6 Ways To Support Someone Who Came Out (LGBT)
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- Опубліковано 25 лип 2024
- Coming out as LGBT can be a terrifying ordeal. The uncertainty of figuring out whether someone is safe or not to come out to can fill them with distress and anxiety. If a friend or loved one chooses to come out to you, it means they’ve trusted you enough to share this very important part of themselves. While the new information might come as a surprise at first, understand that their sexuality makes them no less of the person you love and appreciate. Their identity goes much farther than their sexuality. And all the while, it’s still something very much worth celebrating. Whether it’s a friend, sibling, or someone else, here are some ways to support your LGBT friend.
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Here one of the most requested topic recently on supporting someone coming out. Understand that their sexuality makes them no less of the person you love and appreciate. Their identity goes much farther than their sexuality. Could you please help us share this video to potential help someone out? P.S Everyone has their reasons on what they support or not. Most importantly, we are all human and should respect one another even though our opinions differ. Respect and love.
everyone is valid!!❤❤
Yey
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Everyone is valid✨
omg hi!!
Your videos are so entertaining and sometimes helping me alot!
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"Their identity is much more than their sexuality".
I STAND BY THIS STATEMENT
Most lgbt people dont stand by it unfortunately
@@fhakqoqnsbajak4 well, more of us I know stand by this though 😌
But you don’t, otherwise you wouldn’t feel the need to say it.
I STAND BI THIS STATEMENT
YESSS I agree! This is one of my favorite statements I’ve ever heard!!
Me,who doesn't plan on coming out til next year: Ah yes time to support myself
Same
Same✋😔
Please remember that you matter and you are valid :)
Next year. Hah. I'm coming out in 5 years..
Don't worry y'all can do it ^^
Just stay calm and try to explain
3 of my friend came out to me. They all said something like:
"I'm gay"
"I'm bi"
"I'm pan"
And my anwser was for the three:
"Well my favorite color is red"
When they asked me why would I anwser with that I said:
"Because to me it's the same. The fact that I like red doesn't change anything in our relationship. So like what you like!"
(Btw I'm adopting all of you. YOU HAVE NO CHOICE!!! Y'all are so cute and wholesome!)
Have a heart in your favourite color! There you go ~~~~♥️
I'd be careful using the word "want" in that context
@@tortric How so?
@@KxNOxUTA it makes it seem like sexuality is a choice
@@tortric I didn't really mean it like that...
I mean, I just react like "Oh, that's cool!". Why should anything at all change between us if you have a different sexuality from mine? It's such a normal thing to like different things, or to feel different things. It should be a given by now.
@The Damn Boi Man same
Yea c’mon now, we all just have to grow up 🙄
That's a good way to react, thanks for being awesome :D
@The Damn Boi Man okay get out creep
@The Damn Boi Man 🤣
1. Reassure your friendship and support
2. Offer them a hug
3. Learn more about their sexuality
4. Lighten up
5. Be an ally
6. Continue doing the same things
Thanks
I don't think a hugs a good idea with covid 🤭
Or just don't care about it at all
I wish I could give her a hug but she's in Georgia and I'm in NJ 😭😭
@@animationsforfun0 you could ride there on your pony
Psych2go doesn't even realize that with every upload our life gets even better.
so true
Indeed
Well, now they do
Correct btw I had the same pfp on whatsapp
Hi Meena! Beautifully said!!
I came out to my friend as asexual and she came out to me as a demigirl and we were both kinda just like *gasp*
oof i am an aromantic asexual agenda.... I didn't come out i just sent my friend the flags... She didn't accept it. Now we are not friends
lol
i just realised that i'm a demigirl
one of my friends is aro and i’m a demigirl :o
(nice how i’m saying one of my friends while there are only two of them)
((well i do have other friends but they’re not my best friends so:D))
@@gryffingone8155 that's rough man
I kinda accidentally told my mom today that I’m asexual and aromantic. She told me that “you’re a little young to make these ‘choices’ (not a choice, mom.)” I told her that everyone else has crushes and are dating, and I am not. I’m not too young to find this out. She responded with “the dating pool must not be great.” . . . b r u h. Anyway, I’m kinda mad at my mom now so that’s fun.
I'm pretty sure I'm ace (maybe aro too) and this is the exact reason I'm way too uncomfortable to talk through any of this stuff with my mum.
If I may ask, how old are you? I'm 17 and 1/2. The one time I offhandedly mentioned getting asexual as the result on an online quiz my mum ended up giving me this whole talk asking about "if I was worried about it" and that "children in stable households mature slower". Like if I am ace/aro then why tf would I be worried about it? If I don't feel sexually/romantically attracted to anyone and never have, then why would I miss it or want it or anything, thus why would I be worried about it. I'd rather just get on with my life and focus on my friendships, school work & other stuff.
Sorry for the mini rant lol I've just not really got much of a space irl to talk about this stuff. -Not like I don't have anyone to turn to, my brother knows and supports me & while I haven't outright told my friends they're both LGBTQ+ themselves, it's just I tend to feel like anything I say to people I know has the chance to get back to my mum somehow. Even if that chance is most likely actually nonexistent.
If you wanna hear a try to make this sound not as bad, i would offer “she seems not be that offended or bothered at least, she might “just“ feel older and more experienced than her earlier self and has changed some of her views since then“
She'll see. You will see. Hopefully she treats you with respect still. Maybe you can exchange experiences one day. But i'm still sorry she didn't seem to take you seriously 😓
Yeah, she actually texted me after she got to work:
Mom: You know I love you and support you no matter what right? It just dawned on me I may have came across as dismissive earlier and that was not my intent.
Me: Yeah
It was a bit rude though
I know me and I hope you know that
Mom: Yeah. That’s on me. I’m sorry. I still view you as a younger child that you are. That’s my problem not yours.
Me: That’s fine
Mom: Throw away the macaroni please; it’s expired.
I’m not as mad at my mom now. Yay. Btw I’m 14, so I get where she’s coming from with the ‘too young’ deal, but that’s why I mentioned everyone else having crushes and dating already and such. I’ve never had crushes or anything like that. I’m glad I learned about aces and aros, because I’ve always felt a little weird talking about that kind of stuff with other people. I don’t feel broken after finding these terms :)
@@lottapitchy9625 that's awesome that your mum apologised for coming across too harsh! =D
Ah, my mom doesn't believe that I'm an Asexual, I know how this feels, haha.
In my culture, LGBT isn't really supported, but one of my friends came out as bi. Tbh I was shocked at first, but it didn't make me hate her or be uncomfortable around her, since she's still my friend after all. All we need is just some respect and understanding, even though sometimes it may be contradictory in that part of society. So to anyone out there who is considering, or reconsidering to come out as a part of the LGBT Community, know that you should be proud to be who you are :) Happy pride month
EDIT: Unexpected 1.4K :0 Thank You and hopefully this comment would reach out to other people to be much more open minded about LGBT, and also it is my culture from Indonesia :)
I really wish more people had this mindset.. Thank you for the support! :D
Lemme guess, malaysia.
HAPPY PRIDE MONTHE💖🌈💖
@@JadeyJ4d3y, Hmm, I thought about Russia 🤔
thanks
I have a friend who was male but came out last year as Transgender and changed her pronouns from he and him to she and her. And I've done all 6 of the mentioned things and more to support her. No one should be afraid to come out so to speak. Everyone deserves kindess and respect.
Today I learned my crush was non binary, I looked very traumatised when I heard, but later apologised to them for my reaction.
Thank you Apple Dash! As a mother of a Transgender adult child, I thank you as I choke my tears. I love my child so much and sometimes the single fear of her ability to safely use a public restroom or to simply live her life the way she loves puts pain in my heart. If everyone could be as supportive as you, it would help us Mama Bears sleep better at night. Thank you for being there for your friend! Thank you for being a decent human being and loving the way the soul intended.
@@toniagerardo9919 oh of course. Everyone deserves respect and kindess from everyone after all. I'm happy to hear that. Thank you very much
Yoo that's dope. I'm a trans guy, and mostly closeted. You're a good friend
@@idiomatic444 thank you
never try to joke about it and say things like "we already know" or "you don't seem [sexuallity/gender]"
this video would have been helpful a month ago when my friend came out
r e g r e t
@@connor8709 I hate how random strangers on the internet are usually more supportive to people like you and me, rather than the people's real life friends-
@@diyaj2585 I did do that a while ago, but the damage was already done by then
For a lot of people coming out is a huge challenge and having it kind of shrugged off can be crushing.
@@thebutterscotchkid2481 that's true
I'm bisexual and I just found out that my friend is omnisexual and we're both so happy that we have someone to talk to about it!
Hope it doesn't sound rude, but may I ask what omnisexual is?
@@GwynnDdu omnisexual is close to pansexual, but a bit different. Omnisexual’s like all genders and orientations, but they aren’t gender-blind as pansexuals are. They recognize gender and can have a preference.
@@artsy_skies_ Okie! Thank you for the info!
@@GwynnDdu Basically pansexual but with a preference!
@@artsy_skies_ my mini brain can't understand this :/
my bsf is lesbian and her parents are homiphobic but nothing has changed between us and we are still friends
Hopefully the parents will change later.
I am lesbian and my parents are homophobic
@@Catsk1es it's ok be yourself ur sexuality dosen't define u as a person the world is a large place and there will be people 2 support so no need 2 be lead down by people who don't accept u
And I understand ur own parents being homophobic is hard but I hope ur parents will change in the future
Stay strong u are beautiful and valid
@@Catsk1es Thats really bad but dont feel bad, if they dont accept you remember that there will be people who is going to and you're amazing as you are, you are human too and homophobic people should understand that not every girl will like boys or every boys would like girls, we are born different and its your life not them, you decide who to love and what you want to be in the future
@@floofdoodle4349 ty
POV: you’re watching this video about how to support your LGBTQ+ friend, when you *are* the LGBTQ+ friend
Edit: my friend came out as bisexual. MY PANSEXUAL AGENDA HAS SPREAD!!
Same
Oh good for ur friend ☺
I ain't planning to come out till another two or three years 🥲
SPREAD THE PANSEXUAL AGENDA AS FAR AS YOU CAN
. . .
NO MATTER WHAT
XD
(All Jokes aside That's sweet)
Aww good for u and ur friend! Happy pride! 🤗
@@XLavenderSkiesX Thx so much 💖
**trying to come out as bi**
Friends: that's disgusting, please don't fall in love with me.
At first, I was quite hurted cuz I thought we were friends because of my personality, not my sexual orientation. But, by times I started to understand that maybe everyone needs some time to accept it, if your friends can't accept that at the moment and decided to leave. It's okay, our friendship door will reopen if they're willing to come back in the future. Everything takes time ❤️
In a discussion I had with a fellow classmate about our grievances with a teacher, the topic shifted to lgbtqia+ and acceptance of them in the community, he told me that, as a gay man, the worst thing anyone could say upon learning that someone is gay is, "Don't hit on me"
I do see his point, because that seems like a sentence that could cause a lot of heart ache and relationship damage
A lot of people will say "I didn't mean it like that" but the thing is, it doesn't matter how you meant something, it matters what the phrase you said means, and if the two don't match up, it can show that they didn't care enough about you or the the topic to think about how their response would affect you
I think the fact they called it "disgusting" is a bit of a red flag. Give them time, people can change. But if someone said "that's disgusting" after coming out, I'd be appalled.
Why did the "please don't fall in love with me" make me laugh so hard?
What if they can't accept that ik identify as a alien and that ik ben sexually attracted to male thing's and not male persoons only some
Your friends shouldn’t treat you that way
When I came out to my brother as bisexual he said "I know." And continued his day like nothing happened, it was awesome.
Gay
That's so cool 😃
@@anasabdulla196 yes gay 🤗🌈
@@anasabdulla196 I hope you have a positive intent with that comment😃. I suggest you make your intentions clear so that your comment won't be taken out of context 😄
@@nandana7315 I believe it's negative just by their previous comments
I really don't see why people dislike these kind of people I think that they are still people so you should treat them without hate, hating them because of this kind of thing sounds unreasonable.
I don’t understand parents who disown their kids for being gay. Whether you’re homophobic or not, this is the child you have been loving with all your heart for the past x years (hopefully). Why does this one thing suddenly flip a switch and make you not love them anymore?
"Reason" has very little to do with it. A good portion of it comes down to either fear of the unknown or a fear of one's own inadequacies. Some of the blame could also be laid at the self-righteous "religious" folks who need a cause to fight against.
Some people in women’s sports and religious grandparents
Ya that's a good answer but still wtf
Bish I have read the bible
Me: "sis im bi-sexual"
Sis:"ok?"
Me: *starts crying out of nowhere*
Sis: "why you crying? don't cry"
(This was the first time my sister was actually nice)
why you cried
The first time I came out, I was basically hyperventilating because I thought my mom would find out. I was crying so much and my brother refused to not know what was wrong. I couldn't really speak, but he typed options on his phone and gave it to me. The second option was that I was queer, so I deleted the rest of the options and gave his phone back to him. We talked about it once our mom went back into the store, and I explained to him that I was pansexual and what that means. He was actually really nice about it and helped me calm down. That was almost a year ago now (June 2, 2020).
I want to tell my family I’m bi but they are homophobic and they will be so rude to me
@@luke_tv1767 if they are homophobic to the point that they will take stuff like shelter or food away from you, dont come out. Those things are much more important than coming out. And if you still want to come out, best time to come out would be when you are already by yourself and independent so they cant really do anything bad to you if they dont take it well.
My life when i was gay:
Me: IM GAE
Me and da bois: *laughing*
Thats all my LGBTQ life thx for reading this comment.
My best friend once told me she really likes this girl, at first it was nothing serious and we just thought it's just a 'girl crush'. But one day she asked, "if ever I turn out gay, what would you think? How will you look at me?" And I told her that nothing is ever going to change and that I'll always love her. We're practically sisters and we've been through so much both together and on our own that it's gonna take more than that to change how I look at her and that I'll always be there when she needs me. Also, this goes out to everyone who's planning to come out, is feeling scared, confused, etc. Please remember, that no matter what, there will be people who will accept you, no matter who or where they are☺️❤️
Please do 'How to live with homophobic family and not out yourself' next
That would hit too close to home
@@0_jay_021 but it's a video that's important.
My parents are homophobic ;-;
@@bexie1992 I know I kinda need it tbh
@@ashleythehooman same :/
to anyone struggling with their identity, it’s a life long learning process, please don’t feel the need to have it all figured out at once. I’m still learning about who I am, every single day, and I’m not going to sugarcoat anything, it gets confusing af. just know that I love you, we all love you, and if you need to reach out to me or anyone you trust please do so. let’s make this rainbow even brighter!!!! You’re a star!! ❤️❤️
Yeah, also you don't need to use labels.
@@goqailysm oh yes, good point! Forgot to mention that! personally I just say “I’m me”, cause there’s new terms everyday and honestly who has the time to keep up! So KEEP BEING YOU!!! ❤️
I recently came out to my friends not knowing if I was “normal” or and stuff like that. I told my friends and they thought I was lying- and it’s super true to not figure it out all at once, I took my time and I still am. LOL I FEEL LIKE IM TALKING DEEP STUFF, but your comment was nice and it says a lot of important stuff.
Thank you :)
@@M-3RCH i'm proud of you for having the strength to come out, and speak your truth, even if you yourself don't even understand it completely, it's probably just as confusing for your friends Were your friends supportive? I hope they're offering you love and support as you navigate throughout the complexities and beauty of being UNIQUELY YOU! being normal is boring anyways. YOU'RE SO BEAUTIFUL FOR SHARING YOUR TRUTH, literal living art!! OMG TALK AS DEEP AS YOU WANT, I LOVE HEARTFELT CONVERSATIONS, awww thanks kinda just bullsh*t my way through life haha! if you ever NEED a listening ear please don't hesitate to message bb.
Me who is friend with a lesbians, transgender, bisexual, pansexual: I just be a support friend like always and just being my normal self.
I really don't care what they sexuality I just love them for what they are ❤
You sound like my friend group except that I'm ace lol
My pen pal is gay, I’m bi, my first homie is pan and my other homie is bi-curious. It’s nice to be with others like you!
Me, a bisexual: I’m good with whatever a person needs after coming out, and I hope I won’t be shy.
Also me, if someone came out to me: **a shy “yay~” with awkward soft clapping**
This is so relatable 😑✋😭
Don't treat people differently, but also don't discredit their efforts and struggles. Say stuff like "Thank you for telling me and trusting me" but still treat them the same way and try to support them. I'm not talking about all of us, just something that some people may like
Definitely
My whole friend group isn't straight so when our only straight friend started questioning we got to help her well from experience! ^^
I've only got allies... when I came out I had to explain a lot.
Heh, over time my friend group slowly started revealing their sexualities until only one girl in it was revealed to actually be straight. Funny how things turn out
@@nerothewateruser8030 It was the same with my friend group. Eventually, our straight girl came to realize she's grayromantic
LOL I've been in the same friend group for 4 years and after one of us brought up being bi, we all slowly came out as LGBTQ+ XD
@@nerothewateruser8030 I think our friend group is the same 😂
also for allies make sure you aren't overstepping, you don't get an excuse to say insulting things or decide what's insulting and what's not just because you're an ally. listen to what queer people are saying and support the ENTIRE community, don't pick and choose certain identities you feel are the only ones valid. also remember that the 'A' in lgbtqia+ DOES NOT stand for ally.
Thanks for that last part
Ok
wish my mom saw this before she said that she felt like i was mocking trans ppl bc she doesn't count nb and gnc people as trans 🙁
YES IKKKKKK!!! IM SO FRICKING PISSED WHEN THEY SAY ITS ALLYS
I never understood what the problem is.
Sexuality only matters when you plan to date/sleep with someone.
Unless your friend also reveals to have a crush on you. Litteraly nothing changes.
I don't see why so many people need to break down something that in the end of the day really isn't relevant to the mayority of the people
A lot if people out there for example are extraverted and define themselves by the responses from outside, so any outer appearance easily turns into an assault on THEIR reality! And ofcourse there are introverts with similar dynamics. There are people struggling with people pleasing and if whom they try to please are people with misconceptions of outdated kind because strangely parts from religious organisations tend to forget religion, too, needs updates. Even though they use things like photography even though they would have been burnt by their non-updated ancestors for sure! They are conveniently changing and keeping what they please and constantly speaking "for god" 👀 Even though "God" has and is constantly speaking through all of creation, which includes the good, the bad, the many sexualities and genders and non gendered as. From the maniac to the saint it's all one. Yet fail-able humans open their mouths and say what's OK to update or censor and what's not. 🙃 Interesting! And that even though so many principles in religions are quite similar and actually really helpful, too!
But fears aren't rational and we can't demand for everyone to instantly jump to full open maturity the moment they reach legal adult age (by what countries age would we go anyway? 😂)
So, being mature and open also means for us to see where they're maybe a little inconsistent and still respect and love them (true to their principles, actually) even though they eventually don't return the same grace. Which is NOT to say we are to put up with their behaviours. We are allowed to leave them to their personal growth process and to call out when they forget that rights of freedom and speech and religious freedom etc. are directly connected to the duty to uphold these standards from their end as well!
I should have thought about this sooner! Next time I see someone abuse religion to ask someone change to their "real" gender or sexuality, I shall ask them to change their religion to their "real" religion, which we call "Love" and the rule set being "human (and animal, and plant, and nature) rights". 🤭
When my cousin came out I said “that’s cool” I accept her and she knows I do but I feel like I should’ve said something else…
Sometimes it's difficult to say anything to someone who came out. Just let them know you accept them I think that's all they care about really:)
No that's actually perfect I personally as a LGBTQA+ person would much rather have someone act completely normal around me while I'm telling them than make it this whole huge thing just make sure she knows your supportive of her
I had a friend say he was bi one time. I just said, So? Why should I care? You aren't going to fundamentally change, are you?
@@natescorner I don’t feel like that’s the best answer. Maybe he was afraid that you will react negatively, as many people would? You shouldn’t have been so cold damn 🤣🥲
Same but with a friend
The fact that I dropped everything just to watch this😆
Aw! Thank you so much!
Same!!
Same here lol
:D
Same
There are the two girls in my school and they seamed really close and my friend asked them if they where dating which was awkward, and they came out all happy and proud and I was really surprised we support the a lot. I think it’s really cool to have a lesbian in our school :)
@@Brandimator maybe their school is religious
@@Brandimator doesn’t have to be cool, but it is rather nice to see something a bit different than the usual norm, which isn’t anything wrong with.
@@Brandimator no i dont think they mean that, its just mostly of the times is boy x girl relationships and its cool to have differents things and not always the same thing
@@Brandimator I know we all are human, but not everyone thinks that, its just homophobic people make a lot of lgtb people scare to come out, because they are going to judge them so thats why we need to give them our support because we all are humans and we can love who we want to
@@Brandimator no let me ask you this, whats YOUR point? they are giving they're story time of having a lesbian couple on their school and you act like you're not understanding an o and commenting stuffs that has nothing to do what the other people commented
When I came out as asexual to one of my friends, she was offended that I didn't tell her before. *Don't do that.* _Please._ Understand that coming out even to the closest people can be scary, regardless of how supportive you are, especially if it's something slightly more complicated than just "I'm gay". Some people may even be afraid that you never heard anything about their sexuality and/or that you'll invalidate them, and it's not your fault, it doesn't mean that they think you're stupid or mean, no, it's *not about you.* It's about all the people who had done it to them in the past, you may be different, but there's never any way to know for sure because sometimes even the ones who are supportive towards some orientations are hateful towards others. So please try to be more understanding and not to take it personally. Thank you.
me an aroace transmasc w/ transphobic and homophobic peers : i should send this to my parents,siblings,classmates,teachers, E V E R Y O N E .
That entirely depends on what you want to do. If you think they'll be loving and supporting then tell them! But there might be some people who won't understand or may even say hurtful things once they know. Just be aware that unfortunately not everyone is accepting and to think about your safety while coming out. Coming out isn't an easy thing but it's worth it, I kept it from my loved ones for years but once I came out I knew I made the right choice and felt more like myself.
And I sure wish they would take it to heart
As a fellow aroace transmasc I’d like to do the same thing
No offense I haven’t heard of that one before
I’m aro ace I wish people were nicer to us.
Came out as genderfluid to my mom about a month ago, time to sit down and watch this with her so she can hopefully progress things better-
Good luck, mine doesn't know english and would ground me if I showed her this in spanish.
Good luck! It will get better, and if it doesn't, it's not the end yet.
@@travellertortle Awwh :') I hope you find people who accept you for who you are, even though your mother may not
@@C-126 Thank you! She's confused and keeps over-misgendering me (in an on purpose way) and I want to talk to her about how disrespectful it is when she does that :,)
@@stardust.7507 np! Ooh I'm sorry
I remember when I told my big sister that I'm non binary and she was like "bitch I knew it give me a hug" She knows me too well, I love her. ♡
haha your sister seems cool
*Other people's coming out story:* emotional, have lots of tears, very... big in general
*My coming out story:*
Me: mom I think I like girls
Mom: idk wtf ur talking about but ok
Me: ok then
Your mom would sound like me if i had a kid
Edit: except for the "idk wtf you are talking about but" part
@@EvilMeganium lol my mom never said that part but she do kinda look like it
@@popstel2286 oh ok
I am Bi girl and my pre-school best friend came out as Bi to me, recently. She came out to me after a week I came out to her. We had no contact for the last few years. However, I had her number and one fine day I replied to her status on a British vs American web series meme. I recommended Killing Eve in order to see if she was homophobic (Though we were great pals 10 years ago, things changed and Idk whats her say on homosexuality is) She loved Jodie Comer, who plays the lead in KE and thats the way we started talking about girls. Lana Del Ray, Cate Blanchett, Gal Gadot and lesbian porn (we are not proud of the last thing on the list) helped us figure out sexuality.
Though I am Bi myself I didnt know how to react as we live in a fairly homophobic country. I send her 3 songs, "We fell in love in October", "I kissed a girl" and "Girls like girls" when she came out to me.
This might mean nothing to so many people but coming out together with someone whom you have know for 14+ years is very special.
Russians ?
Wait, what's killing Eve about? I've never watched it, but from the ads I thought Sandra Oh was a sociopath named Eve who killed people.
@@autimso7169 No but we are not far from Russia.
@Tan Sora Thank you💕 We are from South-East Asia.
@@Weird_dude265 KE starring Jodie Comer, who plays a psycopathic assaissin, and Sandra Oh is a fired investigator. Jodie's charms, despite being a killer, left both of us wanting to be strangled by her😏
The fact that I live in a country where people use a language that doesn't have they/them or neutral terms in it makes everything more difficult for me to be accepted as a person, so EVERYONE tells me every single day of my life that I am a mistake with identity crisisand and I hate it :D
@Raulo The Rainbow Crystal Starperson Yeah, it's really annoying 😅 between I live in Italy
Assuming your in a Spanish speaking country. There is LatinX, but you would be throwing out the Spanish language in the trash.
I live in Poland and there is they but for genders
They =one (girls)
They =oni (boys)
Yee :/
Yup, in Italia è senza dubbio più difficile per voi. Però non per questo bisogna sminuirvi o disprezzarvi :/
Tu hai per caso trovato un modo per riferirsi a te in modo neutro? In teoria "they" si traduce in "loro", quindi si potrebbe usare quello, no?
@@ashcrow1356 Beh, quando scrivo in chat al posto di mettere "a" oppure "o" alla fine delle parole metto "x", un esempio è tipo "bellx".
Nel parlato è molto più difficile perché devi fare vari giri di parole per dire una semplice frase, quindi al posto di dire "oggi sono andata/o in piscina" dico "ho deciso di andare a fare un bagno in piscina" e cose del genere.
E ovviamente ci sono persone che non si sforzano neanche minimamente di usare i miei pronomi e mi chiamano ancora con il mio nome all'anagrafe (e ho fatto coming out con loro quasi un anno fa)
Per il fatto di usare "loro" lo trovo un po' forzato in italiano per riferirsi ad una persona senza genere ma non ci possiamo fare niente perché l'italiano è una lingua un po' su questo aspetto :'/
I have never had anyone come out about their sexual orientation. I want to tell everyone out there whether gay, lesbian or otherwize. It's okay. I still want to be your friend. I will support you. If it mens going to a pride fest wearing a skirt, I'll do it to show my support. No matter what I'll bave your back.
Person: I'm gay
Other person: Ok
*keeps gaming*
Goals
Just want to point out that coming out includes gender identities alongside sexualities. I understand it was likely just a mistake or oversight but don't forget the trans & gender non-conforming community :)
yeah I mean they did mention transphobia alongside homophobia, but I agree. if someone comes out as trans just ask them about their pronouns and name and use them :) And it's also important to help when it comes to things like gender dysphoria (not all trans people have that, but a lot do) or transitioning (which again, not all trans people do, but if they want to it's great to inform yourself. especially if you maybe want to help them out financially). Anyways, have a nice day 🤗💖
@@UglyPastry I think because the video focused on people coming out as queer, but not as genderqueer. it didn't include small things like asking about pronouns or names for example. but the video is still great! 🥰💖💜💙
In America, it’s becoming more and more acceptable and it’s great
It is. Well some parts moreso than others at least.
I do not follow lgbt but I respect anyone for what they are
Yes me too, respect for everyone.
Thanks
Same,i don't support them but i respect them^^
Wait what do you mean by not "following"? It's not a religion...
@@iconicplatypus7700 I just realized that
“A friend coming out doesn’t change anything negatively”
Homophobic people:**Im gonna pretend I didn’t hear that*
I have a really good friend here on UA-cam and as a person who doesn’t know much about LGBTQ+ community but still wants to support them, it’s kinda heard because sometimes I’m unsure of what to say when they talk about LGBTQ+ and I try my best to involve in that conversation... this helped a lot so thank you 😊💗
It's great you want to support your friend :) The best thing to do when you don't know what to say is to ask questions and listen to them :)
I hope anyone reading this can feel comfortable being who they are. Please take care of yourself. ❤️
Ik can't this society wordt to judgmental ik can't deal with this society ik wanna commit suicide the haten and the cruelty wordt really affecting mij😭
@@Undefinedde I’ve made a video that might help you.
@@Undefinedde r/hadastroke
@@user-kc4id7uz7q I didn't have a stroke strokes are serious a girl I knew had one she can barely move her hand it's called typing in two languages
@@Undefinedde its confusing when you type two languages. Oh and that's all english, use grammarly bc I think that could help you.
I just got a random memory of the time I came out to my *therapist* when I was like- *11* and she told me it was just a phase
*I’m still gay*
It's been 2 years you still gay
@@umbreonce Worse, now I’m trans too
@@DehydratedArtizt- wdym worse you can be whatever you want and still slay 💅
i have lost one of my best friends because they were homophobic. Today i came out for the first time to my friend. i felt pretty confident (plus the towel i had looked like the lesbian flag) im very lucky my friend supported me. im also lucky my mom is an ally. i feel for everyone who doesnt have those. virtual hugs to everyone! 🤗
Happy Pride Month ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Please do one for those who have a different gender identity then the gender they were born as please, I’ve been in way to many fights with people I know because of this problem
Next we need ways to help people who come out as transgender
Yes! I really need help with coming out as trans! I’m proper struggling
Transgender is LGBTQ+
@@jjais964 I know but this seems to focus on sexuality,I was asking for a more trans focused video
@@shadowsafe6329 You're right.
@@shadowsafe6329 it should be the same as in this video, except seeing them as their new transformation and getting used to their new pronouns
My friend is always like: "i support you, but... (a bad start lmao) its kinda weird to see you kissing another girl... and im scared of you falling in love with me"
like n o
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Every day I watch this channel and love it a whole lot more than I did the day before. Just a reminder that as we are beginning to approach the end of Pride month, I cannot stress how much you should keep supporting your loved ones and friends who are LGBTQ+. Keep showing them your love and care, and assure to them that they matter no matter what might be said about them.
And on that note, to whoever may be reading this comment, you matter. I support you and you are beautiful. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
happy pride to all the people who came out ! yall are so valid
Your friend coming out doesn’t change anything negatively
My friend some time after coming out to me as panesexual: has a crush on me
Welp, that didn’t work out as expected
@Raulo The Rainbow Crystal Starperson
in my opinion that won't be beneficial for any of them, honesty is always the key
Literally the same thing happened to me, and this was my first time coming out to someone so it was really awkward, i had to write them a paragraph saying i dont like you in that way and well that ruined out friendship soooooo,
Its all good now, our relationship was pretty toxic and now im glad im not there anymore :)
@Raulo The Rainbow Crystal Starperson actually it’s been a long time since that happened and they are over the crush now
They have a boyfriend now and they seem pretty happy
We are still friends, it’s not awkward anymore and I still really like spending time with them
"there's a world of different sexualities out there some you may not have heard of"
*take out the seven human Souls*
y e s . u n d e r t a l e m e m e s .
C O R R E C T
YES.
@@A_Sun_Flower YES
my friend just came out to me, this is a blessing
I don't know why I'm watching this if I'm gay. I think it's just because I love the little animations and the voice is so soothing. 💀
Same :>
Videos can't make you gay man iam Straight I watched this video for education purpose
One of the main rules of coming out:
*- Don’t come out on Twitter*
Lol tbh don't ever come out on the internet if you really want to be safe... Because there's a lot of different people in the internet too like in real life... So the moral of the story is never come out to people /hj
@@yv3sussy lol
@@yv3sussy i totally agree
@@DomiAnimations 😁👌🏼
but I thought twitter is a liberal pro gay platform
I have been watching a lot of your videos lately, and when this came up on my fyp I was so happy :D
As part of the LGBTQIA+ community who has only come out to three people at the moment (partly because they were also part of the community) I am so happy you are offering advice to those qho may not know how to react. It makes it so much easier for so many people coming out if they know the person they are coming out to will react positively
Im still afraid to come out to my mom as pan and poly
And when she calls me a “girl” or “she”
It makes me kinda upset because I’m a they/them
But since she doesn’t know it’s weird for me to try to tell her
Psych2go is my favourite UA-camr, every video I know I’m going to learn something and I know I’ll love it.
I came out to my best friend during a Bedwars game and she said something like this "so you're a boy? Okay cool but we gotta win this" in the most deadpan voice and I almost burst out laughing-
She's the type to pretend she doesn't care but she does, _a lot._
But when I came out to my mom she told me that "god made me a girl and I should stop listening to the internet" those words made me cry infront of her, and when I try to talk about it she would scold me and sometimes ignore me.
I love my mom but that was the start of the strain in our relationship :/
@@Viople I’m sorry about your mom, I hope she’ll be able come around to accepting you someday.
At least your friend is supportive!
Thank you! Coming out is really really scary when you're not sure if you're in a safe environment or a trusting environment! As someone who's come out to a few family members that aren't supportive, it makes me happy to see content like this!
I’m bisexual and I have a girlfriend she is the love of my life
I liked the recap of the points at the end of the video!! 😊☺ and happy pride to those LGBTQ+ people out there! You are awesome just being YOU! 💖🤗
I came out to my parents today and Im happy they're ok but I also love the fact their reaction which was "you think we son't know?"
I’m bisexual. (more attracted to the other sex than the other) I’ve been closeted throughout most of my life. The first time I actually came out was when I was 17. And I started to come out more (my family and friends) in 2019. It took a while for me to come out and it really helped me a lot. I can finally accept myself and be happy. :)
I hope I'll get there one day too :)
I am also bi. I don't really feel comfortable coming out yet though. I have accepting family and all that. But I'm a very private person and it would just be awkward for me, even just having it be known would feel weird. Maybe in the future I'll be more comfortable.
If only I didn’t live in a specific third world country in a specific region with specific people as the masses
:)
I have no problem with them and they should be treated well but I will still want values to be in hold and don't want them to be all annoying and spread ideology. Besides third world countries need to focus on more important stuff like poverty. Jadey you should be treated well, I still accept your ways:)
Senegal?
@@v-boyboys8144 yeah unless your country is apparently run by old people who think of nothing but of themselves and not the people
I just came out to my best friend as panromantic asexual and she was very supportive! She's so happy that I finally found out my sexuality (she knew I was questioning).
(Also, sorry if you didn't understan, English is not my first language)
you had great English! just it’s spelled understand :)
That reminds of my friend of how she somehow knew for years and never talked about it and nothing changed between us shows it
I even was so surprised after years when she told me she knew because even when I first came out to her she just huged me and never told me 'I knew it' and now I think about it it's the worst thing to say to a person when they come out to you
She was the best
When my friend came out as gay to me, I was the most supportive friend he could ever have! I offered him a hug, and he explained to me what type of guys he likes. Our state had a festival and I accompanied him!
Our friendship has stayed the same even after he came out, the only thing that has changed was that now we both rate hot celebrities😩
Thats awesome ❤
Thanks for sharing a video on such an important topic. You are paving the way for a better world for everyone 🙌🏻
Thank you for this fantastic video Psych2Go, I really loved it :) It helped out a lot cause in the dc server I am in with my friends there are people from the LGBTQ+ community and I didn't really know how I should support them :)
Please keep doing what you guys do, because there are people out there who really appreciate what you all are doing :D
And please don't let the hurtful people stop you guys from sharing your knowledge with us :)
Have a nice day :)
Dude I love my sister so much. Like, when I came out to her as an omnisexual she was really supportive and never judged or that I was just confused.
She gave me courage to come out to my mom (who was totally okey with it btw), and always defends the lgbtq+ community when my stepdads attacking us (haven’t told him and don’t plan too).
So yeah in conclusion, my sister’s the best 😌💅💅
EDIT: omg I got hearted!! Thank you!! 💞
Also ma mom does kinda think I’m confused but I try not to think bout it :3
I came out to my friend yesterday, she was super kind and supportive, and our relationship hasn't changed at all, other than the fact that we now trust each other a bit more
Coming out was one of the toughest things. For years I thought there was something wrong with me. I had all straight friends growing up so I couldn’t relate on quite a few topics and kept quiet. But it’s crazy since I was convinced I was just never gonna accept myself and will be too scared to come out. Then one day at work the urge to come out to say to my closest colleague. Three days later and a anxiety attack or two later everyone I wanted to know knew
My friend just came out to me and my other friend as bisexual and we were both kinda shocked and just looked at eachother then looked at her and started clapping and saying yay. I don't know if we did that right but she was happy about it
am i the only one who feels like her/his/their voice is so satisfying 😦
Number three: Learn more about their sexuality/identity
Because my mom doesn't understand and my dad barely tries to learn them!
Thank you for putting this video out because I already came out as Pansexual but now I'm gonna come out as Bigender on my birthday, wish me luck, I'll update how it goes!!!💗💙 💗💛💙
I always say “I’m so proud of you, congrats on finding yourself” (I’d hug them but I mostly have non-in person coming out scenarios
2:52 this is basically the best response I got when I came out. it was still when I was in the phase of testing the waters, I had told my sis that I was bi, and she just said "ok". it made for a huge weight lifting that eventually led to me coming out completely on April 1st of this year.
Aww that's cute ( ◜‿◝ )♡ I'm glad you were able to come out 💜
i recently came out to my mom and she was like “ok, i accept u” and i was panicking and she was so fine with it i was so happy that she was supportive
Omg my friend did exacly what is told there when i outed myself months ago. I am bisexual and she first wasnt aware of the meaning so she asked nicely and i explained. She said thats cool, we hugged because i cried and we went on with our lifes like before and when i told her about a same gendered crush i have she was very open and asked how my luck has been with her. She is the best i swear
I'm going to admit, I was not quite comfortable with the idea of that
I KNOW, I KNOW. THAT'S NOT SO GOOD.
But just after about a week, when I learned more about it, I grew to accept it!
I personally think i'm part of the community and I fully support everybody in the community
Your such a cool person
this is the perfect time to come out in the comments! i know im cisn't, and right now im using she/they pronouns! im also pretty sure im aromantic asexual
I think I'm too obsessed with FNAF because I first misread it as "I'm pretty sure my friend is an animatronic." I was like hol up.
I came out to my brother as trans and his first response was "No you aren't."
You should've told them "lol and you're a girl 😆 '
I was the first person that someone in my family came out to, i cannot say names or anything because i promised i would not, but i support that person fully, and I do everything i can for that person. My family is very supported, no matter if they are LGBTQIA+ or not. I love this person a lot
This is so so awesome! 👍 I myself am bisexual but I'm still not very good with supporting other people and stuff cause the stress just kinda wasn't there for me as much as it would be for other people. Just a thank you, and this was super helpful! Hope you have a good day/night or whatever :)
For me, I just treat them the same as I always do ( or at least I try to), because I can understand that coming out of the closet takes a lot of courage, and most people from the LGBTQ+ community just want to be treated the same as everybody else. I might be wrong, if I am, please tell me what I should do better.
I wrote this before watching the vid, and I am relieved that this was one of the tips you gave
Ur not roblox man then
My friend: comes out as trans
Me: supports them and makes sure they know I love them
Later
Me: comes out
My friend: cool
I LOVE your videos! Your voice is so soothing and these tips are SUPER helpful! Thank you so much for helping us all! 👍💜
When I actually first slipped it to one of my friends that I might be poly she told me that she couldn’t support me. It was sorta hard to take in at the moment but I understood where she was coming from ( her family is very conservative and religious and so is she) Right after though, she told me that she honestly didn’t care what I chose to do with that part of my life and told me that if that’s how I really felt that she won’t be against it.. but she wasn’t entirely comfortable being a shoulder to cry on either. Things got a little weird for a while after that but we eventually started talking like normal. She was actually the first person I told and somehow it felt kinda comforting that even though she was probably uncomfortable she didn’t act weirded out she just told me that she didn’t believe or support it fully but didn’t let it get between us. I really appreciated that.
In Winter 2020, I realized I was a bisexual (now idk if I’m bi or omni) and I told my best friend. Her family are homophobic Christians who didn’t let her watch Julie and The Phantoms bcos two guys talked to each other. I one time showed her a tiktok that said “god still loves you if you’re lgbtq” and she said she didn’t believe that, and that god hated gay ppl. She also thought I was lying abt my sexuality since my only girl crush at the time was Luna Lovegood. A few months later she tells me she’s bi and non binary, and that she was gonna come out to her dad via email. I thought she was joking when she said that. I didn’t believe her bcos I didn’t feel like she was taking it seriously, she even said in the email “if you’re not happy with my CHOICE” and one time, she told me “my dad doesn’t support me being non binary, but like, my body, my CHOICE, but I’d never get an abortion tho” and she ended up ruining her relationship with her dad bcos of it. And now she says she not bi or non binary and she’s ignoring it bcos it’s ruined her life. Ppl have told me she’s a toxic friend, does she sound like it in your opinion?
This is my two cents. Personally I don't think she's the toxic one, I think it's her parents who are the toxic ones. She's a perfect example of what toxic parenting can do to kids brains. Her parents are homophobic christians, not exactly a healthy or caring environment. I think subconsciously her brain is having a tug of war with itself in a way. One side wants to just be herself and be accepted, and the other side is trying to bow down to and please her toxic parents. This is why I think she all of a sudden went from realizing she was bi and non binary and trying to come out, to then changing her mind on all of it when she realized it was going to change her relationship with her father. And the reason she doesn't believe your sexuality nor does she believe the things you send her is either because her brain is just so used to the garbage her parents likely say or it's fear of what her parents might do or say if she said something otherwise.
The best channel I have ever subscribed ❤️🥺
YES
watching this so i can support my friends just incase they come out, because i just want to be supportive as much as i can be.
also happy 1st month anniversary video!
Thank you so soo sooo much.....now I can show my friend this content of your fabulous channel and will be able to tell them ...that I am also one of the rare LGBTQ😁
I came out to only one friend (one of my first friends) and he was very supportive of me but most others either didn't care about that much or just made fun of me. Nonetheless I'm happy that atleast one friend supported me and told me that I will still be ur friend ಥ‿ಥ
omg!! I search this topic yesterday n your channels has just a few vids about it thank you so much for posting another I wanna educate myself so that I can support the LGBTQ family , although I'm straight but I would love to support 💜❤❤❤💫💫💫
Thanks so much for posting this ^-^
Happy Pride, Psych2Go Team!! Thanks for making this video I hope this can help a lot of people :,)
No problem :)