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  • @traceymoses2945
    @traceymoses2945 2 роки тому +14

    These girls are HURTING so bad!! Why do I continuously watch and cry!!! I wish I could help!! If I ever get situated to open a home in every state I will help!! GOD knows my heart. BLESSING to you sweetheart!! Such a beautiful young lady.

  • @carolyn9961
    @carolyn9961 3 роки тому +1534

    I really feel for her. Anyone with a halfway decent family should take a moment to appreciate how valuable it really is.

    • @hmmm8552
      @hmmm8552 3 роки тому +6

      True

    • @carlaburgos12
      @carlaburgos12 3 роки тому +4

      Absolutely!

    • @janceleste
      @janceleste 3 роки тому +13

      I always try to tell my sister that because she suffers from depression, if she listened to these stories she would realize how lucky she is. My heart breaks for this young woman

    • @raepan2797
      @raepan2797 3 роки тому +48

      @@janceleste That does not help people with depression. Only makes people feel guilty because they think they are being selfish. Depression is a mental illness that does not care about wealth or privilege.

    • @deandrarobinson2156
      @deandrarobinson2156 3 роки тому +8

      I'm so thankful for my family. Nobody is perfect only Jesus Christ. But He favored me not to ever have this lifestyle. I hope she gets outta this lifestyle

  • @MsClaytown
    @MsClaytown 3 роки тому +1390

    I have literally just got up off my knees praying for God to lift her up. She deserves so much better and so much love

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 3 роки тому +15

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @danasmith6924
      @danasmith6924 3 роки тому +14

      Bless her.

    • @kristinenoffsinger5138
      @kristinenoffsinger5138 3 роки тому +14

      She really does! I wish I could save you beautiful 😍 none of this was your fault 💔🙌🙏💋💜💕💜💕praying for you so much

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 3 роки тому +9

      @@kristinenoffsinger5138 ❤️❤️❤️

    • @suliorsolya7505
      @suliorsolya7505 3 роки тому +9

      I think God is get up off his knees praying for this f.up.society...

  • @tamarafuseini9392
    @tamarafuseini9392 3 роки тому +564

    This is a prime example of how the system failed this young girl at heart. She has been in fight or flight mode most of her life and where she is in her life today, is not her fault. I wish I could go back in time and be her social worker, I would have been her advocate and assisted in lifting her up. Whoever this social worker is, I hope she is no longer practicing. All ethical boundaries off the table. I want to hug this woman nurture her back to good mental health or maybe support her on her journey to being and feeling free and slap the shit out of the whole system that failed her. My heart aches for her. Stay strong beautiful black butterfly 🦋

    • @butter_buttfly
      @butter_buttfly 3 роки тому +19

      Thank you so much

    • @SkybabyandStar
      @SkybabyandStar 3 роки тому +7

      You said it perfect !!!! I would love to slap the crap out of them too. It just pisses me off to no end. I wish I lived close to where she is and she could come live with me. She’s so smart and so damn gorgeous. Heart of gold.

    • @tydamon7316
      @tydamon7316 2 роки тому +5

      These women needed a FATHER. Masculine, strong, supplying order, discipline, guidance. Reassurance. Not a social worker. Even though your heart is in the right place.

    • @SkybabyandStar
      @SkybabyandStar 2 роки тому +1

      @@tydamon7316 they sure do.

    • @russwriter17
      @russwriter17 2 роки тому +4

      Blame the irresponsible MOTHERS who lay down with any thug and make these children who turn out to suffer due to their irresponsible decisions. What mother does this to a child? A stupid irresponsible one. Don't have babies unless you can look after them and then people like you turn around and blame The system.

  • @ItsFreshItsAnne
    @ItsFreshItsAnne 2 роки тому +92

    That loving hug Mark gave at the end meant so much in my eyes. She's had SO many men touch her without love, care or respect. That hug held all three and she's deserved 10,000 of them ❤️

  • @maureenmartini5094
    @maureenmartini5094 3 роки тому +1531

    My heart broke when she cried. I don't believe she's a hustler at heart. I believe she's a strong, kind person and I think she can get out of this lifestyle. I think she really wants it. Much love to you, Butterfly, YOU CAN DO THIS ❤🦋

    • @ariella8787
      @ariella8787 3 роки тому +37

      That’s how most of these women are. They are normal people who had fucked up childhoods who are victims of circumstance. It’s truly heartbreaking what drugs can do, and being on drugs can make you allow a lot of horrible stuff to go on around you, because you’re numb. I do hope she gets out. But i can’t imagine how hard it will be.

    • @JuanMendoza-cg3fj
      @JuanMendoza-cg3fj 3 роки тому +1

      ua-cam.com/video/CQRtLIjxTZw/v-deo.html
      ⬆️ Overdosing on fetnyol in Prison
      😂 😆 it’s too funny!!

    • @ashleyg11
      @ashleyg11 3 роки тому +24

      One can be a hustler and a kind person! They are not mutually exclusive traits

    • @marcusthomas6998
      @marcusthomas6998 3 роки тому +2

      But no matter what, it's a guy that tried to help and was did wrong. So karma hits you.

    • @ashleyp2625
      @ashleyp2625 3 роки тому +15

      Omg me too. Everybody breaks eventually but I didn't expect it. Underneath that hard exterior is a sad broken woman and seeing her cry like that really broke my heart. I cant imagine what half these ppl have gone thru and continue to go thru daily. That's why I try to never take anything for granted, because it could ALWAYS be worse. Your worst day could be somebody's best. Always remember that.

  • @janeeminor7262
    @janeeminor7262 3 роки тому +470

    When she broke down an cried, it broke my heart to pieces.

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 3 роки тому +7

      So, so sad. She just wanted to be a kid in a safe situation.😰💔

    • @melanalelii296
      @melanalelii296 3 роки тому +5

      I cried too. I hope a good man can come along to help her love her help her to get on the real path she wants to be

    • @classic-1593
      @classic-1593 3 роки тому +4

      She has been through alot. There has to be better choices for her to get her life together. I feel sorry for the things she went through. I pray that she gets her life in order ✝️✝️✝️.

    • @angierose969
      @angierose969 3 роки тому +5

      Right that first time she broke down you could tell was all pure emotion. It's like she let out 20 yrs of hurt.

    • @niki-mars955
      @niki-mars955 3 роки тому +3

      Lord! 😩 it cuts so bad. I feel for her. All of these women have had no one to protect them.

  • @waimbuthia820
    @waimbuthia820 3 роки тому +210

    Wow. She's almost 36? For someone who've lived such a hard life she looks mighty good. Imagine how she might have looked or done with her life had things been different. She's very articulate, smart & pretty. Oh, Butterfly. Rooting for you, dear.

  • @MsIcollins
    @MsIcollins 2 роки тому +103

    Mark didn’t get into this role by accident people underestimate the calling of being able to sit an listen to someone really hear them . Listening is a gift mark found his gift and purpose. Everyone doesn’t open up to people to be listened too .

  • @gramspnwz1937
    @gramspnwz1937 3 роки тому +193

    I can see her working through her trauma with a therapist, then running a loving family shelter. She has a lot of gifts and purpose. My heart hurts for her. 💔

  • @Boobalopbop
    @Boobalopbop 3 роки тому +322

    Omg…. This is hard to watch. When she cries I just want to run up and hug her. She is SO smart, and she doesn’t want this life and she feels it’s all she can do because she has been abused her whole life. Even helped her mom after knowing she “gave” her away. This breaks my heart. God, I wish I could help her.

  • @LeslieMBates
    @LeslieMBates 3 роки тому +264

    Never curses, never name calls, and still STANDS. Praying for you sis.

  • @lisadagoddess8108
    @lisadagoddess8108 3 роки тому +408

    Mark, can we please get an update on Butterfly? She seems like such a sweet, genuine person. I pray blessings of peace and growth over her .. and that she’ll see her strength and know there are so many of us out here rooting for her ❤️

    • @yari7995
      @yari7995 2 роки тому +5

      She passed away

    • @p_tiffanii
      @p_tiffanii 2 роки тому +1

      @@yari7995 Noooooo! Really?

    • @yari7995
      @yari7995 2 роки тому +7

      @@p_tiffanii yes, they mentioned her in another interview and he said she sadly passed away

    • @dyingdoesnthurt1967
      @dyingdoesnthurt1967 2 роки тому +1

      Bless 😢

    • @ThirdEyeWize
      @ThirdEyeWize Рік тому +1

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @maureenandrews1142
    @maureenandrews1142 2 роки тому +31

    Of all the interviews, this one completely broke my heart. This woman has a beautiful soul. People have failed her but she has NOT failed. She is intelligent, loving, caring, resourceful and beautiful. I pray that Butterfly can find her way out and make a life for herself. And, I pray that she will not give up on herself. If there is ever a woman who deserves more in life, she is that woman.

  • @parisa5014
    @parisa5014 3 роки тому +170

    She's got a beautiful face, beautiful skin, and beautiful heart. She has nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about- strong woman. Believe in yourself, girl!

    • @DavidWilliams-pb6he
      @DavidWilliams-pb6he 2 роки тому +1

      Being a prostitute for over 20 years is something to be proud of? I believe in positive encouragement but some of you people go too far with it. Yeesh

    • @parisa5014
      @parisa5014 2 роки тому +1

      @@DavidWilliams-pb6he did she have much of a choice!? She's surviving.

    • @malikaustin9087
      @malikaustin9087 2 роки тому +1

      @@parisa5014 we ALL HAVE CHOICES! This is why FATHERS ARE NEEDED in the community. U can have compassion without DELUSION

    • @ZechariYahweahschild
      @ZechariYahweahschild 2 роки тому +1

      Nah Believe in Trust in The Lord Jesus Christ 🙏🏽💟

  • @LaylaZoeMusic
    @LaylaZoeMusic 3 роки тому +211

    A beautiful woman inside and out, who has been done wrong by the system again and again, sitting and speaking volumes of truth...

  • @POV18
    @POV18 3 роки тому +377

    This was so painful to watch. My friend and I are starting a non profit organization here in South Florida for battered women and children. Her and I have been through abusive relationships, toxic family members, sexually abused, even homelessness. We met for a reason. S.E.E.K will be everywhere helping people like this.

    • @missannthrope2484
      @missannthrope2484 3 роки тому +14

      @Krystal LaBandera - all the best to you with your organisation.

    • @POV18
      @POV18 3 роки тому +13

      @@missannthrope2484 thank you so much! It's nerve wracking but I feel it will be worth it in the end. They have shut down alot of the shelters here to build banks and its sad.

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 3 роки тому +7

      Thank you to you each. I'm saying a prayer.🙏♥️

    • @KNKReacts
      @KNKReacts 3 роки тому +12

      Where are you guys located? I'm a BHT and nail tech. I've been looking to work with women and young girls dealing with sexual abuse.

    • @POV18
      @POV18 3 роки тому +11

      @@KNKReacts Hey! We are located in West Palm Beach, FL.

  • @Mslexiruiz
    @Mslexiruiz 3 роки тому +36

    We have 33,000 children in Foster Care here in Los Angeles County . I grew up in Long Beach California. I went to Poly High school. Fighting was all we knew. I've seen good kids turn bad, with life sentences. I've made friends, I'll never see again because of LA failed Foster Care System. Thanking God for my family for encouraging me to stay focus. Praying for you Butterfly 🦋

  • @ivylewis6926
    @ivylewis6926 2 роки тому +15

    I’ve never seen anyone to cry the way she did.

  • @sofiarose4533
    @sofiarose4533 3 роки тому +290

    My parents fostered over 200 children and teens. My parents just wanted to heal them and for them to find their worth. They went to every graduation, they went to every appointment, they stayed up for days if needed to just be there. They didn’t force anyone to talk as my dad said, “sometimes, it’s enough to know that there is just another person in that room rooting for you. No words need to be spoken by me. They just know I’m there” my dad was a judge and we sadly lost him 14 years ago and the world lost a great man. My mum, still is everyone’s mum and now everyone’s grandma. My parents changed these children who are now adults and they broke the cycle. We are in the Uk but this would of broke my dads heart. I will show this to my mum too. The fire in my parents belly just grew stronger for these kids. This is truly heartbreaking and I wish, I could help her. All I can do is pray to my dad for her. I hope one day, she can heal. She was so let down by everyone who should of loved her. 💔

    • @larissaalvidres
      @larissaalvidres 3 роки тому +10

      bless your family 🙏🏼🥺❤️

    • @Nicolebrooke18
      @Nicolebrooke18 3 роки тому +5

      Your mom and dad sound like they were angels on earth. I’m so glad good people like them exist🤍

    • @melissagrace6607
      @melissagrace6607 2 роки тому +3

      sorry but I am a former foster kid and I have been damaged from the fostering. I pray for all kids in the system.

    • @sofiarose4533
      @sofiarose4533 2 роки тому +4

      @@melissagrace6607 I’m so sorry, Melissa. ❤️

    • @kirahoward23
      @kirahoward23 2 роки тому +1

      God bless your family and the legacy your beloved Father brought to this earth❤️

  • @dannie1020
    @dannie1020 3 роки тому +344

    Understanding the why: she is a human who had horrible experiences. Abandoned, mistreated, praying she realized her value soon

    • @jennifermariabrocco4608
      @jennifermariabrocco4608 3 роки тому +4

      Right ❤️ God bless y'all

    • @lucy9877
      @lucy9877 3 роки тому +1

      ua-cam.com/video/CQRtLIjxTZw/v-deo.html
      ⬆️ Overdosing on fetnyol in Prison
      😂 😆 it’s too funny!!

  • @sylviablack4935
    @sylviablack4935 3 роки тому +41

    ‘Life isn’t fair’ is an understatement. I wish I could give this woman a hug and help her.

  • @kailabaila710
    @kailabaila710 3 роки тому +203

    I felt her when she said “ im paranoid, I can’t trust , I’m scared” that Shìt was so deep. Mark is usually more interactive but she needed to vent she needed to tell her side of her story. 🥺❤️ prayers to you girl! And prayers to mark as well for giving people a platform z

    • @dominiquejenkins5495
      @dominiquejenkins5495 3 роки тому +8

      Yup he just gave her the floor and allowed her soul to bleed which was needed because now sooooo many ppl including myself are praying for her

    • @brendavandepool6505
      @brendavandepool6505 2 роки тому +3

      Yes. This really broke my heart. I pray she can get herself together

  • @keepinitabuckwithbriel4464
    @keepinitabuckwithbriel4464 3 роки тому +282

    Pisses me off so bad to hear how all these kids are treated in the system… they go from one bad home to a worse one and it’s so disheartening!!!! Smh ugh. You are such a strong beautiful and smart woman!!!! You will get through this sis I’m sending all the positivity in the world. So so sorry this happened to you

    • @hiphopchild9540
      @hiphopchild9540 3 роки тому +5

      From my experience the ""system" handles those kids not for the kids benefits, just as if it was some dirts to process ... Lady ain't no thing as the system, it's you, me and others as a society letting that craze happening, we need to leave this mindset it's up to us...Peace though

    • @keepinitabuckwithbriel4464
      @keepinitabuckwithbriel4464 3 роки тому +1

      @@hiphopchild9540 what am I suppose to call it other than the system? Obvi I know it’s made up of people lol

    • @LoneWulf278
      @LoneWulf278 3 роки тому

      @@hiphopchild9540 I agree more and more with this every day.

    • @nikkibeacth
      @nikkibeacth 3 роки тому +4

      Because the people that foster are doing it just for the money the government gives them to foster.

    • @amandaransome8089
      @amandaransome8089 3 роки тому +2

      Yess it pisses me off how the system operates

  • @sarahking93
    @sarahking93 3 роки тому +252

    Please do a follow up on her in some time. I hope she sees everyone’s loving comments and knows there are tons of people rooting for her!

    • @joyfulherbivore7113
      @joyfulherbivore7113 2 роки тому +1

      someone in a comment above from only a few months after your comment said she passed 😪

    • @HoneySuckle123
      @HoneySuckle123 2 роки тому

      @@joyfulherbivore7113 Yes Mark said a trick did it 😕

  • @0913kitkat
    @0913kitkat 3 роки тому +101

    Just when the caterpillar 🐛 thought the world was ending, she turned into a beautiful butterfly 🦋. So much love and prayers to you, beautiful. You can do this🤍

  • @deannapowell7237
    @deannapowell7237 Рік тому +7

    I just want to hug her so hard. 😔 sweet girl. You never deserved any of that. You are a queen, worthy of ALL of the love and respect. Go get that dream life. You can do it.

  • @abalancedact
    @abalancedact 3 роки тому +29

    What a lovely woman. You can still see the scared, hurt little girl behind her eyes and it's absolutely heartbreaking. I really, really hope she can find a way to get off of the streets and to receive the unconditional love that she DESERVES! Thank you, Mark, for giving Butterfly a voice.

  • @alanna1706-h8w
    @alanna1706-h8w 3 роки тому +514

    Seeing her wall breakdown when she began to tell her story was so powerful. I pray she finds happiness and peace.

    • @Yourfavlilypookie
      @Yourfavlilypookie 3 роки тому +5

      It really was. 🥺🥺💔

    • @annaxefta587
      @annaxefta587 3 роки тому

      When u people say something is power??? Do u even know what that means?? Powerful?? Or sad??

    • @primpatricia4885
      @primpatricia4885 3 роки тому +9

      @@annaxefta587 yes powerful. shes being vulnerable, not easy to do

    • @antoinebrooks5458
      @antoinebrooks5458 3 роки тому

      Alanna didn't mean to digress, you are beautiful

    • @SpiritualWarrior96
      @SpiritualWarrior96 2 роки тому +2

      Yesss it was I felt her pain

  • @cherylroberts1407
    @cherylroberts1407 3 роки тому +128

    She is still that 15yr old girl wanting her momma.
    I pray she can get out of her situation and find a better life for herself. She deserves a better life filled with love.

  • @lilaworley8935
    @lilaworley8935 3 роки тому +356

    “Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation, like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow.” - T Real 🔥

    • @mrsp7481
      @mrsp7481 3 роки тому +9

      Wow I really feel this. Its so, so true. Fresh insight. Thank you and peace be with you

    • @Preppie-thirty
      @Preppie-thirty 3 роки тому +12

      Bin-go, what a profound statement, my parents had 5 kids, 4 of us chose a a positive , peaceful life and 1 decided to repeat the cycle of disfunction and chaos.

    • @butterfly2604
      @butterfly2604 3 роки тому +7

      That generally is the Aquarian born Child or the beautiful Black Sheep Child or White Buffalo Child is born to break the Spell..You are very Wise Lila.

    • @agathachris9722
      @agathachris9722 3 роки тому +2

      Very true

    • @lilaworley8935
      @lilaworley8935 3 роки тому +4

      @@butterfly2604 thank you for sharing with me.
      I suppose I was the black sheep and my daughter must be the white buffalo child. She drove me to face those flames. 🔥

  • @mchristII
    @mchristII 3 роки тому +173

    What a story to tell. Thank you Mark for letting her tell it. Probably the best therapy session she’s ever had. She needed this release.

    • @renatalove5212
      @renatalove5212 3 роки тому +2

      Mark is white and therefore is coldhearted and it's very hard to listen to and watch him duuuuhhhhhhh

  • @numpty2723
    @numpty2723 2 роки тому +13

    You can tell, underneath the hurt, Butterfly has a sweet, motherly nature. I hope she gets to be the real her one day.

  • @miskittt502
    @miskittt502 2 роки тому +8

    I love when they start off acting all hard, and then they begin hearing themselves speak based on one of Mark's questions and break down crying. That Brokenness is the beginning of clarity and healing. I'm praying for you Butterfly!!!

  • @destinybush5031
    @destinybush5031 3 роки тому +122

    I’ve watched multiple interviews that you’ve done Mark and this one was the one that broke my heart the most. Her soul is crying for help. The inner child is still inside and hurting. I just pray for her strength and encouragement. She deserves all the blessings that’s coming to her. The Lord hears her cries and sees what she’s going through. Her breakthrough is coming. I’m praying for her!

    • @blanketwilliams9178
      @blanketwilliams9178 3 роки тому +2

      I couldn’t figure it out, but you’re right. She is still stuck in childhood

  • @Mrsjlrogers
    @Mrsjlrogers 3 роки тому +141

    As a foster parent , this hurts me. Those Foster parents had a chance to really pour in to her , her life didn’t have to be this way. Praying she finds her way out and is able to do at least one of the dreams she wants to do. 💛

    • @dinasilva3271
      @dinasilva3271 2 роки тому

      I know I don’t get how ppl can hurt these kids 😭😭😭 I wish I could be a foster parent but I don’t have the space and I wouldn’t want to bring a child child to my apartment and not have the adequate space for them I hope to be able to do this one day so bad

  • @lisac8088
    @lisac8088 3 роки тому +221

    She’s brilliant, and so are you, Mark, for capturing this incredible human being!
    Bravo to both of you!! 👏🏻👏🏻

  • @burgundy2851
    @burgundy2851 2 роки тому +33

    Every video ends with Mark asking the guest "what is the most important thing you have learned in your life" and a lot of guests (especially women) reply with something along the lines of "don't trust everyone." Yet, Butterfly replies with her wisdom of blessings, lessons, universal gifts, and patience. I love Buttefly. She deserves so much more, many people do. And it's true, once you share your story... part of you cant resist the change. I hope a follow-up video is on the horizon 💙

  • @Ray_Ray142
    @Ray_Ray142 2 роки тому +66

    She ripped my heart when she was crying, it's a crying for help, it's an unbearable pain, she Is so strong, so many failed her since she was born, her family, the system, society. Hard life is an understatement 😪 bless your heart Mark. What you do, is so important to humanity. I my self on the verge of giving up, and I watch and see all these people's stories , I can't say it's comforting to know im not alone in my pain, the opposite, I feel their pain. Too much. It hurts to learn how some people have rights and privileges and luxurious life style and some don't know what will be with them the next minute. In my country there is a saying השבע לא יבין את הרעב, the one who's have something to eat will never understand the hungry. I feel her. I understand. I wish her well. To all. 🙏

  • @manfrummt
    @manfrummt 3 роки тому +110

    The fact you cry means you still have a heart. That's a lot these days. Stay good. Don't forget how much everything is really spiritual. Love conquers everything. Keep trying.

  • @towerofresonance4877
    @towerofresonance4877 3 роки тому +120

    I smiled when she spoke of crochet with the Mexican lady.

    • @we3rwerw
      @we3rwerw 3 роки тому +7

      I was thinking she could use her crochet and sewing skills to create the fashion line she’s always dreamt of

    • @towerofresonance4877
      @towerofresonance4877 3 роки тому +1

      @@we3rwerw Exactly!❤

    • @inkedmomblu1510
      @inkedmomblu1510 3 роки тому +1

      Me too. Sweet moment amongst her pain. I hope things get better for her.

    • @pennycarter2051
      @pennycarter2051 3 роки тому

      I smiled to! I make Rag Rugs which is sorta like crochet with a fat crochet hook and I thought if she were here I could teach her how to make a rug for her big ole blanket she makes....

    • @mz.abbott8365
      @mz.abbott8365 2 роки тому

      Yes me too ♥️And then it made me cry. I want her to get out of this life so bad. 🥺

  • @2intriguing1
    @2intriguing1 3 роки тому +49

    10:45 Dear God do you hear her cries.
    Her hurt goes back, way back
    I pray for her healing and new journey, I pray she gets her babies back and break this cycle because she's worth it and capable. My deepest prayers go out to her. Not all "females"/women are grimy. I pray your angel is revealed to you soon. Everyone failed her

    • @annaxefta587
      @annaxefta587 3 роки тому +1

      Yeah. God hears it. I’m sure. But does nothing. So why do u people still ask this imaginary person to help. Lol. Why don’t u help with some money instead of praying for someone fake to help?

    • @2intriguing1
      @2intriguing1 3 роки тому +4

      @@annaxefta587 I would entertain the thought of a response to you but you lack the intellect to proceed. So aimless wanderer of the night, scat

    • @2intriguing1
      @2intriguing1 3 роки тому +5

      @@annaxefta587 and for future references, you shouldn't project your impoverished state of mind on others, Marc sends out information to help, have you, nah, you don't have it

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 3 роки тому +5

      @@annaxefta587 If you don't believe, why not just overlook the comment?

  • @lapetitevenus
    @lapetitevenus 3 роки тому +8

    I just really like her. Sending her nothing but love for real

  • @TeelDove777
    @TeelDove777 2 роки тому +4

    Butterfly 🦋 - -You are the most beautiful Soul!!! My heart is clung to your every word. 👂🏼❤️
    Always remember the light in your Soul that we’re all seeing is who you really are. ✨
    Your words inspire compassion and your stories provoke awe - but it is your beautiful Soul -not your current situation or story - that defines you. ✨✨✨
    Love your Beautiful Vibe. 🤍

  • @aliehawhite8616
    @aliehawhite8616 3 роки тому +35

    I love seeing Mark hug them afterward, sometimes that is the little genuine affection and caring interaction some of them receive.

  • @DetroitFettyghost
    @DetroitFettyghost 3 роки тому +214

    Oh. She needs somebody to talk to who cares on a regular basis. I know how this is. She carrys the pain daily. Butterfly I'm sorry you been failed, I hope things get better love. 💕

    • @ilarious5729
      @ilarious5729 3 роки тому +20

      I've seen your comments on few videos and noticed they're always positive. The life can be really rough on the streets / in addiction and when you're on your lowest the smallest words of encouragement or positivity can have a huge impact. I'm speaking from experience, I got some stories to tell too and I guess im trying to thank you for taking the time to pay attention to "invisible" people. Respect from Finland.

    • @DetroitFettyghost
      @DetroitFettyghost 3 роки тому +29

      @@ilarious5729 Thank you so much. I definitely get it. I'm in active Addiction myself. It's very rough, very very lonely. It helps keep me going being kind, it's something I can hold onto that can't be taken. I've got very little. I live in a burned out house with no utilities, and it's getting cold outside. The small things help get me thru it- like your comment. Thank you so much. Have a blessed day.

    • @ilarious5729
      @ilarious5729 3 роки тому +14

      @@DetroitFettyghost I like the way you think, no matter where life takes you and what obstacles cross your path don't give up on that positive attitude. It'll pay back one day, it's already paying back if you can look in the mirror at the end of the day and be in peace with yourself. I just got back on suboxone today to get my life back on track again. I hope the best for you. we can beat this disease, it won't define us, our words and actions do.

    • @kendraphic
      @kendraphic 3 роки тому +2

      She carry’s the pain daily… I felt that. Because I can identify. The permanent scars called mental illness from trauma .. can weigh heavy on a persons life.
      She’s so beautiful. Pray she gets out and finds peace in this lifetime.

  • @akashamadison8050
    @akashamadison8050 3 роки тому +76

    She is stunning.

    • @sandrasteele976
      @sandrasteele976 3 роки тому +6

      True, somehow captivating and hauntingly beautiful.

  • @cosmicangel77
    @cosmicangel77 Рік тому +3

    Sending butterfly 🦋 lots of love. Growing up with kids in my neighborhood who went to McClaren Hall, I know the tragedies they've experienced.
    Praying for healing. She's a strong woman.

  • @a.wanderer5006
    @a.wanderer5006 3 роки тому +324

    She's a real one. Strength in vulnerability. 🦋
    It's interesting she talked about her horrible experience in CPS care but didn't really juxtapose that to what must be happening to her own kids within that same system. What is true is that if you were in fostercare yourself, it is much more likely that your own children will be taken away just because you are already on the government radar. The fostercare-to-fostercare and the fostercare-to-prison pipeline is real.

  • @meltingpointcreations1457
    @meltingpointcreations1457 3 роки тому +33

    I hope she finds the ability to trust someone soon. This lady deserves respect, and she deserves the feeling of having someone to lean on.

  • @Escape-ef4jm
    @Escape-ef4jm 3 роки тому +78

    I know physical & sexual abuse is terrible. But "mental abuse" is way deeper. It's hard to unlearn what someone told you was negative about yourself".

    • @marylougeorge9890
      @marylougeorge9890 3 роки тому +4

      You don't have wounds you can see so it's difficult to tell how you're healing. I think mental abuse actually takes way longer to heal.

    • @caitrionamccauley4029
      @caitrionamccauley4029 3 роки тому

      So true

  • @lisachayra01
    @lisachayra01 3 роки тому +64

    You can tell she’s a nice girl and good person, who was born into a life of drug addiction, abuse, poverty and the system. I hope she finds within herself a better way. She deserves it.

  • @trippin6118
    @trippin6118 3 роки тому +482

    People and the system may have failed you but don't fail yourself. You deserve better

    • @Laura-sg6ss
      @Laura-sg6ss 3 роки тому +3

      Yeah😭😭 i really hope she does all she can to get out. The system and people will push down on her and disallow her to do so but I really hope she can😪

    • @nailsthatstunt3665
      @nailsthatstunt3665 3 роки тому +2

      Great comment!

    • @luspankaleif3308
      @luspankaleif3308 3 роки тому

      Agree 100%.

    • @LRamey
      @LRamey 3 роки тому

      Amen

    • @lovelyIberia
      @lovelyIberia 3 роки тому

      True! i’m sitting here thinking why not get a job? even if it’s fast food, and rent a furnished room. try to take a certificate course even if it’s CNA or Medical/dental assistant then get a decent job. get settled then go back to school again for LPN/RN. A lot of people are dealt some bad hand but they fight their way out of the mess, not sit in the crap for twenty years.

  • @stephaniebateman8212
    @stephaniebateman8212 2 роки тому +12

    I started crying only 5 minutes in. This poor girl was dealt a bad hand in life and it is so brave of her to talk about this. I wish that I could just hug her right now

  • @Coco.Ohhhhh
    @Coco.Ohhhhh 2 роки тому +14

    She really spoke to my heart and mind. “Take everything as a blessing and a lesson”.

  • @TrinTheGoddess
    @TrinTheGoddess 3 роки тому +96

    She should make some crocheted blankets and sell them! We would buy them up! I wanted to just hug her when she cried. She literally is crying out for help! Keep ya head up girl! ❤❤❤

  • @blackthoughtachieves2210
    @blackthoughtachieves2210 3 роки тому +46

    Foster homes are deplorable, often riddled with mental and physical, especially sexual, abuse. The emotional scars are eternal.

  • @savannamims9392
    @savannamims9392 3 роки тому +88

    Please do a follow up! Love her energy and praying for her.

  • @kw1283
    @kw1283 3 роки тому +48

    Butterfly, I hope you know that there are a lot of us here who see you, and are with you. I hope you find a therapist who specializes in trauma. This way you don't need to keep repeating your story. I really felt that when you explained your experiences with therapy in the past... I feel you. I know it was a completely different ball game when I finally was able to work with a trauma specialist. It wasn't until THAT type of therapy that real digging and solving began to happen. You deserve to have a team backing you. It wasn't right what happened to you as a kid, but I hope you know that you can do this. You are strong and you are smart. You know what you want but the steps to get there are hard. The steps are like... cluttered figuratively with traumas that make it incredibly difficult to make moves. But I want you to know that you are already in route. You're gonna get to where you want to be. Life is going to get better. Keep digging, crocheting, being creative and dreaming. You're gonna get there. Hugs. Keep being compassionate with yourself. You've got this. Keep reaching out for help and staying curious about how to make positive moves. The right people are going to be there as you keep knowing exactly what you want. Lots of love to you.

  • @mssherceo
    @mssherceo 3 роки тому +27

    She really is a beautiful woman , bought tears to my eyes 🥺. I pray she gets the help and strength she needs to start a new chapter in her life🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @debszakormos7919
    @debszakormos7919 3 роки тому +62

    These sessions with Mark allow the person to vent, more than they thought too, to the point of sobbing and soul-bearing, both therapeudic, cathartic. It can set the spark inside them on the path to changing their lives. I often wonder how many have gone on for the better. She cries at 4:30, and full-on sobbing by 14:33. Its heart-wrenching. " I'm still here doing this" ... "I know I'm better than this". She's a good soul who missed her mom & siblings. Mom's addiction put them in Foster care, who failed her miserably, as I hear far too often. Butterfly loves to crochet! A Mexican lady taught her. Its the unforeseen link towards her future. I have high hopes for her 🙏💓. Please followup, Mark. 😌🐦

  • @karolanoble2858
    @karolanoble2858 3 роки тому +155

    That hug at the end after she had bared her soul about her entire life was worth a million fold for her I'm sure ~
    ✌🌷

  • @carynmartin6053
    @carynmartin6053 3 роки тому +75

    She's so right about therapy being so hard to start over with someone new, just when you think you're getting somewhere with one, they up and leave and you have to go through it all over again...ugh! Schizophrenia is a horrible mental illness to have to deal with. God bless her ❤ 💙 💜

    • @we3rwerw
      @we3rwerw 3 роки тому +17

      I don’t think she ever stated that she was diagnosed with schizophrenia but that she was hearing voices which can be a symptom of many types of different disorders and illnesses.

  • @andreafischer601
    @andreafischer601 Рік тому +2

    I recognize and I respect the way she is so direct, aware, and candid. She has everything it takes, even if it takes her all.
    Butterfly said blessings come with lessons. I think it's evident she has learned many lessons,won many battles. She is due for all the blessings coming her way.
    Butterfly, you ARE worthy of acknowledgement, understanding, and care.

  • @meredithlinzay823
    @meredithlinzay823 3 роки тому +29

    A highly intelligent, beautiful, articulate woman that never got a break in life...shes in my heart and my prayers

  • @Lisa7gee
    @Lisa7gee 3 роки тому +392

    When she said “I’m a big girl so I choked him back” I felt that 🤣🙌🏼👌🏼💪🏼

    • @lauraboe509
      @lauraboe509 3 роки тому +8

      Me too team 6ft in the house. I ain’t neva had a problem with anyone ruffing me up but also was just 🍀.

    • @anomaly19851
      @anomaly19851 3 роки тому +2

      @@lauraboe509 Quit bragging.

    • @lauraboe509
      @lauraboe509 3 роки тому +14

      @@anomaly19851 i am thankful to have been born to people who while still exceptionally abusive in their own ways took the time to do so in quiet suburbs somewhat hidden away from different trauma elsewhere- like some people who’s story is just a little bit different from mine but alike I’m so many ways it’s scary. Two people can have much more in common than you’d ever think walking down the street. No one chooses this life there is no bragging about it. I think it’s because I’m so large & N CHARGE. ✔️

    • @ashleyjohnston1755
      @ashleyjohnston1755 3 роки тому +3

      Same 😂😂

    • @Lisa7gee
      @Lisa7gee 3 роки тому

      @@ashleyjohnston1755 🙌🏼😎

  • @chloeknight1245
    @chloeknight1245 3 роки тому +230

    Poor baby…. These foster homes and orphanages every interviews sound like complete hell…. I feel so bad for her and every child that’s been in there ❤️

    • @jeshobson1999
      @jeshobson1999 3 роки тому +6

      I really want to be a foster parent for this very reason.

    • @RubeeDtimebot000
      @RubeeDtimebot000 3 роки тому +19

      @@jeshobson1999 ...I wish we could 'arrest ' the CPS and Foster families who know what they're doing to damage the children🤨

    • @eaglesquedingo2112
      @eaglesquedingo2112 3 роки тому +10

      There are good foster parents but there are also many, many evil ones.

    • @natashathompson3557
      @natashathompson3557 3 роки тому +5

      @@eaglesquedingo2112 We need more good ones!

    • @AllAboutPurple
      @AllAboutPurple 3 роки тому +10

      Yoo almost all these foster home stories are horrific. And they just keep placing kids in more abusive homes, heart breaking!

  • @tonirain8115
    @tonirain8115 3 роки тому +321

    When she said, "I'm a popular loner", that really resonated with me. I was Prom Queen, I have 10 siblings, and most of my childhood friends still live in the area. I'm to myself or with my partner 90% of the time. I trust no one bc of childhood trauma.

  • @DMaes23
    @DMaes23 2 роки тому +43

    Even through the tears, I see a very strong woman. It's not easy but I truly hope she finds peace, it's never too late. 🙏🏽

  • @sbaby1678
    @sbaby1678 3 роки тому +9

    It shows you cannot just judge people off of one look. She’s a caring, loving, hurt, abused beautiful woman with FEELINGS and a heart! It’s heartbreaking watching people who were failed by the adults that should have taken care of them and made them feel safe!

  • @bintbybint8431
    @bintbybint8431 3 роки тому +23

    This lady made my heart shatter when she broke down and sobbed.
    You are a beautiful lady and have so much more to give, there’s still time to do all you want to in life. Massive hugs to you sweetheart.

  • @CatsInaCradle
    @CatsInaCradle 3 роки тому +65

    Do not give your past the power to define who you are. You are stronger than you will ever believe and your greatest strengths come from your hardest struggles.

  • @tweady23
    @tweady23 3 роки тому +77

    Mark, you are a wonderful man. I love that you treat everyone you interview as what they are (Human). As for Butterfly, you are a beautiful soul and pray you find a way out and live the rest of your life in peace.

  • @RockTheeBelle44
    @RockTheeBelle44 2 роки тому +167

    Wow. Speaks Spanish, wants to be a rapper, loves to crochet, loves her family unconditionally, has an entrepreneurial spirit. Is 35!
    She is amazing and God didn't bring her this far to leave her. She is gonna make it out!

    • @MissJ619
      @MissJ619 2 роки тому

      If she had the right opportunity she would make it out!

    • @johnzimmerman5892
      @johnzimmerman5892 2 роки тому

      @@MissJ619 she can definitely make it out and create her own opportunity. Tf?! Always you negative commenters every where. Shame.

    • @MissJ619
      @MissJ619 2 роки тому

      @@johnzimmerman5892 Excuse me?? How am I being negative? You sound stupid. With the right opportunity and chance she can. Im a BLACK woman just like her, I would NEVER do that to a woman who looks like me, get the F *ck on. You don't know SH*T.

    • @sadiestoltzfus9798
      @sadiestoltzfus9798 2 роки тому

      She should buy some clothes with some of the money. All these interviews these women are making as much money as a doctor etc. So I'm not feeling sympathetic these women hate themselves. There are always places to go.

    • @lyliavix4366
      @lyliavix4366 2 роки тому

      @@sadiestoltzfus9798 she went there and she got fucked over! All she’s known is bad and she’s not got anyone fighting for/with her only men who are after her body. So stop chatting 💩 coz life ain’t easy even when you have money

  • @WarGod_PsyCo
    @WarGod_PsyCo 3 роки тому +117

    Damn, her story is deep. As a father of a 5 yr old daughter and about to have another daughter due next month I'm taking this in much different because what she went through in her childhood and to see how badly it affected her into her adulthood make me wanna do better to never allow my daughters to experience this type of abuse/pain/heartache/loneliness and so much more.
    To all the parents out there, hug your kid(s) and tell em you love them if they're by you or call em to tell em that you love and miss them. Our kids are the future, Teach them well, love them unconditionally and let them lead the way🙏🥺

    • @theoriginalki-ar-a4664
      @theoriginalki-ar-a4664 3 роки тому +8

      I wish all men were like you ....put your energy out their to these young ones for real man

    • @dominiquejenkins5495
      @dominiquejenkins5495 3 роки тому +7

      God bless you and your princess's and the Queen that carried them keep up the good work pops

    • @WarGod_PsyCo
      @WarGod_PsyCo 2 роки тому

      @@theoriginalki-ar-a4664 I will and thank you for your kind words

    • @WarGod_PsyCo
      @WarGod_PsyCo 2 роки тому

      @@dominiquejenkins5495 Thank you and I intend to continue doing that 🙇🏻‍♂️

    • @INDIGO.GODDESS_573
      @INDIGO.GODDESS_573 Рік тому

      Of course our childhood affects us. . What we go thru as kids grooms and form us into what type of adult we will be and how we present ourselves to the world..
      This is exactly why we have so much human hurt, pain, murderers, mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually ill people, just running wild on the earth. contributing to the world's chaos, darkside and alone why we have good people.. that have an passion to help others... because they can personally relate, know people from dysfunctional backgrounds or they are Being's born as natural empaths with healing spirits... so they are drawn to helping wounded souls.. For me, It's all of those reasons that, I naturally have a draw to hurt people.. I'm a empath and I absorb other's pain. Which is hard on my soul and very debilitating for my Spirit that's why I don't personally have people close to me emotionally.. It's too much. Especially since I don't & have never had RECIPROCITY when it comes to comforting wounded souls..

  • @Adam-nv9zo
    @Adam-nv9zo 3 роки тому +48

    I wish people could realize your past does not define who you are. Only you decide what defines you and who you are. The past is life's, the future is yours.

    • @nakialindsey5684
      @nakialindsey5684 3 роки тому +2

      Agreed that only you can define who you are words to live by👍🏾.

  • @AnneLien1987
    @AnneLien1987 3 роки тому +47

    When she cried, my heart broke. She really suffers so much.

  • @deamac
    @deamac 3 роки тому +70

    Damn…makes you look at these women differently. This woman is very smart and business minded. She just can’t catch a break. Mark make it happen bro 😢

  • @msswerve
    @msswerve 3 роки тому +20

    It’s like she has been holding that pain and those tears for so long that it just burst out rushing. Butterfly, if you are reading this, I am truly sorry you have been treated so badly. In spite of it all, I see your strength, your beauty, your lessons learned, your intelligence, your heart. I am amazed at your strength and your ability to survive and surpass this. I hope and I think you will get to place where you can find peace and love and move forward from this very debilitating hurt.

  • @notnyj6680
    @notnyj6680 3 роки тому +18

    " i'm not the best rapper, but i got sumn to say.. im like dre " i love it lol

  • @gorillatag1047
    @gorillatag1047 3 роки тому +28

    She has my heart aching this afternoon. Hearing her weep when she said “ If we knew where she lives now “ 💔💔💔

  • @glitterinmyeyes333
    @glitterinmyeyes333 3 роки тому +23

    She hustles for survival. She deserves a warm home, loving family and to feel safe in her skin. ❤

  • @tanyas.3219
    @tanyas.3219 3 роки тому +44

    Absolutely horrifying!! Butterfly needs to continue to speak her truth. So many need to hear this. I admire you Butterfly. You are so courageous. Epic system fail from the beginning to the end. Good God they all failed her in every single way.

  • @momojett
    @momojett 3 роки тому +26

    You have been let down so much through your life Butterfly. When you cried so deep from your soul you touched my soul. You are such a strong independent beautiful woman, and I hope you come back here and read all these comments in praise of you and see that we are all sending love and prayers for you and that you find a way to get out of this. Sending love & peace from New Zealand xx

    • @butter_buttfly
      @butter_buttfly 3 роки тому +2

      Hey New Zealand in the house I appreciate what you said I'm loving all the praise I didn't think that people will feel this way I thought that I was being a big crybaby because I haven't cried in a long time only when I'm angry we just talking about my life maybe emotional and I just want to thank you for your message and your prayers

  • @Chyyyyyyyyyyy
    @Chyyyyyyyyyyy 3 роки тому +31

    It’s crazy how when you’ve been through this much trauma, you instantly revert back to the child you were when it all started the moment you start to tell your story. I feel for her so much. I feel the longing she still has for her mother and her family even in her 30s. I can relate 100% I’m 25 and I still want my mom. I didn’t foresee her getting emotional because in this life I know shes had to learn to hold herself up so when she cried I cried. Queen you have so many people rooting for you. I believe in you

  • @dokidokidez
    @dokidokidez 3 роки тому +14

    "anybody I run into know what I do, they already doing it or want me to do it for 'em" - this absolutely crushed me.
    Imagine trying to find your self worth when everyone treats you this low.

  • @nightmarefuelnursery9622
    @nightmarefuelnursery9622 3 роки тому +178

    This Angel just needs to know that she's worth getting out of the game. Her cries broke my heart.... The sound of years of pain and sadness. How can I help her Mark? Thank you for sharing her story to the world❤️❤️

    • @samanthabrown814
      @samanthabrown814 3 роки тому +1

      I want to be a true friend to her too! I can help her get a trade and a real life. Selling herself is no way to live

  • @jennifermariabrocco4608
    @jennifermariabrocco4608 3 роки тому +23

    I don't miss the days of doing this myself. Bless this woman

  • @britneyarambula1620
    @britneyarambula1620 3 роки тому +18

    My god, this interview really broke my heart. When she broke down the way she did, i cant even imagine going through everything she went through. She’s beautiful and brave i hope she finds her peace. It’s sad how much the system failed her.

  • @Virronnaa
    @Virronnaa 2 роки тому +9

    The system is so corrupt. The pain that she’s suppressed all these years, my goodness. You are better, you are worth it beautiful butterfly!!! It’s never too late to grow and break the chains! Use the suffering you’ve been through as motivation. I pray she finds healing and changes her life. ❤️🙏🏼

  • @christa3767
    @christa3767 3 роки тому +59

    When she started crying, I never wanted to hug someone so badly.

  • @screenname3002
    @screenname3002 3 роки тому +32

    My heart melted seeing her break down. I wish I could give her a hug and tell her how beautiful and resilient she is. My God, these interviews are tough.

  • @beckwil0852
    @beckwil0852 3 роки тому +47

    This is devastating to watch. She’s still this beautiful little girl who was just thrown away. I wish I could meet her and just hug her and tell her she’s worth having a great life. Love to you, Butterfly ❤️

  • @savvystylelady
    @savvystylelady 3 роки тому +24

    I love Butterfly. She’s has so much beauty; inside and outside. I wish that she had the support of other women who are healthy because healthy women can be a wonderful support system especially if there is shared history. She’s also so intelligent. It surprised me that she can only picture herself doing what she is doing now but I understand it is because of her life history. She could be so much more…she deserves to be so much more. The world needs women like her who have been through such hell and have managed to get out to show other women how to do it.
    Butterfly would be an exceptional teacher and mentor, if she would only allow it…
    I’m holding a space for you butterfly. A space where you can be who you were created to be, not the false women who was molded by unspeakable trauma. Crying is healing because you have lots of pain to get out and to get through. I was relieved to see you cry because for many years I couldn’t and only through crying did I open the door for healing.
    CPS gets away with lots of crap. It is designed for failure and to not believe children unless someone in the system has something to gain from believing them. You are not alone. You have a wonderful since of humor and are one of the best storyteller’s that I’ve ever seen. Here’s a mantra that you can feel free to use, if it appeals to you, “I am good, worthy and worth the effort.”
    Look at yourself in the mirror right in the eyes as many times each day as you can while repeating it out loud (assuming it is safe to say it aloud.) Also, use it as a mantra. A mantra is a positive sentence that could be repeated to oneself, over and over again. Especially when a person feels confused, anxious, sad, depressed or whenever it may cross the mind or when a person doesn’t know what to think or say. Eventually, something shifts inside for the better. I send you blessings, good energy and good thoughts. ❤️🤗

    • @butter_buttfly
      @butter_buttfly 3 роки тому +3

      Thank you I really appreciate it

    • @bryanthall6627
      @bryanthall6627 3 роки тому +1

      @@butter_buttfly thank YOU for your openness and honesty. It’s stories like yours and how others react to and learn from them that actually gives me a sliver of hope for this (unfortunately possibly still) doomed society.

  • @rachelbeau4629
    @rachelbeau4629 3 роки тому +5

    I just want to hug her so tight. Butterfly you deserve so much love 💕

  • @melizzia7901
    @melizzia7901 3 роки тому +22

    Her pain is so deep. She loves her Mom so much still despite of the pain she also caused her. I wish something could change for her and she would have someone that is willing to take her under their wings and really show he solid and unconditional love. I'm so sad that this is her reality. This has always been her reality. She deserved more as a child and she deserves more now.

    • @tataliciousdelicious9840
      @tataliciousdelicious9840 3 роки тому +1

      It’s so sad. she’s so hurt. the system took her away from her mother attempting to protect her and threw her to the wolves. Even with her mother having issues she was better off with her than in foster care…

  • @Kori-Jones
    @Kori-Jones 3 роки тому +24

    She’s been holding back them tears for a loooong time let it out we All need to

  • @firebirdtelevision175
    @firebirdtelevision175 3 роки тому +18

    Butterfly, if you read this, you are precious in God's eyes. I'm sorry for your pain. You have so many gifts beyond your body. I can see you mentoring young people, you're smart, powerful and wise, you have so much to offer. I'm praying for you, friend.

  • @sofiasantiago9239
    @sofiasantiago9239 2 роки тому +8

    This is the realist interview that depicts what happens out here. I’ve been there. Love you girl!

  • @yoshundablunt4966
    @yoshundablunt4966 2 роки тому +10

    OMG, this beautiful soul...when you cry like that it comes from a deep-rooted hurt like no other. She was never heard, never understood, and never cared for by people she was supposed to be able to trust. I am sending love and prayers. I hope we can get a follow up on her. (I am also praying for her 3 children, I am sure they feel like she did when she was put into placement...another generation). It is unfortunate that she has been made a container for other people's rage! this hurts my heart. blessings to you for the work you do by allowing these beautiful hearts a safe space.