30 Things I Am Not Buying for Baby #5 + Registry Regrets
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- Опубліковано 8 чер 2024
- After being pregnant 5 times I have started to see clearly what is needed and what is just a marketing ploy to make us feel like good moms.
✅Talking at the end about how to be clear and kind about what kind of items you really need for the baby and how to be a good gatekeeper to your home when that item just isn't needed.
✅Sharing what I think 80% of moms forget to prepare the most for when pregnant.
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Tell me what baby gear you think is not necessary? I would love to hear, I know there has to be even more we can cut and keep the essentials so we can pour our time into the people that really matter vs taking care of a bunch of stuff.
Bassinet!!! Team pack n play all the way!! I had the halo with my first and HATED it.
What are your thoughts on cloth diapers? We've found it has saved us so much money (the cost of laundry is considerably lower than the cost of diapers for us).
It also helps eliminate some of the items you mention, like no diaper genie/special trash can. Lots of folks swear by cloth as a way to reduce diaper rash, we found we almost never needed diaper creams/ointments.
Any clothes other than sleepers with zips. 4 or 5 would be more than enough.
Diaper genie and all the baby monitoring equipment.
Please make a video for the must haves for a new born!!! New mama here and completely lost! I am on my 13th week! 🙏🏽❤️
As someone who has spent a lot of time in a third-world country, I'm amazed at how little people, even babies truly need. More than anything, they need love and attention. Those things can't be bought.
Exactly what i think.
Exactly. Newborns dont need much, nappies, some clothes, car seat, carrier or pram, maybe formula and some bottles if breastfeeding is not a option or there is a problem. And i dont even live in third world country and i am not a minimalist 😉
But we don’t live in a third world country.. the needs are different
Amen! We buy too much of all kinds of things we truly do not need. Diaper bags go out of style?
Amen
I vote portable bassinet/crib/playpen all in one! I would never buy all the baby furniture again.
My grandson loved sleeping in his pack n play. She got one of those thicker mattresses and he still sleeps ii it at age 3 and will go right into a regular bed.
Which one or style do you recommend? We have limited space so that's kind of what I was thinking. I have a 3 in one bassinet on my registry.
@@natashaf6886 I had the Graco 3 in one years ago. Loved it. Bassinet, crib, playpen in one! That's what I will do for grandkids.
Facts because the pack and play all in one is great and the only reason my kids had a crib was because I was gifted one in both my first two pregnancies but after baby number two I’m not even going to assemble it
Yaaassss!!! Im expecting my first baby in 3 months and it seemed like the bassinets were too small and would not last long, so i bought a portable crib/playpen that has the "half lowering side" like the new bassinets, so u can put it next to your bed and i am yet to try how this works for me but im soooo happy with this purchase!
Your closing words about what to do when you receive things you don’t need/want was so great to hear. Thank you for putting into words what I haven’t been able to express.
Ah isn't it tricky!?! I want so badly to be full of gratitude and show that. And then also not have a million things in my home I don't love
I often go to return things especially if I know where thy bought...Walmart, winners and Carter all accept returns without receipt...
I agree with everything exect for bibs. My daughter was born in fall so I didn't want her to be all wet, so changing the bib often meant that she is not covered in saliva and get cold
Agreed my baby went through so many bibs
Same. From 6m on we had bibs on our girl. She drooled like crazy and we just changed those constantly instead of her getting rashes and sitting in wet clothes. I can't stand seeing a baby with wet clothes or rashes that could be avoidable.
This is so specific to your needs. No first time mom should follow most of this. You never know what you are going to need. You are establishing what your needs are as a momma. This is good if you have a few kids and know what you typically need.
This is also the second video that says babies don’t need much for their skin. Another mom specific thing. You don’t know till you have your little one. Most kids with lots of melanin need moisturizer. It’s always good to have a good natural oil on hand which is one of the best things for cradle cap and little dry ankles or flaking facial skin.
People please. First time mommas. Put it all on the registry till you know your needs. Then for your next baby make these kinds of decisions
Totally agree! There are must haves which are standard no matter the kind of mom or baby like car seat, stroller, diapers. The rest really depends on the child and the environment, e.g. for fall/ autumn babies the needs may be different. I agree with some good to have items like the massage oil, most likely it will help the baby stay calm and it's good for their growing organs, bones, muscles. I am going to have my little one in October and I think it's best to put off most of the things until the baby is here and based on the needs to purchase at the time. Also, consult your own mom, mil, midwife and take what makes sense to you. A list is a great start with some details and links and once the baby is here, the items can be easily procured in today's time. A lot of people also mentioned having very little space, living in an apartment, good place to start would be to declutter, sell and/ or donate items not being utilized to create space and have peace.
Thank you so much for the perspective change! I have been so worried about the baby registry and not how I’m preparing to be the most intentional mom for my baby! Such a great mindset!
This was an excellent video and has been super helpful to me in both building my registry and refocusing my mindset as a soon-to-be first time mom. Thank you!!
Ah sooo excited for you! You are way ahead of the curve trying to learn all you can as a first-time mom. I wish I had been more minimal then. Congrats mama!
Great video! I'm a first-time mom & really appreciate the intentionality you bring to each of your item decisions to buy/skip. I'm seeing a lot of interesting baby products as I'm building my registry & it's easy to get carried away. Thank you for providing recommendations for clean products without toxic or unnecessary ingredients, too!
Thank you for sharing your thought about rehoming gifts! I have a hard time letting go of things I don’t use just because family has bought them for me. So I really need to hear that!
It feels like the more babies I have the less and less I realize I need! Spot on! ❤
I could cry I just found your page and I’m so happy. Christian, First baby and I’m TOTALLY tryna be minimal and mindful with this baby and our purchases since I have left my career to be a mom. So happy rn!!
Pacifiers were a life saver for us. My kid wanted to suck on something all the time and I breastfed on command but I did not want her to get used to using me as a pacifier. Also, easier to wean baby off a pacifier than thumb sucking. It has also been proven that pacifiers reduce the risks of SIDS in infants. After a year we only used pacifiers for sleep and long car rides to keep her content. Right before her 2nd birthday we weaned off pacifier completely. She breastfed beautifully up to 8 months when I decided it was time to go to formula for mental health reasons. She used the pacifier in the hospital and no nipple confusion whatsoever. Phillips avents are the best for breastfed babies. Some kids use it a lot longer but it’s our responsibility as parents to decide when the use of a pacifier has done it’s job and wean them off it.
I have had friends do it very well, so I agree it can be done. I am just proof that you don't HAVE to do it. But my friends with paci's love their choice too. Fun that we can all mama so different at times and our kids are fine ❤
My oldest 2 took pacifiers, both stopped at around age 3 completely and by age 1 it was in bed only. It was not hard to wean them. My 3rd had a gagging issue and did not take a pacifier and it's brutal not having a soother for him. I'm always holding him, which is okay, but it takes a toll on mental health and on physical health as well! My arms and back really took a beating...#4 is expected in the spring and I'm trying for a pacifier again with that one
Wow. Thank you for this INSIGHT! I appreciate you and this information.
This video was all that I needed . As a first time mum , currently in week 26, I wanted to find a video like this so I wouldn’t feel like I needed majority of the things you mentioned in the video. Am so much relieved now. My gust always wanted me to wait and I have been patiently waiting to get advice from ppl like you. Thank you once again. Really appreciated 🙏🏽
Really helpful! I'm 29 weeks pregnant and I've just been spending time looking online for things to buy for the baby. Thanks for your tips!
We are using a pack n play as the crib. A regular dresser as a changing table and no shoes no socks since I hear not to lol this is my first baby but I think very practical and hate wasting money and hoarding a bunch of items I don’t need
Yes I probably am doing the same at this point and I did use the pack n play for last two babies in my room to have a safe place to nap in. It is wild how little is needed to take care of our littles ❤️
I lov watching these videos bc it has helped me so much as a first time mom getting my registry ready. One thing I would love from these types of videos would be an example registry so I could kinda visualize all the good and what is recommended with links!
Ah that is a great idea! Here are some of my favorites organized together, but maybe in the future It would be good to have a downloadable registry to help mamas out. girlteachme.com/new-baby-favorites/
Expecting baby number #4 and I absolutely LOVE this video!
Thank you!!!
This video has been the most helpful one I’ve watch my whole pregnancy! Made me feel more confident in some of my decisions of things to not purchase/put on registry. You’re awesome! Gained a subscriber!
I've been so distracted by stuff. Your video really helped re-center me. Thank you will be buying your guide
Agree with almost all of this! This helped with mentally preparing for baby #3 and my fight with wanting things that everyone else wants and also knowing it won’t be necessary
Thank you ❤
Ah so glad! So little is needed to be a good mama and the pull from marketing is very real! Excited for you with baby #3! What a blessing!
This is an excellent video, for someone who is very interested in early child development you were spot on with so many points & unnecessary products!! Less is definitely more w babies and often more beneficial for them, such as freedom of movement! ❤
I love a baby monitor. It's really nice to see if the baby looks like he is going to fall back asleep. You don't want to go in there unless you have to!
Thanks! Your video helps a lot! I love it
Might be the best video I’ve seen so far for a first time mom, thank you!!!
Amazing tips. Thank you ❤
So good to hear someone say that the mittens aren't helpful! I've been saying this for years.
something bibs (the ones with the waterproof type liners) can be good for is babies who drool a lot! Keeping baby clean and dry as much as possible helps so much with rashes and skin irritation. Our first drooled so much all the time her clothes would get soaked all day and we'd be changing her clothes so often to try and keep her dry. the bibs with the liners helped us keep her clothes dry so we didn't have to change her clothes so much.
I agree so much. Things will not make us good parents or people. They just may or may not make our lives easier. Thanks for saying this. This is something I haven’t heard from any influencer moms so far. But a lot of expectant first-time parents needed to hear this, especially coming from a mom of four.
Wow i love this video. You've completely convinced me that i really dont need some of the things i put on my registry. But it makes complete logical sense. Thank you for sharing youre thoughts and reasonings. ❤
Ah so glad it was a help to you! That makes my day!
Better to get less, you can always buy it later if you feel like you do need it.
Loved this video! Im pregnant with #4 and even after bavy #3, there was so much that i decluttered and found was useless and didnt need.
Bibs however i needed for my first 2. They drooled so so much and changing the bib was easier than changing clothing
Yes! I loved the carters water resistant ones!
Yay for number 4! That is amazing and yes same everytime I got pregnant I was like why did I save this or that, I don't like it or never used it. So purging feels good, but also so many thoughts of why did I get this
Good to know!@@rebeccalacy2792
Pregnant with #4 as well. Will go over my baby boxes again now and be very realistic about what I used and need to keep. Last time, it was annoying to have so much so I cut down on tons and I can probably go even more minimal
Even when I had my first child I was a very practical mom and only buy necessary things. Love your video ❤
What a great video - so much valuable content❤
I have ubbi diaper trash can, and it keeps in smell really well, is high quality, and actually looks pretty cute. I know I will use it for all my babies, so I think it’s worth.
Ok that is good to know! thank you for letting us all know, bc esp in apartment situations it is tough to take a diaper to an outside trash all the time
@@girlteachmeyesss I’ve heard really good things about the ubbi and plus you don’t have to get specific liners for it, they fit normal kitchen trash bags
Great video! Having my first in a few weeks and we live in a small apartment and do not want to much clutter. What was great was that since we are stationed on the other side of the country away from family, many people gave us gift cards. I am able to have more time to research and figure out what I need and do not need, Of course some people gave gifts and I am grateful for them, but now everything else that was on the registry I can reevaluate what I want to get.
As an infant teacher, we LOVE and need bibs😅 especially during the teething phase, they will drool so much and get their clothes wet, bibs save you from having to change their clothes. We have some babies that go through 3 bibs a day
As a first time mom, this video was super helpful! My hubby and I live in a small space and I’ve been trying to embrace minimalist lately so I’ve been stressing over what I actually need versus is cool to have versus a waste of money. Will plan my registry accordingly
This was helpful and honest Thank You for that!! 😄
Yay so glad it was helpful Paige ❤ Wishing you all the best with your babe
I agree with everything you mention on your video. I’m expecting baby #4 and I keep things minimal.
I really enjoyed this video!
Yay! So glad it was helpful to you!
Loved this!!
For my first I mainly bought clothing for 6-12m, but it was just my luck that she was size 0-3 until she was 9m 😂. ❤
You’re so genuine it was empowering to listen to you ❤
Love all the tips, and like the fact that you emphasized for certain items like the swing that some mommas may find it useful and some not. Great tips! A good suggestion I have received for the good to have items to wait it out with a list until the baby is here and procure depending on the needs of the baby. I am going to get the universal standard items that are needed like the car seat, stroller, diapers, a dresser (adult type) nothing baby like and in good solid wood so that it can be used when they are older. Same for other furniture that can fulfil the long term need for the child.
Prepping to be a first time mommy. This was such a treat to watch.
I’m expecting my 5th as well! I love the mindset behind this, even though we do some things differently. Several of my babies have had lip ties, which made breastfeeding a challenge. We adapted for what each baby needed. However, I would suggest looking into insurance benefits for an electric pump! It’s nice to have on hand in case breastfeeding does not go as planned, and then you’re not scrambling in that postpartum stage to figure it out. Most insurance companies will cover most, if not all of the cost for a basic electric pump. Along that line of thought, don’t overdo it on the bottles - but maybe grab one bottle from a couple different brands to see what works for your baby if you need to go that route. Not much investment up front, and if you don’t need them you can always donate them or give to a friend later. I love the idea of looking at the baby items as “tools”, to see what we really need and what functions well.
Ah so fun you are pregnant with your 5th! and YES good point, if your insurance will cover it, it is nice to just have. Also, my friends who do use bottles say the same, you never know what style of nipple and bottle ya might like, so not going overboard investing in a style until you know you like it-I totally agree with that point too. Great wisdom ❤
If you sign up to get baby boxes, you get enough bottles to last for 3 kids 😂😂😂 I still have some unused ones from 2 babies ago
If you must buy baby toys and books and such, designate a shoe box size container. When it's full your done.
I dont get the nursery thing they are meant to stay with you anyway at first. Better off saving making a special room for them when they are older and can choose what they'd like with you.
A nursery is so lovely in pictures, but truly not necessary. I have enjoyed keeping my babies close too, they are such a joy and grow so fast. ❤️
@@girlteachme so true! whats the rush!
Thank you! You mentioned filing the nails down. Been trying to find a good way to go about it, I absolutely hate the slippers so thinking file be better yes
I used bibs more from 4 months to uhh even now sometimes for my almost 2 year old. She got teeth really early and was a big drooler. They saved our outfits. I stocked up on the cotton bandana ones that have a snap so they cant pull them off and the bandana look is super cute.
The bandana ones are so much cuter, I agree!
Pregnant with twins this is my 2nd pregnancy and I am definitely doing a minimalist style this time! I loved all your thoughts and opinions!
Same! I'm 34 wks now with twin boys and my family thinks I need double Everything! And that is not the case! I am trying so hard to keep it very minimal!!
Congratulations btw!
@@housefullofawesome thank u, Congratulations to u too ☺️
Whahoo that is amazing! So happy for you and yes I can't imagine how much stuff that would be to manage so I think you are smart going more minimal esp with two babies. Oh congrats what a blessing!
Wow yes double everything would be so intense! Excited for you and congrats!@@housefullofawesome
@@girlteachme 😊 thank you
They have come up with a better diaper pail!! Ubbi diaper pail. Uses whatever trash bags you already have! Stainless steel so it keeps stink in and a charcoal pouch at the bottom keeps the smell/moisture down. 1000% worth it
Oh interesting! Thanks for sharing. Proof that we all learn from one another, so going too research that now 🤓
Also, how bad is the smell when you go to change the pail? I think that is my concern, just have so many smell memories I would love to forget forever from a diaper pail haha
I was in a walker as a baby and I didn’t have hip dysplasia or bowed legs. I walked at 9 months though and my mom swears it was from my legs being strengthened from the walker.
Really appreciate this video. Thank you so much.
Amazing and helpful Content !!! Also thank you so much for the survival guide:)♥️
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I concur with everything on this list. With my second child I didn’t use most of these things except the swing for a few months and wipe warmers (which I did not always use but was helpful at night). I wish they would stop making so many gimmicky products for new moms.
Ah yes their are so many gimmicky products, but it is just preying on new mamas who don't know. And that breaks my heart, bc with my first money was super super tight, but I just didn't know. It is a marketing machine for sure!
Oh man so much information 😮💨 I’m a first time mom and man I need to rewatch with a note book
Remember that every baby is different and that stores don't close once baby is born. If you need something you didn't get, you can buy it then
Hello! Thank you for this video 😊 Where did you get the cute dresses and bonnet at 4:00 ?
100000% agree with the diper genie and the wipe warmer.
Great video and advice
Ah thank you! Glad it was helpful!
New to your channel! Off topic, but I'd love to see some of your cast iron skillet recipes! Looked so yummy!
Ah that would be fun! I will add that to the list ❤ thank you for the idea
Great video, I have 2 and 100% agree with everything on your list. For teething I use Camelia Drops they work amazing.
Pregnant with my first due in 4 weeks currently and pretty happy with this list! I didn’t get the majority of these so far so I feel pretty good!! I put the UBBI diaper pail on my registry and I think it might be a good one! It’s steel so it doesn’t absorb smell like plastic does and you can use any bags with it which I really like so we’ll see if I made a good choice!
Love my ubbi! I’ve used it so far for 6 months and it’s great. It can’t be a little awkward to get full bags out but it’s worth it to me. Congratulations mama!
I agree, I have this as well and it is worth it.
I had my first baby at 19 over 4 years ago and there was a lot I didn’t get because I just couldn’t afford to and didn’t have the space for. Activity center? Baby blankets. I loved having a baby carrier and later on I did get a cheap swing for my son which he hated so I gave it away after like 2 weeks. I thought wipe warmers were silly. They dry out your wipes and half the time you’re not changing them by the wipe warmer lol. Never used a burp cloth. I kept the clothes from my first boy to put on my second I’m 40 weeks with now. I didn’t use baby powder but I loved having an on hand zinc cream because if being naked to air dry the start of a rash wasn’t enough to make a diaper rash go away I loved how fast it got rid of the redness and irritation. My mom is an occupational therapist so I avoided certain toys like bouncers and walkers because she would inform me how they weren’t the best for development of milestones. My first refused bottles and pacifiers. This time I’ll return to work instead of being a sahm so I have to introduce a bottle this time but there was just a lot of stuff I didn’t have to use. So I agree with a lot of this
Wow I love that insight and yes so beautiful that while you didn't have all the options to get the best of the best in baby items, that you did showed up and loved your baby. I wish more women knew how little it takes to love our babies well. I think marketing preys on our insecurity as a mama to make us feel like we need so much, but it is really not true. WOW I am so excited for you mama praying for a smooth, beautiful birth for you!
@@girlteachme thank you so much! And this is very true. Babies need love and care more than all the fancy accessories. Consumerism and marketing definitely prey on mom’s who are just trying to love their babies and they feel like they must have all these things to prove it. Presence, not presents ❤️
Loved the video
Thank you!!
This has been the best not only things not to buy video, but also a reflection for me. As a first time mama, I fell into the trap of buying so many things before birth and during postpartum (late night Amazon purchases 😅). Now that I’m pregnant with Baby #2, I know what works for our family and I relate to most of the things you mentioned.
Also, I laughed out loud when you mentioned how stinky the diaper genie gets. We’re currently still using ours for our first baby and the odor is HORRENDOUS. And those liners just add up in finances. Planning to get rid of it soon and considering the Uppi Diaper Pail like some other mamas recommended. 😊
gracious isn't that smell so special, you only know if you know. And YES, so incredibly glad that this video was helpful for you. That makes my day! Sending love and prayers your way baby #2! Excited for you!
How funny as a mom of soon to be 8 things I love are a good diaper bag.
Also I love burp cloths. The flannel and cloth diapers are what I use and LOVE!
Bamboo towels are the best for baby the hooded baby bamboo towel.
When she said no to Diaper Bags, I nearly fell over lol
I’m having my first baby and my sisters and cousin who’s had their baby months before me are just giving me all their lightly used and unused baby stuff so basically everything is marked off my baby registry besides a car seat and stroller which they are still using themselves, so basically I don’t have to buy anything cause my sisters just want to get the stuff out of their houses so I’ll be receiving baby diapers and cloths that my sisters kid grew out of quickly and she has boxes and boxes of diapers and cloths for different ages and so my sisters and cousin are saving me thousands just by giving me this stuff which helps a lot and I do let them know that, we’re a pretty close knit family so my sisters know what I like and what I’ll be looking for so I don’t have to worry about them giving me anything I don’t like or won’t use. Anyway I do like your video it is very helpful and I’ll be passing it on to another sister of mine who I just found out is also expecting her first, and this will be very helpful knowledge for her since pregnancy is overwhelming at times.
My kid was the Queen of droolers for months. So bibs were a MUST! She flew threw so many bibs in a day! Also, my daughter never latched so I was an exclusive pumpers. I actually regret getting the free pink spectra off of insurance and not putting in the extra money for the blue version.
Wow that does sound like you needed bibs! Yes if you are exclusively pumping then I would really pour some cash into making that the best experience possible for sure. That is a big job and I admire my friends who have done that, bc it is a commitment ❤
Both videos are great. You both had great ideas!
Quite a few here that are hard necessities for me. Just keep in mind, if you enjoy these things and they make motherhood easier, get them! Just as we need to normalize minimalism, we should also normalize the mom that likes to have all the things! A solid diaper bag, monitor, swing, etc. are a must in my opinion.
Also-my son had pretty severe baby eczema. DEFINITELY speak to your pediatrician to make sure baby's skin has what it needs. to say no to oils, lotions etc. can absolutely do more harm than good. GREAT VIDEO THOUGH. Super helpful!!
Interesting perspective. Currently pregnant with baby #4 and I agree with some things, I am also not what you would consider a minimalist, so that could be why. One note I wanted to mention is nowadays, most insurance companies cover the cost of an electric breast pump, so I think it's worth it to take advantage of that if you can. If not, there are some amazing affordable electric breast pump options as well, I get your perspective, but that's really only realistic for SAHMs as well as not having bottles.
Ok.
The things I am still getting on this list.
1. Baby monitor. I hate to hear the sound of crying and get to a sleeping baby. So baby monitor comes in handy for me to make sure I need to make the trip to the bedroom. I am in the kitchen cooking, outside hanging clothes, in the garden or taking a bath and checking on my baby when I need to is nice. I have never continously hovered over the monitor, so I am good with it.
2. Baby bottle and electric pump. On my first I breastfed and pumped a lot cause night time feeds were exclusively for my husband as that was their bonding time. So we need those bottles and pump still. The manual one would be too exhausting and I now plan on getting the new wearable ones that I can use even when cooking. As for price, the previous one was a cheaper unknown brand that I used without any problems, so I will get whatever my money can buy.
3. Bibs. 2-5 minutes after every burp there was a throw up. And teething drool started at 3 months. So bibs are a no brainer here.
4. Mittens. Not only helped with scratches but also used thicker ones for warmth. And even socks had to go inside the rompers on very cold days. There is no such thing as central heating where we live😂.
The rest of the stuff, I never even considered on my first and won't even now.
Interesting how each baby has different needs so I can't say never on anything.
One of greatest blessings was rehoming our precious baby's items ❤️
This was super helpful thank you!! We have a tiny house and i have to be super careful not to get or ask for things that will only clutter my space and not be useful. On a side note i am worried about what to do if a pushy elderly friend buys something i dont need, and i know they are going to ask if im liking it, etc. 😭 because i know some older people who can be very pushy about things like that and ive already had it happen with non-baby items 😅
As a gerd baby mom - burp cloths were a necessity. I never would have had enough muslin blankets to clean up all that reflux spitup. And if you plan on going back to work you'll need a pump if you plan on also breastfeeding. So obviously YMMV with this video.
I put mittens and socks on my registry, but if no one gifts them for me, I won’t feel like I have to have them! Thank you for the encouraging words!
Yes it does make you feel like ok, if I don't get that one thing I can make do and still lean in and give my best for baby. Mittens or no mittens. So excited for you!
First time mom here and this was so helpful! I’m going back to reduce my registry
Love my haakaa! I stored most of my milk from it! Just on my first baby, but I ain’t got time for excessive pumping. Nor a need really😅 great info!
Yes it is WILD how much milk can be stored from it! So many friends have said the same. ❤️
I hated pumping with a passion. With my 3rd I didn't work outside the house so I just refused to even get one. I ended up getting a huge stash from the hakaa and I was always home so didn't even use it. I couldn't find a milk bank on time in my new city and all that milk was thrown away a year later. It was so sad
Love this video, FTM here and i truly believe in minimalism and cannot believe how the baby market is flooded with so many gimmicky things. What are your must haves that have been useful every time that you would absolutely recommend buying? Would specially love to know your opinion on crib/bassinet for the first few months. Thanks ❤coco
agree with basically all of these! less physical clutter means less mental clutter
Bamboo convertible onsies are amazing!!
Oh tell me why you love them? Like a baby onsies
I only used a diaper warmer because 1. It was given to me. but 2. It was the middle of winter in a poorly insulated house. We only used it at night.
This has been the best things not to buy video I've watched for me. I relate to it so much and share the same ideas.
Thank you for sharing this.
Ah so glad it was helpful! Makes my day!
Most helpful video that I’ve seen. There has been many videos called “minimalist newborn list” and they are not minimalist at all…..
I felt so heard when you talked about the pacifiers. My first had latch issues as a premie and I had to pump and bottle feed and work diligently to get her to breastfeed. It was awful. I decided to wait the 6 weeks to introduce a pacifier because I didnt want to ruin our breastfeeding progress. By the time I introduced the paci she had zero interest in it. Thats when I decided we really dont need one.
But my second is a thumb sucker. The Dr advised that she might need braces if it goes on too long, but she might need braces anyway.
Thank you for being honest about your experience.
I agree. We don't need to go with every trend buttttt but it's told from someone with 5 kids. I'm sure with your first kid, you enjoyed buying things and obviously found what you do and don't like.
Everyone will learn these things on their own. I'm glad your 5 baby items and work for you. :)
Has anyone tried shea butter and tallow for stretch marks? If so, which do you think worked better? 🙂
I agree with looking for functional items first, how i see it is I imagine what will I be doing ( baby is on the way) during the day and what are the tools that can make my new life easier, for instance we got some teething toys that you can fill with fruit or freeze , so the Bebe can chew and gets some stimulation from it too etc.
Thank you for mentioning especially the diaper genie. They are horrible!!!
They really are, a gal mentioned one made of stainless steel that is better. I am still nervous about that horrible smell of a week or more of dirty diapers that have fermented together 🤢 BUT she said it was way better
For a diaper pail I highly recommended the Ubbi
Love her ❤️
I used a lot of burp wipes, it was so nice to put a small cloth under my babys head so if he had any spit ups in his bassinet, stroller or swing, i didnt need to replace a whole entire cover.
Wet wipes warmer, I LOOOVED mine. My kiddo was born in January. I used it in our bedroom, mostly during the night, it was nice because it wouldnt wake him up, and used regular wipes when we were downstairs during the day. When he was older and didnt need night time diaper changes, i just kept it unplugged because it worked as a great weight, so i didnt need 2 hands to pull out wipes. A lot of people think its a waste, but i absolutely loved mine.
Baby towels suck. They're too small. The only one that I saw in normal size is the copper pearl brand, but i dont know how absorbent they are, i havent tried them myself. Any other brand, is not worth it.
Avocado slicer is not only really needed for the nut part, so you dont cut yourself.
Definitely not buying baby furniture except crib, which for the second baby my sister is giving me hers.
Im getting a baby monitor, I sleep much better knowing ill hear my kiddo crying than always having to wonder if hes actually crying. Phanthom crying is legit and I hate it.
My kid drooled all over the place, not just spit. Bibs were my life savers.
I had a lot of baby creams in every diaper changing corner, but i only used any creams, lotions, all of that, i only used when really necessary.
Baby crib bumper thing, I used the mesh one because my kiddo would get his hands stuck between the slats.
I never had a diaper geanie but im planning to try out the diaper pail that uses regular diaper bags. With my first kiddo i used doggy bags to tie diaper bags so they dont stink.
I got the graco swing for my kiddo, and he LOOOVED it. He tried the mamaroo like 3 times and HATED it. Im so glad i didnt buy it for him.
The Baby Stuff gig is a huge money maker. My sister always jokes about How did Cave Babies survive without a wipes warmer?
By child #3 I had eliminated a lot of the same things! Based on this thinking, what tips would you have for baby shower shopping?? I typically spend $20-50 depending on my relationship with the mother.
Ah such a good question! If I can't find an item on her list that I KNOW she will use and use, I seriously get her size 1 box of honest diapers and a 3 pack of honest wipes or a gift card so she can add it to others' gift cards to get that BIG thing she needs. I have also arranged a big group gift if I knew there was a big thing she wants and I know a bunch of gals at the same shower so we can all buy the car seat or stroller she wants. When you get 5-6 women pool together you can really slay a big gift item for her.
I think baby bibs are essential for when they start eating solids - 6m+ - I like the silicone catcher bibs. Been using the same 2 for 3 years now! Perfect for pasta / noodles / rice
Totally agree on the clothes. My daughter was born in the spring (and Covid) so we were always home and never needed to dress up. A diaper and a t shirt worked great! Lol
For the moms who do bottle feed, don't be afraid that you are overfeeding your baby. They will literally stop drinking when they don't want anymore, and once they get a little older, they may even slap the bottle away. 😅
Learn your baby's fullness cues and do what's best for mom and baby.
My first baby did actually overeat, and developed horrible reflux from it. When we cut back 2oz every feed, it went away. If baby had enough milk for their age/size, give them a binky. Sometimes they just want the comfort feeling they get from the bottle or boob, they can get it from a paci too but without overeating.
@@MyBoysAndJoys that's good you figured out and got guidance about what to do and it helped your baby.
It is a really good idea to watch and learn their cues, they are certainly communicating with us the best they can ❤️
I am not a mom but I've been in any for over 25 years and I honestly think using a purse is the most ideal thing you can do. In some cases a mom might want to have an oversized purse. Especially if your mom who likes to be prepared for anything. For things like a change of clothes for Baby and even for the mom. Honestly if one member of the family has a diaper bag it would be the dad because he usually is not already carrying around a purse or bag for things like diapers wipes binkies, teethers or other things