I am loving the regular uploads and long vlogs. They are an escape and catching up with a friend (in my head). I might stop twenty minutes in and come back later because im busy but i also like to savour your videos to them last longer and so i have less time to wait until the next upload
Something about your meal prepping is so relaxing to me, love watching you cut strawberries 🍓🍓and watermelon 🍉. I think about you every time I cut Calavasitas from when you made albondigas in your cooking channel 😊. Sending you happy Saturday vibes Dani 💜😎
I would love to hear more about your meal prep!! I struggle so hard with this!! I love cleaning and organizing content and would love to know how you get it all done!!
I have been watching you for years and love you. In this video you described a lot of my childhood and my personality as an adult that can’t relax. My husband doesn’t understand why I can’t relax because he had a great childhood and parents. Wow. ❤
Dani! I am here to tell you that it WILL get better. I used to feel that shame from relaxing…I no longer do! In fact, my household relaxes on Sunday and we are all happier because of it! Also. My parents are less triggering. It’s taken years. Years longer than I wanted. But it can happen for you too!
The hardest part of healing is you can’t turn that sucker off. Now you’re always aware. And you can’t drink, eat, curse, throw, hit anything away. You just have to work through it all the flipping time. You put in the work to give yourself grace and praise and maintain. Who set up this scam?!
Agree, my therapist told me it’ll always be in the background. In time, the intensity of the thought/emotion/habit may lessen but it’ll always be there. And hopefully the awareness will help you get better at handling it/working thru it going forward.
Never delay the healing Dani, there will always be slight triggers but you get stronger and they get easier to handle. Make sure to keep saying to yourself that you are worth resting, keep the positive voice up arguing against the other voice telling you that you are lazy and behind in all your jobs. Healing brings the strength to make choices, to choose the personality you want. You will be so strong that you will never worry what others think of you. I’m not there yet but I am definitely closer than I was before 😊.
Dani - Taurus women rock! I love that we both like cute stuff in our adult lives. I am 51 with grown boys and a Grandson but, I still love Hello Kitty! ❤ Your work is great, I think I need a Hello Kitty pop Socket or lanyard. You rock, you are crushing it right now!
Omg Dani I love watching your vlogs, I too am a Cali girl so your content is very relatable to me. You inspire me in many ways, I truly feel blessed to to learn something every time I watch, thank you so much. God is good.
It’s a monkey actually 🤣🤣🤣! The Angels mascot “1/2”. The boys got him for me and I put him up there when all the moms were doing “elf on the shelf” stuff, and he just stayed 🤣🤣🤣
Hello dear Dani, I have followed you for a very long time. I am an older woman who has counseled many in my career as a substance use disorder counselor. I can absolutely assure that healing trauma only makes you a better version of your already fantastic self. You will not lose the qualities you enjoy about yourself, but rather will feel more comfortable, less anxious. It is a beautiful journey and I see that you are insightful and well on your way to feeling less stress and anxiety. Its wonderful that you share this here as it will help countless others as well as yourself. So glad to know you are in therapy with someone you trust. Sounds like you do very good work with her/him. I'm guessing your therapist is a woman. I care about you and support you in your healing. What a wonderful person you are - sharing your growth and your life with others. I appreciate and admire you Dani.
Hey Dani! For us book lovers, it would be awesome if you made little personalized lanyard bookmarks with charms at the end. Just a suggestion ❤ I’d totally buy one for me and my mom
Hey Dani, Long time (almost 10 years) Panda here. I still have my coffee mug that you collabed years ago. I love it and you so much! I have always enjoyed your videos! Have a great weekend 🎉!
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️!!! Always!!! I ordered the same bird feeder!!!! Can’t wait for it to come!!! All of a sudden I’m now a bird girly lol , TY ❤️ for sharing everything!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️!!! GOD BLESS US ALL!!! 🙌🏼
I understand about the pushing of the chairs in… I have the husband that leaves dresser drawers open!! 😣 My sister and I have trauma in our relationship with our mom. I sent her the book you mentioned maybe in the last vlog. Still here with you ;I think 3 years) and you helped me get through a rough time! ❤ thank you Dani
I was watching you bead and wonder if you put a yarn needle on the lanyard you can just stab through the flat disc beads or round beads and it would save you from putting each one on individually and can speed up the process for you, hope it’s a helpful thought! Your still my favorite you tuber and my bestie in my head 😊
My therapist once told me that trauma can be past down through generations in ln less we put the work in to heal ourselves and break the cycle. I'm still trying to heal my inner child. You will get there and no you will not lose who you are.
Growing up, we were never allowed to sit in our parents seats. Especially my father’s. It was just known you don’t ever sit in his chair. I think it’s actually Jewish custom originating from honoring your parents ❤
Coming from what seems like SUPER similar upbringing. This helped me SO much- I would set my "rest" days. I would plan ahead, get what I needed done and I would flat out rest on that day. I would feel so guilty at first, but I'd firmly say, "No, Caroline. You deserve this" and move on. I didn't let myself even sit in the guilty space for any longer than that. Having it planned gave me time to prepare myself for a rest day and know it was coming so I wasn't caught off guard. I did this at LEAST once a week and really prepared my body and mind ready for the unexpected days of sickness or just being flat out exhausted. It took so much work reining in my mind and realizing that I call the shots, not the anxiety and guilt in the back of my mind! Now back to the video 😂
Oh, we absolutely MOST definitely have to plan ahead in order to have a “lazy” day. The mental load is real and if you don’t plan ahead, it seems to snowball 😅😅😅
@@CoffeeBreakwithDani Yes!!! All that comes with four kids is like a hurricane some days 😭😂 my twins are four and I swear they alone can destroy the entire house in MINUTES.
I feel the same way about red! And I feel the same about the mango/ Tajin/ tamarind it looks SO GOOD, and so refreshing. I love mango and I convince myself I’ll like it the next time I try it but it just never tastes like I think it will. But imma keep trying it because it looks so delicious every time!
Dani I’m the same way with trying to “relax”. I can’t do it, in my case idk why. I grew up where my parents would say look we’ve had a busy couple weeks let’s all stay home have a big breakfast watch movies, have a pj day order a pizza tonight so it’s not I wasn’t taught to. But ever since having my 1st child 3years ago if I try to relax I can’t because of the crazy list of things I feel like i should be doing. My hubby is so good to me and he’ll tell me to relax and chill on the couch but girl I can not. It’s definitely something I’m working on.
It’s tough bc being a supportive partner is one thing, but they also don’t know what the mental load is. We don’t need permission to relax, we need to not fall behind when we do, you know what I mean? I KNOW you know what I mean 🤣🤣🤣
I’m the same way about worrying that I will waste a day. My parents were super loving and laid back, so it didn’t come from them. It drives my hubs crazy but I can’t help it
Oh my gosh, yes! Dealing with trauma, learning how our actions and personalities can be influenced by our coping mechanisms or the trauma experienced is tough. The body remembers, it keeps score. When we realize this and realize how some of the things we excel at are not so much due to some exceptional gift we’ve got but the trauma coping skills we’ve adapted this is so hard. & then to make that realization, that if we choose to begin to heal and deep dive into the feelings that lead to our coping mechanisms this will change us and many times that change will mean our person who we’ve become will change and it will be uncomfortable and we will have to decide to move forward with healing and sitting in the uncomfortable and learning why we do what we do and how that doesn’t have to be us. It’s painful. It hurts. But the way I see it, it’s a tough choice to truly be a better and more free version. One that really understands itself. & that is a gift. Most people are not in tune with themselves be it the common stress or trauma, we have become accustomed as a society to always be in a fight or flight or go go go state. So, good for you Dani. Even realizing this and being self aware is such a big sign of growth. Proud of you.
I'm a one for all sunscreen person: Beauty of Joseon!! The best, clean ingredients and works beautifully under makeup but is also beautiful with no makeup ! I went to Italy last summer with only this sunscreen on my face and I didn't burn!!! Also I'm fair complexion! You're welcome 😊
It’s the same with travel soccer! I have my son in a traveling soccer team and we just don’t have time for anything else when he has games or practices it’s just go go go
Heyyy gurl, dinner is sometimes in my car. I literally make dinner and pack it to eat in the car. I have 4 kids! Imagine. Haha. But I’m willing to do that due to my trauma of not being able to have a choice of any extracurricular activities cause it wasn’t important. Anyways… I see you for you Dani- I think once you work through the haze it will reveal that you have a great sense of humor, your empathetic, your smart, hardworking, and you have a voice + so many more things! I hope you can relax and I find myself and sisters to be like you always keeping busy! But you know my spouse also reminds me that we will just tackle it later and to just enjoy a movie or a nap etc. Also I really enjoy doing nothing! But I’m the tidy one and the glue in my household so naturally I can’t relax too much! Haha. Anyways I think your honesty is also very original! You’re so much more than your trauma. Thank you for being so vulnerable. Sorry it ever weighs on you but know I’m rooting for further peace and further happiness.
Yes, the post office is so weird. I was tracking a package and it said that it was in my town so I was expecting it to come soon and then the next time I checked, they had shipped it somewhere far away from me and then sent it back to my town lol
Hi Dani! Thank you for sharing. I heard every word you said. Same thing here. I feel guilty or I shame myself when I relax or have forced relaxation as I call it. Ten years ago when I broke my back and then additional surgeries and then my skull/nose/ cranium surgery last year. I use to clean as a way to feel control. Life has just kept me busy. I started working as I need to to help with medical bills and just stuff and I love my job. Part time but giving a lot of hours. So I recently did something to my neck and now in a lot of pain so my weekend has consisted of a heating pad and a tens unit till I can get in to the chiropractor. But I digress…. Lol. I guess I’m saying I can totally understand. I don’t know how to relax and I’m tired of feeling like I’m a failure because my house isn’t perfect and I don’t feel well enough to do anything. I do the same thing. Can only have a treat or a reward if I accomplish something almost like a punishment. It’s ingrained into us and I don’t know how to break it either except when I don’t have a choice I guess. 🤷♀️🤦🏼♀️ I love seeing your making of cute things. Lumi and I love our goodies and totally plan on ordering more. Thanks again for sharing. Take care and remember to take some time for yourself 💕😉
Hi Dani! Badge reel wearer here - the Velcro backing sucks in my opinion haha, I can’t tell you how many times the cute badge comes off and I’m swearing. Or like when I’m trying to clasp it my shirt & the badge always comes off & then I have to add it back on so in my opinion the button seems amazing!
Omg, you’re going to laugh, but they’re zevo lights🤣🤣🤣🤣! Yes. The sticky fly paper lights! We used them one summer bc my three boys love to leave doors wide open, and we just kept them bc they light up so cool!
I always have that feeling. But after my divorce and meeting someone new. He reminds me that it’s ok. There’s always going to be stuff that has to be done. Give yourself some grace and take care of yourself and enjoy life before it’s over. He has to remind me over and over but it helps.
I live in KY and it takes about 10 days for my Temu order to arrive. I’ve never had anything come broken. Some things have been underwhelming, but most everything I’m happy with.
I have a mother like that. It is sad because we know that they were taught that by their parents. My mom is also undiagnosed with ADHD and I suspect a touch of the tism. It took me 40 years to get diagnosed and I see this brilliant amazing woman that still tries to be "normal" as her parents wanted her to be. And she struggles. I'm emotional and want to cry now, because I wish I can love her harder and better to fix it but she is still a no touchy person no emotion person.
There’s a book that I’ve been reading called Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional families that I think has helped with my childhood traumas. This book also goes along with online meetings but you don’t have to attend said meetings.
Dani, listen, I have no idea how to relax if there is any kind of mess. My thing is “ clean area, clean mind”. I will get up in the middle of the night to do something. It really drives my hubby crazy, but I just say, “ if you want a nice wife, I have to do this.”
I have been watching your channel for many years which included your best friend Sam. I hope this don't upset you since I am going to ask what happen to Sam? I had a friendship with a bestie over 35 years and I missed her.
Hey Pandas don’t forget to like the video and share with your friends and family. Subscribe if you haven’t yet. Idk why you’re not subscribed but hey better late then never.
@@CoffeeBreakwithDani Hey I just wanted to let you know how grateful I am for you. I’ve been watching your videos on the tv because of chronic pain but I haven’t missed a single one. You got me through a lot over the years and I’ll never forget that.
Hello my trauma from another mama sister… We are both going through it. I bought the book from your last video only a couple pages in so far. I definitely miss your cooking and chatting with us videos. Maybe you can throw one in here and there lol I love to hear your tips and tricks and how I should be cooking things. (I need to know, what you flavored the chicken and potatoes with-Looked soooo good)… It’s a shame that some of us have to go through this in life and I was curious if your boys have a good relationship with their grandmother or grandparents because I know that my mother only reaches out once in a blue moon to my children and I feel like it’s because I’ve made it a point in the past to say you don’t involve yourself in any of us and if you do it’s only out of guilt. So I wish things were different for not only me but my children also I’m learning how to walk away from things that are no longer beneficial to me .❤❤❤ This all teaches me what not to be with my children. I want a better relationship with them. ❤
Im grateful for everything in my life bc its the wind guiding my sails. Now i now what i like, what i hate, what is ok, what isn’t you know? Progress, not perfection🥰. My parents barely have any contact with my kids. They forget birthdays and don’t spend time with them when they visit. Coparents parents are too involved? They try really hard to repeat the same mistakes they made with their kids where they think their entire value as a human is whether or not they went to an ivy league school and how much their salary is. Both are extremely damaging. Lucky for my boys, they have this momma bear who isn’t going to allow those terrible stories to repeat themselves 😠😏
WAIT. DO CONCHAS HAVE FLAVORS. 🤣 Like don't get me wrong, I've eaten them all my life, and I know there's different colors, but are they supposed to be flavored differently???
Hello Dani!! I love the smell of Sunscreen.. I say.. it smells like a beach! About your parents.. didn't they migrate here?? That had to be hard.. My Grandparents came to American from Italy. I remember my mother saying to me.. you better thank God every day that you were born in America.. and a woman in America. I am very thankful that my Grandparents came to America..... I did get that book you suggested. My mother is a huge trigger for me.... Those people who Ohhh... my mother is my best friend.... I just roll my eyes at that.. because I couldn't imagine that.
The reality very much is just being aware and process in the emotions when they come up. The trauma and the triggers will always be there. Unfortunately it's for life. The worst part is is you will have a new trigger at least for me anyway. I am now triggered by people out of sheer jealousy that they get to continue to have unhealthy coping mechanisms and get to take out their emotions on everybody else. They don't have to do the work and that makes me mad. It's a lot like one of the triggers I have from being parentified and having to grow up fast I didn't get a childhood so when I see kids getting to have a childhood that also makes me mad.
You should be on #nextlevelchef I think you would be perfect for the show and you would have a blast Jordan from moreseasoning is on season 3 and it’s been so fun to watch 🌸
Deni I'm like that to I was raised in a very strick Portuguese old fashion home my mom would hit me if I'd did not get up Saturday morning to clean the house! I had to clean 24 7 and grew up like that had 3 kids and you did not even know that I had kids my house was spotless I cleaned all the game and worked full time! My kids grew up and they did not to want to be like me and I agree with them 100% to this day I'm still a clean freak I never go to bed and leave anything out of place or cleaned! But I'm getting better I still look for crumbs to pick up it's very sad! My poor husband he's the cook and I'm always after him to clean, and he will say Nellie I'm cooking when I'm done you can clean then I worry about finger prints on the fridge lets just says it's a crazy life because I don't stop always looking for something go clean! We sold our home that was over 3 000 sq feet raising our kids after they left we moved uo here to the country and bought a small bungalow about 1,500 sq feet and I'm still looking for things to do, I'm like wow how fast i cleaned this house and now I'm bored! It's not good to anyone to be like this it's a disease! Thanks God I never made my kids do what I did but they use to say to me mom you are always cleaning not good and I agreed but I could not help it I was always after the kids cleaning! Deni sorry about the rant 😢❤️💛🌹
Rest days were for to do lists and productivity mannn. And otherwise you called yourself lazy or verbally shamed yourself to anyone with ears. Hooray for us and our children, and our younger selves that we know better and .. try to do better. Your vulnerability is so very cathartic to so many, I know it bears repeating to let you know the impact your videos have ❤❤
I just wanted to share that I hope you recognize that your parents were not as informed & educated about mental health & self care as we are now being made aware. It was taboo both in culture & religion to even speak about it. They were doing the best they could based on their own trauma, how they were raised and with tools they knew about. You know better and more about mental health, self care and awareness of stigma so you should do better.Think of healing as a journey not a destination ❤ you don’t have to keep reliving what your parents didn’t do for you with your audience and retraumatizing yourself and us. Work on letting the past go, you don’t live there anymore and focus on what you’re going to do now and just share that with your audience. We are better served just knowing what your doing now for your family❤
We need more CookingBreakWithDani! Love watching you prep, especially the meat. So interesting!!
I concur. Even if it’s a short with list of spices you use would be great. The chicken, veggies and potatoes look yummy. 😊
YES!
Yes 🙌🏾
Deal! The videos will be handy but short. First complaint I hear, I quit 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
Dani, can you make a video on how you prep the food and package it? I would like to get a few tips. Love your videos they make my weekend ❤
Great idea! Someone asked the same! My answer was- I’d love to. But the videos will be super useful but super short! 🤣
I am loving the regular uploads and long vlogs. They are an escape and catching up with a friend (in my head).
I might stop twenty minutes in and come back later because im busy but i also like to savour your videos to them last longer and so i have less time to wait until the next upload
Something about your meal prepping is so relaxing to me, love watching you cut strawberries 🍓🍓and watermelon 🍉. I think about you every time I cut Calavasitas from when you made albondigas in your cooking channel 😊.
Sending you happy Saturday vibes Dani 💜😎
Oh thank you!😍🥰🤩
I would love to hear more about your meal prep!! I struggle so hard with this!! I love cleaning and organizing content and would love to know how you get it all done!!
I have been watching you for years and love you. In this video you described a lot of my childhood and my personality as an adult that can’t relax. My husband doesn’t understand why I can’t relax because he had a great childhood and parents. Wow. ❤
Glad I could share some possible insight! We’re not alone in this massive world after all🥰😘
Dani! I am here to tell you that it WILL get better. I used to feel that shame from relaxing…I no longer do! In fact, my household relaxes on Sunday and we are all happier because of it!
Also. My parents are less triggering. It’s taken years. Years longer than I wanted. But it can happen for you too!
Thanks for sharing!! I hope so too🥰😘
I get it I also need a weekend where no one talks, looks, or interacts with me! Lol
Same 😅
Or touches me!!!! That’s a BIG one🤣🤣🤣
The hardest part of healing is you can’t turn that sucker off. Now you’re always aware. And you can’t drink, eat, curse, throw, hit anything away. You just have to work through it all the flipping time. You put in the work to give yourself grace and praise and maintain. Who set up this scam?!
Agree, my therapist told me it’ll always be in the background. In time, the intensity of the thought/emotion/habit may lessen but it’ll always be there. And hopefully the awareness will help you get better at handling it/working thru it going forward.
HUGE SCAM🤣🤣🤣🤣
Never delay the healing Dani, there will always be slight triggers but you get stronger and they get easier to handle. Make sure to keep saying to yourself that you are worth resting, keep the positive voice up arguing against the other voice telling you that you are lazy and behind in all your jobs. Healing brings the strength to make choices, to choose the personality you want. You will be so strong that you will never worry what others think of you. I’m not there yet but I am definitely closer than I was before 😊.
Dani - Taurus women rock! I love that we both like cute stuff in our adult lives. I am 51 with grown boys and a Grandson but, I still love Hello Kitty! ❤ Your work is great, I think I need a Hello Kitty pop Socket or lanyard. You rock, you are crushing it right now!
Yes we do! My boys laugh when I buy myself a toy. I can’t help it! They’re just so cute 😂
By boys I mean men 🤣😂 my boys are grown too. They always ask when I’m going to grow up. I say never! It’s overrated and I can buy whatever I want
Me too!! I need a hello kitty pop socket! I just turned 50 and love hello kitty!
Adult Taurus squishmallow collector here 😅
Fellow Taurus. I concur. ❤
Omg Dani I love watching your vlogs, I too am a Cali girl so your content is very relatable to me. You inspire me in many ways, I truly feel blessed to to learn something every time I watch, thank you
so much. God is good.
Dani...there is a bear hanging on your chandelier over the breakfast table lmao.
Haha-I thought that’s what she was annoyed at! Not the chair or placemat crumbs😂
Loved the old school music played when you were prepping the food!❤
It’s a monkey actually 🤣🤣🤣! The Angels mascot “1/2”. The boys got him for me and I put him up there when all the moms were doing “elf on the shelf” stuff, and he just stayed 🤣🤣🤣
Hello dear Dani, I have followed you for a very long time. I am an older woman who has counseled many in my career as a substance use disorder counselor. I can absolutely assure that healing trauma only makes you a better version of your already fantastic self. You will not lose the qualities you enjoy about yourself, but rather will feel more comfortable, less anxious. It is a beautiful journey and I see that you are insightful and well on your way to feeling less stress and anxiety. Its wonderful that you share this here as it will help countless others as well as yourself. So glad to know you are in therapy with someone you trust. Sounds like you do very good work with her/him. I'm guessing your therapist is a woman. I care about you and support you in your healing. What a wonderful person you are - sharing your growth and your life with others. I appreciate and admire you Dani.
Sweet Moses!! I’d be lying if I said I didn’t just get a little misty eyed🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹. I hope you know how much your comment means to me🥹🥹🥹🥰😘
@@CoffeeBreakwithDani Awwww love ya sweet lady!
Dani- helping me with getting my chores done! Love your weekend videos
Love that!
I love hanging out with you and listening on your volgs.
Good morning Dani Happy Saturday to all yay!! Best way to wake up to a notification of a coffee break with Dani❤
You're the best!
Hey Dani! For us book lovers, it would be awesome if you made little personalized lanyard bookmarks with charms at the end. Just a suggestion ❤ I’d totally buy one for me and my mom
Hey Dani, Long time (almost 10 years) Panda here. I still have my coffee mug that you collabed years ago. I love it and you so much! I have always enjoyed your videos! Have a great weekend 🎉!
That is awesome!😍🥰😘🤩
Your royal highness 😂😂😂 i laughed for waaay too long, but actually, it's a fact . Love your videos and enjoy them so much. ❤
Amirite or what👸🏻?!😂😂😂😂
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️!!! Always!!! I ordered the same bird feeder!!!! Can’t wait for it to come!!! All of a sudden I’m now a bird girly lol , TY ❤️ for sharing everything!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️!!! GOD BLESS US ALL!!! 🙌🏼
Wonderful! Sending you good bird luck energy 😂😂😂
I understand about the pushing of the chairs in… I have the husband that leaves dresser drawers open!! 😣
My sister and I have trauma in our relationship with our mom. I sent her the book you mentioned maybe in the last vlog.
Still here with you ;I think 3 years) and you helped me get through a rough time! ❤ thank you Dani
I was watching you bead and wonder if you put a yarn needle on the lanyard you can just stab through the flat disc beads or round beads and it would save you from putting each one on individually and can speed up the process for you, hope it’s a helpful thought! Your still my favorite you tuber and my bestie in my head 😊
My therapist once told me that trauma can be past down through generations in ln less we put the work in to heal ourselves and break the cycle. I'm still trying to heal my inner child. You will get there and no you will not lose who you are.
Yay!!! That’s my badge reel! I love it so much Dani. I received it Friday and it is beyond what I could even imagine!!!❤️❤️❤️
I'm so glad!🥹😍
Growing up, we were never allowed to sit in our parents seats. Especially my father’s. It was just known you don’t ever sit in his chair. I think it’s actually Jewish custom originating from honoring your parents ❤
Yay! Saturday vlog with Dani!!
Coming from what seems like SUPER similar upbringing.
This helped me SO much-
I would set my "rest" days. I would plan ahead, get what I needed done and I would flat out rest on that day.
I would feel so guilty at first, but I'd firmly say, "No, Caroline. You deserve this" and move on. I didn't let myself even sit in the guilty space for any longer than that.
Having it planned gave me time to prepare myself for a rest day and know it was coming so I wasn't caught off guard.
I did this at LEAST once a week and really prepared my body and mind ready for the unexpected days of sickness or just being flat out exhausted.
It took so much work reining in my mind and realizing that I call the shots, not the anxiety and guilt in the back of my mind!
Now back to the video 😂
Oh, we absolutely MOST definitely have to plan ahead in order to have a “lazy” day. The mental load is real and if you don’t plan ahead, it seems to snowball 😅😅😅
@@CoffeeBreakwithDani Yes!!! All that comes with four kids is like a hurricane some days 😭😂 my twins are four and I swear they alone can destroy the entire house in MINUTES.
I've questioned so many times how to keep lunch box/ cooler hot for hot food.... and then i saw you put the hot water bags in. great idea
I feel the same way about red!
And I feel the same about the mango/ Tajin/ tamarind it looks SO GOOD, and so refreshing. I love mango and I convince myself I’ll like it the next time I try it but it just never tastes like I think it will. But imma keep trying it because it looks so delicious every time!
Dani I’m the same way with trying to “relax”. I can’t do it, in my case idk why. I grew up where my parents would say look we’ve had a busy couple weeks let’s all stay home have a big breakfast watch movies, have a pj day order a pizza tonight so it’s not I wasn’t taught to. But ever since having my 1st child 3years ago if I try to relax I can’t because of the crazy list of things I feel like i should be doing. My hubby is so good to me and he’ll tell me to relax and chill on the couch but girl I can not.
It’s definitely something I’m working on.
It’s tough bc being a supportive partner is one thing, but they also don’t know what the mental load is. We don’t need permission to relax, we need to not fall behind when we do, you know what I mean? I KNOW you know what I mean 🤣🤣🤣
Exactly!
Yes I did order those beans Dani! Thank you ❤
Hope you like them!!! They’re delicious!!!!
I love anything crafty ❤Thanks for sharing!
Not you pulling your chair back in after talking about Mary Ruth 😂😂
Dani, I love your vlogs. Where did you get your rosary necklace? I am looking for one exactly like yours for my daughter. ☺️
I’m the same way about worrying that I will waste a day. My parents were super loving and laid back, so it didn’t come from them. It drives my hubs crazy but I can’t help it
Oh my gosh, yes! Dealing with trauma, learning how our actions and personalities can be influenced by our coping mechanisms or the trauma experienced is tough. The body remembers, it keeps score. When we realize this and realize how some of the things we excel at are not so much due to some exceptional gift we’ve got but the trauma coping skills we’ve adapted this is so hard. & then to make that realization, that if we choose to begin to heal and deep dive into the feelings that lead to our coping mechanisms this will change us and many times that change will mean our person who we’ve become will change and it will be uncomfortable and we will have to decide to move forward with healing and sitting in the uncomfortable and learning why we do what we do and how that doesn’t have to be us. It’s painful. It hurts. But the way I see it, it’s a tough choice to truly be a better and more free version. One that really understands itself. & that is a gift. Most people are not in tune with themselves be it the common stress or trauma, we have become accustomed as a society to always be in a fight or flight or go go go state. So, good for you Dani. Even realizing this and being self aware is such a big sign of growth. Proud of you.
🥹🥹🥹🥹 I appreciate your thoughtful comment. Truly, so much 🥹🥰😘😘😘🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I hate house guests because they don't adhere to my clean and tidy standards it triggers my anxiety and ocd ...yet so does my husband! 😫
I will not confirm or deny that I may agree with that sentiment 😅😅😅😅
I'm a one for all sunscreen person: Beauty of Joseon!! The best, clean ingredients and works beautifully under makeup but is also beautiful with no makeup ! I went to Italy last summer with only this sunscreen on my face and I didn't burn!!! Also I'm fair complexion! You're welcome 😊
It’s the same with travel soccer! I have my son in a traveling soccer team and we just don’t have time for anything else when he has games or practices it’s just go go go
Hi Dani. I love my cruise lanyard. It’s perfect!! I’m going to order one for my gf that’s going with me and I’m going to surprise her with it.
Heyyy gurl, dinner is sometimes in my car. I literally make dinner and pack it to eat in the car. I have 4 kids! Imagine. Haha. But I’m willing to do that due to my trauma of not being able to have a choice of any extracurricular activities cause it wasn’t important. Anyways… I see you for you Dani- I think once you work through the haze it will reveal that you have a great sense of humor, your empathetic, your smart, hardworking, and you have a voice + so many more things!
I hope you can relax and I find myself and sisters to be like you always keeping busy! But you know my spouse also reminds me that we will just tackle it later and to just enjoy a movie or a nap etc. Also I really enjoy doing nothing! But I’m the tidy one and the glue in my household so naturally I can’t relax too much! Haha. Anyways I think your honesty is also very original! You’re so much more than your trauma. Thank you for being so vulnerable. Sorry it ever weighs on you but know I’m rooting for further peace and further happiness.
I love you Dani! 💕
LOL! I don't push in my chair and it drives my husband crazy. And, we have those same placemats! Love you!
Oh wow! Do you guys talk to your therapist about it?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 jk jk jk😂
Yes, the post office is so weird. I was tracking a package and it said that it was in my town so I was expecting it to come soon and then the next time I checked, they had shipped it somewhere far away from me and then sent it back to my town lol
Horrible sleep last night but I’m up watching you lol. BTW where is your cross necklace from?! Beautiful
I actually have NO idea. I found it when I was cleaning. I’m sorry ☹️☹️☹️
Hi Dani! Thank you for sharing. I heard every word you said. Same thing here. I feel guilty or I shame myself when I relax or have forced relaxation as I call it. Ten years ago when I broke my back and then additional surgeries and then my skull/nose/ cranium surgery last year. I use to clean as a way to feel control. Life has just kept me busy. I started working as I need to to help with medical bills and just stuff and I love my job. Part time but giving a lot of hours. So I recently did something to my neck and now in a lot of pain so my weekend has consisted of a heating pad and a tens unit till I can get in to the chiropractor. But I digress…. Lol. I guess I’m saying I can totally understand. I don’t know how to relax and I’m tired of feeling like I’m a failure because my house isn’t perfect and I don’t feel well enough to do anything. I do the same thing. Can only have a treat or a reward if I accomplish something almost like a punishment. It’s ingrained into us and I don’t know how to break it either except when I don’t have a choice I guess. 🤷♀️🤦🏼♀️
I love seeing your making of cute things. Lumi and I love our goodies and totally plan on ordering more. Thanks again for sharing. Take care and remember to take some time for yourself 💕😉
Gotta love Power Rangers. The amount of times I was the pink ranger as a kids is astounding.
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😂 the chair at the beginning
Hi Dani! Badge reel wearer here - the Velcro backing sucks in my opinion haha, I can’t tell you how many times the cute badge comes off and I’m swearing. Or like when I’m trying to clasp it my shirt & the badge always comes off & then I have to add it back on so in my opinion the button seems amazing!
Thanks for the input!!! I’ll make sure to factor that in when I get asked 🥰😘
Really fun blog Dani! Thank you so much!!
Glad you enjoyed it!😍
Dani!!!! I need your link for your blue nightlights PLEASE!!!! Gah! Here’s to recharging! 🥂
Omg, you’re going to laugh, but they’re zevo lights🤣🤣🤣🤣! Yes. The sticky fly paper lights! We used them one summer bc my three boys love to leave doors wide open, and we just kept them bc they light up so cool!
I always have that feeling. But after my divorce and meeting someone new. He reminds me that it’s ok. There’s always going to be stuff that has to be done. Give yourself some grace and take care of yourself and enjoy life before it’s over. He has to remind me over and over but it helps.
I live in KY and it takes about 10 days for my Temu order to arrive. I’ve never had anything come broken. Some things have been underwhelming, but most everything I’m happy with.
Have you heard about their US warehouses opening?!!! Might be a shorter ship time now!
I have a mother like that. It is sad because we know that they were taught that by their parents. My mom is also undiagnosed with ADHD and I suspect a touch of the tism. It took me 40 years to get diagnosed and I see this brilliant amazing woman that still tries to be "normal" as her parents wanted her to be. And she struggles. I'm emotional and want to cry now, because I wish I can love her harder and better to fix it but she is still a no touchy person no emotion person.
Dani I am North of Dallas/Ft. Worth and these allergies are killing me!!! And… I think I’m over the rain & 🌪 watches! 🫣
Right?!!!
There’s a book that I’ve been reading called Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional families that I think has helped with my childhood traumas. This book also goes along with online meetings but you don’t have to attend said meetings.
I am trying those beans!!! Thank you.
Cerave tinted mineral sunscreen. THE BEST. Under makeup genius. Glowy. Drugstore. Trust.
Can you please bring back cooking videos?!! Oh and teach me how to fillet chicken breast like that 😅
😂😂😂 deal!
THAT'S MY READING PACHACCO!!!
Danny me podrías pasar el dato de el pegamento de color que usas para los pop socket? Gracias ❤
Dani 🫠escribí tu nombre como escribo el de mi marido jajaja😅 sorry 😊
Se llama simulation glue 🥰
Gracias
DANI……why can’t I get Mary Ruth in Canada 🇨🇦 on Amazon?? Please tell them not to leave us out🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻( i only see hair,nails&skin for us🥺)
Dani, listen, I have no idea how to relax if there is any kind of mess. My thing is “ clean area, clean mind”. I will get up in the middle of the night to do something. It really drives my hubby crazy, but I just say, “ if you want a nice wife, I have to do this.”
😂😂😂 my mom would say something similar🤣
@@CoffeeBreakwithDani It’s the only way I can rest. Thank you for replying… it makes my day:) I know you are a busy woman🙏🏽🤗
I have been watching your channel for many years which included your best friend Sam. I hope this don't upset you since I am going to ask what happen to Sam? I had a friendship with a bestie over 35 years and I missed her.
Ive addressed it too many times. Its just not something I want to talk about anymore. Thanks for understanding 🙂
Hey Pandas don’t forget to like the video and share with your friends and family. Subscribe if you haven’t yet. Idk why you’re not subscribed but hey better late then never.
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@@CoffeeBreakwithDani Hey I just wanted to let you know how grateful I am for you. I’ve been watching your videos on the tv because of chronic pain but I haven’t missed a single one. You got me through a lot over the years and I’ll never forget that.
I've been untraining my brain from triggers for years. I couldn't handle "slammed" doors or change of plans
Hi Dani, how’s the weather? Stay safe.
Hello my trauma from another mama sister… We are both going through it. I bought the book from your last video only a couple pages in so far.
I definitely miss your cooking and chatting with us videos. Maybe you can throw one in here and there lol I love to hear your tips and tricks and how I should be cooking things. (I need to know, what you flavored the chicken and potatoes with-Looked soooo good)…
It’s a shame that some of us have to go through this in life and I was curious if your boys have a good relationship with their grandmother or grandparents because I know that my mother only reaches out once in a blue moon to my children and I feel like it’s because I’ve made it a point in the past to say you don’t involve yourself in any of us and if you do it’s only out of guilt.
So I wish things were different for not only me but my children also I’m learning how to walk away from things that are no longer beneficial to me .❤❤❤
This all teaches me what not to be with my children. I want a better relationship with them. ❤
Im grateful for everything in my life bc its the wind guiding my sails. Now i now what i like, what i hate, what is ok, what isn’t you know? Progress, not perfection🥰.
My parents barely have any contact with my kids. They forget birthdays and don’t spend time with them when they visit. Coparents parents are too involved? They try really hard to repeat the same mistakes they made with their kids where they think their entire value as a human is whether or not they went to an ivy league school and how much their salary is. Both are extremely damaging. Lucky for my boys, they have this momma bear who isn’t going to allow those terrible stories to repeat themselves 😠😏
Dani vlog then doggo training class. 😊 Saturdays🎉
That means you have a PUPPYYYYYYY!!!!! SHOW ME MY NIECE OR NEPHEWWWWWWW!!!!!!!
@CoffeeBreakwithDani I'm not tech savy at all. Lol, so I sent u a pic in etsy. 🫠😊
WAIT. DO CONCHAS HAVE FLAVORS. 🤣 Like don't get me wrong, I've eaten them all my life, and I know there's different colors, but are they supposed to be flavored differently???
Supposedly. It’s faint, but noticeable 😂. For example, I don’t like the “chocolate” ones 🤣
Love you Dani
Buenos días mi Dani. 🧑🏽🍳💃🏽🐈🐼🌮⚾️🧢👩🏻🧔🏽♂️👦🏻👦🏻👢👩🏻💻🐿️🍔💅🏽👩🏽✈️👮🏻♂️💄
Hello Dani!! I love the smell of Sunscreen.. I say.. it smells like a beach! About your parents.. didn't they migrate here?? That had to be hard.. My Grandparents came to American from Italy. I remember my mother saying to me.. you better thank God every day that you were born in America.. and a woman in America. I am very thankful that my Grandparents came to America..... I did get that book you suggested. My mother is a huge trigger for me.... Those people who Ohhh... my mother is my best friend.... I just roll my eyes at that.. because I couldn't imagine that.
They did, from Mexico. I love to see my handsome boy on your avatar picture🥹! I hope the book helps you a bit 😘🙏🏽
Your garbage disposal can handle potato skins!!!! 😮
The reality very much is just being aware and process in the emotions when they come up. The trauma and the triggers will always be there. Unfortunately it's for life. The worst part is is you will have a new trigger at least for me anyway. I am now triggered by people out of sheer jealousy that they get to continue to have unhealthy coping mechanisms and get to take out their emotions on everybody else. They don't have to do the work and that makes me mad. It's a lot like one of the triggers I have from being parentified and having to grow up fast I didn't get a childhood so when I see kids getting to have a childhood that also makes me mad.
You should be on #nextlevelchef I think you would be perfect for the show and you would have a blast
Jordan from moreseasoning is on season 3 and it’s been so fun to watch
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Deni I'm like that to I was raised in a very strick Portuguese old fashion home my mom would hit me if I'd did not get up Saturday morning to clean the house! I had to clean 24 7 and grew up like that had 3 kids and you did not even know that I had kids my house was spotless I cleaned all the game and worked full time! My kids grew up and they did not to want to be like me and I agree with them 100% to this day I'm still a clean freak I never go to bed and leave anything out of place or cleaned! But I'm getting better I still look for crumbs to pick up it's very sad! My poor husband he's the cook and I'm always after him to clean, and he will say Nellie I'm cooking when I'm done you can clean then I worry about finger prints on the fridge lets just says it's a crazy life because I don't stop always looking for something go clean! We sold our home that was over 3 000 sq feet raising our kids after they left we moved uo here to the country and bought a small bungalow about 1,500 sq feet and I'm still looking for things to do, I'm like wow how fast i cleaned this house and now I'm bored! It's not good to anyone to be like this it's a disease! Thanks God I never made my kids do what I did but they use to say to me mom you are always cleaning not good and I agreed but I could not help it I was always after the kids cleaning! Deni sorry about the rant 😢❤️💛🌹
I wish I can order from you...I wan to order a memorial key chain for my doggy...😢😢😢
Ok I’m commenting before finishing the video. Because I’m laughing. Did you know that there is a thing called rhinorrhea???? Yes…..snot diarrhea.
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Good morning! 💜🐼🌞
I take maca powder every morning, it significantly lengthens my fuse 😅
Right?!!!! It’s so obvious when something works and when we forget to take it!🤣
@@CoffeeBreakwithDani definitely! 🤣😭
🌞 Dani!
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Rest days were for to do lists and productivity mannn. And otherwise you called yourself lazy or verbally shamed yourself to anyone with ears. Hooray for us and our children, and our younger selves that we know better and .. try to do better. Your vulnerability is so very cathartic to so many, I know it bears repeating to let you know the impact your videos have ❤❤
Tysm! 🥰😘 say that to the comment someone just left 🤣🤣🤣! I’m over here just trying to make the world seem smaller☺️
@@CoffeeBreakwithDani pffft they don’t even go here.
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Remember when you started the vlogs with " welcome to mommy parole weekend " I miss that, BTW where is Sam , she hasn't been around in the videos.
They aren't friends anymore
@@sharonpost7120 whatttrtttt when did this happen what happened
I think it's been a year or two. She announced it in one of her videos.
DANI DO YOU HAVE THE PICKE BICKE CHARACTER
No pickle pickle sadly ☹️☹️☹️ or badtz Maru! Or chococat! Idk why they don’t make charms!
Dani Rakuten offers cash back on Temu 🤭☺️
I miss your cooking videos 😢
Try color science mineral
Happy weekend 😘
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I just wanted to share that I hope you recognize that your parents were not as informed & educated about mental health & self care as we are now being made aware. It was taboo both in culture & religion to even speak about it. They were doing the best they could based on their own trauma, how they were raised and with tools they knew about. You know better and more about mental health, self care and awareness of stigma so you should do better.Think of healing as a journey not a destination ❤ you don’t have to keep reliving what your parents didn’t do for you with your audience and retraumatizing yourself and us. Work on letting the past go, you don’t live there anymore and focus on what you’re going to do now and just share that with your audience. We are better served just knowing what your doing now for your family❤
Dani I'm a Taurus. People tell me I'm stubborn AF, but I don't see it👀😅🤣🤣🫣