Mistakes You Must Not Make In No Contact

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  • Mistakes you must not make in no contact. In this video, Psychotherapist and Dating Coach Craig Kenneth explain some of the mistakes that you could make in no contact that will ruin your chances to get your ex back. It's absolutely critical to avoid as many mistakes as you can in order to put yourself in the best situation to turn your breakup around!
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 154

  • @obiej17
    @obiej17 Рік тому +76

    10 weeks ago tonight was the last time I saw her😔..Today is her Birthday as well.. This is hard

    • @upperiscopeUK
      @upperiscopeUK Рік тому +13

      Hang on in there! The advice on this channel is honest, extremely well-informed and benevolent.

    • @LonelyRider87
      @LonelyRider87 Рік тому +20

      His birthday was the hardest for me. Mine & most holidays I was ok. What I did was honor him in secret. I gave to causes that were important to him. I did honor him on his special day, just quietly 🤫 💕 🎁

    • @moneytime1556
      @moneytime1556 Рік тому +2

      Hang in in there and watch this man videos

    • @obiej17
      @obiej17 Рік тому +4

      @@upperiscopeUK Thank you. I continue to watch these videos over and over again. Everywhere I drive etc. And try to be positive

    • @obiej17
      @obiej17 Рік тому +3

      @@LonelyRider87 Thats a really good gesture for u to do that

  • @debralavorata546
    @debralavorata546 Рік тому +12

    When im at my weakest in this no contact,i scroll through ur videos,and i get more in check,listen closely to ur advice,and im not so weirded out(an anxious). Going on a week tomorrow,its a challenge but your guidance guves me hope in my sadness,and pain,thanks Craig 💯👍

  • @mariotibbrine1
    @mariotibbrine1 Рік тому +32

    Never ever break no contact don't be dumb you will look foolish there are other people who will enjoy your company and who you are don't waste your time waiting around for an ex to possibly come back being miserable not enjoying your life talk to people meet new people just cause one person let you down doesn't mean everyone will let you down!

  • @jasonerwee4625
    @jasonerwee4625 Рік тому +4

    Thank you Craig! Knowledge is power. I miss my wife but I haven’t contacted her for 4 days now. We separated 7 days ago and I still love her

    • @lilianaramirezrealestatebroker
      @lilianaramirezrealestatebroker 9 місяців тому

      Fight for your wife....my husband divorced me...I wish I would had gone seek the Lord's and churches help. Now I'm alone and he has a girlfriend. I want my family back united better stronger and whole

    • @zaidosal5189
      @zaidosal5189 2 місяці тому

      Update?

  • @mitchell844fd
    @mitchell844fd Рік тому +5

    I certainly can agree with don't stay friends with your ex it really isn't worth it! I'm talking from experience 20 years worth the only time I didn't hurt was when she didn't have a boyfriend but if you choose to do this. this is the best way I can describe it (picture a dog chained up in the backyard all alone and forgotten when there was a new dog around and when there wasn't that's when it's convenient to have a dog chained up in the backyard for when they're lonely and need some company and it's okay for them to walk away because you're always chained up in the backyard just waiting.

    • @paaul028
      @paaul028 Рік тому +1

      Very subjective, one of my best friends is an ex i split from in 1998, if you genuinely love them but are no longer in love with them and vice versa you could be missing out on an important person in your life.

  • @debralavorata546
    @debralavorata546 9 місяців тому

    Hi craig,i left a comment three months ago,im now three days shy of 100 days!! Im beyond shocked 😳🤯,i still get itchy fingers to text and i have to do battle many times.But I've made progress,slowly,and im finding myself again.Today i was composing a break contact message,but i saw a large red flag glaring at me,so i stopped. Thank you for great videos ,and tremendous help I've gotten from you, it's a Godsend,i watch every video as much as i can

  • @alexardon91
    @alexardon91 Рік тому +4

    Hey Craig your videos are always on time, im doing NC , last time I heard from her( She texted me ) was a month and a half ago I think , havent heard from her since then, im just living one day at a time, but sometimes IT really gets hard, im working on my self improvement realize I had an sttachment issue I wish I have seen your videos before she broke up with me, but im in a better place then I was before, 10 year relationship, she dumped me May-22. Thanks for everything you do for all of US, god bless you

  • @CoachCraigKenneth
    @CoachCraigKenneth Рік тому +7

    If you’re interested in getting coaching from me it’s only available through my website 🙌

    • @sofyeditz
      @sofyeditz Рік тому +1

      I really think that this kind of format ( just you talking without the other 2 ladies ) is the best. Also shows you have more confidence.

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth Рік тому +5

      If you were getting brain surgery, would you rather have the best brain surgeon in the world. Or the 3 best brain surgeons in the world together 😉

  • @copper4045
    @copper4045 Рік тому +9

    I don’t care anymore.
    Problem solved.

  • @sristyerchhonde4571
    @sristyerchhonde4571 Рік тому +2

    What a view about life & relationship. Simply marvelous

  • @dld7718
    @dld7718 Рік тому +4

    We've been arguing a month now and yesterday was the time that i told her I'm letting her go. I hope this advice would make this easier for me to cope up with the pain I'm feeling right now😢

  • @Siti_Raduan2021
    @Siti_Raduan2021 Рік тому +1

    This coach is really good! Among the others

  • @mattwood8659
    @mattwood8659 Рік тому +3

    It's been an entire year. He reaches out once a month to say Hi or just send a meme. I match his energy and say Hi back or send a meme back. It'll lead to a small light conversation then fizzel out and nothing for the next month. Then he does it again and again and again. He once asked if I'd like to go have dinner or lunch sometime I said yeah that'll be nice and then nothing. He won't plan anything. And I'm not gonna go out of my way to plan it, he broke the relationship he can fix it

  • @aliyaalqureshi549
    @aliyaalqureshi549 Рік тому +3

    It was my birthday and he didn’t even remember! But yet I maintained my no contact.
    He dropped my fav ice cream with the security guard desk of my home. But I know he just did it for sake of usual life! But not for my birthday

  • @bertod6387
    @bertod6387 Рік тому +3

    9 months no contact y’all need to suck it up !

  • @Gnomesmusher
    @Gnomesmusher Рік тому +5

    Is saying that you don't want to be friends so you're walking away the same as telling the ex you're going no contact though?

  • @professor0reo700
    @professor0reo700 Рік тому +5

    My situation right now is very confusing. We broke up just 3 days ago, and on that day she told me that she will always love me more than a friend, but that we have to be friends. She said I made her the happiest she's ever been and that I always treated her like a princess. I just don't know what happened. When she gave me some things back that we're at her house I noticed the day after that she didn't give me back my sweater that I let her borrow. Her friend told me that she's so overwhelmed by stress from school, work, and her future. She said that we were too different, that we were going to have different futures and she doesn't want me to change for her. I think I know what she meant, and I plan on improving that. We're both young in our early 20's and we're still figuring life out. If she loves me and I love her, I'll improve myself, not change, but improve to show her that I'm willing to fight for a future that she wants and needs. I don't want the fire to die out.

    • @laurencel.7980
      @laurencel.7980 Рік тому +2

      I am in the same boat as you but we are both older she 47 myself 56 good luck getting her back, I would do almost anything to get my girl back.

    • @LonelyRider87
      @LonelyRider87 Рік тому

      Sounds like GIGS. Things could turn around maybe hang on.

    • @professor0reo700
      @professor0reo700 Рік тому +1

      ​@@LonelyRider87 I hope you're right. It just doesn't make sense. The reason I presented for our break up was mostly speculation. Everyone who knows us right now is so confused about the break up. Her friend visited her a couple days ago and said that she spent the entire day crying, and that she looked overstressed. I'm going to give her space, but idk how long.

    • @LonelyRider87
      @LonelyRider87 Рік тому +1

      @@professor0reo700 Yeah mine didn't make sense either. We were both Fearful Avoidants. We had our first fight & he got upset & dumped me. Days before that he'd seemed thrilled with me. I think he got scared. Hang on.

    • @professor0reo700
      @professor0reo700 Рік тому +2

      @@LonelyRider87 Wish me luck, and if you're religious, pray for me. My Ex and I never had a fight, even during our break up. She has so much stress and deep wounds that cause her depression and I want to be there for her.

  • @MsJM0923
    @MsJM0923 Рік тому +2

    His GF posted that she's engaged. He said to my son that it's a mistake. She changed her relationship from single to engaged.

  • @kidavis7024
    @kidavis7024 Рік тому +2

    Question: I was friends with a married couple. She died and her husband and I got together. I messed up and said something I was afraid of, he freaked out and ended everything. This happened on January the 27th 2023. Haven't heard from him since. Do you think he'll come back? If he does I'm not sure I even want him back at this point. He really hurt my feelings!

  • @arthurchrist9673
    @arthurchrist9673 Рік тому +5

    Did no contact with my ex in college ran into her 15 years later. Obviously no contact didn't get her back

    • @bigtruck1129
      @bigtruck1129 10 місяців тому

      Stay in the past 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @vanceg6387
    @vanceg6387 Рік тому +6

    what if i told her i was going no contact, and have been in nc for a while now, is there anyway to rectify it?

    • @KamilJan95s
      @KamilJan95s Рік тому +2

      I don’t think there’s ways to rectify it but you now have to stick with your word because your word has to mean something or you’ll look weak imo

  • @pepsicolla123
    @pepsicolla123 Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much, Craig! It made me feel better and have a more clear mind 😊💕

  • @diegoarevalo8312
    @diegoarevalo8312 Рік тому +6

    I wish I saw these videos before I made half the mistakes he listed 😂😂

  • @wildlyvanessa5284
    @wildlyvanessa5284 Рік тому +1

    Thank you Craig 🙏🏽🌻

  • @dazza8551
    @dazza8551 4 місяці тому

    Live your life, make the most of this time, grow, if it's meant to be he/she will come back, if not, someone better will come along.

  • @hassanabdiamman
    @hassanabdiamman 5 місяців тому

    Hhh, That is a big problem, because some people mess the process of no contact.

  • @JordanChan-y1z
    @JordanChan-y1z 9 місяців тому

    Its been six months. She came back 2 months ago for one week. We argued she left. Iv made every mistake since then, emailing her constantly, switching from sweet to angry, begging. I had dinner with her 3 days ago. At one point she started to tear up but that went quickly.She said she wasnt there for what i thought she was , so cold and wouldnt hold my hand. We shared a coffee from the same cup like we used to. She didnt want to hug me she turned her head. She said she had been with other guys. She left angry. Yesterday she told me to F**k off once and for all.
    I made every mistake. It could have been different. I dont think it going to change this time

  • @Morenita570
    @Morenita570 Рік тому +1

    He should of told the ages of the girls.
    In the Monaham documentary all the newly pregnant girls were 9yrs to 16yrs old.The youngest guy with 4 underage b l a c k girls pregnant was 29yrs. And the last girl had just turned 18 and already had 3 of his babies. The b l a c k males ages 29yrs to 60yrs.
    Remember Serena Williams dad was beat up when the b l a c k males in the neighborhood told her IN FRONT of her dad that they wanted to run a t r a i n on her.
    When I was a skinny, little underdeveloped 10yr old I began getting hit on by teenage boys, the jobless males in the community (of which there are many) and the older homeless males they’ve since been reclassified as hobosexuals.
    Also, ask him if he needed a place to stay (7) times OR he would have ended up in prison, shelter or homeless if he didn’t ‘future fake’ a relationship.
    Now ask him if b l a c k girls are even his preference?
    If he sees you living life and minding your business and he needs sexy time, food or housing - he will intentionally ruin your life and blame you for it.

  • @phiabia
    @phiabia Рік тому +2

    Been a month and a half since the break up and about 3 weeks since he picked up the rest of his things. He cut all communications with me because he doesn't want me to contact him. I'm really really struggling and I just want to talk to him. I miss him so mich. But I can't. I feel like I know that he doesn't love me anymore. I'm broken

    • @lindsay3793
      @lindsay3793 Рік тому

      How are you? Are you doing better now?

  • @JordanChan-y1z
    @JordanChan-y1z 9 місяців тому

    Its been six months. She said she had no feelings at all. She came back two months ago for one week. We argued she left. I made every mistake since, emailing her constantly, switching from angry to sweet, begging, not leaving her alone. We went to dinner 3 nights ago she was so cold. She said she wasnt there for what i thought. She teared up at one point but that went quickly. She wpuldnt even hold my hand or hug me, she barely looked at me. She told me she had been with other guys these past two months. I made every mistake, begging, unloading all my feelings telling her how amazing we could be and no one would love her as much as me. I sold my watches to give her money. Left my classes and work to call numbers she needed me to for her work. Booked a holiday to madrid she didnt come to, i even got a god damn tattoo... It could have been different if i didnt make these mistakes. Now she wont talk to me at all. She told me to f**k off once and for all yesterday. It could have been different

  • @careyannchua1301
    @careyannchua1301 Рік тому +1

    Thank you ❤

  • @mitchell844fd
    @mitchell844fd Рік тому +1

    After a month-and-a-half of silence I caught my ex driving by my house and a week later her mother drove by and just today she text me wanting to know how I'm doing and started to tell me what's been going on with her for the last month what does this mean that she is starting to miss me and I don't know what to do from here do I wait for her to text me back or do I give it a few days and send her a simple text

  • @modernman7576
    @modernman7576 Рік тому +2

    Do not stay friends with an ex...Do not. You need to act like a starting pitcher not a clean up guy

  • @dazza8551
    @dazza8551 4 місяці тому

    Dont block them, but delete their number so you cant get in touch with them even if you want to.

  • @hassanabdiamman
    @hassanabdiamman 5 місяців тому

    Very interesting, she might come back or not, this caoch heals me and don't to wait her, and i want the things naturally come.

  • @sreach93
    @sreach93 11 місяців тому

    I'm trying to count the "You, you, you's". They outweigh the "Them them them's " It appears they can take off, jump into rebounds, learn nothing.... absolutely nothing, then when their rebound falls off a cliff, contact the dumpee indirectly hoping to reconcile.
    Meanwhile we're the ones doing all we can to learn about relationships and attachment theory. If relationships are about balance in part, a few thems would help that......and us 😃

  • @MsJM0923
    @MsJM0923 Рік тому +1

    What happened when his GF sent me a video of my ex giving her a ring?

  • @MaSarah-xt9nr
    @MaSarah-xt9nr Рік тому +1

    Hi coach Craig, I've been listening to your videos for the past 2 weeks,since my ex for 9yrs replaced me and broke up with me I tried to do the no contact rule but,🤔 I blew up my 1st "no contact" attempt 😡, but when I saw another video that I can still do the 'no contact' for the 2nd time, still trying my best to abide with the no contact rule.BUT my daughter, without my knowledge sent a very long message to my ex, expressing her thoughts about our break up and trying to defend my side. My question is.. is this considered that I blew it up again??😮
    Please I badly need your side on this😞

    • @draelwakeel
      @draelwakeel 10 місяців тому

      She broke up for another man?

  • @MsJM0923
    @MsJM0923 Рік тому +1

    My parents tried to not get involved in our relationship. They stay out of it.

  • @aldobottle937
    @aldobottle937 Рік тому +1

    Does any of this stuff apply to a friend that you accidentally fell in love with that already has a boyfriend she's happy with? We were having fun hanging out then she ghosted me for no apparent reason and I feel like I went through a breakup and I don't even know if anything happened or not have no idea what she's thinking. I feel like I should keep waiting cuz she must have something to say to me and be surprised now that I haven't text her anything when I often do it's been two weeks. This is a special situation and there's so many variables I'm not going to be able to go more than another week without talking to her to figure out what's going on if anything at all.

    • @shuvachakraborty6356
      @shuvachakraborty6356 Рік тому

      Any update?
      I'm in the same situation

    • @aldobottle937
      @aldobottle937 Рік тому

      @@shuvachakraborty6356 it's very complex but I discovered that she's a covert narcissist. So I couldn't have a relationship with her anyway I know she would just get more hurtful as I got to know her better. It's sad cuz I still feel like I love her even though I know it was partly reenactment cuz my mother was mentally ill and unable to meet my needs.

  • @gregorysmithjr2145
    @gregorysmithjr2145 Рік тому

    I don’t know what to do she blocked me on all social media and my number as well. We been split for a month and a half too…. I keep trying to contact her I’m trying to stop I do t know what to do can somebody help me…

  • @rashadm.sadigov4366
    @rashadm.sadigov4366 8 місяців тому

    Dated 6 nice ladies didnt have any issues. Liked all but didnt take seriously. Met another one really liked her a lot and, shit, messed it up. So true stated coach, when you like the most that is when you f up

  • @Thinkagain6
    @Thinkagain6 Рік тому

    What if we both deleted each others numbers? and thats why im getting indirect direct messages on social media?

  • @rossblack4882
    @rossblack4882 Рік тому

    My ex reached out to me in no contact, do I read the message and not reply or do I just not even open it?

  • @Louie_777
    @Louie_777 Рік тому

    Craig i really like all your videos. But what can i do, if i feel to text him...😞

  • @laurencel.7980
    @laurencel.7980 Рік тому +1

    is it best to get advice from a woman if I am trying to my girl back?

    • @LonelyRider87
      @LonelyRider87 Рік тому +8

      Craig is the best his client base is majority male actually or was. Trust him.

  • @lilianaramirezrealestatebroker
    @lilianaramirezrealestatebroker 10 місяців тому

    Ok, late to the game. I did no contact, then after 3 months said ok to meet. Went to have breakfast then a couple of days later for coffee. I still want him back. We're divorced after 29 years. 😢 what Now? Done things u say no lt to do.... do no contact again? I'm soooooo hurt. 😢

  • @aries7176
    @aries7176 Рік тому

    When can you contact your ex, after 21 days, 30 days, or 90 days after not having contact?

  • @hafi7864
    @hafi7864 Рік тому

    Should I watch her what's app updates while no contact