Dating Someone With HIV ft. Myles Sexton

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  • Опубліковано 27 гру 2024

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  • @UrMom-v6d
    @UrMom-v6d Місяць тому +12

    Undetectable = Untransmittable

    • @cnydnkongb
      @cnydnkongb 23 дні тому +3

      Look who we have here! Bill Nye the science guy! Except he's got no education. If you don't know something then open up a book instead of your butt cheeks.

    • @Batnewman
      @Batnewman 22 дні тому +1

      @@lanouekright?!?!? It's sooooo fucked that they'd rather be like well I don't have to tell my partner cause it's not illegal.. but you have no problem being a piece of shit and lying by omission. Your feelings are not more important than someones ability to make an informed choice to hook up with you. Fucking disgusting behavior. And then to compare it to diabetes or high blood pressure is some serious gaslighting.. sickening

    • @danc6882
      @danc6882 22 дні тому +2

      But people do not stay undetectable forever... just because a person was undetectable as of their last blood draw, doesn't mean they are undetectable today. Even the studies that are used to demonstrate that U = U they note that they had some cases of transmission.... "for whom treatment no longer was working and the virus was replicating." Just assuming that a person is undetectable because they were at the last lab draw is not evidence-based. www.niaid.nih.gov/diseases-conditions/treatment-prevention

    • @Zack-xv2yc
      @Zack-xv2yc 21 день тому +2

      It's called *"consent",* mf. You heard of it??

    • @gammarod1072
      @gammarod1072 21 день тому +2

      What a stupid comment….

  • @mantassiauciunas6324
    @mantassiauciunas6324 4 місяці тому +352

    You have to disclose your status regardless… and I’m not talking legally, but from a human prospective.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  4 місяці тому +1

      Myles does encourage disclosure. Hope you listen to the full episode

    • @sworddomo1951
      @sworddomo1951 23 дні тому +41

      they should disclose before making out as well.

    • @mr.thammisses6119
      @mr.thammisses6119 23 дні тому

      ​​@QueerCollective Except for the part where they act entitled and basically annoyed that a partner would want to know if they had HIV. Stop defending bs it just makes the queer community look horrible.

    • @Batnewman
      @Batnewman 23 дні тому

      @queercollective y'all are fucking clowns. Myles literally says at the beginning of the podcast "why should I sleep with someone who doesn't respect me?" Not saying you have HIV is mad disrespectful.. y'all are fucking gross

    • @dritzzjoney
      @dritzzjoney 23 дні тому +4

      In CA they removed it as a law

  • @haileyshutze2587
    @haileyshutze2587 19 днів тому +26

    I feel so deeply sorry for him. I can’t imagine being ill and not knowing why then finding out you are HIV +. But hear me when I say this: it is absolutely CRUCIAL to disclose this information to people you could possibly be intimate with…

  • @jernsure7046
    @jernsure7046 4 місяці тому +166

    46:05 making out and getting hot and heavy then decides to tell the guy he was hiv positive. This is the part people are upset about.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  4 місяці тому +1

      You can't get HIV from saliva. This is a huge misconception that we debunk in the video.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  4 місяці тому +1

      And on top of that Myles is undetectable which means you cannot transmit the virus. According to Canadian law you legally do not need to disclose and yet they still did and we still recommend in the video that everyone does disclose. Not sure what the issue is.

    • @mr.thammisses6119
      @mr.thammisses6119 23 дні тому +1

      ​@QueerCollective idiot if they both had a cut in there mouth then you could. Also why are you not respecting people choice to want to know if someone has HIV before you begin being physical with them? Yall are literally so pathetic to try and defend this sh#$.

    • @Ares78987
      @Ares78987 23 дні тому

      @@QueerCollectiveYOU DO NOT KNOW THAT HE IS UNDETECTABLE. He could be lying or even if it is true, you absolutely must disclose this to a partner. The fuck is wrong with you.

    • @shawna-kaycameron5088
      @shawna-kaycameron5088 23 дні тому

      @@QueerCollectivehiv ppl should be with hiv ppl.

  • @harambeboy
    @harambeboy 4 місяці тому +54

    How much unprotected sex is needed to contract HIV?

    • @MisaChan101
      @MisaChan101 4 місяці тому +2

      A lot, being quite literally a sexual degenerate. Which means they would have to work quite hard to get HIV lol.

    • @Hannibal082
      @Hannibal082 4 місяці тому +79

      Once will work

    • @frankmancini
      @frankmancini 4 місяці тому

      A lot. This promiscuous narcissist had to work to get HIV, and then sits there in broad daylight telling people he doesn't disclose his status. This, in fact, is illegal. And these two women sit there, allowing him to describe the fact that every one of his hookups is a felony and r*pe by deception.

    • @Bluecollarjoe6B9
      @Bluecollarjoe6B9 4 місяці тому +51

      Once bro

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  4 місяці тому +3

      @@harambeboy watch the video. We provide comprehensive sexual education in it. You can not catch it from someone who is undetectable but you can absolutely catch it in one time from someone who is HIV+ and detectable. The end of the episode provides ways to protect yourself

  • @automaticgirl89_11
    @automaticgirl89_11 20 днів тому +5

    Very informative conversation. I don't love the delivery of certain things, but at least it's a starting point. Also I respect the discord in the community about this, because often I find that we argue with each other for the wrong reasons. This just comes back to being transparent and responsible. Another unpopular option is that the uptick in female exposure is because women sleep with men who don't disclose their orientation. Queer black nurse from American, so please don't come for me, but prevention, no matter what the illness, should always be key

  • @blancaluna572
    @blancaluna572 4 місяці тому +19

    I wish we would talk more about hiv/aids in queer spaces, it's like evryone is forgetting about the crisis and it wasn't even that long ago, loads of younger queers don't even know the most basic stuff about hiv and how to keep themselves safe

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  4 місяці тому

      Hopefully folks will checkout this video ❤

    • @UrMom-v6d
      @UrMom-v6d Місяць тому +3

      Yes ^^ open honest conversation is so useful. Many queer groups, like the SF gay mens choir lost all of their original members. The least we can do us stay educated

    • @mr.thammisses6119
      @mr.thammisses6119 23 дні тому +21

      ​@@QueerCollectiveThis video did way more harm then it did good.

    • @mr.thammisses6119
      @mr.thammisses6119 23 дні тому +1

      ​@@UrMom-v6dYeah open honest convo like telling someone you carry hiv before getting physical with them?

  • @Jcs9323
    @Jcs9323 4 місяці тому +43

    This is a super touchy subject & please be mindful of your comments. The last thing we as a community need is more 🌈 on 🌈 hate. Let’s be clear. Myles (from their own verbiage) was on all necessary meds to be undetectable. So NO they were not putting said person at risk. HOWEVER I whole heartedly disagree with the sentiment of not disclosing your HIV status if undetectable. When you interact with someone in a sexual manner that should be disclosed. What their status is, when tested last, if said person knows enough about the HIV status to understand what undetectable means. I understand it’s stigmatized. I understand you CANNOT infect them. They SHOULD STILL GET THE CHOICE to decide for themselves if they want to engage in intercourse. If they’re uneducated on how HIV undetectable status works this can cause fear anxiety even panic which could impact their mental health they could lash out towards said person and put themselves & said person in danger if they find out after the fact.
    They should have the necessary info & know if intercourse happened they would be fine BUT THEY NEED TO BE INFORMED. I fully understand these are life saving medications and common sense says you would obviously be taking them. What happens when someone lies that they are undetectable, they forgot to take medication regularly (again I know it’s rare) or they maybe cannot afford their medications & have skipped taking them and lie , various other mishaps. The point is the other party needs to be informed and give consent. Not disclosing your status just feels like you are omitting information and being shady. I agree the habit of disclosing STIs or HIV should not have a negative stigma. Just the same as if someone tells me hey I’ve gone 8 months without getting tested. I should be given that info so I can make a choice for myself. We should frankly be having said conversations constantly & be getting tested constantly. We need to stop using verbiage like “clean” when discussing STIs or HIV. I appreciate Myles being an advocate and please listen to the full podcast. They had so much wonderful information that needs to be discussed.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  4 місяці тому +1

      Thank you for such a thoughtful comment. I agree you should never lie about your status and everyone has the right to know and have full disclosure. Myles does encourage and practice disclosure, but of course that comes with it’s own set of really tough conversations and judgements based on stigma and misinformation which can put people in real harm’s way. We hope that the sharing of such frustrations does not take away from the larger conversation and education within the episode as it is a bit of double sided sword

    • @jasminehouston-burns1691
      @jasminehouston-burns1691 4 місяці тому

      Shut up

    • @paolocruz7917
      @paolocruz7917 23 дні тому

      I think there's a reason why it is stignatized. HIV is a contagious potentially fatal disease.

    • @IndianSummer79
      @IndianSummer79 23 дні тому

      @@QueerCollectivenot having informed consent is r$pe you are encouraging him you might want to think about that

    • @margiewalder4864
      @margiewalder4864 23 дні тому +1

      @@QueerCollective well “we” would hope y’all would advocate for the potential partners of such a selfish worm instead of giving a platform to him.

  • @CooreValues
    @CooreValues 17 днів тому +1

    Thanks for this episode I have HIV and I’m struggling to find reasons to stay sober I’m glad he can do it. I have a hard time because I’m bi living with it.

  • @yaaaalodie
    @yaaaalodie 22 дні тому +1

    The real ❤ ask questions ❤ Canadian sex education is not where it should be!! Talk to your children ❤

  • @Johndoedoe1999
    @Johndoedoe1999 23 дні тому +1

    48:03 I think this is the clip that is causing so much hate. I understand where they are coming from but at the same time I’m sure they understand why a lot of people would disagree. Because are they referring to regular hiv or undetected HIV in this question? I Watching a bit more of the podcast I do however understand where they are coming from and it’s sad to see how much hate you guys are getting especially because these are the uncomfortable conversations that most people don’t have or don’t think about. So it’s good you guys have a podcast like this. I hope the hate hasn’t deterred you from continuing doing what you’re doing or having these types of conversations but I think it’s needed.

    • @Batnewman
      @Batnewman 23 дні тому

      Regardless of regular or undetectable HIV you tell a partner before. Full stop. If you don't tell someone you have an STD, you're a scumbag piece of shit. There's no justification for playing with someone. Myles literally says in the beginning of the podcast "why would I sleep with someone who doesn't respect me?" He's not respecting his partners by not telling them he has HIV. DISGUSTING BEHAVIOR

    • @crappyaccount
      @crappyaccount 22 дні тому +1

      it really doesnt matter what kind of hiv it is, saying you don't have a disease when you do because you know the person would likely reject sexual activity with you otherwise would be classified as rape or sexual assault by deception. please search this term up if you are not aware of it. it can take many forms such as lying about STD status, lying about infertility (either naturally or via a vasectomy/ tubes tied), secretly removing condoms during sex, impersonating someone's partner without their knowledge, not disclosing your birth sex if you are trans, etc.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  18 днів тому +1

      Thank you for your comment and for listening! The hate has been the most intense we've ever received but honestly it's just encouraging us to do a follow-up episode. We've realized that clearly HIV education, stigma, & misinformation is much further behind than we thought. senidng you love.

    • @raquelmedina3878
      @raquelmedina3878 17 днів тому +9

      It's sad you're supporting this disgusting behavior. Not disclosing your hiv status even if positive or not, is disgusting. You're taking away informed consent

  • @fembot3164
    @fembot3164 19 днів тому +1

    I think I’m too woke to not see everyone’s outrage towards this video. I don’t think anyone in this video explicitly said HIV doesn’t spread, or that you shouldn’t disclose. Like idk what to say. They literally go into talking about what the right way to disclose is.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  18 днів тому

      THANK YOU!!!

    • @raquelmedina3878
      @raquelmedina3878 17 днів тому +5

      He's admitting he doesn't disclose it. He's taking away informed consent. He even said he told someone after making out. If you don't see a problem, I don't know what to tell you

    • @fembot3164
      @fembot3164 17 днів тому

      @ He explicitly said the opposite; he does disclose because of the stigma. Also, kissing does not spread HIV.

    • @raquelmedina3878
      @raquelmedina3878 17 днів тому

      @fembot3164 Kissing can spread HIV. Although rare, it's a possibility.

    • @raquelmedina3878
      @raquelmedina3878 17 днів тому

      @@fembot3164 If both individuals have significant open sores or bleeding gums in their mouths, and blood from an HIV-positive person comes into contact with an open wound in the partner's mouth, there could be a risk. However, such instances are extremely rare.

  • @Kay-qs4wi
    @Kay-qs4wi 4 місяці тому +11

    I love this channel, its been nothing but helpful for me 🌈

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  4 місяці тому +1

      Happy to hear that! Thank you so much for listening 💗🫶

    • @blak238
      @blak238 4 місяці тому +8

      Of course it has. This is the place to come to reaffirm your feelings. I mean this man with a beard wearing a dress comes here to be told he's a woman, and once you believe it, it's reality.

    • @MystiKalLimitz02
      @MystiKalLimitz02 4 місяці тому +21

      So you're fine with someone hiding their STDs from you until after sex?

    • @Kay-qs4wi
      @Kay-qs4wi 4 місяці тому

      @MystiKalLimitz02 nowhere in my comment did I say that. It was a generalized comment. It was their latest video, and I decided to leave the comment.

    • @og-ghostblinky6252
      @og-ghostblinky6252 4 місяці тому +16

      @@Kay-qs4wiu support this? Awful

  • @Waterbugart
    @Waterbugart 4 місяці тому +5

    🌈💞

  • @UrMom-v6d
    @UrMom-v6d Місяць тому +4

    We clearly need more education on this after reading these comments !!! Thank you !!!

    • @mr.thammisses6119
      @mr.thammisses6119 23 дні тому +21

      Not really yes he's right that if you are undetectable then you couldn't catch it but you should 100% still tell someone before you become physical with them. If that person isn't willing to understand then you probably don't need to be having intercourse with them.

    • @dritzzjoney
      @dritzzjoney 23 дні тому +9

      Lol isn't willing to understand hahaha

    • @NeraCicero
      @NeraCicero 23 дні тому +1

      Why should we get "educated"=confused and perverted, by people who wont even admit that this is an unhinged MAN. Thats a male human being, sick in the head, damaging others and defending it. You guys are lost.

    • @OfficialDreamTheater
      @OfficialDreamTheater 20 днів тому +1

      Yeah, you're right. They need to stop pushing the undetectable=untransmissable narrative. Doctors and health experts even maintain that the undetectable=untransmissable status applies if it is 6 months straight or longer. How can we prove that the person has been taking their meds every day to suppress the virus? How can we prove that they have been getting tested regularly to determine that they've successfully maintained undetectable status for 6+ months? How can we prove that they are undetectable at the time of intercourse/sexual activity?
      Even if there is "zero risk," the fact that it's reliant on a word of trust situation makes it even more reason to disclose it so the other non-infected party(s) aren't making uninformed decisions.

  • @mcgaming6387
    @mcgaming6387 Місяць тому +2

    Even if they did something wrong, let’s not be homophobic or transphobic and say “these people”.

    • @mr.thammisses6119
      @mr.thammisses6119 23 дні тому +28

      There's nothing wrong with saying these people. It's literally a group of people stop being so sensitive.

    • @mcgaming6387
      @mcgaming6387 23 дні тому

      @ Of course you don’t realize the othering type of language that’s thrown in there. Learn some of that and quit being so sensitive yourself.

    • @NeraCicero
      @NeraCicero 23 дні тому

      Thats a male human being...thats a man who pretends not to be. Its delusion and hes nasty, unhinged and dangerous for what hes doing. You guys are cooked in the head. Thats why people hate you more and more for all the right reasons.

    • @bigbay1159
      @bigbay1159 23 дні тому

      @@mcgaming6387 Cry about it more

    • @mcgaming6387
      @mcgaming6387 23 дні тому

      @ Stop acting as if you care. You already know you can’t get AIDS through kissing. Whatever, live your stupid lives even though “these people” are far better humans than you.

  • @pyenygren2299
    @pyenygren2299 4 місяці тому +4

    I'm early, and give food for the algorithm. 🌈

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  4 місяці тому +1

      Hehe thank you for supporting ❤❤

    • @NeraCicero
      @NeraCicero 23 дні тому +1

      Yeah you look like the walking stereotype of a woketard and you defend spreading deadly diseases. Thats a man...and a h*e.

  • @ashtoncorson4425
    @ashtoncorson4425 4 місяці тому +1

    thank you for this episode!!! I thought I was reasonably knowledgeable about HIV, but some of the advancements in the field were totally unknown to me. I learned so much! what a wonderful conversation.

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  4 місяці тому

      @@ashtoncorson4425 thank you so much for listening and your kind comment🫶 it means a lot to us

  • @Roswell33
    @Roswell33 4 місяці тому +10

    Aw they're such a sweet authentic person and their hair is so beautiful. I relate to being sick and not knowing why!! Such a scary diagnosis. Great convo :) xx

    • @sassylittleprophet
      @sassylittleprophet 4 місяці тому

      I really love their shirt/top/blouse

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  4 місяці тому

      Thank you for listening ❤ Myles is the best 🫶

    • @hevilman1
      @hevilman1 4 місяці тому +3

      Fr is so good to spread a very bad disease to people without their knowledge super powerful

    • @JorgeBv-g1o
      @JorgeBv-g1o 3 місяці тому +26

      You guys are so fucking insane

    • @torachan23
      @torachan23 23 дні тому

      You are all disgusting

  • @snickeysnack5000
    @snickeysnack5000 4 місяці тому +3

    This was really educational, thank you for sharing!

    • @QueerCollective
      @QueerCollective  4 місяці тому

      Thank you so much for listening, so glad you enjoyed ❤

    • @UrMom-v6d
      @UrMom-v6d Місяць тому

      Agreed ^^😊

  • @UrMom-v6d
    @UrMom-v6d Місяць тому +1

    Im so sorry these comments r so broken 😭😭 im 1/3 the way through and loving this.
    The way HIV/AIDS was treated led the way for future epidemics and pandemics honestly.
    R.I.P. to all of the people that died before the meds were made and the people who continue to die because they cant access them.
    Myles seems genuinely nice and if ur undetectable, who cares abt ur personal medical history. HIV/AIDS isnt a death sentence anymore.

    • @mcgaming6387
      @mcgaming6387 Місяць тому

      It’s all an excuse for homophobia disguised as pretend concern

    • @rawhall1265
      @rawhall1265 23 дні тому +2

      Dumb, mentally ill, or evil.

    • @mariopadilla1445
      @mariopadilla1445 23 дні тому +2

      🤨 And your mindset on this topic shows how immature and ignorant you are. HIV is absolutely still a serious virus 63k people died from hiv causes last year. That’s 63k people that would still be alive today had they not been infected. Don’t be stupid. Educate yourself before saying nonsensical things

    • @Anubis_-_
      @Anubis_-_ 23 дні тому +37

      Yea just treat aids and hiv like the common cold, surely that won’t backfire in anyway. If 1000 people disagree with you and somehow you still think you’re right, it’s time to look inwards and understand the words coming out of your mouth.
      Not disclosing you have an sti while kissing someone is criminal, all it takes is a small unknown cut on the gum and you’ve ruined someone’s life if not killed them. Dude needs to grow up and stop acting like a teenager

    • @rishabmazumdar5635
      @rishabmazumdar5635 23 дні тому +23

      Tell that when you get infected.

  • @qc6057
    @qc6057 23 дні тому +1

    Sad to see homophobia is alive and well in this comments section.

    • @qc6057
      @qc6057 23 дні тому +1

      @@HolyLSD your mentality is literally killing queer people. You’re not a decent person, you’re a Nazi.

    • @PresidentDrPeper
      @PresidentDrPeper 23 дні тому +9

      Bitch no. This white guy is the most audacious white guy to ever live. The only reason to not disclose is to not get rejected. He has a responsibility to inform his partners otherwise its not truly consent. If the chemistry was Awesome id fuck him but not raw. Informed consent is the only consent that matters.

    • @Happy_Hand
      @Happy_Hand 23 дні тому +2

      @@HolyLSD To them, it's the same thing.
      The only thing they approve of is spreading degeneracy or sickness.
      Drag queen story time anyone?

    • @dudeorduuude5211
      @dudeorduuude5211 23 дні тому +2

      Qc6057 - you promote r*pe culture and no consent. And you have the audacity to call people homophobic for being disgusted with you and the people in this podcast.

    • @qc6057
      @qc6057 23 дні тому

      @@PresidentDrPeperhe has the right to live his truth. If you were an ally, you’d support him. His illness doesn’t define who he is.