Millennials are Being Set Up for Loneliness
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- Опубліковано 11 жов 2024
- I know I just did a video on this topic last week but Brittany and I had a great extended conversation on the topic. Hopefully you enjoy! :)
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We aren't being set up for loneliness - we are already there.
I'm ready to see how many of us will be single by 2030
Eddie: How bloody old are you?
Don't waste your time on some low-brow kiddie flick.There are more important things to worry about these days.
Eddie 'JaggSauce' Gluskin incubus, of course. I have found multiple heartless men and one heartless woman, all of whom I disapprove.
Denis Daly Bravo
Bottom line: If you want to have kids, have kids and don't shame other people for not having kids.
If you don't want to have kids, don't have kids and don't shame other people for having kids.
Yea just follow the basic etiquette; dont be a dick.
Cathy Dergy There needs to be some reconciliation between the two sides. We need to stop antagonizing each other, otherwise one will definitely oppress the other.
Cathy Dergy We should approach the more reasonable liberals. The ones who are willing to listen and won’t hate you for having a different opinion no matter how emotionally loaded the issues are.
I think it works really well when conservatives make the respectability of their character really clear and unmiddied. I’m a center-right person so I get flak and love from both sides.
lol, thats a recipe for failure DaiSei, its been tried and the left eats them for dinner. Basically a cloaked take the high road argument that just leads to failure. If the right wants to succeed it needs to learn the tactics of the other and not only counter it but use analogues that work against the other.
fudgelame And yet if you dont take the high road, you’re only proving to them everything they accuse you of. You need to prove their accusations unfounded.
it is super hard to raise kids. I'm a single father of 2 small children. I work 12 hour shifts and have to work tons of overtime to afford to give them things they need and want. I'm up at 4:30 everyday. the worst part is I don't get to spend nearly as much time with them as I would like. I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world. if anything i wish i had focused more on my education more when i was young so i could afford to give them a better life. and i wish i had be more scrupulous when choosing a partner so they could have a normal family. their mother ended up getting on drugs. she wasn't the person i thought she was. but the cliché of dads being deadbeats isn't always the case. ive devouted my whole life to my kids and i sacrifice my own wants everyday for them.
Stay strong my brother you're doing better than the single moms by standing on your own. It will take a decade of single fathers to better our world.
The cirrent economic and social situation makes it difficult. I think it was easier in the past when people had pensions and higher real wages and no drug epidemic.
I give a shoutout to.single moms and fathers tbat have their shit together, as well as couples that make it work too. Theres piece of shit dads and moms, and theres good moms and dads.
Only idiots don't realize that, Nathan. It's basic knowledge that there are good and bad single mothers and fathers. But we're on UA-cam where idiots congregate and like to stereotype single mothers, people on welfare, blacks, etc.
My dad worked all hours of the day and sacrificed a lot time to give us a good life I appreciate what he did he may not have been there as much but I knew he loved us so much and our mother was the deadbeat that didn't care for us and told us she wishes we weren't born cause we ruined her life
When I was young my mother told me, "If you wait to have children until you can afford it you won't have any." When I was a child we didn't have much, materially, but we had each other and we learned how to love through that.
Wouldn't the obvious solution be to not have things you cannot afford?
@@Cwilly13ify its also obvious not to wait for conditions to be perfect, otherwise nothing will ever be done.🤪
@@finding_aether why would being able to afford something be "perfect"?
@@Cwilly13ify huh.. i am not sure how old u are, but the fact is income tends to rise over time and it can be quite exponential. But biology capability falls over time. If u wait too long you might never be able to have kids, or may lack the energy to raise them correctly too. This is especially true for women. Don't forget hidden costs of delaying pregnancie.. for e.g. Health of the kids can be also affected if you delay for too long. Risk of complicatons during pregnancy is increased as well. Health can greatly affect wealth and quality of life.. and this should be factored in.
Many people i know regret delaying marriage and kids, and if they could go back in time, would have looked to plan financials better instead.
Of course its your personal choice, and also your personal consequences.
But the solution is not as "obvious" as you think it is.
I had both parents growing up, father was abusive and alcoholic. I had no love or safety.
I still think of marriage as a joke
So many decent people in the modern world cannot make a living, find a life partner, and start a normal life.
I know its bad to make excuses, but seriously, the world today is fucked up.
Kurt Gödel Then it's time to revert back to your natural instincts and start scavenging your own nutrition. Just saying if modern society were to fail, it would be time to get our hands dirty again
But not the whole world. Finding that partner and living that life is worth searching for
Find someone who's never been on Facebook. That'll probably be a good start.
Does living single qualify as "abnormal" to you? why?
The world has always been fucked in fact today in north america we sit like kings maybe you are the fucked up oke
A lot of people in their twenties don’t have money, because of debt from school. People in our generation most likely won’t be able to afford a house. Is it selfish to not want to raise your kids in poverty?
Have kids = selfish. Don't have kids = selfish. It's all in the narrative twist...
Well, literally everything you do is for selfish gain
The difference is that having kids in order to have a happy life actually ADDS something to the world, but living selfishly is only good for you.
..it's All straight out of the Agenda 21 / 2030 / 2050 playbook.. Just look it up, all right there in plain sight.. >_
You definitely need to learn to be happy in yourself first.|
And even if you are, you might be miserable...at least temporarily because of having kids.
Some children are assholes, regardless of how you raise them. Some kids are incredibly difficult because of a particular handicap.
I have one of each and it has been a 5 year fight to get the asshole to be less assholey and the other one is always going to be autistic.
Adding something of what quality?
More people are not a good in and of themselves. Having kids could wind up adding nothing but trouble to the world depending on a myriad of factors.
And if you think that you can raise kids to be good people then you simply don't know many kids or parents. Crap parents produce crap kids most of the time, but being a good parent doesn't necessarily overcome a difficult kid's personality.
I'm white male and 56 yrs old... I never had children.. and of course never will... to late for me.. and not going to have a child push me down the ramp at his high school graduation in a wheel chair. I never had children for simple reason.. I never found a woman that wanted a child with me. I am single and haven't been with a woman in a very long time...and it looks like I may live the rest of my life alone.
Don't worry man you are part of the 80 percent of men that women find unattractive.
maybe try a TPE sexdoll Frank, im serious, they are getting better and better
Did you try one? I can't say i'm not intrigued.
yes i tried one because i was very sick for many years, and it was actually really nice i have to say. When I started to recover from my illness i threw it away and gave dating a shot, still single but trying tho, maybe when i reach Franks age and im still alone ill buy another one
How are you finding the dating Weasel? It's a mess isn't it? Women are just so... innocently dishonest, to themselves and others. It's just all so pretentious. Well, my two cents. I'm just a mgtow weasel too.
There is only one good reason to have kids: You actualliy want them.
Yep. Why would anyone encourage someone to have them that doesn't want them? I say if someone wants kids and can do it..let them have 10 if they want it. If someone wants none..leave them alone and let them not have any. The most stupid thing to do is convince someone to have kids when they don't want them.
humans don't know what they want, they need to be programmed. which is what the media/entertainment/government/etc. industries do.
if none of those industries existed and humans just lived off natural instincts alone. children would be created, taken care of and loved.
that is the natural order of things.
media is playing god and shakin things up a bit, and results aren't good for humans, but are great for those who control humans.
Nick Holmes I despise kids and would never want them. Prove me wrong
Minorities have a bunch of kids in hopes 1 will get a football scholarship and make money for the family.
And i think as an evolved species we have the ability to recognize the limited resources we have. Too many Kids just dilutes your share of resources (ie. amount of money you have).
Exactly! People don't recognize their own brainwashed minds. It's biological to want to have kids. Our species wouldn't have survived if everyone felt that it was "too hard". Being afraid of how much work they are and wondering if you're up to the task is not really the same as outright not wanting them. I know I was trained that motherhood was 'beneath' an intelligent woman and I had a hard time shaking that mentality even though a part of me always knew it was wrong. Brainwashing is powerful and gets to you without realizing it a lot of the time. Once I was married I had to ban myself from watching romantic comedies because they were negatively affected how I viewed my husband -- and I thought I was too smart to be affected by "dumb movies". They still did even with my guard up!
No one is 'READY" to have kids. And yeah, the thought of "this is forever....I'm still going to be a mom even when they are 18 and out of the house". I'm a mom until I die. But you take it one day at a time. The first time they smile at you (around 3 to 5 weeks) makes up for A LOT.
Most women spend their 20's living an absolutely hedonistic, self-centered lifestyle and realize way too late they wasted the most productive years of their lives. Most men don't have a chance to attract a woman by looks alone, and the state already provides financial and physical security. So most men go through their 20's lonely and feeling useless, using video games to get from day to day.
Alex BT word
Berserkism yes, if that's your opinion, I would agree effort is the issue.
Alex B
All that for what?? GTFOH simp!
Some salty little ladies in this comment thread.
Alex BT I know plenty of guys, myself included, who work out, eat well and have jobs or are in the later stages of a decent education. Doesn't matter, women prefer to be conquest #56 of some random hot guy on Tinder. Also, I'm not gonna put on some joker fuckboi persona just to try to attract a woman.
Nameless King I couldn't agree more man.
Give people an incentive to have children. Change the laws to make woman responsible. No more wealth transferred & government handouts for divorce.
Wtf does 'change the laws to make woman responsible' mean?
No more publicly funded infanticide clinics that enable sluts to be more slutty.
You don't even have to be married to them to be slugged with 18 years of sex debt payments... Single mothers are the highest paid prostitutes in the world - 1 root nets them an average of approx. $93,000, calculated at today's rates, in child support payment over 18 years in Australia... per child... more if the guy is above Av. wage...
And in what way exactly are women not held legally responsible for our actions?
Mate, if you expect to have healthcare when you need it, then so do women. Abortion is a healthcare procedure that exists because it's safer than pregnancy.
No discriminating against women just because you want power over reproduction. You don't have any.
Deciding to NOT have children is NOT selfish. Selfish is to have children that you are unprepared or simply do not care for.
Is it selfish if you're 100% prepared financially and ready. But still don't?
@@BboyDaquack Not at all. We are in an overpopulated world.Not all of us should be having children. If you are financially set to have children but don't want to have children then you are not prepared emotionally to have children.
Even in China, the most populated country on the world, has a 1 kid policy per family and its working well the population there is slowly decreasing. So “the world being overpopulated” for not having children is an invalid argument.
Overpopulation BS
@@alexhernandez9918 Ok, then how about the argument, "I do not want to have children" ? Are people actually arguing here that it is some kind of a duty to have children?
"Don't have kids, the world is already overpopulated!"
"Give money to save poor pregnant African women!"
Choose one.
Just donate to planed parenthood, kill two birds with one stone. Just tell Hillary to open up plan parenthood's in Africa I'm sure she can make money off of it like they do here in the USA
"Do God's will!" Choose it.
My Ingroup Idol Did Nothing Wrong no the entire world population could live in Florida
B Gone donate to nuclear weapons
Make sure to save that money to buy the $1000 iPhone
I'm the only male descendant with my last name, when I die alone in a trailer in texas no one will ever have this name again.
KInda sucks
Does your last name happens to be "poopybutthole" by any chance?
My name just isn't super common, it's not like Dfdsdfgdg or anything, it's just in my entire "Bloodline" like cousins 50 times removed I am the ONLY male, which means that after me no member of my bloodline will ever have the last name of my line ever again (Interesting to note my mother's maiden name line also doesn't have any males, so her maiden name (Cheffings) is just gone now)
I don't either but every now and then I'll get a call from out of the country (I'm a new zealand immigrant to america) and it'll be some random relative i've never met upset I don't have children.
Sorry Hatter00, I Didn't mean to offend you with this light hearted and what I considered topical statement about a quirky and I would assume (Though I freely admit I have no data) rare situation that I am in; During which I engaged in discussions in the comments in which I revealed that I infact, Don't care, and like most youtube comments you are in fact not in a position to remedy the situation about which I have commented, This was however not my intention and instead intended to make a casual and topical comment.
I do not think your advice is relevant to me, as even if I could afford a prostitute i would find such actions repulsive, I work 1900-0700 and on my days off their are not many other people awake, and the ones that are are not people i would like to socialize with, while I could spend all of my free time "finding someone" I feel this would be a colossal waste of my time, as I am currently trying to spade every aircraft on War Thunder in the Royal Air Force tech tree, which is more feasible and the results are sure.
Why should anyone have to justify it.
People who want kids should. I personally love being a mom.
People who don't want to have kids, shouldn't. It doesn't make everyone happy and may not be a happy environment for the kids.
Thank you for your accepting, decent comment amidst so many hateful ones.
Why would a guy have kids? Ultimately they belong to the mother and the state and the father is just the schmuck who pays for them!
If that's your attitude that is what you will get. Aim higher, and you will get more. Right now you are ruled by cynicism, anger, fear. Who wouldn't run from that? Project courage, devotion, hope, and caring. No woman walks away from those qualities. It's up to you what you build, not society. Do you really think all you are worth is bill paying? If not, then stop saying that. You don't even sound alive. Passion and optimism could take you much farther.
Another man who lives in a basement, has no experience with women, yet thinks he knows them all and how they all act because of what he read on 4chan
Exactly! Go MGTOW!
This is why MGTOW is still considered retarded. You're just as drastic as the leftards. Yes, treat women like commodities, but understand that they're necessary for procreation and therefore advancing our species, and if you're a genuinely decent person, you may find one that is a little less evil than the rest.
Chooselove 4all are u a hallmark card?
I don't want to have kids because I don't. There doesn't need to be a reason. Its my business and mine alone. I am not a person that particularly likes kids and I am not going to have a child if I know that I am not going to be happy as a result.
I'm a girl in my 20s, still a virgin by choice, and many women would look down on me or think something is wrong with me today. I would like to have children one day; I know it's NOT easy but I really do think it would be fulfilling to raise a new life, share my life with them, teach them many things while I also learn from them. While I don't have a problem with people who choose to be childfree, I do find it sad how the notion of having children or being a stay-at-home mom has become a negative thing. Too boring, too unambitious, too sexist, too ordinary, etc. - It sounds like a better deal to me then growing old, obese, alone and in student debt with cats for the rest of my life.
same girl, same. It'll be so easy for me to have sex with whoever, but I chose to wait and not sleep around- mainly because of my christian upbringing, partly because of std's. I'd love to be a stay at home mom, too. I'm so excited to have kids and be a wife, but it's like everyone around me is going into school debt and don't want to settle down until they're 30.
Don't know where you got all that from my simple comment, but by your own logic, you yourself are a "crotch dropping", dipshit.
Amalthea16 i am a Boy 19 and also a Virgin by choice. I just feel the exact Same way as you did
Sex is overrated anyway. You're not missing much.
Savage Cabbage of course it is overrated. It is being pushed by the Media to be "the greatest thing in the World" wich is simply Not true. I can thing of Many things that are better than this
Im 25yr old introvert and i do prefer loneliness over bad company
bad company will make you feel more loneliness
Rather have a empty life than a life full of shit
Dadra55 preach
Yep.
Too many fake people. Too many users.
A lot of men who have tried to start families will die alone, nevertheless. Their children were taken from them after a divorce, then estranged at least subtly, so that they don't visit Dad, and they won't be there when he's dying. It's a toss-up whether they'll bother to attend his funeral. However, they probably will show up to claim whatever wealth he left behind.
Good, maybe that wealth will make up for all those years he decided to get drunk and beat his wife while calling her a slut and whore for refusing to sleep with him
@real co Triggered..!
Hi David. You make a nice point about 'subtle estrangement' that is usually overlooked in polarised discussion. And that estrangement is a "thing" in law its called alienation of affection. But how shitty is it, when a son grows up thinking that when it comes down to it, he doesn't even have father? When he does and one that loves him too but the bio- father is pushed out of the circle? Many son's feel that way these days. You might say it is a lose-lose situation here. Heart ache all round. It's natural to conclude by observation then that Feminism has won the gender wars. It has successfully created a impressive automatic destruction machine of men young and old. It's over gentlemen. So MGTOW is a perfectly good survival mechanism and way to preserve and protect your (battered) self-respect.
Real Co Ya because every formerly married couple had the husband beating up and drinking alcohol continuously. *sarcastic* Anymore it’s more likely the wife’s fault for divorce in that they are more likely to be verbally and sometimes physically abusive to the partner. Not saying that aren’t alcoholic wife beaters out there but due to modern feminism women have become more vain and less moral in recent times. Any father in a abused either verbal or physical do your best to get out! Hide cameras to record the abuse so when or if you have to file for divorce you may have a better shot of getting the kids than she will! Good luck!
Xx Yy--oh yes. Women not like the used to be. Found out they had choices and don't take the crap the were once expected to. As for fathers, there are none who really don't give a good god damn. MUCH!
You have missed a huge factor why some people (mainly men) aren't settling down with marriage and raising a family. The divorce rate is 50%. Most men get screwed over in family court and have their children taken away from them. These men would otherwise want to get married and have kids if the deck wasn't stacked against them.
Kyle P You don't need to get married. Not all men have their children taken from them. You're spewing hyperbole.
CUCKHOLD SHADY 10 plus men?HAHAHAHAHA That's most girls' count in the first years of high school. If more people started criticizing the culture that tells girls to be whores there would be some change. But no, people are too afraid of being called "backwards", "fanatic", or, THE worst: "homophobic". Because if you'd rather young girls not listen to songs about dick bicycles and how they should get wasted and fuck random strangers then you are backwards. STOP GIVING A SHIT ABOUT THE OPINION OF DEGENERATES, THEY CAN GO FUCK THEMSELVES
Ruthless did I say all men? But it has happened to far to many. I am not spewing hyperbole by pointing that out. Also, even if you don't agree that it's a common occurrence there's no doubt that many men do which is why many are choosing not to get married and have a family. And it's not an irrational belief for them to have.
That divorce stat is skewed. Much like the 3 in 4 rape stat touted on college campuses, the divorce stat is skewed by individuals who get multiple divorces. A google search should clear this up. (Nonetheless, I understand the hesitance of most men towards marriage.)
Due to compound probability it is over 90% over 10 years.
Millennials have tons of education debt, the cost of living (rent/mortgage) is extremely high, and the pay for jobs is low. If we want population growth, we need to address these issues.
Jim Bob Nah fuck all that, the rich need tax cuts and I'm too worried about Muslims and whether other people have kids or not
Stop thinking Government will or should pay for everything
Nick O You are above average and you're making it happen for yourself. Good work!
Jackblood The US needs a good apprentice system
Jim Bob - Some say those who run the economy have decided to drastically decrease the population. Look up Agenda 21 depopulation.
Change family courts and I'll consider it.
Not just family courts, but the whole "justice" system. As long as sexist bills like the VAWA get drafted, lobbied, passed, and signed into law, men are getting screwed over.
Working on it. Changing law in CA
If the MGTOW movement did something instead of complaining about how unfair the world is then the laws might have already changed. If beta males didn't bow down to feminists in the hopes of getting laid these laws might not even have come into existence in the first place.
Rich FiveFiveSix don't bother, dude, no on needs you to have kids
when social justice warriors cry about opression, the justice system is litterly the most corrupted and opressive to not only blacks but white men too. they need a rework
Let's keep things simple. If you want to have kids, have kids. If you don't, then don't. Sitting around and criticizing each other for your life decisions is a waste of time. Just do you.
I just had my first child last month, and I can’t picture a world without her. My heart is so full! Can’t wait to have more.
fifilarox 93 Get back to the kitchen you feminist bitch
fifilarox 93
You look good tho
No one gives a shit, your oppinion was not needed.
Don't mind the looser sub males here, it's a "safe place" for them, until they hopefully get themselves together by first not blaming everyone else for their plight. Congratulations on the child, I do hope you two can be part of a growing family.
Congratulations! Have lots of babies that will keep you company and make you happy forever. Real happiness is love.
Inb4 leftypol comes in to rage about Britt and I not having kids yet even though we're both in our early twenties and have no intentions of contributing to single motherhood :)
Lauren Southern
Do you love me?
Lauren Southern what do u think about MGTOW? They r not worried about the kids, but the wives.
Good video Lauren. Girls need more good role models like you and Brittany. Tips fedora.
You're awesome Lauren. And intelligent. People that try to tell you what to do only want to control you. They be control freaks which means they've lost control over their crappy lives and so they seek to control others.
try a russian hacker. there seems to be plenty
People have kids for selfish reasons. Other people don't have kids, also for selfish reasons. If you're walking around thinking you're a martyr for making either of those decisions, you're unbalanced.
I grew overnight as a man when I had my child. My family created me who I am today. Children will change you for the better. They are amazing!
Not gonna have a kid, too many feminist, don't wanna put a kid through this.
I'm not having kids on the fear of getting taken to the cleaners by family court. I've witnessed it first hand from friends and family. No thanks!
So i heard two gay guys tell me not to have kids. Now im listening to two childless girls telling me to have them.
Relax, they are still very young. Their kids are coming, and they will be angels.
Didn't think of this before, but one must consider that these two might have as much trouble finding stable, balanced traditional guys as we stable, balanced traditional guys have in finding stable, balanced traditional women.
Deep Center Field Press well, Pettibone apears to be on that road already. Concidering the type of family she was raised in, she will probably be pregnant in a year or so.
braydenhopkins LMFAO
Lol Lauren is around my age. I don't think having babies in your early twenties is a good idea. And I already have a guy I'm going to marry anyway. Relax. They will be popping babies out before you know it
braydenhopkins + 1, and these two attractive childless girls wouldnt want to have kids with me.
You forgot to mention a few statistics: half marriages end in divorce, average cost of a child a quarter of a million dollars, and don't forget alimony... Did I mention over half a million kids in US are foster without a home. How about adopting a child? Is that selfish? Oh yes all parents genes are genius material;)
Feminism "gone wild" and half of marriages ending in divorce, have created children with no reference on what a family is about. Men don't know how to treat women like men, and vice versa, so forget about building a family. You need a good reference, and most families nowadays are anything but a good reference.
Best comment I've seen so far
Actually it’s worse. Of the remaining married couples most are miserable and only sticking it out till the kids are grown.
So shame everyone??
Dont forget about 70 percent of those divorces are initiated by women.
Here's an even bigger statistic for you. Over 50% of marriages end in divorce, but over 70% of those divorces are initiated by women. Let that sink in...
Less than a month after this video was posted my wife and I had our first child. I have lost sleep making me very tired at work and my company is rapidly approaching it's busiest season of the year. I have spent nice amount of money so far and I'm going to need to spend more. Yet despite all that, becoming a dad has been awesome. I love my daughter so much, the joy she has brought my wife and myself is indescribable, you can't put a price on it. It is legitimately the second best thing that has happened to me, the first was marrying my wife.
HandyMan101 I happen to believe that not getting divorced is an option. I also believe that whether or not you get divorced depends heavily on the way you treat your spouse. In other words if you marry an emotionally stable person and shower them with love even when you don't feel like it, you should be ok.
HandyMan101 well being an orthodox Jew married to an orthodox Jew, if she wants to remarry she needs a Jewish divorce which requires either my consent or she needs to prove that I'm abusive (two adult witnesses). Additionally we tend to have a lot of kids so if I get locked up for not paying child support and alimony there's no way she's going to find or earn the money it'll cost to raise them on her own.
HandyMan101 my advice for young men like yourself who are hesitant to marry, is something we do in the Jewish community that you guys can really learn from, that is background checks, find out what she's like, if she's emotionally stable and you consistently show her that you love her and you're there for her, even when you don't feel like it. My wife treats me like a king because I treat her like a queen, and because she's an amazing human being and an awesome women.
Also the notion that women have nothing to lose by divorcing their husbands is a feminist lie. Any women that doesn't buy into feminist horse manure knows that women in general as opposed to men feel the need for companionship, marriage and family.
HandyMan101 what's stopping you from getting married religiously without the legal marriage?
HandyMan101 you can have a wonderful life and marriage without getting legally married.
I never wanted kids, but I fell pregnant and decided to keep my kid. I use to be depressed but my son fulfills me and my depression faded away. I feel loved and complete as a human, woman. You don't need alot of kids. A kid brings more happiness than a life partner who will disappoint you and I enjoy my kid he learns me more out of life then when I had no kid. Life felt pointless working for what? To buy stuff and waste money on meaningless relationships.
Samantha Smith absolutely well put.
Don't you think it's selfish to have a kid and not being able to look after him/her the way they deserve. Selfish are the ones who have kids just for the sake of it.
Or worse, pumping out kids to take advantage of welfare. There's no shortage of people on this planet, the odd couple not pumping out kids is not going to rip the fabric of society.
KingOfGames Yep, for them it's like buying puppies for christmas.
MGTOW: When a man acts in his own self-defense.
This aged well 😊
why am i watching a video about kids when i can't even get a girl smh, talk about puttin' the cart before the horse ffs get a grip jordan
thinking about kids and a family will make you live the right way and be a real man. so it's good.
i'm in the same box as you. i'm 20.
FUCK THEM BITCHES BWOYYY U CAN DO THIS!!!
you can get Lauren though, he's a dude.
paul puppe Dude, I think that's a pretty shallow view of women. Last time I checked they're just people like you and me. Dogs are great but it's not the same as true human companionship. I don't think looking at relationships in terms of economics is healthy. Would you use the same market approaches for your family and friends? It sounds like you've had some pretty bad experiences. I'm not pedastaling all women either, because some are as you described. But others are full of virtue and worthy of admiration. It's difficult to gain the respect of an individual when you view her as nothing more than a part of a larger, vaguely defined group with pre-established motivations you can't possibly know.
PEOPLE NEED TOM AKE CHEATING ILEGAL..SO WHOEVER CHEATS MUST PAY MONEY TO THE PERSON HE CHEATED ON
I think people forget that Africa is a CONTINENT and every country there is not poor. So the whole “starving Africa” mindset is a huge generalization. That’s the major problem with Macron’s statement about Africa’s issue. Africa’s issue has been people robbing the continent of their resources and mass genocide for centuries. That is all. I like your viewpoint about the topic of having kids. I agree with you all on that. 😊
Imbecile.
Foreign intrusion of African nation's has definitely impacted them and the people in them. However, the leaders through out most of the continent still grasp on to governance rooted in tribal practices. Until the African nations develop amiable coexistence with one another and aren't in constant fear of being invaded by their neighbor, or overthrown by their own military they will continue to be plundered. Europe was bent over and abused by the Otts and other Muslim Empires for many many centuries; almost an entire millennia. Then European nation's began to cooperate and took back the European continent, secured it's borders and didn't allow other outside powers to exploit them
Daniel Bohensky I think your response is a testament to the mindset of European privilege. Your statement is analogous to someone saying “I was victimized and got over it so you should too.” You minimize the great extent that African “colonization” really affected the countries in Africa for centuries and generations at the hands of those who are still in power and benefit from it. An entire continent robbed and raped of its resources for CENTURIES. This could be an actual video in and of itself. European colonization has done the same for every place that they laid their feet. I like to call it the reverse Midas touch. Anyhow, when the oppressors have benefited so greatly, are in power currently and the people are crippled into relying on the oppressor for survival, this is much easier to say and a much more complex than the blanket statements I hear on this matter. Furthermore, I rarely see the countries in Africa who are flourishing brought up in this narrative. Again, Africa is a continent.
Keena BE Says I was slightly trolling tbh. Humanity has existed for 25,000+ years. The cultures, regions, and nations that take on the responsibility of being the era's driving force in mankind's advancement is in constant flux. Their existence, in my opinion, is rooted in the emergence of seemingly mythological leaders and thinkers who are inspired and guided by a society that collectively realizes the magnificence of their culture.
The people of Africa have suffered greatly, and many analysts predicted a decrease in population, the collapse of every nation and a decline in global economic engagement; but all of them were wrong. To not only survive but also advance as a whole is a testament to the unbreakable spirit of the African people.
Empires collapse, the values and morals of cultures are forgotten and destroyed by it's own people. The absolute authority granted to those who take control of humanity's direction is achieved when their influence and power allows them to direct others without question and act without retaliation. Many great things can be achieved by those holding this position, but over time corruption is bred and it becomes a tool for the morally void.
The era of European dominance is coming to an end. We entered the age of decadence half a century ago. The moral framework established by the values of Christianity have been completely dismantled. I'm not saying it is the superior belief, but rather it is where we found purpose and guidance.
I wasn't trying to belittle the suffering of the African people. What I was trying to communicate is that Europe realized it's potential and united because of the prolonged collective suffering. Peace and love, I'm cool with wherever we go.
Understood and thank you for sharing your viewpoint. There is a lot of truth in your statement here. Peace and love to you too.
I'm a single dad and I take good care of my children. What men don't want is marriage to some crazy woman. And no that does not apply to all girl of course there's thousands of amazing girl out there but the risk to reward isn't worth it
Avoid any and all who majored in lesbian dance therapy or any of the oppressed minority degrees. Marry a traditional girl, not some purple haired hefalump with more nose rings than fingers. My buddy found this out the hard way.
I agree....Men need to do a better job of choosing the women they procreate with and marry. They need to stop picking heartless, worthless whores and then wondering why things fell apart.....need to stop thinking with their cocks!! That's why I am still single even though I do want a family....I will NOT settle!!! I REFUSE to do what so many other men do and get with a shitty useless broad just because I want sex or I'm lonely or whatever. It may take me longer, but once I find the Right woman, it will be a bond for Life....NO divorce!!!
HI CA. thinking of a new book "Man of the House:building a shelter that will last in a world that is falling apart" I thought of Lauren and Brittany and their discussions when I same this book of Men holding a family together. PAX
Not having kids is selfish?
Having kids is selfish too.
No its not selfish
@@martinezm8934 Good comeback. Can't argue with nothing.
No, not taking care of the kids is neglectful and selfish. Creating life is quite the opposite of selfish.
@@AmazingStoryDewd You didn't want kids before you had them?
@@martinezm8934 Lets say you want kids. You're the one who wan't them, so that's selfish. Let's say you don't want kids. You're the one who don't want to have kids. You're still selfish. Does it make you good or bad? Neither. You're selfish for wanting them and you're selfish for not wanting them because it's a choice that starts with you. It's a desire or a lack of desire that comes from you. How you deside to treat them after they're born is a completely different subject.
The reason why people do not want children or stable relations is not because they're worried about demographics or because they're more materialist than before. The real reason is because men now see marriage as a "disadvantageous contract". On the one hand, women want to find the "perfect match" (a man that is educated, handsome and successful), and they delay marriage until they find that specific person. On the other hand, men do not want to get married because they fear the divorce, which has become, in their view, that disadvantageous contract I was talking before; if you get divorced, you have to pay pensions and all that sort of things, and they feel that the law is not on their side because this one assumes that women has always the reason. This is a very interesting phenomenon though, that I can only see it's happening in developed countries like the U.S. and Europe.
As if that's any different when it comes to children. A child is going to cost more than some lady one has a child with, that I can tell you.
Interestingly enough, I know men who receive pension from their children's mother. The reason being that he is the one taking care of the kids; they're in his custody.
I cannot agree more! You, my friend, should become a politician :D I'm just amazed by how much sense this comment made. Thank you for taking the time to write it down.
I have only one note: They were talking about why having kids can be a good thing just to kinda let the people know that having kids is Ok. They did not implied that you absolutely have to have them.
Cat Shannon, you bring up an interesting point of view. Is your information anecdotal or has there been data collected to corroborate your comments?
I can find myself in general agreement with men choosing not to enter into marriage because of the high risk of divorce and the financial and personal devastation that follows.
I was fortunate enough to get custodial rights awarded to me for my two children at the time of my divorce in 2007. Shockingly, the court set my ex's child support payments at the state minimum of $50, or $25 per child, per month. If I had not been awarded custody of my kids my lawyer told me to be prepared for me to pay about $500-$650 per month to their mother.
I asked why the huge difference even though our incomes at the time were nearly equal. He said it is because judges in Washington State factor in potential wage growth and future earnings of the man moreso than for a woman! I was stunned.
This is a small piece of the anecdotal information that I use in my current relationships. Actually, I'm not even in a relationship because I focus the majority of my free time and money on my son who is nearly 15 now and in high school. His events, after-school activities, and what nots are where my priorities have been for the past decade. My last serious relationship ended in 2012.
Bottom line, I agree with your pount of view but would like to read some hard evidence, if you have any?
Thanks, Rich.
Hi Peter, it's been a while since I wrote my previous comment, so I do not remember exactly the whole video (and I'm not interested in seeing it full again) but, if I remember correctly, the video started with some comments about some gay people that "recommended" not having children for selfish purposes. Then, as you clearly point out, the hosts of this channel wanted to express their point of view about why having an offspring is fine. However, I felt obliged to make a clarification of what I think are the real reasons why men are avoiding relationships. This, of course, with the simple intention of enriching the debate. Peace.
As a millennial pregnant with her third kid, I can tell you that being a parent is hard. It's hard because you have to grow up, be an adult, and take responsibility for helpless little lives that suddenly depend on you for survival. You can't lease an expensive car, waste your money on fancy clothes, and spend all of your time however you want. But it's amazing, worth every sleepless night, and every penny that you now put in savings. Being a parent forces you to think about the future of our country. It's incredibly rewarding to raise children and work on a marriage. Good things don't come easily. Lauren had it right that being happy and being fulfilled are completely different. I'm not happy all of the time, but there's an undercurrent of joy, and a feeling that I'm making a difference in this world by raising my little ones. Let them be the future. :)
Caitlin Peters I just threw up
La la la Ha ha ha very mature, I'm sure when you get older you might realize how cringe worthy you are. But until then remember that Jesus loves you, and God bless.
Breeders make me sick
Good we need to remove faulty genetics from the pool, thanks for helping ;p
I seem to rememer there have been studies that show once a person becomes a parent, they become more conservative on issues like immigration - because now they have more of an interest in how the society will turn out for their kids.
I'm not having kids. I'm not going to get married, get my wife pregnant and then wind up paying her child support for 18 years while never getting to see my kid. I hear these girls throwing around the word "entitled" but I would argue they're pretty damn entitled.
If you can't afford to have children you probably should not have them. Remember it's clothes, hair, teeth, education, furniture, health care, etc, etc, etc.
My husband and I are currently pregnant with our first child and I'm SO EXCITED! Great video =)
Congratulations! :)
Wow, finally, an upbeat non-political comment! Congrats~
Congratulations. Please name him Vlad the impaler. We are going to need a new one for the days ahead.
RIP SyncKo's intelligence.
Congrats! Hope he/she is healthy and strong :D
I got 2 boys now, not spending all my money on booze means I'm actually better off.
Wow, a woman who says "Pass on your bloodline."
That's a heavy ass number dood. Disavow.
People over estimate the difficulty in rasing children, but underestimate the value your adult children bring you in life.
Thankfully only in the West thanks to Liberal Media.Everywhere else we have retained Common Sense and Familial Duty.
I am 58. Oftentimes the loneliest people are not alone. I live alone but am not lonely. I don't compromise my principles to be like others so that I can be accompanied by anyone.
The loneliest person is lonely in a crowd. The least lonely person is fine with themselves. Really it is all about accepting the fact that we are all alone regardless of what surrounds us.
Go your own way.
Complete Bagel If you’re lonely in a crowd, then you need to work on your social skills. The only reason someone is alone in a crowd is because they don’t know how to make friends. That’s a personal problem.
With internet porn and cam girls you don't even need a gf anymore
mario condello So that's how you handle being alone?
My 4 year old daughter came home from kindergarten , crying because she thought that there were boys living inside the bodies of the girls in her class and they were trying to get out , It took me a while to figure out WTF she was talking about . turned out to be some transgender book the teacher was reading to the class . scary times to be a parent especially if you want your child to grow up sane
triggered Tyrone Have you consider changing school?
Li Su Pei , well she has 2 best friends at that school I think moving her to a new school where she doesn't know someone would just make her feel anxiety and probably angry and cause her to misbehave , I told her that some boys don't want to be boys anymore and some girls want to be boys so they change , she asked why and how I just said they go to the doctor , then she said I'm a girl I don't like boys , she seems fine back to normal
Yep you should see what's going on in Europe (especially Scandinavia). Kids are being brain-washed beyond belief. They even have fucking slides at the park in the shape of penises... It's disgusting & a form of child abuse.
Oh relax, just explain it to her and move on. If you don’t make a big deal out of it kids will just accept it as part of the real world, which I it is.
God damn that's horrifying.
I'm 43 and I absolutely regret not having kids cause I was to busy partying and the women around me weren't the marrying kind. it haunts me everyday.
I am 52 and these young people don't understand that feminism made women delusional about having kids when they are older and if women are not excited about having kids as you willattest then men the same age are not either. Women have always been the ones to push for children.
my dad had me when he was 58 , so your not too old
Abraham was 100 when he had kids
As long as you can nut you can breed!
Bryan Cobb
it isn't too late. I am 21 dating a 45 year old and some days I want to have kids with him maybe it'll happen. You never know
Thank you lady’s for restoring my hope in the humanity of woman.
You two are like a breath of fresh air given how extremely rare it is
to come across genuine gems 💎 like you in a world that’s infested with self absorbed plastics.🙏🏻
I dont understand why people need to justify wanting to have kids or not. I dont want kids. Not because of the cost or time it takes. But just because I dont want kids. The only counterargument people throw out there is that someone wont pass down their genes etc. So what, I dont need to pass down my genes.
Gaming with Lever True, why do people NEED to pass on their genes? They're not going to be around to see it?
because were programmed to do so. not that i want kids. i understand how it works tho. the best shot of dopamine youll ever receive. and some people confuse that with being a parent. which is sick.
Gaming with Lever *facts*
Can't know for sure -- but from what little I have to go by ("gaming with lever") and "just because", your genes are not exactly of great quality. Best to make room for others, those not thinking "me" all the time. Thank You.
People of yesterday understood it wasn't all about them. Today people actually think it's ALL about them when it's not. Your purpose in life is to bond and mate and procreate.
It's very dangerous to assume that people aren't having kids because they simply choose not to or are selfish. The reality is the choice is hardly there because the way the world is right now is making it harder and harder to not only have kids, but far more important, TO GIVE THEM A GOOD LIFE.
What parent can honestly say they don't have a problem with being unable to give their children a good life? Not everyone is wealthy enough to have kids. Not everyone has a strong enough social safety net to care for the kids once they are born. If you have parents you can call for help when you're in trouble, you will never understand just how difficult life is for those of us who do not.
Well if a woman in africa can have 8 children without being able to afford school, transport, maybe electricity, and the children turn out fine, why couldnt someone who is poor in the us have 2 kids?
I don't have any plans for kids in the foreseeable future, my girlfriend of 5 years won't shut up about them. I don't want kids because I don't want them to be taken away from me, and be forced to become an every other weekend father. Won't happen. The circumstances will have to be perfect for me to even consider it, and I'm not there yet.
Capn Genie smart man. Don't ever let her trap you!!
+Some Fella It takes far more then "Trust" nowadays. A woman can go out of her way and leave the man when she gets bored and takes everything from her. Until laws change to give men the same rights women have when it comes to marriage you're always going to have guys like this. Its national to not to want to lose everything.
Not having kids and living your life because you can't afford them isn't selfish, it's responsible and intelligent! I don't make enough money and don't need the responsibility. Between my full time job and a little extra money I make on the side, I have enough to travel once a year to Europe for a nice vacation and to party!! And as far as my retirement is concerned, I don't need anyone to look after me in old age, because I'll have my full inheritance, plus my own money to keeep me going in a life of luxury until the end!! So, I'll party on! Yeah BABY!!!
That day will not come because our children will not pay your fucking insurance! Yeah baby!!
i don't wan't kids because i don't wan't kids i don't need to justify to anyone.
exactly, and people who do want kids shouldnt have to feel bad about it.
Long as my taxes don't have to support u when you get old I'm all fine for it
me too!
Robin Colmenares
Population is aging and Western nations are struggling with funding social safety net and freebees for the lazy, so prepare for higher tax rates in the future
Enjoy your selfish life void of any greater meaning.
The only reason I'm lonely is because you two won't return my calls. :(
Time to start following them.
Perhaps focus on one.
Nope Noperson Stalker
Nope Noperson You must meet a woman in real life, not just look on the internet
suh dude
i am in my 50s, and I regret never having any children.
Why bud?
There is no feeling like looking at the face of your child for the first time. I can not wait until I'm blessed with my daughter, it's a joy unlike any other.
Make lots of photos and videos, so you won't miss her as much when she's taken from you.
OK Sold.
Now you just have to convince a man that you aren't going to divorce rape him in 5 years, cheat on him, blame your crappy choices on him, treat him like an adversary instead of a partner and call him a deadbeat dad when he's forced to live out of his car to pay alimony and child support.
Oh and apparently, Lauren needs to find someplace where it's legal to marry another man. :)
The reason for this particular list is because these are the things that it is legal and socially acceptable for a woman to do to the man she supposedly loves and these are the reasons that men may enter a short term relationship, but aren't going to commit long term. Or you know, there's the gynocentric excuse that men are intimated by strong, independent women and have an irrational fear of commitment...
Low birth rates in western countries?
Feminism has taught women to treat men as adversaries, not partners. In addition to this, feminist policies have turned the family/divorce courts into death traps for men. As Dr Peterson has eluded to, due to social expectations and male instinct, men do not have the ability or desire to confront feminism and revert these attitudes and laws, so we will continue to opt out of the game and it will be up to women to either change the system and culture or we can wait for it to be overthrown or crash and reset.
Find a "Traditional Woman" Step 2. Move to a state with the best laws on Prenuptial Agreements Step 3. Have her sign it before the marriage.
This doesn't work. Any judge will see that you specifically MOVED to a new State with stronger laws in order to avoid the laws of your previous state. This is coercion and/or threats making the Prenup Null and Void and also the New States laws. Pretty much, any State you started your relationship in has its laws that will and does supersede the new state you moved too.
No thanks, my genes aren’t that impressive
lol You got the humble gene!
Only half of them will go to your offspring.. all you need do is meet someone that has outstanding genes to even it out
Nordique777 exactly, why should I pass on my genes? Why should anyone? What makes yours or anyone else’s genes so damn special that they just have to be passed on? Not to mention that your kids will only get half of them anyway. And *IF* you have grandchildren, they’ll only have a quarter of your oh so special genes. It’s all a fairy tale to get people to reproduce and comply with the traditionalist groupthink
Marty Ollier so Lauren
I see on social media and even on a dating site there were a ton of young single mothers with babies not more than a year old. Instead of this infatuation with popping kids out, people should be focusing on fixing the world they'll be bringing them into because currently it's a parody of what it was, and moreso than ever.
I have a buddy at work that was dating someone with a kid under a year old. Its like.... Wtf happened to the dad? A little too close to the event to which that kid was conceived.
single moms are the worst theh expect you to connect to the fuccing kids and care about them whereas in reality u r just interested in that booty!
Watched my own father get destroyed by divorce courts when I was 12. Took 8 years for the divorce to be finalized and the hell in between suffered by myself and my sister.... There is no way I'm going to put a kid through that. Family Courts destroyed any idealism for me when it came to kids and marriage. It's a joke. Feminism has destroyed the family unit and until feminism is removed, it's a risk not worth taking.
Divorce is merely an argument away.
You don't need to get married.
GO TO ANOTHER COUNTRY< NOT ALL COUNTRIES HAVE THE SAME LAWS!!! you MGTOW people are just as idiotic as feminist some times...
MrAJEO.
Men can decide for themselves. I've decided based on my experience and made my decision and you cannot change it with shame. You're not worth it. The risk is not worth it. Some men are done with marriage and there is nothing you can do to turn them around. That is all. You should be happy, these are the loser men of society and now you can breed with the best of the best. Go ahead, women have 100% of the reproductive rights so you can choose the best men and have many children with them solving all of the problems Lauren and Brittany have discussed. It's all up to women so fix it.
a "liberal femenist woman"
yeah that's not a problem, let me inject this heroin into my corneas
Having kids is a very selfish thing as well. you do it for yourself.
Annnd why don't any of you suggest adoption? You guys moan and groan about children on foster care and orphanages but none of you want to adopt a single kid or change anything about the adoption system? Y'all are FUCKING LAZY!!! I hate my own generation.
Disincentivize single motherhood.
I think nearly all social pathology can be traced back to incentivizing the very worst people to reproduce and bring their offspring up without the discipline a Father in the home generally supplies.
I oppose most foreign aid as well. Local producers have a hard time competing with free. "What do you get when you feed a million starving Africans? Five million starving Africans." Low IQ populations will breed to carrying capacity and beyond. I'm basically suspect of and opposed to anyone getting something for nothing.
Keith Stewart This. And as far as foreign aid to places like Africa and the Middle East is concerned...end it, except for tons of birth control to stop this tsunami of millions upon millions of poor babies being brought into this world that we in the West end up being responsible for somehow.
+Uncompromising Misanthrope Is this a joke, or is this the next ridiculous political ideology?
+Uncompromising Misanthrope Okay, this is ridiculous. Fascism produces the same result as communism. I don't know what you have against capitalism, but I can confidently tell you that it's better than either of those totalitarian systems.
Why can't we just let people LIVE THEIR OWN DAMN LIVES
Because society will crumble. Is it a wonder of were in the past people didn't have free range like today society functioned the best
Fuck what they think. Let them mind their own business
We’re not atomized individuals, we belong to peoples with histories and cultures. You living your life affects how I live mine and vice-versa. If you decide to commit demographic suicide because you don’t want to give up some creature comforts or leave your urban studio apartment along with millions of other people, and then as a result import millions of other people from around the world to take the place of the kids you should have had so that you can maintain your decadent level of consumption and creature comforts into your decrepit old age, that has a direct affect on my life, hundreds of millions of our countrymen’s lives and all of our offspring.
Lauren should do a video about the increasing number of young women using Tinder
HermosaBeachJoe you mean like everyone? I dont see men asking women out on the streets.
Bräts Pits Im more referring to the hook up culture. Women who use those apps aren't using them for meaningful relationships. They are using it to fuck guys they are sexually attracted too. That makes it hard for these women to get into meaningful relationships in the future. This relates back to the topic of the video that they are setting themselves up for loneliness.
Why do they even do it though? Girls can "hook up" any time they want easily elsewhere
HermosaBeachJoe quick question, men, are the men that use tinder searching for meaningful relationships?
What's wrong with Tinder if people are using it for long-term relationships? I've used it before, not everyone is on there for hookups.
I don't think life is so great that I would want to inflict it on anyone else.
,,When you look at all the reasons why people dont wanna have kids, they are always very selfish.´´
But all of your arguments for having a baby is how it benefit you. How is that different?
Well, i live in a welfare state. only the top 20% pays for all the welfare we receive here in Denmark. By having children we pay our debt to society, and in a way our children pays for us. Those who choose not to have children are leeching on others. I sincerely believe my children will benefit the world or at least their country, i raise them to be good citizens, Children are everyone's future, my children could end up governing the country, or be the protectors of the weak, they could be doctors or perhaps farmers. If everyone stopped having children the world would stand still. And having children is the most rewarding thing i experienced in my life, sadly not all will feel that way. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Don't expect logic from these bimbos
I don't want children, simply because I don't have the interest. I don't feel the need to justify it to others. Money, loss of sleep, life sacrifice and all the myriad of reasons do ring a bell of truth for me, although I just think people are avoiding the truth of that they just don't want to be parents. The attitude that those who choose parenthood are somehow unselfish or are more purposeful is generic. The ideal of "my child will be amazing/unique/kind etc" is not reality. Not all parents are unselfish and not all kids go on to be good people .
you know in order to have the humans race survive and keep on we need women to give birth right? just letting you know, so selfish
Dan The Man there are enough people popping out kids as of now so…
People should hear, see, understand this side of the coin, as well.
This. We all have our own reasons for wanting, not wanting, having or not having kids. There needs to be acceptance for that, without the need for social justification for our reasons. But for those comfortable sharing, it should be more socially acceptable to share wide varieties of differing views on this. Lying to each other to avoid having to defend your personal views on YOU having kids or not, or to avoid being shamed for said choice and/or reasons. And its damn true; You might not turn out to be a great parent. Your family might fall apart. Not all kids are good people, then nor in adulthood. These things are real. Should they deter you from having kids? Only you can answer that.
explain how making the choice to not be a parent is "selfish" and the act of becoming a parent makes someone more "unselfish"?
If you want more Millennials to get married/have babies, marriage laws and divorce laws have to be more fair. Right now a woman can divorce a man for any reason walk away with half his money for 18 years or more. Get majority custody of the kids. The solution is for the government to allow couples to make their own private customized marriage contracts. Contracts that include what happens in a divorce. And judges should enforce it.
Other than that a man walking into a marriage today is just hoping by the honor System his wife will not turn on him even though marriage is has 75% divorce rate and 80% time initiated by the women. Privatizing marriages contracts created by couples is the only solution.
Not in Texas
red raven Sadly even in Texas that does happen. Look up a UA-cam video where a divorce attorney mentioned how women purposely Mary a rich man or get pregnant in order to take a man's money. I can't recall the exact name of the video but hopefully you find it.
In Texas there's also been cases of mothers intentionally placing the wrong father's name on the birth certificate then claiming child support. In some cases the "father" doesn't even know until they start deducting money from his paycheque. Some women do this when they know their current boyfriend can't afford child support and they know their ex has more income, and it's legally possible to cheat a man like this for a child that isn't his because in some states like Texas the letter of the law focuses on the "child's best interest" before any biological legal imperative.
Nameless King Not the only reason but its a major reason.
@GalaxyEspeon So if you can have customized contracts, whats the problem? There isn't one. It's more work than it should be but it's not the problem. Marriage is the last thing millennials think about when the vast majority of them are atheists. Also, to say they're thinking about marriage, implies they're looking past their weekend of binge drinking.
They don't want babies because of all the anti-white family propaganda and the economy has been designed to be deliberately hard to raise a family in if you're working. If you're claiming welfare however, as many low-IQ and non-whites do, you can raise massive families.
U know what? People who justify not wanting to have kids from selfish reasons is probably for the best, because they would probably give their kids inadequate care because they're so selfish.
A Google User Inadequate care like people who want kids so they can love them while living on financial aid money from the government?
In my opinion, the decision isnt this objective at all, its such an individual decision. People who abstain from having children because theyve taken into account financial, personal reasons etc are not being selfish in realizing it isnt for them, just as advocating for not having kids on those grounds is equally ridiculous to calling someone selfish. Its very situational, I think its toxic to use overpopulation as a ploy regardless of the reality people will make their own decisions...less pushing and pulling on both sides would help
Also...saying they are promoting a toxic culture just because they are raising awareness as to the downsides is a bit extreme. That would be like saying promoting having children is trying to overpopulate the earth. I think this is a bit dramatic, on other issues, yes theyre regressing us, but this...too much. They arent being too literal or pushy.
Hm did you all know that the thing that makes the greatest differencce on a deathbed is not whether they were rich or not, or if they were famous or not - what makes the greatest difference between people and what also is the biggest regret among people on their death bed is not having children... it is a very heartbreaking and depressing thing to see.. Sad that most people don't seem to know about this. Whatever you do - seriously think about this
- Simplicity in my opinion having kids is every bit as selfish as not having them. Why? Because IT'S SOMETHING YOU WANT OR DON'T WANT FOR YOURSELF. That's what these 2 dimwits don't get. Too naive and inexperienced as to how the world works but they THINK they know.
^THIS.
You're only focusing on one side of a quadrant. In your scenario, there are four types of people : those who don't have kids who regret it, those who don't have kids who don't regret it, those who have kids who regret it, those who have kids who don't regret it. It's difficult to make comments on the probability of regretting not having children without information about the other groups.
I don’t understand why you’re shamming people who don’t want kids for various reasons when you said you had a loved one that was shammed FOR having kids. Just let people do what they want.
It's really ironic, I have a workmate who is like 35 yrs. old and she has no kids, husband (or even a boyfriend) and says she prefers to travel. However everyone knows that she is unsatisfied with her life, it's actually pretty noticiable. Really ironic, the ones that claim that family is not related with happiness seem to have a depression pattern.
Exactly. I think many women use traveling as a form of escaping because they hate their lives so much. Traveling use to be something that people would do a lot of when they reached the retirement years and they had their mortgages paid off. Things are so backwards now a days.
tupapirafa the women who sleep around and kjsy wsnt to psrty their 20s awsy encourage other women that it's tbe way to go ,but they seem the most unhappy and unsatisfied.
Well I hope this 35 yr old woman saves some retirement money because there will definitely be NO retirement money when she reaches her golden years, and she'll have no children to fall back on. World will be in quite a mess by then. And the economy... good God.
Everytime someone says "the world is overpopulated", just ask them "overpopulated by who?".
*by whom
Arabs.
Sacred, Nothing is
Nope, this entrenched egalitarian notion of yours is also wrong in this respect my nigga.
Africa, Asia, and South America are overpopulated, dumbass.
by us. or you think were too afraid to admit it? fuck that. humans are dumb. all humans.
The American family is systematically being dismantled. It's no accident it's trending globally.
there's a difference between loneliness and being alone. loneliness is a feeling. being alone is a situation. you won't ever get something positive out of feeling lonely.. but you'll be able to get something good out of the situation of being alone.
Awful lot of simps in the comment section.
NIGGAH :D
Truth
There always is. Beta cucks white knights
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I don't really care for my bloodline. (I don't want anyone to live with the shit I have to live with. Not going into detail.)
But someone carrying on my ideals.... Yes definitely...
Welp. I hope I can. I want to have a child at one point.... but with my current gf that won't work (MtF tranny....)
And no. I will not just dump her just because of this.
This generation people like me are needed (people who just utterly refuse to fit into neat little categories, because they simply are just too volatile by nature). But while society might need just that this generation, living a life with this volatile nature is a pain in the butt. But what do I know. I am only 19 (turning 20 soon.)
Cerugon Jefferson is a troll just copying and pasting his garbage to as many comments as possible. His arguments are weak and he is desperate so he’s trying his damnedest to spread his cult-like ideologies as far and as fast as possible
Good to know.
I'm glad I'm a Gen-Z. Hoping that whatever my generation turns out as, at least we could have common sense.
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Wait and see
Do you honestly believe that all millennial act and think the same way? Do you honestly believe that Gen-Zers act and think the same way? The culture as a whole has an entitlement issue, because humans are natural born complainers who want things to be easy. We have Starbucks here. People here complain about mistakes in their 6$ coffee with the same ferocity that a starving African 4-year old complains about the AIDS he got from being raped by his warlord uncle. I have a feeling that nobody here in this comment section is an exception to that rule of being a complainer even when things are amazingly good, including myself. It's part of what makes us a great species. We want more, we want something particular, like a great future for ourselves, we find a way to make it easy to get, so we invent things and come up with solutions.
Here's an example. "I don't want to get divorce raped and spend the next 30 years in a black hole of debt, depression and suicidal thoughts. I know! I won't get married and have kids!"
Seems like "common sense" to me.
Description Untitled I'm pretty sure there's many millennials who have common sense
You WON'T have common sense, that became part of the past once social media and cell phones came about. You're screwed unless you exit the bullshit - which you won't be strong enough to do.
Why are you saying not having kids is selfish as opposed to having kids? Sure it's selfish not to have kids. But Having kids is just as selfish. A child doesn't choose to be born. It is you who are making that choise for the child. And most people's reasons for wanting kids is self fulfilment a sense of purpse and wanting someone to care for them when they are old. That sounds like selfish reasons to me. You want these things for yourself, i.e. selfish.
Also a non existent child is in no way hurt by not being born. No suffering can come to a thing that does not exist. Furthermore, we all die in the end, and life does not appear to have any intrinsic meaning, making one often wonder what was so good about being born in the first place? Especially when you take into account all the suffering and hardships people are often forced to endure throughout their lives.
In conclusion, while not having kids is also done for selfish reasons, no harm can come of it, making it a morally decent choice, and in no way deserving of derision or criticism.
My man. 👍
What the actual fuck is going on here? A guy says that having kids is selfish for the child and people applaud him. I honestly feel pity for you guys, there's so much beauty in life to think like that. How did it come to this?
Adoption is an option. A completely selfless one if you are commited to it.
I'll be honest, I suck at relationships and hate children. Don't want everybody else to be like that though.
I do consider having children more selfish than not having them, as parents have them because they want to for themselves.
And today's childhood doesn't watch Looney Tunes, so they're pussified beyond belief.
I feel your pain
i'll call it now, invest in anti-depression/anxiety pills, dildos and cat food companies. the return for these items in the very near future will be quite lucrative. I like to look at this problem from a merchants/thief's perspective. You can't help who doesn't want to be helped.
Grey Knight. The Bane of White Knights. Fucking hilarious and sadly promising
At my Daughter in law and sons engagement party my mom, an old catholic lady with 11 kids, tells my daughter in law....I hope you have 8 kids, that being the biggest compliment and dearest wish she could give any woman. My daughter in law replied, hell I probably won't have any kids i'm way too selfish, her mother nodded in agreement. Her mother had sat her down months before the party and told her to either commit to my son or let him go, he was looking for a wife and to stop wasting his time. The daughter in law had to think long and hard before continuing to date my son because she is far too selfish for a relationship. A couple weeks after the wedding the couple announced they were expecting. She cried and was so unsure. Today four years two kids later she is sad because she had two cesearan sections and her doctor advices not to have more than three kids.....she plans on exceeding that number by one and they are starting discussions on adoption to fill my mothers prophecy. She is fulfilled in ways she didn't know existed, she loves her husband a hundred new ways as he is the father of her children. She's an amazing woman who's own mother didn't see what a special giving person she had the potential to be.
My son is a wise man and saw something even her and her mom didn't know was there. She's a gem and I am in awe of her mothering and what a great wife she is.
That is such a beautiful story!
This is such a beautiful story. It touched my heart deeply for some reason. Maybe because I see my older sister in your daughter-in-law. Having my nephew has changed her in so many ways. She now wants at least 2 more. She values family so much more too. May God bless you and your son's family. 😊
Your son is a lucky man. Most of us other guys can't say the same unfortunately.
Inspirational story, it's just too bad it's very exceptional. I've only had bad relationships thus far. Women always just want to exploit my good heart and deep wallet.
You know what’s crazy? I was on a backpacking trip my senior year of high school with about 15 peers or so. Towards the end of the trip, we got on this topic, and I discovered that only one girl in the entire group wanted to have kids. We talked about it and came to a better understanding with one another. We were both kinda bewildered by it. Just thought I’d share
Prediction, at least one of them either won't get married or won't have any kids.
David Espinoza
*both
(X) Doubt. People spam both of their instagram accounts with comments declaring their love.
David Espinoza Definitely wrong lol.
a Prediction of mine, one of them will end up with a black/latino/asian guy - which would be hilarious because their fanbases would be fuckin' piiiissed
I say do not have kids, but for entirely different reasons! If you're not a Multimillionare, do not have kids! It's too easy for them to fall prey, be taken away from you, or a whole world of trouble, and dissapointments to happen without the protection that money offers. *_:(_*
@Nim Boo:
Nah, That's no good! Children are Gold, but only if you can afford them, and be focused (not pamper as Princesses) on them!
Here, This illustrate's my point: ua-cam.com/video/bzVHjg3AqIQ/v-deo.html
I think these ladies mean well but if you don't want kids don't have any .if you want them have them. Just be responsible.
Having children was the most fun I've ever had. Hands down!
Lauren will you ever make a video on how ducks are mis represented in the media? Think about it when was the last time you saw a pekin duck get a lead role ? I'll wait
It just goes to show that we live in an anti-duck-iarchy.
Duck you!!!
Not to mention egregious, cultural appropriation of the ubiquitous "duck face". It's about time ducks took a stand and said "No, means no! We are more than just 'pretty faces'!"!
JamesJon1187 thank you!
Yeah hollywood is duckist! We should cancel them
Before you encourage people to have children, wouldn't it made more sense if you had them yourself first so that your experience with them would lend you more credibility? It would be like getting dating advice from a virgin.
^^ this
Still a virgin and I’ve dated a few times. Dating doesn’t mean one has to have sex.
With that said, she’s pointing out all the same excuses that many push. If the leftists wouldn’t push their crap on us, this wouldn’t be an issue
+Syncko How is Lauren a feminist? Clarify your comment.
It's not rocket appliances, 2 parents with 2 kids, does not cause over population.
Hoosayne: You really suck at math don't you?
If the average birthrate = 2 (that is 2 children for every 2 parents), then the population will stay still. Go above 2 and you'll have a population increase. Go below 2 and you'll have a population in decline.
Seven Proxies. You're right. But taking into account that some will die of illnesses, accidents and of other reasons before having kids of their own, you have to have some couples who go above 2 in order to really have the population stay still in the long run.
Hello ladies, I felt exactly like you as a young woman in the 1980s. I'm so glad that I have my three children who are now a doctor, in dental school, and studying clinical psychology. I'm so proud of them and do feel sorry for large numbers of people I meet my age who never had children. I'm so glad I didn't believe the lies about overpopulation and all the advice not to have kids. I always wished that I could have had more. I'm so happy that my son is expecting his first child and I'll be a grandmother! God bless you both. Your advice is so needed by the millenials who are the age of my own young adult children.
Reason [one of many because it's complicated] people don't want kids, they want an extended adolescence . It's like Never never land these days for modern "adults".
SCheco3 or maybe they don't want to make the same mistakes their parents did when they did have them and in return they were neglected.
Arabella Ishere can feel the salt here
First, when you are lonely and no one takes care of you, you need to pay for everything. So you are the perfect consumer for life.
Second, I think people are scared of starting a family because it is not handed to you. It is completely yours. You have to choose a partner, experience the pregnancy with all the hormones and body changes. There is no guarantee for anything. The child might be sick, you might have a traumatic birth. Or you turn out to be a bad parent and mess up your child etc. My point is - it's a lot of real life experience with real consequences and millenials don't have the guts.
Very good point. Never thought of it like that
At the same time there is so much "weaponized" food out there. Autism is climbing. I'm sorry but there really seems to be a de-population agenda. Sorry to go all "Alex Jones" here but.... something IS happening.
Yes! Can I get an amen
Blood Dragon Sarcasm or no reading comprehension skills?
Blood Dragon I'm sorry you struggle with reading.
I would love to have kids, the problem is I refuse to allow myself to be taken advantage of. That seems to be a deal breaker with women my age.
Too agreeable? You need assertive training and start to kill it in all other areas of your life.
Problem is society, gives women the means,to ruin a man's life,and encourages them to do it it. The divorce and family courts are run by feminazi lawyers and judges,and favor the woman. Divorce is at 50% . Women initiate divorce 70% of the time. Men have no rights to their children as well. All the woman has to do is mention domestic violence,and you as the man,are screwed,even when the domestic violence never happens. The feminazi lawyers tell the woman to lie about domestic violence,in order to win the case,and they pay for her court expenses. Plus alimony BS. This shit is why there is a decline in marriages and people having kids! You continually attack,and tear down the men,and they are going to walk away.
Number one shit test women try on men is seeing how much money they can make you waste, and if you have a limit then you fail the shit test. For example they want to buy water from a gas station. I never pay $2 for bottled water but this one time ok. Then they up the anti. $25 cab ride, twice, for the dumbest unnecessary reason. Irritating but it's a date ok. But wait now they need you to spend $300 on something. Geezus this woman, this is the only time....oh now they need a $2000 vacation package and it has to happen right now because.....limit reached! Shit test failed trying to be responsible with money! only way to pass that shit test is to literally be bankrupt already and have not a dime left to squeeze, but assure her if you had a dollar you would waste it right now.
Ever thought about why you might be attracting shitty women?
The title of this video is right. Millennials in general, maybe even the majority, are setting themselves up to be lonely. Sad
You know, I really like Lauren Southern but this is the first video of hers that I don't agree with. I'm almost 29 and I have never dreamed about or had the desire to reproduce. I have a list of reasons a mile long, but the main one is maintaining my freedom and ability to pursue all the goals and adventures that I have for my life - and it is NOT selfish to want that. I'm a nurse... my JOB is taking care of other people, so not everyone who lacks the desire to become a parent is self-centered. I donate blood, I will be donating my hair, I donate my time.
I can agree about the videos that have popped up that dissuade folks from having children...I don't think that should be the message. But I also think its fine for people who choose not to, for ANY reason they feel is justified. The important thing is, like everything else in life, that people make decisions not based on social media videos or what society does.
It is certainly not selfish to follows one's dreams and aspirations, the question regarding marriage is "what does a man get from marriage?"
Does he get stability?.......No, Women are always looking for the bigger, better deal while draining your pockets and emptying your wallet.
Does he get children?.....Yes, until his wife divorces him.
Does he benefit financially?......No, he has to pay for his children whle fighting in the courts to maintain his access to them.
Does he get to move on in his life?....No, but his ex does. She can go on and marry again having more children attracting more resources collected by the state on her behalf.
Basically, don't get married and have kids - it ain't worth it.
The man that I marry will get my loyalty, devotion and an extremely fit partner to explore the world with for the rest of our lives. I also am known to be an amazing cook.
However, unfortunately in today's world, most of what you said does happen. I think people tend to settle for mediocrity in life. They jump into marriage and children without getting to know one another, and that results in resentment, divorce, etc.
Keri Jenkins I agree with you 100%! You are out there saving lives and I am eternally grateful because you are doing a job I could never do. You are a strong career woman who I know will be blessed in the future with a beautiful family and husband. We need more women like you to look up to
Classy Chic Thanks love, I'll gladly take a great hubby, and lots of furbabies :). No human kids though.
Keri Jenkins did you all know that the thing that makes the greatest difference on a death bed is not if they were rich or not, or if they were famous or not - what makes the greatest difference between people and what also is the biggest regret among people on their death bed is not having children... it is a very heartbreaking and depressing thing to see.. Sad that most people don't seem to know about this. Whatever you do - seriously think about this