E - Eyegaze M - Muscles of facial expression P - Posture 0 Notice the other person's posture - open, closed A - Affect - expressed emotion. Try labeling the other persons expressed emotions upset, happy, sad T - Tone of voice - Listen to their tone of voice H - Hearing the whole person - understanding the context in which others live. Do not judge Y - Your response - Most feelings are mutual
Which adds up as an excuse for doctors staff to force POISEN from a needle into their victim's!!! We've been getting killed for many lifetimes in UK rehabs and yes we come back to tell the story
Beautiful talk, Helen! Empathy is what makes us HUMAN ---- the most profound connections we have spark when two people share a common emotion, and feel each other's pain, joy, sentiment. Much love
Oh wow.. so beautifully said! You’re so right about how the most profound connections are sparked and I’m not sure if I’ve really thought of it before quite like that. Thank you stranger 😄
Ive recently became obsessed with learning about empathy and human connection, im 17 and all my life ive never truly felt understood. Ive never been able to bond with a counselor or therapist. And it made me curious. Now that I discovered self awareness and somewhat understand my own emotions. I want to help other people, especially in my age group because i truly feel a lot of their pain of not being understood or felt.
Dr. Riess exudes empathy in the way she relates-warmth, kind presence, interest in human nature and most importantly a keen desire to help. When I wrote The Power of Empathy in 2000 I speculated about the neurochemical changes empathic interactions create, with Dr. Riess's work we can now scientifically prove that empathy is good for our brains and for love and compassion to survive.
This was such an amazing video, it really drives home the importance in understanding others beyond yourself. My career choice now is based on my stance of treating others how I want to be treated and the importance of empathy in everyday life. Without empathy, their truly is no hope in humanity.
This video was real deep. The ability of people to look at each other and acknowledge our similarities rather than always fighting over the differences be them physical or mental is the big key antidote to resolving conflict without violence. If every individual were willing to imagine themselves in each other's situations rather than write each other off mentally and then justify that write off as a pass to harm each other you wouldn't have armies, jails/prisons, divorce courts, police forces, gangs, war lords, etc. Everyone would be willing to calm down and resolve their disagreements or unfamiliarity without insulting, injuring, or killing each other.
Native Americans look at commonalities, not differences. Turns out the commonalities are tons and all the real stuff about life and living... and the differences are very few and really not imprtant stuff like broken and incomplete ideas on the world that we dont really care about. Worthy to hang out with the "savages".
Yeah, world without violence would be great but it’s impossible. Violence is part of us, Humans, we can’t change that. We can only try our best to be nice with each other but sometimes our emotions lead us to hurt other people and to do bad things. That’s how it works.
01:58 A heart-rate experiment 05:34 The components of empathy 06:38 acronym "empathy" created 06:48 E stands for eye contact 07:50 Muscles of facial expression 08:43 P stands for posture 09:16 A stands for affect 09:45 T stands for tone of voice 10:39 H stands for hearing the whole person 11:00 Y stands for your response 11:12 We're constantly absorbing the feelings of others 12:10 We reflected the feelings of others 12:54 I feel your pain 14:32 A critical precipice with technology 16:06 why empathy matters
A fascinating video. As a counsellor trained here in the UK, I would say that she was advocating "active listening". Carl Rogers was way ahead of his time.
This is really interesting. That Skin Conductance is almost a test for the accuracy of empathy. That's phenomenal. I've done a lot of videos on empathy on my channel and while I hadn't seen this particular video before, I am aware of most of what she talked about here. However, I did not realize you could actually test how in-sync two people were. That really blows my mind.
Wonderful presentation, Dr. Riess, of how revealing detailed observation and active listening can build trust between healthcare providers and patients. I thank you for dedicating much of your professional energy to this topic area.
This is one of the most important TED talks I've ever seen. As more of us have better eye contact with our devices than we do with our fellow humans, Dr. Riess has solid research proving we were born with a need to connect. (And it is a very entertaining talk, IMHO)
Is amazing that this video was released on 2013. Now in 2022 there is so much depression and anxiety all around the world, specially created by the social media...and I feel thats the real threat. Something that each of us need to deal with. Wish you the best wherever you are! Find the way to keep moving forward with peace and power!
I’ve had hyper-empathy my entire life, and I’ve truly struggled with it. It hadn’t occurred to me till recently that people see it as a gift, so now I’m here trying to learn as much as I can about what it means to have empathy so I can better understand myself, how to utilize what i was given instead of cursing it for the rest of my life
My neurologist is the most empathic man I ever known. He is the kindest and most caring doctor I have ever had the luck and was blessed enough to meet and receive his care. He has the biggest and most spontaneous warm smile. He truly CARES for his patients and for people in general and I will be thankful to him forever. I wish the whole world could meet him and experienced what I did because they would feel good and be ready to smile even when told to have been diagnosed with a brain infection caused by an MS dug. He wrote cards by hand and his the most human and kind doctor ever:his name is Benjamin Greenberg of Southwestern Medical center in Dallas ,TX and met him at Johns Hopkins hospital in Baltimore. Angela now back in Italy
Очень точные высказывания, до сих пор нахожусь в легком шоке, как же оказывается все просто))Для себя еще раз поняла, что как же важна сила сострадания, мы рождены собственно для этого. И как мало нужно для проявления эмпатии. Я раньше недооценивала силу зрительного контакта, а оказывается, это самое главное в сопереживании.
When they start giving personal AI assistants (eg. Siri++ / Cortana / etc) faces and personalities, I wish for this one to be the among the choices. Looks like the wise loving village elder that you can go to for help at any time. :) In fact, there's a small industry for when AIs mature - they should allow all these superb TED speakers to make their AI avatars and publish them for use as personal advisors. Runaway hit app on any device.
Because of being an introvert for many years and having a lifelong condition known as Asperger's Syndrome (high-functioning Autism), I did not realize my empathic abilities. Through self-discipline and many struggles, I am learning to appreciate and enjoy my empathic abilities even to the point of feeling energized when I have the opportunity to address large crowds with positive and beneficial information. To be empathetic provides many opportunities to learn, develop, and grow while improving ourselves while in the process of assisting others. It is an amazing condition to have when we learn how to use it properly.
Congratulations Richard! In my work with young people with Asperger's, this is one area that brings me such joy to experience their joy in being able to connect with empathy.
Wendy Warman If you’re agreeable, I would greatly appreciate the opportunity to discuss this with you to a much larger extent. Feel free to contact me on Facebook or LinkedIn and mention this post. I am working on a special project in North Carolina that might interest you. If I don’t hear from you, I can just say I hope the best for you and your family. Take care.
Инсайт: чудесная презентация с отличными доказательствами, которые побуждают нас практиковать сопереживание. Сопереживание - это то, что делает нас людьми. Если бы в нашем мире было больше эмпатии, мир был бы лучше.
Lack of empathy is ignorance. Truly knowing what others feel is indistinguishable from feeling it yourself. “There is only one good, knowledge, and one evil, ignorance.” -- Socrates
Also, I feel overwhelmed often if I focus on others this intently. If I perceive pain, I feel I need to try to make it better as a fellow human being. Treating others as I’d want to be treated. But I struggle to preserve my own energy. I think it can create a one way relationship too. Thank you for listening.
Holding space for someone is much different than “taking on” their pain. If you feel overwhelmed, that’s a sign that you yourself have emotional regulation issues. Many people do. Once we address our own emotional experiences, accept them, and have compassion for ourselves….we are much better at holding space for others. We can do it in a way that allows their experience without us getting drained. We allow without feeling a need to “make it better”. The active listening and bearing witness, is better than any other solution we may be tiring ourselves out trying to figure out what to do. If it’s draining, it’s not true empathy.
Amazing and well put together. Everyone should watch or listen to this at least once. Its not rocket science and easy to just think differently. There are so many people suffering and all we have to do is just talk to them and let them know they are not forgotten about. Living in a world like this doesn't make it easy but its not impossible.
This is a great talk on empathy. I took notes on some portions, because remembering these points is so important. My major is Master's in Professional Christian Counseling, and empathy speaks perfectly into my schooling--and life. If every human being gave someone else their prized pacifier, think of how much more amazing this world would be.
Empathy is powerful! Great to inform empaths and loving souls the traits of those who prey upon us: type 1 sociopaths. They rarely do anything illegal, but will know empaths more than we know ourselves! Therapists will advise to empaths that they need stronger boundaries, but rarely will they share with the empaths about the fact there are people who cannot feel love, remorse, guilt, or empathy and who prey on those who do feel these emotions. They are master boundary breakers! Empaths can have friends who use them and into abusive relationships. Good to know the traits of those who prey on you- who want to control and use you. Empaths: protection is know the traits of the type 1 sociopath (camouflaged among us). Bullying, controlling, blaming, using, cheating, lying, abusive: all traits. Brilliant, sexy, gorgeous, talented, educated - also traits.
Although unlike the regular driven, motivational TED speech, this one is packed with useful facts. Diction and delivery are superb. The short pauses enable every bit to sink in. The content is enlightening. Very nice talk.
I love how Helen breaks empathy down into the voice pitch, skin tone, movements in the body, breath and our own resonance. When teaching empathy we break this down more and more and use it in identifying big systemic issues as well
I like the way Helen breaks this down and connects it to neuroscience and technology. Stand out quote for me was: "When we accept diminished substitutes, we become diminished substitutes." However, the message is ultimately hopeful: empathy can be learned and fostered.
I was taught by Dr Jane Peterson and that is who she teaches Somatic Imaging which combines with Family Constellation work to go straight to the issue - brilliant and I think I am going to train with her this year to then bring her training back to Australia and who knows NZ!
How interesting and what a great idea. I can really see psychotherapy getting to the point where some issues- especially fears and trauma- can be precisely targeted and removed with the help of brain imaging plus other techniques.
Great talk. I know sometimes I feel a little deficient in my empathy gauge. I think the science is important to help us understand the importance of empathy.
This world is becoming more and more void of empathy and compassion, it is a sad and bitter development. For those who still posses this gift I ask to share your story with me and the rest of the world: Good or bad, pain or joy. I am looking forward to your reaction. Thank you.
Dr. Riess is really onto something. Her translational research of the neuroscience of empathy has led to evidence-based empathy training--now web-based. As a psychologist, I'd love to see this integrated into medical school, residency and psychology graduate school curricula. Empathy-and its effective use-can be taught, which is a game-changer.
As long as the person has fully realized empathy, which includes more than just cognitive empathy. To be able to implement the empathy into action that connects to other humans is what is key. To know or feel something is one thing, to act is entirely different and what it needed. In addition to empathy in action, validation needs to be implemented and taught to everyone! From babies on up. Yes, medical schools etc could be taught this…but from a neuroscience perspective, to teach people about this is very different than learning it (as in conditioning/subconscious programming) as a child. To “know” the concepts of empathy and validation, as mental constructs, are very different than regular (almost automatic) implementation. One has to address so much, to undo the patterns that inhibit connecting behaviors. There are limiting beliefs, cognitive distortions, and on and on. Teaching vs reprogramming are vastly different! I’ve known many practitioners who took classes on communication, and such, to only fall back into their conditioning. It’s hard to change preset, lifelong patterns, especially in situations that call for high emotional intelligence (when a person may be severely lacking in that realm). It would take work, similar to an Olympic athlete, to really redo the thought patterns (which influence) behavior, from a foundational standpoint. Classes are tip of the iceberg approaches. Deep work with motivated individuals is what brings about lasting change. Therefore, we should start with empathy training in childhood, as early as possible with supportive training (and practical implementation exercises) for parents. Ongoing. That’s how society is changed, from the root/core.
This is important! I've lived my whole life with suicidal thoughts and very high anger, but because that even as a kid I was excellent at hiding, no doctor or psychiatrist noticed. Heck, I was branded oppositive. This went on from since I was 6 years old up until now. I am 24 now.
Being an empath is not easy. It is both rewarding and exhausting at the same time. When i was in my younger years, i always thought there was something wrong with me, that i was different compared to my peers. I just discovered a few years back that i am an empath. My fellow empaths understand what i am going through. I’d rather be alone than be with people who i can sense their insincere motives 500 ft away. Most people will say, im just being paranoid and being too sensitive. I just dont knw how to prove it but i can sense even the unnoticeable nuances in a person. Most of the time, i enter a room, i already know who are real to my face and who are not right on. I avoid small talks because for me it is a waste of time. I prefer to be alone on my lunch at work, i avoid people in the bathroom, hallways as much as possible because I can sense their emotions and it’s exhausting. Being alone is my time to recharge, quiet my mind and rest my emotions and the emotions that i feel for others. Only few people understands me. Im looking for videos on how to handle the empaths exhaustion to its surroundings and emotions.
Given the rise of psychopathy (the antithesis of empathy) in our society, it's important to highlight just how valuable empathy can be objectively shown to be ... not just to society as a whole, but to individuals as well. Thankfully, its nice to know that psychopathy can be reversed with appropriate education :)
@@mvo9975 and that’s your narrative. Why do you believe that? Is it just a bias, cognitive distortion informed opinion, a result of subconscious programming from childhood, core belief…or a mix of all the aforementioned? Having been in medicine, beginning in 2001, and having researched empathy and the psychological and neuroscience realms…I’d say your absolute statement says little. Bring more to the table if you’re going to make such a blind assertion. More empathy would absolutely change the world. As the OP stated…if we could increase everyone’s empathy we truly wouldn’t have most of the issues we have. The absence of empathy is the driving force behind most problems.
@@Alphacentauri819 you know you could have wrote 2 sentences and it would have been enough, instead of a self-congratulating paragraph Empathy is a double edged sword, the more you increase it the more you suffer
I've used empathy and telepathy and telekinesis for years I'm pretty good at my craft combining all three .... I read eyes very well which is like seeing into your soul the eyes never lie
As a nurse I feel very connected with patients through empathy, and I feel I extend this toward family and friends, but I seldom feel my friends and family have empathy toward me. How can one elicit this in people from whom you wanted support or Connection?
As an empath I appreciate this scientific approach to matters of the heart because, unfortunately, folks need "proof"... in order to feel. But its a start.
I feel like as an autistic person I both feel and do not have empathy. I almost had to force the will out of me volunteering for homeless people almost as a form of compensation. But as I’ve come to be aware, one can truly only understand those whom one can look in the eye. There has to be something shared between us. Otherwise I do not recognise or understand. So I no longer take social causes personally because this tale is as old as time and nothing that I do can change it. On the other hand, it is terribly hard to find a connection.
i am born with empathy and i am stuck with it i can feel that there is something wrong with someone even if i dont know them i can easy understand everyone and i feel strange cuz i feel their pain and i get hurt too🙁😓🤕😢
You are not stuck with it, you are gifted with it. Being able to feel what others feel (even when they don't want you to know) is the most powerful tool in relationship building. Understand that you can be aware of someone's pain, but at the same time learn to make a conscious choice to not take it on as your own. I spent the first half of my life not being able to tell the difference between other people's feelings and my own, and it was very confusing. Once I learned to make conscious choices of *which* feelings to take ownership of, I became a much better friend, lover, co-worker and family member. I'm much happier, and I'm much better at giving others what they need too.
I think in the US urban areas, the "Hi" is actually an abbreviation for "where do you buy your clothes, what car do you drive, what's your position in the company or which neighborhood do you live in"? It's interesting that the Zulu greet each other with "I see you". The Chinese always greet visitors with, have you eaten?" What does that say about their concern for your welfare, when in ancient times, having enough food is tantamount to surviving?
I cannot believe there is a word and subject based on this lol. I could have saved myself allot of pain and time and trouble haha. On a serious note a great speech and I think when you are a Empath you do know, the hard part is trying to figure out others Do not :(
In psychic school we call it "matching energy", when we feel someone else's pain. Its also how we learn from our parents as children, why we pick up their suffering, and their functional and dysfunctional traits. We also teach people how to control this in very sensitive individuals or empaths through awareness and spiritual empowerment (ie energy work).
I always feel an urge to see a crying child. Not look at him/her But to actually see a child Most people just look at others, but don't see them. Empathy is a gift, not a curse
Empathy can be discovered within and put to good use with sufficient purity of mind, but empathy cannot be taught. Empathy is experienced holistically, using all 7 senses.
Thank you. I've just read this comment on Quora: "Doctors and psychiatrists do not believe in empaths. It is not a real diagnosis or an accurate description of anyone. Calling oneself an 'empath' is claiming to have special powers that other human beings do not have.". I realise this is not the whole article, written by a qualified US psychologist. You just plugged that hole, thanks again, from an empath. x
Having empathy and being an empath are different. One having empathy is not automatically an empath. Additionally, not all empaths are empathetic….they may be empathic but struggle with empathy. Very important to understand the differences.
@@Alphacentauri819 Most definitely an empath. I work doing energy healing after turning myself inside out trying to work out what was happening to me.... and was it from within or without. Took me decades to distinguish .
"Most people need to have their specialness reflected back in the eyes of others
in order to see it themselves."
So powerful
E - Eyegaze
M - Muscles of facial expression
P - Posture 0 Notice the other person's posture - open, closed
A - Affect - expressed emotion. Try labeling the other persons expressed emotions upset, happy, sad
T - Tone of voice - Listen to their tone of voice
H - Hearing the whole person - understanding the context in which others live. Do not judge
Y - Your response - Most feelings are mutual
Which adds up as an excuse for doctors staff to force POISEN from a needle into their victim's!!! We've been getting killed for many lifetimes in UK rehabs and yes we come back to tell the story
Many thanks!
Oh wow thanks a lot
Beautiful talk, Helen! Empathy is what makes us HUMAN ---- the most profound connections we have spark when two people share a common emotion, and feel each other's pain, joy, sentiment. Much love
Oh wow.. so beautifully said! You’re so right about how the most profound connections are sparked and I’m not sure if I’ve really thought of it before quite like that. Thank you stranger 😄
Ive recently became obsessed with learning about empathy and human connection, im 17 and all my life ive never truly felt understood. Ive never been able to bond with a counselor or therapist. And it made me curious. Now that I discovered self awareness and somewhat understand my own emotions. I want to help other people, especially in my age group because i truly feel a lot of their pain of not being understood or felt.
He understands you
Interesting thoughts, thank you. What do you believe qualifies someone to help others feel better?
Sounds like the universe is calling you 🌌🌠
All my best wishes are with you, good luck young lady
"Cyberbullying is probably on the rise because it is much easier to inflict harm on people you never see"
Hit the nail on the head with that one.
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Dr. Riess exudes empathy in the way she relates-warmth, kind presence, interest in human nature and most importantly a keen desire to help. When I wrote The Power of Empathy in 2000 I speculated about the neurochemical changes empathic interactions create, with Dr. Riess's work we can now scientifically prove that empathy is good for our brains and for love and compassion to survive.
This was such an amazing video, it really drives home the importance in understanding others beyond yourself. My career choice now is based on my stance of treating others how I want to be treated and the importance of empathy in everyday life. Without empathy, their truly is no hope in humanity.
This video was real deep. The ability of people to look at each other and acknowledge our similarities rather than always fighting over the differences be them physical or mental is the big key antidote to resolving conflict without violence. If every individual were willing to imagine themselves in each other's situations rather than write each other off mentally and then justify that write off as a pass to harm each other you wouldn't have armies, jails/prisons, divorce courts, police forces, gangs, war lords, etc. Everyone would be willing to calm down and resolve their disagreements or unfamiliarity without insulting, injuring, or killing each other.
Native Americans look at commonalities, not differences. Turns out the commonalities are tons and all the real stuff about life and living... and the differences are very few and really not imprtant stuff like broken and incomplete ideas on the world that we dont really care about. Worthy to hang out with the "savages".
I SEE YOU!
This applies to male and female. Men can show empathy, just like women. It is one of many human traits that goes back thousands of years.
Yeah, world without violence would be great but it’s impossible. Violence is part of us, Humans, we can’t change that. We can only try our best to be nice with each other but sometimes our emotions lead us to hurt other people and to do bad things. That’s how it works.
You will have to find the solution or cure to psychopathy / narcissism before you resolve all that
01:58 A heart-rate experiment
05:34 The components of empathy
06:38 acronym "empathy" created
06:48 E stands for eye contact
07:50 Muscles of facial expression
08:43 P stands for posture
09:16 A stands for affect
09:45 T stands for tone of voice
10:39 H stands for hearing the whole person
11:00 Y stands for your response
11:12 We're constantly absorbing the feelings of others
12:10 We reflected the feelings of others
12:54 I feel your pain
14:32 A critical precipice with technology
16:06 why empathy matters
Appreciate your get this done! Great job!
Thank you for doing this!
A fascinating video. As a counsellor trained here in the UK, I would say that she was advocating "active listening". Carl Rogers was way ahead of his time.
This is really interesting. That Skin Conductance is almost a test for the accuracy of empathy. That's phenomenal. I've done a lot of videos on empathy on my channel and while I hadn't seen this particular video before, I am aware of most of what she talked about here. However, I did not realize you could actually test how in-sync two people were. That really blows my mind.
I'm crying as we speak just as I continue to listen and hear her. This is something I want to share with everyone I know and love.
Good talk. Empathy does matter. We all need and want someone to see and understood us.
This was an insightful way to look at empathy. Such an important topic in today's world.
Wonderful presentation, Dr. Riess, of how revealing detailed observation and active listening can build trust between healthcare providers and patients. I thank you for dedicating much of your professional energy to this topic area.
This is one of the most important TED talks I've ever seen. As more of us have better eye contact with our devices than we do with our fellow humans, Dr. Riess has solid research proving we were born with a need to connect. (And it is a very entertaining talk, IMHO)
Is amazing that this video was released on 2013. Now in 2022 there is so much depression and anxiety all around the world, specially created by the social media...and I feel thats the real threat. Something that each of us need to deal with. Wish you the best wherever you are! Find the way to keep moving forward with peace and power!
Empathy for each other can improve our quality of life.
Dr. Riess, just an excellent presentation on an important aspect of our lives. Very impressive and impactful! Thank you and sharing with friends.
"Most people need to have their specialness reflected back in the eyes of others in order to see it themselves" so good!
I’ve had hyper-empathy my entire life, and I’ve truly struggled with it. It hadn’t occurred to me till recently that people see it as a gift, so now I’m here trying to learn as much as I can about what it means to have empathy so I can better understand myself, how to utilize what i was given instead of cursing it for the rest of my life
My neurologist is the most empathic man I ever known. He is the kindest and most caring doctor I have ever had the luck and was blessed enough to meet and receive his care. He has the biggest and most spontaneous warm smile. He truly CARES for his patients and for people in general and I will be thankful to him forever. I wish the whole world could meet him and experienced what I did because they would feel good and be ready to smile even when told to have been diagnosed with a brain infection caused by an MS dug. He wrote cards by hand and his the most human and kind doctor ever:his name is Benjamin Greenberg of Southwestern Medical center in Dallas ,TX and met him at Johns Hopkins hospital in Baltimore. Angela now back in Italy
Thank you for a marvelous compassionate presentation with excellent evidence that encourages us to practice empathy.
Очень точные высказывания, до сих пор нахожусь в легком шоке, как же оказывается все просто))Для себя еще раз поняла, что как же важна сила сострадания, мы рождены собственно для этого. И как мало нужно для проявления эмпатии. Я раньше недооценивала силу зрительного контакта, а оказывается, это самое главное в сопереживании.
What an incredible encapsulation of empathy by Dr. Helen Reiss at TEDx Middlebury. Thank you for this talk, it is rock solid!
Great ted talk, she seems like a very sweet person.
When they start giving personal AI assistants (eg. Siri++ / Cortana / etc) faces and personalities, I wish for this one to be the among the choices. Looks like the wise loving village elder that you can go to for help at any time. :) In fact, there's a small industry for when AIs mature - they should allow all these superb TED speakers to make their AI avatars and publish them for use as personal advisors. Runaway hit app on any device.
I SEE YOU!
She does radiate beauty.
Powerful presentation. Valuable lessons. I believe she captured attention because she demonstrated empathy for her audience.
Thank you I really enjoyed listening to your speech
empathy is so good for your soul
Because of being an introvert for many years and having a lifelong condition known as Asperger's Syndrome (high-functioning Autism), I did not realize my empathic abilities. Through self-discipline and many struggles, I am learning to appreciate and enjoy my empathic abilities even to the point of feeling energized when I have the opportunity to address large crowds with positive and beneficial information. To be empathetic provides many opportunities to learn, develop, and grow while improving ourselves while in the process of assisting others. It is an amazing condition to have when we learn how to use it properly.
Congratulations Richard! In my work with young people with Asperger's, this is one area that brings me such joy to experience their joy in being able to connect with empathy.
Wendy Warman If you’re agreeable, I would greatly appreciate the opportunity to discuss this with you to a much larger extent. Feel free to contact me on Facebook or LinkedIn and mention this post. I am working on a special project in North Carolina that might interest you. If I don’t hear from you, I can just say I hope the best for you and your family. Take care.
Richard Landis I will be in touch. Thanks.
Wendy Warman I look forward to it.
Инсайт: чудесная презентация с отличными доказательствами, которые побуждают нас практиковать сопереживание. Сопереживание - это то, что делает нас людьми. Если бы в нашем мире было больше эмпатии, мир был бы лучше.
Lack of empathy is ignorance. Truly knowing what others feel is indistinguishable from feeling it yourself.
“There is only one good, knowledge, and one evil, ignorance.” -- Socrates
So true.
Also, I feel overwhelmed often if I focus on others this intently. If I perceive pain, I feel I need to try to make it better as a fellow human being. Treating others as I’d want to be treated. But I struggle to preserve my own energy. I think it can create a one way relationship too. Thank you for listening.
Holding space for someone is much different than “taking on” their pain.
If you feel overwhelmed, that’s a sign that you yourself have emotional regulation issues. Many people do. Once we address our own emotional experiences, accept them, and have compassion for ourselves….we are much better at holding space for others. We can do it in a way that allows their experience without us getting drained. We allow without feeling a need to “make it better”. The active listening and bearing witness, is better than any other solution we may be tiring ourselves out trying to figure out what to do.
If it’s draining, it’s not true empathy.
Excellent presentation.
1 minute and 29 seconds into the talk and I'm bawling!
super powerful presentation
Amazing and well put together. Everyone should watch or listen to this at least once. Its not rocket science and easy to just think differently. There are so many people suffering and all we have to do is just talk to them and let them know they are not forgotten about. Living in a world like this doesn't make it easy but its not impossible.
Thank you as an highly empathic person.
This is a great talk on empathy. I took notes on some portions, because remembering these points is so important. My major is Master's in Professional Christian Counseling, and empathy speaks perfectly into my schooling--and life. If every human being gave someone else their prized pacifier, think of how much more amazing this world would be.
Empathy is powerful! Great to inform empaths and loving souls the traits of those who prey upon us: type 1 sociopaths. They rarely do anything illegal, but will know empaths more than we know ourselves! Therapists will advise to empaths that they need stronger boundaries, but rarely will they share with the empaths about the fact there are people who cannot feel love, remorse, guilt, or empathy and who prey on those who do feel these emotions. They are master boundary breakers! Empaths can have friends who use them and into abusive relationships. Good to know the traits of those who prey on you- who want to control and use you. Empaths: protection is know the traits of the type 1 sociopath (camouflaged among us). Bullying, controlling, blaming, using, cheating, lying, abusive: all traits. Brilliant, sexy, gorgeous, talented, educated - also traits.
Spot on comment
I’ve learned from my love that there are so many things I don’t know or failed to recognize. As smart as I think I am, thank you Batilda.
I absolutely love this message!
Empathy changed my life!
gracias por compartir un gran mensaje!
Although unlike the regular driven, motivational TED speech, this one is packed with useful facts. Diction and delivery are superb. The short pauses enable every bit to sink in. The content is enlightening. Very nice talk.
I love how Helen breaks empathy down into the voice pitch, skin tone, movements in the body, breath and our own resonance. When teaching empathy we break this down more and more and use it in identifying big systemic issues as well
I like the way Helen breaks this down and connects it to neuroscience and technology. Stand out quote for me was: "When we accept diminished substitutes, we become diminished substitutes." However, the message is ultimately hopeful: empathy can be learned and fostered.
I was taught by Dr Jane Peterson and that is who she teaches Somatic Imaging which combines with Family Constellation work to go straight to the issue - brilliant and I think I am going to train with her this year to then bring her training back to Australia and who knows NZ!
How interesting and what a great idea. I can really see psychotherapy getting to the point where some issues- especially fears and trauma- can be precisely targeted and removed with the help of brain imaging plus other techniques.
Eye contact and facial expression- so important
Powerful message.
Great talk. I know sometimes I feel a little deficient in my empathy gauge. I think the science is important to help us understand the importance of empathy.
Standing ovations!!! 😊
This world is becoming more and more void of empathy and compassion, it
is a sad and bitter development. For those who still posses this gift I
ask to share your story with me and the rest of the world: Good or bad,
pain or joy. I am looking forward to your reaction. Thank you.
thank you
Dr. Riess is really onto something. Her translational research of the neuroscience of empathy has led to evidence-based empathy training--now web-based.
As a psychologist, I'd love to see this integrated into medical school, residency and psychology graduate school curricula. Empathy-and its effective use-can be taught, which is a game-changer.
Are many surgeons psychopaths?
As long as the person has fully realized empathy, which includes more than just cognitive empathy. To be able to implement the empathy into action that connects to other humans is what is key. To know or feel something is one thing, to act is entirely different and what it needed.
In addition to empathy in action, validation needs to be implemented and taught to everyone! From babies on up. Yes, medical schools etc could be taught this…but from a neuroscience perspective, to teach people about this is very different than learning it (as in conditioning/subconscious programming) as a child. To “know” the concepts of empathy and validation, as mental constructs, are very different than regular (almost automatic) implementation. One has to address so much, to undo the patterns that inhibit connecting behaviors. There are limiting beliefs, cognitive distortions, and on and on. Teaching vs reprogramming are vastly different!
I’ve known many practitioners who took classes on communication, and such, to only fall back into their conditioning. It’s hard to change preset, lifelong patterns, especially in situations that call for high emotional intelligence (when a person may be severely lacking in that realm).
It would take work, similar to an Olympic athlete, to really redo the thought patterns (which influence) behavior, from a foundational standpoint. Classes are tip of the iceberg approaches. Deep work with motivated individuals is what brings about lasting change. Therefore, we should start with empathy training in childhood, as early as possible with supportive training (and practical implementation exercises) for parents. Ongoing. That’s how society is changed, from the root/core.
Interesting,and compelling...
thank you helen, very cool
This is important! I've lived my whole life with suicidal thoughts and very high anger, but because that even as a kid I was excellent at hiding, no doctor or psychiatrist noticed. Heck, I was branded oppositive. This went on from since I was 6 years old up until now. I am 24 now.
This is so helpful. Thank you!
Excellent talk!! Loved hearing the neuroscience behind empathy and the Sawubona (I see you) quote. :)
Great message! If I were in the audience I would stand up.
epidemic will ruin your attempts! we are doomed to decreasing decline with violence
what a load of rubbish Blunton Glutine
And clap your hands ""right""😒
so touching
Being an empath is not easy. It is both rewarding and exhausting at the same time. When i was in my younger years, i always thought there was something wrong with me, that i was different compared to my peers. I just discovered a few years back that i am an empath. My fellow empaths understand what i am going through. I’d rather be alone than be with people who i can sense their insincere motives 500 ft away. Most people will say, im just being paranoid and being too sensitive. I just dont knw how to prove it but i can sense even the unnoticeable nuances in a person. Most of the time, i enter a room, i already know who are real to my face and who are not right on. I avoid small talks because for me it is a waste of time. I prefer to be alone on my lunch at work, i avoid people in the bathroom, hallways as much as possible because I can sense their emotions and it’s exhausting. Being alone is my time to recharge, quiet my mind and rest my emotions and the emotions that i feel for others. Only few people understands me. Im looking for videos on how to handle the empaths exhaustion to its surroundings and emotions.
You are not alone. Its very draining and detrimental at times if not managed properly.
This is an awesome presentation!
This is beautiful!❤️
this is mindblowing
Given the rise of psychopathy (the antithesis of empathy) in our society, it's important to highlight just how valuable empathy can be objectively shown to be ... not just to society as a whole, but to individuals as well. Thankfully, its nice to know that psychopathy can be reversed with appropriate education :)
So true!
The "survival of the fittest" misquoted/misunderstood meme has done a lot of damage. Time to popularise the "empathetic human" meme.
Xenogene Gray psychopathy can be reversed ???!!! NPD can't even be reversed nevermind psychopathy
Psychopathy CANNOT be reversed ffs!
You are doing valuable duty ☺️
she quoted Jonathan Saffron Foyer. he wrote "Eating Animals". that book will help you strengthen your empathy for all creatures.
IMPRESSIVE!
Right on the money. Very smart lady.
shes going far in life
if only there was a way to increase everyone's empathy. no more war. no more crime. no more inflicting of suffering.
You are sadly very wrong
@@mvo9975 and that’s your narrative.
Why do you believe that?
Is it just a bias, cognitive distortion informed opinion, a result of subconscious programming from childhood, core belief…or a mix of all the aforementioned?
Having been in medicine, beginning in 2001, and having researched empathy and the psychological and neuroscience realms…I’d say your absolute statement says little. Bring more to the table if you’re going to make such a blind assertion.
More empathy would absolutely change the world. As the OP stated…if we could increase everyone’s empathy we truly wouldn’t have most of the issues we have. The absence of empathy is the driving force behind most problems.
@@Alphacentauri819 you know you could have wrote 2 sentences and it would have been enough, instead of a self-congratulating paragraph
Empathy is a double edged sword, the more you increase it the more you suffer
@@mvo9975 exactly
no one seems to understand this
"no one has ever seen my pain."
Charles Xavier has...
empathy is power
I've used empathy and telepathy and telekinesis for years I'm pretty good at my craft combining all three .... I read eyes very well which is like seeing into your soul the eyes never lie
I SEE YOU NOMI!
Namaste🙏🏽
As a nurse I feel very connected with patients through empathy, and I feel I extend this toward family and friends, but I seldom feel my friends and family have empathy toward me. How can one elicit this in people from whom you wanted support or Connection?
Same, I am a CNA in a nursing home, I have so empathy towards my residents. I fill nobody has empathy for me.
That 3 year old was like “we’ve all been there, buddy”
As an empath I appreciate this scientific approach to matters of the heart because, unfortunately, folks need "proof"... in order to feel. But its a start.
Well done, Helen Riess. 😁
I feel like as an autistic person I both feel and do not have empathy. I almost had to force the will out of me volunteering for homeless people almost as a form of compensation. But as I’ve come to be aware, one can truly only understand those whom one can look in the eye. There has to be something shared between us. Otherwise I do not recognise or understand. So I no longer take social causes personally because this tale is as old as time and nothing that I do can change it. On the other hand, it is terribly hard to find a connection.
i am born with empathy and i am stuck with it i can feel that there is something wrong with someone even if i dont know them
i can easy understand everyone and i feel strange cuz i feel their pain and i get hurt too🙁😓🤕😢
You are not stuck with it, you are gifted with it. Being able to feel what others feel (even when they don't want you to know) is the most powerful tool in relationship building. Understand that you can be aware of someone's pain, but at the same time learn to make a conscious choice to not take it on as your own. I spent the first half of my life not being able to tell the difference between other people's feelings and my own, and it was very confusing. Once I learned to make conscious choices of *which* feelings to take ownership of, I became a much better friend, lover, co-worker and family member. I'm much happier, and I'm much better at giving others what they need too.
I think in the US urban areas, the "Hi" is actually an abbreviation for "where do you buy your clothes, what car do you drive, what's your position in the company or which neighborhood do you live in"? It's interesting that the Zulu greet each other with "I see you". The Chinese always greet visitors with, have you eaten?" What does that say about their concern for your welfare, when in ancient times, having enough food is tantamount to surviving?
When Elvis passed away, I was 13. I had an album and I got a little emotional. I didn't even know him. I later discovered I may be empathetic.
I like her..she's cool..she's smart
As an empath, she's describing perfectly what goes through my mind anytime I interact with someone.
Ive learned more about empathy by watching animals interact with one another
Excellent
I like quality education
I would love to know which study Helen Reiss is referring to when she says 'patient recovery time is increased when patients feel less cared for'?
I cannot believe there is a word and subject based on this lol. I could have saved myself allot of pain and time and trouble haha. On a serious note a great speech and I think when you are a Empath you do know, the hard part is trying to figure out others Do not :(
Hey Tanya, do you have any advice on this?
Awesome Ted talk, very interesting.
In psychic school we call it "matching energy", when we feel someone else's pain. Its also how we learn from our parents as children, why we pick up their suffering, and their functional and dysfunctional traits. We also teach people how to control this in very sensitive individuals or empaths through awareness and spiritual empowerment (ie energy work).
What about the debunking of mirror neurons?
I always feel an urge to see a crying child. Not look at him/her
But to actually see a child
Most people just look at others, but don't see them.
Empathy is a gift, not a curse
Excellent video on empathy.
Can I know what is the A? can't the word. Please help. Thanks
affect
does empathy reveal our weaknesses
Empathy can be discovered within and put to good use with sufficient purity of mind, but empathy cannot be taught. Empathy is experienced holistically, using all 7 senses.
Thank you. I've just read this comment on Quora: "Doctors and psychiatrists do not believe in empaths. It is not a real diagnosis or an accurate description of anyone. Calling oneself an 'empath' is claiming to have special powers that other human beings do not have.". I realise this is not the whole article, written by a qualified US psychologist. You just plugged that hole, thanks again, from an empath. x
Having empathy and being an empath are different.
One having empathy is not automatically an empath. Additionally, not all empaths are empathetic….they may be empathic but struggle with empathy.
Very important to understand the differences.
@@Alphacentauri819 Most definitely an empath. I work doing energy healing after turning myself inside out trying to work out what was happening to me.... and was it from within or without. Took me decades to distinguish
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I love you
Success and wealth, decreases empathy.