In Nigeria co-sleeping is normal. I only saw it as an issue when i started following other moms from other countries. I love co-sleeping with my child. i love it!
Same, in Mexico it's normal. But since I'm a first time mom I wanted to investigate everything and just got worried for all the info against it from other countries. I could very well be sleeping through the night but I get up to feed ... 7 weeks in and I'm just going to start cosleeping.
I love this!! I didn't plan on co sleeping because I did believe some of those myths. We tried a bassinet next to the bed for the first couple of nights and my baby really struggled with that and no one got any sleep. Then we tried the thing you put in the bed. That worked for one night, but then he hated that too. My husband suggested just putting him In bed next to me. I did it, but then I layed awake frantically googling how to be as safe as possible. I felt this guilt and anxiety that something was going to happen to him all because we were tired of him crying for me from the bassinet where he was safe. Then I came to my senses and realized how traumatic it must be for baby to go from being warm and cozy inside mama listening to her heartbeat to being in a "big" empty space with no mama. Maybe some babies are okay with this, but my baby had a tough time adapting to life on the outside. Now co sleeping feels like the most natural thing in the world and I love it. It's what works best for our family.
This was my exact experience But id like to add that not co-sleeping was traumatic for me also!. I was so nervous that my son was too cold, too hot, choking on spit up, not breathing anymore etc etc. I would lay awake and watch him throughout the night and that was stressful for me as well. I didn't realise how much I NEEDED to have him near me so I can silence those racing thoughts and sleep better myself. I'm happy i cosleep 🌚♥️
i'm a student midwife and while we have to discourage co-sleeping while women are in the hospital due to hospital policy, nearly all midwives will give a sneaky comment of encouragement to mums who express interest in cosleeping. Also, every woman of African ethnicity i've cared for has been baffled about babies not co-sleeping! I had one African woman tell me beautiful stories of her now teenage children still jumping in her bed as a regular thing!
Jordan H so true! I had a home birth and all my lovely midwives did encourage sneakily to co sleep safely. But any staff from the hospital were like no no don't. Love my midwifes
I gave birth in Germany twice and the nurses gave us these bedside Co sleepers. Cute things with wheelies. But the nurses encouraged us to snuggle as much as we could with our babies. The head doctor told me that babies and mothers sleep better when they have physical contact. He encouraged me to co sleep because due to my csection my son has some issues adjusting to life outside of the womb. He gave me some pointers but definitely openly encouraged it. He said that were still mammals and we seem to be the only ones who put our newborns in a different bed and sometimes even a different room 🤷🏼♀️
Holy crap I needed this video!!!! I’m a first time mom ...my daughter is 1 week 5 days old and she is having a really hard time sleeping at night ..and the only thing that seems to be working is when she is in bed with me...I been feeling so guilty and like I was doing something wrong!!! This made me feel so much better! 💕
I've never actually though about this, I'm from India and I co-slept with my parents. In hindsight it's a special bond I think, especially with my mom (my dad worked overseas a lot). Even now when I'm sick or stressed out from exams or even if my mom and I have the house to ourself we end up sleeping together. I swear she can just snuggle me and I'm out like a light.
My mother-in law is driving me crazy with “no! Don’t have her sleep in the bed with you” I’m buying you a crib “ and she’s not even born yet! ... I’ve got a month to go. I’m from South Africa and I live in Florida , here co sleeping is a problem but back home it’s so normal. And I fully plan on co sleeping with my babygirl. I’m a light sleeper so she’ll be fine. Thank you for this video🙏
lol for me it was the opposite! my mom keep nagging me for not letting my baby sleep with me. for first few weeks, i tug my baby in crib but then thanks to my mom nagging that i end up co sleeping with my baby. and am glad that i did. i am enjoying it now.
Hi , yeeesss I loved it!!!!! She out grew her baby bed so she sleeps in her crib now at 10 months, she’s doing perfectly fine. I’m glad I co slept , it put me at ease knowing she’s right there.
@@floareasoarelui7758 yes I did!! It's actually great! I felt at ease and baby was happy. She's still breastfeeding and her crib is next to our bed but she always wakes up in our bed in the morning.
My daughter is 4 months younger than Jack and she HATES blankets, even brand new refused to be swaddled. The day I learned/mastered to breastfeed laying down, I cried with happiness.
My daughter had silent reflux as a newborn. One night I startled awake when she was a week old to her struggling to breath because she was gagging in the reflux. I was so thankful she was next to me.
Sex! Ha! I've had 6 kids and co-sleeping was life. I'd be dead if co-sleeping wasn't an option. Having said that, I had my oldest when I was 18, and I had NO clue co-sleeping was what it was called. It was just called sleeping. ❤
Girl thank you for this video. My husband is from Guatemala and he balked so hard at the idea of buying a crib. We didnt even use it lol. Except to cage son as a toddler when i had to get a shower lol. Breastfeed. Cosleep. Its soooo worth it.
I have a one month old and I am trying so hard NOT to co sleep because my friend just lost her 2 month old due to a co sleeping accident, but it's honestly proving to be impossible. It feels so natural to have my daughter right beside me in bed. We fall asleep together every single night while breastfeeding. She's happy and so am I.
Love this… my husband and I said, we, as adults like sleeping together. Why do we have to train a baby, a toddler, a young child to sleep alone? My son will spend the rest (most) of his life as an adult and away from me, he should naturally be able to snuggle with his parents when he is a baby. Whenever I fall asleep next to him, he sleeps through the night. But if we put him to sleep and leave him a lone, you see him moving all over the place in his sleep reaching for comfort and waking up scared and lonely My siblings & I are the most independent ppl I know. We all slept with our parents or our grandparents up to about 4-5 yrs old bc we were just poor and didn’t have lot of rooms… and Chinese folks have no issue Sharing beds with kids. Kids need security during their most defenseless times… which is sleeping. Give them the security they need as kids so the can have security and love as their base. And they will grow up MORE independent
You were a big source of encouragement to me when I was co-sleeping with my newborn 2 years ago. Now, I have my second baby and I feel so much more confident in my decision to bed share. My hubby and I cherish the baby cuddles and morning smiles.
Also, can we take a moment to think about how amazing it is being able to cuddle into your child after a long day. Some days are stressful and busy, and you maybe feel like you’ve told them “in a minute darling” too many times. Or maybe they’ve been pushing your buttons a little and you feel like you’ve done nothing but clean up toddler destruction.. then you get into bed and snuggle into your toddler and take just lay with them peacefully, as often they don’t even hold still long enough for hugs anymore.
Honestly majority of the time when I speak of the word co-sleeping to people they would start through all these myths at me to why I shouldn't let my daughter sleep with us in bed. It works best for me and I just love having her sleep next to me. I mean she's not going to be little forever and I cherish these moment. Thank you for sharing this video.
I love how you touched on the scientific things such as sleeping with your baby can stabalize both mother & babies breathing & heart rate also that moms usually stir a few mins before baby needs them & the myth about children not being independent due to co-sleeping, theirs actually scientific evidence that says children whom are kept close to mom, co-sleep, that they grow up to be very independent and are able to maintain closer relationships & friendships than children who are pushed into their own beds before they are ready. I read all about all of this stuff when my daughter was born 14 months ago, THANK YOU 😘❤️ for THIS! Hugs from Canada 🤗🇨🇦 ALSO when I mastered breastfeeding lying down 🙌 GOLD! sleepy dust for everyone!
My mother co slept w. All 6 of my siblings... I co slept with my 3 younger siblings and I was like 11 years old. Co sleeping was a given for me and my husband who is an only child took to it very naturally. After having my son in my belly for 8 months, just the thought of having him be physically away from me from one day to the next for any period of time made me feel uneasy, so co sleeping is what works for us.
Love this! I cosleep with both my children and couldn't imagine doing it any other way. It's natural for mom and baby(toddler/child) to want to be close to each other.
We just started transferring our 2 and 5 year old to their own room and it has gone way better than planned! We stuck to the same routine at night of bath and book and it was a breeze! It's so nice having the beginning of the night to myself!!
I'm a single mum and I've been co sleepinh with my kids for about 10 years. & i think we sleep so peacefully when we're sleeping in the same bed. and i noticed that in the beginning the children slept way longer next to me or in my arms compared to my sisters children who don't co sleep and have a broken sleep.
We are bed sharing with our 7 month old, and have been since night 1. She was born at home, and no way could I have left her in another room! And like someone else said, with breastfeeding it kind of comes naturally because you just end up falling asleep while nursing. Nursing laying down definitely makes things easier! We get the most amount of sleep possible (at this age) and my husband is still managing to get enough rest thankfully!
I co-slept with my daughter in the hospital after she was born. We had a pretty traumatic birth that resulted in both of us almost losing our lives. Co-sleeping brought so much comfort to us and now that she's older and more independent I really miss those days. I wish she would co-sleep with me now.
Sarah Pedro same they tried to tell me not to let him sleep on my chest bcuz of SIDS and while I was alert about SIDS I just wanted him close. Now we co sleep😂 even though he has a crib. I used to be a heavy ass sleeper like it took so long to wake me up. Now every single thing he does it wakes me up.
Thank you for the not-spoiling of babies! And the "fun" part :) I never know why people think that being close with a parent and discipline are opposites.
As an accidentally co- sleeping mama at present, thanks for making this video! Trying to get bambino to use the cot beside the bed but she just wants to be so close!
Love it. I still co sleep with my almost 3 year old. She's starting to show interest in wanting to move to the bunk bed with her big sister ad it breaks my heart a little. I've had a baby in my bed for 5 years and am not quite ready to give it up. I'm like you, by my second baby I knew it worked best for me with nursing and being able to get some sleep. I didn't expect for it to last this long but I still love it.
Yay to this video!! Co slept with my first daughter, currently cosleeping with my second daughter. My first daughter is super independent and confident.Made my son (first born and didn’t follow my instincts) sleep on his own and he is very nervous and insecure. Don’t know for sure that’s related but it’s interesting to me.
Thank you for this video! We just decided to cosleep at five months old because that is the only way we can get good sleep for long periods of time. I’ve been feeling anxious about even though I LOVE IT and feels right.
We have to be aware of north american beds with big cushy memory foam and really high bed frames. Most traditionnal bed situations are firm mattresses on ground level with minimum pillows. Cosleep crib or baby pods might help for an american family with such a bed.
I also thought about the fact that we make our kids sleep alone but we ourselves are not alone. I haven't been able to have peace with that idea. But you have a great plan to have your kids share a room. I would do that too and just stop when they themselves are ready.
Didn't co sleep with my first two, and with my baby we JUST got him sleeping in a crib a 1 year old after he was weaning! I think it's really what works for your baby. I'm thankful for the year I coslept with my baby. He's the most cuddly baby ever and it's something I will cherish forever.
Thanks for this!! We coslept with each of ours for the first few months. I loved your comment about spoiling your babies...I hear this too, and you absolutely cannot spoil a newborn! Another false comment I hear is that it increases the likelihood of SIDS... I think people who say this don't know the different between SIDS and suffocation, but with cosleeping helping the baby breathe evenly with mom, it can actually reduce the chances of getting sids. 😊
From India... All most all mums cosleep... It's just normal thing to do ... You are there for baby when they are vulnerable... Most countries in eastern world have strong family bonds...
Thanks for sharing such a positive experience! In Russia (where I’m coming from) co-sleeping is normal, but people mostly find it exhausting. I really liked your attitude and in general the way you speak! 👍🏼
My son, who's just a few weeks older than Esmé, just started using blankets in the last year (we just gave him a really really soft blanket a few months ago, and he loves it, only sleeps with it). My daughter, who's about 2.5, LOVES blankets. She insists on us putting ALL of her blankets on her. She has about 5 or 6 baby blankets. My son used a a sleep sack at that age I think, but she never took to it (she was also more of a "comfort item" baby, so she had a little cloth square that she used a lot, especially when she started daycare at 1 y/o). They both co-slept in the early days/months (before DD was born, DS would start the night in his room and end up in our room, which DD did as well as she got older). They share a room now, and they sleep great now for the most part, though I wouldn't mind them sleeping in a bit later on the weekends...6:20 is too early for a Saturday, even though we need to get up at 7 to get ready for swim class at 8:30, but I digress...DD has always been a better sleeper than DS. Marielle.
I'm a co-sleeping mom & I absolutely love it!!! I came across this video and I'm so happy I did! You just earned a new subbie!! I could listen to u talk all day!!! Great video👌🏾
I've co-sleep with all 4 of my kids from one time or another depending on their emotional requirements. as long as its done safely its the most natural thing in the world x
Love this! How you touched base on cosleeping only being an issue in north america; I read somewhere how were the only animal who oddly seems to think its dangerous to cosleep. Every other animal cosleeps! No other animal places their babies in a separate room from them! Its natural 💚
It's why I co slept with my son. I saw that my cat slept next to her kittens and they could just feed whenever they were hungry. It seemed so much more right than keeping him in a separate room and figure out the times I should feed him and stuff. It really just makes the most sense to me.
Thank you! Keep up the good work to normalize things like co-sleeping, breastfeeding... You looked very serious sitting in this desk chair. Like a real counselor 👩🏼⚕️😉
I had my youngest in my bassinet next to my bed until he was about 10 months. Then he started waking up 4-6 times a night to nurse (aka just wanted mama snuggles). I was miserable not getting any sleep. We transitioned him to his own room.. It was hard for about 2 weeks, but he sleeps 10 hours at night now and it's amazing!
We transitioned like you are planning when my kids were 2.5 and 4. I slept with them in their new room and bed for a few weeks and then slowly started to sneak off to bed with my hubby mid way through the night. There were some nights I had to go back to their bed but eventually they were fine. Now I just read a book, say our prayers and snuggle for a few minutes and then I leave. It was so nice for my hubby and I to have our bed back. We both still occasionally miss having them in the bed with us though! Stormy nights they all pile in so we still get an occasional slumber party :)
This is a great video, thank you so much! A couple things to note about co-sleeping; 1. If you are not breastfeeding your baby but you plan to co-sleep, be aware that you may not be quite as in tune with your baby as you would be if you were breastfeeding. 2. If you are normally a heavy sleeper, when there is a tiny person that you love so much in your bed, you will be roused much more easily because you will be thinking about the other little human who is sleeping with you ❤️
Nirsing my son- 22 and 1/2 months. Thought that dude was gonna be on the boob til college. One day he was like.... "Meh"...and I was like.. "Meh?" and he was like "Meh.....". I cried.
Just want to say I applaud how flexible you are as a mama! You truly put your kiddos first in a makes-sense-kinda-way whereas the majority of our culture is all about what’s convenient for the parent despite the discomfort or even damage to the child. Well done mama. It just makes sense!
I loved this video. I never had any intention of co-sleeping however after my son hated his Moses basket and it was so narrow lifting him in and out was a huge pain. Then I bought a co-sleeper for the side of the bed witch initially he loved after a small bug where I let him stay in my bed he decided he hated his own mattress and only mummys bed will do. So after many sleepless night of trying to get him back in his own bed I gave up and we are much happier now. However I am hoping when it comes to getting his cot soon and putting him in his own room it goes smoothly as I really would like my space back (who knew someone so little to take up so much room) Thanx for this video it helped me feel a little less guilty about keeping him close.
My daughter is almost 19 months, and still can't stand to wake up with a blanket even slightly covering her. I've noticed now I don't use or worry about blankets as well 🤔 🤷♀️ And yessss. I finally got sleep when I decided to bring her to sleep with me. Golden 🙌
Thanks for the video! I'm glad co sleeping is becoming less taboo. I would be very concerned if my child wasn't sleeping in the same room with me. It's too much in the middle of the night to get up and go into a different room. Being a mother, and a light sleeper, I love knowing I'm right there in case something goes wrong. I personally love these co sleepers the best: -halo bassinest (my most used for by the bed) -arms reach co sleeper -dock a tot -summer infant swaddle me by your side co sleeper (my most used for in the bed) I really love the mesh sides on the halo bassinest, arms reach co sleeper and swaddle me by your side co sleeper. I think they are very safe options. Great video! Thanks for debunking myths. Ps- also I purchased "bamboo bumpers" from amazon for use in my bed! They are much better than side rails. They have a breathable fabric and are made for co sleeping.
Another one of your great parenting-style videos! Thanks for touching on the subject! We cosleep with our 22mo son and just last night we had family (once again) make comments on our choice - gaaahh, I just smile and change subject!
Thank you so much for all of the information you just shared. My family is not supportive of me breastfeeding and co sleeping with my 30 month old daughter and it's nice to be able to ease my mind and stop worrying if I'm doing it right! I admire your love for life... struggles and all!
My husband follows western medicine too closely and our pediatrician said no to sleeping in bed with baby. Tonight he decided to take a break and sleep in living room for few hours. I fed baby twice and second time after she fell asleep I put her in the bassinet. After a while she stirred but it wasn’t time to eat yet so I put my hand on her to help her fall asleep. When she didn’t I grabbed her and put her next to me and she fell asleep fast and so did I. It felt natural and very good. I was fast asleep when I heard my name and knew I was in trouble. My husband had come back. He told me he is so mad at my for sleeping with baby in bed so I put her back in bassinet. He was so upset I started crying. I told him my mom used to co sleep with me in my bed when I was a newborn and eastern countries have been doing it for such a long time. He didn’t say anything but I wish I could do it again.
My husband has since changed his mind! For the last month my baby and I sleep in the bed together and it’s the best feeling ever. I told my husband I can do it safely and showed him some articles. He can’t imagine baby sleeping in bassinet again. She loves the closeness to her mom.
First of all, your hair and makeup are both super cute. Anyways, I co-slept with my son for a couple months when he was probably about 8-10 months old or so. He needed his own room, simply because he is a light sleeper, and sleeping with two other people and two dogs in the same room prevented my little guy from getting decent sleep. So I would get him to sleep, and put him in his crib. When he would wake up for a feeding a few hours later, I would go into his room and co-sleep with him on a mattress on the floor. It worked for us at the time, and now he sleeps (kind of) through the night on his own in his crib. Anyways, all of this is to say THANK YOU for your videos that share your life as a mom. I probably wouldn't have started that little journey of co-sleeping if it weren't for you!
That first myth is just so so true! Everyone always thinks it's so dangerous when they first hear it but when I explain it, they actually say it makes sense :)
Just came across your video and it is truly wonderful! My baby is now 5 months old and we've been bed-sharing the whole time and plan to for years to come. What gets me about the myths, is that they are so close-minded! As you mentioned, the majority of the world co-sleeps to some capacity, and well, many families have more than one child (they found a way to get creative!), those kids still aren't sleeping with their parents, and they all learned to be independent when the time was right, etc.
I have done this with my little one...was not planned but it was the best thing I ever done ...🥰 thanks for the video...planing to fo one myself too. 🥰
It's pretty normal for asian families. Even when i was around 13 i would sleep with my parents if I had nightmares. I used to have severe anxiety and co sleeping made me feel safer
I was so prepared and excited to co sleep/bed share with my daughter when she came along and she HATED it! She went into her own room at 5 weeks and from then would only wake up twice a night for a feed. Shes incredibly independent and has been from day one. But I am definitely ready to co sleep with the next if we are so lucky and if he/she wills it.
my parents in law are trying to tell me how to sleep with my 1 month old daughter and my spouse is also agreeing with them and i’ve felt so guilty and down because i feel confused but this video really helped me to feel better about myself and my routine, thank you 💕💕
I co slept for a long time with my son (i only stopped because he started to roll and fall off the bed) and he is not spoiled at all. People actually comment on his high level of independence for his age. He's nearly 2 years old and he can just quietly play by himself for long stretches of time, discovering new things and showing them to me from time to time.
You got a million of compliments from people who love the video. However, I see these are mostly women. Mostly moms. I hope you may then still enjoy one more happy comment from a guy. Yes. At 8:20, I agree with all claims, and thought I would make you happy to let you know (btw: my kid was co-sleeping with his mom for too long to admit, so I am NOT entirely ignorant in the matter) :) … keep promoting smart lifestyle!!!
LOVE this video! My 16 month old daughter and I co-sleep and are still nursing and it is awesome that you are sharing this info with other mamas! And my daughter also hates blankets, she will wake from a deep sleep just to kick them off :D
everytime you search co-Sleeping with baby you will get a long monologue on how it cause infant death. let me be realistic, I am from namibia and like everywhere in Africa everyone co sleep with their babies. first they don't have money to buy cots and what not. 2nd most of the people live in tiny shacks , there is only room for a double bed and a table containing a double plated stove so there is no space. what I am saying is that 90 something percent of babies in Africa co sleep with their parents and they ok. at first you will be worried about rolling into them but don't worry, those mommy instincts will kick in and take over even in your sleep. as long as you make the bed safe you aren't going to have problems. believe me it doesn't matter what a lousy sleeper you are, you aren't going to roll on that baby and sleep on top of her/HIM. GO WITH THE INSTINCT MOM.
I so needed this video and all of these comments. My baby is 3 weeks and co sleeping is what works for us, but I keep getting told so many of these myths and I don’t let it change what we’re doing but it does bother me and keep me thinking.
can't wait to hear your update. I coslept for about a year and a half and plan to do the same with my second little guy. I'm scared of how well the transition will be down the road this time. hopefully he won't keep his brother awake.
My whole family says that my child will be too needy and clingy and that I will want to sleep alone but that really isn't how I feel and shes my child and I should be able to parent the way I want to.
I always said I'd never co-sleep but when it's the first night home from the hospital and you reach over into the pack and play to get baby to nurse and he is cold to the touch even though he's got on layers with a heater in the floor, you bring baby into your bed so he can stay warm. The house we lived in at the time was so cold in the winter that we usually had 3 or 4 blankets on the bed. We moved when he was 5 months old. Currently we are co-sleeping, me, hubby, 3 yr old, and 5 month old in a king size bed. It works for us. I'm thinking in about a year we'll transition the boys to a full or queen for them to share. But we'll cross that bridge when we get there
We didn't live in a really cold house, my daughter was dressed appropriately for sleep & sometimes the same thing over here happened, she was cold to touch, forget this I thought, she's sleeping next to mama so I can keep her warm. We still co-sleep she's 14 months. It's my favorite ❤️
I am all for whatever works for you! I wanted to room share and cosleep..but my daughter had other plans apparently! She was constantly grunting and overall unhappy throughout the night... tried all sorts of things until finally one night i placed her in her own room and she slept so well! didnt make a peep! And 4 years later she is still like this! She never sleeps well if we share a bed/room! LOL I often beg her to slip in with me but I need to set up a bunch of white noise for us to make it through the night...
Amanda, you would make a GREAT teacher! Your voice is so calm, and soothing, and I love your accent! Also, you definitely do your research! I co-slept with my 2nd child, and loved it! It was SUPER convenient! He is now 3 years old, and we no longer co-sleep, BUT every now and then he does sneak in the bed with me while I'm sleeping!😂
Ok, I posted my first comment before getting to the end of your video, where you say you are planning on having the kids share a room! hehe...Gotta share this story. DD has always been a better sleeper, but DS is a very attentive, loving and protective brother. One night, DD had was upset when I left the room (since they've started sharing a room, we no longer stay until they fall asleep), and DS says: C'est correct Anaïs, je suis là". Big brother handled the situation like a champ. No parent re-entered the room (she wasn't bawling, she just called out and wimpered a little). We go back in when need be. I do want bunk beds, but haven't found anything I like yet, and DD is still in a crib. Would love to see a room tour once you have everything set up! Marielle
You have a lot of good points, and I like how you are trying to teach how to cosleep safely. But a lot of comments center around the mom loving cosleeping, but not around what is best for the baby. There is also a lot here supporting side-lying breastfeeding until you fall asleep. This I will say is pretty dangerous. I am a postpartum nurse, and have found more babies than I can count suffocating under their mother's breast, arm, or blanket. I also know of several cases even in my own small city of babies who have died while cosleeping, even where people had previously coslept with other children with no problems. Just because many people have done it with no issues, and maybe even someone has done it themself with no issues, does not mean that something bad can not happen. At least the separate attachement is better, or just a basinet beside the bed.
I co sleep with my 2.5 year old and newborn because as you said my toddler reverted back and will not sleep in his bed.I love him to pieces but my husband and I need room in bed to be comfortable!( he is constantly moving and kicking us)So eventually we will get my son back in his room and when baby is a little older she will go with him in his room. I see nothing wrong in co sleeping, my family always has their opinions on why I shouldn't. However, I slept in my moms bed until I was at least 10 and I ALWAYS shared a room with my sister so I never slept alone until I was in college and even then I felt extremely lonely and uncomfortable being by myself. I still feel sad sleeping alone(even being alone when my husband goes to work) and I credit that to constantly sleeping in my parents bed/sharing a room. My problem is my baby always wakes up when I put her in her bassinet or lay her on her back in bed next to me. She will only sleep on my chest. I have no idea how to break her of that habit
My plan was to never co sleep I was against it, my daughter would wake up every 3 hours when she was in her pack and play bed and I was so exhausted and just start putting her in the bed and would sleep ALL night 8 hours. So I am now a co sleeping mom and we both get our full sleep. Also my daughter doesn't like a blanket either and she is 2
Oh and my almost three year old doesn't like blankets either. I always try to cozy her up and she rejects the blankets still. And amen to breastfeeding laying down! I remember not quite figuring it out at first with my first daughter but once I did- life changer for sleep.
I don't know that I would want to co sleep but her bassinet is next to my bed. I can't imagine her being in another room. She's been in my tummy listening to my heart and breathing.
I loved the family bed!! mine is 23 yrs old and I was not the norm so I did keep it a secret however...I would do it again I agree that people do fear the unknown but it all works out and just works
Our oldest boy slept with us as a baby then sometimes in his crib then he slept in a little bed next to ours as a toddler, all our beds directly on the floor . Our youngest slept with us until 3 years old - although I breastfed him until 4 1/2 - after which I sleep with him some of the night but not every night. Whatever works and its all flexible & fluid. Cosleeping is the most natural thing ever and I'm sure most families do it at one point. Me & my husband always said that we're never going to make our boys feel bad for needing us. Such a great topic! P.S. our 7 year old sleeps well alone now but he does share a room with his 5 year old brother which I think comforts him.
My daughter is 3, nearly 4 and she sleeps in my bed most nights, in a lot of cases this is because the child won’t sleep in their own bed. But my daughter would quite happily sleep in either bed, she will however still come through to me if she stirs. I have her in my bed because I like to sleep beside her, I’m a single mum so I have the space in the bed, and it feels a lot more natural and safe. I breastfed so a lot of the time she would be in beside me, I’ve noticed that as a mother you’re never fully dead asleep, there is always a part of your brain thinking about your baby, at least for me it was this way. Bedtimes are really nice for us, sometimes there is some fuss, and maybe some tears, but never tantrums like I’ve seen or I even pulled as a child, and they always end nice with a story and hugs. I don’t know if it’s the way I’ve done things as she’s grown, or if I’m just lucky. She’s always been an amazing sleeper
In Nigeria co-sleeping is normal. I only saw it as an issue when i started following other moms from other countries. I love co-sleeping with my child. i love it!
+SisiYemmieTV thanks for sharing! I love having insight into how other countries organize their sleep. I love it too 💗
Do you go to bed when your child does?
same in most asian countries. Here in Philippines esp in our culture, we really cosleep at night. they can nap in cribs etc but not at night.
Same, in Mexico it's normal. But since I'm a first time mom I wanted to investigate everything and just got worried for all the info against it from other countries. I could very well be sleeping through the night but I get up to feed ... 7 weeks in and I'm just going to start cosleeping.
I love this!! I didn't plan on co sleeping because I did believe some of those myths. We tried a bassinet next to the bed for the first couple of nights and my baby really struggled with that and no one got any sleep. Then we tried the thing you put in the bed. That worked for one night, but then he hated that too. My husband suggested just putting him In bed next to me. I did it, but then I layed awake frantically googling how to be as safe as possible. I felt this guilt and anxiety that something was going to happen to him all because we were tired of him crying for me from the bassinet where he was safe.
Then I came to my senses and realized how traumatic it must be for baby to go from being warm and cozy inside mama listening to her heartbeat to being in a "big" empty space with no mama. Maybe some babies are okay with this, but my baby had a tough time adapting to life on the outside. Now co sleeping feels like the most natural thing in the world and I love it. It's what works best for our family.
This is *exactly* my experience; thank you for sharing.
My experience as well, you feel such anxiety and guilt and mom shaming about it all. Thanks for sharing
This is exactly what happened to me
My baby is 5 weeks old and yes the guilt and anxiety they send you home with from the hospital is insane!
This was my exact experience But id like to add that not co-sleeping was traumatic for me also!. I was so nervous that my son was too cold, too hot, choking on spit up, not breathing anymore etc etc. I would lay awake and watch him throughout the night and that was stressful for me as well. I didn't realise how much I NEEDED to have him near me so I can silence those racing thoughts and sleep better myself. I'm happy i cosleep 🌚♥️
i'm a student midwife and while we have to discourage co-sleeping while women are in the hospital due to hospital policy, nearly all midwives will give a sneaky comment of encouragement to mums who express interest in cosleeping. Also, every woman of African ethnicity i've cared for has been baffled about babies not co-sleeping! I had one African woman tell me beautiful stories of her now teenage children still jumping in her bed as a regular thing!
+Jordan H this brought happy tears t my eyes. Thanks for sharing 💕
Jordan H so true! I had a home birth and all my lovely midwives did encourage sneakily to co sleep safely. But any staff from the hospital were like no no don't. Love my midwifes
Culture goals lol
I am Canadian Zimbabwean and you are right in Africa co sleeping baby wearing basically having baby always with you is the norm.
I gave birth in Germany twice and the nurses gave us these bedside Co sleepers. Cute things with wheelies. But the nurses encouraged us to snuggle as much as we could with our babies. The head doctor told me that babies and mothers sleep better when they have physical contact. He encouraged me to co sleep because due to my csection my son has some issues adjusting to life outside of the womb. He gave me some pointers but definitely openly encouraged it. He said that were still mammals and we seem to be the only ones who put our newborns in a different bed and sometimes even a different room 🤷🏼♀️
If we as adults want to sleep next to our loved one why wouldn't kids? I love this video and love cosleeping with my babies
Agreed!
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Holy crap I needed this video!!!! I’m a first time mom ...my daughter is 1 week 5 days old and she is having a really hard time sleeping at night ..and the only thing that seems to be working is when she is in bed with me...I been feeling so guilty and like I was doing something wrong!!! This made me feel so much better! 💕
I've never actually though about this, I'm from India and I co-slept with my parents. In hindsight it's a special bond I think, especially with my mom (my dad worked overseas a lot). Even now when I'm sick or stressed out from exams or even if my mom and I have the house to ourself we end up sleeping together. I swear she can just snuggle me and I'm out like a light.
My mother-in law is driving me crazy with “no! Don’t have her sleep in the bed with you” I’m buying you a crib “ and she’s not even born yet! ... I’ve got a month to go. I’m from South Africa and I live in Florida , here co sleeping is a problem but back home it’s so normal. And I fully plan on co sleeping with my babygirl. I’m a light sleeper so she’ll be fine. Thank you for this video🙏
Hey how did co sleeping worked
lol for me it was the opposite! my mom keep nagging me for not letting my baby sleep with me. for first few weeks, i tug my baby in crib but then thanks to my mom nagging that i end up co sleeping with my baby. and am glad that i did. i am enjoying it now.
Hi , yeeesss I loved it!!!!! She out grew her baby bed so she sleeps in her crib now at 10 months, she’s doing perfectly fine. I’m glad I co slept , it put me at ease knowing she’s right there.
Hey, did you co sleep with your baby? How did it go? X
@@floareasoarelui7758 yes I did!! It's actually great! I felt at ease and baby was happy. She's still breastfeeding and her crib is next to our bed but she always wakes up in our bed in the morning.
My daughter is 4 months younger than Jack and she HATES blankets, even brand new refused to be swaddled. The day I learned/mastered to breastfeed laying down, I cried with happiness.
My daughter had silent reflux as a newborn. One night I startled awake when she was a week old to her struggling to breath because she was gagging in the reflux. I was so thankful she was next to me.
Hey mommies!!! Thank you! So happy no trolls here!
Simply put, cosleeping makes everything easier and everyone happier.
Euripides Pantalon been at it over 5 years already 😋
@@olgasavestheday thankyou for the update!
Love cosleeping. Having my baby in another room seems so unnatural to me. I wouldn't be able to sleep if she wasn't in bed with me.
Jessie L Yes I feel the same way. Anything can happen. They r too young to be left alone in their own room.
I feel the same I'm glad I'm normal lol
Sex! Ha! I've had 6 kids and co-sleeping was life. I'd be dead if co-sleeping wasn't an option. Having said that, I had my oldest when I was 18, and I had NO clue co-sleeping was what it was called. It was just called sleeping. ❤
Girl thank you for this video. My husband is from Guatemala and he balked so hard at the idea of buying a crib. We didnt even use it lol. Except to cage son as a toddler when i had to get a shower lol. Breastfeed. Cosleep. Its soooo worth it.
I think nursing moms just fall into co-sleeping because you fall asleep nursing lol
So true! :)
Preach
I have a one month old and I am trying so hard NOT to co sleep because my friend just lost her 2 month old due to a co sleeping accident, but it's honestly proving to be impossible. It feels so natural to have my daughter right beside me in bed. We fall asleep together every single night while breastfeeding. She's happy and so am I.
You are soooooo tired... I mean...
Ikr
Love this… my husband and I said, we, as adults like sleeping together. Why do we have to train a baby, a toddler, a young child to sleep alone?
My son will spend the rest (most) of his life as an adult and away from me, he should naturally be able to snuggle with his parents when he is a baby.
Whenever I fall asleep next to him, he sleeps through the night.
But if we put him to sleep and leave him a lone, you see him moving all over the place in his sleep reaching for comfort and waking up scared and lonely
My siblings & I are the most independent ppl I know. We all slept with our parents or our grandparents up to about 4-5 yrs old bc we were just poor and didn’t have lot of rooms… and Chinese folks have no issue Sharing beds with kids.
Kids need security during their most defenseless times… which is sleeping. Give them the security they need as kids so the can have security and love as their base. And they will grow up MORE independent
You were a big source of encouragement to me when I was co-sleeping with my newborn 2 years ago. Now, I have my second baby and I feel so much more confident in my decision to bed share. My hubby and I cherish the baby cuddles and morning smiles.
+Joelle A I'm so glad! I love it too, soooo cozy.
Hey, did you co sleep with your baby? How did it go? X
Thank you for normalizing the normal stuff and, as you say, "keeping it real". Amen.
Also, can we take a moment to think about how amazing it is being able to cuddle into your child after a long day. Some days are stressful and busy, and you maybe feel like you’ve told them “in a minute darling” too many times. Or maybe they’ve been pushing your buttons a little and you feel like you’ve done nothing but clean up toddler destruction.. then you get into bed and snuggle into your toddler and take just lay with them peacefully, as often they don’t even hold still long enough for hugs anymore.
Honestly majority of the time when I speak of the word co-sleeping to people they would start through all these myths at me to why I shouldn't let my daughter sleep with us in bed. It works best for me and I just love having her sleep next to me. I mean she's not going to be little forever and I cherish these moment. Thank you for sharing this video.
I love how you touched on the scientific things such as sleeping with your baby can stabalize both mother & babies breathing & heart rate also that moms usually stir a few mins before baby needs them & the myth about children not being independent due to co-sleeping, theirs actually scientific evidence that says children whom are kept close to mom, co-sleep, that they grow up to be very independent and are able to maintain closer relationships & friendships than children who are pushed into their own beds before they are ready. I read all about all of this stuff when my daughter was born 14 months ago, THANK YOU 😘❤️ for THIS! Hugs from Canada 🤗🇨🇦 ALSO when I mastered breastfeeding lying down 🙌 GOLD! sleepy dust for everyone!
My mother co slept w. All 6 of my siblings... I co slept with my 3 younger siblings and I was like 11 years old. Co sleeping was a given for me and my husband who is an only child took to it very naturally. After having my son in my belly for 8 months, just the thought of having him be physically away from me from one day to the next for any period of time made me feel uneasy, so co sleeping is what works for us.
Love this! I cosleep with both my children and couldn't imagine doing it any other way. It's natural for mom and baby(toddler/child) to want to be close to each other.
Thank you so much for this video. I am a co-sleeping mama and do keep a secret from most people. Love your honesty and your videos!
Anytime, it's nice to have a place to share.
We just started transferring our 2 and 5 year old to their own room and it has gone way better than planned! We stuck to the same routine at night of bath and book and it was a breeze! It's so nice having the beginning of the night to myself!!
+Liz Conte this gives me hope!
I'm a single mum and I've been co sleepinh with my kids for about 10 years. & i think we sleep so peacefully when we're sleeping in the same bed. and i noticed that in the beginning the children slept way longer next to me or in my arms compared to my sisters children who don't co sleep and have a broken sleep.
I'm co sleeping with my three children
We are bed sharing with our 7 month old, and have been since night 1. She was born at home, and no way could I have left her in another room! And like someone else said, with breastfeeding it kind of comes naturally because you just end up falling asleep while nursing. Nursing laying down definitely makes things easier! We get the most amount of sleep possible (at this age) and my husband is still managing to get enough rest thankfully!
I co-slept with my daughter in the hospital after she was born. We had a pretty traumatic birth that resulted in both of us almost losing our lives. Co-sleeping brought so much comfort to us and now that she's older and more independent I really miss those days. I wish she would co-sleep with me now.
Lol the nurses at the hospital tried to get on my ass about it but I never let him go.
Sarah Pedro same they tried to tell me not to let him sleep on my chest bcuz of SIDS and while I was alert about SIDS I just wanted him close. Now we co sleep😂 even though he has a crib. I used to be a heavy ass sleeper like it took so long to wake me up. Now every single thing he does it wakes me up.
Heart & Hearth Cottage you sound like my mom but in English lol
Thank you for the not-spoiling of babies! And the "fun" part :) I never know why people think that being close with a parent and discipline are opposites.
As an accidentally co- sleeping mama at present, thanks for making this video! Trying to get bambino to use the cot beside the bed but she just wants to be so close!
I had the same issue with my first, she would fuss so often while sleeping separately from me...here we are 4 years later, still snuggling!
Enjoy these Magic Moments. They are gone in no time
Love it. I still co sleep with my almost 3 year old. She's starting to show interest in wanting to move to the bunk bed with her big sister ad it breaks my heart a little. I've had a baby in my bed for 5 years and am not quite ready to give it up. I'm like you, by my second baby I knew it worked best for me with nursing and being able to get some sleep. I didn't expect for it to last this long but I still love it.
I found and subscribed your channel probably almost 3 years ago when my son wouldn't sleep without me and I started searching about cosleeping. 😊
Yay to this video!! Co slept with my first daughter, currently cosleeping with my second daughter. My first daughter is super independent and confident.Made my son (first born and didn’t follow my instincts) sleep on his own and he is very nervous and insecure. Don’t know for sure that’s related but it’s interesting to me.
Thank you for this video! We just decided to cosleep at five months old because that is the only way we can get good sleep for long periods of time. I’ve been feeling anxious about even though I LOVE IT and feels right.
We have to be aware of north american beds with big cushy memory foam and really high bed frames. Most traditionnal bed situations are firm mattresses on ground level with minimum pillows. Cosleep crib or baby pods might help for an american family with such a bed.
Very true! My cosleeping years were mattresses on the floor, and minimal blankets. Great point!
I also thought about the fact that we make our kids sleep alone but we ourselves are not alone. I haven't been able to have peace with that idea. But you have a great plan to have your kids share a room. I would do that too and just stop when they themselves are ready.
Didn't co sleep with my first two, and with my baby we JUST got him sleeping in a crib a 1 year old after he was weaning! I think it's really what works for your baby. I'm thankful for the year I coslept with my baby. He's the most cuddly baby ever and it's something I will cherish forever.
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Thanks for this!! We coslept with each of ours for the first few months. I loved your comment about spoiling your babies...I hear this too, and you absolutely cannot spoil a newborn!
Another false comment I hear is that it increases the likelihood of SIDS... I think people who say this don't know the different between SIDS and suffocation, but with cosleeping helping the baby breathe evenly with mom, it can actually reduce the chances of getting sids. 😊
8 out of 10 SID cases I habe heard have been in the crib, which I find fascinating because they discourage co-sleeping for this reason.
From India... All most all mums cosleep... It's just normal thing to do ... You are there for baby when they are vulnerable... Most countries in eastern world have strong family bonds...
Driving can be seen as potentially dangerous all the time. The point is it's still worth doing
Thanks for sharing such a positive experience! In Russia (where I’m coming from) co-sleeping is normal, but people mostly find it exhausting. I really liked your attitude and in general the way you speak! 👍🏼
My son, who's just a few weeks older than Esmé, just started using blankets in the last year (we just gave him a really really soft blanket a few months ago, and he loves it, only sleeps with it). My daughter, who's about 2.5, LOVES blankets. She insists on us putting ALL of her blankets on her. She has about 5 or 6 baby blankets. My son used a a sleep sack at that age I think, but she never took to it (she was also more of a "comfort item" baby, so she had a little cloth square that she used a lot, especially when she started daycare at 1 y/o). They both co-slept in the early days/months (before DD was born, DS would start the night in his room and end up in our room, which DD did as well as she got older). They share a room now, and they sleep great now for the most part, though I wouldn't mind them sleeping in a bit later on the weekends...6:20 is too early for a Saturday, even though we need to get up at 7 to get ready for swim class at 8:30, but I digress...DD has always been a better sleeper than DS. Marielle.
I'm a co-sleeping mom & I absolutely love it!!! I came across this video and I'm so happy I did! You just earned a new subbie!! I could listen to u talk all day!!! Great video👌🏾
+Chanel Days thank you so much 💕
I've co-sleep with all 4 of my kids from one time or another depending on their emotional requirements. as long as its done safely its the most natural thing in the world x
Agreed!
Definitely. Magic Moments.
Love this! How you touched base on cosleeping only being an issue in north america; I read somewhere how were the only animal who oddly seems to think its dangerous to cosleep. Every other animal cosleeps! No other animal places their babies in a separate room from them! Its natural 💚
I've heard the same thing and it totally makes sense! Why do we separate for sleep right after birth? Not natural. 😊
It's why I co slept with my son. I saw that my cat slept next to her kittens and they could just feed whenever they were hungry. It seemed so much more right than keeping him in a separate room and figure out the times I should feed him and stuff. It really just makes the most sense to me.
Thank you! Keep up the good work to normalize things like co-sleeping, breastfeeding... You looked very serious sitting in this desk chair. Like a real counselor 👩🏼⚕️😉
;) I didn't even think of that!
I had my youngest in my bassinet next to my bed until he was about 10 months. Then he started waking up 4-6 times a night to nurse (aka just wanted mama snuggles). I was miserable not getting any sleep. We transitioned him to his own room.. It was hard for about 2 weeks, but he sleeps 10 hours at night now and it's amazing!
Love this video!!!! I was feeling so guilty ...
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We transitioned like you are planning when my kids were 2.5 and 4. I slept with them in their new room and bed for a few weeks and then slowly started to sneak off to bed with my hubby mid way through the night. There were some nights I had to go back to their bed but eventually they were fine. Now I just read a book, say our prayers and snuggle for a few minutes and then I leave. It was so nice for my hubby and I to have our bed back. We both still occasionally miss having them in the bed with us though! Stormy nights they all pile in so we still get an occasional slumber party :)
This is a great video, thank you so much! A couple things to note about co-sleeping;
1. If you are not breastfeeding your baby but you plan to co-sleep, be aware that you may not be quite as in tune with your baby as you would be if you were breastfeeding.
2. If you are normally a heavy sleeper, when there is a tiny person that you love so much in your bed, you will be roused much more easily because you will be thinking about the other little human who is sleeping with you ❤️
Nirsing my son- 22 and 1/2 months. Thought that dude was gonna be on the boob til college. One day he was like.... "Meh"...and I was like.. "Meh?" and he was like "Meh.....". I cried.
😢😭😭😭
Just want to say I applaud how flexible you are as a mama! You truly put your kiddos first in a makes-sense-kinda-way whereas the majority of our culture is all about what’s convenient for the parent despite the discomfort or even damage to the child. Well done mama. It just makes sense!
Pool noodle is genius! I'm definitely going to try that! Thanks! Also LOVE the blanket on your chair!!! ♡♡♡
Such a cheap but effective trick!
Thanks for this video. Been watching you for years now and are one of the people who normalized cosleeping for me.
I loved this video. I never had any intention of co-sleeping however after my son hated his Moses basket and it was so narrow lifting him in and out was a huge pain. Then I bought a co-sleeper for the side of the bed witch initially he loved after a small bug where I let him stay in my bed he decided he hated his own mattress and only mummys bed will do. So after many sleepless night of trying to get him back in his own bed I gave up and we are much happier now. However I am hoping when it comes to getting his cot soon and putting him in his own room it goes smoothly as I really would like my space back (who knew someone so little to take up so much room) Thanx for this video it helped me feel a little less guilty about keeping him close.
My daughter is almost 19 months, and still can't stand to wake up with a blanket even slightly covering her. I've noticed now I don't use or worry about blankets as well 🤔 🤷♀️
And yessss. I finally got sleep when I decided to bring her to sleep with me. Golden 🙌
I cosleep and now my baby sleeps through the night with ease. We are rested and that is so important.
Thanks for the video! I'm glad co sleeping is becoming less taboo. I would be very concerned if my child wasn't sleeping in the same room with me. It's too much in the middle of the night to get up and go into a different room. Being a mother, and a light sleeper, I love knowing I'm right there in case something goes wrong. I personally love these co sleepers the best:
-halo bassinest (my most used for by the bed)
-arms reach co sleeper
-dock a tot
-summer infant swaddle me by your side co sleeper (my most used for in the bed)
I really love the mesh sides on the halo bassinest, arms reach co sleeper and swaddle me by your side co sleeper. I think they are very safe options.
Great video! Thanks for debunking myths.
Ps- also I purchased "bamboo bumpers" from amazon for use in my bed! They are much better than side rails. They have a breathable fabric and are made for co sleeping.
Such great tips, thanks for sharing!
Another one of your great parenting-style videos! Thanks for touching on the subject! We cosleep with our 22mo son and just last night we had family (once again) make comments on our choice - gaaahh, I just smile and change subject!
Thank you so much for all of the information you just shared. My family is not supportive of me breastfeeding and co sleeping with my 30 month old daughter and it's nice to be able to ease my mind and stop worrying if I'm doing it right! I admire your love for life... struggles and all!
finally someone who relates omg !
i cosleep my 2 year old and i love it. i don't think i could do it any other way. hello from romania
My husband follows western medicine too closely and our pediatrician said no to sleeping in bed with baby. Tonight he decided to take a break and sleep in living room for few hours. I fed baby twice and second time after she fell asleep I put her in the bassinet. After a while she stirred but it wasn’t time to eat yet so I put my hand on her to help her fall asleep. When she didn’t I grabbed her and put her next to me and she fell asleep fast and so did I. It felt natural and very good. I was fast asleep when I heard my name and knew I was in trouble. My husband had come back. He told me he is so mad at my for sleeping with baby in bed so I put her back in bassinet. He was so upset I started crying. I told him my mom used to co sleep with me in my bed when I was a newborn and eastern countries have been doing it for such a long time. He didn’t say anything but I wish I could do it again.
My husband has since changed his mind! For the last month my baby and I sleep in the bed together and it’s the best feeling ever. I told my husband I can do it safely and showed him some articles. He can’t imagine baby sleeping in bassinet again. She loves the closeness to her mom.
First of all, your hair and makeup are both super cute. Anyways, I co-slept with my son for a couple months when he was probably about 8-10 months old or so. He needed his own room, simply because he is a light sleeper, and sleeping with two other people and two dogs in the same room prevented my little guy from getting decent sleep. So I would get him to sleep, and put him in his crib. When he would wake up for a feeding a few hours later, I would go into his room and co-sleep with him on a mattress on the floor. It worked for us at the time, and now he sleeps (kind of) through the night on his own in his crib. Anyways, all of this is to say THANK YOU for your videos that share your life as a mom. I probably wouldn't have started that little journey of co-sleeping if it weren't for you!
That first myth is just so so true! Everyone always thinks it's so dangerous when they first hear it but when I explain it, they actually say it makes sense :)
Just came across your video and it is truly wonderful! My baby is now 5 months old and we've been bed-sharing the whole time and plan to for years to come. What gets me about the myths, is that they are so close-minded! As you mentioned, the majority of the world co-sleeps to some capacity, and well, many families have more than one child (they found a way to get creative!), those kids still aren't sleeping with their parents, and they all learned to be independent when the time was right, etc.
watching this while co sleeping:)))
I do the same thing!
Same here
Magdalena Tsangaride So am I😄
Hahaha SAME ❤️❤️❤️😘
Same
I have done this with my little one...was not planned but it was the best thing I ever done ...🥰 thanks for the video...planing to fo one myself too. 🥰
Watched this while laying in bed with my 6 month old, and 20 month old. Yay co-sleeping!
Sleep is everything!
My husband is away most of the time and I love co-sleeping with my 2 and 3 year old. ❤❤
It's pretty normal for asian families. Even when i was around 13 i would sleep with my parents if I had nightmares. I used to have severe anxiety and co sleeping made me feel safer
You are blessed with good parents💚
@@dreamcatcher4747 yea, i am. we still talk a lot
I am absolutely loving these 20+ minutes long video of you talking. Goddamn girl, keep it up!
+Abaleen D thank you so much!
I was so prepared and excited to co sleep/bed share with my daughter when she came along and she HATED it! She went into her own room at 5 weeks and from then would only wake up twice a night for a feed. Shes incredibly independent and has been from day one. But I am definitely ready to co sleep with the next if we are so lucky and if he/she wills it.
It's crazy how different each kid is!!
my parents in law are trying to tell me how to sleep with my 1 month old daughter and my spouse is also agreeing with them and i’ve felt so guilty and down because i feel confused but this video really helped me to feel better about myself and my routine, thank you 💕💕
I co slept for a long time with my son (i only stopped because he started to roll and fall off the bed) and he is not spoiled at all. People actually comment on his high level of independence for his age. He's nearly 2 years old and he can just quietly play by himself for long stretches of time, discovering new things and showing them to me from time to time.
You got a million of compliments from people who love the video. However, I see these are mostly women. Mostly moms. I hope you may then still enjoy one more happy comment from a guy. Yes. At 8:20, I agree with all claims, and thought I would make you happy to let you know (btw: my kid was co-sleeping with his mom for too long to admit, so I am NOT entirely ignorant in the matter) :) … keep promoting smart lifestyle!!!
LOVE this video! My 16 month old daughter and I co-sleep and are still nursing and it is awesome that you are sharing this info with other mamas! And my daughter also hates blankets, she will wake from a deep sleep just to kick them off :D
everytime you search co-Sleeping with baby you will get a long monologue on how it cause infant death.
let me be realistic, I am from namibia and like everywhere in Africa everyone co sleep with their babies.
first they don't have money to buy cots and what not. 2nd most of the people live in tiny shacks , there is only room for a double bed and a table containing a double plated stove so there is no space.
what I am saying is that 90 something percent of babies in Africa co sleep with their parents and they ok.
at first you will be worried about rolling into them but don't worry, those mommy instincts will kick in and take over even in your sleep. as long as you make the bed safe you aren't going to have problems. believe me it doesn't matter what a lousy sleeper you are, you aren't going to roll on that baby and sleep on top of her/HIM. GO WITH THE INSTINCT MOM.
I so needed this video and all of these comments. My baby is 3 weeks and co sleeping is what works for us, but I keep getting told so many of these myths and I don’t let it change what we’re doing but it does bother me and keep me thinking.
You know what's right, go with your gut! Good luck xo
can't wait to hear your update. I coslept for about a year and a half and plan to do the same with my second little guy. I'm scared of how well the transition will be down the road this time. hopefully he won't keep his brother awake.
My whole family says that my child will be too needy and clingy and that I will want to sleep alone but that really isn't how I feel and shes my child and I should be able to parent the way I want to.
I always said I'd never co-sleep but when it's the first night home from the hospital and you reach over into the pack and play to get baby to nurse and he is cold to the touch even though he's got on layers with a heater in the floor, you bring baby into your bed so he can stay warm. The house we lived in at the time was so cold in the winter that we usually had 3 or 4 blankets on the bed. We moved when he was 5 months old.
Currently we are co-sleeping, me, hubby, 3 yr old, and 5 month old in a king size bed. It works for us. I'm thinking in about a year we'll transition the boys to a full or queen for them to share. But we'll cross that bridge when we get there
We didn't live in a really cold house, my daughter was dressed appropriately for sleep & sometimes the same thing over here happened, she was cold to touch, forget this I thought, she's sleeping next to mama so I can keep her warm. We still co-sleep she's 14 months. It's my favorite ❤️
I am all for whatever works for you!
I wanted to room share and cosleep..but my daughter had other plans apparently! She was constantly grunting and overall unhappy throughout the night... tried all sorts of things until finally one night i placed her in her own room and she slept so well! didnt make a peep! And 4 years later she is still like this! She never sleeps well if we share a bed/room! LOL I often beg her to slip in with me but I need to set up a bunch of white noise for us to make it through the night...
Amanda, you would make a GREAT teacher! Your voice is so calm, and soothing, and I love your accent! Also, you definitely do your research! I co-slept with my 2nd child, and loved it! It was SUPER convenient! He is now 3 years old, and we no longer co-sleep, BUT every now and then he does sneak in the bed with me while I'm sleeping!😂
Ok, I posted my first comment before getting to the end of your video, where you say you are planning on having the kids share a room! hehe...Gotta share this story. DD has always been a better sleeper, but DS is a very attentive, loving and protective brother. One night, DD had was upset when I left the room (since they've started sharing a room, we no longer stay until they fall asleep), and DS says: C'est correct Anaïs, je suis là". Big brother handled the situation like a champ. No parent re-entered the room (she wasn't bawling, she just called out and wimpered a little). We go back in when need be. I do want bunk beds, but haven't found anything I like yet, and DD is still in a crib. Would love to see a room tour once you have everything set up! Marielle
thanx for sharing! ! i totally agree with u 100%
You have a lot of good points, and I like how you are trying to teach how to cosleep safely. But a lot of comments center around the mom loving cosleeping, but not around what is best for the baby. There is also a lot here supporting side-lying breastfeeding until you fall asleep. This I will say is pretty dangerous. I am a postpartum nurse, and have found more babies than I can count suffocating under their mother's breast, arm, or blanket. I also know of several cases even in my own small city of babies who have died while cosleeping, even where people had previously coslept with other children with no problems. Just because many people have done it with no issues, and maybe even someone has done it themself with no issues, does not mean that something bad can not happen. At least the separate attachement is better, or just a basinet beside the bed.
Thank you for this video.. I have co slept with all 5 of my babies.. and still am... I love it.. wouldn't have it any other way!
I co sleep with my 2.5 year old and newborn because as you said my toddler reverted back and will not sleep in his bed.I love him to pieces but my husband and I need room in bed to be comfortable!( he is constantly moving and kicking us)So eventually we will get my son back in his room and when baby is a little older she will go with him in his room. I see nothing wrong in co sleeping, my family always has their opinions on why I shouldn't. However, I slept in my moms bed until I was at least 10 and I ALWAYS shared a room with my sister so I never slept alone until I was in college and even then I felt extremely lonely and uncomfortable being by myself. I still feel sad sleeping alone(even being alone when my husband goes to work) and I credit that to constantly sleeping in my parents bed/sharing a room. My problem is my baby always wakes up when I put her in her bassinet or lay her on her back in bed next to me. She will only sleep on my chest. I have no idea how to break her of that habit
thank you thank you for this video!
My plan was to never co sleep I was against it, my daughter would wake up every 3 hours when she was in her pack and play bed and I was so exhausted and just start putting her in the bed and would sleep ALL night 8 hours. So I am now a co sleeping mom and we both get our full sleep. Also my daughter doesn't like a blanket either and she is 2
I love to hear your explanation of things!
+Yvonne Gina thank you 💕
Oh and my almost three year old doesn't like blankets either. I always try to cozy her up and she rejects the blankets still. And amen to breastfeeding laying down! I remember not quite figuring it out at first with my first daughter but once I did- life changer for sleep.
The pool noodle, bed stopper thing! Brilliant!
Right? Totally worth a try!
I don't know that I would want to co sleep but her bassinet is next to my bed. I can't imagine her being in another room. She's been in my tummy listening to my heart and breathing.
I loved the family bed!! mine is 23 yrs old and I was not the norm so I did keep it a secret however...I would do it again I agree that people do fear the unknown but it all works out and just works
Thank you, I needed to hear this
I love this! It makes me feel more normal! ♥️ I’m such a light sleeper!
Our oldest boy slept with us as a baby then sometimes in his crib then he slept in a little bed next to ours as a toddler, all our beds directly on the floor . Our youngest slept with us until 3 years old - although I breastfed him until 4 1/2 - after which I sleep with him some of the night but not every night. Whatever works and its all flexible & fluid. Cosleeping is the most natural thing ever and I'm sure most families do it at one point. Me & my husband always said that we're never going to make our boys feel bad for needing us. Such a great topic! P.S. our 7 year old sleeps well alone now but he does share a room with his 5 year old brother which I think comforts him.
Sheena Joy Breastfed him until 4.5 years?! Yikes...
My daughter is 3, nearly 4 and she sleeps in my bed most nights, in a lot of cases this is because the child won’t sleep in their own bed. But my daughter would quite happily sleep in either bed, she will however still come through to me if she stirs. I have her in my bed because I like to sleep beside her, I’m a single mum so I have the space in the bed, and it feels a lot more natural and safe. I breastfed so a lot of the time she would be in beside me, I’ve noticed that as a mother you’re never fully dead asleep, there is always a part of your brain thinking about your baby, at least for me it was this way. Bedtimes are really nice for us, sometimes there is some fuss, and maybe some tears, but never tantrums like I’ve seen or I even pulled as a child, and they always end nice with a story and hugs. I don’t know if it’s the way I’ve done things as she’s grown, or if I’m just lucky. She’s always been an amazing sleeper
YOU are amazing. Loved this video!
Thank you!