this is kind of hilarious im sad because a guy named just like u told me he didn't want any kind of relationship with anyone because he wanted to focus on his work and today in the morning told me he has a girlfriend 😭😠 and I'm totally agree with your comment
If she doesn't value you, that doesn't mean you are worse or she is worse. If she doesn't like a movie or a food that doesn't mean it is bad. Same thing if she doesn't like you.
Yes, Eliza... The same goes for a woman of course. And I'm sorry to remind you of him. You can see now that he lied anyways, just another chance to wait patiently for someone worthy of you. You love the idea of that person, which is a construct of your own mind. Get back to reality and don't let your false images of a liar fool you. Good luck and take care!
I was abandoned by the very person who said he'd never leave me and always be with me. how do u recover, it was so cold. I literally did f**kin nothing to deserve that.
Just came out of a devastating relationship. This was exactly what I needed to hear. Sometimes the feeling of "specialness" you give to another can mask your own feelings of low self-worth.
I once posted that and all kinds of ppl were saying “your calling yourself trash omg bla bla bla” seriously we live in a Society where people cannot understand similes and metaphors.
This helps alot. Recently my heart was broken by my ex. It was totally unexpected. I thought everything was ok. I loved him. He moved out right away and has ignored me ever since. I don't know what I did wrong. This is more of a shock then anything. One small fight...over something dumb and he gave up on us.. like the relationship had never mattered. Yes.. I may be better off without him. But it still hurts alot :( I'm use to coming home to him..but now I come home to a empty house and this depresses me. My thoughts are my worst enemy.
this is exactly the same thing that has happen to me and I'm feeling suicidal, the only thing that was different is that we didn't break up because we wanted too. I mean what did I do wrong?
Jasmine christianson WOW! this is exactly what has happened to me! except, we didn't live together, it's almost like we did tho. this just happened to me 3weeks ago, and i'm crushed more than ever. have you contacted him since...? do you guys talk, does he call you? :(
Jasmine christianson oh wow! sorry to hear that. how did you find out? mine called me a couple days after the break up & wanted to be "cool" it hurt me SO BAD to cut that completely because how can i be friends with someone that i love deeply, but doesn't want anything more? NO. it's been a whole week with no contact. i'm broken more than ever, it's so hard! how are you holding up?
It's really hard to get over it. I'm still not over it. When you feel like crying..cry. it's part of healing. I've been keeping myself busy with work. Distracting myself..pretty much pretending he dosnt exsist. It's hard. Things are alot easier now. Time does heal. There will always be moments where I think of him and feel sad. But life does go on. And his ex girlfriend thought it would be nice to send a picture of them together thru facebook.. that's how I found out. She is crazy and loves drama. I guess that's what my ex wants.
I'm still hurting and broken and I've been out of a relationship for 4 months now, but it still hurts as if it's a newly open-cut wound. The advice you've given has helped a little, but I'm still broken-spirited! I've been praying every night asking the Lord to help me, guide me, and give me the strength to let go of the hurt and forget about that person..... Indefinitely!
Seriously Noah, I'm beginning to believe that certain things come into our lives at certain moments for a reason. After watching your videos repeatedly for the last few day, taking some notes on them and writing my reactions down, I can say that it feels like I was meant to watch them. I really respect your views on the power of our thoughts and how they are a choice for us. My ex fiance left me in the middle of the night (literally) and never said goodbye at all. It came after we had lived together for only two weeks (I thought they were an amazing 2 weeks) and she immediately changed her number and contact info. No contact. Nothing. I looked weak and sad. I was seriously depressed and it was affecting every part of my life. I realize now that her negative thoughts had nothing and less to do with me and that staying with her would have been terrible. She did me a favour by leaving. I literally didn't have a good night's rest for 7 months. This last week I had the first good sleep in forever. Perspective is a tricky thing but your words gave it to me. You are a gift my friend. I will always be grateful and I'm going to buy your book or something as a way to pay you for it. You deserve it. I can't imagine how many have been helped by these videos. Grateful always. Thomas
you look like you have felt a great many people's pain in this life. obviously this is an impression from a nine minute youtube video, so it may not hold so much water - but listen - don't lose this level of empathy, because it is a great rarity in this world. thank you for making these videos.
This is what I found to be effective to deal with the hurt of love: First, it's okay to feel some pain, just let your self express itself, and do something to free these negative feeling by crying, dancing, running wherever it helps you feel good, after that, sit in a quiet place and think you should be grateful to that person for all the good moments spent with him, remember those moments and be happy that you had the chance to live them. second, find the things you learned from that person and what opportunities he gave you to grow up and develop in your life, and be grateful to him for that too. Third, apology to him (imaginatively) if he break up with you because of something you have done wrong without intent, even if you don't know what it is, just assume it if it was the case. Forth, just let him go and free him from your mind...give him freedom and wish him all the happiness and success.And finaly, close you eyes and imagine you burning him with fire in front of you not to hurt him but to release it from your mind and heart...then watch all the ash flying away with a big smile in your face. Repeat this process for many days and do it at any moment thoughts about your lover come in your mind...and after a week you will be surprised that you may feel very independant of him without hate but with love...and even if you may meet with him again it will be a pleasure too. every thing is happening in our mind...nothing is a truth fact...because being in love with somebody is a deep process of releasing hormones...and those hormonse are called the happiness hormones...if it comes that the reason causing these hormones diseppear we feel instantly missing something. It's the same process for junkers. if the drugs were the junker's releasing hormones, so your lover is your releasing hormones cause. As for junkers it takes time to heal, that's true for someone missing his lover too. it's just a time, patience and persistence issues...like junkers, if you are addicted to your lover you can heal.
You might also find these videos helpful: 1) How To Deal With Loneliness... Right Now 2) How To Stop Thinking About Someone 3) How To Deal With A Break Up - WHY They Broke Up With You 4) How To Stop Feeling Lacking and Worried About Being Single (Stop Feeling Lonely) 5) You Don't Want To BE Loved... You Want TO Love
My breakup was over something very sad he didn't wanna but it was parental issues and you have the same name as him!!!!!! I'm okay cus we started out as BFF'S and we will always be BBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBFF'S :D
I was talking to this boy for a while. He would tell me he would call me, when I would ask the next day he would say he forgot. Today my friend told me he has a girlfriend but he used to like me and that fluent matter anymore. I think it was because I'm not pretty enough for him. He made me feel pretty, so now he's gone and I just keep thinking about him replacing me with something better. It hurts I lil bit
I had my heart broken recently. I couldn't stop thinking about it. I would cry each day. I would demoralise myself. After watching this, I feel a lot better and healed. Thank you so much for this. Please keep making videos like these,because they are actually very helpful. Thank you again! :D
This is helpful. I was broken up and told it was all me and what I wasn't. In a nut shell not good enough to be his partner. It's so easy to believe especially when you love the person and look up to them.
Sunflowershowers its the worst when you feel so strongly for someone and you know they are past you....maybe even too good. I dont deserve something that great. Its like where did i go wrong
The worse thoughts about myself makes me feel not only unworthy of love but also that my whole life has come to a point where there is nothing left to give...
I have been watching your videos on this subject for over a week now. I am going through a really sad time in my life after getting broken up with who I thought was my one true love. Your videos help me more and more with every one that I view. Thank you for this. You are a very kind person.
I had to take care of my mom while she was dying and had to travel away from my fiancé. Just trying to be a good son and be with my mom in her last moments. During this time, I found out that I have stage 3 cancer, lost my job, car and savings! Just everything came crashing down on me.The only thing I had going to motivate me to get better was my fiancé....she was my beacon of hope. Just last week, she told me that after six years she cannot continue with the relationship because it is too hard for her and that she likes another man. I feel so fucked right now...I can't stop thinking about us. Even my dreams are so cruel. I have no idea what I am going to do. I wish there was an anti-love drug that would make this pain in my chest go away. I feel like hole has been stomped in my chest. I miss and love her so much. Please help.🙏🏼
That is quite allot to go through. Try to stay strong, she aint worth it. I know it is much much harder than that sounds. I myself have been trying to get over a relationship, unsuccessfully, for the past 3 years. Even though I have always known it was a poisonous relationship, i still cannot get myself to move on and it has very badly effected all aspects of my life. All i can say is this; we are all prisoners of our own minds and how we think, either we can change it, or no one else can. I wish there was a pill for it.
Thank you for the reply. I wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy. I am sorry my friend that you are still dealing with a heavy heart after this long. She must have been very special to you at one point. Its just amazing how you treat someone so well, putting them first in every aspect of your lives together, and then they just leave. I wish I could say that I take comfort knowing that there are others suffering like me, but i really dont. This is horrible. Be strong brother.
Hey, I am completely broken hearted as well, I wanted to write to you to let you know that I think I know how you feel, I have been waking up, every single day, with a literal pain in my chest, from the heart ache, it had never happened to me before, it is difficult to gain the strength to get out of bed, take a shower, eat, do the simplest things!! let alone work or distract myself. in this time i was wondering if it was possible that anyone else go through a pain like this, but after reading your comment about the pain in your chest, I felt comforted knowing in not the only one and wanted to let you know you aren't either. i wish I could have advice for you because I know you are in pain, but all I can tell you is what I tell myself, through out time, there have always been people who go through this, people who are going through it now like us, and people who went through it and are now better. I am not going to tell you she " was not worth it " or is a bad person, everyone has their own struggle, I am sure the time you shared together was very much worth it, and the love very real, but now that the relationship is over, be comforted in knowing that another person will always come along, who you will be very happy with, and learning to love and accept yourself is the most important thing. I'm sorry about your mom, your illness and your job, atleast your fiance was honest with you so you can thank her for that and begin to move on. I am sure that one day you will be happy again, so happy, that you will be thankful for the break up and the pain that you are in now because it let you to a better happier life.
luzorquidea thank you for the encouragement my friend. It's all consuming and painful as I'm sure you or anyone reading this knows. She creeps in my mind every moment of the day...doesn't matter what I am doing. It's like a cruel addiction. All I can do now is fight for myself and be selfish. I have so much to contend with that I need to just think about me, as hard as that may be at the moment I have to try or this will bury me... literally! I'm going to seek a professionals help with this just to try to deal in a healthy constructive way. I have so much love, anger, hate and jealousy in my heart right now that I feel like I am going to have a complete melt down. If I could offer advice to anyone...it's this. While you have your health...make every effort to take advantage of it. Do everything you have ever been curious about. See a movie alone or with a friend. Connect with people you have lost touch with and go see them...go do anything...everything! I am stuck being as sick as I am so limited to do anything except think all day. I just know that if I wasn't ill I could do so much more to make this a least a fraction better. I do take comfort that people have gotten through this, but it breaks my heart to think about anyone feeling this amount of pain. I just hope soon this begins to become less and less difficult to manage. Thank you again for your message. I hope you and everyone who is dealing with this, finds peace and resolution in your hearts! 🙏🏼
The shape won't fit the other shape. Just have to find where it fits. Doesn't mean anything is wrong with it. That was AMAZING and it's helping me get over the resentment and anger i had over his girl
I never knew that videos like these would actually help. My ex cheated on me and I was left hanging, not knowing where to begin because our relationship was not even ended properly. I realized a lot through your words. Maybe I'm just that triangle shape that doesn't fit in his square hole. And it's up to me to find and for that triangle hole to come in my life. Thank you. :)
@@NoahElkrief sheikh I have a question , When I talk to my brother or other people and while there don't reply me ,. At that time I feel upset , so when this happen again how can I avoid this feeling , sheikh Even if there are bad or maybe did not hear what I said , or don't Care much that I was asking , so how can I avoid the pain sheikh For now I am feeling fine ☺️ But this case it happen much to me , like ever 1 month this Happened , I would like to have a answer when this thing happen , so that I could have no feeling to upset me and just being cheerful And alhamdulillah I do the zikir and other Good stuff , but I would like to have this answer so that I could not taste that upset feeling , cuz it make me 😭 And please sheikh make me strong Iman so that I could have no feeling when someone hurting me by taking aslo
I rarely like or comment on a video but I decided to randomly search for videos on how to mend a broken heart. My relationship ended almost a year ago and I still feel so hurt, especially as I was never provided with a reason as to why he didn't want to be with me anymore. I was left to stew in my own thoughts. But this video has made sense, people have said similar things to me before but it never sunk in until I watched this video. So thank you very much for helping me stay on the path to mending my broken heart.
It is not only about what we think of ourselves. It is also about wanting and loving someone and not being able to be with that someone or connect with that someone. Or that you want to be with that someone and s/he does not show interest.
Every time I begin to feel hurt from being rejected by someone I care about or someone in general I come and I watch this video, it immediately makes me feel better about the situation. Thank you for your advice and support Noah.
so my ex of 8 years, just recently broke it off with me 3 weeks ago! we were giving ourselves a 2nd chance after being off for 3 years straight. 8 MONTHS ago, we decided to give it another try, because we still loved one another. we were doing SO good, talked about moving in together, starting a family, being committed, marriage, etc. mind you, he's the one that came up with these ideas, he issued them out to me, of course i was happy about it! but for the past couple weeks, we were a little distant, and fighting a lot. i've been going through it msyelf, because i just lost a friend in a horrible accident, so i kinda just wanted to distant myself away from everything. we had been arguing over petty stuff lately, and a petty ass fight led to him telling me he's done with us. he's done with me, with us, him giving up is what he claims. he tells me he loves me more than ever, but he just doesn't have any hope for us any longer. but this came from one day to the next, that's what i don't get! if we hadn't gotten into that little ass fight, this would've never happened! the thing that keeps going through my mind over & over again is... WHY DOESN'T HE FIGHT FOR ME, FOR US? WHY GIVE UP NOW...? AM I NOT WORTH FIGHTING FOR? AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH? the thing is, when i felt like giving up, he would beg for me to stay, he would look me in the eye & ask me "alex, after all we've been through you're ready to let our dreams go.." & i would just fall weak & remember why i love this man & i would continue fighting for us, so i would take him back! & the same night he broke it off with me, i asked him THE SAME THING and he said "i don't want us anymore, i'm done, i don't see myself with you" it hit me to the CORE, never been so hurt before in my life. this happened 3weeks ago, and i've cried myself to sleep ever since. i do text him, and he still replies, i still call, and he still answers, but he acts like a "friend" & once i start talking about US, he gets mad & hangs up on me. he says he wants to remain "cool" & hold no grudges, and at some point i was ok with that because he was still there. but it's really just HARDER, because i'm just holding on to hope now. & i know he will never come back, he's made that clear to me. so last night, i ended everything. i said i couldn't be friends with him, and he was perfectly cool with it! he said he would be ok without me in his life! (i broke down crying) :( how could i put myself out there & get nothing in return from someone i want EVERYTHING with. it hurts me DEEPLY to know it's over & done with. i don't wanna text/call but it's soooo hard, i think about him all the time, so many questions come to my mind! WHY WHY WHY!
Hi there, a month later now are you still feeling the same way? If you need to talk you can message me. You remind me a lot of myself, very emotional and passionate. I'm Italian, I sometimes think break ups are harder for me because I'm used to being ruled by my emotions. I hope you are well.
Hi. I know how u are feeling. Its been almost a year for me. I still struggle sometimes. The guy was my best friend for 10 years before we entered into a relationship. Miss when we were friends. Maybe we can help each other. Message me if that's OK with u. Hope ur better now.
Hi. I know how u are feeling. Its been almost a year for me. I still struggle sometimes. The guy was my best friend for 10 years before we entered into a relationship. Miss when we were friends. Maybe we can help each other. Message me if that's OK with u. Hope ur better now.
This video really help me recognize where actually that feeling of hurt coming from, just because we care about their opinion, doesnt mean their opinion is valid. True. Thanks i really do appreciate this video it helps alot
Noah, I would just like to thank you for making this video. For two years I still had feelings for someone who was awful. He cheated on me and lied to me multiple in the relationship and I felt like I wasn't good enough and that I was nothing because of how he could cheat on me and not feel bad about his actions. It took 6 months for me to get over him, and literally a day Later after I got over him he tried to contact me and it totally threw me off and I was back to the way I felt originally. it took me another year and a half for me to finally say "that's it I've had enough" and so I looked up on UA-cam about how to get over someone and I came across your "how to stop being lonely" video and then I came across this video. After I watched this video I no longer had feelings for my ex. Thinking about him no longer made me sad, and it felt almost weird to not to feel hurt and depressed that he wasn't in my life anymore. And just a 9 minute video fixed me. Thank you so much.
Guys, just found this video on an old playlist I had to deal with a bad rejection. Life couldn't be better now. The girl even came back to me at some point but I was totally over her and chose to keep following my new path in life. A breakup is never the end, it's the beginning of a new life on which you have the chance appreciate your own self and value. If you weren't accepted by a person in the past, this person wasn't meant for you, now or ever. Enjoy life as it is and learn from it. Learn to love unconditionally. Learn to let go. Learn to move on. And learn to appreciate the gift of being alive
The words that he is saying at the last is absolutely amazing and when you ask yourself those questions then you will know that you are perfect. This help me a lot thank you 😊
Elle, the one person you loved wasn't the person you imagine them to be. You imagined you could have someone to love, you imagined you could have someone who loved you... the person you fixated on is not that person. You're fixated on a fiction that only exists in your mind. Did you want to fall in love with someone who refused to love you? Of course not. You want someone who will love you, someone who will be happy to be loved by you - the person you fixated on is not that person. Break free of these tricks you are playing on your own mind. The person you thought you loved is not real - it's a fiction. Your own thoughts have been hurting you - train your thoughts to work for you instead of working against you. This deception is common due to children feeling rejected by their parents and caregivers. Train your thoughts to be your best friend. Be kind and compassionate toward yourself and break free of the deception.
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The analogy where you said just because the square shape doesnt fit in the triangle shape hole doesnt mean the square is not good enough for the triangle hole. It just means we dont fit their definition of perfect. I love this. I've never thought about it like that.. thank you for the video. I'm consciously going to try never to forget that for forever. 💜
You just saved my life honestly. There has been so many people putting me down for reasons I didn't really understand. I hated myself to the point of suicidal thoughts. This helped me realize that I am who I am and that's quite alright. :) Thank you so much.
That might apply well on a ending of a short relationships. However when a couple has been together for years, I think most of the pain comes from moments and memories you miss so much. They had a good time together, whole life together and suddenly it is gone. All those small moments of being together; having dinner, watching movie, playing games, you wont have those with that person anymore. It hurts! So is there any mindtrick to continue life all alone without feeling sadness over those small things?
I just lost the love of my life, I don't care about other people thinking I'm good enough, all I care about is her thinking I'm good enough, and worth being with :(
this helped tremendously.right now i feel so broken, lost, hurt and used.. but this helped a bit. i know ill find somone that truly loves me someday. Thank you so much for this video.
I am just glad to read all the comments people are making on his videos, because it lets me know that I am not the only person going through this. It's a misery loves company kind of a thing. Ya know?
For me it's the thought of "HE doesn't find me worthy enough to be with him." :( that is truth, and also "I can have anyone else in the world but I only want him." Help? :(
+Toni_ Vercetti I'm in the same situation where I have this 'boyfriend' who doesn't appreciate me at all. I cry over him so much and he doesn't even think about how I am feeling or doing. But I'm so in love with him I can't get myself to break up with him. Any advice?
Thanks a lot for your video! Yet it is hardest to break up with a person still being nice to you, telling you deserve better. Makes a girl just want this guy even more for some reason..
If he was the man you want him to be, he would love and care for you - with kindness, gentleness, tenderness and helpfulness - instead of using words to manipulate you into staying with his self-absorbed immaturity.
You have to recognize that it's not your job to make them happy. Even if you stayed with them, you can't delete the thoughts in their head so you couldn't eliminate their unwanted emotions. You aren't making them suffer. Their thoughts are.
I had my first break up (I'm 15) and we had been together about 2 years and all the pain I felt was almost gone completely after watching this. Thank you.
Yes. I still think about this person but I am learning to get on with my life and learn more about relationships so next time I will be more prepared. Time will let me get over him as I got over all the others! Thanks
...but what are you supposed to think and feel when your fiancee calls the whole thing off and cancels the wedding with no real closure... their only answer seems to be "i don't understand it myself" or "i am sorry i don't know where this has come from"... and then that same person who used to be your best friend suddenly just becomes another stranger and doesn't want to talk to you anymore?... :(
I am doing that to someone right now. 6 years relationship and i don't understand at what point i got confused and unsure about it. I don't understand how i feel about it. What made me ask for time apart from each other was when I tried to think about the future. I feel like I am a horrible human being, but i've been together for so long with this person and yet i feel like i can't spend the rest of my life with him. So I had to make a decision, break it now while we're young or drag it until it's too late to back out (marriage/kids). It's not that i don't love this person, it's that i want to live certain things in life and that person is preventing me from it and, in my case, I feel like i'm too young not break free. About your best friend, i don't know what to tell you, but I hope it all turns out well.
+dawnlessday same situation. just that I'm the one who was left behind. almost 7 years together and suddenly she left me for the same reason you have. she wanna find herself, she want to do something without me. she don't see herself with me. I'm hurting like hell.. it's only a month since we ended the relationship
OMG this help me soooo much I'm currently going through a break up .. And this video made me realized I was actually blaming myself saying I'm not good enough but I'm so over him now and realized I deserve better thank you !!!!
Great post Noah. I am currently on a journey of self discovery after my 13 year marriage ended and i will say your words could not ring more true ... though her opinions of the marriage are different than mine, it true that there are many great people out there that would think the reason a ex left are what make you so dam attractive ... thanks again Noah
My boyfriend just broke up with me. Two days ago we were having the best time. Tonight he said that he does not know what he wants. He said he loves me but he is not sure about relationships. I am in shock. I love him. I am hurting guys!!!
Great advice on dealing with rejection. I need to put it on a tape loop and play it over and over. It's also true that what was once a good fit may change when you or (especially) the person who rejected you changes. And, taking a note from "How to Stop Thinking About Someone," that change may have made them a less worthy person. You may be better off to have been rejected because you are now free to find a good fit for now.
You can work on becoming a better person - this is easy and fun to do. I will tell you how I did it: Keep all poisons and toxins out of your life - this includes toxic people. I avoid drugs and booze, junk food and angry, cruel, self-absorbed miserable people. I avoid chemicals, gmo foods, I don't eat animals, etc. - this results in needing extra protein which comes from beans, nuts, protein powders, etc. I choose a life of truth, love, peace, health, happiness, helpfulness, kindness, gentleness, beauty, fun, laughter, innocent and magnificence... because of these choices, I live a wonderful magical precious quiet peaceful happy life. My work is fulfilling and uplifting - and I'm happy with who I am as a person - people can sense my happiness - I get compliments almost every day. That is how you become good enough - you simply make choices that help you to improve the quality of your life. You owe it to the beauty of the soul within you to love yourself and this is the way you to do it. Treat yourself with kindness, compassion and loving care. Do this by constantly reminding yourself - which is to re-program yourself - by telling yourself you choose truth, love, peace, health, happiness, helpfulness, kindness, gentleness, beauty, fun and laughter... As we adapt our thinking to embrace the beauty of life, our lives transformed into amazing awesomeness.
This helps me, my wife of 16 years left me for another man , left me with our 2 young children , she disappeared and has not seen the kids since, I was so heartbroken that I had a mental breakdown, these videos are helping me recover 18 months on
Thank you. This is exactly what I needed to hear because my ex told me everything that he was and I wasn't. It's only his opinion so what you said has given me more peace and self-love. I appreciate all you said!
suddenly my friend maintains a distance from me. it is hurting me like something. i couldnt conc at anything. i just cant do things normaly. i keep on thinking that i have gone wrong somewhere . give me solu out of it plz
this guy a totally stranger to me who used to stare at me before but not making any move, he seems so weird, so I get curious who he was, we had a little chat but later on found myself falling for him. And he's taken he has girlfriend, don't like to ruin their relationship so he must stop what he's doing to me,. It's just that, I fall for the wrong person again 💔
If someone could watch this video who are in pain right now I'm sure what you talk about on your video gives them relief about the pain that they feel during heartbreak.
I've been dating my boyfriend for awhile now. We've been on and off. He constantly asks for money. It bugs me a lot. Last week he cheated on me and lied about it. I'm still incredibly heartbroken, but he's so aggressive and wants me to smile and shake it off. It's not that easy. Yesterday, he told me if I did something for him then he wouldn't of cheated. It's like a constant bullet to the heart..I don't know if I can handle it anymore. But when I try to leave he makes me feel guilty and says he's gonna hurt himself. So I stay. Any advice about it?
as far as my own truth and experience if you don't pull enough courage to end this kind of manipulative relationship you'll end up in abusive relationship for years and years just like the women I use to be with in my group counseling session.. they have kids and everything they held on to the relationship for years hoping the guy would change but they never did ..you may also want to learn about the cycle of abuse. good luck
jessica, the only thing you need to do is to change your mind.. don't put negative thoughts in your mind coz mind is the power thing in the universe.. Even God saith renew your mind not your heart.. Romans 12:2King James Version (KJV).. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. trust me, i've been there..you will have a good life and you will live your life as happier as before.. Proverbs 23:7King James Version (KJV) For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.
Thank you so much for this video. It brought me to tears. Your analogy about the 4-year-old with the blocks was so profound; it just resonated so much with me. Just as everyone isn't perfect for me, I am not perfect for everyone, nor should I expect myself to be. I will be the perfect fit for someone out there, and I am no less of a person just because I didn't "fit" with my ex. Wow. Thank you so much. This video has entirely changed my perspective. God bless!
I'm going through a very hard time after breaking up with the person I love the most... your video is helping me a lot. Thank you. It's really life saving
I was best friends with this guy for a year and he started being mean after he found out I was in love with him. I still can't seem to heal the broken heart. I feel like It's my fault our friendship is over because of my feelings...any advice? 💔😔
OMG! This is the single most helpful video/advice I’ve heard. Thank you so much. I’m a “betrayed wife” I thought it was my fault. He doesn’t want me and I keep thinking “what’s wrong with me? I’m not a horrible person so why is he treating me like this....” I feel useless, unlovable, and depressed. I’ll definately take this on board. Thanks Noah :-)
+Suicidal Sheep5K hey man... i know EXACTLY how that feels... i hurt my girl without ever meaning to and i cant sleep,eat or be happy.. ive split with her before and have always resisted the urge to text and tell her how sorry i am. last night i drank too much and relented! biggest mistake!
Nils Allen-bayes Dude what should i do !? there's this bloody muffin txtin my ex and making it look like its me! He keeps tellin her she's useless ugly and all that crap making her want to dump me because of it. If i find this shoe im going to hit him up irl man i can't stand it anymore ! He obviously likes her alot considering he's trying to sabotage my life. I guess that's all that that muffin can do. Bro any tips on helping me out with this problem?
Thank you Noah Elkrief YOU are the best, Love you Bro for giving me back my heart. I cant believe that it took a man in a video to help me get pass my broken heart and now I start the healing process. I truly have no words to express my gratitude, but to simply say GRACIAS de todo mi Corazon to yours.
Wonderful video bro , It sucks being rejected especially when that person has genuine feelings. But at the same time I pray for them, no matter the pain they brought on me, forgive them, it's in the hard times we become humble and wiser.
You have been such a bigg help for me atm. I'm going trough a breakup with my boyfriend i was togheter with for 3 years. Im so happy for your videos being here.
Thank you. You made me remember that we ARE our thoughts. If we change our thoughts, we change the way we think. I needed reinforcement, and this helped me.
Know the value of your unconditional love and understand that it should not be given to people who don't deserve it and if if someone can't love you unconditionally then don't waste the time and effort. This is what along with time help me to get through a break up.also reconfirming to myself that I was born alone and I am capable of surviving on my own. I am not weak I am strong and life will go on.
Know you’re worth.....just because someone didn’t see it or learned to value it doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy. Everyone that’s in your life right now is there for the journey, but not everyone makes it to the end.
Bros and sisters, if she doesn't appreciate you, she isn't worthy of you. She is the one that is not good enough for you.
Amen to that
this is kind of hilarious im sad because a guy named just like u told me he didn't want any kind of relationship with anyone because he wanted to focus on his work and today in the morning told me he has a girlfriend
😭😠
and I'm totally agree with your comment
If she doesn't value you, that doesn't mean you are worse or she is worse. If she doesn't like a movie or a food that doesn't mean it is bad. Same thing if she doesn't like you.
Yes, Eliza... The same goes for a woman of course. And I'm sorry to remind you of him. You can see now that he lied anyways, just another chance to wait patiently for someone worthy of you. You love the idea of that person, which is a construct of your own mind. Get back to reality and don't let your false images of a liar fool you. Good luck and take care!
+Patrick Kronberg thank you so much Pat
i know and im sure that someone better is going to come!!
lots of blessings for u
I was abandoned by the very person who said he'd never leave me and always be with me. how do u recover, it was so cold. I literally did f**kin nothing to deserve that.
I know right
I feel you.😭
@Braden A 😂i was wondering too
Me too 😭
Pls reply
If someone we're badly attached to leaves us that hurts and hard to forget.
Sara K me too 😭😭😭
Sara K 💔
Sara K 😢
Sara K 😣😣 yeah
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"just because we dont match one person's definition of perfect, doesnt mean we're not perfect"
well said..
He said that throughout the entire video!
His voice is very relaxing.
Vorpent vs. Potato yesssss
Vorpent vs. Potato yessss very2... Listening to his voice, i think m alright now :)
Yes, almost like ASMR
Ail
Mine und my frirmd Spiel
agreed
This made me realize many things. The person i love makes me feel bad about myself a lot. This video helped me a lot (:
Tiare Velez I'm glad it helped you Tiare
+Max Caulfield you may be depressed btw
+Tiare Velez same about me.
Me 2
same here
This helped me a lot because i have been so heartbroken these past several days that i cannot eat, sleep or work. Worst feeling ever...
Glad it helped Nina
Not sure if you're religious but praying helps a lot..
I'm not religious myself but turning to God when you're at a very dark place really helps.
Just came out of a devastating relationship. This was exactly what I needed to hear. Sometimes the feeling of "specialness" you give to another can mask your own feelings of low self-worth.
one man's trash is another man's treasure and one man's pain is another man's pleasure :)
Haley Plascencia your a rapper
Haley Plascencia so true 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
that is so heartwarming! Thanks for commenting it cause it made me smile and feel less like dirt cause i got broken up with :)
True ❤️
I once posted that and all kinds of ppl were saying “your calling yourself trash omg bla bla bla” seriously we live in a Society where people cannot understand similes and metaphors.
This helps alot. Recently my heart was broken by my ex. It was totally unexpected. I thought everything was ok. I loved him. He moved out right away and has ignored me ever since. I don't know what I did wrong. This is more of a shock then anything. One small fight...over something dumb and he gave up on us.. like the relationship had never mattered. Yes.. I may be better off without him. But it still hurts alot :( I'm use to coming home to him..but now I come home to a empty house and this depresses me. My thoughts are my worst enemy.
this is exactly the same thing that has happen to me and I'm feeling suicidal, the only thing that was different is that we didn't break up because we wanted too. I mean what did I do wrong?
Jasmine christianson WOW! this is exactly what has happened to me! except, we didn't live together, it's almost like we did tho. this just happened to me 3weeks ago, and i'm crushed more than ever. have you contacted him since...? do you guys talk, does he call you? :(
Nope. He just ignored me completely. I gave up. I have not heard from him for a month. BUT i found out he went back to his crazy ex.
Jasmine christianson oh wow! sorry to hear that. how did you find out? mine called me a couple days after the break up & wanted to be "cool" it hurt me SO BAD to cut that completely because how can i be friends with someone that i love deeply, but doesn't want anything more? NO. it's been a whole week with no contact. i'm broken more than ever, it's so hard! how are you holding up?
It's really hard to get over it. I'm still not over it. When you feel like crying..cry. it's part of healing. I've been keeping myself busy with work. Distracting myself..pretty much pretending he dosnt exsist. It's hard. Things are alot easier now. Time does heal. There will always be moments where I think of him and feel sad. But life does go on. And his ex girlfriend thought it would be nice to send a picture of them together thru facebook.. that's how I found out. She is crazy and loves drama. I guess that's what my ex wants.
I'm still hurting and broken and I've been out of a relationship for 4 months now, but it still hurts as if it's a newly open-cut wound. The advice you've given has helped a little, but I'm still broken-spirited! I've been praying every night asking the Lord to help me, guide me, and give me the strength to let go of the hurt and forget about that person..... Indefinitely!
its hard to forget someone you love the most. I dont know what to do. i cant stop crying, still hoping that this relationship can build up again. :(
How are you doing now?
Are you better now??
no one cares. me to suffering from same condition
Lilly Veggies same I just want to die
rofl
Seriously Noah, I'm beginning to believe that certain things come into our lives at certain moments for a reason. After watching your videos repeatedly for the last few day, taking some notes on them and writing my reactions down, I can say that it feels like I was meant to watch them. I really respect your views on the power of our thoughts and how they are a choice for us. My ex fiance left me in the middle of the night (literally) and never said goodbye at all. It came after we had lived together for only two weeks (I thought they were an amazing 2 weeks) and she immediately changed her number and contact info. No contact. Nothing. I looked weak and sad. I was seriously depressed and it was affecting every part of my life. I realize now that her negative thoughts had nothing and less to do with me and that staying with her would have been terrible. She did me a favour by leaving.
I literally didn't have a good night's rest for 7 months. This last week I had the first good sleep in forever. Perspective is a tricky thing but your words gave it to me. You are a gift my friend. I will always be grateful and I'm going to buy your book or something as a way to pay you for it. You deserve it. I can't imagine how many have been helped by these videos.
Grateful always.
Thomas
you look like you have felt a great many people's pain in this life. obviously this is an impression from a nine minute youtube video, so it may not hold so much water - but listen - don't lose this level of empathy, because it is a great rarity in this world. thank you for making these videos.
You're welcome Emily.
This is what I found to be effective to deal with the hurt of love:
First, it's okay to feel some pain, just let your self express itself, and do something to free these negative feeling by crying, dancing, running wherever it helps you feel good, after that, sit in a quiet place and think you should be grateful to that person for all the good moments spent with him, remember those moments and be happy that you had the chance to live them. second, find the things you learned from that person and what opportunities he gave you to grow up and develop in your life, and be grateful to him for that too. Third, apology to him (imaginatively) if he break up with you because of something you have done wrong without intent, even if you don't know what it is, just assume it if it was the case. Forth, just let him go and free him from your mind...give him freedom and wish him all the happiness and success.And finaly, close you eyes and imagine you burning him with fire in front of you not to hurt him but to release it from your mind and heart...then watch all the ash flying away with a big smile in your face.
Repeat this process for many days and do it at any moment thoughts about your lover come in your mind...and after a week you will be surprised that you may feel very independant of him without hate but with love...and even if you may meet with him again it will be a pleasure too.
every thing is happening in our mind...nothing is a truth fact...because being in love with somebody is a deep process of releasing hormones...and those hormonse are called
the happiness hormones...if it comes that the reason causing these hormones diseppear we feel instantly missing something. It's the same process for junkers.
if the drugs were the junker's releasing hormones, so your lover is your releasing hormones cause. As for junkers it takes time to heal, that's true for someone missing his lover too.
it's just a time, patience and persistence issues...like junkers, if you are addicted to your lover you can heal.
You might also find these videos helpful:
1) How To Deal With Loneliness... Right Now
2) How To Stop Thinking About Someone
3) How To Deal With A Break Up - WHY They Broke Up With You
4) How To Stop Feeling Lacking and Worried About Being Single (Stop Feeling Lonely)
5) You Don't Want To BE Loved... You Want TO Love
My breakup was over something very sad he didn't wanna but it was parental issues and you have the same name as him!!!!!! I'm okay cus we started out as BFF'S and we will always be BBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBFF'S
:D
I was talking to this boy for a while. He would tell me he would call me, when I would ask the next day he would say he forgot. Today my friend told me he has a girlfriend but he used to like me and that fluent matter anymore. I think it was because I'm not pretty enough for him. He made me feel pretty, so now he's gone and I just keep thinking about him replacing me with something better. It hurts I lil bit
Brittany Lopper boys are jerks don't think your not pretty because everyone is pretty
Noah Elkrief U're the best! ;)
Thnx but I was just saying what was true
I had my heart broken recently. I couldn't stop thinking about it. I would cry each day. I would demoralise myself. After watching this, I feel a lot better and healed. Thank you so much for this. Please keep making videos like these,because they are actually very helpful. Thank you again! :D
She broke my heart on Valentine's day..what a day to remember..isn't hurt enough.
i feel you bro , it happened to me last year
Metalver Head what an evil bitch
I got heartbroken before valentine's at the 13th February 😔
I am now emotionless. I never cry, I never laugh, i dont ever feel stressed, im never happy or mad.. and that is working out for me.
This is helpful. I was broken up and told it was all me and what I wasn't. In a nut shell not good enough to be his partner. It's so easy to believe especially when you love the person and look up to them.
Star777 I am going Thur the same thing
Sunflowershowers me too
Sunflowershowers its the worst when you feel so strongly for someone and you know they are past you....maybe even too good. I dont deserve something that great. Its like where did i go wrong
The worse thoughts about myself makes me feel not only unworthy of love but also that my whole life has come to a point where there is nothing left to give...
I have been watching your videos on this subject for over a week now. I am going through a really sad time in my life after getting broken up with who I thought was my one true love. Your videos help me more and more with every one that I view. Thank you for this. You are a very kind person.
You're welcome Chris. Good luck
I had to take care of my mom while she was dying and had to travel away from my fiancé. Just trying to be a good son and be with my mom in her last moments. During this time, I found out that I have stage 3 cancer, lost my job, car and savings! Just everything came crashing down on me.The only thing I had going to motivate me to get better was my fiancé....she was my beacon of hope. Just last week, she told me that after six years she cannot continue with the relationship because it is too hard for her and that she likes another man.
I feel so fucked right now...I can't stop thinking about us. Even my dreams are so cruel. I have no idea what I am going to do. I wish there was an anti-love drug that would make this pain in my chest go away. I feel like hole has been stomped in my chest. I miss and love her so much. Please help.🙏🏼
That is quite allot to go through. Try to stay strong, she aint worth it. I know it is much much harder than that sounds. I myself have been trying to get over a relationship, unsuccessfully, for the past 3 years. Even though I have always known it was a poisonous relationship, i still cannot get myself to move on and it has very badly effected all aspects of my life.
All i can say is this; we are all prisoners of our own minds and how we think, either we can change it, or no one else can. I wish there was a pill for it.
Thank you for the reply. I wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy. I am sorry my friend that you are still dealing with a heavy heart after this long. She must have been very special to you at one point. Its just amazing how you treat someone so well, putting them first in every aspect of your lives together, and then they just leave. I wish I could say that I take comfort knowing that there are others suffering like me, but i really dont. This is horrible. Be strong brother.
we always seem to want the wrong person.
Hey, I am completely broken hearted as well, I wanted to write to you to let you know that I think I know how you feel, I have been waking up, every single day, with a literal pain in my chest, from the heart ache, it had never happened to me before, it is difficult to gain the strength to get out of bed, take a shower, eat, do the simplest things!! let alone work or distract myself. in this time i was wondering if it was possible that anyone else go through a pain like this, but after reading your comment about the pain in your chest, I felt comforted knowing in not the only one and wanted to let you know you aren't either. i wish I could have advice for you because I know you are in pain, but all I can tell you is what I tell myself, through out time, there have always been people who go through this, people who are going through it now like us, and people who went through it and are now better. I am not going to tell you she " was not worth it " or is a bad person, everyone has their own struggle, I am sure the time you shared together was very much worth it, and the love very real, but now that the relationship is over, be comforted in knowing that another person will always come along, who you will be very happy with, and learning to love and accept yourself is the most important thing. I'm sorry about your mom, your illness and your job, atleast your fiance was honest with you so you can thank her for that and begin to move on. I am sure that one day you will be happy again, so happy, that you will be thankful for the break up and the pain that you are in now because it let you to a better happier life.
luzorquidea thank you for the encouragement my friend. It's all consuming and painful as I'm sure you or anyone reading this knows. She creeps in my mind every moment of the day...doesn't matter what I am doing. It's like a cruel addiction.
All I can do now is fight for myself and be selfish. I have so much to contend with that I need to just think about me, as hard as that may be at the moment I have to try or this will bury me... literally!
I'm going to seek a professionals help with this just to try to deal in a healthy constructive way. I have so much love, anger, hate and jealousy in my heart right now that I feel like I am going to have a complete melt down.
If I could offer advice to anyone...it's this. While you have your health...make every effort to take advantage of it. Do everything you have ever been curious about. See a movie alone or with a friend. Connect with people you have lost touch with and go see them...go do anything...everything! I am stuck being as sick as I am so limited to do anything except think all day. I just know that if I wasn't ill I could do so much more to make this a least a fraction better.
I do take comfort that people have gotten through this, but it breaks my heart to think about anyone feeling this amount of pain. I just hope soon this begins to become less and less difficult to manage. Thank you again for your message. I hope you and everyone who is dealing with this, finds peace and resolution in your hearts! 🙏🏼
The shape won't fit the other shape. Just have to find where it fits. Doesn't mean anything is wrong with it. That was AMAZING and it's helping me get over the resentment and anger i had over his girl
what if you really fit well but the person's parents are closed minded and homophobic?
+jonathan bailey Glad it has helped Jonathan
That hit me like a truck. I even teared up a bit. It really helps thinking like that.
Go find the one that fits! You GO boy!
what if you never fit?
I never knew that videos like these would actually help. My ex cheated on me and I was left hanging, not knowing where to begin because our relationship was not even ended properly. I realized a lot through your words. Maybe I'm just that triangle shape that doesn't fit in his square hole. And it's up to me to find and for that triangle hole to come in my life. Thank you. :)
*find and wait
Same situation here. You're not alone. I see this comment is a few months old and I hope you've healed since. I've got a tough road ahead of me...
That Noah saved a couple of hundred animals.
This Noah saved over a hundred thousands hearts.
Thank you.
Yes he did
What about me👀?
@@noahclark8298 You saved my afternoon with your comments. Thanks.
First time, I smiled this week. Thank you, this made me feel better. :)
You're welcome Maya
@@NoahElkrief sheikh I have a question ,
When I talk to my brother or other people and while there don't reply me ,. At that time I feel upset , so when this happen again how can I avoid this feeling , sheikh
Even if there are bad or maybe did not hear what I said , or don't Care much that I was asking , so how can I avoid the pain sheikh
For now I am feeling fine ☺️
But this case it happen much to me , like ever 1 month this Happened ,
I would like to have a answer when this thing happen , so that I could have no feeling to upset me and just being cheerful
And alhamdulillah I do the zikir and other Good stuff , but I would like to have this answer so that I could not taste that upset feeling , cuz it make me 😭
And please sheikh make me strong Iman so that I could have no feeling when someone hurting me by taking aslo
I rarely like or comment on a video but I decided to randomly search for videos on how to mend a broken heart. My relationship ended almost a year ago and I still feel so hurt, especially as I was never provided with a reason as to why he didn't want to be with me anymore. I was left to stew in my own thoughts. But this video has made sense, people have said similar things to me before but it never sunk in until I watched this video. So thank you very much for helping me stay on the path to mending my broken heart.
You're welcome Amy. Good luck!
It is not only about what we think of ourselves. It is also about wanting and loving someone and not being able to be with that someone or connect with that someone. Or that you want to be with that someone and s/he does not show interest.
Every time I begin to feel hurt from being rejected by someone I care about or someone in general I come and I watch this video, it immediately makes me feel better about the situation. Thank you for your advice and support Noah.
so my ex of 8 years, just recently broke it off with me 3 weeks ago! we were giving ourselves a 2nd chance after being off for 3 years straight. 8 MONTHS ago, we decided to give it another try, because we still loved one another. we were doing SO good, talked about moving in together, starting a family, being committed, marriage, etc. mind you, he's the one that came up with these ideas, he issued them out to me, of course i was happy about it! but for the past couple weeks, we were a little distant, and fighting a lot. i've been going through it msyelf, because i just lost a friend in a horrible accident, so i kinda just wanted to distant myself away from everything. we had been arguing over petty stuff lately, and a petty ass fight led to him telling me he's done with us. he's done with me, with us, him giving up is what he claims. he tells me he loves me more than ever, but he just doesn't have any hope for us any longer. but this came from one day to the next, that's what i don't get! if we hadn't gotten into that little ass fight, this would've never happened! the thing that keeps going through my mind over & over again is... WHY DOESN'T HE FIGHT FOR ME, FOR US? WHY GIVE UP NOW...? AM I NOT WORTH FIGHTING FOR? AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH? the thing is, when i felt like giving up, he would beg for me to stay, he would look me in the eye & ask me "alex, after all we've been through you're ready to let our dreams go.." & i would just fall weak & remember why i love this man & i would continue fighting for us, so i would take him back! & the same night he broke it off with me, i asked him THE SAME THING and he said "i don't want us anymore, i'm done, i don't see myself with you" it hit me to the CORE, never been so hurt before in my life.
this happened 3weeks ago, and i've cried myself to sleep ever since. i do text him, and he still replies, i still call, and he still answers, but he acts like a "friend" & once i start talking about US, he gets mad & hangs up on me. he says he wants to remain "cool" & hold no grudges, and at some point i was ok with that because he was still there. but it's really just HARDER, because i'm just holding on to hope now. & i know he will never come back, he's made that clear to me. so last night, i ended everything. i said i couldn't be friends with him, and he was perfectly cool with it! he said he would be ok without me in his life! (i broke down crying) :(
how could i put myself out there & get nothing in return from someone i want EVERYTHING with. it hurts me DEEPLY to know it's over & done with. i don't wanna text/call but it's soooo hard, i think about him all the time, so many questions come to my mind! WHY WHY WHY!
Hi there, a month later now are you still feeling the same way?
If you need to talk you can message me. You remind me a lot of myself, very emotional and passionate. I'm Italian, I sometimes think break ups are harder for me because I'm used to being ruled by my emotions. I hope you are well.
Hi. I know how u are feeling. Its been almost a year for me. I still struggle sometimes. The guy was my best friend for 10 years before we entered into a relationship. Miss when we were friends. Maybe we can help each other. Message me if that's OK with u. Hope ur better now.
Hi. I know how u are feeling. Its been almost a year for me. I still struggle sometimes. The guy was my best friend for 10 years before we entered into a relationship. Miss when we were friends. Maybe we can help each other. Message me if that's OK with u. Hope ur better now.
I'm going thru the exact same thing : (
I'm sry
Hello, are you still trying to get over him? Mine is 95% same as your situation and it happened today. What do you do to stop thinking about him?
This video really help me recognize where actually that feeling of hurt coming from, just because we care about their opinion, doesnt mean their opinion is valid. True. Thanks i really do appreciate this video it helps alot
Zulzaimie Ismail You're welcome, glad it helped Zulzaimie
Noah, I would just like to thank you for making this video. For two years I still had feelings for someone who was awful. He cheated on me and lied to me multiple in the relationship and I felt like I wasn't good enough and that I was nothing because of how he could cheat on me and not feel bad about his actions. It took 6 months for me to get over him, and literally a day Later after I got over him he tried to contact me and it totally threw me off and I was back to the way I felt originally. it took me another year and a half for me to finally say "that's it I've had enough" and so I looked up on UA-cam about how to get over someone and I came across your "how to stop being lonely" video and then I came across this video.
After I watched this video I no longer had feelings for my ex. Thinking about him no longer made me sad, and it felt almost weird to not to feel hurt and depressed that he wasn't in my life anymore. And just a 9 minute video fixed me. Thank you so much.
Guys, just found this video on an old playlist I had to deal with a bad rejection. Life couldn't be better now. The girl even came back to me at some point but I was totally over her and chose to keep following my new path in life. A breakup is never the end, it's the beginning of a new life on which you have the chance appreciate your own self and value. If you weren't accepted by a person in the past, this person wasn't meant for you, now or ever. Enjoy life as it is and learn from it. Learn to love unconditionally. Learn to let go. Learn to move on. And learn to appreciate the gift of being alive
The words that he is saying at the last is absolutely amazing and when you ask yourself those questions then you will know that you are perfect. This help me a lot thank you 😊
I got you but it may hurt more when we see them with someone else 😞
I'm glad I found this video this is so inspiring for those people who are still hurt from their past relationship.
Bro,you're a great motivator.
Helped me a lot.
Thanks Tahsinur
@Elle L I agree. My husband and one truly great love of my life rejected me and cheated on me. Trust me, I feel you pain. xo
+Elle L its funny when a comment helps more than the video
***** well feeling broken will do that to you and when u have a point it shows :/
Elle, the one person you loved wasn't the person you imagine them to be. You imagined you could have someone to love, you imagined you could have someone who loved you... the person you fixated on is not that person. You're fixated on a fiction that only exists in your mind. Did you want to fall in love with someone who refused to love you? Of course not. You want someone who will love you, someone who will be happy to be loved by you - the person you fixated on is not that person. Break free of these tricks you are playing on your own mind. The person you thought you loved is not real - it's a fiction. Your own thoughts have been hurting you - train your thoughts to work for you instead of working against you. This deception is common due to children feeling rejected by their parents and caregivers. Train your thoughts to be your best friend. Be kind and compassionate toward yourself and break free of the deception.
Could someone else think I am wonderful and want to be with me? I am taking notes, love this!
sunshine Hello my friend I was just in the same situation like you not until a friend of mine introduced me to this powerful man from Africa who really helped me. My ex came back to me begging and crying. Now we are together and happy. Message him now on his WhatsApp number+2348063159440
agenmonmen peace hi, is this for real ? How he helped you? I would love to use a little bit of help for myself, I’m dying here.....
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The analogy where you said just because the square shape doesnt fit in the triangle shape hole doesnt mean the square is not good enough for the triangle hole. It just means we dont fit their definition of perfect. I love this. I've never thought about it like that.. thank you for the video. I'm consciously going to try never to forget that for forever. 💜
Your voice n words is so calming...i just been left by someone that i love...but your words inspire me to keep moving.
A broken heart can cause so many health issues 😕
A broken heart (hurt) that is unprocessed and unexpressed can cause health issues. If it is felt, expressed, released, and healed, then it's all love.
I cryed in this video I got rejected by my biggest crush and she sits next to me so every time I cry or I'm about to it's hard to love 😔😔
You just saved my life honestly. There has been so many people putting me down for reasons I didn't really understand. I hated myself to the point of suicidal thoughts. This helped me realize that I am who I am and that's quite alright. :) Thank you so much.
The fact that people like me have to search comforting message as this, says more than enough what people goes through. Spread Love.
That might apply well on a ending of a short relationships. However when a couple has been together for years, I think most of the pain comes from moments and memories you miss so much. They had a good time together, whole life together and suddenly it is gone. All those small moments of being together; having dinner, watching movie, playing games, you wont have those with that person anymore. It hurts! So is there any mindtrick to continue life all alone without feeling sadness over those small things?
I always come here whenever I'm in a depression , you always make me calm. Thank you so much
You're welcome Boyary
I just lost the love of my life, I don't care about other people thinking I'm good enough, all I care about is her thinking I'm good enough, and worth being with :(
Jacob Løfdahl Same. It might be codependency?
this helped tremendously.right now i feel so broken, lost, hurt and used.. but this helped a bit. i know ill find somone that truly loves me someday. Thank you so much for this video.
+nevershoutkarla You're welcome
I am just glad to read all the comments people are making on his videos, because it lets me know that I am not the only person going through this. It's a misery loves company kind of a thing. Ya know?
For me it's the thought of "HE doesn't find me worthy enough to be with him." :( that is truth, and also "I can have anyone else in the world but I only want him."
Help? :(
+Its_Toni Whaaa omg you just made my day! Your right there is a person out there who will appreciate me!
+Toni_ Vercetti I'm in the same situation where I have this 'boyfriend' who doesn't appreciate me at all. I cry over him so much and he doesn't even think about how I am feeling or doing. But I'm so in love with him I can't get myself to break up with him. Any advice?
Oh my goodness, boy did you hit home with me. I really enjoyed this. I feel awake now. And sooooo happy.
Shonda Vermillion5 Glad to hear it Shonda
Thanks a lot for your video! Yet it is hardest to break up with a person still being nice to you, telling you deserve better. Makes a girl just want this guy even more for some reason..
+thekalinka918 Same here...
Same here... :/
exactly :c
If he was the man you want him to be, he would love and care for you - with kindness, gentleness, tenderness and helpfulness - instead of using words to manipulate you into staying with his self-absorbed immaturity.
You have to recognize that it's not your job to make them happy. Even if you stayed with them, you can't delete the thoughts in their head so you couldn't eliminate their unwanted emotions. You aren't making them suffer. Their thoughts are.
Two words:
Thank you.
I had my first break up (I'm 15) and we had been together about 2 years and all the pain I felt was almost gone completely after watching this. Thank you.
This is helping me at moment. I need to get past my feelings.
Monica Mahabier Glad it's helping Monica
Yes. I still think about this person but I am learning to get on with my life and learn more about relationships so next time I will be more prepared. Time will let me get over him as I got over all the others! Thanks
thank you noah you help me a lot , it's so hard but i can do it , i love you imane but you leave me so i can forget about you
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...but what are you supposed to think and feel when your fiancee calls the whole thing off and cancels the wedding with no real closure... their only answer seems to be "i don't understand it myself" or "i am sorry i don't know where this has come from"... and then that same person who used to be your best friend suddenly just becomes another stranger and doesn't want to talk to you anymore?... :(
+Adam Michael sorry Michael
+Adam Michael I feel your pain I'm in a similar situation I've been praying A LOT
+Adam Michael i understand you.
I am doing that to someone right now. 6 years relationship and i don't understand at what point i got confused and unsure about it. I don't understand how i feel about it. What made me ask for time apart from each other was when I tried to think about the future. I feel like I am a horrible human being, but i've been together for so long with this person and yet i feel like i can't spend the rest of my life with him. So I had to make a decision, break it now while we're young or drag it until it's too late to back out (marriage/kids). It's not that i don't love this person, it's that i want to live certain things in life and that person is preventing me from it and, in my case, I feel like i'm too young not break free.
About your best friend, i don't know what to tell you, but I hope it all turns out well.
+dawnlessday same situation. just that I'm the one who was left behind. almost 7 years together and suddenly she left me for the same reason you have. she wanna find herself, she want to do something without me. she don't see herself with me. I'm hurting like hell.. it's only a month since we ended the relationship
OMG this help me soooo much I'm currently going through a break up .. And this video made me realized I was actually blaming myself saying I'm not good enough but I'm so over him now and realized I deserve better thank you !!!!
Great post Noah. I am currently on a journey of self discovery after my 13 year marriage ended and i will say your words could not ring more true ... though her opinions of the marriage are different than mine, it true that there are many great people out there that would think the reason a ex left are what make you so dam attractive ... thanks again Noah
If i could delete my last 6 months memory or go back this period of time!
Ojoshrodhara Sur same
Your voice is so relaxing, automatically makes me at ease
I'm glad I could help
My heart's broke its over whelming and omost feels physical
My boyfriend just broke up with me. Two days ago we were having the best time. Tonight he said that he does not know what he wants. He said he loves me but he is not sure about relationships. I am in shock. I love him. I am hurting guys!!!
How are you now?
Great advice on dealing with rejection. I need to put it on a tape loop and play it over and over. It's also true that what was once a good fit may change when you or (especially) the person who rejected you changes. And, taking a note from "How to Stop Thinking About Someone," that change may have made them a less worthy person. You may be better off to have been rejected because you are now free to find a good fit for now.
what if 2 people rejected you, not only 1 ! then here comes the huge problem!
If two people both agree that a movie is bad, does that mean it is? If 2 people don't like you, doesn't mean you aren't likeable?
thanks man you made me get over a severe heart break !
i war rejected by 7 people and i'm fine so think about that
Omar Sebry only two ppl 😕
Omar Sebry
what about this , if you are actually not good enough?
You can work on becoming a better person - this is easy and fun to do. I will tell you how I did it: Keep all poisons and toxins out of your life - this includes toxic people. I avoid drugs and booze, junk food and angry, cruel, self-absorbed miserable people. I avoid chemicals, gmo foods, I don't eat animals, etc. - this results in needing extra protein which comes from beans, nuts, protein powders, etc.
I choose a life of truth, love, peace, health, happiness, helpfulness, kindness, gentleness, beauty, fun, laughter, innocent and magnificence... because of these choices, I live a wonderful magical precious quiet peaceful happy life. My work is fulfilling and uplifting - and I'm happy with who I am as a person - people can sense my happiness - I get compliments almost every day.
That is how you become good enough - you simply make choices that help you to improve the quality of your life. You owe it to the beauty of the soul within you to love yourself and this is the way you to do it. Treat yourself with kindness, compassion and loving care. Do this by constantly reminding yourself - which is to re-program yourself - by telling yourself you choose truth, love, peace, health, happiness, helpfulness, kindness, gentleness, beauty, fun and laughter...
As we adapt our thinking to embrace the beauty of life, our lives transformed into amazing awesomeness.
sry i will not give up meat eating but drugs are a no no
Whirled Publishing becoming a better person is not a easy thing. mostly when the way you like to do things is not good enough for other people
Says who??
@@WhirledPublishing for me he thinks that I'm a wonderful person, but he thinks that I don't look beautiful enough to be in relationship with him :(
Noah hey, how does one stop jealously particularly in terms of caring about someone but feeling hurt as they're sleeping around.
Hey Kris, check out my jealousy video
This helps me, my wife of 16 years left me for another man , left me with our 2 young children , she disappeared and has not seen the kids since, I was so heartbroken that I had a mental breakdown, these videos are helping me recover 18 months on
Thank you. This is exactly what I needed to hear because my ex told me everything that he was and I wasn't. It's only his opinion so what you said has given me more peace and self-love. I appreciate all you said!
suddenly my friend maintains a distance from me. it is hurting me like something. i couldnt conc at anything. i just cant do things normaly. i keep on thinking that i have gone wrong somewhere . give me solu out of it plz
thank you, I was blessed to find this video. it still hurts but your video helped a lot.
You're welcome, glad it helped Jose
this guy a totally stranger to me who used to stare at me before but not making any move, he seems so weird, so I get curious who he was, we had a little chat but later on found myself falling for him. And he's taken he has girlfriend, don't like to ruin their relationship so he must stop what he's doing to me,. It's just that, I fall for the wrong person again 💔
France Lily Sorry
well that's life were definitely not meant to be, I love my freedom anyway, free to choose my better next *^▁^*
Thank you for making me think of good things rather than hurt myself...
If someone could watch this video who are in pain right now I'm sure what you talk about on your video gives them relief about the pain that they feel during heartbreak.
I've been dating my boyfriend for awhile now. We've been on and off. He constantly asks for money. It bugs me a lot. Last week he cheated on me and lied about it. I'm still incredibly heartbroken, but he's so aggressive and wants me to smile and shake it off. It's not that easy. Yesterday, he told me if I did something for him then he wouldn't of cheated. It's like a constant bullet to the heart..I don't know if I can handle it anymore. But when I try to leave he makes me feel guilty and says he's gonna hurt himself. So I stay. Any advice about it?
Hey if you ever need anyone to talk to. You can email me.
as far as my own truth and experience if you don't pull enough courage to end this kind of manipulative relationship you'll end up in abusive relationship for years and years just like the women I use to be with in my group counseling session.. they have kids and everything they held on to the relationship for years hoping the guy would change but they never did ..you may also want to learn about the cycle of abuse. good luck
Drea A thanks bro
Call the cops!
Thank u you helped me through a break up
The only thing I can't live with is the change my life will never be as good as before :( I just can't take this..
Jessica You'll eventually move on.. I can totally understand you.
Thank you for the reply! I hate this more than anything :( I guess time is the only help now..
jessica, the only thing you need to do is to change your mind..
don't put negative thoughts in your mind coz mind is the power thing in the universe..
Even God saith renew your mind not your heart..
Romans 12:2King James Version (KJV)..
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing
of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable,
and perfect, will of God.
trust me, i've been there..you will have a good life and you will live your life as happier as before..
Proverbs 23:7King James Version (KJV)
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.
Jessica You'll come out stronger than before. I got heartbroken by the only girl I ever truly loved. This has only made me stronger.
Thank you so much for this video. It brought me to tears. Your analogy about the 4-year-old with the blocks was so profound; it just resonated so much with me. Just as everyone isn't perfect for me, I am not perfect for everyone, nor should I expect myself to be. I will be the perfect fit for someone out there, and I am no less of a person just because I didn't "fit" with my ex.
Wow. Thank you so much. This video has entirely changed my perspective. God bless!
I'm going through a very hard time after breaking up with the person I love the most... your video is helping me a lot. Thank you. It's really life saving
I wish I saw this video 3 years ago... this made me feel so much better! Thank you, Noah
You are appreciated...
+Zasha Zorbia Thanks Zasha
I was best friends with this guy for a year and he started being mean after he found out I was in love with him. I still can't seem to heal the broken heart. I feel like It's my fault our friendship is over because of my feelings...any advice? 💔😔
Thank you 💜 I'm doing much better now. I'm focusing on someone new
Thank you very much Noah, i am crying, it really hit the spot.
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OMG! This is the single most helpful video/advice I’ve heard. Thank you so much. I’m a “betrayed wife” I thought it was my fault. He doesn’t want me and I keep thinking “what’s wrong with me? I’m not a horrible person so why is he treating me like this....” I feel useless, unlovable, and depressed. I’ll definately take this on board. Thanks Noah :-)
Thank u so much u helped me feel so better
Sparkle bubblez glad it helped Sparkle!
Thank you. i just went through a breakup today. this helped
+Combustible You're welcome
Same, she says its my fault which isn't true we were fighting but I wasn't expecting her to dump me :(
ybyb1231 Thanks dude yeah your right. its too late though i already texted her and shes replying right now should i open it im scared man
+Suicidal Sheep5K
hey man... i know EXACTLY how that feels... i hurt my girl without ever meaning to and i cant sleep,eat or be happy.. ive split with her before and have always resisted the urge to text and tell her how sorry i am. last night i drank too much and relented! biggest mistake!
Nils Allen-bayes Dude what should i do !? there's this bloody muffin txtin my ex and making it look like its me! He keeps tellin her she's useless ugly and all that crap making her want to dump me because of it. If i find this shoe im going to hit him up irl man i can't stand it anymore ! He obviously likes her alot considering he's trying to sabotage my life. I guess that's all that that muffin can do. Bro any tips on helping me out with this problem?
what if every girl I loved didn't love me ? I loved twice I was been rejected twice for no reason :(
Then you need a hug homie. Just love yourself and keep trying man.
+Houssem The360GUnnER I had once but she got a boyfriend already :((((
Thank you Noah Elkrief YOU are the best, Love you Bro for giving me back my heart. I cant believe that it took a man in a video to help me get pass my broken heart and now I start the healing process. I truly have no words to express my gratitude, but to simply say GRACIAS de todo mi Corazon to yours.
Noah You Are my life ❤ You save my life billions times ..and from my worst timing moments...Thanks u..☺I will be with u.. Noah
"If we don't fit in someones hole, it doesn't mean there is something wrong with us"
597k broken heartssss :((
Bxtch;; I have abroken heart
We need to find our perfect hole, so we can go in 🤔
Wonderful video bro , It sucks being rejected especially when that person has genuine feelings. But at the same time I pray for them, no matter the pain they brought on me, forgive them, it's in the hard times we become humble and wiser.
You have been such a bigg help for me atm. I'm going trough a breakup with my boyfriend i was togheter with for 3 years. Im so happy for your videos being here.
Thank you. You made me remember that we ARE our thoughts. If we change our thoughts, we change the way we think. I needed reinforcement, and this helped me.
Know the value of your unconditional love and understand that it should not be given to people who don't deserve it and if if someone can't love you unconditionally then don't waste the time and effort. This is what along with time help me to get through a break up.also reconfirming to myself that I was born alone and I am capable of surviving on my own. I am not weak I am strong and life will go on.
Know you’re worth.....just because someone didn’t see it or learned to value it doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy. Everyone that’s in your life right now is there for the journey, but not everyone makes it to the end.
Thank you Noah for using your power for good and trying to help those of us in pain and in need of your wisdom. Thank you
The example you gave about the 4 year old who couldn't fit the shape, is honestly the best way to put it. It was really helpful. Thankyou :)