What Does it Mean to Choose Single Motherhood By Choice?

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  • @sidehustlevikki1066
    @sidehustlevikki1066 5 місяців тому +9

    Whats sad is that men can’t put 2+2 together and are waiting on women to accept them as they are rather than change for the greater good of society.
    This is a better situation for most black women and their children. Regardless over half of us grew up in broken homes with mainly mom around. So you’re going to end up a single mom anyways. Atleast if you do it by choice your not blind sided by your significant other when they want out. You know from the get go it’s just you.

    • @marckristian81
      @marckristian81 4 місяці тому

      So basically, accountability is the black woman's kryptonite.

  • @deeric3
    @deeric3 Рік тому +30

    This is selfish against the children. We all know the statistics of single parent households. This thought process is detrimental to our community.

    • @nicolea.7501
      @nicolea.7501 Рік тому

      Black women have been failing as solo parents for 50 years, producing sons and daughters who are unmarriageable. I think 100% community destruction is the goal now that decent men are refusing to participate in the reckless procreation.

    • @cultureinvasion
      @cultureinvasion Рік тому +3

      Absolutely. It's also a drain on resources that could be better split between two adults. Borderline narcissistic... If you listen to the full story she was in panic-mode in her late 30's risking an unhealthy pregnancy. Now they move the needle of society based on ... life "on my terms" - not life "thats best for a child". Every response she gave was "on MY terms"..."MY regrets" ... NOTHING about the child's health.

    • @yessalady5003
      @yessalady5003 Рік тому +6

      Having children in general is selfish, no one is asked to be born and it also depends on the conditions they are brought up. If they are covered financially and have a good village, is no different

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 Рік тому +1

      pairing with a BM has the worst outcomes for BW. procreating with one is selfish.

    • @misspiscesdreamz
      @misspiscesdreamz 4 місяці тому +3

      But even when women have babies w men they end up single parents w no help so it's the same outcome, unfortunately

  • @aguy9071
    @aguy9071 Рік тому +12

    And who their daughters marry? The weak fatherless boys they create? This just ensures the problem will continue in perpetuity

    • @johndoh5316
      @johndoh5316 5 місяців тому

      The black community is doomed if women like this are in charge.

  • @lalina1304
    @lalina1304 8 місяців тому +3

    No child is born for the childs sake, they are either born because you want to be a parent or it was a mistake. Its all selfish, people who are pro marriage make it seem like its noble to decide to bring a child to this world just because you decided with a partner.

  • @dixonyaarmouf4630
    @dixonyaarmouf4630 Рік тому +22

    It means fleecing a father for cash 💰 and going back to the streets to be passed around. Why bother spawning if you can’t be a mother or a wife 🤷🏼‍♂️ selfish

  • @Oldpangolin
    @Oldpangolin Рік тому +13

    Is the Grio black owned? This is such a weird message to promote in a community already rife with problems.

    • @aguy9071
      @aguy9071 Рік тому

      Scorned woman owned. Can’t even see that they’re promoting the degradation of their own community

    • @johndoh5316
      @johndoh5316 5 місяців тому

      Daniel Patrick Moynihan actually published a paper in 1965 talking about the ills caused by single-parent households in the black community. That was when the rate was 25%. Now it is over 70% I believe. Have numbers gotten better with the single-parent household numbers going up? Nope. Yet these women are doing this purposefully.

  • @jamesmoon3844
    @jamesmoon3844 Рік тому +19

    I do not condone anybody choosing to become a single parent, so seeing something like this really sickens me. Any woman in her right mind would choose to not do this. If they do, then the kids won't have their fathers in the household, and that's not okay. Look up the stats and see for yourselves.

    • @acc85us
      @acc85us Рік тому +8

      They're not in their right minds, these women are sick.

    • @nicolea.7501
      @nicolea.7501 Рік тому +2

      These women don’t see the kids as humans with needs. They see the kids as accessories the same way they see men. In their mind men and children are to serve their needs.

    • @theunknownbachatero8899
      @theunknownbachatero8899 Рік тому

      It makes u wonder if they see the importance/relevance of a father in the family equation.

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Рік тому +1

      These aren’t Keishas from around the way that got knocked up by Tyrone. These are women that have not been able to find SUITABLE partners but still want children. They planned but it did not happen for them, however they do have money to do these treatments (that costs thousands btw). They still want to be mothers. So what do you want them to do? Wait for a man? Aren’t you guys the same ones saying that they have ‘hit the wall’? 😂 Now you are mad that they are taking matters into their own hands? 👀 Boy please! And those stats of criminality are children raised by younger women, teens and/ or the type of women in poverty. Not these ladies. They have money already 😂😴

  • @lenawalker9073
    @lenawalker9073 Рік тому +12

    Just because one marriage does not work out does not mean subsequent marriages won't. You said that you "made a mistake" with the first marriage. Why not try and correct them and find another man who will be suitable?

    • @Abbyc149
      @Abbyc149 Рік тому +7

      Maybe there's just a significant lack of suitable men in the world

    • @lenawalker9073
      @lenawalker9073 Рік тому +2

      @@Abbyc149 I really don't believe that. If you take the world's standards, then yes, there probably aren't. But if you submit yourself to God's control, He can find a suitable mate for you. I am a witness! ☺️
      Remember-- you only need to find one man, not several.

    • @Evettecord
      @Evettecord Рік тому +4

      @@lenawalker9073no, sorry, but today’s options are pure trash.

    • @Abbyc149
      @Abbyc149 Рік тому +3

      ​@@lenawalker9073some of us are more privileged than others I guess, but marriage is just that.....a privilege not an entitlement. God definitely gives some of us blessings he doesnt grant to others. I'm fairly certain there's an unequal number of men and women in the world, so certainly God can't intend one man for each one of us even if we are worthy of such a blessing

    • @Abbyc149
      @Abbyc149 Рік тому +2

      Besides who's to say that marriage happens when childbearing is still an option. Better to be alive with one parent than not alive at all. Especially if finding a dad can happen later. My stepmom is my mom and I'm okay with that

  • @omarcarter9
    @omarcarter9 Рік тому +9

    this video has 1k views... people not feeling this garbage advice....

  • @NJtwentyone
    @NJtwentyone Рік тому +12

    When the kids asks who his/her father is? Why can’t I play [insert activity] with my Dad? What’s the answer gonna be? How do you replace/repair that internal yearning for acceptance/belonging from a father?

    • @eve3363
      @eve3363 Рік тому

      Simple. You give your child a delusional, leftist answer; for example, "Mommy has so much love to give you that I can do and be whatever you need." Now this response makes no sense and it doesn't answer the child's question, but at least the mom will feel less guilty about being selfish, self centered, egotistical, and maybe even borderline narcissistic? But I don't know anything. I'm just a Black woman with two masters and no children. WTF do I know ☺

    • @Taki_Rad
      @Taki_Rad Рік тому +17

      What’s the answer now when men choose to leave their families and not see their children?

    • @Abbyc149
      @Abbyc149 Рік тому +3

      The answer's the same as when the men walk out on their children...... You just tell your kids that we haven't met your dad yet, and that someday someone may come in and fulfill that role. A child is just as entitled to a father as a mother is to a husband. Those roles werent meant to be separate .

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 11 місяців тому +6

      i wouldn't have asked that question as a child. my dad didn't play with me. he choked me and knocked out my teeth. when he was no longer part of the home, i no longer felt anxious and afraid.

  • @aguy9071
    @aguy9071 Рік тому +6

    Notice she only speaks about what she wants and what she’ll regret. No thought about the child and what they’ll lack or regret

    • @cultureinvasion
      @cultureinvasion Рік тому +1

      ^ THIS! I just posted the same darn thing.

    • @Taki_Rad
      @Taki_Rad Рік тому +2

      Apply this same concept to mothers who have babies with “bad boys” to keep them, just for the men to leave them and never see their babies… are they selfish too???
      Because choosing to have a baby IS a selfish act. People do it for THEMSELVES.

  • @Alexandria.Washington
    @Alexandria.Washington Рік тому +5

    I totally agree with Eboni! Black men need to push their education higher and their careers forward to achieve success and keep up with the Black American woman’s progress and success. Black American women are tired of struggling with Black American men and their poor education, lackluster careers, and minimal financial resources.
    I totally agree with Eboni’s journey to single motherhood! She is way more smarter and educated as well extremely more intelligent and successful in her career than most ALL “single baby mamas”! I know her child will be very intelligent, educated, and successful just like their mother….Eboni!
    BTW….Black American women may need to date WM since they represent Black American women’s excellence in higher education, career advancement and financial success.

  • @thepassportog
    @thepassportog Рік тому +10

    Shame. Many 🚌 drivers are great dads…too bad these kids will never know what a dad is, by choice of mommy

    • @randomsarcasm2022
      @randomsarcasm2022 6 місяців тому

      Truck drivers are terrible fathers because they are absent often. They also don't have healthy diets and live sedentary lifestyles so they have health problems.

  • @NJtwentyone
    @NJtwentyone Рік тому +10

    This is an affluent women’s solution to a boss babe problem. Most women aren’t making over $100k nor have the work flexibility to take off for inevitable child situations.

    • @Abbyc149
      @Abbyc149 Рік тому +1

      This is any woman's solution to the fact that there are not enough decent men to go around

    • @randomsarcasm2022
      @randomsarcasm2022 6 місяців тому

      Are you married to a Black woman?

  • @Ricocase
    @Ricocase 5 місяців тому +1

    Broken families. Anti-man. Me me me.

  • @Reiken285
    @Reiken285 Рік тому +8

    Why someone would choose to be a single parent choice is NOT ideal for kids. This is crazy

    • @ntitus3025
      @ntitus3025 Рік тому +9

      Black males being absent and degenerate fathers is also NOT ideal for kids either. Most BM are not good males yet alone fathers.

    • @blackwealthpower7877
      @blackwealthpower7877 Рік тому +6

      That’s just the BM that YOU choose

    • @Reiken285
      @Reiken285 Рік тому +4

      @@ntitus3025 look at the data, most black fathers are heavily involved in their children’s lives.

    • @ntitus3025
      @ntitus3025 Рік тому +2

      @andow1527 False, if it's from that *1* self-study data, it was flawed. Ya'll always looking at data the wrong way! 🙄 🤣😂🤣😂

    • @Reiken285
      @Reiken285 Рік тому

      @@ntitus3025 do you have data that suggests black men are absent fathers? Let’s be honest, you just FEEL like black men are degenerate and don’t like BM. You probably don’t even associate yourself with BM and I suspect many in this community don’t neither. Sad

  • @KelvinTroyJohnson
    @KelvinTroyJohnson Рік тому +3

    This is terrible. Everything this woman said was, I, my, me. What about the child? This kid grows up immediately at a disadvantage by not having a father. There is no amount of village that can replace a dad. As would be the case not having a mother. Do not do this!
    Invest in Finding the right partner. Invest in coaching services for dating, matchmaking services, etc. it’s easier and the outcome will be better for everyone if you do it this way.

    • @Abbyc149
      @Abbyc149 Рік тому +5

      This child grows up with an immediate advantage for having been desperately wanted

  • @nicolea.7501
    @nicolea.7501 Рік тому +2

    The sperm donor could be a bus driver or a 9 to 5 employee. How does a woman have higher standards for herself than she has for the dna she gives her children?. DNA matters.

    • @caitlynnc1312
      @caitlynnc1312 11 місяців тому +3

      You’ve clearly never looked into a sperm donor network. Their occupations and interests are talked about.

  • @BlackandBlessed100
    @BlackandBlessed100 5 місяців тому +1

    🩷Woman Empowerment
    Her house
    Her child
    Her money
    I’m child free by choice
    I love this story 🩷

  • @korrdxl
    @korrdxl Рік тому +11

    It means you're irresponsible.

  • @bpantoine
    @bpantoine Рік тому +26

    I think this behavior is self destructive.

    • @jamalobama6340
      @jamalobama6340 Рік тому +1

      Extremely self destructive. They are already dealing with the consequences of boys and raised growing up in single parent homes, this will further exacerbate the current problems with relationships between men and women. I'm opposed to marrying any woman that was born, raised and cultured in the United States. The value system in the States are designed for failure.

    • @bornaries7213
      @bornaries7213 Рік тому

      It's been self destruction since giving bm a legacy which they do not deserve!🤬
      But bw want to experience motherhood and if they want children, they should have them but pick a non bm to create with.

    • @ntitus3025
      @ntitus3025 Рік тому +15

      Your thoughts don't matter.

    • @geekylove3603
      @geekylove3603 Рік тому +6

      ​@@ntitus3025
      How's single motherhood treating you?

    • @ntitus3025
      @ntitus3025 Рік тому

      @geekylove3603 If only it was your business I would share how amazing it has been and going. GTFOH with your sarcasm!

  • @jones2277
    @jones2277 Рік тому +7

    all the jealous men and women in the comments. lmao

  • @phucBilly
    @phucBilly 6 місяців тому

    I really enjoy watching your videos.

  • @nicollettenyob
    @nicollettenyob Рік тому +31

    We realize the traditional family unit is not possible for most of us given the state of our so-called male counterparts.

    • @jamelablack
      @jamelablack Рік тому +7

      This.

    • @Chasmofmisery
      @Chasmofmisery Рік тому +2

      Bingo

    • @chrisvirtuoso
      @chrisvirtuoso Рік тому +1

      Perfect encouragement for the boys you guys raise. Good job on teaching them that people that look like them are worthless. Let's continue to teach these boys that fathers aren't needed, so that they can grow up and abandon their future children too. That's the only way we can keep this cycle going, yay!

    • @michaelsellers5144
      @michaelsellers5144 Рік тому +4

      Sad that people are applauding her..

    • @MrZBlackneffect
      @MrZBlackneffect Рік тому +16

      Date out. Non-Black men are waiting.

  • @tidey4
    @tidey4 Рік тому +4

    Horrible advice raising kids is a lot of work.

    • @tanl7756
      @tanl7756 Рік тому +1

      SHE is rich, so it would be easy for her.

    • @aguy9071
      @aguy9071 Рік тому

      @@tanl7756if you think money raises children, you’re as foolish as these women

  • @bryansparkman4833
    @bryansparkman4833 Рік тому +2

    The title of this video needs to be corrected....just a heads up.

  • @darrylcurley6200
    @darrylcurley6200 Рік тому +2

    Ladies what it comes down to it how you go about Define the man in your life it's how you choose your partner based on his values of marriage. How do you ask a question what does he value in a role of a husband and a wife. Does he have family values doesn't have Christian value does he have friendship value does he have good character. Does he love his mother. Was he raised to be a husband before 21 of age. But before you can present the husband's ability to be a husband and a provider. The woman need to know what is a role of a wife and a nurturer and what it mean to submit to her husband. Submission is not a choice it's either easy or not as your role of a wife. Define a man in your life it's not based on how much money he make. Your Bible does not specify how much a man needs to make but it did find how to keep the husband in the man. The wife need to be in the woman first before you can ask for a husband by definition in God will. Understanding it's God first then a man's purpose then the man then the woman then the children then there's a legacy. That is the order. Remember ladies you cannot afford to get out of order if you carry before you're married. That's how you lose your value to a man who has no children. But ebony say there is a shortage of black seed. If that's the case ebony stop waiting on a black man and start seeking a man that is non black in order to solve your problem. Empowering women against black men is not going to give you no way advantage in your life because you have a degree and some of you out earning black men it's not going to give you no advantage over a man and it's not going to help you get protection of a man. But for the mother are you raising your son become the kind of men you want in a man you have say it was no good or you divorced. Mothers are you raising your son become the husband that women want in a husband. Mothers are you raising your son how to pick better in women that he can identify a wife to have a family with. Mothers if you haven't done that by time he gets 21. Then you're producing the kind of son that women don't want that is a repeat of the kind of men you have chosen to be a child before marriage or after marriage. But make no mistake ladies the minute you start feeling yourself that you are too educated for your man that you make too much money then your man you going to lose every single time and then you going to lose in the dating Market when you find yourself not getting chose buy a good man because of your arrogance and overvalue yourself to the point A man does not consider you qualify to be a wife or you just may be overqualified to be a man's wife

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 11 місяців тому +1

      they are a limited quantity. that's why these women are on this single journey.

  • @Validkris
    @Validkris Рік тому +3

    Why is Bryon Allen promoting this on his platform? Is he that desperate for views?

  • @jaqoncee6670
    @jaqoncee6670 Рік тому +21

    I'm glad BW are realizing we have options and preferences. We must completely divest from BM for our own safety. My friend decided to use an Asian sperm donor and requested to only have a girl, in 2023 this is the best option.

    • @geekylove3603
      @geekylove3603 Рік тому +11

      Sounds extremely selfish. Like one is ordering a spa weekend.

    • @j.d.5187
      @j.d.5187 Рік тому

      Lies....lol

    • @tanl7756
      @tanl7756 Рік тому +1

      YO that is racist.

    • @veemon9280
      @veemon9280 Рік тому

      Are you an Amazonian warrior?
      Read what you said again. And think carefully.

    • @monay200123
      @monay200123 Рік тому +2

      I find it convenient that you're claiming to be a black women offering ill-will advice & spew your message & not show your face.

  • @Bwilli1990
    @Bwilli1990 Рік тому +6

    This women is the reason why there are “passport bros” majority of black women are decent beautiful and feminine but I believe most of them are overseas. I as the son of west African immigrants come from a culture where this would be considered shameful behavior. This is probably why africa looks a great bet to go find a suitable wife.

    • @yessalady5003
      @yessalady5003 Рік тому

      To be honest, black women didn't create the movement. Black women in America mostly got pregnant by "mistake" and the dad didn't take responsibility.

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 Рік тому +1

      why is africa still in shambles? 60+ years and in worst shape than during colonization.

    • @Bwilli1990
      @Bwilli1990 Рік тому +2

      @@jones2277 africa right now has some of the fastest growing economies in the world don’t expect the American media to show that they want people like you and me to think it was a good idea to bring black people here as slaves africa right now has the fastest growing population in the world just the country of Nigeria will have the fourth largest population in the world. I plan to go back and help my ancestral countries of Liberia and Ghana. If you can’t make it here in America you damn sure can’t make it in Africa the day will come when people like you will stop talking about africa being in shambles and you will find something else to complain about. America is a land of opportunity the dirty secret is most Africans come here to make money and then take their money back to their native country and become very rich.

  • @thinadlamini4671
    @thinadlamini4671 Рік тому +4

    🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @sdo917
    @sdo917 Рік тому +12

    Because they won’t date the bus driver

    • @msnewsenior
      @msnewsenior Рік тому +10

      Or we won’t bother with men who aren’t beneficial to us in a relationship

    • @MrZBlackneffect
      @MrZBlackneffect Рік тому +10

      ​@@msnewseniorDate non-Black men if Black men are supposedly so inefficient.

    • @kenward6230
      @kenward6230 Рік тому +1

      ​@@msnewsenioryall not bringing nothing nowadays but attitude and want to be treated like a queen

    • @oRuTRa45
      @oRuTRa45 Рік тому

      ​@@msnewseniorBeneficial in what way? What benefits are you looking to draw from a man?

    • @tanl7756
      @tanl7756 Рік тому +2

      What is wrong with a bus driver? ALL jobs that people do are good. Garbage pickup workers do MORE for public health than doctors. Think about that.

  • @bornaries7213
    @bornaries7213 Рік тому +11

    Well for bw, they will be by themselves anyway with a sperm donor as a child himself.
    Why bw are surprised by this choice is confusing to me since most of them have been single mothers for generations!😳
    If they want children, I think they should go the route of Da Brat and Judy and perferably a wm donor. If a bw can find a decent bm as a sperm donor with decent features and some decent genes without all the degenerate vile markers, then I guess.😣
    Im happy bw are creating these communities with other bw because it really has been about the children and protection of bw and their children.

  • @Iquic631
    @Iquic631 Рік тому +7

    And the cycle continues 🤦🏽‍♂️

    • @Evettecord
      @Evettecord Рік тому

      If these ladies use different DNA, the kids will be fine

  • @kel6357
    @kel6357 Рік тому +15

    Love this ❤

    • @jamesmoon3844
      @jamesmoon3844 Рік тому +1

      Why would you love some nonsense like this?

    • @Thatdudekay2
      @Thatdudekay2 Рік тому +1

      If no black men donate ?

    • @Evettecord
      @Evettecord Рік тому

      @@Thatdudekay2No one wants their DNA

    • @sxycrml35
      @sxycrml35 4 місяці тому

      😂😂😂😂😂😂​@@Evettecord

  • @TopHour
    @TopHour Рік тому +4

    1 month and 1k views?? Lol Nobody is trying to hear this genocidal advice

  • @os3734
    @os3734 Рік тому +7

    Screams classism to me and not want to be categorized as a "baby momma" because they are educated and in a certain income bracket.

    • @eve3363
      @eve3363 Рік тому +1

      Good point.

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 11 місяців тому +5

      they're not wrong though...

  • @adrianf7732
    @adrianf7732 Рік тому +7

    SYSBM

  • @tanl7756
    @tanl7756 Рік тому +2

    I remember a time when women had kids without husbands to collect welfare, and the more kids they had, the bigger the check.

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 Рік тому +2

      But now they don’t want to deal with the drama at all. 😅 many will rather do it alone without fighting custody battles, arguments, narcissistic behaviours etc. it’s more peaceful like this. Ladies… Make money, save and invest into what you want then decide to have a baby via a donor who will have no say in anything. Period 🙌♥️

  • @cashwealth435
    @cashwealth435 Рік тому

    Now Mia Jaye Man & Father Of Her Children Rapper Young Dolph Was Murdered So Now She Is A Single Parent Unfortunately Do To Her dude Being Killed so her situation is different

  • @Gyogami
    @Gyogami Рік тому +2

    Apology of a degeneracy

  • @N0A817
    @N0A817 9 місяців тому

    This is wrong with our community, "i dont need no man " mentality, lifes already hard enough, plus on top of all the "generational curses ",this is sad😢.

  • @kameralkutie5594
    @kameralkutie5594 Рік тому +1

    Damn this is truly sad for the children. They didn't even have a choice in this matter.😔

    • @Abbyc149
      @Abbyc149 Рік тому +5

      Neither do children of divorce or children of parents they don't like or children of anything really.

    • @kameralkutie5594
      @kameralkutie5594 Рік тому

      @@Abbyc149 This reminds of the Kerry Washington situation. She also said that has befriended others that are in her situation.

  • @BlackandBlessed100
    @BlackandBlessed100 5 місяців тому

    🩷Woman Empowerment 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷