You’re Not Lazy: How To Stop Procrastinating (ADHD edition)
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- Опубліковано 30 лип 2024
- What would an ADHD channel be without a video on procrastination ? 😃
I’m back with some of my most embarrassing life stories on procrastination and how it ruined my life in high school (am I being a little dramatic?), and how to make sure you don’t go through the same sh*t as I did!
Let me know how the matrix works out for you!
Link to the matrix 🚀
www.youradhdgirl.com/fearasse...
Timestamps 🌸
00:00 Intro
01:06 Announcement
02:15 Structure of the video
02:56 ADHD symptoms & procrastination
08:13 Holes in your knowledge
10:52 Negative feelings about yourself
14:32 Why we're stuck
16:35 What I do to stop procrastinating
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Hey there! I'm Candice, yourADHDgirl 🦹🏼♀️.
I share what it's like being a woman with ADHD and how I make the most out of life despite the challenges. Expect some real talk about the hurdles we face as ADHDers, like our inability to be consistent 👀. So grab some snacks, get cozy, and enjoy the binge-watch (chances are you'll get hooked - studies say so!) 🍿
Can't wait to catch you in the next video! 😘
Not me procrastinating to finish this video 😭
Holding back tears listening, thanks you for making this video.
I will listen again to make notes to paste to my mirror about reality vs fear.
Sending you so much love. 🧠
Yayyy I am so happy you extracted something as simple and powerful as this! ✨ Sending you all the love and courage to make your dreams come true ❤️
"what's wrong with you?" was so personal lol girl I don't know 😆
Swear I mean it in the nicest way 🙏😆
Great video! I recall vividly the pain of procrastination at school. The worst thing was they would say, “ oh you’re so smart. How come you can’t get your work done?” Being called smart became such a trigger, if I was actually smart I’d be able to finish my work. Just so much self loathing for so long because I didn’t know I had ADHD. Great video, ADHD Girl! Ps I also failed a required statistics class and only passed it the second time because I joined a study group.
It feels so good to know I'm not the only one haha! And yeah the "you're so smart why can't you do it" comment became such a proof of failure and a trigger for me as well!! thank you for sharing
Don't know if I have ADHD, but certainly have the fears you described. I often try to block my fears out of my mind. But I find that when I can face them, writing them down and thinking about the consequences, makes them more manageable. Thank you.
the first few seconds were a jump scare 😭
oh no ! sorry about this .
Thank you for sharing your experience. What you went through in school sounds exactly like my experiences, and it’s reassuring to hear.
Pls someone help me i ruined my life by procrastination i ruied my 11th and 12th grade now i have to attend college but since i studied mothing due to procrastination and adhd(undiagnosed) depression (diagnosed) and anxiety (diagnosed) i have no knowledge i am failing college entrance exams i hate my life now i hate myself had i studied even a little bit my life would have been better i have stopped doing everything even my basic task life hygiene. I tried everything todo journal timer nothing is helping i went to a therapist in 11th grade it really helped me i only went for 3 months but then i guited because my parents dont have enough money to pay for it i did not wanted to be a burden so i told my parents i was ok now and stopped receiving therpy and my life has been downhill ever since now i really want to end it all but then i read my old journal and remember how cheer full i was and what all my dreams and goals were i feel even more broken . What makes me feel even more broken is my parents support me so much but in return i am nothing but a loser they are the best but i am a loser
As an adult who's faced a lot of challenges, I want to tell you that despite what you're going through now, there are still lots of good things waiting for you. But first, take care of yourself and reduce stress. Take a high-quality rest - breathe fresh air outside, get a good night's sleep, etc.
Then, think about what you're good at and what interests you. Give yourself credit for your strengths instead of being hard on yourself for what doesn't go as planned. It's great that you have old notes with goals, but having too many can feel overwhelming. Try focusing on just 1 or 2 main goals each month, like improving your health. And if you can, check out free group therapy sessions or community organizations nearby for extra support.
Have an open conversation with your parents about how you're feeling to lighten the emotional load. Their support is precious, so don't hesitate to reach out. I went through tough times, working bad jobs and attending a less-than-ideal university because I lacked clear goals in my younger years. Looking back, I wish I had more guidance, but that's life. Despite regrets, I've come to realize, in my thirties, that there's always room to grow.
Please believe that you have numerous opportunities waiting for you. I'm fond of the saying, "365 days in a year mean 365 new chances." If something doesn't succeed initially, it may work out next time. Alternatively, it might not be your calling, and that's okay. Keep exploring until you find what suits you best. I'm sending you my support and wishing you the best of luck. Don't give up!🤍
@@talyacold thank you soo much for this answer 🤍. I know what i love it's coding(I like it because I like to create things) so I may have to go to a tier 3 college to pursue my btech in cse cuz as I mentioned I am failing my entrance exams. This is a bit depressing cuz neither will I get good education nor I will get a good starting package but as you said everyday is a new chance so I will still do my best as my elder brother says "give your 100% in each and every task you do". (I will always come back to read your answer it gave me comfort that I am not alone and there is still hope to get better).
Thanks so much for your insight and keeping it real. It means a lot! Blessings!
You are so welcome! I really appreciate your comment 🥰
Honestly, that's my life. I am learning how to overcome "feeling bad" because it seems to be the main reason of not to get things done 😔
Thanks for sharing these struggles. 🙌
We hear ya!
Could you please make a video on what us non-adhders should learn about the disorder and what we can do to better support our adhd loved ones? 💕
Ohhh love that! Thanks for asking, I’ll add it to the list
Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video. Hearing you talk about your high school, frankly, 'traumas', was both cathartic and illuminating. It made me realise that one cannot simply paper over all of our past experiences. We have, as you said, built up a narrative over time about how we fail at tackling big projects, and this narrative is backed by evidence that cannot simply be wished away because we find it inconvenient. That's why we struggle. It's also why we have negative self-opinions, even though we might outwardly be successful and well-adjusted.
I'm really enjoying your UA-cam channel and particularly how you phrase things, how you tackle your own problems, and your slightly loosey-goosey approach to getting things done. I hope you keep making videos!
Such a heartwarming comment! Thank you so much Viren 🫶🏼 I appreciate it and will keep making helpful content! 😀
This was such a good video, thank you for making it!
Thank you so much! ☺️
Thankssss a lot for Your PRECIOUS video!!!💖
Too much personal info not directly to the problem we are facing. The exact reason why I cannot launch a channel myself.. I keep going on and on about myself and lose focus on what the viewer came for.
So relateable 😮
Bonjour et merci pour tes videos instructives et ces partages sur ta façon de trouver des moyens pour obliger le trouble à se faire olus petit ! Le lien vers le tableau ne fonctionne plus, tu pourras nous le donner autrement stp ? Merci et encore bravo 🎉
I loved you and the way you discussed the topic. I also suffer from ADHD I hope to achieve all my goals, and one of my goals is to be a content creator to talk about many of the topics that are on my mind, and now I am starting to search for behavioral treatments. Adhd In order to succeed in this life, I research and delve into all topics related to this disorder Thank you for this video
Your new follower from Egypt ❤
thank you for this kind comment! I am going to make more content about the behind the scenes of being a creator on UA-cam so I hope this will be helpful to you :) thanks for the sub ❤️
@@youradhdgirl I am waiting ❤️
I love the mike! It looks like a cat tail🤣
Also, I'm not the only one shoulding all over myself.
Glad to hear you love my cat tail-looking mic haha! Also, I learned a new expression (shoulding over oneself) so thank you! 😆
@@youradhdgirl I can't take full credit. That was my last therapist lol.
I got nothing out of this