really say what could go down. Sure mom can have as many tattoos as she pleases but perhaps getting it impulsively from your child partner that you just met is not the best.
Bro the thing that got me was he wasn’t mad it happened spontaneously, he was mad they didn’t “ask” him first. Like she needs her son’s permission to do a damn thing with her body. Super weird…
I'm not a pet owner but I still do think she did right in breaking up with the guy. Neither of them are AHs, they should just find other more suitable people for themselves.
yeah exactly. i found it a bit weird that she said she laughed in his face about his concerns and told him her cat is 10.000x more important to her but if that’s what she wants to double down on, they’re clearly just not right for each other.
Ya, trying to change a pet person into loving their animals less is a quick way to ruin a relationship. And in reverse, trying to convert a person who doesn't like animals into an animal person will just cause resentment. You can make compromises but pinning a relationship on someone sacrificing something intrical to who they are as a person will never work out well. Lol, I probably will never date someone who doesn't like animals. Just won't happen. They are a part of me. My BFF is terrified of dogs but we have grown as people to respect each other's boundaries and she doesn't live with me. My partner who would live with me needs to be ok with my pet sometimes sticking their butt in your face, eating your food, and sometimes destroying something. 🤷🏻♀️ If you can't eventually brush that off, we as people just aren't compatible to live with each other.
@@SkyLene It sounded like it was a new relationship though. My cats are definitely more important than someone I've only dated for a few months. And if that person came into my life and started making *demands* about my cats just because they don't like or understand cats... Yeah I'd laugh in their face and tell them to get out.
The plus-one wedding one was very funny to watch unfold in real time. The bride had an absolute meltdown and kept posting the story on different subreddits desperately trying and failing to find a single person to side with her. She was also disgustingly egotistical and rude in all her replies and at one point freaked out claiming people were “wedding shaming” her. As though society has some kind of bias against marriage, lol
meanwhile she accused other long term couples of being too clingy because they wanted to attend a romantic celebration together...the whole thing feels very attention grabbing and spoiled to put it lightly
@@rainestar82Yeah, that statement was SO hypocritical of her. OP getting upset with couples wanting to be together at her wedding? She is getting married! She should understand that part the most! Ridiculous. Can't imagine what kind of wife she will be if that's how she's starting out... I'm with Cristine. Wouldn't want to go to that wedding either.
The winnie the pooh story - super dangerous to cook without clothes. I had a friend in college who had to be rushed to the hospital because he was cooking bacon and spilled grease ... got on their stomach and ... lower.
The wedding one is funny because I can just imagine when it comes time for the cousin and his fiancé to get married, they’re not going to invite the OP bride because “Well, you could have met my fiancé at your wedding, but since you’ve never met we don’t want you at ours”
im pretty sure i read that they dont use nicknames around patients, specially gravewalker's because it would obviously make them uncomfortable and that they only use them amongst themselves
Also he just seem to be saying he wasn’t gonna pretend it was his idea when she asked him to convince the others to stop using nicknames ….he did use strong language unless he politely told her to F off ..And that was unprofessional…. but she shouldn’t be asking him to lie either soooooo
I feel like a good general rule for wedding rules is: it's your wedding and you get to make the rules. But if that causes someone to not come, you don't get to yell at them for not coming because of your own rules.
The story about the husband getting mad about going through the laundry was deeply triggering for me. I am an abuse survivor, and if I had listen to these red types of red flags early on, I might have lived a different life. If you have to ask yourself if YOU are the asshole on this situation, they aren't the one. ♡
Regarding the mom getting a tattoo from the girlfriend; The only understandable thing I could think of is that maybe he is doubtful of his relationship and doesn’t want to be reminded of his girlfriend every time he sees his moms tattoo
I do feel like there's missing information. It comes across to me as maybe having been written by the girlfriend or someone else. It's hard to believe OP wanted us to be sympathetic to the boyfriend's position based on the information shared with us.
This was my first thought, he could be reserved about her being in his life for as long as the tattoo is, even if the tattoo represents their family it still has her within it as the artist
Yeah and the fact that the mom got 4 for the 4 of them, I’m assuming including the girlfriend in their family forever. Maybe OP doesn’t want that sort of commitment/permanency in the relationship
My husband went to empty his pockets to show that I could trust him and couldn't find his car keys. He went looking and found them on the ground outside next to the car. If it wasn't for you guys, we wouldn't have gone looking, so thanks! 🤣
With the sock story - unless there is a company dress code that says specifically what type/colour of socks are allowed then it was out of place for the op to bring it up.
About the last wedding story: I get the bride in the sense that at my wedding I also wouldn't want some random dude you met at a bar yesterday and brought in just to bring someone, or like my aunt's aunt's neighbours because I really don't know you and I feel I would be worried for people getting drunk or stealing or just causing drama. But I think if you have your person and you wouldn't have fun without them and you want them to come with you to my wedding, you definitely should be able to. And if the poster didn't want people she didn't know personally at her wedding maybe she should grab a dinner with her cousin and their person in order to meet them and maybe they would feel differently about them? 🤷🏻♀️
the weird part to me is that ALL the "rules" boiled down to "if theyre not my close personal friend AND friend of fiances, theyre out". Which is FINE if they just wanted family only, but it gets weird with all the weird stipulations. "if I'd go to dinner with them and be friends otherwise"? idk it just seems SO incredibly specific, makes me wonder if op is trying to shut a specific person/people out
Wife emptying the Husband's pockets: Husband is hiding something. My mind immediately goes to cheating. Wife should absolutely stop doing his laundry. May want to reevaluate the relationship as well.
Right husband has got to be hiding something emptying pockets while doing laundry is normal and an expected thing to do. If you don't check pockets that's how things and laundry get ruined at least in my house if it's not pens it's things like flashlights or small knives and what not I have to check.
if I dont check my husbands pockets I would kill the washing machine. he is a Tradie and has screws. bolts. a box cutter. phone charger. all found in his work pants 😂😂
I started reading AITA posts after they started doing these, its so fun when Ive actually read the posts they discuss. The comments add a lot of context usually. If you go to the subreddit and sort by top>month or year, I'm sure you'll find a lot of them
Yeah, like, having a "no plus ones" rule in general (as in, only people invited can come) isn't bad in itself. There can be financial reasons, venue size restrictions, and also you might feel compelled to invite some people who you don't know well because, family, and then not trust them not to bring someone horrible. Also some people might find it very stressful to meet a load of complete strangers, like if people bring "dates" who they may not even know well themselves. However, if you know someone has a partner they've been with for a reasonable amount of time (like, I'd probably just say if they're together when you send the invites and you know about them, since invites generally go out some months prior to the wedding) it's definitely polite to invite them along too if you can afford to. Personally, we had some evening guests so if people had new partners we told them they could invite their partners to the evening too. And for a couple of people we thought might not know many people, we gave them unamed plus ones. Also this bride is literally basically saying "I don't like your partner so they're not invited". Lol
i have a friend that i know will bring a guy she self-proclaimed as her bf which i guarantee will not stay in her life for long, if i mentioned "plus 1" in the invites. like I'm happy u r so hopefully of ur relationship, but i dont want some random guy in my group photos.
The first story made me appreciate my hubby even more, he wasn’t a cat person before and didn’t want to adopt any at first but has become so loving and sweet to our 2 cats in the 2 years we’ve had them. One sleeps on an extra pillow above my pillow every night. When our kitty naps on top of my husband, hubby doesn’t move and will stay in the same position for hours to not disturb him. Lol I think it’s sweet. I think caring for a pet together has been a bonding experience for us and I feel even closer to him because of his acceptance of the kitties. It’s not just about the cats. His behavior shows me the empathy he has for other living creatures, and the respect and care he shows them warms my heart. I could never accept (and wouldn’t want to) a guy who doesn’t like them or like me enough to open their heart a little to small animals who just need love and acceptance.
This is so so true. When I met my husband he’d never had a pet. When he first came to my house he even brought my cat treats and a toy it was so sweet. Now he’s the biggest cat dad and she cuddles on him every day and carries her around and he bought her a cat tower on Black Friday lol. It really does show the type of person he is and the type of father he’ll be.
My now husband used to have his face get red and his eyes practically swell shut from my cats twenty plus years ago... Now we're married and have six cats in the house. He got allergy shots. That's how you know you've got a keeper.
The boyfriend about wanting his girlfriend to cover up her tattoos for when his parents came and when they were actually excited about the tattoos and the mom ended up getting one it was just so funny how he was obviously trying to control how she dresses and presents herself and then tries to control any input or influence the girlfriend has on the mom. Like I do think there is something to be said about taking into account what your partner wants and their opinion but at the end of the day I take a my body my choice approach. Seems weird how upset he was about the women having bodily autonomy 👀
If they have issues with your pet (who in my case is my best friend) then it’s not going to end there. They’re going to try and change other stuff too and it sounds like a control thing. Red flag.
I agree with both of you, I feel like people forget that when you find a partner they are a completely different human being with a life, interests and a brain of their own. Not some avatar embodiment of your dream character that exists to please and complete you. Those that have that stupid way of thinking become so controlling when you get out of the painted bounds of their dreams and wanna push you back in by changing you. Those are not people you will have a good long future with.
My last bf always wanted a dog growing up, he adored my dog while we were dating and living together (pandemic co-habitation). He let my dog lick him on the mouth to the point it grossed me out! I am very affectionate with my dog, but they had a weird thing going lol - she would snap at him often because she had to set the boundaries somewhere. I was lucky. Too bad it didn't work out with him 😕
Happy Taco Tuesday!!! Anyways last ep wasnt taken down bc they talked about Hawaii, contrary to popular belief. Ben mentioned in one of his streams that he took it down due to the rude comments addressed to Cristine. Hope we won’t let that happen again
@@GrungeGranny I assume it was because of lack of engagement into the topic and being unineterested in anything that Ben took time to prepare, that's my assumption
That sucks, but I'm not surprised. A lot of people love Ben and want him to have a good vacation but it seems that Cristine keeps saying no. What they probably don't remember is that they had one planned with Threadbanger and Covid killed it.
I watched the episode and read the comments and yeah, I had the feeling that they would be uncomfortable with how rude some people were being towards cristine in the comments. People were getting up in arms about things that had absolutely no effect to them whatsoever and making assumptions about a relationship that they are not part of.
they gave a brief disclaimer last week that the vacations were hypothetical and would be at a time when travel was safe, criticisms about mentioning Hawaii must have missed that part and I'm sure that travel plan would have been at a time when they were more accepting to tourism. also who wants to sit on a plane for 12 hrs, it's a valid feeling to want to try to travel small distances until you are comfortable flying longer. I loved the ep guys and I hope you know a lot of other people did too
right, factoring in travel time is totally valid. went to thailand with my bf and it was 24hrs from airport at home to airport in thailand. it was awful. my boyfriend has said he will *never* go anywhere that requires so long to travel again. I get it. I loved the ep too :) I loved hearing of the hypothetical vacations and I personally find Cristine's disinterest kinda funny.
To me there’s a much simpler bigger misunderstanding. Some people are happy with their lives just the way they are and it doesn’t matter where you are with the people you love.
I think with the tattoo one, it’s a kid losing his idealistic version of his parents. Growing up, usually, kids put their parents on a pedestal and think highly of them. And as we get older we realize they are humans and can make mistakes just as easily as we can, but we still generally hold them to a higher standard. Even as an adult when things don’t go well you turn to your parents. So I think he just had this idea of who he believed his parents were based on how they raised him. And when that idea was shattered he didn’t really know how to handle it. I think it has less to do with him not having some kind of control over the decision and more to do with the fact that he felt blindsided by the whole situation. His mom getting a tattoo was probably the last thing he ever expected, so to see it happen and seemingly out of no where must have rattled him. But even so, his gf is right. His mom is a grown adult and can make decisions for herself. And if anything he should be happy cause, 1. He knows that if he ever wants one they won’t give him kickback or flack for it. And 2. He knows they’re ok with him dating someone with tattoos.
The relationship sounds relatively new, since she hadn't met his parents yet. Ideally I wouldn't want someone I just started dating to tattoo my parents. It'd be kinda weird if the relationship didn't last very long and yet your mom has a permanent reminder of your ex on her body...
@@pucktool3751 yea that’s a fair point. Especially if it ends badly, I know that would make me feel weird to see a reminder of an ex every time I saw my mom. But I just get the sense there’s something more to it than that. The way he described his straight laced parents made it feel like he was more upset because he didn’t think they were into tattoos. 🤷🏻♀️
I think it has to do with them being "conservatives". Imagine if your mom yelled at you when you tried getting a tattoo as a teenager and then, 20 years later, she sees tattoos on someone else and immediately gets one herself. As a gay man, I experienced my mom being annoyed at my sexuality, but when she saw other gay guys she'd be like "oh look, he's gay, it's so cool that he's brave enough to be himself!". I think the feeling must be similar.
With the nickname one it would be SO funny if they just never gave the new girl a nickname. “That’s The King, he’s the boss, this is Speedy, this is The Gravewalker, over there is Archer and Snowborn, and this is Nicole.”
In high school me and my other friends had the nickname of 'Grasshopper' while we called her 'Sensei'. She was a grade higher than us, and the person she referred to as her 'sensei' we called our 'grand-sensei'. It was all in good fun.
My life partner taught Japanese ju jitsu for many years, he recently retired. He went by Sensei and his dad was his teacher, he went by Shihan. His older and advanced students were referred to as senpai
On the topic of spicy movies on planes - I remember flying ~6 years ago, and the version of dead pool I watched was a plane edit removing the sex scene. Then, in Feb of 2020, I was on a plane and was able to watch Midsommer completely uncensored haha. Same airline!! Not sure what regulates what
Aaahh that's funny, because I also watched Deadpool on a plane and I believe there was no sex scene. But I remember that the man sitting next to me kept glancing at my screen and giving me some weird looks. I kept checking that my earphones were plugged in because I couldn't tell what his problem was, haha.
@@zina2148042 haha right?? Had I not been surrounded by my (all adult) family on that flight, I would have felt weirder about watching it 😂 also that was my first time seeing it so I didn’t realize how wild it was!
If it's a budget issue, then "no plus one" makes total sense. Every person is an additional cost. But this person specifically says it's not a budget issue.
Yes these are my favvvvvv! Also thanks for the clarification about that video I truly thought I was losing my mind because I had watched a part of it and couldn’t find it to go back.
As someone from Germany I find the bride and groom somewhat reasonable, tbh. Here it is not standard practice to get a plus one. You get an invitation and the people on the invitation are invited. Why should people that do not know me, but know my boyfriend, pay for a plate and have a stranger present at their moment? We are invited to 4 weddings this year (all his friends - he is 7 years older), 3 of those couples we've been out with regularly. Only one couple I don't know. I was explicitly invited too, and was a little surprised, but am happy to come. But even though my bf and I have been together for 7 years, it would have been totally okay (and normal) for me not to be included. I don't know them, they don't owe me an invitation and my boyfriend is his own person outside of our "couplehood". Maybe if we were married that would change things slightly, but even then... if there were financial or spacial (venue capacity) restrictions, I think it would be totally okay to just mention that in the invitation. Weird to just expect strangers to want you there for their wedding... I suspect it might be a cultural thing. We might just be a little more guarded in general over here.
I also thought that it is for bride and groom to decide who to invite or not. However if someone really wanted to come with a plus one then I would allow, especially if it is a close relative or a good friend. No point fighting about it IMO.
Interesting, it must be a culture thing bc for an average wedding here in the US “plus ones” are pretty common. Usually it’s not for some random date or brand new partner but if the wedding has the room and budget a lot of people in a long term relationship will get to bring them as a plus one. The European option certainly sounds cheaper lol but sometimes it’s a weird fun time being at a wedding where you don’t know a lot of people as a plus one
To be honest, I kind of think it makes sense, I've been to a few family things where my mom knows people but I don't and I just feel so awkward, like I'm only there because it's my mom's cousin or something who I've met once or twice before. Also if it's your special day, surely you want to spend it with people you know... I do think she becomes an AH when she's not willing to meet the guests, like, go out to dinner with your cousin and his fiancee (?) And get to know them better so you'll feel comfortable with both of them there
I watched the podcast last week before it was taken down & I didn’t think there was anything wrong with it at all, I loved it! & I love the AITA ones!! Love you guys I watch evry week ❤️
I have to admit, kindly, I giggled when Ben said “back in the day” when talking about wearing fun socks with mens professional clothing. You haven’t been retired that long 😋😋😋😋
Thank you for all these podcasts, I love them. I put them on when i need some work to be done, cleaning and stuff like that. even when I want to rest I can put you guys up and lay down. please keep the podcasts coming haha. love you both
I've always understood the general wedding plus-one rule to be that spouses, fiances, and long-term partners get an automatic invite, and everyone else is on a case by case basis (socially recognized couples being a single "unit") If you want to give everyone else a plus-one, that's great. If you want to keep it to familiar people, that's fine too. but those "units" have to be invited together.
Idk know why they took it down, i really enjoyed the last one, especially I wanted even to know the outcome of which vacation they should go within this year. If there were bad comments, I feel sad to those people, because all that ep was in a very lighted heart, even to the comedy point, it was fun, and we have to also laugh about life, not all is serious, sometimes it's nice to take a breath outside the bubble that we all live in, (aka, pandemic, violence, suicide, homicide, war, etc, etc, etc...) if you know what I mean. Ben & Simply, you do you. Lots of hugs and love for you.
The tattoo story had me rolling!! y'all what the hell? also the size of the tattoo had to do a lot with the time it takes to create it, stencil it etc. That dude is a grown ass child. If a parent wants a tattoo then a parent gets a tattoo, same goes for any grown adults that wish to get one. Plus I think it's sweet that the mom go it from the girlfriend and not from a stranger,... It bonded the GF and the could be mother-in-law and he knows that its safe and nothing should go wrong with it.
I've had several cats but never kissed their heads, just pet them. I honestly only noticed people doing that when going from the countryside to the city, apartment cats be treated like kids :')
In regard to tattoos, how long it takes it depends on how experienced the artist is and the size of the tattoo--at least in my experience as a tatted person, not an artist myself. My favorite tattoo is probably the most detailed, with delicate line work and shading, and it's beautiful! The artist was incredibly skilled, and it took him only about an hour. It's totally possible the guy and his dad went outside and just got to talking, and before they knew it an hour or so had passed. What I'm getting from the post was that the tattoo wasn't huge, and it was probably dainty (just assuming so because it was flowers and the mom's first tattoo). So it's very possible to complete a tattoo in that time :)
@@curlycrown3494 exactly what I got from it lol. Sounded like a young scratcher who bought a cheap machine and supplies online. Idc how "clean" someone thinks or says they are. A house and especially outside is filthy. Body mods isn't something to be half ass with on hygiene. I'd never get a tattoo or piercing that wasn't by a proper artist in a studio
As an artist myself I can tell you that even the quickest tat needs some time to be prepared. Like minimum 30 minutes, in a home studio propably even more to get everything properly sanitised. So either the story is fake or that girl has some very questionable work practices.
@@curlycrown3494 I can see where you get that, for sure. I just think there wasn't enough information to determine her skill level. Maybe she is or maybe she isn't, but I interpreted it as such. It's completely possible I'm wrong, but yeah.
@@cfol4437 certainly true, I would say. So there's either I formation the poster neglected to mention, like the time frame is incorrect, or it's just a lie.
I could never date someone who wasn't as much of an animal lover as I am. My boyfriend and I have dogs and he loves my cat and he instantly accepted that my guineapigs had 6 foot cages and their own bedroom lol.
lol when Ben made the comment about cristine being naked all the time, that was so funny, my reaction would’ve been exactly the same 😂 and she was definitely blushing!
We didnt invite cousins to the main part of our wedding as they all had plus ones and kids and we did not want a huge ceremony and could not afford to provide for them all at the wedding meal. We did separate invites for the buffet and party in the evening as that was cheaper, and we did not mind that part being less intimate. I think that was a good compromise for our budget, our desire for a smaller ceremony and not hurting peoples feelings. Weddings cause so much agro 🤣
Awe I loved last weeks episode, my fiancé and I were ranking them with you guys. But I’m glad to see you guys here this week and the podcast is a highlight of my Tuesday’s
At my wedding we only allowed actual couples. The single people bringing a random date wasn’t allowed. I didn’t want someone who they didn’t even know around. It worked out just fine, no complaints
This episode was definitely the best of your AITA content on this channel. I love hearing you both just purely react without trying to over analyze the situations. It felt so organic and cathartic. Just like if I were conversing with my friends. Can’t wait for more like this! Your podcast always brightens my week
Honestly, as someone who was hospitalized a lot last year, nurses and EMTs in the ER were typically very lighthearted and joking with each other, (I've never heard them call each other outrageous nicknames but) as a patient who was usually freaking tf out, having the people caring for me being relaxed and friendly with each other has sometimes made me feel a little safer and relaxed myself when in a very stressful situation. I always preferred the nurses and doctors who were more friendly and lighthearted in general, the hospital workers with sticks up their butts tended to believe me less, generally be less helpful, and make me feel guilty and stressed for being in the hospital (which is obviously something I couldn't control lol). Depending on the hospital, working conditions can be SUPER stressful. Last year, I was transferred to a different hospital for specialized testing, and before I could be admitted, I had to stay in the ER for a day and a half, and there were children and babies crying literally all night long, machines malfucioning, and so many patients that there were not enough beds or rooms for the patients, so there were sooooooo many patients just sitting in the hallway or outside of other patient's rooms, waiting hoooouuurrrrssss for treatment. I was only there for one night and one day before I was moved upstairs to a different sector, and it was absolute hell, I could not imagine the stress of having to work there every single day. The nicknames may be unprofessional, but tbh unprofessional/casual demeaner among ER nurses was something I saw a lot, and honestly my last concern as a patient.
okay i’m listening to this as i’m doing my laundry. tuesday is my day off and i usually clean the house while listening to this pod. the first one about the cat rubbing on the toothbrush made me think my cat would never do that. the pod keeps going and i’m listening to the tattoo one and my cat meows to go into the bathroom. my cat loves to drink sink water and never passes up a chance, so i let her in (we keep the door closed because she jumps in the tub then walks around the house with little wet paws and leaves toe bean prints all over). she jumps onto the counter and i happened to leave my toothpaste out and she immediately starts rubbing her face on it. apparently it’s not far fetched to think she would rub on my toothbrush. my cat is a rescue, i used to work in vet medicine and my mom is a vet, and i kind of happened upon her. most people in vetmed have “messed up” animals because we’re good at caring for the ones with strange health things. my cat happens to have chronic rhinitis, and she sneezes snot globs a couple times a week when she has a sneezing fit. she’s also quite greasy and doesn’t groom herself because her nose is all messed up (that is the reasoning the feline internal medicine specialist told me-i got great discounts so she’s had nasal flushes and a CT and a rhinoscopy, and the specialist says there’s nothing we can do for my cat’s sneezing). many people find it very gross, but after seeing the gross things other pets have going on, i don’t think a little snot is all that gross. she sleeps on my pillow with me, and lots of people are horrified that sometimes she sneezes on me or the sheets and she’s sometimes a little smelly. but ultimately i wash my sheets very regularly, and i had her tested for fungal infections and stuff and they were negative so i know her condition won’t hurt me or anybody else. my partner also worked in vet med for a while and he doesn’t mind it either. though if he did he’d be sleeping on the couch-nothing could happen that would prevent my cat from sleeping with me in my bed because that’s what she wants and she gets what she wants. just cat owner things. lol.
I like Cristine’s sweatshirt-looks cozy- and thank you for these AITAS podcasts-it highlights everyone has issues-large and small- and #1 yeah get rid of Kyle -CATS RULE 😻😻😻
Listening to the first one while I’m in bed with my cat in my arm, kissing his face, and my dog is passed out with his paw against my forehead. 😂 Kyle would not approve
This podcast has been so important to me. I've been watching it consistently, and it helps me do i.e. chores that I struggle with because they overwhelm me (mentally) and I break down otherwise, but with my mind kept off of things, I'm capable of doing things I normally couldn't even get to. Not only that, you two are people we have all grown to feel extremely comfortable and at ease with and we value your opinions and learn from each episode you post. It's been a journey, and we're all incredibly grateful. Thank you
I've never been this early 😭 I love the perspectives they give to these scenarios ❤️ these are some of my favorite episodes! Also stinks that people were rude last week 🥺
I was traveling, so I missed it before it was taken down. I was really looking forward to it!! I wish they'd make it available for Menchie Gang members.
My sister is getting married next weekend. She and her partner are on a tight budget so they were really cautious with their guest list. They still decided to invite their close friend's partners and to the ones that they didn't invite they explained that they were on a budget and really wanted the ceremony to only include people that are close to them (this applies to family members too). Everyone was understanding. My boyfriend didn't get invited because we've only been dating a couple of months and I didn't get mad about it, I think it's completely understandable.
The wedding guest story made me laugh cause my sister in law took over our wedding and half our guests were her neighbors and friends that neither myself or husband knew.
Right? Like I was confused because she said it was expensive to replace but I’ve never heard of an electric toothbrush that doesn’t have a removable head. I change mine every couple months anyway. But maybe he was suggesting she gets an entirely new toothbrush?
@@nattcattt i agree.. i still agree that the boyfriend was in the wrong and unreasonable, but the only problem i have is that she probably should start keeping her toothbrush in a drawer after she replaces the head LOL
I just had my wedding… I literally gave plus ones to everyone. We limited our guest count and assumed everyone had someone special they’d want to bring. The ones I didn’t know I freaking loved meeting them and they added joy to our celebration.
One thing I’m concerned about that I haven’t seen anyone else mention in the tattooed gf story is that the guy asked her to cover up her tattoos before meeting his parents…does that not seem like a red flag to anyone else? If her tattoos are what he likes the most about her as he so claims, then why would he ever ask her to cover herself as if her tattoos are something to be ashamed or embarrassed about? And what, does he expect his gf to wear long sleeves/pants for the rest of her life just so his parents won’t see?? Idk, that just doesn’t sit right with me. If he really cared about her and the way she artistically expresses herself, then he should have wanted to present her to his parents just the way she is, in her full authenticity :/ I agree with Ben & Simply in that maybe he has some control issues and he wants to be the one who dictates when, where, and to who the gf gets to express herself with her tattoos. He should be happy his parents and his gf get along! I think his parents accept her more than he does 😂
It could also just be a thing to protect the girlfriend from judgment. This story was wild, but usually conservative parents are conservative parents. Sometimes it’s best to maintain a cordial (but not close) relationship with extended family and occasionally covering up tattoos can be part of that. It is a thing to navigate together as a couple. The problem is this young man’s language, ‘telling her’ to cover up. It should always be a choice, not a command.
I kinda get him tho (I interpeted it as if he asked her to wear that clothing, not demmanded). He certainly has no right to dictate what she wears, but in this case it was for safety reasons. He thought that his parents were very judgemental and conservative, and probably he didn't want any confrontation. Maybe he wanted to protect his gf from negative comments, one never knows how accepting or mean other person will be. So I get how he kinda warned her about a possible negative outcome, and suggested her to change clothes to avoid that. Again, I interpreted as if he told her something along the lines of "My parents are very conservative and don't like tattoos, please wear long sleeves so that they don’t make any negative comments and you get along better", kinda asking but not demanding
Plus ones at weddings are so hard. You want people to have a good time by ensuring they have a close friend, but it can feel strange to have complete strangers at such an intimate ceremony. Probably the bride should have allowed long term couples to come 😂
I've just accepted that I'm the interloper. Feline Annie is absolutely head over heels for my spouse. And if he doesn't want the person doing the laundry to empty his pockets... then he should be doing his own laundry. That man is up to no good.... either an illegal job or an affair. My biggest issue with the "grave walker" post is that the new employee didn't take time to vibe the culture and then approach her issues with calmness and instead just stormed in and demanded changes. It didn't sound like sexual harassment or lewdness was taking place. And respectfully, to be treated with respect, you need to treat others with respect and it doesn't sound like she was doing that at all. OH GEEZ!!! Sounds like sock lady and her coworkers that agreed with her were the fashion bullies in high school. That woman is such an AHOLE. Even as a female I love wearing fun socks when I have to dress professionally. No one cares and it makes me happy! And I know gentleman in their 60s, 70s, and even 80s who've been wearing flamboyant bow ties or suspenders or socks as a fun way to add color or pattern or personality to rather mundane professional business attire for men. Okay... Zoom dude... its weird to be on Zoom without pants on. But its your house and if you wanna relax even fully naked, that's your prerogative but you also now have a live in girlfriend so time to discuss boundaries, house rules, and I guess just learn how to communicate. Snow blower dude... you are not the ahole. They aren't paying you so its not your responsibility. Bridezilla, you are the Ahole, the worst one of the lot I think. You should just elope with your parents and no one else and be done with it. You're absolutely ridiculous. My wedding was 63 people and if we had those rules... it would have been like, 15 people and very few members of his family and nearly all of his friends wouldn't have been there either because they were scattered across the country due to their careers. Gosh almighty I hate psycho brides.
About Sock Guy: When I was in middle school we had a teacher who always wore different fruit and animal socks, and occasionally he’d start lessons by mentioning his socks, and it just made everyone’s days slightly better. I do realise it’s different when it comes to kids, but he was reserved and sort of awkward and the socks sort of helped people warm to him, as well as worked as an icebreaker, even with the other teachers. He had a pair of broccoli socks, and they were sort of infamous in our class, every time he wore them, people would go “Broccoli socks!” and cheer. I really don’t understand what the big deal was, even if the environment was slightly more professional than a school setting.
My sister’s boyfriend once left a lighter in his pocket and it made it to the dryer and almost exploded. No way I’m not checking someones pockets before doing laundry. If you don’t want your pockets emptied, do your own laundry.
My husband demands I check his pockets I told him it’s his job to empty his pocket when he takes his clothes off whatever is in there goes through and he cleans it up later because he’s known for leaving money and cards and stuff
Exactly. If my bf or husband acted like that I would never do his laundry again. Not a single item. I do not understand the need to buy a separate closet with a locker. Like are you in FBI or smth?
@@smileylaury13 My husband would be the same at first, like he would see the laundry done and ask if I’d find whatever thing in his pants, and I would always say “I dunno, why would you leave it there when tossing it into the hamper?” And he would say something along the lines of ‘you should always check the pockets in case I forget’ to which I would reply ‘maybe it’s not important then, since you forget’. After a couple discussions like this he eventually learned to empty his own pockets BEFORE putting dirty clothes in the hamper.
I feel as adults we should be responsible for our own sh*t. I’m trying to raise my kid to not be used to me picking up after them, so why would you, my grown-ass husband give me more chores.
@@ceciliatapioca finally someone who’s had the same conversation we had! I’m always telling him if he forgets it it’s not important! Everyday I try to teach our son to be better 🥰
@@smileylaury13 LOL i had this disagreement with my girlfriend recently- i think she should be checking her own pockets before putting them in the hamper but she believes i should be checking before i do the laundry!
Ran into a guy at work, and he had little kid lunchboxes. I complimented them, and we had a little chat about it. He carries them around because they're fun and they make people smile. My boss wears funky socks (he has a pair with chicken wings). Life is too short to pretend like we're too mature for silly little things.
Yeah in my country (the Netherlands) colourful socks have become a pretty common thing for workplace attire, there’s even a few sock brands that specialize in it. And it sounds like the work environment of the poster is pretty toxic and childish. Laughing at someone is never okay imo, not even behind someone’s back.
100%! I bought a kid lunchbag that i’d take to work (when i worked at an office haha), it has dinosaurs printed on it and i love it! It’s so fun, I wore hard pants and fancy shoes to the office so it was my little something to showcase a bit of my personality. It has nothing to do with “professionalism”
This is the one that shocks me the most! Like what kind of small world does someone live in for colourful socks to be so distracting that it impedes work? sounds like middle school.
That’s so cute! I need to upgrade my lunch box 😂
My old teacher had like 5 bins of ties that wear funky he would let the kids pick one out daily he said they were from he worked in a office and loves to wear them he wears them once and restarts every year (if u think he's wasting he not after 1-2 years he goes through and donates and gives them away they are handmade by his wife I saw him recently he was so happy and had a hot pink tie with lots of green polka dots and a yellow button up.
Oh yikes, the pants pocket story screams cheating to me. It was probably a receipt for something he wasn't supposed to be doing.
I agree. I really wonder what it was. If it was a receipt i feel like the poster would have added that since most receipts are made with a unique type of paper
110% it’s a number for a girl from his new job or a receipt for dinner with his new girlfriend.
I was thinking of a weird fetish or smth hence the separate closet as well. Honestly might be anything, but the point is, he is not truthful to his partner.
Yeah i hate to jump to conclusions (especially when its about cheating) but 😬😬😬
and why is she doing his laundry and not him doing it himself
The book story made me laugh. She’s so NTA.
One time I was on a bus and I always have a book. I caught the lady beside me reading over my shoulder, she apologized and told me she forgot her book- I’ve been there and it sucks on a 5 hour bus. I offered to let her read with me but warned it had mature scenes. She laughed that she didn’t mind and we read together for a couple hours
wait that’s so sweet omg
What a good turn out haha that’s too cute
wholesome
I LOOOOVE this story omg!!!
That is awesome!
crying cristine didn’t know what smut was 😂 we grew up on two very different sides of the internet lmao
I was thinking the same thing 😅😂
Protect her at all costs 😭
Me: “Oh the things I could show you on my bookshelf.” 😂
I was thinking the same thing lol
Nobody tell her about wattpad👀
I didn’t know parents needed to get their kids permission to get tattoos. Learn something new everyday
I had to make sure she difnt give a tattoo to his underage daughter or something, but no... Dude is just a control freak
the only time a parents needs their child's permission for something of the sort is when the parents has mental health issues such as dementia, alzheimer's, multiple personality disorder, and their kid is their legal caretaker and the one that has to make those type of decisions
I'm convinced that a LOT of the posts are BS. That one being one. If he'd titled his post differently, he may have had a different outcome. No, he's one of clearly thousands and thousands of idiots demanding strangers get "triggered" by his lying post.
@@RichiexFelicia nobody forced you to watch the video
@@faceofvision Looks like you misread my comment. Oh well :D
To me, anybody doing something to "teach me a lesson" (unless I'm a little kid and that's my parent) is a clear sign that I need to get away from that person.
idk, the ones where ppl purposefully change/ruin stuff that their roommate/relative/colleague keep using without asking are pretty okay to me too. especially when the thief comes out whining that the thing they're usually stealing isn't the way it should be anymore lol
@@iyawakarehen yeah, like putting laxative in you food if you know someone is stealing it haha
So many men wear fun socks with their “professional/formal” looks that this whole situation is just crazy. Why does the entire office think it’s funny and egotistical?!
everyone checks all the pockets before putting them in the washer. it's basically how we all learn to do laundry. his overreaction makes me think 2 things. one, dude never did laundry. two, he's absolutely hiding something from the wife
My stepmom used to keep any money she found in pockets to deter us from leaving stuff in there haha
And three, he's pretty fucking stupid. If that piece of paper was so important WHY did he left it in the pocket?
He's absolutely hiding somthing. Or he has other issues. Either way, the response is absolutely ridiculous.
I dont check pockets before laundry but totally should since i’ve had accidents before (just tissue paper but still messy)
If my husband had that reaction and put a lock on his closet that wouldn't deter me from snooping. That would make me go on the hunt cuz he's obviously hiding something.
I'd also start looking into divorce because I wouldn't want to be married to a man child
i agree, and only people that hide things and are projecting would ever have an issue with what you said. To be married to someone who is cheating on you is the worst and if they wanna bang another person so be it but after the divorce. Wanting to find out the truth should not be shamed on but encouraged, that lady needs to figure out whats up asap.
Oh hell no, RUN!
But why? Do you WANT to find something? The fact he's hiding something is already a good enough reason for divorce.
@@erikperhs_ I mean, yeah, I would like to be sure he's hiding something 🤷 but if I were going to go so far as to snoop in a locked closet, I also have already decided we're going to break up. But yeah, if someone is trying to blame me and pretend I'm crossing boundaries etc when they are in the wrong, I would definitely want to be able to prove they were gaslighting me.
My policy with pets is just no mouth kisses. I think it's best if we keep our relationship platonic.
Head kisses are very valid though
100%
I agree, even as someone who loves my cat more than I love most people. Kiss your pet anywhere but the mouth (and certain other parts, but anyone who does that has bigger issues to work through). Especially after seeing that wolf clip at the beginning.
I kiss my cat square on the mouth and no one can stop me
@@Mmmbop0987 same here with my dog, sue me 😂 but both me and my bf do it so we’re both sick and disgusting
The flamboyant sock story: what is wrong with op and his coworkers who are bullying their other coworker for their sock choice! Is OP an adult or a 12yo?!?!?!? And saying "what was he thinking wearing that" is such victim blaming mentality!
Bullying? They barely say or do anything to him, the most they do is talking behind his back
@@Kyss111 How is a group of people making fun of an individual they all work with behind his back NOT bullying? They are singling out this coworker for a simple choice of what socks he wears and ridiculing him for it! His choice of socks! They aren't venting about his attitude, or his work performance, or his actions towards an other coworker! They are making fun of his choice in socks! He isn't wearing anything inappropriate for work like swimsuit or booty shorts! He has to wear socks and he chose them to be colorful! That's it! If it's against dress code then it should be taken up to HR! Not turned into gossip!
@@blakelay if you wear or do something that are out of the ordinary you're bound to attract attention and people talking about it, it's not like they discriminate him for his socks or they kept pointing it out loud and laugh at his face every single time he walk pass, I just think you're blowing it up a bit when the situation was not even bad, I mean really, some people look at your socks because it's eye catching and funny warranted such a reaction
@@Kyss111 you're bascially victim blaming.... ehy do people need the feel to judge other people's appereances?
@@Kyss111 The poster just sounds like a massive jerk. Calls the dude unprofessional for his socks, and yet he is the one not being able to contain his laughter in a professional meeting over penguins on socks?? Not only that, but he responded along the lines of "sorry for your loss, but BTW they look unprofessional" after the dude told him why he wears them and thinks that's okay?? They "felt bad", so they then proceeded to go talk shit about him to the other workers?? Heck, even the poster said that his colleagues don't even know the dude or work with him, yet they all jump to call him egoistical and that deserves to be embarrassed and made fun of??
His department sounds like it has "mean girls" vibes.
The sock story was so weird, who the hell would be bothered by that ? And then he’s laughing in the guys face and is surprised when the guy approaches the topic?
Exactly my thought. Why do all these people give a damn? They are SOCKS. I personally have better things to focus on.
Clearly the person who is bothered by his socks is a very boring person, as are the other people who stood behind them. I don't see how he is egotistical according to them, because he wears funky socks
Riiight! Especially in an office setting... sometimes socks are the only thing you get to have fun with
I know so many guys who love funny socks. I think it’s cute.
YES honestly in general though, people should learn to just not give a fuck about what other people are wearing unless they want to actually turn the brunt of the other person's anger unto them right kek
I think that the nickname thing is doubly... The OP states they are interchangeable with their real names so no one should be confused after being there for a few days. I think they shouldn't force someone to use the nicknames if they don't want to, but a new person shouldn't come into an established community and expect them all to just change for her.
This. That person needs to chill lol it's not like they're forced to use it, just adapt
@@chiaseed7974 Exactly! As long as they aren't being unprofessionally shamed or forced to use the nicknames, then the should grow up. They are the ones acting immature by saying everyone else is immature. lol
YES
Exactly. The new girl is entitled af
If I start working somewhere and I notice that people are being unprofessional, I WILL call them out. As soon as I start working there, I'm part of the group too, so I can give my opinion.
OP: These are my wedding rules, take it or leave it!
cousin: Okay, I will leave it then.
OP: *surprised Pikachu face*
About the woman with a sock problem:
THAT MA'AM IS WHY YOU KEEP YOUR MOUTH CLOSED. You never know what someone has gone thru or why someone wears/does what they do. If I was that man I probably would've started crying, I'm not going to lie. I have things that I wear that people would consider weird or whatever but they were given to me by people who are no longer with me... They mean the world to me. Want to go home and talk about his socks with your family? Fine. Work isn't the place.
It's free to be kind.
But she did kept her mouth closed, it's just when he caught her looking at his socks did he confront her and likewise she told her reason for staring
@@Kyss111 how do you laugh with your mouth closed?
I agree. Like it's understandable why it could be distracting, but either keep your mouth shut, or if it bothers her that much, she could have gently pulled him aside one day and politely asked why he wears goofy socks with his professional attire, and then she could have avoided the embarrassment of making an ass out of herself by laughing at him publicly and then learning they're from his dead wife. That's why you should always lead with kindness and questions, not mockery. I hope she learned her lesson
@@Kyss111 she was laughing at him during a meeting. Talk about being unprofessional 🙄 they're just socks, it's not like someone came to work wearing their underwear over their clothes. Laughing at people in the workplace is straight up workplace bullying, and shouldn't be tolerated. Especially if it isn't a colleague you're close with, and maybe have inside jokes with or know that they don't mind when you joke about their clothes.
When I worked a job with a uniform, I wore the brightest, goofiest socks ever and I loved it. I wore them for me, to make myself smile, but when people noticed it made me happy. If they laughed, it was a good thing, I made someone else smile. I have done this ever since, life is too short to not wear fun socks.
My DR wears goofy socks and I love it!! I have never thought it was unprofessional. I'm glad they make you smile. ♥️
That half naked boyfriend question had me remembering a Jenna Marbles video from a few years ago where Julien said “you have to be bottomless to get to the top!”
About the tattoo story, there's a point in you'd life when you figure out that your parents are actual people with desires and feelings like your own. Maybe the boyfriend hasn't reached that point and can not place his (perhaps perfect in his mind) mother in the situation of wanting and getting a tattoo.
I feel like maybe op is the conservative one. This may be a bit of a reach but I can't help but be reminded of the madonna/whore complex. Maybe he is fine having sex with a woman with tattoos but he is upset with the idea of his mother having one. Remember that he asked his girlfriend to cover them up before his parents came over. It sounds to me like HE is the one that really thinks tattoos are indecent.
Perhaps he felt he didn't get the chance to talk his mom out of it. Still not cool to be that upset.
I think in this case I could kind of understand how that would be uncool. I mean imagine this girl cheats on him and breaks his heart. and every time he sees his mother he is reminded of that. Since it was the first time she met his parents and they aren't together for that long, you can't really say what could go down. Sure mom can have as many tattoos as she pleases but perhaps getting it impulsively from your child partner that you just met is not the best.
Bro the thing that got me was he wasn’t mad it happened spontaneously, he was mad they didn’t “ask” him first. Like she needs her son’s permission to do a damn thing with her body. Super weird…
I think he's very sexually attracted to tattoos and therefore was alarmed when his mom suddenly had one
Beyyn: "he has started to spend the night"
Beyyn and Cristine: oOOOooOOOOooO
lmaaaao 🤣🤣
These two are clearly on the same wavelength :D
I'm not a pet owner but I still do think she did right in breaking up with the guy. Neither of them are AHs, they should just find other more suitable people for themselves.
yeah exactly. i found it a bit weird that she said she laughed in his face about his concerns and told him her cat is 10.000x more important to her but if that’s what she wants to double down on, they’re clearly just not right for each other.
I would choose my pet 100x over my partner
Ya, trying to change a pet person into loving their animals less is a quick way to ruin a relationship. And in reverse, trying to convert a person who doesn't like animals into an animal person will just cause resentment. You can make compromises but pinning a relationship on someone sacrificing something intrical to who they are as a person will never work out well. Lol, I probably will never date someone who doesn't like animals. Just won't happen. They are a part of me. My BFF is terrified of dogs but we have grown as people to respect each other's boundaries and she doesn't live with me. My partner who would live with me needs to be ok with my pet sometimes sticking their butt in your face, eating your food, and sometimes destroying something. 🤷🏻♀️ If you can't eventually brush that off, we as people just aren't compatible to live with each other.
He was clearly being an AH
@@SkyLene It sounded like it was a new relationship though. My cats are definitely more important than someone I've only dated for a few months. And if that person came into my life and started making *demands* about my cats just because they don't like or understand cats... Yeah I'd laugh in their face and tell them to get out.
The plus-one wedding one was very funny to watch unfold in real time. The bride had an absolute meltdown and kept posting the story on different subreddits desperately trying and failing to find a single person to side with her. She was also disgustingly egotistical and rude in all her replies and at one point freaked out claiming people were “wedding shaming” her. As though society has some kind of bias against marriage, lol
Her account has since been suspended 🤣
@@Tea4tea thank you both for these updates 😂 really made my day lol
meanwhile she accused other long term couples of being too clingy because they wanted to attend a romantic celebration together...the whole thing feels very attention grabbing and spoiled to put it lightly
@@rainestar82Yeah, that statement was SO hypocritical of her. OP getting upset with couples wanting to be together at her wedding? She is getting married! She should understand that part the most! Ridiculous. Can't imagine what kind of wife she will be if that's how she's starting out... I'm with Cristine. Wouldn't want to go to that wedding either.
Tbh I kind of understand not wanting people both haven’t met because wedding are chaotic as it is but the comments made her ta
The winnie the pooh story - super dangerous to cook without clothes. I had a friend in college who had to be rushed to the hospital because he was cooking bacon and spilled grease ... got on their stomach and ... lower.
Yeah baking in a bikini isn't much better.. I now have a burn scar on my stomach from the hot oven tray 🥲
The wedding one is funny because I can just imagine when it comes time for the cousin and his fiancé to get married, they’re not going to invite the OP bride because “Well, you could have met my fiancé at your wedding, but since you’ve never met we don’t want you at ours”
I applaud this level of pettiness 🥰 I probably wouldn’t do this but it would probably have gone thru my mind
im pretty sure i read that they dont use nicknames around patients, specially gravewalker's because it would obviously make them uncomfortable and that they only use them amongst themselves
I saw that post somewhere else and they clarified in the comments that they never use the nicknames where patients can hear
Makes sense; they've probably been in their positions for a while, so they'll know when to interchange names.
Yeah the person having an issue clearly sounds like someone with no real world experience
Also he just seem to be saying he wasn’t gonna pretend it was his idea when she asked him to convince the others to stop using nicknames ….he did use strong language unless he politely told her to F off ..And that was unprofessional…. but she shouldn’t be asking him to lie either soooooo
I feel like a good general rule for wedding rules is: it's your wedding and you get to make the rules. But if that causes someone to not come, you don't get to yell at them for not coming because of your own rules.
The story about the husband getting mad about going through the laundry was deeply triggering for me. I am an abuse survivor, and if I had listen to these red types of red flags early on, I might have lived a different life. If you have to ask yourself if YOU are the asshole on this situation, they aren't the one. ♡
There's something that oddly warms my heart seeing Cris in Julien's merch, especially with how much we see him in Holo Taco polish ❤️
Regarding the mom getting a tattoo from the girlfriend; The only understandable thing I could think of is that maybe he is doubtful of his relationship and doesn’t want to be reminded of his girlfriend every time he sees his moms tattoo
I do feel like there's missing information. It comes across to me as maybe having been written by the girlfriend or someone else. It's hard to believe OP wanted us to be sympathetic to the boyfriend's position based on the information shared with us.
@@annasullivan2564 I could absolutely see that being the case. People are wild
This was my first thought, he could be reserved about her being in his life for as long as the tattoo is, even if the tattoo represents their family it still has her within it as the artist
Yeah and the fact that the mom got 4 for the 4 of them, I’m assuming including the girlfriend in their family forever. Maybe OP doesn’t want that sort of commitment/permanency in the relationship
@@kalingrace6289 I assumed OP had a sibling that wasn't there/wasn't relevant to the story
My husband went to empty his pockets to show that I could trust him and couldn't find his car keys. He went looking and found them on the ground outside next to the car. If it wasn't for you guys, we wouldn't have gone looking, so thanks! 🤣
With the sock story - unless there is a company dress code that says specifically what type/colour of socks are allowed then it was out of place for the op to bring it up.
About the last wedding story: I get the bride in the sense that at my wedding I also wouldn't want some random dude you met at a bar yesterday and brought in just to bring someone, or like my aunt's aunt's neighbours because I really don't know you and I feel I would be worried for people getting drunk or stealing or just causing drama. But I think if you have your person and you wouldn't have fun without them and you want them to come with you to my wedding, you definitely should be able to. And if the poster didn't want people she didn't know personally at her wedding maybe she should grab a dinner with her cousin and their person in order to meet them and maybe they would feel differently about them? 🤷🏻♀️
the weird part to me is that ALL the "rules" boiled down to "if theyre not my close personal friend AND friend of fiances, theyre out". Which is FINE if they just wanted family only, but it gets weird with all the weird stipulations. "if I'd go to dinner with them and be friends otherwise"? idk it just seems SO incredibly specific, makes me wonder if op is trying to shut a specific person/people out
Yeah like a ”you need to have dated for a year”-rule is fine, right?
The synchronized “ooohooooooo” at the first problem had me laughing way too hard 🤣 am I little?
Wife emptying the Husband's pockets: Husband is hiding something. My mind immediately goes to cheating. Wife should absolutely stop doing his laundry. May want to reevaluate the relationship as well.
Right husband has got to be hiding something emptying pockets while doing laundry is normal and an expected thing to do. If you don't check pockets that's how things and laundry get ruined at least in my house if it's not pens it's things like flashlights or small knives and what not I have to check.
if I dont check my husbands pockets I would kill the washing machine. he is a Tradie and has screws. bolts. a box cutter. phone charger. all found in his work pants 😂😂
Wait .. Are you also married to my husband? Lol.
i love when this series, but sometimes i wish they would read the comments on the reddit posts!! i wanna see what the commenters think too lol
I started reading AITA posts after they started doing these, its so fun when Ive actually read the posts they discuss. The comments add a lot of context usually. If you go to the subreddit and sort by top>month or year, I'm sure you'll find a lot of them
I think it's totally fair to not want plus ones, but then family's spouses should be personally invited.
Yeah, like, having a "no plus ones" rule in general (as in, only people invited can come) isn't bad in itself. There can be financial reasons, venue size restrictions, and also you might feel compelled to invite some people who you don't know well because, family, and then not trust them not to bring someone horrible. Also some people might find it very stressful to meet a load of complete strangers, like if people bring "dates" who they may not even know well themselves.
However, if you know someone has a partner they've been with for a reasonable amount of time (like, I'd probably just say if they're together when you send the invites and you know about them, since invites generally go out some months prior to the wedding) it's definitely polite to invite them along too if you can afford to. Personally, we had some evening guests so if people had new partners we told them they could invite their partners to the evening too. And for a couple of people we thought might not know many people, we gave them unamed plus ones.
Also this bride is literally basically saying "I don't like your partner so they're not invited". Lol
i have a friend that i know will bring a guy she self-proclaimed as her bf which i guarantee will not stay in her life for long, if i mentioned "plus 1" in the invites.
like I'm happy u r so hopefully of ur relationship, but i dont want some random guy in my group photos.
The first story made me appreciate my hubby even more, he wasn’t a cat person before and didn’t want to adopt any at first but has become so loving and sweet to our 2 cats in the 2 years we’ve had them. One sleeps on an extra pillow above my pillow every night. When our kitty naps on top of my husband, hubby doesn’t move and will stay in the same position for hours to not disturb him. Lol I think it’s sweet. I think caring for a pet together has been a bonding experience for us and I feel even closer to him because of his acceptance of the kitties.
It’s not just about the cats. His behavior shows me the empathy he has for other living creatures, and the respect and care he shows them warms my heart. I could never accept (and wouldn’t want to) a guy who doesn’t like them or like me enough to open their heart a little to small animals who just need love and acceptance.
This is so so true. When I met my husband he’d never had a pet. When he first came to my house he even brought my cat treats and a toy it was so sweet. Now he’s the biggest cat dad and she cuddles on him every day and carries her around and he bought her a cat tower on Black Friday lol. It really does show the type of person he is and the type of father he’ll be.
My now husband used to have his face get red and his eyes practically swell shut from my cats twenty plus years ago...
Now we're married and have six cats in the house. He got allergy shots. That's how you know you've got a keeper.
@@lizalove91 that’s so sweet that he brought them treats! He’s a keeper 😊
@@CraftyMagicDollz aww I’d make my man do the same, cause the kitties aren’t going anywhere!
The boyfriend about wanting his girlfriend to cover up her tattoos for when his parents came and when they were actually excited about the tattoos and the mom ended up getting one it was just so funny how he was obviously trying to control how she dresses and presents herself and then tries to control any input or influence the girlfriend has on the mom.
Like I do think there is something to be said about taking into account what your partner wants and their opinion but at the end of the day I take a my body my choice approach. Seems weird how upset he was about the women having bodily autonomy 👀
If a guy doesn’t love your fur child . Then he’s done . Mine loves my fur babies like they were his own lol
If they have issues with your pet (who in my case is my best friend) then it’s not going to end there. They’re going to try and change other stuff too and it sounds like a control thing. Red flag.
I agree with both of you, I feel like people forget that when you find a partner they are a completely different human being with a life, interests and a brain of their own. Not some avatar embodiment of your dream character that exists to please and complete you.
Those that have that stupid way of thinking become so controlling when you get out of the painted bounds of their dreams and wanna push you back in by changing you.
Those are not people you will have a good long future with.
My last bf always wanted a dog growing up, he adored my dog while we were dating and living together (pandemic co-habitation). He let my dog lick him on the mouth to the point it grossed me out! I am very affectionate with my dog, but they had a weird thing going lol - she would snap at him often because she had to set the boundaries somewhere. I was lucky. Too bad it didn't work out with him 😕
Happy Taco Tuesday!!! Anyways last ep wasnt taken down bc they talked about Hawaii, contrary to popular belief. Ben mentioned in one of his streams that he took it down due to the rude comments addressed to Cristine. Hope we won’t let that happen again
People suck :/
@@GrungeGranny I assume it was because of lack of engagement into the topic and being unineterested in anything that Ben took time to prepare, that's my assumption
That sucks, but I'm not surprised.
A lot of people love Ben and want him to have a good vacation but it seems that Cristine keeps saying no.
What they probably don't remember is that they had one planned with Threadbanger and Covid killed it.
I watched the episode and read the comments and yeah, I had the feeling that they would be uncomfortable with how rude some people were being towards cristine in the comments. People were getting up in arms about things that had absolutely no effect to them whatsoever and making assumptions about a relationship that they are not part of.
People need to learn boundaries and stay out of things which aren’t their business.
they gave a brief disclaimer last week that the vacations were hypothetical and would be at a time when travel was safe, criticisms about mentioning Hawaii must have missed that part and I'm sure that travel plan would have been at a time when they were more accepting to tourism. also who wants to sit on a plane for 12 hrs, it's a valid feeling to want to try to travel small distances until you are comfortable flying longer. I loved the ep guys and I hope you know a lot of other people did too
right, factoring in travel time is totally valid. went to thailand with my bf and it was 24hrs from airport at home to airport in thailand. it was awful. my boyfriend has said he will *never* go anywhere that requires so long to travel again. I get it.
I loved the ep too :) I loved hearing of the hypothetical vacations and I personally find Cristine's disinterest kinda funny.
To me there’s a much simpler bigger misunderstanding. Some people are happy with their lives just the way they are and it doesn’t matter where you are with the people you love.
I was half way through it… sad I couldn’t find it anymore.
I didn't get the chance to finish it because something came up and when I looked it was already gone 😔
I’m still confused why it was taken down
I think with the tattoo one, it’s a kid losing his idealistic version of his parents. Growing up, usually, kids put their parents on a pedestal and think highly of them. And as we get older we realize they are humans and can make mistakes just as easily as we can, but we still generally hold them to a higher standard. Even as an adult when things don’t go well you turn to your parents. So I think he just had this idea of who he believed his parents were based on how they raised him. And when that idea was shattered he didn’t really know how to handle it. I think it has less to do with him not having some kind of control over the decision and more to do with the fact that he felt blindsided by the whole situation. His mom getting a tattoo was probably the last thing he ever expected, so to see it happen and seemingly out of no where must have rattled him. But even so, his gf is right. His mom is a grown adult and can make decisions for herself. And if anything he should be happy cause, 1. He knows that if he ever wants one they won’t give him kickback or flack for it. And 2. He knows they’re ok with him dating someone with tattoos.
The relationship sounds relatively new, since she hadn't met his parents yet. Ideally I wouldn't want someone I just started dating to tattoo my parents. It'd be kinda weird if the relationship didn't last very long and yet your mom has a permanent reminder of your ex on her body...
@@pucktool3751 yea that’s a fair point. Especially if it ends badly, I know that would make me feel weird to see a reminder of an ex every time I saw my mom. But I just get the sense there’s something more to it than that. The way he described his straight laced parents made it feel like he was more upset because he didn’t think they were into tattoos. 🤷🏻♀️
I think it has to do with them being "conservatives". Imagine if your mom yelled at you when you tried getting a tattoo as a teenager and then, 20 years later, she sees tattoos on someone else and immediately gets one herself.
As a gay man, I experienced my mom being annoyed at my sexuality, but when she saw other gay guys she'd be like "oh look, he's gay, it's so cool that he's brave enough to be himself!". I think the feeling must be similar.
With the nickname one it would be SO funny if they just never gave the new girl a nickname. “That’s The King, he’s the boss, this is Speedy, this is The Gravewalker, over there is Archer and Snowborn, and this is Nicole.”
LMAOOO I WAS ACTUALLY SO SHOCKED FOR THE WOLF CLIP OMG
Looks gross but it’s important for bonding/trust: ua-cam.com/video/PguE2XclsBg/v-deo.html
In high school me and my other friends had the nickname of 'Grasshopper' while we called her 'Sensei'. She was a grade higher than us, and the person she referred to as her 'sensei' we called our 'grand-sensei'.
It was all in good fun.
My life partner taught Japanese ju jitsu for many years, he recently retired. He went by Sensei and his dad was his teacher, he went by Shihan. His older and advanced students were referred to as senpai
On the topic of spicy movies on planes - I remember flying ~6 years ago, and the version of dead pool I watched was a plane edit removing the sex scene. Then, in Feb of 2020, I was on a plane and was able to watch Midsommer completely uncensored haha. Same airline!! Not sure what regulates what
Aaahh that's funny, because I also watched Deadpool on a plane and I believe there was no sex scene. But I remember that the man sitting next to me kept glancing at my screen and giving me some weird looks. I kept checking that my earphones were plugged in because I couldn't tell what his problem was, haha.
Omg that movie is wild. WHY would they even offer it on a flight 😂😂
@@zina2148042 haha right?? Had I not been surrounded by my (all adult) family on that flight, I would have felt weirder about watching it 😂 also that was my first time seeing it so I didn’t realize how wild it was!
If it's a budget issue, then "no plus one" makes total sense. Every person is an additional cost. But this person specifically says it's not a budget issue.
Yes these are my favvvvvv!
Also thanks for the clarification about that video I truly thought I was losing my mind because I had watched a part of it and couldn’t find it to go back.
As someone from Germany I find the bride and groom somewhat reasonable, tbh. Here it is not standard practice to get a plus one. You get an invitation and the people on the invitation are invited. Why should people that do not know me, but know my boyfriend, pay for a plate and have a stranger present at their moment? We are invited to 4 weddings this year (all his friends - he is 7 years older), 3 of those couples we've been out with regularly. Only one couple I don't know. I was explicitly invited too, and was a little surprised, but am happy to come. But even though my bf and I have been together for 7 years, it would have been totally okay (and normal) for me not to be included. I don't know them, they don't owe me an invitation and my boyfriend is his own person outside of our "couplehood". Maybe if we were married that would change things slightly, but even then... if there were financial or spacial (venue capacity) restrictions, I think it would be totally okay to just mention that in the invitation.
Weird to just expect strangers to want you there for their wedding... I suspect it might be a cultural thing. We might just be a little more guarded in general over here.
I also thought that it is for bride and groom to decide who to invite or not. However if someone really wanted to come with a plus one then I would allow, especially if it is a close relative or a good friend. No point fighting about it IMO.
Yeah I too wonder if it is an American thing. I have not been invited to many weddings with a ‘plus 1’ option…
Interesting, it must be a culture thing bc for an average wedding here in the US “plus ones” are pretty common. Usually it’s not for some random date or brand new partner but if the wedding has the room and budget a lot of people in a long term relationship will get to bring them as a plus one. The European option certainly sounds cheaper lol but sometimes it’s a weird fun time being at a wedding where you don’t know a lot of people as a plus one
To be honest, I kind of think it makes sense, I've been to a few family things where my mom knows people but I don't and I just feel so awkward, like I'm only there because it's my mom's cousin or something who I've met once or twice before. Also if it's your special day, surely you want to spend it with people you know...
I do think she becomes an AH when she's not willing to meet the guests, like, go out to dinner with your cousin and his fiancee (?) And get to know them better so you'll feel comfortable with both of them there
same reasoning here, nta (from France, in case it's cultural)
I watched the podcast last week before it was taken down & I didn’t think there was anything wrong with it at all, I loved it! & I love the AITA ones!! Love you guys I watch evry week ❤️
What was the subject of it?
@@slopely ben's dream vacation tier list
@@saratakkoush6109 ah
I believe that Ben said in one of his streams that he deleted it because the comments are straight up rude and mean to Cristine, which is sad tbh
@@audrasteia7 oh that's horrible :/ I thought I was going crazy too
I have to admit, kindly, I giggled when Ben said “back in the day” when talking about wearing fun socks with mens professional clothing. You haven’t been retired that long 😋😋😋😋
Thank you for all these podcasts, I love them. I put them on when i need some work to be done, cleaning and stuff like that. even when I want to rest I can put you guys up and lay down. please keep the podcasts coming haha. love you both
I've always understood the general wedding plus-one rule to be that spouses, fiances, and long-term partners get an automatic invite, and everyone else is on a case by case basis (socially recognized couples being a single "unit") If you want to give everyone else a plus-one, that's great. If you want to keep it to familiar people, that's fine too. but those "units" have to be invited together.
You’re right simply, Am I the Ahole episodes are an immediate click for me!! I LOVE hearing both your commentary on each topic!!
Idk know why they took it down, i really enjoyed the last one, especially I wanted even to know the outcome of which vacation they should go within this year. If there were bad comments, I feel sad to those people, because all that ep was in a very lighted heart, even to the comedy point, it was fun, and we have to also laugh about life, not all is serious, sometimes it's nice to take a breath outside the bubble that we all live in, (aka, pandemic, violence, suicide, homicide, war, etc, etc, etc...) if you know what I mean. Ben & Simply, you do you. Lots of hugs and love for you.
The tattoo story had me rolling!! y'all what the hell? also the size of the tattoo had to do a lot with the time it takes to create it, stencil it etc. That dude is a grown ass child. If a parent wants a tattoo then a parent gets a tattoo, same goes for any grown adults that wish to get one. Plus I think it's sweet that the mom go it from the girlfriend and not from a stranger,... It bonded the GF and the could be mother-in-law and he knows that its safe and nothing should go wrong with it.
How could you own a cat and not kiss it’s head 😪
Heck, i despise cats, but i still kiss my sister's cat on the head when i'm cat-sitting. All animals deserve love and affection! :)
I've had several cats but never kissed their heads, just pet them. I honestly only noticed people doing that when going from the countryside to the city, apartment cats be treated like kids :')
The sock story makes me so sad for the guy. He should get out of that toxic work environment.
Simply repping Julien’s new merch (in Aries season no less!) helll yeah!!
In regard to tattoos, how long it takes it depends on how experienced the artist is and the size of the tattoo--at least in my experience as a tatted person, not an artist myself. My favorite tattoo is probably the most detailed, with delicate line work and shading, and it's beautiful! The artist was incredibly skilled, and it took him only about an hour. It's totally possible the guy and his dad went outside and just got to talking, and before they knew it an hour or so had passed. What I'm getting from the post was that the tattoo wasn't huge, and it was probably dainty (just assuming so because it was flowers and the mom's first tattoo). So it's very possible to complete a tattoo in that time :)
It doesn’t sound like she’s a professional though and that’s what I can’t get over, I hate scratchers.
@@curlycrown3494 exactly what I got from it lol. Sounded like a young scratcher who bought a cheap machine and supplies online. Idc how "clean" someone thinks or says they are. A house and especially outside is filthy. Body mods isn't something to be half ass with on hygiene. I'd never get a tattoo or piercing that wasn't by a proper artist in a studio
As an artist myself I can tell you that even the quickest tat needs some time to be prepared. Like minimum 30 minutes, in a home studio propably even more to get everything properly sanitised. So either the story is fake or that girl has some very questionable work practices.
@@curlycrown3494 I can see where you get that, for sure. I just think there wasn't enough information to determine her skill level. Maybe she is or maybe she isn't, but I interpreted it as such. It's completely possible I'm wrong, but yeah.
@@cfol4437 certainly true, I would say. So there's either I formation the poster neglected to mention, like the time frame is incorrect, or it's just a lie.
I could never date someone who wasn't as much of an animal lover as I am. My boyfriend and I have dogs and he loves my cat and he instantly accepted that my guineapigs had 6 foot cages and their own bedroom lol.
That sounds awesome for the guinea pigs
lol when Ben made the comment about cristine being naked all the time, that was so funny, my reaction would’ve been exactly the same 😂 and she was definitely blushing!
I sometimes forget that they're adults with an adult relationship until Ben makes a little comment like that and I'm like 👀👀👀
That wolf clip made me gag, and I have a dog 😂
We didnt invite cousins to the main part of our wedding as they all had plus ones and kids and we did not want a huge ceremony and could not afford to provide for them all at the wedding meal. We did separate invites for the buffet and party in the evening as that was cheaper, and we did not mind that part being less intimate. I think that was a good compromise for our budget, our desire for a smaller ceremony and not hurting peoples feelings. Weddings cause so much agro 🤣
Thats weddings for ya. There is always drama.
i'm matching cristine in that julien merch today
Awe I loved last weeks episode, my fiancé and I were ranking them with you guys. But I’m glad to see you guys here this week and the podcast is a highlight of my Tuesday’s
Do you know why they would have taken it down? I hadn't gotten around to listening to it yet
@@TheLalalalani no idea
I washed my boyfriend's phone charger once because it was in his pocket 😬 so now I always check and he reminds me to as well
my best friend washed her boyfriend's airpods once! checking is good to do for sure lol
I always reminded my partner to check his own pockets because if I did it and found change/money its now mine lol
@@Raevynwing that's on him
Take the boy to the pound.
The cat stays.
I have accepted my toxo carrier status.
Thanks for clarifying about the last podcast being taken down, I seriously thought I hallucinated about the podcast upload
God I love this podcast! It’s so fun to listen to them talk about this subreddit
The Winnie the Pooh discussion killed me. I really enjoyed this episode thank you❤❤❤❤❤
At my wedding we only allowed actual couples. The single people bringing a random date wasn’t allowed. I didn’t want someone who they didn’t even know around. It worked out just fine, no complaints
"Fine - Put a lock on your closet. I'm just gonna stop washing your clothes then."
After the week I just had, I'm so grateful for Ben and Cristine for posting today. This podcast is always the highlight of my week
This episode was definitely the best of your AITA content on this channel. I love hearing you both just purely react without trying to over analyze the situations. It felt so organic and cathartic. Just like if I were conversing with my friends. Can’t wait for more like this! Your podcast always brightens my week
I would stop doing that man's laundry immediately. And honestly probably snoop on purpose at that point and maybe even leave atleast temporarily.....
Honestly, as someone who was hospitalized a lot last year, nurses and EMTs in the ER were typically very lighthearted and joking with each other, (I've never heard them call each other outrageous nicknames but) as a patient who was usually freaking tf out, having the people caring for me being relaxed and friendly with each other has sometimes made me feel a little safer and relaxed myself when in a very stressful situation. I always preferred the nurses and doctors who were more friendly and lighthearted in general, the hospital workers with sticks up their butts tended to believe me less, generally be less helpful, and make me feel guilty and stressed for being in the hospital (which is obviously something I couldn't control lol). Depending on the hospital, working conditions can be SUPER stressful. Last year, I was transferred to a different hospital for specialized testing, and before I could be admitted, I had to stay in the ER for a day and a half, and there were children and babies crying literally all night long, machines malfucioning, and so many patients that there were not enough beds or rooms for the patients, so there were sooooooo many patients just sitting in the hallway or outside of other patient's rooms, waiting hoooouuurrrrssss for treatment. I was only there for one night and one day before I was moved upstairs to a different sector, and it was absolute hell, I could not imagine the stress of having to work there every single day. The nicknames may be unprofessional, but tbh unprofessional/casual demeaner among ER nurses was something I saw a lot, and honestly my last concern as a patient.
okay i’m listening to this as i’m doing my laundry. tuesday is my day off and i usually clean the house while listening to this pod. the first one about the cat rubbing on the toothbrush made me think my cat would never do that. the pod keeps going and i’m listening to the tattoo one and my cat meows to go into the bathroom. my cat loves to drink sink water and never passes up a chance, so i let her in (we keep the door closed because she jumps in the tub then walks around the house with little wet paws and leaves toe bean prints all over). she jumps onto the counter and i happened to leave my toothpaste out and she immediately starts rubbing her face on it. apparently it’s not far fetched to think she would rub on my toothbrush.
my cat is a rescue, i used to work in vet medicine and my mom is a vet, and i kind of happened upon her. most people in vetmed have “messed up” animals because we’re good at caring for the ones with strange health things. my cat happens to have chronic rhinitis, and she sneezes snot globs a couple times a week when she has a sneezing fit. she’s also quite greasy and doesn’t groom herself because her nose is all messed up (that is the reasoning the feline internal medicine specialist told me-i got great discounts so she’s had nasal flushes and a CT and a rhinoscopy, and the specialist says there’s nothing we can do for my cat’s sneezing). many people find it very gross, but after seeing the gross things other pets have going on, i don’t think a little snot is all that gross. she sleeps on my pillow with me, and lots of people are horrified that sometimes she sneezes on me or the sheets and she’s sometimes a little smelly. but ultimately i wash my sheets very regularly, and i had her tested for fungal infections and stuff and they were negative so i know her condition won’t hurt me or anybody else. my partner also worked in vet med for a while and he doesn’t mind it either. though if he did he’d be sleeping on the couch-nothing could happen that would prevent my cat from sleeping with me in my bed because that’s what she wants and she gets what she wants.
just cat owner things. lol.
I like Cristine’s sweatshirt-looks cozy- and thank you for these AITAS podcasts-it highlights everyone has issues-large and small- and #1 yeah get rid of Kyle -CATS RULE 😻😻😻
Her sweater is Julien's new merch :D I love it
Listening to the first one while I’m in bed with my cat in my arm, kissing his face, and my dog is passed out with his paw against my forehead. 😂 Kyle would not approve
This podcast has been so important to me.
I've been watching it consistently, and it helps me do i.e. chores that I struggle with because they overwhelm me (mentally) and I break down otherwise, but with my mind kept off of things, I'm capable of doing things I normally couldn't even get to.
Not only that, you two are people we have all grown to feel extremely comfortable and at ease with and we value your opinions and learn from each episode you post. It's been a journey, and we're all incredibly grateful.
Thank you
I've never been this early 😭 I love the perspectives they give to these scenarios ❤️ these are some of my favorite episodes! Also stinks that people were rude last week 🥺
I'm sad because I really loved last week's pod and was hoping for a part two!!
I was traveling, so I missed it before it was taken down. I was really looking forward to it!! I wish they'd make it available for Menchie Gang members.
What was last week’s about?
@@gray_7 Ben created vacation ideas and Cristine tier ranked them :)
My sister is getting married next weekend. She and her partner are on a tight budget so they were really cautious with their guest list. They still decided to invite their close friend's partners and to the ones that they didn't invite they explained that they were on a budget and really wanted the ceremony to only include people that are close to them (this applies to family members too). Everyone was understanding. My boyfriend didn't get invited because we've only been dating a couple of months and I didn't get mad about it, I think it's completely understandable.
The wedding guest story made me laugh cause my sister in law took over our wedding and half our guests were her neighbors and friends that neither myself or husband knew.
The story about the grill just reminds me of an anime called "Food Wars!". The only way to prove who is superior is with a battle of the grills.
I am more concerned about the one not replacing her toothbrush's head regularly than anything...
Right? Like I was confused because she said it was expensive to replace but I’ve never heard of an electric toothbrush that doesn’t have a removable head. I change mine every couple months anyway. But maybe he was suggesting she gets an entirely new toothbrush?
@@nattcattt i agree.. i still agree that the boyfriend was in the wrong and unreasonable, but the only problem i have is that she probably should start keeping her toothbrush in a drawer after she replaces the head LOL
If it helps, there was an update and she confirmed that she replaced the toothbrush and started to keep it where the cat won’t get to it
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I realised I love these podcasts because Cristine so fully reflects my world view.
Tha k you both !!!! I am happy this is JUST the content I need right now
Love your username lol
I just had my wedding… I literally gave plus ones to everyone. We limited our guest count and assumed everyone had someone special they’d want to bring. The ones I didn’t know I freaking loved meeting them and they added joy to our celebration.
One thing I’m concerned about that I haven’t seen anyone else mention in the tattooed gf story is that the guy asked her to cover up her tattoos before meeting his parents…does that not seem like a red flag to anyone else? If her tattoos are what he likes the most about her as he so claims, then why would he ever ask her to cover herself as if her tattoos are something to be ashamed or embarrassed about? And what, does he expect his gf to wear long sleeves/pants for the rest of her life just so his parents won’t see?? Idk, that just doesn’t sit right with me. If he really cared about her and the way she artistically expresses herself, then he should have wanted to present her to his parents just the way she is, in her full authenticity :/ I agree with Ben & Simply in that maybe he has some control issues and he wants to be the one who dictates when, where, and to who the gf gets to express herself with her tattoos. He should be happy his parents and his gf get along! I think his parents accept her more than he does 😂
It could also just be a thing to protect the girlfriend from judgment. This story was wild, but usually conservative parents are conservative parents. Sometimes it’s best to maintain a cordial (but not close) relationship with extended family and occasionally covering up tattoos can be part of that. It is a thing to navigate together as a couple. The problem is this young man’s language, ‘telling her’ to cover up. It should always be a choice, not a command.
I kinda get him tho (I interpeted it as if he asked her to wear that clothing, not demmanded). He certainly has no right to dictate what she wears, but in this case it was for safety reasons. He thought that his parents were very judgemental and conservative, and probably he didn't want any confrontation. Maybe he wanted to protect his gf from negative comments, one never knows how accepting or mean other person will be. So I get how he kinda warned her about a possible negative outcome, and suggested her to change clothes to avoid that. Again, I interpreted as if he told her something along the lines of "My parents are very conservative and don't like tattoos, please wear long sleeves so that they don’t make any negative comments and you get along better", kinda asking but not demanding
Ben with the creeper stache "Christine you just don't understand what it's like to be a man at a grill. It's a very powerful thing."
I can't even
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Plus ones at weddings are so hard. You want people to have a good time by ensuring they have a close friend, but it can feel strange to have complete strangers at such an intimate ceremony. Probably the bride should have allowed long term couples to come 😂
Funky socks with a suit so great! I love when people do that.
I've just accepted that I'm the interloper. Feline Annie is absolutely head over heels for my spouse.
And if he doesn't want the person doing the laundry to empty his pockets... then he should be doing his own laundry. That man is up to no good.... either an illegal job or an affair.
My biggest issue with the "grave walker" post is that the new employee didn't take time to vibe the culture and then approach her issues with calmness and instead just stormed in and demanded changes. It didn't sound like sexual harassment or lewdness was taking place. And respectfully, to be treated with respect, you need to treat others with respect and it doesn't sound like she was doing that at all.
OH GEEZ!!! Sounds like sock lady and her coworkers that agreed with her were the fashion bullies in high school. That woman is such an AHOLE. Even as a female I love wearing fun socks when I have to dress professionally. No one cares and it makes me happy! And I know gentleman in their 60s, 70s, and even 80s who've been wearing flamboyant bow ties or suspenders or socks as a fun way to add color or pattern or personality to rather mundane professional business attire for men.
Okay... Zoom dude... its weird to be on Zoom without pants on. But its your house and if you wanna relax even fully naked, that's your prerogative but you also now have a live in girlfriend so time to discuss boundaries, house rules, and I guess just learn how to communicate.
Snow blower dude... you are not the ahole. They aren't paying you so its not your responsibility.
Bridezilla, you are the Ahole, the worst one of the lot I think. You should just elope with your parents and no one else and be done with it. You're absolutely ridiculous. My wedding was 63 people and if we had those rules... it would have been like, 15 people and very few members of his family and nearly all of his friends wouldn't have been there either because they were scattered across the country due to their careers. Gosh almighty I hate psycho brides.
Thank you for including the wolf video. I was about to look for it but then it was already playing!
Y’all really need to hype Christine and Ben up with this channel they deserve all the love for these masterpieces
About Sock Guy: When I was in middle school we had a teacher who always wore different fruit and animal socks, and occasionally he’d start lessons by mentioning his socks, and it just made everyone’s days slightly better. I do realise it’s different when it comes to kids, but he was reserved and sort of awkward and the socks sort of helped people warm to him, as well as worked as an icebreaker, even with the other teachers. He had a pair of broccoli socks, and they were sort of infamous in our class, every time he wore them, people would go “Broccoli socks!” and cheer. I really don’t understand what the big deal was, even if the environment was slightly more professional than a school setting.