BLACK WOMEN ARE LOSING INTEREST IN BLACK MEN
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Black women have been neglected, disrespected, and blamed for alot of the problems in black culture. Fathers being absent from the home has caused them to have to take care of kids and run the household at the same time. Instead of being applauded for doing the best they could do, we blame them for men becoming feminine and them becoming too masculine. Due to this shift in the power dynamic, they've also been left behind in the dating scene due to interracial relationships. Black men have been overlooking quality black women and choosing to date outside of the race for decades. Now the tables are beginning to turn. Black women are losing interest in black men and they are becoming more open to dating white men. Statistics show that the divorce rate is significantly lower when they marry white men vs marrying black men anyway. In conclusion, they have started to realize that they are in fact valued, but it's not by the men they've been supporting and defending for so long.
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Black men was bashing black women so much on tiktok, that other races of males had to step in and make tiktok videos praising black women. I don't understand how black men don't see what's happening.
Like always, they walk right into the trap...
Disgusting
Well for 1)They never catch on and 2) they also don't care. They're just out living their life to the fullest and not really thinking about another blk person let alone their counterparts. Being empathic and having compassion towards black women is not their strongest virtues and that is one of their downfalls in life.
Black men have white homeboys that agree with them and bash black women it’s colorist and pathetic
@@brandihunter1073 Weak
His white girlfriend was literally sitting in the car, telling him that he is not worth any kind of status and instead of listening, he flat out denied it because he didn't want to hear the truth. How can you as black man just sit there and hear a white woman you're dating say you are not valuable because you are black and not feel some type of way about it? If i was him after hearing something like that, I would have immediately dropped her off at home, wished her a good luck, and went on with my life cause if that's how you feel about it...then there's no point in being together.
But nope. He stayed and she continued to spend his money. They have several videos like this.
Nah. He probably dropped down on 1 knee and proposed to her after hearing all that 🤣😂🤣😂
What is she doing with him if he isn’t worth the time of day and is seen as an embarrassment in her eyes? Why is he arguing this with her? Which one of them is the bigger fool?😂🤣🤪
@@HB-yk4ut she obviously told the man shes flat out racist and knows being with him,drags her reputation down as white woman while they use them to build theres up. so what other reason could she be with him for other than for her own personal gain?
Wait a minute thats not what she said. She said that other white people (white culture?) judge the situation in that way. She never said that because of his skincolor hes not worthy of her by her personal standards. You just read your own narrative in the situation. She just told him how the world outside of their relationship works. Listen more carefully next time instead of jumping to conclusions.
No other races degrades and talk bad about his own women like black men.
and black women getting sick of it, when one black man get kill who got his back a black woman is marching that street for justice, you may she couple if any whites, but 99% is the first mother of earth the black not the other way around weblack women get kill they say her mouth, but the black man have the same mouth.
Exactly
BW Are WORSE BM DON'T TRASH WE LOOKING FOR OUR NATURAL BW///AND BW REFUSE SO.....
You must be out of your goddamn mind black woman been bashing black men for the last 50 years in America Ricki lake Sally Jesse Raphael all you see is black woman bashing and Australian black mens image you are full of it
Where else are black women going. On the whole no other men want them.
I was married to a black man for 10 years. I held things down in our marriage… after all that he cheated and I got the strength to walk away.
A nonblack man jumped in my DM for 3 months straight, and I didn’t budge. He located my employer and sent dozens of roses to my job. A few days later, I accepted his dinner invitation. We have been together for 5 months and things are going great.
I will NEVER go back to any black man. They broke me and another man came along the way and helped me put myself esteem back together. Calling my beautiful, sexy, comforting me, showing me love, providing and protecting me.
Your so lucky !!!!!!
Have you for sharing. I feel def black man broken right now.
You had to have done something
You were just married to the wrong man period.
Just know that all black men are not like that and there are good black men out there.
Black men have been firing black women for years. Now black women are simply saying,”No, I quit!”
@Complex Ez ok so this is why they got fired. When you get fired you have to find a new job🤷🏿♀️.
@Complex EzWhen it comes to the welfare system when jobs were scarce and black men were losing jobs left and right (50s and 60s) the government told them that they would take care of their families but the husband had to move out of state leaving his family because he could no longer take care of them and it just spiraled from there. This is how it begin with the break down of the black family which in turn led to most of what is going on today. Black women is not at fault that is what society want people to think and only the weak minded and uneducated (not knowing our history) will fall for it. No offense to anyone because at one point in time i didnt know our history either
@Complex Ez if you can't provide more than welfare than what does that say about you 🤔
@Complex Ez In many cities/states you don't have to have kids to get housing. But i have a bm cousin who has mixed race children (black and white) he taught his boys to hate black women. Have you ever been subjected to anyone like that growing up?
@Complex Ez You gave reasons why you feel BM were justified for leaving BM. I am simply saying well fine regardless they don’t have them anymore so move on. I was being sarcastic but tone doesn’t always translate.
It's not just white men. Don't sleep Asian men. They're coming for Sisters too, lol.
Yep! 😊
Indeed! They also often offer higher respect and honor to their african descended women. Gotta love it💃🏾
Islanders eat us up
Oh yes! Some Asian men now are who admiring and valuing some of us. The younger generations are NOT shy to approach us neither.
Like fo real. Two Asians guys on separate occasions spend mins in the cold helping me with my car. Definitely appreciated it
Kings 💪
Black men chasing hair and skin tone.
@@sunkissed.x6229 🤣🤣
Yep
So true lol the ignorance ohh lawd
Truly a disappointment 🤣🤣🤣
I see no lies😂😂😂😂
We’re assuming that BM care; they don’t and never will. BM hate BW and have always been upfront about it.
Bw just like to dream that one day BM will care about them, love them, built for them, stop breaking up the families they create with them, marry them, protect them, respect them, defend them, march for them, provide for them, uplift them as much as they do for them, and it’ll never ever happen. The reality is bm hate bw and this is why bw will not get this treatment from the collective of bm. It may be a few blk couples out there where the man does all these things but it’s not something you see normally, it’s rare. As with other races of men they do all of this for their women and there’s a few bad apples around but not as many as compared to bm. Bw have done nothing bad to bm for them to turn on bw the way they’ve done, and still despite what they’ve done to bw and continue to not do for bw, many bw still support and praise them and get nothing in return of it because bm have already put it on the table they want u to always bring something to, that they are not about to treat bw like princesses and that they hate you the reason they won’t. No matter how feminine u try to be (because they say we are so masculine) you will always have to bring 50% or more to the table for them to even put up with you .
@@samsam-ko3fp EXACTLY
@@samsam-ko3fp because their mothers were extremely toxic and selfish. Emasculating their sons and pretend they didn’t do anything wrong.
@@knatxkyngxkoldofficialpage3020 ...do they hate their fathers?
@@AnNeachDorcha they don’t get to know their fathers because the mother pushed the father away and filled the child’s head up with negative things about him, but don’t mention her bad behavior and how toxic she was in the relationship. That’ll be the only reason they hate their father. It’s too common.
You go where your appreciated, not tolerated
That's exactly what I tell black women today. She better divest so she no longer needs to suffer under the hands of another insecure bm.
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@@miloudivyne I agree. The only reason bm don’t value bw because they know we’re too committed to our race and is not open to dating outside of our race. Open up your options ladies it’s go time
@@vavavogue4070 and decreasing our existence one swirler at a time. Sweet.
Tyrone, please stay with Becky and Selena. I think it’s a better fit for the both of you all. No hard feelings.
@Joel Montes who
@Joel Montes 💀💀💀
Even bottom shelf Becky and Selena aren’t settling for BM anymore. No one wants BM. EVERYONE WANTS BW. ❤️
Thank you
EXACTLY.
Date men who value, love and respect you, regardless of his race!
Exactly. I would never say.... I won't date a certain race of men, just because of one bad experience. That's crazy. Where is the hope?
Fucking PREACH
Exactly 💯
Best comment ever!!! Don't understand why this hasn't had more likes!!
Amen! Don't idolize any group. Take it on an individual basis.
I’m surprised it took black women this long to wake up! My friends use to clown me for dating white men then I’d hear all the shit they were going through with black men and couldn’t relate. I notice a big difference when it came to natural hair appreciation, white men always complimented me. The only two negative comments I received were from black men. Understand I went natural in 2009 before it became popular.
Depends on the black guy ya go for honestly.
@@wiseguy240Winston absolutely
Why do you think most black woman wear weaves? Who told ya'll your hair was ugly?
You're funny as shit for that comment . Black men have been team natural for years , but ain't care , but as soon as a white says he likes your natural hair ... lol
@@88meatwad comments like hers are why I don’t check for black women as a black man lol they love white men
Consider it grace that us black women took this long, because now we aren't ever coming back. I hate it had to take this long, I'm ready to see black women shining and happy
Im a white guy who has been married to a beautiful black woman for 21 years, best years of my life...just happened upon your video and wanted to say I believe you're absolutely right....my wife is Beautiful, I dont mistreat her, dont talk bad to her, I give her the respect she deserves, we work as a team, and I don't cheat on her, Black men are lucky, and Black women are special...Im honored to be with my wife..
Best Wishes to All....really a Great video!...
God bless you both, treat her like a Queen like a King you are👑❤
@Bernkastel Frederica thats right!
....and you live with her on the south side
ha ha ha ha
@@taalofaa No, actually we live in a 3700 sq. ft 500 Thousand dollar home, that we have both worked and paid for..and it's on the north side of town.
@@larrylane6025 I am glad you pay taxes living in a home go big and costly
I'm a dark-skinned black woman who goes 50 this year and I have literally over the years told white men no but hung in there with black men who I've spent YEARS supporting all while swallowing the excuses. I used to be angry and bitter like so many in my age bracket but this past year have decided to take responsibility for the choices I have made in men. Taking stock of where I am, I am physically fit with NO children (I have favorite aunt status), long natural hair, look like I'm in my 30s and I have a career in finance, have begun a switch to online trading so that I can eventually travel and work at the same time. That's my plan B. All my furniture is going in storage and I will be visiting friends and family worldwide for months at a time. What's holding me back? Nothing. I am open to whomever I meet along the way. My "exclusively black man" card is burnt. I still see the king in them but I wish them well. Peace and Love.
How inspiring!
I wish you nothing but the very BEST!💖💖🦋💖💖
You are officially my heroine!! Lol I'm turning 42, successful in my field, no children, beautiful little home, money in the bank, 2 cars, held out for that right blk man to build with and ended building by myself! Thanks for sharing! You are inspiring because I get slack for being childless and not married. I guess ppl could sleep better at night if I was a baby momma! No offense to all the woman raising children alone!
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sis I had tears in my eyes reading your plan..I admire you for courage and strength...I'm right behind you...I'm tired of low value BM who are not marrying material..I'm 40 got it together and keep a weekender in my trunk and a suitcase by my bedroom door. Stay ready ladies! 2021 level up for BW💜
Love this!
Any man who is NOT sowing into his own community is in essence destroying himself...
Very true and any "woman " as well
@@dranelgrim women don't drop seeds....
@@adavis2170 women have the choice to engage in relationships in their communities or outside... If bw decide to go another way they are guilty as well
@@dranelgrim look around your community and tell me how many single quality Black women you see? How many want to be married yet still aren't? Now ask yourself why?
@@adavis2170 too funny, but you invite the planter...lol
Black women aren’t giving up….we’re letting go!
Love that response, great description
@@misclaudiarene6752
Thank you dear
@@starelise1387 Girl Power!!!
@@Cassiuss LOL!!! Naker please! 9 times outta 10 y'all are looking for a couch to crash on so don't let the doorknob hit YOU on the way out and take your 3 trash bags with you Tyrone LOL
Yall pushed us away and we left
Also attention bw:
If you’re thinking of dating out, don’t just do it blindly. Dusties exist in every race. Keep your standards up and choose a man who will treat you like the princesses you are. Learn to love yourself so that you can find yourself someone who loves and respects you just as much as yourself. Ladies, even if you need to be single for a while in order to get yourself in the right mindset. DO IT !!! Anyways hope for the best ❤️
@eys 292 well said.
I know just open to dating different races
Character is always first...of course.
Most BM are whining jealous dangerous insecure mamaboys, even the ones with degrees...BM only want to go back to you to keep the WM away.
BW: no more cleanup woman
@eys 292 girl what? she said there are dusties in every race and to love yourself first and this is what you're saying? to go ahead and get yourself a bottomshelf brad because they're better than any black guy could be? yikes...
COINMASTER COMMENT!!💯
“How is it that a White Man can see more value in our women than WE see in our women?”
Chile, that’s why a lot of us BW collectively burnt the cape! BW are now going where they’re celebrated.
That part ... really sum to think about. 23, Just started talking to my first WM and he talks marriage/kids and making plans to do so on the reg. BM run from any conversation related to that or make you feel crazy.
Exaaaaactly! I burnt mine and its gone for good!
@@Misschels97 right! I want to be married and have my babies. I’ve had guys tell me they straight up never wanna be married but wanted babies with me. I think TF NOT.
@@1234erica56789 same, me too girl. They act like we got the cooties or sum 😂... or they scared to grow up idk 🤷🏽♀️
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There's also the fact of black women being labeled as gold diggers for wanting a good life but then these same men marry other women and have absolutely no problem providing etc for them. Eventually they end up having their kids and leaving them and they still have to fork out the money 🤦🏽♀️
Facts
What should we dig for? Take crap at the highest price. BW typically give so much for free and not even pebbles in turn. Gold is grand, 💎 is better.
True however, It the why some lot black woman go about it, that give them that label wht are less vocal wanting HVM, And I also think its how blk people see themselves generally. And what we perceive as value .
So true!!!!
White women are gunna learn real quick that they're getting the same black men that we are
As crazy as this sounds, I realized at a very young age that if I was to have any chance of happiness, I would have to avoid most BM. My father decided to up and leave me, my sisters and mom. We were not in a safe area and without the protection and provision of our father, we were vulnerable to predators and narcissists. My mom advocated for us in every way but she especially focused on giving us a quality education. I was one of very few black women on scholarship in a predominately white prep school. I naturally started to date my peers. It was a blessing as I have never had to deal with what I've seen the black women in my family deal with. My husband protects, provides and plans for our future. 20 yrs together, 18 married, safe, secure children. My wish is that every black women can experience a loving supportive spouse.
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We coming sis ..no worries ❤
@@jamaicanjoyh6883 You have to date out with the right type of person, not just any man of no color you see. Just take away the race aspect of it. The man must be a good man with a good personality, already established wealth on his own with a game plan for the success of his future lineage. Observe his family, you’ll learn a lot about him through his family’s characteristics (most are a lot alike if they’re a close-nit family). If you spot racist activity with one, cut your losses and move on, there will be more under covers in the family.
@@StopPlayingAtLife that's any man.i vet em but I wanna hear from sistah gurl
Edit: came back to revisit your advice.
I hold responsibility for my choices 😯 deceived 😢lied to....when I saw who they were I should have ran FASTER ...ill stop there
@@jamaicanjoyh6883 The historical aspect of how white men owned us and took us without us ever having a say has played a part in why it's been difficult getting us Black American women to date white. But ironically due to white supremacist policies and laws, we don't have much of a choice but to move on from Black American men.
In college, my African professor told the class black men in America are not respected around the world bc they do not respect their women. Just listen to some of the hip hop music lyrics. I love hip hop & black men, but you can’t disregard the facts. They will treat black women badly then go to another race & treat them like a Queens bc they see them as trophy, something they could not get in the past.
right !!!
Funny thing is, they treat them the exact same except now they're not a black woman.
You mean the same music every black woman on social media twerks to so people around the world can see?
@@kingvan143 yet other races of women imitate us whenver we create something new.
@@adventuresociety588 and how yall imitate them with the fake hair on now with the cosmetic surgeries
Black women are tired, our souls are tired, we are drained, physically and mentally, dealing with the way black men have been treating us.
Black women who never thought of being with a Non Black Man are now saying they are done with BM and are starting to date out. The movement has begun. And black women are beginning to feel hopeful in finding love, starting families and so on.
They won't be missed. I don't need the headache from BW.
As a black woman I would say its more of what we see with celebrities and on social media rather than in real life that influences this thinking. I may be wrong but I live around many happy black couples.
@@eman3414 good, being with a non black man is always an upgrade for black women, being with a trailer park 300 WW, who even their own men don’t want, it’s right on time for some of you Black Sorry Men,
😂😂😂😂 your speaking some real truths. I only hope that the message is being heard by the ppl who truly needs to hear 👂 it, are listening.
@@mfmarshall4478 yet u can't find no scriptures saying the white man is better. But I can show u where God says he hates white men. Romans
9 vs 13
It's 2023 and I'm starting to be open to other races. It's a hard pill to swallow but 🤷🏾♀️
l knows and this is sad
You won’t regret it, trust me. I was completely trauma-bonded to BM. Now, I’m in the best relationship I’ve ever been in all of my adult life; I’ve never been treated so well, and it makes me want to be better and better for him. He just happens to be a WM. He loves me in DEED and respects me. He sees my inner strength, degree, and career as assets that help Us thrive. He’s smart that way. Together we earn over 6f and we’re happy. I’m grateful for him every day, and it chills us to the bone when we consider how much we have in common and compliment each other yet we may have never even met had I not ventured out of the BM dating pool into the larger dating ocean.
@@pauliciachimihungerford YUP!!
Y'all ain't getting Whyte men y'all act like racism just disappeared and nobody wants you're package deals
@@rockfresh5359 whyte men are actually hetero and attracted to women so yes we are- they actually approach while y’all busy acting like bad b’s
I don't know how I stumbled across this video... but I am one of the BW that walked away from the BM collective. I haven't dated or been with a BM in nearly a decade. This was upon the realization 8 yrs. ago that the BM collective had a hatred and disdain for BW and children. I have never been protected, respected, valued nor loved by BM. And like many other BW have been devalued, mocked, violated, abandoned, and abused by them. So I walked away and never looked back. I'd be lying if I said I didn't find BM attractive but I know they don't genuinely value, love, or respect BW. You can't change people, but have to be aware of reality and just move on. I am not going to compete with non-black women for BM neither, BW are the only race of women that have to compete with non-black women for her natural counterpart. I gracefully bow out. Nothing but respect for BM who value, respect, protect, and love BW.
@@blueskyhorizon2308 the same women who birthed them, ironic right ! Bw just don’t see it. The only time you will see it is when the white privilege yall are running to kicks you up the ass. When yall are enjoying it yAll look down on black men.
@@jackcage1964 Go chase a check instead of these comments 🙄
We need a blexit movement for black women who walked away from bm
@@miloudivyne see! You just proved my point. I always love my dark melanin black women, even though you don’t respect us & never liked us. You look beautiful too! Just admit it you never wanted us , you look down on us. You’re just very much attracted to white men & respect him more?
@@miloudivyne I feel you... I divested years ago when I walked away. I even leveled up to where I reside in another country. So there's my blaxit... physically, mentally, and emotionally.
I'm a black professional woman dating a white professional man and he mentioned that his close white friends were impressed that he exuded enough confidence to attract a black woman. I found that really interesting...he is an incredibly loving and stable man and has made his intentions clear from the start that he's dating for marriage. knew him for a year before as a good friend, he respectfully courted me showed initiative and asked me out officially, making his intentions clear. Within 3-4 months of dating I met his mother and family. These men are serious out here.
I love my black men and its just so happened that I found someone who treats me well and checked the criteria I needed. I hope the negative black men don't ruin things for the good honest black men out there. Sending love always x
Wow you commented about what I was going to say about my best friend. She’s dating a white man right now that is treating her like she deserves to be treated. The only difference is that every black man she’s ever dated hurt and abused her some way (mentally, emotionally, and spiritually) and left her broken. It broke my heart seeing her go through that mess with black men. We always joke about how we could write a book about all the stuff she’s been through unfortunately. She’s finally in a healthy relationship with a (white)man that has been very intentional with her from day 1. He has introduced her to his parents and sibling. I’m so happy that you are happy. Blessings on you no matter who you eventually end up with🙏🏽🙏🏽
Its not surprising to me that his friends stated that. A lot of white men are scared to death to approach a black women, in fear that she won't find him desirable or just because they think we have 0 interest in them. A white guy from the UK ask me while we were in a NYC club, why do black men feel they own black women. So then there is that fear as well.
I am living this right now also and share the same sentiments as you. My SO’s friends, shite and black, are impressed that he had the confidence to approach me. Even strangers have responded that way .... which story for another day.
My advice to everyone: go where you are appreciated, loved and can build with someone whether they are white, black, Asian, mixed etc.
I love this!! I wish you the best girl!
GOD BLESS YOU SISTER BECAUSE GOD DOESN'T SEE COLOR BUT MADE US ALL HUMAN BEINGS MADE FROM ONE BLOOD..ONE NEVER KNOWS WERR THEY ARE GOING TO FIND LOVE..
As a white woman I can co-sign what he saying about white culture. Dating or even worse marrying a black man is looked down on. I don’t agree with it but it’s just facts
Pathetic.
@@Fatima-rz9vt it is pathetic. But I like I said, I don’t agree with it at all. I’ve been married to a black man for 14 years.
Thank you for being honest
@@Fatima-rz9vt How is it pathetic? You have a false sense of reality. Even if she agreed with it, it is her right to do so.
Idk, but I also kind of think that within Black culture it is as well. I wouldn’t say looked down on perse, since white women and culture are still on a pedestal. But I’ve noted and even engaged with the assumption that only a “certain type” of white girl will engage in an interracial relationship with a Black man. I was talking about this with my boyfriend, and it’s absolutely a sensitive subject bc it stereotypes and negatively categorizes many of us, which no one deserves. But it seems to be beneficial to have these conversations bc it’s quite literally affects how we live in and engage with the world
When a BW divest understand….. it’s the hardest decision ever to make. It hurts like hell. But she more than likely had to say it’s either
Me or them. And like every decent human would choose. She chooses her.
You ain't never lied smh.. The shyt we put up with just trying to hang in there, blk men ain't no way worth the stress they cause. I been out of Blackistan, ain't never going back.
You said it perfectly!! I just had to go through this awakening. I was always Pro black and refuse to date outside race but now I made the decision to choose myself and go where I’m celebrated 💙 It was the hardest decision in my life.
It’s like going through grieving
Facts💯
What hurts?? Only if you attracted to them. It's been a breeze for me.
It’s rare that I hear a black man read the room the way that you did ! Love it!
Looking in the wrong areas sis
@@Discipleofyeshuahamaschiach Where you from ? 😂
@@nenenash7 DC why wussup lol
Reading the room and giving a rat's ball sack are two different things, stop waiting on approval.
I withdrew my interest from Black men years ago. 15 years of marriage my white husband treats me like a queen. I never felt valued by Black men.
Sometimes it the choices in the blk men. I seen a lot of white men with blk woman and they would not get a chance if they were blk men equivalent.
@BeebsBonanza You are in all the comments just mad. 😂
@BeebsBonanza You’re mad she leveled up 😂
@BeebsBonanza I’m not saying dating a white man Specifically is leveling up. I’m in 100% support of black women going where they’re wanted and appreciated. There are fewer and fewer black men who actually provide and don’t talk down on our women, so black women are leveling up and not settling for less. I ultimately want to see black folks stick together, but so many of the men in our community are out of touch and we need to start holding each other accountable for the bullshit! Also, I absolutely do not support trump.
BeebsBonanza your a bum that’s mad!😂😂😂
As a black man I’m not very surprised. This video was insightful particularly where you touched on those statistics, it really highlights the foolishness in the black male community and how we are literally driving our own beautiful women away due to our ignorance. In the U.K. I’m already seeing more and more black women settling for white men, it’s a growing trend as you mentioned but something I’ve noticed for quite sometime over the years. A black woman once told me that some black women settle for white men because they genuinely find their natural features beautiful, by that I’m talking about their natural coarse hair. She told me that whereas black men would condemn black women for showing their natural coarse hair, quite a lot of white men really don’t care. As black men we need to honestly do better. Don’t allow yourself to be fetishised and stop acting as if non black women think your Gods gift to the world it’s complete arrogance and makes us look foolish. Date whoever you wanna bloody date man whether they’re black white or alien but show some respect to black women and stop dragging them through the dirt all the time.
Say it louder sweetie
I wouldn't say they settled. They went to where they were appreciated/love and could feel safe in their femininity to grow.
@Christian you're absolutely right.
Wow, so well said Brotha! As a black woman who has both personally experienced and witnessed this (literally on every continent), it’s nice to hear a black man so eloquently summarize such common themes and key points! Would love to hear more of your perspective and even to interview you at some point!
I wouldn't say settling, more like Leveling up🤣💕💕
As a black woman, I'm giving up on a lot of things.
You can't bring a girl up to be understanding, compassionate, kind, caring, diligent, and loving only for her to not be able to expect it in return.
I get sick of being told that it's okay for men to have a high body count, to cheat, have kids outside your relationship, and more where as if I did that he'd lose his damn mind.
I've been lonely my whole life, might as well roll on without the headache. 😶🌫️🤐
From elementary school all the way through high school I was called ugly by the black guys who went to school with me (and I went to predominately black schools so it was only black guys there), it lowered my self-esteem and I really thought I was the ugliest person ever so I gave up on boy’s completely and wasn’t trying to date anyone anymore. then by coincidence in my first year of college a white guy started talking to me and he said I was very beautiful, that was the FIRST time a guy has ever called me beautiful other than my dad and I actually remember crying cuz I was surprised someone thought that about me, now me and the white guy are dating and it’s been like 2 years he’s so nice he always calls me queen and pretty and we always are hanging out together watching movies and other stuff, he never asked me to do anything sexual if you’re wondering cause me and him are Christian and he said we can wait together I honestly am so happy he makes me happy 🥰
I’m glad you found happiness
Awwww....such an all-in-one, painful and sweet testimony....please share your update after you two move to the next step....
This is so cute! I really hope you update!
Good. Wish more BW could achieve this. So many stuck in the toxic ill fated cycle of “black love”
ugly is how you behave, how you smell, what you say
As a black man this video ruined my whole weekend. I'm not on social media, for the specific reason to keep negative shit out of my life. With that being said I had know idea it has become a trend to bash black women. And as a man who truly appreciates black women I feel like guys like me should have been standing up checking this ignorant shit at the door.
We've wanted y'all to do that for so long. Even the ones who were aware chose to stay out of it and just said ignore it. Ignoring it didn't help
Just love whatever woman God sends you.
Thank you!
That part King👑
The fact that you said “i have know idea” is why we are leaving you ingrates in droves 😂
I'm a black woman. I'm married to a black man. According to my mother, he is just like my Father. My Dad wouldn't curse at or around women. He was chivalrous and a strong protector. He bought a shotgun when I was born. My husband is a "dinosaur". He loves me and shows it . He takes care of myself and our children. No baby mama's. He is so smart. He just happens to be college educated. He is a gentle giant with me. He is an All True Man. Thank you, Husband. I love you
There was a time that Black men were mountains. Those mountains still exists sometimes.
May God bless & protect your beautiful marriage!! 🙏🏿🙏🏾
Believe it or not that kind of guy gets zero love from most black women.
I concur, I was blessed with An Amazing Black Man. I see the dusty derelict Pathology going on with black men. I call it out every time because it disturbs my spirit. The dust mites needs a reality check bad. I give them it to them Unapologetically.
God bless you and your family.
Every low down thing that has happened to me has been at the actions of a BM. BM as a collective are doomed... As far as I’m concerned YtW can have them…they deserve each other.🍷👏🏾
This is ugly TRUTH!
@Tré D Tre’🙄😁 Divested BW don’t care what BM (and their preference women) do, say, or think. Find the woman (or man) of YOUR dreams and be happy 👋🏽
Unfortunately that is true for me too. I'm not 100% divesting bc there are some unicorns out there but yea they all get the side eye til they show and prove 🧐
@@alicia_nicole You’re young…there’s more hope and I hope he comes along and is worthy of you. But for me…DIVESTED! 🙏🏽🌹❤️🍷
Same here gal. Me too. Every single one of the most terrible experiences I’ve ever had in my life was linked to a bm
I’m 47 and I never could understand why some black women are so opposed to dating men of other races. I see no reason to be loyal to black men or any other race of men exclusively. I’m loyal to ANY MAN who is RESPECTFUL, KIND, LOVING, and WILLING to LEARN, GROW, and BUILD with me.
Because we want black children
@@azuredelcielo9151some of you amaze me and are major reasons for NON-PROGRESSION. Do you!
I get wanting to have black children. I truly do. I really want a beautiful dark skin child like me. But as a child of a black father who isn’t around. I rather have a biracial child with a father. Then a black child without a father.
Exactly!!
@RO Dizzle I am divorced. My husband was black. The man I’m dating at the present is German.
If you throw a Pearl down on the ground you can’t be mad when someone else sees it’s shine and picks it up.
One man's trash is another man's treasure. Yes indeed..😁😉
And?
THIS👏👏👏👏👏👏♥️♥️♥️♥️
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Democrats killed black America
....my (black) daughter and all of her black girlfriends don’t want nothing to do with a black man bc all their experiences with black men have traumatic, abusive ,empty and loveless
@Pixel Smile she probably saying among blk pool of men...slim picking on that good part. Js
@Pixel Smile most Blackmen are not marriage material....no matter what...
I taught my daughters the same thing!
@@sophinal sams with black women every black girl I’ve dated ist realtionship material
@@sophinal Factsssss
🥀Until the black man respects the black woman, no one is going to respect him. A black man comes from a black woman and he should value her like he does his mother.🌹I am a black woman who L♥️VES and Respects black men. My father is black and my mother is also, they stayed married until my father died. 🙏
Good way to generalize and your parents aren't the only black couple to stay together their whole lives.
Have a nice life!
@@ericjordan6059 she didn't generalize she made a statement. Be mad somewhere eles.
@@vixen-i4g ... I'm married, 20-years strong. I don't get mad like an animal and there is no need in me being upset over your misfortune. I made comment referring to her statement, which is a generalization whether you like it or not. Maybe you didn't learn comprehension in school.
Do better!
@@ericjordan6059 You actually do sound very mad...
@@IK_4 .... Ummmm, not really. You people assume too much.
To be honest, white men always treated me better. We talked about hopes, dreams, investing, growth, etc. My brothers were only interested in one conversation.
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Yeah they WANT you.
Social media got YOU stupid
White men want y’all for one thing, y’all are falling for it.
@@user-rl6px5ob3d all men want us for the same thing but the level of commitment and support had been phenomenal. My brothers have often seemed more indecisive. I'm a business owner and investor.
I have 3 sons and have homeschooled them all. Helped them establish credit at 17 and 18. Middle child bought his first house at 22, baby is buying now 25, oldest is avid stock investor and working on his retirement plan. My black son's are not the norm in the black community so women like me don't have time for men who don't have their shit together. Basic credit scores, money in the bank, their own home. Many times my brothers are not saving and investing. For me, and only for me, I can't speak for all women, if we can't talk growth, we can't talk. Have had some experience with all races and just speaking on my experience.
@@og-greenmachine8623 wonderful reply. May I ask what you bring to a black woman's table? How do you improve her circumstances as a male? Would love to dialogue.
@Xynari Peugh lol. Then I think I already met him. Thanks for your comment. You made my day! #womenempowerment
Black women have huge hearts and are strong and we don't take bullshit. Let it be a curse. I'm not living on my knees. We do what makes us happy and some can't deal...not our problem.
okay, but what if there is no bullshit you have to take? Is he gonna be "boring or corney" to you
I hate that narrative that black women are strong. If you're so strong by yourselves, why are you searching men?
Self righteousness and loneliness go together. The hood reflects this and will only get worse. Commenting on it is just for therapy but in long people are to be how their going to be. Adapt or get left behind. You can't alter reality to be the reality that only exist in your head. Whimsical nature pertains to putting a incompetent person in charge of things and making excuses for their missteps when in reality this person was doomed to fail from the jump you're just a bad judge of character and don't know true talent like a sports team with a bad owner and a bad front office. That's why the Golden State Warriors sucked for forty years until they started acting and thinking like a professional franchise trying win. Winners think differently from losers. Losers feel sorry for theirselves and make excuses for why their not more successful than they are. They want you empathize with them telling their story or the narrative they create so they can still have a level of self respect even though they are loser based upon being half-assed not wanting to do what it takes to win. Don't let people like this tell you how you need to be and how you need to act.
@@chanelle7823 Agreed because it is no compliment to label BW as strong and to be honest that’s actually what the white supremacists agenda promotes to destroy the black family unit well the part where they have Independent Women on the list
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I'm definitely not strong. Speak for yourself on that one.
I briefly dated a white man who told me he loved my strength and how expressive I was. He said he didn’t think it triggered white men the way it does black men because we don’t remind them of their mothers.
His words, not mine. Just reporting from the scene. ✌️
Wow makes sooo much sense
You have to ask yourself why are so many black men having hatred for their mothers? It says something about black womem raising kids does it not?
@@madlaz5795 it certainly does …it says that black woman are challenged with the added workload of their absent partners.
It’s amazing we don’t have even higher crime rates, given how lopsided the familial responsibilities are in our community.
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Send them this way... this Hispanic loves Black women.
T L it’s all good in my eyes. Latinas and Black women are beautiful
@Marie Baker I love Black women 😍
@Marie Baker that’s great. No, I am single.
Same foo
I wish I knew where they are at in my city because it’s a bit old school around these parts.
Bravo for speaking truth to power. Black men that don't uplift their women will suffer devastating karmic consequences
Are black people in general receiving some type of karmic consequence? I don’t know what can happen to BM that hasn’t already happened. Edit: This is a genuine comment and the question is not rhetorical.
I couldn't agree more
I concur!
Yep look at Dr Dre and Kanye
He is pandering don't for it
Yes, I turn my back years ago. I saw my friends getting knocked up and never getting married. White men always hot on me, I took a chance. 10 years married to a a great wm. While all my friends are on the 3rd baby daddy and depressed. I have no regrets
You doge a bullet sis, happy for you!!♥️♥️♥️
Same!!!
Congrats 🎀💜🎀
Do your family and friends accept him? Have there ever been any racial issues between him and your family/friends?
I don't mind dating whomever is for me what I don't want is a man with a racist family. I already don't have family
Same here. I got no attention, none of them ever noticed me until this white polish boy put a ring on my finger. All of a sudden I was a trader, they kept trying to then give me attention. Like a kid that has a bunch of toys but won't play with some until he sees someone else Wanting to play with them .
I don't have a problem with black men I love em, but the ones I encountered didn't like me and I eventually gave my attention to someone else.
I wished I would have made the decision back when I was young. It would've saved me a lot of heartbreak.
When I was dating through college and my 20s, the Black men I was interested in were interested in white women. Fine, I started dating the men who showed that they were interested in me. Now I'm married to a white man, 18 years in, and with 2 children.
❤❤❤❤❤ follow the love
More power to you for making that decision
Same story. 35 years in. Women just want to be loved, married, and to have children. Black Women want to raise their children in a home with their husbands, and with the father of their children.
@@crownclearwater3152 agreed. Based on the commentary on youtube it seems like it is too much to ask.
Saddens me that u felt the need to pollute & weaken ur Eve gene. Hopefully ur children chose to restore strength to ur bloodline by procreating with men & women with melanin. Absence of melanin is absence of Universal connection (soul)
#MelaninISPower
Every human being wants to be loved and cherished. When I was married to a black man. He was abusive, condescending, wanted me to build him up but treated me as if other women were better than me. After divorce I found a white male who treated me like a queen. I didn't have to suffer his insecurities. His #1 trait was loyalty. We are loyal to each other. Now I walk like a queen. No need for a black man's approval, who really doesn't love himself. Do the work of healing yourself. Then you will have no need to break another.
Similar story here too, sis.
You said the truth
Yes mam we do , not treated like we are their servant ... color is never the issue with me it’s how a man treats me and shows me respect ... Appreciate who you have ...
So glad for your happiness! May you and your spouse treasure each other, for many years to come....
I know many black loving couples too...and these men cherish and worship their black wives. So, i understand what you're saying, but it's not all black men..i'm happy for your happiness and i wish you all the best.
I'm glad that I married a black woman.
Im glad for you too
❤🖤
Bol! I almost thought you were my husband posting on here. Your Pic favors him Aaron. And we are a beautiful black couple with a beautiful son and another baby on the way. These comments and this post makes me sad. You and your wife keep being a positive image of black love.
Glad I'm married to a GOOD blk man.
@@qualitybeauty4195 I concur... it's sad and the dating scene currently seems like trash. Too many hurt individuals trying to be together. I'm happy to be married to my black husband as well. I wish the same for my friends, which most have black boyfriends and are black themselves.
I was so heart broken for young blk girls who were on Tik ToK, like dang bmales are out here crushing their spirits way too early. Fast forward a year, I see young blk girls promoting swirling, and paired up with nonblk boys. It was at that point I knew it was a wrap. In order to have “blk love” you need the minds and hearts of the young and impressionable maiden to both imagine and believe in it before she becomes bitter to the reality of what “blk love” truly is. I’m just happy that the pain and suffering have finally ended for BW and girls. I call this era the rebirth of the divine feminine.
Beautiful statement gorgeous!
@@glowuplife likewise beauty.
@Thais Hayes beautiful sentiment. I was married in college and had a very decent brother. I wanted to be courted even after marriage though so that didn't go too well with a striving law student then new lawyer. Before i knew it, i was a mother but the bottom line is i was never courted pursued or romanced the way i envisioned. I can't tell you how many black men told me i was unrealistic for wanting this that when i would find one that wasnt speaking that rhetoric i latched on but unfortunately a lot of these men are broke and broken. I've been divorcec 8 years now and single and celibate 6
@Baby Truth sad truth
You are gorgeous. 😍😍😍
I am a Hispanic woman and I love when I hear men speak highly of black women, especially black men.
Amen💯
I am a black Hispanic woman and I’m curious to know are you black? I ask because this video is talking about race
Thank you 😊...sending love
Black men don’t understand how uncomfortable they’ve made EVERYONE with their bashing of their own race of women. It’s confusing to see a man more obsessed with women outside of his race than those within.
It refreshing. I had other ethnic group say this
“Black men become popular when black women support it.” And this goes over so many heads. If black women stop, the whole community shuts down. The same with white men. So why wouldn’t two superpowers join forces? Side note....Your skin is really beautiful.
One community is thriving,the other one is in the toilet, because nothing "moist" matriarchal lead will ever succeed,your delusion is definitely clinical.
@@rharden66 it’s a failed patriarchy.
@@ogolden8315 You mean a failed equality. There was never a Patriarchy you feminist, we tried to work with y'all because you would never allow a patriarchy you claimed it was slavery and abuse & now you want to blame us for that too. Rediculous.
@@LukaDonesnitch FAILED PATRIARCHY. Until BM accept this and do what’s needed, you won’t advance and be respected by other men.
@@ogolden8315 Do you not understand how to read? BW didn't want a Patriarchy sweetie. Act like women and you'll have men who want to be men. Stop making this a one way street to absolve women of any responsibility.
As a black woman, happily engaged to a white man, I see a lot of truth in what he's saying. I've always dated outside my race and my black female cousins would poke fun at me about it. Those same cousins came to me years later saying they need a white man because they're disappointed with black men or let down. 🤷🏾♀️
bye my cousins are constantly making fun of me when i show them my crushes 😭
Jim James shut up :)
Jim James You Want To Kiss Me So Bad
Wait.. I had to stop scrolling and comment. It's refreshing reading that others went through this with fam. I'm biracial (black and islander) and have a white boyfriend. The black side of my family gives me shit.. mostly older relatives have a problem, but younger too. I'm from California and live in Ohio now where my black side is. I was brought up differently and surrounded by diversity... So when I get shit for being with someone white and being told, "He's just not for you". With absolutely no reason attached. Its something I have problem with. In the same token.. I might also be joked about for being mixed. Reminded that I'm black for having dry hair one day.. when I'm aware and recognize I am equally.
Just makes you really dislike the world. I wasn't brought up thinking I had to be with a black guy, or told that it is disrespecting our struggle to date outside. I date whoever I want. Its just racism... and still exists in some black families and white families. (Going off what I hear and see where I live.)
Its ok to date whoever you want and I'm glad to hear your cousins said that years later. Ppl are stupid.
Well was it your cousins fault as well. Always blaming bm but having no accountable for themselves.
I'm just sick of the attitude, entitlement, selfishness, the dumb ass lies for no reason, the covert, malignant narcissism, the gaslighting, the harsh rejection, the cruel treatment and immaturity. I'm not even going to get into not defending nor protecting me (although I can do that myself but...) Not appreciating me. That's what I'm tired of. I do know that this is and can be a universal to all men but it just seems more prevalent coming from black men.
👏🏾👏🏾 couldn’t have said it better myself. They don’t respect or appreciate us at all
God delivered me from a situation where I experienced ALL of this. And he dated WW.
He couldn’t handle me. And that’s just fact.
@@Drando1989I'm glad you were able to get out of that. I'm dealing with it now. Treat them (WW) like queens, be all understanding, AND AFFECTIONATE and actually have conversations with them. Me getting him to talk to me is like pulling teeth, never affectionate and there is no understanding what so ever. I know I will be delivered from this mess soon by the grace of GOD 🙏🏽
No lies detected. They hate US it's all over the internet.
And they forget the FACT that they have been birthed by a black woman! I'm thinking do you feel this way about your own Mother, Sister or your Daughter? Makes no sense to me 🤷🏽♀️
He can’t handle the truth she’s telling straight to his face😩
Exactly and it’s soo sad like
I pity him tbh
It's that for meeeeeee🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What video was that
Sadly this is the reaction of most blk men. Who find value in another race instead of themselves
If BM weren’t so vocal about their hatred of BW this wouldn’t be happening. BW are truly divesting from BM, this is a very real thing. BM have themselves to thank. Stay over there with Becky...nothing to see here...
People like you are apart of the problem.
@@justchilling704 Okay🙄
@@IK_4 nah.. being ok w/ generalizing us as a whole.. is NO DIFFERENT from how we’re treated in society.. we’re all thugs , criminals.. unfaithful..
Ok.. you know me personally based off someone else’s behavior.. it’s fucking dumb..
@@stix1096 At this point its just over. BM have been doing exactly what you are describing to us for over two decades. Dude it's over 😔
Crazy thing is Black women will hold down trifling black men who wouldn't give them a second thought with a vengeance....
Big facts
True af
Preach!
We are real. Authentic. Loyal. Ain’t nobody realer.
@@marilynmonheaux And BM take full advantage of that tho
I’m a black woman and I recently married a white man and I must confess that everything this man is saying is true. Black men are not it for a lot of women.
come on! Just because you have one white man who loves you does not mean all of them do and the reverse is also true!! What is up with all this generalisation!!!
@@calebjuma7648 She said A LOT, not ALL. And it’s true. Marrying a black man is not a priority or a must anymore. Black women’s eyes are opened and they’re seeing their options. It’s not just white men. There’s Asians, middle easterners, Latinos, etc. etc. I would never marry a white man because of our history in America. But other races is fine with me. 😂
@@thisblackgirloverhere9013 thank you, he clearly misunderstood what I was saying.
@@nikisaun8768 You’re welcome! 😁
I’m just curious... What is the big difference that you’re experiencing being married to this white man as opposed to being in a relationship with a black man?
What’s making me look at our men differently is several different reasons…… but the major one is our men don’t take dating and relationships seriously and we’re tired of it…… They don’t grow up or change or evolve they don’t think about providing for a family a and stay stagnant and don’t try to make more money like we do 😩😩😩😩
Girl, I been side eyeing them like crazy these last couple years. My very last attempt to try to be with a black man took me out of the game altogether. They are canceled off my list. I don’t want the lot of them. I date everything except for them.
Once black women start that movement.....that part....you know the shit
It’s over after that lmao!
BW are the tastemakers we set the tone for so many other races. We just never get credit.
I've been telling people for years that our dating pool is being gentrified and NOT in the black man's favor. Some things are not appreciated until some other group sees value or until those things are gone. Just saying.
This is a very on point comment. Would love to connect with you and speak more. On my channel @OmegaCourtney we're going to be discussing this video Thursday
I’ve been saying this too Sis....100% ....if you look at television and movies the narrative is already changing, before often times when we watch TV, watch a movie, see a commercial, it was a black man and a white woman.... pay close attention because now you’re seeing black women and white men in commercials, movies, tv shows, etc. they are now representing the family Dynamic...keep your eyes open Fam.
What other group is marrying black women more than black men?
@@O4OTIS Black Men may currently be the largest group that are actually marrying Black Women because Black Women have not explored non-black relationship options in the capacity that Black Men have. I believe the point that is being conveyed in the video is that Black Women are now open to doing so and as a result, we will begin to see interracial marriages between black women and white men rise.
You got it. Thank you
The black woman is ACTUALLY the symbol of beauty, if that wasn't the case you wouldn't see these other women trying to make their bodies look like black women. IDK why black men don't understand that. You have to take time with any woman for a relationship to work so the color shouldn't matter. I love my sister's.
It's the Kardashians' fault
@@lelechim sure is
Oh man sit yo ass down
What about black women bleaching they skin, wearin bleu contacts, and wearing weaves wigs and blonde hair?
Even the Disney princesses look like black women. Big butts and lips, except Sleeping Beauty hehe
Brother you are on point, and it's sad and embarrassing too. I have two sons in their 20s and I try to instill in them the importance of loving and respecting yourself. Once you do that then you can love and respect others, to include black women. I knew eventually our egos would get us in trouble, saw it coming a long time ago ( I was a part of the same Tom Foolery back in my early 20s). Thank God I straightened up and got me a beautiful black queen ( 29 years now ). To my sisters, make sure finding love and respect are your priorities, no matter what race it comes from.
Most of us want to be with someone who values us. Black men are hyper sexualized and we are tired of that. I want someone who can have genuine feelings, emotions, morals and values. Not someone who just want physical attributes. Women stop limiting yourself to just black men. There is a whole sea of brown and white men out there, who will treat right. You would be surprised.
News flash dear, ALL ME ARE HYPER SEXUALIZED. You make other races of men sound scared of pussy or something. However as s a man I know different.
I appreciate you my brother always, thank you. I am a mother of 5 boys and married for 16 years to an African who lied about his entire life . Overall, he married me for citizenship, used me and abuse me in everyway. Took every dollar I saved ,sent to his wife in Africa and kids I knew nothing about. Had sex with friends and family members behind my back . Move back to Africa and Ghost my kids and never looked back . I no longer look at bm period nor African man. It's a cold world for men and women .I gave up and I pray to God that he restore my culture because I have 5 African American sons and I don't want them to be lost . This hurts so much as a mother. I try to push my self to open up but still nothing, out of touch. I can never forget how I was hurting deeply while trying to fight for my life. I had to experience so much in order to learn in which took me to an entire new level in my life for the better. I don't trust people period but I love people. I keep my circle small and focus on loving my boys . I want my boys to know how to love correctly and I pray that my God allow my son's to see what it take to me a real strong man as the leader but a father that knows how to build a foundation no matter what happens. God allow my son to see and learn that he's an African American 👑 who are natural born leaders . Life is what we make it ! Love is the most important thing of our universe and it is definitely needed.i pray that our universe learn how to love each.
What you think testosterone does? 🤔 getting physical is important
@@jarrellstyles shhh! Don't tell them that lol! Apparently White men don't have testosterone according to the sistas.
@@jarrellstyles Having a high sex drive doesn't mean treating people like sex objects, that's called sexual exploitation. Have sex, don't let sex have you!
Um...ok so I am a white woman with biracial kids, Black stepkids, and some biracial nieces and nephews. Can I tell y'all what made me incredibly uncomfortable? When I was pregnant and out with my kid's father, some White women would approach me to proudly declare "omg I have mixed kids too!" Like we're in a special club or something. Lady, they're not designer handbags. I didn't do this to have some kind of...racially exotic baby? I don't care who dates or married who because, honestly, so many different cultures are coming together over time that it's the logical outcome. That's life who cares? But what makes me sad is when Black women are looked down on and told they're not as desirable as White or Asian or whatever. Conversely, I don't like how bagging a White girl is like a status symbol and she just becomes an object. It's messed up that White ppl who date Black ppl are sometimes seen as low class. These mentalities are just so strange and backwards to me. Ppl are ppl. U like who u like. That's it. Side note, my Black gfs who decided to take a chance and date outside their race? almost all of them are in good stable relationships so that divorce stat he gave is actually really interesting. Edit: sorry for the essay just wanted to get that off my chest.
Bravo! Well put. Thank you for speaking your truth. Your truth really needed to be shared. Wishing you much love and light. 💖
So glad you mentioned mixed children being looked at as designer hand bags that a whole other subject🙄
May I ask for insight on the state of the ww and bm pairings in ur life like how u gave for ur black homegirls? Sorry if I’m being nosey. I just wanna see the difference.
@@Damnsaburna Lol it's ok it's a fair question. Honestly? Three of the WW are happily married to lovely BM with children. The rest (and it's the majority I'm not gonna lie to u) are baby mommas and either don't have very good relationships with the fathers or hardly ever see them for various reasons (not always the fault of the fathers).
@@earthangel0016 You're very sweet thank u 😊
This was a year ago…you should do a follow up because now we are burning capes left and right. I’m here for it.
@@77kc_77 65 % black men are not dating, we understand the hate for us, trust me we understand it. That 35% of black men are worrying about that marriage bs, But the rest of us are dying solo in peace which is cool. Most black men don't believe in marriages only 35% need Marriage.
@@77kc_77 Within that 65% only 3% go to jail for minor weed charges or such and we don't listen to rap we listen to audiobooks at work
@@77kc_77 What's even more sad the dude on this channel will fight you and protect you, But yet you hate him simply because he's black
As I black women. I can tell you that me and my friends( also black women) are tired and have basicslly given up on black men. We’re over the colorism, disrespect, and being constantly put down. A few of my friends have had extremely loving and caring relationships with men of other races. It’s like everywhere that a relationship has failed with black men, has progressed with men of other races(that’s not to say the failure of the relationship is based on race). I personally just feel more appreciated and care for with other men.
Then stay away from black men. We most likely don't like you for a reason. Bye!
@@spectrestatus7110 already done. But one question are you big mad or little mad ?
@@justcallmero6087 You the one that just wrote a whole paragraph about how much you hate black men. The mad one is you lol
@@spectrestatus7110 and your the one who replied to it. I never once said I hated black men in said paragraph just that I’m tired of them.
Black women have beem played for years by the white people wake up ladies they want you to hates us
It's not just white men that love us. It's all different cultures but for some reason black men treat us like we are expendible.
True. True
Isn't this road two ways?
@@laisphinto6372 most definitely I was speaking on my experience and those around me.
Well you should see how black women talk about light skin black men. Don’t act all innocent.
Cos black males hate themselves, esp the darker skin tones.
I just saw this vid today, 3 yrs after it was made and he aint lyin lol...
I’m dating a non black man and the difference is astounding sadly. I want beautiful black babies, but I will only marry for love.
@Marie Baker haha um well I like whatever I like at this point.
You can always adopt! That's what I plan to do
This, i’m going to do what’s best for me though and go where i’m celebrated. I hope you do too
I wanted chocolate babies too girl
Im dating an awesome wm. I love him dearly💜
I won't sacrifice my happiness for a soul that doesn't exist
Adopt
Damn this video is sad. I’m married to a white French man. But we just genuinely fell in love. He is the funniest, most patient, supportive, loving and smartest man I’ve ever known. I married him because we couldn’t stand to be apart. And he still tells me every day he can’t live without me. I just want everyone to find that love and passion, regardless of what that person looks like.
I want to feel this loved. Proud of you sis
@@yaapeasah4443 Me too...tbh I wonder if he has a brother 👀
@@ULuvJanae I wonder if he is a brother.
Beautiful!
Félicitations à vous, ça c’est le vrai love que Dieu vous bénisse ! 🤍
#ThankYou 🖤
I had a Mexican man try to hook me up with his cousin. I said I’m married. He said my bad. I never see your husband, I forgot you were married. I thought you would be a good fit for our family. You’re family oriented, hard working and a good sense of humor! Wow, I was blown away! Others are watching!
Wow! What a compliment. Latinos take family very seriously, generally speaking. You got an invite to the quinceanera. 😁
@@blaqjade1384 initially I thought that then became upset that others could see the neglect in my marriage. 😫
@@trisha1989 I know...😢
@@justasiam6863 awwww….we (adults) just makes things so complicated! 💕💕💕
I went natural in '03, and I'm telling you THIS is spot on! Everywhere I would go, a white man and white people in general would show fascination and appreciation for my tight coils and curls. But BM would ask me WTF I'm doing with my hair. Even some BW would make comments like, "Oooh, I couldn't wear my hair like that." Just sad.
“Preference doesn’t want me. Time to settle down with who actually wants me. Not who I actually want” 🤒
Exactly !! Please Sydney💛 make a video about this bm pondering to bw. This man is no lover of bw... he has found a way of making money and getting sub unfortunately bw are to naive too see liars, ponders, users & enemies 😩
@@EH-ik6rd I already am boo. Hence the reason I see through the bull.
Correction. “We black women *WANT* to go where we are *APPRECIATED, WATERED, AND NOT TOLERATED!*
@@MyronsBaldspotLovesKevSamuels this comment blew over your head
@@EH-ik6rd Damn, you clearly hang on Kevin Samuels every word 😂 Go police Beckys page please
This is so true several females in my family are now dating n marriage outside their race. My aunt that’s in her 50 finally got married n it was a white man. The black guy she dated for over 25 years never asked her to get married n played games. My cousin been married to a white guy for ten years now. I just started going on dates outside my race n experience much better dates with no craziness or drama.
Wooow imagine dating someone for 25 YEARS 2 DECADES PLUS 5 YEARS and they STILL haven’t asked you to marry them and playing games the fuckin GALL 🤢
@@sammythestrawberry6956 honestly if marriage isn't brought up in conversation after 3-5 years of dating you need to leave cuz some men will really have you as a gf for the rest of their lives....
@Beg Your Pardon I have to agree with you. You have to be a potential husband before getting any. It is weird for me too.
If only more BW actually did this instead of hoping for some “black love”. Y’all should of been divested and in droves.
@@sketchyxp6281 you are better off. Ain’t no “maybe”
This 🎯
Elohoooooo!!!!!💗💗💗❗❗❗pls do a vid on this
Eloho!!! Beautiful melanin queeen❤.
Eloho❤️
@Eloho, Yes, sis! Reality hits hard. LOVE YOU SIS
Are u doing a reaction queen?
I’m so happy to see Black Woman interracially dating. It’s a beautiful thing as long as they respect you and treat you right.
Are you happy to see black men date interracially too😂
I’m not trying to troll you, but you’re literally not saying anything new or profound. It’s sucks that it took Becky to say it for y’all to awake out of your slumber. Enjoy this next era 😢
Exactly, because Becky realizes that they are getting the same black men that black women are getting, they are not being treated any different then black women, they are being cheated on, the only guarantee that Becky has with BM is that he will surely make her a Baby Momma.
@@mfmarshall4478 💯 sad. Same with all the other non black women as well
@@mfmarshall4478 If anything BM treat WW worse than they treat BW. Why? Because who BM really want is WHITE MEN. They are jealous of all women and white women just remind them of what they don’t have. Black men want to be courted by white men like little girls. It’s actually sick.
🔥🔥🔥💗💗💗
Hey black queen. Hit me up. I’ll treat you right.
I'm glad I'm not the only Black man who sees this! I live in Canada and I can see what's going on in the US. I'm based in Toronto and the same conditions is happening up here too, not to the same degree but we definitley headed in the same direction. A lot of Black people in Toronto try to seperate themselves from what's going on in the States, so Black males try to ignore the issue of other males OPENLY hating on Black women like it is normal among all cultures.
Gender wars is here too. Even some of the BM who say they want BW want them to settle for less. They think a BW who wants the bare minimum man who owns a car and a place to stay is high maintenance or gold diggerish. Some also think colorist and put down dark skin for light skin. This city in general loves to promote swirling in ads and commercials. People look at me crazy when I say I want to be with dark skin women, one time my whole workplace with Black and white folks thought I was racist for it.
I check any self hate around me from males who can't respect Black women, I know that's not much so that's why I keep a small circle of Black men who only deal with Black women. I don't hang with Black males with that weird energy. I'm sorry Black women have to deal with this sad state of affairs. The only solution I'm putting my energy in is increasing my value, so I can influence Black boys to grow up and respect Black women to raise a family. Unfortunately, most of the grown Black males are already buck broken and stuck in their misogynoir and colorist ways.
They called you racist for wanting to marry a black woman. Wow. Love all the comments you made.
Yes even BLACK MEN GET PUSH BACK FOR WANTING TO DATE THEIR OWN! FACTS...THEY GET PUSH BACK FOR PRAISING BLACK WOMEN TOO. FACTS.
You're one of the reasons I don't give up on black men. I'll be dammed if I allow the world to divide the black household.
❤️
@Hen Si 🎯
Fast forward exactly one year and the shift is happening before our eyes.
I dont care who the black man dates.... I understand I am not black man desires. I just don't like for the men to put us down!
@Meowxmoon Thank You for this❤
@Meowxmoon Afro Latino are colorist and hate Black women
@Proud Habesha exactly
Meowxmoon thank you 🙏🏾
White woman: Black Man “You’re only the prize if you’re a rich athlete!”
Say it one more time
Say it louder sis 🙌🏾
All the stories flooded my mind after reading this😂
The black guys ain't seeing that at all.
💥 boom
Damn if you didn't call it Shumake. While I'm not fully black, I am so tired of seeing black women being shitted on by black men. I have my own personal experiences of being abandoned by my black father and being sold a dream by BM that showed fake interest, only to be used and discarded. I'm seeing more and more BW/WM couples in my area and in my travels and it makes my heart happy every time I see them out and about with an aura of calm and peace surrounding them.
"I wonder why we take from our women, why we rape our women do we hate our women?" Tupac..
Taradise34 dummy then he said fuck bitches and hoes later on smh
Are you on bath 🧂 or what 😳
@@Taradise34 no but you are cause he realized later on y’all wasn’t worth much pay attention
@@Cr8zyApe blk men fill up jails AND cemeteries, turn entrie neighbors into war zones and you have the nerve to say blk women aren't worth much? Ppl don't even want to be on the fukin elevator with yall 🙄🤣🤣🤣
@@Cr8zyApe you gay af.. Mad cause you don't have a 🐱
I’m only 16 and already black men/boys have showed me they are not the way to go🤷🏽♀️ I don’t even find them inherently attractive anymore, do better guys.
Me I’m 17 I been gave up on black men
Same I'm 16 also and already know and feel like a black man will not bring me and happeness or prosperity so now lets just say I'm waiting until god blesses me to go to the Air Force and once im stationed in South Korea its a wrap because don't think just because you treat us less than, that the other raced men will also I just know for a facts its whites, Latinos,Asians waiting to live happily ever after with one of us and its sad because you don't find black men now that appreciates old school black love where they could be 18-19 when they get married and die of old ages still being married. Like ok you won't take care of children you get women pregnant with but I bet you if its a white,Latinos,and or Asian man it doesn't matter what come first between children and marriage they won't leave and go anywhere else they will eventually marry and continue having children that they will help raise💯💯💯👸🏾👸🏾🤷🏾🤦🏾
19, I'm still interested in black men mainly but I'm definitely not limiting my options anymore.
@Zhara Moreira yes my grandma and mom tell me to get with someone foreign and or from across the water😭😂🤣💯💯 so that what I plan on doing
@@cherishjenkins9195 girl you need to follow chrissie.
We like" Exoticals" too and they love some black women!!!! Trust me!😜
Right the thing is, we dont collectively uplift them over bm like bm do with them over us.
😂
@@militantsloth9765 yes and we better don’t do that again lol
They do grl
Difference is, are you marrying "exotics" or just bedding them?
REALEST SHIT I'VE HEARD FROM A BLACK MAN EVER!
Engaged to a white man im pregnant now and we will be getting married next week before I have my baby ❤️😉🙏. No Baby mothers here WHITE MEN AND BLACK WOMEN 😍
Congratulations 😍🙏🏾🤍
Thank you ❤️ Blessed
@@77kc_77 ❤️👑
Period lol congrats
@@dfjr19 thanks ❤️
Some years for now… they can’t say you didn’t warn them about the divesting movement.
It’s getting bigger because the manipulation and gaslighting is no longer working.
Thank you for calling other black men out for their actions. I wish you luck in your future marriage and life. Post the wedding video!
Its not just the ww and bm . Bm think Hispanic women are better, Asian women, biracial women, etc. Anyone who isnt black basically.
You're so pretty
@@TheLightShines thank youuuu🥺🥺
You areee pretty [im biracial btw] black girls are gorgeous. And yes by black girls i mean all shades❤
Aka my dad.
Girl, you're so beautiful
Omg he dropping jewels black men. Please listen to this man. Its a movement coming big time
It’s too late.
It's already here. We are in the era of Aquarius... Black women will manifest love and protection that they desire.
@@subrinaparker358 promise u i still got a cm of love left in my heart for black men. So hopefully they start changing
@Leander Miller There are still millions of black women looking to marry black men... it's not too late
Do yall thing. You'll be back. They can't love you like we can.
laying down in my latino papis bed waiting for him to get home with chocolate & and cuddles. The black men i dated put together cant compare to my man sorry not sorry .
Latino men are the best😊
😂Thank you ,Im a african woman living in Germany ,and Im atracted to men from Spain,i like this latino look dark hair ,Olive skin ,and they are só sweet and lovely ...every oportunity we have we jump in bed dont get enougth of my papi,everyday is christmas ...I was not expecting to meet a papi like This.
@@mariaseidi4023 Yes latino is my preference as well. They are so romantic and know how to take care of a woman.
This is a good thing. Hopefully this will make us black men get our sh!t together.
You make sure you KEEP yours together, don't be one of these men pleaseeeeee.
It takes this in order for you guys to protect and love your own women? . Good Golly you guys have the endurance i have to give you that, but you just dont have the mind. Hehehe😀
A shiny sports car with no motor😂😂
@@sparklyriver9965 Lol
I hope so, for my sistas' sakes. My dad was a strong Black man, as was his father (and my maternal grandfather and uncles, too)...so I believe in the possibility. It's too late for me, but my sistas.... ;)
I’m manifesting healthy divested love for myself. Hispanic, Asian and white men welcome. No dust buckets! That era is behind me
my best friend who once swore she would only ever be with black men is currently dating a white guy right now. today she told me she has never felt more protected, more desireable, and more loved by a man before.😭❤
Congrats To her
My blood sister who always preferred black men just recently said she was getting tired of their asses
@@yaapeasah4443 ikr🥺
@Famous Jay black women who are interested in tasting the rainbow i guess😏
@Famous Jay yall dnt care about anythng including protecting yourselves from police and karens u just pull your phone out and be like , but why you say that though, is u waysist
I work with a black girl 36 years old..She dates a white man, long distance and he wants to move mountains to be with her.
She is beautiful inside out and commands respect, much like many many MANY black women today. I'm not sure but I think black girls really do the work from a young age to feel that they are worthy, and all girls should do that. I can see how my coworker would definitely inspire a man to be his best. She is a catch.
If she’s 36, she’s not a girl.
This is so true. I am leaving America. I know what is said about me behind my back. It is one thing for another race to hate on us, but I can never look at black men the same for the way that they have treated me to my face and behind my back since high school. White men tell me that I am beautiful and mean it. I’ll miss my black men, but I am traumatized, tired and disappointed. I don’t think I can ever go back.
Don't sis or you'll live to regret it
We giving up on y’all cause y’all been gave up on us.
#FACTS 💯💯💯
STOP GENERALIZING🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
@Complex Ez why?
Sad u feel like this!! You have to not be so scared and bothered!! It's cool to try again!! Pic yourself up and dust it off!!Sisters
@@FuuTails lol like fr and this is coming from a black woman I have an amazing black man like y'all need to relax
This is very refreshing to hear from a black men with critical thinking skills. 🤍
It really was!
I know !
lol u hate bm i see u on jessica x or king richez channel
@@africoon2034 who me? If so you're confused dear. Jessica is a the epitome of a "pick me" and the only reason why I know her is because of Chrissie. And Kang who? Chile please.
@@julyjones5500 Oh wait mybad I think it was Cynthia G!! that's who it was. I remember you.
The movement is already happening...BW “divesting” from BM has become a big thing. As someone in my 30s who INVESTED 5+ years into the growth and nurturing of a BM to only have him embarrass, disrespect and disregard me in the end, I have started to think seriously about it. Not to mention the countless number of dates since that’s have gone nowhere. But many a WM/AM have tried to holla and I wouldn’t really consider giving them a chance because I’ve been so invested in BM. It’s too bad they’re NO WHERE NEAR as invested in us BW 😢😤🤬
Lanae Oliver Get in the global game and play. White women have been dating who they want for YEARS, no matter the race. May the best man win.
Sucks but 5 years and no ring is not an investment...it's a waste of time.
You hit the nail on the head! BM will leave you high and dry if you let them!
Sadly I wasted my whole prime on a BM. I am still unmarried and had a child for him. They use us to make more of them and leave us to damaged and alone to figure it all out.