Hey guys! I know I’m very open about my anxiety & fears but today I wanted to talk about other things that I struggle with daily! I don’t know what to call this but I thought maybe at least SOMEONE could find this helpful. Xoxo
Thank you for opening up. You’re not alone♥️ Made me cry bc I always feel so alone in this. You mentioned you don’t know where these thoughts came from and something that has really helped me is separating the thought from yourself.. every time you have an ocd thought say “it’s not me, it’s ocd”. Hope you find a good therapist (that will video chat) and specializes in ERP therapy. Best of luck!!
I am 47 and I’m struggling with my mental health issues so i no what you are going through so just to let you no I’m gonna pray for you please stay safe love from Australia xxxxx ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ love you and your honesty
It would be braver if she would actually go to therapy and do something about it. It sounds like she's miserable, I don't understand why she's not seeing a psychiatrist already.
@@ednanonono with all due respect, you sound like you don't struggle with crippling mental health issues, or if you do yours are under control. Deciding to get help is very hard and scary, and like you said - brave! She sounds like she's thinking about it and needs to, so don't be a negative energy here, give her time to come around and figure it out. She's Kathleen, she'll get there, and we need to be here to love her the whole way 💖
I really appreciate every time you stopped yourself from saying “crazy” and used a different word. As someone who has struggled with this, there is a way through.
As someone diagnosed with OCD within the last year, I really recommend you going to a therapist to discuss. OCD is a completely different beast than generalized anxiety and it requires different treatment. I’m happy to talk to you about it at any time 💕
@@stephaniekilleen4886 hi Stephanie! ❤️The best help you can get is going through ERP (exposure and response prevention) with a trained therapist. This pocast has helped me learn ab my OCD and helped me feel less alone -> (The OCD stories is the name) open.spotify.com/show/13YuzynkMsgjtR3K3Brhle?si=r0Uw_XxFTZ-gQM1tIxFriA
I thought I was the only adult not driving due to fear. I just started driving on my own at 31 but till now I only drive close to home. Anywhere that is away from my comfort zone I won't drive and wait until I can get a ride from my family member.
Hi Kathleen, I'm a psychologist form Argentina, and due to COVID-19 I'm treating all my pacients virtually. I deeply recommend you to look for a therapist in your city that offers virtual therapy, I know that it sounds scary, but I promise that you'll see that it's not that bad (just like you realized when you changed your phone case). You're going through so many things that pile up and restrict you more and more, but everything you said is totally treatable. I hope that you decide to look for help, because there's hope for a better life ❤
The way she got so excited about changing her phone case melted my freaking heart. I love her so much. Love her transparency, dedication, & her love for her subscribers. She genuinely is the best UA-camr I know. I just hope she knows how much we all love & support her! ♥️
Supportive partners are everything. I’m very much like Kathleen and my husband is so freakin supportive to a point he’s learned my little intricacies and even if he doesn’t understand it he respects it.
@@katiyatovar1981 I recently went through a breakup with someone who said he couldn’t support me in my journey with OCD, & seeing your comment & knowing Danny has been a good support to Kathleen gives me SO much hope. 💕🙏 Thank you for SO much for sharing in a time where I’m struggling a lot. 😁
@@michimashmunch awww hun. You will find someone. I’m sure of it. There are wonderful men out there they just aren’t so easy to find. I’m glad I was able to give you hope. Don’t settle for anything less than you deserve babe. 💕
OCD is so often misunderstood, and rarely talked about beyond “neat freak” stereotypes, so this video is important, proud of Kathleen for sharing this! For anyone who feels alone, OCD support groups and/or therapy with a group component can make a HUGE difference (and there are virtual options during a pandemic).
Yes, I agree. After meeting my dear friend and seeing her struggle with day to day things. It also got me really upset when someone told her “ oh, you have OCD? Maybe you can come to my house and reorganize it.” If only she knew how hard it was for her to get dressed up that day.
I'm a licensed therapist and SO thankful for your openness. I also want to urge you to find someone to talk to! Virtual therapy only feels odd at first but becomes normal. And you can stay home! Sending all my love and positivity your way
I came back to this video bc I remember you explaining your anxiety throught the years and thought wow she is so brave. And here I am 3 yrs later suffering from anxiety and still beyond proud how you manage to open up about your anxiety. I hope to one day be able to cope w things the way you do. This video has definitely given me the comfort that I needed, thank you Kathleen ❤️
Also something my therapist said that has really helped my OCD anxiety intrusive thoughts is “just because you FEEL something strongly DOES NOT mean it’s TRUE.”
I think the best analogy I got was a phantom limb. People who lose a limb may still “feel” it. Like it will itch or hurt. Our brain is essentially telling us something that isn’t true. We don’t always have to believe what it tells us is a fact.
You are so much braver than people who don’t experience this OCD every single day. You live your life quietly having these thoughts battling everyday to be okay. You are such a badass🤍
“We’re surviving, we’re doing this life thing, maybe not as good as some other people who don’t experience this things, but we’re hanging in there.” Love this ❤️ love you ❤️
As a therapist in today’s world thanks for posting this Kathleen and being open about your challenges! The more we have conversations about mental health the more we can normalize our suffering and struggles and know we are all not alone. Therapy is also amazing and I highly recommend 🤗 love you Kathleen!!
I sobbed when you said “even if I feel like no one in my personal circle gets me. I know there is someone else out there that does” You’re very brave for opening up about this, Kathleen. Don’t ever think that you’re not!
Lesly Lezcano Amen! Kathleen you really have so many supporters. So many of us struggle with our mental health, doesn’t matter if it’s big or small. Still the struggle exists.
I’m so happy you’re opening up about such a sensitive topic to many. You’ve always been so real and honest with us and we really appreciate it so much. I’m with you.
Props to you girl for experiencing these mental battles everyday, while being the founder of a company and being so successful! You’re an inspiration to all of us xxxx
trying to break those “curses” is such a draining internal battle, thankful to know we are not alone in the battle but so frustrating and upsetting that so many people feel these needs and experience these barriers is devastating ❤️❤️
I definitely just put two and two together and realized her computer screen has been those moons for as long as I can remember. I love you Kathleen!! I’m legit so proud of you. 🥺♥️
I'm so incredibly proud of you Kathleen for uploading this. You say you "have no balls", but you really are so strong and brave, and i don't think you even realize. You can see it in the mere act of uploading this video, which i can see the vulnability and strenght that it took to say all of this out loud and publicly. Or lauching KL polish, and then having to close it, and starting again with Lights Laquer. That was such a bawlsy move it marked me and taught me a lot about resilience. I'm gonna keep this short, but i just wanna say: there might be a lot of things you can't do, and you'll get to that little by little, but the reality is that you've done SO MUCH. It's ok to look at what you're missing in order to work on it, but please please please don't forget to look at how far you've come so far. It's really EXTRAORDINARY. I for one admire you deeply.
i just have to let you know that i’ve never felt more seen than i did while watching this video. the whole time i was watching it i found myself thinking to myself “oh my god, somebody else is going through this too!” thank you for being so open and honest on the internet. love you forever.
Imagine your intrusive thoughts floating down a river in a peaceful way, floating away until their just out of distance, then gone. Little mental exercise that helps me ❤️
Now THIS is the type of rawness we need more of on the internet. You’re crazy if you don’t believe you’re brave! We are all so irrational, odd, & unique in our way. While I don’t experience this type of anxiety, I understand you completely & relate to you on not feeling in control of your mind. Thank you for reminding us of the beautiful imperfection & the mystery that comes with being human ♥️
1. Saying it out loud is recognizing what's going on. 2. Darling consider going back to therapy. (I am a therapist) it sounds like you really to explore this further ♥️
As a 28 year old who has never been able to drive due to anxiety and panic, thank you for speaking about this. Transparency can be so cathartic so I hope that posting this video can give you some peace. Much love to you!
Same here. I’m 31 and haven’t been able to drive or swim because of anxiety. Like, I know the CONCEPT of swimming, and I know how to operate a vehicle, but the panic attacks these things cause me have prevented me from properly developing the skills. Everyone who knows that I can’t do these things are always so confident that they can teach me, and I feel like I’m endlessly explaining why I can’t. The subject of driving and swimming comes up a lot living in Southern California lol.
As a parent of a teenager with ocd.. I am in awe of you and your ability to acknowledge your struggles. I know how hard it is to complete daily tasks. This is amazing for your young viewers to hear/watch you be real and authentic
I’ve been debating going to therapy for the last couple years and watching this video has given me the push I needed, thank you, sending so much love your way xx
I say this with all the love in my heart : go to therapy. A psychologist, a psychiatrist, try different things and find the one for you. Either a "regular" therapy or hypnosis or a particular type of therapy... You will get better with help. I experience everything you talk about and therapy has been a HUGE help, like life-changing help.
“What matters is that we are trying.” ❤️ I genuinely think people struggling with mental health are 100x stronger than others - we are constantly fighting battles that others will never see. Thank you for opening up about this. ❤️ Really. You’re making a difference.
I’ve followed you for such a long time, and while I’ve never dealt with OCD, I have anxiety and bipolar disorder. Your openness with your anxiety was one of the reasons I decided to reach out for help with my mental health. I know it’s hard to see for yourself at times, but I’m really proud of you. You’re a strong person with a kind heart, I’m so sorry that you struggle with this, but you’re not alone and you’re not crazy ♥️
This had me near tears. As I sit here with the same phone case, background and Lock Screen I’ve had for 3 years. Don’t even get me started about the driving or transportation thing...
I was in tears too 🥺 I had the same background and lock screen for 3 yrs too and just brought myself to change them a while ago. Driving is my biggest one though & something I battle with everyday.
This is why you have become practically the last “influencer” I still watch. Saying some people need to get through the rain to get to the rainbow vs some who wake up to the rainbow is so on point. Thank you so much for this video. 💕💕
I feel like youtubers mainly talk about anxiety and depression... so I really appreciate seeing some OCD representation. It seems like a very misunderstood disorder, it’s not just being a clean freak.
I completely agree. I actually didn’t even know OCD was a form of anxiety until last year😳🤭 after I learned that, I’m even more convinced that I have OCD and I’m not just a neat freak who gets stressed out abt weird random things lol
yep. i was diagnosed with OCD at a very young age, and people have always made jokes, like “oh so you’re just super clean?” it’s frustrating, because it manifests in such different ways.
I think it's great you shared this ... I often feel soooo embarrassed sharing some of my inner thoughts or what holds me back or makes me feel weird, etc etc, but the more I hear others say something so similar it makes me feel less ... alien lol
Please don't ever feel embarrassed about a mental health issue... if that's how it is, that's how it is! Everyone's just doing the best they can you're crazy brave don't be ashamed! Sending you all the love!
as someone who’s struggled with depression and anxiety for years - I always appreciate people being honest about mental health ❤️ the more we can be honest - the more others can feel they can can honest as well... 🙏🏽
When you said this: ”I know it’s hard, I know it’s really really hard because the mind is a very tricky thing and sometimes it feels way more powerful than us. But we are stronger. Our will. Our soul. Who we are inside it is stronger than the anxieties, the fears, the OCD - the things that we deal with inside our mind.” It really touched me. Like you and a lot of people I myself is dealing with several mental health issues such as anxiety, panic attacks and severe depression. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate this video. You’re so brave and honest. I wish you all the best and I will rewatch this video anytime I find myself in a haze of self-doubt or feeling overwhelmed. Lots of love.
Those thoughts are called "intrusive thoughts" and when I learned about those from my therapist and learned that just bc thoughts originate in my head, I don't have to be the author of them or the owner of them and I do not have to validate them or give them my time or energy, that's when I started to break free from my OCD. I've learned to challenge every irrational thought that breaks into my brain and weigh the odds of it actually happening. After a while, the thoughts become less frequent and subsequently so do the rituals. I hope the same for you. I'm here if I can help. Hugs. ❤
I hope she gets help too, I don’t understand why she hasn’t yet honestly. I understand that it’s hard because I’ve also struggled with these issues. But she’s had problems fro so many years, and it’s only going to get worse as she ignores them.
@@dianamccarthy2377 her coming out of this video is a really huge step already! It's frustrating to see someone you care about struggle, but we cant rush her into anything! Recovery and seeking treatment has to happen at her own pace
YOU ARE BRAVE!!!!❤ My mother was terrified to drive for 3 DECADES! 30 YEARS OF HER LIFE! She refused to get behind a wheel, and she was finally able to overcome that fear and has been driving for the last 3 years and she loves it!!!! YOU GOT THIS! I watched my mother overcome her 30 year fear and I know you can too!!! ❤❤❤
This made me so emotional. I could feel the exact frustration, pain, and confusion as you spoke of it. I am 25 and still trying to figure out why my brain works against me most days. I love you Kathleen (for a long time now) and we’re in this together! 💖 thank you for this. It feels “better” to know we’re not alone.
“Maybe things aren’t as intense as they are in my mind” omg this!! I have really bad anxiety.. literally yesterday my husband and I were baking Christmas cookies for our kids and I was really upset and freaking out because they didn’t turn out how I wanted them to.. and my husband said “babe, it’s just cookies” and I had to realize.. yeah they are just cookies... cookies my boys will love no matter what they look like.
Kathleen you have no idea how much this video has helped so many people, including myself. It’s so nice to hear that we’re not alone and just because other people don’t get these intrusive thoughts doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with us. This video was so freaking brave and I didn’t think it was possible to respect you anymore then I already did. You are truly a light to so many people. Never forget that. Thank you so much for this video. Whenever you’re ready I think therapy can be so good for you, it does wonders. Love you ❤️
OCD is so freaking HARD. You feel tied to your rituals and routine and it’s SUFFOCATING. Thank you so much for sharing your story. ❤️ you are so brave and you are not alone. ❤️
As someone who was diagnosed with OCD, I totally understand what you are going through. I definitely recommend you go to a therapist, and it was my therapist who told me that if it starts to affect your everyday life, then that's when you seek help. After going, it helped me so much. And although I still struggle with OCD every day, it is on a much less scale. Thank you so much for sharing this, it makes me feel much less alone!
Your IG post was so refreshing. Anxiety is one of those things that you can look at and realize it's not completely logical, but you also can't just "rationalize" yourself out of them. It's so frustrating. It was so awesome seeing that that cycle isn't only in my head.
Girl, virtual therapy has helped me so much with my anxiety and depression, I would 100% recommend! You got this, don't try to face it all on your own.
I’ve always thought about therapy but I’m a very “calculating” person I guess you could say. I’m very in tune with my thoughts and I know everything is irrational, I don’t need someone to confirm that and make me feel better. Is this not the case during therapy? 🙂
@@caitlin786 I’m the exact same way! But therapy helps, you just need to find the right therapist for you. It’s completely changed how I think :) we don’t always know EVERYTHING. I’ve found out so much about myself! Try it! 💗
I'm sorry you feel like you have to hide it. I bet that's been so hard and makes these thoughts even worse. I don't have these feelings but that being said if I wasn't told or informed (if I was someone close to you) I would be ignorant and probably stress you out more. I would want to know so I could help or at least not cause more stress💖 especially if I was your momma or Danny. You are incredible and thank you for sharing ❣️
This is EVERYTHING IVE BEEN feeling and dealing with. The driving. All of it. Everyone always says “oh you gotta drive. You’re an adult.” But like... they don’t understand.
I feel like a lot of people make OCD this funny annoying thing but it’s so much more than that and should not be made fun of or taken lightly. It’s a real thing, people don’t understand that it is.
It is honestly amazing that you were able to change your case on your own, I mean without any therapy... That's exactly the way that a psychologist would teach you to think, and you did it on your own! So don't say it's ridiculous, you were very brave and should be proud of yourself 🙏🥰💛 Imagine what you could achieve with therapy, you should definitely try it! Love so much, sending strength and love all the way from Portugal 🥰
I dont think you know how brave you are to actually speak out about mental issues. You're literally telling us so many personal details and letting us know how you deal with everything. so thank you so much for sharing everything with us.
I absolutely love how honest and open you are. Mental health needs to be talked about SO MUCH MORE. I lost my bf to suicide the day before Valentine's this year and ever since I try to spread as much awareness as I can....it takes a lot of courage to be so raw and talk about these things. So happy and proud of you for using your platform to talk about mental health. Sending you love & positive vibes 💞🙏💞🙏💞
When you said that you feel like you are the weakest link that broke my heart. You said you think everyone else you know is braver than you.Never ever forget that you are so brave for facing your anxiety and ocd everyday. You face so much extra stress everyday that weighs you down every day from your OCD and anxiety and that makes you so strong and brave. Even on your bad days when you feel like your anxiety and ocd is beating you, you are so strong and brave for living with your ocd and anxiety. I deal with anxiety too and it can be hard because while my family has anxiety too, they don't have it as much as I do so they sometimes diminish my anxiety. It helps a lot to know other people deal with it too. Thank you Kathleen.
The little victories really are so much bigger than little victories. When I get anxious about something specific, like an appointment, a trip, a social event etc... I remind myself how much bigger the positive victory feeling is than the horrible anxiety feeling. The anxiety is bad, but on a graph the victory 'i did it!' feeling is waaaaaaay higher
I literally cannot THANK YOU enough for posting this. I began therapy about 5 years ago for my mental health. Mainly OCD. I used to go into my sessions and tell my therapist that I was crazy because I should not be thinking this way about things. She always told me I was not crazy and that we are all just wired differently and a lot of it comes from instability in childhood. My parents divorced when I was young and we determined that I was trying to develop control somehow in my life since I felt like I lost control of so much. I literally used to use the same shampoo and conditioner for YEARS. I was terrified that something was going to happen to me or my family if I changed my shampoo and conditioner. I also used to drive around in circles when I left my home because I was worried I hit someone or something. It took a good 2-3 years in therapy to overcome those fears. NO medications needed at all. Just took a lot of challenging those fears. I now use different shampoo and conditioner all the time and don't even think twice. It is a battle but a battle you can fight! It is just about facing those fears each day. Thanks so much Kathleen! I am so happy to see that I was not the only one fighting the same battle.
When you started talking about the embarrassment of doing these things as an adult, I FELT THAT. But everyone has their own journey. It’s really hard to explain what you go through to other people, but remember your happiness & peace is for YOU, however you get there
one day i saw a meme talking about growing up shy and then once you’re older you realize that you’ve had anxiety your whole life and i cried because that’s me. i’m almost 22 and i don’t have my license because i’m so scared. i get made fun of by my family because my younger cousins and siblings are already driving. it makes life miserable at times because i hate relying on other people to drive me around. it makes me feel so embarrassed telling people i don’t have my license...you’re definitely not alone
Im 29 and still dont have my license because im scared. I constantly get picked on for it. But i always reply with "if im too scared to drive, do you really want me on the road!?"
I didn’t get my license until I was 23, (27 now) I just tell everyone I’m too anxious to drive bc I don’t wanna get made fun of 😭 it literally sucks bc everytime I think I can overcome my fear my brain tells me I cant do it
same. i decline invites if i feel bad asking for a ride. i always feel like such a burden and an annoyance. im even getting emotional typing this comment. sucks, man.
@@PurpleNinjas297 i totally understand. i either decline because i dont have the energy to ask or ask and feel like crap. When a friend just offers.... the best feeling. just doesn't happen often.
Kathleen, you should be a motivational speaker. You have such a genuine way of conveying your message in a way that is so interesting. You freaking rock!
"sometimes you have to forcefully put yourself through the storm... to make it to the calm", oh my just started crying at this. Kathleen you are not alone and a lot of us are in the same boat. Thank you for sharing!
OCD can be such a silent suffering. I know this feeling so well. Its hard to tell people because sometimes it doesn't make sense. But know your feelings are valid.
Hearing you say “saying this out loud, what is this?!” So relatable. I know its strange in my brain but when I tell people I’m like ooooookay then lol.
From the movie P.S. I Love You, a quote that always stuck with me and helps me out when im feeling down, "Thing to remember is, if we're all alone, then we are all together in that too." I wish you the best and I love to hear about literally anything you talk about. You have a tribe behind you. And I hope to see you behind the wheel!
I totally understand the things you do that make you complete, my husband is the same way with the prayers, the rosary and the signs on the cross before we leave anywhere in the car. I recently noticed each year is a new thing for him. While this may or may not work, journal in ALL of the things you do that is a part of your OCD and each time you overcome "not doing it" check it off as a goal and let YOU be proud of yourself for overcoming these difficult things! I support you 10000000% and I love that you are so brave and strong for addressing the things you fear!
A lot of these thoughts which are often quite intrusive are called “magical thinking” in the literature. It’s quite common with anxiety and OCD, just to help normalize that this is not a rare characteristic or feature. I highly suggest therapy. I personally attend regular therapy sessions it will help you process and dissect these thoughts and the fears that are associated with them, it often stems from a need of control or thinking we are controlling our world. Best wishes to you. Transparency is beautiful and it’s a huge first step!
I have to check my car door is locked three times before I can walk away. Every. Time. Make sure the blinds are lined up exactly before I can sleep. The struggle is real
@@gwendolynbrown5093 me too, I have to check the stove and oven and also check if the doors are locked a million times throughout the day. The curtains in my room have to be even too 😆 At work is a different story, I share a desk, so I have my own pens, etc, I set them a certain way and I'm constantly making sure they're always perfect in a row and I rubber band them for when I'm not there and hide them so no one else touches them..
@@KathleenLights Kathleen I wanted to share this podcast and UA-cam channel Psychology in Seattle, it’s definitely not a replacement for therapy but it has helped me in many ways.
You’ve been my favorite UA-camr hands down for years. I appreciate how genuine and honest you are about your mental health cause it’s so important. I have had such a stressful year dealing with school and work and my dad having covid. I work at a mental health hospital and struggle myself with anxiety and ocd. I’m actually doing something about it now when I was always putting it off and have started seeing a therapist and psychiatrist so I can help myself while helping others. You’re definitely never alone. Love you and I’m proud of you ♥️
you’re so strong, brave and beautiful for sharing this. i’ve been on disability for years for severe depression, anxiety and PTSD. I almost never leave my home. Makeup and my dogs are my sanctuary. i love you so so much!
When I was younger I used to have to tell my mom before bed “goodnight. I love you. See you in the morning. Goodnight” in that order and had to say goodnight first and last. And NOW I have to say it to my son like that before bed because I feel like each one has to be said or something will go wrong in the night. I feel you on this video more than you know and I’m so proud of you for changing your phone case! I relate to every single aspect and it’s a work in progress!!
this video made me so emotional. you shouldn’t feel weird or embarrassed. keep moving forward and never be afraid to open up because you’re not alone ❤️ each little victory is a step in the right direction and you should be so proud of yourself
Hey guys! I know I’m very open about my anxiety & fears but today I wanted to talk about other things that I struggle with daily! I don’t know what to call this but I thought maybe at least SOMEONE could find this helpful. Xoxo
Nothing less than that ..❤️
I think you are a lot more brave then you feel!
Thank you for opening up. You’re not alone♥️ Made me cry bc I always feel so alone in this. You mentioned you don’t know where these thoughts came from and something that has really helped me is separating the thought from yourself.. every time you have an ocd thought say “it’s not me, it’s ocd”. Hope you find a good therapist (that will video chat) and specializes in ERP therapy. Best of luck!!
It’s incredibly helpful! This video is so powerful and will impact a lot of people in big ways!!! Thank u so much!!
I am 47 and I’m struggling with my mental health issues so i no what you are going through so just to let you no I’m gonna pray for you please stay safe love from Australia xxxxx ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ love you and your honesty
For someone who says they’re not brave, this is one of the bravest videos I have ever seen.
Couldn't agree more! 💖
💯
Yes this 🙌🏼
It would be braver if she would actually go to therapy and do something about it. It sounds like she's miserable, I don't understand why she's not seeing a psychiatrist already.
@@ednanonono with all due respect, you sound like you don't struggle with crippling mental health issues, or if you do yours are under control. Deciding to get help is very hard and scary, and like you said - brave! She sounds like she's thinking about it and needs to, so don't be a negative energy here, give her time to come around and figure it out. She's Kathleen, she'll get there, and we need to be here to love her the whole way 💖
“Welcome to the real world, no one is ok” so true. Thank you for sharing and being so honest.
“Welcome to the real world. No one is okay” I felt that.
I felt that too!
I really appreciate every time you stopped yourself from saying “crazy” and used a different word. As someone who has struggled with this, there is a way through.
Yes! Nice catch!🙏🏼💋🥰
I also so appreciated this!
Me too. I need to be able to never say that word again.
As someone diagnosed with OCD within the last year, I really recommend you going to a therapist to discuss. OCD is a completely different beast than generalized anxiety and it requires different treatment. I’m happy to talk to you about it at any time 💕
Do you mind sharing a book or something that helps you the most ?
@@stephaniekilleen4886 hi Stephanie! ❤️The best help you can get is going through ERP (exposure and response prevention) with a trained therapist. This pocast has helped me learn ab my OCD and helped me feel less alone -> (The OCD stories is the name)
open.spotify.com/show/13YuzynkMsgjtR3K3Brhle?si=r0Uw_XxFTZ-gQM1tIxFriA
Edmund J. Bourne
The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook
has been highly recommended by my therapist for years!
ختي تعيشي ربي يعلا من مقامك وربي يفتحها في وجهك ويخليلك العزاز عليك وينورلك طريقك ووين تروحي تلقايها مفتوحة في وجهك اشتاركي بقناتي تعيشي ي ua-cam.com/channels/bgBLzFH1GmMwjpVk5BLW1A.html
X
As an adult that is paralyzed with fear of driving to the point of guilt and embarrassment, it is nice to know you’re not alone❤️
Me too, you are not alone my dear.💕
Same - I’ve forced myself to get my actual license but I can’t drive regularly.
Not alone.
I have this same problem. Meds are finally starting to help 🖤
I thought I was the only adult not driving due to fear. I just started driving on my own at 31 but till now I only drive close to home. Anywhere that is away from my comfort zone I won't drive and wait until I can get a ride from my family member.
Hi Kathleen, I'm a psychologist form Argentina, and due to COVID-19 I'm treating all my pacients virtually. I deeply recommend you to look for a therapist in your city that offers virtual therapy, I know that it sounds scary, but I promise that you'll see that it's not that bad (just like you realized when you changed your phone case). You're going through so many things that pile up and restrict you more and more, but everything you said is totally treatable. I hope that you decide to look for help, because there's hope for a better life ❤
You're not alone. I feel you. I hear you. Thanks for opening up. Remember baby steps. And yes, no one is OK!
The way she got so excited about changing her phone case melted my freaking heart. I love her so much. Love her transparency, dedication, & her love for her subscribers. She genuinely is the best UA-camr I know. I just hope she knows how much we all love & support her! ♥️
Shout outs to Danny being a super supportive partner with you through everything!!
Yes! Amen! I love that he knows what she's dealing with and he accepts her while she goes thru this.
Completely!!!!
Supportive partners are everything. I’m very much like Kathleen and my husband is so freakin supportive to a point he’s learned my little intricacies and even if he doesn’t understand it he respects it.
@@katiyatovar1981 I recently went through a breakup with someone who said he couldn’t support me in my journey with OCD, & seeing your comment & knowing Danny has been a good support to Kathleen gives me SO much hope. 💕🙏 Thank you for SO much for sharing in a time where I’m struggling a lot. 😁
@@michimashmunch awww hun. You will find someone. I’m sure of it. There are wonderful men out there they just aren’t so easy to find. I’m glad I was able to give you hope. Don’t settle for anything less than you deserve babe. 💕
OCD is so often misunderstood, and rarely talked about beyond “neat freak” stereotypes, so this video is important, proud of Kathleen for sharing this! For anyone who feels alone, OCD support groups and/or therapy with a group component can make a HUGE difference (and there are virtual options during a pandemic).
Yes, I agree. After meeting my dear friend and seeing her struggle with day to day things. It also got me really upset when someone told her “ oh, you have OCD? Maybe you can come to my house and reorganize it.” If only she knew how hard it was for her to get dressed up that day.
I'm a licensed therapist and SO thankful for your openness. I also want to urge you to find someone to talk to! Virtual therapy only feels odd at first but becomes normal. And you can stay home! Sending all my love and positivity your way
You're the first person who made me feel less alone with my anxiety. You continue to make me feel less alone. Thank you.
“Welcome to the real world. No one’s ok” I felt that!
I came back to this video bc I remember you explaining your anxiety throught the years and thought wow she is so brave. And here I am 3 yrs later suffering from anxiety and still beyond proud how you manage to open up about your anxiety. I hope to one day be able to cope w things the way you do. This video has definitely given me the comfort that I needed, thank you Kathleen ❤️
Also something my therapist said that has really helped my OCD anxiety intrusive thoughts is “just because you FEEL something strongly DOES NOT mean it’s TRUE.”
I think the best analogy I got was a phantom limb. People who lose a limb may still “feel” it. Like it will itch or hurt. Our brain is essentially telling us something that isn’t true. We don’t always have to believe what it tells us is a fact.
I hope she starts to get professional help so that she too can be exposed to coping skills, comments etc.
Anxiety and OCD can be SO crippling, but recognizing it and trying your hardest to take away its power is HUGE! You should be so proud of yourself
You are so much braver than people who don’t experience this OCD every single day. You live your life quietly having these thoughts battling everyday to be okay. You are such a badass🤍
Yes!! I totally agree with you 💓
Thank you for this. 😭
“We’re surviving, we’re doing this life thing, maybe not as good as some other people who don’t experience this things, but we’re hanging in there.” Love this ❤️ love you ❤️
As a therapist in today’s world thanks for posting this Kathleen and being open about your challenges! The more we have conversations about mental health the more we can normalize our suffering and struggles and know we are all not alone. Therapy is also amazing and I highly recommend 🤗 love you Kathleen!!
I sobbed when you said “even if I feel like no one in my personal circle gets me. I know there is someone else out there that does” You’re very brave for opening up about this, Kathleen. Don’t ever think that you’re not!
Lesly Lezcano Amen! Kathleen you really have so many supporters. So many of us struggle with our mental health, doesn’t matter if it’s big or small. Still the struggle exists.
I’m so happy you’re opening up about such a sensitive topic to many. You’ve always been so real and honest with us and we really appreciate it so much. I’m with you.
something that helps me get through my anxiety is reminding myself that nothing has EVER been as scary as I thought it would be.
This!!!
Props to you girl for experiencing these mental battles everyday, while being the founder of a company and being so successful! You’re an inspiration to all of us xxxx
Those thoughts are called “intrusive thoughts”. Look it up. You are NOT alone! ❤️❤️❤️ you are so strong for speaking out!
trying to break those “curses” is such a draining internal battle, thankful to know we are not alone in the battle but so frustrating and upsetting that so many people feel these needs and experience these barriers is devastating ❤️❤️
I definitely just put two and two together and realized her computer screen has been those moons for as long as I can remember. I love you Kathleen!! I’m legit so proud of you. 🥺♥️
I'm so incredibly proud of you Kathleen for uploading this. You say you "have no balls", but you really are so strong and brave, and i don't think you even realize. You can see it in the mere act of uploading this video, which i can see the vulnability and strenght that it took to say all of this out loud and publicly. Or lauching KL polish, and then having to close it, and starting again with Lights Laquer. That was such a bawlsy move it marked me and taught me a lot about resilience. I'm gonna keep this short, but i just wanna say: there might be a lot of things you can't do, and you'll get to that little by little, but the reality is that you've done SO MUCH. It's ok to look at what you're missing in order to work on it, but please please please don't forget to look at how far you've come so far. It's really EXTRAORDINARY. I for one admire you deeply.
Well said!!!
i just have to let you know that i’ve never felt more seen than i did while watching this video. the whole time i was watching it i found myself thinking to myself “oh my god, somebody else is going through this too!” thank you for being so open and honest on the internet. love you forever.
Imagine your intrusive thoughts floating down a river in a peaceful way, floating away until their just out of distance, then gone. Little mental exercise that helps me ❤️
I have some anxiety but no real OCD & this made me feel so incredibly peaceful ❤️
Wow I Love this. Going to do this
I know this one! My therapist recommended it to me. Leaves on a stream ❤️
This one really helps me so much 🥺
Yes this is a good one! I also imagine intrusive thoughts as a bubble that I can pop or it just floats away.
Now THIS is the type of rawness we need more of on the internet. You’re crazy if you don’t believe you’re brave! We are all so irrational, odd, & unique in our way. While I don’t experience this type of anxiety, I understand you completely & relate to you on not feeling in control of your mind. Thank you for reminding us of the beautiful imperfection & the mystery that comes with being human ♥️
1. Saying it out loud is recognizing what's going on.
2. Darling consider going back to therapy. (I am a therapist) it sounds like you really to explore this further ♥️
As a 28 year old who has never been able to drive due to anxiety and panic, thank you for speaking about this. Transparency can be so cathartic so I hope that posting this video can give you some peace. Much love to you!
Same here. I’m 31 and haven’t been able to drive or swim because of anxiety. Like, I know the CONCEPT of swimming, and I know how to operate a vehicle, but the panic attacks these things cause me have prevented me from properly developing the skills. Everyone who knows that I can’t do these things are always so confident that they can teach me, and I feel like I’m endlessly explaining why I can’t. The subject of driving and swimming comes up a lot living in Southern California lol.
As a parent of a teenager with ocd.. I am in awe of you and your ability to acknowledge your struggles. I know how hard it is to complete daily tasks. This is amazing for your young viewers to hear/watch you be real and authentic
I’ve been debating going to therapy for the last couple years and watching this video has given me the push I needed, thank you, sending so much love your way xx
I relate so hard to your phrase “its hard as an adult” i feel that way SO MUCH I literally think that several times a day.
I say this with all the love in my heart : go to therapy. A psychologist, a psychiatrist, try different things and find the one for you. Either a "regular" therapy or hypnosis or a particular type of therapy... You will get better with help.
I experience everything you talk about and therapy has been a HUGE help, like life-changing help.
“What matters is that we are trying.” ❤️ I genuinely think people struggling with mental health are 100x stronger than others - we are constantly fighting battles that others will never see. Thank you for opening up about this. ❤️ Really. You’re making a difference.
I’ve followed you for such a long time, and while I’ve never dealt with OCD, I have anxiety and bipolar disorder. Your openness with your anxiety was one of the reasons I decided to reach out for help with my mental health. I know it’s hard to see for yourself at times, but I’m really proud of you. You’re a strong person with a kind heart, I’m so sorry that you struggle with this, but you’re not alone and you’re not crazy ♥️
You definitely aren’t alone babe. I’ve followed you a long time. You’re a true gem and a spot of light here on the internet. Thank you.
This had me near tears. As I sit here with the same phone case, background and Lock Screen I’ve had for 3 years. Don’t even get me started about the driving or transportation thing...
I was in tears too 🥺 I had the same background and lock screen for 3 yrs too and just brought myself to change them a while ago. Driving is my biggest one though & something I battle with everyday.
This is why you have become practically the last “influencer” I still watch. Saying some people need to get through the rain to get to the rainbow vs some who wake up to the rainbow is so on point. Thank you so much for this video. 💕💕
I feel like youtubers mainly talk about anxiety and depression... so I really appreciate seeing some OCD representation. It seems like a very misunderstood disorder, it’s not just being a clean freak.
I completely agree. I actually didn’t even know OCD was a form of anxiety until last year😳🤭 after I learned that, I’m even more convinced that I have OCD and I’m not just a neat freak who gets stressed out abt weird random things lol
yep. i was diagnosed with OCD at a very young age, and people have always made jokes, like “oh so you’re just super clean?” it’s frustrating, because it manifests in such different ways.
I think it's great you shared this ... I often feel soooo embarrassed sharing some of my inner thoughts or what holds me back or makes me feel weird, etc etc, but the more I hear others say something so similar it makes me feel less ... alien lol
We are all aliens 👽😘🙏❤️
Yes! 💖✨ me too girl
🌼💜🌼💜🌼
Please don't ever feel embarrassed about a mental health issue... if that's how it is, that's how it is! Everyone's just doing the best they can you're crazy brave don't be ashamed! Sending you all the love!
People with anxiety are the bravest. We do everything “normal people” do but for us is just 10 times more difficult. We are very very strong! 💪🏻👊🏻💖
Yess we are!! ❤️
Yeees girl
This 💖
@@catiebug4387 💖
@@DanielleNicoleMakeup 💖
as someone who’s struggled with depression and anxiety for years - I always appreciate people being honest about mental health ❤️ the more we can be honest - the more others can feel they can can honest as well... 🙏🏽
ختي تعيشي ربي يعلا من مقامك وربي يفتحها في وجهك ويخليلك العزاز عليك وينورلك طريقك ووين تروحي تلقايها مفتوحة في وجهك اشتاركي بقناتي تعيشي ي ua-cam.com/channels/bgBLzFH1GmMwjpVk5BLW1A.html
“Being authentically yourself gives others the permission to do the same” ♥️
I know this has to be hard to film. I relate to you so much ❤️ Thank you. Just hearing someone else speak about this makes me feel not so alone.
When you said this: ”I know it’s hard, I know it’s really really hard because the mind is a very tricky thing and sometimes it feels way more powerful than us. But we are stronger. Our will. Our soul. Who we are inside it is stronger than the anxieties, the fears, the OCD - the things that we deal with inside our mind.”
It really touched me. Like you and a lot of people I myself is dealing with several mental health issues such as anxiety, panic attacks and severe depression. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate this video. You’re so brave and honest. I wish you all the best and I will rewatch this video anytime I find myself in a haze of self-doubt or feeling overwhelmed. Lots of love.
Those thoughts are called "intrusive thoughts" and when I learned about those from my therapist and learned that just bc thoughts originate in my head, I don't have to be the author of them or the owner of them and I do not have to validate them or give them my time or energy, that's when I started to break free from my OCD. I've learned to challenge every irrational thought that breaks into my brain and weigh the odds of it actually happening. After a while, the thoughts become less frequent and subsequently so do the rituals. I hope the same for you. I'm here if I can help. Hugs. ❤
As a person with OCD, please look into ERP and ACT therapy. They are the gold standard for helping alleviate distress from OCD.
Great idea. Thank you for sharing. I hope she is able to get even better.
I hope she gets help too, I don’t understand why she hasn’t yet honestly. I understand that it’s hard because I’ve also struggled with these issues. But she’s had problems fro so many years, and it’s only going to get worse as she ignores them.
@@dianamccarthy2377 her coming out of this video is a really huge step already! It's frustrating to see someone you care about struggle, but we cant rush her into anything! Recovery and seeking treatment has to happen at her own pace
I suffer with debilitating ocd too. This pandemic hasn't made by life or anyone's life easier 😔
U are so not alone with rituals... it's something we are strong enough to work through. Love u
YOU ARE BRAVE!!!!❤
My mother was terrified to drive for 3 DECADES! 30 YEARS OF HER LIFE! She refused to get behind a wheel, and she was finally able to overcome that fear and has been driving for the last 3 years and she loves it!!!! YOU GOT THIS! I watched my mother overcome her 30 year fear and I know you can too!!! ❤❤❤
"Welcome to the real world. No one is ok"
"Welcome to our world. No one's okay"
Yep. I feel that.
This is why we love you so much Kathleen, your so open with us and we really appreciate it and love you for it
This made me so emotional. I could feel the exact frustration, pain, and confusion as you spoke of it. I am 25 and still trying to figure out why my brain works against me most days. I love you Kathleen (for a long time now) and we’re in this together! 💖 thank you for this. It feels “better” to know we’re not alone.
@Ava Tews 💖💖💖
My sister suffers from terrible OCD, and the phone case thing makes a lot of sense. Thank you for speaking about this. It’s important
even though i don’t struggle with this personally, you make me feel less alone. everyone has struggles and we’ll all get through this 💛
“Maybe things aren’t as intense as they are in my mind” omg this!! I have really bad anxiety.. literally yesterday my husband and I were baking Christmas cookies for our kids and I was really upset and freaking out because they didn’t turn out how I wanted them to.. and my husband said “babe, it’s just cookies” and I had to realize.. yeah they are just cookies... cookies my boys will love no matter what they look like.
Kathleen you have no idea how much this video has helped so many people, including myself. It’s so nice to hear that we’re not alone and just because other people don’t get these intrusive thoughts doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with us. This video was so freaking brave and I didn’t think it was possible to respect you anymore then I already did. You are truly a light to so many people. Never forget that. Thank you so much for this video. Whenever you’re ready I think therapy can be so good for you, it does wonders. Love you ❤️
OCD is so freaking HARD. You feel tied to your rituals and routine and it’s SUFFOCATING. Thank you so much for sharing your story. ❤️ you are so brave and you are not alone. ❤️
As someone who was diagnosed with OCD, I totally understand what you are going through. I definitely recommend you go to a therapist, and it was my therapist who told me that if it starts to affect your everyday life, then that's when you seek help. After going, it helped me so much. And although I still struggle with OCD every day, it is on a much less scale. Thank you so much for sharing this, it makes me feel much less alone!
Your IG post was so refreshing. Anxiety is one of those things that you can look at and realize it's not completely logical, but you also can't just "rationalize" yourself out of them. It's so frustrating. It was so awesome seeing that that cycle isn't only in my head.
When you said you wanted to drive for your new years resolution, that made me cry. I hope you fulfill it.
Girl, virtual therapy has helped me so much with my anxiety and depression, I would 100% recommend! You got this, don't try to face it all on your own.
I’ve always thought about therapy but I’m a very “calculating” person I guess you could say. I’m very in tune with my thoughts and I know everything is irrational, I don’t need someone to confirm that and make me feel better. Is this not the case during therapy? 🙂
@@caitlin786 nope, they also teach you ways to have more control of your mind. It’s very helpful!
@@caitlin786 I’m the exact same way! But therapy helps, you just need to find the right therapist for you. It’s completely changed how I think :) we don’t always know EVERYTHING. I’ve found out so much about myself! Try it! 💗
@@nikip5449 thanks girl 🥰 I’m glad it helped you. I’ll look into it
Everyone with OCD gasped audibly when Kathleen said Danny threw out the bobby pins. I WAS NOT OKAY.
Hahahahha poor guy thought they were dirty old metal sticks
I'm sorry you feel like you have to hide it. I bet that's been so hard and makes these thoughts even worse. I don't have these feelings but that being said if I wasn't told or informed (if I was someone close to you) I would be ignorant and probably stress you out more. I would want to know so I could help or at least not cause more stress💖 especially if I was your momma or Danny. You are incredible and thank you for sharing ❣️
@@KathleenLights LOL
WHAT
"Sometimes you have to forcefully put yourself through the storm to get to the calm"
This is EVERYTHING IVE BEEN feeling and dealing with. The driving. All of it. Everyone always says “oh you gotta drive. You’re an adult.” But like... they don’t understand.
Exactly 😓
😔
I feel like a lot of people make OCD this funny annoying thing but it’s so much more than that and should not be made fun of or taken lightly. It’s a real thing, people don’t understand that it is.
👏👏👏
It is honestly amazing that you were able to change your case on your own, I mean without any therapy... That's exactly the way that a psychologist would teach you to think, and you did it on your own! So don't say it's ridiculous, you were very brave and should be proud of yourself 🙏🥰💛 Imagine what you could achieve with therapy, you should definitely try it! Love so much, sending strength and love all the way from Portugal 🥰
I dont think you know how brave you are to actually speak out about mental issues. You're literally telling us so many personal details and letting us know how you deal with everything. so thank you so much for sharing everything with us.
I absolutely love how honest and open you are. Mental health needs to be talked about SO MUCH MORE. I lost my bf to suicide the day before Valentine's this year and ever since I try to spread as much awareness as I can....it takes a lot of courage to be so raw and talk about these things. So happy and proud of you for using your platform to talk about mental health. Sending you love & positive vibes 💞🙏💞🙏💞
When you said that you feel like you are the weakest link that broke my heart. You said you think everyone else you know is braver than you.Never ever forget that you are so brave for facing your anxiety and ocd everyday. You face so much extra stress everyday that weighs you down every day from your OCD and anxiety and that makes you so strong and brave. Even on your bad days when you feel like your anxiety and ocd is beating you, you are so strong and brave for living with your ocd and anxiety. I deal with anxiety too and it can be hard because while my family has anxiety too, they don't have it as much as I do so they sometimes diminish my anxiety. It helps a lot to know other people deal with it too. Thank you Kathleen.
I really appreciate you sharing this even if i can’t personally understand or relate to this. I learned so much from your vulnerability
I love that Madison! Thanks for understanding
The amount of courage and strength it took, for you to make this video, is tremendous. You're definitely not weak, that's a fact girl.
The little victories really are so much bigger than little victories. When I get anxious about something specific, like an appointment, a trip, a social event etc... I remind myself how much bigger the positive victory feeling is than the horrible anxiety feeling. The anxiety is bad, but on a graph the victory 'i did it!' feeling is waaaaaaay higher
From someone who has severe anxiety, ocd, depression, and hasn't changed their phone wallpaper in 11 years, thank you for making this video ❤️
You can't be brave unless you have something to be afraid of. So really, you're the bravest of them all, Kathleen ❤️
😭 Why am I crying at your comment? This is so well said. Thank you.
@@yz1938 of course ❤️❤️❤️
"We are most important...who we are to ourselves." Girl I felt this deeply.
I wanted to cry watching another person is having a similar situation with me but i wanna say thank you, this video comforts me☺️
I recently read a quote that said, “Don’t believe everything you think.”
I love that so much
LOVE that, thanks for sharing!
I needed this today. Thank you
I literally cannot THANK YOU enough for posting this. I began therapy about 5 years ago for my mental health. Mainly OCD. I used to go into my sessions and tell my therapist that I was crazy because I should not be thinking this way about things. She always told me I was not crazy and that we are all just wired differently and a lot of it comes from instability in childhood. My parents divorced when I was young and we determined that I was trying to develop control somehow in my life since I felt like I lost control of so much. I literally used to use the same shampoo and conditioner for YEARS. I was terrified that something was going to happen to me or my family if I changed my shampoo and conditioner. I also used to drive around in circles when I left my home because I was worried I hit someone or something. It took a good 2-3 years in therapy to overcome those fears. NO medications needed at all. Just took a lot of challenging those fears. I now use different shampoo and conditioner all the time and don't even think twice. It is a battle but a battle you can fight! It is just about facing those fears each day. Thanks so much Kathleen! I am so happy to see that I was not the only one fighting the same battle.
When you started talking about the embarrassment of doing these things as an adult, I FELT THAT. But everyone has their own journey. It’s really hard to explain what you go through to other people, but remember your happiness & peace is for YOU, however you get there
please never delete this i need to get back to it whenever i need a reminder
one day i saw a meme talking about growing up shy and then once you’re older you realize that you’ve had anxiety your whole life and i cried because that’s me. i’m almost 22 and i don’t have my license because i’m so scared. i get made fun of by my family because my younger cousins and siblings are already driving. it makes life miserable at times because i hate relying on other people to drive me around. it makes me feel so embarrassed telling people i don’t have my license...you’re definitely not alone
Im 29 and still dont have my license because im scared. I constantly get picked on for it. But i always reply with "if im too scared to drive, do you really want me on the road!?"
I didn’t get my license until I was 23, (27 now)
I just tell everyone I’m too anxious to drive bc I don’t wanna get made fun of 😭 it literally sucks bc everytime I think I can overcome my fear my brain tells me I cant do it
I feel you on that I take my drivers test Wednesday and I’m so nervous my anxiety has been so bad to the point where I haven’t been able to eat
Omg I thought I was the only one 😭😭😭😭😭
Ana Mendez seriously! i tell myself i can but then the actual thought of it scares me so much! i hate it :(
I feel you so much Kathleen. when you teared up on relying on other people, i did too. its an awful feeling. 💔
same. i decline invites if i feel bad asking for a ride. i always feel like such a burden and an annoyance. im even getting emotional typing this comment. sucks, man.
@@PurpleNinjas297 i totally understand. i either decline because i dont have the energy to ask or ask and feel like crap. When a friend just offers.... the best feeling. just doesn't happen often.
Kathleen, you should be a motivational speaker. You have such a genuine way of conveying your message in a way that is so interesting. You freaking rock!
"sometimes you have to forcefully put yourself through the storm... to make it to the calm", oh my just started crying at this. Kathleen you are not alone and a lot of us are in the same boat. Thank you for sharing!
OCD can be such a silent suffering. I know this feeling so well. Its hard to tell people because sometimes it doesn't make sense. But know your feelings are valid.
Hearing you say “saying this out loud, what is this?!” So relatable. I know its strange in my brain but when I tell people I’m like ooooookay then lol.
From the movie P.S. I Love You, a quote that always stuck with me and helps me out when im feeling down, "Thing to remember is, if we're all alone, then we are all together in that too." I wish you the best and I love to hear about literally anything you talk about. You have a tribe behind you. And I hope to see you behind the wheel!
I totally understand the things you do that make you complete, my husband is the same way with the prayers, the rosary and the signs on the cross before we leave anywhere in the car. I recently noticed each year is a new thing for him. While this may or may not work, journal in ALL of the things you do that is a part of your OCD and each time you overcome "not doing it" check it off as a goal and let YOU be proud of yourself for overcoming these difficult things! I support you 10000000% and I love that you are so brave and strong for addressing the things you fear!
A lot of these thoughts which are often quite intrusive are called “magical thinking” in the literature. It’s quite common with anxiety and OCD, just to help normalize that this is not a rare characteristic or feature. I highly suggest therapy. I personally attend regular therapy sessions it will help you process and dissect these thoughts and the fears that are associated with them, it often stems from a need of control or thinking we are controlling our world. Best wishes to you. Transparency is beautiful and it’s a huge first step!
I have to check my car door is locked three times before I can walk away. Every. Time. Make sure the blinds are lined up exactly before I can sleep. The struggle is real
I do the same thing. I also worry if I unplug everything before I leave.
ختي تعيشي ربي يعلا من مقامك وربي يفتحها في وجهك ويخليلك العزاز عليك وينورلك طريقك ووين تروحي تلقايها مفتوحة في وجهك اشتاركي بقناتي تعيشي ي ua-cam.com/channels/bgBLzFH1GmMwjpVk5BLW1A.html
Oh my gosh I thought I was the only one !!
I do the same thing with the car!! My best friend will even ask me, did you check it 3 times? Lol god love her
@@gwendolynbrown5093 me too, I have to check the stove and oven and also check if the doors are locked a million times throughout the day. The curtains in my room have to be even too 😆
At work is a different story, I share a desk, so I have my own pens, etc, I set them a certain way and I'm constantly making sure they're always perfect in a row and I rubber band them for when I'm not there and hide them so no one else touches them..
Therapy has made a hugeeee difference in my mental health and dealing with compulsions. I definitely recommend it to anyone who is able to get it.
Yes! I agree! Such a shame not everyone is able to go to therapy :( makes me sad
@@KathleenLights Yes it should be more accessible... we’re thinking of making it free in Belgium though :)
@@KathleenLights Kathleen I wanted to share this podcast and UA-cam channel Psychology in Seattle, it’s definitely not a replacement for therapy but it has helped me in many ways.
You’ve been my favorite UA-camr hands down for years. I appreciate how genuine and honest you are about your mental health cause it’s so important. I have had such a stressful year dealing with school and work and my dad having covid. I work at a mental health hospital and struggle myself with anxiety and ocd. I’m actually doing something about it now when I was always putting it off and have started seeing a therapist and psychiatrist so I can help myself while helping others. You’re definitely never alone. Love you and I’m proud of you ♥️
you’re so strong, brave and beautiful for sharing this. i’ve been on disability for years for severe depression, anxiety and PTSD. I almost never leave my home. Makeup and my dogs are my sanctuary. i love you so so much!
Look at all you have accomplished! You ARE strong!! ❤️ Lisa
When I was younger I used to have to tell my mom before bed “goodnight. I love you. See you in the morning. Goodnight” in that order and had to say goodnight first and last. And NOW I have to say it to my son like that before bed because I feel like each one has to be said or something will go wrong in the night. I feel you on this video more than you know and I’m so proud of you for changing your phone case! I relate to every single aspect and it’s a work in progress!!
this video made me so emotional. you shouldn’t feel weird or embarrassed. keep moving forward and never be afraid to open up because you’re not alone ❤️ each little victory is a step in the right direction and you should be so proud of yourself