CIA Spy: Don't Trust Your Gut! - How To Detect Lying, Manipulation & Mind Games | Andrew Bustamante
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Andrew Bustamante is a former covert CIA intelligence officer, decorated military combat veteran, successful Fortune 10 corporate advisor, proud husband and father. After 20 years running human and technical intelligence operations for private and government clients worldwide, Andrew founded EverydaySpy.com -- the first-ever digital spy training platform. Headlining both US and International media, Andrew’s training events have been praised for their innovative, authentic, and life-changing impact.
Today on the show we discuss: the most accurate way to tell if someone is lying to you, simple techniques for improving communication skills, how to “fake it until you make it’ and appear more confident, why you shouldn’t trust your gut instinct and what to do instead, how to control a conversation and ask better questions, why motivation and manipulation are actually very similar, how to instantly reduce stress and fear and more.
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"Dont trust your gut" is what you tell someone before you lie to them
Hahahaha
Yeah i agree i would say it is a gaslighting trick
right....thatz everytime i hear this in my mind...the gutfeeling is, imo, i would trust the most...if someone says, dont trust your gut, i would think the same...he will lie the most effective way and pass the guard of the gutfeeling.
but there is somthing like the untrained liar and the trained liar and the good and bad liar
trusting the gut, needs also trained, or expierienced
and cultivted and awarnes
there are people they give a sh++ about feelings and their gut
for those people they have no healthy connection to their gutfeeling
Your instinct is your best weapon. Your mind can be tricked but not your soul. Your gut knows it before your mind can process
I 100% agree on that… Anyone who would tell or advise you to *Don't Trust Your Gut!* - are indeed is nothing but a sociopathic con-artist just trying use gaslighting trick on you.
right...the gut, and the mind works together ...perfectly somhow ...me i dont know a better combination
Even the people who drunk the Jim Jones kool aid followed their so called instincts 😂
Not listening to your gut is the thing that put people in trouble . The mind is slow compared to the body reflexes. You feel a strange unsettling eary feeling in your stomach and lower abdomen that warns you to consider what’s going on. It saved thousands of people from disasters…
Bro try to introduce "gut feeling" and "survival instinct" are the samething. Master of Inmaginary
And animals...
The “gut instinct” stems from the when we lived as cavemen. We don’t face those type of dangers no more so our gut holds us back alot in this day and age
@@egocruz2156 😵💫😂😂😂have you been sleeping these last years …?…. Maybe time to wake up
Maybe it's just happenstance but several times in my life my gut was telling me something was happening, but I chose to "use my brain". I should have listened to my gut
My “gut” saved me on the battlefield more times than I can count. I think I’ll listen to my gut over a spook
For those thinking he's wrong about gut instinct: He is... Kind of...
It's not that trusting your gut is bad. It's that there is a higher level of analysis, that isn't being leveraged in people who only trust their gut. He worded his presentation according to his training. He's trained to convince people to stop trusting themselves and trust him instead. He can't help himself...
There is a silver lining to be gleaned though. If you learn to trust your gut in emergencies, or otherwise precarious situations, and then also exercise your ability to perform high-level analysis, putting space between assumptions and reactions - thus creating an informed response - it becomes a type of super-power, compared to gut-instinct alone.
@@jamescampbell-gray3203 gut instinct is what told me to tell the Humvee driver I was in the slow down then seconds later an RPG streaked just in front out our vehicle. If I hadn’t said anything we would have been hit. I have many stories like this.
He’s a spook, gathers Intel from people.
I was a grunt on the battlefield and had to survive.
My gut instinct saved me
yes......assembling a working combo is the golden chalice.....i find that most people working off "gut instinct" tend to break down in the mental interpretation of those insticts, particularly if ego has bent them toward fear, which its prone to do, often in the slickest of ways....
"He's trained to convince people to stop trusting themselves and trust him instead." - Gold. Brilliant insight and explanation.
That’s assuming there isn’t something objective that intuitive types tap into that sensor types can’t
@@jamescampbell-gray3203 my gut instinct saved me on a literal battlefield in Iraq more times than I could count.
Literally could feel ambushes before they happened and countered them easily. Could feel an IED up ahead. Literally felt someone point a rifle at me, take a shot, I ducked before because the round wizzed over my head, giving their loc away which allowed another squad member to engage them.
A spook only knows one side of the coin, a soldier the other.
Gut instinct functions so quickly your body is moving before you have time to even understand what is happening in the moment; only in hindsight do you have time to reverse engineer what happened.
My $0.02
Ive watched a lot of bustamante and have always learnt something important, that isnt available elsewhere. Considering signing up after this and another interview watched today.
I see this guy everywhere and I don’t care how charismatic he is I will never trust him I just know he can switch just like that
I agree with you. I like him a lot. But he is very *in control* of the narrative he runs.
I trust God ! Men can all fail ! He’s very full of himself ,self is the key word
As an older person, hope you young folks take this for what it's worth: when survival is your motivator, for example your health is failing and you will die if you continue to eat garbage fast food and PROCESSED foods, then it is VERY EASY to lose weight. Yeah, uh, don't do this. Good luck. lol Actually i did it. Age 52 from 230 to 170. Been holding 170 to 180 for years now. How'd I do it. I learned about nutrition and food, then learnt to cook using UA-cam. Took me a few months, equipt my kitchen with inexpensive restraunt supply cook ware, because it is fast and easy to clean, and setup work stations, that allow me to prep and make meals, very quicly. It is a process. Optimize the process for your own tastes and healthy foods. Yes, every once in a while, just for fun, I'll go eat an Arby's beef and cheddar, and compared to my homemade beef and cheddar sandwich, there is no comparison, and I end up taking one bite, and throwing the Arby's away, remembering how disgusting it is. CHildhood programing is difficult to reprogramm. But it can be done. Just have to find the right algorythm for your own self.
Truth, truth, truth. Speaking the truth of things makes it possible to forgive, to leave fears behind, to heal. Drag it all out of the closet, bit by bit. Make new decisions.
The one time I didn’t listen to my gut it ended poorly
Yes I RESPECTFULLY DISAGREE WITH HIM ON THAT PART MY GUT INSTINCTS HAS BEEN RIGHT 95 PERCENT OF THE TIME WHEN I DON'T LISTEN I PAY THE CONSEQUENCES
I think this is not only fascinating; but, is absolutely incredible.
That’s what he’s trained to make you think.
I listened to this guy before. By default I don't trust him to be honest and I find it highly unlikely he'd be allowed this much free reign to say this alot of what he's had to say. I can only and will only assume on general principle, once CIA, always CIA.
It's the hair.
He isn't saying anything that isn't already well known and established. He does present it with a certain bias/from a particular world view, which is inevitable.
Well you're wrong. This guy is extremely smart
I feel the same. Im surprised he's been allowed to use the CIA handle, especially on YT.
@@didafm no one is questioning his intelligence.
I could listen to his stuff all day long. Love Andy Bustamante. He’s so inciteful and intelligent.
Hahahaha....you got no guts!
True, he is gold. I relisten and learn more.
You could be going through brainwashing..
@@guccisimo1He should go through one of his CIA Re-education Camps... I mean, Clubs!
"Insightful", not incite-ful. 🙂
I truly understand what he is saying. 63 years old, and i really get it now! The Anxiety part is true, on what he is saying. I learned some of this with therapy. But he made me understand it quicker.
Don't ever trust anyone telling you not to trust your intuition, your intuition is EVERYTHING.
Is gut feeling and intuition the same thing?
@@masterchavez3337 yes
I enjoyed the breakdown of introducing cognitive dissonance and how some people can’t handle it. It’s not comfortable having your beliefs challenged, but it really is life-changing. The people that say perception is reality lack perspective. The people with the greatest perspective can manipulate others via their perceptions.
I travel solo at this point in my life and of course there's always situations that might overstress me but the idea of journaling my stress situations is what a great idea thank you great conversation guys have a beautiful day 🌹🌹
Wow! Wow! Wow! I will put this on my shelf! Love this! Knowledge is much power. THANK YOU 💯% !
I don't even think about the outcomes most of the time. I wake up in a panic almost every day, for no apparent reason. Play last almost all day, with a couple of breaks. And it keeps me awake at night. I need to figure it out.
I have had the same experience. You are not alone - always remember that! It took me years to tame the beast of my panic attacks. My faith did help me. Prayer. Meditation.
@@AdoreeBeing did age and time help? Recently out of a long relationship of constant damage control and instability, on so many levels. I already feel like I'm starting to calm down. But I really hope age and corresponding variables might give me some relief. Faith and struggling meditation has just kept my head above water so far. I wish I was tired enough to find contentment with what I have and not what I aspire to. Does that just eventually come? I know results may vary. But I've felt on the verge of a heart attack, daily for years now.
I think Andrew is an executive business coach, leveraging his CIA training. Interesting guy and I wish him success.
My instincts, whether you call it gut, intuition, guided, have saved me many times. I never panicked over Y2K, did not run out and buy a generator, never panicked over Covid, did not get the shot.
Another amen on meditation not helping fear.
An individual's perspective shapes his personal perceptions.
This also includes your gut instinct. While I do rely on gut instinct in very serious situations I do try to remain neutral in daily choices. If I am alone on a dark street at night, I don’t question when I feel a bit prickly. The trouble with gut instinct is if you made the opposite choice or did the opposite thing you would probably let it go if it turned out in your favor. You would make up some excuse. Well, I was over reacting or whatever. People will remember having a gut feeling and not listening to it if the outcome is bad. Basically things we call bad or events that we call negative have far more impact on our psyche than things or events we call good.
I think this guy is great to listen to. I wouldnt want him to have a podcast, hes better talking, to listen to 100%
sad to see that most people will dismiss this information, but it is life changing if you are open to it...
DUDE! you know your stuff -- better than any ive seen.
He's a con man psy op. Grow up.
Hi Doug-You asked him really good questions. I would love to hear him speak on the indoctrination process which he mentioned getting toward the end. Maybe you could have him back on at some point. 🙂
Thank you for your good lectures.
I enjoy it every minute, even if it is sad, when i realize, it is to late for me. Whish i would of known all this when i was younger. I could of avoided many things i have faced and my loved ones.
Thank you sir.
In eastern culture,
A popular proverb is,
“I want to cut my horn to become a calf again”
Means, someone is meant to understand to others, which was comparatively outdated or earlier version (in mind).
Its very challenging sometimes to listen & understand others views about something that , May be understood long ago.
This recall of that same concept may require some patience & energy but has high chance to learn may be something new from same material/content/conversation.
The speaker is accurately touched a few points thTs very close to agreement of understanding.
Fear is closely related to being surprised. All emotions can be positive or negative. I describe fear as an alarm to do something. - I was literally thinking cognitive dissonance before you said it. We are born with one fear- as we age we typically lose that fear through cognitive dissonance.
He's wrong about micro expression. Sorry, andrew, but Dr. Paul Ekman, founder of these micro expressions, was given a grant to travel the world and study how different cultures express themselves. Because common believe at the time was that different ethnicities do show expressions differently. He studied vastly different cultures from around the world for like 13 years or so and discovered that each ethnic race used the same muscles to express happiness, sadness stress and so on. It's interesting to hear the verbal side to this. I love learning from you.
He's not saying don't trust your gut entirely ,; he's saying don't make yourself look like an a** by not having a strengthened sense of facts to back your gut feelings; because you'll in fact be gaslighted and challenged.
Awesome ❤Andrew kicks butt
0:20 Perception(how you see it) vs Perspective(how others see it).
Of course we were lied to, but so were you Superman.
I appreciate the explanation of ego and egotistical, out of rice that was my lack of truly gasping the concept of R.I.C.E . Great information Thank-you
I seen the exact opposite argument from this guy last week on another podcast. Telling us to trust our gut.
In a scene, the Penguin rhetorically stated, " why ask why when its better to ask how." If I remember. In health care, generally, it IS more effective to ask How rather than the other, to lessen any likelihood of defensiveness and promotes therapeutic relationship- an ongoing and comprehensive assessment have more open ended questions and the more focused and emergency assessments have more closed -ended questions.
I agree with this gentlemans perspective AND feel it is missing the importance of intuition.
Over explanation is my trait.
Mostly i do it, so others understand things better, or to vent, or for information where i think it is important to know.
My head is 24 h, 7/7 working.
Very draining, but my brain can not rest.
I have to know everything and understand everything in detail.
Also..., being allways curious is a big driver.
Analizing, rotating...
Only...you can never have enough knowledge, so learning never ends.
Trusting your gut and analysing your perception are not mutually exclusive. The instinct/gut provides the smoke signal, but you still need to identify/analyse the nature of the fire. Do both. Duh.
You should always be willing to at least listen to "the other side"
It makes sence what he says, but I doubt anyone relied solely on intelect when making decisions, especially people in his line of work. It happened to me a lot that everything seemed alright, but there was that weird feeling and most of the time it turned out to be legitimate. So, never dissregard gut feelings.
Ah a person with intellect, who gets the message!
Don't trust your gut? I listened to this interview because I think gut instinct is our best advisor. I wanted to hear his reasoning for saying not to trust it.
It turns out that his definition of ,gut, is not mine. It sounds more like the mind.
If you want to hear his explanation yourself, skip to 23:12
Overall I think the information is very good. The only questionable statement is that nothing is good or bad, but gray, depending on how it's used. It sounds a lot like the end-justify-the-means argument.
It seems to me that most of the corruption in high places is because of that type of thinking.
This helped me greatly. Thx.
love it. I have to try and use the info Andrew provided
Great information
Neural lock is very deeply ingrained in the psyche. A psychoanalytic term. 😊
I've also witnessed someone answering a majority of questions in an interview or dialogue, completely dominate or control the conversation by skirting around, diverting and not really answering the questions.
They tell young military service members, no lie, cheat or steal. Treating them like a child
The SuperEgo is important too!
Very well explained
I like him I would be a motivational speaker offering an enlightened interest in oneself if I had such a talent
Thank you. I needed this.
I sense things that are happening behind the scenes 👁️ for real…before they happen. My body is so pure I get downloads from the collective consciousness. And it’s linked to my spleen aka intuition. I am fearless but acutely aware of everything in the environment and the people and dynamics via human design & astrology as well as dreams
I am one of those people that will adopt a view point of another if i agree.
I trust my gut all the time and I’m always right
That's just your perception.
😂😂😂😂
R u for real? Like how should I explain this to you? Or maybe why should I explain this to you when you don’t even know how you are basing your decisions, and your ignorant about ur own self! Let me be productive here. I advise you to read the book “the power of ur subconscious mind”
I promise you when you read it you are gonna come back to this conversation and delete your statement because you’re gonna feel so embarrassed
You’re always right? That’s quite a statement 😅
This guy's wife takes vacations "alone" at random hotels, don't hold this guy's advice in such high regard. @LiftingYouHigher
34 may not be too old for many people. Christina did begin by explaining her family experienced a lot of illness and early death. In her lineage and lived experience it could be true for her that 34 is “old”.
I love when he said " my spouse is a she" 😊 Not every person is heterosexual. I really appreciate that point.
I hope all is well with you
jfc
Maybe a better way to explain cognitive dissonance is you’re intruding upon someone’s schema and it’s upsetting.
In line with your comments re shades of grey and ethical dilemmas:
I’d like to point out all the cases where a person of group is convinced they are motivating (“getting someone to do something that is in their own interests”), when actually what makes them the expert or authority on what is actually in that person’s interests and it may not be? Lots of “motivation” out there that is actually manipulation because a (sometimes even well-meaning) person or group “knows best” what is in another’s interests.
Gut instinct is something that has to be developed if your not highly aware and sensitive. Remember he is talking to 90% of people.
But even your gut can be wrong at times only because some people can be very unpredictable.
I know someone now who has no bad intentions to harm anyone and she is never meaning to harm anyone but she is so impulsive that she can't even tell that her actions may be harmful.
My guy feeling for people and situations never fails me! Why? Before you even have language! As baby we have ways to express ourselves without using our language so pay attention to cues and signal cues to our care taker based on our body language! And they seem to understand us! Now we grow old we started to doubt what we feel unless we put it in category! Like I know something is wrong about that guy but I can’t seem to explain etc!’trust youre gut! Too much. Logical reasoning will destroy you! Like love! Sometimes the magic of love tends to wear off on logical people because they like to categorize everything and everything needs language!!! 😅
So absence of a moral compass is or could end up being evil. So yes we are in an evil world, but there are also people with moral compasses which makes the world both.
I have a hard time adpating to other people views, when my own views have beem forged by years of witness. I do try to understand why someone might have a polar opposite viewpoint, but I have yet to skew off of my trajectory. I like my logic and life has been good to me. Not trying to veer off the road.
Yin and Yang
Not being able to consider multiple perspectives at once without believing in them, by knowing them instead, is a level of intelligent chosen through character development. To react otherwise is just ego attachment to ideas and is just a display of
cognitive dissaonce.
Narcs Vrs Empaths 💜💥☯️👁♾️
I would not, not trust my gut feeling..
Congition is how to proces experiences, also it has to do with NLP.
the untrained bad liar is the most thruthfull and trustable
I read about the amygdala yesterday.
If they trust, they definitely will listen.
Thanks for this one specifically how brain functions , Andrew and interviewer.
Very good 🎉
Read The Gift of Fear by agabin de Becker!! Incredible book
I think he is likable, though he does not make much of an impression as a human being personally, but I like the values that of course are aligned with what laws tell you to have as values.
i know i am being lied to
Some people can get easily distracted.
whats behind that candle on the wall? dont worry how my house is wired. thats a nice looking smoke detector aka camera/microphone
Sounds like he’s basically telling you to limit yourself! That’s what I’m hearing. I can see the benefit of thinking this way sometimes, but how do we grow and evolve and find new solutions if we’re all thinking from the same point of view?
The de escalation technique im hearing is agree with a belief heard
Even if you disagree.
This is what I learned about my anxiety is ...... Challenge your thoughts
We say in therapy that you dont see the world as it is, you see the world as you are ❤.
CIA: Develop the technique to program your brain to a lie by imagining the lie in great detail, using false memories of all senses, until the lie becomes real in your memory.
cia agent: the person who control the conversation is the person who ask the most question
cia agent : who ask the most question ?
doug: I as.... fck!
Wait.
Whtn you hear new confirmation that challenges what you think or feel. Wait and reflect for a bit.
Ive found out i have a strong radar for wrong uns. Except in my significant others. All of em.
6:00 moments of time available to change world view and you grow doing this
Can someone explain the one that got away situation. I don’t have this, if someone is in my past I feel like it’s how it was meant to be. So do people think about other people when they’re in a new relationship? I’d hate to have someone settle for me. 🤷♀️ at that point why bother for both of us
I have my method of dealing with this in a civil manner but fuck then a whole crowd starts moving but i know exactly what you sre saying
Wow
It's like Sony 360 degree sound
CIA great 👍 definition
Best regards ✨️
And what if they have experienced terror throughout their life.
said wise people, the right ideology with self-sufficiency and monopoly that is evenly distributed at all levels of society and the government doesn't really need much effort. They have already prepared the model and method for continued hegemony, but for a small minority who are cornered, it is very easy to be ravaged and can even be deadly with this crazy ideology. Is there anyone who can act and all those involved are these types of people with a big conspiracy from villages, cities, provinces and spearheaded by the state, they don't need kindness or honesty, they are truly destructive, dangerous, uncontrollable, cold-blooded and ready to take people's lives for the benefit of those who want to they continue to be expanded and truly brutal as an instrument of conspiracy, what if this situation occurs
Everytime i see this guy i just think, damn, his eyes look like hes been through somekinda stresses for sure
I always trust my gut
I say this as constructive criticism, and to help clarify part of the video for anyone who may watch it- no shade intended.
Mindfulness isn’t meditation. Mindfulness IS sitting with & being aware of your feelings, exactly as you suggested…
You’re obviously highly educated about the processes of the mind, the physiology of the brain, and interpersonal communication- and give excellent insight into those areas. but if you’re going to refer to psychotherapy techniques, you really need to understand them just as well. Otherwise you’re misleading the audience and potentially doing harm by giving inaccurate information in the subject of psychotherapy. You need to use the proper terminology at the very least.
With that being said, I do appreciate the insights shared, from an interest standpoint. But I will only take anxiety treatment subject matter from those trained specifically in the fields of psychotherapy, psychiatric medicine, and/or PhD’s in psychology. I’d suggest that everyone else do the same.
For instance, a woman who was abused my a man, she may view all men as negative and dangerous. I am proud to have an open mind. I have studied many religions(. Off topic), but i believe they all meet in the middle in one way or the other.
His amorality is down right creepy. There is right and wrong.
His Amorality is normal in his archetype.
They need people to really listen
After reading some of these comments, it seems some people maybe confusing perception and perspective. These are mutually exclusive things, they are not dependent on each other. Meaning my perception of reality is not dependent on someone else's perception of reality or how they see my reality.
Therefore, "perception IS reality" based on what your senses are telling you and what you are experiencing, it does not mean you lack perspective.
A woman or anyone who has been in a mentally and physically abusive relationship with someone who has intentionally gaslighted and manipulated would know this. The abuser is trying to distort their reality and make them question their own perceptions and their own sanity. You wouldn't and shouldn't give 2 sh*ts about someone elses perspective at that point. Given the context... I know what you heard and I know what you saw.
Imagine if the production or making of a drama or horror movie was happening all around you but you didn't know and nobody bothered to tell you?? How confused would you be? How would you feel?
It is still your reality. It might not be someone else's...only because they've been let in on the joke or been informed that there's a movie being made.
I do not believe anybody who needs to initial words to make them make sense or that they worked at jobs were initials common sense and gut instinct tells me to walk away.
A man in tune with his higher self should never second guess himself. This can only lead to self deception and failure. Your welcome
Thanks!