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Most of these cases seem to stem from Republicans wanting everyone to have access to firearms, no questions asked. They crave the chaos it causes I think. Lets them step in with authoritarianism to "solve" the problems they have caused.
@@heyigotchaosjuice7091 Yeah if you hear someone being abused you call the cops. Not in this particular case. Sending him a picture of the boyfriend was like loading the gun for him.
@@pmoore4637 His Parents will have to take care of the children unless they go to her side of the family.... What a sad situation. No mother. Father's in prison. Neighbors are probably loving all the drama.
police would have taken the report from his father but would'nt or could'nt have done anything short of just taken a report unless father of shooter told police he actually said son was goung to inflict harm or worse.
@@darthphilfy no they weren't, her infidelity is what caused the separation, even the fathers pleadings indicates that. I'm not justifying it, just stating an obvious fact.
@@jado4149 they were already separated & getting a divorce before she was seeing him…….it does NOT give you a right to end someone’s life and also end her friend’s life too. He had harassed her & broken into her home. This is just a man who lacked self control & any love for the mother of his kids. He harassed & threatened her was going to kill her anyway regardless. You blaming a victim is insane….that dude was saying things just to get sympathy & avoid the death penalty. The crazy thing is she should’ve pressed charges against her for harassment but she didn’t want him to be away from his kids. James was also seeing someone, yet he felt the need to end her life. This was just an excuse, he was going to kill her regardless.
@@crutch132That is NOT love. Love doesn't make you kill. Don't romanticize his actions. Plenty of people have broken up and not killed each other. He had other issues that lead to this, hate wasn't it either. More like jealousy.
Why didn't she just call the cops when she arrived at her ransacked home? What was the point of summoning all her friends? Just call the cops! You know who did it!
@Beth-mi2hf so u rather the truth.... not be spoken... to shield the persons that are now dead? Yet the same truth could save someone? Please explain?
these warped men have such huge egos that they can't stand rejection. WTH is happening to common sense and self-sacrifice? Parents now seem to want to live a life as if they're childless and single with no regard for the kids. Selfish a-holes.
I told a Blakeslee ,Ohio police chief that a 7 year old girl told me she was being molested by a cousin . The pos police chief pulled me close and prayed for me . Not her ,but prayed for me ! Never wrote a report , never stopped it ,didn’t do anything .But he prayed for me ! Police are a joke anymore !
Someone once told me that the most dangerous call for a police officer to respond to, a domestic violence incident, i believe this to be true,if anger is a flood, rage is a tidal wave, I’ve seen someone who came to kill a lover or a spouse, and ended up killing everybody in the house, no way she should’ve stayed in that house after finding it ransacked like that, the only reason she should’ve called any of her friends, is to ask for a ride out of there if she didn’t have a vehicle
Seeing someone yet she can’t see anyone is beyond insane. I wonder what the gossipy neighbor up to these days, not minding his business led to tragedy for everyone involved 🤬
Thats how they think my ex got a woman pregnant and went on with her and i moved on a year after he came to where i was and physically assaulted me we have grown kids in common and grandkids at that point but the nerve
If the father had called 911, after speaking with his son, the police could have either prevented the situation from occurring or been in a position to save lives.
One man thought the other was there to kill him, and he had no weapon of defence. What was he supposed to do? Get killed for three women, he hardly knows? And tell us in detail what you would have done? Would you have thrown away your life for three women who'd have forgotten in weeks that you tried to save them? Do you think they'd have paid for a statue of you? Grow up, fake tough guy.
Exactly This is what happens when women choose loser men. I don't feel sorry for any of them, except maybe for the friends that chose to go to her house.
I would like to see someone "create" a monitor that is not prohibitive to any human activity to collect data on human emotions to/from Family Destruction Court$ ~ chag ching! and is where the child/ren suffer the most from with EXception of juveNILE court$ where children aren't allow to have a Jury trial and are automatically guilty of something!!! in too many JURIS DICTION$ acCROSS jerUSAlem and most of the so-called free world ~ jOKe but at least it's not like I-RAN where females don't have the same rights as males. Right? or so that's what the proPAGANda media 'news' tells us .... never been there so idk, anybody out there live in IRAN? oh, i don't think they have the World Wide Web availABEL to them from what i was told by NEWS
Most of these cases seem to stem from Republicans wanting everyone to have access to firearms, no questions asked. They crave the chaos it causes I think. Lets them step in with authoritarianism to "solve" the problems they have caused.
She should have left that house immediately and called the police to report what she found in there. But I also have to say, imo, that boyfriend, Lamar, is a pos for leaving 3 women to defend themselves. What a cowardly thing to have done. All 3 might still be alive, had he gotten them all barricaded in a room and notified 911. Shameful.
No time to barricade the house as he was already shooting inside the house. He would've been dead too if he had stayed it was smart not cowardly! he tried to draw the attention away since he thought that James was looking for him. It's not worth dying over a woman who you've been seen for a few months.
@@manilkasheran2934 @manilkasheran2934 He could have barricaded them all in the bedroom. He is a coward. I wouldn't ever be in a foxhole with him. POS in my opinion. It doesn't matter if she was a stranger to him. He is a man. What generation are you from. Wow. Not worth dying over a woman you've known for a few months... wtf... so you abandon 3 helpless women, despite your Marine background? Wow. Our country is screwed with 'men' like you talking like this. Shameful.
One of the saddest things in these cases are the little ones tht won’t remember how great their mothers were how much they cared for and loved them each and every one. It breaks my heart for all these babies💔😭💐
So this lamar started an affair with a married woman which tipped an already abusive & crazed husband over the edge! Then this guy with "military experience" first didn't realise he was shot at and then subsequently ran leaving 3 women alone with a gunman!! Also those neighbours sending pictures to the husband should be in court for the consequences that followed.
What’s wrong with everyone commenting! Husband was a mental case. He was seeing someone else too! Her boyfriend wasn’t armed and husband was looking for him. What was he supposed to do. He didn’t know he would kill anyone but him.
@@Jblaze024 Maybe he would’ve stayed if he was armed, maybe if the husband wasn’t armed. That’s just crazy to stay there when someone is calling your name and shooting.
Yea, if Lamar had a weapon, I could question his manhood, but if he had no gun...then staying at the scene would have meant 3 dead.... When these men get hurt... move to another country, change your name, and get gun training because they become selfish toddlers with no one in mind but themselves....and this is the result! My condolences to the victim's families
@@Leothelioness He's a coward that wanted revenge. Imo he would have not let that go. But you're right. I would have definitely called the police. But also armed myself at all times
Ya that tells you something right there. Why did she call her friends? and not 911. Because she wanted power over him. She was not afraid, otherwise she would have called 911. ANd there is reason why all this happened.
A lot of the "innocent" people in this situation were co-conspirators/active participants. From the wife's friends, to Lamar, and even the nosey neighbor sending pictures of Lamar to the ex-husband were part of this crazy tragedy. Seems like karma to me.
What do I think you ask? This might not have happened if a nosey neighbor minded his own business! That picture set this whole rage mode into motion. Glad the jury made the right decision for that man.
It might not have happened if the judge put him in jail an hour earlier. The lawyer, Kyle bedran, accepted responsibility for him and he went and did this. I don't know why that is never brought. I knew these ladies. I lived nearby. I know Kyle bedran too. I felt like he should've been held accountable too.
That neighbour who sent that picture should carry some guilt to what they contributed to this whole thing, honestly people in picket fence houses have time for nothing but each other's business.
That is no excuse. My father was a violent drunk who tried to kill My mother and me. And supposedly, drunks breed drunks and abusers breed abusers. Not in our family. We clearly saw what we didn’t want. None of us are violent and none of us drink.
It depends- I was heavily influenced by my mom, and thought it was the norm to throw things at my own husband(now ex, but not for that reason) when we had altercations. My mother didn't drink or take drugs. She was, and still is, a bully/ "victim" -weird but true- she bullies because she thinks people do things against her on purpose,me included.
@@galeem713 My parents fought like crazy people growing up and my stepdad was violent. I never wanted to get married or have children. Who would want to live in that sort of environment ?? I feel so bad for their kids who have to pick up the pieces and move on
Thats right instead of calling 911, laying low with a firearm and waiting for the police just invite lamar and some friends over for show and tell, what could possibly go wrong?
Typical domestic violence and no protection for the victim. The police and courts keep giving these violent people another chance and say they see no danger. Then there’s a funeral! Sickening.
She could have had him in jail a year prior but chose not to then she could have called the day of but she called her lover and friends. She’s not too bright
@@MeBihhhh where I live we have domestic violence laws and it is police that lay charges not the person that is victimized as our police are trained in domestic violence and know that victims are in a cycle of abuse in which the survivors often return or are manipulated by the abuser. It shouldn’t have been up to her to make the decision regarding charges.
@@lukeemmanuelhammond6024yeah but he had training and didn't even try to keep the women focused and get them out of the house safely. He just ran and left them in an extremely dangerous situation that they had no way of ever preparing for
You could never prevent an angry man from this type of crime if you remain in the neignbour hood. Women should be very careful in bringing a new man into the home with children that belong to their ex it never ends well when you know there are bitter
The better response for women, equalize , get your own pew pew spend time learning how to use it effectively , and get two or three very protective big dogs. The stay afraid , and give up control over your life speeches are very outdated.
"oh, the house has been ransacked....i have a brilliant idea: let's stay here and call some friends over maybe the intruder will come back and kill us all". 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
Yes, this should be covered in high school mental health class. Signs of narcissistic traits and control issues. Signs of emotional instability and self-centeredness. Young people need to be aware and not put their heads in the sand for the pretty wedding and family with the picket fence. It's a mirage.
@@axelmike9676lmao Calling a man a Coward when he had nothing to defend himself. Already shot at and he decides to flee because he was the intended target. In hopes that the attacker will leave if Lamar wasn’t in the house anymore
She Called 3 Different friends to come Comfort her with the Destruction of her home, But didn't Call 911 ?!?! And NEITHER DID ANY OF THE 3 FRIENDS ??? FOOLISH, ALL 4 OF THEM !!! They All had a CHANCE TO HELP HER AND THEMSELVES, BUT DID NOTHING TO PREVENT WHAT CAME. TOO SORRY AND WAAAAAY TOOOOOO LATE, FRIENDS 🙄🙄🙄
Hear me out , people usually don't knowingly marry monsters , so to imagine that someone you loved and had children with would /could be capable of this , would be a stretch for most people. The house , that was just stuff, replaceable. Also he'd already had a PO on him , and was able to break in a burn her clothes. She probably had given up on law enforcement being helpful.
@@killereverb3928 no but had ANY of them called the day before, he Might've been arrested the Day Before, and the following morning she could've been at the Courthouse getting an PROTECTION ORDER ! What is it You STILL DON'T UNDERSTAND 🤣 !! She Never Reached Out for Help when She Absolutely Could have. So whose problem is that now, Certainly NOT MINE ! Myself, my Family and My Friends are 100% ALIVE
What branch of the military taught the bf to run away from the fight instead of trying to protect the folks you care about I wonder. He sure left her to fend for herself didnt he? Unreal
That nosey neighbor got her killed by spying on her for her husband smh those poor babies don't have a mom now this is heartbreaking I remember watching this
It’s incredible to think that he was in court that morning for assaulting his wife and must of had a no contact order yet went straight there and shot her and her friends! I don’t believe in capitol punishment, he should rot in a maximum security jail for the rest of his life for what he did! Just shocking!
Why wouldn't she call police after the break in? And why do you people (the ones who have affairs) not just come out leave? She must have known him more than most and how he would act but she calls her friends in that situation
I think his father's infidelity and his mother beating his father in front of him messed him up psychologically. Not condoning what he did in the least, he ended multiple lives and ruined the lives of his children because of his possessiveness, I just think witnessing those things broke him psychologically. Maybe if he had gotten some help earlier in life this wouldn't have happened.
Lamar, being military trained, did not bring a hand gun? Doesn't own one? He also fled like a coward, leaving the women alone. Somebody have a cellphone? Why were the cops never called from the very beginning?
@sylentknight First, you walk into a house that's totally trashed, call the cops. She called the boyfriend knowing that the ex is behind the drama. If I was Lemar, I'd bring a gun. Next, tell the ladies to get out of the house. Then I'd lay in wait. Dude wants to come in? Let him come.
Instead of calling her friends, why didn’t Amanda call 911 first. Then if she still needed moral support she could call her friends. I believe that had she called 911 first, the chances of survival would have increased significantly.
A word of advice: first, get a divorce before getting involved with someone else; this will also allow you to know who you are really married to. Second, give yourself and your partner time to adjust, before getting involved with someone else. Besides being a matter of respect for your partner and yourself, divorce is like death, it requires mourning. Loss from death is not exclusively the cause of all experience of grief. Please note that I am not here defending either men or women, this goes both ways.
In this story the two of them have physically moved on with other people. The man was angry because he would have preferred the woman to be miserably single while he enjoyed the company of another woman.
What is going on in this world with shootings,stabbings and the rest and mad people killing their own children. So different from when I was growing up.
Truly it’s not, the media machine just didn’t work in the way it does today. Crime has actually gone down - People just consume more so they pick through everything do get more money off of peoples suffering
If you ever read the book weird scenes inside the canyon, you'll soon realise that there was a world of violence in LA in the hippie scene around Laurel canyon in the lead up to the Manson murders.
We get news from all over the planet in seconds. Nothing has changed except for the ammount of firearms in the USA now. The violent genie can't be put back in the bottle.
what a chicken this "marine" guy Lamar proved to be - no country needs such protectors, running away like a cry baby and leaving three ladies to their own fate while saving his own skin. A real disgrace...
This was preventable, cops should immediately be sent out to the home of victims after their abuser gets out of court to do surveillance for at least two hours. Having a weapon locked upstairs for protection, calling the cops and reporting your ex when they do stuff like that. She didn't want to lock him up because the kids...never give the person abusing you mercy because theyll never show you that same thing at the end of the day. So sad.
That Lamar guys inability to foresee what will happen is shocking. And leaving three innocent women, one of them is his girlfriend, and runaway ??? An ex-military ??? Can't believe it
Stay out of married people's drama. I believe the best friend got shot multiple times because she was too close to his ex. Unfortunately, the wife's new BF was a coward.
She f'd up IMO WHEN she was faced with the choice. She called her friends and boyfriend ... instead of immediately leaving WHILE calling 911, securing a weapon for wtf might be lurking in or around the house and praying. 😢
I’m still watching, but Amanda was wrong, separated or not, you cannot bring another man to your marital home, this move was wrong in her part, ain’t no man going to be okay with such. I have 21:36 minutes left, people separation is not divorce, this is two different elements, a responsible man would never ever want to step foot in another man’s home.
I agree 💯. I believe you should not open any news doors until you've closed the one behind you first. Also, Amanda had too many girlfriends in her business. That's not to forget that coward boyfriend of hers who high tail it out of there.
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ELLICK IS INNOCENT AND HE DID NOT KILL HIS WIFE AND SON
@@NotoriousEmu me too!
Most of these cases seem to stem from Republicans wanting everyone to have access to firearms, no questions asked. They crave the chaos it causes I think. Lets them step in with authoritarianism to "solve" the problems they have caused.
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The neighbor who sent him the picture helped fuel his actions. People should mind their business.
There's always that one neighbor who can't mind their business.
But then people also complain when a neighbor doesn't help because they are minding their business.
I lived in a nearby neighborhood. There's a reason I left! Nothing but busy bodies
@@heyigotchaosjuice7091 Yeah if you hear someone being abused you call the cops. Not in this particular case. Sending him a picture of the boyfriend was like loading the gun for him.
@@Paul-qy9bbsubjective.
When he was on the phone with his father, his father should have called 911 when he knew something was wrong.
You can't go on hunch
@@pmoore4637 His Parents will have to take care of the children unless they go to her side of the family.... What a sad situation. No mother. Father's in prison. Neighbors are probably loving all the drama.
police would have taken the report from his father but would'nt or could'nt have done anything short of just taken a report unless father of shooter told police he actually said son was goung to inflict harm or worse.
His father should have called his daughter in law to tell her to get out of the house!!
Why? Her husband had already message her he would come and find him. I didn't hear the father in law say his son was on his way to kill her.
@@sweetiepie3359 imo the son called the father and told him exactly what he was going to do.
I bet you're the type that likes to blame everyone else. Liberal?
@@Troe76
Yes. He knew his son was in a rage. He could have done something.
@@maryswanson9982maybe it was late
Avoid recently divorced women or men
Better yet, don't be the extra man while she's still married. This is what caused the separation.
@jado4149 they were separated before the relationship begun.
@@darthphilfy no they weren't, her infidelity is what caused the separation, even the fathers pleadings indicates that. I'm not justifying it, just stating an obvious fact.
@@jado4149 they were already separated & getting a divorce before she was seeing him…….it does NOT give you a right to end someone’s life and also end her friend’s life too. He had harassed her & broken into her home. This is just a man who lacked self control & any love for the mother of his kids. He harassed & threatened her was going to kill her anyway regardless. You blaming a victim is insane….that dude was saying things just to get sympathy & avoid the death penalty. The crazy thing is she should’ve pressed charges against her for harassment but she didn’t want him to be away from his kids. James was also seeing someone, yet he felt the need to end her life. This was just an excuse, he was going to kill her regardless.
Separated is still married!
He apparently hated his wife more than he loved his children. He made them orphans who now have to live with the horrors of what he did.
Indeed
He didnt hate her, he still loved her, thts why he was so crazy. When he saw tht guy at the house
@@crutch132That is NOT love. Love doesn't make you kill. Don't romanticize his actions. Plenty of people have broken up and not killed each other. He had other issues that lead to this, hate wasn't it either. More like jealousy.
@@NothingRhymesWithAlexwell, stop cheating then.😂😂😂
@@crutch132if you think that is love you are a snag short of a barbie
I want to know who was the horrible neighbor who sent James the picture of the boyfriend mowing the lawn shirtless!!!
Mrs Kravitz ?
Why didn't she just call the cops when she arrived at her ransacked home? What was the point of summoning all her friends? Just call the cops! You know who did it!
Let's not blame the victim smdh
@Beth-mi2hf so u rather the truth.... not be spoken... to shield the persons that are now dead? Yet the same truth could save someone? Please explain?
Right THEN she was wondering if she could get on “Flip This House.” With minimal rehab!
NOTHING was stolen, house was ‘just’ ransacked. Gee….I WONDER WHO could have done it!! THINK, me, THINK!!!”
WHO??? MY guess is the Grinch!
Calling the police before the friends would have helped. This is beyond tragic.
Maybe....
My thought exactly.
My exact thoughts
He was supposedly wanting the kids but obviously did not care about them. He just wanted control. Demonic.
Very angry
these warped men have such huge egos that they can't stand rejection. WTH is happening to common sense and self-sacrifice? Parents now seem to want to live a life as if they're childless and single with no regard for the kids. Selfish a-holes.
Lamar, the decorated military veteran, ran away and left his girlfriend to fend for herself. What a HeRo.
Exactly
agreed
Plus he was armed too. My goodness what a coward.
He said he was NOT armed.
I did the same he was not married to her.
Amanda should have called the police immediately when she saw the house instead of her two friends perhaps this would have saved all their lives
Let's not blame the victim.smdh
@@Beth-mi2hf she's not wrong tho
Yes you have to act immediately because the signs of not a burglar but someone looking for someone.
Easy to 2nd guess & belittle the actions of another person under duress. Nobody is perfect...
I told a Blakeslee ,Ohio police chief that a 7 year old girl told me she was being molested by a cousin . The pos police chief pulled me close and prayed for me .
Not her ,but prayed for me ! Never wrote a report , never stopped it ,didn’t do anything .But he prayed for me !
Police are a joke anymore !
Why in God's name did she bring her friends into a potentially violent situation? She should have immediately fled the house and called 9-1-1.
My guess is that she underestimated his potential for violence. It seems a common thread in cases like this.
Hindsight is 20/20. She probably thought he wouldn't come back so soon.
@@CBlackEagle yes, and that he wouldn't dare to do illegal things with witnesses.
Someone once told me that the most dangerous call for a police officer to respond to, a domestic violence incident, i believe this to be true,if anger is a flood, rage is a tidal wave, I’ve seen someone who came to kill a lover or a spouse, and ended up killing everybody in the house, no way she should’ve stayed in that house after finding it ransacked like that, the only reason she should’ve called any of her friends, is to ask for a ride out of there if she didn’t have a vehicle
I couldn't agree more! Not only did she not call, none of her friends called. Incredible! 🤯😵💫
The neighbors that instigated the whole thing with the texts/photos should also get them prison time. Why can't people just mind their own business...
Exactly my thought. What nasty, thoughtless people.
@@tasch280maybe his friends
Its conservative florida..all they do is sitck their noses into tother people's business.
304s need To be taught a lesson
People have no lives
Seeing someone yet she can’t see anyone is beyond insane.
I wonder what the gossipy neighbor up to these days, not minding his business led to tragedy for everyone involved 🤬
Thats how they think my ex got a woman pregnant and went on with her and i moved on a year after he came to where i was and physically assaulted me we have grown kids in common and grandkids at that point but the nerve
@@VeronicaJones-np5obdo your children still talk to him?
@@Checkplusplus i replied to you but its didnt tag you sorry
If the father had called 911, after speaking with his son, the police could have either prevented the situation from occurring or been in a position to save lives.
The police would have avoided it.
@@Ms.BeaHavenOXO his father knew he had a firearm and knew the police would have killed the armed suspect onsite.
Both men were cowards
One man thought the other was there to kill him, and he had no weapon of defence.
What was he supposed to do? Get killed for three women, he hardly knows?
And tell us in detail what you would have done?
Would you have thrown away your life for three women who'd have forgotten in weeks that you tried to save them?
Do you think they'd have paid for a statue of you? Grow up, fake tough guy.
Hahahahaaha
Facts
Exactly This is what happens when women choose loser men. I don't feel sorry for any of them, except maybe for the friends that chose to go to her house.
I completely agree with you
Went to court and then went to murder your wife and her friend an hour later is freaking crazy 😢
yes I agree he had really bad anger issues.
it makes sense if he lost in court
@@horvathsogranfume658 Psycho
Yeah, this why dudes should just stay single and not get their emotions wrapped up with women.
I would like to see someone "create" a monitor that is not prohibitive to any human activity to collect data on human emotions to/from Family Destruction Court$ ~ chag ching! and is where the child/ren suffer the most from with EXception of juveNILE court$ where children aren't allow to have a Jury trial and are automatically guilty of something!!! in too many JURIS DICTION$ acCROSS jerUSAlem and most of the so-called free world ~ jOKe but at least it's not like I-RAN where females don't have the same rights as males. Right? or so that's what the proPAGANda media 'news' tells us .... never been there so idk, anybody out there live in IRAN? oh, i don't think they have the World Wide Web availABEL to them from what i was told by NEWS
Why didn’t she call police after her home was ransacked? Such a tragedy.
My thoughts too
Likely knew if was her spouse and didn't think otherwise, a fatal mistake for many. The marital legal contract is the one we need to be most aware of.
She maybe thought that he’d vented his anger,and that was the end of it.Maybe thought that calling the police would rile him up worse.It’s tragic.
Most of these cases seem to stem from Republicans wanting everyone to have access to firearms, no questions asked. They crave the chaos it causes I think. Lets them step in with authoritarianism to "solve" the problems they have caused.
She did have the option to have him locked up for a year she said no because the kids would be without him.
why find your house tore to pieces and call friends, boyfriend , not police?
Crazy and in denial
She should have left that house immediately and called the police to report what she found in there. But I also have to say, imo, that boyfriend, Lamar, is a pos for leaving 3 women to defend themselves. What a cowardly thing to have done. All 3 might still be alive, had he gotten them all barricaded in a room and notified 911. Shameful.
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No time to barricade the house as he was already shooting inside the house. He would've been dead too if he had stayed it was smart not cowardly! he tried to draw the attention away since he thought that James was looking for him. It's not worth dying over a woman who you've been seen for a few months.
Didn't it say he was ex-military too? Not the type I'd want having my back.
@@manilkasheran2934 @manilkasheran2934 He could have barricaded them all in the bedroom. He is a coward. I wouldn't ever be in a foxhole with him. POS in my opinion. It doesn't matter if she was a stranger to him. He is a man. What generation are you from. Wow. Not worth dying over a woman you've known for a few months... wtf... so you abandon 3 helpless women, despite your Marine background? Wow. Our country is screwed with 'men' like you talking like this. Shameful.
@@jwbru2531 Yeah... marine!!! Insanity! He ran from that house like chicken little (I used the P word, but YT didn't like it)!!!
One of the saddest things in these cases are the little ones tht won’t remember how great their mothers were how much they cared for and loved them each and every one. It breaks my heart for all these babies💔😭💐
So this lamar started an affair with a married woman which tipped an already abusive & crazed husband over the edge! Then this guy with "military experience" first didn't realise he was shot at and then subsequently ran leaving 3 women alone with a gunman!! Also those neighbours sending pictures to the husband should be in court for the consequences that followed.
Totally the neighbor should be in court. What a pos. I hope they read this too
Lamar cared nothing about anyone but himself. Ran instead of trying to protect Amanda and her friends. 😢
If the Navy man had exhibited that behavior in a Theatre of War, he would have been court-martialed...
What’s wrong with everyone commenting! Husband was a mental case. He was seeing someone else too! Her boyfriend wasn’t armed and husband was looking for him. What was he supposed to do. He didn’t know he would kill anyone but him.
Always xys blaming the xx " for making him do it." Thought xys weren't emotional.
I don't know? How about Lamar being a man and taking accountability. He left 3 women there to fend for themselves. He was a coward plain and simple.
@@Jblaze024 Maybe he would’ve stayed if he was armed, maybe if the husband wasn’t armed. That’s just crazy to stay there when someone is calling your name and shooting.
Yea, if Lamar had a weapon, I could question his manhood, but if he had no gun...then staying at the scene would have meant 3 dead....
When these men get hurt... move to another country, change your name, and get gun training because they become selfish toddlers with no one in mind but themselves....and this is the result!
My condolences to the victim's families
@@Jblaze024James made it quite clear he was after Lamar. He had a gun Lamar didn't. Did you expect he would go all Matrix and dodge the bullets.
Prayers for these families. Both sets of children without their mothers. So heartbreaking!
Important lesson in this case. Call 911 not your friends. The outcome may have been different
He would have just came back a different day.
@@vickiekasafirek9096 you don’t know what would have happened
@@Leothelioness He's a coward that wanted revenge. Imo he would have not let that go. But you're right. I would have definitely called the police. But also armed myself at all times
Wow. What an asinine and incredibly juvenile comment.
Ya that tells you something right there. Why did she call her friends? and not 911. Because she wanted power over him. She was not afraid, otherwise she would have called 911. ANd there is reason why all this happened.
Please stop dragging innocent people into your volatile situations.
It’s not fair …
"innocent" people?, none of them was innocent!
@@AngelGonzalez-pd4cnWow! Seek help.
What?
The boyfriend wasn't innocent 😇
A lot of the "innocent" people in this situation were co-conspirators/active participants. From the wife's friends, to Lamar, and even the nosey neighbor sending pictures of Lamar to the ex-husband were part of this crazy tragedy. Seems like karma to me.
What a selfish evil man.. anyone who drives with jealously have a screw loose. No excuse for what he did
What do I think you ask? This might not have happened if a nosey neighbor minded his own business! That picture set this whole rage mode into motion. Glad the jury made the right decision for that man.
It might not have happened if the judge put him in jail an hour earlier. The lawyer, Kyle bedran, accepted responsibility for him and he went and did this. I don't know why that is never brought. I knew these ladies. I lived nearby. I know Kyle bedran too. I felt like he should've been held accountable too.
That neighbour who sent that picture should carry some guilt to what they contributed to this whole thing, honestly people in picket fence houses have time for nothing but each other's business.
Once again, the parents are both now gone.
That is no excuse. My father was a violent drunk who tried to kill
My mother and me. And supposedly, drunks breed drunks and abusers breed abusers. Not in our family. We clearly saw what we didn’t want. None of us are violent and none of us drink.
It depends- I was heavily influenced by my mom, and thought it was the norm to throw things at my own husband(now ex, but not for that reason) when we had altercations. My mother didn't drink or take drugs. She was, and still is, a bully/ "victim" -weird but true- she bullies because she thinks people do things against her on purpose,me included.
I agree, I grew up in a dysfunctional home. As an adult, all I wanted was a normal, peaceful home.
@@galeem713 My parents fought like crazy people growing up and my stepdad was violent. I never wanted to get married or have children. Who would want to live in that sort of environment ?? I feel so bad for their kids who have to pick up the pieces and move on
@@michaelmorrissey1052Same for me.
Those poor babies now left with no parents.. rest in eternal peace to amanda and Lindy ❤❤
Neighbor should be charged as well. For instigating a crime.
Agree! That was awful
Thats right instead of calling 911, laying low with a firearm and waiting for the police just invite lamar and some friends over for show and tell, what could possibly go wrong?
The two men she chose to protect her failed her..
She failed herself. Don't be a 304. Simple.
@@abumansaray7i bet youd be like james
@@qaz122 I don't know James. Nor do I care about James.
@@abumansaray7Harsh but true
@@abumansaray7 the tren is f-ing your brain
Typical domestic violence and no protection for the victim. The police and courts keep giving these violent people another chance and say they see no danger. Then there’s a funeral! Sickening.
That’s what a second amendment is for. WTF being unarmed? Under these circumstances?
She could have had him in jail a year prior but chose not to then she could have called the day of but she called her lover and friends. She’s not too bright
@@MeBihhhh where I live we have domestic violence laws and it is police that lay charges not the person that is victimized as our police are trained in domestic violence and know that victims are in a cycle of abuse in which the survivors often return or are manipulated by the abuser. It shouldn’t have been up to her to make the decision regarding charges.
100% correct. Who often is the victim? The woman.
The neighbours are awful
A married woman having an affair is awful 😞
I agree because at this stage Amanda was no longer with James so she was allowed to date who she wanted.
@@MargaretCho-pt3ng they were separated. If you actually listed to this then you would know that. Don't be so sour just because you got cheated on.
@@elysabethpoodle6234 wait till the divorce is FINAL! It's not that difficult
I don’t get why people do this. Is it worth going to prison???
Sometimes the answer is yes
Rage and a lack of impulse control, have little to do with forethought, in fact it’s contrary.
Amanda should have made ONE call, and that was to 911. She should not have involved all these innocent people?
None called the cops, and none had a gun. Okee.
Her boyfriend is a real coward.
he didn't have a piece
@@lukeemmanuelhammond6024yeah but he had training and didn't even try to keep the women focused and get them out of the house safely. He just ran and left them in an extremely dangerous situation that they had no way of ever preparing for
Should have called the police as soon as she got home to the ransaked home 😢.
You could never prevent an angry man from this type of crime if you remain in the neignbour hood. Women should be very careful in bringing a new man into the home with children that belong to their ex it never ends well when you know there are bitter
Or anywhere for that matter.
The better response for women, equalize , get your own pew pew spend time learning how to use it effectively , and get two or three very protective big dogs.
The stay afraid , and give up control over your life speeches are very outdated.
How about men learn to control themselves and their emotions 🤷🏽♀️ I thought women were too emotional
lamar what a coward he is
"oh, the house has been ransacked....i have a brilliant idea: let's stay here and call some friends over maybe the intruder will come back and kill us all".
🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
I tell my daughter don’t be friends with girls with abusive boyfriends!!
My daughter's friends know that I would protect them just like I would my daughter! Wtf?!
Yes, this should be covered in high school mental health class. Signs of narcissistic traits and control issues. Signs of emotional instability and self-centeredness. Young people need to be aware and not put their heads in the sand for the pretty wedding and family with the picket fence. It's a mirage.
"I can't take ot anymore", and yet he couldn't manage it take himself out 🙄
Lamar, ex-military goes over to help protect the women without a firearm,, then runs from the scene,, leaving the women to fend for themselves.
Lamar is a coward.
@@axelmike9676lmao Calling a man a Coward when he had nothing to defend himself. Already shot at and he decides to flee because he was the intended target. In hopes that the attacker will leave if Lamar wasn’t in the house anymore
people mad at the guy for leaving watch way too many action movies, what do you expect him to do while unarmed
Act like a man for starters.
@rb-uu7du I wonder if after running away he called 911
They made him seem like he didn't care in the reporting
She Called 3 Different friends to come Comfort her with the Destruction of her home, But didn't Call 911 ?!?!
And NEITHER DID ANY OF THE 3 FRIENDS ???
FOOLISH, ALL 4 OF THEM !!!
They All had a CHANCE TO HELP HER AND THEMSELVES, BUT DID NOTHING TO PREVENT WHAT CAME.
TOO SORRY AND WAAAAAY TOOOOOO LATE, FRIENDS 🙄🙄🙄
You don’t dial 911 for your that was ransacked the day before
@@killereverb3928 So “duhhh, You All just LET IT GO 😂👍🏻”
And just Look Where it Got Them All 😃👍🏻😂
Ok Fool, you make So Much Sense 😂👍🏻😂
@@killereverb3928 and THIS, is a “Highlighted Reply “
No Wonder I’m Not Subscribed to this Channel 😂
Hear me out , people usually don't knowingly marry monsters , so to imagine that someone you loved and had children with would /could be capable of this , would be a stretch for most people. The house , that was just stuff, replaceable. Also he'd already had a PO on him , and was able to break in a burn her clothes. She probably had given up on law enforcement being helpful.
@@killereverb3928 no but had ANY of them called the day before, he Might've been arrested the Day Before, and the following morning she could've been at the Courthouse getting an PROTECTION ORDER !
What is it You STILL DON'T UNDERSTAND 🤣 !!
She Never Reached Out for Help when She Absolutely Could have.
So whose problem is that now, Certainly NOT MINE ! Myself, my Family and My Friends are 100% ALIVE
What branch of the military taught the bf to run away from the fight instead of trying to protect the folks you care about I wonder. He sure left her to fend for herself didnt he? Unreal
Lamarr yelled "Run Women !! It's Every Man for himself !" ⚔️
@Stephanie - Right? What a puke that spineless wormboy was!!!
@@StephanieFlower-d9j 🤣🤣🤣🤣
That nosey neighbor got her killed by spying on her for her husband smh those poor babies don't have a mom now this is heartbreaking I remember watching this
Envy is everywhere.
Or a dad now.
Don't blame the neighbor ,the husband was a wicked man
@@godhg9694not blaming her but they certainly didn't help matters
There was no purpose of sending him a picture they should have mind their business.
It’s incredible to think that he was in court that morning for assaulting his wife and must of had a no contact order yet went straight there and shot her and her friends! I don’t believe in capitol punishment, he should rot in a maximum security jail for the rest of his life for what he did! Just shocking!
Do not get into another relationship before you are actually divorced.
That’s not always a deterrent
The both of them were seeing someone else
@@adesewaadeyeni2257So?
yeah victim blame!
@@Kaitels People put themselves in dicey situations. Doesn't meanthey deserve to be killed, but bad decisions do come with a price.
Why wouldn't she call police after the break in? And why do you people (the ones who have affairs) not just come out leave? She must have known him more than most and how he would act but she calls her friends in that situation
I thought the marine had a combat slogan that says, "Never leave a brother behind."
A brother not a lover.
@@Raven72 💀💀💀
@@3h4bMusic lol!!!
WTH LAMAR?!
Heartbreaking.
Why call your friends, just call police
Why didn’t she call 911 when she realized her house had been ransacked?
Lamar and his gun was the first out of there LOL
I thought I was watching an episode of The Flash when they showed Lamar running away
Omg lmaoooo
😂😂😂😂😂😂
That fight or flight mode kicked in😅
Coward
🏃♂️➡️
What a devil.
With about 14 minutes left, I cant watch anymore after Lamar ran out of the house to leave the women to fend for themselves.
Right! Smh
And he's an ex Marine! How embarrassing for him.
You realize what a sexist comment that is.
That nosy neighbor should be ashamed of himself
I wish she would’ve called 911 when she found her home ransacked. Bless their hearts. 😞
Unfortunately, if you had a nutcase in your life, you have to let things cool off a little longer before you start dating. People are crazy out there.
For sure. Just stay tuned to this channel.
@@Malvo6820... Don't be naive. She was already seeing him way before and that was the very reason why she initiated the divorce !
@@THE_JACKAL666Oh you knew her personally?
@@Bih1stOfAll .. did you see the video ?
@THE_JACKAL666 Absolutely and you've provided conjecture
Why his father did not called Amanda and warned her ??
Hope he ain’t the grandfather the kids went to afterward, I couldn’t live with somebody who betrayed my mother like that.
What an A hole,people just suck sometimes. Rip ladies
I think his father's infidelity and his mother beating his father in front of him messed him up psychologically. Not condoning what he did in the least, he ended multiple lives and ruined the lives of his children because of his possessiveness, I just think witnessing those things broke him psychologically. Maybe if he had gotten some help earlier in life this wouldn't have happened.
Yeah. Let's you know that as a woman you are not totally safe just because you married a middle class man.
Lamar, being military trained, did not bring a hand gun? Doesn't own one? He also fled like a coward, leaving the women alone. Somebody have a cellphone? Why were the cops never called from the very beginning?
How would you have handled that situation if you were there and unarmed with a raging jealous ex husband looking for you specifically ?
@sylentknight First, you walk into a house that's totally trashed, call the cops. She called the boyfriend knowing that the ex is behind the drama. If I was Lemar, I'd bring a gun. Next, tell the ladies to get out of the house. Then I'd lay in wait. Dude wants to come in? Let him come.
@@johnjay9404 I was also baffled that he was in the military in the past but didn't carry a gun in that situation.
@@sylentknight Easy, get everyone out of the house with you
@@MrUbiquitousTech quite the risk when the ex knows the layout of the house, a risk some will take but obviously the boyfriend did not.
Instead of calling her friends, why didn’t Amanda call 911 first. Then if she still needed moral support she could call her friends. I believe that had she called 911 first, the chances of survival would have increased significantly.
A word of advice: first, get a divorce before getting involved with someone else; this will also allow you to know who you are really married to. Second, give yourself and your partner time to adjust, before getting involved with someone else. Besides being a matter of respect for your partner and yourself, divorce is like death, it requires mourning. Loss from death is not exclusively the cause of all experience of grief. Please note that I am not here defending either men or women, this goes both ways.
In this story the two of them have physically moved on with other people. The man was angry because he would have preferred the woman to be miserably single while he enjoyed the company of another woman.
And if you need a restraining order, you should also have personal protection (and call the police instead of friends when that order is violated!)
I'm glad that Florida has Mr Sparky ⚖️
💔
What is going on in this world with shootings,stabbings and the rest and mad people killing their own children. So different from when I was growing up.
Truly it’s not, the media machine just didn’t work in the way it does today. Crime has actually gone down - People just consume more so they pick through everything do get more money off of peoples suffering
If you ever read the book weird scenes inside the canyon, you'll soon realise that there was a world of violence in LA in the hippie scene around Laurel canyon in the lead up to the Manson murders.
@@deanpd3402 Thank you so much, i love reading and I will definitely get it to read ☺️ xx
There’s no more shame . We celebrate shame ,alphabet people, out wedlock children
We get news from all over the planet in seconds. Nothing has changed except for the ammount of firearms in the USA now. The violent genie can't be put back in the bottle.
Horrific. My condolences to their families.
Narcissist! An eye for an eye.
This is a sad sick world.
Don't get into relationship with any previously married person until you are sure they are fully Divorced
The neighbor thought they was being cute sending pics to crazy ex husband they are responsible for these mothers lives being taken.
Shouldn’t the wife be responsible since she called her friends and bf to have show n tell instead of calling the police?
what a chicken this "marine" guy Lamar proved to be - no country needs such protectors, running away like a cry baby and leaving three ladies to their own fate while saving his own skin. A real disgrace...
Getting involved with married men or married women always ends in someone getting hurt really bad . period!
Lamar is no hero. He is ashamed of himself for being an absolute coward.
Exactly!!
That neighbor who started all this should be in prison.
Dude left his girl and two other women! wtf there’s a time where you need to fight
Fight? Fight with what?, he was unarmed.. His fists against a gun?
You must be delusional. 😂
@@Blackbird_nzdidn't you know that he had Matrix skills and could dodge bullets? According to half the comments here, you would think so.
This separates men from the weak.
He didn't have a gun genius. What was he going to do?
@@deadinthewater218keyboard warrior
Heart breaking !!! Prayers for their family ❤️
This was preventable, cops should immediately be sent out to the home of victims after their abuser gets out of court to do surveillance for at least two hours. Having a weapon locked upstairs for protection, calling the cops and reporting your ex when they do stuff like that. She didn't want to lock him up because the kids...never give the person abusing you mercy because theyll never show you that same thing at the end of the day. So sad.
Why did the military boyfriend leave her. What a guy !
Most of the men that mess with married women are cowards. They are just there for one thing and not to protect the woman
No excuse for cowardice .@@mikedeleon5617
Hmmmm
Very questionable
"Military" he went to the naval academy and probably did nothing but push papers at the pentagon
That Lamar guys inability to foresee what will happen is shocking. And leaving three innocent women, one of them is his girlfriend, and runaway ??? An ex-military ??? Can't believe it
I can’t believe the only guy in the house leaves them! What a dud
Stay out of married people's drama. I believe the best friend got shot multiple times because she was too close to his ex.
Unfortunately, the wife's new BF was a coward.
I'm thinking Lamar was a decorated cook in the military, only that makes sense based on his reaction leaving the women and saying "run!" 🤣
They were seeing each other before the separation not after. Guaranteed he is the reason they got separated and the husband went crazy.
It’s incredible to me she didn’t immediately leave that house and call 911…so sad😢
She f'd up IMO WHEN she was faced with the choice. She called her friends and boyfriend ... instead of immediately leaving WHILE calling 911, securing a weapon for wtf might be lurking in or around the house and praying. 😢
Sister is up there making excuses for her brother, disgusting 🫣
I’m still watching, but Amanda was wrong, separated or not, you cannot bring another man to your marital home, this move was wrong in her part, ain’t no man going to be okay with such.
I have 21:36 minutes left, people separation is not divorce, this is two different elements, a responsible man would never ever want to step foot in another man’s home.
Well I’m sure she knows it was wrong now……
I agree 💯.
I believe you should not open any news doors until you've closed the one behind you first.
Also, Amanda had too many girlfriends in her business. That's not to forget that coward boyfriend of hers who high tail it out of there.
Why would the neighbors do that?
Bro straight ran and didnt even make sure the woman got out . And he was military trained man what a piece of work .
There was no time to think..Lamar run for his life.
He had time to run HE HAD TIME TO STAY!!! He chose the cowardly route plain and simple.
Oh well 🤭