The Real Reason I Moved to Vietnam 7 Years Ago

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  • @kimberlybentleyme
    @kimberlybentleyme 5 місяців тому +162

    When you decided to move to Vietnam it killed me thinking you would be so far away...I was supportive because you needed something for yourself. I thank God every day that you have found what you need in Vietnam. I still wish you were closer, but your happiness means everything to me. You are courageous for sharing your truth and finding a way heal yourself. Helping others and just being you is your purpose. It may not be what you had envisioned, but I truly believe you have found your calling. Keep up the good work and stay strong. I love you. Very proud of you honey😊❤

    • @tingle6048
      @tingle6048 5 місяців тому +17

      Tyler , you are lucky to have good parent .
      They love you unconditionally !
      Welcome to my birth country , Việt Nam .
      ❤❤❤❤❤
      .

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому +40

      I love you Mom

    • @JoseReyes-ov2tu
      @JoseReyes-ov2tu 5 місяців тому +7

      I love this so much!

    • @xbentley3128
      @xbentley3128 5 місяців тому +7

      Solid post mom :)

    • @ocmanga5685
      @ocmanga5685 5 місяців тому +4

      Mom, hãy thu xếp đến Việt Nam du lịch một lần. Có thể là vào năm tới, khi con trai của mẹ kết hôn với một cô gái Việt❤

  • @kimberlybentleyme
    @kimberlybentleyme 2 місяці тому +6

    Thank you everyone for you kind comments. My son is awesome and I just love supporting his dream and him. He is an inspiring young man. I could go on all day....I am glad he has such a wonderful community here. Thanks everyone❤

  • @chrishamlin5863
    @chrishamlin5863 5 місяців тому +60

    Leaving America and moving to Vietnam cured my depression too. I've been symptom free for 4 years now. Best move I ever made.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому +2

      I'm happy for you

    • @chrishamlin5863
      @chrishamlin5863 5 місяців тому +2

      @@BigTimeBentley I'm happy for you too.

    • @vanvonguyen4272
      @vanvonguyen4272 5 місяців тому +1

      Glad to hear that. Enjoy it as much as possible here guy. You’re welcome.

    • @MonkeyhammerTP
      @MonkeyhammerTP 4 місяці тому

      I can't say that I'm depressed but I have been mostly unhappy with my life (I'm 52) here in the U.S. I plan on making a move overseas but the little voice in my head is telling me that maybe the problem is me. Like the saying goes "wherever you go, there you are" so I am glad to hear that it worked out for you. I am hoping the same for myself. I know I'm not crazy.

    • @pbmc_
      @pbmc_ 4 місяці тому

      ​@FG-yl3oj I m 54 and can agree with most of what you said. Sounds like you ll be just fine with your move. All the best, and God bless!

  • @ChrisMarino-pg8ir
    @ChrisMarino-pg8ir 5 місяців тому +147

    Tyler, Thank you for the honesty. I am 57 years old and have struggled through life in the USA because I bought into the false narrative we are all brainwashed into believing growing up in the states. Go to school, get a job, get on the hampster wheel and pedal as hard as you can to buy shit and attempt to keep up appearances while your soul dies. I raised 3 children and my youngest is off to college. I am getting divorced after 28 years. Substance abuse has been part of my story as a means for coping with my depression, anxiety, and hopelessness in spite of providing a comfortable life for my family. That responsibility kept me trapped for 30 years. I am now looking at leaving the US and coming to Vietnam for a new adventure and a cleansing of my soul. Buying a one way ticket. There is more to life than working like a dog at jobs you hate only to buy shit you don't need. I am excited for a new adventure and a new way of living. Thank you for always keeping it real and showing us that we have options and don't have to be slaves to the American Dream because for most of us the Ameican Dream died a long time ago and we are just limping through life in search of meaning.

    • @888Peetah
      @888Peetah 5 місяців тому +5

      I'm pretty sure there are more than a few financial analysts in NYC right now thinking man my job is so freakin unfulfilling -- tired of working 14 hour days just to get that bonus.... Something's missing...

    • @tayshale
      @tayshale 5 місяців тому +7

      I wish for every person to have this soul-searching & new life opportunity. It's a new chapter in your life that you get to write. Best of luck to you!

    • @tednguyen208
      @tednguyen208 5 місяців тому +8

      Yes mental wellness is overlooked by society peer pressure. Appearance is everything. People posting a happy life on fb to mask their internal struggle.

    • @Exploring_Adventures
      @Exploring_Adventures 5 місяців тому +6

      True words right here. Live your life to the fullest every day…you only have so many trips around the sun and there is ABSOLUTELY more to life than running on the hamster wheel.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому +12

      awesome comment...I hope you find the happiness you deserve!

  • @nikkirosenbek5471
    @nikkirosenbek5471 5 місяців тому +15

    Those who called you a loser, are actually sore losers. You live your life, they live theirs. They don't pay your bills. They don't experience your pain, your suffering. Nobody understands you better than yourself. If you do something that makes your life better and hurts or kills no one; I don't see anything wrong with it. You deserve to be happy. Life is too short, so live your life to the fullest and don't take anything for granted.

  • @robertrouse4503
    @robertrouse4503 5 місяців тому +64

    I am a retired musician and I will be in Vietnam by the end of the year. Divorced, tired of a mundane life. I hope to turn 70 in Da Nang or HCMC.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому +4

      sounds like a new adventure awaits

    • @all4fitz
      @all4fitz 5 місяців тому +9

      Wow...music was your job. I sang in a rock band for 8 years but it was just a fun thing that paid for itself. Also divorced after 32 years. I recently spent a month motorbiking in Vietnam, including Danang and Ho Chi Mihn. Don't forget all of the other fantastic places in Vietnam. Congratulations on the perfect plan!

    • @kippsguitar6539
      @kippsguitar6539 4 місяці тому

      You'll soon be tired of the horrendous noise and trash in the streets in Vietnam as well, it's a hell hole

    • @ninax00
      @ninax00 4 місяці тому

      Hai Chris thank you for sharing your struggle. I’m an early retirement at 47 and go to soul searching for the meaningful, exciting life and like to connect with the similar journey of soul-searching
      contact me for sharing more.
      I’m planning to go back and forth in Vietnam to have a different , view, perspective. i’m from Vietnam, originally 30 years ago,
      it’s a lot easier to connect to my homeland. It’s always feel home to be back in Vietnam. contact me if you want to share.

    • @kippsguitar6539
      @kippsguitar6539 4 місяці тому +1

      @@Rodderz1 it's always raining otherwise ridiculously hot, you are listening to the wrong people

  • @ruby2thursday
    @ruby2thursday 5 місяців тому +4

    #1....NOT A LOSER!!! I've been to VN 3x. once for 3 weeks, a year later for 4 weeks, and two years later for 3 months. I've never felt so alive as when I was there. I have nothing against my home country and love it in the USA but my health and vitality are 10x in VIetnam. Good for you that you are able to make the move long term.

  • @peacemeal3196
    @peacemeal3196 5 місяців тому +10

    Clearly not a loser…clearly a winner! Everyone has challenges, you identified them, owned them and then found a solution…you sound like an entrepreneur …I bet others envy your courage

  • @ghklfghjfghjcvbnc
    @ghklfghjfghjcvbnc 5 місяців тому +29

    This DUDE is so LEGIT and REAL. God D@mn respect and such a refreshingly positive message and content. Just a chill dude who is sharing about his life. 💯🤛👍

  • @sydney8382
    @sydney8382 4 місяці тому +1

    “Don’t be defined by other people’s expectations. Define your own strengths.”
    “If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.”
    “Believe in yourself, and you’re halfway there.”

  • @mickholmes7571
    @mickholmes7571 5 місяців тому +27

    After meeting you and watching your content for a couple of years now mate it’s clear to me that you’re on the right track…just happy you found your happy place. Vietnam is our happy place and I can’t wait to spend the majority of my time there. Take care

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому +1

      Cheers Mick! Was great meeting you and thank you for the comment

  • @purposedrivenwoman
    @purposedrivenwoman Місяць тому

    61 year old woman giving me inspiration to mive to VN

  • @sthabilesokhela2728
    @sthabilesokhela2728 4 місяці тому +3

    Bro im also in HCMC and relate to your story. I left my country and slowly finding myself. So at peace, I love it here.

  • @rvilensky
    @rvilensky 5 місяців тому +13

    The fact that you’re thriving clearly proves you’re not a loser. Overcoming addiction is really hard and you built a great life. This is a very inspiring video.

  • @JoseReyes-ov2tu
    @JoseReyes-ov2tu 5 місяців тому +4

    You are living a life many people can only dream about! Don't think about what other will say or think! You seem to be happy and have found yourself. It is not about losers vs winners in life, it is about finding yourself and finding where you "fit". :) Comparing yourself to others is not a path to happiness. Happiness IME is about valuing what you have, not what you don't have. :)

  • @JoyfulDalmatianPuppies-zw1wp
    @JoyfulDalmatianPuppies-zw1wp 2 місяці тому

    Hi Tyler, for the first time I have watched your shows. Your encouragement story will inspire a lot of people, who are strapped in situations with alcohol, drugs, or something else and between. Hopefully, your story will travel across the globe. As a Vietnamese, I live in the United States, I love to see all my American people who are living in Vietnam, whether teaching, having a business, or being UA-camrs in Vietnam. I would love to see them all doing well and very successful in Vietnam. That makes me very happy and proud.
    However, I'm so glad to hear your life is back in order. You are happier than before, enjoy life more, and appreciate a new life that has to offer.
    Vietnam is surrounded a beautiful nature, streets, beaches, caves, culture, food, and the weather. Especially, in Da Lat.
    I wish you all the best in life! And very successful with UA-camrs in Vietnam. Peace!
    Ps. I hope your shows will reach a million subscribers across the globe.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  2 місяці тому

      thank you so much for your kind comment and encouragement

  • @gianfaustofx
    @gianfaustofx 4 місяці тому +2

    Very inspiring and honest, thank you for sharing!!! 🙏🙏🙏

  • @rickstolk798
    @rickstolk798 5 місяців тому +3

    Tyler,
    Love your videos and hope you keep making them.
    I’ve visited Vietnam 8 times over the past 20 years and am working towards long term stay within the next couple of years.
    Thanks so much for having the courage and vulnerability to tell us your story.
    Please keep on fighting your demons, you are an inspiration to me.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому +2

      Thank you so much...I have a couple of things written up on my wall one is "Attack Your Dragons" and then I've also added "BElieve in YOUrself"... I feel like they relate to fighting your demons

  • @thompsonnguyen1870
    @thompsonnguyen1870 5 місяців тому +7

    Tyler, I felt exactly same way when I left Vietnam to U.S. I wasn't addicted to anything. I don't smoke and drink. It was extremely hard for me to live in Vietnam. I didn't have any chance for better live. I was hungry and drove bicycle to school and work. Thanks to the U.S.A. We have a lot better live in the U.S. I always appreciate the U.S.A

    • @NicolasD414
      @NicolasD414 5 місяців тому +1

      It works both ways...good luck to ya'll.

    • @vy311
      @vy311 5 місяців тому

      Those poor American losers simply cannot compete with new immigrants and talents coming from abroad. They are losers in their own country and in order to survive they have to leave it for a much poorer, much less developed country to continue their life.

  • @djcconsults
    @djcconsults 4 місяці тому +1

    I was lucky to meet a Filipina in USA and through her have discovered a new life in Asia

  • @anhbinbaccuc8850
    @anhbinbaccuc8850 5 місяців тому +33

    It's just like you took my story and spoke on my behalf, the thing was you made it to Vietnam and I'm still stuck in North America, because my family didn't want to let me move to Vietnam. After highschool I suffered severe depression, and I thought about returned to Vietnam just to say goodbye to my uncles and aunts, then I would ended all. Surprisingly I discovered there's another different world and lifestyle out there that's not North America and I changed my mind, now I'm waiting for the day that I could do what you do. Thank you for sharing.

    • @nocancelcultureaccepted9316
      @nocancelcultureaccepted9316 5 місяців тому

      Too bad the mindset that indiscriminate throwing garbage everywhere makes Vietnam a third world slum country for generations to come.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому

      Happy to share and wish you the best of luck!

    • @thompsonnguyen1870
      @thompsonnguyen1870 5 місяців тому +2

      You have to understand yourself and fix your own problems. No matter where you are. You will being you.

    • @ninax00
      @ninax00 4 місяці тому

      I have the story I went through a lot of struggle living in America. Even I’m tired early at 47 , single mom, financial for my life time and the next generation . Contact me if we have the same background.

    • @Thekuskus888
      @Thekuskus888 4 місяці тому +1

      Great job !!! Love your channel 😢😢😢

  • @stocktraderlog
    @stocktraderlog 5 місяців тому +3

    I am glad you like Vietnam 🇻🇳 Vietnamese people are very friendly 😊😊

  • @bradgowins4812
    @bradgowins4812 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for pushing through the vulnerability and sharing this with us. I have seen firsthand one of my best friends find the same purpose and happiness in Vietnam, so your story resonates with me. I have enjoyed your content since finding your channel and appreciate what you do.

  • @TRANGNGUYEN-fe6lo
    @TRANGNGUYEN-fe6lo 5 місяців тому +4

    I was born in Vietnam and left when I was young. I haven’t been back in the last 20 years. I wish Vietnamese treat you well because you also bring a different world and culture to the people. I hope there will be more Americans like you living in Vietnam. I didnt come back often because the Vietnam when I left was very different. But one thing i hope hasn’t changed: it’s the people’s spirit, their kindness and friendliness. You helped to make life more colourful in Vietnam and make it a more interesting place. I am sure local people learn a lot from you too.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому

      thank you so much. I feel very lucky to be here and share my experience about this place

  • @cindydo8664
    @cindydo8664 5 місяців тому +4

    I like your honesty. Whatever work out in life for you and it make you happy go for it. I'm happy for you.

  • @joshlalley9864
    @joshlalley9864 5 місяців тому +4

    Great video and vulnerability. I'm just over 10 years sober from alcohol. I was not courageous for many years. I'm likely moving to Asia in the next 6-9 months and Vietnam looks awesome. I have a community in the Philippines too that helps people with mental health and life issues in general. Videos like yours are helping me to gain the courage to make the move and take the leap of faith. Thank you!

  • @-UnknownX-
    @-UnknownX- 5 місяців тому +21

    It is important that you have bravely decided to live and work in a strange country and have gradually succeeded, happy with that decision in the past 7 years! That's part of the success!

  • @xdgs567z
    @xdgs567z 5 місяців тому +28

    Life is short, we only have one life to live....live a life that makes you happy and don't worry about what others think. Thanks for sharing, good luck on your journey :)

  • @youMatterItDoesGetBetter
    @youMatterItDoesGetBetter 2 місяці тому +1

    "Under the bridge downtown is where I drew some blood, under the bridge downtown I could not get enough...". Favorite band of all time.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  2 місяці тому +2

      My mom used to paint tattoos on me as a little kid because I wanted to be like Anthony Kiedis and I would sing the songs with my little fake microphone in the house lol

    • @youMatterItDoesGetBetter
      @youMatterItDoesGetBetter 2 місяці тому

      @@BigTimeBentley haha, love it!

    • @kimberlybentleyme
      @kimberlybentleyme 2 місяці тому

      ​@@BigTimeBentley😂 Yes I did. We need to get that video changed to mp3 or whatever you do... it would be amazing to see all those moments again!

  • @judeliv5113
    @judeliv5113 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for sharing . It shows a strong determination and a desire for change and growth. Vietnam is great for you . All the best 💪

  • @hhbh4661
    @hhbh4661 5 місяців тому +5

    Very courageous, alot of people are going through very tough and similar situations. As long as you're surviving and improving your life. Good for you 👍.

  • @tammyhuynh8006
    @tammyhuynh8006 5 місяців тому +5

    You're truly so inspiring & I'm so grateful that you shared your truth with us! I've been going through some really difficult times in my life and it really means a lot to me to know that there are people like you out there who can be authentic, raw, and just real. It's so refreshing. I hope you continue to heal and immerse into your real self & do what makes you happy!

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому +1

      I'm really happy you found this video and thank you so much for that comment...it means a lot to me

  • @proud4373
    @proud4373 5 місяців тому +4

    "I'm waking up feeling like I don't want to live. I hate my reality so much that I wish I would never wake up." It's quite emotional to hear your heart-felt story of struggling with depression. I guessed many have been through the same path you did, but not all could make it because nobody could understand their suffering and they have not been courageous enough to save themselves. Luckily you have stepped up to save yourself. Your personal story is quite inspirational, which is hopefully a good example for many to follow. The fact that mentioning the words "fish sauce" brought a big smile to your face, says something about Vietnam. It's said Vietnam is a land of healing the invisible wounds. Yes it truly is.

  • @Melsey1027
    @Melsey1027 2 місяці тому

    Thanks for sharing your story I feel the same way. In 2 years when I retire I’m leaving the USA for a better future. Thailand Philippines and Vietnam is on my list I will explore all 3 and make my decision.

  • @nolabel0
    @nolabel0 5 місяців тому +3

    Is brave your courage to tell your story and the possibility to help someone out there that need some hope. You are not a looser, you just got lost and found your way back to life. Congratulations and I wish you a lot of happiness!

  • @Kevin7_C
    @Kevin7_C 5 місяців тому +3

    I'm currently in the same situation you were 7 years ago. A mid-late 20 something just dropped out of school and not knowing what the next step is. I'm glad to hear that Vietnam has given you a new outlook on life and that you were able to overcome your situation.

  • @williamnguyen9348
    @williamnguyen9348 5 місяців тому +9

    U r no a loser. U help many people with same situation. You belong to your audience and that life supposed to be

  • @hoanghuyle721
    @hoanghuyle721 4 місяці тому

    It's good to talk about something like this. It actually heals and helps you to understand yourself better. I feel you, bro. My situation is kinda the same as yours but I live in Vietnam. Lol.

  • @xecoTV1023
    @xecoTV1023 5 місяців тому

    Thank you so much for your honest life story. It’s truly touching and inspiring. Wish you all the best, bro. Keep up with your wonderful work now. ❤ Love and respect from a Vietnamese fan of yours.

  • @TuyetMai76
    @TuyetMai76 4 місяці тому +1

    Your life is more important than others' thinking about you. They don't live your life. As long as you are happy, it matters.

  • @lauriecomeau5795
    @lauriecomeau5795 5 місяців тому +2

    Honesty is refreshing and so important! Live your life! Love your life! You are worthy of good things!

  • @mr.randolph5582
    @mr.randolph5582 5 місяців тому +13

    I really love the fact that you are open to share your story with the World. I have only watched a few of your videos but I was drawn to you immediately because if there is only 1 thing that I understand in life and that is I truly can feel GENUINITY! And Brother thats who you are never look back. We are all meant to be on this Earth to Learn. I am going through kind of the same thing right now as you , but for me I have put a little more time in the game than you. Be proud of yourself and your accomplishments, Pay forward when you can. Be thankful for everyday that passes you by. Because in the end it will be all about you. Thanks my Brother all the Best.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому

      thank you...all the best to you as well

  • @grantos28cars
    @grantos28cars 4 місяці тому +1

    510 Comments tells me you are on the right track, I am guessing you are glad you spoke out now by all the lovely comments and I am sure you helped people look at there own lives, Well done, look forward to watching you grow.

  • @annemarienguyen6395
    @annemarienguyen6395 5 місяців тому +2

    I am glad you gave yourself a 2nd chance in life. You are courageous of you to share your vulnerability. You are a beacon of hope and inspiration for those who are in this situation.

  • @stadinh
    @stadinh 5 місяців тому +4

    Sorry to hear that you’ve been through some dark times. I hope Vietnam has offered you a place of “salvation”, joy, happiness and escape from the hustle and bustle. I hope you have found meaning in my life.

  • @LamNguyen-qb4ic
    @LamNguyen-qb4ic 5 місяців тому +12

    Tyler, I feel your pain, let put everything behind and start a new life in Vietnam. I lived in California for 37 years but I still hate it here. Life is really suck here. I am ready to wrapped things up and move back to Vietnam or Thailand to retire. I hope to see you in Vietnam one day so we can for dinner and coffee then to have a little chat. Take care and always stay positive buddy. Best wishes.

    • @ninax00
      @ninax00 4 місяці тому

      Hi anh Lam , I had the same story. I’m an early retirement at 47 and go to soul searching for the meaningful, exciting life and like to connect with the similar journey of soul-searching
      contact me for sharing more.
      I’m planning to go back and forth in Vietnam to have a different , view, perspective. i’m from Vietnam, originally 30 years ago,
      it’s a lot easier to connect to my homeland. It’s always feel home to be back in Vietnam. contact me if you want to share.

    • @LamNguyen-qb4ic
      @LamNguyen-qb4ic 4 місяці тому

      Sure. Làm sau contact được bạn

    • @conkiendien
      @conkiendien 3 місяці тому

      HI Lam you are right , I plan move back VN to live in Vung tau or Can tho

  • @tingle6048
    @tingle6048 5 місяців тому +13

    We love you as always Tyler !
    I wish you all the best and happiness while living in my birth country , VN .
    ❤❤❤❤❤

    • @tingle6048
      @tingle6048 5 місяців тому +1

      Now , you could still teaching and making the vlogs at the same time .
      Therefore you could have more money for your rent & travel .
      Best wishes to Tyler !
      ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @jimhayd7857
    @jimhayd7857 2 місяці тому

    one of the best youtube videos I have ever seen. congratulations!

  • @drdennisyoungblood
    @drdennisyoungblood 5 місяців тому +4

    This video came up in my feed randomly and it has touched me. I applaud your attempt to tell your truth and claim your truth. While I have no experience with alcoholism or even Vietnam, I’m very happy that you made that move and it provided you with a respite, an ability to start again, to be who you want to be, respect yourself, perhaps find love or even meaningful relationships. Actually, we don’t have a great deal in common except I completed my surgical residency in Los Angeles and did in fact become a doctor. I’m a 66 year old Black American doctor and married to a Filipina for 36 years(she was a nurse at the hospital, and she just couldn’t resist! Lol), and we have four daughters and two grandchildren. So we literally have very little in common except I can certainly understand those feelings of ineptitude or even imposter syndrome that we all can suffer from over the course of our lives. Keep telling your story because it matters, it matters to many, can inspire many, can motivate many, and can be the impetus for many. It will certainly happen, and honestly, it will likely be with someone you’re never likely to meet. And that is okay. Thank you for the video and I’m rooting for you in your future endeavors.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому

      I'm really glad you found this video and thank you so much for the comment. Many blessings to you and yours :)

  • @internationalfranchisealli5547
    @internationalfranchisealli5547 4 місяці тому

    Nice guy for an American. Humble and honest. Not the usual loud mouth. Great work

  • @WinsTravelers
    @WinsTravelers 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for sharing your story! We really enjoy watching your video! Continue to support your channel so keep up with the good works! Love from America :)

  • @MikeeH626
    @MikeeH626 5 місяців тому +4

    Another great post, Tyler. THANK YOU for sharing your story (face it, we ALL have one). I don't think you're a loser. I admire your courage to make the move - a HUGE one at that - that appears to be the right one as you're in a better place now. You did what any of us wish we have the courage to do when facing such obstacles in our lives. Although I'm settled here in the States, Vietnam is and will always be my motherland as it's where I was born. I love going back there to visit and so happy to see people like you (foreigners) visiting/living there and sharing your experiences. Keep up the great work, Tyler. Be safe and be happy.....as always.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому +1

      thank you so much for the kind comment! I will definitely keep going!

  • @iluxman
    @iluxman 5 місяців тому +3

    At that time, you truly wanted to change your life. And fate brought you to Vietnam. Your destiny put you on the right track. Thanks for share. Be happy with your choice.

  • @lsantoine7170
    @lsantoine7170 5 місяців тому +6

    Courage is not the lack of fear, unlike what many people tend to think. Courage is looking into your fears' eyes and saying: "I see you but you won't stop me!"
    As someone having gone through some similar stuff, I can tell you that what you've done (Moving to Vietnam and work there, all in order to find your life purpose) was incredibly courageous. Living takes courage, looking for your life purpose despite being battered by a system that wants you to become an unfeeling and unthinking robot takes courage.
    You were and still is a brave man. Never forget it!

  • @thitran3812
    @thitran3812 3 місяці тому

    what we think depends on how you talk.., i appreciate it and FÉLÉCITA..I adore the truth and honesty!! welcomeBRAVO 4 your quit of alcohol, it's not an easy force!!

  • @marcusgreenwood8918
    @marcusgreenwood8918 4 місяці тому

    Your story really touched. Hope u will get more and more happiness in Saigon

  • @davedoesthiland5292
    @davedoesthiland5292 4 місяці тому

    You are speaking the truth of so many people here in America and possibly around the globe. I felt the same way in 2020. I went to Thailand for a few months! This trip literally saved me from killing myself! At the departure from Thailand, it was the hardest day of my life! I have regretted leaving since I got in the taxi that day!
    Now it is 2024 and I think about Thailand and Vietnam every waking moment! I wan't to do this so bad to my heart and bones. When I returned to north Carolina, I was in very bad emotional state. It has been tthree years of working just to get by, and mental torture. I try to figure out why I just can't pull the trigger on the move!
    Asia is my calling! I long for adventure and traveling to new places, I think my biggest downfall is fear of being broke and homeless i 12:59 12:59 n a foreign country. The other ißue is the financial issue! I've always been in sa steady job and income. I think to myself, if I 12:59 😅 12:59

  • @KhmerMikeTheTiger
    @KhmerMikeTheTiger 5 місяців тому +9

    Love your genuineness and sincerity

  • @markstubbs6037
    @markstubbs6037 5 місяців тому +4

    Excellent message that everyone needs to hear at some point in their lives! Genuine and honest, you are an inspiration.

  • @Jahalang82
    @Jahalang82 5 місяців тому +3

    Thank you for sharing your story. I feel life is all about experiencing new things, seeing new things and making memories. Every time I’m in Vietnam, I do all of those things I just said but back here in the states, I go to work and go home to eat dinner and then bed just to do it all over again the next day. I am basically bored.
    I have family here and I have family there. My mom says I’m crazy that I want to move there, fearful of the communists there, but I keep telling her Vietnam is so different now than how it was in the past; my parents immigrated to the US because of the war.
    Really the only thing keeping me from actually doing it is my health. I’m currently on the kidney waiting list and then afterwards, I’ll basically have to taking meds forever how ever long the kidney lasts. I’m not on dialysis yet which is why I need another visit to Vietnam because it will probably be a long time afterwards before I’m physically strong enough to make that long flight again.

  • @ebx100
    @ebx100 2 місяці тому

    I felt the same way you did when my plane touched down on the Tan Son Nhat international airport runway. Relief. But it's what you said in one of your other videos that resonated with me. The one where some other car in the LA parking lot waited for you to pull out of your parking space just so they could vent out some anger at you. I will never miss the high anxiety, high anger lifestyle I left behind either.

  • @jk9vhhf
    @jk9vhhf 5 місяців тому +2

    It takes strength to move across the world. It takes strength to share your vulnerability. Be proud of yourself!

  • @anhn6091
    @anhn6091 2 місяці тому

    Hey Tyler, you are truly an amazing person and quite honestly, very humble. My fiancé and I were just watching some of your videos and were very impressed with your positive attitude. Hopefully we’ll get to run into each other when my fiancé and I will be there during December. We used to live in LA too but have been in Denver, CO for quite some time now.

  • @20735jason
    @20735jason Місяць тому

    Good for you I am happy for you hope you have a great woman now Trang is awesome glad to see you change your life only you can do it. My wife gave me my second chance 10 years ago. She is only one in family here from us now we will come in December for the month to visit in Ho Chi Minh Hue and Da Nang

  • @drnguyen777
    @drnguyen777 5 місяців тому +10

    Let's focus on the present! Every day is a new opportunity to create something wonderful. Take care of yourself, and have a blast exploring VN!

    • @ninax00
      @ninax00 4 місяці тому

      Well say! it doesn’t matter where you live

  • @JHPliving
    @JHPliving 8 днів тому

    I resonate with a lot of your story dude.. I broke up with my girlfriend a few months ago, I've quit my soul destroying corporate job, going traveling around Bali in January 2025 before moving to Vietnam in February. I'm doing the Ninja Teacher Course in March and will be moving to HCMC to teach English and live but also to travel around Vietnam and beyond, meet new people and create a new life for myself after becoming disulusioned with life here in the UK. I'm going to start posting on my channel sharing my experiences and travels. If you're still in HCMC and/or part of the Ninja Teacher network still maybe see you around, would be cool to meet!

  • @phuongdang3122
    @phuongdang3122 3 місяці тому

    You are a brave man by sharing your emotional turmoil . You are not a loser because you able to bring yourself out of depression and take charge of your precious life. Best of luck and wishes for you and your girlfriend.

  • @che-nv3lp
    @che-nv3lp 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for being honest Tyler, it’s a lot harder to talk about what you feel than it is to pretend you’re fine. That you have 7 years living in Vietnam speaks volumes about who you really are. I’m 51, I visited Vietnam for a few months in 2000. I still every Saturday go for Vietnamese food and culture at Inala Brisbane to breathe in the atmosphere so to speak! It’s my point of balance, it seems you have found yours. Thanks again for what you do.

  • @TODP1
    @TODP1 4 місяці тому

    Good video - I'm here (Hanoi) for the exact same reasons - literally could put my face on this video and the content would be exactly the same. Im sure the percentage of expats in Vietnam for the same reasons is much higher than people would expect.

  • @cscokid75
    @cscokid75 5 місяців тому

    Mad respect to you Tyler. Thanks for sharing your inspiring story. All the best to you. Hope one day I get to meet you in person. Take care and God bless your kind soul!

  • @tvk9030
    @tvk9030 5 місяців тому +1

    :)) There are a lot of people sitting on mats drinking coffee in the evening where you just passed at the beginning of the video !
    If you happen to be in a place like this and show up at your door:
    In the morning, the market can appear
    quiet afternoon
    In the evening, the food street appears
    it is saigon :))

  • @HaiTran-lc9pp
    @HaiTran-lc9pp 5 місяців тому +8

    Courageous!!! Thank you for sharing Tyler.

  • @annthumeyer7382
    @annthumeyer7382 4 місяці тому

    Hey Tyler, I watched this vlog multiple times just because I appreciate your honesty. You are so brave that you help yourself and move forward. Your story touched me

  • @markholland6657
    @markholland6657 5 місяців тому +3

    I feel ya.. been down that road the last 10yrs after my mom passed.. 10yrs later am such a happier place and now a couple months away from coming back to SGN to where I am a much happier person... VN is home now more than UK where I was born!

  • @jeanspitzner346
    @jeanspitzner346 3 місяці тому

    I think everyone at one time or another going through what you went through 7 years ago, it only make you grow & stronger as you go through LIFE!!!
    Thanks for sharing...

  • @szvqorwnpstahskypfwmp9821
    @szvqorwnpstahskypfwmp9821 5 місяців тому +1

    Brother, we all go through difficulties and hardship in life regardless of whether
    someone is successful or not but the most important thing is not to give up in
    life and stay positive and keep moving forward and do whatever it takes
    to improve and find purpose and reasons to live. To me, I know your life may not
    be perfect, but you have a lot going for you especially your health and your loving
    family and your gf. I know a lot of successful and rich people
    are suicidal and depressed. Life is what you make of it!! Again, we all go through these difficult
    times. We all have problems. Stay strong!! You are doing great!! Find joy in happiness in life
    and screw what people think about you. Thank you for sharing. Best wishes and peace
    to you and your family.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому +1

      thank you and I wish the best to you and yours as well

  • @benbjn
    @benbjn 5 місяців тому +6

    Good for you man 🙏. Way to share your true self. I was there for two years and it changed my life in the best way possible. Hopefully be back there sooner than later.

  • @deechi994
    @deechi994 5 місяців тому +8

    Hey koodo to you for opening up your situation, normally people find it’s difficult to express their downsides. Hope all that is in the past for you, we all only get to live once so just make the best of it and enjoy Vietnam brother. My plan is to move there in the near future, I’ve been living in the western world for many years and it seems to get tougher and tougher.

  • @meocon307
    @meocon307 4 місяці тому

    Sending you love and support! ❤️
    First time commenting on your channel!

  • @closerseemsfurther
    @closerseemsfurther 5 місяців тому +8

    My story is similar, add that I was getting out of the army and didnt know what was next. I experienced much the same as you in Vn, I taught at home for a lot of years and was there during the pandemic lockdowns… my wife and I tried to make the transition to online teaching but it wasnt the same. we closed our classes and immigrated my wife to US… we are trying to make a life here in Riverside, but it’s hard. You have my support friend.

  • @paulhaakenson9965
    @paulhaakenson9965 13 днів тому

    Dude, thanks for sharing, I am now following for I am pondering doing the teaching gig when I retire from working for Uncle Sam, you really have great info, keep up the good work

  • @leavinforadream
    @leavinforadream 5 місяців тому +4

    Thank you for being transparent, VERY BRAVE, and honest...! I am not exactly where you were 7 years ago but I feel just as desperate because of the economy here in Northern California. I am a U.S. Navy Veteran and an older gentleman that may or may not be able to find another job, if I were to stay here due to age discrimination. I also don't want to be homeless like a lot of the people I see around this place. I am going to be making Thailand my home base and living the rest of my life on my VA benefits and hopefully a remote job opportunity that I am studying for. If that doesn't work out then I will have my social security as well. Let the haters hate! That is what they are supposed to do and about all they can do..! If anything I hope your video continues to help and encourage others because if you can do it so can we. P.S. I like the Red Hot Chili Peppers and I saw you wearing an Alice In Chains and Smashing Pumpkins t-shirt in one of your other videos and I like them both too..! Take Care of yourself...!

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому

      I really appreciate the comment and I also hope this video encourages others

  • @tienong5388
    @tienong5388 5 місяців тому +1

    I lived abroad for several years and I understand the feelings you have gone through. The most important thing is that I have a good connection with the locals. When I integrate with them every day and realize that they treat me no differently than the locals, I understand that I am a part of their society. There is not much difference in the way of integrating life compared to my own hometown.
    Vietnam is one of the countries that is safe in terms of politics and security compared to many other countries all around the world nowadays because guns are banned in Vietnam, low hazard rate. In the future, many people will come to live in Vietnam peacefully n comfortably. So enjoy your life as your design man.

  • @AnhNguyen-op1jz
    @AnhNguyen-op1jz 4 місяці тому

    Let me tell you brother, you do have lots of courage to make the move, I love to move there in the near future. Keep up the good work brother 👍.
    Anh Vu from 🇦🇺

  • @daveUK1066
    @daveUK1066 5 місяців тому

    Yeah bro i used to live down Truong Sa there, used to love walking up and down the canal each day in the blazing heat, great way to lose some timber 😅
    Ive said this before but Bourdain said it best...Once She (Vietnam) grabs hold of you, she Never lets go 😅 and its so true
    I am 43 , moved here 6 years ago from UK have a wife and kid now, and honestly, i dont think i will ever go back to the western world, something is happening out there and i dont want to be a part of it!!
    Great video, resonated with me well, although i am still battling with the Beer ! But what a country, and Da Nang, Nha Trang, PQ all amazing
    All the best mate ❤

  • @Dividend-Shark90
    @Dividend-Shark90 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for having the courage to share your story, I feel like more people can relate to this than you might think. Even though being successful in the West can be exciting and accomplishing in some ways. I think many of us are feeling dead inside, working corporate jobs, long hours hunched over at computers under flickering lights and prying eyes. Even just knowing that there is hope out there in other forms, doesn't have to be Vietnam specifically for everybody. But showing your change and your story truly shows that hope and redemption is alive and possible if your willing to take the chance.

  • @MetaCulte
    @MetaCulte 5 місяців тому

    Great courage to share your story!
    I have pretty much the same, leaving France on a whim to move to Southeast Asia saved me in a way.
    Vietnam (Hanoi) is where I feel most comfortable.

  • @reavl6494
    @reavl6494 5 місяців тому

    I'm a young doctor. Happy you made it work for you! Don't have regrets. At least you gave it a shot. This career is not as glorious as it seems anyways. Would've probably be dong something else if I could.

  • @Mark-wl3en
    @Mark-wl3en 4 місяці тому +1

    I’m exactly where you were. I’m so scared to do what you have done.

  • @user-xh1rc2ng5r
    @user-xh1rc2ng5r 5 місяців тому +4

    Some things in life is meant to be, everyone’s journey is different. Your timing was perfect, 7 yrs is a long time to be in your adopted country. Wish you all the best, you made the right choice to be happy where you are. More blessings to you. 🥳💯👍

  • @tiffanyk-f5887
    @tiffanyk-f5887 4 місяці тому

    Love your story! You can tell you’re happy ❤😊

  • @nctran901
    @nctran901 5 місяців тому +1

    Tyler, thank you for this video. It reaffirms my thinking that you have a good heart. The takeaway for me after watching this is there’s light at the end of the tunnel and that light is getting brighter everyday for you. Take care my friend.

  • @IAmLavelle
    @IAmLavelle 4 місяці тому

    This is super inspiring bro. Keep up the good work💪🏾💯

  • @loandorst1824
    @loandorst1824 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for your honesty. This will give a great lesson and eyes open for many people. You sure make many people cry to watch this. I am very happy for you and happy to see how much you love Viet Năm. I hope my 26 year old son will falling in love with viet Nam .

  • @AussieVet
    @AussieVet 5 місяців тому +1

    Dude u and I are the same......left wk at 48 ran overseas. Still drinking but not at a bad level now. Thanks for your honesty,,,

  • @edwardranson2143
    @edwardranson2143 3 місяці тому

    Im about to do the same damn thing bro. Been drunk for a month. Looking into english teaching now. This video is helping me man. Seems honest. Everyone is so overly successful. It gives normal people even less hope. Thanks man!

  • @L.V.1
    @L.V.1 5 місяців тому +4

    Thank you for sharing your story, it will be helpful to people who are currently in the same situation. You have found your purpose now and thank goodness as your videos are fantastic!!!

  • @ThePolarbear1956
    @ThePolarbear1956 Місяць тому

    Hello Tyler, thank you for sharing your life, struggle, and victory . My story is very similar to yours. I too am an alcoholic and suffered from depression. I hit bottom back in 1985. Out of desperation I cried out to God to help me, because I couldn’t stop drinking. My life was in shambles and I wanted to die, but I was too chicken to commit suicide. God answered my prayer by putting a thought into my mind which was, if you listen and do what they tell you to do you will be OK so I did. I went to AA and turn my life over to care of my savior. Jesus Christ. I am now sober 39 years. I encourage you to stay on the right path and not to ever pick up a drink again because that is poison for us. I married a Filipina and I am traveling at the end of this month to go to the Philippines. The first week of November will be flying to Vietnam for two weeks and then another two weeks in Thailand maybe if you like we could meet and talk over a cup of coffee or lunch. May the Lord give you his peace And protection 👍

  • @ignatiobuns4853
    @ignatiobuns4853 5 місяців тому +3

    Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. It's crazy to me that, as a new subscriber, I'm watching this during a pretty dark period of my own life and am currently poised for relocation from the US to SE Asia as a full-time slow traveler with a very similar background and history of alcohol abuse. Admittedly, my motivations for relocating are mostly based on seeking cost of living/quality of life improvements, increased personal safety, and opportunities for cultural immersion, but I'd be lying if I said there's no sense of escapism and "starting anew" involved. I hope to discover a similar degree of fulfillment and happiness you've achieved and wish you the very best that life has to offer.

    • @BigTimeBentley
      @BigTimeBentley  5 місяців тому

      thank you for this comment and I wish you the best on your journey as well

  • @tkl3_01
    @tkl3_01 5 місяців тому +3

    your honesty is courageous