I remember a time when I didn't believe I could lose weight. I would start a diet and quit soon after. I just didn't believe in my self. Eventually I got tired of failing and I push through. I loss 70 pounds in 10 months. The crazy thing was I had all the tools and knowledge I needed the whole time to lose the weight. I just needed to believe in my self.
@@nancydotimas1399 Will power. Something people clearly lack these days as tech won't do everything for you. You have to get off your ass even if you don't want too. You will feel better after trust me. I lost 185lbs and it sucked but this guy is right...it was all mental. Going from 385 to 208 and under 10% body fat in 9 months is not typical as I intermittent fasted (one meal a day) and went to the gym every single day rain or shine, tired or sore I still went. Just shut up and do it as nobody will do it for you. Make it your personal journey of growth to be your best self. It is with it to be happy and healthy as you only live once. During Covid especially.
@@nancydotimas1399 For me, Nancy, the tools are my ability to learn a better way to total health -- mentally, spiritually and physically. The information is out there free for simply searching for it.
I am 190 I always been 145 my whole life at one point lower than that I've gained over 50 lbs in the last 4 years and now that I am engaged I am wanting more to be healthy again. ua-cam.com/users/postUgkx5VQ5nUzHu6i0O5_u7ipyLnCz0lbsSvr0 I am not fat but I am thick and have muscle. I am very close to how you were but a lil smaller but I am so sick people making comments to me like I'm huge or like you said having shorts that used to be so cute on me and now I can't even find a pair to fit me. I used to love shopping now I don't even want to go to the store and if I do I pick the biggest size don't even try it on and deal with it. I went from size 5 to size idk because I don't even want to know the real number. I hate looking at pics of myself now or me before. thank you for your video it's time to make a change.
I grew up very poor and very overweight. I lost 60 lbs when I was a teenager to join the military. The military was my only choice to be able to have a chance at life. I was 15/16 and was working as many hours as I legally could... paid for a gym membership and was buying my own groceries. I learned at a very young age that I was meant for bigger things. When you believe in yourself, you can achieve anything. I'm proof of that.
It’s also your environment. I got my own job at 16 while living with my mother and instead of getting to save my money She took a lot of it. When I told her I don’t want to give my money to her that I’m working for to save it all she kicked me out. No home to go, no friend to stay with because they all live with their parents and no car to even get myself to and from work. I was homeless for most of my twenties. Never had a stable home until I was 28. I honestly feel because of that I have always been overweight. I honestly think if I didn’t have a jealous bully as a mother when it came to doing my own thing and helping myself. Id have a house, I’d have my slim body by now and I probably would have wanted kids.
@@KurosakiLuvar01 very sad, so sorry you went through that, it's on you now though. The past is in the past, get counseling, creat the life you want because it's your responsibility ☺️ good luck
*Changed my life. I will never eat the same ever again. "Unless you physically trip and your face lands in a box **weightlose.fitness** of donuts, there is no such thing as a 'slip'." Get that mind set and you'll win again and again.*
My sister and I come from a morbidly obese family. A while ago we decided to support one another on a journey to get fit. It took 2 years, but both of us have lost almost 70 lbs each. The problem now is how the family treats us...like we did something wrong by getting healthy. Being in our mid 40’s, we don’t really care but I can see how an unsupportive family unit would be very hard for younger people to deal with.
Congratulations, I know what you are talking about, I have been through such a situation and honestly am, believe it or not when you start growing your family and friends unconsciously maybe! Try to stop you,seeing you makes them uncomfortable and reminds them of the problems they do not want to confront!! So be aware of them not dragging you down find healthy fit friends and groups and guarantee your future healthy lifestyle and not going back to the problem,every new level needs a new group surrounding us, that’s hard to accept esp. when it comes to family and if we are the last child even more, because elder ones most of the times are jealous of youngers. Face it, remember it and keep your self happy and healthy. We are not supposed to carry other’s issues.good luck
Yep, my family is "overweight" and when I got to a size 8, I thought huh, maybe if I get to a size 6 I'll have a little leeway to give myself some flexibility. And, my family was like, "don't lose too much more weight! Don't you think you've gone far enough? Be careful!" And I was just shaking my head.
This guy literally got fat and went through the journey to lose weight. That’s dedication to his business. Now he knows what we go through. He’ll be the perfect personal trainer
@@mariyamniyaz it is not exactly the same, but it is a different kind of emotional pain. Imagine having your perfect body then throwing it away for an experiment? He had to look at himself with that body and was probably teased about it by his peers even if they were "just joking." It hurts no matter what. I have felt similar to this after I had my second baby I gained weight and my body changed physically to where I can no longer lose the weight to look like after my first and it just feels like it's not my body anymore.
I am so inspired to see these two men have such a deep, honest conversation about self-worth, emotions tied to weight loss and getting healthy, and the importance of learning to be vulnerable and loving yourself.
I appreciate how respectful you are of your guests, active listening, giving space to talk. Everything you ask/comment is relative and clarified or drives the convo deeper. A+
He is so right! I've been skinny and overweight. But I never understood overweight people before becoming one. I used to think they were undisciplined. It's not like that. There is a stress eating factor, hormones change etc. I have a lot more sympathy now than I had before. Don't regret gaining weight. It was good for me. Great experience.
Same thing happened to me. I was once a fit and athletic person. In a matter for 2 years my depression made it hard for me to keep thinking of food just as an energy source. It became an emotion. Now I'm overweight and finding extremely hard mentally and emotionally
@@Heartbreaker1999-o5s I'm the same, my depression the last 2 years meant I put on 4 stone from just emotional eating constantly, finding the motivation to change and stick to it even when your sad is so hard for me right now
@@cdelta801 hope things get better for u soon . There's always hope. It's just a matter of finding it and holding on. I gained 35kg in 2 yrs ) so I get how it feels. Nothing is permant xx and we can always get back to fitness . It's just bout breaking the negative mentality
When I was a kid my uncle used to tell me I was getting fat and that I was gaining weight and I believed him and decided, why not be fat? I didn’t realize what I was doing to myself, I was a child and at that time my parents were going through a divorce and I loved food so I decided that was where I was going to get my “love” then when I got to 2nd grade the bullying started and everything else was downhill after that I haven’t believed in myself since I was 6 years old and I’m 22 now I wish I’d known then that the weight gain he saw was me growing as a little girl, getting boobs and filling out and my mom was no help and neither was my dad since he wasn’t there There is so much for why I don’t believe in myself
@@trippleme1298 I have had the similar thing. Once I started fasting and began to get results, I got serious. I still struggle to find a good feeling about myself. The only thing that works for me is being accountable thrugh the scale and measurements and lots of prayer and affirmations. And I am 3x your age.
@@trippleme1298 My old roommate told me to tap my heart 3 times and say.. I then tap 3 times and say Love and 3 more taps and say Me. It did and felt good, just fine. I told a friend to do the same thing and after she repeated it 3 times her eyes filled with tears. We are taught that self love is conceit or selfishness. It's not. It's beautiful to love yourself. I wish you tons of self love and great health.
Self love for me is a constant struggle. My mother severely abused me as a child till she took her life when i was 6 years old of which I witnessed. The woman who was meant to be my queen was my darkness and now the natural and vital quality of self love is elusive to me. I struggle with my demons telling me Im unworthy every minute of everyday. But I fight the hard fight, I believe my soul is worth fighting for and that as far as we know we only have one shot at this thing called life. This man's words made me cry cause I know I fight for the freedom of my soul on a daily basis and most days I tend to win, but some days I drown in darkness - but I know ONE thing for sure......CHANGE is constant, change is inevitable and change is beautiful when its for the better our souls. It feel like a slow change - but I can feel it, its happening (not fast enough) but I am going to get there
Zinagrillo 1 You are in my prayers 💕💖 God has more for you and you are not your childhood nor your past. I definitely understand. God has brought me a Mighty loong way!! Sooo grateful. JOY IS Your Portion. I encourage you to look up Invicta ministries on UA-cam. Ive been learning so much from his ministry and the spiritual thats going on behind what ppl are going through. How healing and standing on God's Word is soo important. Breaking off those generational henderenses. No demon no darkness will stop Gods Destiny for your Life and to Truly Live!! Love you Sister Stay Encouraged!!
Self love is hard to achieve if you don't have it... as life is tough and not fair and every step of the way you life is bombarding you... And people are not making it easy.
Zinagrillo, I am so sorry that you had to suffer like that. You are worth so much more than you know! Love yourself and never listen to the king of darkness. he only wants your suffering, as he is suffering. misery loves company so don't join him. I don't know you, but I love you! You are amazing! You are a beautiful shining star! You will get there!!
zinagrillo1 you don’t have to keep carrying your mothers darkness it’s not your fault that she made a choice in her life to take her life. Just because she couldn’t love you doesn’t mean your not worthy of love. You Are worthy of love and it starts with you loving yourself. Shake of those demons and spread those wings. Just like with positive affirmations Sometimes it’s starts with looking yourself in the mirror and saying I Love You until it sticks. See that little hurt 6 year old girl inside of you and tell her you love her. Be her saviour and your own queen, Help her out of the pain and darkness.
"How do you convince someone they're worthy? ... I still don't know " Great to hear this level of honesty from someone in his position. Ultimately, the teacher can only show you the door; you've got to walk through it yourself.
Unfortunate he doesn't note the chemical aspect of being overweight for most of your life, the homostatic aspect of your body wanting to maintain your weight regardless of hardships. Gaining weight is easy for most but losing it is physically and mentally complex. I was amazed because you only hear emotions and lack of discipline or activity as causes but it's way more complex.
Yeah well he probably had to fight hard to gain and maintain his increase...so its not the same as someone who truly gains and stays overweight. But I appreciate his attempt to understand.
Telling someone to eat less and move more to lose weight is exactly the same as telling someone to spend less and make more money to become rich. Technically it is true but in reality it isn’t that easy.
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"Vulnerability is weakness" has been a pervasive societal undertone for so long. Thank you for promoting this empowering paradigm shift to "Vulnerability as Strength" ♥️💪♥️💪♥️
When they talked about that person at the restaurant eating alone having no fun.. thats me... and i just realized that was me. And i just bursted in tears. My eyes have been opened so much
I agree about the self talk. I beat PTSD but still had a battle with anxiety from time to time. So, when I started to feel the fear and anxiety coming up, I would start to repeat the scripture that says, “For He has not given me a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, love and a sound mind” out loud, over and over again until I felt better. It worked! I no longer have panic attacks or anxiety moments.
In my own personal experience, it truly is all a mental game. The beginning of the year, I made a commitment to weigh 120 lbs (at that time I was 150 lbs) I’m 5”2 lol so I’m short and according to my BMI I was over weight and i actually felt fat every time I looked at myself in the mirror. So what shifted my mindset? My mother went to the hospital due to her eating habits, and I went full force into eating healthier and making sure I don’t ever end up in the hospital due to something I can control. I’m now currently 116-120 lbs and maintaining 👌🏽. Hitting the gym ended up being my keystone habit and I applied that same mindset in everything I do. MINDSET IS KEY. IMO.
Soo encouraging thank you… I am 147-149 and 4’11 and I definitely look big. This week I am starting my change of diet for the long run… my body is aching to the changes but I’m going to push through to get go 120-125ish
This is EXACTLY right. I myself have battled weight-gain and weight-loss my entire life, and my findings have shown me that the emotional/mental/spiritual component is what is truly lacking in every single weight-loss program on the go. I recall as a teenager, feeling very much alone in my struggle with an eating disorder. I began reading amazing books that helped me love myself deeply, and it helped tremendously. I knew I was on to something much bigger than my "symptom" (overweight) ... I was learning the underlying self-worth issue that had been my story since a very young age (four!). I began to understand my pain, shame, and deep-seated fear that I was never going to be enough. Overeating was a fear reaction to the panic I felt inside. As an Empowerment Coach, my aim is to help as many people as I can with self-worth issues, as this is the leading cause of possibly all addictions. Thanks so much for sharing this with us.
I was a binge eater since i was a child. Always hiding and kept it a secret. I learnt to calm my emotions with food so i would hide and eat muffins or any other sweet because my heart was so bitter. That alone made me gain weight so rapidly that i would beat myself up and make me feel even less worthy so it was a horrible cycle. I didnt share it with anybody until i actually realised i had a problem and that was in my mid thirties! So many ppl now tell me how to lose weight or that one muffin wont kill me or that i should eat everything in moderation...they dont know they are talking to an addict. And lets call it the way it is, sugar it is ADDICTIVE. I have done keto for several years and that was the only lifestyle that freed myself from cravings and my relationship with hunger and food changed. Im not always thinking of food like before. Now im into carnivore and eating and enjoying organ meats. This lifestyle as well as weightlifting has been my recipe for success, but when Xmas comes and the minute i put on my moms delicious food into my mouth...the cravings come back like crazy so i agree with Tom, havings treats some times along the year is OK as long as you dont have a history like mine with food addiction or an addicted personality. I loved to hear this guest perspective and he is so right about experimenting to find out what works for you. Thanks Tom! Big hugs from Shanghai ❤️
@@britreid5893 get them to eat healthy as well. Learn how to make delicious meals you all can eat. Not every snack has to be cheese puffs and toaster strudels. Give them fruits, yogurt, cheese sticks and veggies straws.
One of the things I think gets overlooked with food addiction is the chemical reactions happening in the body causing the cravings...which is where the addiction resides. An overgrowth of yeast is an example of this. When there is an overgrowth of yeast in the body, it feeds on sugars.... The sugars help support the yeast and the problem continues to grow. It’s not a question of willpower at that point, it’s a question of whether one can bring themselves to push through the body screaming at them to eat more sugars. It’s incredibly difficult, and requires serious commitment to one’s diet. It will make you crazy...it will wreak havoc on your thinking, and decision making, and cause severe mood swings. If you’re gluten sensitive or intolerant you will have even more problems. I’m glad Mr. Manning did this experiment....for the simple reason that hopefully it will cause more Trainers to really consider what their clients are truly going through. 👍🏻👍🏻
thanks for reminding me that I need to practice kindly mastery over this body. For many months now, I have used digestive enzymes to help me with sensitivities and allergies.
Food addiction and sugar cravings are no joke. I was going to give myself a free day on Halloween to enjoy the treats going around work. I went crazy with sugar for 2 days, not only 1. I felt sick, didn’t really enjoy the taste, but I couldn’t stop. I did much better today.
I started crying over and over again after I decided to lose this depression sitting on my muscles. I feel like it's because I have this fear that I'll lose myself. My personality, honor, morals and faith seem like they're vulnerable with this change, but I trust God will keep me in tackt. This is the first time I've committed to taking good care of myself and I think that's a part of it to, I know it's going to happen and in a way, it seems like I'm pre-mourning my old self if that makes sense. On day 11 of keto and getting over the keto flu, but going at it day after day, I just have to keep stepping in the right direction. Thanks y'all!
i have always love eating and that made me lose weight super hard, tried a lot of diets and exercises along with it, but what made it possible was agoge diet. it changed my life, and maybe yours as well
I understand how hard the situation is. My mother was an emotioneless person when I was a kid. (After I grew up she somehow has changed.) I started to read psychology books when I was 15 to reach her heart. And here are what I've found out: They might have been thought to hide their emotions when they are a kid, for example. Imagine a child has been beaten up when he/she cries. When he/she grows up hiding his/her emotions will be the only way to feel safe. On the other hand if you are not loved in your family when you are a child and ignored consistantly then the only message your subconscious brain gets is "There is no such thing as love. You are on your own and you can not trust anybody". And if you are humiliated many times when you are child just because you cry or you speak about your emotions, the consequence is the same: Hating and hiding your emotions is the best way to be safe. When a person's soul is broken it is easy to become numb because in fact there are too many emotions down there to handle. I just tied to explain. I hope she gets the support she needs to face with her emotions from universe.
I think our ability to accomplish any goal is always in our head. If we can believe we can do it then we can. If we don't believe we can, then it can't be done.
I liked his voice, it's so clear and consistent i understood everything he said. As a foreigner not being English my primary language sometimes is very hard to listen to motivation speakers that speak that clear.
amen!!!!!! ive battled my own mental health for a few years and i just started consistently working out and eating healthy, this is my TIME. it is def a mental thing. god bless everyone fighting for their great health and a great life!!!! IT WILL BE WORTH IT!
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I loved this. I hope he finds greater self-awareness and self-love as his voice sounds very constricted... I feel some shame and guilt still left over. God bless him.
It's 2:51 AM and just finished watching this. Mind blown. Thank you Tom for this introduction and thank you for what you do. Thank you Drew. I can relate on so many levels, you're speaking to my soul. I'm moving over to your podcasts right now.
The simple speaking of your truth and the willingness to be vulnerable and real... WOW! When women talk about wanting a strong man, this is what we are talking about!!!
This guy articulated how my mind works with fitness. Mental toughness and willing to do hard shit, makes every thing else in life seem easier to deal with
This is life changing ❤️ food is definitely such an emotional experience for me, being recognized as this being normal instead of 'weak' actually gives me my strength back. My strength to be in control of how I feel and being able to deal with and sympathize with myself on my journey instead of bullying myself into health.
The question at 2:31 says this guy is for real. It is different for everyone. No cookie cutter when we hurt beyond what we can repair in our limited knowledge we move to what we think can help. That is what we come across in our journey. I lost weight and gained it back trying to figure out how to not repeat. He figured out the first part. I now realize there is more.
I want to try a water fast....not sure how to prepare for it to get through the shaky blood sugar crashes...any advice for preparing or getting through it?
Thanks! ...12 hr then 24 hour of what? :) I have done 3 day fasts before, and I go 12 hrs without food regularly, it's the 18-36th hrs I find difficult...just could use advice on minimizing the weakness/shakiness that tends to happen the first day.
Hey @Felismarie Curagi, Thank you for the extra nudge! I had been wishing and washin, and finally yesterday did 24 hrs liquid only fast (water, tea, coffee w a little EV coconut oil) and I am kinda blown away how good I feel after just one day! I have a lunch date today, so will most likely start again later this week and go for 3 days.
@@TheZGALa that's awesome,try water only,you won't believe how clear yiur mind will be,your body so happy,I did 5 days 3 weeks ago.im doing it again from the 18th of nov.
I truly resonate with this. I was only able to physically transform when I got emotionally and mentally ready. I now no longer weigh myself. I love that I have set myself free from those scales. I am vegan now as for me, meat makes my eczema flare up. But I am so happy with my lifestyle. Thank you for sharing your truth. I love this.
This is exactly what I've been preaching my whole life to my overweight family, and why I made my company. This brings tears to my eyes because of how true and real this is. Dare I say I'm proud of myself. #mindhygienics
That statement “feeling worthy of love” so many of us struggle with that, I think so much of that is tied to childhood and our parents, who are not perfect at parenting and so many children/adults struggle trying to overcome the effects of bad parenting or not getting the love they needed growing up for the rest of their lives.
Loving the new timeline at the bottom tom! Great idea. I often go back and watch ur videos and that will be helpful when I want to watch a certain segment! I see u tom! 💁 Makin it even easier for us to digest your content👍😍....but yes mental strenght is very important for working out. I'm a very petit women and even I have a very hard time working out because I don't want to do it even though I know its important. I have found that when I mentally push myself by doing just "one more set" like ur previous guest ed mylett said it helps buils up that needed mental strength!
The key is giving yourself positive feedback when you do the hard thing, instead of always striving for more/perfection. Negative self talk is such a struggle that influences everything in your life.
And also being really midful of the positive choices you make through out the day, congratulate yourself for even the smallest achievements and recognising what you were feeling in the moments leading up to and during the positive choices.
I truly love this ...I needed this...it starts with the heart and mind...and being kind and believing in YOU I truly love this im crying while writing this...thank you!!!!...I have been as heavy as 230 to 130 lbs....I look back at how MENTALLY HEALTHY I WAS WHEN I WAS LEAN....and the difference shows...
He was like this for a short amount of time so imagine being overweight/obese for years, even decades of their life. It's our drug. It's our comfort. It fills a void. And even he said how hard it is despite consciously being overweight for 6 months. The emotional and mental part is definitely the key to losing weight. I always saw myself as a fatty as did everyone else. I was always the big girl but it's until I began changing my self perception and facing my demons, that's when I started changing.
So glad he took the time to experience this for himself .The emotional connection is real.There is boredom, habit, feelings and even for some time we've celebrated with food.
I don’t think they ever will either. Unless they were straight up fat their whole life and then because my a PT after weightloss. I’ve heard of those stories.
Very well spoken Tom. I'm on my weight loss journey and can attest that the battlefield is in your mind. I know to eat healthy and working out but it's adjusting to a different mindset. SO true.
I applaud you for your attempt to empathize with your clients. Let's not forget that for so many of us it isn't just mental attitude but also all the bs we may be dealing with at home, in life, our environment, our mental capacities, childhood trauma, etc, etc, etc. Awesome conversation none the less. 👏🏼
"SUCCESS without FULFILLMENT is the ultimate failure!" Those words triggered something inside of me. Whatever it was, it's now leaking out of my tear ducts.😪
The biggest impact of this video was acknowledging that believing you are a failure, will lead you to take actions that you are a failure. I've heard what you believe is what you are, but I am currently seeing where the theme of failure is hidden in my belief system and my actions. Wow. For him to openly speak on his experience with an affair is inspiring. Even "good" people can have lapses in judgment. It's when people don't learn from their mistakes is what is damaging on a higher level.
I want to see an older female who was fat and diseased and transformed it all. I was recently diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis after years of being misdiagnosed. I spent those years in pain and being told I need to work out more but every time I did, I go into severe exhaustion and debilitating pain so I stop. I was athletic and a Gymnast when I was younger but now all I know is pain and suffering. I try to push and push because I can't just stop and the pain pushes back! A real dilemma for me. I welcome input from all
Check out ketogenicforums.com and look for the before/after threads. You'll find all sorts of people in all ages who have eaten themselves well from different diseases. Me included :) Best of luck
Siddy Sig, Thank you dear. I was on Keto diet and in Ketosis for almost 3 months until my body stopped being able to digest fats. I would be nauseated all day long after my meals. I added Ox Bile and Digestive enzymes, but alas none of these methods worked as it was very easy diet for me. I am thrilled to hear that you are healed. I pray that all suffering gets erased for all creatures
I have been that female a few times. It is an ongoing process. This too shall pass. One day at a time is how I get through the painful times. Showing up and doing the best I can with what I have. Definitely not buying things I know cause inflammation is an improvement I can make. I tend to binge on gf bread or cookies or alcohol or potatos now and then, and I am sure that is having a negative affect.
Thank you for talking about the possibility of food addiction. I have been on the keto way of eating for ten months and I tell people that I’m a recovering carb and sugar addict. I can’t have any of it ever again. People say in moderation unless they are drug addicts, smokers, or alcoholics but food addiction Really needs to be in there as well.
Thank you so much :) all the info came right on time! I’m on day 1 of water fasting. And yes, it is ALL mental! I love: I CAN DO HARD THINGS! That’s my new mantra. I also love the fact that someone finally admitted to diets are not one kind fits all. You have to test different diets and foods to see what your body likes and see how your body responds. We are all made differently. Thank you
I love that. This is completely what I wanna show people. That it all starts within yourself. It is not about the weightloss firstly. People have to stop focus on outer factors and start looking into themselves. Our body is just a mirror of what is going on in our soul. But unfortunately the fitness industry is very strong and shows an incomplete picture. I hope a lot of people watch this video. I already shared it into some groups. Hope it will spread :-)
I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m in my own different struggles and am sending my hopes to you this morning, along with a prayer for your mental clarity and ease. Hugs.
I am so grateful that there is a thing like UA-cam and Tom Bilyeu in it. So many great interviews including this one. So many information, insights and stories to learn!! Thank you so much Tom for doing this wonderful thing you do!! 👍🏼
Oh my goodness! Shout out from Central America.This so resonated with my spirit this morning. This confirmed my journey as a trainer and chef for over 30 years. Another moment where I am touched by human beings. Much appreciation. 👩🏿🌾👩🏿🍳🤸🏾♀️✨🙏🏾🙌🏾
Hi, I've been watching your videos from long ago and just want to say that the new timeline thingy and the time stamps are a really great idea ! Thank you for the videos and the motivation, keep being awesome !
Food is direct reflection into the soul..Sounds crazy,but its real..Its deep.People who practice fasting know that fasting is to empower and cleanse the body and soul; to rely on the spirit and soul(mental) for mind(soul)empowerment...I agree with him...
Self-worth is someone who is doing the hard things, and is NOT successful, but still has hope. This person still believes that it is possible. It is belief in the possibility that is important. Every time you fail, you try again. Your self-worth is the willingness to try again! These guys just don't get it completely, but I appreciate their desire to understand.
1000% on point 👍 I've always considered a weight loss diet to be 80% mental . If you don't get locked into the right frame of mind for the duration you will fail . Right now , I want to reach my goal so badly , I don't let minor stumbles get me off track .I've been losing weight since last October and have finally lost my 30th pound . Your journey isn't a race .You will get to the finish line eventually . I will probably lose my final 30th before the end of summer
I'm so glad that you both acknowledged a few times that food addiction is a real thing. Took me a long time to REALLY acknowledge that I was addicted to food. There is so much power in just acknowledging a problem, because then you can actually work toward a solution - and that solution is different for everybody and every body. This was a GREAT episode! Normally I'm leery of weightloss "gurus", but honestly, I love how you approach it all, Drew - down to how you explain veggies vs. junk food to your girls! Glad I came across this episode!
Thank you for this! As someone who is at 265lbs and been overweight all my adult life. I’m glad finally someone shared and acknowledged mental and emotional side of weight loss nice to hear this! 2022 my goal is to lose 60lbs I need to do this for me.
Wow this hit the spot and the water works where on. Thank you for touching on the mental and emotional part, the am I worthy part and all the rawness. I am happy that I came across this interview at this time in my life. I needed to hear this, thank you Tom for this awesome interview and thank you Drew for all that you talked about. Someone understands!
BOOM! THEY have to believe it!!! I had such a HARD time with this once I realized that I AM WORTH IT! Trying to convince others is NOT gonna happen! I just have to be myself! THAT is how I will change the world! I can't sell anything to anybody they are not already buying on some level!
I completely agree with what he says about shame being debilitating. I think that mistakes even to the level of an extra-marital affair can be overcome and shouldn't define a person. I may have misunderstood the point he was making, but I don't think that having an affair was ever necessarily "supposed to" happen. I think that the mistakes we make, even the mistakes we make that severely hurt other people can help us learn extremely valuable lessons. We can choose to let those mistakes transform us, make us less judgemental, and have greater empathy. However, to insinuate that it was fate, or destiny, seems to somewhat deny responsibility for significant hurt and trauma that the mistake caused another human being. Yes, you are still amazing and of great worth no matter what mistakes one has made. But part of overcoming those issues and rising above them is to willingly extend empathy to the one you hurt by understanding how deeply you hurt them and changed their lives. That doesn't mean you should beat up on yourself and feel shame, again, I completely agree that we should all own our past, see our worth through it, and love ourselves through it, I just think it's a dangerous concept to kind of say that you had an affair because that's what was supposed to happen. It wasn't that it was supposed to happen, it's something that DID happen, and you had the choice to utilize it to grow and learn, and love ourselves and others more effectively. Perhaps that is what was meant, but it kind of came across like a "fate" sort of concept, which and can be really hurtful to those who have suffered in any way at the hands of another. A betrayed spouse can suffer from traumatic episodes like those who struggle with PTSD. Many times, the trauma and shame they experienced can stay with them throughout their lives and negatively impact current or future relationships. They are responsible for getting the help necessary to rise above that, but in many cases they either don't get the help they needed because they don't even know where to begin, or they don't get *enough* help. As mentioned above, their lives are forever changed, and most of the time, in a negative way. They too, can utilize a bad situation to learn, grow, and help others, but it doesn't change the fact that it is a rough road there, a road that came at the result of somebody else's choices. To celebrate that choice almost seems disrespectful to the very real hurt and grief they experience, especially if you were the one to create that. Owning and loving yourself doesn't mean our hurtful actions should become good. It means accepting we are flawed individuals who make mistakes as we learn in life and to not live under labels and stereotypes assigned by ourselves and society. It means not limiting who we are because of the choices we've made. It means recognizing our progress and continuing that process.
Love drew mannings approach to life and fitness is so refreshing. He is one of the coolest most down-to- earth interviewee youve had Tom. Luv your show! Tq for your work
OMG!!!!! He's so correct. Transformation not only involve the physical but it's definitely more emotional and mental. This is why I became a health coach because it focuses on all 3. Being a nurse for 20 years, I would see people at their worst and it was amazing to me that they would chose to continue with their health issues with the same toxic behaviors instead of making the change. It was definitely emotional and mental for them. My goal through my own experience with my health scare of high blood pressure (thank you genetic:) and all the changes I did to stay health, I felt I could help others through my own UA-cam videos and health coaching services. Thank you. This video confirms that I'm on the right track.
I have always been normal weight and have always thought that overweight people are not determined enough to lose their extra weight until my own daughter started struggling with this issue. She has done everything in her power to lose weight, but nothing seems to work. She is always dieting and always depressed because of not being able to lose weight. Now I can understand so well all the people who are overweight and can't lose weight no matter what. That's really difficult. It is sometimes not possible to go against your genetics.
OMG meaning sincerely Drew you are my sign this morning. 65 pounds what I have to loose. On with Tom who I trust. I listen my spirit so downcast lifted. I am not giving up. I am Mormon too, a grounding thing. Your thoughts are so similar and I am going to embrace your teachings. I purchased fat2fir2fat as a Kindle, and the keto,as an audible.Thank you and thank Tom for your good energies.
I needed a way to reward myself, so I do keto with a lollipop. I have it with breakfast, to tell myself THANK YOU for wanting better for myself. I do planks daily, as I work outdoors and am too exhausted for cardio in summer. I have lost almost 30 pounds in 4 months and look much better!
Thank you so much for sharing this aspect of health and working out!!!Sometimes skinny people or fit peole can be judged for having too much or not enough muscle etc. I'm fit and people thought I was crazy for trying fasting for health. And more than ever I realized food and emotions are super strong. Also learned that any visual transformation also takes adjusting for yourself and others no matter where ur starting point and no matter how good u feel . Also went through an amazing emotional change when I was Injured for three months. It actually took me 2 weeks to start lifting weights again after my pt's approval because I didnt believe I was fully healed. And then I felt tripped up when I was ready to go for it was so weak even basic things were challenging. Looking back I am so happy to go through the emotional growth through my pivotal body experiences.
i tried strict keto for 8 months with no cheating and did not like it and saw no real improvements. My body seems to do best on a balanced diet. And i love jiucy raw fresh fruits so much.
Oh, man! It is sobering to learn that what we are feeding our minds has to be consistent, otherwise the old thought patterns can come in again and take over! Such a needed reminder for me! Thank you Mr. Manning!
I watched this video to get the most out of weight loss. But I learned more than weight loss. It explained to me my whole life! Thank you so much, now I understand how my life went through, maybe not everything about it but the totality of what has been and what life is all about.
I remember a time when I didn't believe I could lose weight. I would start a diet and quit soon after. I just didn't believe in my self. Eventually I got tired of failing and I push through. I loss 70 pounds in 10 months. The crazy thing was I had all the tools and knowledge I needed the whole time to lose the weight. I just needed to believe in my self.
What tools?
amen!
@@nancydotimas1399 Will power. Something people clearly lack these days as tech won't do everything for you. You have to get off your ass even if you don't want too. You will feel better after trust me. I lost 185lbs and it sucked but this guy is right...it was all mental. Going from 385 to 208 and under 10% body fat in 9 months is not typical as I intermittent fasted (one meal a day) and went to the gym every single day rain or shine, tired or sore I still went. Just shut up and do it as nobody will do it for you. Make it your personal journey of growth to be your best self. It is with it to be happy and healthy as you only live once. During Covid especially.
Congratulations and wishing you all the best. That is an amazing achievement.
@@nancydotimas1399 For me, Nancy, the tools are my ability to learn a better way to total health -- mentally, spiritually and physically. The information is out there free for simply searching for it.
I am 190 I always been 145 my whole life at one point lower than that I've gained over 50 lbs in the last 4 years and now that I am engaged I am wanting more to be healthy again. ua-cam.com/users/postUgkx5VQ5nUzHu6i0O5_u7ipyLnCz0lbsSvr0 I am not fat but I am thick and have muscle. I am very close to how you were but a lil smaller but I am so sick people making comments to me like I'm huge or like you said having shorts that used to be so cute on me and now I can't even find a pair to fit me. I used to love shopping now I don't even want to go to the store and if I do I pick the biggest size don't even try it on and deal with it. I went from size 5 to size idk because I don't even want to know the real number. I hate looking at pics of myself now or me before. thank you for your video it's time to make a change.
I grew up very poor and very overweight. I lost 60 lbs when I was a teenager to join the military. The military was my only choice to be able to have a chance at life. I was 15/16 and was working as many hours as I legally could... paid for a gym membership and was buying my own groceries. I learned at a very young age that I was meant for bigger things. When you believe in yourself, you can achieve anything. I'm proof of that.
So good 👏👏👏 🙋♀️🌹🇦🇺
You are a True mentor for otters 🥰 and thank you for your commitment to yourself and USA
@@nn-uj1iv don't think of your self that way
It’s also your environment. I got my own job at 16 while living with my mother and instead of getting to save my money She took a lot of it. When I told her I don’t want to give my money to her that I’m working for to save it all she kicked me out. No home to go, no friend to stay with because they all live with their parents and no car to even get myself to and from work. I was homeless for most of my twenties. Never had a stable home until I was 28. I honestly feel because of that I have always been overweight. I honestly think if I didn’t have a jealous bully as a mother when it came to doing my own thing and helping myself. Id have a house, I’d have my slim body by now and I probably would have wanted kids.
@@KurosakiLuvar01 very sad, so sorry you went through that, it's on you now though. The past is in the past, get counseling, creat the life you want because it's your responsibility ☺️ good luck
*Changed my life. I will never eat the same ever again. "Unless you physically trip and your face lands in a box **weightlose.fitness** of donuts, there is no such thing as a 'slip'." Get that mind set and you'll win again and again.*
My sister and I come from a morbidly obese family. A while ago we decided to support one another on a journey to get fit. It took 2 years, but both of us have lost almost 70 lbs each. The problem now is how the family treats us...like we did something wrong by getting healthy. Being in our mid 40’s, we don’t really care but I can see how an unsupportive family unit would be very hard for younger people to deal with.
Congrats!
Congratulations, I know what you are talking about, I have been through such a situation and honestly am, believe it or not when you start growing your family and friends unconsciously maybe! Try to stop you,seeing you makes them uncomfortable and reminds them of the problems they do not want to confront!! So be aware of them not dragging you down find healthy fit friends and groups and guarantee your future healthy lifestyle and not going back to the problem,every new level needs a new group surrounding us, that’s hard to accept esp. when it comes to family and if we are the last child even more, because elder ones most of the times are jealous of youngers. Face it, remember it and keep your self happy and healthy. We are not supposed to carry other’s issues.good luck
Good for you! Keep up the good work! ❤❤❤
It's called jealousy lol! U do u! Good for both of u. 😊
Yep, my family is "overweight" and when I got to a size 8, I thought huh, maybe if I get to a size 6 I'll have a little leeway to give myself some flexibility. And, my family was like, "don't lose too much more weight! Don't you think you've gone far enough? Be careful!" And I was just shaking my head.
This guy literally got fat and went through the journey to lose weight. That’s dedication to his business. Now he knows what we go through. He’ll be the perfect personal trainer
No. His mentally is totally different from pple who are fat in reality... not fat for an experiment...
@@mariyamniyaz it is not exactly the same, but it is a different kind of emotional pain. Imagine having your perfect body then throwing it away for an experiment? He had to look at himself with that body and was probably teased about it by his peers even if they were "just joking." It hurts no matter what. I have felt similar to this after I had my second baby I gained weight and my body changed physically to where I can no longer lose the weight to look like after my first and it just feels like it's not my body anymore.
Zairah Maldonado still not the same. Lol
@@zairahmaldonado same. I had my first last year. Ive gone from normal to overweight. My body is a mess.
@@zairahmaldonado That's the reason you shouldn't have kid's lmao
I am so inspired to see these two men have such a deep, honest conversation about self-worth, emotions tied to weight loss and getting healthy, and the importance of learning to be vulnerable and loving yourself.
Yes|! This is way more attractive than a dick pic (just FYI guys out there 😉)
agreed
I appreciate how respectful you are of your guests, active listening, giving space to talk.
Everything you ask/comment is relative and clarified or drives the convo deeper. A+
“You might be poor, your shoes might be broken, but your mind is a palace.”
― Frank McCourt
Siim Land beautiful reality. Thank you 🧡
I love this
Fantastic quote to add here, by a great author! Siim, U rock
Mind over matter
A palace full of intrigue, spies, traitors, greed and depravity...
He is so right! I've been skinny and overweight. But I never understood overweight people before becoming one. I used to think they were undisciplined. It's not like that. There is a stress eating factor, hormones change etc. I have a lot more sympathy now than I had before. Don't regret gaining weight. It was good for me. Great experience.
Same thing happened to me. Didn't understand why it was so hard to be fit. After my stressful trauma, I found out. Sadly I had to learn the hard way.
Emotional eating
Same thing happened to me. I was once a fit and athletic person. In a matter for 2 years my depression made it hard for me to keep thinking of food just as an energy source. It became an emotion. Now I'm overweight and finding extremely hard mentally and emotionally
@@Heartbreaker1999-o5s I'm the same, my depression the last 2 years meant I put on 4 stone from just emotional eating constantly, finding the motivation to change and stick to it even when your sad is so hard for me right now
@@cdelta801 hope things get better for u soon . There's always hope. It's just a matter of finding it and holding on.
I gained 35kg in 2 yrs ) so I get how it feels. Nothing is permant xx and we can always get back to fitness . It's just bout breaking the negative mentality
Just the question, “Why don’t you believe in yourself?”, just made me burst into tears.
When I was a kid my uncle used to tell me I was getting fat and that I was gaining weight and I believed him and decided, why not be fat? I didn’t realize what I was doing to myself, I was a child and at that time my parents were going through a divorce and I loved food so I decided that was where I was going to get my “love” then when I got to 2nd grade the bullying started and everything else was downhill after that
I haven’t believed in myself since I was 6 years old and I’m 22 now
I wish I’d known then that the weight gain he saw was me growing as a little girl, getting boobs and filling out and my mom was no help and neither was my dad since he wasn’t there
There is so much for why I don’t believe in myself
@@trippleme1298 I have had the similar thing. Once I started fasting and began to get results, I got serious. I still struggle to find a good feeling about myself. The only thing that works for me is being accountable thrugh the scale and measurements and lots of prayer and affirmations. And I am 3x your age.
@@trippleme1298 My old roommate told me to tap my heart 3 times and say.. I then tap 3 times and say Love and 3 more taps and say Me. It did and felt good, just fine. I told a friend to do the same thing and after she repeated it 3 times her eyes filled with tears. We are taught that self love is conceit or selfishness. It's not. It's beautiful to love yourself. I wish you tons of self love and great health.
@@trippleme1298 my god!! You were growing breasts and filling out at 6?
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Self love for me is a constant struggle. My mother severely abused me as a child till she took her life when i was 6 years old of which I witnessed. The woman who was meant to be my queen was my darkness and now the natural and vital quality of self love is elusive to me. I struggle with my demons telling me Im unworthy every minute of everyday. But I fight the hard fight, I believe my soul is worth fighting for and that as far as we know we only have one shot at this thing called life. This man's words made me cry cause I know I fight for the freedom of my soul on a daily basis and most days I tend to win, but some days I drown in darkness - but I know ONE thing for sure......CHANGE is constant, change is inevitable and change is beautiful when its for the better our souls. It feel like a slow change - but I can feel it, its happening (not fast enough) but I am going to get there
Zinagrillo 1 You are in my prayers 💕💖 God has more for you and you are not your childhood nor your past. I definitely understand. God has brought me a Mighty loong way!! Sooo grateful. JOY IS Your Portion. I encourage you to look up Invicta ministries on UA-cam. Ive been learning so much from his ministry and the spiritual thats going on behind what ppl are going through. How healing and standing on God's Word is soo important. Breaking off those generational henderenses. No demon no darkness will stop Gods Destiny for your Life and to Truly Live!! Love you Sister Stay Encouraged!!
You are Sooo Worthy..Jesus would have come and died just for YOU. 💖 Do not believe the enemy ..your worth more than anything on this earth.
Self love is hard to achieve if you don't have it... as life is tough and not fair and every step of the way you life is bombarding you... And people are not making it easy.
Zinagrillo, I am so sorry that you had to suffer like that. You are worth so much more than you know! Love yourself and never listen to the king of darkness. he only wants your suffering, as he is suffering. misery loves company so don't join him. I don't know you, but I love you! You are amazing! You are a beautiful shining star! You will get there!!
zinagrillo1 you don’t have to keep carrying your mothers darkness it’s not your fault that she made a choice in her life to take her life. Just because she couldn’t love you doesn’t mean your not worthy of love.
You Are worthy of love and it starts with you loving yourself.
Shake of those demons and spread those wings.
Just like with positive affirmations Sometimes it’s starts with looking yourself in the mirror and saying I Love You until it sticks. See that little hurt 6 year old girl inside of you and tell her you love her. Be her saviour and your own queen, Help her out of the pain and darkness.
"How do you convince someone they're worthy? ... I still don't know "
Great to hear this level of honesty from someone in his position. Ultimately, the teacher can only show you the door; you've got to walk through it yourself.
Finally.. someone who will acknowledge the mental and emotional side of weightloss for overweight people... very inspiring.. ♡♡♡
Unfortunate he doesn't note the chemical aspect of being overweight for most of your life, the homostatic aspect of your body wanting to maintain your weight regardless of hardships. Gaining weight is easy for most but losing it is physically and mentally complex. I was amazed because you only hear emotions and lack of discipline or activity as causes but it's way more complex.
Yes, it is such a key element! So glad he has a platform to talk about this and start a conversation around it.
Yeah well he probably had to fight hard to gain and maintain his increase...so its not the same as someone who truly gains and stays overweight. But I appreciate his attempt to understand.
Telling someone to eat less and move more to lose weight is exactly the same as telling someone to spend less and make more money to become rich. Technically it is true but in reality it isn’t that easy.
This particular t.co/iqHBclbolv diet program was such an simple way for me to reduce 10 pounds in the short a couple weeks I`ve been following it. It is best to visit the site to find out more!?
"I cheat on my diet 3 times a year". Me too, just every time is 4 months long :]
I almost dropped my damn phone. He said 3 times a year. Let's play uno.. (Reverse card) . I eat clean 3 times a year🤣🤣
V. S 😭😭😭😭
V. S lmao nice
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So true 🤦🏻♀️
"Vulnerability is weakness" has been a pervasive societal undertone for so long. Thank you for promoting this empowering paradigm shift to "Vulnerability as Strength" ♥️💪♥️💪♥️
When they talked about that person at the restaurant eating alone having no fun.. thats me... and i just realized that was me. And i just bursted in tears. My eyes have been opened so much
I eat alone and I’m happy. I’d rather eat by myself and enjoy my own company than sit with someone who’s crazy or foolish.
I agree about the self talk. I beat PTSD but still had a battle with anxiety from time to time. So, when I started to feel the fear and anxiety coming up, I would start to repeat the scripture that says, “For He has not given me a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, love and a sound mind” out loud, over and over again until I felt better. It worked! I no longer have panic attacks or anxiety moments.
Love that!
Amen!
In my own personal experience, it truly is all a mental game. The beginning of the year, I made a commitment to weigh 120 lbs (at that time I was 150 lbs) I’m 5”2 lol so I’m short and according to my BMI I was over weight and i actually felt fat every time I looked at myself in the mirror. So what shifted my mindset? My mother went to the hospital due to her eating habits, and I went full force into eating healthier and making sure I don’t ever end up in the hospital due to something I can control. I’m now currently 116-120 lbs and maintaining 👌🏽. Hitting the gym ended up being my keystone habit and I applied that same mindset in everything I do. MINDSET IS KEY. IMO.
Ray Carpio all the best 🥑
Soo encouraging thank you… I am 147-149 and 4’11 and I definitely look big. This week I am starting my change of diet for the long run… my body is aching to the changes but I’m going to push through to get go 120-125ish
I'm 180lbs and 5'3. Wish me luck lmao. I just wanna be 145 at least
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@@PARISTheSpanishSinger I am in your exact same shoes. Same weight as you and goal to start is 135, then 120. Here is to US ❤️💪🏼. We got this !
This is EXACTLY right. I myself have battled weight-gain and weight-loss my entire life, and my findings have shown me that the emotional/mental/spiritual component is what is truly lacking in every single weight-loss program on the go. I recall as a teenager, feeling very much alone in my struggle with an eating disorder. I began reading amazing books that helped me love myself deeply, and it helped tremendously. I knew I was on to something much bigger than my "symptom" (overweight) ... I was learning the underlying self-worth issue that had been my story since a very young age (four!). I began to understand my pain, shame, and deep-seated fear that I was never going to be enough. Overeating was a fear reaction to the panic I felt inside. As an Empowerment Coach, my aim is to help as many people as I can with self-worth issues, as this is the leading cause of possibly all addictions. Thanks so much for sharing this with us.
Would love to know what those amazing books were.
I was a binge eater since i was a child. Always hiding and kept it a secret. I learnt to calm my emotions with food so i would hide and eat muffins or any other sweet because my heart was so bitter. That alone made me gain weight so rapidly that i would beat myself up and make me feel even less worthy so it was a horrible cycle. I didnt share it with anybody until i actually realised i had a problem and that was in my mid thirties! So many ppl now tell me how to lose weight or that one muffin wont kill me or that i should eat everything in moderation...they dont know they are talking to an addict. And lets call it the way it is, sugar it is ADDICTIVE. I have done keto for several years and that was the only lifestyle that freed myself from cravings and my relationship with hunger and food changed. Im not always thinking of food like before. Now im into carnivore and eating and enjoying organ meats. This lifestyle as well as weightlifting has been my recipe for success, but when Xmas comes and the minute i put on my moms delicious food into my mouth...the cravings come back like crazy so i agree with Tom, havings treats some times along the year is OK as long as you dont have a history like mine with food addiction or an addicted personality. I loved to hear this guest perspective and he is so right about experimenting to find out what works for you. Thanks Tom! Big hugs from Shanghai ❤️
What do you if u have kids and the temptations are in your house?
@@britreid5893 get them to eat healthy as well. Learn how to make delicious meals you all can eat. Not every snack has to be cheese puffs and toaster strudels. Give them fruits, yogurt, cheese sticks and veggies straws.
EVERYTHING is a mirror of how you view yourself! EXACTLY right!
This guy knows his shit! Pure Facts!! Love that he's HUMBLE n GENUINE.
One of the things I think gets overlooked with food addiction is the chemical reactions happening in the body causing the cravings...which is where the addiction resides.
An overgrowth of yeast is an example of this.
When there is an overgrowth of yeast in the body, it feeds on sugars....
The sugars help support the yeast and the problem continues to grow.
It’s not a question of willpower at that point, it’s a question of whether one can bring themselves to push through the body screaming at them to eat more sugars. It’s incredibly difficult, and requires serious commitment to one’s diet.
It will make you crazy...it will wreak havoc on your thinking, and decision making, and cause severe mood swings.
If you’re gluten sensitive or intolerant you will have even more problems.
I’m glad Mr. Manning did this experiment....for the simple reason that hopefully it will cause more Trainers to really consider what their clients are truly going through.
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thanks for reminding me that I need to practice kindly mastery over this body. For many months now, I have used digestive enzymes to help me with sensitivities and allergies.
Food addiction and sugar cravings are no joke. I was going to give myself a free day on Halloween to enjoy the treats going around work. I went crazy with sugar for 2 days, not only 1. I felt sick, didn’t really enjoy the taste, but I couldn’t stop. I did much better today.
Yes. There is a relationship to our gut biome and what foods we crave. This also affects our emotional state of mind.
It also causes endorphins and serotonin to release in your brain and goes through the body just like any other addition
I started crying over and over again after I decided to lose this depression sitting on my muscles. I feel like it's because I have this fear that I'll lose myself. My personality, honor, morals and faith seem like they're vulnerable with this change, but I trust God will keep me in tackt. This is the first time I've committed to taking good care of myself and I think that's a part of it to, I know it's going to happen and in a way, it seems like I'm pre-mourning my old self if that makes sense. On day 11 of keto and getting over the keto flu, but going at it day after day, I just have to keep stepping in the right direction. Thanks y'all!
Hows everything going now, 4 months later?
How has your journey been going 3 years out?
i have always love eating and that made me lose weight super hard, tried a lot of diets and exercises along with it, but what made it possible was agoge diet. it changed my life, and maybe yours as well
This guy has more emotions than my wife!! So nice to see that. I don;t understand why people hide their real emotions.
I understand how hard the situation is. My mother was an emotioneless person when I was a kid. (After I grew up she somehow has changed.) I started to read psychology books when I was 15 to reach her heart. And here are what I've found out: They might have been thought to hide their emotions when they are a kid, for example. Imagine a child has been beaten up when he/she cries. When he/she grows up hiding his/her emotions will be the only way to feel safe. On the other hand if you are not loved in your family when you are a child and ignored consistantly then the only message your subconscious brain gets is "There is no such thing as love. You are on your own and you can not trust anybody". And if you are humiliated many times when you are child just because you cry or you speak about your emotions, the consequence is the same: Hating and hiding your emotions is the best way to be safe. When a person's soul is broken it is easy to become numb because in fact there are too many emotions down there to handle. I just tied to explain. I hope she gets the support she needs to face with her emotions from universe.
I think our ability to accomplish any goal is always in our head. If we can believe we can do it then we can. If we don't believe we can, then it can't be done.
"Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right!"
Henry Ford
True
I love it I just told my friend stop making excuses. When we make excuses we will never change.
The military will teach you this real quick.
DUDE IS INCREDIBLY HANDSOME. Great advice as well.
I liked his voice, it's so clear and consistent i understood everything he said.
As a foreigner not being English my primary language sometimes is very hard to listen to motivation speakers that speak that clear.
amen!!!!!! ive battled my own mental health for a few years and i just started consistently working out and eating healthy, this is my TIME. it is def a mental thing. god bless everyone fighting for their great health and a great life!!!! IT WILL BE WORTH IT!
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I loved this. I hope he finds greater self-awareness and self-love as his voice sounds very constricted... I feel some shame and guilt still left over. God bless him.
It's 2:51 AM and just finished watching this. Mind blown. Thank you Tom for this introduction and thank you for what you do. Thank you Drew. I can relate on so many levels, you're speaking to my soul. I'm moving over to your podcasts right now.
The simple speaking of your truth and the willingness to be vulnerable and real... WOW! When women talk about wanting a strong man, this is what we are talking about!!!
This guy articulated how my mind works with fitness. Mental toughness and willing to do hard shit, makes every thing else in life seem easier to deal with
This is life changing ❤️ food is definitely such an emotional experience for me, being recognized as this being normal instead of 'weak' actually gives me my strength back. My strength to be in control of how I feel and being able to deal with and sympathize with myself on my journey instead of bullying myself into health.
The question at 2:31 says this guy is for real. It is different for everyone. No cookie cutter when we hurt beyond what we can repair in our limited knowledge we move to what we think can help. That is what we come across in our journey. I lost weight and gained it back trying to figure out how to not repeat. He figured out the first part. I now realize there is more.
“I can do hard things” is the exact thing I need to hear
guilt and shame are devastating for the heart and health, today we can open up and realize we all carreid this inside
Watching this while just completed a 10 days water-only fast. I feel the best I've ever been.
I want to try a water fast....not sure how to prepare for it to get through the shaky blood sugar crashes...any advice for preparing or getting through it?
Gabrielle Angel Lilly 12hour then 24 hour. + + +
It’s a skill just like any other. Like swimming, barefoot running, yoga, gardening...
Good luck!! :-D
Thanks! ...12 hr then 24 hour of what? :) I have done 3 day fasts before, and I go 12 hrs without food regularly, it's the 18-36th hrs I find difficult...just could use advice on minimizing the weakness/shakiness that tends to happen the first day.
Hey @Felismarie Curagi, Thank you for the extra nudge! I had been wishing and washin, and finally yesterday did 24 hrs liquid only fast (water, tea, coffee w a little EV coconut oil) and I am kinda blown away how good I feel after just one day! I have a lunch date today, so will most likely start again later this week and go for 3 days.
@@TheZGALa that's awesome,try water only,you won't believe how clear yiur mind will be,your body so happy,I did 5 days 3 weeks ago.im doing it again from the 18th of nov.
I truly resonate with this. I was only able to physically transform when I got emotionally and mentally ready. I now no longer weigh myself. I love that I have set myself free from those scales. I am vegan now as for me, meat makes my eczema flare up. But I am so happy with my lifestyle. Thank you for sharing your truth. I love this.
This is exactly what I've been preaching my whole life to my overweight family, and why I made my company. This brings tears to my eyes because of how true and real this is. Dare I say I'm proud of myself. #mindhygienics
That statement “feeling worthy of love” so many of us struggle with that, I think so much of that is tied to childhood and our parents, who are not perfect at parenting and so many children/adults struggle trying to overcome the effects of bad parenting or not getting the love they needed growing up for the rest of their lives.
Loving the new timeline at the bottom tom! Great idea. I often go back and watch ur videos and that will be helpful when I want to watch a certain segment! I see u tom! 💁 Makin it even easier for us to digest your content👍😍....but yes mental strenght is very important for working out. I'm a very petit women and even I have a very hard time working out because I don't want to do it even though I know its important. I have found that when I mentally push myself by doing just "one more set" like ur previous guest ed mylett said it helps buils up that needed mental strength!
Black Girl Entrepreneur. I wish all podcasts did this!
I agree!
Agree!
Same here! This should be adopted by all. Great content.
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What’s discusting to me is food eating contests-glorifying overeating.
Disgusting
We need more men like you two....Great, meaningful conversation!
The key is giving yourself positive feedback when you do the hard thing, instead of always striving for more/perfection. Negative self talk is such a struggle that influences everything in your life.
And also being really midful of the positive choices you make through out the day, congratulate yourself for even the smallest achievements and recognising what you were feeling in the moments leading up to and during the positive choices.
This phrase gets me through "feel the pain, push past it"
I truly love this ...I needed this...it starts with the heart and mind...and being kind and believing in YOU I truly love this im crying while writing this...thank you!!!!...I have been as heavy as 230 to 130 lbs....I look back at how MENTALLY HEALTHY I WAS WHEN I WAS LEAN....and the difference shows...
He was like this for a short amount of time so imagine being overweight/obese for years, even decades of their life. It's our drug. It's our comfort. It fills a void. And even he said how hard it is despite consciously being overweight for 6 months.
The emotional and mental part is definitely the key to losing weight. I always saw myself as a fatty as did everyone else. I was always the big girl but it's until I began changing my self perception and facing my demons, that's when I started changing.
So glad he took the time to experience this for himself .The emotional connection is real.There is boredom, habit, feelings and even for some time we've celebrated with food.
I personally will NEVER patronize a trainer thats not ever been overweight... theyll never understand the true struggle.
I don’t think they ever will either. Unless they were straight up fat their whole life and then because my a PT after weightloss. I’ve heard of those stories.
Quiet ignorant
@@crrimz yes, be quiet... ignorant
lol 😆
"Your worth it to keep fighting " and
focus on the progress! Love this!
Very well spoken Tom. I'm on my weight loss journey and can attest that the battlefield is in your mind. I know to eat healthy and working out but it's adjusting to a different mindset. SO true.
It´s absurd like 5 min of video are life changing already.
Love that!
Amen sister!
I applaud you for your attempt to empathize with your clients. Let's not forget that for so many of us it isn't just mental attitude but also all the bs we may be dealing with at home, in life, our environment, our mental capacities, childhood trauma, etc, etc, etc. Awesome conversation none the less. 👏🏼
I'm struggling to lose 50 pounds, and just wanna give up. This made me work harder
Keep going and train your mind to have healthy habits 🙏🙏
Did u lose tho
Almost 2 years late on this but WOW! AMAZING! The Health & Fitness industry needs way more of this type of conversation. Brilliant.
"SUCCESS without FULFILLMENT is the ultimate failure!" Those words triggered something inside of me. Whatever it was, it's now leaking out of my tear ducts.😪
The biggest impact of this video was acknowledging that believing you are a failure, will lead you to take actions that you are a failure. I've heard what you believe is what you are, but I am currently seeing where the theme of failure is hidden in my belief system and my actions. Wow. For him to openly speak on his experience with an affair is inspiring. Even "good" people can have lapses in judgment. It's when people don't learn from their mistakes is what is damaging on a higher level.
I want to see an older female who was fat and diseased and transformed it all. I was recently diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis after years of being misdiagnosed. I spent those years in pain and being told I need to work out more but every time I did, I go into severe exhaustion and debilitating pain so I stop. I was athletic and a Gymnast when I was younger but now all I know is pain and suffering. I try to push and push because I can't just stop and the pain pushes back! A real dilemma for me. I welcome input from all
AngelOne11 hi.. have you tried fasting
Thank you Mr. Cee. I haven't. Excellent idea
Check out ketogenicforums.com and look for the before/after threads. You'll find all sorts of people in all ages who have eaten themselves well from different diseases. Me included :) Best of luck
Siddy Sig, Thank you dear. I was on Keto diet and in Ketosis for almost 3 months until my body stopped being able to digest fats. I would be nauseated all day long after my meals. I added Ox Bile and Digestive enzymes, but alas none of these methods worked as it was very easy diet for me.
I am thrilled to hear that you are healed. I pray that all suffering gets erased for all creatures
I have been that female a few times. It is an ongoing process. This too shall pass. One day at a time is how I get through the painful times. Showing up and doing the best I can with what I have. Definitely not buying things I know cause inflammation is an improvement I can make. I tend to binge on gf bread or cookies or alcohol or potatos now and then, and I am sure that is having a negative affect.
Thank you for talking about the possibility of food addiction. I have been on the keto way of eating for ten months and I tell people that I’m a recovering carb and sugar addict. I can’t have any of it ever again. People say in moderation unless they are drug addicts, smokers, or alcoholics but food addiction Really needs to be in there as well.
I could not agree more... ITS ALL MINDSET.
I wish more people would be able to understand the mental and emotional aspects that we go through. This is awesome
*"Success without fulfilment is the ultimate
failure" (Tony Robbins)
Thank you so much :) all the info came right on time! I’m on day 1 of water fasting. And yes, it is ALL mental! I love: I CAN DO HARD THINGS! That’s my new mantra. I also love the fact that someone finally admitted to diets are not one kind fits all. You have to test different diets and foods to see what your body likes and see how your body responds. We are all made differently. Thank you
Intuitively Ascending howd it work??
I love that. This is completely what I wanna show people. That it all starts within yourself. It is not about the weightloss firstly. People have to stop focus on outer factors and start looking into themselves. Our body is just a mirror of what is going on in our soul. But unfortunately the fitness industry is very strong and shows an incomplete picture. I hope a lot of people watch this video. I already shared it into some groups. Hope it will spread :-)
The mental portion is so difficult for me, especially coming from an eating disorder and in recovery, gaining more weight than I’d lost in disease.
I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m in my own different struggles and am sending my hopes to you this morning, along with a prayer for your mental clarity and ease. Hugs.
I am so grateful that there is a thing like UA-cam and Tom Bilyeu in it. So many great interviews including this one. So many information, insights and stories to learn!! Thank you so much Tom for doing this wonderful thing you do!! 👍🏼
Oh my goodness! Shout out from Central America.This so resonated with my spirit this morning. This confirmed my journey as a trainer and chef for over 30 years. Another moment where I am touched by human beings. Much appreciation. 👩🏿🌾👩🏿🍳🤸🏾♀️✨🙏🏾🙌🏾
Hi, I've been watching your videos from long ago and just want to say that the new timeline thingy and the time stamps are a really great idea !
Thank you for the videos and the motivation, keep being awesome !
I am somewhat new to the channel. You are the best interviewer in that you are efficient and ask critical questions then let your guests flow.
This was absolutely BRILLIANT! Thanks for doing this Tom!
Food is direct reflection into the soul..Sounds crazy,but its real..Its deep.People who practice fasting know that fasting is to empower and cleanse the body and soul; to rely on the spirit and soul(mental) for mind(soul)empowerment...I agree with him...
Yes! So true!
I have been fasting on and off for about a decade now. This year I'm fasting monday-thursday every week and eat fri-sun.
Self-worth is someone who is doing the hard things, and is NOT successful, but still has hope. This person still believes that it is possible. It is belief in the possibility that is important. Every time you fail, you try again. Your self-worth is the willingness to try again! These guys just don't get it completely, but I appreciate their desire to understand.
1000% on point 👍
I've always considered a weight loss diet to be 80% mental .
If you don't get locked into the right frame of mind for the duration you will fail .
Right now , I want to reach my goal so badly , I don't let minor stumbles get me off track .I've been losing weight since last October and have finally lost my 30th pound .
Your journey isn't a race .You will get to the finish line eventually .
I will probably lose my final 30th before the end of summer
I liked how you safe "safe space within yourself" that made me take notice and watch more of your videos
I'm so glad that you both acknowledged a few times that food addiction is a real thing. Took me a long time to REALLY acknowledge that I was addicted to food. There is so much power in just acknowledging a problem, because then you can actually work toward a solution - and that solution is different for everybody and every body. This was a GREAT episode! Normally I'm leery of weightloss "gurus", but honestly, I love how you approach it all, Drew - down to how you explain veggies vs. junk food to your girls! Glad I came across this episode!
What a great video, touched on so many crucial points physical, mental, emotional, & spiritual... and their both so cute 😍 awesome video! 💕
Thank you for this! As someone who is at 265lbs and been overweight all my adult life. I’m glad finally someone shared and acknowledged mental and emotional side of weight loss nice to hear this! 2022 my goal is to lose 60lbs I need to do this for me.
Let's do this!
Wow this hit the spot and the water works where on. Thank you for touching on the mental and emotional part, the am I worthy part and all the rawness. I am happy that I came across this interview at this time in my life. I needed to hear this, thank you Tom for this awesome interview and thank you Drew for all that you talked about. Someone understands!
BOOM! THEY have to believe it!!! I had such a HARD time with this once I realized that I AM WORTH IT! Trying to convince others is NOT gonna happen! I just have to be myself! THAT is how I will change the world! I can't sell anything to anybody they are not already buying on some level!
This is real, raw and truthful. Yes I like that you address the emotional side of weightloss
I loved this interview. Its wonderful to see that the changes are from within first.
I completely agree with what he says about shame being debilitating. I think that mistakes even to the level of an extra-marital affair can be overcome and shouldn't define a person. I may have misunderstood the point he was making, but I don't think that having an affair was ever necessarily "supposed to" happen. I think that the mistakes we make, even the mistakes we make that severely hurt other people can help us learn extremely valuable lessons. We can choose to let those mistakes transform us, make us less judgemental, and have greater empathy. However, to insinuate that it was fate, or destiny, seems to somewhat deny responsibility for significant hurt and trauma that the mistake caused another human being. Yes, you are still amazing and of great worth no matter what mistakes one has made. But part of overcoming those issues and rising above them is to willingly extend empathy to the one you hurt by understanding how deeply you hurt them and changed their lives. That doesn't mean you should beat up on yourself and feel shame, again, I completely agree that we should all own our past, see our worth through it, and love ourselves through it, I just think it's a dangerous concept to kind of say that you had an affair because that's what was supposed to happen. It wasn't that it was supposed to happen, it's something that DID happen, and you had the choice to utilize it to grow and learn, and love ourselves and others more effectively. Perhaps that is what was meant, but it kind of came across like a "fate" sort of concept, which and can be really hurtful to those who have suffered in any way at the hands of another. A betrayed spouse can suffer from traumatic episodes like those who struggle with PTSD. Many times, the trauma and shame they experienced can stay with them throughout their lives and negatively impact current or future relationships. They are responsible for getting the help necessary to rise above that, but in many cases they either don't get the help they needed because they don't even know where to begin, or they don't get *enough* help. As mentioned above, their lives are forever changed, and most of the time, in a negative way. They too, can utilize a bad situation to learn, grow, and help others, but it doesn't change the fact that it is a rough road there, a road that came at the result of somebody else's choices. To celebrate that choice almost seems disrespectful to the very real hurt and grief they experience, especially if you were the one to create that. Owning and loving yourself doesn't mean our hurtful actions should become good. It means accepting we are flawed individuals who make mistakes as we learn in life and to not live under labels and stereotypes assigned by ourselves and society. It means not limiting who we are because of the choices we've made. It means recognizing our progress and continuing that process.
"Just Eat Real Food"
You rock, Drew Manning!
Love drew mannings approach to life and fitness is so refreshing. He is one of the coolest most down-to- earth interviewee youve had Tom. Luv your show! Tq for your work
OMG!!!!! He's so correct. Transformation not only involve the physical but it's definitely more emotional and mental. This is why I became a health coach because it focuses on all 3. Being a nurse for 20 years, I would see people at their worst and it was amazing to me that they would chose to continue with their health issues with the same toxic behaviors instead of making the change. It was definitely emotional and mental for them. My goal through my own experience with my health scare of high blood pressure (thank you genetic:) and all the changes I did to stay health, I felt I could help others through my own UA-cam videos and health coaching services. Thank you. This video confirms that I'm on the right track.
Your training by the drug companies doesn't really prepare you for health knowledge...
Powerful! “Everything happens for your greater good.” Love it! I need to remember this during hard times
Food companies had research done to find the bliss point for sugar in order to get people hooked and addicted to their soda and food.
I have always been normal weight and have always thought that overweight people are not determined enough to lose their extra weight until my own daughter started struggling with this issue. She has done everything in her power to lose weight, but nothing seems to work. She is always dieting and always depressed because of not being able to lose weight. Now I can understand so well all the people who are overweight and can't lose weight no matter what. That's really difficult. It is sometimes not possible to go against your genetics.
I relate to everything he said! Wow. It’s true. Lost 30 lbs and maintained. His advice is spot on.
Amazing act of empathy Drew! Love this!!!
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Drew Manning made me lose 30 kgs. Introduced me to Keto. Thank you ! I am on Keto 2.0 now since I gained some weight back but I know “how” now.
OMG meaning sincerely Drew you are my sign this morning. 65 pounds what I have to loose. On with Tom who I trust. I listen my spirit so downcast lifted. I am not giving up. I am Mormon too, a grounding thing. Your thoughts are so similar and I am going to embrace your teachings. I purchased fat2fir2fat as a Kindle, and the keto,as an audible.Thank you and thank Tom for your good energies.
I needed a way to reward myself, so I do keto with a lollipop. I have it with breakfast, to tell myself THANK YOU for wanting better for myself. I do planks daily, as I work outdoors and am too exhausted for cardio in summer. I have lost almost 30 pounds in 4 months and look much better!
Isn't it sad that something unhealthy is what you consider a treat?
Thank you so much for sharing this aspect of health and working out!!!Sometimes skinny people or fit peole can be judged for having too much or not enough muscle etc. I'm fit and people thought I was crazy for trying fasting for health. And more than ever I realized food and emotions are super strong. Also learned that any visual transformation also takes adjusting for yourself and others no matter where ur starting point and no matter how good u feel . Also went through an amazing emotional change when I was Injured for three months. It actually took me 2 weeks to start lifting weights again after my pt's approval because I didnt believe I was fully healed. And then I felt tripped up when I was ready to go for it was so weak even basic things were challenging. Looking back I am so happy to go through the emotional growth through my pivotal body experiences.
i tried strict keto for 8 months with no cheating and did not like it and saw no real improvements. My body seems to do best on a balanced diet. And i love jiucy raw fresh fruits so much.
Keto is very restrictive. I agree. Do what you can do long-term!
Well, keto is not something to be followed for a life time. We are better of being on keto for 2-4 months.
Oh, man! It is sobering to learn that what we are feeding our minds has to be consistent, otherwise the old thought patterns can come in again and take over! Such a needed reminder for me! Thank you Mr. Manning!
I watched this video to get the most out of weight loss. But I learned more than weight loss. It explained to me my whole life! Thank you so much, now I understand how my life went through, maybe not everything about it but the totality of what has been and what life is all about.