The size of the ring doesnt matter, what matters is if he listened and understands you both the ring and proposal aspect. A ring is just an accessory, your relationship should be based on more
What she meant is That her husband would put efford on it. And not as an excuse being cheap. You know. He should do it with a bit efford for his wife what she likes. Not just lazy and saying I don't have money or so. Because a lot lazy men comes cheap with their real reasons
Exactly. If you want an expensive object buy what you want. If you want a good man,and you measure his goodness on what he bought,that says a lot about you.
My ring was $281 (maybe less but he got a warranty for it) and it's my fave color and fave stone. I get compliments ALL THE TIME on it. It's more meaningful than a worthless diamond anyway.
Blue Indigo no, I mean both men and women. The engagement ring is most applicable to women but there are countless other examples in which men may have shallow desires. Do you really think women are the only one’s guilty of this? We all need humility.
Todd Leroy if that’s the case why are men more than twice as likely to cheat on their spouse? That couldn’t possibly be shallow at all... I’m just waiting for the excuse “oh well there’s underlying causes that push men away and force them to cheat.”
My husband and I got married with NO rings he bought me one like 1 year after but it didnt matter because i knew he loved me... He passed away 5 months ago materialistic things dont matter !
My parents have been together 20+ years. My dad couldnt afford it they have one of the strongest marriages ive seen. Ladies dont let material things limit you from a great man.
Not always in fact stats show thwyre typically traditionalists and traditionalist statistically divorce less. Now whether or not they're happy within those relationships are another story
Yup. Those types of people look to be served but do not serve in return. Besides here is my perspective. If your not content with the size of the ring your significant other gifts you, then Talk! open your mouth and express to him whatever reason it is that you may not be content with the ring. There could be so many reasons behind the factvtgat he bought a small ring. Maybe he thought it was your taste, Maybe he thought it would flatter your hand better. Don't just give the could shoulder to a man becuase he didn't fullfill a shallow expectation of yours. Give him a chance to explain and if his explanation concludes that he just didn't wanna put the work in for a nicer ring then that is a deal breaker for me. At the end of the day if rather have a small modest ring but a man with a heart of gold who listens, loves, and caters to my needs. There is so much more to a man than his money.. nough said.
My ring is around $23 and my "wedding" cost around $300 all together including clothes ,shoes the rings etc for both of us!!! and "honeymoon" ! And guess what? my husband is the most thoughtful, loving, hard working (pays all the bills) and faithful man ever!!! I wud marry him if he asked me with a string!!! A "wedding" and a ring IS NOT a requirement for marriage!!!
The fact that someone took the time to buy something to show you their love is such a gift. The size doesn't matter. The fact that someone chose you as their forever and chose to give you a symbol of that love is huge.
I agree loudness is annoying. But I completely agree with her points. If a man can do better but isn't, then he isn't the one. Women need to know that they shouldn't settle. Men too.
Amy's ring is the perfect size. You want the ring to be practical too. Amal clooney got a huge rock and after some months she wanted to get a smaller ring to go to work with. I get it.
Things I want my man to work multiple jobs for: 1) our home, 2) our children, 3) our life together. Things I don’t want my man to work multiple jobs for: a ring to put on my finger so I have something to prove to other people. I’d rather he spend that extra time he would spend working extra jobs with me, building our relationship. I swear, the amount of shallowness in this world is mind boggling.
So is a house. This is an entirely new argument that is a little ridiculous. You could also just put that money in the bank and let it accrue interest or invest it. This is such nonsense.
Your comment is nonsensical and I have no idea what point you are trying to make. The money you save up to purchase a ring can just go into a bank and be kept for a rainy day. Have you ever tried to sell a diamond ring for what you purchased it for, or more? As someone with 15 years in the diamond business said: "Diamonds are not an investment - they are a retail product like any other. People explain away spending thousands of dollars on a little stone because they mistakenly believe that the diamond is a solid investment. Are there any other investment classes where the person selling you the asset makes a minimum 10 percent profit margin (usually much more)? Most people would be lucky to get half of what they paid if they tried to sell a ring the day after they bought it. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that buying a diamond is a safe place to put away money for a rainy day."
Lydia B Diamonds lose 50% of value when you buy them and aren't even rare, they are just solid carbon. So that isn't even a good point cause you lose more cash than you gain.
When my husband and I got engaged we were in our early 20’s and all he could afford were small rings. And you know what, I still love them now, 9 years later. All that matters is that I married the man I love. Period. Oh, also, my husband bought himself an engagement band to wear after he proposed. I’m not gonna lie, I thought it was pretty weird at first, but I love that he wanted everyone to know that he was taken.
Imagine caring more about the size and the price of a ring instead of the fact that the person you are so in love with is asking you to marry them!!!!!!!!!
Some people say worthless diamond this or that. To be honest. Expensive cars or iPhone or buying any material stuff it's all because people like it. It has nothing to do with the prices. The only thing is we people all like things that look nice. Weather it's buying a Playstation or anything that don't needed in daily life. But we like it. So it's about if you want to give the significant other also what she likes and you still can love eachother and live they a family till the day your old. And small rings or no rings can also be like a big diamond no meaning. Some of you say small ring but he is good to me. No hunney. You can not tell as the big ring that small ring that your man is better. Both ways isn't true. Finally two living together and happy with eachother weather small or big. Both has nothing to do with it but it's nice to get one if he would want to get you something he could put efford in it to give you as a a reminder. You giving birth and everythjng. So give your lady something you would want to give yourself yoo
Latin are naturally loud, sometimes i even ask my mom to stop being so loud and guess what.....i ask her loudly to stop being loud😂😂😂😂😂😂😂it's just uncontrollable.
For me, no it isn't. I'm more concerned about the person I would be getting ready to marry. In fact, that's probably why a lot of these marriages fail. They marry the wrong person, and get married for the wrong reasons.
My dad didn't give my mum a engagement ring because they were both broke. But afterwards he got her one and an amazing wedding ring. My mum's wedding dress was £100 and her wedding cost probably £300 all together because it was literally only family and friends and they went and got fish and chips by the beach they got married near. It's so romantic. People put too much emphasis on the wedding and not on the marriage itself and they've been married for 26 years
Honestly my husband and I bought our rings on amazon and got married at the court house. In April we will celebrate 5 years the ring and wedding doesn’t determine how your marriage will be.
Andeavor thank you and exactly. The whole concept of a diamond ring started as simply an advertisement ploy. Look up the roots and the connection between diamond rings and it’s correlation to marriage and love. “Diamonds are a girls best friend” blah blah blah. People need to THINK for themselves and live for themselves. Diamonds are worthless 🤷🏾♀️ and marriage is a contract nothing to do with love really. Love is personal
Lela Robinson Sometimes I think she forces herself into black. Look at her hands. I have NEVER seen Black people with dirty hands like that. It looks like ink
Lek Rosa my grandpa has hands like that and my great grandma and I knew another black man who’s palms were completely black(he was a coal miner I think)
Elias that's exactly what I'm saying, size shouldn't be a make or break factor. You're literally saying the same thing I'm saying. It being 2018 doesn't play a part in the situation.
He should get her a ring that she loves and appreciates and if he wants her to wear it everyday he should take in to consideration what she actually likes and if thats a bigger rock then thats what hes gonna have to do😁
No offense, but people are getting divorced so often because they settle for peanuts, in order to get “a ring,” and because they’re so concerned with how things look rather then how things actually are. A man should get what he can afford and it should be happily accepted. People really should look deeper in relationships and how they are represented.
I, Adaora engagement rings arent even needed. I know tons of people who just made the girls day specially and proposed without a ring. I even know women who proposed. My moms ring was super small and I always wanted it. Unfortunately she sold it. Her wedding dress cost more than her ring.
Zireling Personally, I am a bit old fashioned, in that I want to wear a ring of some kind that tells the world that a good man asked for my hand. I don't need to be there when he picks it out and I don't need to know how much it cost. But I think the man is the most important thing - how he loves you and how he cherishes you is what counts in my opinion (and everything I said before is how I feel). And he loves you by picking out what he can afford and if you truly love someone you would accept what they can afford to give you. Loved hearing your opinion.
I agree with you. Alota the reason ppl rush into relationships and unstable marriages is becuase they're desperately wanting to feel loved and valued. We rush without thoroughly evaluating the person who were about to spend our lives with.
I feel like celebrity culture has made normal women want these ridiculous wedding rings that most men can not afford and then those women become upset because they think he didn't try hard enough.
@@toddleroy2772 then you're not surrounded by the right type of women because that's not the majority of women. All of my married friends, myself Included got rings under $300 and are very happy with our unique rings.
I love my heirloom ring. It was my mother-in-laws quinceanera ring, so it's incredibly meaningful. It's a blue saphire. It's just my favorite and I'm so grateful.
Jenna Smith we don’t know anything about Kim K’s marriage though. You’d be better off using Beyoncè as an example. She got cheated on, Kanye has been faithful.
I think what she means is that he would do anything to make her happy and loved. If a big ring was what she wanted, then he'd work as hard as possible to make her happy.
What she meant is That her husband would put efford on it. And not as an excuse being cheap. You know. He should do it with a bit efford for his wife what she likes. Not just lazy and saying I don't have money or so. Because a lot lazy men comes cheap with their real reasons
My engagement ring was €22 and I adore it! My guy knew I didn't want a diamond, and I prefer silver, so he got me a silver band the type I can wear in work, with a blue topaz for my birthstone and also because it's the stone that represents creativity. I adore it and I wear it all the time. I would be terrified if I was given a really expensive ring & I wouldn't enjoy it nearly as much!
Saarti Aipinge 😂😂😂 I can't imagine a female wanting to spend a bunch of money on an engagement ring the day that actually happens is the day engagement rings will stop being a thing.
whygiveup11 I totally agree with you, I wouldn't want to spend bunches of money in a ring that belongs to my man either. But at the same time I feel like it would have been interesting and fair enough if a guy could just buy two rings, one for himself and the other for lady, so that they all have the sign which signifies that they are officially off market.
my husband wore his wedding band from the time he proposed until our wedding 3 years later. he had to take it off for our wedding so he could put it back on at the ceremony lol. he also accidently proposed to me using the wedding band haha i was like aww honey yes yes i will but i want that ring the one with the diamonds on it in the box you have there yeah thats the engagment ring... lol we had a good little laugh it was cute....
My ring is very simple. I had went to visit a friend who had also been recently engaged, and she was shading me about my ring. Funny thing is she so unhappy in her relationship. I'm greatful for my small ring, and my loving soon to be hubby
make sure to let that girl know hubby also swingin in all the right ways. ring dont mean more/less than the person behind it,, a small ring from a giant of a good man is a giant ring,,, a giant ring from a small and petty man is still a small ring.....
My engagement ring is not huge, but it is a family heirloom. It was my mother’s engagement ring and wedding band set. She gave it to my husband and he had it resized, polished, and the diamond replaced. It was previously tarnished and been through a lot of wear and tear. The ring is beautiful and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. It’s even more meaningful now that my mother has gone to be with the Lord. 🙏🏼
The guy needs to know what kind of ring his woman likes before he buys the ring. If you know that she likes huge rings then you just have to buy a huge ring. If you know that she likes small rings ...well you buy her a small ring.
Well it doesn't hurt to know what your future wife likes, but women should not base the relationship on what kind of ring she gets. Why should they even get a ring in the first place? Just get married and be happy with that. The ring means nothing in the long run. In my country, engagement rings aren't that common. Usually the couple gets plain matching rings for the wedding ceremony and that's it.
its a sign that you are taken and a symbol for love. i like small diamonds, but other stones. and i want a medium sized ring. not too big not too small. and my husband will know that.
Engagement ring are not that common? Where do you live? I live in a really small country in europe and engagement rings are a must for a wedding. If you want me to marry you will buy that ring. In our country you can get an engagement ring for about 80€ which is nothing. If that`s to much.....by. Wedding rings are a lot more. And you can only buy one ring and have it as engagement and a wedding ring.
I always say this : a ring is a ring is a ring... as long as the person loves you and knows what kind of ring you want to show that they paid attention & it has thoughtfulness added to it , it's ok !!! But why do people who are celebrities need to have a big ring ?!?! I've always wondered why people have a problem with it and she's the one wearing it ? Let women live !
Myronn Coleman First of all diamonds are NOT RARE! it's just solid carbon. There are millions of diamonds in Africa. They are only expensive because a jewelry company used it as a marketing ploy for what a man should buy for his fiance in the 1920s. In other words diamonds ain't worth shit😂😂😂
My coworker wears a pink silicone wedding band. She’s allergic to all metals. It’s so cute and simple. My hubby and I wear matching titanium bands. Love the gunmetal gray color! Strong Love♥️
I told my husband all I wanted was a ring I could have forever and not need to upgrade and that he put more money towards the diamond and not the wedding. I love diamonds and I don’t care for weddings. So my husband got me a beautiful ring that was perfect and more than what I was expecting because of our age and his work situation and got married at the court house. Dress and “wedding” was only 160 bish ;) I love him so much because he knew I wanted a nice ring and just to be married. Weddings are too much work and money for one day. My ring is forever as is my marriage. I have my diamond forever, him forever, and our day didn’t cost us anything and it was the best day ever!
I wish they had co-host in their twenties who could give a fresher perspective on traditions such as wedding rings and marriage. A lot of my girlfriends would not care about the size and many of my friends choose to stay in long term partnerships instead of getting married. Times are changing.
First of all, never ask for or accept ANYTHING that you already know is out of his (and ultimately your) financial capability- including clothes, cars, house, extravant wedding,honeymoon, etc. Your fiance should already know your personal taste in ALL things of importance prior to the engagement- including jewelry. The ring should reflect YOUR taste. At the end of the day, this is probably your ring for life. It shouldn't be a deal-breaker but yes, it matters!!
Miyaaa. You have fat fingers because you want to..... lose weight they won’t be fat anymore. Bullshit excuses... big or small who cares as long as it’s cute that’s all it matters. Gold digger
I’ve spoken to my boyfriend about this because we are ready to transition to the next level in life and I told him I don’t necessarily need a ring. I personally prefer a necklace with our birthstone (we are both amethysts) and then add the stones of our future children. But if he decides a ring I prefer a practical small ring :) also where he is from women give men watches as a way in accepting the engagement
When my husband and I got married I honestly didn’t want a big ring. I told him I only wanted a band that I loved and didn’t want a separate engagement ring and I didn’t want a large wedding either. I wanted a band that I loved so that’s what he got me. I absolutely loved that ring!!! It was simple and pretty. I had to take it off for class because it had a rite of diamonds which weren’t allowed in that class. I usually took it off at home if I was going to lab classes but forgot that day. I ended up misplacing it. After 13 years with that ring I was heartbroken! He bought me a beautiful new bridal set that year for my birthday. I took it off because my hands sometimes swell due to my RA. Guess what happened? My alcoholic cousin stole it out of my car and o never saw it again. Now I wear a really pretty pearl color groove ring that I don’t need to take off while I’m doing anything. It’s comfortable and it can stay on even if my hands swell.
Some people say worthless diamond this or that. To be honest. Expensive cars or iPhone or buying any material stuff it's all because people like it. It has nothing to do with the prices. The only thing is we people all like things that look nice. Weather it's buying a Playstation or anything that don't needed in daily life. But we like it. So it's about if you want to give the significant other also what she likes and you still can love eachother and live they a family till the day your old. And small rings or no rings can also be like a big diamond no meaning. Some of you say small ring but he is good to me. No hunney. You can not tell as the big ring that small ring that your man is better. Both ways isn't true. Finally two living together and happy with eachother weather small or big. Both has nothing to do with it but it's nice to get one if he would want to get you something he could put efford in it to give you as a a reminder. You giving birth and everythjng. So give your lady something you would want to give yourself yoo
Plus in certain parts of the world you are safer with a small ring. That way you don't attract negative attention, cause trust me your finger and your ring can be gone in a split second..
My ex-husband bought me a 1/3 diamond engagement and I bought him a gold ring with a tiger’s eye after he proposed. We were in college and didn’t have much money, but we wore our rings with pride. My heart broke when a trusted friend stole my engagement ring. And even though my ex replaced it with a bigger ring, it wasn’t the same. 😢
My husband and I married young and he worked at foodland and I was a dog groomer... we were completely in love and my ring is only a 1/4 k but we have been married over 8 years in our own happily ever after. My ring is precious to me and I will treasure it forever. True love is what matters. Not the size of the dimond.
Me and my husband decided to design our own rings, I ended up with a beautiful amethyst solitaire ring in white gold and he chose a titanium ring with a hammered finish. I work in an office and he lifts heavy appliances all day so he wanted something sturdy, not super fancy. It is what worked for us. And also, here both parties wear rings when we get engaged. :)
If you’re truely in love with the person, you’ll accept any ring. My mom has been wearing a tiny golden band, and my parents been happily married for 30 years. However if you have the luxury to pick and choose, you can give your man a little hint of what u like. But it shouldnt be your biggest concern. People that are petty over things like that just wanna marry for the wedding, not the actual marriage.
It just ain't that deep. If he can afford to give you a flashy one, you will expect a big one. regardless though, if it is a super meaningful and not so big, the woman will love it no matter what.
My Husband got the exact ring I wanted because he listened like a hawk about what I wanted someday and my taste and he sat there with the jeweler and asked 100 questions about each diamond and etc and worked so hard to be able to afford it and awww just melted my heart and I LOVE IT!!
Why? Do you know how many people die so we can get “diamonds?” As long as we have a 3 bedroom bungalow and space for me to grow food, that’s what is important to me.
when my husband and I got engaged, he got a ring as well and wore it during our engagement. It was a beautiful thing and OF COURSE because no man ever does that people were asking a MILLION questions. But this felt right to us and he wanted to do it so we did it and it was a beautiful thing for the both of us.
I think you also need to consider job... I'm a nurse, I'm constantly washing my hands and wearing gloves and with the stuff I touch I don't need rings ripping my gloves or getting tainted from sanitizer...so consider that too.
I think some people are saying that, its not specifically about the size but the EFFORT they put into the ring whether big or small. Everyone is saying “the ring doesn’t matter” that sounds cute BUT I do think the effort and thought put into it does matter! Don’t get me a $23 ring if you buy $300 jordans every time they’re released! Now I’m not the girl that has to have an expensive ring but I am the girl who loves effort.. just my opinion
My sisters coworker just got engaged and every other coworker is making fun of her tiny ring. But she let them know that she don’t care and she loves the ring and her new fiancé. You marring the man, not the ring. Personally, I love the ring my husband got for me!
My cousins engagement ring was a pebble from the place they went on their first date (a hike). Meant much more to her than any massive diamond would have.
Every woman wants a pretty ring ... but if i know that my man really loves me respects me makes me feel like a queen supports me and my dreams than i dont care if he can only affort a 200 dollar ring as long as i like it and it looks good on my finger who cares about size or price
Size depends on the person. Some people just love bling and some don’t. For me a ring is just a symbol. I was never really into jewelry. My (now) husband and I just went to the mall and took me 5 minutes to pick it out and was only a few hundred dollars. I absolutely love it and what it stands for.
Great point Loni. I actually didn’t know my fiancé was going to propose to me and that same day I give him a promise ring. We both felt it was the right place, right time with the right people.
An engagement ring is purely symbolic. If you can’t look past the size of a stone and see everything he is really offering you...a home, his life, his heart etc...then you aren’t looking for a marriage. You’re looking for a payout 🤷🏻♀️
I agree, but if some women expect an expensive engagement ring then they need to contribute financially towards the ring as well. It’s so stupid that only men are expected to pay for an expensive engagement ring.
Well, girls has different opinion about that but for me it doesn't really matter for me if the diamond is small or big or the karat what so ever, for me the most important is who give and how sincere that person is to me.
I used to admire my makeup artist’s engagement ring. The diamond was very small but it was super sparkly and she always seemed pretty happy and cheerful. I would imagine that the guy who gave her that ring must love her bunches and this was the best he could do.
One of the reasons I married my wife, is she thinks white diamonds are common & doesn't like them. So, I bought her wedding set (engagement ring & wedding bands) with our birthstones instead. Mine is emerald, hers is blue topaz. Her wedding band is split so the engagement ring sits in between, one side is emeralds, the other blue topazes. The engagement ring is blue topazes increasing in size up to a 2 carat emerald. My band is three stones 2 topazes on each side of an emerald. All 3 rings are 18 carat white gold. Thought I would get off cheap not having to buy diamonds, wrong, custom rings with birthstones cost us more. The reason for the birthstones is always to remind us that our love surounds & intertwines us.
I don't care if it's small or big, I just would want him to know my style and what would fit my hand. Also, this is NOT what matters when you get married
They need to stop picking on her, because some people like small diamonds, medium diamonds, or big diamonds, the man knows his future wife enough to what to give her for an engagement ring. I'm sure she told him or they talked about it DUH.
“Marriage is more than the wedding and the ring”
Damn right!
Some people just want to flaunt it is social media to envy others. So childish.
The size of her ass matters too.
Curtis Reese 2969 damn skippy!
Facts!
The size of the ring doesnt matter, what matters is if he listened and understands you both the ring and proposal aspect. A ring is just an accessory, your relationship should be based on more
Golddiggers
Yes
exactly. preach!!!!
ilikemonkeys b amazed u got a ring upgrade later!
Amen
I'd rather he work "500 jobs" so we can buy a house. Building a life together is more important than an engagement ring.
Renie Nostalgic AMENNNNNN!
Exactly
Awwww ❤️
I respect it. Two thumbs up
Thank you!
"Are you marrying the man or are you marrying the ring?" That's what my momma always said and I couldn't agree more!
The ring. And what the ring represents.
@@ryanphillips5591 Vanity?
What she meant is That her husband would put efford on it. And not as an excuse being cheap. You know. He should do it with a bit efford for his wife what she likes. Not just lazy and saying I don't have money or so. Because a lot lazy men comes cheap with their real reasons
That probably why so many couples divorce 🤷🏿♀️
the ring needs to be worth more than 2k in the case of divorce
If you're worried about the size of the ring, you're focusing on the wrong thing.
Exactly. If you want an expensive object buy what you want. If you want a good man,and you measure his goodness on what he bought,that says a lot about you.
Why by a ring in the first place
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My ring was $281 (maybe less but he got a warranty for it) and it's my fave color and fave stone. I get compliments ALL THE TIME on it. It's more meaningful than a worthless diamond anyway.
They are women. Money is all that matters. Love talking is all a show.
I'd actually prefer a less expensive ring cause I'd be sooo scared of losing it. I don't hold onto jewelry well.
Sameee
Same Girl!!! 😂😂😂
me too girl
Same girl same
My mom actually lost her really nice really expensive engagement ring IN A MALL and only realized once she got home👀
The fact this question even has to be discussed shows how shallow people are these days.
"People?"...you mean women.
Blue Indigo no, I mean both men and women. The engagement ring is most applicable to women but there are countless other examples in which men may have shallow desires. Do you really think women are the only one’s guilty of this? We all need humility.
Caleb Cousins in my lifetime yes. Women are much more shallow then men.
Caleb Cousins and no it’s not just the women I’ve been hanging around
Todd Leroy if that’s the case why are men more than twice as likely to cheat on their spouse? That couldn’t possibly be shallow at all... I’m just waiting for the excuse “oh well there’s underlying causes that push men away and force them to cheat.”
My husband and I got married with NO rings he bought me one like 1 year after but it didnt matter because i knew he loved me... He passed away 5 months ago materialistic things dont matter !
s k I am really sorry for your loss.
Ba Be 💕
im sorry for your loss.
Mmm...That was very Real and Mature.
Condolences
My parents have been together 20+ years. My dad couldnt afford it they have one of the strongest marriages ive seen. Ladies dont let material things limit you from a great man.
And you want to marty wth a glass ring right?
A ring doesn’t matter, the quality of the relationship and bond is what matters.
I want a meaningful ring and if it’s big that’s a bonus 😂
And if it's big that's a bonus
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The people who say a small ring is a deal breaker are the ones who get divorce real quit.
Selena Bryant Preach!
Yes
Not always in fact stats show thwyre typically traditionalists and traditionalist statistically divorce less. Now whether or not they're happy within those relationships are another story
Yup. Those types of people look to be served but do not serve in return. Besides here is my perspective. If your not content with the size of the ring your significant other gifts you, then Talk! open your mouth and express to him whatever reason it is that you may not be content with the ring. There could be so many reasons behind the factvtgat he bought a small ring. Maybe he thought it was your taste, Maybe he thought it would flatter your hand better. Don't just give the could shoulder to a man becuase he didn't fullfill a shallow expectation of yours. Give him a chance to explain and if his explanation concludes that he just didn't wanna put the work in for a nicer ring then that is a deal breaker for me. At the end of the day if rather have a small modest ring but a man with a heart of gold who listens, loves, and caters to my needs. There is so much more to a man than his money.. nough said.
Or will never be proposed to
My ring is around $23 and my "wedding" cost around $300 all together including clothes ,shoes the rings etc for both of us!!! and "honeymoon" ! And guess what? my husband is the most thoughtful, loving, hard working (pays all the bills) and faithful man ever!!! I wud marry him if he asked me with a string!!! A "wedding" and a ring IS NOT a requirement for marriage!!!
You Go Girl!! BLESSS YOUU!
Please tell these ladies what you just said :)
Get a new ring
Preach. The size of a ring does not equal how much a man loves u.
Annastacia Green-Malcolm Now that's what I'm talking about! You know what's really important when going into a marriage. All the best to you.
The fact that someone took the time to buy something to show you their love is such a gift. The size doesn't matter. The fact that someone chose you as their forever and chose to give you a symbol of that love is huge.
amara is so loud lmao did y’all see loni’s face when she started talking 😂 1:07 and her opinions were annoying
I agree loudness is annoying. But I completely agree with her points. If a man can do better but isn't, then he isn't the one. Women need to know that they shouldn't settle. Men too.
She's a dominican ,its normal🤣🤣🤣
Amy's ring is the perfect size. You want the ring to be practical too. Amal clooney got a huge rock and after some months she wanted to get a smaller ring to go to work with. I get it.
Something u can wear n public n not b afraid of getting robbed
Yes, it's very practical to have a small ring so that it doesn't get in the way when you do things
Things I want my man to work multiple jobs for: 1) our home, 2) our children, 3) our life together. Things I don’t want my man to work multiple jobs for: a ring to put on my finger so I have something to prove to other people. I’d rather he spend that extra time he would spend working extra jobs with me, building our relationship. I swear, the amount of shallowness in this world is mind boggling.
i like a woman like you.build your home not on engagement ring, and let me add not only also spend lot of money on the wedding preparation.
So is a house. This is an entirely new argument that is a little ridiculous. You could also just put that money in the bank and let it accrue interest or invest it. This is such nonsense.
Your comment is nonsensical and I have no idea what point you are trying to make. The money you save up to purchase a ring can just go into a bank and be kept for a rainy day. Have you ever tried to sell a diamond ring for what you purchased it for, or more? As someone with 15 years in the diamond business said: "Diamonds are not an investment - they are a retail product like any other. People explain away spending thousands of dollars on a little stone because they mistakenly believe that the diamond is a solid investment. Are there any other investment classes where the person selling you the asset makes a minimum 10 percent profit margin (usually much more)? Most people would be lucky to get half of what they paid if they tried to sell a ring the day after they bought it. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that buying a diamond is a safe place to put away money for a rainy day."
Lydia B
Diamonds lose 50% of value when you buy them and aren't even rare, they are just solid carbon. So that isn't even a good point cause you lose more cash than you gain.
Yesss W.S I feel u on that comment
I didn't even know Amy Schumer was dating somebody.
gigglyfitzgirl omg yaaas😂😂😂😂
They already got married.
This is out of date, because Amy got married in February. It was fast, because Amy and Chris, a chef, had only been dating a few short months.
Vi W Oh wow. Thanks! Yeah I don't keep up with Amy at all and I don't keep up with The Real like I used to.
gigglyfitzgirl and I think that’s why she didn’t want a huge ring because she’s low key with her relationship so her ring reflects ts
When my husband and I got engaged we were in our early 20’s and all he could afford were small rings. And you know what, I still love them now, 9 years later. All that matters is that I married the man I love. Period.
Oh, also, my husband bought himself an engagement band to wear after he proposed. I’m not gonna lie, I thought it was pretty weird at first, but I love that he wanted everyone to know that he was taken.
My husband did the same thing.
Imagine caring more about the size and the price of a ring instead of the fact that the person you are so in love with is asking you to marry them!!!!!!!!!
Some people say worthless diamond this or that. To be honest. Expensive cars or iPhone or buying any material stuff it's all because people like it. It has nothing to do with the prices. The only thing is we people all like things that look nice. Weather it's buying a Playstation or anything that don't needed in daily life. But we like it. So it's about if you want to give the significant other also what she likes and you still can love eachother and live they a family till the day your old. And small rings or no rings can also be like a big diamond no meaning. Some of you say small ring but he is good to me. No hunney. You can not tell as the big ring that small ring that your man is better. Both ways isn't true. Finally two living together and happy with eachother weather small or big. Both has nothing to do with it but it's nice to get one if he would want to get you something he could put efford in it to give you as a a reminder. You giving birth and everythjng. So give your lady something you would want to give yourself yoo
Is it me or does it sound like the lady in the middle is yelling 😂
yes . shes very loud
Linny Cin You almost have to, with Adrienne on the panel. She will talk over you.
Latin are naturally loud, sometimes i even ask my mom to stop being so loud and guess what.....i ask her loudly to stop being loud😂😂😂😂😂😂😂it's just uncontrollable.
Laura Reynolds she was yelling when Adrienne wasn’t talking though.
Linny Cin She also comes off like she's trying to act like Cardi.. but thats just me. She's beautiful though!
Amara is always yelling when she talk.
I kind of like it for some reason
Shes beautiful, but undercuts that by being loud and tacky.
Cuz she needs BBC
She is tacky
I literally jus wondered ehy she was yelling. But I dunno maybe being in the studio or the applauding affects her hearing!
For me, no it isn't. I'm more concerned about the person I would be getting ready to marry. In fact, that's probably why a lot of these marriages fail. They marry the wrong person, and get married for the wrong reasons.
Tiffany Rayne exactly
say it louder for the people in the back!
I work in healthcare and have to take my ring on and off constantly. Get me something that won't make me have a heart attack when I lose it.
My dad didn't give my mum a engagement ring because they were both broke. But afterwards he got her one and an amazing wedding ring. My mum's wedding dress was £100 and her wedding cost probably £300 all together because it was literally only family and friends and they went and got fish and chips by the beach they got married near. It's so romantic. People put too much emphasis on the wedding and not on the marriage itself and they've been married for 26 years
Honestly my husband and I bought our rings on amazon and got married at the court house. In April we will celebrate 5 years the ring and wedding doesn’t determine how your marriage will be.
Diamonds are essentially worthless; they have no re-sell value. Save the money for a downpayment or future kids or something.
Andeavor thank you and exactly. The whole concept of a diamond ring started as simply an advertisement ploy. Look up the roots and the connection between diamond rings and it’s correlation to marriage and love. “Diamonds are a girls best friend” blah blah blah. People need to THINK for themselves and live for themselves. Diamonds are worthless 🤷🏾♀️ and marriage is a contract nothing to do with love really. Love is personal
Agreed!
I actually heard that some real crystals or other rocks have more value than a diamond yet they're cheaper? Does anyone know if this is true :-0
Leibnizth Martin Del Campo Yep, rubies as well!
Humble Chiq wow that's so interesting! Thank you for answering my question :-)
Amara is just stunning !! One of the most beautiful faces I've ever seen
She is, but she detracts from her beauty by being loud and gaudy.
sometimes I think that she's painted
Lek Rosa why do you think she is painted? What color do you think she should be? Sky blue? Hot pink?
Lela Robinson Sometimes I think she forces herself into black. Look at her hands. I have NEVER seen Black people with dirty hands like that. It looks like ink
Lek Rosa my grandpa has hands like that and my great grandma and I knew another black man who’s palms were completely black(he was a coal miner I think)
what ever happened to being grateful for what you get/have?
Bangtan9795 exactly
It's 2018 people don't care about that (women)
Yung activist speak for yourself, 2018 has nothing to do with being grateful for what you get
Elias that's exactly what I'm saying, size shouldn't be a make or break factor. You're literally saying the same thing I'm saying. It being 2018 doesn't play a part in the situation.
He should get her a ring that she loves and appreciates and if he wants her to wear it everyday he should take in to consideration what she actually likes and if thats a bigger rock then thats what hes gonna have to do😁
The Real: are guys shallow if they want a beautiful woman? - Yes!
Also The Real: does a small ring matter? - Yes!
Why can’t the focus just be having a good relationship, not a ring, not looks, not a ton of money?
Tamera said she’d be fine with a small ring already having a giant one
No offense, but people are getting divorced so often because they settle for peanuts, in order to get “a ring,” and because they’re so concerned with how things look rather then how things actually are. A man should get what he can afford and it should be happily accepted. People really should look deeper in relationships and how they are represented.
I, Adaora engagement rings arent even needed. I know tons of people who just made the girls day specially and proposed without a ring. I even know women who proposed. My moms ring was super small and I always wanted it. Unfortunately she sold it. Her wedding dress cost more than her ring.
Zireling Personally, I am a bit old fashioned, in that I want to wear a ring of some kind that tells the world that a good man asked for my hand. I don't need to be there when he picks it out and I don't need to know how much it cost. But I think the man is the most important thing - how he loves you and how he cherishes you is what counts in my opinion (and everything I said before is how I feel). And he loves you by picking out what he can afford and if you truly love someone you would accept what they can afford to give you. Loved hearing your opinion.
Girl....
I agree with you. Alota the reason ppl rush into relationships and unstable marriages is becuase they're desperately wanting to feel loved and valued. We rush without thoroughly evaluating the person who were about to spend our lives with.
I, Adaora 👏👏 YES absolutely. You took the biggest hammer of logic and hit it right on the nail
I feel like celebrity culture has made normal women want these ridiculous wedding rings that most men can not afford and then those women become upset because they think he didn't try hard enough.
if you know your husband. then thats different.
That’s the main issue. It’s about showing off. People don’t understand that the average man makes 40k a year. A 10k ring isn’t going to work
Thank you Tamera!!
Having a big ring means nothing it's about the covent the vows you make with God and your spouse.
The woman who clapped for the size are the single ladies😂cuz a real woman wouldn’t care bout the size it’s the thought that count
Yeah these entitled botches need to quit lol
No they’re just the honest ones.
And sadly most of them were black. :(
@@toddleroy2772 then you're not surrounded by the right type of women because that's not the majority of women. All of my married friends, myself Included got rings under $300 and are very happy with our unique rings.
Cheyenne Michelle-Rena you’re lying to yourself. That or your man is particularly dominant.
I love my heirloom ring. It was my mother-in-laws quinceanera ring, so it's incredibly meaningful. It's a blue saphire. It's just my favorite and I'm so grateful.
...not trying to sound like a gold digger but if I know my man has money and I know he can afford a nice ring he better get me a nice ring!
Roberta Benson u sound like a gold digger
Roberta Benson That's exactly what a gold digger would say
what if he can't? Then you sound like one, I'm sorry
Roberta Benson I’m glad you know what you sound like
I agree tbh
Damn.. so many people are so shallow and superficial. It is the LOVE and the meaning behind it that matters, not a freaking ring.
When Tamera was talking about ppl out there with big fat rings and not so good marriages i was like **cough(wendy)cough**
Yall better stop it 😂
There's a whole list of people lol
Exactly
Jenna Smith we don’t know anything about Kim K’s marriage though. You’d be better off using Beyoncè as an example. She got cheated on, Kanye has been faithful.
@@captainamerica6545 cheated on several times.
Your husband shouldn’t have to work 500 jobs for your ring either Tamera...
I think what she means is that he would do anything to make her happy and loved. If a big ring was what she wanted, then he'd work as hard as possible to make her happy.
What she meant is That her husband would put efford on it. And not as an excuse being cheap. You know. He should do it with a bit efford for his wife what she likes. Not just lazy and saying I don't have money or so. Because a lot lazy men comes cheap with their real reasons
My engagement ring was €22 and I adore it! My guy knew I didn't want a diamond, and I prefer silver, so he got me a silver band the type I can wear in work, with a blue topaz for my birthstone and also because it's the stone that represents creativity. I adore it and I wear it all the time. I would be terrified if I was given a really expensive ring & I wouldn't enjoy it nearly as much!
Any man who's crazy enough to marry me I don't care if they give me a ring pop I'll take it
Me too! I would love ring pop
Nah at least get a band
Lizzie Robertson Thank you-you're so sweet
April Oritz lol
April Oritz my kinda girl lol
I agree with Loni, because I also don't understand why most if not all men don't wear engagement rings. I feel like it's a little bit unfair.
Saarti Aipinge 😂😂😂 I can't imagine a female wanting to spend a bunch of money on an engagement ring the day that actually happens is the day engagement rings will stop being a thing.
I got my husband one... But it wasn't anywhere near as expensive as mine was 😬 lol
Smyrne Hawkinson... That's amazing. But what was it something you discussed with your man before hand or you just bought it and surprised him?
Saarti Aipinge surprised him.
whygiveup11 I totally agree with you, I wouldn't want to spend bunches of money in a ring that belongs to my man either. But at the same time I feel like it would have been interesting and fair enough if a guy could just buy two rings, one for himself and the other for lady, so that they all have the sign which signifies that they are officially off market.
my husband wore his wedding band from the time he proposed until our wedding 3 years later. he had to take it off for our wedding so he could put it back on at the ceremony lol. he also accidently proposed to me using the wedding band haha i was like aww honey yes yes i will but i want that ring the one with the diamonds on it in the box you have there yeah thats the engagment ring... lol we had a good little laugh it was cute....
AWWW
Lol that is super cute
My ring is very simple. I had went to visit a friend who had also been recently engaged, and she was shading me about my ring. Funny thing is she so unhappy in her relationship. I'm greatful for my small ring, and my loving soon to be hubby
make sure to let that girl know hubby also swingin in all the right ways. ring dont mean more/less than the person behind it,, a small ring from a giant of a good man is a giant ring,,, a giant ring from a small and petty man is still a small ring.....
My engagement ring is not huge, but it is a family heirloom. It was my mother’s engagement ring and wedding band set. She gave it to my husband and he had it resized, polished, and the diamond replaced. It was previously tarnished and been through a lot of wear and tear. The ring is beautiful and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. It’s even more meaningful now that my mother has gone to be with the Lord. 🙏🏼
The guy needs to know what kind of ring his woman likes before he buys the ring. If you know that she likes huge rings then you just have to buy a huge ring. If you know that she likes small rings ...well you buy her a small ring.
Absolutely.... I second you 109%
Its as simple as that!
Well it doesn't hurt to know what your future wife likes, but women should not base the relationship on what kind of ring she gets. Why should they even get a ring in the first place? Just get married and be happy with that. The ring means nothing in the long run.
In my country, engagement rings aren't that common. Usually the couple gets plain matching rings for the wedding ceremony and that's it.
its a sign that you are taken and a symbol for love. i like small diamonds, but other stones. and i want a medium sized ring. not too big not too small. and my husband will know that.
Engagement ring are not that common? Where do you live? I live in a really small country in europe and engagement rings are a must for a wedding. If you want me to marry you will buy that ring. In our country you can get an engagement ring for about 80€ which is nothing. If that`s to much.....by. Wedding rings are a lot more. And you can only buy one ring and have it as engagement and a wedding ring.
So we measuring love by ring size -.- engagement rings are the biggest marketing scam started by DeBeers.
Bingo!
I always say this : a ring is a ring is a ring... as long as the person loves you and knows what kind of ring you want to show that they paid attention & it has thoughtfulness added to it , it's ok !!! But why do people who are celebrities need to have a big ring ?!?! I've always wondered why people have a problem with it and she's the one wearing it ? Let women live !
Myronn Coleman damn you ALWAYS say that?!? How much is you talking bout rings
Myronn Coleman First of all diamonds are NOT RARE! it's just solid carbon. There are millions of diamonds in Africa. They are only expensive because a jewelry company used it as a marketing ploy for what a man should buy for his fiance in the 1920s. In other words diamonds ain't worth shit😂😂😂
jonny davis thanks for your unwanted research / input about diamonds... I didn't ask
My coworker wears a pink silicone wedding band. She’s allergic to all metals. It’s so cute and simple.
My hubby and I wear matching titanium bands. Love the gunmetal gray color! Strong Love♥️
I told my husband all I wanted was a ring I could have forever and not need to upgrade and that he put more money towards the diamond and not the wedding. I love diamonds and I don’t care for weddings. So my husband got me a beautiful ring that was perfect and more than what I was expecting because of our age and his work situation and got married at the court house. Dress and “wedding” was only 160 bish ;) I love him so much because he knew I wanted a nice ring and just to be married. Weddings are too much work and money for one day. My ring is forever as is my marriage. I have my diamond forever, him forever, and our day didn’t cost us anything and it was the best day ever!
I wish they had co-host in their twenties who could give a fresher perspective on traditions such as wedding rings and marriage. A lot of my girlfriends would not care about the size and many of my friends choose to stay in long term partnerships instead of getting married. Times are changing.
NOt as much as people think. An overwhelming number of young women still want to get married.
My ring cost $29.95 + shipping and handling. Not mad and I’m still in love so what’s its matter.
Amen, Tamera!
This video is why less men are getting married.
nbcguitar this whole show is why almost no men are getting married honestly
They clearly said marriage is more than the wedding or the ring 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
nbcguitar Less men are getting married because women don’t want to marry
nbcguitar Men used to spend more back in the day, they are spending less now and getting married less 🤔 so ur point makes no sense
Men havent wanted to marry long before this video. I still have no idea what a man gets out of marriage anyway.
First of all, never ask for or accept ANYTHING that you already know is out of his (and ultimately your) financial capability- including clothes, cars, house, extravant wedding,honeymoon, etc.
Your fiance should already know your personal taste in ALL things of importance prior to the engagement- including jewelry. The ring should reflect YOUR taste. At the end of the day, this is probably your ring for life. It shouldn't be a deal-breaker but yes, it matters!!
I got fat fingers. I need a ring to compliment my hand, so size does matter for me. However, if you did the best you could, then I'm happy.
Miyaaa. You have fat fingers because you want to..... lose weight they won’t be fat anymore. Bullshit excuses... big or small who cares as long as it’s cute that’s all it matters. Gold digger
Liliana Santos why you right away telling someone to lose weight just cuz she mentiones having bigger fingers? 🙄
Because she's ignorant.
I have fat fingers too due to the middle bone being too wide and Im not overweight. That comment was so unnecessary.
Are you going to do the best you can for his ring? And spend just as much?
Tamar: “Wrong ring, wrong man”
Travis Brunson who cares, she isn't here
Wasn't her husband (who got her the "right" ring) arrested for hitting her? Doesn't sound like he's the right man...
Lol she would 😂
😂😂😂 totally something she would say 😩
ChrissyG ok
Anyone else getting Cardi B vibes from the middle girl
Yeppp
Bc she's Latina haha
well thats bc they are both afrolatina
My husband proposed with his late mother’s engagement ring. I love wearing it. I means so much to both of us.
This is completely an American thing..no shade!
AngieMaliNos no its not
I didn't pick my ring, my husband did and he did an amazing job!!! The ring can always be added to in the future anyway
Yes! and the ring is not a representation of how much someone loves you..
It's definitely not lol.
How tf are engagement rings an American thing ??
I’ve spoken to my boyfriend about this because we are ready to transition to the next level in life and I told him I don’t necessarily need a ring. I personally prefer a necklace with our birthstone (we are both amethysts) and then add the stones of our future children. But if he decides a ring I prefer a practical small ring :) also where he is from women give men watches as a way in accepting the engagement
No it doesn’t matter. I want his heart. This what matters most.
When my husband and I got married I honestly didn’t want a big ring. I told him I only wanted a band that I loved and didn’t want a separate engagement ring and I didn’t want a large wedding either. I wanted a band that I loved so that’s what he got me. I absolutely loved that ring!!! It was simple and pretty. I had to take it off for class because it had a rite of diamonds which weren’t allowed in that class. I usually took it off at home if I was going to lab classes but forgot that day. I ended up misplacing it. After 13 years with that ring I was heartbroken! He bought me a beautiful new bridal set that year for my birthday. I took it off because my hands sometimes swell due to my RA. Guess what happened? My alcoholic cousin stole it out of my car and o never saw it again. Now I wear a really pretty pearl color groove ring that I don’t need to take off while I’m doing anything. It’s comfortable and it can stay on even if my hands swell.
Bottom line: Are you marrying the man or the ring?
If you're marrying the ring, then go buy your own rock. 😳😄
P.S. This is coming from a woman.
Some people say worthless diamond this or that. To be honest. Expensive cars or iPhone or buying any material stuff it's all because people like it. It has nothing to do with the prices. The only thing is we people all like things that look nice. Weather it's buying a Playstation or anything that don't needed in daily life. But we like it. So it's about if you want to give the significant other also what she likes and you still can love eachother and live they a family till the day your old. And small rings or no rings can also be like a big diamond no meaning. Some of you say small ring but he is good to me. No hunney. You can not tell as the big ring that small ring that your man is better. Both ways isn't true. Finally two living together and happy with eachother weather small or big. Both has nothing to do with it but it's nice to get one if he would want to get you something he could put efford in it to give you as a a reminder. You giving birth and everythjng. So give your lady something you would want to give yourself yoo
Plus in certain parts of the world you are safer with a small ring. That way you don't attract negative attention, cause trust me your finger and your ring can be gone in a split second..
My ex-husband bought me a 1/3 diamond engagement and I bought him a gold ring with a tiger’s eye after he proposed. We were in college and didn’t have much money, but we wore our rings with pride. My heart broke when a trusted friend stole my engagement ring. And even though my ex replaced it with a bigger ring, it wasn’t the same. 😢
BOO on the ring thief
I got an engagement ring ad lmao😂😂😂
My husband and I married young and he worked at foodland and I was a dog groomer... we were completely in love and my ring is only a 1/4 k but we have been married over 8 years in our own happily ever after. My ring is precious to me and I will treasure it forever. True love is what matters. Not the size of the dimond.
Me and my husband decided to design our own rings, I ended up with a beautiful amethyst solitaire ring in white gold and he chose a titanium ring with a hammered finish. I work in an office and he lifts heavy appliances all day so he wanted something sturdy, not super fancy. It is what worked for us. And also, here both parties wear rings when we get engaged. :)
If you’re truely in love with the person, you’ll accept any ring. My mom has been wearing a tiny golden band, and my parents been happily married for 30 years. However if you have the luxury to pick and choose, you can give your man a little hint of what u like. But it shouldnt be your biggest concern. People that are petty over things like that just wanna marry for the wedding, not the actual marriage.
It just ain't that deep. If he can afford to give you a flashy one, you will expect a big one. regardless though, if it is a super meaningful and not so big, the woman will love it no matter what.
Amara is so beautiful but SO annoying. I fast-forward when she speaks and i'm sure i'm not the only one.
Mara Writes You’re not. But she does have the face of a doll, though. I guess something had to give.
Listening to these materialistic women talk about marriage is very scary.
Men should run for the hills if ring size is even mentioned
MGTOW
Abdelmelik Farooq Alwahid Alahh akkbaarrr
Abdelmelik Farooq Alwahid U gay already go ur own way since u don’t like women and cover them up with a black sheet
Just get z ring
My Husband got the exact ring I wanted because he listened like a hawk about what I wanted someday and my taste and he sat there with the jeweler and asked 100 questions about each diamond and etc and worked so hard to be able to afford it and awww just melted my heart and I LOVE IT!!
Aww
Why? Do you know how many people die so we can get “diamonds?” As long as we have a 3 bedroom bungalow and space for me to grow food, that’s what is important to me.
People are too sensitive about size
I also feel like the size of the ring doesn't really matter, as long as they are happy with it.
when my husband and I got engaged, he got a ring as well and wore it during our engagement. It was a beautiful thing and OF COURSE because no man ever does that people were asking a MILLION questions. But this felt right to us and he wanted to do it so we did it and it was a beautiful thing for the both of us.
"It
Doesn't
MATTER!!"
What Comes
From The Heart
REACHES THE HEART!!"
#dontbesoSHALLOW
You can always upgrade the ring
I think you also need to consider job... I'm a nurse, I'm constantly washing my hands and wearing gloves and with the stuff I touch I don't need rings ripping my gloves or getting tainted from sanitizer...so consider that too.
I think some people are saying that, its not specifically about the size but the EFFORT they put into the ring whether big or small. Everyone is saying “the ring doesn’t matter” that sounds cute BUT I do think the effort and thought put into it does matter! Don’t get me a $23 ring if you buy $300 jordans every time they’re released! Now I’m not the girl that has to have an expensive ring but I am the girl who loves effort.. just my opinion
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As long as I'm getting married to the love of my life I don't care.
I want a Moissanite/Sapphire so I can get a big stone that's not nearly as expensive as a diamond.
What factory made women like you?
My sisters coworker just got engaged and every other coworker is making fun of her tiny ring. But she let them know that she don’t care and she loves the ring and her new fiancé. You marring the man, not the ring. Personally, I love the ring my husband got for me!
Alisson Gil making fun of her tiny ring? Lol 😂 Who do you work with a bunch of children jeez
My cousins engagement ring was a pebble from the place they went on their first date (a hike). Meant much more to her than any massive diamond would have.
Every woman wants a pretty ring ... but if i know that my man really loves me respects me makes me feel like a queen supports me and my dreams than i dont care if he can only affort a 200 dollar ring as long as i like it and it looks good on my finger who cares about size or price
Size depends on the person. Some people just love bling and some don’t. For me a ring is just a symbol. I was never really into jewelry. My (now) husband and I just went to the mall and took me 5 minutes to pick it out and was only a few hundred dollars. I absolutely love it and what it stands for.
Great point Loni. I actually didn’t know my fiancé was going to propose to me and that same day I give him a promise ring. We both felt it was the right place, right time with the right people.
An engagement ring is purely symbolic.
If you can’t look past the size of a stone and see everything he is really offering you...a home, his life, his heart etc...then you aren’t looking for a marriage. You’re looking for a payout 🤷🏻♀️
Damn that was deep👏👏
As a man it matters! The ring you get your woman reflects on you, work hard and save your coins if you can’t afford it.
I agree, but if some women expect an expensive engagement ring then they need to contribute financially towards the ring as well. It’s so stupid that only men are expected to pay for an expensive engagement ring.
@@97I30T welcome to 2021 equality
Lol yea the ring is more important than buying a house right 😂
Well, girls has different opinion about that but for me it doesn't really matter for me if the diamond is small or big or the karat what so ever, for me the most important is who give and how sincere that person is to me.
I used to admire my makeup artist’s engagement ring. The diamond was very small but it was super sparkly and she always seemed pretty happy and cheerful. I would imagine that the guy who gave her that ring must love her bunches and this was the best he could do.
One of the reasons I married my wife, is she thinks white diamonds are common & doesn't like them. So, I bought her wedding set (engagement ring & wedding bands) with our birthstones instead. Mine is emerald, hers is blue topaz. Her wedding band is split so the engagement ring sits in between, one side is emeralds, the other blue topazes. The engagement ring is blue topazes increasing in size up to a 2 carat emerald. My band is three stones 2 topazes on each side of an emerald. All 3 rings are 18 carat white gold. Thought I would get off cheap not having to buy diamonds, wrong, custom rings with birthstones cost us more. The reason for the birthstones is always to remind us that our love surounds & intertwines us.
I don't care if it's small or big, I just would want him to know my style and what would fit my hand. Also, this is NOT what matters when you get married
It’s not the size of the ring it’s the size of the love ladies
They need to stop picking on her, because some people like small diamonds, medium diamonds, or big diamonds, the man knows his future wife enough to what to give her for an engagement ring. I'm sure she told him or they talked about it DUH.
Yes the size does matter if u waited a long time for the man to get his act together whether negative or positive...
My ring is 4 carats ...and sometimes I wish it was smaller. In certain situations I will take it off so people won’t judge me based on the size.
Well said Tam! Marriage is more than just the ring!😩