I liked how you said: "Gabby Petito's killer, Bryan Laundrie". Sometimes murderers get an undeserved protagonism, and it was a nice way to put first the person who really matters.
He never got her help, but instead "mercy" killed her, abandoned her body to the elements, then drove her van home to mommy and daddy while spending her money! Gee, how could anyone doubt his story? Dirty Laundrie indeed!
So the love of your life falls and hits her head and goes into hypothermia and the solution is to strangle her to death? Makes no sense. Absolutely none. He was still manipulating people with this notebook until the end of his miserable cowardly life. Brian thought he was a character in one of those bizarre novels he read all the time. What a martyr. His parents released this notebook IMO to make the world not so "angry" with Brian. Good luck with that Laundries.
Most likely he hit her on the head, she probably had a concussion or something from that, and that coward didn't want to call help because it would come out he hit her. So instead he decided to get rid of her completely.
@@lisacurtis8162 Excellent point. It is all BS and never happened IMO and typical of Brian Laundrie. He was a liar and a coward to the end of his life. He flat out murdered her in the heat of a passionate argument and concocted this bizarre tale to look like some sort of "hero." What a scumbag.
@@goshafrau3636 Exactly, Horrific what the poor girl must have felt when the love of her life was manually strangling her to death and smashing her in the head with a rock. God bless her. Not an easy way to die......
The note book was an exercise to find an explanation for his behaviour so he could be saved by his lawyer. Probably that was the plan with his parents and lawyer. I still do not believe a person like this, with parents like his will kill himself. He only disappeared from public eyes.
I honestly believe this note was left behind as the final opportunity for a narcissist to stroke their own ego one last time. Or to convince himself he was a good person through the distorted view of reality narrative he probably told himself again and again and again.
@@kevinhornbuckle It's too stupid to do that. He had no right to "mercy kill" her. The rest of the story does not make sense. Like how there was no way to help her.
What a disgusting person. Attempting to claim that Gabby requested & insisted on him murdering her & how he was thoughtful enough to oblige. I can't even imagine how horrible this is for Gabby's family on top of everything already being horrible enough.
She may have even said oh God somebody stop this pain it hurts so much. People who are giving birth have been found to say similar things it’s not an invitation to kill somebody to stop their pain it’s just an off the cuff saying . I wish he was still alive to be interrogated and broken by investigators
@@caseytyler8326 i was in the icu last year saying oh god make this stop. definitely not an invitation to strangle me. this guy would've been passed around in the showers had he made it to prison
He used “The English Patient “Movie dramatic scene when the hero left his injured girlfriend alone in a cave to go get help to rescue her . She doesn’t want him to leave her because she’s afraid the fire 🔥 will extinct and she will be left alone , cold 🥶 in the dark . Still he leaves her there to get help . During this waiting she’s writing him a journal note that he will later find when coming back too late to save her ….. He definitely had this movie scene in mind since he used many elements of this movie’s scenario of the most romantic movie in the last 20 years ….
Interesting. Makes me wonder if he knew of this scenario. Somehow I doubt it though. He didn’t seem like the romantic type or a book/movie fan. More seemed the outdoors type. But your recalling of this scenario is eerie. Thanks for the post. Perhaps we’ll never know.
I’m listening to Lennon’s jealous guy right now. It must have really galled Brian to see their relationship exposed after the cops pulled them over. How many people were affected by gabby’s situation .
@@chrishintz1077 I think this movie was so famous , you didn’t have to be a movie or book guy to know about it …for sure Gaby had seen it and told him about it because the 🏜 desert with caves “decor “were it was filmed ( Tunisia) was made of “caramel “ color sand very much alike the Utah areas they were visiting ( Grand Teton Park?) with desert / caves surroundings as well . Every woman with a minimum of romantic vibes would remember this English patient movie “aviator hero” and would have shared that story with her boyfriend!
That's exactly what I thought. If you're going to lie about why you murdered someone, AT LEAST make it sound like it _could_ be true. I guess he couldn't fake normal.
He wanted her by his side only on his terms. He couldn't risk losing her from being under his control so he punished her by murdering her when he felt like she was at risk of being free from his grasp. Disgusting.
My husband and I followed this case. As soon as I watched the police footage, I knew he was guilty. He was very obviously manipulating the cops to think she was just an overly-dramatic female stressed about him getting the van dirty. She was the one crying and being emotional and he was coming off as the rational man in the situation. Those cops, who sounded like they were young and naive themselves, bought it.
As soon as I saw the footage, I knew we were being fed a bunch of lies by a biased media. Brian tries to de-escalate the situation and he's called an abuser. Gabby tries to de-escalate the situation and she's called a victim. Gabby was the primary aggressor but escaped arrest because the cops felt sorry for her. She just engaged in criminal activity and her whining, with a contorted face, kept her from being held accountable for breaking the law. Brian minimized the situation, to keep her out of handcuffs, and he's vilified for it. Of course, people don't want to acknowledge Gabby's behavior because it contradicts the popular narrative. She's the ultimate whyyte damsel in distress, abusers don't look like HER, they look like everyone else. Bullshyt, in a world where women demand equality, she should have been arrested.
@@emersonmanning6523 what in the world?? There are multiple witnesses that state they saw him hitting her outside the restaurant. Grow up dude. This isn't a gender thing.
@@theresac4893 I'm a woman... No one witnessed Brian hitting Gabby outside of the restaurant because it was a verbal altercation, not physical. And it's absolutely a gender thing. You literally have people using excuses like "gaslighting" for Gabby's violence in Moab. People are so emotionally invested in this case that they literally can't tell fact from the stories they make up in their heads. Your post above is a prime example. Bottom line, they were BOTH toxic individuals and the cops should have performed their due diligence in arresting the person they identified as the aggressor.
Why yes. I thought everyone knew strangulation was an act of mercy. He could not even be truthful before his own suicide. Brian Laundrie was a total sociopath. He did not want to face what he had done or face the consequences of his actions.
This is as Chris Wattsion brain as it gets. For someone that read murder books. He went with a 3 year old brain story. I imagine he thought it would be made into a murder book like he liked one day… no Brian even my 9 year old boys would laugh at this joke.
He was such a narssist. That is one of the reasons he killed hinself. It is the last way he could have control. And he killed for control as well. I am guessing she was going to leave him or he about narssist do, knew she would.
“She was not able to appreciate the warning signs” I find this statement profound! When love between two people begins those rose colored glasses come on and any red flags often blend in or just get dismissed entirely. I like that you worded it in this way because if we all operated from our higher mind, appreciation is exactly how we should feel when things don’t present themselves as they seem. Warning signs should be APPRECIATED!! that’ll stick with me forever. Thank you Dr. Grande
Also his family encouraged his ways instead of holding him accountable to be better, or get him the mental health help he needs. He would be alive too if they were not blind to their own arrogance, and favoritism. If he wanted to save her, he would’ve taken her car to take her to the ER.
thats why all females should marry Only males older more mature than them( 7 -12 years older min . Plus the male is already established , financial secure etc . No same age poster boy mommy babysitters
Drug abuse. Donald Trump wasn`t thinking when he handed out huge drug money checks to leftist voters and millions are now suffering from severe brain damage.
@FateAndFurie: He wrote that she "wanted him to make the pain stop", that doesn't necessarily mean wanting to die, it's just how he interpretet it (in his 'version'). It doesn't add up because they weren't in Mt. Everest's Death Zone, they were in a camping area with cell phone reception, other campers nearby and their van just across the shallow creek.
As if this could possibly be true...So we are supposed to believe she loved him more than herself and asked him to kill her ?? With no thoughts about what her Mother, Father, and Step Parents might think ? They were a nice family and loved their daughter so much.... I don't believe Gabby would do that to them.... It is out of character...
And let's play devils advocate for a minute. Let's say someone was in such severe pain that they're not capable of thinking rationally and beg for you to end their pain.... doesn't mean you comply!
One of the most frustrating parts of this case is that Brian always assumed that his lies were believable; that everyone else is just not as smart as he is. Pathetically, he gave himself away every time.
this is very typical for narcissists... the condition seems to come with certain delusions and they believe in it so much that they often manage to convince others around them as well.
If a person could murder then they sure as hell can lie. He's a liar and I don't believe anything he wrote. Period. He didn't deserve to touch a hair on her head.
I think Gabby told him it was over and he snapped. You can tell something was wrong with that pos in the police situation when they were talking to him. He was a creep, liar, and a murderer. His parents are No Better!
Thank you, Dr. Grande, for your analysis of the letter. I have had a gut feeling that as Gabby and Brian's trip continued, being with each other in tight quarters in that van and with each other 24/7, that perhaps Gabby was realizing that Brian wasn't the one for her. After the Utah incident, I suspect that friction only continued to escalate to the point that he killed her in a rage. Gabby reminded me alot of Shannon Watts..how both of them portrayed their relationships so positively in social media, when in actuality, the relationships were both troubled. Thank you for all the insightful programs that you make.
Targeted individuals have been in the news there's documentary's there is evidence of the different types of program's and Ways to hack into peoples minds. What there is not. Is Medical examinations by the people who warn and speak out against the CRIMES that can be commited.. neural rights are Human rights. Medical examinations for targeted individuals. There's ways to detect the Assaults just like there are ways to Trace cell phones or radio stations. There's ways to intercept the signals too.. scary thought for the targeted Victims... but there's ways the authorities can catch the people who commit these crimes.. I hate to admit that Drs Law enforcement and Law firm's are failing the American citizens. EMF sensitivity has been recognized as a real Medical condition. microwave auditory effect is a real Medical condition. When people use this technology intentionally to hurt others it's a CRIME. It's a violaton against our Civil Rights for Law enforcement agencies not to INVESTIGATE.. some people report to the police several times. And nothing gets done to help the victims. Yeah I believe the gov would run Illegal experiments I believe creepy scientist would use this technology to harrass a woman of interest. Or Men.. some people sitting in Thier own yard's are Assaulted and on the News but where is the police? Why are They not looking for the local person that could have the microwave assualt weapons in their garage? Victims have caught criminals on video using microwave energy weapons to shoot at things yard and even assault people. I believe he called when they weren't shooting at his garbage cans but an elderly woman walking past. The police questioned him about why he's recording his neighbor.. SMH There's definitely a problem When law abiding citizens are reporting criminals and law enforcement ignores the criminals and tells the law abiding citizens they shouldn't be recording the criminals activity. Law and order.. just because law abiding citizens are easier to deal with Because they will obey the officers Doesn't Mean the Criminals should be ignored. There needs to be a Medical documentary on target Individuals! Medical proffesionals Neuro specialist EEGs and other Neuro testing to detect what's going on inside the targeted individual mind's.
Yes and I would add that a lot of people including myself were struck by the how much duress she was under in the video with the cops and how he was all smiles cuz it was all about him and that his narcissism shine through and his manipulation. I think she tried to break up with him when he killed her. What's amazing is that she was with him for 2 years and apparently didn't have a clue. And I would put that down to him hiding it well enough that she didn't until he got her out and I. I can't I come to the conclusion when they were still looking for her body that after that video with the cops that he waited till they got on that trip part way through the trip by the way and then decided to more or less spring the trap of and started being nasty to her started manipulating her to the point where she was she wasn't just upset she was distraught in that video it was hard to watch I felt so bad for her. It was also hard to watch that smiling jackass like it was all about him. I mean if he truly loved her her being upset that way should have upset him just as much he should have been crying in front of those cops. I know that's how I get get when I'm fighting with somebody I love an upset we upset each other. But he wasn't. So he got her out there and started in honor decided he was going to he was going to make her his little minion his little what do you call him he's going to break her in on the on the trip and I think may I think possibly his father he got that from his father and that he wanted Gabby to be like his dear old mom. I think that whole the whole laundry family or I think there was two male psychos and one female enabler.
Can we just have a mandatory relationship class for all High School students to enlighten them on the characteristics of Narcissism? Dr Grande may you write the syllabus?
Coming from living with an abuser for 10 long years that I met when I was just 18, your analysis was absolutely spot on. My ex acted the same exact way. And, had it not been for nosy friends and intrusive family, I would have suffered the same horrible fate as poor Gabby.
I married a narcissist at Gabby’s age. Luckily, I got out (he has since remarried). This sounds so familiar. Their acts are out of altruism, morality, and responsibility. Always. They are excellent at fooling people. Brian’s preposterous note betrays his confidence in his ability to deceive people-hey, he fooled some cops! What a tragedy. I really want to know the story of what his parents knew.
@@iciajay6891 You’re 100% right! If he were thrown in jail, we’d all forget about him. Now he gets to be his own “hero.” (There will be books about him.) You have to hand it to him: Epic Scum Bag.
The note has a demented quality that reminds me of interviews of murderers I've listened to where they give their rationales for murdering. The narrative that Laundrie produces is stunningly arbitrary and illogical and incoherent and gives the impression that he's way, way out there in narcissism land. Murdering Gabby is rendered as part of a care strategy.
Yes, he makes himself the "hero" of his story by "saving" her from pain and suffering, despite the fact he is the cause of her pain and suffering. Delusional.
@@eddysgaming9868 Right! Because if I fall, hit my head, and get a few scratches then of course I'm going to beg my husband to kill me because the pain is SO bad!! Lol.
I reckon it may be smattered with truth, if he wrote it. They could have argued and physically fought and in the course of that, Gabby fell and hit her head. Enough to be badly hurt and for Brian to be in trouble. He then may have killed her, possibly telling himself it was best for her and best for him in the circumstances. In his head that could easily turn in to Gabby falling due to "an accident" and the killing being for mercy. It'll be interesting to see the digital confession on a device they've said exists, which is apparently a different story from this. Maybe it is just a total lie.
This letter was just him trying to hide his cowardice. He was too afraid to face the consequences for his actions and killed himself. He even tried to play the martyr by saying he hoped animals would rips his body apart. If Gabby was begging to for him to end it then why was she afraid of the fire going out? In my opinion, they were arguing, Gabby was starting to get the courage to stand up to him, and possibly consider leaving him. I think Brian tried to kill her by hitting her in the head and when he failed he strangled her. If he loves her so much why would he leave her body out in the elements like that to be eaten on by animals? He knew where the car was, he knew what he was doing all alone, and if that family hadn’t been driving by and spotted he can he may have gotten away with it. In the end he made Gabby’s tragic death all about himself like every other narcissist on the planet. It is a tragedy that Gabby was murdered. I wish the police in Utah would’ve had better training to spot a victim of domestic violence and possibly spared all of this from happening. My prayers continue to go out to Gabby’s family, I can’t imagine going through the loss of a child.
Reading the note really disturbed me. His attempt to justify the murder by writing this nonsense was just bizzare. I was really wondering what are your thoughts on his behaviour so thank you very much for this video! ❤
Thank You Dr. Grande, for shredding this killer's romanticized "Notebook/ Romeo & Juliet" malarkey and calling Brian Laundrie out for what he was, a coward and a killer, terrified at being held accountable for his actions.
He couldn’t even tell the truth in a suicide note. He denied her family some small comfort of knowing what happened and why. I didn’t think my opinion of him could get any lower-until now. That “confession” is bs. Period. He was probably abusing her and had been for a while, they got in a fight and he killed her in anger. He’s pathetic and frankly so are his parents.
Thank you for great analysis! It confirms what we saw on the police-film: She was a naïve girl in love, he a cold narcissistic toad with no scruples. A story as old as the history of humankind. Poor, poor girl.
i want to give thanks to the amazing spotting of gabbys van in the grand teton national park. without this find, who knows if her family would ever had closure. a big commercial bus converted into a family home, named red white and bethune, happened to be driving past, searching for a camping space. they saw the alerts on the news and recognised the van that they had passed and called the police. they seem to have fallen off the radar but they seem a sweet group according to their you tube channel.
@@gayle2850 -idk- he went home 2x after moab restaurant. 2nd time; Went camping with family (who buy new phone(s)), then went on the lam to fav park, flood levels vary wide-ly in area during this time - some searching is impossible at some times in different areas, parents allowed to search and everything is found in under an hour. What strikes me is that in his note he says my body will be eaten & carried far from this spot by animals. In Fact body was found 250m from bag. But, of all the bodies thrown to be eaten into the swamps of Florida * that Do NOT get fully devoured or displaced *, he got pretty clairvoyant about his. Personally, I didn't think I would feel worse about this horrible, tragic murder of a sweet girl after hearing the note, but I do. I definitely feel much worse. What weak, scared, narc punks Brian & his Parents are.
@@gayle2850 Yes Gayle, the lunch time blow up at the restaurant then the 'bad thing' happened that night, I believe. I think he was probably jealous of her. He did not be accountable, responsible >> bit like his Mother & father it seems [?]
A person afraid of losing someone they love wouldn't aide in their death. They would've taken the chance and went to look for help. It's very sad that even in his last moments, he was still deceptive.
Actually it's fitting the whole "If I can't have her, no one will" thing. There even are serial killers who did their thing to have control over others and them not being able to leave anymore. The human mind can be extremely crazy
@@rebel4466 a lot of parents that commit infanticide do that as well. mainly when the parents separate. “i cant have the child to myself no one can” or “maybe if my child dies they’d realize everything is their fault”
He could be telling the truth. The one thing most people are not taking into account, and it is probably because they do not know, but both were on medication because they were both autistic. i am not saying he is telling the truth, but I think it is a good possibility he is.
@@rebel4466 while I appreciate you looking outside of the box, to me it doesn't add up. Also we have to remember they had already had a domestic dispute and was separated by cops. That's not usually a one off thing. If he wanted to take his life he could've done that in Wyoming. He was selfish, and was on the run. Why write a note that could've possibly went undiscovered. It's hard to think about it but even a lot of us are scared of having journal's found after our death and don't want ppl to think bad of us. I agree with him playing g hero and still not taking responsibility.
Dr Grande, I have to say this is one of your best. I am so touched by your gentleness, compassion, and understanding of the elements of this case. Even shedding light on why Gabby may have not recognized the danger she was in. She was so very young. It can take years of experience with a narcissist to be able to see the patterns and realize something is wrong. And perhaps she did realize it and was trying to leave. Those of us who have been there know that is the most dangerous time of all.
They never realize just how much evidence there is to convince everyone otherwise, he was probably in a reality and media bubble where he had no clue everyone knew he was a narcissistic sociopath nutjob
It’s a narcissist thing. They think they’re better and smarter than everyone else and never get caught, when in reality most people just don’t want to call them out on an obvious embarrassing mistake.
The last page that was shared to the media where Brian talked about taking his life where animals hopefully would tear him apart, to make Gabbie’s family happy and then telling whomever found him to pick everything up, because, “Gabbie hated litter.” I feel like it was such a huge coded “F-You” to Gabbie and especially, to her family. I’ve had a couple of exes’ in my life and unfortunately, my mother, who talk in this grandiose style. It’s similar to, “I’m going to hurt/kill myself if you leave.” It’s the, “Sorry to bother you!” When you ask for a boundary(my mom) to be respected or “I am your mother!” Get out. Get out as fast as you can. It’s easy to fantasize about it getting better. If it’s a parent/ family…”but they are your family, your mother…” Save it. FAMILY can be the most toxic people around you. You have every right to protect your mental health. Those men are my exes’ for a reason and I keep limited contact sometimes grey rocking my mom. FYI, I have had twice heartfelt sit downs with my mom to no avail. It’s never going to change and I don’t feel sorry for protecting myself. Please choose yourself and your mental care.♥️
I agree with you he harbored so much jealousy and he was going to control undermine rip everyone's hearts out. The degree of animosity was mounting and when in Gabbie's voice she spoke softly and carefully when showing Brian doing Yoga...it left me wondering
Absolutely, protect yourself. The most shocking thing about those with various disorders is that they will destroy themselves and those around them in the process of trying to control, manipulate them. It wasn't until I found a thorough therapist and spent the time reviewing people and events, that I began to see the picture and learn about how to protect myself as best I can. The most shocking thing about some abusers / disordered people is their ability to appear saintly to those around them/you particularly, officials, those in positions of responsibility, who in turn due to biases (idealogical & other) support the abuser in their habits and behaviour and even turn against you. So people you trust to support you and family fairly and proportionally acutally become secret manipulators on behalf of the abuser.
Actually, whether intentional or not, the last comment was even worse. It reads: "Gabby hated people who litter". It puts the focus of hatred upon random people, instead of the actual offense of littering, which would make more sense if Gabby's a judicious/fair person who didn't quickly judge people so harshly. It likely made some people speculate about a potential negative aspect of her personality, which Brian may or many not have intended with that final comment. Ugh.
Good for you for recognizing this and protecting your mental health. I have a similar relationship with my mom and you are spot on. You have to walK away. ❤️
When I was 25, my bff was murdered by someone who said he loved her (her husband). He told her he would give her the world if she married him. Instead, he took the world away. She was also too young and unworldly to see the warning signs, one of which was obsession.
I wonder if the statistics were reversed in that women killed men in the same huge numbers. I think the media would go ballistic as they always blow up women to men murders. Men kill women every day in their rage. I think murder/suicide where the man kills the woman/children then themselves is the upmost of selfishness.
I am so sorry for your loss & for what your BFF endured from this deranged, obsessed & selfish man. My condolences for a beautiful life lost and for how you miss her. 💔 Thank you for sharing what happened.
Gabby’s youthful high hopes and sincere affection for Brian are what made everyone feel so strongly about her murder. I feel sad that during her time with Brian, she likely was convinced by him that she was the reason for any trouble in their relationship. RIP Gabby. The light of your spirit remains.
The Moab police video shows Gabby placating the narcissist in her life. She apologized for keeping her van clean because it upset Brian that she was a clean freak. Brian was trouble, and she did her best to take the blame in an attempt to keep the peace. He murdered Gabby in an attempt to control her.
Narcs are pretty good at manipulations and lies, and co-dependents give the benefit-of-the-doubt WAY too many times. Unfortunately, I know this too well. Prayers for Gabby's family.
I appreciate all of your thoughts on this case when it was developing and even now as the notebook has been released to the public. Thanks for the great work you do Dr. Grande, keep it up!
I’m so glad you did an update on this case. I read the note that was released. I think he wanted to be a martyr and make us think it was an act of mercy. No I’m sorry- I don’t buy it. He left her body there. I agree with you - he did it during an argument. Thanks for doing this update. 🤠💕
Dr. Grande, your amazing ability to deduce what most likely transpired in every scenario you undertake is EXCEPTIONAL! The care you take is second-to-none! ✨
Brian's family did Gabbie's family no favor by keeping her death secret even after Gabbie's parents asked about her. I hope the Petito family receive justice in court.
I agree with you completely. The letter was all about him, his feelings, his loss etc. That is the most BS story I've ever heard. The little SOB couldn't even tell the truth during his "death bed" confession. That shows exactly what a piece of $hit person he really was. Not that we didn't already know that. God rest Gabby's soul.
@@35daphni And don't you love how he starts telling us, the reader, what to do?!!! Referencing his parents, "Don't be hard on them, blah, blah, fucking blah". Shut up, Twerp. 🥴
Gabby was inexperienced, in love, and naiive. She wasn't even comfortable driving her own van, as per her own comment after her near arrest. This was a fatal combination with the person she happened to be involved with at the stage of life she was in, ins location far from assistant, and probably not realizing the danger she was in and unable or unwilling to cut brian loose,and leave him there, without telling him, to ensure her own safety , which would be totally justifiable. A truly sad ending to a young life.
And assuming she ever looked at her fiancee Brian's sociopathic anti-art, she steadfastly ignored its red flag signs of a covert sadistic killer disposition, such as his sketch of a popsicle with a knife blade hidden within the sweet treat. Were his worldly shrewd, pragmatic parents who raised him and had his art in their house likewise innocently clueless of hints of his latent, potential violent tendencies?
Wouldn't Gabby's "injuries" of been observed and documented in her autopsy? Brian indicates that Gabby sustained injuries severe enough for her to beg him to "end her misery", so that would mean she had serious enough injuries that would be picked up on during the autopsy. I don't remember anything being said about "injuries" other than the manual strangulation/throttling.
Initially not all of the autopsy findings were released. From. What I've heard from "Duty Ron" & a few other sites, Gaby was ferociously beaten. Her severely damaged skull indicates this. I don't know how many other broken bones she had. Clearly her injuries were NOT the result of slip & fall in a creek. Also, there was clear evidence of Gaby being throttled. Her injuries were extreme. 😔
@@lindsayschilling8707 Lindsay, as a registered nurse, the injury, too the brain, would explain her irritate abilities, I also wonder if she had a bleed into the brain, with medical care, she would have survived that. What I don't believe is she got this injury, by falling into water.
@@cottontails9003 it was not posibility to call medical help from this place ,,, OR DRIVE QUICKLY QUICKLY TO HOSPITAL WITH HER PROBLEM ???? where the hell they was ????
......"It offers a glimpse into the distorted thinking of a murderer and how they justify negative behaviours with positive feelings". There is a wonderful way your analysis doesn't just educate people but also give insight into human behaviour. I am a great fan of your content from Nigeria.
Yes, the note-book-letter story was a contrivance or fictionous 'script' so he appeared 'valiant' and a construct to cover up for himself [& parents]. Thank you Doctor.
What a brilliant video, Dr. Grande, from beginning to end! Loved how you exposed his narsassitic writings "Brian tells a story of a hero's journey...."
This analysis is so well thought out and explained. Thank you for your keen insights and validation of how so many of us feel about this person and this situation. Brian has tried and failed to fool everyone one last time.
Yeah..but if they REALLY want to understand it...forget the lame celebrities and big news stories....they need to talk to every day NPD survivor like me..who then went through an 13 year marriage and then an 8 year custody battle where they are adept at dragging the protective parent through hell....talk to a ton of people like me and sadly we are in the millions and watch every video on Dr. Ramani's UA-cam channel..and then you'll get it. That said, no one but us survivors will ever understand or ever "get" the true emo and psychological torture and the nuance of this form of abuse and how you end up with Complex Trauma (CPTSD) for years afterwards and years of healing.
Both came at the right time for me in my healing from narcissist abuse. I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. From the moment that I saw my sister in him (I had been in denial about her for years with no memory of her abusing me as a kid) I tried to fix him, even telling him one day that I was concerned that he might be a narcissist. Still, I loved him like I loved my sister. Victims really can be so naïve sometimes.
Thank you for your analysis. I have always wondered about Brian and found it odd that there is so little known about him after he left high school. I've only seen interviews from Gabby's family or his sister. Did he have any friends? I don't even know if he attended college or a trade school or ever held a job. I would also request that you analyze his parents, as there was some serious denial and or lying in the Laundrie household when he came back from the trip without her. I also wonder if his inability to take responsibility for his behavior was learned behavior from his parents who seem to take no responsibility for the hurt and pain they have caused Gabby's parents?
I think Brian probably told his parents that Gabby broke up with him and she was staying in a hotel or place out in Wyoming when he arrived back at his parents house. He must have thought that when Gabby’s body was found, he would claim “she must have gone hiking by herself and got fatally hurt while hiking”,
Super insightful analysis, Dr Grande. Incredibly well stated. Your analysis of these sorts of horrific situations are so concise and yet poignant. Thank you for all that you do in educating the public about difficult and important topics. You are an invaluable source of information.
Gabby was afraid the fire might go out if he left her? Doesn't that indicate her will to live? How could someone possibly believe she asked him to kill her? A natural instinct would be to go for help, in hopes she would recover once care was rendered, but he strangled her?
Dr Grande ! Bravo. Wow you broke that down so beautifully for all who grew to love that young lady.. we still pray for Justice for Gabbys . PEACE for the family But never forget and make domestic violence a real living matter, and then the dying can stop . Let the healing begin.
I find it odd how one minute he’s trying to keep gabby awake because he thinks she may have a concussion and doesn’t want her to die, to the next minute strangling her to death because he wants to end her pain? Like you just woke her up because it would be unsafe for her to sleep just to kill her yourself?? Doesn’t make any sense.
This was exactly my thought. Wouldn't slipping into a coma when she fell asleep be a better death than being strangled. Also, if she was hurting so bad that she needed relief from her pain, how could she fall asleep? And why oh why didn't he put his clothes on her? So many problems with his story.
Sounds like he knew that he had gone to far and the Heinous act he committed was irreversible ( her slipping in and out of conscience ; having convulsions ) . So he can't bare to see her die a slow death and decides to speed up the process by choking her . He was a real Narcissistic sociopath with psychopathic tendencies . And That Apple Did Not Fall Far From It's Tree .
When you mention that possibly she was trying to leave Brian laundry that really stood out to me as something that probably was happening because they had had prior arguments publicly and a run in with police. I think Gabby was just starting to get wise to his tricks and probably did try to break up with him on the trip. Great analysis!
The thing I don't get is that if she wanted to "leave him" or "break up" with him, she never had to pick him up at the airport in SLC after his 2 week return to Florida. She stayed in a hotel, her father sent her money for meals? I mean, I wonder what conversation took place between Gabby and her parents at that time. Why couldn't she confide in them? and if she did, why didn't they come get her? I'm thinking he went back to Florida those two weeks maybe with no intention of returning, would be interesting to release the call logs and see who was calling who at that time, and with what frequency. Also wonder when his ticket to Florida was purchased, and if it was round trip, one way..... I've never seen these issues addressed in media reports.
@trailrunner925* Valid points also. I do not know what gabby told her parents, but they surely should have pickup on something being off. There were several points to head this off and save Gabby`s life. However, ultimately Abby would have had to realize this herself ... just wish it had happened so differently. I feel Gabby had previously suffered some sort of abuse in her family life to make her susceptible to Brian's abuse. That was how it worked with me. This case really bothers me so much ... I guess because it was all right there in front of the public, more than once and her best friend knew what a schmuck he was as well. So so sad.
@@katelist8367 Agree. Intimate Partner Violence should be a class all teenagers are required to take.... it's not the "be all end all", but making them aware of strategies, resources, ways to deal with frustration/anger, how do distance in unsafe situations..... if it clicks with one or two people, it's worth it.
@@katelist8367 Also just following that train of throught,, if Brian DID return to Florida with the idea of breaking up and leaving her on the road by herself, maybe HIS parents talked him into going back and saying you have to at least help her drive back.... and the ensuing guilt trip realizing their advice cost Gabby her life, and his life now ruined also. Only they know, and revealing what they know won't bring either one back. I''m not a believer in the "knowledge brings closure" when it comes to grief and loss. For some, there is never closure, just learning to limp along with a missing limb.
Excellent. I would add that his parents are continuing to carry on this Laundrie tradition of deception and vile hatred. They, like their son, have had countless opportunities to Do What is Right. Thank you.
Parents of narcissists dont teach their kids to do the right thing! They teach them that if something goes wrong, it’s not their fault-they are the victim, and that they are entitled to be protected. My brother is a narcissist and got into a legal issue, and my parents were offering all the money from their savings to get him out of trouble, ofc i told them no. I grew up seeing how he became narcissistic, and my mom never ever disciplined him. She always had a sweet spot for him and let him get away with bad behavior. That’s how they become who they are.
It doesn't make ANY sense. A mercy killing ??? Was she a racing horse who just broke its leg ? What does it mean ? She couldn't walk for a few hours so it was time for her to die ? What insanity is this ? I can't stand this guy truly, his last act was to insult Gabbie's family. Even in death he is hurtful to everyone around him.
- Weak, lazy attempts to win over a reader - Grandiose story with many plot-holes - The belief that charisma alone will make their words believable, despite their contradicting actions - No regard for the victim, no accountability, and no real apology - His feelings shadowing everyone else’s involved - Attempts to convince he was the noble, rational, and thoughtful one - Delusions over reality: his crumbling relationship; Gabby’s real feelings towards him; and his actions along with how they manifested - Finally, every single admission of guilt is always explained away as an attempt to do the right thing. Anything with ill-intent as motivation seems to always just be a misunderstanding. …This note has all the key ingredients of narcissistic behavior and their last resort when confronted with their actions. Taking all his cheap manipulation tactics into consideration, this note might as well be viewed as the opposite of the truth. He might as well of just said, “I killed her. There was no reason to kill her. She didn’t want to die. She wasn’t injured. I never held or comforted her. She wasn’t getting along with me. I never tried to save her. I think she deserved her final outcome.” Even though the public would’ve never bought this note anyway, I’m glad the JD defamation suit at least warmed people up to seeing through cheap manipulation. It just blows my mind that he still wouldn’t take accountability, knowing he will cease to exist by the time anything he wrote was read.
What if Brian wanted to provide some modicum of peace to Gabby’s family, and attempted to do so by lying? If he had admitted in the notebook that she was a dangerous nut who attacked him once too many times, would people now be saying he’s a liar?
@@kevinhornbuckle I don't see what could be comforting in lies, especially such a big, obvious one. If, indeed, she habitually initiated violence -- which I find hard to believe -- he was large enough to neutralize her...right?
Yeah it's so disturbing to see this because it shows what really motivates narcissist. He is more frightened of being seen in a negative light and losing whatever status or value he thought he had, than of losing his own life. He would rather DIE than give up on trying to uphold his hero image. That's fucked up
You expected any accountability from the sick mind? I believe he was fluffing his ego by thinking this tragedy will go into history as Romeo and Juliet story and gathering strength to pull trigger by writing this final nonsense of his life.
Awesome coverage on this case! Everyone on YT needs to hear this video!! Thanks a bunch for the wonderful and insightful content and witty commentary, which I love! Thanks Dr Grande
Yes because often when you are cold and have a head injury, you ask the nearest person to please strangle you and leave you in the desert for weeks without telling your family about it . Makes sense. The worst part of this to me is the way his parents continued to coddle their baby boy when he had murdered someone else’s baby girl. He had cleary never been told no or held accountable his entire life , and that never changed: to the end he couldn’t admit responsibility and they allowed him to escape and not be held accountable .
Typical man baby. The twisted logic of those individuals is only fueld by their experience of never being held accountable. They find heroism in murder. Its utterly disturbing.
A crucial point~ “She was killed by someone who said he loved her” “She was not able to appreciate the warning signs and may have been affected by her own affection for him. She didn’t understand how some negatives, like violence, cannot be outweighed by any number of positives.”
Im a domestic abuse survivor and I can just imagine how it happened. My ex boyfriend is a narcissist. he was the most evil, sadistic, and cruelest person I’ve ever known. he would always change the narrative to make himself the hero. Anytime he was caught in a lie. I remember I caught him cheating and he tried to tell me this ridiculous story about how “ he was tricking her into thinking that there was something sexual so she could come out and he could tell her not to cheat on her husband for her family” my mind was blown. Ironically he ended up discarding me at a concert where it was his destiny to go that night and get with another woman in front of my face and scream at me for cock blocking and getting in his way! It was the most heartbreaking and bizarre thing. He then left me to be homeless in another state, in ptsd shock and never bothered to see if I was ok even to this day. I will never forgive him. I won’t be surprised if he kills
@@joemamma416 What??? Its not a person fault when their abuser targets them... These abusers are pure evil, and they find empaths, sympatheic kind people, so they can gaslight them... Its NEVER the victims fault Ask the abuser why they pick their target... that would make more sense....
@jessica- I’m so sorry for what you have been through. My ex husband was a abusive narcissist and I totally relate to everything you talked about. Their whole thought process is like trying to fit 10 gallons of crazy in a 1 gallon bucket but they they are brilliant! Keep taking care of yourself. Healing will come one step at a time. It feels slow but one day you will look back and see how far you’ve come.
Abandoning you was one way to break up with you. It was a blessing a clean break thank God there were no children involved. I met one too he love bombed me he kept taking phone calls from a hysterical woman turns out he lived with her wanted to bring me to have a wwf fight in driveway. I left and never spoke to him again.
A well-known forensic psychiatrist once said that the number of people who describe themselves as extremely helpful is significantly high among convicts with life sentences, which initially was a total surprise to her. Difference between self-portrayal and external perception.
my thoughts exactly!! I saw people discussing whether or not they believe the story in the notebook. Immediately upon reading I could see right thru the story and saw how he was simply protecting his ego. So sad that he couldn’t take responsibility even when he wouldn’t have had to face the consequences.
Thank you for this! It’s been frustrating to hear media acting like this is all true. It’s typical actions and words of someone with high narcissist behavior. And yes, I had thought that maybe he murdered Gabby in passion and couldn’t handle it so he killed himself. I now know what a horrible person brian truly is. This is what he leaves Gabby’s family? A note saying he’s actually a hero. He’s never wrong and always a “good guy” to the very end. He keeps hurting people even after his death. And no one asks to be killed due to hypothermia. Once the cold is too bad, you get a warm feeling that takes over. And before this happens, people fight for their life. They fight for their life! I’m sure Gabby did call out to Brian after he hit her with rocks and that after that he did strangle her. But that’s the end of the truth. What a piece of work he is. Rest in peace Gabby 🙏🙏🙏
I can’t stand Brian who’s a cold blooded narcissist, self righteous bastard to legitimized his cold blooded murder of a beautiful and wonderful woman. He is a , narcissistic, selfish, inbred person who even in death legitimized his murder of Gabby and I find him pathetic. He even has the audacity and maligned arrogance to label himself a hero. He thinks people are stupid enough to believe this tale of a dreadful person whom he definitely was.
@@kevinhornbuckle Go read the letter because that’s what brian said happened in the letter. That Gabby asked him to do it because she was in so much pain. Don’t know what you’re talking about 🤔
One more true thing in his note was that he hoped animals would decimate HER body or that enough time would pass so that her body would decompose before it was discovered. That's why he kept silent.
Says she fell down and got hurt, so he valiantly killed her to end her pain, like the true self-sacrificing hero he's always been.🙄 A narcissist coward that lived in a world of his own.
They had already broken the engagement off prior to taking this trip. I’m from the same area as Brian in SW Florida, North Port. It’s excruciatingly hot here with 90% and 90 % humidity a normal day. Our ocean can get to 94 degrees so a temperature drop to 60 degrees is freezing we are cold at 70 degrees!
I think your analysis is succient and onpoint. Anyone who has experienced a toxic relationship with a NPD or abuser can see thru the veneer. It's tragic and sad. May Gabby rest in peace.
A very tragic story. This ill-fated couple were too young for marriage. Neither of them had any marketable skills for one thing. Being in close proximity like that day after day couldn't help but cause friction. Remember the Moab, Utah incident? My "theory " is that Gabby realized during the trip who Brian really was, and was initiating a breakup. Brian lost it and murdered Gabby. Brian strangled this girl. Pretty violent way to die.
When you talked about the levels of manipulation and how they could’ve developed as he got an older and makes me think of one of the most terrifying relationships I’ve ever been in and he was 35 and just so good at manipulating. He also tried to kill me a few times and I kept staying. Interesting sentiment and I understand now how those skills can develop over time for most people which I find so interesting. Yes some people can be master manipulators because we do learn some of that in childhood ect but over time they get really good. Refined those skills to a t good. I’m like mine boggled about that I never heard about that in all the books I’ve read, or the advocacy trainings I’ve been in. Mind blown 🤯
i wonder if there is a seed of truth in his story. like, he PUSHED her in a fit of rage like what we heard in utah only escalated as abusers do, and in the dark she fell and got injured /incapacitated to some degree, and then he either still enraged or maybe in a panic strangled her to death thinking he could get away with it , whereas if she lived he didnt want to get arrested (faulty logic but narcs rarely seem to think about anything except their instant gratification)
I tend to agree. I think he hurt her in a fit of rage and the injuries were bad enough that she decided to leave him or bad enough to require medical attention and get him in trouble, or maybe both. Either way he couldn't abide her leaving him and/or getting into legal trouble over the injuries he caused. So he strangled her. He only thought of himself and his own wants in that moment, never thinking ahead about consequences like not getting away with it. Most people would do everything they could to save a loved one, even holding out hope past the point of reason... not decide killing them was the best option!
I think in addition to her not having the experience to see the warning signs it's also that abuse creeps in slowly. It's little things at first and often times happen early enough that's it's still while the relationship is exciting and many don't know what early abuse looks like so she may have brought something up and been told it was normal or that's just how guys are. I wish we as a society better understood and were able to spot abuse.
I can't wait for the analysis of the letter from roberta laundry to Brian! There has been talking of it but has not been put out as yet. It is the care of the laundry attorney. It was addressed to Brian and was to be burned after reading...... So sad for Gabby and her family 😭😭
Your analysis, Dr. Grande as so many before me have said, is incredibly on point! Especially for those of us older perhaps with romantic relationship experiences with narcissistic partners or domestic abuse that cringed at the police cam in Moab as the signs of gas lighting, manipulation, and abuse projecting like yellow flashing construction signs on the road! Your ability to still tie in perhaps deserved humor towards Brian in how unbelievably his claims are while remaining compassionate to the matters at hand is admirable. Such tragedy like a Shakespearean tragedy or many British literary novels. Thank you for this one, and all of your analyses. Im a huge fan and love cacti too!
How can anyone make sense of this whole situation? Brian was a liar and an abuser and Gabby should not have been with him but she was. It's not okay for people to be as cynical as he was he had no right to act like he was better than everyone else. Thank you for your insight and your thoughts on this case!
I liked how you said: "Gabby Petito's killer, Bryan Laundrie". Sometimes murderers get an undeserved protagonism, and it was a nice way to put first the person who really matters.
"An undeserved protagonism" ... that is such an apt description.
Fine phrase!
Yes! 100%
That's it!
Good observation
He never got her help, but instead "mercy" killed her, abandoned her body to the elements, then drove her van home to mommy and daddy while spending her money! Gee, how could anyone doubt his story? Dirty Laundrie indeed!
A mercy killing would be smothering. Not strangulation. Which takes a lot of force and up to 10 minutes. He is a monster
@@iciajay6891 Or he pushed her and she hit her head, then he strangled her and made up his ridiculous story.
Yes he definitely had some dirty laundry.🤔❤🇺🇸
Don't forget, and then he went on vacation with his family
@@cyndid6605 Yes, sounds more like it. No way anyone in love would strangle their life partner!
So the love of your life falls and hits her head and goes into hypothermia and the solution is to strangle her to death? Makes no sense. Absolutely none. He was still manipulating people with this notebook until the end of his miserable cowardly life. Brian thought he was a character in one of those bizarre novels he read all the time. What a martyr. His parents released this notebook IMO to make the world not so "angry" with Brian. Good luck with that Laundries.
one of the signs of hypothermia is delerium. How could she beg for death?
Most likely he hit her on the head, she probably had a concussion or something from that, and that coward didn't want to call help because it would come out he hit her. So instead he decided to get rid of her completely.
@@lisacurtis8162 Excellent point. It is all BS and never happened IMO and typical of Brian Laundrie. He was a liar and a coward to the end of his life. He flat out murdered her in the heat of a passionate argument and concocted this bizarre tale to look like some sort of "hero." What a scumbag.
@@goshafrau3636 Exactly, Horrific what the poor girl must have felt when the love of her life was manually strangling her to death and smashing her in the head with a rock. God bless her. Not an easy way to die......
The note book was an exercise to find an explanation for his behaviour so he could be saved by his lawyer. Probably that was the plan with his parents and lawyer. I still do not believe a person like this, with parents like his will kill himself. He only disappeared from public eyes.
I honestly believe this note was left behind as the final opportunity for a narcissist to stroke their own ego one last time. Or to convince himself he was a good person through the distorted view of reality narrative he probably told himself again and again and again.
What if he designed the tale to provide a modicum of relief to her family? That is a plausible possibility.
He felt justified in killing her, so he had to make up a narrative that matched that.
@@kevinhornbuckle It's too stupid to do that. He had no right to "mercy kill" her. The rest of the story does not make sense. Like how there was no way to help her.
@@LisaPeterson227 This dude has been commenting his reasoning everywhere. He probably killed someone or he's thinking of it.
@@Sarablueunicorn he's seeing which excuses work for a "mercy killing" he's dreaming of?
What a disgusting person. Attempting to claim that Gabby requested & insisted on him murdering her & how he was thoughtful enough to oblige. I can't even imagine how horrible this is for Gabby's family on top of everything already being horrible enough.
She may have even said oh God somebody stop this pain it hurts so much. People who are giving birth have been found to say similar things it’s not an invitation to kill somebody to stop their pain it’s just an off the cuff saying . I wish he was still alive to be interrogated and broken by investigators
@@caseytyler8326 i was in the icu last year saying oh god make this stop. definitely not an invitation to strangle me. this guy would've been passed around in the showers had he made it to prison
@@stevep250 exactly and even if she said please murder me what sane person is like okay 👌🏻 I wish he was still alive so he could suffer 🤦♂️
They were BOTH nuts enough for it to be true....lol!
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He used “The English Patient “Movie dramatic scene when the hero left his injured girlfriend alone in a cave to go get help to rescue her . She doesn’t want him to leave her because she’s afraid the fire 🔥 will extinct and she will be left alone , cold 🥶 in the dark . Still he leaves her there to get help . During this waiting she’s writing him a journal note that he will later find when coming back too late to save her ….. He definitely had this movie scene in mind since he used many elements of this movie’s scenario of the most romantic movie in the last 20 years ….
Interesting. Makes me wonder if he knew of this scenario. Somehow I doubt it though. He didn’t seem like the romantic type or a book/movie fan. More seemed the outdoors type. But your recalling of this scenario is eerie. Thanks for the post. Perhaps we’ll never know.
I’m listening to Lennon’s jealous guy right now. It must have really galled Brian to see their relationship exposed after the cops pulled them over. How many people were affected by gabby’s situation .
What...
@@chrishintz1077 I think this movie was so famous , you didn’t have to be a movie or book guy to know about it …for sure Gaby had seen it and told him about it because the 🏜 desert with caves “decor “were it was filmed ( Tunisia) was made of “caramel “ color sand very much alike the Utah areas they were visiting ( Grand Teton Park?) with desert / caves surroundings as well . Every woman with a minimum of romantic vibes would remember this English patient movie “aviator hero” and would have shared that story with her boyfriend!
@@ginalevesque6596 yes, a searing, memorable movie. Ironic the English patient was actually Hungarian. ;).
He had all that time on the run and that's the best he could come up with?!? Quite unbelievable.
Thanks Dr Grande!
And the help of that lawyer the dirty laundries hired.
He is trying to say it was a hike gone wrong, but seriously they were not far from the vehicle. Plus there is evidence they pitched a tent!
That's exactly what I thought. If you're going to lie about why you murdered someone, AT LEAST make it sound like it _could_ be true. I guess he couldn't fake normal.
He doesn’t seem too bright.
Sounds like a bunch of crap!!
If you want someone by your side it helps not to murder them.
Domestic violence no question with out a doubt.
True, Unless you get to keep their ashes while your in prison...
@@naturalremedy8092 I doubt it.
He wanted her by his side only on his terms. He couldn't risk losing her from being under his control so he punished her by murdering her when he felt like she was at risk of being free from his grasp. Disgusting.
she beat it out of him, drove each other crazy, he killed her and then himself which counts for a lot (this suicide)
My husband and I followed this case. As soon as I watched the police footage, I knew he was guilty. He was very obviously manipulating the cops to think she was just an overly-dramatic female stressed about him getting the van dirty. She was the one crying and being emotional and he was coming off as the rational man in the situation. Those cops, who sounded like they were young and naive themselves, bought it.
I am certain the state police sheriff's dept and park police involved regret not arresting her that day she might be alive today.
Yes and I believe he even had Gabby believing this about herself as well!! I've been there, done that. I survived. Poor Gabby didn't 😢
As soon as I saw the footage, I knew we were being fed a bunch of lies by a biased media.
Brian tries to de-escalate the situation and he's called an abuser. Gabby tries to de-escalate the situation and she's called a victim.
Gabby was the primary aggressor but escaped arrest because the cops felt sorry for her. She just engaged in criminal activity and her whining, with a contorted face, kept her from being held accountable for breaking the law. Brian minimized the situation, to keep her out of handcuffs, and he's vilified for it. Of course, people don't want to acknowledge Gabby's behavior because it contradicts the popular narrative. She's the ultimate whyyte damsel in distress, abusers don't look like HER, they look like everyone else.
Bullshyt, in a world where women demand equality, she should have been arrested.
@@emersonmanning6523 what in the world?? There are multiple witnesses that state they saw him hitting her outside the restaurant. Grow up dude. This isn't a gender thing.
@@theresac4893
I'm a woman...
No one witnessed Brian hitting Gabby outside of the restaurant because it was a verbal altercation, not physical. And it's absolutely a gender thing. You literally have people using excuses like "gaslighting" for Gabby's violence in Moab. People are so emotionally invested in this case that they literally can't tell fact from the stories they make up in their heads. Your post above is a prime example. Bottom line, they were BOTH toxic individuals and the cops should have performed their due diligence in arresting the person they identified as the aggressor.
The fact that he thought this was a good idea and anyone would believe it is insane.
Typical narcissist, Brian
I mean there are some ppl who believe in amber heard.
@@Handlebrake2 my sister in law does. She also thinks that conventional medicine is a scam and that homeopathy is effective.
My father, who was a poice man, said, most of these peole, if they had any sense, would not have comitted these crimes.
@@seymourclearly poice? man
Why yes. I thought everyone knew strangulation was an act of mercy. He could not even be truthful before his own suicide. Brian Laundrie was a total sociopath. He did not want to face what he had done or face the consequences of his actions.
Five to seven minutes of strangulation torture is no "mercy" euthanasia.
I suspect his parent killed him that ws why they never showed where he was.
This is as Chris Wattsion brain as it gets. For someone that read murder books. He went with a 3 year old brain story. I imagine he thought it would be made into a murder book like he liked one day… no Brian even my 9 year old boys would laugh at this joke.
He was such a narssist. That is one of the reasons he killed hinself. It is the last way he could have control. And he killed for control as well. I am guessing she was going to leave him or he about narssist do, knew she would.
On top of that he wanted people to feel sorry for him because he thought he was the victim in this entire situation. What a terrible person.
“She was not able to appreciate the warning signs” I find this statement profound! When love between two people begins those rose colored glasses come on and any red flags often blend in or just get dismissed entirely. I like that you worded it in this way because if we all operated from our higher mind, appreciation is exactly how we should feel when things don’t present themselves as they seem. Warning signs should be APPRECIATED!! that’ll stick with me forever. Thank you Dr. Grande
Also his family encouraged his ways instead of holding him accountable to be better, or get him the mental health help he needs. He would be alive too if they were not blind to their own arrogance, and favoritism. If he wanted to save her, he would’ve taken her car to take her to the ER.
thats why all females should marry Only males older more mature than them( 7 -12 years older min . Plus the male is already established , financial secure etc . No same age poster boy mommy babysitters
@@kingdommusic5456 OR, take time to get to know someone before putting on those rose-colored glasses. That way, the flags will be visible.
@@kingdommusic5456 yes because mature men don't murder and rape
I can't believe he had the audacity to make up a story about her begging to d!e and to say it was a "mercy k!lling"... what a sicko!!
Drug abuse. Donald Trump wasn`t thinking when he handed out huge drug money checks to leftist voters and millions are now suffering from severe brain damage.
@FateAndFurie: He wrote that she "wanted him to make the pain stop", that doesn't necessarily mean wanting to die, it's just how he interpretet it (in his 'version'). It doesn't add up because they weren't in Mt. Everest's Death Zone, they were in a camping area with cell phone reception, other campers nearby and their van just across the shallow creek.
@@Galaxie08 No kidding, his whole story just exposes him as the nutcase he was. Absolutely a pathetic waste of a human being
As if this could possibly be true...So we are supposed to believe she loved him more than herself and asked him to kill her ?? With no thoughts about what her Mother, Father, and Step Parents might think ? They were a nice family and loved their daughter so much.... I don't believe Gabby would do that to them.... It is out of character...
And let's play devils advocate for a minute. Let's say someone was in such severe pain that they're not capable of thinking rationally and beg for you to end their pain.... doesn't mean you comply!
Narcissist at its core. Even in death a narcissist will never take responsibility.
One of the most frustrating parts of this case is that Brian always assumed that his lies were believable; that everyone else is just not as smart as he is. Pathetically, he gave himself away every time.
He was cray cray!
Quite a common assumption by criminals who think they are smarter than the cops
Wow. You just described my sister!
this is very typical for narcissists... the condition seems to come with certain delusions and they believe in it so much that they often manage to convince others around them as well.
If a person could murder then they sure as hell can lie. He's a liar and I don't believe anything he wrote. Period. He didn't deserve to touch a hair on her head.
I've heard the saying, " if you lie, you can steal, and if you steal you can kill. Well, we know he lied (alot) and stole her van, so....
I think Gabby told him it was over and he snapped. You can tell something was wrong with that pos in the police situation when they were talking to him. He was a creep, liar, and a murderer. His parents are No Better!
@@sheilagravely5621 so that "fall" was a shove? I'm with you on the thought. If I entertain his story, I go back to not getting help.
Thank you, Dr. Grande, for your analysis of the letter. I have had a gut feeling that as Gabby and Brian's trip continued, being with each other in tight quarters in that van and with each other 24/7, that perhaps Gabby was realizing that Brian wasn't the one for her. After the Utah incident, I suspect that friction only continued to escalate to the point that he killed her in a rage. Gabby reminded me alot of Shannon Watts..how both of them portrayed their relationships so positively in social media, when in actuality, the relationships were both troubled. Thank you for all the insightful programs that you make.
I think this is the best explanation I’ve heard yet of what probably happened to this very young and naive couple.
Targeted individuals have been in the news there's documentary's there is evidence of the different types of program's and Ways to hack into peoples minds. What there is not. Is Medical examinations by the people who warn and speak out against the CRIMES that can be commited.. neural rights are Human rights. Medical examinations for targeted individuals. There's ways to detect the Assaults just like there are ways to Trace cell phones or radio stations. There's ways to intercept the signals too.. scary thought for the targeted Victims... but there's ways the authorities can catch the people who commit these crimes..
I hate to admit that Drs Law enforcement and Law firm's are failing the American citizens. EMF sensitivity has been recognized as a real Medical condition. microwave auditory effect is a real Medical condition. When people use this technology intentionally to hurt others it's a CRIME. It's a violaton against our Civil Rights for Law enforcement agencies not to INVESTIGATE.. some people report to the police several times. And nothing gets done to help the victims. Yeah I believe the gov would run Illegal experiments I believe creepy scientist would use this technology to harrass a woman of interest. Or Men.. some people sitting in Thier own yard's are Assaulted and on the News but where is the police? Why are They not looking for the local person that could have the microwave assualt weapons in their garage? Victims have caught criminals on video using microwave energy weapons to shoot at things yard and even assault people. I believe he called when they weren't shooting at his garbage cans but an elderly woman walking past. The police questioned him about why he's recording his neighbor.. SMH
There's definitely a problem When law abiding citizens are reporting criminals and law enforcement ignores the criminals and tells the law abiding citizens they shouldn't be recording the criminals activity.
Law and order.. just because law abiding citizens are easier to deal with Because they will obey the officers
Doesn't Mean the Criminals should be ignored.
There needs to be a Medical documentary on target Individuals!
Medical proffesionals Neuro specialist EEGs and other Neuro testing to detect what's going on inside the targeted individual mind's.
Yes and I would add that a lot of people including myself were struck by the how much duress she was under in the video with the cops and how he was all smiles cuz it was all about him and that his narcissism shine through and his manipulation. I think she tried to break up with him when he killed her. What's amazing is that she was with him for 2 years and apparently didn't have a clue. And I would put that down to him hiding it well enough that she didn't until he got her out and I. I can't I come to the conclusion when they were still looking for her body that after that video with the cops that he waited till they got on that trip part way through the trip by the way and then decided to more or less spring the trap of and started being nasty to her started manipulating her to the point where she was she wasn't just upset she was distraught in that video it was hard to watch I felt so bad for her. It was also hard to watch that smiling jackass like it was all about him. I mean if he truly loved her her being upset that way should have upset him just as much he should have been crying in front of those cops. I know that's how I get get when I'm fighting with somebody I love an upset we upset each other. But he wasn't. So he got her out there and started in honor decided he was going to he was going to make her his little minion his little what do you call him he's going to break her in on the on the trip and I think may I think possibly his father he got that from his father and that he wanted Gabby to be like his dear old mom. I think that whole the whole laundry family or I think there was two male psychos and one female enabler.
@@BobbiSkankanos I couldn't agree more. Very well said!
Can we just have a mandatory relationship class for all High School students to enlighten them on the characteristics of Narcissism? Dr Grande may you write the syllabus?
Coming from living with an abuser for 10 long years that I met when I was just 18, your analysis was absolutely spot on. My ex acted the same exact way. And, had it not been for nosy friends and intrusive family, I would have suffered the same horrible fate as poor Gabby.
I married a narcissist at Gabby’s age. Luckily, I got out (he has since remarried). This sounds so familiar. Their acts are out of altruism, morality, and responsibility. Always. They are excellent at fooling people. Brian’s preposterous note betrays his confidence in his ability to deceive people-hey, he fooled some cops! What a tragedy. I really want to know the story of what his parents knew.
And his killing of himself is the ultimate way to control what he had done.
and now?
what are you married to now?
@@iciajay6891 You’re 100% right! If he were thrown in jail, we’d all forget about him. Now he gets to be his own “hero.” (There will be books about him.) You have to hand it to him: Epic Scum Bag.
So do I. If they ran interference for Brian, they're in deep trouble and will likely face a prison sentence for helping their son evade the law.
Are women ever at fault for the problems they create by whom they choose to partner with? Are women always a victim and everyone else is a narcissist?
The note has a demented quality that reminds me of interviews of murderers I've listened to where they give their rationales for murdering. The narrative that Laundrie produces is stunningly arbitrary and illogical and incoherent and gives the impression that he's way, way out there in narcissism land. Murdering Gabby is rendered as part of a care strategy.
Narcissism land 😂
Yes, he makes himself the "hero" of his story by "saving" her from pain and suffering, despite the fact he is the cause of her pain and suffering. Delusional.
He's very noble...smh
@@eddysgaming9868 Right! Because if I fall, hit my head, and get a few scratches then of course I'm going to beg my husband to kill me because the pain is SO bad!! Lol.
I reckon it may be smattered with truth, if he wrote it. They could have argued and physically fought and in the course of that, Gabby fell and hit her head. Enough to be badly hurt and for Brian to be in trouble. He then may have killed her, possibly telling himself it was best for her and best for him in the circumstances. In his head that could easily turn in to Gabby falling due to "an accident" and the killing being for mercy. It'll be interesting to see the digital confession on a device they've said exists, which is apparently a different story from this. Maybe it is just a total lie.
This letter was just him trying to hide his cowardice. He was too afraid to face the consequences for his actions and killed himself. He even tried to play the martyr by saying he hoped animals would rips his body apart. If Gabby was begging to for him to end it then why was she afraid of the fire going out? In my opinion, they were arguing, Gabby was starting to get the courage to stand up to him, and possibly consider leaving him. I think Brian tried to kill her by hitting her in the head and when he failed he strangled her. If he loves her so much why would he leave her body out in the elements like that to be eaten on by animals? He knew where the car was, he knew what he was doing all alone, and if that family hadn’t been driving by and spotted he can he may have gotten away with it. In the end he made Gabby’s tragic death all about himself like every other narcissist on the planet. It is a tragedy that Gabby was murdered. I wish the police in Utah would’ve had better training to spot a victim of domestic violence and possibly spared all of this from happening. My prayers continue to go out to Gabby’s family, I can’t imagine going through the loss of a child.
He was a narcissist til the end!!!! A mercy killing my foot!!!! Lies!!!!!!
Reading the note really disturbed me. His attempt to justify the murder by writing this nonsense was just bizzare. I was really wondering what are your thoughts on his behaviour so thank you very much for this video! ❤
Some are theorizing that his mother actually wrote the letter.
If Gaby wanted to die, she wouldn't had cared if the fire went out in her sleep. A nonsense idiotic note.
@@teesmith501 wonder if they can take hand writing samples
@@teesmith501 usually I’d scoff at that. But with these psychos I honestly could believe it
True
He wanted us to think he was “complicated” when he was just a simple narcissistic abuser who knew he did not deserve her.
He was bald, of course he didn't deserve her
@@rorz999That’s an incel excuse. Is that what you’re saying?
haha
@TheReaper74 I wouldn't expect anything less from someone who goes by "the reaper". Hey....maybe one day you will meet someone just like HIM.
@@terrimarsh2103 he just a incel.
If gabby was a narcissist she wouldn't be taking the blame for everything.
Thank You Dr. Grande, for shredding this killer's romanticized "Notebook/ Romeo & Juliet" malarkey and calling Brian Laundrie out for what he was, a coward and a killer, terrified at being held accountable for his actions.
that letter just brought all my anger over this case back up. When killers say they love their victims its the absolute biggest slap in the face.
It is not real love if you physically abuse someone or murder someone. That is twisted selfish love.
He couldn’t even tell the truth in a suicide note. He denied her family some small comfort of knowing what happened and why. I didn’t think my opinion of him could get any lower-until now. That “confession” is bs. Period. He was probably abusing her and had been for a while, they got in a fight and he killed her in anger. He’s pathetic and frankly so are his parents.
Why was your opinion of him so low before seeing this suicide note? Just curious. It’s not like it was 100% clear cut that he killed her.
She was abusing him, however, I agree. She probably got physical AGAIN and he snapped. She should have been arrested in Utah.
@@HendersonHinchfinch oh it was SO frikken obvious. Are you kidding. Guy was a huge douche and good riddance.
Thank you for great analysis! It confirms what we saw on the police-film:
She was a naïve girl in love, he a cold narcissistic toad with no scruples. A story as old as the history of humankind. Poor, poor girl.
i want to give thanks to the amazing spotting of gabbys van in the grand teton national park. without this find, who knows if her family would ever had closure.
a big commercial bus converted into a family home, named red white and bethune, happened to be driving past, searching for a camping space. they saw the alerts on the news and recognised the van that they had passed and called the police.
they seem to have fallen off the radar but they seem a sweet group according to their you tube channel.
I think he was counting on no one finding him. I believe he planned it after the restaurant issue
@@gayle2850 -idk- he went home 2x after moab restaurant. 2nd time; Went camping with family (who buy new phone(s)), then went on the lam to fav park, flood levels vary wide-ly in area during this time - some searching is impossible at some times in different areas, parents allowed to search and everything is found in under an hour.
What strikes me is that in his note he says my body will be eaten & carried far from this spot by animals. In Fact body was found 250m from bag. But, of all the bodies thrown to be eaten into the swamps of Florida * that Do NOT get fully devoured or displaced *, he got pretty clairvoyant about his.
Personally, I didn't think I would feel worse about this horrible, tragic murder of a sweet girl after hearing the note, but I do. I definitely feel much worse.
What weak, scared, narc punks Brian & his Parents are.
They have a channel that is growing pretty strong! The family is a joy to watch💜
@@gayle2850 Yes Gayle, the lunch time blow up at the restaurant then the 'bad thing' happened that night, I believe. I think he was probably jealous of her. He did not be accountable, responsible >> bit like his Mother & father it seems [?]
I found your analysis informative, with some bits of hilarity, which I greatly appreciate.
A person afraid of losing someone they love wouldn't aide in their death. They would've taken the chance and went to look for help. It's very sad that even in his last moments, he was still deceptive.
Actually it's fitting the whole "If I can't have her, no one will" thing. There even are serial killers who did their thing to have control over others and them not being able to leave anymore. The human mind can be extremely crazy
@@rebel4466 a lot of parents that commit infanticide do that as well. mainly when the parents separate. “i cant have the child to myself no one can” or “maybe if my child dies they’d realize everything is their fault”
He was a liar thief and a coward and I can no longer speak of doing my own laundry
He could be telling the truth. The one thing most people are not taking into account, and it is probably because they do not know, but both were on medication because they were both autistic. i am not saying he is telling the truth, but I think it is a good possibility he is.
@@rebel4466 while I appreciate you looking outside of the box, to me it doesn't add up. Also we have to remember they had already had a domestic dispute and was separated by cops. That's not usually a one off thing. If he wanted to take his life he could've done that in Wyoming. He was selfish, and was on the run. Why write a note that could've possibly went undiscovered. It's hard to think about it but even a lot of us are scared of having journal's found after our death and don't want ppl to think bad of us. I agree with him playing g hero and still not taking responsibility.
Dr Grande, I have to say this is one of your best. I am so touched by your gentleness, compassion, and understanding of the elements of this case. Even shedding light on why Gabby may have not recognized the danger she was in. She was so very young. It can take years of experience with a narcissist to be able to see the patterns and realize something is wrong. And perhaps she did realize it and was trying to leave. Those of us who have been there know that is the most dangerous time of all.
Years.
It’s so hard for me to understand the mindset of someone who thinks they’re fooling everyone when they’re very much NOT.
because it has worked for them/people have fallen for it enough times.
Hard for me to understand why he would even try. Why does he care what people think about him after he is dead?
- Because everybody cares what people think about them after they're gone.
It's pretty much a constant human trait.
They never realize just how much evidence there is to convince everyone otherwise, he was probably in a reality and media bubble where he had no clue everyone knew he was a narcissistic sociopath nutjob
It’s a narcissist thing. They think they’re better and smarter than everyone else and never get caught, when in reality most people just don’t want to call them out on an obvious embarrassing mistake.
The last page that was shared to the media where Brian talked about taking his life where animals hopefully would tear him apart, to make Gabbie’s family happy and then telling whomever found him to pick everything up, because, “Gabbie hated litter.” I feel like it was such a huge coded “F-You” to Gabbie and especially, to her family.
I’ve had a couple of exes’ in my life and unfortunately, my mother, who talk in this grandiose style. It’s similar to, “I’m going to hurt/kill myself if you leave.” It’s the, “Sorry to bother you!” When you ask for a boundary(my mom) to be respected or “I am your mother!”
Get out. Get out as fast as you can. It’s easy to fantasize about it getting better. If it’s a parent/ family…”but they are your family, your mother…” Save it. FAMILY can be the most toxic people around you. You have every right to protect your mental health.
Those men are my exes’ for a reason and I keep limited contact sometimes grey rocking my mom. FYI, I have had twice heartfelt sit downs with my mom to no avail. It’s never going to change and I don’t feel sorry for protecting myself.
Please choose yourself and your mental care.♥️
I agree with you he harbored so much jealousy and he was going to control undermine rip everyone's hearts out. The degree of animosity was mounting and when in Gabbie's voice she spoke softly and carefully when showing Brian doing Yoga...it left me wondering
Absolutely, protect yourself. The most shocking thing about those with various disorders is that they will destroy themselves and those around them in the process of trying to control, manipulate them. It wasn't until I found a thorough therapist and spent the time reviewing people and events, that I began to see the picture and learn about how to protect myself as best I can. The most shocking thing about some abusers / disordered people is their ability to appear saintly to those around them/you particularly, officials, those in positions of responsibility, who in turn due to biases (idealogical & other) support the abuser in their habits and behaviour and even turn against you. So people you trust to support you and family fairly and proportionally acutally become secret manipulators on behalf of the abuser.
Actually, whether intentional or not, the last comment was even worse. It reads: "Gabby hated people who litter". It puts the focus of hatred upon random people, instead of the actual offense of littering, which would make more sense if Gabby's a judicious/fair person who didn't quickly judge people so harshly. It likely made some people speculate about a potential negative aspect of her personality, which Brian may or many not have intended with that final comment. Ugh.
Good for you for recognizing this and protecting your mental health. I have a similar relationship with my mom and you are spot on. You have to walK away. ❤️
@@Tomm9y you have nailed that one on the head!!
When I was 25, my bff was murdered by someone who said he loved her (her husband). He told her he would give her the world if she married him. Instead, he took the world away. She was also too young and unworldly to see the warning signs, one of which was obsession.
I wonder if the statistics were reversed in that women killed men in the same huge numbers. I think the media would go ballistic as they always blow up women to men murders. Men kill women every day in their rage. I think murder/suicide where the man kills the woman/children then themselves is the upmost of selfishness.
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Domestic violence no questions.
I am so sorry for your loss & for what your BFF endured from this deranged, obsessed & selfish man. My condolences for a beautiful life lost and for how you miss her. 💔 Thank you for sharing what happened.
So sad…
"Justifying negative behavior with positive emotions" was a brilliantly concise description!
Gabby’s youthful high hopes and sincere affection for Brian are what made everyone feel so strongly about her murder. I feel sad that during her time with Brian, she likely was convinced by him that she was the reason for any trouble in their relationship. RIP Gabby. The light of your spirit remains.
The Moab police video shows Gabby placating the narcissist in her life. She apologized for keeping her van clean because it upset Brian that she was a clean freak. Brian was trouble, and she did her best to take the blame in an attempt to keep the peace. He murdered Gabby in an attempt to control her.
Well said.
@@ninamarybuba7440 I'd've left him at the gas station. But what do I know...?
Narcs are pretty good at manipulations and lies, and co-dependents give the benefit-of-the-doubt WAY too many times. Unfortunately, I know this too well. Prayers for Gabby's family.
I appreciate all of your thoughts on this case when it was developing and even now as the notebook has been released to the public. Thanks for the great work you do Dr. Grande, keep it up!
Aa
I think his original reporting on this story was actually one of the first videos that got me into his channel
Please explain how manufacturing evidence qualifies as "great work."
I’m so glad you did an update on this case. I read the note that was released. I think he wanted to be a martyr and make us think it was an act of mercy. No I’m sorry- I don’t buy it. He left her body there. I agree with you - he did it during an argument. Thanks for doing this update. 🤠💕
Dr. Grande, your amazing ability to deduce what most likely transpired in every scenario you undertake is EXCEPTIONAL! The care you take is second-to-none! ✨
Brian's family did Gabbie's family no favor by keeping her death secret even after Gabbie's parents asked about her. I hope the Petito family receive justice in court.
The subsequent actions of his parents at least partially explain why their whelp turned out as he did.
I believe the parents didn't care for Gabby they didn't care that she past away
I agree with you completely. The letter was all about him, his feelings, his loss etc. That is the most BS story I've ever heard. The little SOB couldn't even tell the truth during his "death bed" confession. That shows exactly what a piece of $hit person he really was. Not that we didn't already know that. God rest Gabby's soul.
Lol, "The most BS story I ever heard"! Same, girl, what a turd. She was waay too good for him and he knew she was figuring it out. How's HELL, BL?😁
@@Juicebox-gp3uf Pretty sure it's damn hot down there. I bet he'd be happy to have a nice creek to walk across now.
Domestic violence no questions.
My thoughts exactly. What a POC human. All he was concerned with at the end was image.
@@35daphni And don't you love how he starts telling us, the reader, what to do?!!! Referencing his parents, "Don't be hard on them, blah, blah, fucking blah". Shut up, Twerp. 🥴
Thank you for your insights!! You have a calm, helpful, way of explaining people and issues.
Gabby was inexperienced, in love, and naiive. She wasn't even comfortable driving her own van, as per her own comment after her near arrest. This was a fatal combination with the person she happened to be involved with at the stage of life she was in, ins location far from assistant, and probably not realizing the danger she was in and unable or unwilling to cut brian loose,and leave him there, without telling him, to ensure her own safety , which would be totally justifiable. A truly sad ending to a young life.
It was a set up. Brian didn’t do it
@@jacobberman4616 where is your evidence for this?
@@jacobberman4616 Dr. Grande should do a video analyzing you.
@@dgtwo3724 one day..
And assuming she ever looked at her fiancee Brian's sociopathic anti-art, she steadfastly ignored its red flag signs of a covert sadistic killer disposition, such as his sketch of a popsicle with a knife blade hidden within the sweet treat. Were his worldly shrewd, pragmatic parents who raised him and had his art in their house likewise innocently clueless of hints of his latent, potential violent tendencies?
Wouldn't Gabby's "injuries" of been observed and documented in her autopsy? Brian indicates that Gabby sustained injuries severe enough for her to beg him to "end her misery", so that would mean she had serious enough injuries that would be picked up on during the autopsy. I don't remember anything being said about "injuries" other than the manual strangulation/throttling.
Initially not all of the autopsy findings were released. From. What I've heard from "Duty Ron" & a few other sites, Gaby was ferociously beaten. Her severely damaged skull indicates this. I don't know how many other broken bones she had. Clearly her injuries were NOT the result of slip & fall in a creek. Also, there was clear evidence of Gaby being throttled. Her injuries were extreme. 😔
@@lindsayschilling8707 Lindsay, as a registered nurse, the injury, too the brain, would explain her irritate abilities, I also wonder if she had a bleed into the brain, with medical care, she would have survived that. What I don't believe is she got this injury, by falling into water.
@@cottontails9003 it was not posibility to call medical help from this place ,,,
OR DRIVE QUICKLY QUICKLY TO HOSPITAL WITH HER PROBLEM ????
where the hell they was ????
Oh for goodness sakes, you’re looking at facts! Listen to Brian’s fiction.
No, unfortunately. They might have been, though.
Thank you for following this and doing the video... I wouldn't have known about this new development had your video not popped up!
“Murdering someone is not a typical response if a person is injured “
Options
1. Run for help
2. Call 911
3. Commit murder
......"It offers a glimpse into the distorted thinking of a murderer and how they justify negative behaviours with positive feelings". There is a wonderful way your analysis doesn't just educate people but also give insight into human behaviour. I am a great fan of your content from Nigeria.
Yes, the note-book-letter story was a contrivance or fictionous 'script' so he appeared 'valiant' and a construct to cover up for himself [& parents]. Thank you Doctor.
Well said, on point 100%
What a brilliant video, Dr. Grande, from beginning to end!
Loved how you exposed his narsassitic writings "Brian tells a story of a hero's journey...."
He “dropped a bar” I thought that was good to 🥺😭
This analysis is so well thought out and explained. Thank you for your keen insights and validation of how so many of us feel about this person and this situation. Brian has tried and failed to fool everyone one last time.
Spot on, doc.
Between Gabby and Johnny, the public is getting a crash course on narcissistic abusers.
Thanks for helping. ✌️💜
That was another toxic. , both were abusers
Yeah..but if they REALLY want to understand it...forget the lame celebrities and big news stories....they need to talk to every day NPD survivor like me..who then went through an 13 year marriage and then an 8 year custody battle where they are adept at dragging the protective parent through hell....talk to a ton of people like me and sadly we are in the millions and watch every video on Dr. Ramani's UA-cam channel..and then you'll get it. That said, no one but us survivors will ever understand or ever "get" the true emo and psychological torture and the nuance of this form of abuse and how you end up with Complex Trauma (CPTSD) for years afterwards and years of healing.
Both came at the right time for me in my healing from narcissist abuse. I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. From the moment that I saw my sister in him (I had been in denial about her for years with no memory of her abusing me as a kid) I tried to fix him, even telling him one day that I was concerned that he might be a narcissist. Still, I loved him like I loved my sister. Victims really can be so naïve sometimes.
Thank you for your analysis. I have always wondered about Brian and found it odd that there is so little known about him after he left high school. I've only seen interviews from Gabby's family or his sister. Did he have any friends? I don't even know if he attended college or a trade school or ever held a job. I would also request that you analyze his parents, as there was some serious denial and or lying in the Laundrie household when he came back from the trip without her. I also wonder if his inability to take responsibility for his behavior was learned behavior from his parents who seem to take no responsibility for the hurt and pain they have caused Gabby's parents?
I think Brian probably told his parents that Gabby broke up with him and she was staying in a hotel or place out in Wyoming when he arrived back at his parents house. He must have thought that when Gabby’s body was found, he would claim “she must have gone hiking by herself and got fatally hurt while hiking”,
Super insightful analysis, Dr Grande. Incredibly well stated. Your analysis of these sorts of horrific situations are so concise and yet poignant. Thank you for all that you do in educating the public about difficult and important topics. You are an invaluable source of information.
love to hear your opinions 😘, Yes, his story was not truthful. Something dark happened.
Gabby was afraid the fire might go out if he left her? Doesn't that indicate her will to live? How could someone possibly believe she asked him to kill her? A natural instinct would be to go for help, in hopes she would recover once care was rendered, but he strangled her?
Of course. This is just one of many inconsistencies in his "story" that have been noted throughout these comments.
Dr Grande ! Bravo. Wow you broke that down so beautifully for all who grew to love that young lady.. we still pray for Justice for Gabbys . PEACE for the family But never forget and make domestic violence a real living matter, and then the dying
can stop . Let the healing begin.
spot on dr grande! she didnt have a clue - her youth played to social media and his diagnosis manipulated it.
I find it odd how one minute he’s trying to keep gabby awake because he thinks she may have a concussion and doesn’t want her to die, to the next minute strangling her to death because he wants to end her pain? Like you just woke her up because it would be unsafe for her to sleep just to kill her yourself?? Doesn’t make any sense.
This is a very telling contradiction in his story.
This was exactly my thought. Wouldn't slipping into a coma when she fell asleep be a better death than being strangled. Also, if she was hurting so bad that she needed relief from her pain, how could she fall asleep? And why oh why didn't he put his clothes on her? So many problems with his story.
Sounds like he knew that he had gone to far and the Heinous act he committed was irreversible ( her slipping in and out of conscience ; having convulsions ) . So he can't bare to see her die a slow death and decides to speed up the process by choking her .
He was a real Narcissistic sociopath with psychopathic tendencies .
And That Apple Did Not Fall Far From It's Tree .
When you mention that possibly she was trying to leave Brian laundry that really stood out to me as something that probably was happening because they had had prior arguments publicly and a run in with police. I think Gabby was just starting to get wise to his tricks and probably did try to break up with him on the trip. Great analysis!
The thing I don't get is that if she wanted to "leave him" or "break up" with him, she never had to pick him up at the airport in SLC after his 2 week return to Florida. She stayed in a hotel, her father sent her money for meals? I mean, I wonder what conversation took place between Gabby and her parents at that time. Why couldn't she confide in them? and if she did, why didn't they come get her? I'm thinking he went back to Florida those two weeks maybe with no intention of returning, would be interesting to release the call logs and see who was calling who at that time, and with what frequency. Also wonder when his ticket to Florida was purchased, and if it was round trip, one way..... I've never seen these issues addressed in media reports.
@trailrunner925* Valid points also. I do not know what gabby told her parents, but they surely should have pickup on something being off. There were several points to head this off and save Gabby`s life. However, ultimately Abby would have had to realize this herself ... just wish it had happened so differently. I feel Gabby had previously suffered some sort of abuse in her family life to make her susceptible to Brian's abuse. That was how it worked with me. This case really bothers me so much ... I guess because it was all right there in front of the public, more than once and her best friend knew what a schmuck he was as well. So so sad.
@@trailrunner925 very good questions! 👍💯
@@katelist8367 Agree. Intimate Partner Violence should be a class all teenagers are required to take.... it's not the "be all end all", but making them aware of strategies, resources, ways to deal with frustration/anger, how do distance in unsafe situations..... if it clicks with one or two people, it's worth it.
@@katelist8367 Also just following that train of throught,, if Brian DID return to Florida with the idea of breaking up and leaving her on the road by herself, maybe HIS parents talked him into going back and saying you have to at least help her drive back.... and the ensuing guilt trip realizing their advice cost Gabby her life, and his life now ruined also. Only they know, and revealing what they know won't bring either one back. I''m not a believer in the "knowledge brings closure" when it comes to grief and loss. For some, there is never closure, just learning to limp along with a missing limb.
Excellent. I would add that his parents are continuing to carry on this Laundrie tradition of deception and vile hatred. They, like their son, have had countless opportunities to Do What is Right.
Thank you.
Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
Parents of narcissists dont teach their kids to do the right thing! They teach them that if something goes wrong, it’s not their fault-they are the victim, and that they are entitled to be protected. My brother is a narcissist and got into a legal issue, and my parents were offering all the money from their savings to get him out of trouble, ofc i told them no. I grew up seeing how he became narcissistic, and my mom never ever disciplined him. She always had a sweet spot for him and let him get away with bad behavior. That’s how they become who they are.
It doesn't make ANY sense. A mercy killing ??? Was she a racing horse who just broke its leg ? What does it mean ? She couldn't walk for a few hours so it was time for her to die ? What insanity is this ?
I can't stand this guy truly, his last act was to insult Gabbie's family. Even in death he is hurtful to everyone around him.
Well said. I appreciate the informative and thoughtful nature of each of your comments regarding the tragic case of such a sweet girl.
- Weak, lazy attempts to win over a reader
- Grandiose story with many plot-holes
- The belief that charisma alone will make their words believable, despite their contradicting actions
- No regard for the victim, no accountability, and no real apology
- His feelings shadowing everyone else’s involved
- Attempts to convince he was the noble, rational, and thoughtful one
- Delusions over reality: his crumbling relationship; Gabby’s real feelings towards him; and his actions along with how they manifested
- Finally, every single admission of guilt is always explained away as an attempt to do the right thing. Anything with ill-intent as motivation seems to always just be a misunderstanding.
…This note has all the key ingredients of narcissistic behavior and their last resort when confronted with their actions. Taking all his cheap manipulation tactics into consideration, this note might as well be viewed as the opposite of the truth. He might as well of just said, “I killed her. There was no reason to kill her. She didn’t want to die. She wasn’t injured. I never held or comforted her. She wasn’t getting along with me. I never tried to save her. I think she deserved her final outcome.”
Even though the public would’ve never bought this note anyway, I’m glad the JD defamation suit at least warmed people up to seeing through cheap manipulation. It just blows my mind that he still wouldn’t take accountability, knowing he will cease to exist by the time anything he wrote was read.
What if Brian wanted to provide some modicum of peace to Gabby’s family, and attempted to do so by lying? If he had admitted in the notebook that she was a dangerous nut who attacked him once too many times, would people now be saying he’s a liar?
@@kevinhornbuckle Nope.
@@kevinhornbuckle I don't see what could be comforting in lies, especially such a big, obvious one. If, indeed, she habitually initiated violence -- which I find hard to believe -- he was large enough to neutralize her...right?
Yeah it's so disturbing to see this because it shows what really motivates narcissist. He is more frightened of being seen in a negative light and losing whatever status or value he thought he had, than of losing his own life. He would rather DIE than give up on trying to uphold his hero image. That's fucked up
You expected any accountability from the sick mind? I believe he was fluffing his ego by thinking this tragedy will go into history as Romeo and Juliet story and gathering strength to pull trigger by writing this final nonsense of his life.
"Justify negative behavior with positive feelings" that right there
Awesome coverage on this case! Everyone on YT needs to hear this video!! Thanks a bunch for the wonderful and insightful content and witty commentary, which I love! Thanks Dr Grande
What a sad, sad situation... None of this needed to happen....
Yes because often when you are cold and have a head injury, you ask the nearest person to please strangle you and leave you in the desert for weeks without telling your family about it . Makes sense.
The worst part of this to me is the way his parents continued to coddle their baby boy when he had murdered someone else’s baby girl. He had cleary never been told no or held accountable his entire life , and that never changed: to the end he couldn’t admit responsibility and they allowed him to escape and not be held accountable .
Very true.
Typical man baby.
The twisted logic of those individuals is only fueld by their experience of never being held accountable. They find heroism in murder. Its utterly disturbing.
A crucial point~ “She was killed by someone who said he loved her”
“She was not able to appreciate the warning signs and may have been affected by her own affection for him. She didn’t understand how some negatives, like violence, cannot be outweighed by any number of positives.”
Im a domestic abuse survivor and I can just imagine how it happened. My ex boyfriend is a narcissist. he was the most evil, sadistic, and cruelest person I’ve ever known. he would always change the narrative to make himself the hero. Anytime he was caught in a lie.
I remember I caught him cheating and he tried to tell me this ridiculous story about how “ he was tricking her into thinking that there was something sexual so she could come out and he could tell her not to cheat on her husband for her family” my mind was blown. Ironically he ended up discarding me at a concert where it was his destiny to go that night and get with another woman in front of my face and scream at me for cock blocking and getting in his way! It was the most heartbreaking and bizarre thing. He then left me to be homeless in another state, in ptsd shock and never bothered to see if I was ok even to this day. I will never forgive him. I won’t be surprised if he kills
You should try and figure out why you are attracted to or attract that particular type.
@@joemamma416
What???
Its not a person fault when their abuser targets them...
These abusers are pure evil, and they find empaths, sympatheic kind people, so they can gaslight them...
Its NEVER the victims fault
Ask the abuser why they pick their target...
that would make more sense....
@@irenedemarco1354 I never said it was.
@jessica- I’m so sorry for what you have been through. My ex husband was a abusive narcissist and I totally relate to everything you talked about. Their whole thought process is like trying to fit 10 gallons of crazy in a 1 gallon bucket but they they are brilliant! Keep taking care of yourself. Healing will come one step at a time. It feels slow but one day you will look back and see how far you’ve come.
Abandoning you was one way to break up with you. It was a blessing a clean break thank God there were no children involved. I met one too he love bombed me he kept taking phone calls from a hysterical woman turns out he lived with her wanted to bring me to have a wwf fight in driveway. I left and never spoke to him again.
Agree 100%. Thanks for this. His selfishness and cowardice continue to cause others pain and great suffering. Disgusting.
A very logical analysis regarding the notebook and case. Thanks, Dr. Grande.
A well-known forensic psychiatrist once said that the number of people who describe themselves as extremely helpful is significantly high among convicts with life sentences, which initially was a total surprise to her. Difference between self-portrayal and external perception.
Domestic violence no question.
What a spot-on piece of information that helps clarify information about Brian's murder of Gabby. Thank you.
If that was a surprise to her, I'm wondering how she ever got well known. That is basic.
What a tragedy for everyone.
Well done Tod. Really explains it perfectly. Still sad with her loss. Such a beautiful spark that he blew out.
Poor Gabby 😢
I’m glad you’re covering this one. Thanks Dr. Grande!
my thoughts exactly!! I saw people discussing whether or not they believe the story in the notebook. Immediately upon reading I could see right thru the story and saw how he was simply protecting his ego. So sad that he couldn’t take responsibility even when he wouldn’t have had to face the consequences.
Thank you for this! It’s been frustrating to hear media acting like this is all true. It’s typical actions and words of someone with high narcissist behavior.
And yes, I had thought that maybe he murdered Gabby in passion and couldn’t handle it so he killed himself. I now know what a horrible person brian truly is. This is what he leaves Gabby’s family? A note saying he’s actually a hero. He’s never wrong and always a “good guy” to the very end. He keeps hurting people even after his death.
And no one asks to be killed due to hypothermia. Once the cold is too bad, you get a warm feeling that takes over. And before this happens, people fight for their life. They fight for their life! I’m sure Gabby did call out to Brian after he hit her with rocks and that after that he did strangle her. But that’s the end of the truth.
What a piece of work he is.
Rest in peace Gabby 🙏🙏🙏
Gabby’s request to be killed was manufactured by Dr. Grande, not Brian.
I can’t stand Brian who’s a cold blooded narcissist, self righteous bastard to legitimized his cold blooded murder of a beautiful and wonderful woman. He is a , narcissistic, selfish, inbred person who even in death legitimized his murder of Gabby and I find him pathetic. He even has the audacity and maligned arrogance to label himself a hero. He thinks people are stupid enough to believe this tale of a dreadful person whom he definitely was.
@@kevinhornbuckle Go read the letter because that’s what brian said happened in the letter. That Gabby asked him to do it because she was in so much pain. Don’t know what you’re talking about 🤔
@@samanthamariah7625 After hitting her with a rock for no believable reason.
One more true thing in his note was that he hoped animals would decimate HER body or that enough time would pass so that her body would decompose before it was discovered. That's why he kept silent.
Says she fell down and got hurt, so he valiantly killed her to end her pain, like the true self-sacrificing hero he's always been.🙄
A narcissist coward that lived in a world of his own.
They had already broken the engagement off prior to taking this trip. I’m from the same area as Brian in SW Florida, North Port. It’s excruciatingly hot here with 90% and 90 % humidity a normal day. Our ocean can get to 94 degrees so a temperature drop to 60 degrees is freezing we are cold at 70 degrees!
Well stated!!! I appreciate your information on this case and all of your work👊🏼Always enjoy your videos
Very good analysis.
Hey Dr Grande.. totally love what you do..
I think your analysis is succient and onpoint. Anyone who has experienced a toxic relationship with a NPD or abuser can see thru the veneer. It's tragic and sad. May Gabby rest in peace.
An absolute masterpiece of an analysis! 🙌🙏👌
Brilliant analysis dear Dr. Grande. Thank you. x
Dr. Grande, this was a very informative and quite interesting analysis. Thanks for covering this evil Momma's Boy's final writings. 👍💜🌵
It's always a good day and when Dr. Grande posts! 🌵🌵🌵
A very tragic story. This ill-fated couple were too young for marriage. Neither of them had any marketable skills for one thing. Being in close proximity like that day after day couldn't help but cause friction. Remember the Moab, Utah incident? My "theory " is that Gabby realized during the trip who Brian really was, and was initiating a breakup. Brian lost it and murdered Gabby. Brian strangled this girl. Pretty violent way to die.
When you talked about the levels of manipulation and how they could’ve developed as he got an older and makes me think of one of the most terrifying relationships I’ve ever been in and he was 35 and just so good at manipulating. He also tried to kill me a few times and I kept staying. Interesting sentiment and I understand now how those skills can develop over time for most people which I find so interesting. Yes some people can be master manipulators because we do learn some of that in childhood ect but over time they get really good. Refined those skills to a t good. I’m like mine boggled about that I never heard about that in all the books I’ve read, or the advocacy trainings I’ve been in. Mind blown 🤯
Domestic violence no question.
That was a very scary way for him to put it!!!!!
Imagine staying with someone who tried to kill you “a few times”.
i wonder if there is a seed of truth in his story. like, he PUSHED her in a fit of rage like what we heard in utah only escalated as abusers do, and in the dark she fell and got injured /incapacitated to some degree, and then he either still enraged or maybe in a panic strangled her to death thinking he could get away with it , whereas if she lived he didnt want to get arrested (faulty logic but narcs rarely seem to think about anything except their instant gratification)
I tend to agree. I think he hurt her in a fit of rage and the injuries were bad enough that she decided to leave him or bad enough to require medical attention and get him in trouble, or maybe both. Either way he couldn't abide her leaving him and/or getting into legal trouble over the injuries he caused. So he strangled her. He only thought of himself and his own wants in that moment, never thinking ahead about consequences like not getting away with it. Most people would do everything they could to save a loved one, even holding out hope past the point of reason... not decide killing them was the best option!
I think in addition to her not having the experience to see the warning signs it's also that abuse creeps in slowly. It's little things at first and often times happen early enough that's it's still while the relationship is exciting and many don't know what early abuse looks like so she may have brought something up and been told it was normal or that's just how guys are. I wish we as a society better understood and were able to spot abuse.
Another great analysis! Brian was consistent...a liar until the end.
Narcissistic "victim" behavior. An awesome update and as usual clear analysis. Appreciate you - Dr. Grande.
"...violence cannot be outweighed by any # of positives." Teach that to our daughters.
I can't wait for the analysis of the letter from roberta laundry to Brian! There has been talking of it but has not been put out as yet. It is the care of the laundry attorney. It was addressed to Brian and was to be burned after reading......
So sad for Gabby and her family 😭😭
You know we were all waiting for this!!!!
Your analysis, Dr. Grande as so many before me have said, is incredibly on point! Especially for those of us older perhaps with romantic relationship experiences with narcissistic partners or domestic abuse that cringed at the police cam in Moab as the signs of gas lighting, manipulation, and abuse projecting like yellow flashing construction signs on the road! Your ability to still tie in perhaps deserved humor towards Brian in how unbelievably his claims are while remaining compassionate to the matters at hand is admirable. Such tragedy like a Shakespearean tragedy or many British literary novels. Thank you for this one, and all of your analyses. Im a huge fan and love cacti too!
I was waiting on your analysis, spot on as usual. Thanks😍
How can anyone make sense of this whole situation? Brian was a liar and an abuser and Gabby should not have been with him but she was. It's not okay for people to be as cynical as he was he had no right to act like he was better than everyone else. Thank you for your insight and your thoughts on this case!
Spot on Dr. Grande- chilling and sickening at the same time. Good warning about narcissistic horrid capabilities!