I'm a black men and I agree but black men and black women need to stop being colorist To each other and its a lot of fine dark skin black women out there too.
@@jasminewalker3522 - NO, they don't. Since the vast majority of BW are medium to dark-skinned, it wouldn't even make sense to feel threatened; just about every fully Black family has a range of hues. What I DO see in Black media is the indulgence of DSBW's abuse of LSBW, in the same way that DSBM are allowed to make disparaging remarks to their "light, bright" counterparts. It all smacks of not being grateful to GOD for His creativity being on full display through the features He gave us. As I said before, ALL BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL. We reflect God's highest craftmanship.
Check out your language...why is it that she’s dark BUT she’s pretty. No one ever says light skinned but pretty. It’s embedded in our language. It’s good that you value your own though!
I grew up with...you're so pretty, what are you mixed with? Like you have to be mixed in order to be pretty! And it was adults saying it to me! So sad! We all need to do better! Beauty comes in all shades! But Naomi Campbell is the baddest super model to ever walk the cat walk!!!! I said what I said!!!
Same here. Except it wasn't adults, it was random dark skinned Black girls. Many were very rude about it. I started responding with, "I'm mixed with the same thing YOU are - flesh and blood." Some got it and would correct themselves. Most were just dumbfounded.
I grew up hating my skin tone because people treated me like I thought that I was better. I made alot of mistakes trying to fit in with my own race. I was 30 when I finally found coincidence in myself. I will be 53 next month and I love the skin that im in. God don't make mistakes.
I've always preferred darker skinned males. The darker the better. There's something beautiful, unique, and pure about their skin tone. But many are MEAN as hell because they were teased about it😳😟.
@@vadamsable I can appreciate that. And you are correct about some of us being mean about it, because a lot of us have seen that we have been 2nd choice behind the light skin guys. When I was coming up most girls wanted the light skin with braids, and I was the cute darker skin boy that some girls would make an exception for. I can't tell you how many times I have heard "You are cute for a dark skin guy".
@@billwill1584 So sorry to hear that Bill. People are so superficial and miss out on the "best" because of that attitude. I bet some of those young women wish they would have given you a try after getting stepped on chasing some "heel" ( excuse my pun)😂😂🙌.
As I as small I used be called blackie and since my sister was light skinned she was favoured. BUT when I got older and moved out my momma house.. I had so many men chasing me and cal ling me beautiful! I notice I get treated great with guys and hated on by females and I am a dark skinned lady. So I had low self-esteem until I moved out of my mother's house and it was a BLACK MAN that help build up my confidence and this is why I love BLACK MEN
When u reach a certain maturity the light skin dark skin is out the window. It's so much more to a relationship when u start to peel those layers. U can have the most attractive dummy in the world, looks get u so far chemistry is everything.
Dark skinned black men feel compelled to have a light skinned lady. I grew up in the church. The light skinned girls got married and the dark skinned girls got overlooking and called names.
@@Rebmetpes4 Yes I agree 100% . Natural African American / Caribbean British women that only wear a little make up can look , soft feminine gorgeous and absolutely beautiful. However those that wear huge bizarre hilarious wigs and weaves, bushy caterpillar eyebrows spider eyelashes and werewolf length claw fingernails can look like scary drag queens. As for blond and yellow wigs, that’s the joke of the century.
BP can argue over this topic til the cows come home. Colorism goes both ways and DS women get it worst with the entire community, and LS men get it worse for the men. What matters is that the system that has its boot on all our necks sees us as black. And we better figure out how to get past this real quick because that oppressor doesn't care how we feel about each other beyond us being a threat to their superiority.
FACTS! PREACH! We are the only people that do this. Other nations don't care what shade of black we are, all that matters to them is that we are black, and they work hard to try and keep us on the bottom...
While I don't agree that DSBW get it the most - I think THEIR colorist behavior gets EXCUSED the most - I heartily agree with everything else you said.
You did the same thing. You talked about first crush. You said she was dark, but pretty. Not she was dark and pretty. I had a dark complexion father, light complexion mother. All I knew is that we were Black. I have my mother's color and my father's physical traits. When someone called me light skinned I was shocked. I just knew we were all Black. I was not aware of colorism until I was grown.
Dark skinned, light skinned we are all beautiful. There's not one "shade" better than the other... I wish our people would stop pitting ourselves against each other with such unimportant, childish things 😒. At the end of the day, surely a person has to have more than just "a look" that you like. Personality has a big part to play, how you carry yourself, and how you treat people.
It really boils down to what they see in the media, hip hop music always portrays the lighter skinned in their vids and peer pressure plays a part too. But when you see it in the media its like a big encouragement to those considering and a boost for those who already do it. Ignorance also plays a part but ignorance is a choice...
This is always the response when people especially a black man speaks positively about dark skinned women (yes I caught that “pretty for a dark skinned girl” style remark he made about his first crush in the beginning). Someone just HAS to “all lives matter” it instead of just letting DSW get the little damn shine their getting. Smh BM: I like dark skinned women, I think they’re beautiful. Colorist: All black women are beautiful! Skin color doesn’t matter! Smh
@@ladyofrage22 No her comment is still relevant because we are talking about the black community as a whole. It doesn't take way from him saying he prefers dark skinned women to say we all are beautiful. The problem with your comment is you see it as some type competition and can't stand praise of lighter black people. That really shouldn't bother you. This is part of what's wrong with our community.
@@sunkistbabe don’t tell me what I think. I don’t see this as come “competition”. What I said is true- people always “all lives matter” the conversation when someone is speaking positively about dark skinned women. But go off 😒
Funny you say that. Thinking about it now, my older two brothers always go for darker skin black women while the younger two go for lighter skin black women. Our mom and dad are my shade and the lot of of us are different shades from super light to super dark, so we've never discussed this.
I feel you! :) Same here. We never grew up talking or even thinking about skin color. I love BLACK MEN PEAROD! I have dated light skin men, dark skinned men and in between. I married a dark skinned men, my daughter has dark skin, and my son has light skin, both are absolutely beautiful because they are black. "The Willie Lynch letter is the culprit of all this colorism. Our enslaved ancestors, were divided by color. The lighter, brighter skinned Slaves worked inside, and the darker skinned Slaves worked outside. This mindset was designed to divide us, so that we would never come together as a people, and this thought process stands to this very day! United we stand, and divided we fall.
My girlfriend is fully black and really light skinned and I got offended at my sister because she said she thought my girlfriend was mixed by being light skinned. I always wanted a dark skin woman but this intelligent woman came in my life and I appreciate her for being here for me. As long as my girlfriend is black I'm 100% fine with that idc if she's dark skin or light skin ✊🏾💯
Light Skins ain't black; only dark skin people can say they black; were fully Afro Collectives, Afro related Ancestory Collectively diverse by shade and other features but we all share that same Ancestory in some ways!
@@antjaguar9 she's Mahogany in other words ie light skin non mixed; I want nothing to do with light skin women they hate light skin men more than the KKK hates Black people or the N@tziee$ hate Jews; it's a dam shame but it's the truth!
I'm a light skinned Black woman, but I always leaned toward dark skinned men, the darker the better. My father was a fine, intelligent, dark skinned man, and I've been looking for one ever since.😍
I hate both terms. I have light and dark skin siblings, parents, aunts and uncles and grandparents and really good friends. I never looked at someone's shade like that.
The colonized mind will go after what looks like the colonizer. The closer to colonized the mind is the more it wants to be like the colonizer or to embrace what is more like the colonizer...hence what we have in our culture now.
As a dark skinned Black woman with a light skinned mother, I had to deprogram myself from the mentality that light or White is better. I am glad that I find beauty in all shades and sizes. Furthermore, I find beauty in all races and ethnicities. A biracial actor stated that colorism is White supremacy without a White person being in the room. In other words, a colorist is doing the White man's bid without even knowing it.
Thank you for acknowledging that about dark skin women. I never had a problem with my dark skin. I love bright colors on my dark skin. Be bless and stay safe. Love you
I agree...I'm a dark skin black woman and I was raised to love myself and love my skin so when I see people that share my skin tone or darker I see the beauty because I was raised to see it..
As a light skin woman , majority of my family members are darker than me and I never knew there was a divide.. until I came into society. My aunts cousins father to me was just beautiful folks comfortable in their skin. then I go to school and they were dividing everyone based on shade which needs to stop 🛑 , I say all that to say every skin tone is gorgeous in my eyes . Beauty is beauty
This is a good channel. I just subscribed after watching your video on black women moving on from black men to date other races. You are indeed correct. I can tell you, its exhausting to deal with the constant rejection, mental hang ups, competitiveness and everything else that a lot of these black men are dealing with (high quality men etc.). For many black women it is just easier to have peace, love and commitment with men of other races. It's nice to see a black millennial man speak from a place of accountability and responsibility. Congrats!
I totally agree it's all about how you were raised. In my family they put down dark skinned black people but that just made me love myself even more. Myself I prefer dark skinned men but nevertheless if I see a lighter skin black men or a man of another race. I have nothing against them. And would have no problem dating them as long as they treat me with respect.
Love your videos! Thank you for waking us up and bringing the truth!Everyone has a preference, and I respect whatever that is. In my humble opinion, black people should stay within their own race, and not white ourselves out. I love all shades of men, as long as they are BLACK. :) The "Willie Lynch letter, " (Google it if you haven't already) perhaps is the culprit for this mindset and the reason why black people engage in colorism. He created a method to control the slaves, and the sad part about his letter is, he said that the method was simple and would cause them to be self-refueuling and self-generating for maybe thousands of years. He controlled his slaves's mindset by dividing them up according to skin color of their skin, hair texture, intelligence, height, weight, etc. He created this narrative and thought process, kept the lighter skinned Slaves in the house and put the darker slaves in the fields, in effort to cause division among the slaves, so that they they will not come together. (As they say "United we stand, divided we fall.") This mindset worked back then, and still stands to this very day! I have never heard a white person state " I prefer whiter women/men, or yellower, more olive color looking white women/men. We are the only people that do this. My siblings are dark, light, and in between. Our mother didn't bring to our attention the shade of our skin. ( may she rest in peace.) I married a dark skinned man, and have 2 children. One of my children is dark skinned, the other light, both are absolutely beautiful because they are black, and come from Royalty above. "Our heavenly father. " We are a special people, The Most High's chosen, whom is Black according to scripture. Melonin is a wonderful gift. We are truly blessed and need to continue to come together to lift up one another. Peace and much love to all my beautiful melonated black brothers and sistas always!. 😊💖
Thats my name kyara🤩 i honestly feel like chocolate women are the most beautiful on this earth periodt. And if u do your research darker tones are healthier 🥰
I know this video was done eight months ago. Thank you! We need to focus on building up all of the Black communities in America and stop looking at our skin tones. It will not make or break us!
What u said, is so true and stop caring about what someone else thinks about your color, U do you and learn to love yourself. I just came across your video and I have to say U are a very, very, very handsome young man, beautiful skin and features and a Beautiful Chocolate. I came from a family of 8 children ( 5 girls and 3 boys ) I was the darkest of the girls but I to had to learn to love my dark chocolate coloring and I eventually did because I know who I am. A lot of my friends called me Black Beauty and my daughter is dark skin tone about 2 shades lighter then me and I had to keep telling her your skin shade is Beautiful and help her build up her self esteem. She would always want to wear dark colors and I would tell her stop wearing those dark colors and wear those beautiful bright colors because we can wear almost any color. Finally now she heard what I've said to her and her self esteem has greatly improved. Thank U for lifting up our dark skinned sisters.
I adore black men of all shades but as a dark skinned woman I had really painful experiences with people teasing me and looking down on me because of my complexion. I still struggle with low self esteem even though as an adult I get called beautiful by quite a few men. I realized I still had trauma in this area when I wouldn't even allow myself to like lightskin guys because I felt like they wouldn't want me because I'm too dark. The weird thing is I've had some gorgeous guys light and dark skinned that liked me but I just wrote it off. I'm still working on reminding myself on who God says I am so it doesn"t matter what other people think or say.
Darker or lighter they all came out from same place I don't argue,,,, for me, if u are white, dark, light skin man or woman .... A man or woman who want to love you will love you with all his or her heart.... One love Africans be wise and stop fighting yourselfs
My own definition of DARK SKINNED = Deeply & Richly Melenated.....Pure Beautiful Skin that has been KISSED BY THE SUN/SON....The Blacker the Berry...The Sweeter the Juice....Im Black & Im Proud...etc
I am all for loving yourself. My problem comes in when you put others down. As a light skinned black man, I love the way I look. I also love dark skin.
White men tend to grow up in white communities not being exposed to black women.. when I first moved to tampa I started seeing more black women than ever. Never would say “pretty for a black girl” though. Black women are beautiful because they’re beautiful and tend to carry themselves with a lot of class.
Yahs description in the Bible in revelations is described to have skin as burnished brass.(very black) And hair of wool. So yes you do look like YAH. Majority of black men do. The white Jesus is modeled after Cesare Borgia painted by Leonardo DaVinci.
It’s weird that people are taught that certain shade of skin is more attractive. Beauty is beauty. I love all skin shades and you’re right beauty is more about face symmetry and features, not skin color. It’s not skin color that defines beauty, it is bone structure and facial features.
When I was younger I only followed light skin people and I'm dark skin. The older I got I took notice of that so I starting to follow people just like me dark skinned and the same body size has me ( clothing size 16 +) when I did that I was more happier, comfortable and confident with my skin tone and body size
Black Is Beautiful❗❗🌺 U r so about it, Shumake; as 2 th 'why' of th mattr. Famous '60s quote: "The personal is political." & it is❗❗Keep on keep.n on, Shumake🌺❗🤺
I'm light skinned and I get the "are you mixed" question and I tell them no both of my parents are Black. It's almost like a look of disappointment after they realize that I'm not bi-racial, like I'm no longer put in the pedestal..
I have heard the same thing about BM... Don't like dark skin men... don't like light skin men.... don't like bi racial... narrative is always about BW but it goes both ways with BM as well...
I love your skin tone. It’s majestic looking like a black panther then with your dark eyes ! So alluring. I remember when I saw a woman from Ghana when I first saw her and her skin my first thought was goddess. I actually envy dark skin tone women and men. It’s just so idk majestic and alluring. Then there me with my boring skin tone lol I love my tan skin but dark skin omg !!! Out of this world beautiful!
With the skin type everyone's got their preference, I love light skin i just find it good looking and seducing, bt like you said beauty comes in every color
People need to realize that the root of "preference " is merely disguised as colorism. People keep labeling colorism as preference because they don't want to admit that those deep roots of anti-Blackness lives within them..🤷🏾♀️
So do the same rules apply when women say they want a tall slim guy? I’m a heavy guy average hight not tall and I don’t get offended when women say they want a tall slim guy it’s just their preference
@@antoniobarnes694 Not in regards to colorism it doesn't, but I suppose some people would try to classify that as having a fat phobia and I also found out this week that heightism is actually the term for height discrimination..🤷🏾♀️
I think all of it is a preference I just think it’s wrong that if a guy says he likes Alicia keys he’s called color struck and shunned for it even feel to embarrassed to admit he likes them out of fear of being judged. But if a guy says he likes Kellie Rows he’s praised. Are these lighter skin blacks not supposed to be liked because of white peoples oppression it’s not their fault you know
I like both you can't have Light without the Dark. In fact, I dated a girl from South Sudan she was very attractive and she had some friends that was bad. They all had some long hair, nice teeth, curvy, very Dark complexion with skin smooth like Satin. Another, time I met this, Just as attractive Light Skin Women at my School she said, she loves Dark Skin Man. I ask her why she loves Dark Skin Men? She said, they have nice skin and they look strong looking. I just hate when some Sisters say, you look good for Dark Skin Man. As a Black Man We have the most Diverse look on the Plant. We can look White, Black, Asian, Latin, and Whatever. Their is no one look.
You are absolutely right! As long as we are black, that is all that matters. We are the only people that do this colorism thing. Other nations do not care in the slightest our shade of skin color, all they know is that we are black and work very hard to keep us on the bottom...
@@yahushuaschosen4129 You are wrong about is being the only country. Brazil and India. Brazil is really bad. China and Japan. A tan is not welcome. It indicates being poor, having to work outside, manual labor, farming.
@@adc2327 I feel you, and you are absolutely right when it comes to other nations, I stand corrected. However, I was more so referring to the United states, and black people that reside in the 4 corners of the earth, in addition to United states, "The land of captivity as descendants of Slaves". Therefore, black people (not tan) in those other nations are a bottom cast.
@@brittlia_ I feel you, and you are right. I stand corrected. However, I was more so referring to black people that reside in the 4 corners of the earth, as descendants of Slaves, in addition to the United states, "The land of our captivity ".
So glad to hear a black person make 💯 correct mind set over skin color. I’m Carmel toned and I always loved my skin color. Most white people original skin tone is not pretty. We have something they don’t have and that’s melatonin. I sometimes wonder is that why so many of them hate us. They risk their lives tanning to get darker skin. Their level of hatred makes me think jealousy and envy is involved. Pretty is pretty in any shade. Our inside beauty is what really matters. Good information!
Light skin dark skin when it comes to cops, banks, the government, and the world we all get treated the same. I'm a redbone trust I don't get no special treatment. Just a bunch of dumb questions about what I'm mixed with. Be nice to go a day without the mentioning of color and origin🙂 nice video good content
Sad... your language speaks volumes.. as a lighter skinned woman... I found that people thought that I thought I was cute... I fought all throughout school because of that colorist non sense... my eldest has dark skin my youngest light skin... never treated them differently... I have dated all shades of black... as long as you got that melanin.. I am good!!!
Some times its a front for black men to get with light skinned women. I say that because a couple guys actually had the nerve to tell me they like me, but Im too dark. Self hate is a real thing that they reflect onto the dark skin woman. It's also pressure from black friends and family if a black man is seen with a dark skin woman, they will question him and ask him why. I have experienced all of this at the time I was young and couldn't understand it. It amazes me how this happened when dark skin is how we even exist. Its sad and sick.
Very nice video.Thank you for your honesty.It is true it is how you are brought up.I am dark side and love my complexion .I was told by my mother always be proud to be dark and take skin of your skin an I do .People think I wear make up but I don't.
My father never dated dark skin women. In fact, as a child he would tell me I was beautiful for a dark skin girl. To me that was always such an insult. Now, as a women with four children of my own two on the high yellow end and two on the dark chocolate spectrum 😂 I am witness to this entire dark skin vs. Light skin issue first hand.
@SUI GENERIS - I'm really sorry you went through that; I can't imagine. Perhaps it would be helpful to remember that while you got here THROUGH your father, GOD HIMSELF made YOU in His likeness. He thought of a shade just for YOU. He adorned (fully) BP with the widest array of hues and looks on the whole planet. Just think on that!
In the words of one female UA-camr, "Parents love their dark skinned sons and their light skinned daughters." I still don't understand why at this point, Kelly Rowland is one of the only examples of a "pretty dark skin." Either way, being raised on colorism is a problem. I would also ask this: are light skinned women considered masculine when they behave in certain ways? Not usually.
The skin never mattered. I loved black no matter the shade. I must say I love my dark skin self. I love the heck out of all black but i love my dark and I love all my shades of black. I will say I like the coarse hair though.
Because we live in America. We wouldn't be having discussion light and dark skin. Black people need to stop this shit. I'm am a beautiful chocolate sister and proud of it i'm so glad my father taught me that and my handsome black husband do too. We must remind our young chocolate daughters of this because id we don't we will continue to hurt them.
Your voice reminds me of T.I What’s a shame is, ppl feel they have to justify liking dark skin women. No other culture gets shamed about wanted and liking someone who looks like them. 👊🏽
Don't do this. What's better? A person who is beautiful inside and out. It doesn't matter the skin tone. Cuz if you hard on the eyes on the inside, you gonna be hard on the eyes on the outside. PERIOD.
Quick question. It’s a lot a content out there about black men going off on black women that are dating or married too nonblack men. But when it is the other way around then those black men are praised. Why?? Not all some. I’m all for who u love is who u love.🤔
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I was told i look good to have a gapped tooth lol. I was insecure but now i embrace my smile. Everyone i s beautiful in their own way.
@Dani Franc lol u right. But it will be no surprise
@Dani Franc 😂😂😂 have a little faith in me
@Dani Franc yea I know. It’s genuine with me though. Best believe anything I say to black women or about black women comes from love.
@Dani Franc yes. Its like im getting more compliments on it. More men are attracted to it. Thats why im never closing it. Make me unique u know
I'm a black men and I agree but black men and black women need to stop being colorist To each other and its a lot of fine dark skin black women out there too.
You ain’t lying! 🤝
I'm light skinned and I agree. I don't think most LS Black women feel threatened at all by praise being given to DSBW. ALL BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL.
@@TheBLACKboard65 they actually do maybe not u but they do
@@jasminewalker3522 - NO, they don't. Since the vast majority of BW are medium to dark-skinned, it wouldn't even make sense to feel threatened; just about every fully Black family has a range of hues. What I DO see in Black media is the indulgence of DSBW's abuse of LSBW, in the same way that DSBM are allowed to make disparaging remarks to their "light, bright" counterparts. It all smacks of not being grateful to GOD for His creativity being on full display through the features He gave us. As I said before, ALL BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL. We reflect God's highest craftmanship.
Men ask me why I'm single and I tell them that I think its because I'm dark. Idk
Check out your language...why is it that she’s dark BUT she’s pretty. No one ever says light skinned but pretty. It’s embedded in our language. It’s good that you value your own though!
I see what you mean but I think it was said to further emphasize that people deem dark as unattractive
@@Khapresha exactly its ingrained in ppl minds
That’s exactly what I said... he said ‘but’ smh . But I get what he was saying
Good point!
@@Khapresha I agree
I grew up with...you're so pretty, what are you mixed with? Like you have to be mixed in order to be pretty! And it was adults saying it to me! So sad! We all need to do better! Beauty comes in all shades! But Naomi Campbell is the baddest super model to ever walk the cat walk!!!! I said what I said!!!
Same here. Except it wasn't adults, it was random dark skinned Black girls. Many were very rude about it. I started responding with, "I'm mixed with the same thing YOU are - flesh and blood." Some got it and would correct themselves. Most were just dumbfounded.
I grew up hating my skin tone because people treated me like I thought that I was better. I made alot of mistakes trying to fit in with my own race. I was 30 when I finally found coincidence in myself. I will be 53 next month and I love the skin that im in. God don't make mistakes.
@doctor blue Tell My Black Mom and Dad that. Lol
Again, the God the I serve does not make mistakes. BLASPHEMY
@doctor blue Edited: I looked at your picture. Your not a Man.
@doctor blue You are a Earth Distruber. No more responses from me. Just Messy. Fruit Loop.
Self HATRED is killing our people BROTHER. I CONCUR I'm with you.
Don't worry if self hatred does not kill our people then the COVID vaccine will.
As a darker skin man myself, I have always loved my complexion, and also have always preferred darker skin women over lighter skin.
I’m the same way bro
I've always preferred darker skinned males. The darker the better. There's something beautiful, unique, and pure about their skin tone. But many are MEAN as hell because they were teased about it😳😟.
@@vadamsable I can appreciate that. And you are correct about some of us being mean about it, because a lot of us have seen that we have been 2nd choice behind the light skin guys. When I was coming up most girls wanted the light skin with braids, and I was the cute darker skin boy that some girls would make an exception for. I can't tell you how many times I have heard "You are cute for a dark skin guy".
@@billwill1584 So sorry to hear that Bill. People are so superficial and miss out on the "best" because of that attitude. I bet some of those young women wish they would have given you a try after getting stepped on chasing some "heel" ( excuse my pun)😂😂🙌.
I love the darker shade as well. Pure beauty.
You said "she was darker than ever...but...she was pretty as hell"...colorism is even in our language...dark does not equal ugly or inferior...
He’s colorist
like the 2...beauty and dark skin are mutually exclusive
The language was/is mostly fad ot programmed not intentional.
@@jasminewalker3522 why do you think so?
@@jasminewalker3522 he’s southern that’s his vernacular. He has children that are dark skin so stop it.
Im going to go with clear skin lol
Lol
My black friends from other countries see white people as clear people....White means purity and there is nothing pure about white people....
Yes! Smooth, healthy skin is what we should be going for lol. It's a sign of good health.
Definitely light or dark nothing is more beautiful than smooth, health skin.
🤣🤣👏🏾
As I as small I used be called blackie and since my sister was light skinned she was favoured. BUT when I got older and moved out my momma house.. I had so many men chasing me and cal ling me beautiful! I notice I get treated great with guys and hated on by females and I am a dark skinned lady. So I had low self-esteem until I moved out of my mother's house and it was a BLACK MAN that help build up my confidence and this is why I love BLACK MEN
When u reach a certain maturity the light skin dark skin is out the window. It's so much more to a relationship when u start to peel those layers. U can have the most attractive dummy in the world, looks get u so far chemistry is everything.
Facts
Exactly! Only melanated people fuss over these irrelevant things
Speak 👏🏽on 👏🏽it👏🏽💯
Dark skinned black men feel compelled to have a light skinned lady. I grew up in the church. The light skinned girls got married and the dark skinned girls got overlooking and called names.
Joanne Claire ok ???
If Kelly Rowland made a music video with you the beauty of that would almost be unbearable.
Yep; black women are the most beautiful women whether they wanna admit and accept it or not!
@@Rebmetpes4 Yes I agree 100% . Natural African American / Caribbean British women that only wear a little make up can look , soft feminine gorgeous and absolutely beautiful. However those that wear huge bizarre hilarious wigs and weaves, bushy caterpillar eyebrows spider eyelashes and werewolf length claw fingernails can look like scary drag queens. As for blond and yellow wigs, that’s the joke of the century.
"She was as dark as I don't know what, BUT she was pretty as hell" - That phrasing was straight up awful. Lord, hammercy on y'all.
Agreed. It's the "but" for me 🤦🏿♀️
The whole "you pretty for a dark skin girl" 🤨
@@tinalouise5475 There you go. Even Shumake spoke that trope into existence. I stopped watching right after. Wtf??
Exactly this is pandering at its finest.
Right *scratches head*
BP can argue over this topic til the cows come home. Colorism goes both ways and DS women get it worst with the entire community, and LS men get it worse for the men. What matters is that the system that has its boot on all our necks sees us as black. And we better figure out how to get past this real quick because that oppressor doesn't care how we feel about each other beyond us being a threat to their superiority.
FACTS! PREACH!
We are the only people that do this. Other nations don't care what shade of black we are, all that matters to them is that we are black, and they work hard to try and keep us on the bottom...
While I don't agree that DSBW get it the most - I think THEIR colorist behavior gets EXCUSED the most - I heartily agree with everything else you said.
It can’t go “both ways”
@@TheBLACKboard65 comeing from a lightskin blackman we get hate from all directions
You're a Mahogany AA (LS) female; what do you care about the plight of light skin men anyway?!
You did the same thing. You talked about first crush. You said she was dark, but pretty.
Not she was dark and pretty.
I had a dark complexion father, light complexion mother. All I knew is that we were Black. I have my mother's color and my father's physical traits. When someone called me light skinned I was shocked. I just knew we were all Black. I was not aware of colorism until I was grown.
Dark skinned, light skinned we are all beautiful. There's not one "shade" better than the other... I wish our people would stop pitting ourselves against each other with such unimportant, childish things 😒. At the end of the day, surely a person has to have more than just "a look" that you like. Personality has a big part to play, how you carry yourself, and how you treat people.
Thankyou
It really boils down to what they see in the media, hip hop music always portrays the lighter skinned in their vids and peer pressure plays a part too. But when you see it in the media its like a big encouragement to those considering and a boost for those who already do it. Ignorance also plays a part but ignorance is a choice...
This is always the response when people especially a black man speaks positively about dark skinned women (yes I caught that “pretty for a dark skinned girl” style remark he made about his first crush in the beginning). Someone just HAS to “all lives matter” it instead of just letting DSW get the little damn shine their getting. Smh
BM: I like dark skinned women, I think they’re beautiful.
Colorist: All black women are beautiful! Skin color doesn’t matter!
Smh
@@ladyofrage22 No her comment is still relevant because we are talking about the black community as a whole. It doesn't take way from him saying he prefers dark skinned women to say we all are beautiful. The problem with your comment is you see it as some type competition and can't stand praise of lighter black people. That really shouldn't bother you. This is part of what's wrong with our community.
@@sunkistbabe don’t tell me what I think. I don’t see this as come “competition”. What I said is true- people always “all lives matter” the conversation when someone is speaking positively about dark skinned women. But go off 😒
Neither is better. It is crazy that slavery still got some people caught up like that. What I like about black folks is how we got all the shades.
Funny you say that. Thinking about it now, my older two brothers always go for darker skin black women while the younger two go for lighter skin black women. Our mom and dad are my shade and the lot of of us are different shades from super light to super dark, so we've never discussed this.
I feel you! :) Same here. We never grew up talking or even thinking about skin color. I love BLACK MEN PEAROD! I have dated light skin men, dark skinned men and in between. I married a dark skinned men, my daughter has dark skin, and my son has light skin, both are absolutely beautiful because they are black. "The Willie Lynch letter is the culprit of all this colorism. Our enslaved ancestors, were divided by color. The lighter, brighter skinned Slaves worked inside, and the darker skinned Slaves worked outside. This mindset was designed to divide us, so that we would never come together as a people, and this thought process stands to this very day! United we stand, and divided we fall.
@@yahushuaschosen4129 why do we allow the Willie Lynch letter to toxify us now?!
All skin is better but my preference is dark skinned women 💁🏾♂️😻
Mines too!
You are a very well rounded black man. Thank God for you.
Facts Fam!
My girlfriend is fully black and really light skinned and I got offended at my sister because she said she thought my girlfriend was mixed by being light skinned. I always wanted a dark skin woman but this intelligent woman came in my life and I appreciate her for being here for me. As long as my girlfriend is black I'm 100% fine with that idc if she's dark skin or light skin ✊🏾💯
Light Skins ain't black; only dark skin people can say they black; were fully Afro Collectives, Afro related Ancestory Collectively diverse by shade and other features but we all share that same Ancestory in some ways!
@@Rebmetpes4 mixed people aren't black but my girlfriend wasn't mixed she was just light skin
@@antjaguar9 she's Mahogany in other words ie light skin non mixed; I want nothing to do with light skin women they hate light skin men more than the KKK hates Black people or the N@tziee$ hate Jews; it's a dam shame but it's the truth!
I'm a light skinned Black woman, but I always leaned toward dark skinned men, the darker the better. My father was a fine, intelligent, dark skinned man, and I've been looking for one ever since.😍
Be attracted to whoever you feel🤷🏽♀️Just stop putting down your own 🙅🏽♀️ in the process. It’s unnecessary.
💯. People can have their preferences without dragging down the opposite .
I hate both terms. I have light and dark skin siblings, parents, aunts and uncles and grandparents and really good friends. I never looked at someone's shade like that.
Me either.
I just love black men period idc what your complexion is. They’re so beautiful.
The colonized mind will go after what looks like the colonizer. The closer to colonized the mind is the more it wants to be like the colonizer or to embrace what is more like the colonizer...hence what we have in our culture now.
Exactly
As a dark skinned Black woman with a light skinned mother, I had to deprogram myself from the mentality that light or White is better. I am glad that I find beauty in all shades and sizes. Furthermore, I find beauty in all races and ethnicities. A biracial actor stated that colorism is White supremacy without a White person being in the room. In other words, a colorist is doing the White man's bid without even knowing it.
Yep; WS bred Light Skins to use as a weapon against the black man; you're quite the biracial beauty I must say btw!
Joe Jackson was responsible for why Michael Jackson had all them surgeries, We as black people received hate from those closest to us.
“Dark as I don’t know what BUT pretty as hell.” 🤔 This denotes that dark would usually equate to “not pretty as hell!” #Interesting #SMH
Thank you for acknowledging that about dark skin women. I never had a problem with my dark skin. I love bright colors on my dark skin. Be bless and stay safe. Love you
I died at some dudes were raised hearing “you look just like your black a** daddy.” 😂🥳 Epic.
😂😂😂
U too black
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What about colorism towards LSBM? There is a lot of Black people who discriminate against LSBM also. It goes both ways my man.
I love me a chocolate women.
*woman
@@tamarawilliams1197 was about to write the same thing 🤣 hate when ppl don't know the difference
I agree...I'm a dark skin black woman and I was raised to love myself and love my skin so when I see people that share my skin tone or darker I see the beauty because I was raised to see it..
As a light skin woman , majority of my family members are darker than me and I never knew there was a divide.. until I came into society. My aunts cousins father to me was just beautiful folks comfortable in their skin. then I go to school and they were dividing everyone based on shade which needs to stop 🛑 , I say all that to say every skin tone is gorgeous in my eyes . Beauty is beauty
I know; White Supremacy and the Powers that be push this toxic behavior on each other and we seem to love it!
Some people said the darker the berry the sweeter the juice or, roots & think lighter skin is beautiful.
Beauty is beauty no matter what shade you are.
This is a good channel. I just subscribed after watching your video on black women moving on from black men to date other races. You are indeed correct. I can tell you, its exhausting to deal with the constant rejection, mental hang ups, competitiveness and everything else that a lot of these black men are dealing with (high quality men etc.). For many black women it is just easier to have peace, love and commitment with men of other races. It's nice to see a black millennial man speak from a place of accountability and responsibility. Congrats!
I totally agree it's all about how you were raised. In my family they put down dark skinned black people but that just made me love myself even more. Myself I prefer dark skinned men but nevertheless if I see a lighter skin black men or a man of another race. I have nothing against them. And would have no problem dating them as long as they treat me with respect.
I'm glad I wasn't raised to think light/white is better. Smh.
Love your videos! Thank you for waking us up and bringing the truth!Everyone has a preference, and I respect whatever that is. In my humble opinion, black people should stay within their own race, and not white ourselves out. I love all shades of men, as long as they are BLACK. :) The "Willie Lynch letter, " (Google it if you haven't already) perhaps is the culprit for this mindset and the reason why black people engage in colorism. He created a method to control the slaves, and the sad part about his letter is, he said that the method was simple and would cause them to be self-refueuling and self-generating for maybe thousands of years. He controlled his slaves's mindset by dividing them up according to skin color of their skin, hair texture, intelligence, height, weight, etc. He created this narrative and thought process, kept the lighter skinned Slaves in the house and put the darker slaves in the fields, in effort to cause division among the slaves, so that they they will not come together. (As they say "United we stand, divided we fall.") This mindset worked back then, and still stands to this very day! I have never heard a white person state " I prefer whiter women/men, or yellower, more olive color looking white women/men. We are the only people that do this. My siblings are dark, light, and in between. Our mother didn't bring to our attention the shade of our skin. ( may she rest in peace.) I married a dark skinned man, and have 2 children. One of my children is dark skinned, the other light, both are absolutely beautiful because they are black, and come from Royalty above. "Our heavenly father. " We are a special people, The Most High's chosen, whom is Black according to scripture. Melonin is a wonderful gift. We are truly blessed and need to continue to come together to lift up one another.
Peace and much love to all my beautiful melonated black brothers and sistas always!. 😊💖
Thats my name kyara🤩 i honestly feel like chocolate women are the most beautiful on this earth periodt. And if u do your research darker tones are healthier 🥰
Mother Earth is way more beautiful then any person i have ever seen💚💙
I know this video was done eight months ago. Thank you!
We need to focus on building up all of the Black communities in America and stop looking at our skin tones. It will not make or break us!
Love you nephew. I too was praised for my dark skin as a young child. Love your knowledge my dear. ✝
Fa Sho Fam, black (dk skin) people need to hear this more!
Dark skin looks warm and comforting.
What u said, is so true and stop caring about what someone else thinks about your color, U do you and learn to love yourself. I just came across your video and I have to say U are a very, very, very handsome young man, beautiful skin and features and a Beautiful Chocolate. I came from a family of 8 children ( 5 girls and 3 boys ) I was the darkest of the girls but I to had to learn to love my dark chocolate coloring and I eventually did because I know who I am. A lot of my friends called me Black Beauty and my daughter is dark skin tone about 2 shades lighter then me and I had to keep telling her your skin shade is Beautiful and help her build up her self esteem. She would always want to wear dark colors and I would tell her stop wearing those dark colors and wear those beautiful bright colors because we can wear almost any color. Finally now she heard what I've said to her and her self esteem has greatly improved. Thank U for lifting up our dark skinned sisters.
At the end of the day we're all black idc if you're light skin or dark skin we're the same 💯
I adore black men of all shades but as a dark skinned woman I had really painful experiences with people teasing me and looking down on me because of my complexion. I still struggle with low self esteem even though as an adult I get called beautiful by quite a few men. I realized I still had trauma in this area when I wouldn't even allow myself to like lightskin guys because I felt like they wouldn't want me because I'm too dark. The weird thing is I've had some gorgeous guys light and dark skinned that liked me but I just wrote it off.
I'm still working on reminding myself on who God says I am so it doesn"t matter what other people think or say.
Love ya sis 😏💟💟; a quick reminder that the Creator designed it for your genes created mankind
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. Much love and respect to you ❤. You are greatly appreciated.
Darker or lighter they all came out from same place I don't argue,,,, for me, if u are white, dark, light skin man or woman .... A man or woman who want to love you will love you with all his or her heart.... One love Africans be wise and stop fighting yourselfs
Absolutely!! True FACTS!
@@yahushuaschosen4129 thanks for seeing reason's with me!!! 👍👍👍
My own definition of DARK SKINNED = Deeply & Richly Melenated.....Pure Beautiful Skin that has been KISSED BY THE SUN/SON....The Blacker the Berry...The Sweeter the Juice....Im Black & Im Proud...etc
I am all for loving yourself. My problem comes in when you put others down. As a light skinned black man, I love the way I look. I also love dark skin.
No such thing as pretty for a black girl. She just pretty and that's it!!!
White men tend to grow up in white communities not being exposed to black women.. when I first moved to tampa I started seeing more black women than ever. Never would say “pretty for a black girl” though.
Black women are beautiful because they’re beautiful and tend to carry themselves with a lot of class.
Yahs description in the Bible in revelations is described to have skin as burnished brass.(very black) And hair of wool. So yes you do look like YAH. Majority of black men do. The white Jesus is modeled after Cesare Borgia painted by Leonardo DaVinci.
We all look different, so preferences is understanding. I just don’t do the SELF HATRED.
I love Dark Skin Men 😩🍫
It’s weird that people are taught that certain shade of skin is more attractive. Beauty is beauty. I love all skin shades and you’re right beauty is more about face symmetry and features, not skin color. It’s not skin color that defines beauty, it is bone structure and facial features.
All Black is Beautiful!! Let's stop this foolishness in 2021.
Your Channel is so refreshing, you actually speak the truth 100%!
When I was younger I only followed light skin people and I'm dark skin. The older I got I took notice of that so I starting to follow people just like me dark skinned and the same body size has me ( clothing size 16 +) when I did that I was more happier, comfortable and confident with my skin tone and body size
Black Is Beautiful❗❗🌺 U r so about it, Shumake; as 2 th 'why' of th mattr. Famous '60s quote: "The personal is political." & it is❗❗Keep on keep.n on, Shumake🌺❗🤺
You starting to give me Derrick Jackson vibes
I'm light skinned and I get the "are you mixed" question and I tell them no both of my parents are Black. It's almost like a look of disappointment after they realize that I'm not bi-racial, like I'm no longer put in the pedestal..
It's all about that Melanin. Most black, most healthy, most beautiful, crystal black!
You are who you are.. you human, you alive
Thank you for talking about !? When I found out about this !!!! It really hurt me !!!
All black skin is beautiful. This conversation bothers me be better black people
You’re fine & speak truths, common sense & thank you!!
I have heard the same thing about BM... Don't like dark skin men... don't like light skin men.... don't like bi racial... narrative is always about BW but it goes both ways with BM as well...
Great words of wisdom from your Auntie built your self esteem a a human being.... Love thy self and heritage.👊💖💖💖✊✊ One Love👊 brother
I love your skin tone. It’s majestic looking like a black panther then with your dark eyes ! So alluring. I remember when I saw a woman from Ghana when I first saw her and her skin my first thought was goddess. I actually envy dark skin tone women and men. It’s just so idk majestic and alluring. Then there me with my boring skin tone lol I love my tan skin but dark skin omg !!! Out of this world beautiful!
Whatever shade of Black is good 2
me. I jusy like Black men. I married
2 different shades of Black men.
I dnk what my shade husband shade
With the skin type everyone's got their preference, I love light skin i just find it good looking and seducing, bt like you said beauty comes in every color
Everybody likes what they like bro. I think the problems come when people look down on the other shades.
People need to realize that the root of "preference " is merely disguised as colorism. People keep labeling colorism as preference because they don't want to admit that those deep roots of anti-Blackness lives within them..🤷🏾♀️
So do the same rules apply when women say they want a tall slim guy? I’m a heavy guy average hight not tall and I don’t get offended when women say they want a tall slim guy it’s just their preference
@@antoniobarnes694 Not in regards to colorism it doesn't, but I suppose some people would try to classify that as having a fat phobia and I also found out this week that heightism is actually the term for height discrimination..🤷🏾♀️
I think all of it is a preference I just think it’s wrong that if a guy says he likes Alicia keys he’s called color struck and shunned for it even feel to embarrassed to admit he likes them out of fear of being judged. But if a guy says he likes Kellie Rows he’s praised. Are these lighter skin blacks not supposed to be liked because of white peoples oppression it’s not their fault you know
I like both you can't have Light without the Dark. In fact, I dated a girl from South Sudan she was very attractive and she had some friends that was bad. They all had some long hair, nice teeth, curvy, very Dark complexion with skin smooth like Satin. Another, time I met this, Just as attractive Light Skin Women at my School she said, she loves Dark Skin Man. I ask her why she loves Dark Skin Men? She said, they have nice skin and they look strong looking. I just hate when some Sisters say, you look good for Dark Skin Man. As a Black Man We have the most Diverse look on the Plant. We can look White, Black, Asian, Latin, and Whatever. Their is no one look.
You are absolutely right! As long as we are black, that is all that matters. We are the only people that do this colorism thing. Other nations do not care in the slightest our shade of skin color, all they know is that we are black and work very hard to keep us on the bottom...
@@yahushuaschosen4129 You are wrong about is being the only country. Brazil and India. Brazil is really bad. China and Japan. A tan is not welcome. It indicates being poor, having to work outside, manual labor, farming.
Yahushua’s Chosen Wrong! Colorism is not only in the African American race. Indians deal with colorism as well as Asians
@@adc2327
I feel you, and you are absolutely right when it comes to other nations, I stand corrected. However, I was more so referring to the United states, and black people that reside in the 4 corners of the earth, in addition to United states, "The land of captivity as descendants of Slaves". Therefore, black people (not tan) in those other nations are a bottom cast.
@@brittlia_
I feel you, and you are right. I stand corrected. However, I was more so referring to black people that reside in the 4 corners of the earth, as descendants of Slaves, in addition to the United states, "The land of our captivity ".
Exactly, you are free of self-hatred. You love yourself and can love and appreciate others.
That’s beautiful. Most people grow up differently which is unfortunate!!! ❤️
So glad to hear a black person make 💯 correct mind set over skin color. I’m Carmel toned and I always loved my skin color. Most white people original skin tone is not pretty. We have something they don’t have and that’s melatonin. I sometimes wonder is that why so many of them hate us. They risk their lives tanning to get darker skin. Their level of hatred makes me think jealousy and envy is involved. Pretty is pretty in any shade. Our inside beauty is what really matters. Good information!
I remember when DC3 came out, the dudes were talking about Latavia and Letoya
And*. And she was pretty as hell, not "but." Appreciate the message though. Appreciate you 🙌🏾
So appreciate you starting this convo it is needed so I encourage you to continue these types of discussions. Thank you.
Light skin dark skin when it comes to cops, banks, the government, and the world we all get treated the same. I'm a redbone trust I don't get no special treatment. Just a bunch of dumb questions about what I'm mixed with. Be nice to go a day without the mentioning of color and origin🙂 nice video good content
Amazing message you sent to everyone. Thank you 😊
Sad... your language speaks volumes.. as a lighter skinned woman... I found that people thought that I thought I was cute... I fought all throughout school because of that colorist non sense... my eldest has dark skin my youngest light skin... never treated them differently... I have dated all shades of black... as long as you got that melanin.. I am good!!!
Some times its a front for black men to get with light skinned women. I say that because a couple guys actually had the nerve to tell me they like me, but Im too dark. Self hate is a real thing that they reflect onto the dark skin woman. It's also pressure from black friends and family if a black man is seen with a dark skin woman, they will question him and ask him why. I have experienced all of this at the time I was young and couldn't understand it. It amazes me how this happened when dark skin is how we even exist. Its sad and sick.
I love all black people no matter what shade they come in.
My my my beautifully said.
This man is so real
Very nice video.Thank you for your honesty.It is true it is how you are brought up.I am dark side and love my complexion .I was told by my mother always be proud to be dark and take skin of your skin an I do .People think I wear make up but I don't.
My father never dated dark skin women. In fact, as a child he would tell me I was beautiful for a dark skin girl. To me that was always such an insult. Now, as a women with four children of my own two on the high yellow end and two on the dark chocolate spectrum 😂 I am witness to this entire dark skin vs. Light skin issue first hand.
It goes deep lol. But like I said everybody should be proud of their color. Self love is the best love
Wow! It hits different when it’s coming from your own father
@SUI GENERIS - I'm really sorry you went through that; I can't imagine. Perhaps it would be helpful to remember that while you got here THROUGH your father, GOD HIMSELF made YOU in His likeness. He thought of a shade just for YOU. He adorned (fully) BP with the widest array of hues and looks on the whole planet. Just think on that!
She dark as hell AND pretty as hell* 💁🏽♀️
In the words of one female UA-camr, "Parents love their dark skinned sons and their light skinned daughters." I still don't understand why at this point, Kelly Rowland is one of the only examples of a "pretty dark skin." Either way, being raised on colorism is a problem. I would also ask this: are light skinned women considered masculine when they behave in certain ways? Not usually.
These videos feel like when you would get a ride from your uncle, and on the way he hits you with some real talk
I like them dark too bro.
The skin never mattered. I loved black no matter the shade. I must say I love my dark skin self. I love the heck out of all black but i love my dark and I love all my shades of black. I will say I like the coarse hair though.
Because we live in America. We wouldn't be having discussion light and dark skin. Black people need to stop this shit. I'm am a beautiful chocolate sister and proud of it i'm so glad my father taught me that and my handsome black husband do too. We must remind our young chocolate daughters of this because id we don't we will continue to hurt them.
Your voice reminds me of T.I
What’s a shame is, ppl feel they have to justify liking dark skin women. No other culture gets shamed about wanted and liking someone who looks like them. 👊🏽
I Myself have Never Been bothered by ignorance.
Don't do this. What's better? A person who is beautiful inside and out. It doesn't matter the skin tone. Cuz if you hard on the eyes on the inside, you gonna be hard on the eyes on the outside. PERIOD.
Hated being the darker one growing up....TODAY I WOULDN'T TRADE IT FOR ANYTHING!!💜
Quick question. It’s a lot a content out there about black men going off on black women that are dating or married too nonblack men. But when it is the other way around then those black men are praised. Why?? Not all some.
I’m all for who u love is who u love.🤔
Jesus was black!