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Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
I recently dated a guy and on the first date he told me how loyal of a guy he is, seemed odd and out of place, then by the 3rd date he slipped up and I caught him in a lie. He had a gf. I'll spare all the details but it reminded me of the saying don't trust the one who says "trust me"
I find it strange that a guy would tell you on a 1st date that he's loyal. I am not American, but to me, it sounds very weird. Why do you guys date multiple persons at the same time? How the hell, are you supposed to build a deeper connection? Getting to know each other better?
My dad said that people only stay during the good times, not the bad, that's why they break-up/divorce rate is the way it is. It's only for better, not worse he said. I think he is right. Commitment has become foreign to a lot of people nowadays. Relationships/dating is hard because LIFE is hard, or it can be.
Your information is right on! I’ve been working with a Pat Allen coach and therapist , did the Sterling Women’s weekend and have done the Insight trainings. Being a spiritually sovereign mature human is critical and your application to dating is very confirming and inspiring. Thank you!
1:31 he should have said it upfront. You should NEVER “find out” after the fact. If you “find out” after the fact, that person is comfortable AND _capable_ of lying and living with a lie. P.s. a contentious divorce can be a strong indicator of trauma from narcissistic abuse in the relationship itself that led to a divorce.
Great video, Jonathon!!! 😊 Intuitively, my boyfriend (of 3 months) and I discussed and committed to your dating vows (without formally signing anything). I joke that my “3 date rule” is really a 3 month rule (I want to get to know each other, build trust, and determine compatibility without sex clouding our judgement!). He’s been so patient with me and proven that he values an emotional connection and not just physical intimacy. 🤗
I don’t like that man in the first couple you mentioned as he was not up front with the lady in that he wanted to date others. To me that is not a good sign. He reneged on the agreement
Enjoying both your short and long video formats. Would like a video on how to tell when a committed relationship has no further potential I.e. when/if to end it. Had several relationships over the years and not sure if I’m too fussy or just not met the right person. With current guy for over a year but find him too quiet when he’s under stress…I am quite lively and find I have to suppress my personality sometimes around him
When you can’t be yourself and feel like you have to walk on eggshells, that’s not a good sign. It’s up to you to put up with it. My sister did for 15 years, out of her 30 year marriage, because she was the one sacrificing everything. Now it’s better balanced.
If it's only when he's stressed, maybe it's not very often... Are you there for him… have you offered to talk or help in any way?... or he just doesn’t want to talk about it and you are guessing. That would be hard.
If your life vision and lifestyles don't mesh , or they are emotionally immature or shut down. ....there will absolutely always be aspects of the other person that require growth potential on our part. You trade one for another when dating multiple men. Can you envision your life without him is another question to ask ourselves and ponder. What I'm not grasping is why when he's stress and is quiet that's a problem for you? Why does he have to manage his stress in your way? Rather have a man that goes quiet then yelling and anger. Why can't you accept him exactly for who he is? When he's stressed and quiet, why not give him a hug or let him be, while you go on enjoying your lively life? Be the woman that brings him peace and loves him for who he is.
1:31 he should have said it upfront. You should NEVER “find out” after the fact. If you “find out” after the fact, that person is comfortable AND _capable_ of lying and living with a lie. Character, character and character. It shows horrible character for you to find out something AFTER the fact.
I just ended a 5.5 year relationship. So hard. But he was not open about his female friends, I was not allowed to know about them. And he didn’t trust me to tell me. I saw a future. He didn’t. So I said it was time for him to leave and he finally left. So sad. So sad.
12:21 TY so vm for this valuable information and advice xo Intelligent conversation and consistent 😊pleasant, positive company, I'd like him to "be real". Good character.
İts very interesting what you say about long term and short term motives. İn the online dating would say that 80 pc of women are looking for long term and 20 pc of men. The result? Disappointment, disappointment, disappointment. Character? Where are these men??
My guy seems like a builder has his act together set financially nice home payed off not in debt ready to retire but he does like getting drunk on wine frequently and he wants to get married but only on his terms if I move there 4 hours away so is he considered a builder? Cause this doesn't seem he has my best interest if it's only about what he wants ?
This one is easy. If he marries you then you would move, right? So let him propose and marry him and then move. I have a gut feeling you have to call his bluff. He wants you to move in with him to give him all the benefits. If you move first he definitely will NOT ever marry you. So he has some soul searching to do. He is dangling what you want because he knows that maybe the promise alone will get him what he wants with no commitment on his part. What does it mean on his terms?
@@JonathonAslay do a youtube search. It's when a female centers herself and doesn't depend on a man to make life happen. It's a definite trend of all ages.
I don’t like that man in the first couple you mentioned as he was not up front with the lady in that he wanted to date others. To me that is not a good sign. He reneged on the agreement
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Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Suzanne ann walters , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Start with acceptance and focus on yourself.
I recently dated a guy and on the first date he told me how loyal of a guy he is, seemed odd and out of place, then by the 3rd date he slipped up and I caught him in a lie. He had a gf. I'll spare all the details but it reminded me of the saying don't trust the one who says "trust me"
I find it strange that a guy would tell you on a 1st date that he's loyal. I am not American, but to me, it sounds very weird. Why do you guys date multiple persons at the same time? How the hell, are you supposed to build a deeper connection? Getting to know each other better?
My dad said that people only stay during the good times, not the bad, that's why they break-up/divorce rate is the way it is. It's only for better, not worse he said. I think he is right. Commitment has become foreign to a lot of people nowadays. Relationships/dating is hard because LIFE is hard, or it can be.
Interesting
If a woman wants a man to be loyal, she needs to let him win her. It doesn’t guarantee anything, but he has to win her, it’s a win/win for both
I've never considered love is something we must win...
@@JonathonAslay Love is never enough…this is advice for women
"Character is about being an emotional GROWN UP" I love this statement Tyvm J 😊
Demonstrating trust is so important
Indeed
Your information is right on! I’ve been working with a Pat Allen coach and therapist , did the Sterling Women’s weekend and have done the Insight trainings. Being a spiritually sovereign mature human is critical and your application to dating is very confirming and inspiring. Thank you!
1:31 he should have said it upfront. You should NEVER “find out” after the fact.
If you “find out” after the fact, that person is comfortable AND _capable_ of lying and living with a lie.
P.s. a contentious divorce can be a strong indicator of trauma from narcissistic abuse in the relationship itself that led to a divorce.
Yes it can
Great video, Jonathon!!! 😊 Intuitively, my boyfriend (of 3 months) and I discussed and committed to your dating vows (without formally signing anything). I joke that my “3 date rule” is really a 3 month rule (I want to get to know each other, build trust, and determine compatibility without sex clouding our judgement!). He’s been so patient with me and proven that he values an emotional connection and not just physical intimacy. 🤗
I’m so glad you’re finding this helpful!
I don’t like that man in the first couple you mentioned as he was not up front with the lady in that he wanted to date others. To me that is not a good sign. He reneged on the agreement
🎯Character, Character, Character🎯
Jonathan...I'm happy to hear you went out with yourself
These days im so scared to date online 😫 there's to many scammers 😢and that puts me off ...😢having said that there are some lovely people out there 🙏
Online is crap!
Just love your talks ! Thank you so much ❤
You are so welcome!
🎉🎉YES CHARACTER 🎉🎉
HIT THAT BALL HOME🎉🎉🎉🎉
Yes
Enjoying both your short and long video formats. Would like a video on how to tell when a committed relationship has no further potential I.e. when/if to end it. Had several relationships over the years and not sure if I’m too fussy or just not met the right person. With current guy for over a year but find him too quiet when he’s under stress…I am quite lively and find I have to suppress my personality sometimes around him
When you can’t be yourself and feel like you have to walk on eggshells, that’s not a good sign. It’s up to you to put up with it. My sister did for 15 years, out of her 30 year marriage, because she was the one sacrificing everything. Now it’s better balanced.
If it's only when he's stressed, maybe it's not very often... Are you there for him… have you offered to talk or help in any way?... or he just doesn’t want to talk about it and you are guessing. That would be hard.
If your life vision and lifestyles don't mesh , or they are emotionally immature or shut down. ....there will absolutely always be aspects of the other person that require growth potential on our part. You trade one for another when dating multiple men. Can you envision your life without him is another question to ask ourselves and ponder. What I'm not grasping is why when he's stress and is quiet that's a problem for you? Why does he have to manage his stress in your way? Rather have a man that goes quiet then yelling and anger. Why can't you accept him exactly for who he is? When he's stressed and quiet, why not give him a hug or let him be, while you go on enjoying your lively life? Be the woman that brings him peace and loves him for who he is.
@@Bb-k4gd Men often want to go into their cave to solve problems. Women want to talk talk talk about it. why does a man have to be like a woman?
Will do
Excellent video session. Thank you so much 🙏
Glad you enjoyed it!
Not just men Jonathan, women can behave the same way!😊
Indeed
1:31 he should have said it upfront. You should NEVER “find out” after the fact.
If you “find out” after the fact, that person is comfortable AND _capable_ of lying and living with a lie.
Character, character and character.
It shows horrible character for you to find out something AFTER the fact.
Consideration and Respect Consistency - Character ❤
Right fighters never win!!
Good and descriptive commentary. It definally helped for me have a better understanding. Thanks, Jonathan!
Glad it was helpful!
Character is about being an emotional grown-up! That's good......
Exactly
I just ended a 5.5 year relationship. So hard. But he was not open about his female friends, I was not allowed to know about them. And he didn’t trust me to tell me. I saw a future. He didn’t. So I said it was time for him to leave and he finally left. So sad. So sad.
Listening today, I'm blessed with a grower & builder.
12:21 TY so vm for this valuable information and advice xo Intelligent conversation and consistent 😊pleasant, positive company, I'd like him to "be real". Good character.
Your honesty is refreshing! I was almost asleep but had to say that....
I appreciate that!
Most Excellent Presentation w examples and better approaches to inquiry and acceptance or not
Great program. Just found you. 😊
Welcome aboard!
İts very interesting what you say about long term and short term motives. İn the online dating would say that 80 pc of women are looking for long term and 20 pc of men. The result? Disappointment, disappointment, disappointment. Character? Where are these men??
That's probably true...
My guy seems like a builder has his act together set financially nice home payed off not in debt ready to retire but he does like getting drunk on wine frequently and he wants to get married but only on his terms if I move there 4 hours away so is he considered a builder? Cause this doesn't seem he has my best interest if it's only about what he wants ?
This one is easy. If he marries you then you would move, right? So let him propose and marry him and then move. I have a gut feeling you have to call his bluff. He wants you to move in with him to give him all the benefits. If you move first he definitely will NOT ever marry you. So he has some soul searching to do. He is dangling what you want because he knows that maybe the promise alone will get him what he wants with no commitment on his part. What does it mean on his terms?
I wouldn't stay with him. Getting drunk frequently is only going to make you miserable. My experience.
Yes we all have moments of weakness
Yes
What if he is emotional immature ( unavailable) but does have caracter besides that. ?
Do you want a relationship with an emotionally immature person?
Ladies we’re all much older, do you really want to center men this much?
What does "center men" mean?
@@JonathonAslay do a youtube search. It's when a female centers herself and doesn't depend on a man to make life happen. It's a definite trend of all ages.
Agree!!!
Your voice sounds like possibly my wonderful gentlemans voice ... not the voice, but something in the pattern.
Oops ... gentleman's
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I felt good in his presence.
He was supportive.
Not controlling. Supportive. I paid for my own meal.
What website do you use
For what?
😂 give the girl the answer,
Hinge I have heard you say.
@@JonathonAslay
I agree
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I don’t like that man in the first couple you mentioned as he was not up front with the lady in that he wanted to date others. To me that is not a good sign. He reneged on the agreement