THE FILIPINA PRESSURE WHEN DATING A FOREIGNER

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  • @LoicFoundGrace
    @LoicFoundGrace  4 дні тому

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  • @kokalti
    @kokalti 2 дні тому +12

    You have no idea how hard we work for our money in the west. No one is entitled to somebody else’s money. Get that through your pinoys head.

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  2 дні тому +2

      Thank you for sharing your perspective. It’s true that hard work is a universal value, no matter where we are in the world. Everyone’s experiences and struggles to earn a living are valid and deserve respect. It’s always good to approach conversations about money and effort with mutual understanding and kindness. Let’s strive to build bridges and foster empathy, as we all navigate life’s challenges together. Thanks for watching God bless ❤😊

    • @samuelschick8813
      @samuelschick8813 22 години тому +3

      When looking for a house to rent, my wife goes by herself and nails down the rent and advance. Only then do I go to look at it and make the final decision. Wife looked at a 2 bedroom, 2 storey apartment once and agreed to the terms. So she went and got me and I looked at it and agreed, so off we go to the office to do the paperwork.
      Sitting down at the desk talking with the pinay owner:
      Me: " How much is rent and deposit?"
      Owner: " Rent is 30,000 pesos a month with 3 months deposit."
      Me: " We were told rent was 20,000 a month with one month advance."
      Owner: " Who told you that? "
      Me: " You're employee who showed my wife and I the apartment."
      Owner calls in the employee : "How much is rent and deposit on the apartment they looked at?"
      Employee: " 20,000 a month with one month deposit."
      Owner gives the employee a dirty look and sends her away.
      Owner talking to me: " Well you have more so you should pay more."
      Me to owner:" Well you have more than most people in the area. So should you pay more also?"
      Never ceases to amaze how Filipinos/Filipinas are never ashamed nor embarrassed when they are caught trying to cheat someone. Had a Filipino steal my Hush Puppy shoes once. Well the brgy captain knew who took them and told him to give them back. The thief's excuse for stealing my shoes,,, " If you do not want Filipinos stealing your stuff, don't buy it to begin with."
      Like Filipinos as much as you want, but never trust them.

    • @lightner6924
      @lightner6924 21 годину тому +1

      I know. They think every forienger is rich 😂. It's wild really.

    • @kokalti
      @kokalti 21 годину тому

      @@samuelschick8813 Yeah it really grinds my gears that they think they are entitled to your money. That's not how the world works. Like what world did these childish people grow up in? If they want to ask anyone for money they should start with their corrupt government. Not some tourist just because they are white. Their own people pay them bottom wages and get rich off of them. That's why the wage gab there is so huge. Their own people are cheating them. They should start with fixing that. Ridiculous.

    • @DDK997
      @DDK997 19 годин тому +3

      Talk of sense of entitlement mindset. They think treating a foreigner as an ATM is their right.

  • @grantbradley5794
    @grantbradley5794 3 дні тому +6

    How true what you say is I work 7 days a week so my filipino wife and I can travel yearly to the Philippines. The expectations from her family is so great it is upsetting. We provide gifts for all her nephews and nieces every birthday and Christmas. We provide gifts when we go there all there foods when we are there and it's still not enough.

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  3 дні тому +1

      Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you work very hard to support your wife and create wonderful opportunities for her and her family. It’s clear you care deeply for them, and your efforts are truly admirable. Expectations can indeed be overwhelming at times, but it's important to set boundaries to ensure your own well-being too. Open communication with your wife and her family about your efforts and limitations might help manage expectations. Your kindness and generosity are already making a big difference, and that’s something to be proud of. God bless you 🙏🏾
      And thanks for watching ❤😊

    • @FrankSouza-ss7cz
      @FrankSouza-ss7cz 2 дні тому +4

      Its time to sit down and think. Does your wife prioritize her family before you. YOU should always come first. Filipino parents love to confuse and guilt their daughters when they know a foreigner is involved. It seems like you havent demanded that you are top dog in your relationship.

    • @willievalentin6450
      @willievalentin6450 2 дні тому +5

      @@FrankSouza-ss7cz In the past my Filipina wife expressed frustration (attempted guilt from her mother) over the demands for money her mother was putting on my wife (her sister attempted it as well). My wife is a homemaker/housewife (no work) and wonderful mother to our 2 kids. It did not matter how much I bailed (helped) the mother out, it just was never enough. I knew this going into the relationship, and my boundaries were well set. The minute I said ENOUGH...My mother-in-law referred to me as a "selfish man" because I just don't piss away my life's work away on her (them). Referring to me as selfish man did not bother me, as it was expected sooner or later. Funny to think how quick she/them forgot of all the aid provided to them beforehand and labeled me as "selfish".

    • @FrankSouza-ss7cz
      @FrankSouza-ss7cz 2 дні тому +2

      Good for you bro. Your duty is the comfort and security of your wife and kids. I too was in the exact same position as you. Very early I told my wife they don't have respect for us. They only care about what they can get from us. NO MORE. Both of us much happier now.

    • @therealbronxbull8541
      @therealbronxbull8541 2 дні тому +1

      😂😂 that's hilarious.

  • @mauricepatterson9558
    @mauricepatterson9558 20 годин тому +3

    But what's crazy is local filipino men are not providing help to the filipina family. I never understood why that subject has to be directed to us foreigners. Its not our responsibility just like the local men.

    • @DDK997
      @DDK997 19 годин тому

      Very true. How ironic they view men as providers. I don’t have a problem with that concept but they never hold their fathers and brother accountable as providers. The narrative seems to be only for foreigners. Of course then when foreigners question this they are cheap or stingy. 😀😀

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  14 годин тому

      You make a good point! Supporting a family should ideally be a shared responsibility, not something placed solely on one person or group. While it’s kind-hearted for foreigners to help, it’s also important for local men to step up and contribute as well. A strong family thrives when everyone works together.
      It also depends on the man’s capacity to provide. Many Filipinos assume all foreigners are wealthy, but that’s not always the case. Support should come from the heart and within one’s means, with clear boundaries to avoid creating dependence. A healthy balance is what truly helps a family grow. Thanks for watching ❤ God bless you ❤😊

  • @spinnetti
    @spinnetti 2 дні тому +4

    Much of that pressure you put on yourself. Just live your own life and resist the judgement of others.

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  2 дні тому

      Thank you for your advice. It’s true that we can sometimes be our own toughest critics. Learning to live authentically and not let the opinions of others define us is a valuable reminder. Balancing self-acceptance with personal growth can lead to a more peaceful and fulfilling life. Thanks for watching❤ God bless you ❤😊

    • @FekalistaGrzybowory-lz8lh
      @FekalistaGrzybowory-lz8lh День тому +1

      You forgot to say that Pinoys are very judgemental and loves to maritise, ate

  • @Jaykp123aol
    @Jaykp123aol День тому +2

    Can be complicated for some one that’ can’t adjust easily

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  День тому

      That’s understandable, adjusting can definitely be challenging for some people. It takes time, and everyone has their own pace. Thanks for watching God bless❤

  • @stevenbathurst7027
    @stevenbathurst7027 День тому +2

    From the very beginning. you need to have a serious talk ,what your expectations are. be honest don't be evasive. I dated a Dominican girl. I made it clear my intentions. I`ve been happily married for 8 years. One of the biggest issues is supporting some ones family.. when you marry an older American or a European they don't want children for the most part( there's exceptions to the rule). they are past that. most young women want children. older men don't want to start over. To the issue of pressure you put on your self, that's on you.. you should not care what people say. you live your life the way you want. I understand filipino culture. the children support their parents when they become of age and get a job for the most part. in the US there is specific circumstances that an adult child will take care of their parent.(s) but that is a case by case basis. but this is just one of many issues of cultural differences we can elaborate on.

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  День тому

      Thanks for sharing your insights! You’re absolutely right honest communication from the start is key to navigating cultural differences and setting expectations. Supporting family, having kids, and dealing with external pressure are important topics to discuss openly. Every relationship is unique, and mutual understanding makes all the difference. Congrats on 8 years of marriage that’s inspiring! And thanks for watching we really appreciate it ❤😊

  • @valharris9346
    @valharris9346 День тому

    Many thanks for this video!

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  14 годин тому +1

      You're very welcome! We're so glad you enjoyed the video. Thank you for watching and supporting us it means so much! 😊 God bless❤

  • @sentinel80
    @sentinel80 День тому +3

    You as probably most Filipinas put too much importance on how others think, you put the pressure on yourself.
    All the reasons you mention is why although I’ve lived there and spend 3/6 months there every year, I’ve never had a GF, as soon as I spot the red flags of “family first” or “support me” etc etc, I’m gone. 👍
    Why would any sane person put their Filipina No 1 in his life but he will always at best be No 2 behind her family, if she has a kid then you will be No 3 of importance in her life 🤷‍♂️😳

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  День тому

      Thank you for sharing your perspective! It’s true that cultural differences can play a big role in relationships, and not everyone has the same priorities or expectations. In many Filipino families, there’s a strong sense of responsibility toward loved ones, which can sometimes be misunderstood. However, every individual is unique, and not all Filipinas prioritize family in the same way. Open communication and finding someone whose values align with yours are key to any successful relationship. Wishing you the best on your journey! Thanks for watching and God bless you ❤😊

    • @samuelschick8813
      @samuelschick8813 22 години тому

      @sentinel80, I was married to my first wife for 22 years and we had a daughter. Well she brought her family, mother, father and 3 sisters to the USA and they settled down in San Francisco while we were in Indiana. Her mother and father bought a large house in SF, then 5 acres up around Sacramento. They bought the land as an offer if I moved there, they would give me the land, I declined.
      Then they bought a house in Reno because they knew my wife wanted to live in Reno. What happened? About 2-3 years after buying the Reno house they called up and told my wife "It's time for you to come back to your family." Wife picked up and left without telling our daughter goodbye or that she was leaving.
      But as for your order, you are wrong, it should go list this in order of importance in life with Filipinas:
      1.) Her family always comes first.
      2.) Then comes the children she has with a Filipino second.
      3.) Then comes any children she has with the foreigner husband.
      4.) Comes every other Filipino/Filipina.
      5.) Then comes the foreign husband. ( That's if the foreign husband even makes the list at all.

  • @captainobvious8037
    @captainobvious8037 3 дні тому +8

    Stop providing me with more reasons why potentially finding love in the Philippines would be a dream come true. I'm already convinced 😂

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  3 дні тому +1

      Thank you for your kind words! It sounds like you're already excited about the idea. Wishing you the best on your journey you never know what wonderful surprises life has in store! God bless you ❤😊

    • @mudfreakjaing5108
      @mudfreakjaing5108 2 дні тому +4

      Truth and honesty, trust no one.

    • @Pilbara_Trucking
      @Pilbara_Trucking 17 годин тому

      No friend it’s a potential nightmare, be careful.

    • @captainobvious8037
      @captainobvious8037 17 годин тому

      @@Pilbara_Trucking everything is

    • @Pilbara_Trucking
      @Pilbara_Trucking 17 годин тому

      @@captainobvious8037 sadly you’re not taking me serious. Just be careful man and don’t rush into stuff that’s all.

  • @BB-dp4kh
    @BB-dp4kh День тому +3

    There is no pressure..dating is a choice not an obligation ..having a foreign partner has financial advantages

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  День тому +2

      Absolutely, dating should always be a choice made freely without any pressure. And while having a foreign partner can come with certain advantages, the best relationships are built on genuine connection, mutual respect, and shared values. ❤️ thanks for watching we really appreciate it God bless ❤😊

    • @fwnm
      @fwnm День тому

      @@LoicFoundGrace my wife herself wants zero money from me but her family allways is coming up and putting pressure on her... she is on they way to brake with them. I rejected to pay - I would pay in case of very serious health issues, never for anything else. They did fine before, they will do fine after. About my wife and her son? ALL! And she would give ALL for me and my daughter. From the first money my wife did earn she bought me new shoes...now she soon will earn more than me and I will retire. She really wants to give me a comfortable life - I know it. No luxus but all we need. But I feel all that pressure for her... she is so fed up. But we love eachother to maximum. Since many years allready. Best woman i ever met. I will never leave her. I met her beeing enslaved in Saudi Arabia when I worked there. I liberated her during my job - she never forget that, I feel it. Now she did get qualified in my country (in Europe) after years of studies... my wife feels like you... I see it. She is much younger than me but also in her mind older...

  • @southphillyexplorer
    @southphillyexplorer 5 годин тому

    My girlfriend has lost over 50,000 peso lending money out because they know she has a foreign boyfriend. I have been telling her for almost a year. Stop lending money out you're like 5'1 90lbs, what are you going to do to get it back. She's learning little by little, the hard way.

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  2 години тому

      Sounds like you’re really looking out for her, and that’s great! It’s tough when generosity gets taken advantage of, but it seems like she’s learning and growing from the experience. Sometimes lessons like these take time to sink in, but with your support, I’m sure she’ll figure out the best way to handle these situations. Hang in there you’re doing a good job being patient and guiding her! God bless you and thanks for watching ❤😊

  • @ArtaherDuron
    @ArtaherDuron 13 годин тому +1

    Yeah, the most difficult thing to get my wife to understand was that, I do not give her an allowance for her to give to other ppl. Instead of saving pesos, she'll loan it out to others. Then not have money for the whole month.Tell them no...
    Not to mention a lot of y'all's just have this cultural habit to burn money on silly things. Holiday or christenings coming up? Let's spend what little money you have and raise a pig, invite a whole village & eat it all in one night... Excuse me? That's an entire year of food. Butcher it and place it in a deep freezer.

    • @southphillyexplorer
      @southphillyexplorer 5 годин тому

      Oh God man. I know exactly what you mean. The mentality is beyond me.

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  2 години тому

      I get your point-balancing finances and cultural habits can be tough. Filipino generosity is rooted in community, but setting boundaries and planning ahead can help. It’s all about finding a balance that works for both of you!
      Thanks for watching god bless you ❤😊

  • @christopherm.cianfrocco5685
    @christopherm.cianfrocco5685 10 годин тому

    Filipinas should marry their own men no matter what! Filipinas should demand better from the Philippine government and should go to college and study any of the STEM offerings!

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  2 години тому

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I agree Filipinas deserve opportunities to thrive whether through STEM, better governance, or personal choices. Marriage and education are personal decisions, and what matters most is finding happiness and empowerment in whatever path they choose! Thanks for watching ❤😊

  • @dochi1958
    @dochi1958 2 дні тому

    Great video and great points! Bless you!

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  День тому

      We glad to hear that you liked our video❤ God bless you too❤ and thanks for watching we really appreciate it 😊

  • @bradgarling463
    @bradgarling463 День тому +1

    Well said! Give a man a fish for a day and he'll eat for a day, teach him to fish and he'll eat for a lifetime!

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  14 годин тому

      Absolutely! Teaching someone to fish not only empowers them but also builds a foundation for lasting growth and self-reliance. It’s a beautiful principle that applies to so many areas of life true giving is about equipping others for the long term. Well said! Thanks for watching God bless you ❤😊

  • @Flavour25m
    @Flavour25m День тому +1

    Hey girl i only understand half of your opinion meaning identify with. Iam 43 coming to philippines next year with 44. My job as a man is to provide for me and my gf #futurewife. Look I want her depend on me being able to take is very feminin giving is the male part. Next you were talking about having a car and what friends think about you. I dont really care tbh bcz the friends of my gf can just go away if they drain my energy and want my ressources for nothing. Give and you shall receive says the bible. So what can a girl do for me ? First depend on me second travelling with me explore and 3rd live their life according to my guidance with always the best interest in mind. Appart from some pocketmoney what does she need a car for? I can drive us arround. If we get children we can do homeschooling and keep pn travelling... I dont really want a wife who wants to be independend fk that 😅.

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  14 годин тому

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts!It’s great that you have a clear vision for your future relationship. Providing and leading with love and care is admirable, but a strong partnership also thrives on mutual respect and support. Independence doesn’t mean separation; it’s about growing together while valuing each other’s strengths. Wishing you all the best as you start this exciting chapter! God bless you❤😊and thanks for watching 😊

  • @dongzkiedscraffer739
    @dongzkiedscraffer739 5 днів тому +1

    Dumudugo ilong ko ma'am, hehehe ingat po

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  5 днів тому

      Hello sir ingat din pokayo ❤ God bless❤😊

  • @VloggingLife.
    @VloggingLife. День тому

    Great Video and good to see from our GF side. As Foreigner we may not know or think what you may be going through!!😉😉🤘🤘

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  День тому

      Thank you so much! We’re glad you appreciated the video. It’s true there can be so many things we experience that might not be immediately obvious. It’s great to have open conversations and understand each other’s perspectives better!❤ Thanks for watching we really appreciate it God bless ❤😊

  • @gigilapinff7624
    @gigilapinff7624 4 дні тому

    Hello Que dieu vous protègent ❤❤❤

  • @Pilbara_Trucking
    @Pilbara_Trucking 17 годин тому +1

    My wife is a Filipina and a narcissist.

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  14 годин тому +1

      That sounds like a challenging situation. Navigating a relationship with someone who may have narcissistic tendencies can be difficult, but open communication, patience, and understanding can go a long way. If needed, seeking guidance from a counselor or trusted advisor might help bring clarity and balance to your relationship. Wishing you strength and wisdom! Thanks for watching God bless you❤😊

    • @Pilbara_Trucking
      @Pilbara_Trucking 6 годин тому

      @ very challenging when they don’t want to talk and think they’re never wrong.

    • @southphillyexplorer
      @southphillyexplorer 5 годин тому

      Oh man so true

  • @robinanavallo1200
    @robinanavallo1200 5 днів тому

    Wag mo na pansinin sabihin nila sis. Basta happy ka, go lang❤

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  4 дні тому

      @@robinanavallo1200 Tama po kayo sis 😊 thanks for watching ♥️

  • @ginalynbanogon
    @ginalynbanogon 5 днів тому

    Done dikit na ma'am

  • @wernerschneider4460
    @wernerschneider4460 День тому

    My wife for 28 years had no pressure when dating me. Nobody in her family (comparably well off) expected her to ever marry, because she was known as extremely choosy (she didn't even ever have a local boyfriend) and turned down offers of several much older American pen-pals to marry her over the years. They were positively surprised when she married me at age 36 (in late 1996) after 8 years of exchanging letters and two years after we first met face to face. But they only allowed it to happen after they thoroughly interviewed me about my intentions. My oldest sister-in-law (high ranking civil-servant, department of land-reform at that time) behaved like a police-inspector interviewing a murder-suspect, expecting a confession of guilt. But after one hour she cleared me and gave her o.k. She's 80 in the meantime and we have a really great relationship. Love her.

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  День тому

      Thank you for sharing your story it’s so inspiring! It’s wonderful to see how your wife’s family cared deeply about her happiness and took the time to ensure her future partner was genuine. Eight years of exchanging letters shows so much patience and commitment, and it’s beautiful how that turned into a strong, long-lasting marriage. It’s also heartwarming to hear about your great relationship with your sister-in-law after all these years. Wishing you and your wife continued happiness together! Thanks for watching we really appreciate it. God bless.❤😊

  • @ginalynbanogon
    @ginalynbanogon 5 днів тому

    Nose bled ako sayo ma'am

    • @LoicFoundGrace
      @LoicFoundGrace  5 днів тому

      Hehehe hello ma'am thanks for watching po God bless ❤😊