WHY I RELAXED MY NATURAL HAIR + SIGNS THAT YOU MAY WANT TO RELAX YOUR NATURAL HAIR | ALLABOUTASH
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2:01 - My natural hair struggles
9:30 - Loving my relaxed hair
17:07 - Goals for my relaxed hair
20:36 - Signs that you may want to relax
Hey guys! Some of you guys mentioned in the comments that you were thinking about relaxing, so I wanted to sit down and make a video about why I relaxed my natural hair. I hope that this video gives y'all a little bit of insight on what it's like to be relaxed and if being relaxed is right for you. Either way, relaxed or natural you can still have beautiful healthy hair! Hope you enjoy ♥
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She sure wasn’t lying when she said natural hair is time consuming. I feel like my natural hair has become some kind of cult I must serve.
😂😂
All About Ash lol love this video. Like so unapologetic about the fact that you were so over it and didn't have time for this 😂
Lmao I just couldn’t deal with it anymore 😂 but thank you! ❤️
@@AllAboutAshh I feel as if I'm over it. It's driving me crazy. Hours detangling!!!!
😂😭
To be honest, I feel like “the natural hair journey” era was truly meant to be here to show us black women and girls that it’s ok to be ourselves whether natural, relaxed, locked, weave, wig, just... to be authentic on who we are as a culture and to accept and embrace our essence. I love us black women no matter the shade .
Preach
Absolutely
This And i loved my a journey ! It definitely is needed! I feel like the for me yu get it was stigmatized so we all rushed to perms so my natural journey was a way for me to embrace my hair.. learn about it..learning my texture..trying and appreciating the natural hair process. It’s great for some and best for all. Did i appreciate it! Honestly perms never damaged my hair! I’ve been natural for like 8 years now I’m going back though...i miss perms and your can still have and maintain heathy growing hair with perms.
I’m going back to my relaxer and I had guilt about it after reading your comment I feel great about I’m thankful for the journey 4years
This!! I first went natural in 2008 after I applied a relaxer and left it on too long. I was 22 and with very little education around my natural hair. The journey to learn, grow, and accept every stage of my hair has been amazing. I wore my natural hair out for 5 years with braids, twists, weaves, afros, then loc'd it up for 5.5 years! I'm currently loc'd again after combing out my first set, and am so happy to feel like I've made the journey through fully loving and accepting myself, no matter what my hair looks likes! I'm grateful for the early days of the natural hair movement for sure!
Honeyyy.. that top knot is *chef’s kiss*
Thank you💕
Is there a tutorial? If not I need one ASAP lol
I’ll try to make one soon!
Literally so good 😍!
you relaxed your hair because it's your hair. im tired of people having to explain themselves for the decisions they make that doesn't affect anyone else. your hair looks bomb!!!😍😍 & you are gorgeous!!!
Thank you!❤️
This really touched me..like almost to tears..ive been natural for 10 yrs and I am over it. Im ready for my hair not to be such a big deal in my life anymore....everytime i go anywhere or do anything...its too much. Thanks so much for this comment....
@June Bug wow! Thats really good that you are able to get up and go! I have color so im waiting for it to grow out 1st then im going to get a relaxer done...i really cant wait...
She really is gorgeous! 😍
You're right but videos like this help people like me learn to do what's best for yourself and not to look or listen to others... Her talking about it AFTER the fact is great cause people love to try get into your head like they live the life you live or will help you with your struggles.
I'm about to relax my hair this weekend from being natural for about 7 years. I can't do it anymore.
Good luck girl! I’m sure it will turn out great
I've been doing this for 8 years. I'm over it!
Same here, I tired of spending hours to style and care for my hair.
Just texlaxed my hair last week after 15 years..best decision ever....I feel what I’ve learned during my natural phase helps me to better care for my chemically processed hair ...if that makes sense
I'd think after all those years you'd get used to it... Humm I guess not
For me, my natural hair just stayed tucked away under crochets or braids. It was pointless to put in all that work just to keep it tucked away. I was over it. Love my textlaxed hair
This is my issue. Since the pandemic ive been getting braids or sew ins every 4 weeks. My hair is too long and too much work. I think I want to get a relaxer.
I feel like my relaxed hair is so beautiful that I’m not even interested in my wigs at the moment! Your entire look is 😍
Thank you ❤️
You didn't feel like your natural hair was beautiful?
Porsha Jenkins yeah it’s just as beautiful but when I had relaxed hair before it wasn’t beautiful cause I didn’t know how to take care of my hair in general so it was damaged, broken, brittle and just a mess....nothing like it is now ☺️
You bring up a good point though. Ive been natural 13 years now (just realized it was actually "a thing" on youtube in 2021 after terrible heat damage had me researching...i myself was natural and too busy to do anything but a ponytail and maybe a few kiddie braids on wash day but how natural is natural when most put on fake hair in the form of wigs and weaves anyway. I know its going to annoy some naturals but really think about it: how natural are we when we still cover it up with fake hair🤔...just an observation, we all do what we want but shouldnt be too hard onbothers who go chemical route. The info out here on youtube is amazing and empowering to do whatever we want in a healthy way and that is probably the biggest takeaway
EXACTLY SOME OF US ARE OVER IT!!!!! I CANT WAIT TO RETURN TO MY RELAXER!!! YES THE CREAMY CRACK I WILL BE DOING FOR 2022!!!!!!
GIRL! This is EXACTLY my natural hair journey & I’m so over it. I’m also a sleek kind of girl so having to go through the struggles of simply finding the right edge control was enough. Natural products are not cheap & buying so many products just to find out that it doesn’t even work, very much so frustrating. I couldn’t do a sleek, cute, quick style if I wanted to hop up & go somewhere with my natural hair. Being natural takes dedication & patience & unfortunately, I’m not about that life so I’m going back relaxed ASAP.
My People🙏, I thought I was the only one. I'm surprised I have any hair left with all the shedding from protective styles. I can finally get my cabinets back! Avoiding the chemicals only to put more chemicals in my hair 🤯.
As long as you get ends trimmed properly ,deep condition ya hair,wrap up at night with silk scarf & bonnet,not wear it down all the time ,keep hair moisturized & keep your scalp stimulated with grease or oil you'll be fine (my tips are true!💗
I feel like you are in my head right now lol. I have been natural for almost 6 years now and I still don’t have a clue what works for my hair 🤦🏽♀️. I plan on going back relaxed extremely soon!
Im bout to relax...i was relaxed for 2 yrz nd had to go sumwher real quick n lookin a hot mess! Relaxed the next day now its the same thing since i big chopped agen. Now im lik i should get it braided but what happens when them braids strtz lookin old n i gt sumwher to go! Pssshh gettin it permed tmrrw
Don't do it
@Ricki B. To each its own...natural hair is healthier than chemically burned hair.
Extremely 😍😀
Same lol I was natural for about 10 years and I can only say one (maybe two products) worked well with my hair. But it still wasn’t enough to get the results I wanted. Plus it was super expensive.
This is what I love about relaxed hair....you can literally moisturize every single day without it reverting into an afro!! We all know water and products that contain water are what truly moisturize hair and if you're a natural who likes wearing your hair straight, it is nearly impossible to moisturize with the ultimate moisturizer - water...on a daily basis. I just relaxed my 18 inches of virgin hair and I couldn't be more happy!!!!! I get to spritz it with water and wear hella cute braid outs everyday. Wash, dry and style takes about 45 mins. Detangling......what is that??? I should have done it sooner, because I used to lose a lot of hair on wash day because of the tension caused by trying to detangle 4c hair. Even being hella gentle and using my RevAir, I couldnt get around the fallout. Now......the amount of shed on wash day is next to none!
“detangling......what is that???” 😂
Whatever makes your life easier and allows you to look your best. I moisturize my natural hair when it’s flat ironed w/o reversion. You just have to use a small amount at a time and rub it in your hands first before putting it on your ends and mid length. I use Oyin Hair Dew. Enjoy your relaxer!
I hear this, I know what my hair wants , my natural hair wants water but I can't give it because of the shrinkage and not being able to style it when it's wet. This is hindering my growth process I'm at such a loss with what to do
I tried several methods and after 3 years I went back to relaxing so I totally understand!
I tried 3 yrs and i cant do it!! Ive been actually depressed because i just dont feel like myself. My relaxed hair was so beautiful and easy to maintain and it actually grew. My natural hair grows very slowly and is extremely dry. Ive tried so many products and NOTHING works!! Im going back relaxed as of today!! Our hair is NOT us!!
So happy I’m not alone in feeling like I’m over my natural hair.
My hair is relaxed and healthy. It be the NATURAL girls who be telling me how pretty my hair is and be shocked when I tell them it's relaxed lmao. Just because relaxer broke your hair off doesn't mean it does that to everybody else.
I Now Relaxed My Hair What Can I Use For It Be Healthy, Long ‘&’ Thick?
LISTEN!!! I've been relaxed since around 79 or 80 I can't remember! !! Right now I begged the hairdresser to cut my hair shoulder length but she and my sister freaked out !!!
I haven't been taking care of it due to being clinically depressed. I don't comb it for a long time and I been just destroying it. No relaxer did that,I did that. I told her women my age get tired of all this hair but she couldn't do it. LOL!!!
It's March and I know by December this damned hair is going to be about bra-strap length on its way to midback from whence I cut it.
THIS. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
My hair was so long with relaxers. My natural hair gets that long but i always have to trim in thanks to the excessive fairy knots
I'm so glad to see more black women celebrating and taking care of their "natural" hair! MEeaning the hair that grows out of our scalps! Whether its relaxed (which I prefer myself) or unrelaxed...I still call it "natural" hair because that is the way I distinguish hair that isn't a weave. I relaxed my hair after 4 years of wearing it in it's kinky state. I loved my hair but it was way too time consuming, plus I missed that relaxed flow! I look forward now to finding as many black women as possible to follow that take care of their own hair and look and feel beautiful without wearing wigs and weaves.
I LOVE your explanation because it's our REAL HAIR. It's coming out of our SCALPS so it's our "NATURAL" hair. I hate how unprocessed hair is seen as better in the Black community and the world community. I just relaxed my hair two weeks ago and id been natural for 10 years and I've been growing it since 2019. So I did it, cut off my split ends and dyed it Black yesterday and it looks so healthy. I LOVE doing my hair now and it's so soft and fluffy and I've been Doing AMAZING on moisturizing it and learning new products for my hair.
Lol your real hair was always considered your natural hair before the anti-straight/relaxed cult came along.
Off topic. But, can we get a hair tutorial on this hair? 😍
Yes I’ll do one soon!
I was thinking the same thing like omg it’s so sleek and pretty 😍
Being natural for 1 year make me treat my relax hair this time around much better.
Sameee!
I did a big chop in 2018. Loved it. Then I got real depressed, stopped doing my hair, and knew that I could do better styles. So may of 2019 I relaxed my hair. And after a couple months of growing it past my shoulders, I realized I didn’t like it at all. And i knew I missed my natural hair. So I started transitioning in November, it grew in the middle of my ear(length) and I cut my hair off and I realized I enjoy taking all that time doing my hair because I’m at a happy state in life and my natural hair is my life. I’m glad you picked your way. It looks amazing!! No one should ever stay natural because they feel like there would be criticism from the natural hair police. I’m happy for you!!!
I happy you found something that works for you and that you love! & Thank you for the support! ❤️
natural hair is extremely time consuming, you're so right. It wasn't until I started making videos about my hair that I found that i was spending a lot time on my hair.
Yaa Asafo you probably just haven’t found the right products yet . Keep going !
I relaxed because I dont have time for my natural hair. I have a super active 8 month old that keeps me busy. My hair is so thick. People still think I'm natural anyway
I'm the same way, and it's poofy when I air dry. I get annoyed detangling new growth, I can't deal with a whole head.
lol me too!
Same here I relaxed my hair the day b4 my baby shower...my baby is 8 months old as well, so it was a time thing for me but I miss my natural days sometimes🤷🏽♀️
I'm considering relaxing my hair after 7 years partly for the same reason. I have a 9 month old breastfed baby girl and quite frankly I don't have the time. Plus I'm tender headed and the longer it gets it seems like the more it hurts to comb/detangle it.
😂 Gyrl yes! I’ve been relaxed for a few months and anytime I do my braid outs or rod sets you can’t even tell my hair is relaxed because my hair is so thick
I'm glad u were honest, I feel bad for naturals who feel the need to make up all these excuses to why the relaxed their hair.
I’ve only been natural for about 6 months and I’m already considering going back to relaxing...I feel like I kind of bullied myself into going natural and while I do like my curls, I just think it’s not for me. Plus I’m about to move and (hopefully) get a full time job and starting my masters program in the fall and I just can’t commit to putting so much time into my hair.
I totally understand, being natural isn’t for everyone tbh. Do what’s best for you and your lifestyle! Good luck with your decision & good luck with getting that full time job and starting your masters program!!❤️
@@AllAboutAshh Thank you so much!!
Honestly I don’t remember ever thinking about hair this much growing up. I had friends who were natural and friends who permed. My aunt loved natural hair and would help me perm mine. Like I never felt like one was right or wrong growing up. Now I feel like I hate myself and what will I be teaching my daughter if I perm my hair. My mom had hair down her back permed and I always had cornrows in and I never felt like my mom wasn’t teaching me self love growing up. It’s ridiculous how we claim we want black women to love themselves but the hair police only want it their way. I have had more problems with my hair trying or be natural, than I have perming it. Because I’m not in it for the right reasons and I honestly loved my perm hair. I’m going to perm my hair and not feel one bit of bad about it!
@@jelissafrank5858 It's crazy that you just commented this today because I was just getting myself all worked up about what I wanted to do with my hair! I was planning on relaxing this week and then of course started having second thoughts after my friends were saying things like "nooo it's so pretty don't do it" Like I really should not be so pained by this decision it's HAIR! I needed to see this because I really just need to calm down and do what I want with my own hair on my own dang head without worrying about what others will think. Thank you!
JaJaJantsen wow I was reading so many comments that I agreed with but felt the need to comment on yours only. God works in mysterious ways, he knows what we need. You should not feel so stressed out about hair and have anxiety on whether what you’re doing is right or wrong. It’s not that serious and you deserve to have more meaningful things on your mind. You don’t need the opinions of anyone else do what you feel is best for you, love it and rock the heck out of it!
My relaxed hair was super dry and brittle so what I’ve learned is that no matter if it’s relaxed or natural you need a routine, technique and good products. The most important things are the porosity, texture and density.
Please do more relaxed hair videos. I’m really thinking about going back to relaxed. 🤭
I definitely will! ❤️
follow your heart love!
Don't do it!!!
@@rhondatate6840 don't tell them what to do luv 😘
Same 😭
No need to explain...your hair, your choice. You’re beautiful either way.
Thank you ❤️
This is incredibly off topic ... MOONLIGHTONWATER???? What an epic name. That brought me so much peace... seriously 😌💙
Terri Williams Thanks so much. That was the whole idea behind my online name: it was the most peaceful image I had seen (at the time) in nature and I wanted to embody that energy....I’ve had it for over 20 years ☺️
I'm actually going to relax my hair this week after being natural for 8 years. I'm over it....plus I'm getting a short cut!! Thanks for your video
Same. 8 years and I’m just sick of it
@@brianicoleecaldwell it's A LOT!! Every time I think he's making progress......he disappoints me. 🤦🏾♀️😣
My natural hair will be 8 years next month and I’m thinking of relaxing
I've been consuming these videos as I'm 94% determined to relax my hair again at this point but what holds me back is having to explain myself. I don't know how to communicate that I want to relax my hair because I want to and not because of any internalized hatred of my blackness. And maybe that's my own fear of why I want to relax my hair, but for me, it's really just so much work-especially the longer it gets. So thanks for sharing your thoughts as it's helpful to hear about other women's experiences.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for what you choose to do with your hair, and I don’t know about you, but for me it’s about time, expense, and convenience; I have spent more money trying to find the right natural curl products and more time trying to find the right styling and maintenance routine than I ever did with a relaxer. I don’t like the end result, and I’m just over the whole thing. People who feel more strongly about my hair than I do are welcome to start paying for my product and doing it for me 😂
Literally decided today while getting a braid down that I would get a relaxer in two weeks. I’ve been natural for four years and my friends tried to bully me into staying natural lol and then I get on UA-cam and find your video and let me tell you it spoke to my SOUL 😂 I’m staying with my decision lol thank you for this!
I’m so excited watching this! 4 yrs & 6 hrs of washing/detangling/styling? Y’all can HAVE IT! 🤣✌🏾
Me here with a 4c type and when it is a day to wash my hair i feel like i have a math exam that i have to pass, but i don't have to. I am relaxing next year too!
A math exam😂 & I’m sure you’ll love being relaxed!
@@AllAboutAshh I am hoping!
I ended my two year natural hair journey today. I woke up this morning and was like “I’m so over this shit”. I got up, went to CVS, and with the relaxer, moisturizer and coconut conditioner, I spent a whole $26. I have a couple of reasons why I ended the journey. The first being the more my hair grew, the curlier it got, therefore making my hair appear to be much shorter than what it was. It was super thick, but simply wouldn’t lay flat. It would push out sideways. The second reason was I was spending SO MUCH MONEY on hair products that just didn’t respond to my natural hair, at all. I have been wearing a headband with my hair pulled back because my edges didn’t respond to a single product I bought. Also, natural hair products are just so expensive. I spent $26 today for everything I needed to care for my relaxed hair, and it will last me a few months. I had purchased a hair custard that somewhat helped my hair that was $40, and would have had to buy it every 6 days. I eventually found some oil products that were cheaper, to help stretch out the custard. The oil that helped my hair helped in the sense that it made my hair easier to comb through when I got done with washing it. The third and biggest reason was how my hair responded when I slept. I could wash/dry/bonnet my hair, but during the night, my hair was splitting itself at the crown. So when I woke up, my top half was completely upwards, leaving my crown completely flat, which started to cause some breakage. When I relaxed my hair, a part of me was kinda nervous. But to my utter surprise, my hair didn’t break or shed, AT ALL. When I dried it, I didn’t see hair flying all over the place, even my husband saw me blow drying, he said THANK YOU for getting your hair back in order. He got tired of seeing my hair in hair nets and head bands all the time.
What an ordeal ! 😹
Although I'm natural, its not for everyone. Its a job within its self. You do what's best for u.
Thank you for doing this video. It is a relief knowing im not the only one who feels that way. I've been struggling with my natural hair (e.g., dryness etc) for several years and have been reconsidering going back to relaxed as well.
Girl I know the struggle lol, good luck with whatever option you choose!
I was relaxed for 15yrs but I missed my hair and would get scabs on my scalp from the relaxers. My hair is "4c" but so easy to shampoo, condition, detangle, and is soft. Detangling takes me a few minutes and I'm so thankful. Your hair is so pretty just take care of it and you should be fine.
Thank you!
You really shouldn't scab...that means you're not doing it correctly
@@ambrosia1917 my scalp can't handle the chemicals anymore. I just flat iron if I want straight hair
@@luvleeable kk makes sense
@@luvleeable i used to get chemical burns too. Hated them.
So glad I ran into this… everything you named is what I’ve gone through with my natural hair and I’m over it!! Will be getting a relaxer soon!
Honey I feel you, I'm so over detangling my hair it's not even funny.
I relaxed after 7 years for the exact reasons as you. Sectioning, detangling & time consuming 😬. I'm so happy now & washday is a breeze.💁🏽♀️ Btw you're so pretty & I love this hairstyle 🌹♥️
Thank you 💗
Night Cat did you use a traditional american relaxer or japanese straight perm?
I was relaxed from the age of 19 until 55. That's 3 1/2 decades. There were many many days I spent 4 or 5 hours or more at the salon. It's a trade off. Four or 5 hours of me doing my hair vs 4 or 5 hours at the salon getting a relaxer. Again, it's a individual decision. Be beautiful right where you are however you are.
You weren’t spending four or five hours at the salon getting a relaxer every week or two weeks (I hope), but that’s what the natural hair routine requires and I’m over it. I agree: be happy where you are.
@@suspirodelmoro1430exactly.
I've been natural for seven whole years and my hair is soooo dry and tough. It seems to not be growing even though I got my ends cut and everything. It took up toooo much time, my styles didn't last long at ALL, and I'm just tired. So yea, I'm done. Back to a relaxer 😊 ❤️. Thx for sharing Lady 👍🏾
My hair was relaxed from about 10 years old until I was 37 because I didn’t know any better and it made my hair manageable.
I wouldn’t of dreamed of attempting to look after my natural hair - had no time or interest but knew that the chemicals in the relaxer were bad for my scalp (I have scalp psoriasis).
I’ve never worn wigs or weaves as they didn’t appeal to me.
Then I discovered sisterlocks and they suit my busy, professional lifestyle and desire to be natural.
I think we’ve got to do what’s best for us / unapologetically.
Ps - you’re absolutely stunning 😍
I agree do what’s best for you! And thank you! ❤️
I loved your previous relaxed hair video, and I love this one! A good trim/cut will give your hair a clean canvas to grow from. For me, I love the ease of relaxed hair and prefer straight/sleek styles.
Thank you❤️! & yes same, one of my biggest pros of being relaxed
how long have you been relaxed?
I let my natural hair grow a lil past bra strap length.. I relaxed my hair Monday washed it yesterday and I freakin love it.. if my natural hair wouldn’t have tangled so much I wouldn’t have relaxed but I’m so glad I did.. I don’t even feel the need to straighten it & I don’t think I will just keep blow drying on medium heat and keep it moisturized💁🏽♀️
I was natural for 3 years
So happy for honesty and I am thinking of going back myself cuz I don’t have time. Your sleek style is beautiful. You are saying what we all thinking about.
I needed this video so bad. I've been relaxed all my life, after having below shoulder length hair I decided to big chop and join the natural hair journey and three years later I'm actually over it and for exactly the reasons you just mentioned. I feel each sentiment you shared and I'm finally ready to go back to relaxed hair. And I love how I'm such a sucker for a nice sleek bun and I'm gonna be able to do this now like I used to. I'm so excited thank you for this video. I also feel like weather relaxed or natural, black girls should be proud of how we can wear our hair how we want it in which ever texture. Love and light💕💕
Yes! I love my decision to relax, definitely don’t regret it & I absolutely agree!❤️
I can COMPLETELY relate to all of this & really miss my short, pixie relaxed hair. Thank you for sharing your truth!
❤️❤️
I totally understand and agree! Long natural hair is a lot of work & it can be a lot to handle!!! You are absolutely gorgeous, I'll be watching for beauty and haircare tips! Thanks 😊...
Thank you! And thanks for the support! 😊💗
You spoke your mind and I give kudos to you.
I’m fully natural (7 yrs) but after watching you, and a few others I will consider relaxing it again in the future. Right now I have the time, it does take a Lot of it! Learning about my real has been a pleasure for me. I love it’s versatility. But I now know how to make my hair thrive so should I want that change. Your hair looks fantastic ❤️
After going natural 5 years with setbacks and all I've learned not to touch my hair when I'm tired or not in the mood and it really helped.
Amen, I feel the exact same way. I was natural for 6 years and just relaxed my hair a week ago! I’m so happy. I can finally take good care of my hair. My hair was also always dry and hard to maintain. Great video!
I combed out my sisterlocs and I relaxed just the other day...wheeee!
How long did it take to comb them out?
Omg, I so feel you sis because you are describing my experience as well, especially with Detangling all to have to detangle all over again and again!
I'm also finding it way too damn time-consuming and process intensive to maintain my natural hair. I also am SO over planning my wash days around drying time! I fully support you and anyone doing whatever they want with *their* hair. Personally, I'll be doing the big chop! Looking forward to experimenting with colors and I'm keeping it short for the foreseeable future bc I don't want spend anymore time doing my hair at all. I transitioned so I think this big chop will be fun and help me love my hair again! 💗
Thanks for sharing your story girl! I completely agree with the struggles, I’ve tried to transition “to natural” for a year now but it just takes SO much effort just to do a simple bun when my hair isn’t relaxed. Also, (to me) having relaxed hair makes braids easier & any other style easier!!
Oh wow I feel the same way. I've tried everything and my hair turned into a matted mess after I avoided combing out properly as it just kept breaking. The other day I lost about 1/4 of my hair after I combed out the knots and matted sections with such frustration. I'm thinking of relaxing my hair after it's recovered and will make no apologies for it.
I frankly don't get why people feel the need to do YT videos explaining themselves to total strangers. It's your hair and you owe nobody any explanations what to do with it. I love your skin and dimples, you're so pretty! God bless you.
I mainly did this video to help those who were thinking about relaxing their hair, either they could relate to my struggles and it would help with their decision to relax, or it could allow them to think about if relaxing is worth it to them and if they prefer their natural hair, but thank you!❤️
I really appreciate your honesty. I've never relaxed my hair before, and I'm thinking about it.
No problem❤️ just make sure you’re 100% sure before you do it!
No
Omg thank you for this. I've been going back and forth with getting a relaxer. I think I'm going for it.
Saaaaame I decided to transition a couple years ago I've been relaxed my whole life and its been like 2 almost 3 years now and I can not 😭😭I really thought I could live this life its so hard lol
Omg such a doll! I neeed a tutorial on this entire look from hair to makeup! And you are not lying about our Houston heat.. Im about to relax in an hour or so, after 3-4 years!!
You're so pretty and your hair is beautiful. Relaxed hair community for the win!!
Thank you!💗
I actually get it, I love my natural hair but it takes me hours to take care of it. My relaxer days way less time consuming.
I was getting the feelings to relax my natural hair after 9 years, but decided to loc my hair instead. And I'm so happy I loc'd instead. Talk about ease and non time consuming. Yes!
I've been researching videos like this so I'm late but firstly you are beautiful. Secondly, I'm just listening but leaning towards relaxing again.
Omg thank you for this video! Already talking to my stylist about relaxing mine❤️
Beautiful skinnnnn, hair, dimples, EVERYTHING😩😍🤩
Thank youuu💕
I understand you perfectly. OMG. Thick and coarse my hair is. A day lost on “hair shampoo day!” Detangling 30 mins before shampoo. Single strand knots. I could go on......but I won’t. I relaxed after 7 years natural. The longer it got the more time it took. As I have never in my 59 years ( 60 next month) wore a weave, braids or wigs ( my choice) it became too much for me daily. I always worn my own hair out or in twist waiting a day or two to dry when natural. I made the choice 2 years ago to relax again. I’m happy and I still wear my hair out daily as a relaxed person.
Do I miss my natural hair? Yes! But not the maintenance.
Happy early birthday💗! & I’m glad you’re happy with your decision!
All About Ash Awwwwww🌺that’s so nice of you. Thank you. ( can’t believe I’m going to be 60😳)
I am 45 and I am always looking for hair content that is geared toward mature women 😊😊😊.
Sukari Sanford I feel you. I’m at least 75% gray. Wait until you get a load of that texture. It is more coarse, wire texture and wants to be noticed. It has a mind of its own. My gray hair is not the hair I had in my 20’s - 40’s or even 10 years ago-hence the relaxer. 😀. I’m still bra strap length and trim to keep it that way or it becomes too much. I rinse every 6 weeks, braid outs and roller set every 3 weeks( I’m a pro at roller sets) I will let it go gray one day. But not today!
I totally understand you! Because i went back to relax my hair 3x before staying natural and learning about my hair
Girl I feel you! I don't have the time for natural hair!! Lately i have been thinking about relaxing again🤔
Omg!!!! These are the same issues I had!! Detangling was a nightmare!! I never knew what to use on my hair. Definitely goin back to relaxer after this sew in. I’ve been natural a little over a year. Thanks for sharing!!
It ain’t for everybody but you know what ... ITS YOUR HAIR! End of story...
Hi. You look amazing! Love the hair. Too cute! I completely agree with you. After 5 years of being natural, I decided to go back to the relaxer, for ease, shorter time spent on wash days. Styles last longer. I was tired of losing so much hair while detangling my natural hair. I kept my hair in braids most of the time. I'm looking forward to a healthy relaxer journey as I had before going natural. I liked my twist outs on natural hair and love seeing the different natural styles. The great thing is we all have options. Each one of us can wear our hair however we want. It's not about how other people think we should wear our hair. Do what's best for you. We all should feel confident in our decisions, no matter if it's relaxed, natural, braids, wigs, fro, color, dreads, short, long. Do you! 😊
Thank you! & yes I totally agree❤️
I relaxed yesterday after 4 years and love it!!!
I hear you sis. I shaved off my natural type 4 hair two months ago partly because it was too time consuming. I'm loving the freedom of having super short hair🙌🏾 I didn't consider relaxing my hair because I don't like wearing my hair straight but I did consider getting a curly perm. Now that I'm growing my hair back out I'm experimenting with products that will cut down my styling time.
you helped me so unbelievably much, thank you!!
Glad I could help! 💗
My hair grows more relaxed and treated. Use less heat true statement. I still wear braids long as hair is moisturized and treated it still will grow healthy.
Everyone can’t deal with natural hair or want to. That’s your choice. You seemed like you learned about caring for your permed hair 2nd time around. I’m currently a natural, my hair is in twist since Rona started. Being is work, a lot of my youtubers don’t really post a lot like they use to either for natural hair.
You fly both relaxed & natural, sis. Live your life 💯
Thank youu❤️
I'm getting a virgin relaxer on Saturday after being natural for about 7 years & I'm so damn excited about it! 💃😊 Ugh!!!! Time needs to hurry up...I miss my straight hair.
Yess, I’m sure it’s gonna look great! 💗
I love it!! Your absolutely beautiful! Im 4c and ive been natural for 5 yrs but im over it lol your right you can do so mamy styles but soon as you step outside boom shrinkage us 4c gals and really enjoy our hair outside of the house lol keep it up your glowing.❤
I just wanted to say your dimples are super cute!! 🥰 I completely understand you have to do what works for you. I’ve been getting relaxers since I was around 10 yo. My last relaxer was 2003. I’ve been natural now since 2003. But I know the struggle I wanted to so many times relax my hair again. But remember, your hair is beautiful either way.
Yes both are beautiful but ultimately do what works best for you! ❤️❤️
This vid is well done /put together ! U look gorgeous as well!!!! 🌼
Thanks girl!!❤️☺️
your makeup looks soo good here! 😍
Thank you💕
Yes yes yes!!! I’m on board 100% great video! Do you boo! You style is sleek and beautiful. Can’t wait for a tutorial. New subscriber here!
Thank you! & I have a tutorial on this hairstyle: ua-cam.com/video/7GRhd-0k05U/v-deo.html
Ive been natural for 3 years and going to relax my hair. Im excited 😆 its a new journey
Excited for you! Good luck 💗
You're gorgeous! Your hair your choice!! whatever you do... good or bad people will always have something to say! Your hair looks amazing!!
Thank you! ❤️
This!!! I’ve lasted 10yrs & only went natural because I was relaxing too often and over-processing it. I have a great stylist & this is the healthiest and longest my hair has been. I NEVER wear “natural styles”/protective styles only flexirod sets so I’m seriously over it. I may wash my own hair maybe once a year I can’t even manage it on my own & don’t want to. Humidity, too hot of a shower, or 1 workout it’s over!! I’ve had my edges relaxed once BUT I seriously want all of my hair relaxed and be put out of my misery lol! Congrats to you lol it’s pretty
Sounds like you might be part of the relaxed team soon💁🏾♀️ & thank you💗
Thank you for the time stamps! New subscriber 👏🏾👏🏾😊
No problem! Thanks for the support! 💗
At 4:37 I almost cried.... I literally be having anxiety thinking about wash day, the work, the time, the steps.... all to set a style that might not dry by morning and look a hot mess!!!
I'm so glad to be seeing this, I also watched the relaxing video too. I've been natural for nearly 10 years and what do I have to show for it but dry broken and thinned out hair. Recently I have been thinking about relaxing again or at the least becoming a straight natural and even that I'm questioning.
When I was relaxed my hair was long, fuller and healthy, now I wish I stuck with that.
Thanks so much for this video because you have said so many things that’s happening to my hair. Relaxing tomorrow no joke
You do you! You look gorgeous! Natural, relaxed, bald! Just beautiful!!💜
Thank you 💗
So cool that you went to UAH (I'm from Huntsville!) Loving your top knot!
I actually went to UH (University of Houston) lol but Huntsville isn’t too far! & thank you! ❤️
Your hair style is so cute. I’m going to try to recreate it when I straighten my hair.
This is so true! My natural hair came out more, love my curly hair but no I relaxed my hair best idea.Effortless yes.
i just relaxed my hair because the detangling was causing more damage than anything. Im not very big on protective styling either. i dont like wigs, wearing crotchet or braids and i very seldom do weaves. i prefer to wear my hair out. it thrives better in my opinion. all of the constant manipulation was breaking my hair. You can only wear your hair out for a day or two without having to manipulate it to moisturize or it will get brittle and break off. i will miss my kinky coils and the texture and waves when i do a sleek pony.
I've been natural for 8 years, although I love my natural curls, it's so expensive and time consuming. I was torn between relaxing my natural hair, but you help me make the decision to relax.
You don't have to explain to people 👫 that is your hair . Looking good
I’m new here but I’ve been natural for 5years now and I’ve been considering relaxing my hair. I have the exact same struggles that you had natural. I’ve tried soooo many products and haven’t found anything that really works for me. And doing my hair takes an act of Congress lol. But you are gorgeous as well as your hair 🥰💜
I totally get you lol, just make sure to do your research before relaxing but so far I love it! & thank you! ❤️
All About Ash I was relaxed majority of my life and loved it but wanted to try being natural. I just think my hair did better relaxed
An act of Congress! 🤣😂
Just the intro made me hit the like button💕 ...that is why I relaxed now , next month will be one year since I relaxed my hair and I happy of the decision I made
Yess girl! Do what makes you happy 💗
It can be a challenge learning your natural hair. I actually went to a natural hair stylist who suggested the types of products to use based upon my hair type. Also, when I want to do a sleek look I have the option of flat ironing. If I want a more controlled curl or wave pattern I do a twist/braid out on blown out hair. I think having a professional give you advice would’ve helped you embrace the versatility of your natural hair. But I understand you absolutely have to do what’s best for you and I’m happy your happy 😊
I've never been relaxed but I didn't start wearing my hair curly until college and it was a struggle. My hair was super thick and hard to detangle. I recently cut it and it made detangling easier, then I lifted/ dyed it and it literally takes 5 mins. I know the dye made it thinner but honestly, I like the thinner hair. I know it sounds crazy because it's going against the grain but I'm so glad I did. Went from over an hr to detangle to 5 mins. You do you and whatevers best for you.