Becoming a single mother by choice | Q&A
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Doula here! People misunderstand the "birth plan" all the time. A good birth plan is not saying that your birth will go a certain way. Instead, it is a place to write down your priorities in various scenarios. You can say, for instance, that you want a vaginal birth, but in case of a c-section, you want skin-to-skin as soon as possible, or you want your support person to follow the baby if NICU time is needed. It is the place to write down your feeding plans, your preference for vitamin K or not, eye ointment or not, etc. Having a written "plan" allows you to research and think through choices when you are thinking clearly and are not pressed for time. It doesn't mean you aren't open-minded. It simply mean you are prepared for all the twists and turns of birth.
A great place to list “comfort measures” I had hair brushing, bath, shower, exercise ball, lighting rubbing hands with fingertips (called suzzing in our family) music
My birth plan for my twins was 3 pages, it broke down to "best case- full term spontaneous vaginal", "worst case- preterm emergency c-section under sedation", and "my husband is epileptic, don't let him die". It was really helpful for easing my anxiety, but the OB who delivered my twins didn't even look at it and I wish I'd had something visual to show and be like "Cord traction bad, will trigger support person's birth trauma".
Birth plan for my third kid was "Labour at home as long as possible, free movement, open to epidural, I know more than the LC." Kid followed it in the most beautifully chaotic way and I just find that hilarious. She arrived minutes after we got to the hospital, no one had time to even suggest I get on the bed, I had a spinal after for surgical repairs and my husband did skin-to-skin with bub while I was away from them. The midwives who found it in my pregnancy folder afterwards had a good laugh with me about it.
Very well written!
We don’t do vitamin K or eye ointment in the UK
This is really good to know! I was definitely one of the people misunderstanding what they are. Thank you 😊
Hi, I used to watch your videos about menstrual cups when I was a teenager. Just rediscovered your channel and can’t believe you’re having a baby! Congrats! :) all the best
Very smart to be open minded about a birth plan. There are certainly things you can hope will happen, but knowing it might not happen is smart.
I’ve heard it called birth preferences and I think that’s much better terminology
The written birth plan is the perfect place to write your preferences for when things DON'T go the way you hope!
As a trained Doula, (birth support), birth preferences is definitely better terminology. It is useful to think 'what would I want if . . . ', in relation to different scenarios you could encounter in birth, and think about what your personal parameters are, even around things such as internal examinations. When you are in labour it may be hard to make decisions; having an idea of what you feel strongly about in different situations can help not just you, but those who are your support and advocating for you.
I love your open-mindedness about open ID donors and your wish that your child fully understand how they came to be 🥰 So many young adults are curious about their donors and where they have come from. It's a natural desire to understand your roots and heritage!
As a mumma of two and two very different births I can tell you this, plans very much do change and in times of stress they very much go out the window however I do recommend even if you have no plan to specify “I wish to have informed consent” that way the people in charge of your care give you a run down of what’s happening. In a busy NHS hospital it’s important to ensure you are not rushed about. This is what I’ve learned at least
I'm so glad to hear about the open donor law and that you plan to tell your child early. We adopted our 4 kiddos from foster care (I'm in the US) and have been completely open (as appropriate) and it's so much healthier. The kids really need to understand where they come from as they grow. I've watched you for years and am happy you've allowed us on this journey too!
I am an only child, my mom was an only child, and her mom was an only child. Among us I definitely liked it the best (I was so happy being an only child) because my mother and her mother before her learned from their own experiences and made it better for me. It also definitely depends on your personality but honestly just living near my friends was good enough for me because I really enjoyed independent play. If you do decide to have only one child, don’t beat yourself up over it!
Great job with every question! I applaud your decisions and can't wait until you're back healthy with a healthy baby as well! I'll be here for next week's video as well as the prerecorded ones while you're away! Good luck and wishing you health and safety for all!
In Sweden they call the birth plan a birth letter and I think it’s more appropriate name than a birth plan - since it’s basically a letter to the personnel where you state your preferences and feelings about certain things that can happen during labour or delivery. They suggest to keep it short (1 page max) so that the personnel can read through it quickly and get a picture of how to approach you. I am now only finishing my 16th week but I already know that:
- I want to be informed about any actions being taken
- I’m open to epidural but would rather try to manage without and just take of the edge of the pain with other methods (bath, relaxing music, moving around, laughing gas etc)
- I’m afraid of tearing and of the vacuum delivery, so I want them to take that into consideration
- my partner is afraid of blood so I want him with me during the first phase of labour, afterwards it is mostly up to him if he feels okay to stay or would rather leave
- if allowed, I want to be able to get a little snack like energy bar or some water
Good luck during the last few weeks Bryony, hope everything goes well! ❤❤❤
I really appreciate you bringing us along on your journey to solo motherhood. It is so wonderful to see you surrounded by so many supportive people in your life. Your mum is an absolute gem ❤. I respect your choice when it comes to protecting your baby boys privacy. May the winds be with you in your final weeks of pregnancy. You got this Mumma. We are cheering you and baby boy on for a safe delivery. Lots of love from North QLD Australia.
"Eat coal or chew on tires" 🤣 🤣 🤣 Omg I just adore you Bryony! Best statement ever!!!
I am an only child and was very happy with it! I truly think it's a very individual thing so there's no right answer.
On showing faces etc, I think the important thing is that you recognise the importance of those decisions and think about them carefully with you and your child's best interests at heart, which you clearly are. Yet another indication you're going to be a wonderful mum. I really admire how much time and thought you've put into researching so you can make decisions for your child based on evidence and the wealth of experience that's out there!!
Chocolate milk was my biggest craving! Don’t ever drink it when not preggo. Diaper wipes were just coming out when my sister started having babies and one thing I took away from all her wisdom was to use a nice reusable towel or cloth instead of wipes. She made the funniest sign the back of on her bathroom door where she hung the towels “FOR BABIES BUTTS ONLY” we were eco friendly in the ‘80 and didn’t even know it!
Good luck with the last bit of pregnancy and the upcoming birth and greeting :))!
I love how your videos and opinions are never just black and white. I think it's really smart and inspiring how you show us how you weighed out options and how you're more for option A but not totally against option B, depending on how things develop. I think many of us can learn from that, regarding any aspect of life.
This was such a good vlog Bryony, wishing you all the very best for a straightforward delivery.😘
American here- I had no idea what a pram was until now. Lol We just call them strollers.
8 months?! Bree, take longer than that w little man before fostering! He’s only gonna be a baby once, spend every minute you can w just him! :)
Someone suggested to me to have birth "preferences" instead of a plan and that ended up being very mentally helpful for me! I set up a number of different scenarios and wrote down what I would hope for each one. I ended up with a c section and I specifically stated I wanted to avoid an emergency one if possible, so if it was something that would be recommended even though I could maybe try a little longer, I wanted to go for it to avoid any unnecessary emergency. That preference played out very well for me! Everything went extremely well and I've got a beautiful 2 week old baby girl to show for it! 🥰
I really appreciate this video and your channel overall. I'm due with my second child around the same time as you, but doing so completely differently. I have a husband and live in the USA. 😊 It is amazing to learn about a mom doing things on her own and I want to know more about how things are as a singple parent! 🥰
I was the exact same with my first birth, I didn’t want a birth plan. Baby will decide that for you. And you will know how you feel in the moment when you’re in labour what you want to do. ❤️ you will do great x
Use grown up nappies for in the hospital! I absolutely loved it, so comfortable, so absorbent and no worries about pads or knickers moving.
A birth plan *can* work really well even when you're keeping an open mind. It can allow you to go through all of the potential options and see what preferences suit you. Do you intend to get an epidural early or would you rather wait as long as you can? Do you want the lights low and soft music playing, would you rather have quiet, would you rather have your birthing partner talking to you? If you end up needing a C-section, what are your preferences there? That's what a lot of birth plans look like now - more of a choose your own adventure than a step by step plan.
I still think these things can’t be predicted, though. Outside of labour, I love massages. I would have assumed that a massage in labour would have been welcomed, yet when the time came, for some reason I couldn’t stand to be touched. I just wanted to go into my own little bubble. I feel it would have been the same with music - what might have been welcome outside of labour would likely have been annoying in labour.
You must always do what you think is best for you. Whether it's a birth vlog or the showing your son's face or not. Just enjoy having this precious new life! 💕
I was one of the many who asked if you will show his face. I respect a minor's privacy and the parent or parents' choice, but I am SO pleased you will share his face.
As a viewer, there's nothing more heartbreaking than watching a baby bump grow more and more in every posted video, eager to await the baby's birth after 9 months, just to be told the face or entire baby will never be shown. 🥰
Yeah like I ALWAYS respect parents choices but I really love when we are able to see them even if just once!
I was actually just thinking about you the other day hope you and baby are well❤
With my son, I knew he was measuring large and my mindset for a birth plan was to get baby here safely. I didn't know if I would end up with a C-section. In the end I got an epidural and was able to push out my 9 pound baby with a couple hours of pushing. I had absolutely no clue what I wanted in the end but he got here safe and I was taken care of as well.
Best of luck to you!!
I use cloth diapers and we only use them at home. If we are out and about it is too much hassle. I also use disposables if I forget to wash them at the end of the day. I just use bio-degradable/plant derived disposables.
Interested in which double buggy you have and if you’d recommend it? Thanks
Do you have a method for one time donations? Unless there is a way on patron to give and then cancel future donations without effecting you?
I'm only part way through the video so not sure if you've covered this but I'd be really interested to know if yoi hsd a check list so to speak of what you wanted ideally from the doner
Hi Bryony! Just wondering if there is a disposable diaper brand you like best and if you have experience with any of the brands that market themselves as eco friendly, biodegradable, natural, plant based, etc. I'd love to hear your thoughts. Anyway, thank you for sharing your journey with us and I'm so glad you're doing well. ✌️&❤️
Please give your child the gift of privacy. Talking about your experience and showing him here and there is one thing but please don't put all of his information out there. We should not know if he is circumcised or any other medical things. You might notice a boost in your views when you start showing him. Please do not exploit your child.
Do you plan to use resuable cloths, like instead of single use baby wipes? 🥰
Are you gonna make/use postnatal pads that can hold an ice pack as well?
You are so mature and wise beyond your years! Going through pregnancy alone is so powerful wether you are choosing to or not. I am currently going through it alone (not by choice but because it is the safest option for me) I have been feeling so connected to nature and my own divinity. Pregnancy is a magical thing.
Aww wow 🤗🤗 all the best to you as well throughout your pregnancy, I'm sure you'll be an amazing mother ❤️
Maybe fostering when little man is there will somewhat feel like having a second child. I don't know much about fostering, but that's what I imagine😊
Also, about the name reveal: I did that the same way you are planning it to do! Since that became rather rare here, people were soo curious😄😁
Through 2 of mums pregnancies my 8 yr old brother and 7yr old sister she literally had every version of eucalyptus it's insane she was OBSESSED lol
I still highly recommend like depends or adult nappies for right after birth and if your water breaks as your first sign of labour they are super helpful
Being open minded about your birth plan is good. I knew how, best case scenario, I wanted my labour to go, but I also was very open and realistic about knowing that it could change and that was fine too. I actually wrote out 3 different birth plans, A, B and C in order of preference, so A was an epidural and and planned diagonal episiotomy as I have scaring from a vicious rape that tears open easily because I have a genetic condition that among many other things causes keloid scaring and my skin to break easily (I had surgery to help so I don’t tear badly every time I have sex, just occasionally small tears if it’s rougher sex or the guy is thicker), my Obstetrician is also my gynaecologist and did the surgery and agreed that I was at a high risk of a 4th degree tear so between the two of us we decided to be proactive about it rather than take the gamble. I also had requested continuous foetal heart monitoring throughout out labour and provided details about what I wanted immediately after birth (if he was healthy to be put on my chest immediately for skin to skin for at least an hour, delayed cord clamping if it all possible and for my mum, ((I’m also a solo mum but was more forced into it because the father became abusive and extremely controlling as soon as the test came back positive and I didn’t want my son or I to be in that situation so I left him and got protection orders against him and he has 0 involvement, he’s not even on the BC)) who was my birth partner to cut the cord, this part stayed pretty much the same for all 3 plans), then plan B was if the epidural failed, or if things happened too quickly for one I wanted gas and air, and I also wanted to be numbed with injection for my episiotomy and the birth, along with monitoring the baby still throughout labour and the same plans for immediately after his birth. Plan C was for if things went wrong and I needed a C section, I wanted my mum in theatre with me and I wanted to be told what was happening as it was happening and for the curtain to be lifted as soon as he was out so I could see him. If he was fine I wanted to do skin to skin strait away, if he needed a little help first then I wanted them to hold him up before they took him to the corner to assess and help him if there was time and that once he was ok I wanted him on my chest and I wanted him to stay with me the whole time I was in theatre and didn’t wanted to be separated from him unless it was a life or death matter and if that happened I wanted my mum to go with him. I also requested in all three plans I wanted to keep my placenta because I wanted to burry it and plant a tree on top of it. Because I am a solo mum I also had it written down if something went very wrong for me and I died or went into a coma that I wanted my son to go to my mother and had both her and I date and sign all the copies of my birth plan (I made a lot so everyone involved could have one and know what the go was).
I was ok with knowing that my ideal plan could change and probably would change, but it made me feel better knowing what would happen in order of my preference right down to worst case scenario and definitely kept me calm after my labour stalled at 2cm (I had GD so was induced at 38wks with cervical tape the night before and had my water broken at 2cm first thing the next morning and he was already engaged, she felt his head almost right at the opening of my service and was even able to just use her fingers to pull and rip the sack be because he was so close) but 12 hours after my water was broken I was still at only 2cm and his heart rate was starting to drop and he was showing signs of going into destress and because I had been stalled for so long and because of his heart rate she recommended we do an emergency c-section if I didn’t make any progress in the next hour as she was pretty sure the induction was failing because the had to dial back the Pitocin drip because I was having 6 contractions a minute but they weren’t strong enough to make labour move forward and it was starting to distress him, but then I was getting hardly any contractions at all. Also protocol is if you haven’t delivered 24hrs after your water breaks and it isn’t apparent that baby will be here very soon that you have a c-section because of the high risk of infection, this protocol wasn’t followed 2 years before that when my baby cousin was born (my Aunty’s water broke 3 days before her scheduled c-section and her crappy doctor decided to just wait until the scheduled time because he was on a holiday and didn’t want to leave early, he literally told them that himself) and my baby cousin ended up with a bad infection and almost died so I was going to make sure that protocol was followed for me. She said if we waited he would probably go into distress and even if he didn’t in her professional opinion (she is the best doctor in my town, and was very attentive during my pregnancy, saw me every 2 weeks the whole pregnancy as I was high risk for the get go, even game me her personal mobile number because of those things and a lot of others I 100% trust her and her judgment) she thought my labour wasn’t going to progress and that the longer I went through labour, the harder the recovery from surgery would be. So when my labour didn’t progress over the next hour and his heart rate kept dropping for a bit then coming back up but it was taking longer each time to get back up, I decided to have the c-section and was in theatre within 20 minutes. It turned out to be a blessing in disguise because his umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck twice and it would have been a very hard birth on both of us and he would have been in worse shape after being born natural than he was after the c-section. I took him a few minutes to breathe on his own, so I wasn’t able to have delayed cord clamping because they had to take him to the corner to the paediatrician (who was on stand by because of it being a c section thank god) to have his lungs suctioned and but on by-pap for a few minutes until his apgar improved and he was breathing on his own, about 7 minutes total before they could bring him to me for skin to skin and he stayed with me the whole time I was stitched (about half an hour) and the whole time in recovery too (about an hour) and even rode with me on my chest back up to our room. Even though what happened was next to the last way I wanted his birth to go, it was comforting to know that I had planned for the situation and knew how it would go and that every one in the room knew in at least some detail about what my wished were in the situation. If you think doing this kind of birth plan would be beneficial for you, (even if just reassurance that you know pretty well what will happen in any way that things turn out and that the professionals around you know what you want to happen in anyway that you end up giving birth. I’m even happy to send you a copy on Facebook of my birth plan so you get a better idea of what I’m talking about o and can understand the way I wrote and structured it or use it or use it as a guide on the structure (though obviously the plans won’t be that same, just for an idea on how to write your own). If this isn’t for you then that’s perfectly fine too, I just thought you may have not thought of writing one in this way and may appreciate having the option of doing one this way brought to you so you aware of the option.
I’m so excited for you and know that what ever you do chose will be the right choice for you 🥰
aaaannnndddd……………..CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!🎉
Oh I also forgot that in plan A and B it requested to have surgical glue over the top of my stitchers. my OBGYN did this for me in a previous surgery, that the best way I can describe is like an episiotomy, but instead of the edges of the incision bring stitched back together, they were stitched to heal apart from each other (think like when someone has their tongue split for body modification) to remove a scar from a second degree tear I got when I was raped and make it so I wouldn’t get a new one. The scar would almost always re-tear and open most of the length of the scar every time I had sex (if not all the length and would usually be a half cm deep but if it could get to a cm if the sex was rough). The glue over the top of the stitches made it so when I would do a wee none of the wee would actually get on the wound so it didn’t sting at all which was great and wanted it again for after birth so I didn’t have to spray my self with water whilst weeing 10+ times a day.
And sorry for the easy, I have ADHD and find it hard to not go off on tangents.
That's the longest comment I've ever seen
My parents used cloth nappies on myself and my siblings when we were babies. She only used disposibles when out for the day in public or travelling.
I haven’t caught up on your videos but assuming you still have the diagnosis of ME, you will be surprised how equipped you are for giving birth and having a newborn.
I had a miserable pregnancy. HG the whole time, my depression got really bad and braxton hicks from 26 weeks.
As soon I was in labour, I just zoned out and got through it. Didn’t have a birth plan but knew what I did and didn’t want. Things went pear shaped and I chose to go to the hospital and have an epidural which I never imagined I would choose. I do wish I had gone back in the birth pool or in the shower but don’t regret my choices.
Our daughter is donor conceived as we are a same sex couple. She is almost 4 and we have always discussed how both our kids were conceived and that ‘xyz’ is who helped us make her. We have become good friends with him and his wife so they are involved in our lives which is great.
Our son was conceived before we were together and we have always been open about that and our 10 year old knows everything. We are glad we have done it that way.
I craved the dark green original fairy liquid. I used to keep some near my bed so I could smell it during the night 😂 used to use it for eveurhting washing hands putting on sponges and smelling, I googled If it was safe to bath in haha. still love the smell now.
I wish I had packed my cloth pads for the birth centre. I’ve used cloth pads and cups for over 8 years and 2 days of disposable pads was horrific. I couldn’t wait to be home and use cloth.
I had a vaginal birth and expected to bleed a lot. My periods are usually heavy too. I was using regular sized pads in the first week post partum. I was pleasantly surprised.
Will you be doing a video on postpartum bleeding and recovery
Did you choose your donor on his looks too,like him having the looks of a man that you would have been attracted to? Is he from the UK? Just curious,it seems so very interesting to me - wish I had the opportunity 😃
Bryony might I reccomend the Americqn film The Switch. It's a film about a 30 something woman (played by Jennifer Anniston) who has a child through a known donor. It touched base on allot of things you are discussing on here about the social and emotional aspects of having a child through gamete donation.Its quite funny and heartwarming and I think you may fancy it quite a bit.
I would use the postpartum disposable pants instead - much more comfortable and they support your stomach after birth
I love the Q&A and you could put out more during the maternity leave if you film them now or before the birth. I'm bummed we won't get the birth story until so much later but it's very understandable. Maybe you could put out a little something with his name/date of birth/weight/length? Love the baby vitals. Filming is a very personal choice, I watch the Ballinger Family who show all of their 6 kids to Jessica Kellgren-Fozard who (with her partner) are choosing not to show their son's face at all just back of his head.
I was an old child who hated it also and swore I'd never have an only. I even told my husband when we started considering kids that it was 2+ or 0. But then like you I had a really rough pregnancy. I have had health issues since I was a kid and while none of them affected the baby (we did a lot of tests and consultations prior to pregnancy to make sure it wouldn't) but the pregnancy made everything much worse for me. My doctors knew it would likely not be the easiest pregnancy but they didn't expect how rough it was. So now I have a 5 year old and no plans for more. It does make me sad sometimes esp as my daughter very much wants a sibling but my doctors say that in all likelihood another pregnancy would at bare minimum further reduce my health (which already will never be what it was before) and could easily lead to my not surviving. Plus it would certainly mean I would be limited in what I could do with/for my daughter for nearly a year. It can be really hard to want more and have your health limit your options. I try to focus on the fact that the most important thing is for me to be around and healthy (well as healthy as possible anyway) for my daughter.
That must be a tough situation you're in with wanting another but knowing it's not the best option. Just know your daughter will be able to understand more when she's older why she didn't have a sibling and I'm sure will be grateful that you were looking after yourself since as you say it is better for you to be healthier and around for her than for her to have a sibling but you be super unwell. Wishing you all the best!
I never had “weird cravings”
Either. With kids 1&3 I craved garlic shrimp. With 2&4 no particular cravings. With 1,2&3 I had very little nausea and with 4 I had persistent horrific nausea from about 5 weeks to 7.5 months. Then it morphed into heartburn until several weeks AFTER DELIVERY. 😭🥶
Please make sure your doctor knows you are breastfeeding before they prescribe the pill. Mine ignored that fact and some bc pills dry up your milk. Thankfully I figured out what was happening and stopped taking them, and asked for something else.
I’m in NYC and haven’t been able to see any photos on a donor. Only if it’s an egg donor. But sperm I haven’t had any luck seeing one.
Have you shared how much it cost? I want to be a single mom but I know it's a lot for one attempt at iui and its not guaranteed to work. How many attempts did it take etc
It depends, not everyone need to go through UI. You can get a sperm donor and conceive on your own. You have to make the proper checks on your own, tho.
@Yessa Lady where I am, they won't deliver donor sperm to the house for me to do it myself
Not all (international) sperms banks deliver to consumers, so its not always possible to cut out the clinic. Some only deliver to clinic where you receive treatment. Don't know about UK regulations, but that applies to majority of European countries that don't allow use of anonymous donors (because international banks usually sell both anynomous and open donor sperm). In one of the earlier videos Bryony shared costs of treatments and what was covered under NHS.
I can't believe he's almost here!
I'm in South Africa and here we only have anonymous donors unless you have a known donor... So I used anonymous..
He might still be able to locate the donor if he wanted to, as DNA testing is a lot more common now than years ago.
And I agree, my son will also know that he's donor conceived, from as early as possible. He's 5.5 months old now.
You know I started following you because I found your period talk interesting - you are so young, I’m 36, and I think you are more mature than me. You think everything through before you do it and make sure you understand every single consequence before you make a choice
She is wise beyond her years. This baby is in great hands. ❤
In Finland we usually reveal baby's name after christening. I feel weird people telling really early what name they give to child.
It is best to not have a solid birth plan. Recommend you call it a birth preference rather than plan but ultimately in your head it does become plan. With my first pregnancy I did suffer from having this ideal how I wanted my birth and they didn't go that way. So I didn't even make one for my second beyond the fact that I wanted it in the MLU.
Bite tires 🤣 I loved the smell of rubber when I was pregnant 💙
It’s funny. I’ve 4 kids and I never made a birth plan OR had a doula with the first 3. I had a midwife every single time and all 3 first births went off without a hitch in a free standing birth centre (1&2) or at home (3). With 4 I had the birth plan and doula and we never expected it not to go like the first 3 and everything was blown out of the water. That being said: I still would recommend one. It’s not (as others have said) that it guarantees anything. It’s that you get to say what your priorities are. 🤷♀️ so I’d recommend looking into what things are important to you, and writing some down and what you’d like in place as a plan B if scenario A is impossible. Best of luck!
Since donations in the UK are all open, do the donors also get the profiles of the mothers that are confirmed to have successfully used their donations?
I think it's smart to wait to tell people his name. That way you're less likely to go from naming your kid something like Noah to Brian just because someone went to school with a Noah that they didn't like, or because they hate The Notebook.
Usually the confirmations of live births are voluntary. I actually had to pay to register the live birth with the sperm bank I used (Canada), in their sibling registry. It does come with the benefit of having some insights (and occasionally contact details) into how many siblings have been registered. But it is in no way a complete overview. But there is no personal data about donor shared with prospect mum and no personal data from mum with donor. The child is the only one to receive donor details if they wish when they are 18. It's a one way transaction in that way.
Can you film and just not post till maternity leave is over?
It's good to be mindful of little man's privacy. I get worried about these babies constantly having their faces everywhere.
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Agreed. The whole family vlogger section of UA-cam is very concerning to me - those little kids can't consent (and likely get very little of the profit from their videos).
@@natatatt 💯 again
Your plan to only show your son up until he's a year old and possibly not after is something another UA-camr, Lily Pebbles, did and it seemed to work well for her. She still shows the child occasionally after that age, but never with their face visible. Seems like a great idea to pull back on showing him at the time when his face starts to have more of an individual appearance, for his privacy.
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I’m so happy to see you excited about this pregnancy! For a while I was wondering if you really and truly wanted this, but I can see how happy you are now. Pregnancy and giving birth is scary and anxiety inducing, but so worth it, as I know you know. You’re gonna be such a good mom. :)
And you will meet someone and have a baby, I know it. You’re only 25, you have lots of time.
Also, that’s smart to show him until a year old(or even a little after). Like you said, babies just look like babies until a certain age. Even showing him occasionally as he gets older I think would be fine, as long as it’s only occasionally.
As a second time mum, I highly recommend photos and footage of the birth. I didn’t get anything with my son and I really regret it. I had one of the midwives take some of the birth of my second.
Casey Neistat does a good job of showing some of what his kids are doing and a bit of their personality, but he doesn't show their faces (they're maybe elementary school/preschool age)
You are lucky with my your pregnancy cravings I had a cravings of chewing on sponges
I am genuinely intrigued by the sponge craving. If you don’t mind my asking, I was curious what exactly it was about sponges you craved. Was it the texture, the taste or something else. During my twin pregnancy I could only handle the taste of really bland food and could only drink a blue bubblegum cordial that was almost frozen.
@shychick84 yeah it was the texture
@@violethirst7498ahhh now I understand much better. Thank you for sharing that with me it is greatly appreciated. I wish you nothing but the best and I hope you and your family are doing well.
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I had this craving with all three of my children also. That and chewing on toothbrushes! It was the feeling in my tongue I craved 😂
I have a feeling you are going to choose a planned c-section 😁
Mmmhmmm. She can’t handle pain. But I don’t know that they’ll do a planned c section, unless there’s a reason. At least not in the US, they won’t.
@@Badfishtooo in the UK maternal request is a valid reason. Healthcare here is actually amazing 👏
@luciemarama7923 interesting, I wonder what makes some countries have it on demand and others not. My country has pretty good maternal health care but you need a solid medical reason for a planned c-section. And I guess it depends on the doctor what "good reason" is lol
@@luciemarama7923 no its actually not, not unless you go private. You need a valid reason for it. You can request it and we try to get of the bottom of why this person wants a section and go from there. Bryony could get a c section on mental health grounds but would be encouraged to look at all options and to speak about the why she was set on a c section birth. Most times, with proper support, people in a similar situation to bryony will change their mind.
@@nyonpyon8099 the way a woman gives birth is actually her decision and yes she does have the final say. The NHS will try to offer alternatives for sure as everything else is cheaper but the final say is the mother’s and that is how it should be, whatever reason she may have.
hi how is your Adenomyosis . it recovery . i follow your way take all the sulpments . first month the painful lower 90%！
Thank you a lot.
My craving was sponges 🧽 🙄 and it is still going strong 6 years later!