My Birth Story | Positive Gentle C-section
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- Опубліковано 22 чер 2023
- I had an incredible experience giving birth to my son, and honestly wouldn't change a thing about how it went. I really wanted to share my birth story so that others can see C-sections aren't always terrible, and can actually be a positive experience. Hope you enjoy hearing how I made the decision this was the right birth for me, and how it went. :)
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As someone who is child free by choice, hearing how you teared up seeing him for the first time after such a difficult pregnancy was very moving. Im just really happy when people who want to have babies get to have them, and that you got to have the experience you wanted for your birth
Children shouldn't be living play dolls for a Pronatalist sick sadistic cruel fantasy.
As a fellow child free by choice person I agree. Cheers!
I tried to labour with my first and it didn't go well so I had an emergency c section. I decided with my second child to have an elective c section. I've had two children with no vaginal birth and I couldn't be happier with my births. C-section was totally for me. Thank you for raising awareness on this topic.
Can I ask was your second c section better and easier, I have my second one coming up in December
@@chevandisla both my c sections went very smoothly recovery wise! I had a lot of pain directly after the surgery when everything was wearing off but apart from them I had no complications and my recover was smooth.
With as much general risk as there is in just giving birth, having options that make the mother feel safe and strong is superb. I'm glad you found a choice that gave you peace in your mind!
I am so glad you’re speaking on this! I also had an elective c-section. Had to jump through a few hoops here in America, but I luckily had a supportive doctor. My anxiety over a vaginal birth was unhealthy and my doctor agreed. I had 2 c sections and am so glad I got to give birth in the way I was most comfortable.
It was so poignant to hear you talk about how philosophical you were the night before your birth. I'm child-free by choice, but I remember sitting with a friend the day before her daughter was born. She was the first of my friends to have a baby, and I vividly recall us having a very similar conversation about "Tomorrow you're going to be a mother, and then you'll always and forever be a mother". It was so mind-blowing to consider how deeply this experience was going to change her, both over a lifetime and in the instant her daughter was born. It's kind of lovely to hear that other people go through that same kind of pondering right before they give birth.
By the time you are reaching birth, you HAVE BEEN a mother for 9 months already!
I teared up hearing your story. I didn’t have C-sections for my 2, yet there is nothing in your story that makes me feel like we are different. We both gave birth! And some good experiences 🥰
I did have a traumatic first birth. Being a nurse, I knew a lot about the risks of both and didn’t choose a C-section mainly due to having a hard time with surgery in the past. But that does NOT mean I say that it’s the same for others.
I love that you had a choice.
tea and toast is offered after every surgery in the UK. I remember after my first surgery I was so dazed, and I saw the lady in the next bed get offered tea and toast, and my eyes filled with tears because I wanted it so bad and they weren't offering it to me 😂 I was very emotional. I can imagine its the best thing ever after birth
It is the best thing! I hadn't eaten for nearly 24 hours with both of my labour's and it was heaven on earth. But I think anything would be after that long 😂
I never used to eat toast with jam often, then I got given some after surgery and it was so so wonderful at the time that it's now almost a comfort food for me haha
But... did you get some in the end?? I hope so. 😅
I remember my mum had her tonsils out and was given DRY toast. 😂
@@headerahelix I heard they do that deliberately to speed up healing. As horrible as it is, the toast makes little jaggedy cuts at the wound site, which increases the surface area to heal, thus (hopefully) speeding up the process.
I had a planned gentle and family centered c-section two weeks ago, due to medical reasons (on my part, baby was fine and cleared for vaginal birth) and my experience was similar to yours, we coldn't get a more beautiful and peaceful birth. Our baby had delayed cord clamping and uninterrupted skin to skin for the first 3 hours after birth. We could start breastfeeding right away and follow the baby's natural instincts. I feel really blessed and beyond grateful for the whole process and everyone from the medical staff that made it possible.
I love this. There is never a reason to have to justify your preferences. I wanted a c-section but couldn’t at the hospital I went to because it was not a medical necessity. I didn’t care if it took longer to heal from a C-section. I just didn’t want to go through another labor. I would take the risks to not have to go through that pain again.❤
That is awesome you got to chose to have a c section. I was terrified of having a c-section and had vaginal births for all 3 of my kids but that was the right choice for me I’m glad you got to make the right choice for you! It’s your body and your mental health so everyone should have the right to chose. Congratulations on your new baby boy!!
I'm really glad to see that there are positive c section stories. It never seems to be that way online and so I was devastated when I needed to have a c section. It's so important what you put out there and I'm glad a lot of people can see this. Doesn't matter what reason just glad to see it
Yes i was so terrified before birth then when it went wrong I was also devastated at first, everything my provider told me was that we were trying to avoid c-section. But as soon as I was in the operating room everything was so clam and I felt so safe even tho I was super shakey. I’d never heard of it described as a positive thing only negative, if I had heard of these stories I think I would have opted for c-section to begin with.
I had birth trauma from my vagina birth and 100% feel more confident about having a c-section next time ❤️ thank you ❤
I also had an elective C-section my only reason is because I didn’t want a vaginal birth. I just didn’t want to experience a vaginal birth I was terrified of it. Everyone tried to talk me out of it even the doctors I was very firm with my choice. I don’t regret it
I’ve always admired you Bryony, and you are absolutely right that nobody has the right to pass judgment on anyone else’s birth choice. I am glad that women can now opt for an elective C section. I think it is only since about 2010? Back in 2003, I wanted an elective section after having an episiotomy that was badly stitched and didn’t heal. I was told off quite severely by the doctor overseeing my pregnancy. I’m very glad that things have changed ❤
Even though I am not interested in having children, I have really appreciated learning about this journey. I have a C-Section-like scar too! Last September I had a bilateral salpingectomy, and surprise! They found a cyst/tumor the size of a 12 week? pregnancy. So my doctor had to cut me open to get the cyst out and then removed the tubes behind it. So I really feel that I made the right choice for me.
So glad you were supported to have the right birth for you, that was so positive, especially after all the difficulties of your pregnancy x
I’m proud of you for this and talking so openly. I have had 3 doctors encourage me to have elective c-section for mental health reasons. Whenever I have told anybody this they look at me like I have two heads! Oh well, my mental health matters more to me than their opinions!
Power to all mums/mums to be for choosing to have a c-section. "Your body, your choice" and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!!
This is a gorgeous story, I'm a student midwife in New Zealand and it's so nice hearing a positive c section story with no shame around it, that's so important. Funny about the tea and toast, here it's milo and toast 😂
lol "I devoured that toast." I know what you mean. I wasn't even hungry but was presented with a sandwich and my husband almost lost a finger. 😂
Out the sun roof! 😊 I'm so glad was a positive birth experience, and I think this is an excellent choice and story to share 💜
What a beautiful moment after Oryn was born when you saw him for the first time. All the best to you both
I had a horrific natural birth with my first and then absolutely magical c sections with my next 2! Best decision I ever made!
We just found out we’re 6w5d positive with our first and I’m already feeling a lot of anxiety about the actual birthing process 😓 this video made me realize I’m secretly hoping I’ll need a c-section so I don’t feel the need to explain myself. I also think I might have some feelings of failure if I choose not to give birth naturally. I’m glad I have 7-8 months to think and talk this through with my support team. Thank you for this video!! Been subbed since 2014 ish ❤ watched you grow through a lot, so happy to see you here today.
I had an emergent csection. I beat myself up about not just (literally) pushing through vaginally. My baby was big, broad shoulders and a large head. Only after visiting my friend and her (normal sized) newborn, I realised that csection was probably the best outcome. I have made peace with my birth, both my baby and I are healthy and ultimately that's the most important. With the benefit of hindsight, i also realized that birth is only around 24 hours of your life. It should not dictate your life going forward. Just to add a final thought nothing about my csection felt emergent at the time, so I am lucky and untraumatised in that regard.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I feel like its not spoken about enough. The fear and anxiety of the unknown would destroy my mental health. I know for sure Id need a section and its refreshing to hear another person on this end of the camp. Im so glad you were able to make this choice for yourself.
Congrats!! I have been waiting to hear your story for so long, but figured you’re just having the time of your life being a new mom 💕 And it’s AMAZING that they let you cut the chord yourself. I never even thought of that, or that it was an option. I will remember that!
I came to UA-cam in hunt for a positive C-section story and this was perfect, thank you!
I have had 3 vaginal births and due baby no.4 in a few weeks but it’s looking like she’ll be coming out the sunroof and I’m absolutely petrified of the unknown!
Thank you for sharing your story x
How did your birth experience go?
Awesome to hear and see this! Good job "Bree's Mum" for getting video and pictures! Such a blessing!
So glad you had such a positive, beautiful birthing experience!! Congratulations on your baby boy!
I had tearing, the epideral didn't work, my placenta was retained and had to be manually removed without pain medicine then I started hemorrhaging and almost died. I wish I had a c section!!
I've been waiting for this video😍 so glad everything went well❤
Congratulations 😊! Always love how you tell all here without sparing any of the details and just literally tell it like it is! So thank you 😊! I’m 36 and have been putting off having a baby for so long because I’m scared of pregnancy and scared of hospitals.. but I’ve got more info from your videos than anywhere else and it’s nice to know exactly what to expect now
Me too girl. I'm terrified.
I appreciate your honesty with your birth story. Somehow for the first time I'm feeling anxious about giving birth. I had a pregnancy loss and that experience changed my life and outlook on childbirth.
Thank goodness the NHS made sure to look after you properly regarding your mental health and otherwise. Hope you and baby are doing well.
For anyone who comes across this video thinking about hetting an elective C-section, this is very great information! I had one traumatic vaginal birth and one emergency C-section that was actually far more mentally easier to cope with for me. The pain was so much less 'intimate' and recovery, while it was difficult, was far less traumatic. C-sections arent for everyone, but knowing your options is so important! Thank you Bryony!
I had a positive emergency c section back in April. So pleased you made the right decision and all went well it’s so important.
Thank you for this video. I had to have an emergency c-section with my first and the whole birth/surgery was traumatic (I had a lot of problems with the hospital). The only memory I have of my son being born was blacking out and waiting until my son cry and then I went unconscious. I woke up several hours later. I suffered with PND until my son was 6 months old.
I chose to have an elected c-section this time (and have since been told that due to medical reasons I need to have a c-section anyway). It's a different hospital but I've been very anxious about what an elective c-section could be like. I know each person's experience is different but this video has helped calm my anxieties somewhat, so thank you.
I'm glad you had a great birth.
Oh my goodness, Bryony. I am so chuffed for you! I remember thinking early on that I hoped against hope that you would have just the most marvelous birth and postpartum experience after the hell that you went through during pregnancy. I’m so happy that your birth was so perfect.
So happy that you were able to have the birth that you wanted, and hopefully to end a difficult pregnancy on a positive note! This is a lovely perspective to hear, especially as c-sections are often presented as 'the last resort' for people in their birth plans.
For a multitude of reasons this is the best video in the world. Thanks for sharing ❤
Amazing birth story! I so agree that people shouldnt judge how others decide to birth, as long as we get a healthy baby and mum at the end, why does it matter!?
I've had 4 children and each birth was very different, my 1st was natural but with pethidine, gas and air and epidural. My 2nd was a water birth with gas and air in a midwife centre, my 3rd was a home birth with gas and air and my 4th was an emergency c section at 27 weeks. And I have 2 which were my favourite and calmest. My water birth was hands down amazing, so calm and gentle. But coming in a close 2nd was my emergency section believe it or not! I had been in hospital for 5 weeks already and knew an early birth was going to happen, just didnt know when. But the entire experience, though fast, was very calm. I had an amazing midwife as my birthing partner, the anesthetist was equally as important there for me and the surgeons and NICU staff were calm and talked me through it all, and I still got to meet and stroke my babys head before he was taken to NICU. But overall, considering the prematurity and urgency, it was a very positive experience!
Thank you for sharing your experience with this. I had a really scary vaginal delivery with my son and recently came to the decision that the only way I would really consider having another child would be if I were to elect to have a cesarean delivery. I loved hearing how positive the c-section experience was for you.
This was a lovely video. I'm happy for you that you had quite a good experience! I also wanted to say that your story, since you popped up on my recommended page last Fall, has inspired me to consider becoming a SMBC in a few years. So thank you for that.
That's awesome Bryony. I'm glad your birth went so well. I was the total opposite lol. I was determined NOT to have a c-section! Mostly because I'm terrified of surgery, but I also wanted to experience it "naturally" I guess you could say? Anyway, I loved my births. I'm glad you loved yours too!
As a trauma survivor the route c-section by personal choice really seems so much more possible for me-thanks so much for sharing your journey of this! So happy to hear all went well and you and baby are healthy 💛
I am so so glad to have found this video! I too am having a planned section and am going at motherhood alone. I’m having him the end of December and you have made me feel so much better about everything. Genuine lovely person 😊
I gave birth right after the new year and I was able to choose to have a C section before it was an emergency, and I'm so glad I chose to do so....I had the energy for it, I had, too, been really nervous about a vaginal birth and the section allowed me to rest my nerves around that! I haven't been able to put into words very well how I felt during the section...what you just described is SO similar to how I felt. THANK YOU. I really needed the vocab and power to finish processing through it. SO very glad your delivery went so well and your baby is absolutely adorable!!
Good for you! ❤️ I medically had to have c-sections for all 3 of my children’s births. I had a 26 hour labor, epidurals that did absolutely nothing and finally a spinal. With my first, she was stuck with her head tilted against my pelvic bone. We both almost died, hence the c-section. Opted for c-sections with my next two babies pregnancies, because of my first birth. All overall super healthy! Now they are 9,7, and 4. ❤😊
I had two vaginal births and the idea of having a c-section terrifies me! I got induced with my first and decided the hospital experience was harmful for me and my family. I had a natural homebirth with my second baby and it was magical! If only I could get more sleep, I’d definitely would have a baby every year or two for the rest of my fertility! 😂
Omg the tea and toast! It was the best thing I'd ever tasted after the birth of my son! Honestly, nectar of the gods that stuff.
I've been curious about the gentle C-section since you gave birth. Thank you for explaining it. :)
I live in an area where many women are forced to have C sections and aren't allowed to have VBACs. The closest hospital that will allow a VBAC is 48 miles away (77 km). Unfortunately, I've developed a bad taste in my mouth about most c sections because of it. It's nice to hear a good experience about a c section where you felt empowered and got to choose the way you gave birth. That makes my opinion towards them soften a bit. Unfortunately, very few women I've met had that experience with their c sections. I mostly hear stories about their c sections being the most traumatic thing that ever happened to them.
I love to listen to podcasts where women talk about their Home Births After Cesarean, and just VBACs in general.
No one should be forced to do anything they don’t want to. That’s medical malpractice. You ultimately have the right to say no. Don’t let anyone guilt, shame or coerce you into anything other than your informed consent.
Thank you for sharing this ❤ I tried so hard for my natural birth the first time knowing my heart wasn’t in it, I didn’t have the choice of becoming pregnant and I found out at 26weeks the idea of birth scared me for months I tried idealising natural birth, watching at home videos back to back to coax myself into a false confidence. Didn’t work and when the time I pushed for 28hrs on gas then epidural before an emergency c-section… I wish I had seen more positive c-section experiences being discussed, now that I’m pregnant again I know for sure I want the calm, safe and secure environment I experienced during my c-section instead and I’m actually feeling excited for baby number 2.
I am really glad you got the birth you wanted
Thank you so much for the reassurance of my decision to opt for a C Section for my 2nd baby. My first birth went terribly wrong which ended in an emergency C Section and this time around I'm terrified to even attempt to do it again naturally. I want to feel like I'm in control of my second baby's delivery and this video has been such a big help! ❤️
Thank you so much for your story. The privilege of options allows us to see just how positive any type of birth can be. There is, unfortunately, so much trauma within the birth community with natural, home, vaginal with meds, and c-section. My mum had a life-threatening birth which ended in a C-section. Even I ended up having therapy for the vicarious trauma of all that.
I am so happy to hear stories of positive C-sections -UA-camrs Jessica Kellgren Fozard (her wife's C-section) and Hannah Witton are people who have had C-sections that seemed rather positive as well. Hannah definitely says hers was positive after being in labor for ages and finally decided a C-section because she was "over it" after [a long time] being stuck at like, 4cm. I don't remember Claudia's (Jessica's wife) experience but upon hearing their story about it, I don't recall a while lot of negativity.
So glad to hear your experience was perfect for you. My hats off to you. ❤️
🎉🎉🎉 I'm so glad you felt so well supported and had the freedom to make the right choice for you! 🎉🎉🎉
I had a wonderful elective c-section as well. It was absolutely the right decision for me. I would have loved to VBAC a later pregnancy, but never had the opportunity. I would have liked to have had both experiences, but I do not regret my elective c-section. I am so glad it was such a positive experience for you! Congratulations on your precious son!
Nope, the positive stories were horrifying too.. lol. Sooo relate.
So happy for you! I feel like being able to birth the way you feel safe leads to better healing ❤
So glad you got the birth you wanted! He's a beautiful baby, congratulations!
I had an emergency c section - everything went wrong (infections, sf leak, haematoma etc) and yet still I loved it. Never felt stronger. I can’t wait to have another (planned this time 🤞)!
It’s so true what you say about a positive birth story might not be positive for everyone. Everyone has an opinion about pregnancy and birth but it’s so personal and individual you just have to do what’s right for you and your baby. Glad it all went well ❤
Listening to your story reminded me of my 2nd C-section with my youngest son. I am in the states and was induced with my first son and then ended up in C-section with him as well.. my son's are now 23 and 21..
The choice should be yours, 110% agree!
That being said, I laboured for 17 hours, pushed for 2 hours and still ended up in an emergency c section, under general.
My healing was quick and relatively painless.
When I got pregnant a 2nd and 3rd time I immediately asked for a c section. I would never want to labour again.
Thankfully healing was a breeze for me all 3 times!
Wow! That's amazing that you healed quick after a c-section. Usually I hear the opposite.
That’s a great reminder at the beginning. I have to admit I also started the video with some negative thoughts about your choice, but I was quickly ashamed of myself for having them. There’s nothing inherently virtuous about either suffering or being ‘natural’, and a vaginal birth isn’t necessarily better for the baby, so why put yourself through it if another option is available? Your pregnancy was modern technology from the get go and that’s great. Use all the tools you have. Maybe people will say that’s lazy or spoilt or whatever, but that’s what technology is for! To make things easier and safer for us! Accepting help and using tools is not a moral failing.
On a similar vein, I used to try to take as little pain medication as possible to manage period cramps, but, I tend to faint when in extreme pain (most often from menstrual cramps) and fainting on the toilet can lead to injuries. So now I take ibuprofen early and often, because pain is dangerous and unpleasant, and even if it were merely unpleasant, there’s nothing wrong with avoiding unpleasant things which serve no purpose. Sure, it’s bad if you somehow cause other people problems in order to avoid a problem for yourself, but in cases like this you’re hurting absolutely nobody by avoiding pain. It’s win-win!
I am 34 weeks now , researched a lot . Im going to have an elective c section. My baby kinda big .Heard a lot stories of vaginal tear that would hurt like crazy , and the improper stitching sometimes can lead to forever problem. Thanks for this video too . Congrats to all mamas ❤
I've always thought if I had a baby, I'd have a c section because my mum had to have me by c section as she couldn't push me out naturally, so that's scary for me. But if I ever have a baby (I'm 41in august), I'd give it serious thought hearing your story.
Aww congrats ! I miss this time with mine, make the most of it they grow sooo quickly !
Wow I’m so glad I clicked on this video bc I had no idea we could choose to get a c section.. I’ve always had such a fear of giving birth (not that I’m pregnant or anywhere close to being) so this video was so helpful!! 😮
Congratulations!🎊🎈👣💚 I actually had 2 out of my 3 children. And I don't have ANY regrets.
You did so well explaining why this birth was the right choice for you - ultimately each parent is the only person who needs to be happy with their decision and it sounds like it went great for you!
I just wanted to share a discussion point as someone who has had both vaginal and c section births (and would do another vaginal over surgery anyday!).
It is possible but quite difficult to get a purely elective csection here in Australia, but I must say it's kind of good that you have to discuss with doctors and hear the risks of surgery vs vaginal birth before deciding.
I think a lot of people come up to birth being so afraid of things like tears and "the first poop" like you talked about, but hugely underinformed about the side effects of surgery. Not so much the surgery disasters, but the long term weakness, pain, spinal backaches, permanent flappy tummy etc. Not necessarily emergency situations, but life changing nonetheless. I had a minor tear (the most common) in one birth, and it was absolutely nothing compared to healing and regaining abdominal use. I've never had a horrific first poop after either birth, and never heard of it in person from any of my friends with kids either.
I also didn't ever hear of some of the complications that are way more common in surgical births than vaginal, until I researched to have my VBACs 😅
I think having easy access to elective cesareans could be great, but I think it would need to go hand in hand with *much* better birth education, including the risks and benefits.of both options 😊
Having said all that, I'm so glad you had a safe, positive experience after all, and would like to recognise the fact that you don't have a partner (besides your mum) to go through it with and that is a whole different perspective too!
currently 36weeks and have the same mental state😓 the anxiety of labor is killing me
How did it turn out? Hope all is well xo
❤ glad everything went so well 😊
Omg the famous tea and toast!!! It was everything 😂😂😂
I feel the same about filming I begged my sister not too but she did some and I am so grateful now.
I didn't even now elective c-section was a thing for first time moms. I just had my first in January and had a pretty uncomplicated vaginal birth. A couple 2nd degree tears after 36 hours of labor and 3 hours of pushing, but I wouldn't change it! 😅
Congrats on little Oryn!
Congratulations again and thank you for sharing your experience 😊
I actually had the opposite fear, I was so extremely terrified of the thought of going to the hospital in general and did not want an epidural pushed on me. At the time I said I'd rather give birth alone in the parking lot than inside the hospital.
I also had a very difficult pregnancy mentally starting in the first trimester which unfortunately didn't get any better until months after giving birth. I felt like everyone was against me and out to "get me" and felt like everyone was in on it together. It definitely made it difficult for me to trust anyone and accept any sort of prenatal care.
I was cared for at a birth center for my entire pregnancy and was planning a water birth at a birth center.
Unfortunately after 2 hours at the birth center during my labor they couldn't get my blood pressure down and told me I needed to transfer to a hospital.
I completely broke down and was sobbing in between my extremely intense contractions.
I was adamant I did not want an epidural and thankfully they didn't push it on me and were great about dimming the lights when I asked.
My son was also delivered by a student which I wasn't told until after.
Things could have been worse and thankfully my son was born healthy (and also screaming, before he was even fully out), but I'm definitely aiming for a water birth next time and will be very closely monitoring my BP!
you did have a reason - because it was what was best for YOU - that is an element of childbirth that i think is woefully underestimated, in postpartum treatment etc. it's also in the baby's best interest for the mother to be healthy, mentally and physically, which means making choices that will work for them BOTH.
i pushed myself to exclusively breastfeed for a lot longer than i was actually able to cope with, so when low supply issues forced me onto formula i was so relieved, and didn't miss it for one second. but i know so many mothers who love breastfeeding! everyone's experience is so individual.
My baby was breach, but we tried to have a vaginal birth. The doctors said it was possible, but the chance of a C-section is real, and eventually I ended up having an emergency C-section. I had a very positive experience as well, even though it wasn't what I wanted. I was well informed, and well taken care of after birth. What bothers me the most, is people saying how awful it must have been for me. It's easy to play the victim role when everyone says it must be so painful and horrible. It wasn't. It was the birth of my baby, it was beautiful and I love our story ❤
Power to you girl! So much better than me who ended up with an emergency section with people dashing down corridors and panic stations
I live in the states and after birthing two children, I’m not sure if we can choose a c-section or not. I vividly remember being about 32 weeks and my OBGYN told me that my pelvis was not likely to allow baby through. (Too small)I remember feeling that wave of relief wash over me. I also didn’t really want a vaginal birth either but again, I’m not sure I was allowed to make that choice myself. Your pregnancy and now delivery remind me so much of my own. It was fairly emotional to watch you go through it. I’m thrilled that you were allowed autonomy and it was the experience you wanted!!!
You absolutely can choose I think it depends on the provider “allowing” it or not.
So happy & proud of you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
So glad you had such a positive birth experience. My only experience of childbirth so far was completely unmedicated. It was also very positive, but very physically intense. You have to be in the right headspace and I can completely see how it could be a very negative experience for someone who is not in that headspace, even more so for someone who is extremely anxious about childbirth.
I'm so happy the birth was such a positive experience for you ❤️ Here in Sweden they do encourage the vaginal delivery, but they do take the fear for vaginal delivery into the consideration and try to find a solution that works for the woman - you get support in a clinic specializing in treating the fear of vaginal delivery, and in severe cases they do sign you up for a c-section (as the mental health is seen as a relevant medical reason to do it).
I myself am not afraid of the vaginal birth and actually I am curious how it will go in my case (finishing week 38 now) so I am quite calm about it, and I want to try to do it without epidural and instead I want to try different methods to ease the pain. Though I got to hear a comment from my mum that I am stupid for wanting to do it this way (as if it's chiselled in stone and I could not change my mind during the process🤷). As you said, everybody is different and has a different idea of a perfect birth, and it is sad that anyone gets to be judged because of their choices.
Ps. We don't get tea and toast here, but we and our partner get sandwiches and a non-alcoholic cider :)
I love how sha take charge of her own body and choices. She wanted to become a mum and shed did that, she though a c section would be better for her, so she did that :)
Admire ur courage and respect ur decision for becoming a solo mum. Im sure u will be a great mum! Best wishes for u and ur little boy!
I actually didn't know you could choose to do this without a physical medical reason, learned something today!
I was the complete opposite, I panicked over the thought of having a c-section and was determined to have a vaginal birth with both of my children and would do them both again in a heartbeat 💓
Congratulations!!!! Your son Oren is so beautiful!!!!!
I saw that there is not a lot of information that Tokophobia is actually a thing (fear of giving birth). I have friends that had that and it is really important that the physicians take this into consideration. I live in a country when you can't choose for yourself to have a c-section (Netherlands). But in this cases if the midwife/doctor that is monitoring your pregnancy, you can elect for a c-section as a medical recommendation for your mental health. Thank you for sharing this.
Oh my goodness! I used to watch your videos on cloth pads and menstrual cups back when you were 12? Maybe 14? I never really got into menstrual cups, and I stopped watching. Now all of a sudden, you're on my feed again and you have a BABY? How time flies! Congratulations! 😊
So informative Thankyou
I’m glad you had such a positive c-section! If I had to do it all over again I wish I would have had a c-section! I had 2 of your fears had third degree tear and hemorrhaged after I delivered the placenta!! It was terrifying! think I would have healed better with a c-section!
Omg well done you ,I really wanted a c section but I was talked out of it and hated the fact I didn’t have one
I had some trauma in my last birth, and i asked for a c section this time and my consultant said no and went on to tell me that a lady died on the table days before. Ive spoken to my midwife and shes all for me having the birth i want. But im dreading my next consultant appointment incase its him.. also ive never seen a woman consultant 🙄🙄
It sounds like a truly beautiful and peaceful experience. Very happy for you! 🫶🏻🫶🏻
I love that you had a choice! In my country a c-section is only when medically needed (for a first) I've had 3 vaginal births and the second and third time I was absolutely terrified!! Even tho there was no reason. I couldn't choose which is ridiculous actually
“even though they are being physically evicted from your stomach” 😂😂😂
I love you! This is what I’m calling a c section from now on!
Thank you so much for sharing this. I loved watching. I’m 11 weeks pregnant with my 4th child and I can’t wait till I get to experience birth again. I’m a weirdo and love giving birth
Yes. Yes you are.