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@@slaughterking5625 see a therapist, try not to be alone most of the time, block all porn channel in all your gadgets phone and others. If possible stop using your smartphone for a while. Replace your habit with something else you love. Example is music and so on. Also make yourself busy. Whenever you make a mistake to do that, don't feel guilty, pick yourself up and continues following the process above. Finally, always pray to Jehovah to give you strength daily to fight this habits
For me, the biggest financial trap in life, is to buy liabilities, while you don't have assets to cover their cost. Securing them with your paycheck (that is not secure)
At least 65% of our GPD is driven by consumerism. The world is set up to encourage consumerism, borrowing, and working hard to make loan payments. The crucial strife is not between the haves and have-nots. It’s really between the sellers and buyers. It is important to have a product or service that you can sell. That way, a significant part of your energies are focused on selling instead of only buying.
Biggest trap someone can fall, is believing other's life on social media is perfect. You see everyone holidaying, partying and shopping. But in real life most people are under big credit card debts or depression. I fell for it, now I do not care.
So the trap I would like to speak about I call the "Hoodrat trap". Anyone who grew up in a low income ghetto can tell you that ghetto culture is pervasive and omnipresent in low-income neighbourhoods. Many low-income earners see this skillset as a necessity, and for many that is the case, however over time these traits become a permanent fixture of one's personality. On a personal note when I left the ghetto I was shocked by how the other half lives and now one year later the exact opposite is true. While in the ghetto I was mocked for keeping two jobs, here I am praised for my long hours. While in the ghetto I was mocked for eating cheap foods, here I am praised for my frugality. Even romance is a polar opposite outside the ghetto: while in the ghetto women expect a man who is strong, violent and has lots of money at the same time he doesn't work, in the outside world (and I'm still trying to get used to this one) women like a hardworking, honest man who will stand the test of time. In summary if your are reading this and you think you may be trapped in the hood just remember only you can get yourself out of there. Make a plan, follow through, get out. I lost over $50k selling my house at a loss and the only thing I regret is not getting out of there sooner.
I am so glad to read this because ghetto is a state of mind so avoid the trap because you use the n word doesn't mean your down for the with the trust fund kid in his neck of the woods. Death is better then no liberty. I started a project this a book titled "Ghetto Glacier"I hope you support at Barnes and Noble Amazon. I am so tired of the falsehood of our culture.
Booze, drugs, or overweight trap! I have seen people close to me lose their joy and freedom in these traps years before they pass away too young. As the quote goes, the chains of this trap are too light to feel until they're too heavy to remove. Every inch deeper into this trap takes 10x the effort and desire to reverse it, so get out ASAP! As a person in my 60s, I am amazed how much I can still enjoy hiking, building, walking, marriage, and living because I am free from this horrible trap.
The denial of addiction trap. While it's easy to identify addictions like smoking or drinking, eating the wrong kind of food, consuming TV serials, or spending time talking too much ...things like that are not seen as addictions...I fell into one of these and had to make lifestyle changes when it caught up with me. Maybe it falls under the letting go of Cheap thrills trap :)
👍,,, I could save a lot of money if I quit smoking and consuming so much caffeine, the 2 hardest things iv ever tried to quit, I haven't been successful yet .
The yes trap never saying no means you'll spend most of your time doing what others want, neglecting your own desires. People will start taking advantage of you and will leave you when they get all they can the attachment trap as you grow you will naturally outgrow some of the people in your life, especially if they aren't growing with you. dont be afraid to lose people who stunt your growth
As much as we try to deny it everyone of us falls into one or more of these traps including myself … just know its ok we all human and there is always room for improvement… Thanks Alux for making me more self aware … ❤️
"If you want to improve, you must be content to be thought foolish and stupid." -Epictetus This singular quote is the most responsible for giving me the push to buy my first rental property and push past doubt due to negative comments from friends and family.
I've been trapped by trap #12 several times over the last twelve years. I don't have a college degree and I'm on my 30´s. Never concluded one. Amazingly, I work at a higher education institution.
Not Staying FOCUSED Trap. I assure this does exist as I have to fight it constantly as a long time serial entrepreneur. We are like kids in a toy store!
@@site_is_down So right Olga and now I know how to do it with my new Killer Instinct studies. Great book by Omar Johnson formerly the CMO for those cool Beats by Dre headphones entitled The Killer Instinct.
Trading with an expert in the field is the best, have been making a huge returns from my investment since I met Albert he's the one of the best in crypto currency investment.
A trap I've discovered is mistaking obsession and neurosis for learning and progress. Just because I'm thinking about something (like some goal or cause) all the time doesn't mean I'm learning about it or committed to it.
this really resonates with me, recently had a car buying experience and i "learned" for hours and hours about potential cars to buy, the hours spent was a total waste as I landed in the same place I had originally planned.
Like always - great video! As far as other traps go -- I definitely fell victim to these two traps before and see others fall for them often: The "Live by the Rules Trap" & the "Doing All Things in Order Trap". There is no one set way to live life and there are no 100% rules to any of it. You can follow whatever standards you want to the letter and still end up unsuccessful (however you define that) and unhappy. So, have principles -- sure -- but don't be limited by them. And when it comes to doing everything in order, what order are you modeling off of? What "normal" defines your order? Do you go to school, graduate, get married, buy a home, have kids, etc.? Or do you get the house when you see that it's a good time to buy on the market. Does pursuing your entrepreneurial dream come before or AFTER you find love? I don't have the answer to this because the point is that - in my eyes - there isn't one. If you wait until the timing is perfect for every little thing, you'll find that you miss a lot of life's golden opportunities and sweet surprises.
Great video on this very important topic. By following the masses, I would break the losing traps people fall into by the following areas: 1. To do traps- going to concerts, sporting events, bars, clubs traveling, etc. While all of these sound good in name are they really that great of time? That concert of the singer past their prime where you overpay for bad seats, deal with rude crowds to hear music that will never be as the studio version does not seem like a good investment of time or money. In moderation all of these are reasonable but the frequency some people engage in these activities is insane. 2. Time traps- social media, sports, video games, porn, binge watching, etc- Do these activities really make you happy.? 3. Eating- are three large meals a day necessary after your teenage years? 4. Drugs, drinking and smoking- Is damaging your mind/body, sucking away your energy and reducing years of quality life away worth it?
Education should never, never, and I mention it again, never, be underestimated. Education is not for being rich. It builds a great foundation in the brain that one can apply to everything in life and prosper and be a better social individual, the higher the better.
Another banger of a video! An additional trap is the mediocrity trap. Majority of the population have accepted an average lifestyle and it can be extremely tempting to give in. Stay strong, focus on your goals and search high and wide for like minded people. We're rare but I guarantee that you'll find at least one 👍🏿
Confusion assets with liability. Like a house "you" own but have not paid off yet and live in is not asset. Also car's fall into this trap as well they can turn into currency pits quick witch also touch on your sunken cost. Another big financial trap I see if people going thru life never gaining any skills. I see so much potential in gaining skills. It only takes about 6-9 months of doing a job to have that skill down. No one wants skills they just want a high end job. For me I did tech support for camera manufacturers then sales for door to door cell phones and over the phone sales for camera manufacturer. Then learn more and more about the installation of the cameras and then different between asset and liability. Also internet installation. Currently I'm working on other languages and accounting. Not to mention the other random skills I picked up from doing contact work wile I continue to build my business.
Thanks a ton to Alux, I always take time to listen the 15 points basically on Self Help and to live a life full of Excitement. Your all vedios are simply Awesome and very very Practical, Your study on Human behavior and Brain which is Evolved with Time is Priceless Thanks and Regards
You can't make a decision without procrastinating first. It's stupid to make a decision without thinking it through.If, for example, you want to pursue a certain career, it's wise to start working in your field of choise for at least a year and then make a decision. Furthermore, you might want to prepare for your journey, which can take time. Certain types of studies ( for example math, computer sience, engeeniering, chemistry, pharmacology) which are worth studying, can't be started without proper preparation. The same is true for any kind of entrepreneurship. You can't just get started. You have to be careful and you need a good financial backround as well as a mentor. A neglected part of the ' just get started' idea is that you have to be healthy. Any sort of health problems can drain your energy, cost a fourtune and prevent you from succeeding.They have to be fixed first.
This trap is very very common and human culture very much encourages it: The TALKING TRAP. Have noticed that when you talk to someone, you completely lose FOCUS on what you're doing? I notice that so much. I've realized that PEOPLE ARE THERE TO DISTRACT YOU FROM YOUR FOCUS. LISTEN MORE, TALK LESS PEOPLE.
I know that comment will not be popular, but it's still a fact: Getting married. Seriously, when you're a man, what do you get out of marriage? What does being married brings you, in terms or gain, or anything positive? Nothing! 50% of marriage ends in divorce, and 70% of these divorces are filed by women. And I don't have to tell you who loses the most $$$ after break-up. Even if you sign a pre-nup, if she claims she signed it because she felt pressured to, a smart lawyer can get that agreement annulled easily. Why would you spend your life working hard, building a successful life, making sure you have wealth to live comfortable for the rest of your days, and risk losing it all legally?
for me it may be was the planning trap. I used to do lot of planning but never take action or take less. And the second trap is finding the best. I still remember i used to do lot of search for best thing all the time but later i realize there will never be a best thing, the thing is it just have to work for me at the given time and if someday stop working find alternative.
I think a prevalent trap today is the 'entitlement trap'. The world owes me a living....someone else will sort it out and do it for me. We need to help children develop self responsibility at a young age!
How surprising just this morning, I was telling myself how much of a procrastinator I am. I sure as well fall under the “Plenty of time trap” and with this realization, I am going to work harder to kick this habit out of my life.
My traps were buying liabilities, eating the best food that my money could buy in short I was busy decorating the boat instead of fixing the problem. Thanks alux may your company live long
degrees are only valuable if they get you what you want. I began as a culinary student and after a semester got myself a TEFL certificate and switched to Political science. I love meeting foreign people and i like traveling to exotic lands. I also want to marry a foreign woman as I think they are more interesting. With a BA and a TEFL certificate, i can work in just about any nation that I want. It is much better to travel as a teacher than as a US soldier, business person, or government official seeing that I can choose what country I want to go to and no one will be shooting at me when I arrive. It is also nice to have that piece of mind that if the economy of the USA tanks I can always jump ship and find work elsewhere. This is a major reason why I do not want to marry an American woman as she is not likely to want to leave the USA and go live in a Cambodian farming village where there is no hot running water and the houses do not have windows or screen. Basically the best piece of advice is to know what you want and figure out the best way to get it and to always have a plan B. If i cant work in China than Vietnam would be a good alternative as it is basically the same country except they speak a different language
A trap is thinking you have to be smart to get ahead. The reality is that most of it is taking action and being consistent. It's like losing weight. You know what you have to do, you just wish you didn't have to do it.
Id say that one of the worst is the "life sucks" trap. I am 19yo and all i hear from most people older than me is that life sucks because of this and that. The more I build my life up the more I realise that its not true. Those people are just conform, stupid by definition or both.
Degree's are important. I took a sales job to learn how to sell, started businesses and tried to get off the ground; never earning enough to have capital to build the business. If I had gotten a mortgage brokers license right out of high school I would have earned good money for 3 years before that market got weak, I'm not a realtor or car salesperson and the telemarketing jobs I took were crap. I now have a bachelors, I can get a job making $47k/yr easily and put that towards retirement, down payment on a house or starting a business (story of my life.) I'm working on an MBA in finance, if I use it I can be a financial analyst and start at $80k. Not going to college cost me time. I had my suspicions that the market would go bad that combined with not allowing someone to slap a mask on my face and tell me they're protecting me meant that I had to focus on studying. I wish I could have another few years; but I'll just hope Trump gets back in office and then 6 months later the economy will be shockingly better (look at 2020, it was like that scene in Bruce Almighty where the lights go out and he claps to force things better; of course that's where the comparison ends.) I have projects that may bear the fruit I've waited 20 years for, it would have been nice if I had it 20 years ago; but better now than never. I just have to convert assets to cash without taking too bad a hit and I'll be able to day trade and fund an advantage gambling team. My point is that I could have done this sooner if I had a degree at 20-24 rather than waiting and not knowing how some classes would slow me down. Worst part, the bachelors degree I got didn't exist until right before I enrolled; so I would have had to go into a more expensive program if I weren't in my early to mid 30's when I did it.
The Age Trap. "I'm too old to follow my dreams/start a business/etc." The other is The Parent Trap. "Once you have kids your dreams are over." Sometimes they go hand in hand.
It's painful to see 30-40 year old friends and family stuck living at home unemployed because timing isn't right and "I graduated when it was the financial crisis, and of course Covid, and I'm not lucky like you.., besides, men are in their prime at 50 so I have another 15 years..I can't tell if they're using these excuses to do nothing or it's a real anxiety.
People get comfortable and then don't want to venture out and start something new. Changing your mindset over time can be challenging for anyone. Everyone is different.
You can only challenge and motivate them to do better, so worry about nothing but securing yourself a brighter future or a happy retirement. See you around 😊
I have a bit of visctim mentality and I am looking a way to overcome it. The reason for that is I got cheated and I can’t let it go if there is any advice for me please let me know I am looking to overcome it
You’re still angry, understandably. You have choices: 1. hold on to the anger and have it hold you back. 2. Let it go, move forward with the lesson learned. If you stay angry at those who cheated you, then they have won. Holding on to anger/resentment, etc, only hurts you, not them.
Thanks guys I have been working on myself ever since. I am working on the negative things in my life. Thanks for all the advice in the next 6 months all will see a great chamge in me cheers
@@navodabeyasinghe8599 if you see everything as a lesson. Just take it that you see the true colours of the ones that have cheated you. You paid a price for a lesson. Its like going to school, real life school, you paid your school fees. Learn from it, and let the lesson make you smarter for your future. God bless!
Qualification is what you left with once the education stops.Which education takes place through learning(in school or out school).Am I wrong thinking this way ?Please educate me
The vice trap. This is a big one, it could be alcohol, could be sex, or even drugs but anything that you run to for instant gratification or to feel good when a crisis or emergencies arise these things lead to an addiction of time and one becomes trap. Living in the past due to a failure or mistake trap. We all have some form of regret but one must learn to move forward. You can't go back; so, learn from the past and move forward, if you don't you become trapped.
That's why, it's important that we know how to control our emotions and to have a good mindset always. We can make up a lot of alibis, but we can never bring back our wasted time doing nothing.
I can add that in VISUALIZATION I recently learned from my teach Ryuu Shinohara that you want to literally with ALL senses step into your FUTURE SELF! I have been doing in my meditation and it is INCREDIBLE! I coproduced the largest 007 fan convention in 2003 - SpyFest - on the Queen Mary and I had never heard that about Ian Fleming! By the way video reminded me to get back and FINISH my first novel! 😂
It may be a benefit to remember the acronym for fear: False Evidence Appearing Real. Dave Ramsey is quoted as saying," Only 5% of what We fear becomes real." I like the other quote from Coach Corry Wayne (on Utube) also: "What We fear the most We attract."
Trap of 'What others with think' or 'look good' trap Trap of herd mentality (follow everyone else does) also peer pressure trap. These are few of major traps to overcome.
Free money can come in different forms. Example, I help people obtain a prescription discount card which pays up to 80% of a person's out of pocket costs on prescribed medication(AND IT'S a FREE resource). Society has to rethink the meaning of "FREE"; NO ONE HAS TO PAY FOR OXYGEN BEFORE HE OR SHE BREATHes IT IN(except a person on a ventilator in an emergency room). In times like these, we need a free resource that could be the breath of fresh air in our lives.
All of these traps are real. I definitely agree with #12 and #13 Both are so prevalent these days. The only ones winning with #13 are the financial institutions and credit card companies.
Ever since I stumbled in this channel it has been my go to. I wait for Sunday Motivational before going to bed. I admit falling to this traps (dopamine,pride) we can break free from it. I will not be surprise if Happiest Countries will be next 🙂
Number 8 is a painful truth, and you can ALWAYS choose to move on at any point, so how much longer are you gonna 'think about deciding to change it?'. Just do it!
Friends and trying to be like them Wat I mean is fitting into groups One of d worst things u can ever do I did it and i regret it Mostly Teena are into this So beware Coz I have lost it all U r unique on ur own Don't change for someone else
I've got trapped in my life before. I got scammed by the wrong people who try to offer me a FAKE job and steal my money. I'm not going to put myself in that position again.
I know a big trap that no one ever seems to talk about. I’ll call it the “Good person/bettering yourself” trap. Okay, so it might not be the best name but hear me out. Okay, so when I was young, like a kid, I thought people just fell in love with each other, had breakups, got married, etc. and it was just human nature. I thought it would just happen in time, that there was someone for everyone. Okay, so back then, I was very quiet, but very much wanted love, and no one really ever asked me out or anything. I asked out a guy myself, and he just turned me down. I flirted with another one, but he just pretended he didn’t understand. So, finally, I tried to talk more, and by junior high, had one of the largest friend groups in school, as I joined a club and made friends. Still though, though I could make people laugh and even give me a standing ovation, no one ever asked me out. They never even flirted or anything. I got decent grades and went to church, as people tried to act like these were ways to get people to know you more. But it still never lead to anything. If anything, it made people hate me more! Over time, and into adulthood, I tried many things people say can help people find love-I get out of the house regularly, I’ve moved, I live in a decent sized city, I’ve showed my compassionate/caring side, I have a dog, I’ve changed my appearance many times, I’ve worn different kinds of clothes, I’ve lost weight, I’ve gained weight, I did some college, I worked at a theme park, I’ve went to local events, I’ve met important people, I’ve travelled some, I have a lot of hobbies and a few I’m decent enough at, I was an extra for a tv show, I’ve worked at factories...the list goes on. Though I’ve lived a lot of life it feels like, still, no one ever cared, I guess. I’ve even done other things..one time I saved three lives in a flood, I talked a kid out of committing suicide, I’ve been a friend to the friendless, I’ve tried to understand people from different cultures, I’ve supported causes I believe in...but still..nothing really ever seemed to work. Now, I know you should not live your life to impress others, and truly, I don’t. It feels good to just better yourself and try to be a good person....BUT seriously! What ARE people looking for?! I’ve met a lot of people in my travels, and some people I’ve met, I’m not gonna say they don’t deserve love and have it..but seriously, I’ve known people who are literally crazy (like have serious mental health problems like schizophrenia etc) and yet STILL find love, whenever doctors act like they cannot even truly love anyway! But yet, people still care about them and give them love. A lot of self-help people want to say that, oh, “you are the problem”, but no. It really does seem to be them. Now I’m not saying self-improvement is bad..not at all, but seriously. Is this just a trap or what? Can anyone explain this?
I'd at least try online dating if you haven't already. There's lots of different sites. Let people know who you are and what you're looking for in a partner. Talk to people, even if it doesn't turn into anything. Reach out and be friendly. It may take a while...Good luck!
@@alidapearce621 I haven't tried online dating bc there are weirdos out there. Online life is okay, but there should be no reason why someone couldn't meet someone in offline life. People didn't used to have to rely on the internet to meet someone, throughout all of history. If I couldn't meet ANYONE who's a good fit or even a decent-enough fit in a city of 100'000+, nor in moving next to a border with another country for years, I have no idea what the problem is. It'd be easy to blame oneself, but truthfully, for all my own bad habits, worse people than me have found love. Look at history---even dictators and other truly horrible people had wives and usually more than one! Truthfully, usually I just work on my own life and ignore the fact that, apparently, I must be one of the least date-able people in history I guess, lol, or at least that I've ever heard of! As a research-minded person who likes to study statistics sometimes, this seems like pretty bad odds to have crossed paths with so many people in my life so far, and yet, had very few even offers to even attempt a relationship.And most of those were alcoholics and I don't even drink. Seriously, I don't know what it is, but thank you for listening to my rant and responding..lol.
myth: we have plenty of time truth: life goes by quicker than you think, NTM no ones guaranteed a tomorrow. once you get to being in your mid 20s, years start passing like days.
Today the people just think about your life out the body, stop and think what you have until now if you need more and the price that you have to pay for you obtain it, your liberty is more important for you lives your life with people that you love and meet the world better that you live.
Hello Aluxers, what other traps do people fall for?
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It's free knowledge that will blow your mind.
Alux please 🙏 make video in Hindi
Yes alux
Thanks 😊 Alux
My name is 21Savage🤍 from Nigeria and I am addicted to masturbation I have try many ways to stop but I can’t what should I do I really don’t no how to stop it I have been doing this since 5 years now plz help me 🙏🏻🙏🏻🥺🥺
@@slaughterking5625 see a therapist, try not to be alone most of the time, block all porn channel in all your gadgets phone and others. If possible stop using your smartphone for a while. Replace your habit with something else you love. Example is music and so on. Also make yourself busy. Whenever you make a mistake to do that, don't feel guilty, pick yourself up and continues following the process above. Finally, always pray to Jehovah to give you strength daily to fight this habits
For me, the biggest financial trap in life, is to buy liabilities, while you don't have assets to cover their cost. Securing them with your paycheck (that is not secure)
Definitely one of the biggest financial traps & people fall for them all the time trying to keep up with the Joneses.
Which is why you don't try to keep up with your neighbors. Believe this 1 thing: Just because it looks good doesn't mean its ALL good!
Very well stated , unfortunately I fall into that category , thanks for sharing ✌🏿
At least 65% of our GPD is driven by consumerism. The world is set up to encourage consumerism, borrowing, and working hard to make loan payments. The crucial strife is not between the haves and have-nots. It’s really between the sellers and buyers. It is important to have a product or service that you can sell. That way, a significant part of your energies are focused on selling instead of only buying.
I am on that trap now thanks for sharing
Biggest trap someone can fall, is believing other's life on social media is perfect. You see everyone holidaying, partying and shopping. But in real life most people are under big credit card debts or depression. I fell for it, now I do not care.
Yea it comes with age. I fell for it too until I realized that everyone is miserable..social media highlights isn't real life.
Fellow Aluxers, don't be like me. I am 65 years old and was stuck in the Start of Life Trap for almost my entire life. Start living NOW.
Thank you for your insight Dave!
Most people venture into crypto to be millionaires, meanwhile i just want to be debt free
That's very practical and smart goal, a wise man once said do everything you can to get outta debt, one of his tips to getting rich
Just do the right thing, by trading with an expert, I trust me you will be a millionaire and debt free
When you invest in crypto you are buying days you don't need to work
Now is the best time to purchase and invest in bitcoin, stop procastinating.
Wish I knew about crypto trading earlier. Brace up and get yourself a bitcoin before it's too late.
So the trap I would like to speak about I call the "Hoodrat trap". Anyone who grew up in a low income ghetto can tell you that ghetto culture is pervasive and omnipresent in low-income neighbourhoods. Many low-income earners see this skillset as a necessity, and for many that is the case, however over time these traits become a permanent fixture of one's personality. On a personal note when I left the ghetto I was shocked by how the other half lives and now one year later the exact opposite is true. While in the ghetto I was mocked for keeping two jobs, here I am praised for my long hours. While in the ghetto I was mocked for eating cheap foods, here I am praised for my frugality. Even romance is a polar opposite outside the ghetto: while in the ghetto women expect a man who is strong, violent and has lots of money at the same time he doesn't work, in the outside world (and I'm still trying to get used to this one) women like a hardworking, honest man who will stand the test of time. In summary if your are reading this and you think you may be trapped in the hood just remember only you can get yourself out of there. Make a plan, follow through, get out. I lost over $50k selling my house at a loss and the only thing I regret is not getting out of there sooner.
Here I am from Africa but I 100% relate to what you are saying
I am so glad to read this because ghetto is a state of mind so avoid the trap because you use the n word doesn't mean your down for the with the trust fund kid in his neck of the woods. Death is better then no liberty. I started a project this a book titled "Ghetto Glacier"I hope you support at Barnes and Noble Amazon. I am so tired of the falsehood of our culture.
What you said is universal. I saw and lived the same in the 90s as a poor white French-speaking guy in the low-income neighbourhoods of Montreal.
Problem is none of the dudes in the hood are tough. If you stand up to them you expose them as the punks they are.
🙏🏾💯
When you invest you're buying a day you don't have to work
I'm looking for something to venture into on a short term basis, I have about $6k sitting in my savings
Obviously trading in bitcoin is very volatile and risky to trade that's the reason most traders trade with a company
Now is best time to purchase and invest in Bitcoin stop proscastinating!
I'm new to this Bitcoin trading, how do I get started with the help of a professional?
Any specific guide?
Booze, drugs, or overweight trap! I have seen people close to me lose their joy and freedom in these traps years before they pass away too young. As the quote goes, the chains of this trap are too light to feel until they're too heavy to remove. Every inch deeper into this trap takes 10x the effort and desire to reverse it, so get out ASAP! As a person in my 60s, I am amazed how much I can still enjoy hiking, building, walking, marriage, and living because I am free from this horrible trap.
The denial of addiction trap. While it's easy to identify addictions like smoking or drinking, eating the wrong kind of food, consuming TV serials, or spending time talking too much ...things like that are not seen as addictions...I fell into one of these and had to make lifestyle changes when it caught up with me. Maybe it falls under the letting go of Cheap thrills trap :)
👍,,, I could save a lot of money if I quit smoking and consuming so much caffeine, the 2 hardest things iv ever tried to quit, I haven't been successful yet .
And worse a Wrong choice of mates in Marriage is Still a big one.
The yes trap
never saying no means you'll spend most of your time doing what others want, neglecting your own desires. People will start taking advantage of you and will leave you when they get all they can
the attachment trap
as you grow you will naturally outgrow some of the people in your life, especially if they aren't growing with you. dont be afraid to lose people who stunt your growth
Well put 🙏
Agree, mostly abusers, drunks, liers..drop them all..
As much as we try to deny it everyone of us falls into one or more of these traps including myself … just know its ok we all human and there is always room for improvement… Thanks Alux for making me more self aware … ❤️
True. The goal is to be aware of the trap.
"If you want to improve, you must be content to be thought foolish and stupid." -Epictetus
This singular quote is the most responsible for giving me the push to buy my first rental property and push past doubt due to negative comments from friends and family.
Awesome advice!!!
Wish my Dad had told me this in my teens and early 20s.
But… I’m sending these videos to my kids so they can become “True Aluxers.”
Happy to help Virginia
Dam exactly what my mom is doing
I've been trapped by trap #12 several times over the last twelve years. I don't have a college degree and I'm on my 30´s. Never concluded one. Amazingly, I work at a higher education institution.
Not Staying FOCUSED Trap. I assure this does exist as I have to fight it constantly as a long time serial entrepreneur. We are like kids in a toy store!
Continue learning and growing from your experiences and ventures as there will always be a room for improvement.
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A trap I've discovered is mistaking obsession and neurosis for learning and progress. Just because I'm thinking about something (like some goal or cause) all the time doesn't mean I'm learning about it or committed to it.
Indeed. People confuse stress and entertainment with progress and learning.
Being busy doesn’t mean you are productive.
this really resonates with me, recently had a car buying experience and i "learned" for hours and hours about potential cars to buy, the hours spent was a total waste as I landed in the same place I had originally planned.
Like always - great video! As far as other traps go -- I definitely fell victim to these two traps before and see others fall for them often: The "Live by the Rules Trap" & the "Doing All Things in Order Trap".
There is no one set way to live life and there are no 100% rules to any of it. You can follow whatever standards you want to the letter and still end up unsuccessful (however you define that) and unhappy. So, have principles -- sure -- but don't be limited by them.
And when it comes to doing everything in order, what order are you modeling off of? What "normal" defines your order? Do you go to school, graduate, get married, buy a home, have kids, etc.? Or do you get the house when you see that it's a good time to buy on the market. Does pursuing your entrepreneurial dream come before or AFTER you find love? I don't have the answer to this because the point is that - in my eyes - there isn't one. If you wait until the timing is perfect for every little thing, you'll find that you miss a lot of life's golden opportunities and sweet surprises.
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i agree
Great video on this very important topic. By following the masses, I would break the losing traps people fall into by the following areas:
1. To do traps- going to concerts, sporting events, bars, clubs traveling, etc. While all of these sound good in name are they really that great of time? That concert of the singer past their prime where you overpay for bad seats, deal with rude crowds to hear music that will never be as the studio version does not seem like a good investment of time or money. In moderation all of these are reasonable but the frequency some people engage in these activities is insane.
2. Time traps- social media, sports, video games, porn, binge watching, etc- Do these activities really make you happy.?
3. Eating- are three large meals a day necessary after your teenage years?
4. Drugs, drinking and smoking- Is damaging your mind/body, sucking away your energy and reducing years of quality life away worth it?
Education should never, never, and I mention it again, never, be underestimated. Education is not for being rich. It builds a great foundation in the brain that one can apply to everything in life and prosper and be a better social individual, the higher the better.
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Too many people spend money they haven't earned, to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like
I buy what I like and need or want. I'm impressing myself. Let the haters be haters.
You are mostly definitely part of my growth plan Alux.
Another banger of a video! An additional trap is the mediocrity trap. Majority of the population have accepted an average lifestyle and it can be extremely tempting to give in. Stay strong, focus on your goals and search high and wide for like minded people. We're rare but I guarantee that you'll find at least one 👍🏿
The magic is in the discipline... Thanks ALUX. 🌎 Greetings from Colombia. The Venezuelan immigrant writer 🇻🇪
Confusion assets with liability. Like a house "you" own but have not paid off yet and live in is not asset. Also car's fall into this trap as well they can turn into currency pits quick witch also touch on your sunken cost.
Another big financial trap I see if people going thru life never gaining any skills. I see so much potential in gaining skills. It only takes about 6-9 months of doing a job to have that skill down. No one wants skills they just want a high end job. For me I did tech support for camera manufacturers then sales for door to door cell phones and over the phone sales for camera manufacturer. Then learn more and more about the installation of the cameras and then different between asset and liability. Also internet installation. Currently I'm working on other languages and accounting. Not to mention the other random skills I picked up from doing contact work wile I continue to build my business.
#1- If you're a man, the marriage trap. Don't get played, and laugh at the suckers who think they know better when they lose their ass.
Thanks a ton to Alux, I always take time to listen the 15 points basically on Self Help and to live a life full of Excitement.
Your all vedios are simply Awesome and very very Practical, Your study on Human behavior and Brain which is Evolved with Time is Priceless
Thanks and Regards
i like to call it the "she might like me if i did this" trap one of the biggest traps in my life personnaly
You can't make a decision without procrastinating first. It's stupid to make a decision without thinking it through.If, for example, you want to pursue a certain career, it's wise to start working in your field of choise for at least a year and then make a decision. Furthermore, you might want to prepare for your journey, which can take time.
Certain types of studies ( for example math, computer sience, engeeniering, chemistry, pharmacology) which are worth studying, can't be started without proper preparation. The same is true for any kind of entrepreneurship. You can't just get started. You have to be careful and you need a good financial backround as well as a mentor.
A neglected part of the ' just get started' idea is that you have to be healthy. Any sort of health problems can drain your energy, cost a fourtune and prevent you from succeeding.They have to be fixed first.
This trap is very very common and human culture very much encourages it: The TALKING TRAP. Have noticed that when you talk to someone, you completely lose FOCUS on what you're doing? I notice that so much. I've realized that PEOPLE ARE THERE TO DISTRACT YOU FROM YOUR FOCUS. LISTEN MORE, TALK LESS PEOPLE.
6:11. Rappers and celebs never go broke. Its just their drama to get more buzz
Hey, Alux can you make a video of world's biggest problems human being are facing, like Unemployment, Climate change, Poverty.
I know that comment will not be popular, but it's still a fact: Getting married. Seriously, when you're a man, what do you get out of marriage? What does being married brings you, in terms or gain, or anything positive? Nothing! 50% of marriage ends in divorce, and 70% of these divorces are filed by women. And I don't have to tell you who loses the most $$$ after break-up. Even if you sign a pre-nup, if she claims she signed it because she felt pressured to, a smart lawyer can get that agreement annulled easily. Why would you spend your life working hard, building a successful life, making sure you have wealth to live comfortable for the rest of your days, and risk losing it all legally?
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for me it may be was the planning trap. I used to do lot of planning but never take action or take less. And the second trap is finding the best. I still remember i used to do lot of search for best thing all the time but later i realize there will never be a best thing, the thing is it just have to work for me at the given time and if someday stop working find alternative.
this is called front end perfectionism. "when i meet x condition, ill finally do this because i cant otherwise"
I think a prevalent trap today is the 'entitlement trap'. The world owes me a living....someone else will sort it out and do it for me. We need to help children develop self responsibility at a young age!
How surprising just this morning, I was telling myself how much of a procrastinator I am. I sure as well fall under the “Plenty of time trap” and with this realization, I am going to work harder to kick this habit out of my life.
My traps were buying liabilities, eating the best food that my money could buy in short I was busy decorating the boat instead of fixing the problem. Thanks alux may your company live long
The Fashion Lifestyle Trap. ✌❤🙏
degrees are only valuable if they get you what you want. I began as a culinary student and after a semester got myself a TEFL certificate and switched to Political science. I love meeting foreign people and i like traveling to exotic lands. I also want to marry a foreign woman as I think they are more interesting. With a BA and a TEFL certificate, i can work in just about any nation that I want. It is much better to travel as a teacher than as a US soldier, business person, or government official seeing that I can choose what country I want to go to and no one will be shooting at me when I arrive. It is also nice to have that piece of mind that if the economy of the USA tanks I can always jump ship and find work elsewhere. This is a major reason why I do not want to marry an American woman as she is not likely to want to leave the USA and go live in a Cambodian farming village where there is no hot running water and the houses do not have windows or screen. Basically the best piece of advice is to know what you want and figure out the best way to get it and to always have a plan B. If i cant work in China than Vietnam would be a good alternative as it is basically the same country except they speak a different language
Education trap is real too!
A trap is thinking you have to be smart to get ahead. The reality is that most of it is taking action and being consistent. It's like losing weight. You know what you have to do, you just wish you didn't have to do it.
Id say that one of the worst is the "life sucks" trap. I am 19yo and all i hear from most people older than me is that life sucks because of this and that. The more I build my life up the more I realise that its not true. Those people are just conform, stupid by definition or both.
Procrastinating on saving for the future. If you say “you only live once,” you’re right in ways you have yet to understand.
Degree's are important. I took a sales job to learn how to sell, started businesses and tried to get off the ground; never earning enough to have capital to build the business. If I had gotten a mortgage brokers license right out of high school I would have earned good money for 3 years before that market got weak, I'm not a realtor or car salesperson and the telemarketing jobs I took were crap. I now have a bachelors, I can get a job making $47k/yr easily and put that towards retirement, down payment on a house or starting a business (story of my life.) I'm working on an MBA in finance, if I use it I can be a financial analyst and start at $80k. Not going to college cost me time. I had my suspicions that the market would go bad that combined with not allowing someone to slap a mask on my face and tell me they're protecting me meant that I had to focus on studying. I wish I could have another few years; but I'll just hope Trump gets back in office and then 6 months later the economy will be shockingly better (look at 2020, it was like that scene in Bruce Almighty where the lights go out and he claps to force things better; of course that's where the comparison ends.) I have projects that may bear the fruit I've waited 20 years for, it would have been nice if I had it 20 years ago; but better now than never. I just have to convert assets to cash without taking too bad a hit and I'll be able to day trade and fund an advantage gambling team. My point is that I could have done this sooner if I had a degree at 20-24 rather than waiting and not knowing how some classes would slow me down. Worst part, the bachelors degree I got didn't exist until right before I enrolled; so I would have had to go into a more expensive program if I weren't in my early to mid 30's when I did it.
The Age Trap. "I'm too old to follow my dreams/start a business/etc." The other is The Parent Trap. "Once you have kids your dreams are over." Sometimes they go hand in hand.
I relate to your comment.
I hope and I wish, you don't find yourself lost and settling in one of these traps. We can all do better. Praying for everyone's success 😊
It's painful to see 30-40 year old friends and family stuck living at home unemployed because timing isn't right and "I graduated when it was the financial crisis, and of course Covid, and I'm not lucky like you.., besides, men are in their prime at 50 so I have another 15 years..I can't tell if they're using these excuses to do nothing or it's a real anxiety.
People get comfortable and then don't want to venture out and start something new. Changing your mindset over time can be challenging for anyone. Everyone is different.
You can only challenge and motivate them to do better, so worry about nothing but securing yourself a brighter future or a happy retirement. See you around 😊
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And btw alux your thumbnails are really nice
I have a bit of visctim mentality and I am looking a way to overcome it. The reason for that is I got cheated and I can’t let it go if there is any advice for me please let me know I am looking to overcome it
Try again, this time with experience Navod.
People get cheated often. Learn the lesson and don’t get cheated again. Let it go; move on
You’re still angry, understandably. You have choices: 1. hold on to the anger and have it hold you back. 2. Let it go, move forward with the lesson learned. If you stay angry at those who cheated you, then they have won.
Holding on to anger/resentment, etc, only hurts you, not them.
Thanks guys I have been working on myself ever since. I am working on the negative things in my life. Thanks for all the advice in the next 6 months all will see a great chamge in me cheers
@@navodabeyasinghe8599 if you see everything as a lesson.
Just take it that you see the true colours of the ones that have cheated you.
You paid a price for a lesson.
Its like going to school, real life school, you paid your school fees.
Learn from it, and let the lesson make you smarter for your future.
God bless!
Thank you so much the video was useful 😊😊
Ever since I became an aluxer my life has changed. I am forever grateful to this channel
That' why we're doing this!
The place where future billionaires come to get inspired 😎.
Qualification is what you left with once the education stops.Which education takes place through learning(in school or out school).Am I wrong thinking this way ?Please educate me
16. Marriage trap
Thanks
We appreciate you Zegna!
The vice trap. This is a big one, it could be alcohol, could be sex, or even drugs but anything that you run to for instant gratification or to feel good when a crisis or emergencies arise these things lead to an addiction of time and one becomes trap.
Living in the past due to a failure or mistake trap. We all have some form of regret but one must learn to move forward. You can't go back; so, learn from the past and move forward, if you don't you become trapped.
That's why, it's important that we know how to control our emotions and to have a good mindset always. We can make up a lot of alibis, but we can never bring back our wasted time doing nothing.
You forgot one, Alux trap this i just don't see myself avoiding soon
Having kids
I can add that in VISUALIZATION I recently learned from my teach Ryuu Shinohara that you want to literally with ALL senses step into your FUTURE SELF! I have been doing in my meditation and it is INCREDIBLE!
I coproduced the largest 007 fan convention in 2003 - SpyFest - on the Queen Mary and I had never heard that about Ian Fleming! By the way video reminded me to get back and FINISH my first novel! 😂
Not making a choice is a choice. The difference between urgent and important is HUGE.
Indeed Gary
Yes I can relate with everything you comment on. My trap is fear.
It may be a benefit to remember the acronym for fear: False Evidence Appearing Real.
Dave Ramsey is quoted as saying," Only 5% of what We fear becomes real."
I like the other quote from Coach Corry Wayne (on Utube) also: "What We fear the most We attract."
#3. Even in traffic!!!!! But still text while on road thereby slowing down traffic. You all hear that? Stop texting and driving!!!
Would be lovely if Alux made a video about executive dysfunction.
Maybe we will Luana!
Trap of
'What others with think' or 'look good' trap
Trap of herd mentality (follow everyone else does) also peer pressure trap.
These are few of major traps to overcome.
We love Aux, super helpful o😅 my journey, thanks for being the best and stay blessed! Let's go! 💪💪💪💪💪💪💪
Free money can come in different forms. Example, I help people obtain a prescription discount card which pays up to 80% of a person's out of pocket costs on prescribed medication(AND IT'S a FREE resource). Society has to rethink the meaning of "FREE"; NO ONE HAS TO PAY FOR OXYGEN BEFORE HE OR SHE BREATHes IT IN(except a person on a ventilator in an emergency room). In times like these, we need a free resource that could be the breath of fresh air in our lives.
All of these traps are real. I definitely agree with #12 and #13
Both are so prevalent these days.
The only ones winning with #13 are the financial institutions and credit card companies.
This is mind blowing. Thank you so much Alux. I’m a big fan now.
If you really take notes while watching mostly ALUX videos like me, (welcome to 1% club)
Smart.
Ever since I stumbled in this channel it has been my go to. I wait for Sunday Motivational before going to bed. I admit falling to this traps (dopamine,pride) we can break free from it. I will not be surprise if Happiest Countries will be next 🙂
Thank you Cean for being an Aluxer! It means a lot to be part of your weekly routine.
@@alux Thank you as well.
Thanks to ALux it was one of the most interesting video for me and give me a lot of IDEA
Alux, we love your content, but the number of ads that come up in a 17 minute video is crazy
Superb the bitter realities of life
The boney arms of reality
Number 8 is a painful truth, and you can ALWAYS choose to move on at any point, so how much longer are you gonna 'think about deciding to change it?'. Just do it!
Thanks for everything Alux ❤️
Thank you for consistently showing up Priyanshu
Thinking we can pray our way out of every single problem or hoping and waiting for a government to make proper economic or social decision
#11. my damn parents (expectation of me)
Thanks very much 🥰🥰❤❤
Trap 16. Falling in love with someone who do not understand your dream.
Friends and trying to be like them
Wat I mean is fitting into groups
One of d worst things u can ever do
I did it and i regret it
Mostly Teena are into this
So beware
Coz I have lost it all
U r unique on ur own
Don't change for someone else
Securing debt for someone else. Don't cosign anything. Find other ways to be supportive.
Definitely. Or give them money as a gift.
Hitting the big score trap. If I just bought bitcoin at one thousand my life would be different.
Very powerful video🌎 Thanks.
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Love trap 🕳
Wonderful Video 🌎 Thanks Alux. Greetings from Colombia. The Venezuelan immigrant writer 🇻🇪
I've got trapped in my life before. I got scammed by the wrong people who try to offer me a FAKE job and steal my money. I'm not going to put myself in that position again.
Never fall into that kind of trap again! I wish you all the best in life 😊
may God bless you
I know a big trap that no one ever seems to talk about. I’ll call it the “Good person/bettering yourself” trap. Okay, so it might not be the best name but hear me out. Okay, so when I was young, like a kid, I thought people just fell in love with each other, had breakups, got married, etc. and it was just human nature. I thought it would just happen in time, that there was someone for everyone. Okay, so back then, I was very quiet, but very much wanted love, and no one really ever asked me out or anything. I asked out a guy myself, and he just turned me down. I flirted with another one, but he just pretended he didn’t understand. So, finally, I tried to talk more, and by junior high, had one of the largest friend groups in school, as I joined a club and made friends. Still though, though I could make people laugh and even give me a standing ovation, no one ever asked me out. They never even flirted or anything. I got decent grades and went to church, as people tried to act like these were ways to get people to know you more. But it still never lead to anything. If anything, it made people hate me more! Over time, and into adulthood, I tried many things people say can help people find love-I get out of the house regularly, I’ve moved, I live in a decent sized city, I’ve showed my compassionate/caring side, I have a dog, I’ve changed my appearance many times, I’ve worn different kinds of clothes, I’ve lost weight, I’ve gained weight, I did some college, I worked at a theme park, I’ve went to local events, I’ve met important people, I’ve travelled some, I have a lot of hobbies and a few I’m decent enough at, I was an extra for a tv show, I’ve worked at factories...the list goes on. Though I’ve lived a lot of life it feels like, still, no one ever cared, I guess. I’ve even done other things..one time I saved three lives in a flood, I talked a kid out of committing suicide, I’ve been a friend to the friendless, I’ve tried to understand people from different cultures, I’ve supported causes I believe in...but still..nothing really ever seemed to work. Now, I know you should not live your life to impress others, and truly, I don’t. It feels good to just better yourself and try to be a good person....BUT seriously! What ARE people looking for?! I’ve met a lot of people in my travels, and some people I’ve met, I’m not gonna say they don’t deserve love and have it..but seriously, I’ve known people who are literally crazy (like have serious mental health problems like schizophrenia etc) and yet STILL find love, whenever doctors act like they cannot even truly love anyway! But yet, people still care about them and give them love. A lot of self-help people want to say that, oh, “you are the problem”, but no. It really does seem to be them. Now I’m not saying self-improvement is bad..not at all, but seriously. Is this just a trap or what? Can anyone explain this?
I'd at least try online dating if you haven't already. There's lots of different sites. Let people know who you are and what you're looking for in a partner. Talk to people, even if it doesn't turn into anything. Reach out and be friendly. It may take a while...Good luck!
Pray. If all else fails, pray. It will be your guide.
@@philanalim2830 I did. Hence the church part, but thanks for your input.
@@alidapearce621 I haven't tried online dating bc there are weirdos out there. Online life is okay, but there should be no reason why someone couldn't meet someone in offline life. People didn't used to have to rely on the internet to meet someone, throughout all of history. If I couldn't meet ANYONE who's a good fit or even a decent-enough fit in a city of 100'000+, nor in moving next to a border with another country for years, I have no idea what the problem is. It'd be easy to blame oneself, but truthfully, for all my own bad habits, worse people than me have found love. Look at history---even dictators and other truly horrible people had wives and usually more than one! Truthfully, usually I just work on my own life and ignore the fact that, apparently, I must be one of the least date-able people in history I guess, lol, or at least that I've ever heard of! As a research-minded person who likes to study statistics sometimes, this seems like pretty bad odds to have crossed paths with so many people in my life so far, and yet, had very few even offers to even attempt a relationship.And most of those were alcoholics and I don't even drink. Seriously, I don't know what it is, but thank you for listening to my rant and responding..lol.
Thank you for this video ⚘the Trap of fake friendship🎭🤡🤥 and boyfriend 🎭🤥🏃♀️
myth: we have plenty of time
truth: life goes by quicker than you think, NTM no ones guaranteed a tomorrow. once you get to being in your mid 20s, years start passing like days.
Thanks!
Thanks for sharing
The religion trap thinking God is coming to save you
Today the people just think about your life out the body, stop and think what you have until now if you need more and the price that you have to pay for you obtain it, your liberty is more important for you lives your life with people that you love and meet the world better that you live.
Some good stuff, i come here time to time…..i enjoy seeing things from your point of view.
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Thank you for the informative information , you give me insight on things that I can use immediately after watch the videos, for free!!!crazy.
Oh my goodness #7 is definitely me, I got to get myself out there for success
This video really summarizes everything
Your my financial teacher thank you so much