How to Fight Depression - Jordan Peterson
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- Опубліковано 15 чер 2024
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The benefit of disciplined habits and daily routine... stay on track. That is absolutely key with depression. You eat because it's time to eat. You sleep because it's time to sleep.
living but at the same time you're dead inside? idk.. feels like a robot to me
Although it definitely helps... this discipline comes at a cost if you have to force it for a prolonged time; without a sense of reward, the underlying biology sustaining this behaviour breaks down. It is only at that point the effects of depression will become apparent to the outside world.
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He’s a clinical psychologist… I think he knows what he’s talking about
@@alexb741 that's the goal of cognitive behaviour therapy (cbt for short), sometimes assisted by antidepressants to give a temporary boost to said therapy; you're hitting the nail on the head!
Source: I am a psychology major with a history (past tense) of depression :)
Works even if you are not depressed
Man, I really needed this today. I’m so glad this man exists
Good to see he is not on antidepressants any more or is he -??????
How’s it going now? Hope you’re enduring
You’re more than an overcomer
Amen, to that...
@@michaelhoile1369 he was only on Benzodiazepines
Oh my God. This is so spot on... Only someone who has had real depression or anxiety can formulate it like this.
I never had the words for it. Love this man.
Yeah it really is spot on, even if all you want to do is hide in a dark room, you have to force yourself into places and situations you don’t want to be in, until you start to feel better again
I suppose JP has experienced this himself then. But yeah, all the more encouraging & grounded in that way. God bless him.
And speaking of that as a Christian, oh man do we need God in all of it too. I pray that we can all find him through our suffering. But sometimes we really need to just strive to endure & hold on our part.
@@oofydoom he had depression since he was 13
I'll always remember in the movie crow "it can't rain all the time" its the truth. Keep going. All situations are temporary.
Sooner or later, the sun will have to come out and shine 💛
LOVE your comment!!
Put that on a t shirt. Maybe you’ll make a dollar or two…
For regular depression yeah it can get better. But there exists TRMD, which is permanent and incurable (meaning no therapy, life choices or medication helps)
I hate this quote... Some situations are permanent
I've never had my life so perfectly described down to the praying that the dark won't consume my light every day. Unfortunately, it's consumed nearly every day but for some reason I get up every day & do it again. Insanity.
having little willingness to do anything makes daily life a chore. People who haven't been through it can never understand. You have to be disciplined otherwise it'll only get worse. All I try to do is set a goal or goals and work toward them. Problem is the evenings when there's nothing to do and the dark thoughts pop back up.
@@person8203 to make things worse you have those who claim to be this way for attention and sort of water down these feelings to others which for the rest of us takes any willingness to ask for help away.
Please be sure your meds aren’t causing this. It’s the worse feeling ever. Cymbalta & Singulair (allergy & asthma Med) have this side effect). Probably others too. Good luck to you. Keep keeping on!
@@person8203 as much as I hate my job I have found that the routine and responsibility is the only thing that keeps me afloat but routine and responsibility isn't enough to repair the damage. I don't even know what the damage is. I have yet to be capable of putting a finger on it. I suppose it's like the loss control at any level of life without any measure to actually make the changes needed to achieve success. "The loss of hope"
@@alicial1239 That's so true. I have reverse effect from many medications, particularly antidepressants.
They take me from this kind of darkness and depression that JP is talking about, to completely overwhelmed and suicidal within days of starting them.
So it is absolute endurance for me. I take Valium for the most overwhelming anxiety attacks, and my dogs for minute by minute, daily therapy.
My dogs are the reason I get up, the reason I endure. Without them, I would have opted out long ago.
So for those of you who need to hear it, I care! I care about you. I want you to get through this. Knowing you are out there, struggling every hour too, gives me the strength to keep going. We are not alone. We are united by our darkness, and we can lift each other up, out of this hell. Hang in there. You've got this. You are stronger than you think!
I'm so like that, just keep moving forward, you get knocked down 7 times, you get up 8
Yes, I get that
Lived like that for decades and now I feel like I've burned out that capacity, no will left to summon. Like curled up in a ball waiting for it to be over.
@@infiniLor a change is sometimes better than a rest
"Just keep swimming"
My sister taught me that and I keep a metal fish keychain in my purse to remind me
It's hard to swim when letting go seems easier than moving my arms which feel as if they weigh 5000lbs each & I'm barely treading water, fighting for every breath.
So true, I love that you used that phrase.
That phrase is like the motto of what handling life comes down to.
Atlas❤
I’m discipline with exercise. Even on my worst days I always have that.
Practice Gratitude , which is really hard when feeling bad feels good.
Just want yo say the darkness can receed. I did al lthese things. Believe
There is a light at the other end of this tunnel. I remember seeing it the last time I recovered from years of depression. That energy sapping depression comes from a tortured mind or a lack of love. Get help from the doctor or a therapist is my advice. There are lots of free services if you search hard.
I needed this. I'm actually smiling because here is a man who knows the way through to the light
I guess this is what I'VE been doing all my life, just getting through both of those, because sometimes things happen that really suck, & EVERYONE gets depressed & anxious @ times. It's a normal part of life. It's when it gets prolonged that it causes problems, but if people were to get back on track in their lives it seems it would get back to normal again for them. And a lot of times it really doesn't take much, & certainly not medicine! Just get over that hump where you get stuck, & keep going instead of staying there.
Unless they have an imbalance of Serotonin. Then it never goes away, it may wax and wane but it's always there, in the background, whispering... I speak from experience, had this bs happening my whole life lol it sucks, I have found that joking about it and making light about it with others who understand how it feels to be this way helps a good bit, where as just talking about it rarely does the same.
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Or maybe it's the drugs you take.
don't talk about depression so easily, is not simply bad mood, it's much more xd
@@thelostpsychosis When you see it like that, you give it a lot of control. And you are not correct, it can completely go away. Don't believe that it is always at the background, it is not a normal part of your life and it can go away.
@@thelostpsychosis Have you read 'Lost Connections' by Johan Hari, he has a TED talk on UA-cam also about his views on medicating depression and anxiety.
It's an interesting watch.
Thank you Mr. Jordan. I'm having one of those days and your right...I've just got to stay focused and keep rowing.
I survived a massive stroke 4years ago and my personality changed drastically and I became depressed and anxious learning how to deal with life with a different body and mind than the ones I started out life with.
My dad taught me this as I was growing up because it’s something that he gathered Through living and dealing with depression. Of course when I was young I was not disciplined but the older I got the more desperate I was to just go ahead and try it one step at a time
Totally agree with this.
I find it works.
Good music in the morning helps😊
And sometimes the *darkness* envelopes you completely and digests you alive.
1st, make sure your RXs aren’t causing the depression! Cymbalta made me feel suicidal. Be careful!
Cymbalta made me feel incredibly anhedonic and like a zombie.
@@BOSSDONMAN I woke up every morning feeling like I was dying. I saw my doctor & said “I’m dying, & I just want to know why.”. I was resigned to death. Nothing was going to change that. He responded with,
“OK. No more Cymbalta for you.”
I had no idea it was the medication! I wonder how many suicides this medication has caused.
BTW : The Cymbalta withdrawal was literally gut wrenching! I’d only taken it a couple of months, but ended up at the ER puking my guts out. It took another month to start getting back to normal.
*Edit= Typo
Yes, be careful with any SSRIs and SNRIs, extremely addictive
I had a seizure and had to stop it.
I took cymbalta as well, now i stopt for 3 weeks but i feel dizzy sick feel like i'm dying
Thank you dr. Peterson .I needed to hear that. Your one of the most important men on social media right now in my opinion . Your literally changing lives and giving some of the best advice I’ve ever heard. I just can’t imagine how so many people can honestly say they don’t like you… they’ve got to be literally plugging their ears when you speak because if they listened for just one minute they would realize that your genuinely a good person and see the huge difference your making in so many peoples lives.
You're* You're*
I've had extreme stress & anxiety all my life & I wasn't aware of it I thought I was just weird not because there was or is something wrong with me medically instead it's because I tried to please everyone except me, simply I counted myself out or even last, I am what this man calls "Extemely Agreeable" & I hate conflict avoid it because thats how ive been nurtured & raised as the only girl. I've had so much responsibility put on me ever since childhood but the authority was always someone else. My outside world all my life at school, post education, work & my inside world my parents, siblings family relations etc hour by hour day to day month to month year to year was all dictated by just a few of my own table. Last couple of years I've gradually come to the truth of the toxicity of my ppl its like ive been woken up from a bad dream to a worse one. I tried breaking through lifelong obstacles of silence & neglect & abuse, pave roadways to self fulfillment & self care & self betterment & contentment but with no positive results. More I spoke my truth, the more I explain my genuine positive intentions & however many chances I gave everyone to bring balance to the chaos the stronger & harder the negative push back came to be. I've been mislabeled, misrepresented, misgudged all my life it seems & i really havent had an identity of my own, I've always been someone's daughter, sister, aunt employee, coworker, babysitter etc...I really don't know what to do, it's my family I love them & care about them but at the same time I can not count myself last or out anymore or continue being a door mat. It's like they have known all along that there's power in number yet no one taught me this or even included me because it didn't benefit their bottom line.
Relatable. I've always felt misunderstood my entire life too. I fell into many problems simply because I could not explain myself, or other people misunderstood me. It's awful.
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As a man with both Anxiety (Social Anxiety to be exact) and Depression (the chemical kind) I can say that this is pretty on point, but I'd say its more of a mix of Endurance and Willpower. Because I have a lot of endurance, just rarely the desire nor will to do anything, from eat, exercise, play video games, shower, sex, etc. it's very rare that I climb my way outta bed to do pretty much anything, but my lack of willpower comes and goes, it could be months, weeks, days or hours, a lack of will to do anything and vice versa.
I completely relate. I’ve been doing this dance for decades. We ALL NEED OTHERS TO HELP ONE ANOTHER!
i feel depression has one factor as - not being able to speak( true emotions/things/matter) to that oje particular person.the self suffocation causes depression
Indeed. Staying on track is all there is.
Almost every time I watch this man speak he looks like he’s in the verge of tears. I know he’s cried before in camera but I don’t think he’s passionate about his message so much as he speaks to himself and found hope for himself in that moment. Also by way for saying things with real value it’s probably a cathartic experience for him.
I, feel, for me I need mentors to be there, and give me a hand to pull me up. If I had that willpower, I’d be doing much better
No one is coming to save you, you gotta find it within
My dad just died. And just like him, now more than ever, I appreciate you Jordan Peterson. Start my first new job in over 2 years today
Yeah, be patient and endure it, and then after some time you fall into another situation like that, and the cycle goes on and on until you meet your end. I don't feel like i have any desire to endure anymore.
Neither do I. I feel as if I'm constantly being tested on my tolerance to endure more & more each day. I'm running a fucking 10,000km marathon & I'm barely at 5km & can't keep going.
@@Shadoefax760 how old are you, and what are the issues that are troubling you. I'm really curious, since they could be the same issues that I am having and we could exchange advices to each other, or at least we could cry together.
My son has made this all possible for me. If I feel down or don’t want to get up and feel him pull on my arm I know i HAVE to get up. If not for me, for him. One tug and I’m up. I love this little guy with my whole heart and soul.
And also to think that after bad times good times will come ,after struggle you will find peace.
You changed my life grate man thanks for that ❤️
This mentality is great depending on where you're at in life. Some people are so depressed to the point where they can't get themselves to do practically anything they don't have to do. If that's you, it's okay, and you can get through it. I'm fighting my way through it right now, you're not alone. ♥️♥️♥️
For me , depression was a chance to really get to know myself and overcome the biggest challenge in my life.
@@freedenu7695 Yes
Need a lot of good rest, water, exercise, stretching, and plenty of healthy foods
Thankyou for posting this
I need you right now JP.
Suffering teaches endurance, and endurance produces hope.
Thanks I needed this
Get out of my head this one hit me. Endurance man, endurance for days and days and days and … always get through it, 10 minutes every few months of feeling a bright moment is always worth it.
So good! Keep rowing the wonderful leaky boat!❤😊💃💃💃💃
It not endurance, it leads to the same and the darkness proceeds. There’s no hope for us. Your words and strength is heroic. People I’m sure like I do, wish they were strong and brave like you express. At least you have an impact on us, your words are refreshing and you will be appreciated for decades. Stay blessed Jordan.
Pushing yourself to try and get through will definitely help! You can’t give. But eventually it will come to a point when you won’t be able to do this anymore. I think a person in depression can notice a similar feeling inside.
I would advise to try and learn something about christianity. Especially the Orthodox christianity.
Why not just try? If there’s nothing to lose. (There is plenty of sources even here in youtube)
“either you get busy livin, or you get busy dyin!” - Andy Dufresne
This is something I've wanted to hear for a long time. That it'll get better if I just keep pushing. Sometimes I think it's just an endless task but to hear that there is light at the end of the tunnel is so reassuring, even if it's far far away
This is exactly how I came out of depression- just one day I decide I will keep taking step by step until months passed and I felt better. Of course I was go going to therapy too. But I honestly believe but that biggest part is that discipline to just keep going despite not feeling like it. Greta video !
Never give up!
Jordan Peterson my Hero! ❤🙏👊
I hope and pray that I get through this video.
This is exactly how I feel every Day, sometimes I just try to cope with it 😔😐
This man has helped so many people with his applicable advice and thoughtfulness. How he is treated will forever one of the worst travesties of our time
As part of my prayers I pray for people who suffer through Mental illness such as depression and anxiety. I’ve experienced anxiety before… Sometimes it will flare up but I just have to keep working through it a day at a time. Also I had gone through a depression that I was fortunately able to come out of. It was from things that happened in my life at that time and things that surfaced from my past. It can be worked through. Whatever you do don’t hesitate to get the help that you need.
This hits me right in the feels. Sometimes its easier to think that you are just weak, thats why it is so hard to move forward. It is important to validate your feelings and understand that mental states are challenging. I needed to hear this today, thank you!
I would say I'm very on track with what I need to do for my responsibilities, but I'm still very depressed. Functional depression is real.
And then you slowly start to feel better. And eventually you find yourself feeling a positive emotion and you’re like, “wow I haven’t felt that in a long time, it’s working”.
Really needed this today. This morning tested me
Wow he just described my life! I had 14 years of blissful happiness but I was relieved of that illusion just after my 3rd child was born.
Life picks you up and life let's you down all you can do is keep on Truckin... Toot toot!
This life should never be this difficult.
This man knows what he says. I hope I can with you man
You're the father I needed.
Thank you
You right doc!
This man is current society hope. He gives so many motivation to move your ass and get everything done to be best person you can and win with depression and anxiety. God bless him for his work!🙏
It’s like he’s lived every moment i have lived through or am living through right now
This is very insightful.
Dealt with depression and still deal with it. My approach is to develop good and sustainable habits (cycling, running) . This has really been very helpful. Joined a local cycling association. Set goals and got better on the bike. Celebrate your goal achievements. Working to reach my fitness goals left me with less time to worry think about depression.
I love everything you share and have found your advice so helpful . Thank you for all your heartfelt and courageous content, sir!
Do you have any advice for people suffering from chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia?
It's hard to live when you struggle just to get the most basic things done and living in brain fog.
To top all the lonesome suffering one has to deal with the stigmatization of one of the most misunderstood, rare and cumbersome disorder.
What would you do if you were plagued by unpredictable energy waves that stop you from fully living the life your heart desires?
Change your diet to low sugar/low carb and up your fat intake. It changed my life significantly.
There are so many people who dislike this man. Yet everyone of those people this man wants to help
Cool. Row forward all!
I wish he was my Dr
I think that it is important to mention - watch your thinking!
You would be amazed how much of a depression your thoughts are creating and how much lighter you can feel when you notice this, it will stop your mind from energizing those feelings of being depressed.
I honestly think my cross to bear is constant misery, no matter what I do, i could be doing it better or should be doing something else entirely.
This man is helping so many people stay sane in these weird times, he's heart felt, pragmatic and you can see he battles with his ego during his popularity.
Depression and being an empath is the worst combination. The way this man described my life explains why I am utterly exhausted ALL THE TIME!
As someone who’s battled with depression for like 20+ years, this is the best advice
I got through it with sparkling wine. It really does pair well with anything.
Yes.
He is absolutely absolutely right. Only if you keep kicking will your feet eventually find land.
I know its hard but trust us. We may not have been you but we have felt the exact same way.
Thank you so much. I know this, commented YET realized this temp situation right in front of me may be this way because it's a shock coming out of being home sooooooo much and with less movement physically. But WE HUMANS NEED THESE KEYS.
This is so true
I call it the beat down... I'm an addict... I have over 2 years clean... and what I still endure from everyone is amazing. People love to remind you of what you were. I work over 65 hours a week, I have so much self discipline where I had none b4, I go hour by hour if need be... but you will endure, you will carry on. Discipline, discipline, discipline...and you will succeed. Stay strong everyone.
this guy is making me cry and its just been 30 seconds.
I need to recover from this. I want to punch a pillow. But I think Ill just wither in place.
Thank you. This exactly how I feel and been feeling everyday when I tackle my depression. I am always battling with myself each day. I try to do at least 1 productive thing in a day. Weather it be something small or big. It's also a motivation thing too. All you really want to do is not do anything because it's easier. Ultimately I have to challenge myself and that's what matters.
I agree, sooo I’m suppose to just keep living mentally exhausted from my depression?? Endurance doesn’t last for ever! Eventually fatigue will set in! Love this mans philosophy! serious question! Just a struggling soul :/
Great advice 👌🏻
Endurance? That's pretty well put, that's really what it feels like. The thing is, it's very hard to keep going when you get no breaks. It's just one thing after another, shit keeps happening and i don't even get the chance to catch my breath. It's gotten to the point where if i have even one free day, i feel very uneasy, i'm not used to free time and i have no peace of mind, i'm constantly thinking of what i have to do and how to do it.
This is HUGE. This is one of the many methods I used to cure my depression. It is one of, if not the best method to start
But you cannot be afraid of the possibility that your work won’t pay off!!!
Lost a stone in under 3 weeks due to not being able to eat with anxiety. Literally felt sick whenever I put anything in my mouth. I tried so, so hard to put my thoughts into perspective to get myself out of it but I had to call the docs in the end. I’ve never been good at self discipline so I think that’s why I couldn’t pull myself out of it on my own.
I wish it was as easily done as said but it's definitely said well
When I had post-partum depression my baby's needs and routine did that for me. I just had to take care of him sonit made me push through every next hour with endurance.
God bless you Dr Peterson
"In a world filled with misery and uncertainty, it is a great comfort to know that in the end, there is light in the darkness"
thanks
I needed to hear this, thank you
Going through hell right now but trying to live it to the fullest!
I have BPD. When I'm alone, I have very little anxiety but an intense depression. When I'm with people, I have extreme anxiety but feel happier. I've been like this forever and I've always said I'd much rather have the depression than the anxiety. The depression at least has a creative element to it that, if you push yourself, you can use to create something beautiful and reflective. Anxiety doesn't recede or relent, and it definitely doesn't bring anything good with it for me.
Thank You !!!
I feel like he was looking into my mind. Thats how I live but I've never heard it being expressed aloud before.
Thank you
The thing is, sometimes the depression gets so bad you start to believe there’s no point in trying to get better as it won’t happen
Spot on. Because the effects of discipline hasn’t come
@@mysecondrealemail When I was gripped by a deep depression disciplining my way out of it wasn’t an option
Amazing
Just stay on track 4Head
Absolutely true, my life especially my mental health went downhill as i was out of self discipline.
This guy is like he lived everyone's life in their place, gave my whole life description in seconds
Takes endurance